WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:02.080 Hello everyone, and welcome back to the Other podcast episode. 2 00:00:02.120 --> 00:00:03.839 My name is Alicia Gogin, the host of the Globe 3 00:00:03.839 --> 00:00:06.360 Secret Podcast. Why I help you expand your mind and 4 00:00:06.400 --> 00:00:08.279 become more self aware so that you can glow up 5 00:00:08.320 --> 00:00:12.800 into the best version of yourself. Okay, guys, so today's 6 00:00:12.880 --> 00:00:15.919 kind of like a random recording day for me. I 7 00:00:15.960 --> 00:00:18.600 wasn't really planning on recording, but there's been a few 8 00:00:18.640 --> 00:00:20.800 things that have been happening in my life, well many 9 00:00:21.079 --> 00:00:23.199 as you guys know, and with that there is a 10 00:00:23.199 --> 00:00:25.239 lot of realizations, there's a lot of lessons, there's a 11 00:00:25.280 --> 00:00:27.719 lot of messages that I've been getting and it's been 12 00:00:27.760 --> 00:00:30.480 steering up in my brain. So I was journaling this 13 00:00:30.519 --> 00:00:32.479 morning and I'm like, you know what, I need to 14 00:00:32.479 --> 00:00:35.159 bring it to the podcast. You need to hear this message. 15 00:00:35.280 --> 00:00:38.759 I do, and hopefully this will continue to open up 16 00:00:38.799 --> 00:00:42.200 a conversation for all of us and to think bigger 17 00:00:42.240 --> 00:00:45.119 and do bigger, which is the topic of this episode. 18 00:00:45.840 --> 00:00:51.439 So we really need to stop playing small in life, 19 00:00:51.560 --> 00:00:55.799 in love and money, in success, in career. We really 20 00:00:55.840 --> 00:00:58.280 need to stop. Now, there's a few things that have 21 00:00:58.359 --> 00:01:01.200 been happening in my life that given me inspiration to 22 00:01:01.200 --> 00:01:03.320 talk about this, but I want to talk about first 23 00:01:03.439 --> 00:01:07.640 one person and her name is Grow with Joe or Johannah. Actually, 24 00:01:07.760 --> 00:01:10.719 she is a very big content creator. She's actually from Toronto, 25 00:01:11.040 --> 00:01:14.400 which is amazing, and she's really an expander for me. 26 00:01:15.120 --> 00:01:18.319 But she's on YouTube, she's on Instagram. Her main thing 27 00:01:18.480 --> 00:01:21.079 is that she does like at home workouts. She has 28 00:01:21.079 --> 00:01:24.319 an app. I've actually worked with her brand a year 29 00:01:24.400 --> 00:01:27.719 or two ago on my vlog channel, like my YouTube channel, 30 00:01:27.760 --> 00:01:30.959 second channel. But anyways, she's amazing. She's very successful online. 31 00:01:31.400 --> 00:01:34.159 And she had posted a video the other day talking 32 00:01:34.239 --> 00:01:39.519 about how she gained ten million subscribers. And in that video, 33 00:01:40.120 --> 00:01:43.319 it wasn't about oh, you just need to post this 34 00:01:43.439 --> 00:01:45.959 type of content this many times a day, this that 35 00:01:46.439 --> 00:01:48.879 it was all just mindset shifts that she needed to 36 00:01:48.920 --> 00:01:51.680 make to really become this version of her that was 37 00:01:51.879 --> 00:01:57.079 successful beyond her even wildest dreams. And she's also very 38 00:01:57.400 --> 00:01:59.959 I was gonna say spiritual, but she's Christian, so religious, 39 00:02:00.159 --> 00:02:03.799 so some of her tips and like the mindset shift 40 00:02:03.879 --> 00:02:06.120 that she made was really connected to God. And I 41 00:02:06.159 --> 00:02:08.080 am not a Christian, but so much of what she 42 00:02:08.120 --> 00:02:10.120 was saying was just resonating with me so deeply, so 43 00:02:10.240 --> 00:02:12.879 for one, I definitely would suggest checking out her video. 