Speaker 1: I wanted to ask my friend Wade Lightheart a question
Speaker 1: as I'm headed into my seal fit journey, which just
Speaker 1: became real. I just got invited into the zoom session
Speaker 1: to meet the other men who are going to be
Speaker 1: burdened with me in their group. Ah, these poor guys,
Speaker 1: and I wanted to ask him about the hardest thing
Speaker 1: about doing hard things, because Wade's a guy who's done
Speaker 1: a lot of hard things, and we are all going
Speaker 1: to have to do hard things. You probably saw the
Speaker 1: video of the guy who was offered one misdemeanor charge,
Speaker 1: that's it, no jail time, no prison time because of
Speaker 1: January sixth. He refused it because he says the government
Speaker 1: was going to make him lie about other people, so
Speaker 1: instead he did two years in prison. I wonder what
Speaker 1: the hardest thing about doing hard things was for him.
Speaker 1: We'll talk about this with Wade, with the help of
Speaker 1: God Almighty.
Speaker 2: The cod Herman Show is one hundred percent disapproved by
Speaker 2: big pharma, technocorrats and tyrants everywhere. No from the high
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Speaker 1: Today is a day the Lord has made, and these
Speaker 1: are the times to which God has decided we shall live.
Speaker 1: When you build up to do a hard thing, sometimes
Speaker 1: I think, and we'll get weighed on and talk about this.
Speaker 1: I think the hardest thing about doing hard things is
Speaker 1: the part I'm in now that for me, this journey
Speaker 1: seal fit is well, it's something that most people aren't
Speaker 1: going to do, but it can really compare to things
Speaker 1: you are going to have to do, particularly if you're young. Right,
Speaker 1: those of us that are old, we sort of invent
Speaker 1: our hard things. I mean, there are hard things in life.
Speaker 1: There's the death of a loved one, there's moving, there's
Speaker 1: changing jobs. Increasingly, there's staying wedded to the word of
Speaker 1: God in a society that hates the word of God.
Speaker 1: It can be hard to do that because sometimes it
Speaker 1: leads to losing jobs, and that's.
Speaker 3: A real challenge.
Speaker 1: It's horrible. God promises us, he promises us that He
Speaker 1: will return sevenfold what we lose if we do it
Speaker 1: serving him. I've certainly found that to be true. With
Speaker 1: this podcast and the multiple radio shows we have now
Speaker 1: national radio shows, I've certainly can witness to that. The
Speaker 1: hard thing I think about doing a hard thing is
Speaker 1: getting past the thinking point the planning point. And there's
Speaker 1: something that I've learned about my mind, and that is
Speaker 1: that my mind will confuse talking about doing a thing
Speaker 1: with doing the thing. Consequently, there are goals I have
Speaker 1: in my mind I never share with anybody. I don't
Speaker 1: even write them down. Trust me, they're not going away.
Speaker 3: They're up here.
Speaker 1: The hard thing as well is sometimes recognizing that you
Speaker 1: are not going to shine all the time. It goes
Speaker 1: right back to your the turtle, or no, not you
Speaker 1: to the turtle. It goes back to all the places
Speaker 1: will go. This is doctor Seuss right, You're not always
Speaker 1: going to be on top. My coach did something to
Speaker 1: me about four weeks ago. She's never done and what
Speaker 1: was going on. I didn't even understand what she was doing.
Speaker 1: She presented to me a workout challenge and showed me
Speaker 1: the movements. This is going to be these movements. It's
Speaker 1: what we'd call it shipper. So it has a whole
Speaker 1: bunch of movements in it, and five movements. And it
Speaker 1: was burpie box jumps, it was skier, it was wallballs,
Speaker 1: dead lifts, it all in this one workout. And then
Speaker 1: coach said to me, my.
Speaker 3: Expectation is that you will get easily.
Speaker 1: Through eight rounds of this. Oh okay, well that seems
Speaker 1: an aggressive.
Speaker 3: Goal, but sweet, let's do it.
Speaker 1: So I began doing the workout, and in the middle
Speaker 1: of the workout, it's about halfway through it, and I'm
Speaker 1: pretty good at pacing myself and CrossFit. I looked up
Speaker 1: at the clock and I realized, oh my gosh, if
Speaker 1: I do not murder this thing, I won't even get
Speaker 1: six rounds. So I had to turn everything up in
Speaker 1: an effort to get six rounds, and Coach had expected.
Speaker 4: Me to get eight.
Speaker 1: Now, when the workout ended, I rarely ever flop after
Speaker 1: a workout that is laid down.
Speaker 3: I rarely do that.
Speaker 1: I didn't this time, but I sat down, which is
Speaker 1: also rare for me. I never want someone to see
Speaker 1: me tired in a competition sense. I never want them
Speaker 1: to perceive that that bothered me. So I had to
Speaker 1: sit down and I finally stood up and I said
Speaker 1: to coach, let me ask a question. Was there even
Speaker 1: a chance that I could do eight rounds? And she said, well,
Speaker 1: it's in the realm of possibility. One day I said, okay,
Speaker 1: she goes Todd, You're going to go into an environment
Speaker 1: and seal fit where you're going to fail. You are
Speaker 1: not going to do on some of the evolutions. You're
Speaker 1: gonna flop. That's going to happen. They're going to make
Speaker 1: sure it happens. What I liked about what you just
Speaker 1: did is I know you figured that out, she said.
Speaker 1: I saw you look at the clock. I know you
Speaker 1: did the math, but you sped up. You didn't slow down,
Speaker 1: even knowing there was not a chance you were going
Speaker 1: to get to eight rounds.
