Speaker 1: I made a decision pace Sunny Sunie on ahead of
Visions Night.
Speaker 2: What's up, everybody? Welcome to for crying out loud. Uh,
it's the holidays. This is going to be our last show. Yes,
this is our last regulars. Well, no, because we have
no because next week's we have Albie. We have yeah,
we have Lbie's our guest next week for both shows. Yeah,
we got into a lot of it was really good
young adult stuff. Yes, yeah, you're gonna want to listen
to it if you have a young, like college age
kid in the house. Yeah for sure. Yeah, and teenage.
Speaker 1: She did two shows with us, and that's going to
air on Christmas week, right, and then we'll be dark
on Near's the week leading up between Christmas and New
Year's we will be dark that week.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then we'll be back right. Yeah.
Speaker 1: But we didn't want to leave you high and dry, No,
because we never do that, because you're going to be stressed.
I don't want to have some like fun get your
mind up.
Speaker 2: Something to listen to while you're wrapping last minute presence. Yeah. Yeah,
so let me just tell you.
Speaker 1: That. Okay, this is like a whole conversation and I
am I am not going to tear up. I'm going
to be super strong talking about this, but okay, so
but I got into like a tiff with This is
not the part that is going to actually make me sad.
But I got into like a little thing with Xander,
not as much with Okay, I'm going to just tell
you what happened. So last couple of days, I just okay, uh,
I don't know if like people are going to fall
on two sides of this, and I understood. I can
see this. I can honestly see this both ways. But
what it is is that ever since Peopo died, I
really I already really want another dog, and it's just
like a hunger in my soul.
Speaker 2: Okay, so that's interesting you say that, because I was
wanting to ask you that, but then I didn't know
if you were still grieving, you know, so well, oh.
Speaker 1: Hey, that's the thing. Of course I'm still grieving. But
to me, like I am just drawn to I get
a lot of dog content. I follow a lot of rescues. Yeah,
even when I okay, here's the thing. When I had Peopo,
as much as I loved her, I was like, I
have love to have two dogs, but I never could
because Peopo was super territorial in our house, and I
was like, it's not going to be It's even though
people would be like, well, I get used to it,
I'm like, you don't know my dog. She's not happy
with any dogs in our house, and I would be terrified.
Speaker 2: And even when we.
Speaker 1: Got her, the rescue lady was like, she's probably like
gonna be very happy to be your only dog. But
so I would still look at other dogs and be like,
oh I wish I could have that one too, you
know so, And I'm just gonna be totally honest. Okay,
toward the end with Peopo, I don't know if it
was just to make myself feel better, but I was
already looking at like other dogs. I was already like
my eyes were wandering. I was like, okay, people, is
only going to be here for so long. And then
like I don't know if what that is anxiety. Maybe
I'm just fickle, but I was like already looking to
the future. Now John not so much. He's a griever.
It's not that I miss Peopo terribly and this is
just a weird thing that I'm to get into, but
so anyway, I've been looking at these dogs. Now. The
thing that I do, which is probably not great, but
I'm nothing if not honest but real, or as we
would say, keep it one hundred.
Speaker 2: Six seven bus stop.
Speaker 1: I tend to like show John dogs, you know, which
he does not really want to see. But I'll be like,
oh my god, look at this dog. And then I
know I'm doing that. I know I'm being manipulative, but
I will say like, oh my god, doesn't this dog
remind you of like Sherman, who is John's dog growing up? Huh?
Sherman's such a cute name, I know, and that dog
like John and his parents like loved, loved, loved the
shit out of that dog.
Speaker 2: You know, that a dog their people. What kind of
dog was it?
Speaker 1: He was like a boxer boxer mix boxer and and
oh my god, not great Dane, but like maybe great Dane,
like a big great Dane. He was big, and he
was kind of boxer for Danish. Very good dog from
what I've heard. Yeah, a lot of pictures of Sherman
are in our house. Really cute picture of like John's
mom and apparently John's mom had like a super special
connection with the dog, which John thinks that I had
a very special connection with people, right, Okay, so I
will show him a dog and be like, doesn't this
not kind of look like Sherman, hoping it'll at least
get his attention, and he does a lot.
Speaker 2: Of like yeah, and listen.
Speaker 1: I don't want to make John sound cold at all,
because it's kind of the opposite. It like upsets him,
like he's like, yeah, yeah, please. But he even said
to me recently, he was like, please, don't manipulate me.
Speaker 2: And I was like, but I.
