WEBVTT

1
00:00:00.440 --> 00:00:03.560
<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to the Doctor Wendywall Show on KFI AM

2
00:00:03.600 --> 00:00:07.559
<v Speaker 1>six forty live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. We spent

3
00:00:07.759 --> 00:00:10.439
<v Speaker 1>a lot of time on the show talking about motherhood,

4
00:00:10.759 --> 00:00:15.560
<v Speaker 1>all the various complication, complic complicated emotions, the feelings that

5
00:00:15.599 --> 00:00:18.679
<v Speaker 1>people have around something that you know, I've said it.

6
00:00:18.679 --> 00:00:22.120
<v Speaker 1>It's kind of a hallmark holiday, but it's a time

7
00:00:22.160 --> 00:00:26.079
<v Speaker 1>for us to really talk about motherhood and everything it

8
00:00:26.120 --> 00:00:28.960
<v Speaker 1>has entails. And I always say, you know, mothers can't win.

9
00:00:29.199 --> 00:00:31.239
<v Speaker 1>You know, whether you do the right thing or don't

10
00:00:31.280 --> 00:00:34.000
<v Speaker 1>do the right thing, you get blamed for everything. My

11
00:00:34.119 --> 00:00:38.240
<v Speaker 1>next guest is not only a psychiatrist, but a mother

12
00:00:38.479 --> 00:00:42.799
<v Speaker 1>of two and one of her daughters was born with disabilities.

13
00:00:42.880 --> 00:00:46.159
<v Speaker 1>I'd like to welcome doctor Eva Ritfo to the show. Hi,

14
00:00:46.280 --> 00:00:48.719
<v Speaker 1>doctor Eva, how are you Hi?

15
00:00:48.880 --> 00:00:51.840
<v Speaker 2>It's wonderful to hear your voice, especially on Mother's Day

16
00:00:52.039 --> 00:00:53.119
<v Speaker 2>exactly now.

17
00:00:53.159 --> 00:00:55.799
<v Speaker 1>I know when one is about to become a mother

18
00:00:56.159 --> 00:01:01.960
<v Speaker 1>and they're full of expectations and then something happens and

19
00:01:02.000 --> 00:01:06.159
<v Speaker 1>their baby may not be this perfect child or I

20
00:01:06.239 --> 00:01:09.040
<v Speaker 1>know you'd argue with me about what is perfection, but

21
00:01:09.760 --> 00:01:13.280
<v Speaker 1>a child that might have physical or mental disabilities. Can

22
00:01:13.319 --> 00:01:15.599
<v Speaker 1>you share us a little bit about what happened to you.

23
00:01:15.640 --> 00:01:19.599
<v Speaker 2>It was your firstborn, right, yes, it was my first born,

24
00:01:20.519 --> 00:01:25.040
<v Speaker 2>my daughter. I was finishing my psychiatry residency and she

25
00:01:25.239 --> 00:01:28.840
<v Speaker 2>was born and we thought everything was great. And then

26
00:01:28.879 --> 00:01:31.319
<v Speaker 2>we moved down to Florida where I was starting a

27
00:01:31.359 --> 00:01:34.640
<v Speaker 2>job on the faculty at University of Miami, and in

28
00:01:34.719 --> 00:01:38.799
<v Speaker 2>the couple weeks of transitioning, my sister, who was training

29
00:01:38.840 --> 00:01:42.719
<v Speaker 2>as a pediatrician, came down to visit and she's I

30
00:01:42.760 --> 00:01:44.519
<v Speaker 2>said to my sister, oh, well, we can already tell

31
00:01:44.599 --> 00:01:46.439
<v Speaker 2>she's going to be right handed because she hasn't used

32
00:01:46.480 --> 00:01:49.239
<v Speaker 2>her left hand as much. And my sister was smart

33
00:01:49.319 --> 00:01:51.719
<v Speaker 2>enough to be like, what, that doesn't make any sense.

34
00:01:52.439 --> 00:01:54.120
<v Speaker 2>This goes back a long way. So you weren't just

35
00:01:54.159 --> 00:01:57.319
<v Speaker 2>looking everything up on the internet, right, So we called her.

