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<v Speaker 1>Can you be fifty plus and have a crush? I have,

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<v Speaker 1>James D. Junior, this is fifty plus. I was just

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<v Speaker 1>laying down thinking about something. I'm sorry drinking my liquid death.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that stuff. It's seriously, I'm thinking about something.

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<v Speaker 1>It give me three all these apple things again. Real talk.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm fifty plus and is it okay to have questions

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<v Speaker 1>on people? I say yes when you hear crush. I

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<v Speaker 1>always think of kids, school age, teenager, even young adult.

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<v Speaker 1>They have a crash, a crash, and my god, I

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<v Speaker 1>have a crash. It's like, do you do you outgrow them?

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<v Speaker 1>I always say, you know, chemistry is such an unexpected thing.

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<v Speaker 1>You could be walking along minding your own business and

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<v Speaker 1>then you see somebody, Oh my god, your heart starts

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<v Speaker 1>to beat, or you meet somebody Here's I even go

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<v Speaker 1>even further with this. You go to a place, you

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<v Speaker 1>meet someone and you're taking a back at how much

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<v Speaker 1>you like them. Like I live alone. I live my brother,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'm alone. Basically I don't have anybody. And I

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<v Speaker 1>and I, like many people my age, get older, we

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<v Speaker 1>kind of walked through life knowing that we can make it,

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<v Speaker 1>knowing that we'll make it through You know it's not.

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<v Speaker 1>Most of us aren't crying every day and upset openly

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<v Speaker 1>about not having someone. I remember when I was younger,

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<v Speaker 1>I got ready some of my journals. When I was younger,

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<v Speaker 1>I was so angsty about not having somebody, and will

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<v Speaker 1>I get someone, and we'll like find someone, and oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, it's at the end of the world. That's gone.

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<v Speaker 1>That's definitely if your past your fifty, that's definitely gone.

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<v Speaker 1>But for a single folks, I think for me, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>trying to buy a lot of couples, whether they're married

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<v Speaker 1>or dating or whatever, I'm trying to buy a lot

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<v Speaker 1>and I see, I see them, I see them awfully

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<v Speaker 1>what they are, So I have problems. Some are okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not there's no rose colored glasses. And then I

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<v Speaker 1>will fully admit there are times when you're at this

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<v Speaker 1>age you're like, thank god, I'm not a relationship. I'm good,

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<v Speaker 1>I have to deal with somebody else's crap. Oh my goodness,

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<v Speaker 1>you aks a doodle. But then there are times you're like, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>it'd be really nice to have somebody to lean on

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<v Speaker 1>or talk to you at the end of the day.

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<v Speaker 1>Or I know, for me, it's it's it's the attention,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's something. It's even attention somebody looking at you

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<v Speaker 1>and going you know, they're into you. They just they're

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<v Speaker 1>into you. I have such an interesting relationship with people

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<v Speaker 1>now because I'm in a position where I'm kind of

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<v Speaker 1>famous depending on what circles you fall in. I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>known name, I'm a president of a company. People work

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<v Speaker 1>for me or work with me. Like it's it's a

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<v Speaker 1>whole different world for me that people are excited to

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<v Speaker 1>meet me and want to meet me and you know

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<v Speaker 1>all that, and that's I'm planning to see how it's

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<v Speaker 1>like a different it's a different layer. And it's nice

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<v Speaker 1>because they are excited to see me and meet me

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<v Speaker 1>and they want to work with me and things like that,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's a tension on some level. But this is different.

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<v Speaker 1>They give me attention for work or entertainment reasons. But

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<v Speaker 1>you know, where are the where is that person who

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<v Speaker 1>when they see you, they just light up and they're

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<v Speaker 1>attracted to you and they and they're all in there

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<v Speaker 1>into you on some level. I I don't know, I

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<v Speaker 1>do miss that. I don't have it. I don't I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>When I come home, it's funny, I have to do everything.

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<v Speaker 1>I also have to do everything myself. You learn how

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<v Speaker 1>to carry groceries differently. When you're by yourself, you learn

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<v Speaker 1>how to multitask opening the door and balancing your the

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<v Speaker 1>food you brought home from here, and all the bags

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<v Speaker 1>from work. There's no one and it's not understand I'm

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<v Speaker 1>looking for somebody to serve me. And it's just I

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<v Speaker 1>do every I mean I do everything myself. Literally, I'm hungry.

