Speaker 1: Can you be fifty plus and have a crush? I have,
Speaker 1: James D. Junior, this is fifty plus. I was just
Speaker 1: laying down thinking about something. I'm sorry drinking my liquid death.
Speaker 1: I love that stuff. It's seriously, I'm thinking about something.
Speaker 1: It give me three all these apple things again. Real talk.
Speaker 1: I'm fifty plus and is it okay to have questions
Speaker 1: on people? I say yes when you hear crush. I
Speaker 1: always think of kids, school age, teenager, even young adult.
Speaker 1: They have a crash, a crash, and my god, I
Speaker 1: have a crash. It's like, do you do you outgrow them?
Speaker 1: I always say, you know, chemistry is such an unexpected thing.
Speaker 1: You could be walking along minding your own business and
Speaker 1: then you see somebody, Oh my god, your heart starts
Speaker 1: to beat, or you meet somebody Here's I even go
Speaker 1: even further with this. You go to a place, you
Speaker 1: meet someone and you're taking a back at how much
Speaker 1: you like them. Like I live alone. I live my brother,
Speaker 1: but I'm alone. Basically I don't have anybody. And I
Speaker 1: and I, like many people my age, get older, we
Speaker 1: kind of walked through life knowing that we can make it,
Speaker 1: knowing that we'll make it through You know it's not.
Speaker 1: Most of us aren't crying every day and upset openly
Speaker 1: about not having someone. I remember when I was younger,
Speaker 1: I got ready some of my journals. When I was younger,
Speaker 1: I was so angsty about not having somebody, and will
Speaker 1: I get someone, and we'll like find someone, and oh
Speaker 1: my god, it's at the end of the world. That's gone.
Speaker 1: That's definitely if your past your fifty, that's definitely gone.
Speaker 1: But for a single folks, I think for me, I'm
Speaker 1: trying to buy a lot of couples, whether they're married
Speaker 1: or dating or whatever, I'm trying to buy a lot
Speaker 1: and I see, I see them, I see them awfully
Speaker 1: what they are, So I have problems. Some are okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not there's no rose colored glasses. And then I
Speaker 1: will fully admit there are times when you're at this
Speaker 1: age you're like, thank god, I'm not a relationship. I'm good,
Speaker 1: I have to deal with somebody else's crap. Oh my goodness,
Speaker 1: you aks a doodle. But then there are times you're like, wow,
Speaker 1: it'd be really nice to have somebody to lean on
Speaker 1: or talk to you at the end of the day.
Speaker 1: Or I know, for me, it's it's it's the attention,
Speaker 1: and it's something. It's even attention somebody looking at you
Speaker 1: and going you know, they're into you. They just they're
Speaker 1: into you. I have such an interesting relationship with people
Speaker 1: now because I'm in a position where I'm kind of
Speaker 1: famous depending on what circles you fall in. I'm a
Speaker 1: known name, I'm a president of a company. People work
Speaker 1: for me or work with me. Like it's it's a
Speaker 1: whole different world for me that people are excited to
Speaker 1: meet me and want to meet me and you know
Speaker 1: all that, and that's I'm planning to see how it's
Speaker 1: like a different it's a different layer. And it's nice
Speaker 1: because they are excited to see me and meet me
Speaker 1: and they want to work with me and things like that,
Speaker 1: and that's a tension on some level. But this is different.
Speaker 1: They give me attention for work or entertainment reasons. But
Speaker 1: you know, where are the where is that person who
Speaker 1: when they see you, they just light up and they're
Speaker 1: attracted to you and they and they're all in there
Speaker 1: into you on some level. I I don't know, I
Speaker 1: do miss that. I don't have it. I don't I don't.
Speaker 1: When I come home, it's funny, I have to do everything.
Speaker 1: I also have to do everything myself. You learn how
Speaker 1: to carry groceries differently. When you're by yourself, you learn
Speaker 1: how to multitask opening the door and balancing your the
Speaker 1: food you brought home from here, and all the bags
Speaker 1: from work. There's no one and it's not understand I'm
Speaker 1: looking for somebody to serve me. And it's just I
Speaker 1: do every I mean I do everything myself. Literally, I'm hungry.
