Speaker 1: Most of us eat every day, some of us too
much because yesterday's food is not enough to supply energy
for today's needs. Why then, do some of us expect
yesterday's portion of heavenly manna, the word of God to
keep us through today's challenges. On this program, we are
going to change all of that. Let's experience God's words
today and receive the power we need to live healthy,
vibrant lives. Welcome to your Daily Portion with your host,
author speaker, Elle David Harris.
Speaker 2: Good morning, good morning, Good morning. It is Sunday, March fifteen,
twenty twenty six. Hello, my name is El David Harris.
I am your host, and this is your Daily Portion
where we give you God's word every single day and
today is no exception. We are continuing in our Lesson
study series uniting Heaven and Earth, christ in Philippians and Colossians,
and our caption for today is Husband's and Lives Husbands
and Wives. Before we get into that, I'd like to
say welcome to everyone joining us, especially those joining us
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and fellowship. Let's go ahead and pray and then we
will get underway. Father, We thank you for the privilege
of prayer. Thank you for giving us the Bible to
guide our lives. Will you teach us to live like
we must under you with our family relations, especially our marriages.
In Jesus name, I pray, Amen and Amen again. The
divorced statistics are really really crazy, even inside of the
quote church and so and so man, there are so
many reasons. There are so many reasons. And some of
you may remember that I used to be a marriage coach,
a romantic relationships coach. I seldom do it anymore these days,
but that was my life for a while. And it's
because I love marriage. Simon does two. I love marriage,
and I remember when Ron and Daria Gadsden. I don't
know if they listen to your Daily portion or not,
but somebody ping them for this one. I remember they
took some own and I on a date our first year.
We were just weeks old, I think, and we had
a double date, and these elders said that that marriage
is a ministry. Marriage is a ministry. That is the
number one best guidance that I've ever gotten. I don't
know if Simone would agree, but that was the number
one best advice that I had ever gotten where marriage
is concerned. I've heard all kinds of other stuff about
how hard the work is for marriage. Okay, fine, maybe
it is right. Maybe it is I've heard all kinds
of other stuff right. And then the second best advice
that I got was from Pastor Henry Monroe Wright, who
who pastored Simone and I and gave us our premarital
counseling all of those years ago. And he, among many things,
he said, I don't know why this one resonates with me,
but he said, neither of you is the other one's parent.
Neither of you is the other one's parent. And I
knew what the words meant back then, but those words
really resonate with me when Simone is doing something that
I disagree with, or I don't know if it resonates
with her when I'm doing something she disagrees with. We're
not talking about principal stuff that's obvious, like little stuff
you feel me like somebody like me. I like to
put the toilet paper roll with the paper going from
under because it makes sense to me, and maybe she
likes it for to go over like in the hotels.
But little stuff like that, so neither one of us
gets to tell the other one, well, this is the
way it has to be done. I don't like when
people squeeze the toothpaste tube from the middle. I needed
to be squeezed from so that it's you understand what
I'm saying here. So we have these preferences in our marriage,
which now I know is a ministry, and that there
are young people and elders alike. There are people that
are older than me by over a decade I'm fifty
something who are looking at our marriage and they're encouraged
by it. They're seeing it as a standard because we
choose to live according to the biblical principle. And so
I'll stop with the personal discussion here, and we'll jump in.
We'll jump in right to the Bible, Book of Colossians,
chapter three and verse eighteen. The Bible says, why submit
yourselves to your own husbands, as it is fit in
the Lord. Now I know that the people normally go
there first, and forget about the loving part, where the
husbands are are to love our wives as Christ loved
the church and gave himself for it. But let's start
right here. Let's talk about what this ain't right. So
Paul does not present submission as a blind compliance or
a loss of identity. That is not the case. In fact,
In fact, Auntie Ellen taught us that Eve was taken
from the rib of Adam. So that means that she
wasn't taken from the foot to be trampled upon. She
wasn't taken from the head to lord over him. She
was taken. She was taken from the rib so that
she could help complete him. They are side by side,
both equally valued by God, and neither to be subordinate.
That's not the same as submission. Neither is subordinate to
the other one. So I don't command simone to do
nothing like that is not the case. That is not
the same as submission, and so he places a clear
boundary around it. It said submission is in the Lord.
A wife's highest allegiance remains with Christ. There are so
many abusive relationships out here because some brothers get this
thing mixed up. This means submission never includes sin. I'm
going to take my time right here. It never means
cohersion or the surrender of conscience. The instruction assumes spiritual
maturity and not domination. And so this means this submission.
Look at the actual word that Paul used. Who I
can't pronounce it. I won't try to. But the word,
the word actually means to align willingly under proper order,
never forced or coerced. That's what the word means. I'll
try it. I'll try it, I said I wouldn't right,
it's who pot taso, who pote taso? Theologians let me
know if I pronounced it correctly. But now you know
the word I'm working with to align willingly under proper order,
never forced or cohersed, coerced. So that means that we
need to be reevaluating whether our understanding of submission reflects
Christ's lordship rather than cultural habit or personal control. Now,
the Bible says here in Colossians, chapter three and verse nineteen,
this is the one I love the most. Love defines headship,
not authority. The Bible says, husbands, love your wives and
be not bitter against them. So Paul places the burden
the greater burden on husbands. Love is not optional, bitterness
is forbidden. Ephesians expands this stem by anchoring marital love
in Christ's self giving love for the church, and so headship,
spiritually speaking, is expressed through sacrifice. Brothers, are you sacrificing
for your wives? Are you sacrificing for your wives? Care? Faithfulness,
not control? This mean this love actually means to act
for another's highest good with self giving commitment. So ask
whether your decisions and marriage consistently protect honor and serve
your wife's well being. I think we have enough for today.
Make it a great day. Peaks for joining us listening. Friends.
Speaker 1: Always remember we cannot live by bread alone, but by
every word that comes from the mouth of God. This
has been your daily portion with el David Harris. Make
it a great day. Yeah,