WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.320 --> 00:00:06.559 You're listening to KFI AM six forty on demand. Ken, 2 00:00:06.599 --> 00:00:08.000 Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. 3 00:00:08.759 --> 00:00:09.480 How about James. 4 00:00:09.759 --> 00:00:11.599 You think I'm good? Ken? How are you? 5 00:00:12.199 --> 00:00:14.759 I'm doing very well. I had a question for you. 6 00:00:15.519 --> 00:00:20.039 I'm single and I want to be married, and I 7 00:00:20.079 --> 00:00:25.359 don't like dating. I don't I would rather The question is, 8 00:00:25.440 --> 00:00:28.800 can I pray that God would lead a specific girl 9 00:00:28.960 --> 00:00:32.520 to me or me to a specific girl, being that 10 00:00:33.200 --> 00:00:37.359 he being that you know everything, and you know what's 11 00:00:37.399 --> 00:00:42.039 around the corner and down the road, and it would 12 00:00:42.039 --> 00:00:44.520 be very important to me that it would be someone 13 00:00:44.520 --> 00:00:49.880 that would be very helpful. Sure, the soul. 14 00:00:49.759 --> 00:00:53.320 Mate, the right mate, Well, a few things to look at. 15 00:00:53.479 --> 00:00:56.520 Is one. There's nowhere in scripture that says there's one 16 00:00:56.560 --> 00:00:59.719 person for you until you marry them. Once you marry, 17 00:01:00.119 --> 00:01:05.239 that should be the person. So it's not about you know, 18 00:01:05.319 --> 00:01:11.120 having a soulmate s o U l mate. It's about 19 00:01:11.159 --> 00:01:17.359 having a soul mate, just one. So that's the important part. Now, 20 00:01:17.439 --> 00:01:23.000 sometimes people get caught up in looking for the perfect 21 00:01:23.040 --> 00:01:27.719 person so intensely that they miss all the wonderful, imperfect 22 00:01:27.760 --> 00:01:33.680 people just like themselves that are available. So you do 23 00:01:33.719 --> 00:01:37.680 a little checklist with yourself and you say, because being 24 00:01:37.760 --> 00:01:40.879 single and being available are two different things. You can 25 00:01:41.239 --> 00:01:43.200 be single and not have someone in your life and 26 00:01:43.239 --> 00:01:46.239 still not be emotionally at that place or intellectually at 27 00:01:46.239 --> 00:01:49.159 that place where you're ready to have that relationship. If 28 00:01:49.200 --> 00:01:51.079 you check all those things off and you say, okay, 29 00:01:51.079 --> 00:01:54.640 I'm ready to go, then you get. Then you move 30 00:01:54.719 --> 00:01:58.200 forward in prayer so that God will help you with discernment. 31 00:01:58.480 --> 00:02:01.519 Not about you know, just lead me to this person. 32 00:02:01.640 --> 00:02:04.040 You're a part, You're a participant in this. That's like 33 00:02:04.200 --> 00:02:08.479 you know, sitting in front of your broken down car 34 00:02:08.560 --> 00:02:11.479 and say, God, fix this. No, you know, guide my hand, 35 00:02:11.639 --> 00:02:15.639 give me the intellect, the ability, the will, the desire 36 00:02:16.159 --> 00:02:19.240 to learn and to make the best decision I can 37 00:02:19.400 --> 00:02:22.919 and to live with the consequences should I not. Those 38 00:02:22.960 --> 00:02:25.199 are the things that you want, is that you God's 39 00:02:25.240 --> 00:02:28.520 given you the tools. When you're a child and you're 40 00:02:28.520 --> 00:02:31.960 being raised, your parents really is given you tools. A 41 00:02:32.000 --> 00:02:34.080 bad parent is the one that does everything for you 42 00:02:34.360 --> 00:02:36.479 that's not helping you because sooner or later they're not 43 00:02:36.520 --> 00:02:39.159 going to be around. So God wants to give you 44 00:02:39.199 --> 00:02:42.280 these tools on how to decide who's good for you, 45 00:02:42.560 --> 00:02:45.560 and it's not just outwardly appearance. How to decide who's 46 00:02:45.599 --> 00:02:47.800 going to be a healthy partner and what things is it? 47 00:02:47.840 --> 00:02:50.159 Does that mean it's somebody that believes everything you do. No, 48 00:02:50.439 --> 00:02:53.000 there's going to be people. You're gonna have differences, maybe 49 00:02:53.039 --> 00:02:57.039 in politics or different you know, tastes in food or 50 00:02:57.159 --> 00:03:00.280 