44 00:02:12.919 --> 00:02:14.599 I will have it linked down below. But of course 45 00:02:14.599 --> 00:02:17.159 she was giving advice to people who kind of want 46 00:02:17.159 --> 00:02:19.919 to step into their purpose or you know, start their 47 00:02:19.960 --> 00:02:22.879 own business or start content creation or whatever, and of 48 00:02:22.879 --> 00:02:25.319 course I kind of had the same mindset when it 49 00:02:25.360 --> 00:02:27.919 comes to taking the leap of faith and knowing that 50 00:02:27.960 --> 00:02:30.319 you have a purpose and a passion and go towards 51 00:02:30.319 --> 00:02:32.879 that even if you're not ready. And I will kind 52 00:02:32.879 --> 00:02:35.240 of continue talking about that in this episode, but she 53 00:02:35.319 --> 00:02:37.000 said one thing that really stood out to me, and 54 00:02:37.080 --> 00:02:40.919 it really made me think about just every other area 55 00:02:41.000 --> 00:02:45.560 of my life too that I've seen myself play small 56 00:02:45.919 --> 00:02:49.080 and this is going to correlate a lot to love 57 00:02:49.159 --> 00:02:53.360 as well. And also side note, I've been seeing how 58 00:02:53.400 --> 00:02:56.759 a few of my anxiously attached videos have been not 59 00:02:56.840 --> 00:02:59.319 like going viral, but the algorithm is pushing them again 60 00:02:59.319 --> 00:03:02.080 and I'm seeing a lot of comments and how a 61 00:03:02.120 --> 00:03:04.039 lot of people have been really struggling with kind of 62 00:03:04.039 --> 00:03:05.919 like accepting the bare minimum. Like I can see what 63 00:03:06.240 --> 00:03:08.159 you guys are dealing with. So I think that this 64 00:03:08.199 --> 00:03:10.719 will resonate even outside of like finding your purpose or 65 00:03:11.520 --> 00:03:13.319 going for your dream life or things like that. But 66 00:03:13.400 --> 00:03:16.680 in that video, she was talking about playing small and 67 00:03:17.120 --> 00:03:20.240 how she really needed to challenge her mindset when it 68 00:03:20.280 --> 00:03:23.080 came to standing in smallness, and she was saying, like, 69 00:03:23.439 --> 00:03:26.800 you really have to stop standing in smallness. You have 70 00:03:26.840 --> 00:03:30.439 to really stop being okay with being small and playing 71 00:03:30.479 --> 00:03:33.800 small in your life. Whether that is you have a message, 72 00:03:33.879 --> 00:03:35.800 or you have something that you can bring to the world, 73 00:03:35.800 --> 00:03:38.680 but you're just playing small and you're keeping it to yourself, 74 00:03:38.800 --> 00:03:40.360 or you're not going for your dreams, or you're not 75 00:03:40.400 --> 00:03:42.960 pushing yourself. But I also think about this in the 76 00:03:43.039 --> 00:03:46.199 sense of, let's say, love, it's so important you start 77 00:03:46.199 --> 00:03:48.719 to point out and see within yourself how you are 78 00:03:48.759 --> 00:03:52.639 really standing in smallness and you are really accepting the 79 00:03:52.639 --> 00:03:56.840 bare minimum, and you are really sitting here and not 80 00:03:56.960 --> 00:03:59.560 being a bigger version of you. You're so used to 81 00:03:59.639 --> 00:04:03.960 accept the bare minimum. You're so used to constantly counting 82 00:04:04.000 --> 00:04:08.080 yourself out and not using your voice and not taking 83 00:04:08.120 --> 00:04:10.639 action towards things, and getting in your head about things 84 00:04:10.639 --> 00:04:13.560 and then never doing them. And this is what happens 85 00:04:13.599 --> 00:04:15.520 a lot too. And I've seen this in myself, whether 86 00:04:15.560 --> 00:04:21.000 it is with love or abundance or success. Sometimes we 87 00:04:21.079 --> 00:04:24.160 start getting really caught up with what is being presented 88 00:04:24.199 --> 00:04:27.519 in our lives, which is understandable. Somebody's not showing up 89 00:04:27.519 --> 00:04:31.519 for us, somebody's giving us a bare minimum, somebody's disappointing us, 90 00:04:31.519 --> 00:04:34.600 somebody's treating us poorly, or we're just so frustrated with 91 00:04:34.600 --> 00:04:36.160 the fact that we don't have our dream job or 92 00:04:36.160 --> 00:04:39.360 we don't have enough money. And on one hand, we 93 00:04:39.399 --> 00:04:42.439 can acknowledge those things, but sometimes we spend so much 94 00:04:42.480 --> 00:04:44.920 time reacting to the things that are not meant for 95 00:04:45.040 --> 00:04:49.680 us anyways. And if you want better relationships, if you 96 00:04:49.759 --> 00:04:52.839 want to be treated better, if you want to have 97 00:04:52.879 --> 00:04:56.519 that dream job, you have to stop responding to what's 98 00:04:56.560 --> 00:04:58.959 in front of you right now, because the dream version 99 00:04:58.959 --> 00:05:01.160 of you, the highest version of you, would they even 100 00:05:01.240 --> 00:05:03.839 be dealing with what you're dealing with right now? Would 101 00:05:03.879 --> 