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Speaker 1: Welcome back to there to see it. I am so excited.

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First of all, our first two episodes, y'all didn't play

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on my name like I told y'all to, and I

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was so excited about We've been getting so many great

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reviews and just so much great feedback on our episode.

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So thank you so much to everyone who has tuned in.

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We are on episode three and I have to say this,

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Let's start this shit the fuck over. First of all, Baby,

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May was a crazy month for me, so I was

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kind of scudadling. Okay, I was scadadling in May, but

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it's June. Don't play on my wig, don't play on

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my name, don't play on my mother fucking fit. Okay, babe.

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We had to, okay, scratch them first two episodes, okay,

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because that wasn't really how I represent y'all know what,

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Chicago girl. Don't play about her hair, so don't play

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about me, don't play about my lace, don't play a

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boy my name. Okay, buzz down, middle custom baby Okay.

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Christopher Kyle on the Week, all right, had I had

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to catch up. You know, I didn't want to delay

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y'all because I said that the episodes were coming in May. Okay,

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so I didn't want to delay too long. But we

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back live trio how it's supposed to be. Okay, I'm

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very very excited about that. Okay. So a couple reminders, okay,

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subscription reminders, follow the dere to see you on Apple

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and Spotify, you know, all you non non Apple users. Okay,

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you can follow us on Spotify, Apple Music follow us,

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and also please leave us a five star review, not three,

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not to five. Okay, don't play with me. Subscribe to

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our YouTube channel. Okay, And we have a goal by

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Labor day. We want to do fifty thousand followers, okay,

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fifty thousand followers on Apple Podcasts, five hundred reviews. We're

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already at over two hundred fifty. So we already have

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for their baby, we already have for there, and we

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only on the look second episode. Okay, so we're doing good.

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And then we need one hundred thousand subscribers on both channels.

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That is, I believe you're to see it or to

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see an XBS and then also relationship restored. Okay, so

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mab one hundred thousand subscribers. We're already there.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: We having a ball. It's a good time. This is like,

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this is my dream. I'm not know if I ever

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share this job. This is like my dream. And I

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always say one chair of one mic is my ideal platform.

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And we were gonna have a good time. It's only

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gonna get better from this. Okay, Look the wig already better. Okay, life, Look,

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life is good. Okay, everything is better. All right, we're

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already on our thirty episode, so this is gonna be good. Now.

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Speaker 3: I forgot to also tell you to mention that we

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top five in the relationship Okay.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, so once upon a time, okay, Dre who

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is over Relationship Restored and our platform that we post

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on right, okay, so you know, y'all, everybody knows that

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this platform is my podcast is hosted by Relationship Restored.

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And he told me that our platform was our podcast

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was like number thirty. Then I think we moved to

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number eight. And then once upon a time I was

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barbacuming on the rooftop and he was like, to see it,

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we number five, and you know what the thing about

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just imposter syndrome. I did not believed. I believe them

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and I had never looked at it. But I went

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back and I scrolled and he was like, you know,

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it's thousands of podcasts, and I was like, you know what.

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The craziest thing, y'all, this is my trauma. I don't

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already paid the lady about this. Okay, I've already paid

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my therapist about this, but the trauma in me was like,

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maybe because our platform is called Relationship Restored that I

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just automatically shot up the shot, like shot shot up

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the charts with this being a relationship podcast, and it's honestly,

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it's not. Okay, so I'm looking dead at the camera.

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It didn't just hit because it's under a relation. It

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hit because I'm the fucking shit and our podcast and

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shit and it's just so good. It's just so freaking good.

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And for all of you around the Ray girls, all

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of you girls that's growing up in the projects, all

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of you girls, this has been like my dream. I

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want to speak to the everyday woman, look, the hood girls,

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the ratchet girls, baby, the sexy reds, the bus down middle.

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I am for you. We are here, and y'all, we

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are number five and we could be something else by

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the end of this week. Okay, So I don't know

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who the one, two, three, and four is but I'm

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on your ass and that's that. I'm on your ass.

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I don't know who won two three and four, but

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I think being number five, we were the top black

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relationship podcast in the world right now. And again I

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don't know who won two three four. I've never heard

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on people, but I'm on your ass and I'm coming

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for your spot. And that's that on that period.

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Speaker 1: Anyways, now onto our Pinat gallery. We had Gabby here.

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I always like to tell a story about how I

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met all of my friends. Okay, so once upon a time,

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Gabby hosts events here in DC and her business partner

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reached out to me and was like, Gabby wants you

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to come to this event. I had no clue and

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a low key person. That's just a testament to say,

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like you never know who's watching you. And he was like,

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Gabby wants to invite you to this event. And this

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was really I think it was at liv Or twelve Stories. Yeah,

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Leve and we went we went out and I was

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you and I was like, I think, you know, black girls,

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we changed our hair all the time. I didn't quite

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gather what was happening. But let me tell you, Gabby

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is the truth. And I loved her now and she

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has been the sweetest, warmest, bubbly spirit ever since then.

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to be on like the DC kind of, but I

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just feel like knowing you, it was like, Okay, this

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is like the doors are open, and I feel.

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Speaker 5: Like we've been We've been out. We've been hanging and

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you have been outside. Very custy though, but.

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Speaker 1: Outside I've been outside. Anyways, if you want to hang

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out a DC baby, hit follow Gabby, follow Lydy in

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the City, all great energy, Great Energy group, okay, and

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they're all the events from fitness to mental health to

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like health in general, from partying, all different type of events. Okay,

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in the mix in DC, follow Great Energy Group, Follow

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Lydy in the City, follow Gabby and follow what's it

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Mark Polo? You know Polo? You know Polo? Okay, period, Okay,

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that's gonna put you in all the parties. All you

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need to know Anyways, though, love Gabby all the time,

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love you. Yes, it's been so good. Okay. So we

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have been saying that we want to get to five

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hundred reviews on Apple Podcasts. We're at two hundred and

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fifty reviews. I want to share a a review that

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really touched my spirit, okay, and it said wow to

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see you. I absolutely loved in capital letters Okay this

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episode of this episode, the space felt so cozy and inviting.

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The questions were thoughtful and real, and the way you

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broke down each topic was Chef's kiss. The Fragrance moment

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was everything. Congrats on that beautiful purchase. By the way,

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that was the most money I ever spent on a

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Fragrant show. The lighting and the audio were on point two.

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You both are creating something so special and powerful here.

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I'm so proud of you. Keep shining and sharing your magic.

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Love you, Mama Sita or Mosa Nancy And so funny

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thing is that and she wouldn't care if I share this,

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but Nancy is a part of my Secret girl Chat.

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And the Secret Girl Chat is a space that I

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created for like women to share and have their own

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kind of space without men in our business and Nancy.

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We helped escape from a crazy, crazy, abusive situation. We

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helped her get a new apartment, she got a new vehicle,

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she got I mean this review because I've seen this

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review is from Nancy, and Nancy is a testament to

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what My Secret Girl Chat is about. When I first

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met Nancy, she was telling me about simple, minuscule things

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that this man was doing to her, and I was

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just like, you gotta get out of there. He's terrible

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for you. And long story shore, Nancy ended up plotting,

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and the man came home and her sister was there

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packing her shit up. So join my Secret Girls Chat.

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If you feeling like you don't know how to get out,

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join my Secret Girls Chat. Nancy and I have become

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very close. I went out to La. I've seen her

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in California, in San fran and it's just so crazy

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how women just stick together. Anyway, So shout out to Nancy.

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Love you, Nancy, Thank you for leaving the review. Are

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we on to our first red flag report. In a

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recent interview with Real ninety two point three, La Brittany

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Renner revealed that she and Kevin Gates got married on

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April sixth and separated just fifty two days later.

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Speaker 6: He got married April six and divorce made twenty eighth.

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She divorced, yes, but there is a ninety day waiting

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period in Islam where it's basically you have ninety days

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to see if you're pregnant because then the you know,

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he would be responsible, right. And then also in those

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ninety days it's for reconciliation because the law wants you

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to stay married. And then during those ninety days you

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are not to like entertain anybody romantically. So what I

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things changing, you know, honestly, it's like, I don't think

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anybody gets married to not stay married. So I think

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my biggest thing for me is this is a nice

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ninety day reset, just focusing on myself and pouring into myself.

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my heart. And that's more than what most people can

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Speaker 1: Let me tell y'all this, I have become a slow

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burn girl. Okay. I always say, you don't want to

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be a coffee girl. You want to be a tea girl.

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If you want to learn how to be a tea girl.

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Get into my Secret Girls shadow. Okay. The coffee girls

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are hooked on crack. Okay. The coffee girls are like, woooo,

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they're crazy people. All right. It's just you need a high.

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You're picked up. You just you want to be a

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tea girl. Tea is soothing, Tea is calm. Tea is

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when you and you got coffee and coffee here. Yes,

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crazy and crazy, okay. Kevin Gates and Brittany Winner are

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both too loose. Growls all right, Brittany call me okay.

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both on his love and hip hop basketball wive situation. Brittany,

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of very loud. And then you got Kevin.

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Speaker 2: You don't get tired.

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Speaker 1: He got two phones. Okay. You got Kevin out here

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humping and pumping on stage telling you what he gonna do.

