WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.120 --> 00:00:03.759 Come to Mindful Leadership transforming lives with your hosts saying, 2 00:00:04.080 --> 00:00:07.240 this is where leadership meets purpose, presence, and passion. In 3 00:00:07.280 --> 00:00:10.720 today's fast paced, high pressure world, we face a leadership crisis. 4 00:00:10.960 --> 00:00:14.720 Too often, teams are led by managers who lack empathy, clarity, 5 00:00:14.759 --> 00:00:20.199 and vision, leaving individuals uninspired, disconnected, and underwelue. But it 6 00:00:20.239 --> 00:00:22.719 doesn't have to be this way. Great leadership isn't born, 7 00:00:22.760 --> 00:00:26.519 it's bill the endgame. Empower your leadership, inspire the world. 8 00:00:26.920 --> 00:00:29.800 Every week, join me, you're host saying, as we tackle 9 00:00:29.839 --> 00:00:33.119 the gaps in leadership and life coaching head on learning 10 00:00:33.119 --> 00:00:38.479 how mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and compassion can redefine success. This 11 00:00:38.560 --> 00:00:41.600 isn't just another podcast. It's a mission to fill the 12 00:00:41.679 --> 00:00:45.039 void left by in effective leadership. And it's not just 13 00:00:45.079 --> 00:00:48.240 about leadership and business. Life coaching for leaders and new 14 00:00:48.280 --> 00:00:52.079 executives is at heart of this journey. Ready to rise 15 00:00:52.240 --> 00:00:54.960 above the noise and lead with clarity, purpose, and impact. 16 00:00:55.359 --> 00:00:59.280 Join a global movement dedicated to reshaping the future of leadership, 17 00:00:59.520 --> 00:01:04.599 one my full moment at a time, Let's begin. Welcome 18 00:01:04.680 --> 00:01:08.280 back to another episode of Mindful Leadership podcast on the 19 00:01:08.319 --> 00:01:14.040 Transformation Network. The podcast where we turn your stress into strategy, 20 00:01:14.200 --> 00:01:19.680 overthinking into clarity, and over into momentum. I'm your host, Singh, 21 00:01:20.640 --> 00:01:24.920 the leadership coach who has watched a generation of brilliant 22 00:01:24.920 --> 00:01:30.319 people get quietly defeated, not by their competition, but by 23 00:01:30.319 --> 00:01:33.760 their notification. Put the phone face down where you can't 24 00:01:33.799 --> 00:01:37.599 see it. Light up right now, and that's part of 25 00:01:37.599 --> 00:01:41.959 today's listen, and let's spend next twenty eight minutes together. 26 00:01:42.079 --> 00:01:45.400 So let's begin today. I want to open with a 27 00:01:45.480 --> 00:01:48.760 picture I want you to tell I want you to 28 00:01:48.879 --> 00:01:52.560 tell me whether you have lived inside this particular picture. 29 00:01:53.840 --> 00:01:57.840 A leader I worked with, Elena, starts her day at 30 00:01:57.879 --> 00:02:01.760 seven forty in the morning, before the second sip of coffee. 31 00:02:01.799 --> 00:02:06.120 One thing happens. Our project slips a day, small thing, 32 00:02:06.480 --> 00:02:12.759 normal thing, but there is. Elena finds out through an email, 33 00:02:13.280 --> 00:02:16.759 then a Slack message about the same slip in two 34 00:02:16.800 --> 00:02:20.560 different channels, then our comment on ticket and GIRA. Then 35 00:02:20.639 --> 00:02:24.039 someone tags her on a dock in Confluence, asking if 36 00:02:24.080 --> 00:02:29.439 she saw the Slack did you see my message? One event, 37 00:02:29.879 --> 00:02:37.080 six notification, and Elena, being a conscious leader, responds to 38 00:02:37.280 --> 00:02:41.400 all six of them. She acknowledges the email thumbs up 39 00:02:41.439 --> 00:02:44.560 on Slack twice. She replies on the ticket, she answers 40 00:02:44.599 --> 00:02:47.840 the dog, she texts back, and by nine am she 41 00:02:48.000 --> 00:02:53.919 has processed the same eight words update six separate times, 42 00:02:53.960 --> 00:02:58.439 in six separate places, and she is already tired. This 43 00:02:58.479 --> 00:03:01.759 is not communication, my friends, This is denial of service, 44 00:03:01.800 --> 00:03:06.240 attack on a human nervous system. And nobody planned, no 45 00:03:06.719 --> 00:03:10.719 villain designed Elena's morning. It's just what happens when you 46 00:03:10.840 --> 