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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad. Listen with something for you

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<v Speaker 1>to think about. All right, I gotta ask you a question.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm asking this question because honestly, I can only

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<v Speaker 1>shake my head to some of the things that I'm

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<v Speaker 1>hearing people say. I remember when the podcaster I forgot

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<v Speaker 1>his name, really he passed away, a black guy, so

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<v Speaker 1>many people gravitated towards him. But his information was just wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>And people are continuing to give misinformation. And I've always

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<v Speaker 1>told you that it's two groups in this world, the

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<v Speaker 1>mature and the immature, point blank, the mature and the immature.

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<v Speaker 1>And let me tell you it is a difference. It

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<v Speaker 1>makes a difference in a person's life. So when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to relationships, what do you consider a ten? Many

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<v Speaker 1>people consider a tend as a person who looks good,

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<v Speaker 1>have a good job, have a nice salary, a person

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<v Speaker 1>who has positioned him or herself nicely. That's what they

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<v Speaker 1>look for, things of that nature. But I'm telling you

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<v Speaker 1>that is all right, it is okay, But those things

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<v Speaker 1>are superficial. They will not make a relationship. They will

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<v Speaker 1>not help you endure in whether you're storm's in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>They will not People looking at the superficial. Listen, having

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<v Speaker 1>a nice looking person, a person who has money if

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<v Speaker 1>you have money, a person who have their own a

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<v Speaker 1>person who who you know doing the thing that's great.

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<v Speaker 1>I do not knock anyone for that, but what I

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<v Speaker 1>will say is, if you don't have it to bring

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<v Speaker 1>to the table what you're looking for for, all you

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do is cause yourself problems. You want something that

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<v Speaker 1>you don't possess. I've always told you be who you

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<v Speaker 1>want in your life. If you cannot give it, then

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<v Speaker 1>why are you looking for it? It's gonna cause you problem.

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<v Speaker 1>So people are looking for a ten when you're not

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<v Speaker 1>a ten. To me, that makes no sense. You're looking

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<v Speaker 1>for a ten. No one should be looking for a ten.

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<v Speaker 1>If you get a ten, that's fine, but that shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>be your goal looking for a ten because guess what,

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<v Speaker 1>you just may get a ten according to what you

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<v Speaker 1>think is a ten, but they really are too because

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<v Speaker 1>they're tore up from the floor up internally, which is

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<v Speaker 1>gonna spill out sooner or later when you get to

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<v Speaker 1>know that person. You all got it wrong. You're looking

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<v Speaker 1>for the wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>Things as a woman, as a woman who is a

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<v Speaker 2>person who have worked hard, for everything I've ever had

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<v Speaker 2>in life, I've always worked.

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<v Speaker 1>For what I have. I'm not looking for someone that

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<v Speaker 1>is gonna drag me down. I'm looking for well, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not looking for anyone, but if I were, it would

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<v Speaker 1>be someone to enhance my life, not to cause me

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<v Speaker 1>problems and bring me down. So if you're looking for that,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand that. But when you're putting labels on things, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>he has to build ten or she has to build ten,

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<v Speaker 1>that's ridiculous. And you will never find true happiness that way.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not in the looks. It's not in the titles

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<v Speaker 1>and the positions and the status and the houses and

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<v Speaker 1>the cars and the six or seven figures. It's not

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<v Speaker 1>in that. You will never find love in that. Sof

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<v Speaker 1>that's what you're looking for, you will always be looking.

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<v Speaker 1>You will always be looking. You have to look for

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<v Speaker 1>something that's sustainable, something that has substance. For me. Number one,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't care how fine you are what you will have,

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<v Speaker 1>because hey, I got my own. I don't care. And

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<v Speaker 1>I've always been that way, even when I didn't have anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I've always been that way. I don't look at that. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>let me rephrase that. That matters to a degree, because,

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, you have to enhance my life, not

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<v Speaker 1>bring me down, no doubt about it. But I've never

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<v Speaker 1>been a person old. He has to be fine, and

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<v Speaker 1>he has to this and that and blah blah blah blah.

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<v Speaker 1>Because for me, as a woman and who I am

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<v Speaker 1>right now, the first important thing to me, the most

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<v Speaker 1>important thing is is he a man of God? Do

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<v Speaker 1>he live as a man of God? Do he want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk? Because I believe if he's truly a man

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<v Speaker 1>of God, he loved the Lord and he's serving the Lord.

