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<v Speaker 1>What is up, guys.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back for another Thursday of Raising Serotonin. Oh it's

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<v Speaker 2>been a minute, it's been a minute, but we're back.

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<v Speaker 1>We're back. We're feeling good. The sun is shining. I

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<v Speaker 1>have my window open. It's gonna be over eighty degrees.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to the Phillies. You know, everything feels good.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel very nice right now. I hope you are

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<v Speaker 2>feeling good yourself, or you might be listening to this

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<v Speaker 2>episode because you saw the title and you were intrigued.

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever you are in right now, whatever you're feeling, just

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<v Speaker 2>know that I see you, I feel you, and I

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<v Speaker 2>hope you know that you are loved here and I

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<v Speaker 2>appreciate you taking the time to listen to this episode

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<v Speaker 2>or just this podcast in general. Quick little side note

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<v Speaker 2>if you have not done this yet, and I know

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<v Speaker 2>this is a big ask, but you don't even have

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<v Speaker 2>to stop the episode. If you can just go rate

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<v Speaker 2>and review the podcast on whatever you're listening on, that

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<v Speaker 2>really helps me move forward. I had a big goal

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<v Speaker 2>for the end of the year, but I didn't hit

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<v Speaker 2>that goal, so I'm still trying for it. If you

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<v Speaker 2>can just go on, if it's Spotify, all you have

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<v Speaker 2>to do is just click the stars under the little

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<v Speaker 2>picture up in the left hand corner and just hit

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<v Speaker 2>five stars. And for Apple, if you're listening on that,

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<v Speaker 2>you scroll all the way down to the bottom of

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<v Speaker 2>the page and there'll be a section where it says

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<v Speaker 2>rating and review. If you don't want to do a

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<v Speaker 2>typed review, that is fine, but as long as you

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<v Speaker 2>were just rating at five stars.

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<v Speaker 1>I would appreciate that so so much.

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<v Speaker 2>It really does help me and it helps us reach

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<v Speaker 2>other people that are looking to raise their serotonin as well,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's what we're here for.

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<v Speaker 1>So I appreciate you. I love you. But let's get

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<v Speaker 1>back to the episode.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to catch you up for what feels like

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<v Speaker 2>forever ago, but it's really just been a month. But

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<v Speaker 2>I took a break and it wasn't intentional or anything

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<v Speaker 2>like that. I was just backed up with work and

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<v Speaker 2>school and practicum and I needed, honestly, my full energy

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<v Speaker 2>and focus on that.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So for the time being, I had to just really

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<v Speaker 2>focus on those things and put the podcast on the

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<v Speaker 2>back burner. And this week I have a lighter load.

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<v Speaker 2>So here we are, and it's not like I want

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<v Speaker 2>to put the podcast on the back burner. But I've

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<v Speaker 2>explained before that I'm just in a really heavy season

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<v Speaker 2>with school and I only have about a year left

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<v Speaker 2>of year and a half, I guess, and I can

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<v Speaker 2>do it, and then I'll be back full time, I promise.

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<v Speaker 2>But I want to catch you up on life because

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<v Speaker 2>it's really what brings this topic to the forefront. I've

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<v Speaker 2>actually have an episode that's similar to this topic itself,

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<v Speaker 2>but they're definitely totally different eras like that was in

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<v Speaker 2>twenty arrows. Jeez, that was in twenty twenty three when

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<v Speaker 2>I recorded the first one percent better keep Growing type

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<v Speaker 2>of episode. And though this one is titled the one

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<v Speaker 2>percent Better Mentality, something that I don't think that I'll

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<v Speaker 2>ever stop talking about. I have it tattooed on my arm.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I'll probably always have episodes that are dedicated

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<v Speaker 2>to this topic because it's just something that I am

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<v Speaker 2>constantly going to be reminded about and really shout out

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<v Speaker 2>to my boyfriend and my friends for constantly reminding me

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<v Speaker 2>of the one percent better mentality that I preach so often,

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<v Speaker 2>and like I said, literally tattooed on my body because

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<v Speaker 2>I can even forget what that looks like for a second,

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<v Speaker 2>and I did, and I want to be vulnerable and

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<v Speaker 2>talk to you, talk to you guys about it and

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<v Speaker 2>how I navigated through that. So before I even dive

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<v Speaker 2>into the story, something that I think is a good