00:05:08.720 they be getting upset and arguing and negotiating and going 102 00:05:08.759 --> 00:05:10.920 back and forth with a person, place, or thing when 103 00:05:10.959 --> 00:05:14.000 it's the bare minimum? Anyways, And I know it's difficult, 104 00:05:14.040 --> 00:05:16.600 and it is important that we respond to certain things 105 00:05:16.600 --> 00:05:18.600 I'm not saying, be passive and never say what you 106 00:05:18.639 --> 00:05:22.040 need to say to somebody, or you know, respond to 107 00:05:22.600 --> 00:05:25.560 the chaos of your life obviously, but it is to 108 00:05:25.560 --> 00:05:27.560 see how sometimes we get so wrapped up and we 109 00:05:27.600 --> 00:05:30.519 start spiraling, and we start arguing with people, or we 110 00:05:30.560 --> 00:05:34.040 start just getting mad at life for it not presenting 111 00:05:34.079 --> 00:05:35.920 to us what we really want or what we believe 112 00:05:35.959 --> 00:05:39.079 we deserve. But we keep responding to it. We keep 113 00:05:39.120 --> 00:05:41.879 responding to it, We keep responding to the person who 114 00:05:41.879 --> 00:05:45.000 gives us the bare minimum. We need to stop being 115 00:05:45.079 --> 00:05:46.959 upset about that and be like, Okay, you know what 116 00:05:47.600 --> 00:05:51.120 I deserve more. I want this type of person in 117 00:05:51.160 --> 00:05:53.279 my life to show up this way. I want this 118 00:05:53.399 --> 00:05:56.160 dream job, I want more money, I want more success, 119 00:05:56.199 --> 00:05:58.560 I want more whatever. But I need to be the 120 00:05:58.639 --> 00:06:03.279 person that acts like they get that and would the 121 00:06:03.480 --> 00:06:05.360 dream version of me or even if you can think 122 00:06:05.360 --> 00:06:07.279 about this when it comes to relationships, I always say this, 123 00:06:07.399 --> 00:06:11.600 like your dream husband or your dream relationship, like, that's 124 00:06:11.639 --> 00:06:14.160 not how it would work out. Your dream husband wouldn't 125 00:06:14.160 --> 00:06:16.399 treat you like that. The dream version of you wouldn't 126 00:06:16.399 --> 00:06:20.120 even be entertaining somebody who treats you like crap. But 127 00:06:20.279 --> 00:06:22.800 you need to be the one that changes first. You 128 00:06:22.879 --> 00:06:24.920 need to be the one that stops responding to the 129 00:06:24.959 --> 00:06:26.839 things that you don't want in your life, you do 130 00:06:26.959 --> 00:06:31.399 deserve to have more abundance and more success, And quite frankly, 131 00:06:31.439 --> 00:06:34.639 you're so used to accepting the bare minimum. You're so 132 00:06:34.839 --> 00:06:36.920 used to not asking for a lot, you're so used 133 00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:39.959 to living in scarcity, because that's probably what you've came from, 134 00:06:40.160 --> 00:06:42.680 That's what I came from. I got really good at 135 00:06:42.720 --> 00:06:46.160 accepting the bare minimum from my parents. Doesn't mean that 136 00:06:46.160 --> 00:06:48.519 they didn't love me. It doesn't mean that, you know, 137 00:06:48.600 --> 00:06:50.360 they didn't try. But at the end of the day, 138 00:06:50.480 --> 00:06:52.680 like I was primed in my life to kind of 139 00:06:52.720 --> 00:06:55.040 accept the bare minimum, and I know in my adulthood 140 00:06:55.040 --> 00:06:57.240 life that I do deserve more. But it's going to 141 00:06:57.279 --> 00:06:59.360 be up to me to stand in that. It's going 142 00:06:59.439 --> 00:07:01.040 to be up to me to be like, you know what, 143 00:07:01.480 --> 00:07:03.920 I need more resources, I need people to show up 144 00:07:03.959 --> 00:07:05.839 for me. I need X, Y and Z. And it's 145 00:07:05.839 --> 00:07:08.199 not from this place of being egotistical. It's not from 146 00:07:08.240 --> 00:07:10.759 a place of being rude to people or hurting people 147 00:07:10.879 --> 00:07:13.040 or anything. It's just the fact of the matter that 148 00:07:13.720 --> 00:07:16.600 we do deserve a lot more things, but we are 149 00:07:16.839 --> 00:07:21.399 so used to standing in smallness. And you know, she 150 00:07:21.560 --> 00:07:25.360 was also saying in her video, how God and you 151 00:07:25.399 --> 00:07:26.920 can even think about this, just like the universe. If 152 00:07:26.959 --> 00:07:30.240 you don't believe in God, whatever, how God's given you 153 00:07:30.279 --> 00:07:32.639 a purpose or a desire or something. And even if 154 00:07:32.680 --> 00:07:35.639 you don't know that right now, what that is. God's 155 00:07:35.639 --> 00:07:39.120 given you something life force, energy is something to bring 156 00:07:39.160 --> 00:07:41.519 into this world and to share with people, to help people. 