00:03:14.479 board eleven tools together and let every one of them 47 00:03:14.560 --> 00:03:20.319 have your attention on demand, for free forever. Now Here 48 00:03:20.560 --> 00:03:24.039 is what I have come to believe, after a couple 49 00:03:24.080 --> 00:03:28.159 of years of watching leaders drown at their desks. You 50 00:03:28.240 --> 00:03:33.120 don't have an information problem. You have a same information 51 00:03:33.800 --> 00:03:39.039 six times problem. See twenty years ago, the scarce resource 52 00:03:39.159 --> 00:03:45.759 was information. Whoever could get it had the edge. Today, well, 53 00:03:45.879 --> 00:03:50.000 information is a fire hose bolted to your face. And 54 00:03:50.039 --> 00:03:53.479 the thing that's actually scarce, the thing every one of 55 00:03:53.520 --> 00:03:59.159 your tools is quietly chip mining is your attention, your 56 00:03:59.159 --> 00:04:04.000 capacity to hold on one thing in the mind long 57 00:04:04.120 --> 00:04:09.439 enough to think about. And friends, that attention does not 58 00:04:09.719 --> 00:04:13.400 just get spent, It gets fatigued. Every duplicate ping in 59 00:04:13.439 --> 00:04:17.800 a tiny packs on the finite account, and by mid afternoon, 60 00:04:17.839 --> 00:04:23.279 the account is overdrawn. That's why you can end a 61 00:04:23.399 --> 00:04:27.480 day in which you did nothing hard, nothing creative, nothing 62 00:04:27.560 --> 00:04:32.120 that matter, and still feel like you win ten rounds. 63 00:04:33.480 --> 00:04:36.519 You don't run out of time, you ran out of attention. 64 00:04:36.839 --> 00:04:41.560 There's a difference. Almost nobody budgets for it. And here 65 00:04:41.720 --> 00:04:45.040 is the cruel part, the part that makes this so 66 00:04:45.240 --> 00:04:53.519 hard to see. Each individual notification is very tiny. It's harmless. 67 00:04:53.839 --> 00:04:57.399 A single burst costs you almost nothing, which is exactly 68 00:04:57.720 --> 00:05:02.360 why you never fight it. Who declares who declares the 69 00:05:02.399 --> 00:05:06.439 war on a single bus? Right, But you don't get 70 00:05:06.480 --> 00:05:11.600 a single bus. You get two hundred, three hundred thousand 71 00:05:11.680 --> 00:05:15.720 a day, and the cost is not in any one 72 00:05:15.759 --> 00:05:18.199 of them. It is in the switching. Every time your 73 00:05:18.240 --> 00:05:21.120 attention is yanked from one thing to another, there is 74 00:05:21.160 --> 00:05:24.839 a tax to get paid. A few seconds wait where 75 00:05:24.879 --> 00:05:29.279 I was, and that tax paid two hundred times in 76 00:05:29.399 --> 00:05:35.839 most of a day. See death by negotiation. Death by 77 00:05:36.000 --> 00:05:41.199 notification is not one dramatic blow. It is a thousand 78 00:05:41.600 --> 00:05:48.120 tiny cuts. You get too busy to feel and sit 79 00:05:48.199 --> 00:05:53.439 on this, sit on this attention. Attention is the scariest 80 00:05:53.560 --> 00:05:59.000 leadership asset you own, and you're giving it away one 81 00:05:59.079 --> 00:06:03.279 notification at a time. So last week we opened the 82 00:06:03.319 --> 00:06:07.480 series The Conscious Operator with a framework called human and 83 00:06:07.879 --> 00:06:11.680 very first letter was to heart, a deliberate gap you 84 00:06:11.759 --> 00:06:16.439 put between the impulse and the tool. Well, this week 85 00:06:16.519 --> 00:06:19.160 we go straight at the hardest thing in the world 86 00:06:19.360 --> 00:06:24.959 to heart, not a tool, the noise or the shouting. 87 00:06:26.079 --> 00:06:31.279 It is the eleven apps convinced that what they have 88 00:06:31.399 --> 00:06:34.000 to say is most important thing you will hear today. 89 00:06:34.600 --> 00:06:37.399 Because here's the trap. Right when everything is shouting, the 90 00:06:37.519 --> 00:06:40.800 instinct is to listen harder, to scan faster, to check 91 00:06:40.839 --> 00:06:44.800 more often so you don't miss anything. And that instring, 92 00:06:44.839 --> 00:06:48.480 my friends, is exactly backwards. You cannot out listen a 93 00:06:48.600 --> 00:06:54.439 fire hose. What you need is not more listening, it 94 00:06:54.560 --> 00:07:00.279 is better filtering. You need a way to find one 95 00:07:00.279 --> 00:07:06.839 signal underneath all that duplicated noise. So today we are 96 00:07:06.839 --> 00:07:10.759 going to talk about another model that very easy to adopt. 