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Speaker 1: Retirement. When you think of retirement, what comes to mind?

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For me? I think of being at our trailer where

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we back onto this beautiful, amazing creek. It's my happy place.

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When you think about retirement, what comes to mind, freedom, travel,

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more time for your family. Well that's all part of it,

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for sure, But what no one really prepares you for

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is the transformation that begins the day you step away

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from work. Retirement isn't just the end of a career.

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It's the beginning of something deeper, something that can be

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so rewarding, and sometimes it's not what you expected at all.

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I'm Marien Debransky. This is life starts at retirement. I

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produce a retirement lifestyle video every Saturday at noon. Now,

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for most people, the first few weeks of retirement just

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feels like a vacation. No more early alarm clocks, no

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more meetings, no more deadlines. You sleep in, you catch

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up on the TV shows, maybe even take a trip

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that you've been putting off. But then but then something changes,

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or at least for me, it did. It seemed like

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it was there was no warning. One day I was like, whooh,

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I get to sleep in, And the next day it

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was Oh, my goodness, how am I going to fill

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my day today? There was no more structure, there was

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no more routine and the purpose that really defined me,

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and I have to say it did. I was shocked.

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Even if it didn't love your job, it's suddenly gone.

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You realize that no one needs you to show up

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anywhere at any time, no one's waiting for a report,

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no one's asking you to do anything, and so you

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start just questioning yourself by saying, who am I now?

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And that's a question that can hit you harder than expected.

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I remember the first time after I retired that someone

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new introduced Hi, my name is and I said Hi,

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I'm Moring Debranski and they say, oh, what do you do?

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I didn't know what to say. I stumbled my way

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through it and I said something like, oh, I used

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to be a sales manager. But that's ridiculous. Why I

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still question that? Why couldn't I say I'm retired. I

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don't know. Maybe I thought retirement was only for old,

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useless people, which is ridiculous, But I'm still not sure

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why I couldn't say I'm retired, but just be prepared

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for changes like that. Now, if you think about it though,

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and this is huge. Retirement really is the first time,

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or it was for me, the first time in my

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adult life that I didn't have to be or do

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anything for anyone but myself. Ooh, and that for me

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again was a little bit terrifying, but so freeing. Many

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of us start reflecting on the decades that we spent working.

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You know, we raised our kids, we built a life,

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we played the kids, played hockey, we went fishing. But

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now what it's like someone gave me a blank canvas

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with no instructions, with no paint brushes, with no paint

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and I didn't quite know what to do about it.

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And this is really the part that no one talks about.

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They all say, retirement, your golden years, go enjoy it.

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But all of a sudden, for me, I had an

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identity crisis. I had many, many moments of doubts. I

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missed not my work, I missed the people that I

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used to be with, and I really I missed the

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person that I was. I was busy, I had a purpose,

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I was someone, which sounds really ridiculous. But stay with me, though,

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because this isn't the end of the story. I think

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here for me was really where the transformation began because

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once I couldn't say I was this important person. Once

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I couldn't didn't have the schedule, once I didn't have

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the hustle. I finally got to ask myself, what do

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I do now? And that's a big question, Not what

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did my boss? What does my boss want me to do?

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Not what do my kids need me? And hopefully you

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listen to yourself, you really really listen to self. To yourself,

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I'm hoping that you'll discover a passion that you never

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had time for. You might enjoy something like of the

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smallest ritual on morning walk, an afternoon tea, a weekly

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lunch with a friend. You might enjoy and discover something

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a bit bigger getting back in shape not mean yet,

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learning a new language, or a trip you've always wanted

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to take, Or you still might find something even scarier

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and larger. Maybe you want to maybe you're going to

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write that book you've always thought about, maybe you're going

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to teach that class, or maybe you just decide to

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live halfway around the world for a month or two. Ooh,

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you see, that's where we are in this stage of life.

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We're not winding down, we're unfolding. The layers. This next quote,

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I guess is probably one of the most powerful quotes

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I've heard. It says we go from working for money

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to living for meaning. I love it. That's the key

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to your retirement, to go from working for money to

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living for meaning. You see, when we're working, most of

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us are driven, at least in part by necessity. We

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have to pay the bills. We work to support our families.

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We work so week can pay for hockey, We work

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so weekend someday retire, And whether we loved our jobs

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or just endured them, there was a clear reason to

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get up every morning the paycheck. That paycheck gave us

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a sense of worth, It gave us security, it gave

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us identity. But when you retire, that paycheck stops and

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something unexpected happens, you realize that your time is no

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longer measured in dollars. There's no promotion to chase, there's

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no quarterly bonus, there's no performance review, thank goodness. Instead,

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you begin asking yourself questions like what makes me feel alive?

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What do I want to leave behind? How can I

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make these years count? What if I always wanted to

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do but didn't have time? And that's When the shift begins,

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we go from working for money to living for meaning.

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You stop asking yourself how much is this worth? And

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you start asking yourself, is it worth my time? You

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stop filling your calendar with obligations and start filling it

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with things that fill your soul. So it doesn't often

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always have to be something big. It doesn't have to

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be a big, dramatic dream. Sometimes it's just found in

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the quiet joy of a morning routine, the peace of

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a sunset walk, or the joy of listening to your

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creek behind your trailer. When you let go of chasing money,

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you start chasing moments, You start chasing connection, You start

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chasing growth, and for me the big one, you start

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chasing peace. And that's the real retirement upgrade that no

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one talks about. And so one more powerful part of

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the transformation is you begin to live with intention, not

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to impress anybody, not to climb that corporate ladder, not

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to do anything for anyone, but you you begin to savor,

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connect and feel at peace with who you are and

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how you spend the time. Because you have nothing to

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prove to anyone, You finally are giving yourself permission just

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to be you. Retirement really is the gift of time.

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The question, though, is what will you do with that? Hmmm.

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You don't need to change the world, but you can

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change your world one choice, one moment, one adventure at

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a time. Again, I'm Marien Demuransky. This is life Starts

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at retirement. Please can sy the you're liking subscribe to

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this channel. Now go make your retirement remarkable, no matter

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what that means to you. See you next week.