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<v Speaker 1>Coming to you from the dining room table at East

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<v Speaker 1>Barbary Lane. Welcome to a very special edition a Full

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<v Speaker 1>Circle the Podcast. I'm your host Martha Madigal and I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Your host Charles Tyson Junior.

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<v Speaker 1>We have a very special guest today. She is truly

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<v Speaker 1>an American treasurer. Not only is she one of the

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<v Speaker 1>finest musicians, a brilliant songwriter, and a seriously gifted singer.

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<v Speaker 1>She explores genres of music like none other. She's one

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<v Speaker 1>of the most talented and funniest live performers we have

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<v Speaker 1>ever seen. And we got to spend last Saturday night

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<v Speaker 1>with Susan Warner. Welcome to the Full Circle Table.

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<v Speaker 3>I am really happy to be here, and thanks for

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<v Speaker 3>inviting me. Absolutely, I was so excited to meet you

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<v Speaker 3>Saturday because you're pals with my friend Elizabeth Williams, and

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<v Speaker 3>Elizabeth attracts the best energy around her. She is just

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<v Speaker 3>she is just moving the world forward in the most

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<v Speaker 3>wonderful way. She always has been. And so when I

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<v Speaker 3>met you and we were talking and you said a podcast,

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<v Speaker 3>it was easy to say, hell yes, because I'm so

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<v Speaker 3>interested in having more time with you, and so we'll

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<v Speaker 3>have time together with you know, microphones and cameras.

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<v Speaker 1>On microphones and cameras. And by the way, wine.

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<v Speaker 3>Cheers and the little wine cheer cheers.

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<v Speaker 2>This is this is coffee. No, it's not. No, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not you.

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<v Speaker 1>But did you see the mug? Did you see the mug?

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<v Speaker 3>What does the mug say? Wait? Two, there's a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of those Christmas gift.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a Christmas gift. My other buddy actually introduced you.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's also a long time I'm friend of yours.

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<v Speaker 1>Kathy O'Connell.

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<v Speaker 3>Kathy is the best, the best, the best. So Kathy,

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<v Speaker 3>as some of your listeners may know, it is the

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<v Speaker 3>longtime host of Kids Corner w XPN Radio, and she

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<v Speaker 3>has been there so long and created such a great

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<v Speaker 3>community between generations at XPN. And I said to her,

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<v Speaker 3>and I said, does Roger who runs the station, does

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<v Speaker 3>he know the value that you've brought to that to

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<v Speaker 3>that enterprise. And she said, yes he does. And I

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<v Speaker 3>was glad because kids though right to get kids listening

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<v Speaker 3>to you know, independent triple A radio, to get parents

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<v Speaker 3>to have parents listen, and then their kids listen, and

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<v Speaker 3>then the kids go to the shows and hear about

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<v Speaker 3>you know, they hear the music in the car, right,

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<v Speaker 3>and then they stay with those artists and it just

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<v Speaker 3>XPN introduces them to music a little out, a little

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<v Speaker 3>outside the mainstream. And for those of us that do

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<v Speaker 3>music outside the mainstream, it's a real blessing Station's like

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<v Speaker 3>the w XPN.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh absolutely, I'm sure is so great.

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<v Speaker 3>I got to tell you that adults listen to her.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I have put Shazam on auto for her show so

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<v Speaker 2>many times because I'm like.

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<v Speaker 1>This is good? What is it?

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<v Speaker 2>What is good?

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<v Speaker 3>What is this her energy? It's about the energy, right,

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<v Speaker 3>this positivity that something good is going to happen and

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to help make it so.

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<v Speaker 1>And it does. And you know she was our twentieth episode,

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<v Speaker 1>is that right?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, because because she's my pal, like you know, she's

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<v Speaker 1>my sister, and you know, I knew that I could

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<v Speaker 1>always call on her, but I didn't want to do

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<v Speaker 1>that until I really felt like, Okay, there's a real

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<v Speaker 1>reason to bring Kathy on and talk with her. And

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<v Speaker 1>it was right after uv ald Texas and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>for Buffalo, I had read the names and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I cannot do that here. I can't. But I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>a response and that was my response. Why is to

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<v Speaker 1>talk with Kathy and talk about playing the rainbow connection

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<v Speaker 1>and talking talk about how do we talk to kids

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<v Speaker 1>during these times? So, you know, it was a brilliant

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<v Speaker 1>hour and I'm so grateful that she did it. That

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<v Speaker 1>was the first episode of ours that they played at

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<v Speaker 1>Medway Pride was the Kathy episode. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, I just love it because because you know, a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of us, uh understand ourselves early in life as

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<v Speaker 3>in this as in this as in this fluid place

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<v Speaker 3>or this place where orientation and gender oriented, sexual orientation

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<v Speaker 3>and gender identity, you know, these things are are we

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<v Speaker 3>feel like we might be outside of whatever the Barbie

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<v Speaker 3>and Ken deal is. And and and that she speaks

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<v Speaker 3>so easily about it and so positively about it is

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<v Speaker 3>like it is good medicine. What she does is good medicine.

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<v Speaker 3>She delivers it.

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<v Speaker 1>She yeah, yeah, And I wanted to say, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>none of this is a game. This is Kathy O'Connell, like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, because half of my wardrobe came from Kathy O'Connell.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you like this? Do you want this? What do

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<v Speaker 1>you think of this one?

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<v Speaker 3>So?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean she's just she's been there, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>certainly for me. We've known each other for twenty years

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<v Speaker 1>and she's just one of those people who's been there.

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<v Speaker 3>She's a great American and she should have win. Like

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<v Speaker 3>they're given the Mark Twain Prize for Humor to I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know who this week or somebody. It's like, come on,

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<v Speaker 3>you know right, can we please get outside the Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I agree with these white guys with TV shows, it's

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<v Speaker 3>like come.

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<v Speaker 4>On always And for years, yeah, for years, I've referred

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<v Speaker 4>to her as my personal media guru because she's always

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<v Speaker 4>got a song or an album or a book or

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<v Speaker 4>a movie or a television show for me to watch

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<v Speaker 4>or listen to, and it's always just what I need

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<v Speaker 4>in that moment.

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<v Speaker 3>It's delight. I think that's the thing. She finds delight

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<v Speaker 3>in things, and she wants to share that delight.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, it's true.

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<v Speaker 3>It's something to aspire to be. I mean maybe she's

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<v Speaker 3>just that way all the time, but it's something to

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<v Speaker 3>aspire to be.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, it just is like she can't help it.

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<v Speaker 3>She can't help it.

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<v Speaker 1>She talks in show tunes, She speaks in show tunes

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<v Speaker 1>like that's and it always comes down to a show tune.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, man, it kind of does. Yeah, especially with you.

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<v Speaker 4>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>I so I sent you this fangirl email because I

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<v Speaker 1>really did want to thank you for an amazing show.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, we looked at each other and we it

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<v Speaker 1>felt like we had sat there for fifteen minutes.

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<v Speaker 3>That's wonderful. That's the best praise and entertainer can ever

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<v Speaker 3>ever get, is that you know, the audience they forgot

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<v Speaker 3>that they forgot themselves or forgot the outside world for

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<v Speaker 3>a period of time. Yeah, and fifteen minutes out of

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<v Speaker 3>an hour and a half show all that.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it was like, what does she mean they're done?

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<v Speaker 1>How could they be done?

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<v Speaker 2>And I'll admit I was the one that was unfamiliar

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<v Speaker 2>with your work, but just hearing Martha and Kathy and

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<v Speaker 2>Elizabeth like go on and on about how wonderful you

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<v Speaker 2>are and how wonderful your music is. I was expecting

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<v Speaker 2>a good show and it was wonder I told you

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<v Speaker 2>it was perfect in every way, it really was.

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<v Speaker 3>I thank you both for taking a chance. I mean

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<v Speaker 3>to go you've never seen before, right, And You're like,

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<v Speaker 3>I need a folks singer. I need this like a

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<v Speaker 3>hole in the head, right, what is this waste of

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<v Speaker 3>my Saturday?

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<v Speaker 1>Night. It's only when it's a white guy with a

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<v Speaker 1>guitar when I go really like, unless it's John Flynn

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<v Speaker 1>or trout fishing in America, I'm like, I'm busy that guys. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, yeah, I'm busy that by Yeah. And then

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<v Speaker 1>one of the people that works high up at XPN

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<v Speaker 1>mentioned a mutual friend's son was breaking into music and

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<v Speaker 1>she just looked at me, deadpan with everything she says,

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<v Speaker 1>it's deadpan, and she said, that's just what the world needs,

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<v Speaker 1>another white guy with a guitar. I was like, yeah, well, yeah, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know.

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<v Speaker 3>There's this there's this duo of of of black guys

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<v Speaker 3>and their and their gig is called Their Their duo

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<v Speaker 3>is called Black Violin. Yes, they're tremendous. Yes, just tremendous

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<v Speaker 3>because they're busting everything you think about, all your preconceived

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<v Speaker 3>notions about what black is and what a violin is.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, wow, mm hmm, fantassic. That's doing the work

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<v Speaker 3>of God right there.

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<v Speaker 2>I discovered them I in one of my dance classes

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<v Speaker 2>that I taught. One of my kids was playing one

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<v Speaker 2>of their songs and I was like, what is this

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<v Speaker 2>And she told me, and I was like, what is

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<v Speaker 2>the name of that album? Write that down?

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<v Speaker 1>So I sent you this fangirl email and I said

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<v Speaker 1>to but I actually forwarded it to Elizabeth and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I sent this note to Susan. Tell me this isn't creepy.

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<v Speaker 1>And she called me and she said, first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>that's a letter, that's not a note. If you ask her, she'll.

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<v Speaker 3>Tell you whatever you sent me was wonderful. Well, and

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<v Speaker 3>I appreciated your kindness and your enthusiasm.

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<v Speaker 1>I told you a little story, and I want to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you why I told you the little story I did,

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<v Speaker 1>so I told you about my friend Ghosha. Yes, Gosha

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<v Speaker 1>Iguano was a singer songwriter about ten twelve years older

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<v Speaker 1>than us. She was a prolific songwriter and just an

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<v Speaker 1>incredible musician. Piano was her primary instrument. She could pick

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<v Speaker 1>up a guitar, she could play the drums, she could

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<v Speaker 1>do a lot and when I by the time I

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<v Speaker 1>met her, she was doing sing along piano bar in

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<v Speaker 1>a gay bar at tavern on Comeack and she had

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<v Speaker 1>done piano playing like that all over the world. And

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<v Speaker 1>when we opened our bar, she called me and she said,

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<v Speaker 1>I got Thursday. You want Thursday, I said, I would

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<v Speaker 1>love Thursday.

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<v Speaker 1>So every Thursday from the day we opened till till

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<v Speaker 1>she was too sick to play, which was really quick.

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<v Speaker 1>Her illness was really fast. She was there every Thursday,

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<v Speaker 1>and we actually assembled a band. She called them the

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<v Speaker 1>Pickups because they were just the guy who hosted our

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<v Speaker 1>open mic night on Tuesday and a drummer that we

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<v Speaker 1>found at open mic night, and they became her band.

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<v Speaker 1>And one night she and it happened organically, just organically,

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<v Speaker 1>and one night she looked at me with tears in

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<v Speaker 1>her eyes and she stopped playing, and I'm looking across

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<v Speaker 1>the barn and I'm like what, And she said thank

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<v Speaker 1>you for this, because I never thought i'd have it again.

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<v Speaker 1>And I went them and she said them, and I went,

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<v Speaker 1>you're welcome. I heard there was live music tonight. Every

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<v Speaker 1>time they would start talking or go off on a tangent,

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<v Speaker 1>I would just that was my line. I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 1>heard there was live music tonight. So she started playing.

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<v Speaker 1>She said how fuck you, and then she started playing.

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<v Speaker 1>But Goosha so early in her career she worked for

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<v Speaker 1>as cap because and it was kind of named that

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<v Speaker 1>tune like if somebody sampled something in a new release,

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<v Speaker 1>she could hear it. She could hear it. And so

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<v Speaker 1>that was her job, was to just listen to new

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<v Speaker 1>stuff and find where they had placed someone else's stuff

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<v Speaker 1>and make sure they were paying for it. That was

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<v Speaker 1>her job. Yes, and she had this ear. She played

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<v Speaker 1>by ear. Everybody else at the piano bar walked in

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<v Speaker 1>She either had it or she didn't. And she would

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<v Speaker 3>But I mean to say she had the gift.

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<v Speaker 1>She had the gift.

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<v Speaker 3>She had, she had ear. She had the ear, she

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<v Speaker 3>And I'd love to have met.

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<v Speaker 1>Her, And I'm sorry that you didn't, because you remind

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<v Speaker 1>was Ghosha.

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<v Speaker 3>Online.

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<v Speaker 1>You can, in fact, some of her work has been

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<v Speaker 1>and he he just released an EP I guess right

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<v Speaker 1>of some of her stuff that was original stuff she

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<v Speaker 1>and it's out there and it's it's really good stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>And there's there's a million, you know, YouTube clips and

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<v Speaker 1>things like that. But one of the things it meant

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<v Speaker 1>was she was fully present as a human. That ability

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<v Speaker 1>to be a part of a song and and be

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<v Speaker 1>the music is what I saw when you stepped on

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<v Speaker 1>stage and played your first song. That's what you do.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm and it impresses me and touches me in the

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<v Speaker 1>same way. And I felt like I've Goosha said the

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<v Speaker 1>first And I told you this story. The first night

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<v Speaker 1>we met. She came over. She gave me a big hug.

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<v Speaker 1>She said, We've known each other one hundred years. And

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<v Speaker 1>we finally found each other again.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I just when you started to play, I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I've known this soul and and I hear that,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, I'm seeing you up here.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just honored that you know that.

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<v Speaker 1>Well you you are music.

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<v Speaker 3>You have someone that is really that was really deeply musical.

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<v Speaker 3>And also and on the other side of that, the

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<v Speaker 3>other the other part of that that really moves me, Martha,

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<v Speaker 3>is that Ghosha sounds like the kind of person who,

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<v Speaker 3>again we talked earlier about Kathy O Connell, like the delight, sharing,

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<v Speaker 3>the delight drawing, like I have found something delightful come

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<v Speaker 3>with me right that it's this generosity of spirit, and

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<v Speaker 3>I just feel really lucky. Music kind of found me

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<v Speaker 3>before I knew what I was even doing. When I

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<v Speaker 3>was three, I had eye surgery. I still have a

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<v Speaker 3>bad eye, but I wasn't very good with stereo vision. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>so I didn't you know, I didn't get to run

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<v Speaker 3>around and play like all the things I wanted to play.

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<v Speaker 3>I had an eye that didn't work right. But there

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<v Speaker 3>in our house on the farm. Long story there too,

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<v Speaker 3>But anyway, I played the record the record player over

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<v Speaker 3>and over and over. My mother says, like, I just

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<v Speaker 3>played it for hours. I would just stand there and

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<v Speaker 3>almost vibrate with the intensity of it. And then my

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<v Speaker 3>brother Old, one of my older brothers, brought a guitar

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<v Speaker 3>home from Saint Mary's Catholic Elementary School in Manchester, Iowa.

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<v Speaker 3>Why because Vatican two, right, John the twenty third, Pope

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<v Speaker 3>John the twenty third said, the Catholic Church can now

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<v Speaker 3>have groovy music.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I remember this, okay, a huge.

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<v Speaker 3>Right, instead of the old you know, sort of morbid

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<v Speaker 3>right that chant and such, which look that it has

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<v Speaker 3>its place. But what I remember is my brother came

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<v Speaker 3>home with a guitar and I was like, what is that?

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<v Speaker 3>And that was it? And I was five, and he

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<v Speaker 3>showed me three chords and I figured out the rest.

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<v Speaker 3>The guitar was bigger than I was. And I was

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<v Speaker 3>already playing in first grade at Masses at St. Mary's

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<v Speaker 3>Catholic School in Manchester, Iowa. I was already like work, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>well they didn't pay me, but but you know, I

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<v Speaker 3>was super motivated. I'm like, I love this, right, this

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<v Speaker 3>thousand farming community, and he's like, oh man, this is it.

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<v Speaker 3>And so learning pattern right, pattern recognition and perfect pitch.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a there's a study that said, if you learn

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<v Speaker 3>an instrument before age of eight, yes, there's a good

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<v Speaker 3>chance that you will develop perfect pitch because what you'll

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<v Speaker 3>develop is a is a an eye hand like a

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<v Speaker 3>physical corollary to where, for instance, we're gonna just use

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<v Speaker 3>this hair clip, Okay, as example hair clip, You're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>be like thing, thing, thing, thing. You will hear thing

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<v Speaker 3>and you'll see this image like a key, write a

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<v Speaker 3>piano key, You'll hear it and you'll see it. And

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<v Speaker 3>if you see it, same with a guitar, a note

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<v Speaker 3>on a guitar fretboard, you will hear it always, you'll

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<v Speaker 3>identify it with a visual And that's what perfect pitch

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<v Speaker 3>comes from, is having this visual corollary to it. And

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<v Speaker 3>I was so lucky. I was already playing an instrument

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<v Speaker 3>at age five and then I could play piano and

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<v Speaker 3>I figured that out. And so by ear you were

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<v Speaker 3>talking about Ghosha. I think some of Ghosha's talent must

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<v Speaker 3>have come by learning by ear, just from within instead

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<v Speaker 3>of looking at a you know, a sheet music and

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<v Speaker 3>executing stenography.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm still not completely convinced she could ever site read.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, you don't need to to be musical, It's totally

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<v Speaker 3>That's why I always feel sad when someone says, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>i'd love to learn, you know, piano, that I don't

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<v Speaker 3>read music right right as they supposed to have anything

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<v Speaker 3>to do with each other, and.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think they do.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't start playing until the seventh grade, so that

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<v Speaker 2>probably has a hand in why I don't have that that.

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<v Speaker 2>I was trying to be a music major at Temple

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<v Speaker 2>and theory was is not my friend.

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<v Speaker 3>But you don't need theory to be a musical at all.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, luckily that's true. But like I can mimic, like

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<v Speaker 2>if you give me the note, I can sing it

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<v Speaker 2>back to you. But if you say give me an e,

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<v Speaker 2>that's okay.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't need that either. I mean, the most important thing.

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<v Speaker 3>I had a great voice teacher at Temple, Harold Parker.

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<v Speaker 3>He was just tremendous, and he made singing so much

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<v Speaker 3>like speech. It was always about what are you communicating?

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<v Speaker 3>What do you communicating? What are you communicating? And if

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<v Speaker 3>you would start to get too enamored of your own noise,

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<v Speaker 3>right too, enamored of the noise coming out your own mouth. Right,

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<v Speaker 3>He would say, are you making sense or are you

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<v Speaker 3>making tone? Because you can make a beautiful tone and

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<v Speaker 3>it doesn't mean anything. It's made a pretty noise, which

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<v Speaker 3>is lovely, But what does it mean? And even in

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<v Speaker 3>singing in a foreign language, not that this is, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>not that this is let me know if I'm going

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<v Speaker 3>off on tangents here, but not at all. But even

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<v Speaker 3>if you're singing in a foreign language, which is part

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<v Speaker 3>of what a degree in vocal performance is about. And

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<v Speaker 3>why I happened to actually get degrees in vocal performance.

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<v Speaker 3>That's how I could get a scholarship. You know, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>a farm kid. We didn't have any money, right, but

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<v Speaker 3>I had a weird ear, so I could learn, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>German and French and Italian really fast. I could learn

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<v Speaker 3>how to sound it out, and then I could learn

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<v Speaker 3>how to read it. And he would say, even if

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<v Speaker 3>you're singing singing in French, do you know what you're saying?

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<v Speaker 3>And do you know what this word here means? Exactly

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<v Speaker 3>right here? And now say it like a sentence, and

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<v Speaker 3>now sing it, and that the emotion makes itself when

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<v Speaker 3>you speak. Right, If I tell you two that I

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<v Speaker 3>really enjoyed meeting you, I don't have to think to

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<v Speaker 3>put kindness or excitement in that. It's just really true, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's almost like if I was singing you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm so excited I met you. I didn't add something phony, right,

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<v Speaker 3>I just said I'm excited to me and it sounds excited. Right.

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<v Speaker 3>There's no need to hydraulically arrange feeling when singing.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, right.

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<v Speaker 3>Just if it's making sense to you and you're authentically

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<v Speaker 3>connected to what it is you're singing and what you're saying,

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<v Speaker 3>it's going to happen.

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<v Speaker 2>That's the thing with authenticity. It's either there or it

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<v Speaker 3>And you can, I mean, you can find your way

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<v Speaker 3>back to it, but you have to have a good

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<v Speaker 3>teacher who keeps reminding you say it like a sentence.

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<v Speaker 3>And often he would do this whole trick, like I

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<v Speaker 3>went to the seven eleven and I bought a diet pepsi,

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<v Speaker 3>and so you would be like, Okay, I went to

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<v Speaker 3>the seven eleven and I bought a diet pepsi and corn. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>like you go into the sense of it instead of

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<v Speaker 3>thinking about the noise you're making. It's like a sentence.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just okay, that's performing.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sorry, I'm going No, it's not in the.

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<v Speaker 1>Weds at all. It's not in the Weds at all.

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<v Speaker 1>I never thought for a second you didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be right there on stage.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the best. Yeah, let's show people a good time.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's have a good time. Life short. No, that's right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>let's have a good time right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I invoked you during our last podcast because Charles

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<v Speaker 1>does a fifteen minute fave before our first break. Every time.

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<v Speaker 1>He just whatever song is in his head that week. Yeah, whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>like the two songs that were in his head that week.

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<v Speaker 2>Like my my fifteen minute fave is like in that moment,

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<v Speaker 2>it is my favorite song on the planet. And sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>that can last like three months, or sometimes it's like

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<v Speaker 2>fifteen minutes and then I hear another one. Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>So but I never get I never get one. But

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<v Speaker 1>I said, my fifteen minute fave this week is free

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<v Speaker 1>your ass, and I want to come back from the

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<v Speaker 1>break on a few notes of that, and he did it.

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<v Speaker 3>So I'm honored. My ass is honored.

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<v Speaker 1>It was fun. It's such a fun song.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, it's going to end up being a fifteen minute

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<v Speaker 2>fave because one of the criteria is how deeply get

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<v Speaker 2>stuck in my head? And for the past two days

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<v Speaker 2>have been walking around going thank you, thank you, thank

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<v Speaker 2>you very.

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<v Speaker 3>Much, and for absolutely no reason, because I don't know

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<v Speaker 3>that Elvis even was in New Orleans for any reason ever,

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<v Speaker 3>but for some reason, it just showed up as part

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<v Speaker 3>of this.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't matter, it belongs there.

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<v Speaker 2>And I don't even associate with Elvis. I associated with

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<v Speaker 2>you because it's your voice. I'm here.

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<v Speaker 3>Well there was it, wasn't there a funk Adelic tune

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<v Speaker 3>that was for your mind and your ass?

425
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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yeah, yeah, free your mind and your ass will follow.

426
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<v Speaker 3>That was it, And I was like, I kept thinking,

427
00:22:57.680 --> 00:23:01.039
<v Speaker 3>that's not it, that's not it, or I mean maybe

428
00:23:01.039 --> 00:23:04.559
<v Speaker 3>it was then, right, but now it's like, we gotta

429
00:23:04.599 --> 00:23:05.799
<v Speaker 3>get into the ass now.

