Speaker 1: You're listening to KFI AM six forty on demand. Ken,
Speaker 1: Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show.
Speaker 2: How about James.
Speaker 1: You think I'm good? Ken? How are you?
Speaker 2: I'm doing very well. I had a question for you.
Speaker 2: I'm single and I want to be married, and I
Speaker 2: don't like dating. I don't I would rather The question is,
Speaker 2: can I pray that God would lead a specific girl
Speaker 2: to me or me to a specific girl, being that
Speaker 2: he being that you know everything, and you know what's
Speaker 2: around the corner and down the road, and it would
Speaker 2: be very important to me that it would be someone
Speaker 2: that would be very helpful. Sure, the soul.
Speaker 1: Mate, the right mate, Well, a few things to look at.
Speaker 1: Is one. There's nowhere in scripture that says there's one
Speaker 1: person for you until you marry them. Once you marry,
Speaker 1: that should be the person. So it's not about you know,
Speaker 1: having a soulmate s o U l mate. It's about
Speaker 1: having a soul mate, just one. So that's the important part. Now,
Speaker 1: sometimes people get caught up in looking for the perfect
Speaker 1: person so intensely that they miss all the wonderful, imperfect
Speaker 1: people just like themselves that are available. So you do
Speaker 1: a little checklist with yourself and you say, because being
Speaker 1: single and being available are two different things. You can
Speaker 1: be single and not have someone in your life and
Speaker 1: still not be emotionally at that place or intellectually at
Speaker 1: that place where you're ready to have that relationship. If
Speaker 1: you check all those things off and you say, okay,
Speaker 1: I'm ready to go, then you get. Then you move
Speaker 1: forward in prayer so that God will help you with discernment.
Speaker 1: Not about you know, just lead me to this person.
Speaker 1: You're a part, You're a participant in this. That's like
Speaker 1: you know, sitting in front of your broken down car
Speaker 1: and say, God, fix this. No, you know, guide my hand,
Speaker 1: give me the intellect, the ability, the will, the desire
Speaker 1: to learn and to make the best decision I can
Speaker 1: and to live with the consequences should I not. Those
Speaker 1: are the things that you want, is that you God's
Speaker 1: given you the tools. When you're a child and you're
Speaker 1: being raised, your parents really is given you tools. A
Speaker 1: bad parent is the one that does everything for you
Speaker 1: that's not helping you because sooner or later they're not
Speaker 1: going to be around. So God wants to give you
Speaker 1: these tools on how to decide who's good for you,
Speaker 1: and it's not just outwardly appearance. How to decide who's
Speaker 1: going to be a healthy partner and what things is it?
Speaker 1: Does that mean it's somebody that believes everything you do. No,
Speaker 1: there's going to be people. You're gonna have differences, maybe
Speaker 1: in politics or different you know, tastes in food or
Speaker 1: music or what have you. All that's okay, and then
Speaker 1: you're gonna have similarities things that you want to to,
Speaker 1: you know, share with one another. A good place to
Speaker 1: find somebody should you be looking, is in places that
Speaker 1: you like to go yourself. You know, people go to
Speaker 1: bars and things like that to meet someone, and it's
Speaker 1: what are you gonna meet there? You're gonna meet someone
Speaker 1: in a bar rather than if you like to read
Speaker 1: and you're in a library or a bookstore or something
Speaker 1: like that. You're you're more likely to meet somebody of
Speaker 1: like mind or even church. These types of things are
Speaker 1: you know, if they're a part of who you are,
Speaker 1: then they're probably going to be a part of who
Speaker 1: they are. Praying is a wonderful thing when it comes
Speaker 1: to looking for a mate. Ken just don't get into
Speaker 1: that pattern of kind of waiting for God to bring
Speaker 1: them to your doorstep, because It's not about a special delivery.
Speaker 1: It's about, you know, being confident and knowing what you
Speaker 1: want and not settling by way of.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: I see people that they get in the same bad
Speaker 1: relationships over and over again just because the man or
Speaker 1: woman is blonde hair and blue eyed. Well, that's what
Speaker 1: I like, that's what I and so they get lost
Speaker 1: in that rather than the character of the individual. And
Speaker 1: and and looking at the outward outward appearance is going
Speaker 1: to be what probably draws you in first. And these
Speaker 1: are general tools that God's already given you. It's about
Speaker 1: using them, not about necessarily God bringing them to your door.
Speaker 1: How long have you been single? Ken?