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<v Speaker 1>He's living for the Lord. God is his master. Let

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<v Speaker 1>me tell you, I believe everything else is gonna fall

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<v Speaker 1>into place. Yes, you're gonna have your issues here and there,

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<v Speaker 1>but two people who are of equal yolp. They can

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<v Speaker 1>ride that storm together. But see when you're looking for

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<v Speaker 1>oh he got he has to be fine and have

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<v Speaker 1>the money and and the honey and this and that

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<v Speaker 1>and and that and this. You're gonna always fall short.

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<v Speaker 1>You're gonna always fall short. You can have arm candy

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<v Speaker 1>all day, loan, but they are a terrible person. They're

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<v Speaker 1>a terrible person. They're not a good person. They're not

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<v Speaker 1>a mature person, So you have to look at things

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<v Speaker 1>that has substance. Do they believe like you believe? Do

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<v Speaker 1>they have integrity? Do they know how to communicate? Do

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<v Speaker 1>they know how to show love? Do they love themselves?

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<v Speaker 1>Are they respectful? Because I've heard a lot of guys

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<v Speaker 1>talk and they think they're all of this and that,

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<v Speaker 1>but then they talk ignorant, they use the N word,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, just just talk just totally ridiculous and immature.

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<v Speaker 1>A woman on that level, I think that is cute.

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<v Speaker 1>But for me never, never, ever, ever, ever, And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not trying to put anyone down. If that's what you like,

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<v Speaker 1>that's what you like, but it's definitely not what I like.

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<v Speaker 1>I will never be attracted to a man who talk

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<v Speaker 1>like that. Never, That's not attractive to me at all.

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<v Speaker 1>In word, is in worth that or shorty? I mean

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<v Speaker 1>mm hmm, no, thank you. But but that's a pelling

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<v Speaker 1>that russ Nick that that that what they call it,

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<v Speaker 1>that bad boy. Some women love it, and some women

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<v Speaker 1>who have lots of money, well known, they love it,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'll say they can keep it. That's not for me,

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<v Speaker 1>no way, no, how never, never has even when I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't have anything out, I never wanted that. No, no, no, no, no.

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<v Speaker 1>But a lot of people do a lot of men

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<v Speaker 1>want women who are rough around the collar. But when

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<v Speaker 1>you look at individuals and you're looking at the superficial,

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<v Speaker 1>you're always I promise you, you're always going to have problems.

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<v Speaker 1>You're always going to feel unfulfilled always, because that holds

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<v Speaker 1>no substance. It has nothing that will keep a relationship together.

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<v Speaker 1>It has nothing that will help you weather your storms together. Nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>nothing at all. So people are looking for the wrong things.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to look at compatibility. Who that person really is,

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<v Speaker 1>not who they pretend to be. Is he a provider?

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<v Speaker 1>Is he loving and kind? But like I said, for me,

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<v Speaker 1>most of all, do he believe in Jesus? Do he

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<v Speaker 1>believe in God? Do he live for him? Do we

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<v Speaker 1>serve God through Jesus Christ. That's what's the most important

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<v Speaker 1>to me. And then things follow behind that. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>being a mature person that's very important. Being a person

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<v Speaker 1>to know how to communicate, that's important. A person of

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<v Speaker 1>integrity that's important. You know, things that has substance. So

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<v Speaker 1>you have this guy, he's fine, he's six 'y three,

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<v Speaker 1>he has his own business, he have a nice car, home,

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<v Speaker 1>nice title. He have all the things that society says

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<v Speaker 1>is you know what I'm saying. He has all those things,

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<v Speaker 1>but he's a freaking jerk, disrespectful, manipulative. Think he's all

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<v Speaker 1>of that and some. But that's what you wanted. You

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<v Speaker 1>wanted that person because you were looking at the superficial.

