Speaker 1: Made a decision a face sunny Sun. I had a
vision like night.
Speaker 2: Too, mat Hey, everybody, it's for crying out loud.
Speaker 3: It sure is what's happened. I've missed you this week.
Much has happened?
Speaker 4: Yes, and really not much.
Speaker 3: I mean, what do you want from me? Like, you know,
I'm just to live in my life, just a mom,
just a mom. I just remembered this, and part of
me thinks it's like good for Patreon, but another part
of me is like, well, nobody's gonna know who I'm
talking about, right, So, Xander, this is this is sad.
This is not like funny.
Speaker 2: Okay, stops laughing, Bunny, It's crazy.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 3: So the other day, Xander, like two nights ago, is like, hey, okay,
I'm gonna call this kid Ted. He's like, hey, Ted
is Xander's friend from school. They're not like they've seen
each other outside of school, right like once or twice,
but kind of a new friend from school.
Speaker 4: Okay.
Speaker 3: Xander's like, hey, Ted is at the Bourbank Airport and
wants to know if we can come pick him up.
What So Ted is twelve or thirteen, right, I mean
the same age as Xander. Yeah, and John and I
were sitting like it's together. We're in our office, I know,
and we're like, what what are you talking? What are
you talking about? And he's like, no, seriously. Now we
can hear Ted on the phone. Xander's got it like
on speakerphone and Ted is kind of laughing. So we're like,
what is going on with this kid? Ted's going like,
I don't know my dad sposed to pick me up.
I think he fell asleep, like nine o'clock at night.
So we're like, is he serious? And then we're like,
where's this where's the mom?
Speaker 2: His?
Speaker 3: Uh my mom's in Oregon. Oh my god, I don't
know where my dad is, but I've been trying to
call him for like, and so we didn't know what
to do. But this kid also stays with his grandmother
part time, right, so like I know that he's sometimes
because when they were going to school, I know that
he would sometimes because like his grandparents would come pick
him up or he would be coming from his grandparents house. Right,
So we're of course John I are immediately like, well,
why where's your grandparents?
Speaker 4: Right?
Speaker 3: I mean it's not eleven pm, it's nine pm. But
more than that, what the fuck, where are who's watching?
This is not picking up a twelve or thirteen year
old kid from the airport by themselves. This kid's just
sitting by himself at the airport.
Speaker 4: You gotta be kidding me.
Speaker 2: No.
Speaker 3: So I'm like, yeah, of course, like we'll go get him.
But also I'm like he So he says, I don't
have my uh, I don't know my grandparents phone number
by heart. The story was getting gone, but it was weird.
But doesn't he laughing? And then finally He's like, well,
I'm laughing because I'm nervous, like I don't know what
to do.
Speaker 4: But doesn't he have his grandparents phone number and his phone?
Speaker 3: So you would think that John's looking at me. I'm
looking at John. We're like why why doesn't he have
his the information in his phone? And Xander's like, what
do you want from me?
Speaker 4: I don't know, like I mean.
Speaker 3: So then so John's like, okay, of course I'll go
get him, but like, does he even already lives? He
doesn't have his grandpas? Like where and where are we
taking him? If the dads know where to be found?
The mom's in Oregon? Where are we driving him to?
And I was like, well, bring him to our house, right,
So uh then but John's like, I just feel weird,
Like it feels we wrong to go pick up someone
else's kid. It sounds like a miscommunication. Who how is
it possible this kid was just being left at an airport.
Somebody's on their way to get him, right, Like, that's
what we're thinking. So we're like, we don't want to
get in trouble for going to pick up a kid.
Somebody's on their way to get him.
Speaker 2: There's and then they don't know kid went right, But
he's like no, seriously, ted saying this desander, no seriously,
Like I think my dad's asleep.
Speaker 3: So then of course I'm like, wait, is he an alcoholic?
What are you asleep when you're supposed to be going
to pick up your kid? Dad is crazy? My mind
is blown right now. And then the kid says, hold on,
I'm gonna try to call my dad's friend. And then
he says, but he knows the dad's friends. Imember not
making this up, I guess. So he's like, I'm gonna
call my dad's friend. And he said he better pick
up because he lives in his car.
Speaker 4: Oh my god.
Speaker 3: I wish John was here to double you know, to
swear by this story. Because so John and I are like,
our mouths can't be where. I was like, wait, wait
what I go? Wait, your dad's friend lives in his car,
and your dad, you think, is asleep and can't get you,
and your mom's in Oregon for no like, call your
fucking mom and tell her to get the fucking dad
on the phone. So then John and I are both
like okay, well, I said, I think we should just
go get him, like and let the chips fall where
they may. And John's like okay. And then next thing
you know, He's like, Okay, my dad's friend is coming
to get me. But he didn't get picked up for
another entire hour.
Speaker 4: What does dad have to do?
Speaker 3: Because we kept waiting, we kept saying, like, what's the update. Yeah,
he lives in the car.
Speaker 2: How long is it gonna take for him to get
his shoes and socks?
Speaker 3: I know, maybe he had to go panhandled for some
gas money. Maybe, I mean that sounds that's horrible. I'm
not trying to joke about it.
Speaker 4: I was.
Speaker 3: We were very distracted. We were like, okay, if he
doesn't cut, we just kept waiting. We're like, if he
doesn't come in the next like fifteen minutes, we're going
to get him, right. But then then Sander's like, oh,
he got.
