Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad. Listen with something for you
Speaker 1: to think about. All right, I gotta ask you a question.
Speaker 1: And I'm asking this question because honestly, I can only
Speaker 1: shake my head to some of the things that I'm
Speaker 1: hearing people say. I remember when the podcaster I forgot
Speaker 1: his name, really he passed away, a black guy, so
Speaker 1: many people gravitated towards him. But his information was just wrong.
Speaker 1: And people are continuing to give misinformation. And I've always
Speaker 1: told you that it's two groups in this world, the
Speaker 1: mature and the immature, point blank, the mature and the immature.
Speaker 1: And let me tell you it is a difference. It
Speaker 1: makes a difference in a person's life. So when it
Speaker 1: comes to relationships, what do you consider a ten? Many
Speaker 1: people consider a tend as a person who looks good,
Speaker 1: have a good job, have a nice salary, a person
Speaker 1: who has positioned him or herself nicely. That's what they
Speaker 1: look for, things of that nature. But I'm telling you
Speaker 1: that is all right, it is okay, But those things
Speaker 1: are superficial. They will not make a relationship. They will
Speaker 1: not help you endure in whether you're storm's in a relationship.
Speaker 1: They will not People looking at the superficial. Listen, having
Speaker 1: a nice looking person, a person who has money if
Speaker 1: you have money, a person who have their own a
Speaker 1: person who who you know doing the thing that's great.
Speaker 1: I do not knock anyone for that, but what I
Speaker 1: will say is, if you don't have it to bring
Speaker 1: to the table what you're looking for for, all you
Speaker 1: gonna do is cause yourself problems. You want something that
Speaker 1: you don't possess. I've always told you be who you
Speaker 1: want in your life. If you cannot give it, then
Speaker 1: why are you looking for it? It's gonna cause you problem.
Speaker 1: So people are looking for a ten when you're not
Speaker 1: a ten. To me, that makes no sense. You're looking
Speaker 1: for a ten. No one should be looking for a ten.
Speaker 1: If you get a ten, that's fine, but that shouldn't
Speaker 1: be your goal looking for a ten because guess what,
Speaker 1: you just may get a ten according to what you
Speaker 1: think is a ten, but they really are too because
Speaker 1: they're tore up from the floor up internally, which is
Speaker 1: gonna spill out sooner or later when you get to
Speaker 1: know that person. You all got it wrong. You're looking
Speaker 1: for the wrong.
Speaker 2: Things as a woman, as a woman who is a
Speaker 2: person who have worked hard, for everything I've ever had
Speaker 2: in life, I've always worked.
Speaker 1: For what I have. I'm not looking for someone that
Speaker 1: is gonna drag me down. I'm looking for well, I'm
Speaker 1: not looking for anyone, but if I were, it would
Speaker 1: be someone to enhance my life, not to cause me
Speaker 1: problems and bring me down. So if you're looking for that,
Speaker 1: I understand that. But when you're putting labels on things, oh,
Speaker 1: he has to build ten or she has to build ten,
Speaker 1: that's ridiculous. And you will never find true happiness that way.
Speaker 1: It's not in the looks. It's not in the titles
Speaker 1: and the positions and the status and the houses and
Speaker 1: the cars and the six or seven figures. It's not
Speaker 1: in that. You will never find love in that. Sof
Speaker 1: that's what you're looking for, you will always be looking.
Speaker 1: You will always be looking. You have to look for
Speaker 1: something that's sustainable, something that has substance. For me. Number one,
Speaker 1: I don't care how fine you are what you will have,
Speaker 1: because hey, I got my own. I don't care. And
Speaker 1: I've always been that way, even when I didn't have anything.
Speaker 1: I've always been that way. I don't look at that. Well,
Speaker 1: let me rephrase that. That matters to a degree, because,
Speaker 1: like I said, you have to enhance my life, not
Speaker 1: bring me down, no doubt about it. But I've never
Speaker 1: been a person old. He has to be fine, and
Speaker 1: he has to this and that and blah blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: Because for me, as a woman and who I am
Speaker 1: right now, the first important thing to me, the most
Speaker 1: important thing is is he a man of God? Do
Speaker 1: he live as a man of God? Do he want
Speaker 1: to talk? Because I believe if he's truly a man
Speaker 1: of God, he loved the Lord and he's serving the Lord.
