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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building, and goal achieving.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host

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<v Speaker 1>Paul Fellavaliedo.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everyone, and welcome to this seven minute leadership podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's episode five seventy seven. This whole week has been

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<v Speaker 2>kicking off the new year with the Leadership Reset, and

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<v Speaker 2>today I want to tackle a topic that sounds dangerous

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<v Speaker 2>on the surface but is critical if you actually lead people.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why good leaders break their own rules. And

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<v Speaker 2>that sentence makes some people uncomfortable, it should because week

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<v Speaker 2>leaders use it as an excuse. Strong leaders use it

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<v Speaker 2>as a responsibility. And let me be clear right out

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<v Speaker 2>of the gate, this is not about hypocrisy. This is

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<v Speaker 2>not about leaders doing whatever they want. This is not

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<v Speaker 2>about exceptions because you hold a title. Good leaders create

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<v Speaker 2>rules for a reason, safety, fairness, consistency, trust, Rules protect people,

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<v Speaker 2>rules create order, rules prevent chaos. But leadership is not

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<v Speaker 2>about rule worship. Leadership is judgment. If you follow rules blindly,

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<v Speaker 2>you're not leading. You are managing a checklist and an EMS,

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<v Speaker 2>aviation business, or any high stakes environment. Rules exist to

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<v Speaker 2>guide decisions, not replace them. The moment you stop thinking

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<v Speaker 2>and hide behind policy, you become a liability. Good leaders

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<v Speaker 2>know the difference between breaking a rule and breaking trust.

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<v Speaker 2>And here's the first truth. Most leaders avoid. Rules are

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<v Speaker 2>written for normal conditions. Leadership shows up when conditions are

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<v Speaker 2>no longer normal. Think about the cockpit. There's checklists for everything,

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<v Speaker 2>but pilots are trained on something even more important, when

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<v Speaker 2>to deviate, not recklessly, intentionally, with full ownership. And the

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<v Speaker 2>same applies to leadership. If a policy says one thing,

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<v Speaker 2>but reality demands another, a good leader does not freeze.

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<v Speaker 2>They assess risk impact in people, then they decide. Bad

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<v Speaker 2>leaders break rules to make life easier for themselves. Good

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<v Speaker 2>leaders break rules to protect the mission in the people.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a massive difference. Let's talk about why leaders need

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<v Speaker 2>rules in the first place. Rules level the playing field.

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<v Speaker 2>They remove favoritism, They create predictability, They give people clarity

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<v Speaker 2>about what's expected. But rules can never count for every scenario,

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<v Speaker 2>and when leaders pretend they can, teams suffer. I've seen

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<v Speaker 2>leaders enforced rules that made no sense in the moment

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<v Speaker 2>because they were afraid of being questioned later. That fear

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<v Speaker 2>based leadership costs credibility quick your team does not respect

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<v Speaker 2>blind enforcement. They respect thoughtful decisions. And here's where most

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<v Speaker 2>leaders kind of screw this up. They break a rule quietly,

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<v Speaker 2>hope nobody notices, and they move on. That erodes trust.

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<v Speaker 2>Good leaders do the opposite. They explain the exception, they

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<v Speaker 2>own it publicly, then they explain the why. When you

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<v Speaker 2>break a rule the right way, you teach judgment. When

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<v Speaker 2>you hide it, you teach politics. And let me give

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<v Speaker 2>you a real world example. You have a policy about attendance,

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<v Speaker 2>it's clear, it's fair. Then one of your strongest people

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<v Speaker 2>calls you something happened at home, not a pattern, not

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<v Speaker 2>an excuse, a real world situation. You have two choices.

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<v Speaker 2>Enforce the rule to prove your consistent or apply judgment

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<v Speaker 2>to prove your human Breaking the rule is not the

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<v Speaker 2>risk breaking your values is. If your team sees you

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<v Speaker 2>bend a rule to support someone who has earned trust,

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<v Speaker 2>they don't cry favoritism. They learn loyalty matters. Now flip it.

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<v Speaker 2>If you bend the same rule for someone who is

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<v Speaker 2>always a problem, now you've broken credibility. Same action, different leadership.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why good leaders break rules selectively, transparently, and rarely

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<v Speaker 2>another hard truth. Leaders who never break rules, usually lack confidence.

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<v Speaker 2>They hide behind policy because policy can't argue back. Leadership

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<v Speaker 2>requires standing in front of decisions and saying this one

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<v Speaker 2>is on me. That's totally red key leadership that I

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<v Speaker 2>talk about all the time, high consequence moments where you

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<v Speaker 2>cannot outsource responsibility. And here's a test you can use

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<v Speaker 2>this year. Before you break a rule, ask yourself three questions. First,

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<v Speaker 2>does this protect people, the mission, or both? Second? Would

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<v Speaker 2>I explain this decision openly to the team without flinching?

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<v Speaker 1>Third?

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<v Speaker 2>Am I willing to own the outcome if this goes sideways?

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<v Speaker 2>If you hesitate on any of those, don't break the rule.

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<v Speaker 2>Rules exist to serve the organization, not to trap it.

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<v Speaker 2>And another mistake leaders make is creating too many rules

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<v Speaker 2>then spending their time breaking them. That's not leadership either,

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<v Speaker 2>that's just poor design. If you constantly need exceptions, the

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<v Speaker 2>rule is probably broken. Good leaders review their rules, They

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<v Speaker 2>adjust them, They eliminate outdated ones. They do not create

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<v Speaker 2>policy clutter just to look busy. And as we reset

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<v Speaker 2>into a new year, this matters more than ever. Teams

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<v Speaker 2>are watching closely. They are tired of corporate bs. They

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<v Speaker 2>want clarity and fairness, but they also want leaders who

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<v Speaker 2>can think. If you want to earn trust this year,

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<v Speaker 2>enforce rules consistently. If you want respect, no one to

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<v Speaker 2>bend them, And if you want credibility, never pretend the

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<v Speaker 2>exception didn't happen. Say it out loud, own it, teach

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<v Speaker 2>the lesson. Leadership is not about being right on paper,

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<v Speaker 2>It's about being right in real life. So as you

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<v Speaker 2>move into this new year, take seven intentional minutes and

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<v Speaker 2>review your rules. Ask which ones protect people, which ones

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<v Speaker 2>protect comfort, and which ones no longer make sense. The

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<v Speaker 2>best leaders do not abandon standards. They apply them with judgment, courage,

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<v Speaker 2>and accountability. That is how trust is built and how

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<v Speaker 2>leadership resets actually stick. This has been the seven Minute

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<v Speaker 2>Leadership Podcast, and I thank you for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>For more Paul Fell of Alito Podcasts, visit paulfellowalito dot

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