Speaker 2: Picked up by the way by his friends, by the day,
by the dad's friend.
Speaker 3: About what happened. Nope, that's crazy. Wow.
Speaker 4: Parents of the year, I know, and.
Speaker 3: We worry about like, you know, fifteen minutes of.
Speaker 4: A volleyball exactly exactly.
Speaker 3: You know, the bar has been set very low. Guys,
take heart. Have you left your kid at the airport
and ended because you fell asleep?
Speaker 4: Yeah, don't, probably not, or you don't feel bad? Yeah,
oh my wow. Yeah, So then that's it. He just
went home.
Speaker 3: I have no update because these two are not like
good friends, right, So that's weird that he called Xander too,
Like if they are not, you know, talking all the
time every day, well, I guess they talk. But there's
like a little more to the story. I mean, the
kid seems to have a very strange home life and
has like internet romances often like it always has a
new no, always has a new boyfriend or girlfriend or
whatever's happening with some rando that they met online. But
I don't think they're seeing these I don't think they're
meeting up in person, really, but Xander's like, yeah, Ted's
in another toxic relationship? Is Ted forty five?
Speaker 4: I don't know what is going on with this Ted?
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I've actually asked Xander to kind of make
some distance, right, Yeah, okay, but then what are you
gonna do? You're gonna go get the kid? Yeah, but
I just don't know what. I don't even know if
it's an unreliable narrator situation, so hard to know it.
Speaker 2: But it seems to me that he must He was
probably strand of course, yeah, but something is missing along
that way.
Speaker 4: Ted should have just went to.
Speaker 2: The Burbank bar and had like at the airport, just
had a beer, Yeah, to take the edge off from
He's forty.
Speaker 3: Myself a non alcoholic. Can I get an old duels
over here?
Speaker 2: Dad's falling asleep, Mom's an organ It's just me and
my thoughts.
Speaker 4: Crying into his old duel.
Speaker 2: I don't have a credit card, but uh sure would
love some tostitos.
Speaker 3: Cayln, What are you doing.
Speaker 5: Right now?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 5: I was writing down a little write up for the
show for later.
Speaker 4: But where you were already?
Speaker 3: We're nine minutes in. You already know what you're going
to say.
Speaker 5: Well for the first part, but during that whole story,
which did sound very interesting, Matt came in. So me
and Matt like to run down our weekends together. So
I was telling Mad about my weekends.
Speaker 4: So that was morek being left at the airport.
Speaker 3: What okay, how was your weekend?
Speaker 5: It was very nice. Actually, I did some errands on
Friday and I got Quentin Tarantino's new book. And I'm
not a reader, but I was like, you know what,
I'm going to fucking read a book. So I got
his book and I started reading it, which I like.
Speaker 2: Oh, I gotta make a note, Sonny's gonna get all
over that show.
Speaker 5: Well, it's just it's Once Upon a Time in Hollywood. Oh,
but it's a you know, it's a novel, and there's
a lot more information on, like the backstory of the
characters and the history of you know, this world that
he created. So I've been reading that.
Speaker 3: Did I tell you guys that I just saw Once
Upon a Time in Hollywood for finally, No, I don't
think So what do you think about? Is that your favorite?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 5: I actually saw it and I was kind of I
was kind of disappointed. I mean, he's my favorite director. Yeah,
And I remember just being like really bored in the
movie theater and I was really disappointed. And then the
final scene happens, and as soon as Brad Pittlan clicks
his mouth and that dog bites that fucking Manson girl,
the whole theater just erupted. It was like one of
the greatest theater experiences I've ever had in my life.
It was just cheering in the theater, excitement. It was
the best. But the whole time, I'm hearing everybody like,
this is so great, this is so great, and I'm like,
I don't get it. I don't get why everyone likes
this one so much. Maybe it's because I'm too young,
Like I didn't get I wasn't in the sixties.
Speaker 4: So I don't Sunny loved it.
Speaker 5: But now that I'm reading the book, I'm starting to
like get more backs around the characters and like understand
it more. So. I planned to watch the movie again
after I finish the book, so I am starting to
and I like that I can like picture Brad Pitt
and Leo in the book. But ultimately, in terms of
his movies, it wasn't it wasn't one of my favorites.
Speaker 2: It's well acted, Yeah, it is definitely well acted.
Speaker 3: But it's not even really a character study because you
don't really get to know these characters.
Speaker 5: It's like I know, well, yeah, and that kind of
like I knew there was more behind Brad Pitt and Leo,
and like, I know that there's something there because he's
been Tarantino has been doing all the shows lately on
the podcast, so I've been hearing him talk about this
over and over again, and there is like a really
good backstory between the two characters that well, Brad Pitt
is like a war hero and a murderer, and he's
like a cold blooded, like straight up murderer.
Speaker 3: Is this the which.
Speaker 5: I don't think so Quentin Tarantino like he was like
writing this for like five years and then I think
he just picked out all the parts to put the
movie together. But yeah, there's a whole backstory on Cliff
and being a war hero and being a murderer and
getting into like dog fighting and Leonardo DiCaprio's character like
suffering from bipolar and being an alcoholic, and you know,
it's good, it's getting He's giving me the backstory that.