Speaker 3: That will serve you well.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I think the hardest thing about doing hard things
Speaker 1: is recognizing that you are not always going to succeed.
Speaker 1: There are going to be pieces of something at which
Speaker 1: you'll fail, and being okay with that goes back to resilience.
Speaker 3: We'll ask Wade about this in just a second.
Speaker 1: I just got a note from my friend Steve Anderson,
Speaker 1: who's the managing director managing partner of renew Healthcare. Three
Speaker 1: couples went there in November, three fantastic outcomes, and I'm
Speaker 1: cooking up a trip back down there this time. If
Speaker 1: we go do a wellcation, we're going to give a
Speaker 1: lot more time in planning so we get a lot
Speaker 1: more people down. We didn't give much time in planning
Speaker 1: us having a great time, got to make great viewers
Speaker 1: and listeners. But there are three friends of mine who
Speaker 1: are thinking going on. One of them is Zach Abraham,
Speaker 1: who you know comes on our show once a week.
Speaker 1: He wants to get the infusion of stem cells. The
Speaker 1: infusion is probably the most expensive process and it attacks
Speaker 1: inflammation throughout your bodies. These stem cells that are ethically
Speaker 1: gathered from umbilical cords and placentas.
Speaker 3: They search your body for any hotspots.
Speaker 1: If there's cartilage that needs to be rebuilt, it can
Speaker 1: do that, tend then muscle. It does that, but it
Speaker 1: destroys inflammation across the body. That's what Zach is looking at.
Speaker 1: Another friend of mine blew up his knee. I've been
Speaker 1: asking you to pray for him. He's called the wrestler.
Speaker 1: That's not completely blown up, but looks like the beginning
Speaker 1: of a cartilage terear at our age. And he's my
Speaker 1: age in our mid fifties. Cartilage isn't likely to grow back.
Speaker 1: These stem cells can grow it back. So he's looking
Speaker 1: at having that done. And then a friend of mine
Speaker 1: a call Andy, and he's a with jumper's knee forever
Speaker 1: now it's just me. So we're all looking at going
Speaker 1: down my thing lower back. I made the mistake of
Speaker 1: wrestling my much younger, much stronger, much more athletic, better looking, smarter,
Speaker 1: and more godly friend Ben. I got the first three
Speaker 1: takedowns and he figured me out and crushed me, hurt me.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, he's my sports med doc. So there's that.
Speaker 1: So maybe he should fix me. Hey Ben, maybe I
Speaker 1: should get a you hurt me discount. So we're all
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Speaker 3: Wade Lightheart, Welcome back to the Todd Hermann Show. Good
Speaker 3: to see you, my friend, Todd.
Speaker 5: I'm so excited to be here. We had so much
Speaker 5: fun last time. To be back again. I really appreciate you.
Speaker 4: Having me on.
Speaker 3: I couldn't agree more man.
Speaker 1: Thank you before we get to the hard things, and
Speaker 1: I want to ask you the question, what's the hardest
Speaker 1: thing about doing hard things? I would be like negligent
Speaker 1: if I didn't ask you. There's a lot going on
Speaker 1: in this news. You're a very smart man. I've never
Speaker 1: talked current events with you, Like what do you seeing?
Speaker 5: Well, we're seeing the culmination of I believe, what was
Speaker 5: illustrated by the guys that wrote The Fourth Turning and
Speaker 5: if you've read that book, We're in a phase of chaos,
Speaker 5: which is usually represented by either civil war or external
Speaker 5: war or potentially even both. And there's economic cycles, there's
Speaker 5: you know, civilization cycles, and it seems that we're flat
Speaker 5: and that's probably going to be in this for another
Speaker 5: ten years as the technological in the technological advancement has
Speaker 5: really outstripped our biological capacity to handle it. So, for example,
Speaker 5: we just witnessed the most public event in world history
Speaker 5: with the attempted assassination of the former president Donald Trump,
Speaker 5: and in the current candidate. Now, I'm a Canadian, I
Speaker 5: don't get to vote either way, okay, So I want
Speaker 5: to be clear about that, and it's not a political statement,
Speaker 5: but the moment can't be lost in the fact that
Speaker 5: once again the authorities that we are entrusting to give
Speaker 5: us accurate information are stonewalling us. And we saw this
Speaker 5: in the pandemic.
Speaker 4: We saw this.
Speaker 5: I think we also saw this with the hearings in
Speaker 5: the university stuff. We saw it in the Capital six.
Speaker 5: And what's happened is we have a fractionation of opinions
Speaker 5: distributed through these little things that gain traction, that reaffirm
Speaker 5: whatever biases. I don't know what happened. I don't know
Speaker 5: what's behind all this. And people are grabbing for certainty
Speaker 5: because you need a certain amount of certainty in direction.
Speaker 5: You know, It's why people get a coach when they're
Speaker 5: trying to figure out their fitness. There's a lot of
Speaker 5: ways to get fit, but you need some sort of direction.
Speaker 5: While you have a professor at a university that you learn,
Speaker 5: or a teacher of profession, or a spiritual teaching or
Speaker 5: a leader or a functional religion, these structures. Well, now
Speaker 5: there's so much confusion around this that people are spinning
Speaker 5: around in these cycles.
Speaker 4: Of what do I do? What about this? You know,
Speaker 4: is it a conspiracy? Is this the rise of Hitler?
Speaker 4: Is you know, like Is it the end of the world?
Speaker 4: Is it World War three like? And what happens two things.
Speaker 5: Either you get really hyper motivated and indoctrinated with some
Speaker 5: kind of defenses, like we've got to save the nation
Speaker 5: and we've got to get kill everybody or fight everybody,
Speaker 5: or you go into a defense mode where it's like,
Speaker 5: I'm not listening to it, I'm checked out, don't I
Speaker 5: want to play the safe game.