430
00:23:08.160 --> 00:23:08.559
<v Speaker 1>I love it.

431
00:23:09.799 --> 00:23:12.319
<v Speaker 3>Ian you can think and think that that's not really

432
00:23:12.359 --> 00:23:14.039
<v Speaker 3>The medicine must come from below.

433
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<v Speaker 2>I have this theory that there are two kinds of

434
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<v Speaker 2>songs for dancing. There are arm first songs and ass

435
00:23:22.400 --> 00:23:25.759
<v Speaker 2>for songs, and it just depends on what starts first.

436
00:23:25.799 --> 00:23:30.519
<v Speaker 2>And you don't know until it happens, sometimes you might

437
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<v Speaker 2>be surprised.

438
00:23:33.160 --> 00:23:35.880
<v Speaker 1>It might be an interesting way to do a like

439
00:23:35.920 --> 00:23:38.559
<v Speaker 1>a playlist, you know what I mean, Like, hmm.

440
00:23:38.799 --> 00:23:42.680
<v Speaker 3>Right, I'm gonna this is, this is this is a

441
00:23:42.720 --> 00:23:47.359
<v Speaker 3>golden nugget. Arms first, Arms first, as first.

442
00:23:48.799 --> 00:23:50.000
<v Speaker 2>Could you just be staying there and all of a

443
00:23:50.039 --> 00:23:52.920
<v Speaker 2>sudden you start doing this and then they okay, this

444
00:23:52.960 --> 00:23:56.319
<v Speaker 2>is an arms first song. And then sometimes you just

445
00:23:56.359 --> 00:23:58.279
<v Speaker 2>feel it happen, like, oh, what's going on back there?

446
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<v Speaker 3>Okay?

447
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<v Speaker 6>All right?

448
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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know there's one song that you know because

449
00:24:11.119 --> 00:24:14.200
<v Speaker 1>I was. I've been listening to you NonStop since the weekend.

450
00:24:15.319 --> 00:24:18.880
<v Speaker 1>I over prepare for everything, That's just what I do.

451
00:24:20.640 --> 00:24:24.799
<v Speaker 1>But there was one song I thought if I could

452
00:24:24.839 --> 00:24:27.480
<v Speaker 1>ask you where it came from, or ask you to

453
00:24:27.519 --> 00:24:31.799
<v Speaker 1>tell more of the story, I would. I'm not going

454
00:24:31.880 --> 00:24:34.160
<v Speaker 1>to make you guess which song. It just took me

455
00:24:34.200 --> 00:24:37.839
<v Speaker 1>a minute to find it. May may I suggest?

456
00:24:39.119 --> 00:24:40.079
<v Speaker 3>So I played that song?

457
00:24:40.160 --> 00:24:45.880
<v Speaker 1>Sorry night did I cried by the way way in

458
00:24:45.920 --> 00:24:49.359
<v Speaker 1>a very good way, In a very good way. I

459
00:24:49.400 --> 00:24:54.519
<v Speaker 1>have my own thoughts on the song because yeah, I mean,

460
00:24:54.559 --> 00:24:56.680
<v Speaker 1>I could share that with you, but I'd much rather

461
00:24:56.720 --> 00:25:00.960
<v Speaker 1>hear you share. There's more there's something behind that song.

462
00:25:01.440 --> 00:25:03.839
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I hear you know. When I when I think

463
00:25:03.880 --> 00:25:05.920
<v Speaker 3>about a song of mine, I'm like, I kind of

464
00:25:05.920 --> 00:25:07.920
<v Speaker 3>give it a lot of scrutiny running down my head,

465
00:25:07.960 --> 00:25:09.400
<v Speaker 3>Like even right now, I'm like, Okay, what are the

466
00:25:09.400 --> 00:25:11.480
<v Speaker 3>strengths of that song? Where did I maybe not get

467
00:25:11.480 --> 00:25:13.640
<v Speaker 3>it to one hundred percent? So I'm like, okay, I'm

468
00:25:13.680 --> 00:25:16.039
<v Speaker 3>going to get past that, get past Susan the editor.

469
00:25:16.480 --> 00:25:18.799
<v Speaker 3>Let's get past that and put that away and then

470
00:25:18.839 --> 00:25:22.519
<v Speaker 3>we go here. So, uh, the song came about after

471
00:25:22.680 --> 00:25:24.759
<v Speaker 3>I got a phone call that my friend Fay Khan

472
00:25:25.319 --> 00:25:28.799
<v Speaker 3>had passed away. And fay Khan was a dancer in

473
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<v Speaker 3>Philadelphia and a performance artist, and she was just a

474
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<v Speaker 3>really special person and a self made person. I think

475
00:25:39.160 --> 00:25:43.240
<v Speaker 3>she grew up in West Philly. I'm trying to think, no, yeah,

476
00:25:43.720 --> 00:25:48.119
<v Speaker 3>and she was just she just put together a really

477
00:25:48.119 --> 00:25:52.079
<v Speaker 3>interesting life for herself, and she built, she built, She

478
00:25:52.160 --> 00:25:55.079
<v Speaker 3>built her work on her own terms. She just did

479
00:25:55.720 --> 00:25:58.640
<v Speaker 3>not with not with regard for what other people thought

480
00:25:58.680 --> 00:26:01.039
<v Speaker 3>of what she was up to, but what she herself

481
00:26:01.079 --> 00:26:04.079
<v Speaker 3>wanted to bring forth. She was a real artist and

482
00:26:06.359 --> 00:26:09.039
<v Speaker 3>I knew her. I met her at a breast cancer

483
00:26:09.079 --> 00:26:13.720
<v Speaker 3>support group. At University of Pennsylvania, and I had breast

484
00:26:13.759 --> 00:26:17.680
<v Speaker 3>cancer in nineteen ninety one, and I'm there and I'm fine,

485
00:26:17.720 --> 00:26:20.160
<v Speaker 3>by the way, but that's sort of one of those

486
00:26:20.200 --> 00:26:24.640
<v Speaker 3>big kind of right through the windshield years of your

487
00:26:24.680 --> 00:26:27.960
<v Speaker 3>life is going through treatment like that. And Fan I

488
00:26:28.000 --> 00:26:30.000
<v Speaker 3>just always had a lot to talk about right away.

489
00:26:30.680 --> 00:26:35.279
<v Speaker 3>And when she passed away nine years later, I remember

490
00:26:35.319 --> 00:26:40.519
<v Speaker 3>feeling like this something was coming, and it felt involuntary,

491
00:26:42.200 --> 00:26:47.960
<v Speaker 3>like a bad example is throwing up, but a feeling

492
00:26:48.000 --> 00:26:50.960
<v Speaker 3>like something is inevitable and you cannot stop it, you

493
00:26:51.000 --> 00:26:53.839
<v Speaker 3>cannot suppress it. And I just started kind of may

494
00:26:53.839 --> 00:26:57.039
<v Speaker 3>I suggest, I suggest that something was repetitive about it?

495
00:26:57.359 --> 00:27:00.839
<v Speaker 3>I suggest like this, And I do feel I'm not

496
00:27:00.880 --> 00:27:02.680
<v Speaker 3>one to say things like this, but I do feel

497
00:27:02.720 --> 00:27:06.160
<v Speaker 3>like somehow, you know, Fay was at work, or the

498
00:27:06.279 --> 00:27:08.640
<v Speaker 3>energy of Faye was at work in this way, like

499
00:27:08.839 --> 00:27:12.000
<v Speaker 3>just insistent, this is it, this is it, this is it,

500
00:27:12.279 --> 00:27:15.960
<v Speaker 3>this is it. Treasure now, treasure now, treasure right. And

501
00:27:16.119 --> 00:27:18.160
<v Speaker 3>so that's where that song came from, and it has

502
00:27:18.240 --> 00:27:21.279
<v Speaker 3>just gone so far. There's all around the world. There's

503
00:27:21.319 --> 00:27:25.319
<v Speaker 3>YouTube of people singing it at the whaling Wall. There's

504
00:27:25.319 --> 00:27:27.720
<v Speaker 3>a video of people singing it at like the Jesus

505
00:27:27.799 --> 00:27:32.799
<v Speaker 3>statue in Brazil, and it's just it's just fabulous. And

506
00:27:32.839 --> 00:27:35.240
<v Speaker 3>that's a song, you know, you don't write it sort

507
00:27:35.240 --> 00:27:37.599
<v Speaker 3>of writes itself. You just happen to the room. Yeah.

508
00:27:37.960 --> 00:27:40.559
<v Speaker 1>Nice, Okay, So I feel like I got it right

509
00:27:42.079 --> 00:27:47.559
<v Speaker 1>because yeah, because that is what I felt in hearing

510
00:27:47.599 --> 00:28:00.240
<v Speaker 1>that song we're talking about right now, and it's I don't, well,

511
00:28:00.279 --> 00:28:03.440
<v Speaker 1>you know what I think I've learned. We're the same age.

512
00:28:04.079 --> 00:28:12.240
<v Speaker 1>Nineteen sixty five was a great year. I don't look

513
00:28:12.240 --> 00:28:14.920
<v Speaker 1>at my life and say that time was the best

514
00:28:15.119 --> 00:28:17.400
<v Speaker 1>or that time was the best. I don't. I don't

515
00:28:17.400 --> 00:28:22.319
<v Speaker 1>look back with regret or remorse, and even even in loss,

516
00:28:22.319 --> 00:28:25.119
<v Speaker 1>even in profound loss, I mean, Ghosha, I told you

517
00:28:25.200 --> 00:28:28.359
<v Speaker 1>she was my three o'clock. She was just there at

518
00:28:28.400 --> 00:28:32.519
<v Speaker 1>three o'clock. Never said hello on the phone, and you know,

519
00:28:32.680 --> 00:28:37.640
<v Speaker 1>she just started talking and I counted on that. And

520
00:28:38.160 --> 00:28:38.559
<v Speaker 1>for your.

521
00:28:38.480 --> 00:28:40.880
<v Speaker 3>Listeners, and maybe you mentioned this before, Marthur, but the

522
00:28:40.880 --> 00:28:43.200
<v Speaker 3>three o'clock, the three o'clock friend is the person who

523
00:28:43.200 --> 00:28:46.000
<v Speaker 3>calls you at three o'clock every day, Yes, and they

524
00:28:46.200 --> 00:28:48.759
<v Speaker 3>you just know someone's going to call you right around there,

525
00:28:48.400 --> 00:28:50.200
<v Speaker 3>And like you said, they don't say who they are.

526
00:28:50.240 --> 00:28:52.480
<v Speaker 3>They just start right, They just start in with can

527
00:28:52.480 --> 00:28:56.759
<v Speaker 3>you believe I got a fucking parking ticket? Jesus yes, fuck,

528
00:28:56.799 --> 00:28:59.279
<v Speaker 3>And I don't just write and there just belong. There

529
00:28:59.279 --> 00:29:02.279
<v Speaker 3>you go and there is and that's your three o'clock friend.

530
00:29:02.319 --> 00:29:04.559
<v Speaker 3>And then they're like, would you do today? And then

531
00:29:04.599 --> 00:29:06.519
<v Speaker 3>they listened because you're going at three o'clock.

532
00:29:06.200 --> 00:29:09.400
<v Speaker 1>Back yeah, right, yeah, yeah, yeah that was her.

533
00:29:09.599 --> 00:29:12.839
<v Speaker 3>That was just everyone deserves one and we're lucky if

534
00:29:12.880 --> 00:29:14.279
<v Speaker 3>we get too and we're lucky if we get to

535
00:29:14.279 --> 00:29:14.640
<v Speaker 3>be one.

536
00:29:14.960 --> 00:29:21.279
<v Speaker 1>You know, yeah, yeah, that part, Yeah, it's true. But

537
00:29:21.400 --> 00:29:23.640
<v Speaker 1>I still, you know, I look back on that not

538
00:29:23.759 --> 00:29:28.599
<v Speaker 1>with regret, you know, they're certainly grief, but no today

539
00:29:29.039 --> 00:29:32.160
<v Speaker 1>like and I love that idea of may I suggest

540
00:29:33.039 --> 00:29:33.960
<v Speaker 1>that right now?

541
00:29:34.440 --> 00:29:36.680
<v Speaker 3>Well now thanks for saying that. And even you know

542
00:29:36.720 --> 00:29:38.680
<v Speaker 3>what you're doing when you talk about Ghosha and the

543
00:29:38.680 --> 00:29:41.720
<v Speaker 3>three o'clock call your listeners right now, I have to

544
00:29:41.759 --> 00:29:45.160
<v Speaker 3>think that most of not all of them are like,

545
00:29:45.279 --> 00:29:48.039
<v Speaker 3>oh yeah, I want a three o'clock friend, or I

546
00:29:48.079 --> 00:29:49.680
<v Speaker 3>have a three o'clock friend, or I want to be

547
00:29:49.720 --> 00:29:53.960
<v Speaker 3>a three o'clock friend. Right, yeah, Ghosha gave you that. Yeah,

548
00:29:54.000 --> 00:29:56.839
<v Speaker 3>and you just gave some agosha to everybody who's listening.

549
00:29:56.880 --> 00:29:57.880
<v Speaker 3>It's awesome.

550
00:30:00.039 --> 00:30:04.000
<v Speaker 1>And you gave somebody. Now, is this an answer that

551
00:30:04.039 --> 00:30:06.960
<v Speaker 1>you are familiar with? I am, because the world is

552
00:30:07.000 --> 00:30:11.440
<v Speaker 1>this big, right, I knew a lot of Fai Khan.

553
00:30:11.720 --> 00:30:16.000
<v Speaker 2>I never got to meet her, but I was friends

554
00:30:16.000 --> 00:30:17.160
<v Speaker 2>with friends of hers.

555
00:30:17.440 --> 00:30:23.200
<v Speaker 3>Because you're so young, you're a fetus. Yeah, yes, I am,

556
00:30:25.039 --> 00:30:26.960
<v Speaker 3>You're still young.

557
00:30:27.599 --> 00:30:31.400
<v Speaker 1>That's that's because each time I have to reinvent my life,

558
00:30:31.440 --> 00:30:34.279
<v Speaker 1>I go younger because someone's going to have to take

559
00:30:34.319 --> 00:30:34.799
<v Speaker 1>care of me.

560
00:30:37.559 --> 00:30:39.319
<v Speaker 3>Well, we don't know how that. We never know quite

561
00:30:39.319 --> 00:30:40.279
<v Speaker 3>how that's going to play out.

562
00:30:40.400 --> 00:30:41.160
<v Speaker 1>We don't know.

563
00:30:41.240 --> 00:30:42.079
<v Speaker 3>We don't know.

564
00:30:42.319 --> 00:30:43.000
<v Speaker 1>We do know.

565
00:30:43.079 --> 00:30:45.799
<v Speaker 3>That's why now no.

566
00:30:44.160 --> 00:30:49.559
<v Speaker 1>No, yeah, yeah, yeah, indeed yeah, indeed here today and

567
00:30:49.680 --> 00:30:50.599
<v Speaker 1>go on tomorrow.

568
00:30:51.319 --> 00:30:54.359
<v Speaker 3>So for your ass, So for your ass, well, thank you,

569
00:30:54.400 --> 00:30:55.640
<v Speaker 3>thank you, thank you very much.

570
00:30:55.680 --> 00:30:58.920
<v Speaker 1>I think so. I think. So we're going to take

571
00:30:58.920 --> 00:31:02.160
<v Speaker 1>a quick break and then come back. I hope you're

572
00:31:02.240 --> 00:31:03.400
<v Speaker 1>gonna come back with us.

573
00:31:04.640 --> 00:31:14.920
<v Speaker 7>Excellent walcome by the Mississippi, had a happy trip and

574
00:31:15.000 --> 00:31:17.200
<v Speaker 7>hippie And this is what she said to me.

575
00:31:18.039 --> 00:31:22.359
<v Speaker 3>What she said, she said, free your ASTs and your

576
00:31:22.440 --> 00:31:23.680
<v Speaker 3>mind will follow.

577
00:31:24.960 --> 00:31:29.319
<v Speaker 7>She said, loosen that bomb than rum. All your kids

578
00:31:29.319 --> 00:31:32.799
<v Speaker 7>swallow because we're here today.

579
00:31:34.119 --> 00:31:35.799
<v Speaker 3>And we're gone tomorrow.

580
00:31:37.720 --> 00:31:42.720
<v Speaker 7>Free your ASTs and your mind will thank you. Thank you.

581
00:31:51.279 --> 00:32:02.240
<v Speaker 8>May Yeah, I suggeste you. May I suggest this is

582
00:32:02.319 --> 00:32:12.119
<v Speaker 8>the best part of your life. May I suggest.

583
00:32:14.559 --> 00:32:17.839
<v Speaker 3>This time is blessed for you, This time.

584
00:32:19.200 --> 00:32:22.920
<v Speaker 8>This blessed and shining almost blinding Bray.

585
00:32:25.480 --> 00:32:26.880
<v Speaker 9>Just turn your head.

586
00:32:28.839 --> 00:32:30.559
<v Speaker 3>And you'll begin to see.

587
00:32:31.920 --> 00:32:36.440
<v Speaker 8>The thousand reasons that we're just beyond your say.

588
00:32:38.680 --> 00:32:47.079
<v Speaker 3>The reason is wild wild suggesting you? Why suggest this

589
00:32:47.359 --> 00:32:49.359
<v Speaker 3>is the best part of your life?

590
00:32:57.400 --> 00:32:58.359
<v Speaker 1>And we are bad?

591
00:32:58.519 --> 00:32:59.240
<v Speaker 2>We're bad.

592
00:33:05.759 --> 00:33:07.359
<v Speaker 3>You need a song? Do you have one?

593
00:33:07.640 --> 00:33:07.880
<v Speaker 9>We do?

594
00:33:08.240 --> 00:33:08.519
<v Speaker 2>We do?

595
00:33:09.319 --> 00:33:09.559
<v Speaker 3>We do.

596
00:33:10.079 --> 00:33:15.440
<v Speaker 2>We have a lovely couple of boys, uh Nat and Clint.

597
00:33:15.680 --> 00:33:17.319
<v Speaker 2>They call themselves the jingle.

598
00:33:17.079 --> 00:33:21.039
<v Speaker 1>Berries, well for our purposes. Their their band name is

599
00:33:21.079 --> 00:33:25.240
<v Speaker 1>actually Frank Lloyd Wrong. Yeah, that's their that's their band

600
00:33:25.480 --> 00:33:29.079
<v Speaker 1>good name. Yeah, and they they claim that they are twins,

601
00:33:30.160 --> 00:33:35.160
<v Speaker 1>which is obviously false. But they are very very good friends.

602
00:33:35.240 --> 00:33:38.480
<v Speaker 1>And they wrote our theme music. Yes, Frank Lloyd Wrong,

603
00:33:38.960 --> 00:33:41.079
<v Speaker 1>Frank Lloyd Wrong. They're so awesome.

604
00:33:41.160 --> 00:33:43.720
<v Speaker 2>They're great, fabulous musicians.

605
00:33:44.599 --> 00:33:48.079
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, they really Frank Frank Lloyd Wrong. Reminds me of

606
00:33:48.200 --> 00:33:49.279
<v Speaker 3>Martha Graham. Cracker.

607
00:33:49.680 --> 00:33:52.000
<v Speaker 1>Yes, I love her, We love.

608
00:33:53.680 --> 00:33:53.880
<v Speaker 2>God.

609
00:33:55.039 --> 00:33:58.720
<v Speaker 1>Dido's fun because Dieto is a great musician. Yeah, you know,

610
00:33:59.039 --> 00:34:03.240
<v Speaker 1>really a fab list singer, sings live. Uh you know

611
00:34:03.480 --> 00:34:08.159
<v Speaker 1>does just what a great character he's created and so

612
00:34:08.280 --> 00:34:11.599
<v Speaker 1>much fun and I love fun. There's not we don't

613
00:34:11.599 --> 00:34:13.400
<v Speaker 1>have enough of it more fun.

614
00:34:14.039 --> 00:34:14.639
<v Speaker 3>So you know.

615
00:34:16.679 --> 00:34:19.400
<v Speaker 1>What I started to establish was you really are You

616
00:34:19.679 --> 00:34:24.480
<v Speaker 1>were a consummate musician. You're hilarious to watch, You're a

617
00:34:24.559 --> 00:34:31.400
<v Speaker 1>lot of fun. Your your songwriting is uh comparable to

618
00:34:31.559 --> 00:34:34.000
<v Speaker 1>any one as far as I'm concerned. It's brilliant. And

619
00:34:34.239 --> 00:34:36.199
<v Speaker 1>I can also understand what you're saying.

620
00:34:39.079 --> 00:34:43.880
<v Speaker 3>That all said, Yeah, voice teacher, right teachers, like what

621
00:34:44.559 --> 00:34:44.960
<v Speaker 3>I told you.

622
00:34:45.119 --> 00:34:48.719
<v Speaker 1>You know, I told Elizabeth on Sunday, I said, Susan

623
00:34:48.920 --> 00:34:51.760
<v Speaker 1>is Gaga talented? And I say that was no irony.

624
00:34:53.079 --> 00:34:54.559
<v Speaker 3>Well I don't have the fashion gift.

625
00:34:56.480 --> 00:34:58.880
<v Speaker 1>You didn't do the meat suit, And I said without

626
00:34:58.960 --> 00:35:03.400
<v Speaker 1>the meat suit, which was the hook. You know, you're

627
00:35:03.519 --> 00:35:08.159
<v Speaker 1>just fabulous. But you know, I do want to talk

628
00:35:08.199 --> 00:35:10.880
<v Speaker 1>a little bit because you know, nobody gets away from

629
00:35:10.920 --> 00:35:14.840
<v Speaker 1>here without I mean, the world we actually live in

630
00:35:15.039 --> 00:35:19.519
<v Speaker 1>and we try to make the best of it as

631
00:35:19.639 --> 00:35:24.000
<v Speaker 1>queer adults looking at the world and the way the

632
00:35:24.039 --> 00:35:26.639
<v Speaker 1>world is looking at us right now. And I can

633
00:35:26.760 --> 00:35:30.599
<v Speaker 1>tell you, especially as a transperson, the way our world

634
00:35:30.719 --> 00:35:32.360
<v Speaker 1>is looking at us right now isn't easy.

635
00:35:32.840 --> 00:35:33.719
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's not.

636
00:35:33.840 --> 00:35:34.840
<v Speaker 1>Easy at all.

637
00:35:36.360 --> 00:35:40.280
<v Speaker 3>And why trans people have been selected now do you know,

638
00:35:40.559 --> 00:35:42.800
<v Speaker 3>Like in two thousand and four the presidential election in

639
00:35:42.800 --> 00:35:45.719
<v Speaker 3>the United States, so same sex marriage was the big

640
00:35:45.760 --> 00:35:47.440
<v Speaker 3>thing that was that was the thing that was going

641
00:35:47.519 --> 00:35:50.519
<v Speaker 3>to bring down the country. Here we are in twenty

642
00:35:50.599 --> 00:35:54.760
<v Speaker 3>twenty two, and same sex marriage has not changed.

643
00:35:55.360 --> 00:35:57.679
<v Speaker 1>Everybody's okay, they're all okay.

644
00:35:57.760 --> 00:36:03.440
<v Speaker 3>I did not fall. And the transphobia bugaboo that they're

645
00:36:03.559 --> 00:36:07.719
<v Speaker 3>working on now right from the right. You know, somebody

646
00:36:07.840 --> 00:36:11.320
<v Speaker 3>pointed this out and it really it sounds right to me.