36
00:01:57.400 --> 00:01:59.120
<v Speaker 1>And this baby was only two weeks old at.

37
00:01:59.000 --> 00:02:01.799
<v Speaker 3>This point, your daughter, No, she was six months.

38
00:02:01.200 --> 00:02:01.719
<v Speaker 1>Six months.

39
00:02:01.840 --> 00:02:04.159
<v Speaker 2>She was six months. Yeah, she was six months. So

40
00:02:04.200 --> 00:02:08.199
<v Speaker 2>we had a beautiful, uneventful six months minus the colic,

41
00:02:08.280 --> 00:02:10.360
<v Speaker 2>which you know lots of people have that. That wasn't

42
00:02:10.400 --> 00:02:15.120
<v Speaker 2>much fun, but we got through the colic. Turned out

43
00:02:15.120 --> 00:02:19.000
<v Speaker 2>she was allergic to breast milk. Go figure so well, yeah,

44
00:02:19.039 --> 00:02:21.120
<v Speaker 2>we took it took a while to sort that through,

45
00:02:21.280 --> 00:02:24.280
<v Speaker 2>so you know, it was definitely not a very easy start,

46
00:02:25.520 --> 00:02:26.520
<v Speaker 2>but we got through that.

47
00:02:26.639 --> 00:02:27.960
<v Speaker 3>We moved down to Miami.

48
00:02:28.080 --> 00:02:30.680
<v Speaker 2>My sister made the comment, I didn't even have a

49
00:02:30.719 --> 00:02:33.639
<v Speaker 2>doctor down here, so found a pediatrician.

50
00:02:33.520 --> 00:02:36.039
<v Speaker 3>Went in and I got to tell you, Wendy. Even

51
00:02:36.080 --> 00:02:39.280
<v Speaker 3>though it was thirty plus years ago, I remembered.

52
00:02:38.919 --> 00:02:41.560
<v Speaker 2>The phone call like it was yestvay and I stick

53
00:02:41.639 --> 00:02:43.560
<v Speaker 2>to my stomach thinking about it.

54
00:02:43.919 --> 00:02:47.479
<v Speaker 3>He was terribly rude, told us you know.

55
00:02:49.000 --> 00:02:52.639
<v Speaker 2>His name, and said, you know, well, your daughter has

56
00:02:52.639 --> 00:02:55.960
<v Speaker 2>a hole in her brain and he's.

57
00:02:55.759 --> 00:02:56.800
<v Speaker 3>Never going to be normal.

58
00:02:57.560 --> 00:02:59.960
<v Speaker 2>And we ran what because we just thought she wasn't

59
00:03:00.080 --> 00:03:01.479
<v Speaker 2>moving her left hand as much.

60
00:03:01.960 --> 00:03:03.039
<v Speaker 3>So it was over the phone.

61
00:03:03.039 --> 00:03:05.919
<v Speaker 2>It was really, honestly a horrible moment. I didn't know

62
00:03:05.960 --> 00:03:08.599
<v Speaker 2>a soul in Miami. I was about to start the

63
00:03:08.639 --> 00:03:11.479
<v Speaker 2>first job in my life, twenty nine years old. Horrible,

64
00:03:12.360 --> 00:03:18.080
<v Speaker 2>and then things went downhill from there. We found out

65
00:03:18.120 --> 00:03:21.159
<v Speaker 2>she had a form of cerebral policy called Hanny paris Is,

66
00:03:21.199 --> 00:03:24.680
<v Speaker 2>where she couldn't use her left side.

67
00:03:24.719 --> 00:03:25.639
<v Speaker 3>But that was okay.

68
00:03:25.759 --> 00:03:28.680
<v Speaker 2>You know, she was still a bright, beautiful, easy going,

69
00:03:28.759 --> 00:03:32.360
<v Speaker 2>fun child, so we got her into therapies and everything

70
00:03:32.479 --> 00:03:34.919
<v Speaker 2>was sort of you know, coming back together, started my.

71
00:03:34.960 --> 00:03:38.520
<v Speaker 3>Job, etc. And then at two and a half she

72
00:03:38.719 --> 00:03:39.479
<v Speaker 3>had a seizure.