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He goes. You saw him on Karsha. Please the shouts

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to Krisha, Okay, you saw him on Karsha, please tell

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it all his business, all right? And then you got

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with another wild card. I like that, and you thought

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that that was gonna be that was the one. Yeah,

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that that that I sense that that wasn't gonna really

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work out. Actually was surprised. How you know, you know what?

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Instagram TikTok and sit like that you don't really get

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to say what you want to say. But now I'm

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one mic, one chair mover. I want to say, Kevin,

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if you I'm looking at the camera, I'm saying this,

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if you Drinka for Britney Renner, I'm not over it.

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I'm never gonna be fucking over it. You went from

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growing plants, from having a fucking farm to being a

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just natural beauty. To Britney Renner, you should be a

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fucking shame of yourself, and Islam is ashamed of you

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as well. But Islam is like, Kevin, what the hell

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are you doing?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's interesting, she said love. I was saying love.

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Speaker 1: Okay, fifty two days you married this man and was

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parading him all around stage, and he was all up

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Kevin Gates is a wild card, and I just feel like, wow,

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who is a calm, rounded, grounded person. Okay, yeah, you

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know Drika supposedly popped out when a new Bay as well.

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My sister was telling me about that, okay, and look,

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we're gonna talk about that later. But like Tiana Taylor's summer,

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a cash doll summer.

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Speaker 2: Baby, because baby, they're not looking.

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Speaker 1: At pop out out, hopped out.

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Speaker 2: For surprising man with the birthday dinner and hello cash doll.

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Speaker 5: And I'm briating his name right now. They look so

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great in there on the brown leather for the BT words.

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I was like period period and he like loves out

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loud and just like they.

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Speaker 1: Bled the family together, the kids are together everything. Look errant, Pierre,

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that's what that's what? Baby? Have you? A Tiana Taylor

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cash doll motherfucking summer? Okay, that's jo Okay, anyways, let

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me get out star Brittany Renner slipped up baby. He

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he was not mature enough to handle where she was

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once upon a time. Even in therapy, I've heard that

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like when you experienced trauma, you stop, like even like

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mental and emotional development where you are. And I think

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that Brittany is probably a sixteen year old, get what

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I'm saying, and Kevin wasn't mature enough to go and

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dig her up out of there.

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Speaker 5: I don't know if there's enough time to even get there.

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I feel like I feel like they were dating and

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they were married. I was like, oh, we moved quick,

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and I was maybe I'm missing it, but I was like,

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I mean.

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Speaker 1: She had a ring, she was in the music video.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like, oh, but you know what, you know, I.

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Speaker 1: Could say this could this my shit? And one thing

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about me? Maybe this is my shit, and I could say,

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you know what, a lot of men like that. I

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think Kevin was looking for someone naive and agile and moldible,

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and Britney was just like kind of looking for that escape,

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you know, she was looking for She had been run

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through by these NBA niggas, She had been run through

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by all these the yeah, and now she was looking

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for somebody to really kind of step in, and that

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be the thing. A lot of religion be it's too

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like masks. Women think that men that are religious religious

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are going to like be like upfront and like upright,

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and just like the structure. Dumb niggas be the worst.

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They be the worst ones. Don't. Look, you ever did

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the PK a preacher's kid?

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Speaker 2: I haven't, But I've seen them from a farm.

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Speaker 1: Outside, right, I'm like, don't pre can preacher's kids? Them

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ones that come from a I'm like, oh, okay, it's

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almost less risky today's Look, I really say, look, give

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me a single parent household. The ones that come from

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there working with upfront, Okay, they'd be one to adopt

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their whole parents marriage. That's a whole nother thing. Anyways,

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maybe Kevin one gonna come get you out of the

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debt that she was in. Okay, he couldn't pay that call.

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So that's just that's just is what it is, you know.

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It was just he was just she was just too

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far gone, and I think she needed somebody more mature

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and more grounded to come and dig her out of that. Literally,

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it was loose cannon. With loose cannon, both Brittany and I.

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Speaker 2: Want to see her like single and just like by herself.

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Speaker 1: Brittany called me, I will tell you have that how

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to have the best single life you ever had. Okay,

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before she met Kevin, her whole trope on basketball wives

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was like I'm single and I'm dating. That was the

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whole thing. And then next you know, she popped out

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with her husband. That man. That man was looking and

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he was watching and he was praying and he was like,

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oh okay, I get I know, I know she vibrating low. Anyways, anyways,

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Brittany called me. We all knew that that wasn't gonna work. Kevin,

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stick with more of Drinka's kind, okay, because you need

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you need somebody more ground than anyways. Anyways, Draka said

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Brittany was a crazy dip and there ain't no shade

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on Brittany, but like he gotta write the first time,

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all right, drink to make sure you have fun as well. Anyways,

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topic number two Okay. In a recent lip Service with

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Angela Yee interview, a guest says he wants a woman

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to want him for his money. Let me ask you this,

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how do you know a woman doesn't want you just

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for your money or for your.

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Speaker 7: I want a woman woman for my money. I'm a provider.

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Want me to provide? Why are you choosing me? You

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want an alpha man. I'm sure I'm an alpha man.

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I'm here to take care of your every needs. And

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that's not just financially, that's mentally, that's emotionally, that's spiritually,

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because I'm here to lead in every aspect of my life,

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because I know what you're gonna bring to me. When

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I put you in an environment of peace, When I

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put you in a environment when you feel secure, you're

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gonna elevate. And when a woman elevates, good women are

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going to elevate the men right next to them. So

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you'll become my diamond in a rough How.

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Speaker 1: Do you know who's a good woman and who's not.

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Speaker 7: I don't worry about that. I'm a good man. I

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don't care if you're if you're tarnished, I'm going.

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Speaker 1: To perfect you.

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Speaker 7: If I'm a good man, this is going to happen.

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Speaker 2: I love this. I'm here for it.

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Speaker 1: Do you have cousins or any uncles? Okay? Do you

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have brothers or any kinfolk? Baby? Okay? Just thing? Because

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I all people think I'm Christ, I'd be like, bring

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back the barbershop men. Okay, remember the man that just

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going to the barbershop having a talk. They got a

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clean fail, low fade. Okay, we don't the man with

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the brush. The men with the okay, they got the

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they taking more time than you. We need to bring

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back the barbershop me and I feel like this is

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the barbershop man. Okay. Yes, he's saying he's a provider, provider,

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and he wants a woman to want him for his money.

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You know what I think is so interesting women When

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women are talking about like I want to provide a man,

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or I want some man that's successful, we're for We're

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forgetting that provider. There are so many habits and lifestyle

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like lifestyle adjectives that come with being successful. These are

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the same men that are disciplined, that are working now,

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that are getting out getting up early in the morning,

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that have very good daily habits that actually equal success.

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So it's not that like I'm a gold digger, but

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just like I don't date men that don't wake up,

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that wake up after nine a m. Because what are

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you doing?

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Speaker 2: You know it will be signs.

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Speaker 1: So I don't think this is that this is a

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walking red flag in affirmation talk.

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Speaker 2: This is like a man's man.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and we're all waiting on these type of men

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to come back. Lord, dear God, the man that you

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sent us. Can we have a new shipment? Okay, the

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men that you sent us. We're waiting for more to

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be dropped off. Okay, can we have a new shipment

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because these are the ones that we want. Okay, I

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want a woman to want me for my money. Okay.

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I was watching a podcast, maybe a couple of months ago,

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and the guy was like, you know, do you want

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to don't you if you pay for the first five

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or ten dates, don't you want a woman to pay

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for the next one? And unanimously all of them men

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were like, no, okay, I don't want my woman to

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pay for the date? What and where are these men

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when we don't want to We don't want to pick

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up the tab. That is not my currency in life.

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And people think I'm crazy. I don't pay for dates.

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I don't care if it was three dates, I don't

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care if it was five dates. I don't care if

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it was eight dates. And I get this question all

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the time, Well, when do you think it's a safe

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time to pick up the tab? I'm not doing it.

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That's not my currency. I've added value to your life

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before I even sat down at this table. Okay, I

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don't you want to embarrass me in public by having me.

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Speaker 2: Can we talk about that?

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Speaker 5: Because when you do pull out a car, it sometimes

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emasculates the man, and sometimes the man's like, wait, hold on,

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hold on.

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Speaker 8: Right, heir.

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Speaker 1: Find you a man that's that feels conflicted when you

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want to pay, even on his birthday. I have dated

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man and I've been like, hey, it's your birthday, I'm

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gonna pay. And after I paid, the man was like,

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that was uncomfortable. Find you a man that's uncomfortable okay

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with you pulling out your car and paying that fucking bill.

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Speaker 5: Because they are out there, out there, are out there,

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they're like, wait.

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Speaker 1: Hold on, don't play on my name.

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Speaker 2: You can sell.

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Speaker 1: Like I always tell this story, Once upon a time

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I had a Halloween party. You were there, gavy. I

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had a Halloween party and this a friend of mine

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was like, to see you. I heard what you're saying online.

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Why why can't you pay for a day? If a

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man paid for a day and my ex was there

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and I said, hey, I dated this man ten years ago.

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And since I've known him. I have never paid for

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a day and I said, actually, I think I paid

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for one day, and that man's there. My ex said, hey,

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you didn't pay for that date. I went to the

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bathroom and when I came back, the bill was paid.

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Don't never tell anybody you pay for hello, he said.

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He said, don't ever tell anybody you paid for it.