Speaker 2: I wish I had from the movie.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they hinted at the Brad Pitt being a murderer,
but they never When John and I watched it, we
were like, okay, so I did right, I got. I
mean they hain't said.
Speaker 4: It right, but yeah, really.
Speaker 3: But why not why not say there's no There's no
harm in making that clear. It would make us such
a more interesting character.
Speaker 5: Well yeah, read the book.
Speaker 2: Really funny because Mike August and Sonny.
Speaker 4: Had a huge, like kind of huge but.
Speaker 2: Like discussion over Once upon a Time in Hollywood blowout. Yeah,
because Sonny loved it, and Mike August is like, I
love Tarantino, but I hate that's fucking movie. Like he's
like he said, his whole thing was like, Brad Pitt
is not Superman.
Speaker 4: Why is he able to just beat up what's his face? Uh?
Bruce Lee? Right?
Speaker 2: You know, like come on, Cliff Booth is not beating
up Bruce Lee like that? You know? And that this
is what Mike Augus's argument was. And this is all
filtered through Sonny too.
Speaker 5: Well I kind of thought that too. I was like,
that stunt man is beating up Bruce Lee? Like, how
is that possible. And then again you read like this
dude was and like hand to hand combat in World
War Two, so like he he knows what he's doing
a lot more than what you get out of just
watching this.
Speaker 4: And it should be Yeah, it should have been in
the movie. It should have been.
Speaker 3: I mean, listen, he had time.
Speaker 2: It's a three hours, not like he ran out of time. Yeah,
I mean, Tarantino does a lot of like those long
scenes that are just drawn out, and it feels like
he's just kind of like, you know, being he can
do it because he's like Jack and I.
Speaker 3: Was showing you know, yeah, yes, it was self indulgent,
and it was definitely there was a lot of really
cool stuff that he did as a director, but to
show you like, hey, now I'm making a western like
that's about black and white movie and it looks real, right,
and now I'm making this movie and now I'm making
this from the you know, sixties seventies, and you're like, okay, right,
I get it. I get your good. But how about
some story. Yeah, Sprinkling.
Speaker 4: I loved the whole, the whole.
Speaker 2: Los Angeles, you know, back in the day of what
it looked like and how he got like the Pussycat
Theater yeh, and like and also Sharon Tape going to
the Mexican restaurant. I just which is still there that
I've been to for lunch recently. You know all that
stuff is they went to on Sunset, Yeah, El Coyote
on Sunset, Yeah, said al Coyote.
Speaker 4: Where did they go? Yeah, I think it is.
Speaker 2: And then they went But then Cliff Booth and Brad
Pitt and Leonardo went to in the place in the valley.
Speaker 3: Oh, they went to a Foremosa. At one point they
went to Foremost.
Speaker 2: Then oh, and they went to Harry I mean Musso
and Franks, which my dad used to take me to.
Speaker 3: And that was little and eighteen dollars for a head
of lettuce, right, you know they give it's a called
a wedge salad.
Speaker 4: Yes.
Speaker 3: And what they do if they cut an iceberg iceberg head,
they cut it into like a quarter. They just give
it to you and then they give you a sided
dressing and a slice of tomato and they charge you
like eighteen dollars. I'm not exactly no, no, I know
you're like, I could have just brought my own iceberg, right.
There was no prep involved.
Speaker 4: At all. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then yeah, so I liked I liked all
that that iconic stuff.
Speaker 3: But other than that, I mean, it wasn't dang yeah exactly,
but it wasn't like amazing.
Speaker 2: I you know, I was kind of disappointed with the end,
to be honest, Like I get it. It was what
if they went up the wrong driveway or whatever, but like.
Speaker 4: It just threw me off the whole ending.
Speaker 3: Yeah, didn't build really to that ending, right, I mean
it was two different movies. It was like one movie
about these two guys and then one movie about uh,
you know, Charlie.
Speaker 2: Charles Manson boom what. So did you have an exciting week?
So I do this? Ah, this week I basically have.
I'm getting ready for the Corolla family barbecue that's happening.
I think I talked about it a little bit.
Speaker 3: I mean, I know I'm going, But isn't it in August?
Speaker 4: Can you come help me?
Speaker 3: Of course, of course I can. Is it August?
Speaker 4: Yes, it's like in a month.
Speaker 2: Yes, it's August twenty second, okay or twenty whatever, Saturday.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'll help you.
Speaker 2: Well, the thing is is that it's at the flower Warehouse.
Speaker 4: So now this is going to be my whole it's
up that it's up.
Speaker 2: The street at the car warehouse where Adam has all
his It's like a junk yard basically right now, Oh
that are uh huh, Like there's a lot of cars,
a lot of car parts, trash, you know, dumpsters. It's
just it looks like, yeah, a junk yard, and it
needs to And yeah, I.
Speaker 4: Don't do good in that environment.
Speaker 2: Like everything is just like so overwhelming and I don't
know where to begin.
Speaker 3: I feel like you should hire somebody to do that part.
And then you go there, chick, can't you be the
one that orders the food and like make sure there's enough.
Speaker 4: I'm doing that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But what I gotta do is here's the thing too,
Adam you know, well, he's he loves to see somebody
cleaning and organizing and blah blah blah blah blah. Right,
and I feel like he'll he not that he's not
taking this series, but I feel like he'll he'll help
me more if I'm actually there, do Like, if I'm
actually there cleaning and organizing, then he'll be like, oh,
I'll tell Sean to get this done and move that
and get this out of the way. You know, he'll
he's going to be more helpful in that area. That's
just the way I know, I know, but that's just
the way.