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<v Speaker 1>I I have to there. I so when I go

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<v Speaker 1>to someone else's house and I change, don't worry. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>make a drink for you. It's like that's a big deal.

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<v Speaker 1>Anybody who lives alone or older gets it. If I

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<v Speaker 1>want to drink, I have to get up and get it.

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<v Speaker 1>If I if I'm hungry, I have to figure it out.

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<v Speaker 1>There's somebody going I'll have to I'll take I'll take

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<v Speaker 1>care of Dinner's like, don't worry. I have to do everything.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't have a partner. I mean, any thoughts,

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<v Speaker 1>any decisions where it goes off my family, whatever, I

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<v Speaker 1>got to deal with it myself. Yes, you have friends

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<v Speaker 1>and blah blah blah and whatever, it's not the same.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not so I guess. And so the original question

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<v Speaker 1>is can you have questions? Because I at this age

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<v Speaker 1>and I found myself to have a couple of crushes

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<v Speaker 1>that I did not expect. There's some new folks, and

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<v Speaker 1>I have a whole bunch of new folks in my

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<v Speaker 1>life due to some work stuff that's going on, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, Wow, that's it, that's that's interesting. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>expect that. And I know nothing will ever come out

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<v Speaker 1>of them. And I'm not even gonna say who they are.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you guys listen to the show, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna tell you who they are. But I'm not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>tell you, but just that it's and they're harmless. It's

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<v Speaker 1>it's well, they're harmless in fact that I know, I

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<v Speaker 1>have boundaries, not gonna do nothing. This is all to

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<v Speaker 1>myself but me. But I guess it is harmful to

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<v Speaker 1>me because they're gonna be unrequited and that's gonna happen

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<v Speaker 1>because of them, and they're gonna stay where they are.

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<v Speaker 1>They're just a question somebody, and that's that the one.

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<v Speaker 1>The folks who try to make that question real, these

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<v Speaker 1>are the ones who run into problems. So you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to think big go James, that that's gonna happened. See,

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<v Speaker 1>I let it go and learn that it's okay to

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<v Speaker 1>have these questions here and there. That's kind of fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it could be fun. I guess. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I know something. Thing. It's all over the place.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what fifty plus is. Sometimes you feel like you're

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<v Speaker 1>all over the place and the subject of questions love, partnership, relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't get easier as you get older. It doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>get better. Sorry why I'm not gonna be sure, Cody.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't get better. It gets harder. And it's It's

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<v Speaker 1>one of the things that reminds me that my mother

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<v Speaker 1>lost her husband, so it must be tough for her.

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<v Speaker 1>They were together all the time, he did everything. So

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<v Speaker 1>there's something you know when you lose that partner must

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<v Speaker 1>be really tough. But you're used to them because someone's

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even have that. I don't know, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not like I'm sitting here depressed. You know, cry

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<v Speaker 1>myself is the very night. But it's just I'm very

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<v Speaker 1>aware of how alone I am. No, Yes, and again,

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. I have family and friends and they

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<v Speaker 1>all love you. Blah blah blah whatever. I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not the same. And I think people, I think

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes people are afraid to admit that it's too vulnerable.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds too sad, it sounds it sounds like, but no,

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<v Speaker 1>you have friends and family and you can call them

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<v Speaker 1>and if they want to talk to you anytime, and like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not the same. I don't know why we have

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<v Speaker 1>a hard time acknowledging that a love relationship is totally

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<v Speaker 1>different than a friendship as there were then a familial

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<v Speaker 1>ships did they're different there, They're just added things to

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<v Speaker 1>relationship that other things don't give. It just just it

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<v Speaker 1>just is and when they're right or wrong. So I

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<v Speaker 1>almost save it tonight on this episode. We're not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>solve it, but there's somebody. This is some of my

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts that I share with you on Tuesdays here on jail,

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<v Speaker 1>j med at fifty plus fifty plus talking about life

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<v Speaker 1>after fifty. The next time