Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad.
Speaker 2: With something for you to think about.
Speaker 1: Sustaining until marriage. I know there are a lot of
Speaker 1: people who have already put their little toes, not just
Speaker 1: their toes, their whole foot, both feet in the water.
Speaker 2: But let me tell.
Speaker 1: You, you can repent, give your lives to Christ and
Speaker 1: change everything for yourself. Because we should not be committing
Speaker 1: sin by sleeping around, committing adultery or fornicating. The Bible
Speaker 1: wants us, according to the Word of God, to wait
Speaker 1: until marriage. You know, once upon a time in my life,
Speaker 1: I can't even lie. I won't even try to pretend.
Speaker 1: Sex was way up on the Richter scale for me,
Speaker 1: way up there.
Speaker 2: No lie.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it was an important, very important to me.
Speaker 1: But I didn't know any better. I did not know
Speaker 1: any better. And every time I think about it, oh,
Speaker 1: I have to repent all over again.
Speaker 2: Even though I know the Lord.
Speaker 1: Has forgiven me, I still have to repent over again
Speaker 1: because I know things that I've done was not pleasing
Speaker 1: in his sight. I didn't understand.
Speaker 2: Then.
Speaker 1: If you've listened to me earlier in the years, you
Speaker 1: know I gave my life to Christ when I was
Speaker 1: twelve years old. But like I always say, what did
Speaker 1: I know? I didn't know anything.
Speaker 2: I really didn't.
Speaker 1: I heard of Jesus, I heard of God and the
Speaker 1: Holy Spirit because my mom introduced me to it and
Speaker 1: my grandmother.
Speaker 2: So I knew of the Lord. I knew of.
Speaker 1: God, and I got saved when I was twelve years old.
Speaker 2: But years and years and.
Speaker 1: Years and years later, it's when I got understanding. I
Speaker 1: got understanding.
Speaker 2: I realized that I had been living.
Speaker 1: A lot.
Speaker 2: I was going to church. I never stopped going to church. Listen.
Speaker 2: I would go to church from the club. You hear me.
Speaker 1: Partying all night and go to church the next morning.
Speaker 1: I'm just being honest with you.
Speaker 2: I've left the club and went home right on to church.
Speaker 2: I've left church.
Speaker 1: And went straight to the club many times because I
Speaker 1: didn't know any better.
Speaker 2: I didn't know any better.
Speaker 1: Now. I I couldn't have done that as a child
Speaker 1: living home. But when I became of age an adult,
Speaker 1: oh yeah.
Speaker 2: I did it.
Speaker 1: I wore my little mini skirts right on the church
Speaker 1: so short I had to throw something across my left.
Speaker 1: If you gotta throw something across your lept, you know
Speaker 1: it's too short. Now.
Speaker 2: I was never way up my five mini, but I was,
Speaker 2: you know, a little bit several inches above my knee
Speaker 2: in church.
Speaker 1: But let me tell you, when my heart became convicted,
Speaker 1: when I got true understanding, my skirts came down.
Speaker 2: They came down appropriate.
Speaker 1: I never was the type who wore skin tight clothes
Speaker 1: to church or anywhere else. But I used to have
Speaker 1: a little cleavage and have my little skirts, you know.
Speaker 1: But I I I I I gave all of that
Speaker 1: a when I truly got understanding. When my life changed,
Speaker 1: when I start living for the Lord because I want
Speaker 1: to be pleasing in my God's eyesight. So I learned
Speaker 1: to live a way that was not shameful for myself.
Speaker 1: And you know, when you married and your own husband
Speaker 1: tell you, man, every time I look around, you want
Speaker 1: to do to do and you're a woman.
Speaker 2: Come on. You know. I'm not saying that.
Speaker 1: I was a sex addict by no means, but oh
Speaker 1: I did enjoy it for real, for real.
Speaker 2: But I came to the.
Speaker 1: Understanding that that's not how God wants to live. Because
Speaker 1: when you are out there giving it left and right,
Speaker 1: getting it left and right, you are connecting yourself to
Speaker 1: all of the people you've been with. If you're that
Speaker 1: type of person, and you're getting something from all of
Speaker 1: these people, and what you don't want is soul tied.