Speaker 2: For years?
Speaker 1: Three years, yes, sir. And the last relationship how long
Speaker 1: was it the lower fifteen years? And was it a marriage?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: Okay, so three years out of a fifteen year marriage.
Speaker 1: Why do you think now is the.
Speaker 2: Time that I certainly do not imply being single? Okay,
Speaker 2: I don't want to be married to be married, but
Speaker 2: I want someone special in my life and I.
Speaker 1: You.
Speaker 2: Unfortunately the marriage didn't work out.
Speaker 1: Why didn't Why didn't it work out?
Speaker 2: She fell in love with someone to help us and.
Speaker 1: She left you?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: And that's a rough one, isn't it. Yeah, that was tough,
Speaker 1: and uh, you a little gun shy this time around.
Speaker 2: I guess it would be a good way to describe it.
Speaker 1: Just remember people are individuals, Ken, and not you know,
Speaker 1: every woman's the same and not every man's the same.
Speaker 1: And and don't put the sins of yor ex wife
Speaker 1: on someone new, because that's a hard You know a
Speaker 1: lot of times guys will come out of a relationship
Speaker 1: like that and learning to trust becomes difficult. And uh,
Speaker 1: and you can't put that on the new people in
Speaker 1: your life. You kind of have to trust them and
Speaker 1: let them fall or stand as they may. But you
Speaker 1: you know what you what you're looking for. What was
Speaker 1: it about your ex wife that attracted you to her?
Speaker 2: She she wasn't necessarily Actually, my ex father in law
Speaker 2: also wanted to introduce us Vietnam me for about eight
Speaker 2: years before I ever met her, and so we introduced
Speaker 2: and we started dating and she seemed like a wonderful person.
Speaker 2: She is a wonderful person. But yeah, she she was
Speaker 2: attractive and well educated.
Speaker 1: And what do you think went wrong then? Ken?
Speaker 2: I guess maybe over a course of time we.
Speaker 1: Grew apart yeah, but that's I don't really accept that.
Speaker 1: So that's not how people work. People grow. Life is
Speaker 1: constantly going back and forth, and you're growing. People say
Speaker 1: growing apart, but really that's that's laziness, that's just people
Speaker 1: not wanting to participate in the marriage anymore. So what
Speaker 1: is it that did you lose focus and start putting
Speaker 1: your attention somewhere else? Or obviously she did, but what
Speaker 1: was it? If she's a good person, you're a good person.
Speaker 1: There's no reason why the two of you can't be together.
Speaker 1: And something along the lines there somebody stopped paying attention
Speaker 1: to someone else or stopped paying attention to themselves. There's
Speaker 1: nothing worse than watching a loved one let themselves go,
Speaker 1: whether it's physically, emotionally, or intellectually. They don't read, they
Speaker 1: don't experience things, they don't care that really can you know,
Speaker 1: lead to problems in the marriage too. But something happened
Speaker 1: along the line, Ken, And I asked you because I
Speaker 1: don't want you to bring it into the next relationship,
Speaker 1: because you play a part in it. You you understand that, right, yes? Okay?
Speaker 2: In the in the works of my sister in law
Speaker 2: who called me afterwards and talked to me. She said that,
Speaker 2: you know, I want you to know that this is
Speaker 2: not the first time that you know, what she described
Speaker 2: was nine years previous. You know, she had been seeing
Speaker 2: someone else saying as well, and she said that, you
Speaker 2: know when she talked to my wife, that she had
Speaker 2: told her years back that you know, I'm just not
Speaker 2: in love with him, and yeah, I wish I had
Speaker 2: not gotten married to him, and so, yeah, love.
Speaker 1: Is a strange thing. People expect to stay in that
Speaker 1: feeling of love and no one does. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: a process. It's something you you work into and if
Speaker 1: you don't work at it, it's like anything else, it
Speaker 1: will atrophy. But I think people use that as an
Speaker 1: excuse to kind of do what they want. Most importantly,
Speaker 1: can be introspective, look at where you played a part
Speaker 1: in that breakup, and don't bring that into the next relationship.
Speaker 1: But if you really are seeking somebody and seek the
Speaker 1: will of God, and you know, when you're going just
Speaker 1: after your own lust or after what you want, let
Speaker 1: things grow naturally and healthily and they become more stable.
Speaker 1: And make sure that the soil is good, and that
Speaker 1: means that you yourself are healthy and in a good place,
Speaker 1: and you enjoy your own company, and then that you
Speaker 1: are well versed in who you are before you go
Speaker 1: bringing someone else into that equation. Dave, Welcome to Jesus Christia.