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He didn't even want that on his name. Okay, I pass,

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he said, no, you tricked me. I went to the

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bathroom and when I came out, the bill was paid.

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And when you want to know what I loved about that,

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it was man to man. As a woman, sometimes you

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gotta let grown men have their own fucking conversations. And

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there was a grown man telling another grown man that

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she ain't gonna pay for a date while she with me.

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And that's the problem. These men got their own platforms,

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their own podcasts, and the women got their own podcasts,

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and nobody let the men talk to the fucking men.

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Because his grown ass told his grown ass that she

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ain't never paid for nothing while she's with me. And

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you know what he said, Oh so he is who

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spoiled you? And I sat there in all my fucking

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glory and smiled. Okay, you need more men telling you

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that he willing to pick up that fucking bill. That's

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what you need. More men need to hear other grown

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ass men saying, hey, I take pride and picking up

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that fucking bill. I take pride and covering the fucking costs.

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And don't ever tell anybody. He was like, cut the show,

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cut it that only the table cut the show. No,

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you went to the back. I went to the bathroom.

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When I came back, that bill was paid. So don't

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don't ever tell nobody that. Ever the fuck again. And

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I was glad that he heard a man saying that

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because clearly, look, I'm just living for the first time,

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all right, So they don't want to listen to me,

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but listen to another man telling you that he covered

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the fucking costs and he will always if his name

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is on it on that tab. Okay, that's it on that.

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So anyways, were looking for the men like him. Okay,

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where you at, friend, let me know if you have

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any uncles cousins. My limit is about thirty thirty two,

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said if you got cousin other look, we looking for y'all,

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all right, were looking for these type of men the

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alpha males. It's like, I want a woman to want

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how proud you should be? You should be proud. Yeah,

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that you're in a tax bracket where a woman is like,

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while you're dependable, you're reliable, you've made a name for yourself.

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Speaker 2: A safe space, a safe space.

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Speaker 1: Okay, period. Anyways, all we want to are a bitch

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you Smell Good segment. It's one of my fas. That's

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one of my favorite segments. Okay, let's see so our

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my bit you Smell Good segment is my child is

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like my baby. Anybody knows me knows that I love fragrance,

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and I have over a two hundred fragrance. So the

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I have a fifty thousand dollars fragrance collection. Baby, A

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going out on a coffee date with nobody's son. Okay,

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gifted by Brion Dre, my very good friends after we

467
00:25:22,079 --> 00:25:25,680
launched Dear to see It. Okay, So this was a

468
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,519
fragrance that I was gifted almost like a you know

469
00:25:28,559 --> 00:25:29,880
how you go and you buy a new home and

470
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:33,359
you get like those new homeowner gifts. This was my

471
00:25:33,599 --> 00:25:37,720
new podcast gift from my dear friends Dre and breathe,

472
00:25:38,039 --> 00:25:40,920
and I'm so very excited. First of all, get into

473
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:44,240
the bag, y'all, realdy know how we coming. Oh okay,

474
00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:48,720
we're coming period. Yeah, okay, y'all, Red know, y'all ready know.

475
00:25:49,000 --> 00:25:50,960
And I saved it because I got this a week

476
00:25:51,039 --> 00:25:54,200
or two ago, okay, and I saved it so that

477
00:25:54,279 --> 00:25:57,319
we can open it up here. Look at the wrapping.

478
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:00,000
Speaker 2: It's the detail.

479
00:26:00,079 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 7: Else.

480
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:01,519
Speaker 2: I love it.

481
00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:04,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I am so excited, y'all. I don't get excited

482
00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:07,359
about many things. I was cheering with Dre this, I said,

483
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,000
I don't get excited about a lot of things. You

484
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,039
can tell me, baby that I'm going to the Maldi's

485
00:26:11,039 --> 00:26:14,160
a bora bora all expense paid and not probably be

486
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:18,440
like great, thanks, But when it comes to this space

487
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:20,720
that I am created in my podcast. I am just

488
00:26:20,759 --> 00:26:23,440
really over the fucking moon. Okay, I am over the moon.

489
00:26:23,519 --> 00:26:26,440
So anyways, this is our new fragrance. Oh my god.

490
00:26:26,519 --> 00:26:30,799
Look look I love an unboxing chaw. Okay, it's gonna

491
00:26:30,839 --> 00:26:35,200
be so good. Okay, let's see what we got, y'all.

492
00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:42,599
Let me tell you. And this is no see but

493
00:26:42,680 --> 00:26:44,799
I'm so glad that this is not Baccarat. It's not

494
00:26:45,519 --> 00:26:49,559
it's not and you know we off of baccaraa okay,

495
00:26:49,599 --> 00:26:53,200
Baccara is very twenty twenty two baites Okay, so if

496
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:56,160
you want s on bccarack, okay, very twenty twenty two.

497
00:26:57,079 --> 00:27:03,720
These are smart people. This is grand sore. Okay, I'm

498
00:27:03,759 --> 00:27:04,279
opening up.

499
00:27:05,799 --> 00:27:07,839
Speaker 3: The lady at the store says she was a fragrance

500
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,319
expert and I told her about you, so we'll see

501
00:27:10,319 --> 00:27:13,160
if she actually picked something that was good.

502
00:27:13,839 --> 00:27:17,359
Speaker 1: I'm sure she did. Okay, I'm sure she did. I

503
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:22,079
don't have this one, Okay, I have gentle fluidity. I

504
00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:27,160
do have Bacca rod from and I have what's the one?

505
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:30,960
I have like three from, but I don't have this one.

506
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:34,599
So this is so good, so excited, Okay, let me

507
00:27:34,599 --> 00:27:39,680
pull off. Why am I always struggling on scrings. Open

508
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:43,000
the box. It's given very goramand let me let me,

509
00:27:44,119 --> 00:27:48,319
let me read the notes. I knew it. Gormond dish,

510
00:27:49,319 --> 00:27:50,079
very grimands.

511
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:50,519
Speaker 2: Okay.

512
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:55,960
Speaker 1: We have cinnamon tree obtained from distilling the leaves of

513
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:59,200
the tropical tree. Okay, a cinemonium.

514
00:27:59,759 --> 00:27:59,920
Speaker 8: Right.

515
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:04,400
Speaker 1: We have vanilla amber accord very grimonds. Okay. Let me

516
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,039
tell you this. If you got a fragrance that have

517
00:28:06,079 --> 00:28:08,920
a base of vanilla, that's all you need, baby. Okay,

518
00:28:10,039 --> 00:28:15,519
cist lab danium the wild shrub grows and the arid

519
00:28:15,599 --> 00:28:19,759
soils around the Mediterranean. Okay, and then we have lavender

520
00:28:21,039 --> 00:28:24,240
and y'all know what I tell y'all. Pronunciation police will

521
00:28:24,279 --> 00:28:26,759
be blocked. Do not come up in my comments. And

522
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:30,599
that's not how you say it. I will block you, okay, period,

523
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:33,519
I will block you. And that's that. On that, let's see.

524
00:28:33,559 --> 00:28:35,880
Let's see what we got, mama.

525
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:36,319
Speaker 6: Truth.

526
00:28:38,839 --> 00:28:41,559
Speaker 1: Oh my god, can you smile from over there? No,

527
00:28:41,599 --> 00:28:46,880
you probably can't. This is real grown, this is given. Okay,

528
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:49,960
let me tell you this. I don't got no reason

529
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:56,160
to lie. This is this is giving date nights, y'all.

530
00:28:56,400 --> 00:29:00,319
I have a date coming up June eighteenth, period with

531
00:29:00,519 --> 00:29:02,759
my man that I already text my friends and told

532
00:29:02,799 --> 00:29:05,200
them that I met my husband in the airport. I'm

533
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:09,119
wearing this fragrance on our date. We're onna deal friscos.

534
00:29:09,519 --> 00:29:12,160
I hope he ain't listen to this. Please don't listen

535
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:15,160
to this. I'm warned this out on my date.

536
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, she likes it.

537
00:29:17,279 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 1: This is good. It's very soul tree, it's very sexy.

538
00:29:24,599 --> 00:29:28,039
It's very literally like date night grown. And y'all know

539
00:29:28,079 --> 00:29:31,240
I like to smell like a man. Okay. I've always

540
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:35,160
said that I am not your fruity floral girl. I'm

541
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:40,000
not your fruity floor I am a gormand ood okay girl.

542
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:42,880
All right, And if it I needed, I needed to

543
00:29:43,200 --> 00:29:47,079
look siage, I needed to follow me wherever I freaking go. Okay,

544
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:52,200
So this is good. Shout out to Dream and bred

545
00:29:52,799 --> 00:29:57,799
G and Bray Bright, Brie and Dre. Shout out bre

546
00:29:58,039 --> 00:30:01,039
and Dre. Okay, this was a per pick.

547
00:30:01,079 --> 00:30:01,359
Speaker 2: Okay.

548
00:30:01,599 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 1: Listen to y'all counter professionals, all right, because I have

549
00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:09,759
a few. I have gentle fluidity. I have a few

550
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:14,720
from Masons, Francis Kirk Jehn Okay, but I do not

551
00:30:14,839 --> 00:30:17,359
have this one.

552
00:30:17,559 --> 00:30:18,519
Speaker 3: I'm glad you like it.