Speaker 1: He's living for the Lord. God is his master. Let
Speaker 1: me tell you, I believe everything else is gonna fall
Speaker 1: into place. Yes, you're gonna have your issues here and there,
Speaker 1: but two people who are of equal yolp. They can
Speaker 1: ride that storm together. But see when you're looking for
Speaker 1: oh he got he has to be fine and have
Speaker 1: the money and and the honey and this and that
Speaker 1: and and that and this. You're gonna always fall short.
Speaker 1: You're gonna always fall short. You can have arm candy
Speaker 1: all day, loan, but they are a terrible person. They're
Speaker 1: a terrible person. They're not a good person. They're not
Speaker 1: a mature person, So you have to look at things
Speaker 1: that has substance. Do they believe like you believe? Do
Speaker 1: they have integrity? Do they know how to communicate? Do
Speaker 1: they know how to show love? Do they love themselves?
Speaker 1: Are they respectful? Because I've heard a lot of guys
Speaker 1: talk and they think they're all of this and that,
Speaker 1: but then they talk ignorant, they use the N word,
Speaker 1: and you know, just just talk just totally ridiculous and immature.
Speaker 1: A woman on that level, I think that is cute.
Speaker 1: But for me never, never, ever, ever, ever, And I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to put anyone down. If that's what you like,
Speaker 1: that's what you like, but it's definitely not what I like.
Speaker 1: I will never be attracted to a man who talk
Speaker 1: like that. Never, That's not attractive to me at all.
Speaker 1: In word, is in worth that or shorty? I mean
Speaker 1: mm hmm, no, thank you. But but that's a pelling
Speaker 1: that russ Nick that that that what they call it,
Speaker 1: that bad boy. Some women love it, and some women
Speaker 1: who have lots of money, well known, they love it,
Speaker 1: and I'll say they can keep it. That's not for me,
Speaker 1: no way, no, how never, never has even when I
Speaker 1: didn't have anything out, I never wanted that. No, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 1: But a lot of people do a lot of men
Speaker 1: want women who are rough around the collar. But when
Speaker 1: you look at individuals and you're looking at the superficial,
Speaker 1: you're always I promise you, you're always going to have problems.
Speaker 1: You're always going to feel unfulfilled always, because that holds
Speaker 1: no substance. It has nothing that will keep a relationship together.
Speaker 1: It has nothing that will help you weather your storms together. Nothing,
Speaker 1: nothing at all. So people are looking for the wrong things.
Speaker 1: You have to look at compatibility. Who that person really is,
Speaker 1: not who they pretend to be. Is he a provider?
Speaker 1: Is he loving and kind? But like I said, for me,
Speaker 1: most of all, do he believe in Jesus? Do he
Speaker 1: believe in God? Do he live for him? Do we
Speaker 1: serve God through Jesus Christ. That's what's the most important
Speaker 1: to me. And then things follow behind that. You know,
Speaker 1: being a mature person that's very important. Being a person
Speaker 1: to know how to communicate, that's important. A person of
Speaker 1: integrity that's important. You know, things that has substance. So
Speaker 1: you have this guy, he's fine, he's six 'y three,
Speaker 1: he has his own business, he have a nice car, home,
Speaker 1: nice title. He have all the things that society says
Speaker 1: is you know what I'm saying. He has all those things,
Speaker 1: but he's a freaking jerk, disrespectful, manipulative. Think he's all
Speaker 1: of that and some. But that's what you wanted. You
Speaker 1: wanted that person because you were looking at the superficial.
Speaker 1: People are crying their eyes out, their hearts are hurting
Speaker 1: so bad right now as I speak, because they're in
Speaker 1: relationships with those superficial those superficial things that they thought
Speaker 1: was it. I mean, it's just ridiculous. I mean I
Speaker 1: can only shake my head at the lunacy because it
Speaker 1: is crazy. People just look for the wrong things. I
Speaker 1: saw this guy and he was just, Oh, I'm the exception,
Speaker 1: I'm this, I'm that. Shut your face because you're looking
Speaker 1: and sounding very immature. If you're all of that, it'll
Speaker 1: speak for itself. You don't have to be chauvinistic about it,
Speaker 1: you know, I mean, it speak for itself. Some people
Speaker 1: just settle for anything because it's about show and tell.
