WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.080 --> 00:00:02.319 Welcome to Hacking Your Leadership. 2 00:00:02.359 --> 00:00:03.720 I'm Chris and I'm Lorenzo. 3 00:00:03.799 --> 00:00:04.280 And Lorenzo. 4 00:00:04.360 --> 00:00:07.919 On this episode, we're continuing our discussion on the advice 5 00:00:07.960 --> 00:00:10.519 that coaches would give to their younger selves, based on 6 00:00:10.560 --> 00:00:13.800 the Forbes article which we are linking the podcast description. 7 00:00:14.279 --> 00:00:17.640 This has been a fascinating and great conversation to have 8 00:00:17.760 --> 00:00:20.920 over the last few episodes because there's a lot of 9 00:00:20.960 --> 00:00:23.679 great advice in here. As you know, they put it 10 00:00:23.719 --> 00:00:27.600 together from the coach's counsel. These are people who who 11 00:00:27.679 --> 00:00:30.600 coach for a living and are renowned for doing it, 12 00:00:30.640 --> 00:00:33.960 and they went through and put together this list of 13 00:00:34.039 --> 00:00:36.280 things that they would make sure that they would they 14 00:00:36.399 --> 00:00:38.640 go back in time and tell their younger selves to 15 00:00:38.679 --> 00:00:40.960 do these things that they would. On the last episode, 16 00:00:40.960 --> 00:00:42.960 if you haven't listened to it yet, we talked about 17 00:00:43.240 --> 00:00:46.880 the importance of resilience and the importance of asking questions. 18 00:00:47.200 --> 00:00:49.079 On this episode, the first one I want to talk 19 00:00:49.119 --> 00:00:52.479 about is this idea of dreaming bigger, kind of thinking 20 00:00:52.520 --> 00:00:55.479 about your dreams not just in terms of what you 21 00:00:55.520 --> 00:00:58.520 think is possible right now, but maybe even something that 22 00:00:59.039 --> 00:01:01.719 at first glance you might not think is possible. 23 00:01:01.320 --> 00:01:03.759 To begin with, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't go there. 24 00:01:03.880 --> 00:01:05.799 Yeah, I think it's you know, it's it's funny we 25 00:01:05.840 --> 00:01:08.599 hear these terms sometimes and like my initial reaction and 26 00:01:08.640 --> 00:01:09.439 I'll just admit to it. 27 00:01:09.439 --> 00:01:11.079 It's like sometimes I roll my eyes. I'm like, oh, 28 00:01:11.120 --> 00:01:14.719 come on, right, Like what right you do it? Ever? Right? Right? Exactly? 29 00:01:14.760 --> 00:01:16.079 But then when I think about it, then I have 30 00:01:16.079 --> 00:01:18.120 to hold myself accountable and be like, well, wait a minute, 31 00:01:18.239 --> 00:01:19.840 I actually tell people to do this all the time, right, 32 00:01:19.840 --> 00:01:22.359 you know what I'm saying, Like I you know, like 33 00:01:22.560 --> 00:01:24.879 if I'm gonna throw rocks, it's gonna be from this 34 00:01:24.920 --> 00:01:28.159 glasshouse over here, because I'm definitely doing this and uh. 35 00:01:28.280 --> 00:01:30.719 And in the context of which in kind of when 36 00:01:30.760 --> 00:01:33.200 I read it and think about it in this situation 37 00:01:33.359 --> 00:01:37.879 is like I am constantly telling people like, don't just 38 00:01:38.120 --> 00:01:40.680 goal set for the next thing or the next job 39 00:01:40.799 --> 00:01:44.120 or the next title. Right, I'm saying things like don't 40 00:01:44.159 --> 00:01:46.840 confuse mile markers with milestones, you know what I mean? 41 00:01:46.920 --> 00:01:48.200 Like these are when you're in. 42 00:01:48.239 --> 00:01:52.280 Leadership leadership development, you're in a leadership journey. These titles 43 00:01:52.480 --> 00:01:55.280 and these jobs are like just the next level of 44 00:01:55.359 --> 00:01:59.200 responsibility that you're gonna have on your journey of continuing 45 00:01:59.239 --> 00:02:02.959 to like hell to inspire, influence and empower people, and 46 00:02:02.959 --> 00:02:05.400 and for me, when I read this the second time, 47 00:02:05.480 --> 00:02:07.400 I go, oh yeah, Like that's kind of what I 48 00:02:07.439 --> 00:02:09.919 get out of it is like, don't just kind of 49 00:02:09.960 --> 00:02:13.319 set your goals as like just the next