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<v Speaker 2>reminder for all of us to constantly be reminding ourselves

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<v Speaker 2>of is that we're human and nothing that we're doing well,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, at least I hope is purposely supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>be bringing us down. And of course we can get

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<v Speaker 2>into our heads and experience things that we do not

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<v Speaker 2>deserve or want, But at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 2>I think we are always going to be stronger than

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<v Speaker 2>we give ourselves credit for. Though we fall down, we

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<v Speaker 2>stand up ten more times. We see something that we

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<v Speaker 2>don't like, Okay, we have a moment and then we

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<v Speaker 2>grow from it. And those things are human and we

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<v Speaker 2>have emotions, we have reactions, and anytime that something happens,

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<v Speaker 2>just know that it's a growth moment. And I know

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<v Speaker 2>that's like, Okay, I don't have to be growing all

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<v Speaker 2>the time. And I totally get that, and you can

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<v Speaker 2>have a different mindset, but and I'm not going to

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<v Speaker 2>take that away from you ever, but this is where

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<v Speaker 2>this is coming from, and We're just human beings, and

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<v Speaker 2>I want us to know that none of us have

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<v Speaker 2>to have it figured out. So anyway, this past month,

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<v Speaker 2>I have been working on what I thought, and don't

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<v Speaker 2>get me wrong, it was a wonderful it was a

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<v Speaker 2>smart it was a well put together presentation of what

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<v Speaker 2>I truly wanted to get across. But I was working

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<v Speaker 2>on a group for this student athletes at the school

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm at for practicum, because long story short, the

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<v Speaker 2>school will be closing in a few years. So this

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<v Speaker 2>upcoming school year, the athletics are stopping, and they're stopping

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<v Speaker 2>at this at the end of the school year and

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<v Speaker 2>will not be returning full athletics like division whatever they are.

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<v Speaker 1>I truly don't even know.

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever division that they are. It's only going to be

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<v Speaker 2>the club sports. And so for those who do play

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<v Speaker 2>a sport right now or did in the fall, because

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<v Speaker 2>there was some fall sports too, they have to make

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<v Speaker 2>a really difficult decision whether to figure out if they

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<v Speaker 2>can go play at a different school and what that

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<v Speaker 2>would look like, or if they are staying where I'm

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<v Speaker 2>at and they're going to finish what their degree is

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<v Speaker 2>and without playing a sport, or maybe they're still going

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<v Speaker 2>to transfer and not.

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<v Speaker 1>Play a sport in general, whatever that looks like for them.

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted them to know, and I wanted to show

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<v Speaker 2>my support for them and know that they're supported in

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<v Speaker 2>the counseling center if they needed to talk about anything

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<v Speaker 2>for because there's only a few weeks left to school,

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<v Speaker 2>and I said to them, I know that this.

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<v Speaker 1>Is the pressure time.

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<v Speaker 2>And though there was two different groups, I talked to

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<v Speaker 2>the freshmen and sophomore about sophomores about something else, and

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<v Speaker 2>the juniors and seniors about more like career and transitioning

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<v Speaker 2>into the real world, that type of stuff. But I regardless,

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted them to know that they had a place

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<v Speaker 2>to come if they needed support. And it was also

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<v Speaker 2>giving them tips and tricks based.

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<v Speaker 1>Around mental health and just athletics in general.

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<v Speaker 2>So like I said, I didn't get negative feedback, that's

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<v Speaker 2>the last thing I got, and I didn't get negative

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<v Speaker 2>feedback from the LPC I work under as well, But

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't make it necessarily the most clinical connection in

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<v Speaker 2>this specific presentation. It was more motivational, kind of like

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<v Speaker 2>the shell, like a podcast, a reminder, a teaching moment,

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<v Speaker 2>And though that is not wrong at all, sometimes there's

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<v Speaker 2>a time place for that, but there just needed to

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<v Speaker 2>be an additional component of the clinical piece to make

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<v Speaker 2>it a true group quote unquote therapy session. And in

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<v Speaker 2>my mind, that's not necessarily what I thought was beneficial.

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<v Speaker 2>And though I've never met I've met a handful of them,

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<v Speaker 2>but I don't know them personally. And though the LPC

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<v Speaker 2>has said they've done groups and stuff like this before,

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to take a different approach. I wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>put myself out there. I wanted to not be like

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<v Speaker 2>him basically, and there's nothing wrong with that, even in

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<v Speaker 2>the slightest bit. I wanted to have my own thing.