647
00:36:11.480 --> 00:36:13.159
<v Speaker 3>And again I'm a musician, I'm not a you know,

648
00:36:14.239 --> 00:36:19.000
<v Speaker 3>a political scientist, but it's a guess that and when

649
00:36:19.039 --> 00:36:21.159
<v Speaker 3>this person said this, I thought that sounds right on.

650
00:36:21.239 --> 00:36:22.719
<v Speaker 3>And I can't remember who said this, but they said,

651
00:36:23.000 --> 00:36:26.840
<v Speaker 3>you know, the whole transphobia thing is really about working

652
00:36:27.000 --> 00:36:33.639
<v Speaker 3>up Grandpa to vote Republican. Yeah, that's not about trans

653
00:36:33.760 --> 00:36:38.000
<v Speaker 3>people at all. It's about confirming a certain anxiety and

654
00:36:38.079 --> 00:36:43.639
<v Speaker 3>a certain generation and giving them, you know, confirming in

655
00:36:43.800 --> 00:36:46.800
<v Speaker 3>them their worldview in this one regard, so that they

656
00:36:46.880 --> 00:36:49.840
<v Speaker 3>don't wander to the left politically because of any other

657
00:36:49.960 --> 00:36:55.360
<v Speaker 3>of the million reasons you might and boy that wow.

658
00:36:56.039 --> 00:36:58.840
<v Speaker 3>And then one other thing, one other thing that it

659
00:36:58.920 --> 00:37:00.760
<v Speaker 3>came to me to say when I was thinking about

660
00:37:00.840 --> 00:37:03.119
<v Speaker 3>our conversation that we were going to have earlier today,

661
00:37:03.119 --> 00:37:05.320
<v Speaker 3>I thought, if we if we have a conversation about

662
00:37:06.159 --> 00:37:10.159
<v Speaker 3>queerness and transphobia and such, one thing that comes to

663
00:37:10.280 --> 00:37:16.320
<v Speaker 3>me to say is that the energy that tries to suppress,

664
00:37:17.239 --> 00:37:23.519
<v Speaker 3>the effort to suppress something is often it comes about

665
00:37:23.760 --> 00:37:31.000
<v Speaker 3>because there's energy breaking free. So the fact that trans persons,

666
00:37:31.320 --> 00:37:34.440
<v Speaker 3>trans people have are at this moment is because something's

667
00:37:34.920 --> 00:37:40.000
<v Speaker 3>something's busting loose. Something wonderful is busting loose, and there's

668
00:37:40.280 --> 00:37:43.320
<v Speaker 3>there are efforts to smash it because people are afraid

669
00:37:43.400 --> 00:37:46.320
<v Speaker 3>of what it is or how it's going to write,

670
00:37:46.880 --> 00:37:50.119
<v Speaker 3>how it's going to open the world and force open

671
00:37:50.239 --> 00:37:53.039
<v Speaker 3>some worlds that you want to be forced open.

672
00:37:53.480 --> 00:37:55.440
<v Speaker 1>Right, Yeah, that.

673
00:37:55.559 --> 00:37:58.559
<v Speaker 3>That's count right. Where there's where there's political chatter, like

674
00:37:58.599 --> 00:38:01.880
<v Speaker 3>you're talked about, there's much conversation about Georgia, there's much

675
00:38:01.920 --> 00:38:06.360
<v Speaker 3>conversation about Arizona. Why is this because those states are shifting.

676
00:38:07.920 --> 00:38:11.320
<v Speaker 3>Anything that has the shift in it, and a change

677
00:38:11.719 --> 00:38:15.360
<v Speaker 3>like that's where the energy is and that's where something's happening.

678
00:38:16.159 --> 00:38:18.840
<v Speaker 3>And maybe I'm just old that I'm starting to see

679
00:38:18.880 --> 00:38:22.039
<v Speaker 3>these patterns, but it kind of helps to see them

680
00:38:22.079 --> 00:38:25.679
<v Speaker 3>as patterns. And maybe you know, that doesn't mean that

681
00:38:25.800 --> 00:38:28.920
<v Speaker 3>they're not awful, right, but maybe it means we can

682
00:38:29.360 --> 00:38:31.079
<v Speaker 3>we can hope they go away a little sooner.

683
00:38:32.280 --> 00:38:33.480
<v Speaker 1>That is the hope.

684
00:38:34.199 --> 00:38:36.719
<v Speaker 3>That is the hope, right that if we talk about

685
00:38:36.719 --> 00:38:41.400
<v Speaker 3>it and identify it as such simply a change, simply

686
00:38:41.440 --> 00:38:45.000
<v Speaker 3>another societal change, simply another way of being that we're

687
00:38:45.079 --> 00:38:48.000
<v Speaker 3>learning to identify and be gentle with that, maybe it'll

688
00:38:48.039 --> 00:38:49.960
<v Speaker 3>pass a day sooner. We can hope.

689
00:38:50.320 --> 00:38:53.679
<v Speaker 1>We can hope, I hope. So you know the thing

690
00:38:54.679 --> 00:38:57.599
<v Speaker 1>I'm unnerved by, you know, and I talk to a

691
00:38:57.679 --> 00:39:00.079
<v Speaker 1>lot of young trans people all the time, and I

692
00:39:00.159 --> 00:39:02.480
<v Speaker 1>do try to you know, it is one of the

693
00:39:02.559 --> 00:39:05.239
<v Speaker 1>things I say is, these are the patterns. So far

694
00:39:05.320 --> 00:39:08.519
<v Speaker 1>the courts are holding all of this nonsense is unconstitutional.

695
00:39:10.440 --> 00:39:18.920
<v Speaker 1>Let's hold on. But it's it's when, folks, it's when

696
00:39:19.000 --> 00:39:22.519
<v Speaker 1>your friends start to pick up a kernel of truth. Okay,

697
00:39:22.760 --> 00:39:28.559
<v Speaker 1>So it's it's feminists suddenly saying that trans women are

698
00:39:28.559 --> 00:39:32.000
<v Speaker 1>a threat and saying, you know, you know there's something

699
00:39:32.039 --> 00:39:34.039
<v Speaker 1>to that, and it's like, no, no, you're actually you're

700
00:39:34.119 --> 00:39:39.760
<v Speaker 1>still afraid of CIS men, not trans women. Try to

701
00:39:39.800 --> 00:39:44.280
<v Speaker 1>make a distinction, and especially what we're seeing right now

702
00:39:44.599 --> 00:39:49.920
<v Speaker 1>with trans women in sports, in swimming, and what just

703
00:39:50.039 --> 00:39:54.920
<v Speaker 1>happened with that. You know, Leah Thomas won one race,

704
00:39:55.159 --> 00:39:59.159
<v Speaker 1>she swam in three, she competed in three, and she

705
00:39:59.320 --> 00:40:05.119
<v Speaker 1>won one. She is not herculean, she is not There

706
00:40:05.199 --> 00:40:07.559
<v Speaker 1>have been women over the last ten years even of

707
00:40:07.760 --> 00:40:11.199
<v Speaker 1>the same races that would have beaten her. So there's nothing,

708
00:40:11.719 --> 00:40:14.679
<v Speaker 1>you know, but the argument is being made that it's science,

709
00:40:15.320 --> 00:40:21.559
<v Speaker 1>and otherwise rational queer people are having these conversations saying, well,

710
00:40:21.639 --> 00:40:24.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, it's just the science. And then here we

711
00:40:24.840 --> 00:40:30.760
<v Speaker 1>are doing like separate but equal in which always works out, Yeah.

712
00:40:30.719 --> 00:40:34.159
<v Speaker 3>In competitive swimming, that always works out.

713
00:40:35.559 --> 00:40:38.239
<v Speaker 1>And he's got do they not remember Jim Crow?

714
00:40:38.360 --> 00:40:39.440
<v Speaker 8>Like what what.

715
00:40:41.039 --> 00:40:43.239
<v Speaker 3>You know again? I think the energy behind like this

716
00:40:43.840 --> 00:40:48.199
<v Speaker 3>concern about trans women in sports, like it's always about that.

717
00:40:48.519 --> 00:40:50.199
<v Speaker 3>I don't know, you want to hear about transmen in

718
00:40:50.280 --> 00:40:53.960
<v Speaker 3>sports right right? In sports?

719
00:40:54.159 --> 00:40:56.960
<v Speaker 1>And you won't because it doesn't fit the narrative.

720
00:40:57.400 --> 00:40:59.440
<v Speaker 3>It doesn't fit the narrative. And again there's a narrative

721
00:40:59.480 --> 00:41:02.239
<v Speaker 3>being cooked up, and I think it's to serve you know,

722
00:41:02.400 --> 00:41:05.800
<v Speaker 3>some people with some you know who really need Grandpa

723
00:41:05.920 --> 00:41:06.480
<v Speaker 3>to be upset.

724
00:41:07.159 --> 00:41:07.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

725
00:41:09.320 --> 00:41:11.199
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and fear is big business.

726
00:41:11.519 --> 00:41:15.199
<v Speaker 3>Fear. If fear is big business, will put it is.

727
00:41:15.960 --> 00:41:20.960
<v Speaker 1>And you know, to go back to Harvey Milk, you know,

728
00:41:22.079 --> 00:41:24.480
<v Speaker 1>that's why it is so important. You know that folks

729
00:41:24.559 --> 00:41:27.639
<v Speaker 1>are just out. It's why it's why it's so important

730
00:41:27.679 --> 00:41:32.280
<v Speaker 1>that you know, we're visible, we're there, we're taking up space.

731
00:41:32.400 --> 00:41:34.599
<v Speaker 1>And then we can say, now you know a queer person,

732
00:41:34.960 --> 00:41:37.159
<v Speaker 1>Now you do know a trans person or you certainly

733
00:41:37.239 --> 00:41:39.280
<v Speaker 1>know of one because you've been listening to my voice.

734
00:41:39.800 --> 00:41:44.079
<v Speaker 1>So you know, let's move along. And it's I love

735
00:41:44.159 --> 00:41:48.079
<v Speaker 1>the analogy right now of you know, left handedness. At

736
00:41:48.119 --> 00:41:50.960
<v Speaker 1>the turn of the set, the turn of the twentieth century,

737
00:41:51.480 --> 00:41:55.320
<v Speaker 1>left handedness was like three percent of the population because

738
00:41:55.360 --> 00:41:59.679
<v Speaker 1>they beat you for it, they beat you for it. Yeah,

739
00:42:00.119 --> 00:42:03.360
<v Speaker 1>and when they stopped doing that, we found out, oh,

740
00:42:03.480 --> 00:42:06.280
<v Speaker 1>we leveled off around twelve percent. I am left handed.

741
00:42:06.719 --> 00:42:11.239
<v Speaker 1>I understand, you know, at least the analogy.

742
00:42:11.000 --> 00:42:14.159
<v Speaker 3>And wow, I love that handedness.

743
00:42:14.400 --> 00:42:19.599
<v Speaker 1>Yeah handedness Yeah. And folks are freaking out because a

744
00:42:19.760 --> 00:42:23.599
<v Speaker 1>lot of particularly adults, but it happened with children as well.

745
00:42:24.440 --> 00:42:28.920
<v Speaker 1>A lot of folks during the pandemic said I can't

746
00:42:28.960 --> 00:42:32.280
<v Speaker 1>do this anymore. I mean, I started to transition right

747
00:42:32.320 --> 00:42:34.639
<v Speaker 1>after my mother died, because it was never happening while

748
00:42:34.679 --> 00:42:37.719
<v Speaker 1>she was still drawing breath. But once she was gone,

749
00:42:37.880 --> 00:42:40.360
<v Speaker 1>I started looking through our glasses. So and you know,

750
00:42:41.360 --> 00:42:47.000
<v Speaker 1>change is going to come. But the pandemic really drove

751
00:42:47.239 --> 00:42:52.000
<v Speaker 1>home what am I waiting for? And the sky is

752
00:42:52.119 --> 00:42:55.199
<v Speaker 1>not getting any bluer, and nothing is going to change.

753
00:42:55.440 --> 00:43:00.800
<v Speaker 1>And I felt like everything everything that I wanted to

754
00:43:00.920 --> 00:43:04.159
<v Speaker 1>be able to do, or say or have was on

755
00:43:04.280 --> 00:43:08.639
<v Speaker 1>the other side of that stupid, simple discussion. That was

756
00:43:09.079 --> 00:43:11.480
<v Speaker 1>the thing I feared the most in life. And I

757
00:43:11.599 --> 00:43:16.679
<v Speaker 1>am I am not at all rare in that particular instance,

758
00:43:16.760 --> 00:43:18.840
<v Speaker 1>because we did The New York Times did a whole

759
00:43:18.920 --> 00:43:22.119
<v Speaker 1>spread in it where a lot of trans people who

760
00:43:22.159 --> 00:43:23.719
<v Speaker 1>couldn't go to work and couldn't be out on the

761
00:43:23.760 --> 00:43:26.360
<v Speaker 1>street and couldn't otherwise occupy their mindset. It's time I

762
00:43:26.480 --> 00:43:27.079
<v Speaker 1>reckon with this.

763
00:43:27.360 --> 00:43:28.480
<v Speaker 3>It's time I reckon with this.

764
00:43:28.840 --> 00:43:29.079
<v Speaker 1>Wow.

765
00:43:29.719 --> 00:43:34.079
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, there's no doubt that, you know. Thinking that time

766
00:43:34.199 --> 00:43:38.079
<v Speaker 3>is short kind of moves us all along, right it is. Man,

767
00:43:38.280 --> 00:43:40.280
<v Speaker 3>if I'm going to do this, I'm gonna let's get

768
00:43:40.320 --> 00:43:42.840
<v Speaker 3>on with it. And I don't want to I don't

769
00:43:42.880 --> 00:43:44.400
<v Speaker 3>want to run out of time thinking I should I

770
00:43:44.440 --> 00:43:48.239
<v Speaker 3>could have what should have? The pandemic interesting too, that

771
00:43:48.400 --> 00:43:50.960
<v Speaker 3>maybe if we had time, I should should look up

772
00:43:51.000 --> 00:43:55.079
<v Speaker 3>that article that sounds so interesting it is, but also

773
00:43:55.159 --> 00:43:58.239
<v Speaker 3>that if we are left, maybe we're spending more time

774
00:43:58.280 --> 00:44:02.440
<v Speaker 3>by ourselves. We have time now to account for ourselves

775
00:44:03.199 --> 00:44:05.239
<v Speaker 3>in a way that we can say, I'm going to

776
00:44:05.280 --> 00:44:08.679
<v Speaker 3>be I'm gonna I'm gonna build a change from within

777
00:44:08.840 --> 00:44:12.599
<v Speaker 3>out instead of being concerned about other people's reaction. There

778
00:44:12.679 --> 00:44:14.800
<v Speaker 3>was a moment where we had more time to ourselves

779
00:44:14.840 --> 00:44:17.320
<v Speaker 3>and our own homes, and maybe we could steal ourselves

780
00:44:17.400 --> 00:44:20.719
<v Speaker 3>build ourselves up to strength with enough strength. I don't know,

781
00:44:20.800 --> 00:44:24.719
<v Speaker 3>I will never know this firsthand, but to transition is

782
00:44:24.800 --> 00:44:29.199
<v Speaker 3>to have strength from within and to say, if you're

783
00:44:29.239 --> 00:44:31.559
<v Speaker 3>having trouble with this, this is your trouble. This is

784
00:44:31.639 --> 00:44:34.000
<v Speaker 3>not my trouble. And it's one of the things that

785
00:44:34.119 --> 00:44:38.000
<v Speaker 3>is so wonderful about our friend Elizabeth is that. From

786
00:44:38.159 --> 00:44:41.280
<v Speaker 3>day one I met her, it was always if you're uncomfortable,

787
00:44:41.840 --> 00:44:46.960
<v Speaker 3>that's your discomfort. Yeah, oh yeah, And just I adore

788
00:44:47.039 --> 00:44:49.599
<v Speaker 3>how she just lives, you know, with that light coming

789
00:44:49.639 --> 00:44:52.599
<v Speaker 3>out and that strength, light and strength and equal parts. Really,

790
00:44:53.440 --> 00:44:55.239
<v Speaker 3>if I may tell you a little something about my

791
00:44:55.320 --> 00:44:58.119
<v Speaker 3>own story, I feel lucky in my life that I

792
00:44:58.239 --> 00:45:01.880
<v Speaker 3>grew up so big Catholic family, six kids, four of

793
00:45:02.000 --> 00:45:06.280
<v Speaker 3>us are queer. I love that oldest tour straight.

794
00:45:06.119 --> 00:45:07.159
<v Speaker 1>Right, that's how it works.

795
00:45:07.239 --> 00:45:09.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we talked about this at the end of the show,

796
00:45:09.880 --> 00:45:14.960
<v Speaker 3>after after the show. And so my third brother is

797
00:45:15.079 --> 00:45:19.519
<v Speaker 3>a performing drag queen in Minnesota. He was already trying

798
00:45:19.559 --> 00:45:21.360
<v Speaker 3>on my mom's clothes from the time he was like

799
00:45:21.519 --> 00:45:24.159
<v Speaker 3>four or five six, And so his name is Robert

800
00:45:24.239 --> 00:45:26.239
<v Speaker 3>and he always he's he. He would always want to

801
00:45:26.239 --> 00:45:28.880
<v Speaker 3>be Roberta when he would try on my mother's clothes.

802
00:45:28.960 --> 00:45:31.519
<v Speaker 3>And so I grew up with Roberta as a fact.

803
00:45:32.239 --> 00:45:34.800
<v Speaker 3>You know, there was Bobby and there was Roberta. And

804
00:45:35.320 --> 00:45:37.400
<v Speaker 3>so if he would put on mom's clothes, he was Roberta.

805
00:45:37.519 --> 00:45:39.480
<v Speaker 3>And then we would just play whatever we were doing

806
00:45:39.559 --> 00:45:40.159
<v Speaker 3>as Roberta.

807
00:45:40.599 --> 00:45:40.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

808
00:45:41.320 --> 00:45:43.280
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And it was a great gift early on in

809
00:45:43.360 --> 00:45:47.920
<v Speaker 3>life that it's like there's room like this in all

810
00:45:47.960 --> 00:45:50.199
<v Speaker 3>of these ways to be. It was a real gift

811
00:45:50.239 --> 00:45:55.119
<v Speaker 3>to all the rest of us. And this fluidity again

812
00:45:55.239 --> 00:46:01.079
<v Speaker 3>some people just right, oh, and it's such a gift.

813
00:46:01.519 --> 00:46:09.000
<v Speaker 3>Here's one thing I say about queerness is and I say,

814
00:46:09.280 --> 00:46:11.639
<v Speaker 3>it's like and if I had it took me a

815
00:46:11.679 --> 00:46:15.079
<v Speaker 3>while to come to to see this, but that those

816
00:46:15.119 --> 00:46:17.920
<v Speaker 3>of us who are queer are at an intersection. It's

817
00:46:17.920 --> 00:46:21.159
<v Speaker 3>almost like you're the corner store and you can see

818
00:46:21.199 --> 00:46:22.320
<v Speaker 3>both ways down the street.

819
00:46:22.760 --> 00:46:22.960
<v Speaker 1>Yep.

820
00:46:24.400 --> 00:46:26.599
<v Speaker 3>And it's a gift. If somebody doesn't decide they're going

821
00:46:26.679 --> 00:46:28.320
<v Speaker 3>to give you a hard time about it, but that

822
00:46:28.519 --> 00:46:32.039
<v Speaker 3>it's actually an advantage because you know more than one

823
00:46:32.119 --> 00:46:38.639
<v Speaker 3>way of being right right right, And just to celebrate that,

824
00:46:38.719 --> 00:46:40.000
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I guess that's a little bit of what

825
00:46:40.159 --> 00:46:42.760
<v Speaker 3>goes on in Canada with as they say, two spirit.

826
00:46:42.920 --> 00:46:45.920
<v Speaker 3>Do I have that right? Yeah, Like, look at it

827
00:46:46.000 --> 00:46:49.159
<v Speaker 3>as a it's a gift. Look at that right. You

828
00:46:49.440 --> 00:46:50.960
<v Speaker 3>have eyes on the side of your head, you can

829
00:46:51.000 --> 00:46:52.480
<v Speaker 3>see it all. You have a mirror, you have built

830
00:46:52.519 --> 00:46:55.760
<v Speaker 3>in mirror right, like like a recumbent bike. You got

831
00:46:55.800 --> 00:47:00.159
<v Speaker 3>the mirror back behind right, or the driveway mirror. I

832
00:47:00.199 --> 00:47:03.639
<v Speaker 3>guess that's what I'm thinking of it. You know.

833
00:47:04.679 --> 00:47:07.840
<v Speaker 1>One of the I get audacious now and again because

834
00:47:07.840 --> 00:47:12.519
<v Speaker 1>I also write, and one of the essays primarily essays,

835
00:47:12.880 --> 00:47:15.320
<v Speaker 1>but one of them was called more than a Woman.

836
00:47:16.639 --> 00:47:18.559
<v Speaker 1>And I actually embedded the song because I had learned

837
00:47:18.559 --> 00:47:21.639
<v Speaker 1>how to embed songs like that day on WordPress. So

838
00:47:21.719 --> 00:47:24.639
<v Speaker 1>I embedded the song and I said, you know, if

839
00:47:24.679 --> 00:47:28.280
<v Speaker 1>we want to start breaking this down, I'm something more

840
00:47:28.360 --> 00:47:31.239
<v Speaker 1>than you, not less if you only have one way

841
00:47:31.280 --> 00:47:33.480
<v Speaker 1>of being in this world. I have had to watch

842
00:47:33.599 --> 00:47:36.639
<v Speaker 1>them all, and I've really had to examine them all.

843
00:47:37.000 --> 00:47:40.199
<v Speaker 1>And I tried all of your ways first, everything I

844
00:47:40.280 --> 00:47:43.039
<v Speaker 1>was told, everything I was taught everything, religion said, I've

845
00:47:43.119 --> 00:47:46.599
<v Speaker 1>done all of those things. Can you say the same, like,

846
00:47:46.960 --> 00:47:51.119
<v Speaker 1>can you say you have examined this world to come

847
00:47:51.199 --> 00:47:54.039
<v Speaker 1>to the place where you are. And I think that

848
00:47:54.159 --> 00:47:56.519
<v Speaker 1>that is true across the community. It is true of

849
00:47:56.559 --> 00:48:00.320
<v Speaker 1>being queer. It's like we once were sort of start

850
00:48:00.360 --> 00:48:03.239
<v Speaker 1>to know who we are. Of course we explore that

851
00:48:03.559 --> 00:48:07.199
<v Speaker 1>of course we're wrong, you know, and the rest of

852
00:48:07.239 --> 00:48:09.480
<v Speaker 1>the world must be right, and we don't know our minds,

853
00:48:09.559 --> 00:48:12.320
<v Speaker 1>or at least that's my experience. Of it, and it's like, Nope,

854
00:48:12.440 --> 00:48:13.039
<v Speaker 1>this is still it.

855
00:48:13.679 --> 00:48:15.039
<v Speaker 2>This is still it. You know.