Speaker 1: Don't know another way to do it. Then, okay, so
then I can't be stopped. I get it, you know,
I get a little bit obsessive, and so I keep
looking at them and then I wait until there's one
that I really think might turn them around on this,
because okay, when when we would talk about it, I
would say, well, we're going to get another dog before
people past, and John would go, of course, and like
when we're ready for another dog in like a year.
Speaker 2: And I'm like a year. What are you smoking? We're
not waiting a year.
Speaker 1: And I was like, I'll be lucky if I get
a week before I'm shopping for dogs obviously adoptn't shop.
I'm not literally saying a shop, hot, do you do?
Speaker 2: You see the dogs and read about them, and they come.
Speaker 1: Up on my Facebook because I follow all these freaking rescues, right,
I got obsessed with a dog that was like in
further than Texas. I can't remember where it was, but
it was like really fucking far, like Louisiana or something,
and I was like, oh my god, and I literally
wrote to the purse to the I messaged the guy.
I was like, how do you, like, how did dogs
get transported? Because like I'm kind of obsessed with peanut right.
You know. Luckily somebody local took the dog because I
was like ready to get on a plane to get
this dog. So then I'm like, okay, you need to
settle down. Stop following rescues that aren't local, you know.
But I just follow a few of them, so like
videos come up on my Facebook. I get a lot
from Lancaster Animal Control whatever, like Lancaster Shelter. There's one
called Real Good Rescue. It's called there's one that I'm
like obsessed with right now. So I show that dog
to John and he's like, yeah, yeah, it's cute.
Speaker 2: But we're not ready yet.
Speaker 1: You know. Then I make the mistake of trying to
show it to Xander. Now I do know what I'm doing.
I know that I'm trying to Like, first of all,
Sadie's Sadie's all about it. She's like, Mom, I've already
been looking like there's already like puppies I've seen. I'm like,
we're not getting a puppy. Yeah, mom's too tired. Yeah,
puppy training a puppy. I want a dog that's like
between like one and maybe three yet even four, like,
because I want a dog that is hard to adopt.
I want to take a dog that.
Speaker 2: Needs you need. I get them from like the Pasadena
Humane Society all the time. And it's like this dog
we just got in was found wandering the streets like
a broken leg and it's all better and healed, and
I'm like, oh, poor.
Speaker 1: Little Jack, you know, like, yeah, somebody else nursed the
dog back to health, pay all the vet bills. But
now it's been at the shelter and it's for ninety
days and it keeps getting overlooked.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I want to overlook you.
Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, Okay, So I got Sadie. Elbie as you
will hear because it will be kind of brought this
up and then I was like, we're gonna have already
talked about this, so Elbie's kind of like, yeah, whatever,
cool cool. I was sure I'd love another dog, but
I don't live at home, okay. So I'm like, Xander,
come here, and he goes, this is just yesterday. This
was literally yesterday. He goes, what I go, I just
want to show you something. He goes, You're not going
to show me another dog, are you? Now? I never
realized I'd been doing it as often as I guess
I have. And I was like, yeah, I am going
to show you another dog. And he was like, mom,
we're not getting another dog yet. And I was like,
you don't know that. I don't think you are, okay.
I genuinely got my hackles up a little bit.
Speaker 2: Because I don't know.
Speaker 1: I got a little defensive. I was like, is everybody
in this fucking house made of stone? Like I was
having a particularly like tough morning about Pepo because I'd
been looking through pictures and I started looking at her
picture and I just started getting sad. And I understand
that I maybe I am not clear on do I just
want Pepo back or do I really have like room
in my heart right now to love a totally different dog.
I don't fucking know. I don't know the answer to that.
How do I know? Never been?
Speaker 2: I think it's the latter. I think you have room
in your heart for another dog. I think so too.
Speaker 1: I think I love having a dog in my house.
I love I feel like the house feels really empty
without a dog, right, Okay, But I also understand that
it has not been very long. I mean it was
before just like a week before Thanksgiving, only mid December.
I do intellectually understand. But so Xander started going mom
like I'm not over Pepo yet, and I was like, well,
to get over.
Speaker 2: Under one.
Speaker 1: So now I'm being a little bit flippant because I'm
also like, I can't take him that seriously, Like he's.
Speaker 2: Leaving anyway, He's leaving me, He'll be going to college room. Well,
who are you to I'm just listen.
Speaker 1: He's not going to listen to this, hopefully, So I'm
just being honest with you, guys, and you to tell
you that. In my mind, I was like, who the
fuck are you to tell me? When we can get
another dog. Yeah, you got no chores in this house,
you got no job, you got no chores to.
Speaker 2: Walk the dog.
