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Speaker 1: Hey, Sarah, and this is vocal d Vocal d fragging.

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Speaker 2: Is asking yourself questions and then questioning your answers. I

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also keep a d frag journal where I write out

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the questions in the journal and then I answer them.

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I argue with myself. I sit there and I feel

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good or bad. I go through the emotional exchanges. Same

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thing with the vocal dfrag. But what I love most

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about the vocal dfrag is that you're preserving your inflection,

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the pitch, the volume of the tone. And I strongly

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suggest that you do that with your smartphone. Start using

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it as a great tool for you to share your

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personal thoughts, your visions, things that are moving through you.

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Come back and just listen to it, ask the questions

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and then question the answers. This is vocal d fragging.

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I've been hit today with several different angles of why

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you should be really listening to your heart. I did

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a commercial for Spotify today that was based on one thing,

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not podcasting in the way that people get on there

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to tell their jokes, or they do their famous people interviews,

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or or just get in there and just joke around

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with their friends, or to basically just talk about a product.

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My angle today was based one hundred percent on the advertiser,

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because I was reminded that the reason why I got

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into podcasting in twenty twelve was because I was trying

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to design a platform for advertisers who were spending a

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boatload of money for thirty second and sixty second commercials.

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So I thought podcasting would be such a great angle

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to take our advertisers too, And in twenty twelve, that

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big old broadcasting company looked at me and said, yeah,

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I don't get it, man, I don't get what you're doing,

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but keep trying.

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Speaker 1: And so I kept trying.

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Speaker 2: And the more I tried, the more I got into

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those famous people interviews and doing things like we're doing

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right now. But at the same time, I documented something

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inside another journal that I keep, which is called stream Thinking,

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and it wanted to know why I was doing this

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storytelling of this force, this tiny forest in South Charlotte,

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North Carolina.

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Speaker 1: And the answer that I came up with.

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Speaker 2: Was was kind of odd because it was based on

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one thing. When I'm gone, all of the energy that

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the forest and I shared will be gone as well.

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And the forest has been speaking so loudly to me

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over the past couple of weeks that it says, write

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the story. If you don't write the story, then no

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one will know of what happened here in nineteen ninety

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two growing forward, because what's going to happen to my

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daily writing? If I know my wife, she's probably going

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to get rid of the daily writing at the time

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of my passing because it takes up a lot of

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room in many, many protective boxes. So I have felt

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it in my heart for the past couple of weeks,

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share the story of this forest. I did a fourth

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episode this morning, and I'm still going, what the hell

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are you doing? So I bring this to you. When

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you get into those moments of what the hell am

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I doing?

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Speaker 1: How far do you take that?

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Speaker 2: Do you lean into it even more because you're trying

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to locate the real source of the energy. What the

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hell are you doing? My dad used to ask me

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that question all the time. He'd walk into my room.

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He'd walk out into the chicken hut with me. Well,

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in the chicken hut, I was out there with a

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garden hose, and I was singing in one end and

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on the other end it was going into my ear

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because it created an echo. What the hell was I doing?

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I was singing, I was being creative. I'd like to

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hear that little delay because it made me sound like

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I was live in concert.

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Speaker 1: What the hell are you doing?

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Speaker 2: How far do you push yourself before you finally say, well,

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what the hell I was doing is exactly that. It

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was what I was doing and there was no payoff.

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And I often wonder about those payoffs. What is it

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that we're truly looking for when we set out to

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accomplish something and it doesn't reach that one particular level.

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I get really super jealous of these carpenters and these

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instruction workers that follow these gigantic maps. This is the

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way it's supposed to be, this highway, this house, But

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does it really achieve that level? I mean, we may

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not see it because we're not trained to see it.

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I call them easter eggs at the grocery store. I

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can be walking through that store and see something that's

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completely out of place, but a billion people have walked

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by and have done nothing about it. What the hell

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are you doing? What are you doing in your life

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that you see that you're feeling energy from, and yet

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the only thing that's happening is you. Nobody else is participating,

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and if they were, it might be a judgment call,

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but that in itself serves as fuel in the way

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of well should I continue doing this?

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Speaker 1: Or what I mean?

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Speaker 2: A guy walking through a forest speaking into a telephone,

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what the hell are you doing? Well, it's called vocal defragging.

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Vocal d fragging came to me because of a breakdown.