553
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:22,359
Speaker 1: I'm about to be real grown. Okay, this summer, I

554
00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:26,279
love it, love it, love it, love it. Gonna grab

555
00:30:26,359 --> 00:30:30,440
y'all this okay, anyways, perfect gift. Thank y'all so much.

556
00:30:30,599 --> 00:30:35,359
And this is really because y'all went up on the YouTube. Okay,

557
00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:38,960
this was YouTube Spotify, Apple Music. Y'all really show us

558
00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:44,000
an incredible time and we're just so excited. So that

559
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:49,960
was my Dear to See a podcast gifts so sweet.

560
00:30:50,079 --> 00:30:50,599
Speaker 2: So sweet.

561
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:55,640
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, bitch, you smell good. Follow my page. Okay,

562
00:30:56,359 --> 00:31:02,359
that was a wonderful, wonderful fragrance. I can still smell it.

563
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:03,799
Speaker 2: Okay.

564
00:31:04,319 --> 00:31:07,720
Speaker 1: So our third segment here is from Dear to See You.

565
00:31:07,839 --> 00:31:10,880
This is our updated voicemail. Okay, we have an update

566
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:15,200
from a voicemail. Shall I readistray? Okay, you'll play.

567
00:31:15,000 --> 00:31:21,799
Speaker 8: It, Okay, Dear to See It, thanks for answering my

568
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,240
question on your show. I was the one that wrote

569
00:31:24,279 --> 00:31:28,759
in about hating everyone, and you are absolutely right. By

570
00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:31,640
the time that you recorded this show, from when I

571
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:35,279
sent it in, I had got off the apps and

572
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:40,039
I actually met two white men in person that made

573
00:31:40,119 --> 00:31:44,400
me excited about dating again. And so yeah, the app

574
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:48,400
is not for me, but meeting people in person definitely

575
00:31:48,839 --> 00:31:53,400
makes a difference, and I'm having fun with it, like

576
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:57,160
you said, so I'm definitely you know, I've never really

577
00:31:57,240 --> 00:32:00,839
dated a white man before, but I'm open into it now.

578
00:32:01,039 --> 00:32:04,480
I've had fun on the first two dates and I'm

579
00:32:04,519 --> 00:32:06,839
just seeing where it goes. So I actually want to

580
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:10,119
get out of my bed. So yeah, I think I

581
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,720
was just not reading meeting the right type of men.

582
00:32:13,319 --> 00:32:16,599
But I know you you know, give these answers and

583
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:19,440
you don't always hear back from the people. But yeah,

584
00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:22,279
you definitely know what you're talking about because the advice

585
00:32:22,319 --> 00:32:25,680
that you gave was exactly what I did. And yeah,

586
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:28,319
I don't think my standards are too high. I just

587
00:32:28,599 --> 00:32:31,640
was meeting the wrong type of men. So thanks again.

588
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:38,839
Speaker 1: I love that the note says, updated voicemail, you were

589
00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:41,599
right to see a girl. I know. I'm telling you

590
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:44,200
what I heard. I'm telling you what I know, baby. Okay,

591
00:32:44,759 --> 00:32:47,720
I knew number one that she could have been neuro divergent.

592
00:32:48,000 --> 00:32:50,039
So she basically wrote in and said that she like

593
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:54,720
every time she gets to the date point, she kind

594
00:32:54,759 --> 00:32:57,720
of flakes out and she's no longer interested. And that

595
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:00,519
is like a lot of women that are new diverging,

596
00:33:00,599 --> 00:33:03,359
whether it's like even like autistic on the spectrum, you

597
00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:07,279
have ADHD, you have anxiety, anything like that. This is

598
00:33:07,319 --> 00:33:10,519
what I see a lot where the hype of like

599
00:33:10,799 --> 00:33:14,640
finding the men and clicking on them, and even the

600
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:20,119
startup conversations, but then the it goes down once the

601
00:33:20,240 --> 00:33:25,319
date is actually set. Let me tell you this. The

602
00:33:25,359 --> 00:33:26,799
girls are putting creaming in coffee.

603
00:33:26,839 --> 00:33:30,559
Speaker 2: Gabby with my mom just the other day about it,

604
00:33:30,559 --> 00:33:31,400
and I was like, Mom.

605
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 1: She was like, Babby, you're you're a white man's dream.

606
00:33:35,599 --> 00:33:40,519
Speaker 5: I was told that I'm just like white man's dream.

607
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,319
Speaker 1: Okay, I listen, I'm looking dead in the camera. I

608
00:33:43,319 --> 00:33:45,119
know I'm not a for a white man child. Okay,

609
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:48,279
look it looks too much flavor, too much sauce on

610
00:33:48,319 --> 00:33:51,279
this are right, too many curves, too many too much black. Okay.

611
00:33:51,519 --> 00:33:54,319
You know the the the white man like a cauld

612
00:33:54,319 --> 00:33:57,880
swing either way, you know, God, the white man like

613
00:33:57,920 --> 00:34:00,279
it where it could swing kind of either And I

614
00:34:00,319 --> 00:34:02,599
already know I'm I'm swinging one way and that's for

615
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:03,079
the culture.

616
00:34:03,119 --> 00:34:03,319
Speaker 6: Child.

617
00:34:03,400 --> 00:34:08,760
Speaker 1: But Gabby, you are a white fast dream. FYI. If

618
00:34:08,800 --> 00:34:11,000
you ever wan let me know if you do.

619
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:12,079
Speaker 2: I haven't well.

620
00:34:12,119 --> 00:34:14,079
Speaker 5: I went on one day and he was a little

621
00:34:14,079 --> 00:34:16,719
bit too old, but he was just like no other

622
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:18,280
whiteman trying to talk to you. And I was like no,

623
00:34:18,400 --> 00:34:19,679
I said, don't they liked me? He was like, no,

624
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:23,440
you're in the wrong pools.

625
00:34:23,599 --> 00:34:26,400
Speaker 1: Yes, lay around. We need to have a cute DC

626
00:34:26,559 --> 00:34:28,440
summer and player. I wanna go to a lot of

627
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:32,199
these little cute posh hotels, go to it at the

628
00:34:32,199 --> 00:34:35,159
bar while they have a happy hour and having their

629
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:41,679
business meetings. I got a list of white men magnet bars. Anyways,

630
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:44,960
I'm excited. She said. She never dated out of her

631
00:34:45,079 --> 00:34:47,920
race before, but she's excited. You know what's interesting. A

632
00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:50,360
lot of women asked me like, how do you know

633
00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:53,519
if you're ready to like date again? How do you

634
00:34:53,599 --> 00:34:55,320
know if you're ready to step out there and date?

635
00:34:55,639 --> 00:34:59,320
And I said, you want to be excited like you

636
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:01,320
you know if you I feel like there's p in

637
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,760
a dating pool. I don't want to do this no more.

638
00:35:04,920 --> 00:35:05,199
Speaker 6: Girl.

639
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 1: Truth is, I'm tired. Options are few, Like, this is

640
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:10,280
not the time for you to be dating. But she

641
00:35:10,519 --> 00:35:16,880
said she's excited. She met two white men and person

642
00:35:17,079 --> 00:35:20,280
who reignited her excitement about that. You know what, the

643
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:22,239
funniest thing I'm going here tell her all my business.

644
00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:24,320
You know, the funniest thing is that I was telling

645
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:25,840
my friend. I said, girl, I got a date on

646
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:27,639
June eighteenth, and I bought an outfit.

647
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:27,920
Speaker 4: Job.

648
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:30,280
Speaker 1: Now, I don't buy an outfit from none of these

649
00:35:30,280 --> 00:35:32,559
men because honestly, I feel like they can't dress. DC

650
00:35:32,679 --> 00:35:35,719
men are weird. None of these men can't dress, So

651
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:37,159
why am I even wasting my clothes?

652
00:35:37,199 --> 00:35:37,280
Speaker 2: BA?

653
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 1: But you don't know what this is? Findy time for

654
00:35:39,039 --> 00:35:42,360
it in beliinsiaga. Okay, you can't even you can't spot

655
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:45,639
a brand if it. You don't even know that this

656
00:35:45,679 --> 00:35:48,880
is a ooh from Dubai. You don't know nothing. So

657
00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:51,280
it's like, why am I wasting my outfits and all

658
00:35:51,280 --> 00:35:53,840
of my good fits on it? It's just depressing. But

659
00:35:54,519 --> 00:35:57,599
I bought a new outfit for my men. Were gonna

660
00:35:57,599 --> 00:36:00,400
call him Airprie. I pray he never listens to this, y'all.

661
00:36:00,679 --> 00:36:04,599
Speaker 2: I'm excited. The Peanut gallery is excited because I'm ready.

662
00:36:05,159 --> 00:36:08,840
Speaker 1: I'm ready. Okay, I bought a real outfit. I'm planning

663
00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:11,480
for you know, I saw. I hope you never watch

664
00:36:11,519 --> 00:36:13,599
a show I talked to him today and he was like, well,

665
00:36:13,639 --> 00:36:17,079
we were texting and I was like, one week to

666
00:36:17,400 --> 00:36:21,400
our who am I? Who am I? I was like

667
00:36:21,519 --> 00:36:23,519
one week and you know what? He said this, I

668
00:36:23,559 --> 00:36:25,480
know I'm gonna write I'm in the right fucking zone.