Speaker 4: I don't want to deal with this.
Speaker 5: I want to just hunker down in my room and
Speaker 5: play some video games or something and take some substances
Speaker 5: that just detach me from society.
Speaker 4: And we're seeing that.
Speaker 5: We've got to find a better resolution to the new
Speaker 5: challenges of society. So there is a call to action
Speaker 5: for a lot of people. But that action can't.
Speaker 4: Be based in fear, and it can't be.
Speaker 5: Entrenched in violence, because if it is, the cost of
Speaker 5: the solution is much higher than we need to pay.
Speaker 5: But it doesn't look like anybody's learning the lessons. So
Speaker 5: it's likely the worst case scenario. And we have as
Speaker 5: men who are in charge of our families, and that's
Speaker 5: our immediate community, and then the community.
Speaker 4: That we're in.
Speaker 5: We have to start gathering ourselves with other men to
Speaker 5: find aally new you know, independent communities that are able
Speaker 5: to provide support and safety for each other in a
Speaker 5: non combative way, hopefully agreed and and and that's our
Speaker 5: that's our task, that's our calling.
Speaker 4: We can't solve.
Speaker 5: These national things, but we can solve the local We
Speaker 5: solve the local problems. I think we have an opportunity
Speaker 5: to solve the bigger problems.
Speaker 3: I couldn't agree more.
Speaker 1: And like so many people will complain about and I look,
Speaker 1: I complain sometimes living and not take care of home base.
Speaker 1: One thing I would ask you as an executive and
Speaker 1: then we'll get into the hard things discussion. Like you
Speaker 1: and Matt have built a very very successful company, and
Speaker 1: you have you know, scientists and medical people who work
Speaker 1: with you and for you in a formulation lab. So
Speaker 1: I just want to run through this scenario. And I'm
Speaker 1: taking the assassination attempt to President Trump. So here's some
Speaker 1: things we've discovered. They chose not to record the radio traffic, okay.
Speaker 1: They chose not to secure the rooftop, all right. They
Speaker 1: chose to use untrained agents, okay. They chose not to
Speaker 1: take the highest viewpoint, which would be the water tower.
Speaker 1: They chose, they chose to surrender that they chose to
Speaker 1: let this guy walk around for an hour. They chose
Speaker 1: to let him be in the rooftop for half an hour.
Speaker 1: He was there twenty minutes, a known danger with a gun.
Speaker 1: They chose that President Trump come out. So all these
Speaker 1: choices they made. And I want to put you in
Speaker 1: an executive sense. So let's say that you come to
Speaker 1: work one day and you sit down with your team.
Speaker 1: All right, we're doing the free Magnese and Breakthrough thing.
Speaker 1: It's Meg Breakthrough dot com slash Todd Free. We're doing
Speaker 1: this with Todd Herman on the show. Do we have
Speaker 1: enough coranny because we're going to get a lot of
Speaker 1: orders for this? And your team says, yeah, we didn't check.
Speaker 1: Wait so wait, no one checked. Yeah we didn't.
Speaker 3: Can we look into the warehouse? You know what?
Speaker 1: We didn't swing by the warehouse? Okay, did we tell
Speaker 1: Todd this is a possibility?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: No, And you are getting these series of excuses. Wait,
Speaker 1: who'd you put on this? Who's running this?
Speaker 4: Oh?
Speaker 1: The new guy, Doug? Wait, Doug's a great kid, but
Speaker 1: he's from the shipping department. You put Doug departs of this. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we tried about as a project managemer and you're sitting there.
Speaker 3: How quickly do.
Speaker 1: People find themselves with that employment or something? In Wade
Speaker 1: Whiteheart's World of Bioptimizers.
Speaker 5: Well, first off, the first step is that the buck
Speaker 5: stops with me because it's our company, Matt and I's company. Yeah,
Speaker 5: and I wouldn't even speak for Matt. I would say
Speaker 5: this is my fault number one. I am responsible for
Speaker 5: the delivery of our mission statement, and Matt would do
Speaker 5: the exact same thing. Nice, Okay, it's our fault. So
Speaker 5: I come out and I make a public statement I
Speaker 5: have failed in the execution of what I've promised to do.
Speaker 4: Therefore, I obviously need to be replaced.
Speaker 5: And during that replacement process, because I'm taking responsibility, I
Speaker 5: am going to find out all of the executional components.
Speaker 4: That I thought were in place or omitted or was
Speaker 4: ignorant or whatever the issue was. And I'm going to
Speaker 4: work through this to hand off the new opportunity to
Speaker 4: whoever's going to take my role in the future to
Speaker 4: say this is what we did wrong, these are the oversights,
Speaker 4: these are the elements, and we need to make this
Speaker 4: so it doesn't happen again.
Speaker 5: If I don't do that, then I'm not a leader.
Speaker 5: I'm a I'm.
Speaker 4: A false representation.
Speaker 5: And there's a lot of people in business today who
Speaker 5: take over big companies with the big paycheck and all
Speaker 5: this sort of stuff, and they're catering to the donor class.
Speaker 5: They're catering to the biggest investors. They're involved in some
Speaker 5: politically maneuvering. They're pandering to you know, silly government regulation
Speaker 5: and stuff like this. Yeah, because they're playing this political game.
Speaker 5: And what happens is a lose track of in all
Speaker 5: of the numbers, like in all of the numbers in
Speaker 5: the company, what is what does each number essentially represent?