73
00:03:40.639 --> 00:03:42.599
<v Speaker 2>We were all at home and we saw it and

74
00:03:42.840 --> 00:03:44.159
<v Speaker 2>I knew what it was immediately.

75
00:03:44.240 --> 00:03:48.120
<v Speaker 3>We raced to the hospital. They kept her overnight, and

76
00:03:48.159 --> 00:03:50.039
<v Speaker 3>then we had a.

77
00:03:49.759 --> 00:03:52.919
<v Speaker 2>Really bad two and a half years, really really bad.

78
00:03:53.000 --> 00:03:56.560
<v Speaker 2>When she would have seizures, they wouldn't stop, so we

79
00:03:56.599 --> 00:03:59.120
<v Speaker 2>would have to call the paramedics. They would come, they

80
00:03:59.120 --> 00:04:03.240
<v Speaker 2>would give her ivy rectally to get the seizure to stop,

81
00:04:03.360 --> 00:04:04.000
<v Speaker 2>and then they'd have.

82
00:04:03.960 --> 00:04:05.400
<v Speaker 3>To transport her to the hospital.

83
00:04:06.280 --> 00:04:09.080
<v Speaker 2>So we weren't allowed to go, you know, too far

84
00:04:09.120 --> 00:04:11.840
<v Speaker 2>away from a hospital. So no traveling back to see

85
00:04:11.840 --> 00:04:14.240
<v Speaker 2>my family, which was in Los Angeles, no traveling back

86
00:04:14.240 --> 00:04:15.520
<v Speaker 2>to see my friends that were in.

87
00:04:15.479 --> 00:04:19.319
<v Speaker 3>New York, no going really very far at all.

88
00:04:20.240 --> 00:04:22.040
<v Speaker 2>I would go to work, but that was about five

89
00:04:22.079 --> 00:04:25.160
<v Speaker 2>minutes away from the house, and sure enough, I remember

90
00:04:25.199 --> 00:04:27.279
<v Speaker 2>sitting with a patient once and getting that phone call

91
00:04:27.319 --> 00:04:28.680
<v Speaker 2>and just saying, in the middle of the session with

92
00:04:28.720 --> 00:04:29.279
<v Speaker 2>a patient.

93
00:04:29.040 --> 00:04:31.639
<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry, I have to go. He was like dumbfounded,

94
00:04:31.639 --> 00:04:33.319
<v Speaker 3>and I'm like I always plain later, I've got to

95
00:04:33.360 --> 00:04:35.519
<v Speaker 3>get out of here fast, so as I worked at

96
00:04:35.560 --> 00:04:36.199
<v Speaker 3>the hospital.

97
00:04:36.519 --> 00:04:39.600
<v Speaker 1>You know, there is a wonderful ending to the story.

98
00:04:39.600 --> 00:04:41.480
<v Speaker 1>I want to save it for a few minutes from now,

99
00:04:42.079 --> 00:04:44.879
<v Speaker 1>but I want to talk about the feelings and emotions.

100
00:04:45.639 --> 00:04:48.199
<v Speaker 1>You didn't plan to have a child with disabilities. I'm

101
00:04:48.240 --> 00:04:51.319
<v Speaker 1>sure mothers blame themselves for everything. Did you have to

102
00:04:51.639 --> 00:04:54.920
<v Speaker 1>handle guilt? And what happened was her stress on your

103
00:04:54.959 --> 00:04:57.560
<v Speaker 1>marriage because of this talk about what happens to a

104
00:04:57.639 --> 00:04:59.040
<v Speaker 1>family when this happens.

105
00:04:59.360 --> 00:05:02.199
<v Speaker 2>Well, we went downhill from the seizures and at five,

106
00:05:02.399 --> 00:05:05.759
<v Speaker 2>she had to have surgery brain surgery to move the

107
00:05:05.759 --> 00:05:08.800
<v Speaker 2>portion of her brain that was starting the seizures.

108
00:05:09.279 --> 00:05:11.480
<v Speaker 3>And that's when things really got bad.

109
00:05:12.879 --> 00:05:15.920
<v Speaker 2>And then she had a complication following the surgery, had

110
00:05:15.920 --> 00:05:21.000
<v Speaker 2>a second emergency surgery, near death episode. I mean, as

111
00:05:21.040 --> 00:05:23.279
<v Speaker 2>bad as it gets, Wendy, as bad as it gets.