Speaker 1: See yeah right, never even had a chore When it
came to people, I mean, listen, I do not want
to sell my kid short. He is super sensitive. He
is the one that when we went out of town once,
he did all the people, he did all the walks,
he made sure she remember.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's a good, responsible kid. And I know this
in retrospect. This didn't have to do with him not
wanting the responsibility. It had to do with him still
feeling sad about people. But I could not really see
that in the moment, and it was more like you're
gonna get over it. Like if I know better, I
know better.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm the mom, I know better. I still think
I know better.
Speaker 1: So then Xander starts going I was like, well, listen,
Sadie was kind of in the room, so she saw this,
and I think Sadie and I are right. But he
was kind of dictating to me a little bit. He's like,
we're not ready for a dog, and I was like, well,
maybe you're not.
Speaker 2: It would be my dog.
Speaker 1: I'll be the one taking care of the dog, and
then I started to get a little bit mad and
kind of like yeah, like, who are you to tell
you're not in charge here?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: So then Xander goes, well, you're not respecting, like I'm
not over Pepo yet or I'm like whatever, and then
even I was like, well that's disrespectful to me, you know.
And then he, I think he started to walk out
the room, and Sadie looked at me and she goes, well,
that was awkward, like she goes, that wasn't cool him,
and I was like, yeah, I go I get it.
I've been working them really hard. And Sadie's like, well,
I'm with you. I'm ready for another dog. Now I'm like, okay,
family's divided, right. But then I don't know. I usually
don't get mad at Xander, but I started to feel
kind of pit I was like, yeah, the fuck, Like
I felt a little bit ganged up on, Like his
attitude was like, well, Dad and I are not over,
which then hurt my feelings because I felt like he
was kind of implying like, well, I guess your heart's
made of stone and like you don't care about people anymore,
but I do. And I was like bitch. I care
about the people the most, you know what I mean,
Like I was like I was the saddest about them.
Speaker 2: Became a competition who was my mind better one?
Speaker 1: So then Xander leaves and but he's I think feeling
a little bit like, uh oh, is mom mad at me?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: So he had originally said like that, he and Sadie
we're going to go get a bagel, and I was
like I'll come. Then Xander goes, uh, are you coming
for a bagel? And you know, of course I was
like no, thank you.
Speaker 2: I know those kind of arguments, right, yeah, no, thanks yeah,
and he goes okay.
Speaker 1: So then he walked out and apparently John I guess
this happened while he was out of the room. And
then John was like, what's what's wrong or whatever, and
he goes, I guess he said something like I don't know,
I think Mom's upset or whatever, and then John was like,
of course not, she'd never be upset at you, because
that is pretty rare. So then John comes in and
he's like, are you okay?
Speaker 2: What do you think?
Speaker 1: I said no, I'm not No. I said yeah, I'm fine,
I'm fine. And then he was like, well, you don't
seem fine. You see you look like you were crying.
And I was like, I'm fine, Like what's wrong is
did I do something? And I was like, no, Sander
did and he was like what And then I was
Then I started crying and I was like, I just
really want a dog.
Speaker 2: I'm ready to have a dog.
Speaker 1: I really really want a dog.
Speaker 2: I want to love on a dog. Yeah. He was like,
oh no, well, of course, like we will get a dog.
Speaker 1: And I was like, no, but I want a dog now.
Speaker 2: By the end of this, I don't like, we will.
Speaker 1: Get a dog.
Speaker 2: That's so nebulous, right, And.
Speaker 1: Then I just started feeling like I'm a fucking adult
like you. I mean, all of a sudden, I kind
of I resented being married having a fan, like, well,
I have to run shit by people like I'm a
grown ass woman, Like I decide when I want to
have dogs. If I want to have a dog, right
fucking now, I'm gonna go get a dog. Obviously I
can't do that, yes, And then I was like and
then John, because he's very sweet, he was like, honey, like,
I'm not the boss you like we you know what
I mean, I'm never going to be like, no, we're
not having a dog's I'm just asking that you give
me like a little bit more time.
Speaker 2: I'm still grieving, like I'm us people every day. And
I was like, I know, but I don't understand why
we can't grieve people and have another dog.
Speaker 1: And I gave him all the reasons which I gave you.
We've got this house, we don't have a dog, we
have dog stuff, we have time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, from home, you would love like looking forward to
your walks, right to take people out?