Speaker 5: It represents a relationship with the customer, and the customer
Speaker 5: is buying a promise. You're promising number one that they
Speaker 5: have a problem, a thing they want to solve, whatever
Speaker 5: that challenge is. And you're saying, hey, look, i'm going
Speaker 5: to communicate to you. First, there's a communication I'm going
Speaker 5: to I'm in charge of this. We're going to help
Speaker 5: you with your problem too. We're going to explain, we're
Speaker 5: going to provide the solution to that problem. Number two,
Speaker 5: we're going to show you how to use or take
Speaker 5: or take advantage of that solution. Number three, we're going
Speaker 5: to make sure that that solution happens in a timely
Speaker 5: fashion so that your expectations are met within a reasonable
Speaker 5: time frame. So if I'm a personal trainer, I'm going
Speaker 5: to say, hey, yeah, we can get your You want
Speaker 5: to lose forty pounds, Well, we can lose that in
Speaker 5: a year safely. We're gonna make some and here's the benchmarks.
Speaker 5: We're going to take a benchmark at twelve weeks. We're
Speaker 5: going to take a Bell's market twenty four and we're
Speaker 5: going to see based on your compliance, and we're going
Speaker 5: to work those compliance things out.
Speaker 4: If it's a product, it's like, Hey.
Speaker 5: You wanted the best magnesium in the market, You're gonna
Speaker 5: take magnesium Breakthrough. Why is it the best? Here's the
Speaker 5: reasons why. Here's our promise. We're gonna ship it to
Speaker 5: you with this medium. Do you like Amazon? Do you
Speaker 5: like online? Do you like Facebook? Do you like with
Speaker 5: an affiliate such as yourself? Great, we're gonna get that.
Speaker 5: We're gonna give you a discount represent for that person
Speaker 5: because that person is out there promoting and putting their
Speaker 5: name on the line and their stuff, because I have
Speaker 5: a responsibility to my partner and then when that product
Speaker 5: gets to them, do they know how to take it
Speaker 5: and it gets in a time and fashion and number
Speaker 5: four of that, if any part of that goes wrong,
Speaker 5: I'm responsible to that, and so therefore I give my
Speaker 5: customer their money back. And in this case they have
Speaker 5: to say, I have to give the title back that
Speaker 5: I was entrusted with because I've failed to deliver and
Speaker 5: I owe it to this. I owe it to the
Speaker 5: position that I'm in and the position of service that
Speaker 5: I have been given and entrusted and have the opportunity for.
Speaker 5: I've failed in it, and so therefore I need to
Speaker 5: give that back to you because I failed in it.
Speaker 5: And that's why we have a one hundred percent money
Speaker 5: back guarantee. So my business is no different than that institution.
Speaker 5: It's just a way bigger institution.
Speaker 4: When you're talking about the United States of America and
Speaker 4: hundreds of years and presidency and that the protection this
Speaker 4: is monumentally bigger.
Speaker 6: But I think it's that size in that volume and
Speaker 6: that distortion that's made them lose track of the one
Speaker 6: person that matters, which is the American citizen, and the
Speaker 6: American citizen has entrusted these.
Speaker 7: People and these institutions to operate in an integris format
Speaker 7: to deliver the services, the guidance, and to properly spend
Speaker 7: the money that they execate from them. And there's all indications,
Speaker 7: independent of which political side that you have, that we
Speaker 7: have a tyrannical, bureaucratic state that has impaired the delivery
Speaker 7: of value to the American citizen, the American taxpayer, plain
Speaker 7: and simple.
Speaker 1: And wait light heart for president dude, I wish you
Speaker 1: were a Canadian. Well, nothing wrong with being Canadian. I
Speaker 1: love Canada.
Speaker 3: But that's so so well said. And see that would
Speaker 3: be a very hard thing to do.
Speaker 1: To resign your position as the boss be a very
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Speaker 3: Truk twenty four Dash three seven eight Wade. You heard me.
Speaker 1: Talk about this thing that my coach did to me.
Speaker 1: And she's not a sy op person, she's not a
Speaker 1: head gamer. But she did this on purpose to give
Speaker 1: me a task that mathematically and we've worked together for
Speaker 1: four years. She knows my capability, she knows my work capacity.
Speaker 1: She knew there's no chance you're getting to eight rounds
Speaker 1: when she did that to me. She was looking for something.
Speaker 1: Is Todd gonna crack? Is You're going to realize, my gosh,
Speaker 1: I'm going to fail? So why even put in the effort?
Speaker 1: And what she said she was pleased by was no,
Speaker 1: you sped up, you poured more into it knowing you
Speaker 1: weren't going to get eight rounds. That's what I was
Speaker 1: looking for because in seal fit, you're going to fail. Todd,
Speaker 1: you are going to fail. So I think one of
Speaker 1: the things that hard things are doing, hard things weighed
Speaker 1: is to recognize that you're going to fail. You've done
Speaker 1: a ton of hard things, being a world champ, bodybuilder,
Speaker 1: building this company, being willing to step down.
Speaker 3: As the boss. What do you think is the real
Speaker 3: hard thing about doing hard things?
Speaker 4: I think it's to be honest with yourself.
Speaker 1: Okay, so you're scaring me because I'm getting afraid and
Speaker 1: seal fit and I'm starting to be honest with myself.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you know the first I think if
Speaker 5: there is another Commandmtage thou shalt not kid thyself?
Speaker 3: I love that, right?
Speaker 4: And what does that mean?
Speaker 5: You See, everybody has a voice in their head, and
Speaker 5: that voice maybe over calibrating to the negative or over
Speaker 5: calibrating to the positive, and in different areas, and very
Speaker 5: seldom is it direct leap an accurate representation of reality.
