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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad.

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<v Speaker 2>With something for you to think about.

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<v Speaker 1>Sustaining until marriage. I know there are a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people who have already put their little toes, not just

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<v Speaker 1>their toes, their whole foot, both feet in the water.

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<v Speaker 2>But let me tell.

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<v Speaker 1>You, you can repent, give your lives to Christ and

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<v Speaker 1>change everything for yourself. Because we should not be committing

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<v Speaker 1>sin by sleeping around, committing adultery or fornicating. The Bible

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<v Speaker 1>wants us, according to the Word of God, to wait

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<v Speaker 1>until marriage. You know, once upon a time in my life,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even lie. I won't even try to pretend.

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<v Speaker 1>Sex was way up on the Richter scale for me,

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<v Speaker 1>way up there.

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<v Speaker 2>No lie.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, it was an important, very important to me.

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<v Speaker 1>But I didn't know any better. I did not know

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<v Speaker 1>any better. And every time I think about it, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to repent all over again.

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<v Speaker 2>Even though I know the Lord.

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<v Speaker 1>Has forgiven me, I still have to repent over again

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<v Speaker 1>because I know things that I've done was not pleasing

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<v Speaker 1>in his sight. I didn't understand.

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<v Speaker 2>Then.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've listened to me earlier in the years, you

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<v Speaker 1>know I gave my life to Christ when I was

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<v Speaker 1>twelve years old. But like I always say, what did

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<v Speaker 1>I know? I didn't know anything.

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<v Speaker 2>I really didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I heard of Jesus, I heard of God and the

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<v Speaker 1>Holy Spirit because my mom introduced me to it and

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<v Speaker 1>my grandmother.

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<v Speaker 2>So I knew of the Lord. I knew of.

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<v Speaker 1>God, and I got saved when I was twelve years old.

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<v Speaker 2>But years and years and.

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<v Speaker 1>Years and years later, it's when I got understanding. I

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<v Speaker 1>got understanding.

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<v Speaker 2>I realized that I had been living.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot.

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<v Speaker 2>I was going to church. I never stopped going to church. Listen.

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<v Speaker 2>I would go to church from the club. You hear me.

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<v Speaker 1>Partying all night and go to church the next morning.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just being honest with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I've left the club and went home right on to church.

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<v Speaker 2>I've left church.

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<v Speaker 1>And went straight to the club many times because I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know any better.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know any better.

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<v Speaker 1>Now. I I couldn't have done that as a child

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<v Speaker 1>living home. But when I became of age an adult,

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<v Speaker 1>oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I did it.

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<v Speaker 1>I wore my little mini skirts right on the church

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<v Speaker 1>so short I had to throw something across my left.

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<v Speaker 1>If you gotta throw something across your lept, you know

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<v Speaker 1>it's too short. Now.

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<v Speaker 2>I was never way up my five mini, but I was,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, a little bit several inches above my knee

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<v Speaker 2>in church.

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<v Speaker 1>But let me tell you, when my heart became convicted,

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<v Speaker 1>when I got true understanding, my skirts came down.

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<v Speaker 2>They came down appropriate.

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<v Speaker 1>I never was the type who wore skin tight clothes

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<v Speaker 1>to church or anywhere else. But I used to have

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<v Speaker 1>a little cleavage and have my little skirts, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>But I I I I I gave all of that

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<v Speaker 1>a when I truly got understanding. When my life changed,

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<v Speaker 1>when I start living for the Lord because I want

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<v Speaker 1>to be pleasing in my God's eyesight. So I learned

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<v Speaker 1>to live a way that was not shameful for myself.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, when you married and your own husband

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<v Speaker 1>tell you, man, every time I look around, you want

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<v Speaker 1>to do to do and you're a woman.

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<v Speaker 2>Come on. You know. I'm not saying that.

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<v Speaker 1>I was a sex addict by no means, but oh

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<v Speaker 1>I did enjoy it for real, for real.

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<v Speaker 2>But I came to the.