music or what have you. All that's okay, and then 51 00:03:00.319 --> 00:03:03.759 you're gonna have similarities things that you want to to, 52 00:03:04.479 --> 00:03:07.680 you know, share with one another. A good place to 53 00:03:07.759 --> 00:03:11.520 find somebody should you be looking, is in places that 54 00:03:11.560 --> 00:03:14.240 you like to go yourself. You know, people go to 55 00:03:14.319 --> 00:03:18.120 bars and things like that to meet someone, and it's 56 00:03:18.439 --> 00:03:20.039 what are you gonna meet there? You're gonna meet someone 57 00:03:20.080 --> 00:03:22.759 in a bar rather than if you like to read 58 00:03:22.800 --> 00:03:25.240 and you're in a library or a bookstore or something 59 00:03:25.280 --> 00:03:27.719 like that. You're you're more likely to meet somebody of 60 00:03:27.840 --> 00:03:31.919 like mind or even church. These types of things are 61 00:03:33.000 --> 00:03:35.000 you know, if they're a part of who you are, 62 00:03:35.000 --> 00:03:36.400 then they're probably going to be a part of who 63 00:03:36.400 --> 00:03:40.520 they are. Praying is a wonderful thing when it comes 64 00:03:40.520 --> 00:03:44.479 to looking for a mate. Ken just don't get into 65 00:03:44.520 --> 00:03:48.280 that pattern of kind of waiting for God to bring 66 00:03:48.319 --> 00:03:53.520 them to your doorstep, because It's not about a special delivery. 67 00:03:53.560 --> 00:03:56.400 It's about, you know, being confident and knowing what you 68 00:03:56.439 --> 00:03:58.840 want and not settling by way of. 69 00:04:00.680 --> 00:04:00.879 You know. 70 00:04:00.919 --> 00:04:03.400 I see people that they get in the same bad 71 00:04:03.439 --> 00:04:07.560 relationships over and over again just because the man or 72 00:04:07.599 --> 00:04:10.840 woman is blonde hair and blue eyed. Well, that's what 73 00:04:10.879 --> 00:04:12.680 I like, that's what I and so they get lost 74 00:04:12.719 --> 00:04:17.360 in that rather than the character of the individual. And 75 00:04:17.360 --> 00:04:20.560 and and looking at the outward outward appearance is going 76 00:04:20.639 --> 00:04:23.079 to be what probably draws you in first. And these 77 00:04:23.079 --> 00:04:25.600 are general tools that God's already given you. It's about 78 00:04:25.680 --> 00:04:29.399 using them, not about necessarily God bringing them to your door. 79 00:04:30.199 --> 00:04:31.519 How long have you been single? Ken? 80 00:04:33.560 --> 00:04:34.279 For years? 81 00:04:34.439 --> 00:04:38.279 Three years, yes, sir. And the last relationship how long 82 00:04:38.399 --> 00:04:43.480 was it the lower fifteen years? And was it a marriage? 83 00:04:44.240 --> 00:04:44.600 Yes? 84 00:04:44.800 --> 00:04:49.000 Okay, so three years out of a fifteen year marriage. 85 00:04:50.000 --> 00:04:51.160 Why do you think now is the. 86 00:04:51.120 --> 00:04:59.399 Time that I certainly do not imply being single? Okay, 87 00:05:00.000 --> 00:05:01.800 I don't want to be married to be married, but 88 00:05:02.839 --> 00:05:08.079 I want someone special in my life and I. 89 00:05:09.720 --> 00:05:09.759 You. 90 00:05:10.199 --> 00:05:13.000 Unfortunately the marriage didn't work out. 91 00:05:13.240 --> 00:05:14.600 Why didn't Why didn't it work out? 92 00:05:15.439 --> 00:05:19.000 She fell in love with someone to help us and. 93 00:05:18.920 --> 00:05:19.560 She left you? 94 00:05:20.319 --> 00:05:20.639 Yes? 95 00:05:21.680 --> 00:05:25.040 And that's a rough one, isn't it. Yeah, that was tough, 96 00:05:25.639 --> 00:05:28.399 and uh, you a little gun shy this time around. 