Speaker 5: And only when you get outside of your comfort zone,
Speaker 5: which is a requirement of excellence, because an excellence, you
Speaker 5: are letting go of what your past self is or
Speaker 5: what's comfortable for you now to embrace what could could
Speaker 5: you be your potential. But you don't know what your
Speaker 5: potential is. You don't know what your top end is,
Speaker 5: you don't know what your super self could possibly be.
Speaker 5: So in pursuit of that, whether you're driven by a
Speaker 5: negative voice or a positive voice, the accuracy isn't there.
Speaker 5: So you need some sort of external benchmark to determine
Speaker 5: where you really are at. So, whether that is delivering
Speaker 5: a product on time to a customer or a client,
Speaker 5: whether that is achieving a new level of fitness, going
Speaker 5: in a fitness contest or running a marathon or doing
Speaker 5: seal Fit or any of the difficult things, or having
Speaker 5: and maintaining a good relationship with your wife. Think that
Speaker 5: everything's okay and I'm doing a great job, and then
Speaker 5: you know, you go to a therapist and she starts
Speaker 5: bringing up a bunch of things that you had no
Speaker 5: idea about and you you thought you.
Speaker 4: Were nailing it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and and and and so the distortion between your
Speaker 5: perception of what you're doing and her experience is different.
Speaker 5: So this confrontation with external reality versus your internal representation
Speaker 5: of it is the process of excellence. And the first
Speaker 5: time or two that you hit this, or even the
Speaker 5: first multiple times, it's it's impactful in the fact that
Speaker 5: it can be you.
Speaker 4: Can kind of take away from your confidence a little bit.
Speaker 5: It's like, well, wait a minute, the world isn't exactly
Speaker 5: the way that I'm representing it in my self talk
Speaker 5: or my representation. I'm not as good as I think
Speaker 5: I am. I'm not as cool as I think I am.
Speaker 5: I'm not as fit as I think I am. I'm
Speaker 5: not as successful or wealthy, or confident or well like?
Speaker 5: Are all all of those stories that we're trying to
Speaker 5: bolster or hide from in dealing with it. And it's
Speaker 5: very you know what is the biggest fear in public
Speaker 5: in people's lives?
Speaker 4: Speaking in public? Now?
Speaker 5: We all have a voice in our head that's ourselves talking,
Speaker 5: but in public, if speaking in a public room with
Speaker 5: a bunch of people where they could actually not be
Speaker 5: concordant with what you're saying in your head, why are
Speaker 5: people scared of that? Because people don't want to expose
Speaker 5: themselves to that situation because they might feel that it's
Speaker 5: too crushing. It's too crushing. And some people will go
Speaker 5: into a situation like that. They'll do their first competition,
Speaker 5: they'll they'll get in their first marriage and go through
Speaker 5: a divorce, or they'll they'll fail at a competition, or
Speaker 5: they'll start a business and fail, or they're go into
Speaker 5: a university and get ripped up in their first thing.
Speaker 5: They go into that aspirational aspect and at some point
Speaker 5: they they get a conflict with that self representation now.
Speaker 5: Opportunity and danger are written in the kaishu script in
Speaker 5: Chinese and Japanese.
Speaker 4: Writing.
Speaker 5: So the dangerous aspect is to face oneself and your
Speaker 5: less than representation of what you could be is dangerous
Speaker 5: for the psyche and the stamp. Why okay, life is
Speaker 5: not what I think it is? The opportunity is is okay, Well,
Speaker 5: here's where I'm at. Maybe if I continue further, I
Speaker 5: can be a better version of myself because the only
Speaker 5: person you're really competing against yourself is the person you
Speaker 5: were yesterday, and if you continually confined little tiny games
Speaker 5: within that, you'll be successful. The other thing is is
Speaker 5: most people never go all into anything right because they're
Speaker 5: scared that if they go all in and it's not enough,
Speaker 5: that somehow they're not good enough, they're not successful enough,
Speaker 5: they're not cool enough, they're not attractive enough, they're not
Speaker 5: rich enough, whatever. So therefore they rationalize out why they
Speaker 5: shouldn't do it, or why they that's dumb or that's stupid,
Speaker 5: or why would I do that or anyone else that
Speaker 5: does that. They'll direct a condemnitive narrative around that, or
Speaker 5: they're selfish, or they're not.
Speaker 4: Cool or they think they're all that, or they.
Speaker 5: Generate this whole projection around that, but really it's a
Speaker 5: self protection mechanism because guess what, it's better to stay
Speaker 5: safe and secure in delusion than to be out there
Speaker 5: and exposed in reality.
Speaker 3: That's beautiful. That is just beautiful.
Speaker 1: I want to make sure that we grab that and
Speaker 1: push that through all the socials. That's a beautiful, beautiful statement.
Speaker 1: And this, like this measuring stick, Mike, my current thing
Speaker 1: will be seal fit and my expectation of myself is
Speaker 1: to thrive, right, because if I go down there and
Speaker 1: say I'm going to survive, well, that's like aiming for okay,
Speaker 1: and I want to thrive. My measuring stick for this
Speaker 1: are these series of things I've been doing. A twelve
Speaker 1: hour workout, a sixteen hour workout, a twenty four hour workout.
Speaker 3: But here's the deal.
Speaker 1: Wait, is that when I do this, I program it
Speaker 1: on my own. Well, those are things I'm innately going
Speaker 1: to put limits of myself. When I invite my friends
Speaker 1: in and have them kindly show up at three o'clock
Speaker 1: in the morning and I am toast and they're brand new,
Speaker 1: fresh out of bed, with coffee and pancakes and they
Speaker 1: show up and say, here's what we're going to do.