thing or 50 00:02:13.960 --> 00:02:16.000 or limit them to like what you think you can 51 00:02:16.080 --> 00:02:19.400 do now, really think about and consider like what am I? 52 00:02:19.479 --> 00:02:21.000 What am I trying to accomplish with all of this? 53 00:02:21.039 --> 00:02:23.199 Like what do I really want to do with this? 54 00:02:23.759 --> 00:02:25.520 What am I? What am I? You know? What's my 55 00:02:26.639 --> 00:02:28.599 one year, five year, ten year plan? 56 00:02:28.639 --> 00:02:31.240 If I if I if I apply myself to this 57 00:02:31.280 --> 00:02:34.280 thing today, what would be the ultimate outcome of that? 58 00:02:34.360 --> 00:02:37.439 Like how could I be so good at it that 59 00:02:37.520 --> 00:02:42.199 I'm able to build a career, buy a home, retire early. 60 00:02:42.000 --> 00:02:42.960 Like whatever that might be. 61 00:02:43.800 --> 00:02:45.360 But if you start to think about it with these 62 00:02:45.439 --> 00:02:49.879 larger goals, it pushes you to have to like apply 63 00:02:49.960 --> 00:02:53.520 yourself and focus yourself and really spend the time making 64 00:02:53.560 --> 00:02:55.960 sure that when you do the work, you are doing 65 00:02:56.039 --> 00:02:58.639 it at a level that is kind of pushing you 66 00:02:58.719 --> 00:03:01.319 forward faster. That's kind of what I read when I 67 00:03:01.360 --> 00:03:03.360 read it around like dreaming bigger. 68 00:03:03.080 --> 00:03:03.560 Right, right? 69 00:03:03.719 --> 00:03:06.639 I like what what you started with around you know, 70 00:03:06.719 --> 00:03:10.000 telling people to do this and then and then rolling 71 00:03:10.039 --> 00:03:12.560 your eyes when they do. Right, it's like, you need 72 00:03:12.599 --> 00:03:14.800 to dream bigger, all right, I'm gonna start my own company. 73 00:03:14.800 --> 00:03:17.199 Whoa slower roll there, You're like, let's say. 74 00:03:17.479 --> 00:03:21.199 Not too big, not too big, you know, but but yeah, 75 00:03:21.479 --> 00:03:22.800 I think we all have a tendency to do that. 76 00:03:22.840 --> 00:03:25.360 And I think that kind of that that kind of 77 00:03:25.360 --> 00:03:27.479 plays into a little bit about maybe some of the 78 00:03:27.520 --> 00:03:30.240 other advice we've heard in this series when it says, 79 00:03:30.280 --> 00:03:32.400 you know, don't put too much stock in your naysayers, right, 80 00:03:32.719 --> 00:03:35.199 and so we I think it's human nature to have 81 00:03:35.240 --> 00:03:37.840 a tendency to do that to others when you when 82 00:03:37.879 --> 00:03:40.599 you hear somebody saying they have a big goal and 83 00:03:40.639 --> 00:03:43.120 they articulate what that is, and then you know, even 84 00:03:43.120 --> 00:03:44.759 if you don't out release say it, even if you're 85 00:03:44.759 --> 00:03:46.439 even if you're telling them, yeah, you go get it, 86 00:03:47.159 --> 00:03:48.719 in your mind, you might be rolling your eyes a 87 00:03:48.719 --> 00:03:51.120 little bit. I think what that where that comes from 88 00:03:51.520 --> 00:03:54.719 is the fact that so few people do this and 89 00:03:54.759 --> 00:03:58.199 do this well. They so few people actually put their 90 00:03:58.319 --> 00:04:03.199 dreams into into action and and and from a bigger 91 00:04:03.240 --> 00:04:06.319 standpoint that we don't see it very often. So we 92 00:04:06.439 --> 00:04:09.560 just assume that the majority of people who say they 93 00:04:09.560 --> 00:04:12.879 are going to or or even articulate a goal, that 94 00:04:12.919 --> 00:04:14.520 they're not going to follow through on what it takes 95 00:04:14.560 --> 00:04:17.879 to get there. And that's because quite honestly, many people don't. 96 00:04:18.279 --> 00:04:21.279 Many people don't follow through. And it's it's, you know, 97 00:04:21.360 --> 00:04:24.560 a fear of failure, a fear of success, you know, 98 00:04:24.759 --> 00:04:28.600 the lack of comfort associated with stepping outside where you 99 00:04:28.680 --> 00:04:31.040 are in order to. 100 00:04:30.319 --> 00:04:30.920 You know, to do this. 101 00:04:31.000 --> 00:04:33.399 There's that that old saying, if you keep