856
00:48:15.320 --> 00:48:20.280
<v Speaker 3>The comedian Noel Kasler who I follow on Twitter. He

857
00:48:21.239 --> 00:48:25.599
<v Speaker 3>was a staff member on The Apprentice, Okay, and he

858
00:48:25.760 --> 00:48:30.559
<v Speaker 3>dishes the dirt on the Donald It's and it's it's

859
00:48:31.320 --> 00:48:33.920
<v Speaker 3>it's it's filthy, you know. I mean, he's you know,

860
00:48:34.079 --> 00:48:36.800
<v Speaker 3>the former guy is a filthy human being. Although you

861
00:48:36.840 --> 00:48:39.639
<v Speaker 3>can imagine, then some you can't even imagine. Yeah, but

862
00:48:39.719 --> 00:48:42.920
<v Speaker 3>Noel Casler says, and I think he's a I think

863
00:48:42.960 --> 00:48:47.039
<v Speaker 3>he's a heterois guy, but he says, you know, every

864
00:48:47.119 --> 00:48:49.280
<v Speaker 3>act of courage I've ever seen, it doesn't come They

865
00:48:49.320 --> 00:48:53.559
<v Speaker 3>don't come from CEOs. They come from the LGBTQ community.

866
00:48:54.000 --> 00:48:56.719
<v Speaker 3>They come from the Black community. They come from communities

867
00:48:56.760 --> 00:48:59.360
<v Speaker 3>that have to push back, and it's from individuals who

868
00:48:59.480 --> 00:49:01.800
<v Speaker 3>had to push back in their personal lives. And they're

869
00:49:01.800 --> 00:49:03.840
<v Speaker 3>the ones that understand how to take that energy out

870
00:49:04.199 --> 00:49:06.239
<v Speaker 3>and forward into the world and make good things happen.

871
00:49:06.840 --> 00:49:10.440
<v Speaker 3>Those are the ones who have courage. I agree, yeah,

872
00:49:10.920 --> 00:49:13.760
<v Speaker 3>because because because we have the courage in us. You know,

873
00:49:13.800 --> 00:49:16.559
<v Speaker 3>if I could speak about queerness for a minute, because

874
00:49:16.559 --> 00:49:18.760
<v Speaker 3>we were you were saying in the first you were

875
00:49:18.800 --> 00:49:21.199
<v Speaker 3>saying before we started the podcast, we're going to chat

876
00:49:21.239 --> 00:49:25.199
<v Speaker 3>about these things. So I mentioned that in my family

877
00:49:25.280 --> 00:49:28.440
<v Speaker 3>of six, four of us are queer, and you know

878
00:49:28.519 --> 00:49:30.920
<v Speaker 3>that was that was a real challenge because you talked

879
00:49:30.920 --> 00:49:35.599
<v Speaker 3>about religion earlier, Martha. Yeah, my folks are farmers and Catholic,

880
00:49:36.239 --> 00:49:38.559
<v Speaker 3>and being born in the nineteen thirties as they were,

881
00:49:38.679 --> 00:49:41.960
<v Speaker 3>there was just no there was no manual for handling

882
00:49:42.039 --> 00:49:45.719
<v Speaker 3>any of this right now. So I think my sister

883
00:49:45.840 --> 00:49:49.519
<v Speaker 3>came out first as a lesbian in college, and this

884
00:49:49.679 --> 00:49:53.000
<v Speaker 3>really rocked their world. And so Bob waited, my older brother,

885
00:49:53.079 --> 00:49:55.159
<v Speaker 3>Bob kind of waited because that had been quite a shock.

886
00:49:56.159 --> 00:49:56.639
<v Speaker 2>And then.

887
00:49:58.039 --> 00:50:02.360
<v Speaker 9>In college I began sleeping with women and I kind

888
00:50:02.400 --> 00:50:04.760
<v Speaker 9>of like that too, and I'm like, oh, well wait,

889
00:50:05.079 --> 00:50:08.519
<v Speaker 9>but wait, I like guys, So what is that?

890
00:50:09.519 --> 00:50:12.000
<v Speaker 3>What is that? What do I do with that? It's fun,

891
00:50:14.400 --> 00:50:16.679
<v Speaker 3>it's fun, but it took me a while to get

892
00:50:16.760 --> 00:50:19.639
<v Speaker 3>beyond sort of the idea of it had to be

893
00:50:19.719 --> 00:50:23.239
<v Speaker 3>one or the other, right, right, right? And then bisexuals

894
00:50:23.280 --> 00:50:25.320
<v Speaker 3>were seen in that moment. A bit of queer history here.

895
00:50:25.760 --> 00:50:28.440
<v Speaker 3>Bisexuals were seen at that time in like the late eighties,

896
00:50:28.519 --> 00:50:32.559
<v Speaker 3>Elton John right, or you know had made a stop

897
00:50:32.679 --> 00:50:35.719
<v Speaker 3>on the bisexual you know, made it stop on the

898
00:50:35.760 --> 00:50:38.400
<v Speaker 3>train at the bisexual stop, because you have to write, okay,

899
00:50:38.480 --> 00:50:41.840
<v Speaker 3>that's how you ease some people into being right right.

900
00:50:42.760 --> 00:50:47.480
<v Speaker 3>And it was so bifurcated binary that I was not

901
00:50:47.559 --> 00:50:51.159
<v Speaker 3>able to really understand myself as a bisexual until like

902
00:50:51.239 --> 00:50:55.480
<v Speaker 3>the late nineties, early two thousands, and I'm like, oh, oh, right,

903
00:50:56.320 --> 00:51:01.320
<v Speaker 3>you can just be bisexual, hullo. Yeah, but it was.

904
00:51:01.760 --> 00:51:03.679
<v Speaker 3>It took a while for all of this to firm up.

905
00:51:04.159 --> 00:51:08.079
<v Speaker 3>And then in like two thousand and six or so,

906
00:51:08.360 --> 00:51:12.039
<v Speaker 3>my younger brother sends a letter to all of us

907
00:51:12.119 --> 00:51:15.320
<v Speaker 3>siblings and he does it in a form of an

908
00:51:15.400 --> 00:51:18.679
<v Speaker 3>interview and he says, so, Mark, do you have some

909
00:51:18.840 --> 00:51:22.800
<v Speaker 3>news for us? And he says, yes, well I'm gay.

910
00:51:23.880 --> 00:51:29.239
<v Speaker 3>You're gay? And Mark says yes, I'm gay. And the

911
00:51:29.320 --> 00:51:32.960
<v Speaker 3>interviewer says, so how many of that? How many of

912
00:51:33.079 --> 00:51:35.079
<v Speaker 3>you does that make now? Who are gay? And he

913
00:51:35.119 --> 00:51:40.119
<v Speaker 3>said all four seven hundred and fourteen of us? Like right,

914
00:51:40.400 --> 00:51:42.119
<v Speaker 3>he did it in a form of an interview.

915
00:51:42.679 --> 00:51:43.239
<v Speaker 1>That's awesome.

916
00:51:43.480 --> 00:51:46.000
<v Speaker 3>And you know, my parents finally I think they just

917
00:51:46.159 --> 00:51:47.559
<v Speaker 3>out of exhaustion, gave up.

918
00:51:49.920 --> 00:51:52.280
<v Speaker 1>At least we threw two straight ones.

919
00:51:55.559 --> 00:51:58.280
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and then with time, of course, it's all gotten easier.

920
00:51:58.400 --> 00:52:00.440
<v Speaker 3>You know, really it has gotten easier. And I think

921
00:52:00.440 --> 00:52:03.880
<v Speaker 3>the treasure the kids they have, Yeah, and that we

922
00:52:04.000 --> 00:52:06.440
<v Speaker 3>show up. You know, if you show up, that helps

923
00:52:06.440 --> 00:52:06.880
<v Speaker 3>a lot too.

924
00:52:07.159 --> 00:52:09.239
<v Speaker 1>Well, yeah, you still have both of your parents.

925
00:52:09.400 --> 00:52:11.320
<v Speaker 3>I do, and I can't even believe that. It feels

926
00:52:11.320 --> 00:52:14.440
<v Speaker 3>so lucky. I fly and they're themselves. That's the thing.

927
00:52:14.519 --> 00:52:17.800
<v Speaker 3>At eighty nine and eighty seven, that's great. Wow, I

928
00:52:17.920 --> 00:52:22.199
<v Speaker 3>know it. I know it. And again now every day right,

929
00:52:22.400 --> 00:52:26.599
<v Speaker 3>every day treasure. But to speak about queerness, I wanted

930
00:52:26.639 --> 00:52:30.280
<v Speaker 3>to kind of tell the family story there and say,

931
00:52:31.679 --> 00:52:34.639
<v Speaker 3>you know, I wonder if in the future, if you know,

932
00:52:34.800 --> 00:52:37.280
<v Speaker 3>if parents have fewer children, I don't know, well, they

933
00:52:37.360 --> 00:52:40.000
<v Speaker 3>have fewer gay children. I don't know. You know, we're

934
00:52:40.039 --> 00:52:41.639
<v Speaker 3>going to find out about all that. I guess it's

935
00:52:41.719 --> 00:52:45.480
<v Speaker 3>oh yeah, I don't think it works that way, does it.

936
00:52:46.000 --> 00:52:46.039
<v Speaker 8>No?

937
00:52:46.159 --> 00:52:50.000
<v Speaker 2>Because I had a friend in college. He was one

938
00:52:50.079 --> 00:52:55.000
<v Speaker 2>of four. It was him, his brother, and two sisters,

939
00:52:55.199 --> 00:52:58.880
<v Speaker 2>and all of them were gay. Uh huh sure, And

940
00:52:59.000 --> 00:53:02.960
<v Speaker 2>I was like, wow, there's.

941
00:53:02.400 --> 00:53:04.599
<v Speaker 1>A little bit of science that says like the more

942
00:53:04.719 --> 00:53:07.400
<v Speaker 1>boys in a family, the more likely that later ones

943
00:53:07.440 --> 00:53:10.199
<v Speaker 1>will be gay. Like I have two friends who are

944
00:53:10.239 --> 00:53:13.440
<v Speaker 1>the youngest two in their family. They're both gay. Like

945
00:53:13.519 --> 00:53:16.039
<v Speaker 1>the other six or eight or whatever, there are straight,

946
00:53:16.199 --> 00:53:18.639
<v Speaker 1>but it just like there's that, And I think there's

947
00:53:18.639 --> 00:53:24.800
<v Speaker 1>also something to the older women in particular are when

948
00:53:24.800 --> 00:53:28.440
<v Speaker 1>they become parents, the more likely it is that they're

949
00:53:28.480 --> 00:53:31.880
<v Speaker 1>going to have queer kids. We don't know why, you know,

950
00:53:32.039 --> 00:53:35.079
<v Speaker 1>the hormone thing, the soup, the whatever. You know, however

951
00:53:35.199 --> 00:53:38.599
<v Speaker 1>this all works. You know, as you talked about that,

952
00:53:38.960 --> 00:53:40.880
<v Speaker 1>there was an interesting thing, and I want to I'm

953
00:53:40.960 --> 00:53:43.239
<v Speaker 1>going to credit Julius Serrana with us, but I'm not

954
00:53:43.920 --> 00:53:50.119
<v Speaker 1>positive it came from her. But it's this idea that

955
00:53:51.239 --> 00:53:54.679
<v Speaker 1>when or at least when we were younger, when women

956
00:53:54.960 --> 00:53:58.159
<v Speaker 1>came out as by and we are both by when

957
00:53:58.239 --> 00:54:03.360
<v Speaker 1>women came out as by, what women were told was well,

958
00:54:03.480 --> 00:54:08.639
<v Speaker 1>she's just experimenting. Yeah, right, when men come.

959
00:54:08.480 --> 00:54:10.519
<v Speaker 3>Out as buy, they're gay and they don't want to

960
00:54:10.559 --> 00:54:11.440
<v Speaker 3>face it, thank you.

961
00:54:11.960 --> 00:54:14.960
<v Speaker 1>And isn't it interesting that it also it all means

962
00:54:15.000 --> 00:54:17.719
<v Speaker 1>worshiping the dick. Isn't it an interesting theory?

963
00:54:18.119 --> 00:54:18.320
<v Speaker 6>Yeah?

964
00:54:18.519 --> 00:54:22.000
<v Speaker 1>Isn't everyone is confused about their love.

965
00:54:21.880 --> 00:54:22.360
<v Speaker 2>For the dick?

966
00:54:22.719 --> 00:54:25.119
<v Speaker 3>God? And my friend Laura. I don't know who's a

967
00:54:25.199 --> 00:54:30.119
<v Speaker 3>trans woman in Hawaii. So Lauren says the hardest was

968
00:54:30.199 --> 00:54:33.719
<v Speaker 3>the most, the most resistance and the most animosity that

969
00:54:33.880 --> 00:54:37.079
<v Speaker 3>she has received has been from men. She's convinced it

970
00:54:37.159 --> 00:54:39.079
<v Speaker 3>has something to do with how could you ever?

971
00:54:39.519 --> 00:54:41.480
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, oh yeah, I think that's true.

972
00:54:41.559 --> 00:54:43.360
<v Speaker 3>Part with external genitalia.

973
00:54:44.320 --> 00:54:45.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, would you ever?

974
00:54:45.719 --> 00:54:47.559
<v Speaker 2>You want to give all this that right?

975
00:54:48.039 --> 00:54:52.039
<v Speaker 3>Right? And and she mentioned this to me, and I

976
00:54:52.199 --> 00:54:56.679
<v Speaker 3>just kind of wow that it sounds maybe there's something

977
00:54:56.760 --> 00:55:00.559
<v Speaker 3>to that that is just so unthinkable to men. They

978
00:55:00.800 --> 00:55:04.920
<v Speaker 3>just can't get there. Well, they react, so they react.

979
00:55:04.679 --> 00:55:08.039
<v Speaker 2>So well, there's something in the in the culture that

980
00:55:08.239 --> 00:55:11.320
<v Speaker 2>is convinced men that they're so damn great. So there's that, right,

981
00:55:11.559 --> 00:55:12.320
<v Speaker 2>the patriarchy.

982
00:55:12.559 --> 00:55:16.559
<v Speaker 1>The patriarchy must be based on something, right, Oh, it's

983
00:55:16.599 --> 00:55:20.639
<v Speaker 1>got to be that, you know, like that's anality. You

984
00:55:20.760 --> 00:55:23.039
<v Speaker 1>have an aldi, Some people have anies like that's just

985
00:55:23.159 --> 00:55:25.800
<v Speaker 1>how they're born. And you know, we hang an awful

986
00:55:25.840 --> 00:55:28.519
<v Speaker 1>lot on that. We're no kinder in raising boys than

987
00:55:28.559 --> 00:55:31.480
<v Speaker 1>we are in raising girls. In my opinion, we're hard

988
00:55:31.559 --> 00:55:32.079
<v Speaker 1>on everyone.

989
00:55:32.559 --> 00:55:36.119
<v Speaker 3>We're hard on everybody. But I do remember a study

990
00:55:36.360 --> 00:55:37.599
<v Speaker 3>they just get more out of it.

991
00:55:38.159 --> 00:55:39.320
<v Speaker 1>But I digress.

992
00:55:40.119 --> 00:55:42.039
<v Speaker 3>There's a study that said, I remember this when my

993
00:55:42.119 --> 00:55:45.800
<v Speaker 3>sister and her partner began having kids, and I think

994
00:55:45.880 --> 00:55:49.480
<v Speaker 3>she brought this up that they did a study, and

995
00:55:50.320 --> 00:55:52.199
<v Speaker 3>I'd like to quote the source, I can't remember, but

996
00:55:53.039 --> 00:55:59.119
<v Speaker 3>it asked, how are children raised by a hetero couple

997
00:56:00.480 --> 00:56:05.480
<v Speaker 3>different than children raised by a gay couple? And what

998
00:56:05.559 --> 00:56:07.920
<v Speaker 3>they found was the gay couple, whether gay men or

999
00:56:08.280 --> 00:56:13.079
<v Speaker 3>lesbians or whatever constellation of queerness. What they found was

1000
00:56:13.199 --> 00:56:16.760
<v Speaker 3>there was one significant difference between the kids of gay

1001
00:56:16.800 --> 00:56:19.840
<v Speaker 3>couples and the kids of hetero couples. And the difference

1002
00:56:19.960 --> 00:56:23.280
<v Speaker 3>was this that the kids of the gay couples were

1003
00:56:23.400 --> 00:56:24.159
<v Speaker 3>more verbal.

1004
00:56:25.400 --> 00:56:27.079
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I believe that.

1005
00:56:27.320 --> 00:56:28.639
<v Speaker 3>They were able to express how they.

1006
00:56:28.599 --> 00:56:33.960
<v Speaker 1>Felt, Yeah, and probably encouraged to do so that makes sense, Well, because.

1007
00:56:33.760 --> 00:56:36.159
<v Speaker 3>You have wonderful that's kind of wonderful.

1008
00:56:36.559 --> 00:56:39.760
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you have to, you know, And it's like, it's

1009
00:56:39.800 --> 00:56:42.000
<v Speaker 1>one of the reasons we decided to put microphones in

1010
00:56:42.039 --> 00:56:44.159
<v Speaker 1>front of ourselves and like make sure we sit down

1011
00:56:44.199 --> 00:56:48.719
<v Speaker 1>once a week because we have to check in about race,

1012
00:56:49.559 --> 00:56:54.039
<v Speaker 1>about gender, about orientation and living in this so we

1013
00:56:54.159 --> 00:56:57.039
<v Speaker 1>have to. We would not have been together this long

1014
00:56:57.079 --> 00:57:01.760
<v Speaker 1>if we didn't have honest conversations about those things, knows, yes,

1015
00:57:02.239 --> 00:57:02.960
<v Speaker 1>And we haven't.

1016
00:57:02.719 --> 00:57:04.639
<v Speaker 3>Talked about We haven't talked about race today at all.

1017
00:57:05.679 --> 00:57:08.480
<v Speaker 3>We have not no, And I wish I had something

1018
00:57:09.440 --> 00:57:13.519
<v Speaker 3>wise to say other than you know, we still got

1019
00:57:13.559 --> 00:57:13.960
<v Speaker 3>work to do.

1020
00:57:14.920 --> 00:57:19.840
<v Speaker 1>You know, I will say this because you know, in

1021
00:57:19.960 --> 00:57:22.159
<v Speaker 1>the same vein of what we were talking about with

1022
00:57:22.280 --> 00:57:25.199
<v Speaker 1>what's happening with trans folks, we didn't have a conversation

1023
00:57:25.320 --> 00:57:29.320
<v Speaker 1>around CRT. We didn't have the term in, you know,

1024
00:57:30.880 --> 00:57:33.199
<v Speaker 1>out in the world of critical race theory until we

1025
00:57:33.320 --> 00:57:37.400
<v Speaker 1>had the protracted protests of twenty twenty, and we had

1026
00:57:37.440 --> 00:57:40.280
<v Speaker 1>a lot of white folks joining black folks on the

1027
00:57:40.400 --> 00:57:45.840
<v Speaker 1>street protesting. So the pivot seems to have been it's

1028
00:57:45.920 --> 00:57:49.239
<v Speaker 1>not that we're seeing a major overhaul of the way

1029
00:57:49.639 --> 00:57:53.239
<v Speaker 1>this country polices, but suddenly we're all talking about CRT.

1030
00:57:54.400 --> 00:57:56.960
<v Speaker 1>It's like, well, if we don't teach it, maybe they

1031
00:57:57.000 --> 00:57:57.320
<v Speaker 1>won't know.

1032
00:57:58.079 --> 00:58:03.199
<v Speaker 3>My God. So this reminds me a little of something

1033
00:58:03.239 --> 00:58:08.519
<v Speaker 3>I learned at the Prohibition Museum in Savannah, Georgia.

1034
00:58:09.519 --> 00:58:10.039
<v Speaker 2>Interesting.

1035
00:58:10.400 --> 00:58:13.079
<v Speaker 3>I stopped by Savannah on my way up north in

1036
00:58:13.360 --> 00:58:16.039
<v Speaker 3>late March. I've never been there before, and it's it's fascinating,

1037
00:58:16.079 --> 00:58:20.440
<v Speaker 3>it's fascinating city and worth twenty four hours for sure.

1038
00:58:22.199 --> 00:58:25.159
<v Speaker 3>But I stopped at the Prohibition Museum, right, which is

1039
00:58:25.199 --> 00:58:28.440
<v Speaker 3>about selling booz during Prohibition, and you know Savannah's apport

1040
00:58:28.519 --> 00:58:33.360
<v Speaker 3>town and had lots of speakeasies and one thing that

1041
00:58:35.360 --> 00:58:39.360
<v Speaker 3>one of the guards, security guards brought up, and actually

1042
00:58:39.440 --> 00:58:41.079
<v Speaker 3>it was just because I had a conversation with him.

1043
00:58:41.119 --> 00:58:43.159
<v Speaker 3>And I like to talk to the guards in the

1044
00:58:43.239 --> 00:58:45.960
<v Speaker 3>museums right right often there, Right, they're the ones with

1045
00:58:46.039 --> 00:58:49.679
<v Speaker 3>the most interesting things to say. I bet yes, because

1046
00:58:49.880 --> 00:58:51.559
<v Speaker 3>right they've been looking at this stuff and looking at

1047
00:58:51.559 --> 00:58:52.480
<v Speaker 3>people reacting to it.

1048
00:58:52.599 --> 00:58:53.079
<v Speaker 2>I love you.

1049
00:58:53.679 --> 00:58:56.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I always talk to the staff anywhere anywhere I am,

1050
00:58:56.920 --> 00:58:57.960
<v Speaker 1>because that's how you learn.

1051
00:58:58.360 --> 00:59:01.400
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and they know what's what. Right, they can cut

1052
00:59:01.440 --> 00:59:03.280
<v Speaker 3>through the bullshit and get to the point. Right. And

1053
00:59:03.480 --> 00:59:05.239
<v Speaker 3>this guy said he was a black gentleman, and he

1054
00:59:05.280 --> 00:59:08.000
<v Speaker 3>said to me, you know the real reason prohibition came about.

1055
00:59:08.599 --> 00:59:11.599
<v Speaker 3>I said what he said. There were people getting upset

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00:59:11.840 --> 00:59:15.079
<v Speaker 3>that white people were going to drink with black people,

1057
00:59:16.559 --> 00:59:18.199
<v Speaker 3>and they didn't like black people getting in that close

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00:59:18.239 --> 00:59:18.760
<v Speaker 3>to white people.

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00:59:19.760 --> 00:59:20.320
<v Speaker 2>That tracks.

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00:59:21.320 --> 00:59:25.480
<v Speaker 3>So that's why this prohibition had to end. Because because

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00:59:25.480 --> 00:59:28.960
<v Speaker 3>of the racial tension component. Somebody wanted to keep these

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00:59:29.000 --> 00:59:29.519
<v Speaker 3>two apart.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

1064
00:59:30.760 --> 00:59:33.960
<v Speaker 2>I was like, whoa, I did not know that, but

1065
00:59:34.039 --> 00:59:35.599
<v Speaker 2>I am completely unsurprised by that.

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00:59:35.800 --> 00:59:39.639
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, blew my mind because you think it's about booze

1067
00:59:39.679 --> 00:59:41.960
<v Speaker 3>and right, the free flow of booze. And I mean,

1068
00:59:42.039 --> 00:59:44.159
<v Speaker 3>I'm sure people were making plenty of money during Prohibition.

