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<v Speaker 1>And here we go with a Minnesota good bye. Good

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<v Speaker 1>morning is our first email says good morning, well, good morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Want to write in and let you know. My baby

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<v Speaker 1>girl has already won. She had her birthday party last weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>She did great.

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<v Speaker 1>Now the reason she brings this up is because she

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<v Speaker 1>sent us. She came to the state Fair and we

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<v Speaker 1>met her little baby girl last summer. And there's a

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<v Speaker 1>picture of me holding the baby girl and her name

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<v Speaker 1>is Christine. The baby I don't know what the baby's

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<v Speaker 1>name is, but little baby Christine or the baby is.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm holding the baby and the baby's doing the baby

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<v Speaker 1>thing where they put their hands on your face. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they're dirty, little gritty baby little hands, baby little hand.

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't mind. I've had I've had worse on

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<v Speaker 1>my face.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I bet a lot of moms understand this feeling. But

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<v Speaker 1>I did not expect to get emotional. At her birthday party.

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<v Speaker 1>We sat down, gave her her smash cake, saying happy Birthday.

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<v Speaker 1>She loved the attention, was smiling while singing. Something came

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<v Speaker 1>over me and I started to get teary eyed. She

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<v Speaker 1>is my first born. So this year has been full

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<v Speaker 1>of ups and downs, learning how to be a mother,

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<v Speaker 1>learning how to take care of myself and my needs

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<v Speaker 1>on top of taking care of a little human baby,

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<v Speaker 1>making sure your spouse is happy, the house is clean,

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<v Speaker 1>there's dinner on the table. The list could go on

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<v Speaker 1>and on. Our lives turned upside down. We're doing all

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<v Speaker 1>of that at the same time, watching our bundle of

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<v Speaker 1>joy grow, meet milestones and turn from a little alien

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<v Speaker 1>into a little person. It got to me and I

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<v Speaker 1>teared up.

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<v Speaker 2>Dave.

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<v Speaker 1>I would ask, does watching them grow get easier from here?

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<v Speaker 1>But I already know the answer. It's no, it won't

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<v Speaker 1>be easier. Hopefully I can keep my tears in after

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<v Speaker 1>we sing Happy Birthday next year. Haha. Just want to

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<v Speaker 1>throw it out there to all first time moms this year,

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<v Speaker 1>you got this, you can do it. You're doing amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>And to all the alumni moms out there, I admire you,

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, and now have a big old glass of

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<v Speaker 1>wine and relax. You deserve it. Yes, And she said,

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<v Speaker 1>I have another question now, but it's really a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit irrelevant to the show, so we'll save that for

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<v Speaker 1>another time. And she wants say Minnesota goodbye, sticker, so

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<v Speaker 1>we will send her in Minnesota goodbye sticker. Thank you, Christine,

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen. It's really weird because I think the best

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<v Speaker 1>analogy is when you're a kid, you can't imagine graduating

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<v Speaker 1>from high school because it's so far down the road.

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<v Speaker 1>Even when you're in eighth grade, graduating from high school,

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<v Speaker 1>that's so far down the road, until one day you

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<v Speaker 1>graduate from high school. I never thought this day would come,

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<v Speaker 1>but here I am. It's high school graduation and it's

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit emotionally overwhelming because you can't quite absorb

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that you're done.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and it's a milestone, so it's like, Okay, well

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<v Speaker 3>what's next kind of thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and you couldn't.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's the same with raising kids, because when you're

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<v Speaker 1>in the thick of things, you can't ever imagine that

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<v Speaker 1>one day and you know it'll come where your kids

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<v Speaker 1>are grown and they're out of the house and you

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<v Speaker 1>know it's coming, and you try to Like I remember

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<v Speaker 1>when Carson was little, I knew he was my last one,

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<v Speaker 1>and I remember specifically sitting into the kitchen going, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to hang on to this moment because there he

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<v Speaker 1>was doing something next to me, like building legos or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>and I said, I want to hang on to this

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<v Speaker 1>moment and make it last. Well, you can't. You remember

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<v Speaker 1>the moments for sure, but then one day you will

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<v Speaker 1>realize that that moment is there when all your kids

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<v Speaker 1>are grown and they're gone, and it is. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>hard thing. It's a hard adjustment. But at the same time,

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<v Speaker 1>I think the one thing that really helped me was

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<v Speaker 1>realizing how excited Carson was to be eighteen, graduated and

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<v Speaker 1>going to college.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because it.

