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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building and golachieving. This

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<v Speaker 1>is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host Paul

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<v Speaker 1>fella Aledo.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everyone, and welcome to the seven Minute Leadership Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's episode seven eighty five. I want to share a

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<v Speaker 2>quote with you that stopped me in my tracks. After

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<v Speaker 2>Norway was eliminated from the twenty twenty six FIFA World Cup,

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<v Speaker 2>Arling Holland stood in front of reporters and said this,

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<v Speaker 2>in life, everything is a win when experience is the goal.

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<v Speaker 2>Think about that for a moment. Not everything is a

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<v Speaker 2>win when the scoreboard says you won. Not everything is

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<v Speaker 2>a win when you get promoted. Not everything is a

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<v Speaker 2>win when you hit your sales target. Not everything is

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<v Speaker 2>a win when your organization breaks another record. Sometimes the

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<v Speaker 2>biggest win comes when none of those things happen. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>the greatest trophy you earn is something nobody can put

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<v Speaker 2>in a display case experience. That statement completely changes how

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<v Speaker 2>we should think about leadership. Too many leaders define success

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<v Speaker 2>with outcomes. Did we hit the numbers, did we finish first,

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<v Speaker 2>did we get the contract, did we beat the competition?

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<v Speaker 2>Those things matter, They always will. The problem starts when

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<v Speaker 2>an outcomes become the only scoreboard that counts, Because if

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<v Speaker 2>every setback becomes a loss, people eventually stop taking risks.

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<v Speaker 2>They stop volunteering, they stop trying new ideas, they stop

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<v Speaker 2>speaking up. They play defense instead of offense. Great organizations

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<v Speaker 2>don't eliminate failure. They eliminate the fear of failure. Every

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<v Speaker 2>experienced leader listening today knows this. Your career wasn't built

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<v Speaker 2>from a perfect record. It was built from thousands of

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<v Speaker 2>moments where something didn't go according to plan. As a paramedic,

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<v Speaker 2>I've walked out of calls wishing I could replay every decision.

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<v Speaker 2>As a pilot, I've landed and immediately started critiquing my

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<v Speaker 2>own flight, not because anything went wrong, because experience is

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<v Speaker 2>the greatest instructor you'll ever have. The cockpit teaches you

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<v Speaker 2>to debrief, Emergency services teaches you to debrief, The military

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<v Speaker 2>teaches you to debrief. Elite sports teach you to debrief.

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<v Speaker 2>Leadership should do the same. Instead of asking did we win?

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<v Speaker 2>Ask what did we learn? That's a much more valuable conversation.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's something I've noticed. The best leaders I know don't

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<v Speaker 2>waste much time protecting their ego. They're busy protecting the lesson.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a huge difference. Ego says, don't let anybody know

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<v Speaker 2>you made a mistake. Experience says, let's make sure nobody

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<v Speaker 2>has to repeat it. One creates fear, the other creates growth. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>imagine if your organization became known as the place where

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<v Speaker 2>learning happened faster than anywhere else. Employees wouldn't be afraid

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<v Speaker 2>to innovate, Managers wouldn't hide problems. Teams wouldn't spend meetings

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<v Speaker 2>pointing fingers. They'd spend meetings collecting experience. That changes everything.

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<v Speaker 2>And I also think this quote explains why some people

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<v Speaker 2>plateau in leadership. They worked somewhere for twenty years, they

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<v Speaker 2>held the same title, they attended every meeting, They've collected

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<v Speaker 2>plenty of time. Time isn't experience. Reflection creates experience. Two

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<v Speaker 2>people can live through the the exact same event. One

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<v Speaker 2>walks away older, the other walks away wiser. The difference

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<v Speaker 2>is what they chose to do with what happened. I

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<v Speaker 2>want you to think back to your own career. The

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<v Speaker 2>difficult boss, the impossible customer, the failed interview, the project,

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<v Speaker 2>the crash, the employee who quit, or the promotion you

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<v Speaker 2>didn't receive. At the time, those moments probably felt like losses.

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<v Speaker 2>Looking back today, many of them became turning points. You

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<v Speaker 2>became more patient, more observant, more resilient, more prepared. The

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<v Speaker 2>event didn't make you stronger, The experience did. That's why

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<v Speaker 2>leadership isn't about avoiding disappointment. It's about extracting value from disappointment.

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<v Speaker 2>And there's another lesson hidden inside Holland's quote. Notice he

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<v Speaker 2>said everything is a win. Everything not so everything that

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<v Speaker 2>means criticism can become a win. Failure can become a win,

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<v Speaker 2>rejection can become a win. Starting over can become a win.

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<v Speaker 2>The only requirement is deciding that experience is the objective.

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<v Speaker 2>I've always believed leadership is one long apprenticeship. None of

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<v Speaker 2>us graduates. We're constantly adding pages to a notebook that

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<v Speaker 2>no one else can write for us. Every conversation, every conflict,

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<v Speaker 2>every success, every mistake, every difficult decision, they're all adding

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<v Speaker 2>another page. The question isn't whether life is teaching you.

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<v Speaker 2>Life is teaching you every single day. The question is

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<v Speaker 2>whether you're paying attention. That's why I encourage leaders to

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<v Speaker 2>keep some kind of leadership journal. Write down what happened,

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<v Speaker 2>write down what surprised you, Write down what you wish

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<v Speaker 2>you would have handled differently. Over time, you'll build something

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<v Speaker 2>more valuable than a resume. You'll build wisdom. Wisdom doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>come from collecting birthdays. It comes from collecting experiences and

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<v Speaker 2>refusing to waste them. So the next time your team

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<v Speaker 2>falls short of a goal, don't rush to declare failure.

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<v Speaker 2>Ask better questions. What surprised us, what did we overlook?

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<v Speaker 2>What will we never do again? What will we absolutely repeat?

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<v Speaker 2>Those questions transform disappointment into momentum. Every championship team review

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<v Speaker 2>reviews game film, every airline investigates incidents. Every successful business

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<v Speaker 2>studies its setbacks. Leadership deserves the same discipline. So today

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<v Speaker 2>I want to leave you with this challenge. Redefine what

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<v Speaker 2>winning means. Celebrate the victories, absolutely raise the trophy, enjoy

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<v Speaker 2>the moment. At the same time, don't overlook the invisible trophies,

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<v Speaker 2>the lessons, the perspective, the confidence, the maturity, the judgment

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<v Speaker 2>that only experience can provide, Because one day you'll discover

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<v Speaker 2>something remarkable. The experiences you once wished had never happened

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<v Speaker 2>became the very things that made you the leader people

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<v Speaker 2>trust today. So as you head into your next meeting,

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<v Speaker 2>your next project, or your next difficult conversation, remember Irling

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<v Speaker 2>Holland's words in life, everything is a win when experience

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<v Speaker 2>is the goal. If you make experience your objective, you'll

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<v Speaker 2>discover that very few days are ever wasted. And if

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