1069
00:59:45.199 --> 00:59:47.039
<v Speaker 3>Maybe that was the birth of the mob in the

1070
00:59:47.159 --> 00:59:52.039
<v Speaker 3>United States, but that kind of whoa right you think

1071
00:59:52.079 --> 00:59:55.559
<v Speaker 3>about Cotton Club Harlem? What's going on? Whoa these bill? Oh,

1072
00:59:55.679 --> 00:59:58.719
<v Speaker 3>somebody's gonna get upset about this, right, And so like

1073
00:59:58.800 --> 01:00:03.159
<v Speaker 3>the Black Lives Matter protes in Philadelphia and how many

1074
01:00:03.239 --> 01:00:06.800
<v Speaker 3>of us white people joined the march and like that's

1075
01:00:06.880 --> 01:00:10.039
<v Speaker 3>enough of this, and someone didn't like this going on,

1076
01:00:10.440 --> 01:00:14.239
<v Speaker 3>and yeah, so CRT suddenly is a big issue.

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01:00:14.360 --> 01:00:17.679
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, that was an amazing outcry. I remember seeing

1078
01:00:17.679 --> 01:00:22.239
<v Speaker 2>a video of like in like Podunk County, Iowa. You know,

1079
01:00:22.360 --> 01:00:25.400
<v Speaker 2>it was like one white dude marching down the street

1080
01:00:25.440 --> 01:00:30.719
<v Speaker 2>saying black lives matter, and folks yelling at him and

1081
01:00:30.960 --> 01:00:36.920
<v Speaker 2>stopping to curse at him from cars, and like, wow, I.

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01:00:36.920 --> 01:00:38.960
<v Speaker 3>Will say, in defense of my home state of Iowa,

1083
01:00:40.159 --> 01:00:41.039
<v Speaker 3>I was waiting for that.

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01:00:41.480 --> 01:00:41.679
<v Speaker 9>Yeah.

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01:00:41.760 --> 01:00:45.440
<v Speaker 3>I do think I do think that because there are

1086
01:00:45.840 --> 01:00:50.079
<v Speaker 3>there are so few minority people in Iowa. What is

1087
01:00:50.119 --> 01:00:53.840
<v Speaker 3>the population to warn maybe twenty not even that, and

1088
01:00:53.960 --> 01:00:57.280
<v Speaker 3>that's the big city right there, just aren't you know,

1089
01:00:57.360 --> 01:01:02.440
<v Speaker 3>there's so few black in Iowa. And I think that

1090
01:01:02.920 --> 01:01:05.079
<v Speaker 3>you know, you would think, oh, well they're racist because

1091
01:01:05.079 --> 01:01:10.239
<v Speaker 3>they don't see black people. I think there's just mean people, right,

1092
01:01:10.639 --> 01:01:13.960
<v Speaker 3>There's just mean people. Some people are just mean. Even

1093
01:01:13.960 --> 01:01:17.000
<v Speaker 3>if they haven't seen black people, they've decided, right, some

1094
01:01:17.199 --> 01:01:20.800
<v Speaker 3>people just are mean and this is just something fed

1095
01:01:20.840 --> 01:01:24.280
<v Speaker 3>do them by the media. Yeah, actually had no first

1096
01:01:24.320 --> 01:01:26.000
<v Speaker 3>hand experience with black people at all.

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01:01:26.440 --> 01:01:29.199
<v Speaker 1>Right, Well, and I you know, we talk about that

1098
01:01:29.320 --> 01:01:31.960
<v Speaker 1>a lot because when I grew up here, it was

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01:01:32.199 --> 01:01:35.519
<v Speaker 1>just very white here. It was very white here in

1100
01:01:35.599 --> 01:01:38.480
<v Speaker 1>New Jersey, in this part of New Jersey where I

1101
01:01:38.559 --> 01:01:41.960
<v Speaker 1>grew up here. Yeah, And I remember I had an

1102
01:01:42.000 --> 01:01:44.719
<v Speaker 1>eighth grade teacher. She saved my life. And she was

1103
01:01:44.800 --> 01:01:49.159
<v Speaker 1>the coolest teacher ever. And she used to pick me

1104
01:01:49.239 --> 01:01:51.280
<v Speaker 1>up in the summer and take me swimming with their

1105
01:01:51.360 --> 01:01:53.800
<v Speaker 1>kids and just like gave me a place to hang

1106
01:01:53.880 --> 01:01:57.079
<v Speaker 1>out and somebody smart to talk to. And I remember

1107
01:01:57.159 --> 01:02:01.320
<v Speaker 1>one day we were driving around near here and she's

1108
01:02:01.679 --> 01:02:05.760
<v Speaker 1>commented She's like, the fucking racists. And I went, you

1109
01:02:05.840 --> 01:02:09.840
<v Speaker 1>think it's racist here? And she said, oh, honey, all

1110
01:02:09.920 --> 01:02:13.119
<v Speaker 1>those white sheets out on the clotheslines, they are enough

1111
01:02:13.239 --> 01:02:17.719
<v Speaker 1>for the beds. And I was like, but I had

1112
01:02:18.199 --> 01:02:22.199
<v Speaker 1>like she opened my mind in a way that no

1113
01:02:22.280 --> 01:02:24.719
<v Speaker 1>one else had before. And I went, oh, you realize

1114
01:02:24.760 --> 01:02:29.199
<v Speaker 1>how many sheets you just passed? Wait a minute, and

1115
01:02:29.519 --> 01:02:31.760
<v Speaker 1>I mean, yes, it was sort of a joke, but

1116
01:02:31.880 --> 01:02:37.400
<v Speaker 1>not really. And so I learned things that I hadn't considered.

1117
01:02:38.079 --> 01:02:42.119
<v Speaker 1>And you open your world and then when you know better,

1118
01:02:42.159 --> 01:02:44.599
<v Speaker 1>you do better. And I think in a lot of places,

1119
01:02:44.760 --> 01:02:47.679
<v Speaker 1>especially in the Midwest, you do have folks who they

1120
01:02:47.840 --> 01:02:49.840
<v Speaker 1>just grew up around white people and they didn't know

1121
01:02:49.920 --> 01:02:53.079
<v Speaker 1>any better, and then it's easy to create a boogeyman.

1122
01:02:53.239 --> 01:02:54.960
<v Speaker 1>In the same way if you've met if you don't

1123
01:02:55.320 --> 01:02:58.360
<v Speaker 1>encounter trans people, it's really easy to be afraid of

1124
01:02:58.480 --> 01:03:00.039
<v Speaker 1>us and say.

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01:03:00.280 --> 01:03:03.559
<v Speaker 3>But it's hard to be a missionary. You know, Frans person,

1126
01:03:03.599 --> 01:03:06.920
<v Speaker 3>you're a missionary almost all the time? Right, Well, person,

1127
01:03:07.000 --> 01:03:11.039
<v Speaker 3>you're a missionary. You know a lot. Yeah, it's a

1128
01:03:11.119 --> 01:03:14.960
<v Speaker 3>lot to ask anybody, it is. And may the day

1129
01:03:15.039 --> 01:03:16.760
<v Speaker 3>comes soon when it doesn't have to be that way.

1130
01:03:17.480 --> 01:03:20.960
<v Speaker 1>Really may it. Yeah, you know, there's two songs I

1131
01:03:21.039 --> 01:03:23.280
<v Speaker 1>want to talk about because I don't I don't want

1132
01:03:23.320 --> 01:03:25.159
<v Speaker 1>to soak up too much of your time because.

1133
01:03:24.880 --> 01:03:28.000
<v Speaker 3>You're being soaking up. I'm soaking up.

1134
01:03:27.960 --> 01:03:31.079
<v Speaker 1>My Okay, well is there more in there? Because there's more.

1135
01:03:31.000 --> 01:03:31.400
<v Speaker 3>In the fridge?

1136
01:03:31.960 --> 01:03:33.320
<v Speaker 1>Okay? Good? Oh, thank goodness.

1137
01:03:35.039 --> 01:03:35.199
<v Speaker 3>You know.

1138
01:03:35.360 --> 01:03:41.719
<v Speaker 1>I wonder you are a brilliant songwriter. One of the

1139
01:03:41.840 --> 01:03:47.480
<v Speaker 1>songs that you did on Saturday night was Manhattan, Kansas.

1140
01:03:49.199 --> 01:03:52.239
<v Speaker 1>It could not be more relevant right now as we

1141
01:03:52.800 --> 01:03:54.800
<v Speaker 1>get to the end of June and wonder what's happening

1142
01:03:54.880 --> 01:03:58.599
<v Speaker 1>with brow ye is that? Is that a tough song

1143
01:03:58.719 --> 01:03:58.880
<v Speaker 1>to do?

1144
01:03:59.480 --> 01:03:59.519
<v Speaker 3>No?

1145
01:04:00.199 --> 01:04:04.960
<v Speaker 1>Good good? Okay, it's not. I think it's an important

1146
01:04:05.000 --> 01:04:06.519
<v Speaker 1>song to do well.

1147
01:04:06.920 --> 01:04:09.679
<v Speaker 3>Thanks for saying that. It is the You know, I

1148
01:04:09.840 --> 01:04:12.199
<v Speaker 3>like to work sometimes from models. It helps me if

1149
01:04:12.239 --> 01:04:15.239
<v Speaker 3>I have kind of a template, and in this case,

1150
01:04:16.079 --> 01:04:19.039
<v Speaker 3>the model is the songs of Jimmy Webb. Jimmy Webb

1151
01:04:19.119 --> 01:04:21.880
<v Speaker 3>wrote Jimmy Webb is from Oklahoma, and he wrote some

1152
01:04:22.199 --> 01:04:25.760
<v Speaker 3>songs that were country hits in the seventies, including Galveston

1153
01:04:26.519 --> 01:04:28.079
<v Speaker 3>and Wichita Linemen.

1154
01:04:27.800 --> 01:04:30.239
<v Speaker 9>And by the time I get to Phoenix, right right right,

1155
01:04:30.639 --> 01:04:32.679
<v Speaker 9>Puppy Dog Can we put the puppy dog on camera?

1156
01:04:32.960 --> 01:04:33.119
<v Speaker 2>Yes?

1157
01:04:34.159 --> 01:04:36.400
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, he's going to insist on it. This is Ali,

1158
01:04:37.239 --> 01:04:38.239
<v Speaker 1>bring him between.

1159
01:04:38.079 --> 01:04:43.639
<v Speaker 3>Us, Aley, not Alvin, Justine, not Alvin Aley.

1160
01:04:45.239 --> 01:04:50.679
<v Speaker 1>There, that's Ali. Yes, that's the He was three pounds

1161
01:04:50.719 --> 01:04:54.679
<v Speaker 1>when we got him. He's almost five now. So oh my,

1162
01:04:55.079 --> 01:04:57.599
<v Speaker 1>he's put on Yeah, he's gotten healthier. He put on

1163
01:04:57.719 --> 01:05:01.960
<v Speaker 1>some weight, his hair grow in. He was a maths

1164
01:05:02.000 --> 01:05:02.679
<v Speaker 1>when we got him.

1165
01:05:05.440 --> 01:05:08.039
<v Speaker 3>I love the joke that my brother used to tell about.

1166
01:05:08.480 --> 01:05:10.400
<v Speaker 3>He would say, I'm really I'm a little nervous because

1167
01:05:10.400 --> 01:05:15.400
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to my elementary school reunion, class reunion this weekend,

1168
01:05:15.719 --> 01:05:17.599
<v Speaker 3>and I've put on one hundred pounds since then.

1169
01:05:21.440 --> 01:05:22.760
<v Speaker 1>Adopted a Doberman.

1170
01:05:24.000 --> 01:05:26.000
<v Speaker 3>My elementary school reunion.

1171
01:05:26.199 --> 01:05:31.320
<v Speaker 1>Oh that's the.

1172
01:05:33.559 --> 01:05:37.599
<v Speaker 3>And re refocus. Oh yeah, so the Manhattan, Kansas. So

1173
01:05:37.639 --> 01:05:40.639
<v Speaker 3>I wanted to write a song. It seemed to me

1174
01:05:40.719 --> 01:05:43.159
<v Speaker 3>that so much of the it seemed to be that

1175
01:05:43.360 --> 01:05:49.000
<v Speaker 3>so much of the discussion about abortion rights has to

1176
01:05:49.119 --> 01:05:53.400
<v Speaker 3>do with this this fixation, this ability to overlook the

1177
01:05:53.519 --> 01:05:57.440
<v Speaker 3>experience of a pregnant woman. She's just invisible to the

1178
01:05:57.480 --> 01:06:02.039
<v Speaker 3>whole thing. And I wanted to write a portrait that

1179
01:06:02.840 --> 01:06:07.119
<v Speaker 3>fills out that story. That's a real person with experiences

1180
01:06:07.559 --> 01:06:11.159
<v Speaker 3>and with decisions to make and how and why. And

1181
01:06:12.559 --> 01:06:14.960
<v Speaker 3>so I landed on the town of Manhattan, Kansas's a

1182
01:06:15.000 --> 01:06:17.360
<v Speaker 3>place I've been in a beautiful place. There's a great prairie,

1183
01:06:17.480 --> 01:06:20.519
<v Speaker 3>restored prairie just outside of Manhattan, and it's just is beautiful.

1184
01:06:20.599 --> 01:06:22.960
<v Speaker 3>It's like what you think heaven must look like. When

1185
01:06:23.000 --> 01:06:26.000
<v Speaker 3>you walk into the gates, You're just like, oh, golden,

1186
01:06:26.199 --> 01:06:30.360
<v Speaker 3>the golden prairie grass and the sun, no trees between

1187
01:06:30.440 --> 01:06:34.079
<v Speaker 3>you and the sun, just for miles. And that was

1188
01:06:34.199 --> 01:06:36.639
<v Speaker 3>how that song came about. Was I had a model

1189
01:06:36.719 --> 01:06:39.960
<v Speaker 3>for this exercise I wanted to do, not just an exercise,

1190
01:06:40.039 --> 01:06:44.320
<v Speaker 3>but I felt strongly like we were overlooking the pregnant woman. Yeah,

1191
01:06:45.199 --> 01:06:47.360
<v Speaker 3>how are we doing? Why are we doing that? And

1192
01:06:47.440 --> 01:06:51.679
<v Speaker 3>sometimes I think it's because because people are afraid of pregnancy.

1193
01:06:52.920 --> 01:06:56.840
<v Speaker 3>It's pregnancy is hard work, to say the least, To

1194
01:06:57.000 --> 01:07:02.239
<v Speaker 3>say the least, it's a major inconvenience. It is I've

1195
01:07:02.280 --> 01:07:05.400
<v Speaker 3>never been pregnant, but major. Your body will never be

1196
01:07:05.480 --> 01:07:10.559
<v Speaker 3>the same, right right, And this this inability to face

1197
01:07:10.679 --> 01:07:13.440
<v Speaker 3>that square on what is that?

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01:07:15.000 --> 01:07:17.559
<v Speaker 1>I think it did an amazing job because it feels

1199
01:07:17.719 --> 01:07:20.559
<v Speaker 1>very personal. The song feels, you know.

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01:07:20.760 --> 01:07:22.559
<v Speaker 3>It's a piece of it's a piece of writing that

1201
01:07:23.599 --> 01:07:29.599
<v Speaker 3>is obliquely personal, right, and it's it just seems to

1202
01:07:29.719 --> 01:07:32.280
<v Speaker 3>really resonate, and it has ever since I wrote. It

1203
01:07:32.719 --> 01:07:36.280
<v Speaker 3>seems especially powerful right now, God forbid, whatever's going to

1204
01:07:36.320 --> 01:07:38.840
<v Speaker 3>happen here later this week. It's just it can't be.

1205
01:07:39.360 --> 01:07:39.760
<v Speaker 3>It can't be.

1206
01:07:40.400 --> 01:07:43.800
<v Speaker 1>I gotta tell you, I love your town of Chicago

1207
01:07:44.639 --> 01:07:47.400
<v Speaker 1>because you've got you've got resources, and they really are

1208
01:07:47.480 --> 01:07:51.400
<v Speaker 1>trying to I'm losing the name of the organization, but

1209
01:07:51.480 --> 01:07:55.800
<v Speaker 1>it's like, you know, the Women's Abortion Center of Chicago.

1210
01:07:56.679 --> 01:07:58.119
<v Speaker 3>And why don't I know that name either?

1211
01:07:59.679 --> 01:08:03.079
<v Speaker 1>But they have you know, they haven't had to turn

1212
01:08:03.119 --> 01:08:08.599
<v Speaker 1>anyone away through the pandemic, and in years they've maintained funding.

1213
01:08:08.639 --> 01:08:10.320
<v Speaker 1>And they're really trying to gear up at this point

1214
01:08:10.320 --> 01:08:13.559
<v Speaker 1>because they're looking at maybe three four thousand more women

1215
01:08:13.760 --> 01:08:14.719
<v Speaker 1>coming through the doors.

1216
01:08:14.880 --> 01:08:16.760
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because you know, Illinois is going to be an

1217
01:08:16.760 --> 01:08:21.239
<v Speaker 3>abortion island, right, you know, a sanctuary in a safe place.

1218
01:08:21.800 --> 01:08:24.520
<v Speaker 3>And you know it's because we know from the Upper Midwest.

1219
01:08:24.560 --> 01:08:26.399
<v Speaker 3>You know, Chicago's always been and I live in Chicago.

1220
01:08:26.600 --> 01:08:29.039
<v Speaker 3>I'm here right now in town, and it's always been

1221
01:08:29.079 --> 01:08:33.239
<v Speaker 3>a kind of pool for talent, you know, attractive right gathering.

1222
01:08:33.319 --> 01:08:36.840
<v Speaker 3>Somebody called it a catch basin for talent, right like

1223
01:08:36.920 --> 01:08:38.640
<v Speaker 3>from the Upper Midwest. There's a couple of different things

1224
01:08:38.680 --> 01:08:40.680
<v Speaker 3>you can do. You can go to New York, you

1225
01:08:40.760 --> 01:08:42.880
<v Speaker 3>can go to la or you can go to Chicago,

1226
01:08:42.920 --> 01:08:45.520
<v Speaker 3>and you can still go see your parents. Yeah, okay,

1227
01:08:46.560 --> 01:08:48.159
<v Speaker 3>so for me this works out, even though it wasn't

1228
01:08:48.159 --> 01:08:50.039
<v Speaker 3>Philly for many, many years, but I came back here

1229
01:08:50.079 --> 01:08:52.439
<v Speaker 3>so I can see my parents and Tracy lived here.

1230
01:08:52.520 --> 01:08:57.079
<v Speaker 3>Long story. But the idea that Illinois is going to

1231
01:08:57.079 --> 01:08:59.560
<v Speaker 3>become one of those places where you know, we can

1232
01:08:59.640 --> 01:09:02.119
<v Speaker 3>help that it would have to even.

1233
01:09:02.039 --> 01:09:06.119
<v Speaker 1>Do that, that's right, right, I mean, but it's true.

1234
01:09:06.319 --> 01:09:08.640
<v Speaker 1>And at least they are like they're prepared.

1235
01:09:09.399 --> 01:09:11.279
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's what we're going to see, you know, that's

1236
01:09:11.279 --> 01:09:12.760
<v Speaker 3>we're going to see. All over the country. There's gonna

1237
01:09:12.760 --> 01:09:13.800
<v Speaker 3>be places where you can go.

1238
01:09:14.560 --> 01:09:14.760
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

1239
01:09:14.800 --> 01:09:16.560
<v Speaker 1>What a what a hideous place to be in. But

1240
01:09:18.079 --> 01:09:19.600
<v Speaker 1>it's nice to know we have islands.

1241
01:09:19.800 --> 01:09:21.600
<v Speaker 3>I hope to think right now, by the way, that

1242
01:09:21.760 --> 01:09:24.279
<v Speaker 3>there's a lot of stocking up on plan on the

1243
01:09:24.319 --> 01:09:25.520
<v Speaker 3>plan on Plan B Hill.

1244
01:09:25.840 --> 01:09:27.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah right, well I've seen a lot of that too.

1245
01:09:28.159 --> 01:09:30.880
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, one has to hope that a lot of that's

1246
01:09:30.880 --> 01:09:33.359
<v Speaker 3>going on, getting ready for the battle ahead, because it

1247
01:09:33.479 --> 01:09:34.880
<v Speaker 3>is that the links.

1248
01:09:34.640 --> 01:09:37.880
<v Speaker 1>The mail order. Yeah, because we don't think especially here.

1249
01:09:38.000 --> 01:09:40.760
<v Speaker 1>I mean, you know, we live kind of in a bubble,

1250
01:09:41.039 --> 01:09:44.199
<v Speaker 1>you know here in New Jersey, Like Pennsylvania has that

1251
01:09:44.359 --> 01:09:47.439
<v Speaker 1>pennsyl tucky thing in the middle, but New Jersey doesn't, Right,

1252
01:09:47.840 --> 01:09:50.840
<v Speaker 1>So you know, New Jersey is putting the lalls in

1253
01:09:50.920 --> 01:09:54.039
<v Speaker 1>place in the ways that Illinois is to say, Yeah,

1254
01:09:54.199 --> 01:09:57.000
<v Speaker 1>for you know, we hear you, we hear what's happening,

1255
01:09:57.079 --> 01:10:00.239
<v Speaker 1>and we're going to make sure we protect folks. But

1256
01:10:01.239 --> 01:10:05.079
<v Speaker 1>you don't realize what it's like for someone in Texas

1257
01:10:06.960 --> 01:10:08.720
<v Speaker 1>or you know, or someone who is in one of

1258
01:10:08.760 --> 01:10:11.079
<v Speaker 1>these huge states where there aren't that many people to

1259
01:10:11.159 --> 01:10:13.319
<v Speaker 1>begin with, and there's nowhere to go and there's not

1260
01:10:13.399 --> 01:10:14.239
<v Speaker 1>the money to get there.

1261
01:10:14.359 --> 01:10:18.239
<v Speaker 3>And yeah, and this fairy tale about the babies, right

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01:10:18.800 --> 01:10:19.960
<v Speaker 3>that there will be all of a sudden all of

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<v Speaker 3>these white babies show white couples to adopt. Yeah, please,

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01:10:23.560 --> 01:10:25.880
<v Speaker 3>that's not what's going to happen here, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, no, of course it's not.

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01:10:28.640 --> 01:10:30.119
<v Speaker 3>No, it's just sad.

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01:10:30.359 --> 01:10:33.880
<v Speaker 1>And we will lose more adult women. I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>going to happen.

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<v Speaker 3>No, we will. There's a lot about it. So remember November.

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<v Speaker 3>Remember November.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes please, I love that that rhymes because that's it's

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<v Speaker 1>the one place I always land is and vote, vote, vote,

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01:10:44.760 --> 01:10:46.479
<v Speaker 1>then vote wherever you are.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>Exactly. And it's like, you know, you may want to

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01:10:51.000 --> 01:10:53.079
<v Speaker 1>blow up the world, and I'm fine with that, you know,

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01:10:53.239 --> 01:10:57.640
<v Speaker 1>carry the sign. We can have that conversation. But I

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01:10:57.760 --> 01:10:58.479
<v Speaker 1>need you to vote.

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01:10:58.880 --> 01:10:59.079
<v Speaker 3>I do.

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01:10:59.359 --> 01:11:01.439
<v Speaker 1>I need and need you just suck it up, vote

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01:11:01.439 --> 01:11:03.359
<v Speaker 1>for a Democrat, and then then we can talk about

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01:11:03.359 --> 01:11:05.000
<v Speaker 1>all the rest of it in December.