Speaker 1: Right, Yes, I said that. I was like, it gives
my life like some order, like I like getting up
with my dog and yes, my dog for a walk,
and it gives me like ritual. And he was like,
I totally understand all that he's like, and Xander understands
it too, but everybody grieves differently, and Xander and I
just might need more time. And then I was like,
you know it didn't end right there. I wasn't like, Okay,
I understand. It seems like you two are a caho.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it does feel like you're getting ganged up on, right,
said you're both and John's like, I swear to god,
I've never had this conversation with Xander.
Speaker 1: He's like, just Xander is super sensitive too, And I'm like, oh,
I'm not sensitive. I guess. I guess I just have
a heart made of stone, like I didn't care about.
Speaker 2: People, you know. I was a little sarcastic. Yeah, great, right.
Speaker 1: And then John was just like, look like you were.
I mean, of course, he said all the right, you know.
He was just like you were the best dog mom,
like you know, of course, And I understand. I understand
where you're coming from. And I also understand where Xander's
coming from. And and I said, well, you said if
we when we get a dog, or if we get
a dog in a year, And I was like, I
am not waiting a year. And he was like, I know,
I know. I totally like that. I upped my timeline.
I backed off of that. He's like, can we just
wait until after the holidays? Okay. I was like, okay,
but I still want the dog that I showed you.
And he goes, well, maybe that dog will still be
like it's in a foster home, like maybe that dog,
but can we just wait till the right dog comes
to us?
Speaker 2: Yeah? And I was like, when I already came to us.
I know, and I did, I said, but it already did.
Speaker 1: It's the one I showed you.
Speaker 2: I want that dog.
Speaker 1: And he's like, I know, but you have showed me
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Speaker 1: So okay, So this morning, I'm not Trader Joe's and
I see and I've never run into him in Trader
Joe's before I see my cross the street neighbor. You've
heard me talk about my neighbor Mitch a lot, but
you might not have heard me talk about my neighbor Josh.
So Josh and his wife.
Speaker 2: It's so funny.
Speaker 1: Josh is running for Congress right now. Really yeah, anyway,
it's that part doesn't really matter. It's neither here nor
there except that signs with his name or all over
our neighborhood. But anyway, when I met Josh, he had
this big dog named Louie, who was old similar age
to Pipo that well, so he was maybe one year
older than Pepo. And there came a day when Josh
was like, hey, we're putting Louie down and they had
he had Louise since for a long time, well, he
had Louise since lou was a puppy. Louis was fourteen,
and he was like, we're putting Louie down. And I
was so sad, of course, and then he was like,
you know, do you want to like bring people over
to like say hi, and like I'm trying to like
have Louis say bye to the dogs in the neighborhood.
Speaker 2: It was sad.
Speaker 1: Then when I realized. So then afterward, not that far after,
in my mind, too soon, they were like talking about
their next dog. Okay, so they were like, we're getting
a mastiff dog.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: And I was had all kinds of little judgments in
my head. I was like, first of all, you guys
have a little little little kid, do you really I
didn't say this out loud. I was judging in my right, right,
you really want a giant like one hundred and fifty
pounds mastiff like with a baby. But I guess they
thought they knew better.
Speaker 2: Right, Oh gosh. They were like, we're the ones who
are have the dog, right, No Xander telling them no.
Speaker 1: Xander policing the eruction right at John Tag teaming. So anyway,
in my mind, I'm like, wow, they this was seemed
very soon after Okay, So anyway, they've had this dog, gus, gorgeous, fun,
big goofy mastiff for I mean, it's got to have
been like a year at this point. So I texted
Josh when we were going to put Peopo down and
the company we wanted to use didn't have any appointments
on the day we wanted, and I texted him and.
Speaker 2: I was like, hey, what did you use for your dog?
Speaker 1: And he gave me the name of a company turned
out another anyway, so that's the company I used, right,
So I hadn't seen him. Literally, I ran into him
because I avoid all of the neighborhood people that walk
their dogs because it makes me sad. Yeah, and a
blinking of them. All of our neighbors have dogs.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So I see him at Trader Joe's this morning, and
he's like, oh my god, how you know. He gave
me like sad clown face, like yeah, how are you
you know? And I was like, well, funny you should ask.
I was like, is this crazy? But I already want
another dog? And then I just spilled it. I was like,
but John and like Xander don't want another dog. And
he goes and I said, and I know you go Gus,
like not too long after, and he goes, well, it's
funny that you should say that. He goes because I
was like John and Xander, he was like, I do
not want another dog right now. I'm grieving, and he said.
My wife is the one that was like, you know what,
you're not yourself. You're really sad, and I think it's
I think we need a dog, he said. At first
he was very resistant, and then he said that when
they got I thought he was all super gung ho.