669
00:36:25,519 --> 00:36:30,400
He said, that's just way too long. Period. We got

670
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:33,239
one week. This is our one week anniversary to our date. Okay,

671
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:36,719
we got one week until our date. And he was like,

672
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:40,280
it just seems so far away. Yeah, that's what I need. Okay,

673
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:41,039
I need.

674
00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:42,400
Speaker 2: You to relate that.

675
00:36:42,800 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 1: Catch catch your early flight. If you're nasty, Okay, hop

676
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:49,960
on that flight two three days early. Okay, if you

677
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:52,199
miss me that much? All right, anyway, shout out to

678
00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:55,159
airport Bay. I already said to death. I have to

679
00:36:55,199 --> 00:36:58,119
keep people up to date now, I know, right you

680
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:00,599
people have been like, okay, I to see it. When

681
00:37:00,639 --> 00:37:03,559
did you become a coach? I said, y'all. Facebook reminds

682
00:37:03,599 --> 00:37:06,760
me that in two thousand and fourteen, like years ago,

683
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:10,320
oh my god, twenty eleven, I was I was living

684
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:12,679
in New York and I was literally telling them about

685
00:37:12,719 --> 00:37:16,599
all of my like bays and Booze. It was like

686
00:37:16,679 --> 00:37:17,840
I was living in New York. I was like, oh,

687
00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:19,559
this is a trash man bad, this is a guy

688
00:37:19,679 --> 00:37:21,519
man by the two trend, this is whatever. And I

689
00:37:21,559 --> 00:37:23,119
would tell and they will follow. They be like, what

690
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:27,599
happened to the So, y'all Airport Bay, Marcus D what's

691
00:37:27,639 --> 00:37:32,280
today July June whatever, twenty twenty five. I'm telling y'all

692
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:36,320
about Airport Bay. This man could be my husband.

693
00:37:37,519 --> 00:37:40,000
Speaker 2: I'm committed, I'm glued in, I'm not period.

694
00:37:40,079 --> 00:37:43,880
Speaker 1: This may be look okay. So anyways, and I'm saying

695
00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:46,559
this to say it's because she said she felt excited,

696
00:37:46,599 --> 00:37:48,480
and y'all, I bought a new outfit. I have a

697
00:37:48,559 --> 00:37:52,320
date night dress for June eighteenth, for my day with

698
00:37:52,360 --> 00:37:52,960
Airport Bay.

699
00:37:53,079 --> 00:37:54,159
Speaker 2: I'm so excited.

700
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:59,039
Speaker 1: I hope he never watched Please please never watch this show. Anyways.

701
00:37:59,119 --> 00:38:01,199
If I do, I have no some receipts when I

702
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:03,079
when I, when I pop out with that rock on

703
00:38:03,119 --> 00:38:09,079
my finger, then we gonna pour the tape. Okay, then

704
00:38:09,079 --> 00:38:12,079
we're gonna pour the receipts after that. Anyways, I'm very

705
00:38:12,079 --> 00:38:15,199
excited for you. I'm glad you're meeting people out in person.

706
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:17,559
Please let me know what the cream and the coffee

707
00:38:17,599 --> 00:38:19,840
is like, because I'm not that opposed. I just prayed

708
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:21,800
that my husband as a black man. But at this

709
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:29,480
point I think we all like fuck it, try something

710
00:38:29,639 --> 00:38:31,199
at this point. Okay, I think at this point we

711
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:32,920
all open. So let me know how the cream and

712
00:38:32,920 --> 00:38:36,480
the coffee is bab okay if look, okay, I ain't opposed.

713
00:38:36,639 --> 00:38:38,880
She said, she just was adding the wrong man. Okay.

714
00:38:39,039 --> 00:38:42,480
Speaker 2: She sounded excited to Wane the voicemail she did.

715
00:38:42,559 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 1: She's something like, yes, yes, I know that's right. Keep

716
00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:50,559
us posted, friend, keep us posted. Okay. Our second voicemail

717
00:38:50,840 --> 00:38:53,440
is if he loved me, he'd protect me. I think

718
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:54,880
we're gonna play this one.

719
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:58,800
Speaker 4: Dare to see me and my fiance recently just broke

720
00:38:58,880 --> 00:39:01,920
up because he doesn't protect me. For example, we got

721
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:04,800
into an argument and he decided to talk behind my

722
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:08,880
back to his stepfather. His stepfather actually called me, cursing

723
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:11,639
me out about the things that you know that he

724
00:39:11,800 --> 00:39:16,199
was saying to him. Another example, his mom and his

725
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:21,719
stepdad pulled up one time with my daughter to basically

726
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:25,800
confirm me about some things and curse me out. Another

727
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:28,679
example is that he had a friend that would talk

728
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:32,280
about me and he would never stand up for me.

729
00:39:32,559 --> 00:39:34,639
My fiance would never stand up for me. He would

730
00:39:34,679 --> 00:39:38,559
just try to sweep out under rug. And because we

731
00:39:38,639 --> 00:39:40,840
have a one year old daughter, you know, a lot

732
00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:44,239
of people say that we should work it out. But

733
00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:48,000
the thing is that, you know, a man protects something

734
00:39:48,039 --> 00:39:51,719
that he loves. That's what I've always been told. So

735
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:55,800
why would I work out something if he doesn't love me.

736
00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:59,519
He never protects me, he never keep his word with me,

737
00:40:00,559 --> 00:40:05,119
and I'm afraid that if I stay with him, I'm

738
00:40:05,159 --> 00:40:10,000
just showing my daughter that a man could, a man

739
00:40:10,239 --> 00:40:15,559
could basically never protect you. And that's okay, and it's

740
00:40:15,599 --> 00:40:16,400
not okay with me.

741
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:21,760
Speaker 1: I have many things to say. First of all, you

742
00:40:21,880 --> 00:40:26,719
skipped this man been this man. Okay, you said he's

743
00:40:26,800 --> 00:40:30,559
been sharing personal arguments with the stepfather, who then the

744
00:40:30,559 --> 00:40:32,960
stepfather ended up cursing you out. I want to know

745
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:34,920
how you let a man put this put a ring

746
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:37,000
on your finger, and how the fuck you become his

747
00:40:37,119 --> 00:40:41,079
fiance because this man has been this man. You have

748
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:46,800
seen this behavior before. He didn't just surprisingly pop out

749
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:51,280
and become this person. You have seen this man before,

750
00:40:51,599 --> 00:40:53,800
and you skipped over it, and you skipped over it,

751
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:55,320
and you're talking about so you got a one year

752
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:58,480
old daughter. She questions us, thing, will only teach her

753
00:40:58,559 --> 00:41:03,360
child that a man does. You've already taught your child that. Okay,

754
00:41:03,519 --> 00:41:07,280
you've seen this man before and you skipped over it.

755
00:41:07,880 --> 00:41:12,199
This man didn't just miraculously become this man. Okay, you've

756
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:15,719
seen a lot of this before, down to letting his

757
00:41:15,960 --> 00:41:18,440
parents and bush her at home. I think I've said

758
00:41:18,440 --> 00:41:23,119
this before when I worked for DCPs DC Public Schools. Okay,

759
00:41:23,920 --> 00:41:28,400
I found out from working with just children that and

760
00:41:28,559 --> 00:41:30,519
these were children from all different walks of life, but

761
00:41:30,679 --> 00:41:33,840
just really kind of most or come from a broken household.

762
00:41:34,039 --> 00:41:36,599
And my job was to give them enrichment programs to

763
00:41:36,679 --> 00:41:40,920
kind of just fluff up their enrichment learning experience. And

764
00:41:40,960 --> 00:41:42,400
what we will say at the end of the day

765
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:44,760
is that if you follow a crazy kid at home,

766
00:41:44,880 --> 00:41:47,159
a crazy mama is going to open the door. If

767
00:41:47,199 --> 00:41:50,360
you follow a crazy kid at home, a crazy mama

768
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:52,719
is going to open the door. This man was crazy

769
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:57,440
because you seeing that his parents, she said, the step

770
00:41:57,800 --> 00:41:59,920
letting his parents and bush her at home.

771
00:42:02,039 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 2: I was stuck on my stepdad cussing her out.

772
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:09,800
Speaker 1: I was like, you've seen this before, okay, and it's honestly,

773
00:42:09,800 --> 00:42:14,159
it's really unfortunate. But you're absolutely right. I see so

774
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:17,880
many women, and I want you to know that a

775
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:23,079
healthy I'm looking the camera, A healthy single parent household,

776
00:42:23,800 --> 00:42:28,360
all right, It's far better than a toxic two parent household.

777
00:42:28,679 --> 00:42:33,400
Y'all so stuck on keeping these fucking families together. Okay?

778
00:42:33,559 --> 00:42:35,599
And when I tell you, baby, you would have been

779
00:42:35,639 --> 00:42:39,320
better off taking you and your baby and building yourself

780
00:42:39,360 --> 00:42:42,639
back up, building your self, esteeing your children, seeing you happy,

781
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:46,440
then staying in a two parent household, and the shit

782
00:42:46,559 --> 00:42:49,039
is toxic. I have friends and family that got a

783
00:42:49,039 --> 00:42:51,400
two parent household. The mom and daddy been sleeping in

784
00:42:51,519 --> 00:42:57,400
different rooms since for twenty years. Twenty years, they've been

785
00:42:57,440 --> 00:43:01,400
sleeping in a different bed. Okay, So the two parent

786
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:05,400
household shit don't fucking matter. Look we've turned out fine.