112
00:05:23.279 --> 00:05:27.639
<v Speaker 2>So that's when the guilt started. I think the marriage

113
00:05:27.680 --> 00:05:30.800
<v Speaker 2>was strained. You know, I don't know if we want

114
00:05:30.800 --> 00:05:32.639
<v Speaker 2>to say at a breaking point then, but certainly we

115
00:05:32.680 --> 00:05:33.800
<v Speaker 2>did go on to divorce.

116
00:05:35.439 --> 00:05:37.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it was pretty bad.

117
00:05:37.720 --> 00:05:41.120
<v Speaker 1>Well, there was a silver lining. First of all, you

118
00:05:41.160 --> 00:05:44.399
<v Speaker 1>went on to have another daughter, and yeah, how many

119
00:05:44.480 --> 00:05:48.279
<v Speaker 1>years between your daughters.

120
00:05:46.759 --> 00:05:49.040
<v Speaker 3>Four and a half, so it was right before the

121
00:05:49.120 --> 00:05:51.680
<v Speaker 3>really really bad part that the other daughter was born.

122
00:05:51.839 --> 00:05:55.040
<v Speaker 3>Was a miracle. She was born. Let's just say we

123
00:05:55.040 --> 00:05:56.199
<v Speaker 3>weren't exactly.

124
00:05:55.839 --> 00:05:59.439
<v Speaker 2>Trying, and she came to the world that was also

125
00:05:59.720 --> 00:06:04.360
<v Speaker 2>very pregnancy because she was very small, so they thought,

126
00:06:04.360 --> 00:06:08.240
<v Speaker 2>oh gosh, you know, another set of complications. But miracle,

127
00:06:08.360 --> 00:06:11.959
<v Speaker 2>she was fine and has been fine, and it's thriving

128
00:06:11.959 --> 00:06:15.240
<v Speaker 2>and has really been a pillar of strength for our family.

129
00:06:15.319 --> 00:06:18.519
<v Speaker 2>When she was born, we jokingly called her Paxel because

130
00:06:18.519 --> 00:06:20.079
<v Speaker 2>she lifted everybody's mood up.

131
00:06:20.600 --> 00:06:23.519
<v Speaker 3>And the poor kid is now becoming a psychotherapists because

132
00:06:23.519 --> 00:06:25.120
<v Speaker 3>she's got to lift the whole world's mood up.

133
00:06:26.399 --> 00:06:29.199
<v Speaker 1>But I do want to say before we go to

134
00:06:29.279 --> 00:06:36.120
<v Speaker 1>a break, that your oldest daughter, Joy lives independently now

135
00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:40.079
<v Speaker 1>and yes recently, what did she experience.

136
00:06:41.519 --> 00:06:43.439
<v Speaker 2>Well, the funny thing is, right, the last time she

137
00:06:43.519 --> 00:06:46.360
<v Speaker 2>was on your show, you proposed to Julio. Right, she

138
00:06:46.519 --> 00:06:48.839
<v Speaker 2>was on and then she hung up and the next

139
00:06:48.839 --> 00:06:50.439
<v Speaker 2>thing you know, you're proposing to Julio.

140
00:06:50.480 --> 00:06:54.079
<v Speaker 3>We were all completely shocked. Well, Joy has gone on

141
00:06:54.160 --> 00:06:55.199
<v Speaker 3>to be a miracle.

142
00:06:55.360 --> 00:06:58.879
<v Speaker 2>She's done so much therapy you name a therapy we've

143
00:06:58.920 --> 00:07:00.560
<v Speaker 2>done it. I can give you feed back if any

144
00:07:00.560 --> 00:07:02.279
<v Speaker 2>mother's out there want to know what works and what

145
00:07:02.399 --> 00:07:03.759
<v Speaker 2>doesn't work, because.

146
00:07:03.560 --> 00:07:05.360
<v Speaker 3>A lot of people will sell you things that don't work,

147
00:07:05.399 --> 00:07:06.199
<v Speaker 3>but a lot of things you do.