doing what 102 00:04:33.480 --> 00:04:35.600 you've always done, you're going to keep getting what you've 103 00:04:35.639 --> 00:04:39.120 always got, which means if you want something different or 104 00:04:39.160 --> 00:04:42.160 bigger than what you're currently getting, there's no way to 105 00:04:42.199 --> 00:04:44.680 get there by continuing to do what you're doing now. 106 00:04:45.120 --> 00:04:47.959 It's just impossible. All you all you could do is 107 00:04:48.040 --> 00:04:51.000 get better at what you're currently doing. And so when 108 00:04:51.040 --> 00:04:54.480 when it's when you're talking about dreaming bigger, I think this, 109 00:04:54.480 --> 00:04:57.360 this isn't just oh what I'm doing now, I want 110 00:04:57.360 --> 00:04:59.240 to do it for more people, or I want to 111 00:04:59.279 --> 00:05:01.920 do this at a bigger level. I mean, those are 112 00:05:02.160 --> 00:05:05.399 mile markers along the way, but these when when I 113 00:05:05.439 --> 00:05:07.839 hear dreaming bigger. I think, what are you trying to 114 00:05:07.920 --> 00:05:11.120 accomplish as a whole in what you're doing. So, if 115 00:05:11.160 --> 00:05:13.800 your passion is leadership and you want to help people 116 00:05:13.839 --> 00:05:17.160 develop into leaders and become better leaders, what does that 117 00:05:17.279 --> 00:05:18.160 ultimately look like? 118 00:05:18.600 --> 00:05:18.959 Does that? 119 00:05:19.040 --> 00:05:20.839 Does that look like just whatever you're doing now for 120 00:05:20.879 --> 00:05:23.120 the rest of your life. If that's fine and you're 121 00:05:23.120 --> 00:05:25.360 happy with that, and you can articulate that, then then 122 00:05:25.399 --> 00:05:27.879 by all means, you know, be happy. But if you 123 00:05:28.600 --> 00:05:31.000 if that doesn't sound like enough to you, if there's 124 00:05:31.000 --> 00:05:34.279 something more that you want to do because you love 125 00:05:34.600 --> 00:05:37.600 this aspect of your life, if you love this aspect 126 00:05:37.600 --> 00:05:39.600 of your career and you wanted doing bigger with it, 127 00:05:39.920 --> 00:05:42.480 what does that actually look like? You need to define 128 00:05:42.720 --> 00:05:46.560 what that is, even if it seems like it would 129 00:05:46.560 --> 00:05:50.240 take years or thousands of hours to get there. That's okay, 130 00:05:50.319 --> 00:05:53.160 that's what dreaming bigger is. But you have to articulate 131 00:05:53.199 --> 00:05:54.120 it or it will never happen. 132 00:05:54.240 --> 00:05:58.680 Yeah, I think about you know, a lot of a 133 00:05:58.759 --> 00:06:02.120 lot of my creative projects. I you know, in full transparency, 134 00:06:02.120 --> 00:06:04.959 I think in my younger career, for a long time 135 00:06:05.040 --> 00:06:07.399 I just didn't I was just like, hey, I'm I'm 136 00:06:07.439 --> 00:06:10.079 gonna work hard, I'm gonna have some fun, I'm gonna 137 00:06:10.160 --> 00:06:13.879 learn lessons, like I I'm gonna apply myself so that 138 00:06:13.959 --> 00:06:16.399 like maybe the next job or the next opportunity, like 139 00:06:16.439 --> 00:06:18.560 I'll be a you know, a good candidate. 140 00:06:18.160 --> 00:06:20.000 For that type of thing. So like it's pretty cool. 141 00:06:20.079 --> 00:06:22.279 It was, yeah, exactly right, Like it's kind of like 142 00:06:22.759 --> 00:06:25.600 it's to your point, Like you hear people like, you know, 143 00:06:26.040 --> 00:06:27.839 it's my first job here, like my first day at 144 00:06:27.839 --> 00:06:29.480 the work, and like, well, like what do you want 145 00:06:29.480 --> 00:06:30.439 to accomplish while you're here? 146 00:06:30.839 --> 00:06:31.800 I want to be the CEO? 147 00:06:32.000 --> 00:06:34.639 And you're like, well, hold on, like you know, like okay, 148 00:06:34.720 --> 00:06:37.399 Like I'm not saying you can't, but there's a lot 149 00:06:37.439 --> 00:06:39.959 of steps right to get to there, so you kind 150 00:06:39.959 --> 00:06:41.639 of have to apply yourself to get to there. So 151 00:06:41.680 --> 00:06:44.199 like I think that there's like there's those kind of 152 00:06:44.240 --> 00:06:48.079 like big big dreams. Then I think there's the the 153 00:06:48.120 --> 00:06:52.600 big dreams that are are not. Just like I'll give 154 00:06:52.600 --> 00:06:54.680 you an example. I do this in the creative space. 