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<v Speaker 1>Wasn't happy for me, But then I realized it's not

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<v Speaker 1>about me, It's about him.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh man, I'm telling you, if I ever become a parent,

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going to struggle so much with milestones and stuff

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<v Speaker 4>like that because I'm such a nostalgic person. When we

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<v Speaker 4>were seniors in high school, there was a group of

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<v Speaker 4>us that ran our school store because we were selected

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<v Speaker 4>from the Decca class, and I would get emotional, like

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<v Speaker 4>months leading up, like this is so sad. These are

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<v Speaker 4>our final days in high school. Like we're all going

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<v Speaker 4>around the state to different states. We're never going to

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<v Speaker 4>see each other for college and stuff, and everyone would

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<v Speaker 4>make fun of me and I'm like no, but seriously,

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<v Speaker 4>like these are like the moment. So I just I

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<v Speaker 4>picture myself if I ever become a mother, just struggling

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<v Speaker 4>with all the miles. So I'm like, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 4>Definitely the moving out after high school, well.

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<v Speaker 1>That'll be yare hard. It is hard, but there's also

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of lasts. So during Carson's senior year, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, this is his last Christmas concert, this is

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<v Speaker 1>his last spring break, this is his last whatever it is.

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<v Speaker 1>But I will tell you, you get through it, and

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<v Speaker 1>you and you see them grow and you see them,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, become their own person, and you're kind of

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<v Speaker 1>glad for him because you don't want the alternative where

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<v Speaker 1>they stay home and they work at Jimmy John's and

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<v Speaker 1>live in the basement, play video games and masturbate all day.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that would be rough.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, you never know, Carson might come home at some point. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>my younger sister's living at home right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a sister that moved back to my mom

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<v Speaker 1>and dad's house, probably six or eight times. She would

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<v Speaker 1>move out and then she would move back. I think

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<v Speaker 1>she was probably even like forty ish years old. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and still off and on living at mom and dad's house.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, my mom would love it if I moved

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<v Speaker 3>back in just so she would have someone to hang

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<v Speaker 3>out with. Yeah, yeah, I will not.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you move back in, I know you won't

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<v Speaker 1>of course. But if you move back in because you

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<v Speaker 1>were broken, lazy and played video games all day in

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<v Speaker 1>the basement, she would not like you. But if you

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<v Speaker 1>move back in because Mom, I just miss you and

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<v Speaker 1>love you so much, and you're successful, and maybe it's

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<v Speaker 1>a different story. Okay, next one, Dave Jenny Bailey Vant.

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<v Speaker 1>But we were talking the other day about when somebody

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<v Speaker 1>is like sick or had a miscarriage, what do you

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<v Speaker 1>say to them? What do you not say to them?

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<v Speaker 1>So Becka says, I'm celebrating my eighth anniversary of being

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<v Speaker 1>diasing ghosted with breast cancer. I'm happy to say I'm

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<v Speaker 1>cancer free and living a great life. Oftentimes we have family, friends, neighbors, coworkers, etc.

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<v Speaker 1>That encounter a challenging time in their life. Eight years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>I learned a very valuable lesson. Instead of let me

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<v Speaker 1>know if there's anything I can do, do this instead

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<v Speaker 1>what evening works best for you and your family? For

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<v Speaker 1>me to drop off a pizza? Oh okay, I'll text

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<v Speaker 1>the menu. Here's the menu. What days the best Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>oring get sandwiches or tell them I'll drop off or

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<v Speaker 1>pick up for sports activities. Okay, so little Tyler's got soccer. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>little Samantha's got baseball or soccer, whatever it is. Can

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<v Speaker 1>what time can I pick them up?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>So you're offering instead of because now you're saying something specific.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, yeah, so your friend doesn't feel weird like going, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>Samantha's got basketball?