Speaker 3: He's gonna help you to prepare for got it. Isn't
that sort of like when men watch the baby and
their baby there, they call it babysitting, like their babysitting
their own kids. Isn't that kind of like yeah, right, well,
he's going to help you get ready for the right
barrow of barbecue.
Speaker 5: I was just gonna say, it's gonna be one heck
of a task getting that ready for the barbecue, because,
like you said, it looks like a junk yard. There
are some there are a lot of old cars there,
and I'm just curious to see how the next month
is going to go.
Speaker 2: All well, that's that's exactly what's been hanging over my head,
like yeah, so but anyway, we're planning on getting the
food and all the porta potties and all that kind
of stuff. And the night before we're having a bar crawl.
So because a lot of people fly in from out
of town.
Speaker 3: Right, they want multiple right to look forward to it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So it's like the rehearsal dinner before the barbecue.
We're taking everybody that from out of town and then
some out on bar crawls with all the Lackey's right klan. Yep. Yeah,
I don't like to call him lackeys anymore because they've
graduated from that. Maybe one still a lackey, Ryan, Yeah,
he's a lackey for he's is Doctor Drew coming, Yes,
doctor Dream He's coming, Doctor Drew. Your favorite lawyer is
going to be there. Yeah, Garret gos everybody, doctor Bruce.
Speaker 3: Oh, please tell me A. J. Bens is not coming?
Speaker 4: No, no, okay, no, mm hmm.
Speaker 3: He was there last time.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: John almost had a fit, really really yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4: I didn't know that.
Speaker 3: Why Well you might remember that he basically went after
my family right online, right, and and John read all
the messages that he sent to me that were horrific,
and John was just like what the fuck, like he
wanted to confront him, and I was like absolutely not,
absolutely not. The guy's nuts. I mean, in my opinion,
we're not having any problems at the Crol Family Barbecue.
Speaker 2: No. So yeah, well he's not coming now, well, he's
not on the shows, you know what I mean, He's
not right.
Speaker 4: But a lot of the comedians that are from the
shows will be there.
Speaker 3: That's exciting.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Kyle Dunningan or whatever, Beautie Pie, yeah yeah, and
Dexter from Offspring.
Speaker 4: Offspring is gonna.
Speaker 3: Oh wasn't there. They were maybe gonna do last year,
but then they couldn't and then Dawson.
Speaker 2: Right, so what No, Like the year you came, it
was our first family so we were deciding to do
it every year. That was the inaugural family barbecue, and
so we just had uh Loxy perform, Chris loxhim on
his band, and Dawson perform.
Speaker 4: But then now then last.
Speaker 2: Year, last year we sa Covid Yes, we were going
to have him come and but it got canceled. So
and you know, we're trying to get Mark McGrath to
to do some Yeah.
Speaker 3: Remember when we had him on the show. Yea and
his wife, Yes, how cute. It so fun. He was
so sweet and like and.
Speaker 4: I follow I I know, and I follow.
Speaker 2: His wife on Instagram and I watched because they have
boy girl twins.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and they had just their their twins are really
young at the time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they were born like a couple months before or
after our kids. So yeah, their kids are the same
age and say, I've you know, like all her post
and it's really Karen McGraths. She's adorable. Yeah, they're such
a cute family. They're so cute.
Speaker 4: Yeah, they got teenagers now, those kids are huge.
Speaker 3: I remember thinking this marriage is gonna last because they're
just down to earth normal people.
Speaker 2: Right, And you know he was with her I think
before he got successful, because I just remember going to
the k rock stuff and he was like, you know,
the big star, and every chick wanted to like be
with him, and everybody was falling all over themselves and
carrying on, and it's like, but he's got a girlfriend.
Everybody was like, right, he's got a girlfriend, and he's
been with that girlfriend for a while. And then everybody was, well,
now he's you know, mister rock star. That's gonna go
by the wayside. And it's like here they are, twenty
years later, whatever, still going strong.
Speaker 4: It's really cute.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I know, I'd like for we're gonna keep trying
that avenue. It'll be fun to have him come perform, Yeah, totally.
So there's that, and you know, just working on a
stuff for Corolla Drinks, a lot of licensing, a lot
of like really switching around. The fulfillment stuff is so
alcohol business is so much red tape, so many hoops
to jump through, and takes forever to get anything done.
Every state's different, the laws are different in every state.
It's just yeah, so trying to apply for licenses takes
forever and got to have this before you do that.
Speaker 4: It's just a lot of that. It's constant. It just
doesn't stop.
Speaker 2: It's never you can never get it to where exactly
where you want it. We're still keeping keeping it going,
like keeping things progressing every day because it's gonna go. Okay,
you know, now we're set. We're not Bacardi right right,
you know, And we don't have a sales team out there.