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I was putting it on paper. Then I was talking

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to all of these actors and musicians and artists, and

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they said, well, what is vocal defragging? I want to

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participate with it. I couldn't put my journals out there

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because what of my journals have to do with you?

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So therefore we created vocal d fragging in a way

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of saying, what the hell are you doing? Why the

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hell are you doing it? Do you really need to

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be doing it? Is there a payoff? Or do you

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really want a payoff? Sometimes we do things to do

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to find our place to be in a place of

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acceptance by way of saying, yeah, I did it, what

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do you want to do about it?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'll do it again.

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Speaker 2: For instance, like the day that I became an artist

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on canvas was a total accident. It was because I

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spilled ink on my daily writing, and it took the

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shape of a perfect wine glass. To this day, when

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I see that picture or that painting, I go the

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hell was I thinking? Most people would rip it out

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of the journal and throw it away, but no, I

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had to preserve it because it changed my life forever.

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So in asking what the hell are you doing, maybe

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we should say what the hell would you like to

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be doing? And how much time and energy you're going

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to place into it. We've all been convinced that there

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has to be a return on the investment.

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Speaker 1: I get it, that's business. I've talked with directors.

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Speaker 2: In fact, the director of the new John Travolta movie

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mob Land, we talked about the business side of making movies.

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Speaker 1: We've talked about the business side of a grocery store.

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I get it.

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Speaker 2: There's got to be some sort of return on the investment.

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But the situation is based on one more thing, you

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yourself and the energy that you have, and how much

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of it are you willing to spend in order to

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do what the hell you want to do. When my

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wife retired from being a school teacher, the woman at

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the Social Security office said, hey, welcome to a new life.

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You now have the power of choice. I remember listening

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to that phone conversation, and I was moved by it,

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just like I was moved by the the ink spilling

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on the piece of paper that took the shape of

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a wineglass. Moved because welcome to the power of choice.

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At that moment is when I said, I will never

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work another job again. That's my choice. See, I do

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have an essential job. I do do things with the

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movie promotion company. I do do things with my mobile

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DJ service. But it's not a job. It's a choice.

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I make a choice to do that, and changing my

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mindset of what the hell am I doing it really

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gives me a better opportunity to enjoy the love that

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is shared in the things that I'm doing. Yeah, being

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at a grocery store what a pain in the ass, right?

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Not really, there's a lot of stories there. There's a

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lot of everyday average people combined with rich ass people,

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famous people, unknown people, old people, young people. They're all

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coming into this place and they've all got something to share.

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And if you take the time to listen, my god,

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the return on the investment is just mind blowing because

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you see for yourself what a true community is It's

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not like going to a church. I love me some church, okay,

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But church people they dress up and they put on

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their little candy coat of plastic, bathroom mere smiles, They

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bring the little Bible, they do things like them. But

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it's not sharing to reality now. The moment they get

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in their car after the preacher man has talked, that's

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when reality sets in. But at a grocery store, there's

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reality there. What the hell are you doing? I ask

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myself that every time I go to this grocery store,

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what the hell are you doing?

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Speaker 1: I'm being with my community.

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Speaker 2: I'm charging up my batteries as a writer, as a

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creative person, I'm like hanging out with other people that

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are also created. They're just not talking about it. I'm

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listening to their stories. I'm watching them come into the

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store at odd ball hours, and then when I say

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something to them, they're going, WHOA, You actually noticed that

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I came in here at this time?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I really did.

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Speaker 2: So on this episode of Vocal d Frag, I really

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do want you to ask the question what the hell

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are you doing? And in the moments of trying to

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come up with an an sir, the goal is to

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find yourself in a place of discovery as well as recovery,

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because your life is going to get stronger when you

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find yourself being more truthful with yourself, instead of buying

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things to cover things up, instead of going on to

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social media, and finding yourself in that place of well,

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if I say this, I've released all my statement. Hey, look,

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if there's some things that are pissing you off in

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the world, I get it. You're not supposed to talk

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about politics, you're not supposed to talk about religion.

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Speaker 1: I get it, I get it, I get it.

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Speaker 2: Then put it in a defragged journal, not necessarily a

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vocal journal, because there's a lot of stuff in the

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political world that you don't need to be saying, because

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you're going to create a storm that's going to ruin

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a lot of relationships.

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Speaker 1: Don't be doing that. What the hell are you doing?

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Speaker 2: Ask the question, question the answer, find yourself in the mirror.

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Speaker 1: I'm arrow and that's vocal. D Frak