157 00:07:41.759 --> 00:07:44.600 And you're just going to stay small. You're just going 158 00:07:44.680 --> 00:07:46.319 to keep that to yourself. You're not going to go 159 00:07:46.319 --> 00:07:49.560 out into the world and help others, or inspire others, 160 00:07:49.759 --> 00:07:53.240 or use the talent that you have and change people's 161 00:07:53.279 --> 00:07:55.519 lives or whatever it is that you have. You're not 162 00:07:55.519 --> 00:07:57.439 gonna do that. You're just gonna stay small. You're not 163 00:07:57.439 --> 00:08:00.600 gonna be a source of love and support for other people, 164 00:08:00.600 --> 00:08:02.680 whatever it is. You're just going to stay small personally. 165 00:08:02.720 --> 00:08:04.879 For me, I don't think that's the best use of 166 00:08:04.920 --> 00:08:07.000 our time here now. I found this quote on Pinterress, 167 00:08:07.000 --> 00:08:09.639 because you guys know, I love me a good Pinterest quote, 168 00:08:10.160 --> 00:08:13.920 and it says you must allow yourself to outgrow and 169 00:08:13.959 --> 00:08:17.000 depart from certain eras of your life with a gentle 170 00:08:17.279 --> 00:08:19.959 sort of ruthlessness. And I'm going to bring it back 171 00:08:20.000 --> 00:08:23.360 to accepting the bare minimum or just being in relationships 172 00:08:23.399 --> 00:08:26.560 or even friendships or certain circumstances actually in your life. 173 00:08:26.600 --> 00:08:30.120 It doesn't even have to be relationships where you know 174 00:08:30.199 --> 00:08:32.440 it's half assed, you know it's not the best quality. 175 00:08:32.440 --> 00:08:34.919 You know, like it's not making you happy. It's not 176 00:08:35.200 --> 00:08:41.440 about arguing with people or getting even really angry, which 177 00:08:41.480 --> 00:08:43.480 maybe you do have some anger that you need to release, 178 00:08:43.519 --> 00:08:45.320 and maybe you don't need to release it on somebody else. 179 00:08:45.360 --> 00:08:47.720 Maybe it could be like journal or therapy or you know, 180 00:08:47.799 --> 00:08:50.879 with yourself, or if you are going to communicate with people, 181 00:08:50.960 --> 00:08:52.799 you do it in a way of understanding that they 182 00:08:52.879 --> 00:08:56.159 might be not fully ready to see it the way 183 00:08:56.159 --> 00:08:59.360 you see it regardless, it's like a separate type of conversation. 184 00:08:59.519 --> 00:09:01.720 But the way that I like to look at some 185 00:09:01.799 --> 00:09:04.279 of the situations that might be presenting in my life, 186 00:09:05.120 --> 00:09:10.960 I look at it with a gentle, compassionate understanding as 187 00:09:11.039 --> 00:09:16.240 much as I can heart and release it in the 188 00:09:16.279 --> 00:09:20.519 most understanding way of knowing that I deserve more. And 189 00:09:20.639 --> 00:09:24.440 I'm not even going to fight this reality right now? 190 00:09:24.559 --> 00:09:29.559 Right Why am I going to continue to spiral out 191 00:09:29.600 --> 00:09:35.320 and be anxious and be angry and try to really 192 00:09:35.600 --> 00:09:38.080 fight with life when I can just see it for 193 00:09:38.120 --> 00:09:40.360 what it is, This person, plays or thing that's just 194 00:09:40.399 --> 00:09:42.399 not exactly in alignment with who I am or what 195 00:09:42.480 --> 00:09:45.960 I deserve and what I know I deserve. Why don't 196 00:09:45.960 --> 00:09:49.000 I just see it for what it is, do my 197 00:09:49.039 --> 00:09:51.399 best to not react, which I understand it's hard to 198 00:09:51.440 --> 00:09:53.960 not react. Okay, this is just like in theory in 199 00:09:54.000 --> 00:09:58.000 a way, But do my best to not react so 200 00:09:58.120 --> 00:10:00.320 much and see it for what it is and be like, 201 00:10:00.360 --> 00:10:02.320 you know what, I'm going to release this that does 202 00:10:02.360 --> 00:10:05.159 not serve me. I know that the highest version of 203 00:10:05.200 --> 00:10:10.960 me wouldn't be responding and continuously negotiating and playing with 204 00:10:11.039 --> 00:10:13.759 this realm of life that does not serve me and 205 00:10:13.799 --> 00:10:16.559 I don't deserve. And I'm going to move into a 206 00:10:16.600 --> 00:10:18.240 new era of my life and I'm going to focus 207 00:10:18.279 --> 00:10:20.480 on what I know I deserve, which is more than this, 208 00:10:21.320 --> 00:10:24.600 which is better than this, And you really have to 209 00:10:24.799 --> 00:10:27.159 give yourself that gift. And I think about my inner child. 