97 00:05:30.720 --> 00:05:33.160 I guess it would be a good way to describe it. 98 00:05:34.600 --> 00:05:37.720 Just remember people are individuals, Ken, and not you know, 99 00:05:37.800 --> 00:05:40.519 every woman's the same and not every man's the same. 100 00:05:40.680 --> 00:05:45.040 And and don't put the sins of yor ex wife 101 00:05:45.160 --> 00:05:51.399 on someone new, because that's a hard You know a 102 00:05:51.399 --> 00:05:54.360 lot of times guys will come out of a relationship 103 00:05:54.480 --> 00:06:02.319 like that and learning to trust becomes difficult. And uh, 104 00:06:02.360 --> 00:06:04.519 and you can't put that on the new people in 105 00:06:04.560 --> 00:06:06.800 your life. You kind of have to trust them and 106 00:06:06.879 --> 00:06:11.000 let them fall or stand as they may. But you 107 00:06:11.000 --> 00:06:13.120 you know what you what you're looking for. What was 108 00:06:13.160 --> 00:06:16.680 it about your ex wife that attracted you to her? 109 00:06:20.000 --> 00:06:25.040 She she wasn't necessarily Actually, my ex father in law 110 00:06:25.040 --> 00:06:28.639 also wanted to introduce us Vietnam me for about eight 111 00:06:28.720 --> 00:06:34.199 years before I ever met her, and so we introduced 112 00:06:34.319 --> 00:06:39.480 and we started dating and she seemed like a wonderful person. 113 00:06:39.560 --> 00:06:43.560 She is a wonderful person. But yeah, she she was 114 00:06:43.600 --> 00:06:47.319 attractive and well educated. 115 00:06:47.360 --> 00:06:49.240 And what do you think went wrong then? Ken? 116 00:06:52.360 --> 00:06:57.839 I guess maybe over a course of time we. 117 00:06:58.800 --> 00:07:02.160 Grew apart yeah, but that's I don't really accept that. 118 00:07:02.720 --> 00:07:06.959 So that's not how people work. People grow. Life is 119 00:07:07.000 --> 00:07:10.199 constantly going back and forth, and you're growing. People say 120 00:07:10.199 --> 00:07:13.560 growing apart, but really that's that's laziness, that's just people 121 00:07:13.600 --> 00:07:17.720 not wanting to participate in the marriage anymore. So what 122 00:07:17.959 --> 00:07:23.040 is it that did you lose focus and start putting 123 00:07:23.079 --> 00:07:27.480 your attention somewhere else? Or obviously she did, but what 124 00:07:27.560 --> 00:07:29.639 was it? If she's a good person, you're a good person. 125 00:07:31.639 --> 00:07:33.959 There's no reason why the two of you can't be together. 126 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:39.000 And something along the lines there somebody stopped paying attention 127 00:07:39.079 --> 00:07:43.639 to someone else or stopped paying attention to themselves. There's 128 00:07:43.639 --> 00:07:46.720 nothing worse than watching a loved one let themselves go, 129 00:07:47.279 --> 00:07:51.240 whether it's physically, emotionally, or intellectually. They don't read, they 130 00:07:51.240 --> 00:07:57.160 don't experience things, they don't care that really can you know, 131 00:07:57.319 --> 00:08:01.279 lead to problems in the marriage too. But something happened 132 00:08:01.279 --> 00:08:04.240 along the line, Ken, And I asked you because I 133 00:08:04.240 --> 00:08:06.319 don't want you to bring it into the next relationship, 134 00:08:06.319 --> 00:08:10.120 because you play a part in it. You you understand that, right, yes? Okay? 135 00:08:12.839 --> 00:08:15.839 In the in the works of my sister in law 136 00:08:15.879 --> 00:08:20.959 who called me afterwards and talked to me. She said that, 137 00:08:22.240 --> 00:08:23.680 you know, I want you to know that this is 138 00:08:23.720 --> 00:08:27.800 not the first time that you know, what she described 139 00:08:27.959 --> 00:08:31.240 was nine years previous. You know, she had been seeing 140 00:08:31.240 --> 00:08:37.919 someone else saying as well, and she said that, you 141 00:08:37.960 --> 00:08:40.720 know when she talked to my wife, that she had 142 00:08:40.759 --> 00:08:43.679 told her years back that you know, I'm just not 143 00:08:43.759 --> 00:08:47.279 in love with him, and yeah, I wish I had 144 00:08:47.279 --> 00:08:52.840 not gotten married to him, and so, yeah, love. 145 00:08:52.720 --> 00:08:54.919 Is a strange thing. People expect to stay in that 146 00:08:54.960 --> 00:08:57.600 feeling of love and no one does. I mean, it's 147 00:08:57.600 --> 00:09:03.080 a process. It's something you you work into and if 148 00:09:03.120 --> 00:09:05.279 you don't work at it, it's like anything else, it 149 00:09:05.279 --> 00:09:08.720 will atrophy. But I think people use that as an 150 00:09:08.759 --> 00:09:12.759 excuse to kind of do what they want. Most importantly, 151 00:09:13.120 --> 00:09:17.080 can be introspective, look at where you played a part 152 00:09:17.480 --> 00:09:21.519 in that breakup, and don't bring that into the next relationship. 