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<v Speaker 1>Energy, set canst I'm so high ecstasy sag canst it?

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<v Speaker 2>Not sorry? And energy? What's up? Positive bitches? I am

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<v Speaker 2>bear faced with my glasses on because I have yet

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<v Speaker 2>another problem with my eye because things just love getting

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<v Speaker 2>into it. For some unknown reason. It is Wednesday, according

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<v Speaker 2>to the Greg Gorvigan calendar that I don't even believe in.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, some pope just decided on that. Whatever. This

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<v Speaker 2>has been my energy all week. Okay, So if you're

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<v Speaker 2>here for some like calming initiation, I'm sorry, click off.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not happening today. It's just not happening. I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like I went through seven lifetimes and it's Wednesday. It's Wednesday,

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<v Speaker 2>and now I'm sweating, and now I'm setting You know, God, Hi,

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<v Speaker 2>clip season, how the hell are you? I got a

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<v Speaker 2>trim today on my hair. If anyone's feeling called to

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<v Speaker 2>clean out their closet to trim their hair, and I said, trim,

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<v Speaker 2>don't cut. Don't go for a bobcut if you know

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<v Speaker 2>your facial structure is not meant for a bob cut.

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<v Speaker 2>This is not me being mean. I'm We're just being real.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to protect you on that front. Okay, this

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<v Speaker 2>episode's gonna be absolutely insane. I couldn't even comprehend how

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<v Speaker 2>to draft a script for this. I couldn't even comprehend

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<v Speaker 2>what to talk about. So I asked you, beautiful positive bitches,

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<v Speaker 2>to DM me on Instagram. If you're not yet following

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<v Speaker 2>me on Instagram. It's at Vibe with C Seats always

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<v Speaker 2>going to be in the show notes literally every week. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm just feeling like we just need to have

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<v Speaker 2>a chat. I don't want to tell you to get

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<v Speaker 2>a course. I don't care. Get it if you want,

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<v Speaker 2>get my book if you want, I don't care. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't care. Let's just have a chat. Okay, Grab some tea,

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<v Speaker 2>grab your beverage. Okay, I try not to go for

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<v Speaker 2>the one with nine thousand chemicals. Okay, maybe a grab

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<v Speaker 2>an f to give because I've lost all of mine

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<v Speaker 2>on my own hero's journey. Thank you so much, Lord God.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe you're feeling this energy too, I don't know, or

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it's just me. Maybe I've lost all my marbles

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<v Speaker 2>and maybe this is just what life is now, fine

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<v Speaker 2>by me? Sure, great, love it surrendering. Let's get into

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<v Speaker 2>these questions, shall we? Or should I just keep literally

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<v Speaker 2>spiraling on camera. Awesome. How did you get into spirituality

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<v Speaker 2>and how do identify the messages from higher self angels?

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<v Speaker 2>I got into spirituality because I had a mental breakdown

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<v Speaker 2>that actually ended up being a breakthrough to just spill

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<v Speaker 2>all the tea. I swear this is true. I went

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<v Speaker 2>to a church and I prayed, screamed, cried at God,

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<v Speaker 2>and I said, look, look, I don't know what my

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<v Speaker 2>purpose is. All right? You have me in college and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm double major in communications. I could literally go anywhere

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<v Speaker 2>and do anything with that. What am I meant to

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<v Speaker 2>be doing? I at least had the intelligence to ask

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<v Speaker 2>God what to do instead of a parent or a

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<v Speaker 2>sibling or a friend. I knew to go to the

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<v Speaker 2>divine when you're trying to figure out your purpose or

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<v Speaker 2>the next step. I don't know who needs to hear

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<v Speaker 2>this right now, but stop going to Betsy, John and Phil.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't know shit. They don't know shit. You want answers,

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<v Speaker 2>plug into the divine, do a prayer. Would you go

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<v Speaker 2>to a holy place of worship, get into meditation. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't care, go to the secret place within, but stop

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<v Speaker 2>asking mere mortals who don't even know what they're doing

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<v Speaker 2>and give terrible advice to advise you. Does that realistically

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<v Speaker 2>make any sense to me? I will end up in

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<v Speaker 2>an asylum. Oh yeah, I will. If I ask other

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<v Speaker 2>people for advice, you'll see me and I'll have a

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<v Speaker 2>stick with a little pillowcare filled with two lip glosses,

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<v Speaker 2>and I will be walking my way into an asylum.

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<v Speaker 2>Because every time I've asked someone for advice that was

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<v Speaker 2>not like a shaman or a coach, or an energy

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<v Speaker 2>healer or even a therapist, their advice made me feel

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<v Speaker 2>absolutely terrible, terrible. They don't understand your situation like you do.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes you're gonna have to for shit. Sometimes you're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>have to flow with shit. Sometimes you're gonna have to

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<v Speaker 2>do this weird in between dance. But that's what life is.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a dance with destiny. And the person who's going

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<v Speaker 2>to understand that the most is the divine. Your angels,

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<v Speaker 2>your spirit team, go to them. How I got into spirituality,

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<v Speaker 2>as I was saying, is I went to this church.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, God, give me the goods, show me my purpose,

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<v Speaker 2>and I did do the prayer that everyone's afraid to do,

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<v Speaker 2>and that was remove whatever needs to be removed within,

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<v Speaker 2>Like what three days I found out my then person,

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<v Speaker 2>and to be honest, our relationship wasn't good. I was

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<v Speaker 2>still blind, but we were in a sticky, weird season.