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<v Speaker 1>Understanding that that's not how God wants to live. Because

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<v Speaker 1>when you are out there giving it left and right,

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<v Speaker 1>getting it left and right, you are connecting yourself to

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<v Speaker 1>all of the people you've been with. If you're that

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<v Speaker 1>type of person, and you're getting something from all of

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<v Speaker 1>these people, and what you don't want is soul tied.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you don't want to be connected to all

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<v Speaker 1>these people, having you know, bits and pieces of.

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<v Speaker 2>All of these people. That's why you should sustain until

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<v Speaker 2>you're married, because think about it. You get married. You've

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<v Speaker 2>been with Peter to Larry, Barry Roger.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying, or you've been with Susan, Martha, Debbie, Lashanda, whomever.

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to think about it. All of these

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<v Speaker 1>people you've been with, and now.

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<v Speaker 2>You've chosen.

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<v Speaker 1>To be with someone and make that person your spouse,

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<v Speaker 1>and you already in your heart, you know you have apprehensions.

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<v Speaker 1>You already know that you're feeling some kind of way.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not evenly yoked. So you're thinking, well, when I

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<v Speaker 1>was with Larry, you know, Larry did this, and when

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<v Speaker 1>I was with Joe, Joe did this.

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<v Speaker 2>And when I was with Leroy, Leroy did that, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>But now I'm with my husband, and man, you don't

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<v Speaker 2>do none of that, you know what I'm saying. So

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<v Speaker 2>you're causing friction.

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<v Speaker 1>Within your relationship because you're thinking about what you used

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<v Speaker 1>to do with other people. You're thinking about those things

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<v Speaker 1>that made you feel good with other people, and that's wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>That's wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>So the devil want division before you ever form a union.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's why we should sustain. We should sustain to

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<v Speaker 1>make ourselves holy and have a partner that is a

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<v Speaker 1>partner who is an individual who is on the same accord.

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<v Speaker 2>As you and I know these days in times oof.

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<v Speaker 1>Whoh, it's rare, it is rare, But like Daniel says,

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<v Speaker 1>it's the best way to be.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, if you're going to be single, be single

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<v Speaker 2>and be celibate.

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<v Speaker 1>Sustain until you have that man of God or that

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<v Speaker 1>woman of God. It's not gonna kill you. It's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>make you better. Being by yourself is the best thing

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<v Speaker 1>you could do for yourself. Things come into clarity, You

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<v Speaker 1>get closer to the Lord. You truly learn to love

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<v Speaker 1>the Lord because you understand and you know it's the

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<v Speaker 1>greatest love of all.

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<v Speaker 2>But you have to want.

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<v Speaker 1>That, you have to believe that. Being celibate it's like

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<v Speaker 1>anything else. You get used to it. It's nothing that's

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<v Speaker 1>going to cause you harm. It's gonna give you a

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<v Speaker 1>peace and understanding like never ever before. But a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people don't want to give it up because they

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<v Speaker 1>don't understand, because their eyes.

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<v Speaker 2>Are blind. They're being led by their flesh, and people

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<v Speaker 2>just want what they want.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of times people don't even look at the consequences.

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<v Speaker 1>They don't even consider the risk. They just want what

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<v Speaker 1>they want until they have to deal with the consequences,

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<v Speaker 1>until the risk costs issues in their lives. People are

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<v Speaker 1>seeking self gratification at any cost, and it's crazy. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not worth it. You're not gonna get an experience that

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<v Speaker 1>is so incredibly different from another until you find true love.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's gonna be hard when you're with someone and

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<v Speaker 1>you're still thinking about what you used to do with

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<v Speaker 1>someone else, because you still got bits and pieces from

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<v Speaker 1>those other relationships as a part of you. You have

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<v Speaker 1>to release yourself. You have to give that mess to

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<v Speaker 1>the Lord and leave it there. If you want your

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<v Speaker 1>love in your life, it's started by loving God and

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<v Speaker 1>his son Jesus and loving yourself. Because no one on

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<v Speaker 1>the face of the earth, not your mom, your dad,

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<v Speaker 1>your children, your relatives, your friends. No one will love

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<v Speaker 1>you like the Lord. No one can give you a

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<v Speaker 1>peace that surpasses all understanding. But if you're out there

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<v Speaker 1>flapping like a fish out of water, just doing what

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do with who you want to do

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<v Speaker 1>with when you want to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>You reap what you sow, and that's just it. You

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<v Speaker 2>reap what you sow, and those are the type of

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<v Speaker 2>seeds you sow.