787
00:43:05,440 --> 00:43:07,920
I turned out fine. Look my dad was in and out.

788
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:10,679
I turned Look I turned out just fine. You want

789
00:43:10,719 --> 00:43:12,760
to be the best person that you can be, the

790
00:43:12,760 --> 00:43:15,239
best version of yourself, so you have a full cup

791
00:43:15,559 --> 00:43:19,480
to pour out of the two parent household shit is

792
00:43:19,519 --> 00:43:23,800
a scam, and it's a scam. You better off having

793
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:27,159
a single parent household with you and your child, building

794
00:43:27,199 --> 00:43:30,719
them up, showing them the right way. Then a two

795
00:43:30,800 --> 00:43:36,760
parent household, and this man got his parents jumping on you, okay,

796
00:43:37,360 --> 00:43:40,320
trust me, trust me. I feel like that's all a scam.

797
00:43:40,599 --> 00:43:43,320
And you got a one year old. Okay, I think

798
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:46,719
I would just do attempt check on that, you know, hopefully.

799
00:43:47,199 --> 00:43:49,440
I always say, just because he's not a good partner

800
00:43:49,519 --> 00:43:52,280
doesn't mean he can't be a good father. Just because

801
00:43:52,320 --> 00:43:54,480
he's not a good partner, he doesn't that doesn't mean

802
00:43:54,519 --> 00:43:56,079
he can't be a good father. And a lot of

803
00:43:56,119 --> 00:43:59,119
times women are so emotionally invested they don't know how

804
00:43:59,199 --> 00:44:02,960
to separate a man from being a good partner and

805
00:44:03,039 --> 00:44:06,599
being a good parent. You can be a good parent

806
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:09,280
without being a good partner. He don't want you no more,

807
00:44:09,480 --> 00:44:11,400
he don't want to be with you. But that doesn't

808
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,440
mean that you use this kid to try to you know.

809
00:44:13,679 --> 00:44:16,119
And then all of a sudden, he can be a

810
00:44:16,159 --> 00:44:19,440
good parent without being a good partner. And that's a

811
00:44:19,480 --> 00:44:23,480
tough pill. That's a big, big tough pill for a

812
00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:27,440
lot of women to swallow, because most women feel like

813
00:44:28,119 --> 00:44:33,480
the child comes with the partnership and that's not necessarily true.

814
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:36,639
So my advice to this week girl is that, first

815
00:44:36,679 --> 00:44:38,719
of all, stay on your own, take your baby, and

816
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:40,559
do what you need to do. Hopefully he can be

817
00:44:40,599 --> 00:44:44,840
a good cod parent. But that crazy family bred that

818
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:47,519
crazy man, and you've seen that man before. You just

819
00:44:47,559 --> 00:44:51,400
ignored it. I promise you. I promise you're not surprised.

820
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:52,800
I didn't even hear it in her voice. And she

821
00:44:52,920 --> 00:44:56,239
was surprised. She seen that man before. She saw that

822
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:58,760
man before, she saw it in an argument. She saw

823
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:02,679
when she went through his phone, she saw it went up. Okay, yeah,

824
00:45:02,800 --> 00:45:04,320
she's she's seen that man before.

825
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:07,920
Speaker 5: And for the stepdad to be condoning that behavior because

826
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:10,119
I'm I'm sure that's what the cuss I was about.

827
00:45:11,679 --> 00:45:13,679
Speaker 1: You know what this is? This be my issue with

828
00:45:15,079 --> 00:45:19,159
people that brag about the two parent household. When I

829
00:45:19,199 --> 00:45:22,760
meet men and they be like, my parents been married

830
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:26,440
for twenty five years, and I be like, so the fuck?

831
00:45:26,559 --> 00:45:29,000
What what kind of marriage did they have?

832
00:45:29,320 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 2: That's yeah, like that's the real question.

833
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:35,880
Speaker 1: What did you see? What did you see growing up? Oh?

834
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:38,719
My parents been together? And I'm just like, well, are

835
00:45:38,719 --> 00:45:40,960
you gonna try to force what you saw with your

836
00:45:41,000 --> 00:45:45,559
parents growing up on me? Because I'm allergic to when

837
00:45:45,599 --> 00:45:47,960
these men be like, oh well, mama, you saw your

838
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:50,840
mama humping and pumping a lot too. And a lot

839
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:54,719
of these men have seen their mom working so hard,

840
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:58,519
and this is why they're so fucking liberal in the household.

841
00:45:58,519 --> 00:46:01,400
They're like, oh, I'll do the laundry, I'll help with

842
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:04,760
the kids. Yeah, because you saw your mama bringing home

843
00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:08,039
the bacon. And then now you want to be like, well,

844
00:46:08,039 --> 00:46:14,000
why can't we put all our money in one account? No? No, no, no, no, no, no,

845
00:46:14,039 --> 00:46:18,119
hoh the fucking mom. So I'm always skeptical, always skeptical

846
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:22,159
of these men that be like, I've seen my parents

847
00:46:22,159 --> 00:46:25,360
for twenty they're still together. What kind of marriage did

848
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:30,800
they have? Yes, okay, that's very very important to be honest,

849
00:46:31,079 --> 00:46:34,719
be honest, tell her truth about it, to your truth,

850
00:46:34,760 --> 00:46:37,199
to rip that ship raw to the bare bones. What

851
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:40,480
kind of marriage did your your parents have? And you

852
00:46:40,480 --> 00:46:43,480
know what, I always ask a man, what do you

853
00:46:43,519 --> 00:46:45,960
want to keep from your parents for what you saw

854
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:47,440
from your parents? And what do you want to do

855
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:50,679
away with? Because oh, that's a very good one. Okay,

856
00:46:51,199 --> 00:46:53,760
what did you see from your parents growing up that

857
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:56,239
you want to keep and what do you want to

858
00:46:56,280 --> 00:47:01,440
do away with that'll force them to really like what

859
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:06,599
the hell was really happening in that house? Okay, child, No, ma'am.

860
00:47:07,000 --> 00:47:09,800
I feel like this woman needs to be on her own,

861
00:47:10,159 --> 00:47:13,159
take her child. You know, not married, yeah, not married

862
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:14,159
married yet?

863
00:47:15,039 --> 00:47:17,159
Speaker 2: Ring look clean?

864
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:24,239
Speaker 1: Beyonce that that that he was that person as your boyfriend. Unfortunately,

865
00:47:24,639 --> 00:47:28,960
he was that person as your boyfriend. And a lot

866
00:47:29,000 --> 00:47:31,199
of times women think that that the ring is gonna

867
00:47:31,199 --> 00:47:35,280
solidify something else. He was this man and his family

868
00:47:35,360 --> 00:47:39,159
was crazy like that too, as your boyfriend.

869
00:47:40,039 --> 00:47:43,840
Speaker 2: Not the stepdaddy's a lily, I'm sorry, like family and

870
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:45,400
the mom to Yeah, like he.

871
00:47:45,440 --> 00:47:47,559
Speaker 1: Said, the parents ambushed her at home.

872
00:47:47,599 --> 00:47:50,800
Speaker 2: With the child, right, the child was there.

873
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:54,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, but also too like you know when you talk

874
00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:57,320
about y'ah, this is this is a crazy clip. Once

875
00:47:57,360 --> 00:47:59,360
upon a time, y'all saw this clip of Meghan Good

876
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:03,480
and her ex husband Okay, what's his name? Something divon Franklin, right,

877
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:07,719
and he was on a panel and Meghan, Meghan was

878
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:09,880
up there and she they both were on the panel,

879
00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:14,199
and the lady and the audience said, Meghan, you're gonna

880
00:48:14,199 --> 00:48:18,039
start covering up now, right, You're gonna start putting on

881
00:48:18,159 --> 00:48:21,280
clothes now, right, Meghan, You're not gonna be out here

882
00:48:21,519 --> 00:48:25,559
with all of this promiscuous club, you know, Devin Franklin

883
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:31,639
or Devon Franklin. He stepped up and he said, shut

884
00:48:31,679 --> 00:48:33,800
that ship the fuck down. This is what we're not

885
00:48:34,000 --> 00:48:38,519
gonna do. You're not gonna talk about my wife in

886
00:48:38,599 --> 00:48:41,639
this way, okay, because I married her and I have

887
00:48:41,679 --> 00:48:44,559
a covenant under God, and you're not gonna talk. That's

888
00:48:44,679 --> 00:48:47,719
the type of man, okay, that you want. He couldn't

889
00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:52,079
even take a woman saying, Meghan, you need to cover up.

890
00:48:52,159 --> 00:48:54,159
You need to put on more clothes. If you're supposed

891
00:48:54,159 --> 00:48:57,519
to be a wife of a reverend, a pastor, a

892
00:48:57,559 --> 00:49:01,960
man of God, you need to he said, at not

893
00:49:02,159 --> 00:49:05,239
on my watch. I love that. I'm not on my

894
00:49:07,079 --> 00:49:07,920
It's too good.

895
00:49:08,000 --> 00:49:08,280
Speaker 6: Girl.

896
00:49:08,719 --> 00:49:09,800
Speaker 1: Cut her ass off.

897
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:12,119
Speaker 2: I know she felt like, let me go sit down.