Speaker 3: This is the next hour and a half of your life.
Speaker 1: All of a sudden, that dynamic changes, and I'm confronted
Speaker 1: now with having to pace with another person. We're going
Speaker 1: to run a five k, You're going to pace me,
Speaker 1: You're going to stick with me, You're going to wear
Speaker 1: a kit. I'm not going to wear a kit. My
Speaker 1: run is going to be easier, you's going to be harder.
Speaker 1: And that sort of mind game you could call it,
Speaker 1: is very very functional because they know what's being done
Speaker 1: out of love and very helpful. But that measuring stick
Speaker 1: I don't think happens consistently enough in people's lives. Like
Speaker 1: you talked about a husband and wife. I did a
Speaker 1: show once on marriage. KPIs key performance indicators. The fruit
Speaker 1: of the spirit on one access the biblical definition of love.
Speaker 1: On the other, access do I feel around people the
Speaker 1: fruit of the spirit patients, kindness, joy, temperance, self control, kindness, charity.
Speaker 1: And then on the bottom, do I have then the
Speaker 1: characteristics of biblical love? Am I seeking to serve not
Speaker 1: be served? Am I not boastful, proud or angry? And
Speaker 1: if you take a confluence of those things and map
Speaker 1: that on a chart and talk with one another, how
Speaker 1: are we on these KPIs. Now you're getting some sort
Speaker 1: of measure between one another. You add a third party
Speaker 1: to that, like a therapist. Then you have someone else
Speaker 1: saying I don't know that you're exactly rated that way.
Speaker 1: There are people who have special needs kids and this
Speaker 1: happens that they have to adjust their expectation for their kids,
Speaker 1: and this is really hard for parents. Parents say, well,
Speaker 1: my kid's going to be he's going to go to
Speaker 1: my college and he's going to pursue my profession. And
Speaker 1: when they find out the kids have are non neurotypical,
Speaker 1: a lot of times for parents it can be oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, and it's a difficult thing.
Speaker 3: To adjust expectations.
Speaker 1: Doesn't mean that you stop loving, you stop pushing, stop believing,
Speaker 1: or parents of kids have special needs for them to
Speaker 1: understand that Alan has it really tough. He's effectively nonverbal,
Speaker 1: he has at eighteen operations. He's only fourteen years old.
Speaker 4: But he works.
Speaker 1: He invents soap. He works at the company in quality control.
Speaker 1: His brother Ian is impacted by autism. He works, He
Speaker 1: contributes Amy who got late on set autism. She's thriving,
Speaker 1: helping with social media, et cetera. She was told she's
Speaker 1: hirable and the soap is of pristine quality. There's no
Speaker 1: way John would put his name on a soap that sucked.
Speaker 1: So they researched a family. They found them in the Midwest.
Speaker 1: They are three generations into the soap crafting world. That's
Speaker 1: what that's all they do. They took on the fragrances
Speaker 1: that Alan thought of, that came from special memories for him.
Speaker 3: They create those soaps. They're all natural, they're made in.
Speaker 1: America to give this to families with kids with special needs.
Speaker 1: Partake of the younger kids. It's a side of hope,
Speaker 1: and every time they wash their bodies they can remember that. Yep,
Speaker 1: our kids too can work. Our kids can contribute. What
Speaker 1: the word saying is not true. So go to alansaps
Speaker 1: dot com slash todd. That's alansaps dot com slash todd.
Speaker 1: From a Christian perspective, we need to understand something the Bible,
Speaker 1: the Holy Bible told us, and this is paraphrasing, things
Speaker 1: are gonna get whack. That's not exactly how the Lord
Speaker 1: Jesus said it. But look we can read good's going
Speaker 1: to be called evil. Evil's going to be good. Men
Speaker 1: are gonna, you know, depart solid teachings and go after
Speaker 1: the false teachers who give them what their itching ears
Speaker 1: want to know. That goes back to that self awaren thing.
Speaker 1: And also having this measure for me going back to
Speaker 1: the Bible. Is this biblical? Are these good things or not?
Speaker 3: And I agree with you on these protocols.
Speaker 1: In what I have done the like twenty four hours,
Speaker 1: sixteen ho or twelve hour work is you know what's
Speaker 1: the first to give up?
Speaker 3: It's not my body, it's my mind.
Speaker 1: Correct And I found myself from the first twelve hour
Speaker 1: workout at about hour nine, I realized my neurological system is.
Speaker 4: Wigged.
Speaker 1: I fell asleep swimming and I thank god I was
Speaker 1: at a four foot deep pool so I didn't drowned.
Speaker 1: So what I want to close off with on this
Speaker 1: with you've been so kind with your time. I want you,
Speaker 1: if you would be so kind, is to help me
Speaker 1: visualize a moment that's coming for me and help me.
Speaker 1: Given the success you've had as a competitive athlete, I
Speaker 1: want you to help me visualize something in just a
Speaker 1: second and we'll close off with you because I want
Speaker 1: everybody to hear you prep us for the moment. The
Speaker 1: moment could be asking this person to marry you. The
Speaker 1: moment could be quitting a job. The moment could be
Speaker 1: asking for a job. The moment could be having a
Speaker 1: very tough conversation with your kid. There are going to
Speaker 1: be these moments.
Speaker 3: So this as a preface, I want to ask you to.
Speaker 1: Do that.
Speaker 3: I'm having this morning. This would be.
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, let's see twelfth twenty four. This is my
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Speaker 3: This happens to be what do we have downstairs? Goltlocker?
Speaker 1: Oh so the goltlocker is a great, great story from
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Speaker 3: Now in this hand is a pretend? Is it sniffer?