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<v Speaker 1>People are crying their eyes out, their hearts are hurting

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<v Speaker 1>so bad right now as I speak, because they're in

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<v Speaker 1>relationships with those superficial those superficial things that they thought

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<v Speaker 1>was it. I mean, it's just ridiculous. I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>can only shake my head at the lunacy because it

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<v Speaker 1>is crazy. People just look for the wrong things. I

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<v Speaker 1>saw this guy and he was just, Oh, I'm the exception,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm this, I'm that. Shut your face because you're looking

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<v Speaker 1>and sounding very immature. If you're all of that, it'll

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<v Speaker 1>speak for itself. You don't have to be chauvinistic about it,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I mean, it speak for itself. Some people

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<v Speaker 1>just settle for anything because it's about show and tell.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what it's about for most people. Show and tell.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why people go under the knife getting plastic surgery

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<v Speaker 1>looking different, looking looking plastic, literally looking face looking plastic,

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<v Speaker 1>but they doing it because it's showing tell. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to look this way because society says I should look

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<v Speaker 1>this way. I want to have this type of body

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<v Speaker 1>because society said, that's what's going on. That's what's up

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<v Speaker 1>that type of body. You know, that's what's in It's

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<v Speaker 1>show and tell. That's how people live their lives. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>I have this, I have that. Well, I just saw

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<v Speaker 1>my neighbor get this well, and I gotta be up

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<v Speaker 1>on him or up on her, so I'm gonna get

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<v Speaker 1>something else. You haven't even enjoyed what you had, because

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<v Speaker 1>life for most people is about show and tell. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's exactly how it is in relationships. Show and tail.

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<v Speaker 1>Men want the women. And I'm gonna say I will

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<v Speaker 1>I'll say immature men and immature women. They want the

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<v Speaker 1>eye candy. They want the eye candy, the eye candy.

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<v Speaker 1>They want the status, they want all of those things

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<v Speaker 1>that they can show. They want to show it off.

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<v Speaker 1>And these are immature people who happen to be individuals

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<v Speaker 1>who have accomplished things, but they're still immature because normal

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<v Speaker 1>people don't think like that. When I say normal, let

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<v Speaker 1>me be very specific. I mean when I say normal.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me take that word retracted. Mature people they don't

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<v Speaker 1>think like that. When they were immaturity, they probably did,

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<v Speaker 1>but when you become mature, you don't think like that anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>You know better. So when I hear people talking, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>she has to build ten or he has to build ten,

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<v Speaker 1>he haves to have this and that, because hey, that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm about, That's what I'm on. Look at me,

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah blah blah. In maturity, that's what it is.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what it is. So I can instantly spot it instantly.

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<v Speaker 1>All I have to do is hear them speak, and

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<v Speaker 1>I know if that's a mature man or a mature woman.

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<v Speaker 1>And some people they're very good. You know, they can

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<v Speaker 1>gap really good. Some people they can manipulate and play

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<v Speaker 1>the game really good to try to chemousfly at you

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<v Speaker 1>who they really are. But truly, when you understand people,

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<v Speaker 1>you can see right through that fluff. That's why so

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<v Speaker 1>many people are hungry, hungry for love. Even individuals who

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<v Speaker 1>are already in relationships, who've been in relationships for a

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<v Speaker 1>long time and some for not so long, they're hungry

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<v Speaker 1>for love. Although they are in relationships, they're still hungry

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<v Speaker 1>for love because they're not receiving what they need. Two

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<v Speaker 1>immature individuals, they're gonna have all kind of problems because

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<v Speaker 1>they're never gonna see eye to eye. It's always gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be something that one is gonna be up on the

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<v Speaker 1>other on. It's always gonna be something. And now you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta struggle because he's fine, so you gotta struggle to

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<v Speaker 1>continue to look how you look, or vice versa. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just craziness. Stress. It brings about stress. When you hear

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<v Speaker 1>people say, oh, I don't care if my man do

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<v Speaker 1>this or that, as long as he bring the money

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<v Speaker 1>home to me, or as long as she bring the

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<v Speaker 1>money home, I don't care what she do. That's because

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<v Speaker 1>you immature and you don't care a period. You don't

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<v Speaker 1>love that person, you love what that person do for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Because a man that love his woman, he's not having it.

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<v Speaker 1>A woman who love her man, she's not having it.

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<v Speaker 1>She'll never feel like that and he will never feel

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<v Speaker 1>like that. Those are mature people, And I'm telling you

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<v Speaker 1>those are the people who are in this world. The

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<v Speaker 1>mature and the immature. We don't think the same. Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>once when we were immature, maybe, but when you become

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<v Speaker 1>mature and you know who you are, You love yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't think like that anymore. Those things you thought

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<v Speaker 1>was so important don't even matter really anymore. They're not

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<v Speaker 1>the main thing, you know. They're not the things that's

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<v Speaker 1>going to keep a relationship together. You looking deeper, way

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<v Speaker 1>deeper than the superficial and right now a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people don't understand that because they only can see beyond

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<v Speaker 1>their eyes. They can't see any further than what they're

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<v Speaker 1>visually able to see. They can't see beyond that, they

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<v Speaker 1>can't see deeper. It's just what's in their face, is

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm trying to say. They can't see beyond what's

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<v Speaker 1>in their face. That's the best way I can I

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<v Speaker 1>can describe it or say it, because it's all superficial.