Speaker 3: A little thank you for taking my call.
Speaker 1: I appreciate it, my pleasure.
Speaker 3: My question is is I was invited to attend a
Speaker 3: church by a friend, a coworker, and I did some
Speaker 3: inquiry on the church, and their policy is that if
Speaker 3: you are a divorced person, which I am, and it
Speaker 3: doesn't matter why you're divorced, whether you know your spouse
Speaker 3: had cheated or whether it was for some of them,
Speaker 3: you may attend services and church functions, but you are
Speaker 3: not able or allowed by their policy to hold membership.
Speaker 1: And to hold a position in leadership. Your phone broke up.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not.
Speaker 3: Allowed to hold Actually you're not allowed to hold any
Speaker 3: type of church membership at all, leadership or not. You're
Speaker 3: just allowed to attend.
Speaker 1: Oh oh that's different.
Speaker 3: Okay, So I wanted to know your thoughts on that.
Speaker 1: Well, there's you know, that's that's at the discretion of
Speaker 1: that particular church. If they perceive things that way. I
Speaker 1: will say this, it makes for kind of a strange situation.
Speaker 1: What if if you were to have been divorced and
Speaker 1: remarried that same person.
Speaker 2: You know what, I.
Speaker 3: Didn't ask that, but I did ask about what if
Speaker 3: you were divorced prior to being saved?
Speaker 1: And what was their response?
Speaker 3: His response was, it doesn't matter why you're divorced. And
Speaker 3: in addition to that, it was, even if you're a
Speaker 3: church member and for some reason or another you do
Speaker 3: get divorced, you still may attend to church, but you
Speaker 3: are no longer a member.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it sounds a little harsh to me personally looking
Speaker 1: at the fact that Jeremiah three talks about God divorcing Israel.
Speaker 1: So now you have God committing a sin in their eyes,
Speaker 1: and that would be a problem because divorce is one
Speaker 1: of those things that God hates. But it's it's bigger
Speaker 1: than just the word or just the act. It's the
Speaker 1: the attitude of a disposable marriage is what's what angers God.
Speaker 1: And I think sometimes gets people get so hyper focused
Speaker 1: on the word and the concept that they that they
Speaker 1: amplify that to a point where that becomes the big deal.
Speaker 1: And in this particular case, now I've heard rightly so
Speaker 1: that many people, many churches don't want anybody in leadership
Speaker 1: to have been divorced. Usually that's that's under their understanding
Speaker 1: of Christianity. If they're not Christians, it's technically not a
Speaker 1: sin in the church because they don't believe in the church.
Speaker 1: That's not to say that you don't sin as a
Speaker 1: non Christian, of course you do, but it's it's the
Speaker 1: scripture talks about why would you judge them by the
Speaker 1: standard of Christianity If they're not Christians, you shouldn't expect
Speaker 1: the world to act anything different than the world because
Speaker 1: that's who they are. So I find it strange and
Speaker 1: they're not really here to explain themselves. I would say
Speaker 1: that that sounds like a church by the description you're giving,
Speaker 1: that maybe is not the right one for you.
Speaker 3: Okay, well, thank you very much taking my call. I
Speaker 3: really appreciate it.
Speaker 1: You're welcome, Dave, and churches do have their own insight
Speaker 1: in their own ways, and it is their church, but
Speaker 1: it doesn't mean you have to participate in it. Chris,
Speaker 1: welcome to the Jesus Christow.
Speaker 4: I've been a follower and disciple for the last thirty
Speaker 4: years of you, and I have some confusion and sometimes
Speaker 4: frustration on how to pray to the Holy Spirit.
Speaker 2: What do I say?
Speaker 4: What do I call them disease?
Speaker 1: Well, what what do you mean specifically praying to the
Speaker 1: Holy Spirit?
Speaker 4: Sometimes I just feel weird because I pray to my
Speaker 4: Papa and I pray to you, and then when it
Speaker 4: comes to the Holy Spirit, it feels weird sometimes to
Speaker 4: say Holy Spirit or or Spirit. It's almost like it's
Speaker 4: a way out there type of prayer.
Speaker 1: Oh, I see, because you're not. It's it's because I
Speaker 1: came in the physical form. You get that. And even
Speaker 1: the concept of Father, although you don't see him, you
Speaker 1: get that. And then the Spirit seems well, in scripture,
Speaker 1: it's a dove and I'm going to pray to a dove.
