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Speaker 1: Most of us eat every day, some of us too

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much because yesterday's food is not enough to supply energy

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for today's needs. Why then, do some of us expect

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yesterday's portion of heavenly manna, the word of God to

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keep us through today's challenges. On this program, we are

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going to change all of that. Let's experience God's words

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today and receive the power we need to live healthy,

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vibrant lives. Welcome to your Daily Portion with your host,

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author speaker, Elle David Harris.

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Speaker 2: Good morning, good morning, Good morning. It is Sunday, March fifteen,

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twenty twenty six. Hello, my name is El David Harris.

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I am your host, and this is your Daily Portion

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where we give you God's word every single day and

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today is no exception. We are continuing in our Lesson

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study series uniting Heaven and Earth, christ in Philippians and Colossians,

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and our caption for today is Husband's and Lives Husbands

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and Wives. Before we get into that, I'd like to

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say welcome to everyone joining us, especially those joining us

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for it the very first time. I'm asking you to

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please go over to your Daily Portion dot com. Will

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you please join our online community and pick up the

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Your Daily Portion Life application Guide. I know I'm speaking quickly,

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but I want to get to the goods here in

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our lesson study. But just please one more moment, would

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you click the contribute button. We are listener and viewer

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the world at your Daily Portion dot com. This is

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one of the ways that we continue to build faith

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and fellowship. Let's go ahead and pray and then we

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will get underway. Father, We thank you for the privilege

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of prayer. Thank you for giving us the Bible to

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guide our lives. Will you teach us to live like

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we must under you with our family relations, especially our marriages.

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In Jesus name, I pray, Amen and Amen again. The

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divorced statistics are really really crazy, even inside of the

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quote church and so and so man, there are so

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many reasons. There are so many reasons. And some of

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you may remember that I used to be a marriage coach,

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a romantic relationships coach. I seldom do it anymore these days,

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but that was my life for a while. And it's

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because I love marriage. Simon does two. I love marriage,

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and I remember when Ron and Daria Gadsden. I don't

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know if they listen to your Daily portion or not,

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but somebody ping them for this one. I remember they

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took some own and I on a date our first year.

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We were just weeks old, I think, and we had

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a double date, and these elders said that that marriage

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is a ministry. Marriage is a ministry. That is the

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number one best guidance that I've ever gotten. I don't

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know if Simone would agree, but that was the number

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one best advice that I had ever gotten where marriage

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is concerned. I've heard all kinds of other stuff about

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how hard the work is for marriage. Okay, fine, maybe

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it is right. Maybe it is I've heard all kinds

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of other stuff right. And then the second best advice

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that I got was from Pastor Henry Monroe Wright, who

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who pastored Simone and I and gave us our premarital

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counseling all of those years ago. And he, among many things,

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he said, I don't know why this one resonates with me,

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but he said, neither of you is the other one's parent.

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Neither of you is the other one's parent. And I

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knew what the words meant back then, but those words

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really resonate with me when Simone is doing something that

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I disagree with, or I don't know if it resonates

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with her when I'm doing something she disagrees with. We're

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not talking about principal stuff that's obvious, like little stuff

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you feel me like somebody like me. I like to

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put the toilet paper roll with the paper going from

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under because it makes sense to me, and maybe she

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likes it for to go over like in the hotels.

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But little stuff like that, so neither one of us

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gets to tell the other one, well, this is the

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way it has to be done. I don't like when

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people squeeze the toothpaste tube from the middle. I needed

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to be squeezed from so that it's you understand what

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I'm saying here. So we have these preferences in our marriage,

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which now I know is a ministry, and that there

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are young people and elders alike. There are people that

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are older than me by over a decade I'm fifty

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something who are looking at our marriage and they're encouraged

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by it. They're seeing it as a standard because we

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choose to live according to the biblical principle. And so

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I'll stop with the personal discussion here, and we'll jump in.

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We'll jump in right to the Bible, Book of Colossians,

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chapter three and verse eighteen. The Bible says, why submit

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yourselves to your own husbands, as it is fit in

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the Lord. Now I know that the people normally go

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there first, and forget about the loving part, where the

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husbands are are to love our wives as Christ loved

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the church and gave himself for it. But let's start

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right here. Let's talk about what this ain't right. So

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Paul does not present submission as a blind compliance or

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a loss of identity. That is not the case. In fact,

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In fact, Auntie Ellen taught us that Eve was taken

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from the rib of Adam. So that means that she

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wasn't taken from the foot to be trampled upon. She

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wasn't taken from the head to lord over him. She

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was taken. She was taken from the rib so that

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she could help complete him. They are side by side,

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both equally valued by God, and neither to be subordinate.

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That's not the same as submission. Neither is subordinate to

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the other one. So I don't command simone to do

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nothing like that is not the case. That is not

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the same as submission, and so he places a clear

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boundary around it. It said submission is in the Lord.

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A wife's highest allegiance remains with Christ. There are so

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many abusive relationships out here because some brothers get this

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thing mixed up. This means submission never includes sin. I'm

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going to take my time right here. It never means

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cohersion or the surrender of conscience. The instruction assumes spiritual

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maturity and not domination. And so this means this submission.

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Look at the actual word that Paul used. Who I

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can't pronounce it. I won't try to. But the word,

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the word actually means to align willingly under proper order,

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never forced or coerced. That's what the word means. I'll

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try it. I'll try it, I said I wouldn't right,

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it's who pot taso, who pote taso? Theologians let me

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know if I pronounced it correctly. But now you know

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the word I'm working with to align willingly under proper order,

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never forced or cohersed, coerced. So that means that we

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need to be reevaluating whether our understanding of submission reflects

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Christ's lordship rather than cultural habit or personal control. Now,

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the Bible says here in Colossians, chapter three and verse nineteen,

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this is the one I love the most. Love defines headship,

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not authority. The Bible says, husbands, love your wives and

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be not bitter against them. So Paul places the burden

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the greater burden on husbands. Love is not optional, bitterness

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is forbidden. Ephesians expands this stem by anchoring marital love

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in Christ's self giving love for the church, and so headship,

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spiritually speaking, is expressed through sacrifice. Brothers, are you sacrificing

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for your wives? Are you sacrificing for your wives? Care? Faithfulness,

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not control? This mean this love actually means to act

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for another's highest good with self giving commitment. So ask

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whether your decisions and marriage consistently protect honor and serve

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your wife's well being. I think we have enough for today.

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Make it a great day. Peaks for joining us listening. Friends.

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Speaker 1: Always remember we cannot live by bread alone, but by

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every word that comes from the mouth of God. This

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has been your daily portion with el David Harris. Make

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it a great day. Yeah,