155 00:06:54.680 --> 00:06:56.720 Like I said, I don't do it so much. Well, 156 00:06:56.759 --> 00:06:58.839 I've not done it so much previously, like as a 157 00:06:58.879 --> 00:07:01.639 younger leader, but in the creative space, I will do 158 00:07:01.720 --> 00:07:04.600 things like, well, I want to create this thing, or 159 00:07:04.680 --> 00:07:06.120 I want to write this thing, or I want to 160 00:07:06.160 --> 00:07:09.639 do this thing, and I don't want to just like 161 00:07:10.480 --> 00:07:13.000 write it and then like have it on my computer. 162 00:07:13.240 --> 00:07:14.879 And I used to in the music industry. 163 00:07:14.920 --> 00:07:16.240 I used to be like I don't want to make 164 00:07:16.720 --> 00:07:19.120 songs to play in my car, right, Like, like I, 165 00:07:19.600 --> 00:07:22.079 if we're going to make songs, let's do them in 166 00:07:22.120 --> 00:07:24.240 such a way and then let's go and let's push 167 00:07:24.279 --> 00:07:26.279 and market and use a network and like try to 168 00:07:26.279 --> 00:07:27.879 get people to listen to these songs see if we 169 00:07:27.959 --> 00:07:30.319 can get them placed on something or do something with them. 170 00:07:30.399 --> 00:07:32.319 And I feel the same way in some of the 171 00:07:32.319 --> 00:07:34.439 creative things that I've done where it's like, well, if 172 00:07:34.439 --> 00:07:36.120 I'm going to write this, I don't want to just 173 00:07:36.160 --> 00:07:37.399 write it and say that I wrote something. 174 00:07:37.439 --> 00:07:39.519 I want to publish it. I want to actually like 175 00:07:39.560 --> 00:07:40.120 put it out. 176 00:07:40.160 --> 00:07:41.639 I want like I want to be able to like 177 00:07:42.079 --> 00:07:43.920 learn how to do all those types of things. So 178 00:07:45.519 --> 00:07:47.759 that to me is kind of how I read this 179 00:07:47.839 --> 00:07:49.959 and kind of what you were talking through is like 180 00:07:50.759 --> 00:07:54.879 it it puts you in a different mindset around taking 181 00:07:54.920 --> 00:07:59.439 the time and commitments and perseverance to see it all 182 00:07:59.480 --> 00:08:02.079 the way through through when you have dreams that are 183 00:08:02.120 --> 00:08:06.680 both big but also like, you know, achievable and like 184 00:08:06.759 --> 00:08:10.199 something that you can see from taking steps as you go, 185 00:08:10.360 --> 00:08:13.639 even if it might take you three, four or five years, 186 00:08:13.800 --> 00:08:17.000 it's something that you can consistently apply yourself towards. 187 00:08:16.720 --> 00:08:17.720 To eventually get done. 188 00:08:17.800 --> 00:08:20.079 Right Well, I mean, we've heard for a long time 189 00:08:20.120 --> 00:08:23.920 about the importance of having goals that have different timelines, 190 00:08:24.279 --> 00:08:27.199 right Like, if your only goal on your first day 191 00:08:27.319 --> 00:08:29.920 at work is to be the CEO, even if you 192 00:08:30.000 --> 00:08:34.600 are completely self aware of the time and years and 193 00:08:34.720 --> 00:08:37.000 effort it will take to get there, I mean, what 194 00:08:37.879 --> 00:08:41.080 how you're going to feel very unfulfilled if that's your 195 00:08:41.120 --> 00:08:44.399 only goal for the next twenty years, right Like, You're like, 196 00:08:44.600 --> 00:08:46.519 you have to have goals along the way too. So 197 00:08:47.000 --> 00:08:52.000 there's the dreaming bigger doesn't mean to forego the dreams 198 00:08:52.080 --> 00:08:55.080 that you have that are accomplishable in you know, the 199 00:08:55.120 --> 00:08:59.720 next thirty days, one year, five years. Dreaming bigger might 200 00:08:59.759 --> 00:09:02.279 be a goal that it could take you a decade 201 00:09:02.320 --> 00:09:06.279 to do or even longer, but the importance of articulating 202 00:09:06.320 --> 00:09:08.759 what that is, even if you know it might change 203 00:09:08.799 --> 00:09:11.759 later on down the road. There's there's this thing that 204 00:09:11.840 --> 00:09:15.960 happens inside us when we start looking at that dream 205 00:09:16.000 --> 00:09:18.519 that we've articulated or written down or that is important 206 00:09:18.519 --> 00:09:23.320 to us as as through the lens of everything that 207 00:09:23.360 --> 00:09:26.519 we do every day. So it is what I'm doing 208 00:09:26.600 --> 00:09:30.200 right now in spirit of getting closer to that dream 209 00:09:30.279 --> 00:09:33.759 or that goal. And you can very easily decide whether 210 00:09:33.840 --> 00:09:35.840 or not that is and be honest with yourself about 211 00:09:35.840 --> 00:09:37.600 what you're doing to get towards it or not. 212 00:09:38.440 --> 00:09:39.759 There's an old saying that I like. 213 00:09:39.799 --> 00:09:42.240 It says I'm not there yet, but I'm closer than 214 00:09:42.240 --> 00:09:45.279 I was yesterday, And that's the goal. When we're not 215 00:09:45.360 --> 00:09:48.039 dreaming bigger. It's not about how quickly you can get there. 216 00:09:48.120 --> 00:09:50.120 It's can you look at yourself in the mirror and say, 217 00:09:50.600 --> 00:09:54.120 am I closer to this goal today than I was yesterday? 218 00:09:54.240 --> 00:09:56.639 And that's a euphemism for in the past. You don't 219 00:09:56.679 --> 00:09:58.960 as it doesn't have to be every single day, but 220 00:09:59.000 --> 00:10:01.000 it needs to be often an enough where. 221 00:10:01.039 --> 00:10:03.120 Where there's actual effort being put in. 222 00:10:03.639 --> 00:10:06.879 And even if even if you're talking about things like 223 00:10:07.039 --> 00:10:10.720 selling something to the public or or or making something 224 00:10:11.000 --> 00:10:13.840 become a revenue stream for yourself, you might get turned 225 00:10:13.879 --> 00:10:17.879 down by a thousand people but when that doesn't mean 226 00:10:17.879 --> 00:10:20.399 that you're not closer than you were yesterday. It means 227 00:10:20.440 --> 00:10:22.799 that you've you've gotten through all the nose and now 228 00:10:22.840 --> 00:10:23.679 you're going to start that. 229 00:10:23.759 --> 00:10:24.639 The more you do. 230 00:10:24.519 --> 00:10:28.159 This, the closer you are to a yes, because you 231 00:10:28.200 --> 00:10:30.120 had to get through all those nose first and there 232 00:10:30.159 --> 00:10:32.320 was no way around it. It doesn't mean that you're 233 00:10:32.320 --> 00:10:34.159 not any closer just because no one said yes. Yet 234 00:10:34.759 --> 00:10:38.759 you're closer because you asked. And and that's what this 235 00:10:38.799 --> 00:10:42.200 is about. It's about am I working in spirit of 236 00:10:42.240 --> 00:10:44.799 a goal that I have said to myself is important 237 00:10:44.799 --> 00:10:46.919 to me? And if I really believe that it is, 238 00:10:47.639 --> 00:10:50.159 am I actually doing something towards it? And if the 239 00:10:50.159 --> 00:10:53.360 answer is no, then of one of a few things 240 00:10:53.399 --> 00:10:56.080 is going on. Either it's not actually something. 241 00:10:55.840 --> 00:10:56.440 You care about. 242 00:10:56.600 --> 00:10:59.240 You've you've articulated it because you think someone it's important 243 00:10:59.240 --> 00:11:01.960 to somebody else, and that can happen, and you know 244 00:11:02.000 --> 00:11:03.159 how to recognize that. 245 00:11:03.480 --> 00:11:05.080 But oftentimes it's not that. 246 00:11:05.360 --> 00:11:09.759 Oftentimes it's a a If I put this effort into 247 00:11:09.799 --> 00:11:12.159 this goal that I've had for myself for a long 248 00:11:12.240 --> 00:11:14.919 time and it doesn't work out, I don't know that 249 00:11:14.960 --> 00:11:17.799 I could take that level of failure so I need 250 00:11:17.840 --> 00:11:20.279 to have it just stay that dream or that goal 251 00:11:20.600 --> 00:11:24.399 as opposed to putting effort towards it. And I'm absolutely 252 00:11:25.559 --> 00:11:27.759 guilty of doing that in my life at times, and 253 00:11:27.799 --> 00:11:29.279 I think a lot of people are too. I think 254 00:11:29.320 --> 00:11:32.840 that this