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01:11:05.680 --> 01:11:07.199
<v Speaker 2>In the but I'm in between times.

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01:11:07.199 --> 01:11:09.079
<v Speaker 1>I want to know that I can still live here

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01:11:09.359 --> 01:11:12.760
<v Speaker 1>in December, like I want to know that because the

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01:11:12.880 --> 01:11:14.960
<v Speaker 1>pink triangles were not that far away from.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh god, yeah, it feels very yeah, very republic.

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<v Speaker 1>I imagine you don't get to see a lot of television,

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01:11:22.520 --> 01:11:22.960
<v Speaker 1>or maybe you.

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01:11:23.039 --> 01:11:25.199
<v Speaker 3>Do, but not so much. But hey, are we running

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<v Speaker 3>out of time? We are?

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01:11:27.319 --> 01:11:30.279
<v Speaker 1>No, we are unless we take one more quick break

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01:11:31.399 --> 01:11:33.000
<v Speaker 1>and then and then we can wrap it up on

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01:11:33.159 --> 01:11:36.000
<v Speaker 1>that or we wrap it up now, let's have one more.

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01:11:36.720 --> 01:11:39.159
<v Speaker 1>Let's have one more break, fill our fill our glasses

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01:11:40.119 --> 01:11:43.640
<v Speaker 1>and then because I think if you remember, there was

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01:11:43.880 --> 01:11:46.920
<v Speaker 1>one thing I had hoped you did on Saturday that

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01:11:47.279 --> 01:11:51.439
<v Speaker 1>I didn't get to hear. So if if there's a guitar.

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01:11:51.319 --> 01:11:52.760
<v Speaker 3>Nearby, I can go get it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, we'll be right back. We'll be right back.

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<v Speaker 6>I was a college girl from out of state. He

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01:12:12.880 --> 01:12:20.640
<v Speaker 6>was a rancher from Salina, And when I told him

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01:12:20.760 --> 01:12:28.760
<v Speaker 6>I was three weeks lane, he said, I can't be.

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01:12:30.920 --> 01:12:40.960
<v Speaker 3>A father. Manhattan conslus. We all do what we gotta do.

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01:12:41.880 --> 01:12:47.960
<v Speaker 7>I did what I did, and I surely don't blame you.

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01:12:48.520 --> 01:12:50.560
<v Speaker 7>I simply needed.

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01:12:52.159 --> 01:12:54.479
<v Speaker 3>For things to turn out differently.

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01:12:56.239 --> 01:12:59.720
<v Speaker 6>Or Manhattan, Kansas, can you understand me?

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01:13:04.119 --> 01:13:08.279
<v Speaker 5>The longer side walk will over see.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, I'm Karen and I'm Aubrey.

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<v Speaker 10>And this is chick Lit, a literature comedy podcast where

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01:13:20.000 --> 01:13:22.399
<v Speaker 10>we enjoy getting lit and talking about books that spoke

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01:13:22.439 --> 01:13:23.479
<v Speaker 10>to us as young adults.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah book it was dope as fuck.

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01:13:26.640 --> 01:13:26.840
<v Speaker 10>Yeah.

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01:13:26.920 --> 01:13:29.359
<v Speaker 3>I get the little personal Pam pizza.

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01:13:31.000 --> 01:13:32.479
<v Speaker 8>Just for you. Yeah.

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01:13:32.760 --> 01:13:35.800
<v Speaker 3>Nobody can take that ship though. But we also cover

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01:13:35.920 --> 01:13:38.279
<v Speaker 3>movies with special guests and it can get pretty crazy.

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01:13:39.000 --> 01:13:40.439
<v Speaker 2>I'll make a controversial statement.

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01:13:40.560 --> 01:13:41.800
<v Speaker 3>I will take this over.

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01:13:41.720 --> 01:13:43.560
<v Speaker 2>Space jam is that controversial?

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01:13:44.279 --> 01:13:47.159
<v Speaker 3>People love space? Jam. We might have to, we might

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01:13:47.319 --> 01:13:48.600
<v Speaker 3>have to stage a fight.

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01:13:49.920 --> 01:13:53.079
<v Speaker 10>So if you enjoy ya fiction, that fool of a

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01:13:53.119 --> 01:13:55.000
<v Speaker 10>fairy Loucinda did not intend.

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01:13:54.680 --> 01:13:56.680
<v Speaker 3>To lay a curse on me. She meant to bestow

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01:13:56.760 --> 01:13:58.640
<v Speaker 3>a gift. Boozy beverages.

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01:13:59.039 --> 01:14:01.840
<v Speaker 10>Little shot of Bailey is in your coffee, coffee, pizza

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01:14:01.840 --> 01:14:04.880
<v Speaker 10>and Bailey's goes together like doesn't go together, Like it

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01:14:04.960 --> 01:14:08.039
<v Speaker 10>doesn't go together at all, And the power of friendship.

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01:14:08.640 --> 01:14:10.359
<v Speaker 10>I'll be like, I bought your Christmas present and she'll

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01:14:10.399 --> 01:14:11.039
<v Speaker 10>be like, what'd you get me?

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01:14:11.119 --> 01:14:13.560
<v Speaker 1>I have to know, tell me right, And I'm like,

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01:14:13.640 --> 01:14:15.520
<v Speaker 1>hen you get so irritated because I'm like, do you

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01:14:15.600 --> 01:14:16.520
<v Speaker 1>want your present now?

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01:14:16.600 --> 01:14:20.800
<v Speaker 3>And he's like, it's like October, No, I don't. Then

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01:14:20.840 --> 01:14:21.800
<v Speaker 3>we're the podcasts for you.

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01:14:22.399 --> 01:14:24.920
<v Speaker 10>We've been best friends for over a decade, So join

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01:14:25.000 --> 01:14:29.000
<v Speaker 10>it on the fun and grab a drink, y'all. January sixth,

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01:14:29.079 --> 01:14:32.439
<v Speaker 10>at one fifteen pm, the day that Dry January died.

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<v Speaker 3>You say, you know, you say.

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01:14:58.039 --> 01:15:03.640
<v Speaker 11>Und that holely Bible of bam Shell.

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01:15:05.880 --> 01:15:14.720
<v Speaker 12>Do you recall when jeeves a sad judge not last

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01:15:15.800 --> 01:15:17.840
<v Speaker 12>judge yourself.

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<v Speaker 5>For I know you down if you could, my friend,

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01:15:29.239 --> 01:15:31.720
<v Speaker 5>that's simply not your call.

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01:15:33.640 --> 01:15:41.720
<v Speaker 3>If God is great and God is good, why is

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01:15:42.199 --> 01:15:43.640
<v Speaker 3>your heaven.

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01:15:46.119 --> 01:15:55.039
<v Speaker 1>So small? So we are back? I swear I'm going

1351
01:15:55.079 --> 01:15:58.479
<v Speaker 1>to get out this one thought. Somebody somewhere is based

1352
01:15:58.520 --> 01:16:02.439
<v Speaker 1>in Manhattan, Kansas, or someone somewhere whatever it's called Somebody

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01:16:02.479 --> 01:16:03.079
<v Speaker 1>somewhere somebody.

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01:16:03.640 --> 01:16:05.479
<v Speaker 3>Why would you choose that, right?

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01:16:06.399 --> 01:16:09.079
<v Speaker 1>Well, because it's Manhattan, Kansas. It's such a I don't know,

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01:16:09.239 --> 01:16:11.159
<v Speaker 1>but it's a I don't know, but it's a really

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01:16:12.079 --> 01:16:16.239
<v Speaker 1>good show about uh, you know, a woman kind of

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01:16:16.359 --> 01:16:19.960
<v Speaker 1>our age who finds herself back where she grew up.

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<v Speaker 3>Well that's why, right, because it's not I mean, did

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01:16:23.319 --> 01:16:25.000
<v Speaker 3>somebody from La cook up this idea?

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01:16:25.279 --> 01:16:25.600
<v Speaker 11>I don't know?

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<v Speaker 3>What is it? How does it serve the story? Well,

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01:16:28.600 --> 01:16:30.520
<v Speaker 3>that's what it's about. It's about somebody coming back to

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01:16:31.239 --> 01:16:32.239
<v Speaker 3>connecting to their roots.

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01:16:32.720 --> 01:16:35.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and it's it's it's it's a fun it's a

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01:16:35.600 --> 01:16:37.479
<v Speaker 1>fun show. It actually is a really fun show.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I would expect something from set in Manhattan, Kansas.

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01:16:41.119 --> 01:16:42.840
<v Speaker 1>To be I thought it was the only time I

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01:16:42.880 --> 01:16:44.680
<v Speaker 1>would ever hear it, and then I heard your song

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, okay, two people have been there.

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<v Speaker 3>Well I want to show there this fall. So I

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01:16:50.000 --> 01:16:52.479
<v Speaker 3>know I'll play that, but maybe I can talk about

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01:16:52.760 --> 01:16:53.439
<v Speaker 3>this show now.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's based there, It is based there. I thought

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01:16:56.439 --> 01:17:01.399
<v Speaker 1>it was so interesting, you know, I was, I was

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01:17:01.479 --> 01:17:04.239
<v Speaker 1>cooking up a thought during the break, and I guess

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<v Speaker 1>it was just this. When you talk to young musicians,

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01:17:11.920 --> 01:17:12.840
<v Speaker 1>what do you tell them?

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<v Speaker 3>Hm? Hm?

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<v Speaker 1>You know you, because you know when I look at you,

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01:17:20.359 --> 01:17:23.239
<v Speaker 1>I see someone who does exactly what they want to

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01:17:23.359 --> 01:17:27.720
<v Speaker 1>do with maybe the exception of the Broadway show, which

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01:17:27.760 --> 01:17:29.439
<v Speaker 1>I did want to kind of fit in real quick.

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<v Speaker 1>But but you you really do explore different genres. Your

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01:17:35.600 --> 01:17:40.640
<v Speaker 1>albums are also singular and different, and I think you're

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01:17:40.760 --> 01:17:43.800
<v Speaker 1>just having fun and that has to there has to

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01:17:43.880 --> 01:17:45.399
<v Speaker 1>be a price to that. There has to be that's

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<v Speaker 1>hard because you haven't made yourself easily I love I

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01:17:50.159 --> 01:17:55.720
<v Speaker 1>love this answer already. You haven't made yourself easily distinguishable,

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<v Speaker 1>Like what's your genre? My genre is music?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, at some point you realize, you know, you're giving

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01:18:02.039 --> 01:18:03.960
<v Speaker 3>a choice, right, you think you're giving a choice, which

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01:18:04.000 --> 01:18:06.560
<v Speaker 3>is look susan. You know, really you ought to be more.

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<v Speaker 3>You know how many times did I hear this? You know?

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<v Speaker 3>It would be nice to have something more marketable. It'd

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<v Speaker 3>be nice to have something we can fit into a bin,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, fit into a bin in the record store

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<v Speaker 3>and the bin, right, what bin are you in? And

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01:18:17.920 --> 01:18:20.439
<v Speaker 3>at some point you realize that you hear that enough,

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01:18:20.479 --> 01:18:22.399
<v Speaker 3>but you're not doing it, Like you're just not going

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01:18:22.439 --> 01:18:25.000
<v Speaker 3>to do it right, but you're not going.

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<v Speaker 2>To do that doesn't work for me at all, and

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01:18:26.720 --> 01:18:29.039
<v Speaker 2>fitting in a bin doesn't even sound the tract is.

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<v Speaker 3>No, a little bit, it sounds a little bit like

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01:18:31.439 --> 01:18:35.840
<v Speaker 3>a little tiny doggy cage is awful. Yeah, at some

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01:18:35.920 --> 01:18:37.600
<v Speaker 3>point you just realize, no, you're not going to do it,

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01:18:37.680 --> 01:18:40.119
<v Speaker 3>and then you have to Here's the hard part is

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<v Speaker 3>to accept what comes back from that. Meaning if you're

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<v Speaker 3>going to be an idiosyncratic artist right who brings challenges

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<v Speaker 3>before themselves, And that's where the energy is. That you

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<v Speaker 3>may not be a household name. And the question is

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<v Speaker 3>are you willing to accept that or are you going

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<v Speaker 3>to yell at it and be bitter about you know,

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01:19:01.880 --> 01:19:06.399
<v Speaker 3>not being I don't know some right, save this name.

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<v Speaker 13>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>At some point you just say, hey, you know this,

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01:19:10.359 --> 01:19:14.359
<v Speaker 3>I kept wanting this, I kept really wanting this. There's

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<v Speaker 3>a reason I want this. You know that this is

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<v Speaker 3>my way, this is my calling this is it. So

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<v Speaker 3>then you do that and you enjoy being that somebody

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<v Speaker 3>wants to be ourselves, we have to give up being

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<v Speaker 3>other possible selves. M Yeah, And to really enjoy being yourself,

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<v Speaker 3>you just say, okay, yeah, could a what A should me?

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<v Speaker 3>I'm gonna enjoy being this what this is? And yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>So that's how that works out right. You may know

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<v Speaker 3>that there's something else you could do, But if you

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<v Speaker 3>accept being yourself and that the rewards are gonna come

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<v Speaker 3>from that, and you're gonna and you're gonna be and

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01:19:49.319 --> 01:19:51.720
<v Speaker 3>you're gonna be good with those rewards, you're gonna like

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<v Speaker 3>your life.

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<v Speaker 5>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>But if you're always trying to scream like, why aren't

1433
01:19:55.840 --> 01:19:59.760
<v Speaker 3>I experiencing the rewards of a major career? Well, are

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01:19:59.800 --> 01:20:04.119
<v Speaker 3>you doing the work that attracts a major audience? Right?

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<v Speaker 3>Are you doing that? Are you willing to change what

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<v Speaker 3>you do to be that?

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<v Speaker 1>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>And that's a question. You think you can just do

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01:20:11.159 --> 01:20:13.039
<v Speaker 3>it and have it, but no for some of most

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<v Speaker 3>but it would be something we'd have to consciously aim

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01:20:15.079 --> 01:20:17.720
<v Speaker 3>at and decide to be and even then it may

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<v Speaker 3>not work.

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<v Speaker 6>Right.

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01:20:19.880 --> 01:20:21.239
<v Speaker 3>I could write a whole bunch of songs that I

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01:20:21.279 --> 01:20:24.199
<v Speaker 3>think are mainstream pop, indie rock whatever.

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01:20:25.079 --> 01:20:26.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you could, but.

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01:20:26.319 --> 01:20:28.359
<v Speaker 3>They still might not they still might not work.

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<v Speaker 9>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think that's interesting because what just rang in

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<v Speaker 1>my head Kathy. We interviewed Kathy, and I told you

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01:20:40.159 --> 01:20:42.479
<v Speaker 1>about that, and I said, you know, she kind of

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01:20:42.560 --> 01:20:46.039
<v Speaker 1>told her story about coming up in radio, and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>isn't it interesting, like just the serendipity and how so

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<v Speaker 1>much fell into place? And she said, once I knew

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<v Speaker 1>who I was. Yeah, And that's what you've just said

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01:20:56.399 --> 01:20:59.119
<v Speaker 1>is kind of once you know who you are, right,

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<v Speaker 1>that's where the good stuff is.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, Yeah, And I think for I think for some

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01:21:03.600 --> 01:21:07.439
<v Speaker 3>of us, for some of us women, I think for

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<v Speaker 3>some of us, with the option to be pregnant, the

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<v Speaker 3>decision not to have children yourself is a big one.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh sure, And it frees up if you think that

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<v Speaker 3>you might have children, and there's a moment when you

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<v Speaker 3>say it's not going to happen in this lifetime. There's

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<v Speaker 3>an energy I found that came back to me like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>well then I'm just going all in on this other thing.

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<v Speaker 3>There's a window of time where some of us may

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<v Speaker 3>hear the biological clock really ticking, like and I think

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<v Speaker 3>there is such a thing. I think it's like you're

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know what's going on. Maybe your body's throwing

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<v Speaker 3>more eggs, are like, come on, come on, the cough

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<v Speaker 3>at this point, sneezing eggs, right, And I think the

1473
01:21:53.359 --> 01:21:56.159
<v Speaker 3>moment that I became really comfortable with the idea that no,

1474
01:21:56.359 --> 01:21:59.079
<v Speaker 3>I just I'm going to do this and there's a

1475
01:21:59.119 --> 01:22:04.039
<v Speaker 3>way to be. There's a way to be. Somebody said generativity.

1476
01:22:04.079 --> 01:22:07.199
<v Speaker 3>The word generativity, like there's a way to make good

1477
01:22:07.239 --> 01:22:11.199
<v Speaker 3>things happen, to generate life with that happened to be

1478
01:22:11.279 --> 01:22:13.319
<v Speaker 3>a mom pregnant yourself?

1479
01:22:13.560 --> 01:22:14.479
<v Speaker 1>Hell yeah, yeah.

1480
01:22:15.239 --> 01:22:17.960
<v Speaker 3>So the question may be what is what is it

1481
01:22:18.039 --> 01:22:20.439
<v Speaker 3>you really want to do? And is parenting part of

1482
01:22:20.520 --> 01:22:24.199
<v Speaker 3>that right? Or is it is it raising a child?

1483
01:22:24.359 --> 01:22:26.159
<v Speaker 3>Is it being pregnant? What part of what part of

1484
01:22:26.199 --> 01:22:29.279
<v Speaker 3>these right? To break it down into its component parts

1485
01:22:29.319 --> 01:22:30.960
<v Speaker 3>and say this is really I really like about this,

1486
01:22:31.960 --> 01:22:33.439
<v Speaker 3>and is there a way to do this that feels

1487
01:22:33.479 --> 01:22:35.560
<v Speaker 3>like myself and that I get to keep myself and

1488
01:22:35.720 --> 01:22:38.760
<v Speaker 3>do it right and I feel like this is the

1489
01:22:38.840 --> 01:22:41.119
<v Speaker 3>right decision this way. And then when Kathy O'Connell comes

1490
01:22:41.159 --> 01:22:44.079
<v Speaker 3>to my show, right, Kathy O'Connell from kids corner at XPN,

1491
01:22:44.359 --> 01:22:46.319
<v Speaker 3>and I wind up playing songs like you kissed your

1492
01:22:46.359 --> 01:22:47.800
<v Speaker 3>dog on the mouth, Oh.

1493
01:22:47.720 --> 01:22:50.199
<v Speaker 1>My God, And she went home and did that, so

1494
01:22:50.319 --> 01:22:52.039
<v Speaker 1>of course she did. I want to tell you this, Stu.

1495
01:22:52.199 --> 01:22:54.319
<v Speaker 3>I want to say. I mean to say, we just

1496
01:22:54.359 --> 01:22:56.600
<v Speaker 3>finished this thought is that that song is such a

1497
01:22:56.640 --> 01:22:57.399
<v Speaker 3>big hit with kids.

1498
01:22:59.359 --> 01:23:01.359
<v Speaker 1>I'm sure they love this song.

1499
01:23:01.920 --> 01:23:03.640
<v Speaker 3>And I would never have thought i'd ever write a

1500
01:23:03.720 --> 01:23:06.479
<v Speaker 3>children's song. I didn't mean to write a children's song

1501
01:23:07.960 --> 01:23:10.800
<v Speaker 3>with kids, right, I love anyway, the idea we're talking

1502
01:23:10.800 --> 01:23:14.960
<v Speaker 3>about generativity and parenting and deciding to be who you are,

1503
01:23:15.119 --> 01:23:16.880
<v Speaker 3>and the energy that gets released when you decide to

1504
01:23:16.960 --> 01:23:18.880
<v Speaker 3>be who you are. It may still come back in

1505
01:23:18.960 --> 01:23:21.279
<v Speaker 3>some way that you didn't even foresee, right that I

1506
01:23:21.319 --> 01:23:23.199
<v Speaker 3>wrote a song that makes eight year old kids happy.

1507
01:23:23.720 --> 01:23:24.239
<v Speaker 2>I love them.

1508
01:23:24.479 --> 01:23:32.840
<v Speaker 1>It's awesome and that's a wonderful thing to just have happened. Yeah. Well,

1509
01:23:33.000 --> 01:23:36.119
<v Speaker 1>and I could totally see you writing kids music. I

1510
01:23:36.319 --> 01:23:37.079
<v Speaker 1>totally see that.

1511
01:23:37.399 --> 01:23:38.680
<v Speaker 3>I don't think it's going to happen, though.

1512
01:23:39.000 --> 01:23:44.359
<v Speaker 1>No, Okay, I want I want the agnostic children's album.

1513
01:23:44.600 --> 01:23:48.720
<v Speaker 1>I want that. I'm like looking for it now.

1514
01:23:49.199 --> 01:23:52.800
<v Speaker 3>So what for your listeners, Martha, I think is referencing

1515
01:23:53.000 --> 01:23:56.159
<v Speaker 3>is a project I did called The Gospel Truth. Yes,

1516
01:23:56.319 --> 01:23:59.800
<v Speaker 3>and it puts songs of faith next to songs of doubt,

1517
01:23:59.840 --> 01:24:03.520
<v Speaker 3>and it's church music. Sounds like church music, right, it does?

1518
01:24:04.119 --> 01:24:06.479
<v Speaker 3>And uh and it is. I mean, the song styles are,

1519
01:24:06.760 --> 01:24:09.199
<v Speaker 3>the song forms are of the church. But it puts

1520
01:24:09.279 --> 01:24:11.359
<v Speaker 3>these songs of faith next to songs of doubt, right

1521
01:24:11.399 --> 01:24:12.720
<v Speaker 3>next to it, which is how a lot of us

1522
01:24:12.960 --> 01:24:16.279
<v Speaker 3>experience the church. Is like, oh, this is great, this

1523
01:24:16.479 --> 01:24:19.800
<v Speaker 3>is horrible, right, this is really a wonderful quality to

1524
01:24:19.840 --> 01:24:24.560
<v Speaker 3>have as human being. This is awful, right. And so

1525
01:24:24.680 --> 01:24:26.840
<v Speaker 3>I put that record out and then somebody said you

1526
01:24:26.840 --> 01:24:30.159
<v Speaker 3>should really do an agnostic children's album, and I'm like, oh, yeah,

1527
01:24:31.279 --> 01:24:32.880
<v Speaker 3>that'll sell tens of.

1528
01:24:33.039 --> 01:24:37.840
<v Speaker 2>Units, tens of fives of albums TSI will go ten

1529
01:24:40.199 --> 01:24:41.119
<v Speaker 2>double pocket lit.

1530
01:24:45.279 --> 01:24:48.039
<v Speaker 1>It's that song is a perfect song for eight year olds.

1531
01:24:48.119 --> 01:24:52.720
<v Speaker 1>I can be content with that. Kathy's dog, Tammy, who

1532
01:24:52.800 --> 01:24:56.319
<v Speaker 1>I adore and this is her second home. Kathy does

1533
01:24:56.960 --> 01:25:00.600
<v Speaker 1>Kathy does, Tammy does the tongue slide like. I have

1534
01:25:00.720 --> 01:25:05.039
<v Speaker 1>to put her head down because if I let it,

1535
01:25:05.199 --> 01:25:08.279
<v Speaker 1>like if I relax and let that dog's face anywhere

1536
01:25:08.359 --> 01:25:11.079
<v Speaker 1>near mine, she'll wait for me to be talking and

1537
01:25:11.199 --> 01:25:14.079
<v Speaker 1>her tongue goes halfway down my throat, and I'm like,

1538
01:25:14.359 --> 01:25:16.279
<v Speaker 1>your mother likes that, not me.