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<v Speaker 1>What you won't be beneficial to you, and it will

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<v Speaker 1>affect you in a relationship if you don't change and

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<v Speaker 1>you go into a relationship. I don't care who you are,

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<v Speaker 1>how much money you have, what you have, it's going

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<v Speaker 1>to affect you in your relationships because you've got all

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<v Speaker 1>of this stuff going on inside of you, not only

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<v Speaker 1>of the individuals you've been with, but those unresolved issues

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<v Speaker 1>that you haven't dealt with. So when you get into

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<v Speaker 1>a relationship, you're seeking things.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you're trying to recapture.

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<v Speaker 1>Things that you've experienced before that you thought were good

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<v Speaker 1>for you. You're trying to recapture those feelings from those

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<v Speaker 1>individuals that you were with for in your current relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's gonna cause problems. And some of you are

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<v Speaker 1>bold enough to say, well, Jimmy did this or Bertha

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<v Speaker 1>did that.

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<v Speaker 2>Some of you are bold enough to say it, or

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<v Speaker 2>should I say ignorant enough to say it because you

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<v Speaker 2>don't know any better.

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<v Speaker 1>You have no mental maturity, and you still being laid

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<v Speaker 1>by your flesh.

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<v Speaker 2>So you're just trying to Hey, if I.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell him or tell her, maybe they'll give me what

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<v Speaker 1>I want, the desires that I have.

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<v Speaker 2>But it builds animosity and resentment.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're telling someone who really cares about you, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not enough. You're not giving me what I'm used

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<v Speaker 1>to having. No, that won't work, that'll be short lived,

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<v Speaker 1>I guarantee you. So the Lord want us to refrain,

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<v Speaker 1>sustain go through abstinence celibacy. It won't kill you. I

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<v Speaker 1>promise you. It won't kill you, and it will be

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<v Speaker 1>pleasing in the sight of the Lord. Some people won't

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<v Speaker 1>even believe when.

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<v Speaker 2>You say you're celibate. They won't believe it.

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<v Speaker 1>Because they can't fathom the thoughts for themselves. So if

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<v Speaker 1>they don't think that they can do it, they show

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<v Speaker 1>won't believe you can. But it don't matter what anyone thinks.

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<v Speaker 1>That's another thing. Stop worrying about what other people think,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's what God thinks that matters. It's what He

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<v Speaker 1>thinks that matters. So I just wanted to talk a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit about it. When you go through life and

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing all of this these things, you're going to

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<v Speaker 1>bring that mess into your relationships. You're gonna bring that

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<v Speaker 1>crap into your relationships, and it's going to cost issues.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a guarantee. So sustain.

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<v Speaker 1>If you have issues, you really want to, but you're

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<v Speaker 1>having issues, you're struggling, reach out to me.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll talk about.

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<v Speaker 1>It, because, oh boy, do I have a story to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you. I'm not gonna tell you over over this podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>but ooh wait, but you can do it, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>what Gods want for you, because really, sex is not everything.

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<v Speaker 2>It really isn't. It really truly isn't.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you mature and get to that level of maturity,

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<v Speaker 1>you will understand, and especially when you serve in God,

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<v Speaker 1>you'll understand completely what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is just a.

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<v Speaker 1>Little bit I want to talk about it, and I

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<v Speaker 1>really really hope you think about what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 2>You think about what I've said.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it will make a difference in your life. Keeping

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<v Speaker 1>yourself holy, you know, guarding your heart, taking care of

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<v Speaker 1>your temple, all of that is important to God. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's all I'm gonna say on it. I'm leaving it

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<v Speaker 1>right there. Thank you so much for listening. Much love

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<v Speaker 1>to each and every one of you. Please reach out

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<v Speaker 1>to me. I love hearing from you. Go to my podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It'll tell you how to reach me by email. I

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<v Speaker 1>will respond. Please share this episode in all episodes the same,

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<v Speaker 1>and I hope.

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<v Speaker 2>And I pray you do it. Thank go on it

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