Speaker 1: You know, you don't want to be connected to all
Speaker 1: these people, having you know, bits and pieces of.
Speaker 2: All of these people. That's why you should sustain until
Speaker 2: you're married, because think about it. You get married. You've
Speaker 2: been with Peter to Larry, Barry Roger.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, or you've been with Susan, Martha, Debbie, Lashanda, whomever.
Speaker 1: I want you to think about it. All of these
Speaker 1: people you've been with, and now.
Speaker 2: You've chosen.
Speaker 1: To be with someone and make that person your spouse,
Speaker 1: and you already in your heart, you know you have apprehensions.
Speaker 1: You already know that you're feeling some kind of way.
Speaker 1: You're not evenly yoked. So you're thinking, well, when I
Speaker 1: was with Larry, you know, Larry did this, and when
Speaker 1: I was with Joe, Joe did this.
Speaker 2: And when I was with Leroy, Leroy did that, you know.
Speaker 2: But now I'm with my husband, and man, you don't
Speaker 2: do none of that, you know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 2: you're causing friction.
Speaker 1: Within your relationship because you're thinking about what you used
Speaker 1: to do with other people. You're thinking about those things
Speaker 1: that made you feel good with other people, and that's wrong.
Speaker 2: That's wrong.
Speaker 1: So the devil want division before you ever form a union.
Speaker 1: And that's why we should sustain. We should sustain to
Speaker 1: make ourselves holy and have a partner that is a
Speaker 1: partner who is an individual who is on the same accord.
Speaker 2: As you and I know these days in times oof.
Speaker 1: Whoh, it's rare, it is rare, But like Daniel says,
Speaker 1: it's the best way to be.
Speaker 2: You know, if you're going to be single, be single
Speaker 2: and be celibate.
Speaker 1: Sustain until you have that man of God or that
Speaker 1: woman of God. It's not gonna kill you. It's gonna
Speaker 1: make you better. Being by yourself is the best thing
Speaker 1: you could do for yourself. Things come into clarity, You
Speaker 1: get closer to the Lord. You truly learn to love
Speaker 1: the Lord because you understand and you know it's the
Speaker 1: greatest love of all.
Speaker 2: But you have to want.
Speaker 1: That, you have to believe that. Being celibate it's like
Speaker 1: anything else. You get used to it. It's nothing that's
Speaker 1: going to cause you harm. It's gonna give you a
Speaker 1: peace and understanding like never ever before. But a lot
Speaker 1: of people don't want to give it up because they
Speaker 1: don't understand, because their eyes.
Speaker 2: Are blind. They're being led by their flesh, and people
Speaker 2: just want what they want.
Speaker 1: A lot of times people don't even look at the consequences.
Speaker 1: They don't even consider the risk. They just want what
Speaker 1: they want until they have to deal with the consequences,
Speaker 1: until the risk costs issues in their lives. People are
Speaker 1: seeking self gratification at any cost, and it's crazy. It's
Speaker 1: not worth it. You're not gonna get an experience that
Speaker 1: is so incredibly different from another until you find true love.
Speaker 1: And it's gonna be hard when you're with someone and
Speaker 1: you're still thinking about what you used to do with
Speaker 1: someone else, because you still got bits and pieces from
Speaker 1: those other relationships as a part of you. You have
Speaker 1: to release yourself. You have to give that mess to
Speaker 1: the Lord and leave it there. If you want your
Speaker 1: love in your life, it's started by loving God and
Speaker 1: his son Jesus and loving yourself. Because no one on
Speaker 1: the face of the earth, not your mom, your dad,
Speaker 1: your children, your relatives, your friends. No one will love
Speaker 1: you like the Lord. No one can give you a
Speaker 1: peace that surpasses all understanding. But if you're out there
Speaker 1: flapping like a fish out of water, just doing what
Speaker 1: you want to do with who you want to do
Speaker 1: with when you want to do it.