1539
01:25:18.079 --> 01:25:21.000
<v Speaker 3>I use this product called Farah Breath. Have you heard

1540
01:25:21.039 --> 01:25:24.119
<v Speaker 3>of Sarah breath? Yes, it's really yes, And maybe just

1541
01:25:24.199 --> 01:25:29.760
<v Speaker 3>keep that on hand for occasions like that, the oral hygiene.

1542
01:25:30.199 --> 01:25:33.359
<v Speaker 1>Either way, I don't want her doing that. And I'm like,

1543
01:25:34.119 --> 01:25:36.000
<v Speaker 1>I sit there, I am not consenting to this.

1544
01:25:36.439 --> 01:25:36.760
<v Speaker 3>I'm not.

1545
01:25:37.680 --> 01:25:38.359
<v Speaker 2>I'm not.

1546
01:25:39.840 --> 01:25:41.319
<v Speaker 1>There's no consent.

1547
01:25:41.720 --> 01:25:44.680
<v Speaker 3>It's an assault doggy. That's horrible.

1548
01:25:44.840 --> 01:25:47.359
<v Speaker 1>And then Keathy's just called me here and call kiss mommy.

1549
01:25:49.720 --> 01:25:53.760
<v Speaker 3>No no, Also, don't kiss mommy human.

1550
01:25:53.560 --> 01:25:57.840
<v Speaker 1>Mom yea, no, human mommy encourages that nonsense. It's horrible.

1551
01:26:00.079 --> 01:26:02.800
<v Speaker 1>He thinks it's hilarious when it happens to me, Yes,

1552
01:26:03.000 --> 01:26:09.760
<v Speaker 1>right right, yeah, what happens to you?

1553
01:26:11.960 --> 01:26:13.640
<v Speaker 3>Well, I think this dog has figured out that I

1554
01:26:13.720 --> 01:26:15.159
<v Speaker 3>get that. They get a reaction out of.

1555
01:26:15.159 --> 01:26:18.000
<v Speaker 1>You, right, she does, and she loves that. Yeah, she

1556
01:26:18.119 --> 01:26:19.960
<v Speaker 1>thinks that's great. She thinks that's great.

1557
01:26:20.039 --> 01:26:22.840
<v Speaker 3>That's the kind of power even negative attention.

1558
01:26:23.479 --> 01:26:25.159
<v Speaker 1>Uh huh, do you have pets at home?

1559
01:26:25.520 --> 01:26:26.680
<v Speaker 3>I don't. I travel too much.

1560
01:26:26.760 --> 01:26:28.880
<v Speaker 1>We're going I thought I was going to say that

1561
01:26:29.039 --> 01:26:30.960
<v Speaker 1>that can't really be possible, Ken, No.

1562
01:26:31.000 --> 01:26:33.119
<v Speaker 3>It's not possible. And I would love I mean, i'd

1563
01:26:33.119 --> 01:26:35.199
<v Speaker 3>love to have a dog. I love that dog. I

1564
01:26:35.319 --> 01:26:35.800
<v Speaker 3>love dog.

1565
01:26:36.680 --> 01:26:40.039
<v Speaker 1>Liza Minelli always takes hers with her. I'm just saying, yeah,

1566
01:26:40.079 --> 01:26:41.680
<v Speaker 1>I haven't anyway.

1567
01:26:41.760 --> 01:26:44.159
<v Speaker 3>Yes, there are performers who do that, but you also

1568
01:26:44.279 --> 01:26:46.239
<v Speaker 3>have to have a staff that's okay with the dog

1569
01:26:46.399 --> 01:26:48.439
<v Speaker 3>coming with you. And I just you know, I go

1570
01:26:48.560 --> 01:26:50.880
<v Speaker 3>visit my road manager, Jane up and Shellefont and her

1571
01:26:50.960 --> 01:26:54.039
<v Speaker 3>dog Adrian is my time share dog. Is like, oh,

1572
01:26:54.079 --> 01:26:57.680
<v Speaker 3>good time share dog. And Jane named your dog Adrian

1573
01:26:57.880 --> 01:27:02.760
<v Speaker 3>because Jane's and Philly so off the back porch she

1574
01:27:02.920 --> 01:27:03.439
<v Speaker 3>can yell.

1575
01:27:07.319 --> 01:27:09.960
<v Speaker 1>That's perfect, it's perfect.

1576
01:27:11.000 --> 01:27:11.199
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

1577
01:27:11.920 --> 01:27:15.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, there are some creative dog names out there, but

1578
01:27:15.840 --> 01:27:18.199
<v Speaker 1>that's that's a good one. That's a good one.

1579
01:27:18.880 --> 01:27:19.079
<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

1580
01:27:19.119 --> 01:27:21.079
<v Speaker 1>ALIAS just named that so I could get him in

1581
01:27:21.159 --> 01:27:21.520
<v Speaker 1>the house.

1582
01:27:22.319 --> 01:27:24.319
<v Speaker 3>I went to a voodoo shop in New Orleans and

1583
01:27:24.399 --> 01:27:28.920
<v Speaker 3>I went in. Yeah, and from the back I heard

1584
01:27:31.680 --> 01:27:34.600
<v Speaker 3>this dog was growling it right, really growling at my presence.

1585
01:27:35.000 --> 01:27:38.239
<v Speaker 3>And I heard a voice say, Jesus Christ, shut up,

1586
01:27:40.079 --> 01:27:44.079
<v Speaker 3>Jesus Christ, come here. So the dog's name was Jesus Christ.

1587
01:27:45.239 --> 01:27:47.319
<v Speaker 1>I love that. Yeah, I love that.

1588
01:27:48.079 --> 01:27:49.279
<v Speaker 3>And that's when I knew I was going to have

1589
01:27:49.319 --> 01:27:51.520
<v Speaker 3>a great hour and a half at the Voodoo Shop.

1590
01:27:51.600 --> 01:27:53.359
<v Speaker 3>And it was awesome.

1591
01:27:53.960 --> 01:27:58.319
<v Speaker 1>That's awesome, that's perfect, it's perfect. So what's coming up

1592
01:27:58.399 --> 01:28:01.039
<v Speaker 1>for you? What's happening when your schedule look like I

1593
01:28:01.119 --> 01:28:03.720
<v Speaker 1>know that you are constantly on the road. What's next?

1594
01:28:04.159 --> 01:28:04.359
<v Speaker 12>Yeah?

1595
01:28:04.439 --> 01:28:06.880
<v Speaker 3>I try to not sometimes be on the road, right

1596
01:28:07.000 --> 01:28:10.359
<v Speaker 3>so I can be home and like, you know, eat

1597
01:28:10.439 --> 01:28:15.039
<v Speaker 3>food that has vegetables in it, go crazy, have a

1598
01:28:15.119 --> 01:28:20.199
<v Speaker 3>piece of fruit. Wow, that stuff is the stuff you

1599
01:28:20.239 --> 01:28:22.600
<v Speaker 3>get tired of in travel, you know, the sitting down

1600
01:28:22.680 --> 01:28:26.840
<v Speaker 3>for hours and the food. But I go to let's see,

1601
01:28:27.159 --> 01:28:30.600
<v Speaker 3>go up to Massachusetts. I'm doing a show at the

1602
01:28:30.640 --> 01:28:33.640
<v Speaker 3>well Fleet Actors Theater on the Cape, which I've never

1603
01:28:33.720 --> 01:28:35.800
<v Speaker 3>done before, and I'm going to have a couple extra days.

1604
01:28:35.840 --> 01:28:39.640
<v Speaker 3>And that's hard to complain about, right right, Those gigs

1605
01:28:39.720 --> 01:28:42.199
<v Speaker 3>are hard to complain about. I'm up at Booth Bay

1606
01:28:42.239 --> 01:28:45.039
<v Speaker 3>Harbor and Maine in August. Maine in August is hard

1607
01:28:45.079 --> 01:28:45.800
<v Speaker 3>to complain about.

1608
01:28:46.199 --> 01:28:46.479
<v Speaker 5>Nice.

1609
01:28:47.039 --> 01:28:48.960
<v Speaker 2>Nice, And now.

1610
01:28:48.920 --> 01:28:52.840
<v Speaker 3>We're back in Philly. I think in January at the point,

1611
01:28:53.159 --> 01:28:55.520
<v Speaker 3>I think the point has opened up again. Oh okay,

1612
01:28:55.920 --> 01:28:59.600
<v Speaker 3>the main point was in Ismar and now there's a club.

1613
01:28:59.680 --> 01:29:02.479
<v Speaker 3>There's a club called The Point that was open for

1614
01:29:02.479 --> 01:29:04.199
<v Speaker 3>a while and then I think they're going to reopen

1615
01:29:04.399 --> 01:29:08.159
<v Speaker 3>as The Point. Okay, so it's great. It's such a

1616
01:29:08.199 --> 01:29:10.800
<v Speaker 3>great little space, so cozy, and I'm excited to go

1617
01:29:10.880 --> 01:29:11.199
<v Speaker 3>back there.

1618
01:29:11.560 --> 01:29:16.159
<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's fun. That's fun. I loved Singing Your World

1619
01:29:16.239 --> 01:29:19.239
<v Speaker 1>Cafe Live. That was a great It's a perfect venue.

1620
01:29:19.479 --> 01:29:21.720
<v Speaker 3>It is talent with me too. I had Trina Hamlin

1621
01:29:21.760 --> 01:29:22.479
<v Speaker 3>on harmonica.

1622
01:29:22.800 --> 01:29:25.279
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, she was amazing, amazing.

1623
01:29:25.319 --> 01:29:27.439
<v Speaker 3>No one can do that. She plays the drums in harmonica.

1624
01:29:27.600 --> 01:29:30.880
<v Speaker 1>At the at the same she also whistles like almost

1625
01:29:30.960 --> 01:29:33.960
<v Speaker 1>no one I've ever heard. Yes, it's like Roger Whittaker

1626
01:29:34.079 --> 01:29:36.199
<v Speaker 1>or something. It's amazing, amazing.

1627
01:29:37.359 --> 01:29:40.439
<v Speaker 2>Seriously, when she was whistling, I was like, you better sing.

1628
01:29:41.640 --> 01:29:44.920
<v Speaker 3>She does, and she does. She does that, and she writes,

1629
01:29:45.039 --> 01:29:47.319
<v Speaker 3>you know, songs, great songs, and plays piano and guitar.

1630
01:29:47.439 --> 01:29:50.399
<v Speaker 3>She's mind blowingly talented. And then you had Chris Matthews

1631
01:29:50.800 --> 01:29:53.880
<v Speaker 3>there that night too, and what a tremendous talent.

1632
01:29:54.159 --> 01:29:57.199
<v Speaker 1>Now where did you Where did you meet Chris Matthews?

1633
01:29:57.279 --> 01:30:00.039
<v Speaker 1>Because we were captivated, captivated, I think.

1634
01:30:00.239 --> 01:30:02.760
<v Speaker 3>Oh, I know at Folk Alliance in New Orleans and

1635
01:30:02.840 --> 01:30:04.880
<v Speaker 3>like twenty nineteen, I think, right before the pandemic of

1636
01:30:04.920 --> 01:30:08.000
<v Speaker 3>twenty twenty, and I'd heard of Chris before and I

1637
01:30:08.119 --> 01:30:10.960
<v Speaker 3>finally saw a set and I just was so just

1638
01:30:11.119 --> 01:30:16.279
<v Speaker 3>blown away by again this energy of positivity, just picking

1639
01:30:16.399 --> 01:30:20.760
<v Speaker 3>up an audience and lifting us. And we just need

1640
01:30:20.880 --> 01:30:23.399
<v Speaker 3>more of that. We just we can never get enough

1641
01:30:23.439 --> 01:30:26.000
<v Speaker 3>of it. We'll never get enough kindness, we will never

1642
01:30:26.079 --> 01:30:29.079
<v Speaker 3>get enough positivity, and she is just bringing it. And

1643
01:30:29.279 --> 01:30:35.760
<v Speaker 3>also pitch perfection, perfection. And what I learned later was

1644
01:30:35.800 --> 01:30:38.279
<v Speaker 3>that Chris has a degree in music and plays clarinet

1645
01:30:38.479 --> 01:30:41.079
<v Speaker 3>quite well, so I think Chris may have been a

1646
01:30:41.119 --> 01:30:46.680
<v Speaker 3>scholarship student. And that pitch when Chris sings is just

1647
01:30:47.680 --> 01:30:51.279
<v Speaker 3>it's it's like Barbara Streisan pitch. It's right on it.

1648
01:30:51.720 --> 01:30:52.319
<v Speaker 1>It was amazing.

1649
01:30:52.439 --> 01:30:54.039
<v Speaker 2>Clarinet was my instrument too.

1650
01:30:55.039 --> 01:30:57.079
<v Speaker 3>That helps, and that helps with that helps with your

1651
01:30:57.119 --> 01:30:59.520
<v Speaker 3>sense of singing and your help and your sense of line.

1652
01:31:00.000 --> 01:31:02.840
<v Speaker 3>When you sing a phrase, like phrasing, how to make

1653
01:31:03.199 --> 01:31:06.520
<v Speaker 3>how to make the phrase grow, go up, come down,

1654
01:31:06.720 --> 01:31:09.039
<v Speaker 3>where to let people where to kind of the handoff

1655
01:31:09.079 --> 01:31:11.840
<v Speaker 3>to the next phrase. I mean that is it's like

1656
01:31:11.920 --> 01:31:15.960
<v Speaker 3>drawing a line clarinet is like drawing a very very

1657
01:31:17.039 --> 01:31:20.000
<v Speaker 3>long line with a black sharpie. If one can see

1658
01:31:20.079 --> 01:31:21.840
<v Speaker 3>this is the line here it is. It goes like this,

1659
01:31:21.960 --> 01:31:24.479
<v Speaker 3>and it does this right. And when I do that,

1660
01:31:24.840 --> 01:31:29.960
<v Speaker 3>I mean this right, emotionally right. It's the intention of

1661
01:31:30.039 --> 01:31:32.640
<v Speaker 3>what you're doing. Yes, Harry's to people even if they

1662
01:31:32.640 --> 01:31:35.159
<v Speaker 3>have no idea. You could be thinking, you know, thoughts

1663
01:31:35.199 --> 01:31:39.600
<v Speaker 3>about like you can be thinking, you know, the most

1664
01:31:40.199 --> 01:31:43.479
<v Speaker 3>angry thoughts in the world, violent thoughts. But if you

1665
01:31:43.680 --> 01:31:46.880
<v Speaker 3>if you sublimate it into music. No one knows exactly

1666
01:31:46.920 --> 01:31:49.239
<v Speaker 3>what you're thinking, but they can feel something like what

1667
01:31:49.319 --> 01:31:52.079
<v Speaker 3>you're right. And this is the beauty of music, right,

1668
01:31:52.720 --> 01:31:55.359
<v Speaker 3>that you can bring your feelings safely, whatever they are,

1669
01:31:55.640 --> 01:31:58.000
<v Speaker 3>you can bring through an instrument. You can bring those

1670
01:31:58.039 --> 01:32:02.039
<v Speaker 3>feelings safely to other people. Yes, because it's not there's

1671
01:32:02.079 --> 01:32:05.800
<v Speaker 3>no name attached, right, there's no name, there's no specifics attached.

1672
01:32:05.800 --> 01:32:08.760
<v Speaker 3>It's universal. This brings back some again. I'm always referring

1673
01:32:08.760 --> 01:32:10.560
<v Speaker 3>to studies. What that was wrong with me? So there

1674
01:32:10.680 --> 01:32:16.359
<v Speaker 3>was a study where they played they had a musician

1675
01:32:16.520 --> 01:32:18.920
<v Speaker 3>play a note on the piano, just the same note,

1676
01:32:19.479 --> 01:32:22.600
<v Speaker 3>but play it seven different ways, and people all over

1677
01:32:22.680 --> 01:32:26.159
<v Speaker 3>the world use the same kinds of words to describe

1678
01:32:26.199 --> 01:32:31.239
<v Speaker 3>the emotion just playing one note, how they played the

1679
01:32:31.319 --> 01:32:35.479
<v Speaker 3>one note right and it wasn't specific but like gentle

1680
01:32:35.640 --> 01:32:40.079
<v Speaker 3>or tender right or angry right, but with one note

1681
01:32:41.239 --> 01:32:45.720
<v Speaker 3>just right. Anyway, I'm going on, I'm trying to catch myself, but.

1682
01:32:45.880 --> 01:32:48.319
<v Speaker 1>I you know, I look at music that way though.

1683
01:32:48.439 --> 01:32:54.279
<v Speaker 1>I think that especially this is just my theory that

1684
01:32:54.399 --> 01:32:59.880
<v Speaker 1>I want to share with you, particularly as the rhetoric.

1685
01:33:00.119 --> 01:33:05.560
<v Speaker 1>The rhetoric just keeps getting hotter and further apart, where

1686
01:33:05.640 --> 01:33:10.039
<v Speaker 1>words are failing us and we're not trusting one another.

1687
01:33:10.199 --> 01:33:16.600
<v Speaker 1>I've always thought art, and in particular music is universal

1688
01:33:17.279 --> 01:33:21.560
<v Speaker 1>and bridges those gaps, and we need it now more

1689
01:33:21.600 --> 01:33:22.079
<v Speaker 1>than ever.

1690
01:33:22.760 --> 01:33:25.399
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and where we can right to do, to do

1691
01:33:25.920 --> 01:33:29.640
<v Speaker 3>music with other artists, especially artists that do not look

1692
01:33:29.800 --> 01:33:32.039
<v Speaker 3>like us, especially artists that do not have the same

1693
01:33:32.159 --> 01:33:35.479
<v Speaker 3>orientation as us. Anytime we can mix it up, anytime

1694
01:33:35.520 --> 01:33:37.800
<v Speaker 3>we can create a dialogue. And that's what's hard, is that,

1695
01:33:38.119 --> 01:33:41.359
<v Speaker 3>right that when you have we talked earlier about record

1696
01:33:41.439 --> 01:33:46.399
<v Speaker 3>store bins. Right, the genre, there's genre, so then people

1697
01:33:46.479 --> 01:33:49.279
<v Speaker 3>tend to stay within the genre and whatever that is.

1698
01:33:49.920 --> 01:33:52.840
<v Speaker 3>But anywhere that we can bust out of that. Boy,

1699
01:33:53.079 --> 01:33:55.600
<v Speaker 3>that's Oh, that's it. That's it. That's it, that's it,

1700
01:33:55.880 --> 01:34:00.760
<v Speaker 3>and and yes, more of that, And you're inspiring me

1701
01:34:00.840 --> 01:34:02.520
<v Speaker 3>to complete a project I'm working on. I'm gonna make

1702
01:34:02.520 --> 01:34:03.279
<v Speaker 3>a note good.

1703
01:34:04.960 --> 01:34:07.159
<v Speaker 1>Do you do you have a favorite collaborator?

1704
01:34:07.359 --> 01:34:07.600
<v Speaker 3>I know.

1705
01:34:09.720 --> 01:34:11.399
<v Speaker 1>I mentioned to you it was it was quite a

1706
01:34:11.640 --> 01:34:15.119
<v Speaker 1>quite a thing. As we were announced as the newest

1707
01:34:15.520 --> 01:34:18.000
<v Speaker 1>DJs on Medway Pride. We tuned in and it was

1708
01:34:18.479 --> 01:34:21.920
<v Speaker 1>Susie on Sundays and there you were, and I was like,

1709
01:34:22.279 --> 01:34:27.840
<v Speaker 1>this world is this big? And I had looked at

1710
01:34:27.880 --> 01:34:29.600
<v Speaker 1>some of the Susie on Sundays where you had Dar

1711
01:34:29.680 --> 01:34:35.640
<v Speaker 1>Williams and Kathy Matteia. Do you have a favorite collaborator

1712
01:34:35.760 --> 01:34:37.479
<v Speaker 1>or somebody that you want to work with that you

1713
01:34:37.560 --> 01:34:39.520
<v Speaker 1>haven't yet? So somebody that comes to mind?

1714
01:34:39.760 --> 01:34:42.760
<v Speaker 3>You know, there's there's some people I've really enjoyed working with.

1715
01:34:42.920 --> 01:34:44.840
<v Speaker 3>I had the good fortune to do a tour with

1716
01:34:44.920 --> 01:34:48.399
<v Speaker 3>Kemmo m It was just a wonderful human being and

1717
01:34:48.479 --> 01:34:50.640
<v Speaker 3>who does some of what we were just talking about right,

1718
01:34:51.079 --> 01:34:53.720
<v Speaker 3>which is to create gentleness and dialogue and you know,

1719
01:34:54.039 --> 01:34:59.880
<v Speaker 3>do your work that way, create create good, create create positive.

1720
01:35:00.560 --> 01:35:03.239
<v Speaker 3>He's really super positive and just so dedicated to it

1721
01:35:03.319 --> 01:35:08.039
<v Speaker 3>all the time. And I really like working with my

1722
01:35:08.159 --> 01:35:10.600
<v Speaker 3>pal Eric Johnson there in Philadelphia. He was with a

1723
01:35:10.680 --> 01:35:15.359
<v Speaker 3>band called huffa Moose. He's a drummer and just a genius,

1724
01:35:16.119 --> 01:35:19.159
<v Speaker 3>and I love his I love the diversity of his

1725
01:35:19.479 --> 01:35:23.680
<v Speaker 3>network of musicians and the excellence that is Philly musicians.

1726
01:35:23.720 --> 01:35:26.079
<v Speaker 3>Can I just tell you, I'm gonna I don't mean

1727
01:35:26.119 --> 01:35:29.279
<v Speaker 3>to speak poorly of my hometown of Chicago now, but

1728
01:35:29.359 --> 01:35:31.760
<v Speaker 3>I will tell you that Philly musicians are just a

1729
01:35:31.880 --> 01:35:32.399
<v Speaker 3>cut above.

1730
01:35:33.159 --> 01:35:33.600
<v Speaker 2>I agree.

1731
01:35:33.760 --> 01:35:34.680
<v Speaker 1>I have to agree with you.

1732
01:35:34.960 --> 01:35:37.199
<v Speaker 3>There is something about it. I wonder if it has

1733
01:35:37.239 --> 01:35:42.279
<v Speaker 3>to do with a long history of the Philadelphia Orchestra.

1734
01:35:42.760 --> 01:35:44.079
<v Speaker 3>I wonder if it has to do with a long

1735
01:35:44.199 --> 01:35:47.039
<v Speaker 3>history of playing casino gigs where you had to, you know,

1736
01:35:47.239 --> 01:35:51.720
<v Speaker 3>execute with people you'd never met before. I wonder if

1737
01:35:51.720 --> 01:35:53.800
<v Speaker 3>it has to do with Broadway shows coming down and

1738
01:35:53.880 --> 01:35:56.840
<v Speaker 3>doing tryouts in Philadelphia. I wonder if it's part of

1739
01:35:56.880 --> 01:35:59.920
<v Speaker 3>the North Philly scene and Jill Scott and you know, gambling,

1740
01:36:00.039 --> 01:36:03.720
<v Speaker 3>huff and all of that that Philadelphia has. Philadelphia had

1741
01:36:04.000 --> 01:36:06.399
<v Speaker 3>a recognizable moment and then a neo soul moment with

1742
01:36:06.520 --> 01:36:09.239
<v Speaker 3>Jill Scott. Yeah, but that there was a moment where

1743
01:36:09.239 --> 01:36:11.680
<v Speaker 3>Philadelphia was making the music that everybody in the world

1744
01:36:11.720 --> 01:36:15.279
<v Speaker 3>listened to. And whenever I go back to Philly, if

1745
01:36:15.319 --> 01:36:17.880
<v Speaker 3>I'm in a public building like the airport or a

1746
01:36:17.960 --> 01:36:22.159
<v Speaker 3>post office or something, they're playing Philadelphia music and people

1747
01:36:22.159 --> 01:36:26.079
<v Speaker 3>are humming along, even singing. I don't see that anywhere else.