148
00:07:06.560 --> 00:07:08.920
<v Speaker 1>So she's a very smart young woman and went on

149
00:07:08.959 --> 00:07:12.680
<v Speaker 1>a dating app and found herself a husband and that's it.

150
00:07:14.040 --> 00:07:17.399
<v Speaker 2>And Wendy, you danced at her wedding literally, Julio, and

151
00:07:17.439 --> 00:07:20.000
<v Speaker 2>you were not a married woman. Then we have a

152
00:07:20.120 --> 00:07:22.759
<v Speaker 2>very very happy ending. So to your mother's out there,

153
00:07:22.920 --> 00:07:27.160
<v Speaker 2>I say, take a deep breath. Patience and time is

154
00:07:27.199 --> 00:07:30.279
<v Speaker 2>a wonderful healer. And today I just spent a glorious

155
00:07:30.360 --> 00:07:32.680
<v Speaker 2>day just my daughter Joy. By the way, her birth

156
00:07:32.759 --> 00:07:34.920
<v Speaker 2>name was Marissa, but she chose to go by her

157
00:07:34.920 --> 00:07:37.920
<v Speaker 2>middle name, which is Joy, which is very appropriate, and

158
00:07:37.959 --> 00:07:38.680
<v Speaker 2>she leads.

159
00:07:38.439 --> 00:07:39.879
<v Speaker 3>A very joyful life.

160
00:07:40.439 --> 00:07:43.199
<v Speaker 2>I got to spend the whole day with her because

161
00:07:43.199 --> 00:07:47.720
<v Speaker 2>her very sweet, nurturing husband is actually up with his grandmother,

162
00:07:47.759 --> 00:07:51.319
<v Speaker 2>which was very dear because he had lost his mother

163
00:07:51.439 --> 00:07:52.560
<v Speaker 2>during his childhood.

164
00:07:52.959 --> 00:07:55.519
<v Speaker 3>So are you ready to bring are we go back?

165
00:07:55.600 --> 00:07:57.680
<v Speaker 1>I want to talk about this silver lining that through

166
00:07:57.720 --> 00:08:01.839
<v Speaker 1>your relationship with a daughter with discipline, you founded the

167
00:08:01.959 --> 00:08:05.560
<v Speaker 1>most amazing I hate to call it charity because it's

168
00:08:05.680 --> 00:08:10.680
<v Speaker 1>really about an educational expose and art, and we're going

169
00:08:10.720 --> 00:08:13.279
<v Speaker 1>to talk about that when we come back. My guest

170
00:08:13.360 --> 00:08:17.600
<v Speaker 1>is doctor Eva Ritfo, a psychiatrist from Miami, and Happy

171
00:08:17.639 --> 00:08:21.800
<v Speaker 1>Mother's Day to you, doctor Ritfo. We've been talking about

172
00:08:22.199 --> 00:08:26.319
<v Speaker 1>the shock and when an unexpected baby is born with

173
00:08:26.399 --> 00:08:30.680
<v Speaker 1>disabilities and you've done an amazing job raising your beautiful

174
00:08:30.759 --> 00:08:34.840
<v Speaker 1>daughter Joy. But out of this came some beauty. Can

175
00:08:34.879 --> 00:08:38.000
<v Speaker 1>you talk about the Old Beauty Project and what is it?

176
00:08:39.279 --> 00:08:41.320
<v Speaker 2>First of all, thank you, Wendy, and I love to

177
00:08:41.360 --> 00:08:42.960
<v Speaker 2>talk about the Bold Duty Project.

178
00:08:43.080 --> 00:08:45.360
<v Speaker 3>So as we just shared, we had.

179
00:08:45.240 --> 00:08:49.320
<v Speaker 2>Some very dark years, but we emerged out of that

180
00:08:49.639 --> 00:08:51.799
<v Speaker 2>and one of the ways that we emerged out of

181
00:08:51.840 --> 00:08:56.080
<v Speaker 2>them was through this nonprofit.

182
00:08:56.000 --> 00:08:57.759
<v Speaker 3>We're called the Bold Beauty Project.

