Speaker 1: I'm always asking questions, and the reason why is because
the fund begins when you start researching for answers such as,
how is it that we've gotten really good at hiding
our reality? Plus, now that we know that we're hiders,
how did we even get into this situation? My name
is Errow. I'm a daily writer, a silent wolf. I
stand on the sidelines and do nothing but watch, listen, study,
then activate. I call it the daily Mess, a chronological
walk through an everyday world. Yeah, it's my morning writing
as a receiver of thoughts and ideas. We as people
tend to throw things to the side because we think
we're going to deal with it later. Well, when a
subject arrives inside of me, I know it's time to
dig in. It's still keeping that daily journal, but by
doing the research, the picture becomes clearer. This is the
daily Mess. Are we really good at hiding reality? As
in to bury the truth to better accept the unpredicted? Uh? Oh,
I kind of figured, but really didn't want to see
it or be real with it. Yeah. Humans are very
good at hiding the physical steps and experiences that make
up what is our reality. It's called social masking. It's
when we present to the world various versions of ourselves.
It's actually seen as a survival mechanism to gain access
and avoid rejection. We are guilty of convincing ourselves of
a story. Yeah, we've got this nack to readjust things
that are safer and more manageable. Selective sharing is something
that a lot of us jump into. Who we are
on social media is a far cry from where we
are when it comes to physical, face to face conversations.
We tend to cut up our storylines and present only
pieces parts. It's almost like watching ESPN Sports Center. Why
go to the game if the highlights are really what
we're looking for. Another reason why we're really good at
hiding things is emotional regulation. Hiding our truth helps us
maintain control on protecting ourselves from judgment. Hey, coming up next,
Now that we know that we're pretty much a hider,
how did we even get into this situation? Hey, welcome
back to the daily Mess. Now that we know how,
reality has checked in with us and we're pretty much
a bunch of hiders. When it comes to what we
do really in life, the choice is, how did we
even get into this position of decision making? How do
we develop such an ability to hide what is our
real legacy? Mental health professionals lean in on the idea
of being tied to our desire to feel like that
we belong or we can be a source of self preservation. Listen,
show me someone who doesn't hide from themselves. Self deception
makes a beautiful buffer. How does this process even begin?
Your brain gets the blame. It's learned to soften the
truth to reduce pain, drama, trauma, and cognitive dissonance. This
is what allows us to function every day without being overwhelmed. Plus,
we can't leave out the pressures of society, who pretty
much tell us to toughen up, get it together, dude,
put on your brave face. Hiding our reality is instinct
that requires social conditioning. Plus, don't be freaked out if
self defense doesn't play a role in your game. Hiding
from yourself will always lead to people who lived it
with you, and they're not afraid to say, yeah, that's
only part of the story. Can we put focus on
what really happened here? Or are you still hiding? Hi? Mario?
And that's the daily mess