We don't have people boots on the ground. It's just
mostly all online for now. But but so we'll see. Yeah,
we're starting up a new LLC with a new whiskey,
not the eight one eight, right, and with somebody that
knows the alcohol and has a lot of the connections
and has a lot of the how to get it
into the We know how to do it all. It's
just we don't have the connections and we don't have
the army of people that we need to hire. But
he knows how to navigate that and he's good. So anyway,
it's gonna be it's gonna be great. It'sn't been amazing
how when we started this podcast we were just knee
deep in parenting all the time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's hard to think about anything else. Yeah, and
now it's like, I don't even know where my kids are.
I mean, I know where my kids are. Actually they're
sleeping ten am. They still have a few more hours
to go in their sleep schedule. But it's just funny
that I leave in the morning and I don't even
think about it. I mean, yeah, John's home right now,
but even if he wasn't, I'd be like, see you later,
right same. I know a few things to do after
this too. I probably won't be home till like three.
Speaker 2: But so, do you feel like you're Yeah, do you
feel like you're in the corner office?
Speaker 4: I do.
Speaker 3: But you know, things change in a different way, and
I know you're going to know what I mean where
you have to watch your kids in a different way.
You have to watch their mental health, you have to
watch their uh what stuff they're keeping inside like, you
have to watch their moods as opposed to just watching
their everyday existence and making sure but it's it's and
it's not just about making sure they're happy, like making
them happy, it's making sure they're not depressed, that they're
not suffering from anxiety and not telling you like you
have to be kind of vigilant. In fact, we just
I just got Sadie into therapy. Oh that's nice. Yeah,
And it's so funny because you would think of my
three that Sadie would be least likely to be the
one that would need to be prioritized for therapy right now.
But she is, like we were noticing real just moods
and not share, not talking, and you can't get anything
out of her. She never wants to do anything, and
you gotta nip that shit in the butt. You gotta like,
I can't let her slip through the cracks because my
other two are more vocal. You know, when Elbie was
having anxiety, it was real obvious it was disrupting our
lives and she was not functional.
Speaker 2: But with Sadie, she can be real quiet about it.
And then it's like you go, how long has she
been like this?
Speaker 3: You know? Right, Wow, it seems like she's kind of
always like this. And then I say to John, like,
should we do something about this? And then you you know,
when they're quiet, you're.
Speaker 2: Like, that's right, You're like, WOWE see how it goes. Yes,
you have the next couple of weeks ago maybe when
this happens or maybe when that happens.
Speaker 3: But it wasn't happening. But I got her in with
a therapist and I love loving this. Oh and she's
gone twice. She really likes it. And honestly, I think
it was like the idea of her being focused on
was very good for her, like the idea that somebody
was recognizing that something's going on. And I told her,
I was like, Sadie, you know it doesn't have to
be this way, like you don't have to feel like
this all the time, like I have no joy and
not want to do stuff. And that was kind of
news to her. And I said, let me get you therapy.
And then I did follow through on that shit. Yeah,
unlike myself normally actually had some follow through. But yeah,
so and I really liked the therapist because the therapist
followed up with me, like met Sadie. The last session
that she had. I was sitting outside the you know,
sitting in the waiting room, and I could hear I
couldn't hear what they were saying. I mean it was
hard even though I had the cup up the glass
up against the door, but I still couldn't make out
these no but I could hear them laughing uproariously, and
there was a part of me Linette that was like,
what the fuck, Like how this bitch is witch?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Esus her second meeting with my kid, and they're oh,
they're having the greatest time, and I'm like, where's that
kid outside of therapy? Like, and why isn't she crying
a little bit?
Speaker 4: Like shouldn't you a therapy?
Speaker 3: Yeah, So when they came out and they were like both.
Speaker 2: Still laughing, and I was like, you're like, I'm like, wow,
I go sounds like a sounds like a real torturous
hour for you too. I mean I was being funny,
and then they both started kind of laughing, and you know,
I was like that sounded like a lot of fun
happy for you guys. Yeah, you're like Lucy when Ethel
goes off with her new friend Carolyn goes shopping.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And then I was like, well, how was it
Sadie and she's like, great, that's.
Speaker 4: It, that's it. Don't you hate that when they come
out of therapy.
Speaker 3: I do know that they It's like in the movies
where did you ever see? You probably didn't, but searching
for Bobby Fisher years ago, years ago, that movie Searching
for Bobby Fisher, the scene stands out in my mind,
which is that the kid goes to the chess master
played by Ben Kingsley and they're like they are playing games,
they're not doing they're not actually playing chess. And then
the dad is like, well, what did you guys do?
Like you weren't even playing chess, And because Ben Kingsley's
make a lot of money, it's like therapy is making
like he has to pay him like whatever one hundred
dollars or something. And then Kingsley's like, well that's you
don't just play chess like they were like literally playing
a board game. And it made me think of that,
like they sell Citi said they played a game, and
I was like, well, like like battleship right, what do
you mean a game? And she's like, no, like a
game where like you like a answer questions, like it's
funny you know that's.
Speaker 4: What Brittany does.
Speaker 3: I thought that was cool though, Yeah, I was like, oh,
that's tricky. That's how you get those teenagers, Like you
make it like a fun thing that you're doing or
you're playing a game, but you're really getting to know.
Speaker 4: The kid exactly. That's what that's what she does.
Speaker 2: Like she's got this room that's got like even for
young kids, all these little games, and then she plays
games to get to know them. And then she's got
like because she's got that certain license the coaching, the coaching,
so she can show up and like throw the ball
with them at the park, talk to him that way,
like she'll find different ways.