183
00:08:57.840 --> 00:09:00.519
<v Speaker 2>We were formed in two thousand and fifteen where the

184
00:09:00.600 --> 00:09:04.320
<v Speaker 2>brainchild of a social worker named Shelley Beaher and her

185
00:09:04.480 --> 00:09:07.399
<v Speaker 2>idea was to take women with disabilities pair of the

186
00:09:07.399 --> 00:09:11.759
<v Speaker 2>wind photographers. We use all volunteer photographers, have them get together,

187
00:09:11.879 --> 00:09:15.399
<v Speaker 2>have a very special photo shoot experience, and then we

188
00:09:15.600 --> 00:09:18.440
<v Speaker 2>take one image from each pair and then.

189
00:09:18.360 --> 00:09:20.480
<v Speaker 3>We exhibit them together along.

190
00:09:20.159 --> 00:09:23.360
<v Speaker 2>With a brief narrative of the woman with the disability

191
00:09:23.360 --> 00:09:26.960
<v Speaker 2>and the narrative of our volunteer photographer. So my daughter

192
00:09:27.120 --> 00:09:33.000
<v Speaker 2>Joy got to be a model very early on. And

193
00:09:33.200 --> 00:09:37.639
<v Speaker 2>the fortuitous part was if anybody listening knows Robert Zuckerman,

194
00:09:37.799 --> 00:09:41.320
<v Speaker 2>Robert was a very famous photographer shooting all the behind

195
00:09:41.360 --> 00:09:45.840
<v Speaker 2>the scenes movies in Hollywood, the stills for the movie posters.

196
00:09:46.159 --> 00:09:50.720
<v Speaker 2>He became disabled, he did not fign the Hollywood community welcoming.

197
00:09:51.000 --> 00:09:53.320
<v Speaker 2>He left, came back to Miami, which is where we

198
00:09:53.399 --> 00:09:56.960
<v Speaker 2>met him, and he was used to shooting all the celebrities.

199
00:09:57.000 --> 00:09:59.639
<v Speaker 3>And I was a tiger mom before that was a word.

200
00:10:00.039 --> 00:10:02.399
<v Speaker 2>And I asked him if he would photograph my daughter

201
00:10:02.759 --> 00:10:05.440
<v Speaker 2>and he said yes, and he came over to our house.

202
00:10:05.519 --> 00:10:07.159
<v Speaker 3>We called a love fest day, and he.

203
00:10:07.440 --> 00:10:09.799
<v Speaker 2>Took the most beautiful picture of her, which has now

204
00:10:09.840 --> 00:10:12.519
<v Speaker 2>been shown in countless art fairs and is on all

205
00:10:12.519 --> 00:10:16.200
<v Speaker 2>of our branding. And she started calling him Pops, and

206
00:10:16.519 --> 00:10:20.919
<v Speaker 2>he just really inspires everybody. Sadly, he did pass away

207
00:10:21.000 --> 00:10:24.200
<v Speaker 2>during COVID in twenty twenty two, so we miss him dearly.

208
00:10:24.559 --> 00:10:27.320
<v Speaker 2>But the project goes on. So, like I said, we

209
00:10:27.360 --> 00:10:30.039
<v Speaker 2>started in twenty fifteen in Washington, d C. We did

210
00:10:30.039 --> 00:10:33.240
<v Speaker 2>our next show twenty sixteen in Miami. We've exhibited in

211
00:10:33.320 --> 00:10:37.440
<v Speaker 2>multiple cities now throughout the country, Texas, New York, we

212
00:10:37.480 --> 00:10:42.559
<v Speaker 2>did Los Angeles, last year, Philadelphia, and due to the pandemic,

213
00:10:42.639 --> 00:10:46.360
<v Speaker 2>we made a pivot and we're now on college campuses

214
00:10:46.519 --> 00:10:50.200
<v Speaker 2>because we didn't want expose any women during COVID too,

215
00:10:50.720 --> 00:10:53.200
<v Speaker 2>you know the risk. So we went to college campuses

216
00:10:53.240 --> 00:10:55.679
<v Speaker 2>because they were already you know, out and about and

217
00:10:55.679 --> 00:10:56.519
<v Speaker 2>getting exposed.