97 00:07:11.240 --> 00:07:15.920 It is called sonar s O NAR silence observed name 98 00:07:16.079 --> 00:07:21.839 automatric claim. So sonat does not work by making more noise. 99 00:07:22.639 --> 00:07:27.480 It works by going quite sending out one clean pulse 100 00:07:27.800 --> 00:07:32.439 and listening what actually returns. That's the whole art of leading. 101 00:07:32.720 --> 00:07:36.519 In a loud word, so let me take you through it. Now, 102 00:07:36.560 --> 00:07:41.560 before the first letter, let me name the thing underneath 103 00:07:41.560 --> 00:07:44.120 all of this. There are two ways to sit inside 104 00:07:44.160 --> 00:07:48.560 the noise. The first is a flooded operator. The flooded 105 00:07:48.639 --> 00:07:53.480 operator treats everything, everything as a signal. Every red batch 106 00:07:53.560 --> 00:07:56.279 is an emergency, every tag is a summon. They are 107 00:07:56.680 --> 00:08:00.920 in their own minds being responsive, but what they are 108 00:08:01.000 --> 00:08:05.879 actually doing is letting eleven different tools take turns deciding 109 00:08:06.199 --> 00:08:10.680 what they think about next. My attention is not theirs anymore. 110 00:08:10.720 --> 00:08:14.040 It belongs to who a ping blast? That was Elena? 111 00:08:14.720 --> 00:08:18.160 That was Elena now. The second is the tuned operator, 112 00:08:18.240 --> 00:08:22.839 same eleven tools, same fire hose, but the tuned operator 113 00:08:22.920 --> 00:08:27.240 has a filter between the noise and the nervous system. 114 00:08:27.800 --> 00:08:32.159 They decide what deserves attention instead of letting the loudest 115 00:08:32.200 --> 00:08:36.559 batch decide for them. Now miss the fake emergencies and 116 00:08:36.679 --> 00:08:40.600 catch the real ones, because they can finally tell the difference. 117 00:08:41.320 --> 00:08:47.039 The difference between them is not discipline, It is not 118 00:08:47.240 --> 00:08:52.039 will power. It is five moves, and let me walk 119 00:08:52.080 --> 00:08:54.799 you through them. And by the way, before I do that, 120 00:08:54.879 --> 00:08:57.759 let me answer the fear I can already hear, because 121 00:08:57.960 --> 00:09:01.240 it is the thing that keeps most of flooded. And 122 00:09:01.279 --> 00:09:04.840 the question is saying, if I turn this off, I 123 00:09:04.879 --> 00:09:10.639 will miss something, and worse, people will think I'm slow, unresponsive, 124 00:09:11.240 --> 00:09:15.080 not on the top of it. Friends, I hear, I hear, 125 00:09:15.399 --> 00:09:18.039 and I want to be honest about the trade because 126 00:09:18.080 --> 00:09:23.080 it is real. So here is the truth underneath that fear. 127 00:09:24.320 --> 00:09:30.120 Responsiveness has quietly become performance, a way of providing care 128 00:09:30.159 --> 00:09:34.559 by answering fast from everywhere, at all hours. But answering 129 00:09:34.639 --> 00:09:38.919 fast is not the same as leading well. A leader 130 00:09:38.960 --> 00:09:43.039 who replies to everything in ninety seconds is not more 131 00:09:43.159 --> 00:09:47.279 valuable than a leader who relies to write things with 132 00:09:47.399 --> 00:09:51.080 her whole mind. They just look busier when over a 133 00:09:51.159 --> 00:09:58.000 quarter always on leader makes worse decisions, has thinner relationship 134 00:09:58.519 --> 00:10:03.360 burnt out faster while congluting themselves the whole way down 135 00:10:03.559 --> 00:10:08.039 to being so available. See, you're not choosing between responsiveness 136 00:10:08.039 --> 00:10:13.639 and absent. You're choosing between reactive to everything and present 137 00:10:13.879 --> 00:10:17.879 for what matters. Only one of those is leaders. So 138 00:10:18.320 --> 00:10:23.639 the first letter is silence and sonar, and it is 139 00:10:23.679 --> 00:10:26.440 the move that makes every other move possible. Because you 140 00:10:26.480 --> 00:10:30.200 cannot filter a signal, you are still flinching at. So 141 00:10:30.320 --> 00:10:34.639 every notification you have ever allowed is a