is a it's it's human nature to do 255 00:11:32.879 --> 00:11:36.720 it because because when you've when you've built something up 256 00:11:36.759 --> 00:11:40.360 in your head for a long time, you know the 257 00:11:40.360 --> 00:11:43.960 the the loss of that thing, either because you admit 258 00:11:44.039 --> 00:11:46.919 you can't do it, or because you tried your best 259 00:11:46.960 --> 00:11:49.159 and you and you gave it every effort possible and 260 00:11:49.200 --> 00:11:52.080 it didn't work out. You know that that that is 261 00:11:52.120 --> 00:11:54.440 a problem for a lot of people. But but if 262 00:11:54.480 --> 00:11:57.440 you can look at it through the lens of instead, no, no, no, 263 00:11:57.480 --> 00:12:00.399 it's not because if it doesn't pan out, it how 264 00:12:00.639 --> 00:12:03.519 think about how freeing that is to you to be 265 00:12:03.559 --> 00:12:06.159 able to allow you to create something different instead, to 266 00:12:06.159 --> 00:12:08.120 be able to come up with a different goal if 267 00:12:08.159 --> 00:12:11.559 one of them doesn't pan out. Because oftentimes when you 268 00:12:11.639 --> 00:12:14.039 abandon a dream or a goal, it's because you're in 269 00:12:14.080 --> 00:12:14.840 a different. 270 00:12:14.559 --> 00:12:16.600 Space at the time that you left it. 271 00:12:16.720 --> 00:12:19.120 Then at the time you created it, you're a different person, 272 00:12:19.200 --> 00:12:22.480 You have different experiences, and it's okay to change what. 273 00:12:22.600 --> 00:12:24.399 Those dreams and goals are. 274 00:12:24.919 --> 00:12:28.279 It's just really important that they exist, even if they 275 00:12:28.320 --> 00:12:29.000 change along the way. 276 00:12:29.120 --> 00:12:30.440 Yeah, it's one of those funny things. 277 00:12:30.480 --> 00:12:32.799 It's kind of like if you are applying yourself and 278 00:12:32.840 --> 00:12:35.320 working towards looking to accomplish something, and you have a 279 00:12:35.320 --> 00:12:38.399 big goal that you're going after, you start to realize 280 00:12:38.440 --> 00:12:41.519 that the actions that you're taking to achieve the thing 281 00:12:42.240 --> 00:12:45.639 are sometimes many times more important than the actual thing, 282 00:12:45.879 --> 00:12:48.399 and you're putting yourself in a space that as you 283 00:12:48.440 --> 00:12:51.759 go down that road, you'll stumble into something else that 284 00:12:51.799 --> 00:12:53.519 you're like, actually, this is actually what I want to do, 285 00:12:53.559 --> 00:12:55.759 this is actually what I really really enjoy, and you've 286 00:12:55.799 --> 00:12:58.799 built these behaviors that help you to then achieve that thing. 287 00:12:58.879 --> 00:13:02.519 So like progress, you know, forward progress, and any any 288 00:13:02.559 --> 00:13:05.759 movement is progress, right, And I think that's that's a 289 00:13:05.799 --> 00:13:07.840 big part of that is just being able to be 290 00:13:07.879 --> 00:13:10.919 okay with just I'm going to apply myself and see 291 00:13:10.960 --> 00:13:13.240 what happens, and it might not be what I thought 292 00:13:13.279 --> 00:13:15.279 it was, but I will be further along on my 293 00:13:15.360 --> 00:13:16.960 journey than I was yesterday. 294 00:13:17.240 --> 00:13:20.559 Especially in the context of network, because if what you're 295 00:13:20.600 --> 00:13:23.559 if the the efforts that you're doing towards that dream 296 00:13:23.639 --> 00:13:28.639 or that goal, involve others, which oftentimes they do, and 297 00:13:28.639 --> 00:13:32.000 and they really should, because if we're talking about dreaming bigger, 298 00:13:32.480 --> 00:13:36.080 these the goals and dreams that we're talking about usually 299 00:13:36.120 --> 00:13:38.840 can't be accomplished, you know, in a basement by yourself, 300 00:13:39.200 --> 00:13:41.919 you know, like at some point in time, even if 301 00:13:41.919 --> 00:13:44.600 you're talking about you know, like the creative space, you know, 302 00:13:44.679 --> 00:13:48.440 composing music or writing a book or there's there's at 303 00:13:48.440 --> 00:13:52.519 some point you'll