Speaker 1: I I have to there. I so when I go
Speaker 1: to someone else's house and I change, don't worry. I'll
Speaker 1: make a drink for you. It's like that's a big deal.
Speaker 1: Anybody who lives alone or older gets it. If I
Speaker 1: want to drink, I have to get up and get it.
Speaker 1: If I if I'm hungry, I have to figure it out.
Speaker 1: There's somebody going I'll have to I'll take I'll take
Speaker 1: care of Dinner's like, don't worry. I have to do everything.
Speaker 1: And I don't have a partner. I mean, any thoughts,
Speaker 1: any decisions where it goes off my family, whatever, I
Speaker 1: got to deal with it myself. Yes, you have friends
Speaker 1: and blah blah blah and whatever, it's not the same.
Speaker 1: It's not so I guess. And so the original question
Speaker 1: is can you have questions? Because I at this age
Speaker 1: and I found myself to have a couple of crushes
Speaker 1: that I did not expect. There's some new folks, and
Speaker 1: I have a whole bunch of new folks in my
Speaker 1: life due to some work stuff that's going on, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, Wow, that's it, that's that's interesting. I didn't
Speaker 1: expect that. And I know nothing will ever come out
Speaker 1: of them. And I'm not even gonna say who they are.
Speaker 1: And if you guys listen to the show, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna tell you who they are. But I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: tell you, but just that it's and they're harmless. It's
Speaker 1: it's well, they're harmless in fact that I know, I
Speaker 1: have boundaries, not gonna do nothing. This is all to
Speaker 1: myself but me. But I guess it is harmful to
Speaker 1: me because they're gonna be unrequited and that's gonna happen
Speaker 1: because of them, and they're gonna stay where they are.
Speaker 1: They're just a question somebody, and that's that the one.
Speaker 1: The folks who try to make that question real, these
Speaker 1: are the ones who run into problems. So you don't
Speaker 1: have to think big go James, that that's gonna happened. See,
Speaker 1: I let it go and learn that it's okay to
Speaker 1: have these questions here and there. That's kind of fun.
Speaker 1: I guess it could be fun. I guess. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I know, I know something. Thing. It's all over the place.
Speaker 1: That's what fifty plus is. Sometimes you feel like you're
Speaker 1: all over the place and the subject of questions love, partnership, relationships.
Speaker 1: It doesn't get easier as you get older. It doesn't
Speaker 1: get better. Sorry why I'm not gonna be sure, Cody.
Speaker 1: It doesn't get better. It gets harder. And it's It's
Speaker 1: one of the things that reminds me that my mother
Speaker 1: lost her husband, so it must be tough for her.
Speaker 1: They were together all the time, he did everything. So
Speaker 1: there's something you know when you lose that partner must
Speaker 1: be really tough. But you're used to them because someone's
Speaker 1: I don't even have that. I don't know, you know.
Speaker 1: It's not like I'm sitting here depressed. You know, cry
Speaker 1: myself is the very night. But it's just I'm very
Speaker 1: aware of how alone I am. No, Yes, and again,
Speaker 1: I get it. I have family and friends and they
Speaker 1: all love you. Blah blah blah whatever. I get it.
Speaker 1: It's not the same. And I think people, I think
Speaker 1: sometimes people are afraid to admit that it's too vulnerable.
Speaker 1: It sounds too sad, it sounds it sounds like, but no,
Speaker 1: you have friends and family and you can call them
Speaker 1: and if they want to talk to you anytime, and like,
Speaker 1: it's not the same. I don't know why we have
Speaker 1: a hard time acknowledging that a love relationship is totally
Speaker 1: different than a friendship as there were then a familial
Speaker 1: ships did they're different there, They're just added things to
Speaker 1: relationship that other things don't give. It just just it
Speaker 1: just is and when they're right or wrong. So I
Speaker 1: almost save it tonight on this episode. We're not gonna
Speaker 1: solve it, but there's somebody. This is some of my
Speaker 1: thoughts that I share with you on Tuesdays here on jail,
Speaker 1: j med at fifty plus fifty plus talking about life
Speaker 1: after fifty. The next time