Speaker 1: That's what it's about for most people. Show and tell.
Speaker 1: That's why people go under the knife getting plastic surgery
Speaker 1: looking different, looking looking plastic, literally looking face looking plastic,
Speaker 1: but they doing it because it's showing tell. I want
Speaker 1: to look this way because society says I should look
Speaker 1: this way. I want to have this type of body
Speaker 1: because society said, that's what's going on. That's what's up
Speaker 1: that type of body. You know, that's what's in It's
Speaker 1: show and tell. That's how people live their lives. Oh
Speaker 1: I have this, I have that. Well, I just saw
Speaker 1: my neighbor get this well, and I gotta be up
Speaker 1: on him or up on her, so I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: something else. You haven't even enjoyed what you had, because
Speaker 1: life for most people is about show and tell. And
Speaker 1: that's exactly how it is in relationships. Show and tail.
Speaker 1: Men want the women. And I'm gonna say I will
Speaker 1: I'll say immature men and immature women. They want the
Speaker 1: eye candy. They want the eye candy, the eye candy.
Speaker 1: They want the status, they want all of those things
Speaker 1: that they can show. They want to show it off.
Speaker 1: And these are immature people who happen to be individuals
Speaker 1: who have accomplished things, but they're still immature because normal
Speaker 1: people don't think like that. When I say normal, let
Speaker 1: me be very specific. I mean when I say normal.
Speaker 1: Let me take that word retracted. Mature people they don't
Speaker 1: think like that. When they were immaturity, they probably did,
Speaker 1: but when you become mature, you don't think like that anymore.
Speaker 1: You know better. So when I hear people talking, oh,
Speaker 1: she has to build ten or he has to build ten,
Speaker 1: he haves to have this and that, because hey, that's
Speaker 1: what I'm about, That's what I'm on. Look at me,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah. In maturity, that's what it is.
Speaker 1: That's what it is. So I can instantly spot it instantly.
Speaker 1: All I have to do is hear them speak, and
Speaker 1: I know if that's a mature man or a mature woman.
Speaker 1: And some people they're very good. You know, they can
Speaker 1: gap really good. Some people they can manipulate and play
Speaker 1: the game really good to try to chemousfly at you
Speaker 1: who they really are. But truly, when you understand people,
Speaker 1: you can see right through that fluff. That's why so
Speaker 1: many people are hungry, hungry for love. Even individuals who
Speaker 1: are already in relationships, who've been in relationships for a
Speaker 1: long time and some for not so long, they're hungry
Speaker 1: for love. Although they are in relationships, they're still hungry
Speaker 1: for love because they're not receiving what they need. Two
Speaker 1: immature individuals, they're gonna have all kind of problems because
Speaker 1: they're never gonna see eye to eye. It's always gonna
Speaker 1: be something that one is gonna be up on the
Speaker 1: other on. It's always gonna be something. And now you
Speaker 1: gotta struggle because he's fine, so you gotta struggle to
Speaker 1: continue to look how you look, or vice versa. It's
Speaker 1: just craziness. Stress. It brings about stress. When you hear
Speaker 1: people say, oh, I don't care if my man do
Speaker 1: this or that, as long as he bring the money
Speaker 1: home to me, or as long as she bring the
Speaker 1: money home, I don't care what she do. That's because
Speaker 1: you immature and you don't care a period. You don't
Speaker 1: love that person, you love what that person do for you.
Speaker 1: Because a man that love his woman, he's not having it.
Speaker 1: A woman who love her man, she's not having it.
Speaker 1: She'll never feel like that and he will never feel
Speaker 1: like that. Those are mature people, And I'm telling you
Speaker 1: those are the people who are in this world. The
Speaker 1: mature and the immature. We don't think the same. Maybe
Speaker 1: once when we were immature, maybe, but when you become
Speaker 1: mature and you know who you are, You love yourself.