Speaker 2: You reap what you sow, and that's just it. You
Speaker 2: reap what you sow, and those are the type of
Speaker 2: seeds you sow.
Speaker 1: What you won't be beneficial to you, and it will
Speaker 1: affect you in a relationship if you don't change and
Speaker 1: you go into a relationship. I don't care who you are,
Speaker 1: how much money you have, what you have, it's going
Speaker 1: to affect you in your relationships because you've got all
Speaker 1: of this stuff going on inside of you, not only
Speaker 1: of the individuals you've been with, but those unresolved issues
Speaker 1: that you haven't dealt with. So when you get into
Speaker 1: a relationship, you're seeking things.
Speaker 2: Because you're trying to recapture.
Speaker 1: Things that you've experienced before that you thought were good
Speaker 1: for you. You're trying to recapture those feelings from those
Speaker 1: individuals that you were with for in your current relationship.
Speaker 1: And it's gonna cause problems. And some of you are
Speaker 1: bold enough to say, well, Jimmy did this or Bertha
Speaker 1: did that.
Speaker 2: Some of you are bold enough to say it, or
Speaker 2: should I say ignorant enough to say it because you
Speaker 2: don't know any better.
Speaker 1: You have no mental maturity, and you still being laid
Speaker 1: by your flesh.
Speaker 2: So you're just trying to Hey, if I.
Speaker 1: Tell him or tell her, maybe they'll give me what
Speaker 1: I want, the desires that I have.
Speaker 2: But it builds animosity and resentment.
Speaker 1: When you're telling someone who really cares about you, well,
Speaker 1: you're not enough. You're not giving me what I'm used
Speaker 1: to having. No, that won't work, that'll be short lived,
Speaker 1: I guarantee you. So the Lord want us to refrain,
Speaker 1: sustain go through abstinence celibacy. It won't kill you. I
Speaker 1: promise you. It won't kill you, and it will be
Speaker 1: pleasing in the sight of the Lord. Some people won't
Speaker 1: even believe when.
Speaker 2: You say you're celibate. They won't believe it.
Speaker 1: Because they can't fathom the thoughts for themselves. So if
Speaker 1: they don't think that they can do it, they show
Speaker 1: won't believe you can. But it don't matter what anyone thinks.
Speaker 1: That's another thing. Stop worrying about what other people think,
Speaker 1: because it's what God thinks that matters. It's what He
Speaker 1: thinks that matters. So I just wanted to talk a
Speaker 1: little bit about it. When you go through life and
Speaker 1: you're doing all of this these things, you're going to
Speaker 1: bring that mess into your relationships. You're gonna bring that
Speaker 1: crap into your relationships, and it's going to cost issues.
Speaker 2: That's a guarantee. So sustain.
Speaker 1: If you have issues, you really want to, but you're
Speaker 1: having issues, you're struggling, reach out to me.
Speaker 2: We'll talk about.
Speaker 1: It, because, oh boy, do I have a story to
Speaker 1: tell you. I'm not gonna tell you over over this podcast,
Speaker 1: but ooh wait, but you can do it, and it's
Speaker 1: what Gods want for you, because really, sex is not everything.
Speaker 2: It really isn't. It really truly isn't.
Speaker 1: And when you mature and get to that level of maturity,
Speaker 1: you will understand, and especially when you serve in God,
Speaker 1: you'll understand completely what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So this is just a.
Speaker 1: Little bit I want to talk about it, and I
Speaker 1: really really hope you think about what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: You think about what I've said.
Speaker 1: Because it will make a difference in your life. Keeping
Speaker 1: yourself holy, you know, guarding your heart, taking care of
Speaker 1: your temple, all of that is important to God. So
Speaker 1: that's all I'm gonna say on it. I'm leaving it
Speaker 1: right there. Thank you so much for listening. Much love
Speaker 1: to each and every one of you. Please reach out
Speaker 1: to me. I love hearing from you. Go to my podcast.
Speaker 1: It'll tell you how to reach me by email. I
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Speaker 1: and I hope.
Speaker 2: And I pray you do it. Thank go on it
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