standing invitation 142 00:10:35.159 --> 00:10:38.759 for a piece of software to interrupt your one human 143 00:10:38.840 --> 00:10:43.519 mind on its schedule, not yours. And most of us 144 00:10:43.559 --> 00:10:48.120 said yes to all of them once years ago, but 145 00:10:48.159 --> 00:10:52.440 they never revisited it. Your phone is running a decade 146 00:10:52.480 --> 00:10:57.200 of permissions you don't remember granting. Now. To silence the 147 00:10:57.240 --> 00:11:01.080 pings is to take back the one that matters most, 148 00:11:02.840 --> 00:11:07.240 who gets to interrupt you? And when not all of it, 149 00:11:07.519 --> 00:11:10.759 you don't go off grit. You just stopped letting a 150 00:11:10.799 --> 00:11:14.320 food delivery app and a project management tool have the 151 00:11:14.360 --> 00:11:18.600 same access to your attention as your children. I worked 152 00:11:18.639 --> 00:11:22.320 with an executive, Tom, head of operations, always strazzles, always 153 00:11:22.399 --> 00:11:26.000 a half bit behind in every meeting because his mind 154 00:11:26.679 --> 00:11:30.720 was on the phone, buzzing in his pocket. So I 155 00:11:30.759 --> 00:11:34.240 asked him how many apps could send him notification. He 156 00:11:34.320 --> 00:11:37.200 getsed well, so he said, okay, let's count, and we counted. 157 00:11:37.799 --> 00:11:43.320 It was fifty six. Fifty six different pieces of software 158 00:11:43.480 --> 00:11:47.720 had a standing key to his focus. We turned off 159 00:11:48.240 --> 00:11:51.799 forty of them in about nine minutes. Next week, he 160 00:11:51.919 --> 00:11:57.759 told me, in his own words, like somebody finally turned 161 00:11:57.799 --> 00:12:01.399 on a noise I did not know us on, and 162 00:12:01.440 --> 00:12:04.440 I want to precise about what Silence is not Silence 163 00:12:04.519 --> 00:12:08.600 is not disconnection. You're not becoming a hermit. You're not 164 00:12:09.799 --> 00:12:13.440 abandoning your team. You're simply moving from a world where 165 00:12:13.480 --> 00:12:16.759 everything can interrupt to a world where you decide what can. 166 00:12:18.080 --> 00:12:21.799 The information is all still there, waiting in the app 167 00:12:22.360 --> 00:12:26.679 whenever you choose to get to it. The only thing 168 00:12:27.120 --> 00:12:31.840 you're removing is the power of these applications to reach 169 00:12:31.960 --> 00:12:36.320 into your skull uninvited and reset your train of thought. 170 00:12:37.480 --> 00:12:41.519 That is not going dark, That is taking back to 171 00:12:41.559 --> 00:12:44.279 the door the practice of sys this today, open your 172 00:12:44.320 --> 00:12:48.240 notification settings, turn off every app that is not human 173 00:12:48.279 --> 00:12:51.600 being who might actually need you not later today, you 174 00:12:51.600 --> 00:12:53.840 will not miss what you think you will miss. The 175 00:12:53.960 --> 00:12:57.799 important things have a way of finding you. The noise 176 00:12:57.879 --> 00:13:01.639 is the only thing that needs us side. So silence 177 00:13:01.720 --> 00:13:05.559 the pings because you cannot hear the signal while fifty 178 00:13:05.600 --> 00:13:09.679 six apps are all clearing thoughts. The second level letter 179 00:13:09.720 --> 00:13:14.440 of sonar is observed, and this is a letter that 180 00:13:14.559 --> 00:13:19.039 names specific villain in Elena's morning. Not the volume of information, 181 00:13:19.360 --> 00:13:22.639 but the duplication of it now here is what almost 182 00:13:22.679 --> 00:13:27.600 nobody notices because it happens too fast. The same message 183 00:13:27.600 --> 00:13:30.600 reaches you through five doors, the email, the slack, the ticket, 184 00:13:30.679 --> 00:13:34.600 the dog, the text, keep going on, all carrying identical 185 00:13:34.960 --> 00:13:39.360 eight words, and our brain, blessed, does not go Ah, 186 00:13:39.440 --> 00:13:43.799 I've seen this. Your brain teaches every arrival as a 187 00:13:43.840 --> 00:13:47.679 fresh demand. Think about it. Your brain is treating every 188 00:13:47.799 --> 00:13:51.000 arrival as a fresh demand. You pay the attention tax 189 00:13:51.120 --> 00:13:53.960 five times, six times, seven