898
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:12,719
Speaker 6: Yeah.

899
00:49:13,119 --> 00:49:15,800
Speaker 1: And while you're up in here talking about you need

900
00:49:15,840 --> 00:49:18,920
to be finding you a man that's gonna advocate for you. Okay,

901
00:49:19,039 --> 00:49:20,079
that's what you need to do. You need to be

902
00:49:20,119 --> 00:49:22,639
finding you a man that's gonna advocate for you. And

903
00:49:22,800 --> 00:49:29,960
that level of protection is what this girl clearly is missing. Okay, sweetheart,

904
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:32,960
leave him in the dust, take through on your child,

905
00:49:33,079 --> 00:49:34,880
let him cold parent. Okay. He ain't got to be

906
00:49:34,920 --> 00:49:36,320
your partner to be a parent. He ain't got to

907
00:49:36,360 --> 00:49:38,400
be your partner to be a parent. Okay, but his

908
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:44,760
family run. You don't want that for life period. Anyways,

909
00:49:45,679 --> 00:49:48,760
we don't boicement on the suit drink. Oh wow, I

910
00:49:48,800 --> 00:49:53,400
gotta be answered to already. Okay, sorry, oh okay, okay, okay, perfect, okay,

911
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:56,559
all right, that was up the okay are we listening? Okay?

912
00:49:56,599 --> 00:49:56,960
Speaker 9: Perfect?

913
00:49:58,719 --> 00:49:59,320
Speaker 2: Do you see it?

914
00:49:59,440 --> 00:50:03,559
Speaker 9: I've been dad this guy. Then I met through Facebook

915
00:50:03,679 --> 00:50:08,480
dating app. So we've been on maybe six seven days,

916
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:10,760
and of course, you know, one thing LEDs to another.

917
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:17,199
So he's a general contractor, so recently he had to

918
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:20,400
he was pulled away from one job and sent to

919
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:26,440
another one. But in between time, the good morning text

920
00:50:26,519 --> 00:50:30,639
went from good morning, beautiful, good morning love to good

921
00:50:30,639 --> 00:50:36,559
morning or GM and then like no communication at all.

922
00:50:37,559 --> 00:50:41,239
Then recently we talked and I'm like, are you cool?

923
00:50:41,760 --> 00:50:41,960
You know?

924
00:50:42,159 --> 00:50:42,559
Speaker 8: Is it me?

925
00:50:43,079 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 4: You know?

926
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:46,360
Speaker 9: Because of course my feelings have gotten involved, and I'm

927
00:50:46,400 --> 00:50:49,199
just trying to figure out, like what to do now.

928
00:50:50,159 --> 00:50:52,480
I'll go to man before he goes to me any day,

929
00:50:53,199 --> 00:50:55,360
and I'll block you as well. So I'm just trying

930
00:50:55,360 --> 00:50:57,519
to see, like he's seeing nothing's going on, just work,

931
00:50:57,920 --> 00:51:02,599
you know. It comes with the territory and like essentially

932
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:07,000
like sometimes he's gonna be in the city and sometimes

933
00:51:07,079 --> 00:51:09,760
he's not. But I'm like, you need to communicate, like

934
00:51:10,559 --> 00:51:12,800
is it me or like is this nigga like full

935
00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:13,119
of shit?

936
00:51:14,280 --> 00:51:17,840
Speaker 1: He's full of shit. He's lying, he's the sweetheart. He's

937
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:20,440
lying to you. You said you went on six to

938
00:51:20,519 --> 00:51:24,280
seven days and boom there comes. Then came the intimacy.

939
00:51:24,559 --> 00:51:31,239
Then this nigga switched up. Hello, six to seven dates.

940
00:51:31,679 --> 00:51:34,760
Then came the intimacy. Then this man switched up and

941
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:38,239
what was more where I found to be more alarming

942
00:51:38,320 --> 00:51:40,639
about what she wrote. She said the good morning text

943
00:51:40,679 --> 00:51:46,079
became GM, ladies. If you go from good morning, beautiful

944
00:51:46,599 --> 00:51:52,559
to good morning to GM to fucking crickets, he doesn't

945
00:51:52,639 --> 00:51:55,679
like you anymore. It's just simple math, okay, And it's

946
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:58,079
really sad. And when you said that you will block

947
00:51:58,119 --> 00:52:00,320
a man, quick you a block you, le me tell

948
00:52:00,320 --> 00:52:03,199
you how you lost your power. You already asked him,

949
00:52:03,280 --> 00:52:08,880
what's up? You already? When a man okay, when a

950
00:52:09,159 --> 00:52:12,719
man is doing things that you do not like or

951
00:52:12,760 --> 00:52:15,119
you don't you don't like the way that he's moving.

952
00:52:15,440 --> 00:52:20,360
You showed this interest. Okay, you've already told him that

953
00:52:20,440 --> 00:52:23,800
you noticed the switch up. That was your first fucking fumble. Okay,

954
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:26,000
you know when a man hit me up and he says,

955
00:52:26,199 --> 00:52:28,119
oh my bad, I'm sorry, I haven't reached out in

956
00:52:28,119 --> 00:52:29,800
a while. I said, oh, I didn't even know this.

957
00:52:30,119 --> 00:52:34,159
Fuck you, I didn't even notice. I didn't even notice.

958
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:38,880
I didn't notice that you didn't reach out to me. Ego,

959
00:52:39,199 --> 00:52:44,159
you call yourself apologizing to me. I didn't, I said, really, well,

960
00:52:44,280 --> 00:52:47,639
and even baby, I didn't even notice. You've already shown

961
00:52:47,800 --> 00:52:52,079
him that you've You've already acknowledged that he hasn't kept

962
00:52:52,119 --> 00:52:54,400
the same behavior. And that's where you went to fuck

963
00:52:54,519 --> 00:52:57,800
left friend. Okay, that that is in general, you've already

964
00:52:57,840 --> 00:53:01,480
acknowledged a bad behavior. I learned this from a saleswoman.

965
00:53:01,559 --> 00:53:04,320
So there was this young girl on Instagram. She had

966
00:53:04,360 --> 00:53:07,559
like millions of followers. Anyway, she was like a multi millionaire,

967
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:10,599
like twenty six years old, and she said, she said,

968
00:53:10,840 --> 00:53:13,039
when I would go to the car dealerships to buy

969
00:53:13,039 --> 00:53:16,360
my dream cars, it would be like Lamborghinis and bent

970
00:53:16,519 --> 00:53:19,239
Lee's and Maybax and all this type of shit. She said,

971
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:22,480
when she would be negotiating with the car salesman, when

972
00:53:22,480 --> 00:53:24,719
he would throw out a number that she didn't like,

973
00:53:25,159 --> 00:53:30,079
she literally would fucking ignore him. She would show disinterest

974
00:53:30,679 --> 00:53:34,320
and that he had no choice. The silences is deafening.

975
00:53:34,719 --> 00:53:37,599
He would come back with a with a different number.

976
00:53:37,920 --> 00:53:42,480
And I said, that's gonna work with dating. If a

977
00:53:42,599 --> 00:53:46,119
man throws out some shit that you not interested in,

978
00:53:46,639 --> 00:53:50,800
you showed disinterest, you ignore him until he comes back

979
00:53:50,840 --> 00:53:53,320
with a better fucking offer. And I literally, I said,

980
00:53:53,360 --> 00:53:57,440
she's talking about business, but this can be used in relationships.

981
00:53:57,480 --> 00:54:00,599
And I stand by that if a man is doing

982
00:54:00,639 --> 00:54:02,960
things that you don't like, you on thero you literally

983
00:54:03,039 --> 00:54:05,519
ignore the fuck out of him. You show this interest,

984
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:09,199
and he will come back with a counter offer. You've

985
00:54:09,280 --> 00:54:13,079
already acknowledged the bad behavior is. It's just me, what's

986
00:54:13,159 --> 00:54:15,719
going on here? That's why you win left the end

987
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:18,440
of the at the end of the day, It's that

988
00:54:18,920 --> 00:54:23,000
sometimes men don't see the value before you become intimate

989
00:54:23,039 --> 00:54:25,519
with them, and we don't give them enough time and

990
00:54:25,599 --> 00:54:31,760
space to see the value before you become intimate with them.

991
00:54:32,079 --> 00:54:34,639
And this man and it also doesn't allow the woman

992
00:54:34,719 --> 00:54:39,199
to see who this man is before you become intimate

993
00:54:39,480 --> 00:54:41,360
six seven dates.

994
00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:44,559
Speaker 5: You know, in two days. Yeah, But he was like,

995
00:54:44,599 --> 00:54:47,960
it comes with the territory. I know what is relax?

996
00:54:48,159 --> 00:54:51,760
Speaker 2: I know what a jenneral like. It comes with don't

997
00:54:51,840 --> 00:54:53,440
don't play with my girl. Don't do that.

998
00:54:54,440 --> 00:54:57,159
Speaker 1: Must be on Clarence. It comes with the territory. This

999
00:54:57,320 --> 00:54:59,119
is what happens when you make a little fish forel

1000
00:54:59,119 --> 00:55:02,400
like a big fish. Come on, not a whole general public.

1001
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:04,920
The women out here in the general public weird suffering

1002
00:55:05,159 --> 00:55:07,280
because you made a little fish feel like a big fish.