Speaker 1: You don't think like that anymore. Those things you thought
Speaker 1: was so important don't even matter really anymore. They're not
Speaker 1: the main thing, you know. They're not the things that's
Speaker 1: going to keep a relationship together. You looking deeper, way
Speaker 1: deeper than the superficial and right now a lot of
Speaker 1: people don't understand that because they only can see beyond
Speaker 1: their eyes. They can't see any further than what they're
Speaker 1: visually able to see. They can't see beyond that, they
Speaker 1: can't see deeper. It's just what's in their face, is
Speaker 1: what I'm trying to say. They can't see beyond what's
Speaker 1: in their face. That's the best way I can I
Speaker 1: can describe it or say it, because it's all superficial.
Speaker 1: And like I said, you can have a person who
Speaker 1: has it, Oh they have everything you can name who
Speaker 1: check the block, but they're horrible individuals, conceded, nasty, full
Speaker 1: of attitude. Think they're all of that. I mean, So
Speaker 1: you have to be careful. You have to know what
Speaker 1: you need because if you get what you need, it's
Speaker 1: gonna also be what you want and what you desire.
Speaker 1: It's a package deal, because you should never settle for
Speaker 1: something that you don't You don't want or desire something
Speaker 1: that you need, but you don't want or desire it.
Speaker 1: That makes no sense, and you will never never settle
Speaker 1: for that. A mature person will never settle for that,
Speaker 1: because if you want it and desire that, you also
Speaker 1: need that. Some people are polar opposite. They will want
Speaker 1: and desire something they definitely don't need. And that's almost
Speaker 1: always the case because they're looking at superficial things. And really,
Speaker 1: that's all I'm gonna say on that. You take it
Speaker 1: in however you choose to. I'm just giving it to you.
Speaker 1: Thank you for listening. Please share this episode. I appreciate you,
Speaker 1: I love you. If you want to be the best
Speaker 1: you can be, that fall solely on you. You have
Speaker 1: to want it. No one can give to you what
Speaker 1: you need. No one can give that to you until
Speaker 1: you do it for yourself. Until you do it for yourself.
Speaker 1: And let me say this before I go another thing.
Speaker 1: People feel that, oh, this man, he can't have any children,
Speaker 1: or she can't have any children. And if that's what
Speaker 1: you want, that's fine, if that's what you want. But
Speaker 1: if that's what you want. Let it be for the
Speaker 1: right reasons, because you can be with the man, a
Speaker 1: mature man or a mature woman who know how to
Speaker 1: handle that situation if they have a child or if
Speaker 1: you have a child, because it's more than that. The
Speaker 1: relationship is more than you having a child or not.
Speaker 1: You have to be able to understand it's far greater
Speaker 1: than that. A mature person who loves you, they're gonna
Speaker 1: accept your child, and you're gonna accept their child. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about mature people now, I'm not talking about immature
Speaker 1: I'm talking about mature, mature people. Other than that, you're
Speaker 1: gonna have a mess, baby mama drama because they won't
Speaker 1: ever it's gonna be It's gonna be two ways. They
Speaker 1: will never put their foot down about it, or they'll
Speaker 1: be an individual who go to the next extreme. The extreme.
Speaker 1: The extreme that they go to would be almost frightening
Speaker 1: because they don't want they don't want anyone around their child.
Speaker 1: They're not having it. They have an issue with everything, everything,
Speaker 1: and most times it's one extreme to another. But mature
Speaker 1: people know, hey, this is my new relationship and this
Speaker 1: is my old relationship. What we had is what we had.
Speaker 1: We got a child or we have children. That's it.
Speaker 1: That's it. We're gonna be co parents. But I got
Speaker 1: this over here going on, and your foolishness is not
Speaker 1: going to interfere with it, bottom line, And that's it.
Speaker 1: On that they handle their business, but that don't happen
Speaker 1: in a lot of relationships. It's baby mama drama, baby
Speaker 1: daddy drama all the time. But those are immature people.
Speaker 1: So that's it. I'm leaving it right there. Please share
Speaker 1: this episode, Thank you for listening. Next week, God's will
Speaker 1: is Thanksgiving. I hope you all have a good holiday.
Speaker 1: Be safe. I in every episode the same, and I
Speaker 1: hope and I pray you do it. Stop listening to people. Also,
Speaker 1: stop listening to the fooleryth stop listening to it again.
Speaker 1: I in every episode the same, and I hope you
Speaker 1: do it. I hope you do it. Think on it.