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<v Speaker 2>And the students seem to have received it well and

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<v Speaker 2>understood everything that I was saying. I was clear and

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<v Speaker 2>to my point, and that was feedback that I got

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<v Speaker 2>from the LPC as well, but which yay, like we

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<v Speaker 2>are going to take that as a huge win. Like

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<v Speaker 2>I said, nothing wrong with that, But if I'm being real,

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<v Speaker 2>after getting that feedback, and even because it happened at

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<v Speaker 2>five o'clock at night and I was hungry at that point,

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't want to debrief everything. I wanted to take

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<v Speaker 2>the night to process everything. So I'm like I said,

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<v Speaker 2>if I'm being real, I had this weight on my

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<v Speaker 2>chest for that night, and then like Friday and Friday night,

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<v Speaker 2>I really had to just let the tears come out.

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<v Speaker 2>It wasn't a full breakdown, but I was definitely feeling

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<v Speaker 2>a pressure of some sort and was talking it out

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<v Speaker 2>with Caine and processing it on my own and saying

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<v Speaker 2>things that made me not have the best self confidence,

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<v Speaker 2>and realistically I was in my head, I was putting

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<v Speaker 2>that pressure on myself to do better, to be better,

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<v Speaker 2>to have it all figured out by myself with no

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<v Speaker 2>other help, and that's not realistic for me to do

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<v Speaker 2>in this situation. And I needed more support than I thought,

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<v Speaker 2>and I needed more guidance than I thought, and that's

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<v Speaker 2>all part of the learning process in itself.

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<v Speaker 1>So I also want to just preface this, I haven't taken.

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<v Speaker 2>A group therapy class yet, and I don't even take

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<v Speaker 2>that till this upcoming summer, the end of the and

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<v Speaker 2>at the end of May.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was.

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<v Speaker 2>Going fully blind into this, and though yes I had

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<v Speaker 2>an idea and outline of like what this could look like,

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<v Speaker 2>but like I said, I wanted to be different than

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<v Speaker 2>what he was doing or has done in the past,

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<v Speaker 2>and he let me run with it and I learned

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<v Speaker 2>from it, and oh yeah, I really just I sure

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<v Speaker 2>as heck did learn from it. And that's the best part,

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<v Speaker 2>you know. But don't get me wrong, it felt like

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<v Speaker 2>a lot and like I was telling the students and I,

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<v Speaker 2>like I have said before, we are not supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>have this all figured out. And okay, if you do

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<v Speaker 2>amazing ten out of ten, I'm rooting for you. But

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<v Speaker 2>I'm still trying and I'm still learning, and that's personally

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<v Speaker 2>where I want to be. Like that's how I personally grow,

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<v Speaker 2>from doing the work, from figuring it out, from doing

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<v Speaker 2>something over and over again, just taking that one percent

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<v Speaker 2>each day to move myself forward. My point even telling

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<v Speaker 2>you this is to show you that being human looks

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<v Speaker 2>like doubting yourself but also picking yourself up at the

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<v Speaker 2>same time, and even not like, okay, it has to

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<v Speaker 2>be the same thing. Like you're doubting yourself and also

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<v Speaker 2>picking yourself up at the same time, and those can

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<v Speaker 2>be two different things. But I want you to know

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<v Speaker 2>that you can. You can hold both at the same

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<v Speaker 2>time if you need to, and even if it is

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<v Speaker 2>with support, you are still standing back up to do

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<v Speaker 2>the work again, and that's something to be proud of,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's something that I am proud of, because I

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<v Speaker 2>totally could have ran away from it. I could have

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<v Speaker 2>said this isn't for me, and though I said, maybe

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<v Speaker 2>group setting isn't my favorite thing, maybe it's not for me.