153 00:09:22.720 --> 00:09:26.320 But if you really are seeking somebody and seek the 154 00:09:26.360 --> 00:09:29.120 will of God, and you know, when you're going just 155 00:09:29.200 --> 00:09:32.720 after your own lust or after what you want, let 156 00:09:32.759 --> 00:09:36.799 things grow naturally and healthily and they become more stable. 157 00:09:36.919 --> 00:09:39.080 And make sure that the soil is good, and that 158 00:09:39.200 --> 00:09:42.440 means that you yourself are healthy and in a good place, 159 00:09:42.480 --> 00:09:45.279 and you enjoy your own company, and then that you 160 00:09:45.320 --> 00:09:48.360 are well versed in who you are before you go 161 00:09:48.399 --> 00:09:56.279 bringing someone else into that equation. Dave, Welcome to Jesus Christia. 162 00:09:56.720 --> 00:09:58.120 A little thank you for taking my call. 163 00:09:58.159 --> 00:09:59.360 I appreciate it, my pleasure. 164 00:10:00.120 --> 00:10:02.320 My question is is I was invited to attend a 165 00:10:02.440 --> 00:10:06.000 church by a friend, a coworker, and I did some 166 00:10:06.120 --> 00:10:11.080 inquiry on the church, and their policy is that if 167 00:10:11.120 --> 00:10:15.279 you are a divorced person, which I am, and it 168 00:10:15.320 --> 00:10:18.759 doesn't matter why you're divorced, whether you know your spouse 169 00:10:18.879 --> 00:10:21.759 had cheated or whether it was for some of them, 170 00:10:22.720 --> 00:10:27.360 you may attend services and church functions, but you are 171 00:10:27.399 --> 00:10:33.080 not able or allowed by their policy to hold membership. 172 00:10:32.679 --> 00:10:35.200 And to hold a position in leadership. Your phone broke up. 173 00:10:35.559 --> 00:10:36.279 Yeah, you're not. 174 00:10:36.200 --> 00:10:38.559 Allowed to hold Actually you're not allowed to hold any 175 00:10:38.639 --> 00:10:42.279 type of church membership at all, leadership or not. You're 176 00:10:42.320 --> 00:10:43.440 just allowed to attend. 177 00:10:43.960 --> 00:10:45.440 Oh oh that's different. 178 00:10:45.600 --> 00:10:48.000 Okay, So I wanted to know your thoughts on that. 179 00:10:48.440 --> 00:10:52.120 Well, there's you know, that's that's at the discretion of 180 00:10:52.519 --> 00:10:56.440 that particular church. If they perceive things that way. I 181 00:10:56.480 --> 00:10:59.639 will say this, it makes for kind of a strange situation. 182 00:10:59.720 --> 00:11:04.159 What if if you were to have been divorced and 183 00:11:04.440 --> 00:11:06.559 remarried that same person. 184 00:11:08.440 --> 00:11:09.039 You know what, I. 185 00:11:09.000 --> 00:11:13.120 Didn't ask that, but I did ask about what if 186 00:11:13.120 --> 00:11:15.360 you were divorced prior to being saved? 187 00:11:16.720 --> 00:11:18.120 And what was their response? 188 00:11:19.159 --> 00:11:22.720 His response was, it doesn't matter why you're divorced. And 189 00:11:22.720 --> 00:11:25.840 in addition to that, it was, even if you're a 190 00:11:25.919 --> 00:11:29.200 church member and for some reason or another you do 191 00:11:29.279 --> 00:11:32.000 get divorced, you still may attend to church, but you 192 00:11:32.039 --> 00:11:33.200 are no longer a member. 193 00:11:33.879 --> 00:11:37.559 Yeah, it sounds a little harsh to me personally looking 194 00:11:37.600 --> 00:11:43.000 at the fact that Jeremiah three talks about God divorcing Israel. 195 00:11:43.200 --> 00:11:47.440 So now you have God committing a sin in their eyes, 196 00:11:47.519 --> 00:11:53.039 and that would be a problem because divorce is one 197 00:11:53.039 --> 00:11:57.759 of those things that God hates. But it's it's bigger 198 00:11:57.799 --> 00:12:01.519 than just the word or just the act. It's the 199 00:12:01.519 --> 00:12:06.039 the attitude of a disposable marriage is what's what angers God. 200 00:12:06.639 --> 00:12:09.960 And I think sometimes gets people get so hyper focused 201 00:12:10.000 --> 00:12:14.080 on the word and the concept that they that they 202 00:12:14.480 --> 00:12:17.960 amplify that to a point where that becomes the big deal. 203 00:12:18.240 --> 00:12:21.480 And in this particular case, now I've heard rightly so 204 00:12:21.600 --> 00:12:25.799 that many people, many churches don't want anybody in leadership 205 00:12:25.799 --> 00:12:29.799 to have been divorced. Usually that's that's under their understanding 206 00:12:30.080 --> 00:12:36.720 of Christianity. If they're not Christians, it's technically not a 207 00:12:36.759 --> 00:12:41.559 sin in the church because they don't believe in the church. 