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<v Speaker 1>And like I said, you can have a person who

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<v Speaker 1>has it, Oh they have everything you can name who

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<v Speaker 1>check the block, but they're horrible individuals, conceded, nasty, full

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<v Speaker 1>of attitude. Think they're all of that. I mean, So

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<v Speaker 1>you have to be careful. You have to know what

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<v Speaker 1>you need because if you get what you need, it's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna also be what you want and what you desire.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a package deal, because you should never settle for

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<v Speaker 1>something that you don't You don't want or desire something

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<v Speaker 1>that you need, but you don't want or desire it.

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<v Speaker 1>That makes no sense, and you will never never settle

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<v Speaker 1>for that. A mature person will never settle for that,

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<v Speaker 1>because if you want it and desire that, you also

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<v Speaker 1>need that. Some people are polar opposite. They will want

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<v Speaker 1>and desire something they definitely don't need. And that's almost

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<v Speaker 1>always the case because they're looking at superficial things. And really,

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<v Speaker 1>that's all I'm gonna say on that. You take it

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<v Speaker 1>in however you choose to. I'm just giving it to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for listening. Please share this episode. I appreciate you,

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<v Speaker 1>I love you. If you want to be the best

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<v Speaker 1>you can be, that fall solely on you. You have

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<v Speaker 1>to want it. No one can give to you what

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<v Speaker 1>you need. No one can give that to you until

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<v Speaker 1>you do it for yourself. Until you do it for yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>And let me say this before I go another thing.

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<v Speaker 1>People feel that, oh, this man, he can't have any children,

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<v Speaker 1>or she can't have any children. And if that's what

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<v Speaker 1>you want, that's fine, if that's what you want. But

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<v Speaker 1>if that's what you want. Let it be for the

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<v Speaker 1>right reasons, because you can be with the man, a

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<v Speaker 1>mature man or a mature woman who know how to

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<v Speaker 1>handle that situation if they have a child or if

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<v Speaker 1>you have a child, because it's more than that. The

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<v Speaker 1>relationship is more than you having a child or not.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to be able to understand it's far greater

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<v Speaker 1>than that. A mature person who loves you, they're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>accept your child, and you're gonna accept their child. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking about mature people now, I'm not talking about immature

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about mature, mature people. Other than that, you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna have a mess, baby mama drama because they won't

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<v Speaker 1>ever it's gonna be It's gonna be two ways. They

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<v Speaker 1>will never put their foot down about it, or they'll

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<v Speaker 1>be an individual who go to the next extreme. The extreme.

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<v Speaker 1>The extreme that they go to would be almost frightening

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<v Speaker 1>because they don't want they don't want anyone around their child.

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<v Speaker 1>They're not having it. They have an issue with everything, everything,

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<v Speaker 1>and most times it's one extreme to another. But mature

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<v Speaker 1>people know, hey, this is my new relationship and this

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<v Speaker 1>is my old relationship. What we had is what we had.

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<v Speaker 1>We got a child or we have children. That's it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's it. We're gonna be co parents. But I got

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<v Speaker 1>this over here going on, and your foolishness is not

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<v Speaker 1>going to interfere with it, bottom line, And that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>On that they handle their business, but that don't happen

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<v Speaker 1>in a lot of relationships. It's baby mama drama, baby

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<v Speaker 1>daddy drama all the time. But those are immature people.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's it. I'm leaving it right there. Please share

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<v Speaker 1>this episode, Thank you for listening. Next week, God's will

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<v Speaker 1>is Thanksgiving. I hope you all have a good holiday.

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<v Speaker 1>Be safe. I in every episode the same, and I

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<v Speaker 1>hope and I pray you do it. Stop listening to people. Also,

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<v Speaker 1>stop listening to the fooleryth stop listening to it again.

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<v Speaker 1>I in every episode the same, and I hope you

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<v Speaker 1>do it. I hope you do it. Think on it.