Speaker 4: To be right, to communicate with them. Yeah, I know,
and I know.
Speaker 2: It's like it sucks because when they get out of therapy,
you want to know, like, which you guys talk.
Speaker 4: About, is how am I doing? Should I get a see.
Speaker 2: Year an a you know what I mean? Yeah? Yeah,
And then they don't tell you. They're like everything is fine.
Speaker 3: But the funny thing with Sadie though, is so when
her first session, the therapist said do you want your
mom to come in? Like do you want she was
actually asking me if I wanted to come in. And
like with Elbe when Ilbie first when she was nine,
so I definitely went in with her. Plus she was
having anxiety, so that was part of she was like,
she's just going to start talking to this lady. I
could barely take the elevator up, so but with Sadie,
you know, she's started thirteen. So I was like, well,
it's kind of up to Sadie. Like if I'm totally
my name is Paul, this between yeah, you know, but
if you want me to come in, I was. I
was really trying to overcompensate in parenting, like I was
trying to show that I'm the greatest mom that's ever
mommed like I'm like, no, I'm the type of mom
that like that's up to her, like if she wants,
if she whatever she feels comfortable with. Meanwhile, inside, honestly,
I was like I'm fine to just look at Facebook,
you fix her. But but I didn't want. I wanted
to appear that I'm willing to be involved but also
willing to let them do their I was like, whatever
you think is best, and she's like, well, Sadie, do
you want your mom to come in? And Sadie's like okay, mmm,
So I'm like all right, So so I go in
and then basically the therapist says, do you want to
tell your mom? Do you want to tell me what's
going on or why you're here? Do you want your
mom to And she's like, my mom can, So I
say what's going on? You know? And then I'm like, okay,
so do you want me to go? I'm trying to
be like I don't. I'm not trying to be the
mom that's taking over for my daughter's therapy session. And
then the therapist is like, do you want your mom
to stay or do you want your mom to go?
And Sadie's like whatever, Like now, Sadie's trying to be
the best kid who's like really close with her mom, Like, oh,
I love my mom, she can stay the whole whatever's
good for her. I'm like no, And then I even said,
I go, are you going to talk about me if
I'm sitting in next to you, Like You're not gonna
feel comfortable talking about me? And then anyway, so later
she called me back in at the end of the
session and she said this is the first session and
she said, so like Sadie and I talked about the fact,
like she said, how involved do you want to be?
And I was like, whatever she needs, Like, if she
wants me to be coming in and checking in on
her goals and progress, I can. I could come in,
but I'm happy to like.
Speaker 2: Let you guys do a thing, play parcheesy whenever it's
good for you guys.
Speaker 3: Play Sorry, you know, I just hear from the other
room go.
Speaker 2: Back for spaces, and I'm like, it's like a lot
of money, I know.
Speaker 3: But anyway, the point is that on the way home
I said to Sadie, I was like, oh, you know,
she said something to the effect of how do you
get along with your family? And Sadie's like, good, really well,
and I thought, well, I want her to be able
to bit like, yeah, she hasn't learned yet. The therapy
is where you get to vent about, right. She will
she can tell the therapist that I'm an asshole and
the therapist isn't going to tell me that. I was
trying to bring that up. I was like, you know, she.
Speaker 2: Can't tell me anything you guys talk about, right unless
it's something dangerous.
Speaker 3: Yes, she will get She was like, I don't have
anything bad to say. About you. I'm like, you will,
just you will. I'm not that great.
Speaker 4: She listen and gets a yeah, I was just gonna say.
Speaker 3: Whereas Xander when he was in therapy, he didn't want
to do any kind of therapy on the phone or
on zoom because he was like, how am I going
to talk about satan?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: You got things to say?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Right, not just about that.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 4: Here's the thing, is it the same?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 4: Wait, did Xander go to this therapist too?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: But you know that's a good thing.
Speaker 2: I am very big on these teenagers starting therapy. All
of them should, yes, because here's the deal.
Speaker 4: I think. I know that my kids will always have.
Speaker 2: Brittany now and until she retires. And the good thing
is is she's young still, so I don't see her
going anywhere anytime soon. But they got used to therapy
at a young age, right, so they will always go back.
Speaker 4: To therapy when they need it. They're not going to be.
Speaker 2: There's so many people I know that's like, just go
go talk to a therapist, don't talk to me, Go
talk to a therapist, and they don't. They don't really
have therapy in their lives. They weren't introduced to it.
Their parents didn't have therapy. That's it's so important to
get it going now, because I could see Natalia as
an adult wanting to go talk to a therapist and
finding her own and you know, in her area. Same
with Sonny too, Like they both you know, they got
to the point where it's like, I don't need to
go every week. But that's fine. You don't need to
go every week. And but at least they have established
a relationship. Yeah, and now they know, at least while
their adolescents, they can go to Brittany. They can say,
I want to go talk to Brittany, because they do.
Sometimes I'll go, well, I think we should talk about
it with Brittany.
Speaker 4: You know that comes up.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's good.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I think it's great.