208 00:12:42.240 --> 00:12:44.039 That's not to say that you don't sin as a 209 00:12:44.080 --> 00:12:46.879 non Christian, of course you do, but it's it's the 210 00:12:47.120 --> 00:12:49.360 scripture talks about why would you judge them by the 211 00:12:49.360 --> 00:12:55.440 standard of Christianity If they're not Christians, you shouldn't expect 212 00:12:55.480 --> 00:12:59.799 the world to act anything different than the world because 213 00:12:59.799 --> 00:13:03.080 that's who they are. So I find it strange and 214 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:05.840 they're not really here to explain themselves. I would say 215 00:13:05.879 --> 00:13:09.759 that that sounds like a church by the description you're giving, 216 00:13:10.080 --> 00:13:12.559 that maybe is not the right one for you. 217 00:13:13.480 --> 00:13:15.759 Okay, well, thank you very much taking my call. I 218 00:13:15.799 --> 00:13:16.480 really appreciate it. 219 00:13:16.559 --> 00:13:20.840 You're welcome, Dave, and churches do have their own insight 220 00:13:20.879 --> 00:13:22.759 in their own ways, and it is their church, but 221 00:13:22.759 --> 00:13:29.639 it doesn't mean you have to participate in it. Chris, 222 00:13:29.679 --> 00:13:30.879 welcome to the Jesus Christow. 223 00:13:32.840 --> 00:13:35.559 I've been a follower and disciple for the last thirty 224 00:13:35.639 --> 00:13:40.759 years of you, and I have some confusion and sometimes 225 00:13:40.759 --> 00:13:43.440 frustration on how to pray to the Holy Spirit. 226 00:13:44.240 --> 00:13:46.200 What do I say? 227 00:13:46.240 --> 00:13:47.840 What do I call them disease? 228 00:13:48.480 --> 00:13:51.320 Well, what what do you mean specifically praying to the 229 00:13:51.320 --> 00:13:52.000 Holy Spirit? 230 00:13:52.799 --> 00:13:55.039 Sometimes I just feel weird because I pray to my 231 00:13:55.120 --> 00:13:57.559 Papa and I pray to you, and then when it 232 00:13:57.600 --> 00:14:02.159 comes to the Holy Spirit, it feels weird sometimes to 233 00:14:02.200 --> 00:14:07.320 say Holy Spirit or or Spirit. It's almost like it's 234 00:14:07.320 --> 00:14:09.120 a way out there type of prayer. 235 00:14:09.600 --> 00:14:13.600 Oh, I see, because you're not. It's it's because I 236 00:14:13.639 --> 00:14:15.639 came in the physical form. You get that. And even 237 00:14:15.679 --> 00:14:18.039 the concept of Father, although you don't see him, you 238 00:14:18.080 --> 00:14:21.799 get that. And then the Spirit seems well, in scripture, 239 00:14:21.799 --> 00:14:24.080 it's a dove and I'm going to pray to a dove. 240 00:14:24.279 --> 00:14:28.919 It doesn't make sense. I understand that. You the concept, Yeah, 241 00:14:28.919 --> 00:14:31.600 it gets it's a little ethereal and kind of hard 242 00:14:31.639 --> 00:14:37.200 to to place. But in scripture you find that Matthew 243 00:14:37.600 --> 00:14:41.559 six talks about praying to the heavenly Father, and and 244 00:14:41.879 --> 00:14:45.840 John fourteen talks about praying in the name of Jesus Christ. 245 00:14:45.919 --> 00:14:49.559 And then there's scriptures that will say pray, pray to 246 00:14:49.600 --> 00:14:54.240 the Spirit. But keep in mind that in throughout scripture 247 00:14:54.279 --> 00:14:56.879 when it talks about the Spirit the Spirit really is 248 00:14:58.000 --> 00:15:01.679 who's moving you to begin with those moments. It even 249 00:15:01.679 --> 00:15:04.399 says that the Spirit is praying with you, is interceding 250 00:15:04.480 --> 00:15:07.919 with you when you're in prayer to begin with. So 251 00:15:08.279 --> 00:15:12.200 that quite frankly, a lot of the emotional or that 252 00:15:12.480 --> 00:15:18.559 physical reaction you have to a scripture or to being 253 00:15:18.639 --> 00:15:22.000 in a church service, hearing worship or doing some of 254 00:15:22.080 --> 00:15:25.360 those motivations that make you even desire to pray are 255 00:15:25.360 --> 00:15:28.440 coming from the Spirit to begin with. So you really 256 00:15:28.440 --> 00:15:31.559 are more intimate and understanding of the Spirit than one 257 00:15:31.600 --> 00:15:34.600 may think because you're interacting with the Spirit on a 258 00:15:34.720 --> 00:15:39.639 daily basis. If you imagine the Spirit is who brings 259 00:15:39.679 --> 00:15:42.759 you to me, to motivates you, motivates you to open 260 00:15:42.759 --> 00:15:44.720 your heart to me, and I bring you to the Father. 261 00:15:45.360 --> 00:15:48.399 So in that relationship, when you're praying to the Spirit, 262 00:15:48.799 --> 00:15:51.240 there's no difference. If it helps you to see a 263 00:15:51.279 --> 00:15:55.159 physical shape or to understand that way, then so be it. 264 00:15:55.879 --> 00:15:59.559 But don't think that it's The term spirit just sounds 265 00:15:59.600 --> 00:16:07.440 so out there and so non tangible that it seems 266 00:16:07.480 --> 00:16:09.480 like it gets in the way, but it really shouldn't. 267 00:16:09.799 --> 00:16:15.159 It's about taking the time to pray and to focus 268 00:16:15.200 --> 00:16:19.080 yourself on the things of God. And really, I'll invite 269 00:16:19.080 --> 00:16:22.039 you to do this next time you pray Chris As 270 00:16:22.080 --> 00:16:26.360 Scripture says, there's different ways to pray with others by yourself. 271 00:16:26.440 --> 00:16:29.080 Sometimes it refers to a prayer closet of going away 272 00:16:29.120 --> 00:16:32.440 and kind of locking yourself away. If you remember in Scripture, 273 00:16:32.679 --> 00:16:35.200 there was even times where I wanted others to sit 274 00:16:35.240 --> 00:16:37.519 and pray with me, and then there's times where I 275 00:16:37.559 --> 00:16:40.480 just went and prayed by myself. And I want you 276 00:16:40.519 --> 00:16:43.679 to take some time and go in maybe a little 277 00:16:43.720 --> 00:16:46.399 more of a formal setting. And this doesn't have to 278 00:16:46.440 --> 00:16:50.639 be all the time, but just for this moment and 279 00:16:50.799 --> 00:16:54.600 go somewhere where no one else is and get in 280 00:16:54.639 --> 00:16:56.919 a position that's comfortable for you and clear your mind 281 00:16:57.080 --> 00:17:00.720 and clear yourself of the worries of the day and 282 00:17:01.240 --> 00:17:05.279 just receive and just feel the presence of God and 283 00:17:05.440 --> 00:17:09.079 start to pray. And in that time and that opportunity, 284 00:17:10.599 --> 00:17:14.359 you'll be open to the interaction of God and what 285 00:17:14.440 --> 00:17:17.039 God has and feel the spirit, feel the spirit of 286 00:17:17.039 --> 00:17:23.400 God come upon you when you're starting to pray. John, 287 00:17:23.519 --> 00:17:24.759 Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. 288 00:17:25.680 --> 00:17:27.200 Oh Jesus call you today. 289 00:17:27.400 --> 00:17:30.400 I am well John, and you good excellent. 290 00:17:32.200 --> 00:17:37.119 I have a question for you, and just a little background. 291 00:17:38.680 --> 00:17:44.279 My son, my youngest son, is in prison, and the 292 00:17:44.359 --> 00:17:49.359 last time I visited him, we were talking and one 293 00:17:49.440 --> 00:17:51.599 of the things he said to me was that he 294 00:17:51.759 --> 00:17:53.440 is lonely every day. 295 00:17:54.640 --> 00:17:56.400 And prison will do that. 296 00:17:56.440 --> 00:18:00.799 What to say? And I'm thinking you might have some 297 00:18:00.839 --> 00:18:08.319 good suggestions, because I'm sure the answer lies in your word, 298 00:18:09.880 --> 00:18:12.400 and I would like to know what those words are. 299 00:18:13.160 --> 00:18:16.079 Well, he says that, And may I ask what he's 300 00:18:16.119 --> 00:18:16.359 in for. 301 00:18:17.559 --> 00:18:24.079 It's uh, he was charged with a sex crime, but 302 00:18:25.920 --> 00:18:32.119 I feel he's in there for extremely bad decisions and 303 00:18:33.119 --> 00:18:36.640 lack of common sense because he was given many opportunities 304 00:18:36.680 --> 00:18:42.920 to avoid confinement. It's bad, Okay. 305 00:18:44.240 --> 00:18:49.079 Well, there's there's a purpose to loneliness sometimes, and in 306 00:18:49.160 --> 00:18:53.839 prison you can fight that loneliness. But that seems to 307 00:18:53.839 --> 00:18:57.720 be part of the problem that he that got him 308 00:18:57.720 --> 00:19:00.640 there in the first place was not understanding loneliness or 309 00:19:00.680 --> 00:19:04.599 not understanding proper relationships to begin with. When you say 310 00:19:04.599 --> 00:19:08.240 that plays a part, okay, So there's a lot to 311 00:19:08.240 --> 00:19:12.119 be learned here just on the face of things that 312 00:19:12.319 --> 00:19:16.200 taking this time or having that alone time, there's different 313 00:19:16.400 --> 00:19:20.279 levels of loneliness. There's this the most simplistic level of 314 00:19:20.279 --> 00:19:22.799 loneliness is the absence of another human being or the 315 00:19:22.839 --> 00:19:28.599 absence of that kind of communion or companionship. Okay, and 316 00:19:28.599 --> 00:19:31.759 that that could be just someone not there. You're by yourself, 317 00:19:32.359 --> 00:19:36.319 But being by yourself isn't always being lonely, correct, correct? Okay, 318 00:19:36.599 --> 00:19:39.839 So there's different levels of loneliness. In this particular case, 319 00:19:40.400 --> 00:19:42.680 I think that that your son's dealing with a lot 320 00:19:42.680 --> 00:19:46.079 of issues of not knowing how to be with himself, 321 00:19:46.359 --> 00:19:52.200 for one. And in the case of his particular situation, 322 00:19:52.319 --> 00:19:54.079 we don't know the details and no need to get 323 00:19:54.079 --> 00:19:58.039 into the details. I ask you those things about you know, 324 00:19:58.519 --> 00:20:02.759 a little sketch of ways in there, because that often 325 00:20:02.799 --> 00:20:05.920 points to other things that are going on in his life. Well. 326 00:20:06.000 --> 00:20:12.119 Decision making skills are poor, it seems, and also execution 327 00:20:12.279 --> 00:20:15.559 of emotions or certain feelings. And so now as he 328 00:20:15.559 --> 00:20:18.599 sits lonely in a jail cell, which is not a 329 00:20:18.599 --> 00:20:23.440 bad thing, by the way, he needs to start learning 330 00:20:23.519 --> 00:20:26.039 those things and understanding as to why he doesn't want 331 00:20:26.079 --> 00:20:32.519 to be with himself. So, with that being said, when 332 00:20:32.519 --> 00:20:37.200 it comes to scripture and faith, religion and sharing those things, 333 00:20:38.599 --> 00:20:42.519 you can only pass along what you do yourself and say, 334 00:20:43.680 --> 00:20:46.480 you know, it hurts me to hear that you were 335 00:20:46.519 --> 00:20:52.599 lonely or that you have that deep loneliness when you're here. 336 00:20:53.359 --> 00:20:56.240 And I can only tell you you know that that's 337 00:20:56.279 --> 00:20:58.119 not going to change. There's nothing that's going to pull 338 00:20:58.160 --> 00:21:00.920 you out of this this jail cell. You have your 339 00:21:01.079 --> 00:21:04.519 sentence and you will be here for the remainder. But 340 00:21:04.599 --> 00:21:07.440 I can tell you what works for me, and when 341 00:21:08.680 --> 00:21:11.079 you read scripture or when you pray, or when you 342 00:21:11.119 --> 00:21:14.400 spend time with God, that the walls don't matter, the 343 00:21:14.480 --> 00:21:18.119 roof doesn't matter, that the room doesn't matter, Whether you're 344 00:21:18.160 --> 00:21:22.000 with somebody or not with someone doesn't matter, because you're 345 00:21:22.039 --> 00:21:26.079 with God and you share those things and you give 346 00:21:26.160 --> 00:21:29.240 him the tools, and what he does with the tools 347 00:21:29.319 --> 00:21:34.079 is up to him himself. But there are Bibles everywhere 348 00:21:35.079 --> 00:21:38.559 in prison, and it's a matter of using them. And 349 00:21:38.640 --> 00:21:41.160 he looks, from what you've told me, tends to look 350 00:21:41.200 --> 00:21:45.599 for an easy way to deal with things rather than 351 00:21:45.799 --> 00:21:49.519 the best way. And in this particular case, he's not 352 00:21:49.599 --> 00:21:52.920 going anywhere, and he's confronted. He's forced to look at himself, 353 00:21:52.960 --> 00:21:55.279 the ugly things he's done, the mistakes that he's made, 354 00:21:56.319 --> 00:22:00.240 and that's probably not comfortable. There's no distraction, because that's 355 00:22:00.319 --> 00:22:04.000 another form of loneliness, John, that people look for distraction. 