1748
01:36:27.760 --> 01:36:32.079
<v Speaker 3>I don't see that anywhere else, and I just love it.

1749
01:36:32.520 --> 01:36:36.600
<v Speaker 3>I just love it. We sing along with a great tune,

1750
01:36:36.840 --> 01:36:39.479
<v Speaker 3>and so much good music has come from Philadelphia that

1751
01:36:39.720 --> 01:36:42.399
<v Speaker 3>there's great music to sing to that's identified with the city.

1752
01:36:42.800 --> 01:36:42.960
<v Speaker 12>Right.

1753
01:36:44.199 --> 01:36:48.800
<v Speaker 1>We had our bar for five years, just before COVID

1754
01:36:48.840 --> 01:36:51.680
<v Speaker 1>shut the bar down, but we had an open mic

1755
01:36:51.760 --> 01:36:56.760
<v Speaker 1>night on every Tuesday night, and it became known because

1756
01:36:57.039 --> 01:36:59.720
<v Speaker 1>there was a circle of musicians that are cutting their

1757
01:36:59.760 --> 01:37:03.039
<v Speaker 1>teeth and working it out and collaborating with others, and

1758
01:37:04.439 --> 01:37:08.239
<v Speaker 1>they know which place has which like World Cafe Live,

1759
01:37:08.359 --> 01:37:12.279
<v Speaker 1>it's Monday night. We were Tuesday, somebody else was Wednesday,

1760
01:37:12.319 --> 01:37:14.720
<v Speaker 1>but they knew, you know where to go, and we

1761
01:37:14.880 --> 01:37:17.880
<v Speaker 1>had we had musicians come through that brought up a

1762
01:37:18.039 --> 01:37:23.199
<v Speaker 1>horn section. Yes, I don't open mic night on a Tuesday, right, That's.

1763
01:37:23.079 --> 01:37:24.800
<v Speaker 3>Not going to happen in Chicago. I'm gonna tell you

1764
01:37:24.880 --> 01:37:27.520
<v Speaker 3>that that's not going to happen. It's just nope, it's

1765
01:37:27.600 --> 01:37:30.159
<v Speaker 3>just I don't know why, but that just does not

1766
01:37:30.279 --> 01:37:33.399
<v Speaker 3>happen that way. And I think, again, Philadelphia had this moment,

1767
01:37:33.560 --> 01:37:36.840
<v Speaker 3>and it has this tradition everybody, let's all get together

1768
01:37:36.960 --> 01:37:39.439
<v Speaker 3>and make something special happen. And also, like the horn

1769
01:37:39.520 --> 01:37:42.119
<v Speaker 3>section is a very seventies thing. Oh yeah, and again

1770
01:37:42.159 --> 01:37:44.399
<v Speaker 3>it comes from this great moment in Philadelphia music, you know,

1771
01:37:44.560 --> 01:37:47.720
<v Speaker 3>pop music history. I love hearing that. I love that

1772
01:37:47.760 --> 01:37:49.359
<v Speaker 3>you were part of that. Thanks for creating a place

1773
01:37:49.439 --> 01:37:51.800
<v Speaker 3>like that. It matters hugely to have a place to

1774
01:37:51.880 --> 01:37:53.119
<v Speaker 3>go try out your stuff.

1775
01:37:53.439 --> 01:37:55.039
<v Speaker 1>I agree, Yeah, we agree.

1776
01:37:55.119 --> 01:37:55.560
<v Speaker 2>We had that.

1777
01:37:55.760 --> 01:37:58.359
<v Speaker 1>That was an honor. Really, it was an honor.

1778
01:37:58.520 --> 01:37:59.880
<v Speaker 3>And may chance you're going to open your bar.

1779
01:38:00.079 --> 01:38:03.439
<v Speaker 1>I think I'm done with the bar business. I do.

1780
01:38:04.319 --> 01:38:06.800
<v Speaker 1>I think it was a moment in time for us,

1781
01:38:08.600 --> 01:38:10.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, but there are so many other ways to

1782
01:38:10.800 --> 01:38:13.399
<v Speaker 1>be creative. So when Charles and I first got together,

1783
01:38:13.520 --> 01:38:17.000
<v Speaker 1>he was producing a performance series in West Philly, the.

1784
01:38:17.039 --> 01:38:21.239
<v Speaker 2>Et Cetera Performance Series, And yeah, and I thanks for

1785
01:38:21.399 --> 01:38:21.720
<v Speaker 2>doing that.

1786
01:38:22.359 --> 01:38:25.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, So it was fun. It was primarily dance, And

1787
01:38:25.880 --> 01:38:28.560
<v Speaker 1>I said, you know, I had sat in the audience,

1788
01:38:28.680 --> 01:38:30.760
<v Speaker 1>and I said, the thing that's missing from this is

1789
01:38:30.800 --> 01:38:35.840
<v Speaker 1>a host because I just like that, you know, I

1790
01:38:36.039 --> 01:38:38.800
<v Speaker 1>like the performers being able to have an intro and

1791
01:38:38.840 --> 01:38:41.119
<v Speaker 1>an outro and someone to just you know, kind of

1792
01:38:41.159 --> 01:38:43.119
<v Speaker 1>announce who they are what they're doing in the world.

1793
01:38:43.399 --> 01:38:46.680
<v Speaker 1>So I started hosting and and it was really a

1794
01:38:46.720 --> 01:38:48.920
<v Speaker 1>lot of fun. So we're talking about doing that again.

1795
01:38:49.640 --> 01:38:52.600
<v Speaker 1>And as you know, as we did it, we incorporated

1796
01:38:52.680 --> 01:38:57.039
<v Speaker 1>more music, more musicians, more you know, just a variety,

1797
01:38:57.079 --> 01:39:00.199
<v Speaker 1>and expanded it beyond dance. And then in the are

1798
01:39:02.560 --> 01:39:04.760
<v Speaker 1>it started as what we called Fringe of the Fringe

1799
01:39:04.760 --> 01:39:07.760
<v Speaker 1>because Philly has the big fringe festival in September. Well,

1800
01:39:08.319 --> 01:39:10.319
<v Speaker 1>we were up in the Northeast and we couldn't afford

1801
01:39:10.399 --> 01:39:12.159
<v Speaker 1>to pay to be a part of the Fringe festival.

1802
01:39:12.840 --> 01:39:18.000
<v Speaker 1>It was a lot like our technology today. So what

1803
01:39:18.159 --> 01:39:22.479
<v Speaker 1>we did we worked that we did we did was

1804
01:39:22.560 --> 01:39:24.479
<v Speaker 1>we had Fringe of the Fringe and we would have

1805
01:39:24.600 --> 01:39:28.479
<v Speaker 1>this big day where we just kind of brought everybody back,

1806
01:39:29.359 --> 01:39:31.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, we kind of hand picked from the open

1807
01:39:32.000 --> 01:39:33.840
<v Speaker 1>mic nights and the people that played there, and we

1808
01:39:33.920 --> 01:39:35.199
<v Speaker 1>had this big, long thing.

1809
01:39:35.479 --> 01:39:37.479
<v Speaker 2>I booked it for an entire year.

1810
01:39:38.079 --> 01:39:42.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and then Charles said, let's let's do First Friday

1811
01:39:42.960 --> 01:39:47.039
<v Speaker 1>and let's incorporate a visual artist. So we would do

1812
01:39:47.520 --> 01:39:50.439
<v Speaker 1>every First Friday, we had a new visual artist who

1813
01:39:50.479 --> 01:39:52.960
<v Speaker 1>would put their work on the wall and sell their

1814
01:39:53.319 --> 01:39:56.319
<v Speaker 1>art through that month. And then we did kind of

1815
01:39:56.479 --> 01:39:59.439
<v Speaker 1>a mini version of Fringe of the Fringe every First Friday,

1816
01:40:00.319 --> 01:40:04.239
<v Speaker 1>and it was we had harp, we had you know,

1817
01:40:04.640 --> 01:40:08.840
<v Speaker 1>like a rock fiddle player. We had Yeah, so so

1818
01:40:09.119 --> 01:40:13.000
<v Speaker 1>much cool stuff, cool music that came through. So yeah,

1819
01:40:13.039 --> 01:40:15.159
<v Speaker 1>I don't I don't say us as bar owners again,

1820
01:40:15.199 --> 01:40:16.640
<v Speaker 1>but how do you ever get away from it?

1821
01:40:16.840 --> 01:40:17.000
<v Speaker 8>You know?

1822
01:40:17.640 --> 01:40:19.479
<v Speaker 3>But there's what what you were doing was creating a

1823
01:40:19.520 --> 01:40:22.119
<v Speaker 3>space for creativity to happen. So maybe that doesn't have

1824
01:40:22.199 --> 01:40:24.439
<v Speaker 3>to be a bar, right right, Yeah, before I forget

1825
01:40:24.479 --> 01:40:26.600
<v Speaker 3>to mention it, Charles, I just did this gig up

1826
01:40:26.640 --> 01:40:29.760
<v Speaker 3>in french Town at art Yard, and that's a good

1827
01:40:29.800 --> 01:40:34.359
<v Speaker 3>space for visual arts and dance, okay from the barren mind,

1828
01:40:34.359 --> 01:40:36.520
<v Speaker 3>because they're really pretty open minded about what they do there.

1829
01:40:36.640 --> 01:40:39.119
<v Speaker 3>So the art Yard, Yeah, look it up. And I

1830
01:40:39.159 --> 01:40:41.840
<v Speaker 3>think that they might be looking for a Charles, you know,

1831
01:40:41.960 --> 01:40:44.039
<v Speaker 3>they might be they might be looking for a Charles

1832
01:40:44.199 --> 01:40:45.960
<v Speaker 3>and the talents of the Charles.

1833
01:40:45.760 --> 01:40:49.560
<v Speaker 1>And an event, and Frenchtown is like quintessential Bucks County,

1834
01:40:49.600 --> 01:40:51.680
<v Speaker 1>one of those gorgeous Well, the french Town is New

1835
01:40:51.760 --> 01:40:53.000
<v Speaker 1>Jersey though, right, the New Jersey.

1836
01:40:53.880 --> 01:40:56.199
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, somebody said it's the new New Hope.

1837
01:40:59.119 --> 01:41:02.800
<v Speaker 1>And that's fair. Yeah, but it's so quaint and beautiful

1838
01:41:03.000 --> 01:41:03.800
<v Speaker 1>and quiet, and.

1839
01:41:04.039 --> 01:41:06.279
<v Speaker 3>But the space is looking to bring in all kinds

1840
01:41:06.319 --> 01:41:06.640
<v Speaker 3>of things.

1841
01:41:06.920 --> 01:41:07.319
<v Speaker 2>I love it.

1842
01:41:07.479 --> 01:41:13.239
<v Speaker 1>Art yard cool, that's cool to know. Well, we we

1843
01:41:13.359 --> 01:41:17.199
<v Speaker 1>are very close to the Broadway Theater in Pittman, and

1844
01:41:17.399 --> 01:41:21.880
<v Speaker 1>Kathy has us with season tickets. They do you know, uh,

1845
01:41:22.359 --> 01:41:26.119
<v Speaker 1>mostly musical theater and they're fantastic. Yep, you know, it's

1846
01:41:26.199 --> 01:41:31.119
<v Speaker 1>it's it's great regional community theater. But the level of

1847
01:41:31.239 --> 01:41:34.199
<v Speaker 1>production quality is just amazing and it's like, wow, that's

1848
01:41:34.279 --> 01:41:36.479
<v Speaker 1>right here, and it's just like and I can park,

1849
01:41:36.880 --> 01:41:37.119
<v Speaker 1>so we.

1850
01:41:37.319 --> 01:41:41.760
<v Speaker 3>You know, yeah yeah, and it doesn't cost.

1851
01:41:43.399 --> 01:41:45.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah. So yeah.

1852
01:41:45.880 --> 01:41:50.000
<v Speaker 1>So I the the answer to that is we'll be

1853
01:41:50.079 --> 01:41:53.239
<v Speaker 1>doing something because I don't know how to not support

1854
01:41:53.399 --> 01:41:55.880
<v Speaker 1>art and artists and you know, our life is so

1855
01:41:56.000 --> 01:41:57.640
<v Speaker 1>much better because of them all.

1856
01:41:58.520 --> 01:42:01.159
<v Speaker 3>And so this goes back to the sharing delight thing

1857
01:42:01.239 --> 01:42:03.600
<v Speaker 3>we were talking about with Kathy O'Connell. You know, there's something.

1858
01:42:03.840 --> 01:42:05.800
<v Speaker 3>If you love it, you know, some people want to

1859
01:42:05.800 --> 01:42:08.039
<v Speaker 3>share it, some people want to hoard it right right,

1860
01:42:08.159 --> 01:42:10.560
<v Speaker 3>and some people get it, and some people get a good,

1861
01:42:10.560 --> 01:42:13.319
<v Speaker 3>great delight out of watching other people enjoy it. Right.

1862
01:42:14.239 --> 01:42:19.680
<v Speaker 3>Somebody said once, uh, there's Broadway actors and Broadway audiences

1863
01:42:19.720 --> 01:42:22.439
<v Speaker 3>that look at the stage, that look at the stage

1864
01:42:22.439 --> 01:42:24.920
<v Speaker 3>when the show is going on, and then there's producers

1865
01:42:25.680 --> 01:42:28.560
<v Speaker 3>and writers, and producers and writers turn the other way

1866
01:42:28.600 --> 01:42:33.239
<v Speaker 3>and watch the audience right right right, and they're watching

1867
01:42:33.279 --> 01:42:35.960
<v Speaker 3>to see what works and what doesn't exactly what doesn't,

1868
01:42:36.279 --> 01:42:40.199
<v Speaker 3>but also to take some pride and showing people a

1869
01:42:40.279 --> 01:42:44.640
<v Speaker 3>good time. You made that happen. Look at this great

1870
01:42:44.680 --> 01:42:49.600
<v Speaker 3>time everybody's happened. Everybody's happening. It's almost like a parent generativity.

1871
01:42:50.079 --> 01:42:56.399
<v Speaker 3>You know, you made this happen, baby go we do.

1872
01:42:56.720 --> 01:42:58.079
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and we have.

1873
01:42:58.399 --> 01:43:01.239
<v Speaker 1>We have quite a family of young musicians who really

1874
01:43:01.319 --> 01:43:06.239
<v Speaker 1>did cut our friend the jingle berries for instance, Yeah, yeah,

1875
01:43:06.359 --> 01:43:12.600
<v Speaker 1>our friend Medeu. She's the first woman to do satria,

1876
01:43:12.960 --> 01:43:17.079
<v Speaker 1>which is a prayerful form of a traditional Indian dance.

1877
01:43:17.760 --> 01:43:20.359
<v Speaker 1>It was always done by men on this little island,

1878
01:43:20.560 --> 01:43:23.600
<v Speaker 1>like just these monks did it. Wow, And she was

1879
01:43:23.680 --> 01:43:26.359
<v Speaker 1>the first woman to ever bring it to the United

1880
01:43:26.359 --> 01:43:30.159
<v Speaker 1>States and the first woman allowed to do satria, and

1881
01:43:30.239 --> 01:43:32.960
<v Speaker 1>the first place she did it was at the et

1882
01:43:33.039 --> 01:43:36.560
<v Speaker 1>Cetera performance series Wow. And so she always credits us

1883
01:43:36.680 --> 01:43:39.760
<v Speaker 1>with giving her her start, which is, you know, ridiculous

1884
01:43:39.800 --> 01:43:43.239
<v Speaker 1>to us because she's so fabulous. But one of the

1885
01:43:43.359 --> 01:43:47.439
<v Speaker 1>cool things that has always happened was a collaboration. So

1886
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<v Speaker 1>we had a tap dancer. His name is Reggie Tapman Myers.

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<v Speaker 1>He was out of New York and yeah, we're gonna, okay,

1888
01:43:55.319 --> 01:43:56.880
<v Speaker 1>we're going to wrap this up. He was out of

1889
01:43:56.960 --> 01:44:00.640
<v Speaker 1>New York and he did a combination of hip and

1890
01:44:00.800 --> 01:44:04.239
<v Speaker 1>tap and he would change his shoes during his performance.

1891
01:44:04.720 --> 01:44:09.279
<v Speaker 1>And then they met, and then they surprised me at

1892
01:44:09.319 --> 01:44:13.720
<v Speaker 1>the next et Cetera and they performed together. So we

1893
01:44:13.840 --> 01:44:17.439
<v Speaker 1>had traditional Indian dance, tap and hip hop all on

1894
01:44:17.520 --> 01:44:19.680
<v Speaker 1>the same stage, all in the same performance, and it

1895
01:44:19.840 --> 01:44:21.079
<v Speaker 1>was electric.

1896
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<v Speaker 3>And everyone agrees on this. Everyone agrees on this. Everyone

1897
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<v Speaker 3>loves this. There's nothing not to love about this. Right.

1898
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<v Speaker 3>It is almost like you talk about music is the

1899
01:44:29.800 --> 01:44:33.000
<v Speaker 3>universal language. It's the lyrics that cause bar fights, right

1900
01:44:33.640 --> 01:44:37.279
<v Speaker 3>right right dance Like you were just talking about no one,

1901
01:44:37.960 --> 01:44:41.560
<v Speaker 3>no one cannot watch that. Yeah, it gets to your

1902
01:44:41.600 --> 01:44:44.880
<v Speaker 3>eyes before any other interpretation happens. It's just what is

1903
01:44:44.960 --> 01:44:48.000
<v Speaker 3>coming in. I'm gonna I think a dance is going

1904
01:44:48.079 --> 01:44:48.720
<v Speaker 3>to save the world.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, well, I think it all is. I think

1906
01:44:51.000 --> 01:44:54.039
<v Speaker 1>in combination. But it's definitely art and it's definitely love.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I'd love to see more dance outdoors. I'd love

1908
01:44:56.800 --> 01:44:58.520
<v Speaker 3>to see more dance that happens to us.

1909
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<v Speaker 1>Oh, we'll come over. It happened here all the time.

1910
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<v Speaker 1>I am going to ask you to do something that

1911
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<v Speaker 1>you your version no, no, no, no, that wasn't the

1912
01:45:13.680 --> 01:45:22.119
<v Speaker 1>same word. No, but wrong. Sorry. You've been so wonderful

1913
01:45:22.199 --> 01:45:25.239
<v Speaker 1>and generous with your time. All of the world needs

1914
01:45:25.279 --> 01:45:27.600
<v Speaker 1>to know more of Susan Warner. I know I can't

1915
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<v Speaker 1>get enough, and I feel so blessed to have had

1916
01:45:30.279 --> 01:45:32.479
<v Speaker 1>this time and to talk to you. And I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>going to ask you if you would please grace us

1918
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<v Speaker 1>with a song that you do so beautifully and a

1919
01:45:39.760 --> 01:45:46.199
<v Speaker 1>song that you know doesn't require the lyrics are are

1920
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<v Speaker 1>in another language, and it's just this is gorgeous. This

1921
01:45:51.920 --> 01:45:52.760
<v Speaker 1>is Susan Warner.

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<v Speaker 3>Cold to Leo are in the Pound to buy Love

1923
01:46:06.239 --> 01:46:14.800
<v Speaker 3>be Helbo did a mot.

1924
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<v Speaker 13>The motor to leisure, some fair cusho, hely talk, the.

1925
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<v Speaker 11>Mock ca in the pound, the borner lock as Sallie

1926
01:46:44.920 --> 01:47:06.079
<v Speaker 11>to read on lovee imman Andy leisure, Hipple, loving Christian

1927
01:47:06.159 --> 01:47:14.479
<v Speaker 11>lapper shore more okay, ke.

1928
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<v Speaker 3>Diz zuki form betsinemia, heri chiso.

1929
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<v Speaker 13>Persia saboo, while abouts are.

1930
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<v Speaker 3>The lomoga jah partia he do domo cad upon, don't

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<v Speaker 3>you cone lack all seb more.

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<v Speaker 13>You know lovey, you'll malady lasureempo lovy.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, okay, And because you let us swear a lunga

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<v Speaker 3>songs or one more again.

1935
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<v Speaker 1>Keep but.

1936
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<v Speaker 2>Mm hmmm, Susan Warner, Oh my goodness, I felt things.

1937
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<v Speaker 3>You know. It's wonderful, isn't it How a song can

1938
01:48:56.920 --> 01:48:59.359
<v Speaker 3>just do that without you knowing the specifics we were

1939
01:48:59.399 --> 01:49:03.159
<v Speaker 3>just talking about. Right dance gets to you before any

1940
01:49:03.279 --> 01:49:06.760
<v Speaker 3>other sorts of interpretations. And you know, a beautiful sound.

1941
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<v Speaker 3>I didn't used to do that, that song all that much,

1942
01:49:09.199 --> 01:49:12.680
<v Speaker 3>and and and I became aware of what just some

1943
01:49:12.960 --> 01:49:16.079
<v Speaker 3>a thing of beauty. It's just the thing of beauty.

1944
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<v Speaker 3>And I can sing it, you know, like with some

1945
01:49:18.359 --> 01:49:20.800
<v Speaker 3>credibility of some sort. You know I can sing, okay,

1946
01:49:20.960 --> 01:49:24.039
<v Speaker 3>so let's just do that and make it beautiful, right.

1947
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<v Speaker 3>But bring this beautiful song, which is a song from

1948
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<v Speaker 3>the Fourties, but bring this song to life and just

1949
01:49:28.720 --> 01:49:32.199
<v Speaker 3>make a lovely thing. And that's an argument for itself.

1950
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<v Speaker 3>That's enough. It's enough. It doesn't have to be some

1951
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<v Speaker 3>it's just a lovely thing. And I hope it helps.

1952
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<v Speaker 1>We need more beautiful things. And I can't thank you

1953
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<v Speaker 1>enough for being here with us.

1954
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<v Speaker 3>And you two are beautiful people. I really enjoyed this

1955
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<v Speaker 3>conversation with the two of you, and thanks you this podcast,

1956
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<v Speaker 3>and let's just attract you know, positivity and delight and share.

1957
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<v Speaker 13>With other people.

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<v Speaker 3>I love what you're up to. Thanks for including me.

1959
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<v Speaker 3>I appreciated that. Thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you Susan so much.

1961
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<v Speaker 3>Bye Bye, Martha by Charles Bye Bye.

1962
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<v Speaker 2>Full Circle is a Never Scured Productions podcast hosted by

1963
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<v Speaker 2>Charles Tyson Junior and Martha Madrigal, Produced and edited by

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<v Speaker 2>Never Skurd Executive Produced by Charles Tyson Junior and Martha Madrigal.

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<v Speaker 2>Our theme and music is by the Jingle Bears. All names, pictures, audio,

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<v Speaker 2>and video clips are registered trademarks and or copyrights of

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