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<v Speaker 2>Can you pick her up?

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<v Speaker 3>Right? Exactly? Something specific is going to make it to

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<v Speaker 3>where the people don't have to make decision themselves, because

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<v Speaker 3>if they have to make it themselves, I'll probably be like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh no, I don't need any help. It's fine. If

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<v Speaker 3>you say can I help you, they'll be like no

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<v Speaker 3>versus when can I do this? And you kind of

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<v Speaker 3>give them no option.

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<v Speaker 1>When I was younger, I learned that when somebody dies,

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<v Speaker 1>like if your spouse dies or something that, or somebody

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<v Speaker 1>dies in your family or your household, God forbid, that

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<v Speaker 1>people would bring buy food, bring by cast roles, bring

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<v Speaker 1>by pizza, And I always thought, why why can't they

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<v Speaker 1>make their own fucking cast role? Then I realized, as

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<v Speaker 1>I got older and more mature, that that's the last

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<v Speaker 1>thing that you want to do is on your mind.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're mourning the loss of your spouse who died

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<v Speaker 1>suddenly or slowly, the last thing you want to do

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<v Speaker 1>is go in the kitchen and put something together for

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<v Speaker 1>the family. So that's why people bring hot dish and

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<v Speaker 1>pizza and meat loaf by the house heat. What I'm

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get at is do something. Don't write it

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<v Speaker 1>off as please, let me know what I can do

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<v Speaker 1>to help. Be specific and forward. That way they can't

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<v Speaker 1>say no. That's it. Love you guys, thanks for making

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<v Speaker 1>my mornings more awesome. That is from Becca. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>Beccat's see what else we got here? Dan from Apple Valley.

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<v Speaker 1>You remember Dan. He's a big supporter of the show.

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<v Speaker 1>It is his birthday on Saturday. We won't be here

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<v Speaker 1>and he wants a shout out. He says, Hey, Dave,

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<v Speaker 1>Jenny Bailey and the occasional vont Dan here from Apple

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<v Speaker 1>Valley want to give myself a quick shout out. It's

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<v Speaker 1>my forty for the third birthday on Saturday, which means

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<v Speaker 1>my birthday is two twenty two eighty two. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>reading you Dart Liquors. All right for now and then

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<v Speaker 1>it day? Yeah, Happy birthday, Dan, We love you.

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<v Speaker 4>Shout out Dan. I have the license plate sign he

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<v Speaker 4>made for me hanging up in our basement, says Jenny.

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<v Speaker 4>Jenny in the morning, zoo adorable.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So then the last thing, because we're out of emails,

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<v Speaker 1>So the last thing we're going to talk about is

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<v Speaker 1>something I was discussing with Bailey earlier and that I

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<v Speaker 1>forget how we got into this, but it was like,

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<v Speaker 1>how young is too young for me to date? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not dating anybody. I'm happily married. I'm married.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm married.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, what now, Well I've been happily.

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<v Speaker 1>Married for eighteen years, yeah, but married for twenty five

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<v Speaker 1>begin So we were just kind of joking around and saying, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm giving Bailey a hard time. I'm like, oh, well,

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<v Speaker 1>here's the rule. A guy should be able to date

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<v Speaker 1>somebody half his age plus seven. For me, that would

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<v Speaker 1>be thirty eight years old. So I could, at my

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<v Speaker 1>day age date a thirty eight year old woman.

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<v Speaker 2>No, why not?

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<v Speaker 3>Because that's way too young. That's younger than your some

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<v Speaker 3>of your children, So why not?

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<v Speaker 2>Cares?

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<v Speaker 3>No, that's too young.

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<v Speaker 4>I do think that rules should be that they have

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<v Speaker 4>the woman has to be older than your your oldest child.

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<v Speaker 2>What does my kids have to do with anything?

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<v Speaker 4>I just think it's weird to date someone who could

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<v Speaker 4>have well was maybe a fetus when your child was

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<v Speaker 4>in diapers already.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, now let's let's do let's do let's do your

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<v Speaker 1>your situation, Jenny. So let's do a little bit of

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<v Speaker 1>backwards math. So you're thirty four minus seven would take

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<v Speaker 1>you down to twenty seven. Double twenty seven would be

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<v Speaker 1>fifty four. Would you date a fifty four year old guy.

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<v Speaker 4>At this point in my life? Maybe if you would

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<v Speaker 4>have asked me, like in my twenties, and oh I

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<v Speaker 4>the person and I have a connection, then yeah, I

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<v Speaker 3>Fifty four is so old. If you're old enough to

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<v Speaker 1>You would old enough barely feel that he'd be barely

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<v Speaker 2>I mean if he had me at twenty yeah, barely

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<v Speaker 2>still still like, what if he had you at fifteen?

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<v Speaker 1>He had you at fifteen fifteen, so now you're boy,

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<v Speaker 1>Now he's forty six or so.

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<v Speaker 3>See, I feel like that's that's different because yes, he's

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<v Speaker 3>old enough to be my dad, but it's when he

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<v Speaker 3>then No.

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<v Speaker 4>When I was twenty three, I went home with some

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<v Speaker 4>guy who was I think forty at the time. Uh

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<v Speaker 4>met him at a bar in Uptown. Went home whatever,

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<v Speaker 4>beautiful Lake of the Isles house.

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<v Speaker 3>Nice.

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<v Speaker 4>It wasn't his house. He was off friends citty in

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<v Speaker 4>but he was really awesome and nice and respectful and attractive.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, he was forty.

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<v Speaker 2>Laying the pipe? Could he lay the pipe?

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<v Speaker 4>We didn't. We didn't go that far.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, gotcha?

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<v Speaker 4>But he and so I think, thanks.

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<v Speaker 2>For letting me use the term later like that.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but so, but I thought, like in my head

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<v Speaker 4>it was kind of a mental game of like was

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<v Speaker 4>that kind of fucking weird? Like he's significantly older than me?

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<v Speaker 4>And then I was like no, Like we chatted at

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<v Speaker 4>the bar, had like great conversation, went home, hung out.

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<v Speaker 4>His buddy was with us. It wasn't like that, but

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<v Speaker 4>like we hung out and made food and then I

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<v Speaker 4>That was like the end of it.

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<v Speaker 2>But no, that's that's cool.

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<v Speaker 1>And it didn't you know, didn't turn into anything, but

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<v Speaker 1>you weren't grossed out and you didn't go, God, he's

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<v Speaker 1>old enough to beat my dad. Let's take it and

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<v Speaker 1>turn it around the other way. Forty year old woman

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<v Speaker 1>goes down with a what twenty three year old? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>twenty three year old guy. Would you look at her

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<v Speaker 1>and go, oh, that's gross. Let's say a fifty year

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, is that gross?

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<v Speaker 4>I feel like I don't think it's gross. I think

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<v Speaker 4>it works equal ways. But I think society would say

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<v Speaker 4>that that woman's desperate was just kind of sad and

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<v Speaker 1>What the older woman's desperate? Yeah, oh, I think she's

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<v Speaker 1>living her best life. But she's going out and get

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<v Speaker 1>some of that young pipe pipe, Let her have a

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<v Speaker 2>I see her as desperate at all.

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<v Speaker 4>I am saying I don't see her as desperate. I

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<v Speaker 4>think that society can make women seem more desperate, though,

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<v Speaker 4>when they're dating young people.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I will tell you this. When I

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<v Speaker 1>but she was hot. Experience and she played Nintendo. She

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<v Speaker 1>played Bubble Bubble, and so we kind of hit it off.