356 00:22:04.400 --> 00:22:07.240 They're not lonely, they're bored. They don't they don't want 357 00:22:07.240 --> 00:22:09.160 to think about themselves. They don't want to think about 358 00:22:09.200 --> 00:22:11.880 ways to change themselves, ways to grow, they don't want 359 00:22:11.880 --> 00:22:15.279 to be introspective. So they're looking for distractions. And that 360 00:22:15.319 --> 00:22:17.799 comes in the form of another person. Can come in 361 00:22:17.799 --> 00:22:20.400 the form of video games, it can come in form 362 00:22:20.440 --> 00:22:22.400 of a book, it could come in form of a 363 00:22:22.440 --> 00:22:26.200 lot of things. But really he doesn't want to be 364 00:22:26.279 --> 00:22:30.160 confronted with himself every single day. It sounds like, I. 365 00:22:31.759 --> 00:22:34.119 Thank you so much for these words, and I will 366 00:22:34.160 --> 00:22:38.440 try to put them together and send those to them 367 00:22:38.920 --> 00:22:41.640 and pray with me that it will help. 368 00:22:42.240 --> 00:22:44.960 Oh. Absolutely, And I know that the world is a 369 00:22:45.039 --> 00:22:47.440 very cynical place and the rolling of eyes when it 370 00:22:47.440 --> 00:22:54.279 comes to people in prison, but they're not over, their 371 00:22:54.359 --> 00:23:00.279 interaction with humanity will be different, and rightly so, there 372 00:23:00.279 --> 00:23:04.920 are people that absolutely positively should be locked up. And 373 00:23:04.960 --> 00:23:08.480 in the case of your son, we don't have all 374 00:23:08.519 --> 00:23:11.039 the information here. So my outline to you was to 375 00:23:12.599 --> 00:23:14.440 know that it's not necessarily a bad thing. And as 376 00:23:14.440 --> 00:23:18.240 a parent, I know it's difficult when a child of 377 00:23:18.279 --> 00:23:20.720 any age calls out, even a child who's in prison 378 00:23:20.799 --> 00:23:23.920 calls out to you in need or in pain. But 379 00:23:24.079 --> 00:23:26.920 remember that you watched this child grow up and you 380 00:23:26.960 --> 00:23:29.160 watch them go through the pain of learning how to 381 00:23:29.240 --> 00:23:31.960 walk or going to school, or learning how to read, 382 00:23:32.119 --> 00:23:35.319 or any of these things, and the process of understanding 383 00:23:36.640 --> 00:23:42.119 your own space and understanding how to interact with others 384 00:23:42.359 --> 00:23:46.960 or be alone. Being alone is a gift. It really 385 00:23:47.079 --> 00:23:49.279 really is a gift. If you can learn to be 386 00:23:49.359 --> 00:23:52.839 alone with yourself, you can learn to enjoy yourself, if 387 00:23:52.880 --> 00:23:55.279 you can learn to take those moments of alone time 388 00:23:55.599 --> 00:23:59.079 and use them productively to get to know yourself better, 389 00:23:59.319 --> 00:24:03.000 or to be so introspective that you're correcting those things 390 00:24:03.000 --> 00:24:06.240 that might be annoying or problematic, whatever it is. If 391 00:24:06.279 --> 00:24:09.319 you take that time, that alone time, and you use 392 00:24:09.359 --> 00:24:12.200 it like that, you will be the most attractive human 393 00:24:12.240 --> 00:24:17.279 being to other people. Trust me. People look for relationships 394 00:24:17.319 --> 00:24:20.480 and reach out and desire to not be lonely in 395 00:24:20.559 --> 00:24:25.000 quotes because they want that distraction from their own self. 396 00:24:26.319 --> 00:24:28.759 And it doesn't mean that relationships are bad, oh goodness, No, 397 00:24:28.839 --> 00:24:32.759 the relationships are wonderful. The entire the entirety of Scripture 398 00:24:32.799 --> 00:24:37.119 is about relationships between man and man, and man and 399 00:24:37.200 --> 00:24:42.880 woman and woman and woman, and humanity in general, and 400 00:24:43.000 --> 00:24:48.160 humanity with God. So relationships are wonderful. However, they start 401 00:24:48.519 --> 00:24:51.000