Speaker 3: I was put in therapy at sixteen. Maybe younger I might,
but because I just felt like I didn't realize that
my home life sucked as bad as it did in
my mind. I was made to feel like I was
the problem. So I was having a lot of trouble,
like I couldn't like a guy like I would like them,
like them, like them, pine pine for them, these unrequited
you know things. And then if the guy liked me back,
I'd be like, oh shit, no, I'm not into it
at all, and I'd get really scared, right, and I
was like I couldn't break through, I couldn't have a boyfriend,
and I really thought something was wrong with me. So
my mom put me in therapy. Of course, the therapist
started to realize like, oh, your home life is jacked up,
like this is not good, like your relationship with your parents.
And then you know, anyway, but that's at the stage.
Like you said, just knowing that therapy was a good
thing to do and having a therapist like support me
and point out some things gently that we might have
been playing into it helped me. Years later, I sought
therapy for eating disorder, you know, for lots of things.
I was in therapy regarding my biological dad, like different
therapists over the years, for long periods of time, really
helped me.
Speaker 4: Yes, you see, Yeah, I don't think I.
Speaker 3: Could have gotten married and had kids if I hadn't
been in therapy for a while, right, and I would
love elb elb needs to go back. If I had
a lot of money, I would have all of them
in therapy at the same time. Yeah, John was just
in therapy for a year.
Speaker 2: I would be back in therapy. Remember if I didn't
have that crazy therapist.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that broke up.
Speaker 2: She told you, don't leave a message call me. What
did she say, don't.
Speaker 3: Well, there was a lot of rules. You had to
call her. No, you had to call her, but she
would answer the phone. You couldn't leave it. You couldn't
leave a message. You couldn't email her, but she would either.
You could text her. And then she got mad because
I tried to reschedule an appointment like a couple times
and she was like, I don't think you. I can't
put I'm taking you off the schedule.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I can't stand therapist like that. The fucking Britney's got
a place in Belize, probably off of the Corolla money
she's made, I swear to God.
Speaker 3: But speaking of therapy, be an anxiety. Yeah, so this
is this is a Geico segment. Yeah, but it's something
that I wanted to talk about anyway. Oh good, So,
but it's brought to you by Geico. Okay, so we're
going to be taking a road trip, h going to
San Francisco, right, And it's hilarious because as I've told
you before. I can't. It's I'm having more and more
trouble being a passenger in a car. Like I always think.
Speaker 2: That John is going to shave off somebody's side mirror
a parked car. You know, I cannot handle any kind
of cliffs. I think he's going to hit cars on
the freeway. I'm always and I can't.
Speaker 3: It's really hard for me to even uh like keep
my mouth shut when i'm when I think he's going, like,
I'm like, John, there's break lights in front of you, Like,
I'm like, why are you speeding up? Like it's hard.
I try to control it and I can't. And I
sit next to him all tents and yesterday John goes,
you know, we're gonna have to do something about your anxiety.
And we're going to be driving to San Francisco. And
he goes, are you watched take CBD? And I'm like,
I mean, he goes, maybe we should think about some
CBD for the for the road tree.
Speaker 4: He's right, right, yes, shouldn't.
Speaker 3: We shouldn't have to work around that. We shouldn't have
to fly to San Francisco five people because we can't
drive for five.
Speaker 4: Hours, right right?
Speaker 3: I agree, especially in this day and age with Elbie's
going to be watching a movie in the car for
her film analysis class. Sadie and Xander will be, you know,
scrolling through TikTok. I mean they're going to be busy, Yes, absolutely,
And I'm going to be sitting in the front seat
next to John just white knuckling it.
Speaker 2: But listen, it's a beautiful it's a beautiful uh trip,
and you'll be looking at the ocean.
Speaker 5: But also, I just wanted to add we were talking
about Tarantino's new book earlier that's that would be a
fun audiobook, and Ryan who works here, said he got
the audiobook and he was listening to it and he
said it was great. So just a suggestion that would
be a great audiobook thing.
Speaker 3: That's a good idea. When John and I drove to
Big sur when we were first dating, we listened to Yeah,
Oh No, No No. A couple of years ago, when
we went for our anniversary, we listened to a book
on tape about the one about the one about people.
Oh my god, I can't remember what it's called, but
it's where people get so outed on social media. It's
basically was the one of the original things about people
getting canceled. It's like when you go viral for doing
something wrong on social media. Do you remember what book
I'm talking about. It was a big book for a while,
and it was it was all about the girl it started.
One of the stories was about that woman that made
a joke about AIDS when she was she was going
she was she was being totally sarcastic and she was
actually going to do some like I don't know, some
job and then by the time she got off the plane,
her tweet had totally gone viral and she out fired
from her job, and she was like the original canceled.
Speaker 5: Is it called? So you've been publicly shamed?
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, we listened to that book on our drive.
That's good, and that segment was brought to you by Geico.
But you didn't know a commercial could be that fun.
I bet not. We're seamless. We are seamless, that's right. Yeah, Okay,
so I talked about oh you know what I wanted.
Speaker 4: To tell you, But yeah, you want to talk about
it on Friday.
Speaker 3: I'm wondering if I should. Okay, you're like, we don't
have anything for Friday, so you've got something good. Save it? Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So Elbie is finishing this film analysis class that I
told you about. That's like a crazy amount of work.
That was the thing where I did the orientation and
it was insane nowhere. Yeah, so we're watching I'm watching
some of these movies with her, and uh, one of
the movies we watched was Tutsi.
Speaker 4: Oh nice, I freaking love that movie.