Speaker 1: What do you all wine people drink? What's the fancy
Speaker 1: wine things called like wine glass?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: It's a fancy wine glass in this hand, a fake
Speaker 1: one because I don't drink wine.
Speaker 3: But if it did drink wine, it would have bone.
Speaker 1: Frog cellars and I would go and I'd swish it around,
Speaker 1: and that's called legs.
Speaker 3: Does it have legs?
Speaker 1: I learned this from my friends who are wine snobs,
Speaker 1: wine wine experts. It has legs, and then I would
Speaker 1: test the bouquete like up my beak. You can do
Speaker 1: that with coffee too. You could also do that with
Speaker 1: root beer. You can do that with a blowy sandwich.
Speaker 1: I don't know why people do it with wine, but
Speaker 1: they do it.
Speaker 3: That's what you do.
Speaker 1: Then you take a little bit of it and you
Speaker 1: drink it. You put it in your mouth, but then
Speaker 1: you open your mouth and your nose and you breathe
Speaker 1: fuck through as you're testing the wine. I think you
Speaker 1: do that a little bit more aerodype form, a little
Speaker 1: bit more genteel.
Speaker 4: See.
Speaker 1: I don't drink wine, but I turn to my friends
Speaker 1: who are wine experts, and they tried bone Frog cellars
Speaker 1: and were deeply impressed. They had the twenty fifteen Mayor
Speaker 1: Low and those are the two. I don't know if
Speaker 1: to say flavors or blends. I don't know types of wine.
Speaker 1: My daughter tried it. She is not yet legally supposed
Speaker 1: to drink, but hey, it's our house. Assue me, but
Speaker 1: I guess you could. She loved it, Suitor her boyfriend,
Speaker 1: my wife occasion has wine with dinner. She really enjoyed it.
Speaker 3: So try it.
Speaker 1: You go to Bonefrogsellers dot com slash todd. Ten percent
Speaker 1: of proceeds go to the Navy Seal Foundation because the founder,
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Speaker 1: com slash todd, so Wade Lightheart by Optimizers and a
Speaker 1: friend of the show. Let me set this stage and
Speaker 1: this should apply to everybody. It could be you walking
Speaker 1: in to talk to the boss about a race. It
Speaker 1: could be you sending the family down to say we're moving.
Speaker 1: It could be going to a loved one and saying, hey,
Speaker 1: I did read the medical reports you are dying. I mean,
Speaker 1: these things happen it could be a conversation with someone
Speaker 1: you've known, and hey, you know what, I've ever thought
Speaker 1: about being more than friends, and it could be all
Speaker 1: these things. Here's my situation. I want to have your help.
Speaker 1: I will be in I think it's called Tahano, California.
Speaker 1: There's no doubt I'm not gonna get to be sleep
Speaker 1: before this event. I'm not going to kid myself. You said,
Speaker 1: don't live in delusion. I'm going to be nervous the
Speaker 1: whole stinking night.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna get it.
Speaker 1: At four am, I'm gonna take my mushroom breakthrough. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna have my caffeine, I'm gonna have my supplements. I'm
Speaker 1: going to get onto a campus with most guys twenty
Speaker 1: two to twenty four years of age in the Navy
Speaker 1: intending to be Navy seals. At six am, they're gonna
Speaker 1: put us into a courtyard and this session is going
Speaker 1: to begin. You know what freaks me out the most
Speaker 1: walking into the parking lot, literally parking the rental car
Speaker 1: or taking an uber because I'm not allowed to drive
Speaker 1: away out to be an uber walking into the parking lot,
Speaker 1: and you know what really freaks him out, Wade is
Speaker 1: all these young guys looking and going, oh, look at
Speaker 1: the old dude, Look at the guy who thinks he's
Speaker 1: going to get this done. And then it's that moment
Speaker 1: where Mark Divine, the head coach, starts us out and
Speaker 1: I know that the first eight hours are about getting.
Speaker 3: The people who are easy drops to drop.
Speaker 1: I know it, I get it, and yet still in
Speaker 1: my gut and I'm trying to transfer it into excitement. Waight,
Speaker 1: I'm trying to do that thing that neural linguistic programming
Speaker 1: to make it excitement.
Speaker 3: Help me with this.
Speaker 1: You have had to walk on stages and pose against
Speaker 1: the world's greatest all natural bodybuilders. Just talk me through
Speaker 1: that moment. Prep me for this.
Speaker 4: Well.
Speaker 5: I think the first step to go into in any
Speaker 5: event that you haven't done before is number one to
Speaker 5: do the preparation beforehand so you're well prepared. In other words,
Speaker 5: you've done the training, you've probably got some sort of
Speaker 5: expert to kind of bring you up to speed. So
Speaker 5: don't think that you should go like I think the
Speaker 5: dumbest thing that you could do is to go in
Speaker 5: blind and say, yeah, let's just wagness and go for it.
Speaker 5: Because what happens is when you get exposed. You can't
Speaker 5: lean back on all of those experiential trains, the days,
Speaker 5: the hours in the gym, the sessions with your coach,
Speaker 5: the preparation that you've done, whether that's training or lifting
Speaker 5: or you know, So every time I went into a
Speaker 5: competition and you know, you're standing on stage in front
Speaker 5: of the most critical of it at all, you know,
Speaker 5: crowd you could possibly have with bright lights that are
Speaker 5: designed to show every single flag by your body. It's
Speaker 5: the sport of bodybuilding. It's the crazy story. And there's
Speaker 5: no money in it either. It's not like if I,
Speaker 5: you know, you're an okay baseball player, you're a millionaire,
Speaker 5: you're an okay, you're a great bodybuilder, you're still broke.