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<v Speaker 1>And though I've only done it once.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like I could thrive in other areas, and

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm making connections.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm doing the work.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's not for to say that I'm never gonna

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<v Speaker 2>do it again, because that's just stopping myself and limiting

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<v Speaker 2>And I think that's even a lesson in itself, because

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<v Speaker 2>before I've probably been like f that I'm never doing

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<v Speaker 2>And even if I didn't get the exact feedback that

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<v Speaker 1>That I had hoped for, it was something to be

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<v Speaker 2>And I can check that off the box that I

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<v Speaker 2>for group settings, but this was something that, like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>So okay, let's be proud of that.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's how I'm taking it. It's that's the lesson,

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<v Speaker 2>that's the growth, that's the teaching moment in itself, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's the one percent better mentality to keep going, to

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<v Speaker 2>keep growing, to see it in a different lens that

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<v Speaker 2>you might not have seen it before. And something that

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<v Speaker 2>I have to say is that in that exact moment,

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<v Speaker 2>this did go I didn't think it went bad. In

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<v Speaker 2>went good. I think this went better than that. I

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<v Speaker 2>probably could have done this, and then we just said okay,

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<v Speaker 2>debrief and then we'll talk about it tomorrow. And there

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<v Speaker 2>were things that there were way more positives and negative.

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<v Speaker 2>And though I still held on to that pressure until

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<v Speaker 2>the nighttime and had to get that physical release from

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<v Speaker 2>the crying, that's where it all is. That one percent

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<v Speaker 2>that's me moving forward, because like we said, we could

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<v Speaker 2>go back to the no, I'm not doing this, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>never doing this again. This isn't for me. And with

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<v Speaker 2>all of that being said, this is mindset work. This

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<v Speaker 2>is truly something that you have to be so hard

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<v Speaker 2>on yourself about because you did the work, you got

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<v Speaker 2>to this point. Why are you stopping? And this is

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm telling myself in my head. Why am I

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<v Speaker 2>talking to myself this way? Why am I thinking this way?

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<v Speaker 2>And I have to talk myself through this. And this

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<v Speaker 2>is mindset work that I'm personally doing, and if I

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<v Speaker 2>talk about it on here, it holds me more accountable.

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<v Speaker 2>And being accountable is what I told myself I was

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<v Speaker 2>going to do in twenty twenty six. Not that I

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't accountable before, but that's my word, that's my passion

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<v Speaker 2>this year. Every time I'm at my workouts, they say

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<v Speaker 2>pick an intention for yourself before class starts, And every

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<v Speaker 2>single time I say to myself accountability, I'm showing up

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<v Speaker 2>to do the really hard work. In all of the

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<v Speaker 2>areas that I'm in right now, I'm moving myself forward

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<v Speaker 2>when it's really hard, when it's uncomfortable, when it's things

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<v Speaker 2>that I don't see myself doing and then I have

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<v Speaker 2>to do them, or vice versa that I really want

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<v Speaker 2>to do and don't get to do. But there's a

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<v Speaker 2>time and place for all of this. It's moving the

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<v Speaker 2>needle forward that matters, not the actual specific work that

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<v Speaker 2>you're doing, and that's not taking away from the work

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<v Speaker 2>that you're doing. It's just let's think about it in

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<v Speaker 2>a sense of like, Okay, you did do something. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't matter that at exact result. Maybe that's better

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<v Speaker 2>way of phrasing it. The result isn't the answer. It's

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<v Speaker 2>you doing the work, and the result comes from you

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<v Speaker 2>doing the work. In the long run, it's seeing yourself

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<v Speaker 2>grow each and every day. Honestly, even in the smallest ways,

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like it's more incredible sometimes because then sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>you don't notice those things, and then down the road

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<v Speaker 2>you do see them. And even in that moment when

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<v Speaker 2>you don't see it, that's okay, because you will. And

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<v Speaker 2>I just want to take the last part of this

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of came up with after going through this

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<v Speaker 2>experience last week, and things that I'm going to work

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<v Speaker 2>on and remind myself through. Like I said, this is

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<v Speaker 2>the stuff that I am actually personally doing in the moment,

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<v Speaker 2>because I yes, it was good to feel that way,

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<v Speaker 2>Like I woke up Saturday morning, was like, Okay, I

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<v Speaker 2>feel better, Like I'm glad I talked to that out

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<v Speaker 2>and it wasn't gonna weigh on me for the rest

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<v Speaker 2>of the semester the rest of the time, like whatever

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<v Speaker 2>it's going to look like I had to talk about

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<v Speaker 2>in that moment, And like before I was mentioning, it

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<v Speaker 2>could have looked so different. I could have just totally

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<v Speaker 2>said fis no, no no. But I've been doing the

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<v Speaker 2>and you don't deserve to give up on yourself either.