Speaker 2: I thought it was his idea.
Speaker 1: Right right then when they got the dog, he told
me that he was like kind of resentful. And he
said that one time he said out loud to his dog,
like Gus, you are not Louie. Oh so you're just
you're not You're not Louie. And he goes, I feel
almost bad about that, and he goes. But then like
something started to change in me and now like I
know Gus isn't Louie, but he's his own, like he's
really his own dog, and and wetted, he started talking
about Louie and I started talking about Penelope. Then we
both started crying and Trader Joe's in the produce area
of Trader Joe's, and then he was like, Ash, should
I hug you? And then we hogged, and then we
talked more, and then we hugged again, and then I
felt better.
Speaker 2: Right, Wow, so he was kind of resentful. I mean,
I'm just trying to think. I remember when Molly passed away.
The kids were little, they were in fourth grade, and
I just I remember thinking immediately after Molly was gone, like,
I think we need to get another dog, like soon,
and you know, Adam was just kind of like, eh,
you know, we'll get one when we get one, when
the right time is right or whatever. I missed having
that dog. I missed having that routine with the dog,
having that dog follow me everywhere I went. You know.
It was just like there was this hole in my
heart and I felt like having a new dog would
like fulfill, you know. And then I can't remember how
much longer it took, but it wasn't very long after
until we got Phil. And it wasn't that, No, it
was a few months, it's maybe six.
Speaker 1: I do feel like when I've looked back at our
past shows. Yeah, because I've I've played the best of
episode when you got Phil, right, it was not far
apart of me getting Penelope.
Speaker 2: Oh really, do you remember what year you got Phil? Yeah,
we got Phil at the end of two thousand and fifteen,
so it was.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, so we got Penelope in twenty sixteen. Okay,
but she was already probably four or five years old. Right,
you got Phil as a puppy.
Speaker 2: We got Phil as a puppy in December, and Molly
died in September, No, no, August, August, September, October and
then December. Yeah, and that's how long it took to
get Phil.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then how did you feel about that?
Speaker 2: By then, it was like everybody was excited. You know.
We were telling the kids, you know, you guys want
a dog for Christmas, you know, and Natali wanted to
you know, golden retriever, that's what she wanted, and blah
blah blah. And then and then Adam's assistant at the
time just coincidentally adopted Phil because he wanted a dog,
adopted him as a as a puppy, but then his
landlord wouldn't let him keep him. Told me how to
get rid of it. So he gave him to us.
His name was Dozer at the time. Now then we
change it to Phil. He only had him for like
a month, but yeah, we got lucky. So kind of
that's how it ended up. It felt like it felt natural.
By by December, it was like it's time, you know,
but I don't know if you have you need to
wait that long.
Speaker 1: Maybe after the holidays. Well then I'm going to have
to start in on him again, you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean I'm hoping that they come around. You know,
maybe the more you plant the seeds.
Speaker 1: Well, this is how well planting the seed's gone, like
it caused to fight.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well you show me another dog.
Speaker 1: I will say that I apologized to Xander and he
was like, oh my gosh, like you don't have to apologize,
Like I totally understand where you're coming from, and like, yeah,
you know, he was really sweet. He was so sweet.
I didn't do anything that wrong, but you know, I'm
big on like.
Speaker 2: I don't like there to be tension of course. Yeah, yeah,
I was just like sorry.
Speaker 1: I said, I'm sorry. I had a meltdown and I
said it was a little uncalled for and it's you know,
Billy had nothing to do with you. I get where
you're coming from. And then he said, I'm thank you.
He said, thank you for saying that. I'll tell you
exactly what he said. It was really sweet. Yeah, I
love I like apologizing. Yeah, I know, I know it's
good to kids.
Speaker 2: It's good because they learn how to do it for
them in their you know, relationships.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he said, oh, because then I tried to Oh,
I said, I said, Hi, stupid, sorry for my meltdown.
I was just having a sad about Peeps day and
really want a new dog eat to love on.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. I wasn't respecting your take on things. I
get it. That isn't that was guy.
Speaker 1: And then he said, Hi, Mama, don't worry about it.
I really appreciate you saying that. But I also totally
understand where you're coming from. And losing Peeps has been
super hard.
Speaker 2: Oh I know, yeah, I guess everybody. You know, they
grieve differently from my kids. They loved Mollie, but they
weren't like really attached to Mollie, you know, and so
by then they were like, Okay, we're ready for our
own dog now, you know, like starting fresh, right, you know.