Speaker 5: So it's but subjecting that I can go back to
Speaker 5: my very first time where I hadn't had that experience,
Speaker 5: and I remember that feeling coming up, that anxiety as
Speaker 5: you be walking into the parking lot that they'll you know,
Speaker 5: it's just like standing backstage and seeing these other bodybuilders
Speaker 5: and I'm going out on stage to lights from my
Speaker 5: first posing and the crowd and my friends are going
Speaker 5: to be there, and I could get and I remember
Speaker 5: that feeling came up, and the key is don't fight it, huh.
Speaker 4: Allow allow it.
Speaker 5: To come up, allow it to rise up within it,
Speaker 5: don't suppress it, don't try to fight it, don't say think,
Speaker 5: don't even think that it shouldn't be there. This is
Speaker 5: a heightened sense of awareness. This is your preparation and
Speaker 5: the opportunity to step forth.
Speaker 4: And if we go back.
Speaker 5: In time, we have ten thousand generations within our DNA
Speaker 5: that had to step into uncertainty, to death, to starvation,
Speaker 5: to mayhem, to travels to unknown parts of the world
Speaker 5: without compasses, GPS's internet, to get on a boat. We're
Speaker 5: the product of all it. So you can leverage the
Speaker 5: thousands of generations before you that is in your DNA.
Speaker 5: And said, I honor the ancestors of the past, and
Speaker 5: I honor the ancestors to in the future, and I
Speaker 5: will step forth to pass this genetic lineage on into
Speaker 5: the future and to honor that from the past, and
Speaker 5: walk into the fear, walk into it and surrender into it,
Speaker 5: because that is what the Lord's prayer says. Yay, though
Speaker 5: I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
Speaker 5: I fear no evil because thy rod and thy staff
Speaker 5: comfort me. It is the suffering that comforts me, because
Speaker 5: if I'm in pain, if I am suffering, and if
Speaker 5: i am nervous, i am I'm still here. I'm still here.
Speaker 5: Embrace it, walk through it. Don't think that you shouldn't
Speaker 5: feel that. Everybody feels it. But eventually what separates the
Speaker 5: people who thrive in those environments is they recognize that
Speaker 5: those feelings in those senses are normal. And I can
Speaker 5: recall a particular interview I think where Jocko Willing captured
Speaker 5: this and he talked about they'd be going on a
Speaker 5: mission and they have the new guy with them, and
Speaker 5: just to give you an explanation on an on a
Speaker 5: Navy seal mission, there's a voute, a thousand personal checks
Speaker 5: that you have to do, everything from tying like taping
Speaker 5: your boot laces, making sure you're like as a professional,
Speaker 5: that all those guys are counting, because one screw up
Speaker 5: and people are dead.
Speaker 4: I thought that this is the.
Speaker 5: Highest level of consequence to a tiny thing being at
Speaker 5: a place. Then there's about one thousand things that are
Speaker 5: mission specific that they have to check, and they're going
Speaker 5: into you know, where they could lose their lives in
Speaker 5: that moment or the lives of their friends. And what
Speaker 5: he said was, you see the new guy and he's
Speaker 5: nervous and everything, and the guys and the guys like
Speaker 5: you know, they're trying to suppress the nervousness around the guys.
Speaker 4: And he says to him, he says, like, hey, it's
Speaker 4: normal to feel nervous. Eventually, you just get used to
Speaker 4: it and know that it's part of the deal. Love it,
Speaker 4: love it.
Speaker 5: And eventually, what I've come to learn in my own
Speaker 5: experience by exposing myself to those situations over and over
Speaker 5: and over and over again, I don't even call it fear.
Speaker 5: I call it a heightened sense of awareness in that
Speaker 5: adrenaline in that that anxiety is me, is it? That's
Speaker 5: my body preparing to be at its absolute best to rise.
Speaker 4: Up to the challenge.
Speaker 5: And I've failed many times, but I never failed in
Speaker 5: a way that I cowered out. I did my best
Speaker 5: in that moment, and I gave my best. And sometimes
Speaker 5: it's not enough. But that's okay because I found my
Speaker 5: limit today, love it, and from that I can build
Speaker 5: from it.
Speaker 1: That's beautiful, so beautiful, Thank you for that. I will
Speaker 1: contain that I will welcome the fear. I will feel
Speaker 1: my body being.
Speaker 3: Hyper aware, hyper aware.
Speaker 1: And in the moment, and I love that. I love
Speaker 1: that you use the psalms remind us about you know
Speaker 1: they do. I walk through the valley of the shadow
Speaker 1: of death. I'm unlikely to die seal fit and it
Speaker 1: might happen, but I'm unlikely. That's bad business, usually to
Speaker 1: kill customers something like that. Yea, brother, Thank you so
Speaker 1: much for sharing your hearts, your view on current events.
Speaker 1: Not a lot of bosses will do that. Thank you
Speaker 1: for showing accountability and continue to speak into lives, particularly
Speaker 1: young men. We are called to do that as men
Speaker 1: of a certain age. And once again I extend the
Speaker 1: imitation for you to get up here. We would love, love,
Speaker 1: love to have you in Idaho. Thank you for the
Speaker 1: meg breakthrough dot com slash toddfree site, for building that
Speaker 1: for us and for this podcast family, and just want
Speaker 1: to wish you to go with God's good grace.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
Speaker 4: Wade, thanks so much.
Speaker 3: This is the Todd Herman Show.
Speaker 1: Please go, be well, be strong, be kind, and please
Speaker 1: make every effort to walk in the light of Christ.