218
00:10:56.559 --> 00:11:01.120
<v Speaker 1>So the big news is the Bold Beauty Project will

219
00:11:01.120 --> 00:11:06.399
<v Speaker 1>be exhibiting for the very first time at UCLA next Sunday,

220
00:11:06.519 --> 00:11:10.639
<v Speaker 1>May eighteenth, from three to five pm. Now, for those

221
00:11:11.080 --> 00:11:15.840
<v Speaker 1>who love art, who love beauty, who love fashion, this

222
00:11:16.240 --> 00:11:20.279
<v Speaker 1>is a photography exhibition you do not want to miss.

223
00:11:20.679 --> 00:11:23.399
<v Speaker 1>And the whole goal of the Bold Beauty Project, as

224
00:11:23.399 --> 00:11:27.159
<v Speaker 1>I understand it is to change the image of disability.

225
00:11:27.679 --> 00:11:28.960
<v Speaker 1>Is that correct, doctor Eva?

226
00:11:29.360 --> 00:11:30.120
<v Speaker 3>Absolutely.

227
00:11:30.320 --> 00:11:36.000
<v Speaker 2>We have so many beautiful women who have disabilities. Joy

228
00:11:36.120 --> 00:11:38.759
<v Speaker 2>likes to call them women with different abilities, because if

229
00:11:38.799 --> 00:11:41.000
<v Speaker 2>one thing is taken away from you, you know how

230
00:11:41.000 --> 00:11:44.279
<v Speaker 2>it goes you strengthen in other areas. So our models

231
00:11:44.279 --> 00:11:48.679
<v Speaker 2>are really inspiring, resilient, beautiful women, and they get to

232
00:11:48.720 --> 00:11:51.279
<v Speaker 2>depict how they like to be seen, and so it's

233
00:11:51.279 --> 00:11:55.399
<v Speaker 2>an opportunity to see all sorts of different images and

234
00:11:55.480 --> 00:11:58.360
<v Speaker 2>who come and meet the models themselves, talk to them

235
00:11:58.679 --> 00:12:01.519
<v Speaker 2>and meet the photographers who, like I said, have volunteered

236
00:12:01.519 --> 00:12:03.720
<v Speaker 2>their time, which is so heartwarming and beautiful.

237
00:12:04.080 --> 00:12:07.080
<v Speaker 3>So we have a very interesting show coming up on campus.

238
00:12:07.120 --> 00:12:10.600
<v Speaker 3>It's free. The more that's the more we're celebrating.

239
00:12:10.639 --> 00:12:11.519
<v Speaker 2>For now.

240
00:12:11.679 --> 00:12:13.559
<v Speaker 1>I do want to say people do need to get tickets,

241
00:12:13.799 --> 00:12:16.559
<v Speaker 1>and you can go to the KFI AM six forty website.

242
00:12:16.600 --> 00:12:18.559
<v Speaker 1>We will put a link to where you can get tickets,

243
00:12:18.559 --> 00:12:21.159
<v Speaker 1>but you can also just go to Bold Beauty Project

244
00:12:21.240 --> 00:12:24.559
<v Speaker 1>dot com to get more information. So it's next Sunday,

245
00:12:25.080 --> 00:12:28.320
<v Speaker 1>May eighteenth, at three pm at UCLA. I will be there,

246
00:12:28.360 --> 00:12:31.600
<v Speaker 1>Doctor Eva will be there, the models will be there.

247
00:12:31.840 --> 00:12:36.240
<v Speaker 1>If you are interested in photography in glamour and makeup

248
00:12:36.320 --> 00:12:39.200
<v Speaker 1>and fashion, or just because you want to support this

249
00:12:39.360 --> 00:12:44.320
<v Speaker 1>amazing charity, this nonprofit, the Bold Beauty Project, we'd love

250
00:12:44.360 --> 00:12:47.840
<v Speaker 1>to see you out there, Doctor Eva. Any parting words

251
00:12:48.120 --> 00:12:56.759
<v Speaker 1>for parents who may be dealing with a child with disabilities.

252
00:12:54.919 --> 00:12:58.559
<v Speaker 3>Self care, You know it is very challenging.