have to involve somebody else to get. 304 00:13:52.360 --> 00:13:53.399 The entire thing done. 305 00:13:53.879 --> 00:13:58.120 And and when you involve other people, there's something that 306 00:13:58.320 --> 00:14:03.519 is contagious and magnetic about a person who is actively 307 00:14:03.559 --> 00:14:07.799 working towards their goals and their dreams that their network sees. 308 00:14:08.159 --> 00:14:10.360 And so even if that goal of that dream doesn't 309 00:14:10.399 --> 00:14:12.759 pan out exactly the way you wanted it to the 310 00:14:13.639 --> 00:14:17.759 impact that you have made on yourself for the doors 311 00:14:17.799 --> 00:14:20.879 that will open by the people who saw the efforts 312 00:14:20.879 --> 00:14:24.320 you were putting in and will open doors and windows 313 00:14:24.360 --> 00:14:28.960 for you, that cannot be understated. Because some of the 314 00:14:29.799 --> 00:14:33.840 most amazing career opportunities I've ever had came out of 315 00:14:33.919 --> 00:14:37.759 nowhere based on a network that was made years earlier. 316 00:14:38.159 --> 00:14:41.960 Where great work was done together and the work ethic 317 00:14:42.080 --> 00:14:46.080 and the values were shared, and people don't forget people 318 00:14:46.080 --> 00:14:48.679 who share those things with them. And then the next 319 00:14:48.679 --> 00:14:51.039 thing comes up and it's like, who can I get 320 00:14:51.080 --> 00:14:53.799 involved with this project that I have this huge thing 321 00:14:54.080 --> 00:14:56.120 that I know shares my values and shares my work 322 00:14:56.159 --> 00:14:58.399 ethic and will work hard to get done. Oh, Lorenzo, 323 00:14:58.559 --> 00:15:00.480 we worked together, like, you know, five years ago that 324 00:15:00.519 --> 00:15:02.679 other company that we were at. You know, he's somebody 325 00:15:02.679 --> 00:15:06.120 I'd want involved in this. Absolutely, put efforts into those 326 00:15:06.120 --> 00:15:09.320 things when it comes to your goals, because you never 327 00:15:09.440 --> 00:15:11.840 know where that will pan out. The effort towards the 328 00:15:11.840 --> 00:15:14.159 one thing is really just an effort as a whole 329 00:15:14.480 --> 00:15:17.440 in terms of, you know, moving yourself forward towards whatever. 330 00:15:17.200 --> 00:15:17.879 The next goal is. 331 00:15:18.840 --> 00:15:20.919 Absolutely, and with that it brings us to this episodes 332 00:15:21.000 --> 00:15:23.519 one Minute Hack. But first a few words from our sponsors. 333 00:15:24.360 --> 00:15:25.919 All Right, for this episode one Minute Hack, here's what 334 00:15:25.960 --> 00:15:27.519 I want you to do. I want you to write 335 00:15:27.559 --> 00:15:32.919 down a long term dream or goal that is so 336 00:15:33.200 --> 00:15:36.039 far long term that it truly is not possible to 337 00:15:36.080 --> 00:15:38.840 accomplish in the next year. It has to be bigger 338 00:15:38.840 --> 00:15:41.840 than that, because when we're talking about dreaming bigger here. 339 00:15:42.639 --> 00:15:45.799 It's a goal that will take a considerable amount of 340 00:15:45.879 --> 00:15:49.320 concerted and sustained effort in order to get there. It's 341 00:15:49.360 --> 00:15:52.960 not something you can accomplish over a weekend. So write 342 00:15:53.000 --> 00:15:55.679 down what that is, whatever it is for you, and 343 00:15:55.720 --> 00:15:58.519 then write down some of the behaviors that it will 344 00:15:58.519 --> 00:16:01.759 take to accomplish. And they don't be exact, but you 345 00:16:01.799 --> 00:16:03.120 know what they are. You know what some of them 346 00:16:03.120 --> 00:16:05.159 are that you have to do in order to accomplish something. 