times, depending on their apps, 190 00:13:54.039 --> 00:13:59.120 for one piece of news. So to observe the overlap 191 00:14:00.399 --> 00:14:05.159 is to start seeing the duplication as duplication. To notice 192 00:14:05.200 --> 00:14:08.519 that you're busy is not five problems. It is one 193 00:14:08.600 --> 00:14:12.799 problem wearing five costumes. And once you can see that, 194 00:14:13.080 --> 00:14:16.519 you can stop responding to costumes. I'll talk about an 195 00:14:16.519 --> 00:14:22.159 elder leader. Sophia swaid to me that she was drowning 196 00:14:22.159 --> 00:14:25.279 in decisions. We did an exercise for three days and 197 00:14:25.399 --> 00:14:30.279 locked every notification and where it comes from. When we 198 00:14:31.559 --> 00:14:35.000 sorter the lock, the truth was almost funny. She was 199 00:14:35.000 --> 00:14:39.759 not facing hundreds of things. She was facing about twenty things, 200 00:14:39.840 --> 00:14:43.519 each of which had an average ping of five times 201 00:14:44.120 --> 00:14:49.000 twenty real items one hundred notifications. She had been experiencing 202 00:14:49.039 --> 00:14:53.480 the echo as the event. So the practice for observing oh, 203 00:14:53.679 --> 00:14:56.200 is this the next time you feel buried? Take one 204 00:14:56.200 --> 00:15:00.279 hour of your inbox and channels and ask us single 205 00:15:00.440 --> 00:15:05.000 question of each time, is this a new thing or 206 00:15:05.960 --> 00:15:09.679 an echo of a thing is already handled? Pass out 207 00:15:09.720 --> 00:15:13.679 the echo. What's left? That's short, honest list in your 208 00:15:13.720 --> 00:15:18.360 actual day. The rest just noise, just noise, closing an 209 00:15:18.360 --> 00:15:22.039 impression of work, because a busy day is usually not 210 00:15:22.120 --> 00:15:26.759 five fires, it's one fire and four echoes. Onto the 211 00:15:26.799 --> 00:15:31.759 next letter of sonar and name the signal. This is 212 00:15:32.039 --> 00:15:35.919 the letter that turns filtering from a vague intention to 213 00:15:36.080 --> 00:15:38.600 actual decision. It is not in to silence and noise 214 00:15:38.639 --> 00:15:41.840 and spot the echoes. At some point you have to say, 215 00:15:42.720 --> 00:15:45.480 you have to say it out loud and in advance, 216 00:15:46.440 --> 00:15:49.799 what a real signal is for you, because if you 217 00:15:49.840 --> 00:15:53.559 don't define the signal, the loudest thing automatically become the signal, 218 00:15:54.799 --> 00:15:59.000 and loud and important are almost never the same thing. 219 00:16:00.360 --> 00:16:05.639 The genuinely urgent really shouts. It's trivial that arise in 220 00:16:05.679 --> 00:16:09.960 all caps. So to name the signal is to draw 221 00:16:10.759 --> 00:16:14.159 ahead of time the shortlist of things that actually deserve 222 00:16:14.559 --> 00:16:17.039 to reach you in the moment as it is happening, 223 00:16:18.159 --> 00:16:21.080 and to route everything else to a place you visit 224 00:16:21.759 --> 00:16:27.799 on your schedule, not application schedule. So I give leaders 225 00:16:27.799 --> 00:16:32.720 a simple version of this, the three channel rule. Big 226 00:16:32.720 --> 00:16:38.200 three channels through which a real now level signal is 227 00:16:38.840 --> 00:16:42.039 allowed to reach you life. Everything else become something you 228 00:16:42.120 --> 00:16:44.720 check at times, the male in a mailbox, not a 229 00:16:44.759 --> 00:16:47.879 stranger banging on the door. So I worked with Raj. 230 00:16:48.200 --> 00:16:52.279 He ran his whole life on the assumption that everything 231 00:16:52.320 --> 00:16:56.320 is urgent, so everything got like access. Now when we 232 00:16:56.639 --> 00:17:02.639 name his actual signals, the list was almost embarrassing. This 233 00:17:02.879 --> 00:17:07.720 shot a direct message from three specific people, one system 234 00:17:07.799 --> 00:17:12.319 download and his family. That was it. Everything else, every dashboard, 235 00:17:12.440 --> 00:17:15.880 every you know, FYI, every thoughts could wait for a 236 00:17:15.960 --> 00:17:20.640 scheduled window. So his anxiety, he told me, dropped by 237 00:17:20.960 --> 00:17:25.039 half a week, just