And then I remember showing the tally of saying a
golden retriever, a golden Retriever. And then when we knew
we were going to get Phil, I go, what do
you think about a lab like a black lab? And
she's like, I don't know, and I showed her the
picture of Phil when he was a puppy. She burst
into tears. She was like, oh my, got that face. Yes,
I like, I'd like, I didn't tell them. I didn't
tell her like that's going to be your dog. Just
wanted to get her a reaction. And then of course,
like Christmas morning, Molly, Phil came wandering in with the
red bow half around him, wandering into the into the
living room while they were opening presents, and she's burst
into tears crying. I gotta call Cammy right away. And
so it's like when it does happen the kids, and
I think your kids are well, it's now it's tough
because they're older and they're going to be off, you know,
doing their thing.
Speaker 1: That's partially the reason that I had such a I
think I'm having a little bit of and I know
you get it. Of all people, I'm having a little
bit of like, oh my god, my kids are going
to be yeah, eighteen, they're really starting to just live
their own lives.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: Even the other night, uh well this was also last
last night. A lot of stories for us sure coming
out yesterday. Yeah, you know, we were trying to figure
out which have dinner just with John and and he
was like.
Speaker 2: Should I just order order pizza?
Speaker 1: And I was like yeah, So we ordered like two
large pizzas for the five of us. Then John goes,
I've already ordered the pizzas. He's getting ready to go
get him and he goes. So Albi and Sadie are
saying they're going to go out for dinner, and I
was like, no, just ordered dinner right or no? Right?
I just it It just but it made me realize.
And they didn't go out for dinner. They went out
for a sweet treat. Yeah. But I was just like,
they're going to be living their own lives, and their
lives doing center around family dinner or home taking care
of the dog or and I'm going to be more
or less like alone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you're gonna want your next dog to like,
you know, be young and healthy and the dog that
you want you know that you pick out and there's
so many dogs where you look at it, and there's
been so many times when like Phil needs a friend,
I'm gonna find one for him, and I'll look I'll go,
oh my god, this dog is perfect, sounds perfect for Phil.
But then I don't really pull the trigger. So yeah, I've.
Speaker 1: Got to show you this. I'll pull it up and
then i'll show it to you after, or I'll share
it whatever.
Speaker 2: I don't know now I'm obsessed with, right, But they
always there's always going to be the next dog that's
going to pull out your heart strings that you're gonna go, oh,
this one's gonna be perfect too. You know, I don't
have to get one from Texas, No, this one is La. Yeah.
Speaker 1: When I'm my new one that I'm obsessed with, I wish,
I just want to His name is Clyde.
Speaker 2: Clyde.
Speaker 1: Isn't that the cutest name?
Speaker 2: That is the cutest names?
Speaker 1: So his name is Clyde. He's in a foster home,
so that makes me know that, Okay, I'm sure that
he's fine in the foster home and still after the holidays.
Right anyway, he's he sounds a lot like Penelope he's
just like they said, he's just like a total couch potato.
He'll like lay at your feet really good on a leash,
like just a really obedient and sweet and wants to
cuddle all the time and doesn't isn't really that interested
in other dogs, right, not bad with other dogs, but
doesn't care.
Speaker 2: So like it's like film, which is like Penelope. Yeah, yeah, she.
Speaker 1: Couldn't really be bothered with any other dogs except for
a couple.
Speaker 2: What kind of dog is it? Is it mixed like.
Speaker 1: A pit bull, like a pit boxer mix. Oh, dolls
are cute. So it's got a little bit of a
boxer snout, but it's a pit head. Yeah, pitface, pitface,
Yeah with boxer snout. It's really cute. He's like sixty
five pounds, same as Penelope. People different than Penelope. But
I like a dog with a really mellow temperament.
Speaker 2: Yeah me too, me too.
Speaker 1: As soon as they say like this spirited girl around
from like, no.
Speaker 2: That too much, too much. I don't need a dog
that's going to dart out the front door. I have
to go chase him around the block. Right, No, those
days are over. I had that, No, I no, thank you.
I had that with my dog Snoopy that we grew
up with. Could never leave the front door open. You
just take off. Molly did it when she was young.
She would just take off. Phil did it a little bit.
But Phil would be like over like he would just
be like by himself, kind of going like I'm just
gonna sneak over here. And the next thing, you know,
like he's on Facebook, going, anybody know this dog is?
There's Phil on Facebook seen on the horse trail right
over by Thompson Street. Like great, Yeah, that's happened a
few times when I was at my condo. Yeah I don't. Yeah,
and I like a little more mellow dog, you know.
Speaker 1: Well now Phil's a little bit older too, so you
really get like yellow.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's very right.