1003
00:55:08,039 --> 00:55:09,480
Speaker 2: Comes with the territory a.

1004
00:55:09,400 --> 00:55:14,960
Speaker 5: General contractor excuse me, a g good morning?

1005
00:55:15,400 --> 00:55:18,360
Speaker 2: You know what kills me? The HBD. So when she

1006
00:55:18,360 --> 00:55:20,320
said GM, I was like, if.

1007
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:23,039
Speaker 1: GM is diabolical.

1008
00:55:23,159 --> 00:55:25,960
Speaker 5: The o's and the d's are crazy that you couldn't

1009
00:55:25,960 --> 00:55:28,679
write that like the more like it's it's like, oh

1010
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:29,840
it gets me, it gets.

1011
00:55:29,679 --> 00:55:35,519
Speaker 1: Under my skin GM. The laziness GM is wild. Now

1012
00:55:35,559 --> 00:55:38,360
she has her feelings involved and the communication is fading.

1013
00:55:39,280 --> 00:55:42,760
Let it fade, Let it fade. The who reverse is

1014
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:46,400
a real thing. Let it fade. Flit the like a

1015
00:55:46,440 --> 00:55:50,239
switch on him. The more you entertain and actually acknowledge

1016
00:55:50,320 --> 00:55:53,440
the bad behavior, the more he feels like he got

1017
00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:55,760
you in the pocket. You need to live life, need

1018
00:55:55,840 --> 00:55:58,000
to look good, do good. You need to literally not

1019
00:55:58,079 --> 00:56:02,880
acknowledge anything that he has going on on. Okay, he's

1020
00:56:02,880 --> 00:56:05,239
he played you. That's exactly what it is. And when

1021
00:56:05,239 --> 00:56:07,599
women say like, oh, when is the when should I

1022
00:56:07,639 --> 00:56:10,280
wait to have sex? When should I? You know, the

1023
00:56:10,360 --> 00:56:12,960
thing about it is that a man that has good

1024
00:56:12,960 --> 00:56:15,960
intentions with you, it's not gonna switch up after you

1025
00:56:16,000 --> 00:56:18,159
become intimate with him. That's just really the end of

1026
00:56:18,360 --> 00:56:21,480
the end of it of it all. If he actually

1027
00:56:21,920 --> 00:56:24,960
is interested and invested in you and is intrigued by

1028
00:56:25,000 --> 00:56:28,119
you and cares about you, he's not gonna switch up

1029
00:56:28,320 --> 00:56:30,840
after you become intimate. Now I have my own trope

1030
00:56:30,880 --> 00:56:33,800
about when is it appropriate, how long you should wait,

1031
00:56:33,840 --> 00:56:35,159
and all this kind of stuff, But at the end

1032
00:56:35,199 --> 00:56:38,760
of the day, he smashing dash. That's exactly what he wanted.

1033
00:56:39,199 --> 00:56:41,639
And you can regain your power by literally just on

1034
00:56:41,719 --> 00:56:45,079
a reverse and like let them text, slow down any

1035
00:56:45,079 --> 00:56:47,679
communication that he gives, slow down, don't respond to the

1036
00:56:47,719 --> 00:56:50,880
good morning, starve him out.

1037
00:56:51,159 --> 00:56:53,679
Speaker 5: You know, when you said something on your page one

1038
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:56,599
time about like not giving too much information to men,

1039
00:56:57,039 --> 00:57:00,280
like I hope she wasn't like I don't don't have

1040
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:03,519
sex after the until like the third day, like you know,

1041
00:57:03,559 --> 00:57:06,199
because like he would have stalled out to the sixth day,

1042
00:57:06,400 --> 00:57:08,840
and then you know, we gotta, like women, we gotta

1043
00:57:08,920 --> 00:57:09,639
kind of be quieter.

1044
00:57:10,000 --> 00:57:13,079
Speaker 1: It's called the black cat theory. Okay. The black cat

1045
00:57:13,159 --> 00:57:16,320
theory is just like mysterious thing. Right when you see

1046
00:57:16,360 --> 00:57:18,079
a black cat, you kind of like scared a little

1047
00:57:18,079 --> 00:57:20,000
bit and it's like, wait a minute, hold on, let

1048
00:57:20,039 --> 00:57:22,639
me pray, like lu like what's going on. It's the

1049
00:57:22,760 --> 00:57:27,360
black cat theory. You want to literally like bread crumb information,

1050
00:57:27,760 --> 00:57:30,000
like literally like some of the guys I'm dating, I

1051
00:57:30,000 --> 00:57:32,880
don't even think they know what I do for a living.

1052
00:57:33,199 --> 00:57:35,800
And that's you need that type of mystery. Why you

1053
00:57:35,840 --> 00:57:38,599
need that type of just like he doesn't know it all,

1054
00:57:38,679 --> 00:57:41,639
he doesn't know everything about you. You gotta kind of

1055
00:57:41,679 --> 00:57:45,159
bread crumb him and leave him like coming back for more. So, yeah,

1056
00:57:45,199 --> 00:57:48,400
you're absolutely right about that. It's called the black cat theory. Okay, y'all.

1057
00:57:48,400 --> 00:57:52,559
You want to be this mysterious Okay, it's a mysterious

1058
00:57:52,559 --> 00:57:55,880
cat in a wild child and have this man wondering

1059
00:57:56,119 --> 00:57:59,599
more about you. You just like your bread crumbing, just

1060
00:57:59,639 --> 00:58:02,480
like a dropping a bucket about different information about you,

1061
00:58:02,760 --> 00:58:05,039
and it's almost like we'll talk about the next time

1062
00:58:05,079 --> 00:58:08,599
I'll see you, like always leave him kind of go ahead,

1063
00:58:08,639 --> 00:58:13,000
hands on coming back for more. Okay, period period, that's

1064
00:58:13,039 --> 00:58:16,320
that on that anyways, Yeah, girl, that's dead. He got

1065
00:58:16,320 --> 00:58:19,079
what he wanted and he's just Sometimes I don't think

1066
00:58:19,119 --> 00:58:22,159
women understand that dating is exploratory. I said this all

1067
00:58:22,199 --> 00:58:26,119
the time. Dating is exploratory. Sometimes men meet you and

1068
00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:29,840
they thought that they may have liked you based on

1069
00:58:29,880 --> 00:58:33,159
your physical appearance, they based off of initial conversations, and

1070
00:58:33,159 --> 00:58:36,280
then they meet you and it's just like and the

1071
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:40,119
same with women do the same. But the state of

1072
00:58:40,199 --> 00:58:43,559
what we have now is that men are making more

1073
00:58:43,639 --> 00:58:46,360
choices that they that they don't like the women in

1074
00:58:46,440 --> 00:58:51,039
particular that they're dating, and women will accept anybody that

1075
00:58:51,239 --> 00:58:54,920
likes them. So I know, it's so sad the moment

1076
00:58:54,960 --> 00:58:57,239
that a man is like I'm into you, we just

1077
00:58:57,320 --> 00:58:59,800
accept I said, girl, did you screen him? Did you

1078
00:58:59,840 --> 00:59:01,960
do you know if you like him back? A lot

1079
00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:03,639
of times you don't know if you like him back.

1080
00:59:03,719 --> 00:59:06,480
You're just so interested in the one that likes you,

1081
00:59:06,559 --> 00:59:09,239
and you have to put them through the same screening

1082
00:59:09,320 --> 00:59:11,960
process that they that they put you through, you know,

1083
00:59:12,360 --> 00:59:15,840
and that's just that. So anyways, yeah, girl, he smashed

1084
00:59:15,840 --> 00:59:19,199
and dash friends. Yeah, and I'm sorry that your emotions

1085
00:59:19,199 --> 00:59:22,760
are involved, but that's typical y'all. Anyways, GM is wild,

1086
00:59:23,400 --> 00:59:24,760
GM is it is wild.

1087
00:59:24,840 --> 00:59:29,760
Speaker 5: No, don't text at that point, Yeah, yeah, I wouldn't responded.

1088
00:59:29,840 --> 00:59:30,960
Speaker 1: I lit that script.

1089
00:59:31,400 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 5: Oh oh don't. I don't want to trouble yourself. Don't

1090
00:59:33,920 --> 00:59:36,159
don't trouble yourself to send the text, yow, because the

1091
00:59:36,239 --> 00:59:40,360
GM was like, oh god, I gotta right, no, no, no, no, no,

1092
00:59:40,480 --> 00:59:41,239
don't worry about it.

1093
00:59:41,719 --> 00:59:43,920
Speaker 1: A lot of stuff is really like men to like

1094
00:59:44,000 --> 00:59:46,719
prevent you from like crashing out, so they gotta still

1095
00:59:46,719 --> 00:59:48,800
send you a little bit so you won't be like,

1096
00:59:49,280 --> 00:59:51,239
oh he ghosted me, Say just send you a little

1097
00:59:51,239 --> 00:59:54,159
bit and that's even worth y'all. Anyways, this boys went

1098
00:59:54,199 --> 00:59:57,239
number two. We on fifty nine minutes. How you feeling,

1099
00:59:57,320 --> 00:59:58,840
dre We got something else to talk about?

1100
01:00:01,159 --> 01:00:02,239
Speaker 4: No, that's it.

1101
01:00:04,239 --> 01:00:05,559
Speaker 1: Episode three in the books,