347 00:16:05.679 --> 00:16:07.679 When you're going through your day to day life, you 348 00:16:07.720 --> 00:16:10.240 want to make sure that you are doing something in 349 00:16:10.399 --> 00:16:13.879 spirit of that goal, because even if it's not something 350 00:16:13.919 --> 00:16:16.399 you can add together like a one plus one equals 351 00:16:16.440 --> 00:16:20.360 too now, eventually I'll get there. Some of these things 352 00:16:20.440 --> 00:16:22.759 might be vague and far enough in the future where 353 00:16:22.759 --> 00:16:25.240 you don't know exactly what they are, but if you 354 00:16:25.240 --> 00:16:27.519 can articulate what the goal is, then it should be 355 00:16:27.559 --> 00:16:30.799 pretty easy to articulate what behaviors or actions are going 356 00:16:30.879 --> 00:16:33.000 to be needed in order to get there, at least 357 00:16:33.039 --> 00:16:35.480 some of them. And then you have no choice but 358 00:16:35.559 --> 00:16:37.840 to look at yourself in the mirror every day and say, 359 00:16:38.120 --> 00:16:40.720 did I do some of these things? Did I take 360 00:16:40.799 --> 00:16:43.960 this effort, even if it's an hour or thirty minutes 361 00:16:44.039 --> 00:16:47.720 or ten minutes, find time every day to do something 362 00:16:47.759 --> 00:16:52.200 in spirit of what that goal is and the feeling 363 00:16:52.240 --> 00:16:56.519 that you will get from accomplishing just that thing. That 364 00:16:56.639 --> 00:17:01.240 effort towards it will almost become a self sustaining cycle 365 00:17:01.639 --> 00:17:03.200 that will lead you to want to put more and 366 00:17:03.200 --> 00:17:05.920 more effort in, because just getting it off the ground 367 00:17:05.960 --> 00:17:08.400 to begin with, meaning getting yourself off the ground and 368 00:17:08.400 --> 00:17:10.559 putting the effort in to begin with, can sometimes be 369 00:17:10.599 --> 00:17:13.640 the hardest part. Once you can see yourself doing that 370 00:17:13.720 --> 00:17:16.200 work and getting towards that, you'll become better at it, 371 00:17:16.240 --> 00:17:20.000 and you'll very quickly realize whether or not that dream 372 00:17:20.000 --> 00:17:22.880 that you articulated either a, yes, that is exactly what 373 00:17:22.960 --> 00:17:24.480 I want to do and I love that that's what 374 00:17:24.519 --> 00:17:27.440 I wrote down, or maybe this is not the right thing, 375 00:17:27.839 --> 00:17:29.839 but there's no way to know unless you put effort 376 00:17:29.920 --> 00:17:31.880 towards it and kind of see how that feels. 377 00:17:32.000 --> 00:17:33.759 Yeah, I think it's a great hack, and like, look, 378 00:17:33.799 --> 00:17:36.279 the reality is like we don't do this enough. 379 00:17:36.359 --> 00:17:37.480 We just don't, you know. 380 00:17:37.559 --> 00:17:41.640 Like it's one of the things that if you watch 381 00:17:41.720 --> 00:17:47.599 any type of videos around like getting yourself focused and 382 00:17:47.680 --> 00:17:52.039 wanted to achieve big goals and wanted to accomplish things. 383 00:17:52.160 --> 00:17:55.160 It's like taking the time to really sit down and 384 00:17:55.200 --> 00:17:58.599 do that is something that everybody suggests, but most of 385 00:17:58.680 --> 00:17:59.880 us don't do that, you know. 386 00:18:00.000 --> 00:18:01.799 I mean, like I don't. 387 00:18:01.880 --> 00:18:03.960 I don't take the time to sit down and like 388 00:18:04.000 --> 00:18:06.759 really plan that out what I typically would do, like 389 00:18:06.799 --> 00:18:08.799 what are the things that I'm in that I'm into 390 00:18:08.880 --> 00:18:10.880 doing right now, what are some things that I've considered 391 00:18:10.920 --> 00:18:12.559 and thought about, what are some goals that I have 392 00:18:12.680 --> 00:18:15.079 for like the next year, and then try to make 393 00:18:15.119 --> 00:18:17.960 that into two or three things. And it's like that's 394 00:18:18.119 --> 00:18:20.640 probably my best effort that I've put towards it, and 395 00:18:20.680 --> 00:18:22.880 I've had some success with that, but it's definitely not 396 00:18:22.960 --> 00:18:29.160 to the level of really thinking about applying myself to 397 00:18:30.319 --> 00:18:34.880 things both personally, professionally and creatively that then, really to 398 00:18:34.960 --> 00:18:38.680 your point, like force me to have to apply a 399 00:18:38.720 --> 00:18:43.279 lot of behaviors and focus and commitment and perseverance and 400 00:18:43.319 --> 00:18:46.839 those types of things that then, you know, I think 401 00:18:46.920 --> 00:18:50.119