in a week, not because there 238 00:17:25.079 --> 00:17:27.839 was less to do, because he finally knew what he 239 00:17:28.079 --> 00:17:32.799 was actually listening for. And notice what Rus discovered, because 240 00:17:33.200 --> 00:17:36.359 it is the thing nobody expects. When you name your 241 00:17:36.400 --> 00:17:40.039 rear signals and rout everything else into a scheduled window, 242 00:17:40.359 --> 00:17:45.200 you don't become less informed. You become more informed because 243 00:17:46.079 --> 00:17:50.079 now you actually read the fyiyes when you open them, 244 00:17:50.359 --> 00:17:54.400 instead of half swept fiping then away between the meetings, 245 00:17:54.839 --> 00:18:01.599 right scheduled attention is deep attention, but inter driven attention 246 00:18:02.200 --> 00:18:06.759 is very shallow. Every single time you are never really 247 00:18:06.839 --> 00:18:11.240 absorbing the firehouse, the fires anyway, You're just getting wet. 248 00:18:11.400 --> 00:18:15.920 So the practice for N is right, the three channels, 249 00:18:16.839 --> 00:18:20.640 only three through which something is allowed to interrupt you 250 00:18:20.759 --> 00:18:24.799 in real time. Everything else goes in a box you 251 00:18:24.960 --> 00:18:29.160 open on purpose. If you can't get to three, I 252 00:18:29.240 --> 00:18:32.759 promise you you haven't named your signal yet. You've just 253 00:18:32.799 --> 00:18:37.640 been calling everything urgent, So don't have to choose. You're 254 00:18:37.720 --> 00:18:41.680 phasing to choose, because if you don't decide what deserves 255 00:18:41.680 --> 00:18:46.119 your attention, the loudest notification will decide that for you. Metal. 256 00:18:46.680 --> 00:18:49.079 Now we get to the next letter A, that is 257 00:18:49.400 --> 00:18:53.960 automate the aggregation. And this is where machine finally earns 258 00:18:53.960 --> 00:18:57.079 its key, because this is one part of the whole problem. 259 00:18:57.200 --> 00:19:03.640 AI is genuinely spective, spectacularly very very very good at this. 260 00:19:03.720 --> 00:19:06.599 So remember last week the conscious operator gives the machine 261 00:19:07.039 --> 00:19:10.880 the machine's work. Well, this is the machine's work, shifting 262 00:19:10.920 --> 00:19:16.079 a fire hose, collapsing duplicates, summarizing forty messages into four lines, 263 00:19:16.599 --> 00:19:20.599 watching six tools at once, and handling you the one 264 00:19:20.680 --> 00:19:24.200 thing that actually needs a human. A machine will do 265 00:19:24.240 --> 00:19:28.680 that tirelessly at three in the morning, without getting tired 266 00:19:29.079 --> 00:19:35.039 or reasonful. You should not be the human duplication engine 267 00:19:35.440 --> 00:19:39.000 for your own tool stack. That is a job for Silicon. 268 00:19:40.359 --> 00:19:42.799 I'll be honest with you about my own setup because 269 00:19:42.799 --> 00:19:46.279 I practice this. I built. I have built automations that 270 00:19:46.319 --> 00:19:50.559 sit quietly across my tools, my chat, my tickets, my dogs, 271 00:19:50.559 --> 00:19:55.519 and every hour they aggregate everything that came in, ship 272 00:19:55.559 --> 00:20:00.119 out the duplicates and hand me one clean digest one. 273 00:20:00.400 --> 00:20:03.880 Instead of me visiting fifteen apps and paying their attention 274 00:20:03.960 --> 00:20:08.079 tax fifteen times, now the machine visits the fifteen apps 275 00:20:08.240 --> 00:20:12.039 and pays nothing, and I get to read just one page. 276 00:20:12.680 --> 00:20:15.720 The tools still shower. I just don't hear them anymore. 277 00:20:15.839 --> 00:20:18.440 I hear the summary, And if you want to get 278 00:20:18.440 --> 00:20:22.599 more information about it, you can go to www. Dot 279 00:20:23.319 --> 00:20:27.799 the Seamless method dot com and then think about what 280 00:20:28.359 --> 00:20:31.480 inwards the default and invent. The one you I like 281 00:20:31.680 --> 00:20:34.279 living in right now is that you serve your tools. 