Speaker 1: It doesn't make sense. I understand that. You the concept, Yeah,
Speaker 1: it gets it's a little ethereal and kind of hard
Speaker 1: to to place. But in scripture you find that Matthew
Speaker 1: six talks about praying to the heavenly Father, and and
Speaker 1: John fourteen talks about praying in the name of Jesus Christ.
Speaker 1: And then there's scriptures that will say pray, pray to
Speaker 1: the Spirit. But keep in mind that in throughout scripture
Speaker 1: when it talks about the Spirit the Spirit really is
Speaker 1: who's moving you to begin with those moments. It even
Speaker 1: says that the Spirit is praying with you, is interceding
Speaker 1: with you when you're in prayer to begin with. So
Speaker 1: that quite frankly, a lot of the emotional or that
Speaker 1: physical reaction you have to a scripture or to being
Speaker 1: in a church service, hearing worship or doing some of
Speaker 1: those motivations that make you even desire to pray are
Speaker 1: coming from the Spirit to begin with. So you really
Speaker 1: are more intimate and understanding of the Spirit than one
Speaker 1: may think because you're interacting with the Spirit on a
Speaker 1: daily basis. If you imagine the Spirit is who brings
Speaker 1: you to me, to motivates you, motivates you to open
Speaker 1: your heart to me, and I bring you to the Father.
Speaker 1: So in that relationship, when you're praying to the Spirit,
Speaker 1: there's no difference. If it helps you to see a
Speaker 1: physical shape or to understand that way, then so be it.
Speaker 1: But don't think that it's The term spirit just sounds
Speaker 1: so out there and so non tangible that it seems
Speaker 1: like it gets in the way, but it really shouldn't.
Speaker 1: It's about taking the time to pray and to focus
Speaker 1: yourself on the things of God. And really, I'll invite
Speaker 1: you to do this next time you pray Chris As
Speaker 1: Scripture says, there's different ways to pray with others by yourself.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it refers to a prayer closet of going away
Speaker 1: and kind of locking yourself away. If you remember in Scripture,
Speaker 1: there was even times where I wanted others to sit
Speaker 1: and pray with me, and then there's times where I
Speaker 1: just went and prayed by myself. And I want you
Speaker 1: to take some time and go in maybe a little
Speaker 1: more of a formal setting. And this doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be all the time, but just for this moment and
Speaker 1: go somewhere where no one else is and get in
Speaker 1: a position that's comfortable for you and clear your mind
Speaker 1: and clear yourself of the worries of the day and
Speaker 1: just receive and just feel the presence of God and
Speaker 1: start to pray. And in that time and that opportunity,
Speaker 1: you'll be open to the interaction of God and what
Speaker 1: God has and feel the spirit, feel the spirit of
Speaker 1: God come upon you when you're starting to pray. John,
Speaker 1: Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show.
Speaker 5: Oh Jesus call you today.
Speaker 1: I am well John, and you good excellent.
Speaker 5: I have a question for you, and just a little background.
Speaker 5: My son, my youngest son, is in prison, and the
Speaker 5: last time I visited him, we were talking and one
Speaker 5: of the things he said to me was that he
Speaker 5: is lonely every day.
Speaker 1: And prison will do that.
Speaker 5: What to say? And I'm thinking you might have some
Speaker 5: good suggestions, because I'm sure the answer lies in your word,
Speaker 5: and I would like to know what those words are.
Speaker 1: Well, he says that, And may I ask what he's
Speaker 1: in for.
Speaker 5: It's uh, he was charged with a sex crime, but
Speaker 5: I feel he's in there for extremely bad decisions and
Speaker 5: lack of common sense because he was given many opportunities
Speaker 5: to avoid confinement. It's bad, Okay.