Speaker 1: How's his health?
Speaker 2: His health is good, Like you know, I take him
for walks, and he doesn't have this the stamina that
he used to like we used to be able to go,
I know, our out and now he just kind of
after I get halfway through our route, he just plops
on the grass and he doesn't want to get up,
and then he just lays there and then I'll go, okay,
let's go home. Let's go home. And then eventually he
gets up and then he slowly walks back home. So
I think he's okay. He's got that spine thing going
on where his you know, something in between his vertebrates,
the cow the collagen is like getting thinner and thin,
like it's not so it's not easy to bend, you know,
it's hard to explain. But so, but he gets his
his his uh, his vitamins and his you know, pain
meds and stuff.
Speaker 1: So he's he take carprofen.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he does twice a day.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm going to give you a bottle
of it.
Speaker 2: I need it. I'm almost my refills. Oh my refills almost.
I have like a bottle and a half. Really yeah,
oh yeah, I'll take you.
Speaker 1: Take a half. Does he do a half and then
a half at the end.
Speaker 2: No, he takes one and once one hundred milliground twice
a day. I had twice. I don't know if it's
a hundred, but he takes one pill twice a day.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, anyway, I have one hundred one hundred and
I have a bottle of thirty and a bottle of
like still like half.
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, keep it for me. Also, while we're talking
about our dogs. I have a painting coming for you
and it's on its way. And now we're not going
to see each other next week.
Speaker 1: That's okay. So we also our friend Betsy, Oh where
is it? There's a bag. Our friend Betsy gave us
a picture and I want you know what. We'll open
it between shows and we will for the next show.
Speaker 2: We'll talk about it. Okay.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she hit us a drawing of our dogs and
she made one for Robin two. Oh really, and then
Robin just brought it to me yesterday.
Speaker 2: I brought it for you. Ah.
Speaker 1: Okay, wait. And also before we go, this is important.
So I presented Wiles mom yes.
Speaker 2: With our gift and oh my god, I how did
that go?
Speaker 1: How? I gave her over thirty six hundred dollars?
Speaker 2: Wow? And oh, you guys are the best.
Speaker 1: She teared up and she I mean, and she didn't
even know how much it was, but I told her
it's I was like, girl, this is more than last year.
I believe last year was like thirty one or thirty two.
So she was just like, you don't understand, like how
much this helps me? And like she said, she was
like I she goes, this helps me with my rent.
I need like, she goes, it's really hard and I
just am determined to never be homeless again. And I
was like, and she was like, please. She doesn't understand
because I've never said I have a podcast and I
talk about you and your whole story. I don't want
to embarrass her. Yeah, in any way, Yeah, all she knows,
and all she needs to know is that there's a
whole community of people that care about her and love
her and have followed her story. And so she's like, please, please,
thank everybody, please and tell everybody how much this means
to me.
Speaker 2: That's so nice.
Speaker 1: So that happened.
Speaker 2: That feels good. That's awesome.
Speaker 1: When I tell you how cool this woman is. How
like so her As you know obviously, Lyle goes to
school with Xander and has since tenth grade. And now
her younger daughter, Goes is in ninth grade. So both
her kids are at school with my kids, and it's
so much better for her, and the school is closer
to her apartment, and you know, her kid is thriving.
As I've told you, Lyle got into school and he's
working with a college counselor to help him get into
a school where he could have a fully free ride.
Everything heard, But like she shows up for every event
even though she works really hard.
Speaker 2: She's there it comes to school.
Speaker 1: She's in the front row for the kids music show,
like hands in her lap. And then she also is
always the first one to be like, I'll bring something
like oh, bake sale, I'll bring something. And she sat
with me and because we just had the kids big
music show, which I'll also talk about maybe I'll talk
about that on Friday's episode. But I needed other parents
to help me, and she was with me like the
whole time, except when her kids were like on stage.
Speaker 2: She's just that person. Yeah, she's a good mom, and
you know, it feels good to give her something. I'm
sure she doesn't get like a Christmas bonus every year
like some people.
Speaker 1: God no, she makes minimum wait and she doesn't even
get full hours at this place. But she's scared to
quit that job for another job because what if it's
not stable, Like I can't afford to be out of
work for like one day, right right, Yeah, that's such
a great gift.
Speaker 2: I'm so glad. I'm so glad you did that, Stephanie.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm so glad everybody chipped in like it.
I always feel very awkward being like, okay, we spend
some money, right, this is the last year that I
will have done it because my kids won't be in
school with her kids. Yeah, like yeah, kind of weird
right in a way, but you know, it just feels
good to like a send off.