282 00:20:34.400 --> 00:20:37.000 You go to them, you check them, you tend them 283 00:20:37.039 --> 00:20:41.079 all day like a shift worker minding eleven machines that 284 00:20:41.200 --> 00:20:44.079 each ring a bell when they want. But the automation, 285 00:20:44.400 --> 00:20:49.039 the automating the aggregation flips it. Now the tools serve you. 286 00:20:49.279 --> 00:20:51.680 They report to a machine. The machine reports to you 287 00:20:51.799 --> 00:20:54.640 once an hour, and you have gone from being the 288 00:20:54.680 --> 00:20:57.799 operator on the floor to being the person the floor 289 00:20:57.839 --> 00:21:01.960 reports up to. That is not protectivity hat. That is 290 00:21:02.000 --> 00:21:05.960 a change in who works for home, and it is 291 00:21:06.000 --> 00:21:08.680 available to you this week without tretting a line of code, 292 00:21:09.079 --> 00:21:12.400 just by putting a summarizer between you and the loudest 293 00:21:12.440 --> 00:21:14.759 channel in your life. I worked with a solop in 294 00:21:14.799 --> 00:21:19.440 your recently, Nadyea. I did a simple version with no 295 00:21:19.519 --> 00:21:22.079 injuring at all, just a habit. Instead of living inside 296 00:21:22.079 --> 00:21:25.559 her channel all day, she had the machine summarize each 297 00:21:25.640 --> 00:21:29.680 thread before she opened it. So we walked into every 298 00:21:29.720 --> 00:21:33.720 conversation already doing the signal same information. A tenth of 299 00:21:33.799 --> 00:21:36.759 attention spent getting it getting to it, and all that 300 00:21:36.799 --> 00:21:42.039 reclaimed attention went where it blocks into the actual thinking 301 00:21:42.160 --> 00:21:45.599 you should be doing. So the practice for a is 302 00:21:45.640 --> 00:21:49.599 take one channel that floods you worst this week. Put 303 00:21:49.640 --> 00:21:54.000 a machine between you and your attention. So put a 304 00:21:54.039 --> 00:21:56.519 machine between the tooth and your attention. Now, even just 305 00:21:56.559 --> 00:22:00.200 giving and having an AI summarize the thread before you 306 00:22:00.279 --> 00:22:04.000 dive in, let the machine. Wade into the noise so 307 00:22:04.039 --> 00:22:07.160 you can walk into the signal, because being the human 308 00:22:07.200 --> 00:22:11.119 filter for your own fire hose is not diligence. It 309 00:22:11.240 --> 00:22:14.200 is machines job. It's a machine job that you have 310 00:22:14.240 --> 00:22:17.880 already subscribed. Okay. So then the fifth letter and the 311 00:22:17.960 --> 00:22:20.720 last one is to reclaim the room. And this is 312 00:22:20.799 --> 00:22:24.240 one that turns a productivity tactic into act of leadership 313 00:22:24.880 --> 00:22:29.039 because here is the point of all of this. You 314 00:22:29.079 --> 00:22:32.279 do not silence the noise. You do not silence the 315 00:22:32.279 --> 00:22:34.960 noise so you can cram in motis. You silence the 316 00:22:35.000 --> 00:22:37.960 noise so you can be fully present, fully present for 317 00:22:38.000 --> 00:22:42.319 the few things that actually require a human being. See, 318 00:22:42.480 --> 00:22:46.599 the reclaimed attention is not meant to be respent on 319 00:22:46.720 --> 00:22:50.319 more inputs. It is meant to be poured into room 320 00:22:50.720 --> 00:22:56.119 you actually in. Think about what the noise steals. Not 321 00:22:56.240 --> 00:23:01.200 just your focus, it steals your presence. The leader who 322 00:23:01.279 --> 00:23:03.839 is half checking a phone in a one on one 323 00:23:03.960 --> 00:23:06.880 is not saving time. They're quietly telling the person across 324 00:23:06.880 --> 00:23:09.759 from them that a notification might matter more than they do. 325 00:23:10.160 --> 00:23:13.359 And believe me, people feel that. They always feel it. 326 00:23:13.519 --> 00:23:16.880 You think you are being subtle glancing down, they know 327 00:23:17.039 --> 00:23:20.559 exactly where your attention went, and a little bit of 328 00:23:20.640 --> 00:23:23.119 their trust goes with it. Every time you do it, 329 00:23:23.319 --> 00:23:27.000 you're drowning their trust. So the attention you protect from 330 00:23:27.000 --> 00:23:30.000 your apps is exact attention you get to give to 331 00:23:30.039 --> 00:23:34.039 your people. That trade is the whole game talking about 332 00:23:34.440 --> 00:23:38.400 bring her back that I started