210 00:10:27.200 --> 00:10:29.639 I think about the young version of me that deserves 211 00:10:30.039 --> 00:10:32.519 so much more and deserved a lot more in her 212 00:10:32.559 --> 00:10:35.600 life when it came to what her parents could give her. 213 00:10:35.759 --> 00:10:37.919 And I look at some of the actions that my 214 00:10:38.000 --> 00:10:41.519 parents took, let's say, and as much as I've forgiven them, 215 00:10:41.559 --> 00:10:44.200 and I've moved on from a lot of it, and 216 00:10:44.240 --> 00:10:47.600 I've had to grieve many losses, all different aspects and 217 00:10:47.720 --> 00:10:52.799 chapters of my parents. The way that I didn't continuously 218 00:10:52.879 --> 00:10:57.399 spiral into the disappointment although there was a lot of it, 219 00:10:58.000 --> 00:11:00.480 or the sadness although there was a lot of it, 220 00:11:01.320 --> 00:11:04.600 or the same habits that my parents ended up going 221 00:11:04.639 --> 00:11:07.200 down the road that they went down when it came 222 00:11:07.240 --> 00:11:09.080 to like addictions and things like that. The way that 223 00:11:09.159 --> 00:11:13.679 I stopped myself from getting in those spirals was really 224 00:11:13.720 --> 00:11:15.799 looking at the situation for what it is and being like, 225 00:11:15.840 --> 00:11:20.279 you know what, Unfortunately I had these circumstances happen in 226 00:11:20.320 --> 00:11:25.159 my life, and although it impacted me and it did 227 00:11:25.679 --> 00:11:28.320 knock me down a few notches, what I'm not going 228 00:11:28.360 --> 00:11:30.799 to do to the best of my ability kind of 229 00:11:30.960 --> 00:11:33.879 let myself have to deal with the consequences of someone 230 00:11:33.879 --> 00:11:37.320 else's actions. And this is kind of like what I mean, 231 00:11:37.360 --> 00:11:39.039 And I think about this when it comes to like, 232 00:11:39.799 --> 00:11:42.600 let's say you're anxiously attached in someone's being really avoidant 233 00:11:43.320 --> 00:11:47.519 and they are not taking responsibility of communication in your 234 00:11:47.559 --> 00:11:49.759 relationship when they should. You know, they're not showing up 235 00:11:49.799 --> 00:11:53.440 for you or whatever it is really shitty that they're 236 00:11:53.440 --> 00:11:57.000 doing that, and them being avoidant is not only something 237 00:11:57.039 --> 00:11:59.159 you don't deserve, but on top of that, what ends 238 00:11:59.200 --> 00:12:02.440 up happening is is it elicits this feeling where you 239 00:12:02.480 --> 00:12:04.840 feel really crap about yourself and now you're anxious all 240 00:12:04.919 --> 00:12:08.480 day and you're spiraling and your second guessing yourself and 241 00:12:08.639 --> 00:12:12.279 you're waiting around, and it's like, you don't deserve to 242 00:12:12.360 --> 00:12:17.720 spend your entire day spiraling on somebody who's decided to 243 00:12:17.799 --> 00:12:20.519 be avoidant or decided to not show up for you. 244 00:12:20.519 --> 00:12:24.159 You don't deserve to spend your entire day suffering. And 245 00:12:24.240 --> 00:12:26.039 I understand why you do that, right, because you have 246 00:12:26.120 --> 00:12:27.799 that attachment. And it's not to say that you're never 247 00:12:27.840 --> 00:12:30.240 gonna have a reaction, right It's not like I've never 248 00:12:30.240 --> 00:12:32.519 had a reaction of feeling disappointed when my parents didn't 249 00:12:32.519 --> 00:12:35.279 show up for me. It's a natural human response. But 250 00:12:35.799 --> 00:12:37.799 I've tried to do my best over the years to 251 00:12:37.879 --> 00:12:40.120 kind of look at it from this like higher self 252 00:12:40.279 --> 00:12:43.919 