Speaker 3: All these movies, this is what I'm noticing. And this
is kind of along along the lines of Once upon
a Time in Hollywood but different. But Tutsie is one
of those movies. It's like a seventies movie even though
it was made in nineteen eighty two, where they take
their time they set up the character. It's like, it's
not he doesn't just dress up as a woman, like
right at the beginning, like hey, let's jump right into
the comedy hijacking, right. They really set it up so that,
which makes it that much more satisfying. Right where Dustin
Hoffman's character Michael Michael Dorsey is going on all these
auditions and he's got a bit of an attitude problem
if you remember, and so like he's supposed to be
playing a tomato and they want him to like sit
down and he won't sit down. And there's another one
where they want he's dying and they want him to
walk across the stage and die center stage and he's like, wait,
but I'm dying, and then he gets fired. So he
gets fired from all these jobs and it leads to
Sydney Pollack, who plays his agent, going, no one will
hire you, and then he's driven to like go try
to audition for the job on the soap opera. Right,
it's such a good movie and it totally holds up
and l Be hated it every minute of it. He
was like so bored.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Natalia probably wouldn't like it. I'm like, it's any
such a good movie. Yeah, I know.
Speaker 2: But you know, it's like back then, it was like
slower times. You know, people didn't have the attention span.
You know, they had the attention Yeah, they don't have today,
and that's you know, that's when people made movies and
it could breathe and they took their time.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Right now it's like it's a fast paced world. They
cut to the chase really quick.
Speaker 3: It's kind of fun though, doing this, kind of doing
it along with her, because then she had to write
she has to do a different project for each movie,
and one of them was so I said, well, why
don't you write an essay about how Michael Dorsey the
character was a better man as a woman, because there's
a line where he says that the very enery says
to Jessica Lang, like I was a better man as
a woman than I ever was like as a man.
And I was like, why don't you talk about that,
Like about what did he learn having to be living
as a woman good about you know, feminism and about
what women face in the workplace and the sexual harassment
that they receive and not being taken seriously, and what
does it teach him about empathy about his own behavior
when he was a man, how he treated women. Yes,
And Albie's like, okay, okay, that's good. But it was
fun because then she was coming up with examples and
I was like, see, that's actually a deeper movie than
you thought it was, right.
Speaker 4: Right, right, She was like, oh, whatever.
Speaker 2: It's fun to be able to help them, Like when
they do assignments like that that they stay not interested
and then you get them interested.
Speaker 4: It's satisfying, you know, as a parent.
Speaker 2: But yeah, that's nice. It's like that's what other movies
as she watched, Well, I think I told.
Speaker 3: You last week because we watched, Uh, what's the one
based on the Harper Lee book that you said that
Sonny liked.
Speaker 4: The north By Northwest or one of those.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, that's no, the to Kill a Mockingbird right, right,
to Kill a Mockingbird?
Speaker 2: Uh.
Speaker 3: She watched had to rewatch Clueless, but Classics. She was
supposed to watch The kne Mutiny. Hope her teacher's not listening.
John watched it for her. Oh really, John Watt loves
those old war movies. And Albie was like, hell, no,
I'm not sitting through that movie. I'm trying to think.
Speaker 4: Oh.
Speaker 3: We watched Titanic.
Speaker 4: Oh'sge Oh good. She's never seen Titanic.
Speaker 3: She'd never seen it, so she was like, good, excuse
to watch she got to pick out of this big
list of movies. So we watched Empire of the Sun. Oh,
dear lord, that's.
Speaker 4: Born God, I know I don't like it.
Speaker 3: That is like watching paint dry. Right, it's Spielberg, but
it's so frigging more. It's terrible. Right, And John loves
that movie, so he really wanted her to watch it.
And we both suffered through it. Oohs, like two and
a half hours. They're all these movies are like epics.
Speaker 4: I know, right, I know. They don't make epics anymore either.
Let's Quentin Tarantino.
Speaker 3: Yeah there's been Titanic is three hours to right. It
kind of flies by, Yeah it does. These thirteen year
olds are watching it like, you know, thirty times, I know.
Speaker 2: But the thing is, it's like, yeah, they don't make
these kinds of movies anymore. And that's why the oscars
are not that great, because they're always you know, these
little independent movies and sometimes people see sometimes they don't.
Speaker 4: Most of the people see them from their screeners.
Speaker 2: No, you know, in the middle of the country, I
don't know if they're watching you know, these small independent
movies right. Well, and like the Titanic, the whole everybody loved, right,
they don't make those kind of A boat sinks.
Speaker 4: The boat sinks.
Speaker 3: You forget though, Like what a major disaster that was
right for the time, right, like it was one of
the biggest disasters they'd ever had at that time. Fifteen
hundred people died, I know, hundred people at one time
in one accident.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Sonny talks about it a lot.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then he looks up like conspiracy theories, like
the Titanic wasn't supposed to It wasn't really the Titanic
that sunk. It was something else. Have you heard that conspiracy?
That was a different boat. But what Yeah, Morgan, the
Stanley Morgan dude is the guy that owned the boat
for the Titanic.
Speaker 4: But I don't know. Did somebody did a switcher roo
at the I don't know. Do you know what he's
talking about?
Speaker 3: No, Kaylin, No, all right, thank you, Kaylan, thanks everybody.
You're a parent now, don't have it up.
Speaker 2: It's angle