Speaker 1: Well, there's there's a purpose to loneliness sometimes, and in
Speaker 1: prison you can fight that loneliness. But that seems to
Speaker 1: be part of the problem that he that got him
Speaker 1: there in the first place was not understanding loneliness or
Speaker 1: not understanding proper relationships to begin with. When you say
Speaker 1: that plays a part, okay, So there's a lot to
Speaker 1: be learned here just on the face of things that
Speaker 1: taking this time or having that alone time, there's different
Speaker 1: levels of loneliness. There's this the most simplistic level of
Speaker 1: loneliness is the absence of another human being or the
Speaker 1: absence of that kind of communion or companionship. Okay, and
Speaker 1: that that could be just someone not there. You're by yourself,
Speaker 1: But being by yourself isn't always being lonely, correct, correct? Okay,
Speaker 1: So there's different levels of loneliness. In this particular case,
Speaker 1: I think that that your son's dealing with a lot
Speaker 1: of issues of not knowing how to be with himself,
Speaker 1: for one. And in the case of his particular situation,
Speaker 1: we don't know the details and no need to get
Speaker 1: into the details. I ask you those things about you know,
Speaker 1: a little sketch of ways in there, because that often
Speaker 1: points to other things that are going on in his life. Well.
Speaker 1: Decision making skills are poor, it seems, and also execution
Speaker 1: of emotions or certain feelings. And so now as he
Speaker 1: sits lonely in a jail cell, which is not a
Speaker 1: bad thing, by the way, he needs to start learning
Speaker 1: those things and understanding as to why he doesn't want
Speaker 1: to be with himself. So, with that being said, when
Speaker 1: it comes to scripture and faith, religion and sharing those things,
Speaker 1: you can only pass along what you do yourself and say,
Speaker 1: you know, it hurts me to hear that you were
Speaker 1: lonely or that you have that deep loneliness when you're here.
Speaker 1: And I can only tell you you know that that's
Speaker 1: not going to change. There's nothing that's going to pull
Speaker 1: you out of this this jail cell. You have your
Speaker 1: sentence and you will be here for the remainder. But
Speaker 1: I can tell you what works for me, and when
Speaker 1: you read scripture or when you pray, or when you
Speaker 1: spend time with God, that the walls don't matter, the
Speaker 1: roof doesn't matter, that the room doesn't matter, Whether you're
Speaker 1: with somebody or not with someone doesn't matter, because you're
Speaker 1: with God and you share those things and you give
Speaker 1: him the tools, and what he does with the tools
Speaker 1: is up to him himself. But there are Bibles everywhere
Speaker 1: in prison, and it's a matter of using them. And
Speaker 1: he looks, from what you've told me, tends to look
Speaker 1: for an easy way to deal with things rather than
Speaker 1: the best way. And in this particular case, he's not
Speaker 1: going anywhere, and he's confronted. He's forced to look at himself,
Speaker 1: the ugly things he's done, the mistakes that he's made,
Speaker 1: and that's probably not comfortable. There's no distraction, because that's
Speaker 1: another form of loneliness, John, that people look for distraction.
Speaker 1: They're not lonely, they're bored. They don't they don't want
Speaker 1: to think about themselves. They don't want to think about
Speaker 1: ways to change themselves, ways to grow, they don't want
Speaker 1: to be introspective. So they're looking for distractions. And that
Speaker 1: comes in the form of another person. Can come in
Speaker 1: the form of video games, it can come in form
Speaker 1: of a book, it could come in form of a
Speaker 1: lot of things. But really he doesn't want to be
Speaker 1: confronted with himself every single day. It sounds like, I.
Speaker 5: Thank you so much for these words, and I will
Speaker 5: try to put them together and send those to them
Speaker 5: and pray with me that it will help.