with the show. She 333 00:23:38.640 --> 00:23:43.440 silenced the pings, observed the overlap, named the three signals, 334 00:23:43.480 --> 00:23:47.480 and automated the aggregation. And the thing that she told 335 00:23:47.519 --> 00:23:51.640 me at end of the month had nothing to do 336 00:23:51.680 --> 00:23:56.400 with productive. She said, sing the first time in two years, 337 00:23:56.880 --> 00:24:00.480 I was fully in my daughter's recite. Not happened all 338 00:24:00.519 --> 00:24:03.759 the way because for once, nothing in your pocket was 339 00:24:03.799 --> 00:24:08.960 allowed to shout. So practice for our the practice for 340 00:24:09.079 --> 00:24:13.400 our is take the attention you reclaim this week, Spend 341 00:24:13.440 --> 00:24:17.599 it deliberately on one thing that deserves your whole self, 342 00:24:17.839 --> 00:24:22.440 one conversation, one decision, one person, with every device silenced, 343 00:24:23.160 --> 00:24:27.519 protect the room, then be all the way in. Because 344 00:24:27.640 --> 00:24:31.519 attention you refuse to give your apps exact, exact attention 345 00:24:32.160 --> 00:24:35.400 you get to give to the people who actually matter. Right, 346 00:24:35.680 --> 00:24:38.640 So here's the reframe I want to live you with. 347 00:24:39.200 --> 00:24:43.079 In a world engineered to shout at you come is 348 00:24:43.119 --> 00:24:46.559 not personality trade. It is leadership skill and it is 349 00:24:46.599 --> 00:24:49.519 a build thing. You don't find focus lying around you 350 00:24:49.680 --> 00:24:53.799 construct it on purpose by deciding what gets to reach 351 00:24:53.880 --> 00:24:57.400 you and what does not see. The question was never 352 00:24:58.000 --> 00:25:00.400 how do I keep up with all of it? It's 353 00:25:00.400 --> 00:25:03.440 a fire hose. It was designed to be keep up 354 00:25:03.480 --> 00:25:07.400 with able. That's a new word. The real question is 355 00:25:07.960 --> 00:25:11.720 what am I actually listening for? And how do I 356 00:25:12.680 --> 00:25:18.799 quite everything that isn't there? That's the world silence, observe, name, automate, 357 00:25:19.400 --> 00:25:23.720 and declaim five moves between you and the noise. So 358 00:25:23.960 --> 00:25:26.759 now here's the deeper thing. Silencing the noise is only 359 00:25:26.799 --> 00:25:28.960 half the world. The other half is knowing what you 360 00:25:29.039 --> 00:25:32.039 are training to hear in the first place. Because most 361 00:25:32.079 --> 00:25:34.920 readers don't just have a noise problem, they have a 362 00:25:34.960 --> 00:25:39.319 signal problem. They are never precisely named. That matters most 363 00:25:39.359 --> 00:25:42.559 of them. So everything sounds equally loved. That's why I 364 00:25:42.599 --> 00:25:44.640 want you to take the Purpose factor Assessment. It is 365 00:25:44.680 --> 00:25:48.680 a free twenty five minute science back diagnostics that reveals 366 00:25:48.759 --> 00:25:52.720 what truly drives you, what consistently drains you, and blind 367 00:25:52.720 --> 00:25:56.559 spots your team feels but you don't see. Once you have, 368 00:25:57.079 --> 00:26:01.400 once you know your own signal that kind of precision, 369 00:26:01.759 --> 00:26:04.799 the noise gets easy to cut because you finally know 370 00:26:04.920 --> 00:26:08.440 exactly what you're listening for. Thank you for spending this 371 00:26:08.599 --> 00:26:13.160 quiet with me. Keep breathing, keep protecting your attention and 372 00:26:13.759 --> 00:26:16.440 like it's the leadership asset is it is actually in, 373 00:26:17.039 --> 00:26:21.319 I'm saying, and you're watching Mindful Leadership Transforming Lives on 374 00:26:21.440 --> 00:26:24.240 the Transformation Network. I'll see you in the next episode. 375 00:26:27.880 --> 00:26:31.839 Thank you for watching Mindful Leadership Transforming Lives with me, 376 00:26:32.000 --> 00:26:35.039 your host is saying, we are honored to have you 377 00:26:35.160 --> 00:26:38.440 join us on this journey to explode the transformative power 378 00:26:38.839 --> 00:26:44.279 of mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and authentic leadership. 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