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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say

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yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.

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So let's turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged,

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hey Saro, And this is vocal dfrag. Vocal dfragging is

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an opportunity to give yourself a gift, a gift of

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you asking yourself the questions and then questioning the answers.

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Too often we rely on others to guide our way,

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when in fact they weren't born with you. It's been

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your journey. You've had to walk in your own shoes.

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Sometimes they fit, sometimes they don't, and when they don't,

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we still don't ask the questions and then question the answers.

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I keep two different types of d frag journals. I

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have the one that I have with my handwriting, and

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then I do a vocal dfrag. And the reason being

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is because as long as it's written on paper, when

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I come back to it to learn, it's an interpretation.

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But with vocal defragging, I can physically hear the emotions

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that are still growing inside my mind, body and soul.

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So it's two different levels of learning more about yourself,

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learning how to calm down the inner beast, or better yet,

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maybe to ignite the creative self that you are, but

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just don't know how creative you are. This is vocal

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d Frank. So we had an experienced last night at

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the Essential Job, two nights after the situation in the

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state of Maine. A gentleman walks into the store pretty

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much around maybe nine point fifteen, and he's got a

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mask on that we're not used to seeing. You know,

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we live in these days, these COVID nineteen days, where

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pretty much, you know, it looks like a medical mask,

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that's what most people are wearing. But this gentleman had

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on a different kind of mask that hid his entire

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face and part of his body below. That wasn't what

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got our anxiety up. It was the way that he

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was wearing his backpack. See there's a reason why they

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call it a backpack, the back but he was wearing

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a fully loaded backpack on the front part of his body.

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I've never seen that before. That could be crazy. Maybe

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it's just something that's going to become the future. Because

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if you've got a backpack on, you can't see who's

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coming up behind you. So if you've got valuables, I

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would put it in the front. I mean, that's what

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I do with my wallet. I don't put it in

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my back pocket. I keep it in my front pocket

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in fear of pickpockets. But his face fully covered a

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backpack worn on the front. He enters the store and

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goes immediately into the bathroom. For thirty minutes. Thirty minutes,

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nothing was moving. Our security was on high alert. Our

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security officer was nervous. He wanted to figure out what

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the situation was, since we were just two days off

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from what just took place in the state of Maine.

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When the gentleman came out of the bathroom, the backpack

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was now worn on his side, and he spent the

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next hour and a half inside our store, and as

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we tried to make some sort of conversation with him,

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to get you know, to get him engaged in something

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that said, hey, look, we know you're here. You know

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we're here. You got to feel that we're watching you,

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but we don't want you to feel nervous about the situation. Finally,

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at closing time, we kind of steered him in the

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direction of self checkout. His cart when I walked by

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him was about three quarters full, but at closing time,

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there was nothing in the cart? Was it a theft?

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Was it a change of mind? I really don't need

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this stuff, but I don't want to go that route

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because there were baby diapers inside that cart. When I

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had a conversation with him, just engage, right, Isn't that

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what we're trained to do? Just go have a conversation. Okay,

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So here is the d Frank. We all have PTSD

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when it comes to these mass shootings. Learning how to

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deal with him Number one, seek a professional and talk

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it out. But when you can't get to a professional,

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you've got to be able to talk to yourself and

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ask questions. What could you have done differently that might

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have put the man in a position of you know what,

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I don't need to be here. We don't know, we

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don't know. But if we don't start asking some questions

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about our own security and the way that we walk

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through a place of business with a mask on, with

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a backpack backwards, then what do we have here? We

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have silence that means that we are accepting people for

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who and what they are, which is fine with me.

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But if you're going to live in nearly two hours

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of unbelievable stress, waiting for something to break out. That

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isn't fair to the common person. That isn't fair to

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e even that guy, because maybe he felt uncomfortable knowing

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that we were watching him. So when you ask the

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questions and you question the answers, you've got to include

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the truth. The truth about last night was, yes, we

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did feel fear. No, we did not call the police.

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We had security, a loaded security officer. At no time

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did we feel like this man was going to bring harm.

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But yet his demeanor said wait a second, was the

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man in Maine and all of these other mass shootings?

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Were they easily identifiable? Or did they sneak in and

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everything broke apart? Asking yourself the questions. When somebody comes in,

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do not judge them, Do not put yourself in a

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position of fear because unless you know. But then again,

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is that too late preparing your heart for what is

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about to attack you? The most dangerous saying in all

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honesty is that anxiety. How do you keep it under

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control and make sure that it doesn't get out of

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control where accusations are thrown and reasons for being uncomfortable

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to another person grow. That's when stuff starts hitting the fan.

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We only wanted to have conversation with him, just to

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be engaged, and it was always the casual Hey man,

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you find it everything? Okay, dude? I like you. I

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like what you got on today. Man, I like that mask.

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I haven't seen that one. Where'd you find it at?

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But there was still that underlying anxiety, that fear that

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something was going to break down, and in the process

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of breaking down, were we smart enough to be prepared

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ask the questions, question the answers. We do have PTSD

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You might as well just say it to yourself in

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the mirror. We do because we fear a lot in

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this modern world. I'm Maril and I spoke with d

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