lens and be like, Okay, your parents or your situation 253 00:12:44.080 --> 00:12:46.440 in life or whatever, these are the things that are happening, 254 00:12:46.480 --> 00:12:49.600 but you don't deserve to deal with the consequences of 255 00:12:50.000 --> 00:12:52.399 what's happening here. So can we do the best we 256 00:12:52.480 --> 00:12:54.639 can to remind ourselves that we deserve more than this? 257 00:12:55.639 --> 00:13:00.200 And how can we slowly stop responding to the it 258 00:13:00.240 --> 00:13:04.879 that's not ours, the avoidant attachments, the crappy situations that 259 00:13:04.879 --> 00:13:07.720 we were put in. And so when life is presenting 260 00:13:08.039 --> 00:13:11.679 something to me that's nothing that I deserve, of course 261 00:13:11.679 --> 00:13:13.799 I'll feel my feelings. Of course I'm not going to 262 00:13:13.840 --> 00:13:16.600 be perfect. Most likely I'm going to react to certain things, 263 00:13:16.840 --> 00:13:19.240 but I do my best to remind myself that I 264 00:13:19.279 --> 00:13:24.320 don't deserve to suffer more. Right, there's that impact, there's 265 00:13:24.360 --> 00:13:27.480 that pain, but then there's suffering and I don't deserve that. 266 00:13:27.559 --> 00:13:30.000 So I'm going to release this and I'm going to 267 00:13:30.080 --> 00:13:33.679 remind myself that I deserve more and I can be more. 268 00:13:34.120 --> 00:13:36.440 And what can I do in my present moment to 269 00:13:36.559 --> 00:13:39.679 keep myself on track? And I think this comes down 270 00:13:39.720 --> 00:13:43.720 to being brave as well, being brave and have encouraged 271 00:13:43.840 --> 00:13:47.759 that you do deserve more than what your current circumstance is, 272 00:13:48.240 --> 00:13:51.200 and that it might feel uncomfortable, but that you can 273 00:13:51.240 --> 00:13:53.759 do it, and that there is better people places than 274 00:13:53.799 --> 00:13:57.559 things that are coming to you outside of this crappy 275 00:13:58.039 --> 00:14:01.519 circumstance or situation whatever that you're currently in. So a 276 00:14:01.519 --> 00:14:03.720 few things that I can think of that have helped 277 00:14:03.759 --> 00:14:06.840 me through the times where I've been playing small, whether 278 00:14:06.840 --> 00:14:11.399 that it's in love or that's just me on my 279 00:14:11.519 --> 00:14:14.080 purpose or just bringing my gifts to the world. Our 280 00:14:14.200 --> 00:14:17.600 first definitely trying to do my best to not respond 281 00:14:18.120 --> 00:14:21.960 to what is happening from this old version of me 282 00:14:22.120 --> 00:14:25.360 and reminding myself, like the highest version of me and 283 00:14:25.720 --> 00:14:29.080 my dream life, like, it's not this. So if it's 284 00:14:29.120 --> 00:14:32.200 not this, then why am I wasting my time responding 285 00:14:32.240 --> 00:14:35.679 to this? Why am I accepting this? Why am I 286 00:14:35.799 --> 00:14:38.080 living in this version of me that I do not want? 287 00:14:38.120 --> 00:14:40.840 Whatever's happening right now is just a test, it's a lesson. 288 00:14:41.240 --> 00:14:43.600 Let me do my best to not respond to this. 289 00:14:43.759 --> 00:14:45.559 And what I like to do is to get very 290 00:14:45.679 --> 00:14:48.000 clear on the vision that I hold for myself, which 291 00:14:48.080 --> 00:14:51.600 is pretty easy when you look around in your environment 292 00:14:51.639 --> 00:14:53.320 and you realize, oh, I don't like this, that and 293 00:14:53.360 --> 00:14:57.879 the third get clear, get clear on your dreams, your 294 00:14:58.000 --> 00:15:01.559 dream life, your dream relateationship, how do you want to 295 00:15:01.600 --> 00:15:04.759 be treated? What exactly do you want? You get clear 296 00:15:04.840 --> 00:15:06.960 on that. So that when life presents you a half 297 00:15:07.039 --> 00:15:10.679 assed version of people, places, and things, you have more 298 00:15:10.759 --> 00:15:13.879 of a sense of no, no, thank you. But if you're 299 00:15:13.919 --> 00:15:16.720 not clear and you're not spending that time to really 300 00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:19.600 focus in and hone in on that, yes you will 301 00:15:19.600 --> 00:15:22.840 get confused. Yes you will go back to old ways 302 00:15:22.919 --> 00:15:24.960 and old patterns because that is what you're used to. 303 00:15:25.159 --> 00:15:28.159 Another thing I do is I really like to take action. 