Speaker 2: Thing and like, yeah, everybody's so great to rally together.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Like what I was saying is I feel like
a little awkward asking, but then everybody is so like
of course. And then people just start sending me money
and I write, oh, that's so wonderful. And I go
to the bank and go.
Speaker 2: I'm taking out a lot of cash. And they think
I'm doing a drug deal. Right, let them think it. Yeah,
let them think it.
Speaker 1: Let them think I'm cooler than I am.
Speaker 2: That's great. Okay, should we say hello.
Speaker 1: To our friends. Well, we've got Dick, he's frollicking frolining.
We got Nikki. Call your girl. Elizabeth Williamson has like
seventeen kids last counted.
Speaker 2: Wow, Rita Christmas gifts is.
Speaker 1: Rita's name reminds me of a basset hound. So and
they're so cute.
Speaker 2: They are cute.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Polly, we love your pancakes. Really, this is Zerrup
and Valerie, Bubba Fenwick hits out of the park and Katerina.
I have a little piece of beef jerky stuck in
my moler. So I thought of you and Gabby and Missy.
You guys are crazy, Yeah, Merry.
Speaker 2: Christmas is Shaun so cute? Rebecca a little bit baby
is so cute too, Kelly Brandt, she will gass it up.
Speaker 1: Right in the city of El Monte. Leslie, get over
COVID already, girl, it's not a thing anymore. That's a hoax.
Take a cough drop. Terren's a dirty Sanchez, Jennifer, get up, Sandra,
it's not easy being green. Stephanie's a stinker rinker and
christa kiss strap also core anymore? Is I e embroidery?
On Facebook? They do custom hats, polos whatever you want.
Almost said custom poyos. So I was reading it wrong.
Kaylie Pettis. She's a marriage and family therapist. She's in Seattle,
but she can see clients virtually across Washington State. She
helps high achieving women who feel confident in every area
of life except their love lives. You know, what look
her up at Emerald Bloomtherapy dot com. Also my friend
friend of the show avid listener can't say her name,
but she has a medium dot com account where she
talks a lot of shit about her ex husband, who
sounds like a total fucking nightmare. And they're really good stories.
Oh but enjoy Linnette. Yeah, it's called at Unbecoming Stories.
Then The Family Skeptical. That's a podcast about raising kids
with no religion. Also Willman Frida, Palm Springs, Palm Desert,
go there, visit, have the salmon. Tell them you're crying
out loud listener, Ask for Kelly. Yeah, Basic Becky she's
at just Basicbecky dot com or basic Becky on Facebook.
She's got makes t shirts, mousepads, mugs, whatever you want,
she got it for you. Also, if you're on the
island of Kawaii, that's in Hawaii. In case you didn't know, go.
Speaker 2: To Sugar Skull.
Speaker 1: That's our friend Maren's business she has with her husband.
It's a bakery. It's a gift shop. They do wedding cakes.
Go to Instagram and look up sugar Skull eight eight
and give them a follow. Make it worth their while,
advertise with us. If you're going to go to Hawaii,
why would you not use a travel agent who is
a listener of our show. And her name is Christine
Black and she is with Waves and Wonder Travel Okay Facebook,
Christine Concierge travel planner. Jacob Crowley, He's Crowley and he
also is humping up the ACLU. Let's go go. Let's
go ACLU lawyers that are standing up for our rights.
Come on, give him all money.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Fern Candle Kelsey. She runs the business out of her home.
She makes delicious smelling soy candles like tobacco, stage, lavender, sandalwood. Listen.
Soy is a renewable resource. It's better for the environment.
Find her on Insta at Fern Candle and every episode.
Adam Adam's got a car. He's my friend. I trust
him with my life. He's got me my car.
Speaker 2: I love it. He's so easy to talk to, super friendly.
Speaker 1: Go to his thing. Adam's got a car and then
just send him a text. Yeah, and be like FCOL listener.
He's constantly working with FCOL people.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Anyway, that's it.
Speaker 2: Thanks. I want to say a quick hi to Robin Cole,
who Mike Gerstein did her plumbing and she's a huge
fan of ours and loves our show's been listening to
you for years, and I said I'd say hi to her.
So thank you, Rob, and we love you.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Christmas and Merry Christmas everybody. Next week you'll
have Lbie in your earbuds.
Speaker 2: That's right, is really good, really good?
Speaker 1: Yeah, and we love you guys.
Speaker 2: I love you.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I see you Friday, your parent. Now, don't suck it up,
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