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<v Speaker 1>She was funny. But here's the interesting thing. She had

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<v Speaker 1>and she got married when she was like fourteen and

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<v Speaker 1>had kids when she was fifteen. So I went over

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<v Speaker 1>Oh shit, here comes her boyfriend into the house that's

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<v Speaker 1>younger than them. They were like, you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Dave, No, it's awkward.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was really awkward. But then they realized that

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<v Speaker 1>I was, you know, pretty normal guy, and they thought

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<v Speaker 1>I was fine, and they're probably like, get it, get it, mom,

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<v Speaker 1>did it?

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<v Speaker 2>Get it?

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<v Speaker 3>My grandpa ended up marrying a woman who was thirty

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<v Speaker 3>six years younger than him. Thirty six yep, really awkward.

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<v Speaker 3>And my mom just hated it because she was like ten,

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<v Speaker 3>if not fifteen, years younger than my mom.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow, what happened with her?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, they were married for a long they were married.

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<v Speaker 3>Then they were married for a long time. She this

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<v Speaker 3>is wild. She ended up having a baby, definitely with

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<v Speaker 3>another man, but my grandpa thought it was his.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yes, how did you know it was another man?

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<v Speaker 3>Because it was half black and a white Man. Yeah. Wow, wow, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>pretty exciting, pretty wild on that side of the Fanmily.

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<v Speaker 2>So what happened after she had the baby?

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<v Speaker 3>They he like stuck around because he thought it was

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<v Speaker 3>like free child care because he was old, so he

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't working or anything. And then they like moved all around.

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<v Speaker 3>He ended up moving back here for a while, like

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<v Speaker 3>we convinced him to move back here. He lived with

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<v Speaker 3>my mom for a while, but then he ended up

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<v Speaker 3>going back to where his quote unquote kid was and

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<v Speaker 3>died in California with his by by his kid and

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<v Speaker 3>by his ex wife because they had gotten a divorced

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<v Speaker 3>by that point. But it was pretty wild, pretty wild

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<v Speaker 3>story for my grandpa.

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<v Speaker 4>Did that kid grow up thinking that was his dad?

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>At some point you probably had to realize.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, maybe I'm not really sure the details because I

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't like there and I never met that kid.

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<v Speaker 4>So what does that kid to you? Is that a cousin? No, No, it.

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<v Speaker 3>Would technically be ant, but no blood relation.

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<v Speaker 4>So zero blood relation.

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<v Speaker 3>But right, if it had actually been my grandpa's kid,

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<v Speaker 1>Now, oh wow, yeah, Okay, that's weird. If you got

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<v Speaker 1>any stories about weird things in your family, send it

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<v Speaker 1>to us. And you know, I don't know. There's always

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<v Speaker 1>been like a little bit of an inkling that I

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<v Speaker 1>was not my dad's kid. Because the funny thing is,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm twenty percent Asian. I look a lot like my mom,

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<v Speaker 1>nothing like my siblings, but I do look a little

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<v Speaker 1>like my dad. So Susan likes to joke like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>your mom was like definitely sleeping with somebody else beside

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<v Speaker 1>your dad. And it's possible because where did the twenty

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<v Speaker 1>percent Asian come from? I'm not sure, but I do

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<v Speaker 1>look nothing like my siblings, and my cousins all have

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<v Speaker 1>a very strong family look. They all look the same.

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<v Speaker 1>I look nothing like them. So I don't know, But

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<v Speaker 1>to me it doesn't matter. My dad was my dad,

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<v Speaker 1>and I will always believe that he runs my biological dad,

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<v Speaker 1>and he'd probably be really pissed and hurt if he

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<v Speaker 1>heard me having this conversation right now. So what about you,

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<v Speaker 1>any weird family stories, any histories. I think it's pretty common.

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<v Speaker 1>I think I heard somewhere that one in nine men

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<v Speaker 1>is raising a kid that is not theirs that they

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<v Speaker 1>think is theirs. One in nine. And I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if that's a nationwide or just in world. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what it is, but if you have any stories

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<v Speaker 1>about that, send him in. That could be a good

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<v Speaker 1>little branch of topics on the Minnesota Goodbye. Send that

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<v Speaker 1>into Ryan's show at kadiwb dot com.