253
00:12:59.200 --> 00:13:02.120
<v Speaker 2>Parenting is very challenging, particularly in this age that we

254
00:13:02.159 --> 00:13:04.720
<v Speaker 2>live in and if you add on top of that

255
00:13:04.919 --> 00:13:08.840
<v Speaker 2>disabilities and special needs and therapy sessions and the fear

256
00:13:08.879 --> 00:13:12.799
<v Speaker 2>of the unknown, it's a difficult road. And so I

257
00:13:12.799 --> 00:13:16.759
<v Speaker 2>think it's really important not to neglect yourself and remember,

258
00:13:16.799 --> 00:13:18.799
<v Speaker 2>you know, you've got to put that oxygen mask.

259
00:13:18.639 --> 00:13:19.679
<v Speaker 3>On yourself first.

260
00:13:19.720 --> 00:13:22.960
<v Speaker 2>So any mothers that are listening today, please take care

261
00:13:22.960 --> 00:13:26.399
<v Speaker 2>of yourself. Make sure that you're sleeping, make sure you're eating,

262
00:13:26.519 --> 00:13:31.120
<v Speaker 2>make sure you're exercising. Motherhood is a marathon, not a sprint,

263
00:13:31.399 --> 00:13:33.759
<v Speaker 2>so we have to be in our top shape. And

264
00:13:33.960 --> 00:13:37.679
<v Speaker 2>Joy is a wonderful example of how when we work

265
00:13:37.759 --> 00:13:41.759
<v Speaker 2>hard and we're patient and we persevere, amazing things can happen.

266
00:13:41.799 --> 00:13:45.720
<v Speaker 2>And as you mentioned, she has a beautiful, doting, loving husband.

267
00:13:45.799 --> 00:13:49.440
<v Speaker 2>She lives independently, and she's been really proud of everything

268
00:13:49.519 --> 00:13:52.120
<v Speaker 2>she's done with the Bold Beauty Project. And we hope

269
00:13:52.120 --> 00:13:54.480
<v Speaker 2>that everyone will check us out and if they can't

270
00:13:54.480 --> 00:13:56.759
<v Speaker 2>come on campus, we get it. There's a lot of traffic,

271
00:13:57.120 --> 00:13:59.080
<v Speaker 2>so you could go on our website. You could look

272
00:13:59.080 --> 00:14:02.200
<v Speaker 2>at the past shows and you could see inspiring women there.

273
00:14:02.320 --> 00:14:04.279
<v Speaker 2>I can tell you one last thing, Wendy, which is

274
00:14:04.320 --> 00:14:07.440
<v Speaker 2>for myself, I know that I have had a more

275
00:14:07.480 --> 00:14:10.840
<v Speaker 2>fulfilling life because I have a child with extra needs.

276
00:14:11.039 --> 00:14:14.679
<v Speaker 2>It has helped me to develop into a more patient, kind,

277
00:14:15.120 --> 00:14:19.240
<v Speaker 2>loving person. And believe me, I don't sweat the small stuff,

278
00:14:19.720 --> 00:14:22.360
<v Speaker 2>and after we've been through life and debt experiences with

279
00:14:22.440 --> 00:14:25.840
<v Speaker 2>your five year old, it's all small stuff exactly.

280
00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:28.679
<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for being with us, and hopefully

281
00:14:29.320 --> 00:14:31.279
<v Speaker 1>to those listeners, we'll see you next week at the

282
00:14:31.320 --> 00:14:35.919
<v Speaker 1>Bold Beauty Project at UCLA. Doctor Eva Ritvo, psychiatrist from Miami,

283
00:14:36.279 --> 00:14:39.279
<v Speaker 1>and that brings the Doctor Wendy Walls Show to a close.

284
00:14:39.320 --> 00:14:41.600
<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm always here for you every Sunday from

285
00:14:41.600 --> 00:14:44.000
<v Speaker 1>seven to nine pm. You can also follow me on

286
00:14:44.039 --> 00:14:47.840
<v Speaker 1>my social media and the handle everywhere is at doctor

287
00:14:47.960 --> 00:14:50.759
<v Speaker 1>Wendy Walsh. But I'm always here for you on KFI.

288
00:14:51.039 --> 00:14:53.200
<v Speaker 1>You've been listening to the Doctor Wendy Walls Show on

289
00:14:53.279 --> 00:14:58.240
<v Speaker 1>KFI Am six forty Live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app