Speaker 1: Oh. Absolutely, And I know that the world is a
Speaker 1: very cynical place and the rolling of eyes when it
Speaker 1: comes to people in prison, but they're not over, their
Speaker 1: interaction with humanity will be different, and rightly so, there
Speaker 1: are people that absolutely positively should be locked up. And
Speaker 1: in the case of your son, we don't have all
Speaker 1: the information here. So my outline to you was to
Speaker 1: know that it's not necessarily a bad thing. And as
Speaker 1: a parent, I know it's difficult when a child of
Speaker 1: any age calls out, even a child who's in prison
Speaker 1: calls out to you in need or in pain. But
Speaker 1: remember that you watched this child grow up and you
Speaker 1: watch them go through the pain of learning how to
Speaker 1: walk or going to school, or learning how to read,
Speaker 1: or any of these things, and the process of understanding
Speaker 1: your own space and understanding how to interact with others
Speaker 1: or be alone. Being alone is a gift. It really
Speaker 1: really is a gift. If you can learn to be
Speaker 1: alone with yourself, you can learn to enjoy yourself, if
Speaker 1: you can learn to take those moments of alone time
Speaker 1: and use them productively to get to know yourself better,
Speaker 1: or to be so introspective that you're correcting those things
Speaker 1: that might be annoying or problematic, whatever it is. If
Speaker 1: you take that time, that alone time, and you use
Speaker 1: it like that, you will be the most attractive human
Speaker 1: being to other people. Trust me. People look for relationships
Speaker 1: and reach out and desire to not be lonely in
Speaker 1: quotes because they want that distraction from their own self.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't mean that relationships are bad, oh goodness, No,
Speaker 1: the relationships are wonderful. The entire the entirety of Scripture
Speaker 1: is about relationships between man and man, and man and
Speaker 1: woman and woman and woman, and humanity in general, and
Speaker 1: humanity with God. So relationships are wonderful. However, they start
Speaker 1: with an understanding of who you are. It's not about
Speaker 1: putting two halves together to make a whole. It's putting
Speaker 1: two holes together to make something greater, this tertiary property,
Speaker 1: this third thing that comes together when these two are
Speaker 1: joined in any way, shape or four, and as friends,
Speaker 1: as business partners, as spouses. And unless you understand how
Speaker 1: to be whole by yourself, you will never be a
Speaker 1: good partner. You'll be used. Other people will use you
Speaker 1: as a distraction in their life. Other people will use
Speaker 1: you in different ways. You'll even use them. But you'll
Speaker 1: never have that true, that wonderful relationship, that balance, unless
Speaker 1: your whole and being a whole comes from spending time alone,
Speaker 1: not lonely, but alone. You know, time goes by so
Speaker 1: quickly around here. I wanted to finish up just a
Speaker 1: real quick thought dealing with loneliness. In the New Testament,
Speaker 1: the word for lonely only occurs twice, and it's never
Speaker 1: used to describe people. It's used to describe desolate places.
Speaker 1: And I thought that that's very important understanding of that
Speaker 1: concept of loneliness because we hear about it on the
Speaker 1: program so often. Lonely and what does God have planned
Speaker 1: for me? I'm so lonely and you don't understand. Especially
Speaker 1: during the holidays, my goodness, during the holidays, it gets
Speaker 1: even more compacted and more intense because people feel the pressure,
Speaker 1: the outside pressure of the need to be home for
Speaker 1: the holidays or have that connection. Look, you turn on
Speaker 1: the TV and whatever those channels are that my producer
Speaker 1: Neil watches constantly over the holiday season. But you see
Speaker 1: all those those shows are about the relationships, oh the
Speaker 1: holiday times. You know, we're bringing these relationships together. But loneliness,
Speaker 1: the experience of loneliness, happens at any time, not just
Speaker 1: over the holidays. But the power of that thought that
Speaker 1: the word lonely never used in the New Testament to
Speaker 1: describe people. You have Mark one forty five and Luke
Speaker 1: five sixteen that are talking about the they're talking about
Speaker 1: the wilderness, like a desolate location. And so that that
Speaker 1: points to the importance of spending time with yourself and
Speaker 1: knowing and that's not always loneliness. It doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: there isn't times of loneliness, real genuine loneliness, but finding
Speaker 1: yourself and empowering yourself to not be caught up in
Speaker 1: those things, to to really enjoy who you are and
Speaker 1: who God made you individually. That's just the best way
Speaker 1: to move forward and to have better relationships in life.
Speaker 1: And there are extreme cases where you know, people are
Speaker 1: in prison, that's a different type of lonely experience, but
Speaker 1: in most situations, it's about not being in a good
Speaker 1: place of comfort with your own self, knowing who you
Speaker 1: are and understanding who you are and being okay with that.
Speaker 1: The world is a weird place to begin with, and
Speaker 1: the world wants to make you feel bad about yourself
Speaker 1: and good about yourself. They want to raise you up
Speaker 1: and they want to knock you down. And we talked
Speaker 1: a little bit about that last week. But there's that
Speaker 1: kind of weird attitude where people want to pick on
Speaker 1: you know, people that are bullied, or people that pick
Speaker 1: on you, or people that are always constantly nitpicking about
Speaker 1: who you are and what you do. That's a deflection.
Speaker 1: They don't want to think about themselves. They don't want
Speaker 1: to worry about the things that they need to change,
Speaker 1: and really that's a type of person that's not comfortable
Speaker 1: with themselves. And what I want you to be is
Speaker 1: to be whole, to be comfortable, and then that will
Speaker 1: get rid of loneliness. Thank you for joining me this Sunday.
Speaker 1: I hope you joined me every Sunday. And remember these
Speaker 1: words above all else. I am with you always. Kf
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