304 00:15:28.559 --> 00:15:32.360 This is kind of in alignment with being on purpose 305 00:15:32.480 --> 00:15:35.600 or feeling afraid to go and do X, Y and z, 306 00:15:36.279 --> 00:15:39.159 you know, start that new business or content creation or 307 00:15:39.200 --> 00:15:42.080 to podcast, or even just doing something for the first 308 00:15:42.120 --> 00:15:44.279 time and going out into the world or taking a 309 00:15:44.320 --> 00:15:47.120 new class or starting a hobby or meeting a new 310 00:15:47.159 --> 00:15:50.679 friend for the first time. Understand that you are really 311 00:15:51.279 --> 00:15:53.639 never going to be fully prepared. And I think taking 312 00:15:53.679 --> 00:15:57.080 action is so important because if you don't take action 313 00:15:57.279 --> 00:15:59.559 on your goals or the ideas that you have in 314 00:15:59.600 --> 00:16:02.240 your life, that is when you go back into this 315 00:16:02.360 --> 00:16:05.519 smallness and you start telling yourself you can't do it, 316 00:16:05.879 --> 00:16:09.399 I don't have enough resources, I'm not good enough. You 317 00:16:09.440 --> 00:16:12.559 start comparing yourself. That's another thing. You spend more time 318 00:16:12.600 --> 00:16:16.000 comparing yourself or looking grass is grainer over here. Look 319 00:16:16.039 --> 00:16:17.799 at how this person or that person is doing it, 320 00:16:17.840 --> 00:16:19.519 and that's not me, so I can't do it. Just 321 00:16:19.720 --> 00:16:26.919 that action will take away a lot of that negative 322 00:16:26.960 --> 00:16:30.879 self talk and second guessing and self doubt. And also 323 00:16:30.919 --> 00:16:34.320 what has helped me is to cultivate a practice of 324 00:16:34.320 --> 00:16:37.679 pouring into yourself and reminding yourself of small winds that 325 00:16:37.759 --> 00:16:40.960 you have had, or you have created, or you have 326 00:16:41.080 --> 00:16:44.960 achieved in your life, whether it is within love or 327 00:16:45.240 --> 00:16:47.960 just who you are as a person, or your career 328 00:16:48.200 --> 00:16:50.519 or whatever. Because I feel like if you don't pour 329 00:16:50.559 --> 00:16:52.960 into yourself and remind yourself of how great you are, 330 00:16:53.320 --> 00:16:56.559 how worthy and deserving you are, how all of the 331 00:16:56.559 --> 00:16:58.679 amazing things that you have accomplished in your life, you 332 00:16:58.840 --> 00:17:02.799 will get can you will forget that you deserve more. 333 00:17:03.120 --> 00:17:04.920 And it's not that you have to do things in 334 00:17:05.039 --> 00:17:07.880 order to be deserving of love or abundance or anything 335 00:17:07.960 --> 00:17:11.039 like that, but it does help for you to believe 336 00:17:11.200 --> 00:17:13.759 that you can have more in your life when you 337 00:17:13.799 --> 00:17:16.119 pour into yourself and you say, you know what, actually, 338 00:17:16.160 --> 00:17:18.200 I've done this that in the third and I've accomplished 339 00:17:18.240 --> 00:17:20.839 this thing, and I've been working myself out of these 340 00:17:20.960 --> 00:17:23.039 ruts and I show up for myself, and I show 341 00:17:23.079 --> 00:17:25.200 up for other people, and I'm kind and I'm loving, 342 00:17:25.319 --> 00:17:28.720 and I deserve more than this. I just deserve more 343 00:17:28.720 --> 00:17:31.000 than this. You have to remind yourself of that. But 344 00:17:31.119 --> 00:17:34.279 instead you sit here and you question why you get 345 00:17:34.319 --> 00:17:36.920 the bare minimum, why you get these half assed things. 346 00:17:36.960 --> 00:17:39.799 Stop doing that. You don't need to second guess your worth. 