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<v Speaker 2>So the first mindset area that I'm working on, and

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<v Speaker 2>started with about my group and something to help with

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<v Speaker 2>your mindset and reminding yourself of the one percent better

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<v Speaker 2>every day mentality is really to name whatever you're feeling,

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<v Speaker 2>but don't become it, And that's kind of what I

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<v Speaker 2>was saying. If I I'm glad that I woke up

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<v Speaker 2>Saturday morning and didn't feel that anymore because I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>want to hold onto that because I didn't want it

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<v Speaker 2>to be true. I knew that it wasn't true. I

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<v Speaker 2>knew that I meant. I know that I meant for this,

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<v Speaker 2>I know that I'm supposed to be doing this. But

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<v Speaker 2>when self doubt starts to creep in, instead of solely

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<v Speaker 2>wait stay on your chest longer than you need to

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<v Speaker 2>talk about it with someone you love and or trust,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't believe that holding on to something that you

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<v Speaker 2>know is true isn't true is gonna do anything for you.

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<v Speaker 2>But having that support system behind you, the reminders that

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<v Speaker 2>you are figuring this out, you're working through the hard things,

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<v Speaker 2>that's powerful. That's a good check. That's reminding you that

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<v Speaker 2>what you are working towards is in the future. Having

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<v Speaker 2>that person or people or group or mentor or friends,

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<v Speaker 2>whatever it looks like. Having that person say, Okay, you

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<v Speaker 2>can do this, like I'm glad that you have feelings

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<v Speaker 2>and emotions, let's talk through it. What's coming up for you,

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<v Speaker 2>what else is happening, Because you don't deserve to solely

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<v Speaker 2>sit with that self doubt. That doesn't that does not

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<v Speaker 2>serve you. And I want you to know that you

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<v Speaker 2>do have a support system, even if that is me.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm here to listen to these things. The second mindset

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<v Speaker 2>reminder that I'm working on right now is the bar

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't ever need to be higher than what you have

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<v Speaker 2>and be everything at one time, even if it feels

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<v Speaker 2>like that, because I know what that pressure feels like,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's not a fun pressure. The pressure that is

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<v Speaker 2>the self de out, the anxiety, whatever it is coming

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<v Speaker 2>up for you and looking like you are worth more

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<v Speaker 2>than that. You are allowed to slow down. And that's

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<v Speaker 2>even a great other reminder in itself, like slowing down

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<v Speaker 2>to see what you have in front of you, to

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<v Speaker 2>maybe double check your work, to figure it out, to

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<v Speaker 2>take another deep breath, to collect your thoughts, to not

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<v Speaker 2>have such a reactive response. Check what's in front of

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<v Speaker 2>you so you can raise the bar to your ability.

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<v Speaker 2>Not with someone else expects or what you think someone

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<v Speaker 2>It's your capabilities. And of course you can always raise

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<v Speaker 2>the bar, you can step out for the bar. You

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<v Speaker 2>can do more than what you thought in a moment.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's leveling up, that's moving one percent better. All

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<v Speaker 2>of that is included in your little steps. So everything

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<v Speaker 2>that you're doing, the pre work, the mindset work, emotional work,

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<v Speaker 2>situation that you're doing, all of that is your one percent.

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<v Speaker 2>And I know you want to be like, oh what

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<v Speaker 2>if I want more than one percent, because I've also

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<v Speaker 2>thought that too. Your one percent can be a lot,

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<v Speaker 2>like it doesn't need to just be like super tiny

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<v Speaker 2>like one hundred percent versus one. No, your one percent

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<v Speaker 2>is your day of you moving forward, you moving the needle.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just supposed to be a mindset of I can

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<v Speaker 2>do hard things and I'm doing them because they're in

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<v Speaker 1>Am choosing to do them.

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<v Speaker 2>Before we close this episode out something that I want

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<v Speaker 2>to ask, something that I want you to ask yourself, Actually,

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<v Speaker 2>have you been holding the bar too high? Or maybe

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<v Speaker 2>are you holding onto something and you haven't named it yet.

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<v Speaker 2>Now you don't need to fix quote unquote fix either

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<v Speaker 2>of these things right now today, maybe just start to

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<v Speaker 2>note to sit and that's enough.

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<v Speaker 1>That's one percent in itself. Everything that you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Doing is worth the work and it's going to pay

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<v Speaker 2>off because you're going to be a better person from it.

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<v Speaker 2>You are worth that work and you are so loved here.

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<v Speaker 2>And I will chat with you guys soon.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye.