Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm back with something for you.
Speaker 2: To think about. I've talked about.
Speaker 1: This, I believe, once before, but today I'm gonna talk
Speaker 1: about it again because obviously people need to hear it.
Speaker 1: So today I'm gonna talk about being catfished and scammed.
Speaker 1: So let's start off with being scammed. People will try
Speaker 1: to scam you no matter what age you are, and
Speaker 1: the same for catfishing. They will scam you no matter
Speaker 1: what age you are. It all depends on the.
Speaker 2: Mindset you have and who you are as.
Speaker 1: A person if you'll fall for it. See, let me
Speaker 1: just make it clear. There are some people you're gonna
Speaker 1: have to do some extra to fool them because they
Speaker 1: are locked in and you don't want to put in
Speaker 1: that work to try fooling them. It's too hard. It's
Speaker 1: too hard, too much work and effort that you will
Speaker 1: have to put in.
Speaker 2: So a lot of times people don't even bother.
Speaker 1: After a few seconds, they already know whether they can
Speaker 1: scam you or not, or you're easily targeted to be catfish.
Speaker 2: They already know it.
Speaker 1: Just after a few interactions or a few minutes.
Speaker 2: Communicating with you, they'll know. And it's so sad it's
Speaker 2: so unfortunate that people are vulnerable and fall forward.
Speaker 3: People have lost thousands, millions, hundreds of dollars because there
Speaker 3: are always the praise and the predators always.
Speaker 2: So let's talk about scammers. Scammers.
Speaker 1: Hey, scammers are oftentimes the people who are cat fishing
Speaker 1: because their goal is to get something from you that
Speaker 1: they want.
Speaker 2: They tried to scale me back.
Speaker 1: In twenty twenty three. But all baby, you know, I've
Speaker 1: been in acting, I've been counseling, facilitations, mediations.
Speaker 2: You have to bring it, and I got on them.
Speaker 2: People's nerves. They hung up on me.
Speaker 1: I got on their nerves. Actually it was so funny.
Speaker 1: I didn't laugh at the time, but I got on
Speaker 1: them people's nerves.
Speaker 2: They hung upon me. Nobody got tired for that. I
Speaker 2: work hard for my money.
Speaker 1: So anyways, people will come to you in a million
Speaker 1: different ways to scam you.
Speaker 2: They'll say that.
Speaker 1: From your bank, your business, about your children being kidnapped
Speaker 1: or a family member being kidnapped.
Speaker 2: I mean, they come with all kinds of stories. Make
Speaker 2: them prove it to you. Don't give them anything, make
Speaker 2: them prove.
Speaker 1: It to you. You become the person who's in charge.
Speaker 1: That's how you get rid of them. Tell them, okay,
Speaker 1: hold on, my husband, whomever is a police officer, hold on,
Speaker 1: let me see what they have to say. They'll hang
Speaker 1: up on you so fast, and some of them are
Speaker 1: so so you know, they're so narcissistic that they think, oh,
Speaker 1: police officer, I'll sham him or hurt too.
Speaker 2: But most times they'll back down.
Speaker 1: Or if you say you're on speak a phone and
Speaker 1: this being recorded for the police. So when people say, well,
Speaker 1: this is being recorded, okay, great, because I'm recording too.
Speaker 2: That's how you fight back.
Speaker 1: So when people come to you and try to sham you,
Speaker 1: because that's what they're doing, scamming and shamming, you make
Speaker 1: them prove whatever they're saying. If it's your bank, say no,
Speaker 1: I will not give you any information because if you
Speaker 1: the bank, you should have the information, and therefore I
Speaker 1: won't talk with you about this over the phone.
Speaker 2: I will call my bank personally, or I will go.
Speaker 1: Into my bank personally. Never discuss anything.
Speaker 2: Over the phone.
Speaker 1: You go to your bank or you call your bank,
Speaker 1: and you let your bank know what has taken place.
Speaker 1: Don't give your information over the phone. Never give your
Speaker 1: information over the phone. If you're not sure who you're
Speaker 1: talking to.
Speaker 2: I mean, these are a.
Speaker 1: Lot of professional people. All are not professional, but some
Speaker 1: of them. This is what they do for a living,
Speaker 1: scamming people. So you make them prove whatever they're saying.
Speaker 1: If someone tells you that I have your daughter or
Speaker 1: your son or whomever, make improve it.
Speaker 2: Make them prove it.
Speaker 1: Soon as they say that said, well did you know
Speaker 1: that their father or their mother was a police officer?
Speaker 1: And they're sitting right here, so what do you have
Speaker 1: to say? Make them prove it? And I know sometimes
Speaker 1: things happen and they are real. Make them prove it,
Speaker 1: you know, because in this world people are so terrible.
Speaker 2: You have children scamming their own parents, pretending they're kidnapped. It.
Speaker 1: I mean, we're in darkness. I'm telling you, we are
Speaker 1: in darkness. Bottom line is you have to know who
Speaker 1: you are as a person. You have to be strong
Speaker 1: and know that you're not a person who's easily intimidated,
Speaker 1: who's easily manipulated, none of that.
Speaker 2: No matter what people say, you can't let them shake you.
Speaker 1: Because there are people on every corner trying to scam
Speaker 1: you out of what you worked hard for. And that's
Speaker 1: a fact. So You have to be on alert every call.
Speaker 1: If someone's calling you and you don't recognize that number,
Speaker 1: don't answer it. If it's important, they will leave a message.
Speaker 1: If they don't.
Speaker 2: There you go people calling me all the time.
Speaker 1: Oh you have some days left on your your vacation.
Speaker 1: About what those things are called. I can't think of
Speaker 1: them right now. Your time share because you know at
Speaker 1: one time time shares were big, but not so much anymore.
Speaker 1: You still have time on your time sharing vacation? No,
Speaker 1: I don't because I didn't never have one. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm thinking to myself. Click up, that's what you do.
Speaker 1: Click right in their face, right in their face, because
Speaker 1: you know you didn't have a time share or you
Speaker 1: don't have one. You have to be on your p's
Speaker 1: and q's. People get emails telling you, Oh, your bank
Speaker 1: is fraud click this link. Don't click a link. Contact
Speaker 1: your bank personally. If you get an email and you
Speaker 1: see and say something like your accountants being here, hosh okay, okay.
Speaker 1: Don't give people money, Go to the police, do whatever
Speaker 1: you have to do, but don't give people money.
Speaker 2: Don't click on them links. Never do that. Never click
Speaker 2: on links. Never click on links.
Speaker 1: Ever, unless you know one hundred percent where they come from.
Speaker 2: Otherwise I don't care what they say in the email,
Speaker 2: don't click it.
Speaker 1: I get them all of the time, people saying they
Speaker 1: want to come on my podcast and all that.
Speaker 2: I don't know you. I don't know you have all
Speaker 2: of these links, you know.
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, I don't recognize any these links, so.
Speaker 2: Gotta find me some other way.
Speaker 1: In my email every single day, people trying to scam you.
Speaker 1: Your package is about to be delivered, or your package
Speaker 1: is being delivered and the number is delete, so you
Speaker 1: just have to know. All right, that's enough on that,
Speaker 1: So let's talk about this catfish and stuff.
Speaker 2: You have heard me.
Speaker 1: Say before that people do to you what you allow
Speaker 1: them to do to you. There are many people who
Speaker 1: are so vulnerable, gulliball, and they're still suffering from losses
Speaker 1: of loved ones, divorces, breakups or whatever, and they're longing,
Speaker 1: yearning for love. I've always told you love starts by
Speaker 1: you loving your self. You must love yourself in order
Speaker 1: to understand love. You must know yourself in order to
Speaker 1: know other people.
Speaker 2: It's the truth.
Speaker 1: Many people are being catfished because the people who are catfishing.
Speaker 1: They know you're vulnerable. They know instantly when they reach
Speaker 1: out to you. They know you're vulnerable because of what
Speaker 1: you say back to them, how you respond to them,
Speaker 1: how quickly you respond to them, or just how you respond.
Speaker 2: They know when they got you caught in the next.
Speaker 1: Because how quickly you warm up to them. Catfishing is
Speaker 1: something that's been going on forever for people just don't learn.
Speaker 1: People are gonna swindle out of millions of dollars, and
Speaker 1: they still don't want.
Speaker 2: To believe that they've been catfish. But I just I'm
Speaker 2: so hurt. Why are you hurt? How could you not know? Listen,
Speaker 2: when you meet.
Speaker 1: Someone in almost instantly they say I love you, red flag,
Speaker 1: red flag, that's a sign back away, back away. They
Speaker 1: will tell you they love you quickly, or they care
Speaker 1: so much about you quickly.
Speaker 2: They don't even know you.
Speaker 1: Many of you get on these websites and you communicate
Speaker 1: with people and they tell you all the good things
Speaker 1: through words. Some of you never even heard their voices.
Speaker 1: You never heard their voices, but you fall in love
Speaker 1: with the words. People can write anything they think you
Speaker 1: want to hear or read.
Speaker 2: Some of you never heard their voices.
Speaker 1: You just communicate through emails, texts, and you're soul in love,
Speaker 1: so you think, but these people always asking you for something.
Speaker 1: They're asking you for money, they're asking you for things.
Speaker 2: That is a red flag. Someone you don't even know
Speaker 2: asking you for something. Someone you don't even know asking
Speaker 2: you for money. Red flag.
Speaker 1: First of all, if you meet someone and they're asking
Speaker 1: you for money, they.
Speaker 2: Are not enhancing your life.
Speaker 1: Booboo. They're not enhancing your life when they're asking you
Speaker 1: for money or things.
Speaker 2: That tells you a lot about who they are. They
Speaker 2: mean you no good.
Speaker 1: So think about that the next time you want to
Speaker 1: send someone on something because they ask you.
Speaker 4: If they are asking you, they are not there to
Speaker 4: enhance your life.
Speaker 1: Don't fall for that craft they telling you.
Speaker 5: You know, well, I have this business and I'm a
Speaker 5: little short on money, and you know, uh no, no, no,
Speaker 5: and no, don't.
Speaker 2: Fall for it. Don't fall for it.
Speaker 1: Always remember, if they don't enhance your life, you don't
Speaker 1: need them. They're gonna tell you that they've been detained.
Speaker 1: They're waiting on money, you know, I mean, they're gonna
Speaker 1: give you all kind of sob stories. I need this
Speaker 1: amount of money and it's normally thousands.
Speaker 2: I need this amount of money before they let me go.
Speaker 2: It's lies. It is lies, lies, lies.
Speaker 1: Lies, and guess what if they don't have the money themselves.
Speaker 1: A red flag, red flag, red flag if they're telling
Speaker 1: you they're businessmen and business women, but they're asking you
Speaker 1: for money, Wake up, wake up. That's a red flag.
Speaker 2: If they say I was in.
Speaker 1: A wreck, or my daughter or my son were in
Speaker 1: a wreck, or anybody were in a wreck.
Speaker 2: Red flag.
Speaker 6: That's their biggest, biggest, biggest lie.
Speaker 2: There was a wreck. They're taking care of the person.
Speaker 1: They can't make it to you because they're taking care
Speaker 1: of the person because there's a wreck and.
Speaker 2: It's just draining them financially. See, people love love, love
Speaker 2: pulling on your emotional streams. They work on.
Speaker 1: Your emotions and your feelings because they know that's what
Speaker 1: gets to people. They know how to dangle carrots in
Speaker 1: front of you because they know that people fall due
Speaker 1: to their emotions and their.
Speaker 2: Inability to say no.
Speaker 1: They know just by talking to you a little bit
Speaker 1: that they can get what they want from you. Remember,
Speaker 1: I always say, you create the monsters in your life
Speaker 1: when people tell you sweet sweet nothings and.
Speaker 2: You fall for them.
Speaker 1: You're creating that monster. When they ask you for money
Speaker 1: and don't even know you and you give it. You
Speaker 1: creating that monster when they tell you quickly how much
Speaker 1: they care about you or how much they love you,
Speaker 1: and you believe it. That follows on you because you
Speaker 1: should know better. You should know better. See, you gotta
Speaker 1: get out of your feelings in your emotions and think clearly.
Speaker 1: You must think clearly when people are asking you for
Speaker 1: all of these things and they don't know.
Speaker 2: You, they never met you, red flag.
Speaker 1: Even if they had met you, or you know, you communicated, they.
Speaker 2: Saw your faith. Except it don't matter.
Speaker 1: If they're asking you for stop, that's a red flag
Speaker 1: because never ever ever forget what I've said.
Speaker 2: People should enhance your life.
Speaker 1: So if you're the one who have to give, give,
Speaker 1: givet that is a red flag. People can say the
Speaker 1: most beautiful things and mean none of it, none of it.
Speaker 1: Some of you been talking to people literally for years,
Speaker 1: you've never seen their face, never seen their face. If
Speaker 1: someone send you a picture, take that picture and make
Speaker 1: a picture of that picture, meaning take a picture of
Speaker 1: the picture that they sent you, or download that picture
Speaker 1: and do a Google search. Do a Google image search
Speaker 1: of that picture. If they're on social media, you're gonna
Speaker 1: find that picture, probably more than likely because they just
Speaker 1: stole it from somebody else. I'm talking about people who
Speaker 1: don't want you to see their face. If they send
Speaker 1: you a picture, do a Google image search. It's easy
Speaker 1: to do. Download the picture to your phone, and then
Speaker 1: you're gonna hit the share, but you're gonna hit Google.
Speaker 1: You can do a Google image search. Start doing that.
Speaker 1: If they tell you that, oh, my camera broke or
Speaker 1: something that's going on where they can't see you, that's.
Speaker 2: A red flag.
Speaker 1: Don't keep handling them, well, I wanna see your fast
Speaker 1: stop it, because they showing you who they are. They're
Speaker 1: showing you when they make all of these excuses there's
Speaker 1: been a wreck, I'm in detention, you know, I'm.
Speaker 2: Just running long cash.
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 2: Red flag, red flag.
Speaker 1: You must get out of your feelings and your emotions
Speaker 1: so you can see clearly. And if you never think
Speaker 1: of anything that I've said, think of one thing. If
Speaker 1: they are not enhancing your life, they're taken from you.
Speaker 1: No one needs that, No one needs that type of partner.
Speaker 1: You need somebody who enhances your life, just as you
Speaker 1: enhance theirs. But if someone is asking you for money
Speaker 1: and for things that's not enhancing your life, they are
Speaker 1: suckering you. They are swindling you. They are scamming you
Speaker 1: because they want something that you have. Stop being just
Speaker 1: gullible when you know you have the signs writing in
Speaker 1: front of your face.
Speaker 4: Some of you run to people and you want them
Speaker 4: to find out if.
Speaker 1: A person is is catfish and you are swindling you,
Speaker 1: you already know they are.
Speaker 2: That's why you run into somebody you already know.
Speaker 1: You don't have to pay your money to go to
Speaker 1: someone else when you already know the truth. You have
Speaker 1: to look at yourself and figure out why you're.
Speaker 2: Falling for those type of people.
Speaker 1: Why are you falling for people who you know mean
Speaker 1: you no good?
Speaker 2: Why are you.
Speaker 1: Falling for people who are trying to take and take
Speaker 1: and take from you because they will take everything you
Speaker 1: have if you give it.
Speaker 2: Everything. I really want you to think about it.
Speaker 7: Too many people are losing money, too many people, hundreds thousands,
Speaker 7: millions of dollars because they can't see past their hearts.
Speaker 2: And their fun healed minds. When the signs are right
Speaker 2: there in your face, right in your face.
Speaker 1: You refuse to believe or accept what you see any time,
Speaker 1: any time a person is just asking, asking, asking, making
Speaker 1: excuse after excuse after excuse, red flag, you don't have
Speaker 1: to accept it.
Speaker 2: It's the truth.
Speaker 1: A person who love you, they're gonna give to you
Speaker 1: just like you give to them.
Speaker 2: It's not gonna be take, take, take.
Speaker 1: Many people are in one side of relationships right now.
Speaker 2: Who give all of their heart, all.
Speaker 1: Of everything, get nothing in return but headache, heartache, and pain.
Speaker 1: Whatever you sign up for is what you're gonna get.
Speaker 1: Whatever you allow is what you're gonna get. Whatever you
Speaker 1: accept is what you're going to get, and oftentimes.
Speaker 2: Much much more.
Speaker 1: People always want to say I didn't sign up for it,
Speaker 1: but you did, You really did, because when you signed
Speaker 1: up for that little mess, you just didn't realize what.
Speaker 2: Else was coming along with it. You teach people how
Speaker 2: they can treat you. When you keep giving.
Speaker 1: Money from people who's asking over and over and over,
Speaker 1: and you keep doing it, you have taught them how
Speaker 1: to treat you. You live how you want to live,
Speaker 1: but you can't blame no one but yourself when you
Speaker 1: allow people.
Speaker 6: To swindle you. You have to love yourself enough to
Speaker 6: know love, to know what it is and what it isn't,
Speaker 6: and that's definitely not love. If they're not there to
Speaker 6: enhance your life, that's the wrong person.
Speaker 1: And as I said earlier, you do what you wanna do,
Speaker 1: You live how you want to live. But I promise
Speaker 1: you will never find happiness. And no one who means
Speaker 1: you no good. That's all I'm saying. I'm leaving it
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