347 00:17:39.839 --> 00:17:41.759 You don't need to second guess yourself. Stop letting what 348 00:17:41.839 --> 00:17:44.960 is currently happening in your life question your worth. Okay, 349 00:17:45.079 --> 00:17:48.000 you have to remind yourself of your worth. Stop responding 350 00:17:48.039 --> 00:17:50.240 to the things that are not in alignment with you. 351 00:17:50.319 --> 00:17:53.039 This is not the things that you want anyways. Let's 352 00:17:53.039 --> 00:17:55.200 stop doing that as much as we can, and let's 353 00:17:55.359 --> 00:18:00.240 do more for ourselves. Let's play bigger. Let's do more. 354 00:18:00.319 --> 00:18:02.960 We need to do more. We need to step outside 355 00:18:03.000 --> 00:18:04.839 of comfort zones. And we know we need to do 356 00:18:04.880 --> 00:18:07.880 that because what we desire is bigger than ourselves. Your 357 00:18:07.960 --> 00:18:14.200 dream life, your dream home, dream relationship, dream family, friends, experiences, 358 00:18:14.759 --> 00:18:18.440 whatever it is that is bigger than you right now, 359 00:18:18.480 --> 00:18:20.839 it's going to require a new version of you. It's 360 00:18:20.880 --> 00:18:23.480 going to require you to think bigger. So stop getting 361 00:18:23.480 --> 00:18:26.519 wrapped up in the smallness of what is right now. 362 00:18:26.720 --> 00:18:31.400 Respectfully walk away from people, respectfully, see things for what 363 00:18:31.519 --> 00:18:35.359 it is, don't take it personally. Understand these things are 364 00:18:35.359 --> 00:18:39.480 a lesson and move forward. Focus on what you do want, 365 00:18:39.839 --> 00:18:43.759 what you do deserve, and love yourself more than these situations. 366 00:18:43.799 --> 00:18:46.720 Remind yourself that you are bigger than what is currently 367 00:18:46.759 --> 00:18:50.880 going on in this reality, and stay strong and show 368 00:18:50.960 --> 00:18:52.799 up for yourself as much as you can. You do 369 00:18:52.839 --> 00:18:55.160 not need to be perfect, but you do deserve more. 370 00:18:55.240 --> 00:18:58.680 But it is going to be you who gives yourself 371 00:18:58.680 --> 00:19:01.599 that gift, and you that remind yourself of that, and 372 00:19:01.720 --> 00:19:03.960 you that starts to take that action away from the 373 00:19:04.000 --> 00:19:06.279 things that do not serve you. Sometimes it can be 374 00:19:06.319 --> 00:19:08.960 lonely when you are choosing yourself and you are healing 375 00:19:09.039 --> 00:19:12.680 and you are prioritizing yourself. But understand that this is 376 00:19:12.799 --> 00:19:17.759 way better for you than half ass versions of people, places, 377 00:19:17.759 --> 00:19:19.960 and things. These are patterns, These are cycles that you 378 00:19:20.000 --> 00:19:23.640 are breaking. Recognize when you start going back into these patterns. 379 00:19:23.680 --> 00:19:27.680 Because you go into these patterns a lot with certain people, 380 00:19:28.319 --> 00:19:31.440 or you know, certain projects that you're working on, or 381 00:19:31.480 --> 00:19:34.759 in school situations, whatever it is, just be very aware 382 00:19:34.759 --> 00:19:37.640 of when you're going into these circumstances and remind yourself 383 00:19:37.640 --> 00:19:39.039 and have that little pep talk and be like, we 384 00:19:39.119 --> 00:19:41.799 are not doing this smallness, We're not doing it. We 385 00:19:41.839 --> 00:19:43.079 are not doing it. We're going to do the best 386 00:19:43.079 --> 00:19:47.240 that we can with reminding ourselves that we deserve more. Okay, 387 00:19:47.759 --> 00:19:50.000 So that's going to be it for today's episode. It 388 00:19:50.119 --> 00:19:52.839 was kind of quick for my episodes. I hope this 389 00:19:52.920 --> 00:19:55.839 helped in some way. If you want more advice on anything, 390 00:19:56.720 --> 00:19:58.240 let me know, like if you want me to expand 391 00:19:58.240 --> 00:20:00.160 on something. This is definitely a message that I I 392 00:20:00.480 --> 00:20:04.119 continuously have to remind myself of and it's very prevalent 393 00:20:04.160 --> 00:20:06.960 because also, like I said, with Joe's video, it was 394 00:20:07.079 --> 00:20:10.680 very clear that the universe or God or my mom 395 00:20:10.720 --> 00:20:15.960 I should say, is sending me signs and being like, hey, reminder, reminder, 396 00:20:16.079 --> 00:20:20.279 no more staying small, no more procrastinating, no more getting 397 00:20:20.319 --> 00:20:23.160 in your way, no more putting things off and being like, oh, 398 00:20:23.240 --> 00:20:25.319 I'm gonna do it when I'm perfect or it just 399 00:20:25.359 --> 00:20:29.000 has to be perfect. Da da take action now, stop 400 00:20:29.039 --> 00:20:31.319 responding to the things that you know you don't deserve, 401 00:20:32.079 --> 00:20:34.240