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<v Speaker 2>I always reference that episode of Friends where Rachel is like,

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<v Speaker 2>we were together, and Ros said, we were on a break.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like that. And I found out that he

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<v Speaker 2>slept with someone in the same twelve hours as me.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, cool, awesome. Dan Day loves that. So when

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<v Speaker 2>I found that out, I never screamed in my relationship

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<v Speaker 2>literally ever. I don't operate like that. And I started

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<v Speaker 2>to get a little screamy, a little cray cry, and

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<v Speaker 2>and then I started laughing and he was staring at me,

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<v Speaker 2>like WTF. How do you go from screaming crying to laughing?

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<v Speaker 2>And it was because I knew God was real in

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<v Speaker 2>that moment, I said, oh damn God, like that was

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<v Speaker 2>that was quick. I'm not gonna lie like you stood

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<v Speaker 2>on business with that one. And I just knew he

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<v Speaker 2>had to go. So I kicked him out of my

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<v Speaker 2>house and I played Lemonade by Beyonce and I just

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<v Speaker 2>danced and I cried and everyone thought I was crazy

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<v Speaker 2>and I felt crazy, but knowing God existed gave me something.

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<v Speaker 2>It gave me the missing puzzle piece, the key that

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<v Speaker 2>would start this whole, entire spiritual journey. And then I

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<v Speaker 2>ended up going to a therapist, and thank god I

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<v Speaker 2>went to this specific therapist because she told me, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what, I'm getting goosewumps right now. This really changed

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<v Speaker 2>my life. She says, I know you have the ability

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<v Speaker 2>to transcend this. You need to read the Power of Now.

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<v Speaker 2>And so I did, and it changed my life. That's

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<v Speaker 2>a book by ed cart Tole, and I want to

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<v Speaker 2>say to you right now, I know that whatever you're

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<v Speaker 2>going through, whatever the circumstances, you have the ability to

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<v Speaker 2>transcend this shit. Read the book The Power of Now.

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<v Speaker 2>You can read my book show up as her I

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<v Speaker 2>outline this all for you. It's a great book regardless

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<v Speaker 2>of where you are on a spiritual journey, whether you're

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<v Speaker 2>beginning or you are deep into it, it will give

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<v Speaker 2>you the medicine you need. In that moment, somewhere along

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<v Speaker 2>those pages, and I decided that I didn't know where

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<v Speaker 2>I was going, but I was not going to let

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<v Speaker 2>someone who hurt me make me hurt myself. Further, I

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<v Speaker 2>was not going to get some sort of weird addiction

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<v Speaker 2>I was not going to be addicted to oreos anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>I was not going to become worse. If someone hurt me,

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<v Speaker 2>that's fine, that's part of life. I was not going

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<v Speaker 2>to hurt myself. So I read every book, I studied

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<v Speaker 2>every experiment, quantum physics wise, I committed myself to energetic excellence.

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<v Speaker 2>And here I am. Here I am, And I would

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<v Speaker 2>just say I had no one in my life at

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<v Speaker 2>that time. I had liked maybe two friends at that time,

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<v Speaker 2>but I really didn't have anyone. I was scared to

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<v Speaker 2>judge me, and that was a blessing. If you're going

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<v Speaker 2>through a season where you don't really have friends or

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<v Speaker 2>family to rely on, or a relationship, let it be

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<v Speaker 2>and just do everything you've ever wanted to do. It's

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<v Speaker 2>actually better when you don't have a social circle when

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<v Speaker 2>you're trying to start something new, because you might think, well,

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<v Speaker 2>then where's my support. Your support comes from the divine.

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<v Speaker 2>Instead of having family and friends and a relationship that

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<v Speaker 2>I thought might judge me for what I was doing,

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<v Speaker 2>I literally said to myself, oh, I have literally nothing

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<v Speaker 2>to lose. I'm just gonna do whatever I want. Started

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<v Speaker 2>posting on TikTok and here the hell we are? How

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<v Speaker 2>do you know the messages are from angels? They will

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<v Speaker 2>be based in love. It won't always be what you

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<v Speaker 2>want to hear, but it will be based in love.

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<v Speaker 2>It will be a little whisper but clear, and you

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<v Speaker 2>won't have a reason why you have to do something.

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<v Speaker 2>You'll just know I have to break up with this person,

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<v Speaker 2>I have to move. That's your angels. I'm just gonna

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<v Speaker 2>play this and we'll listen together. Oh my goodness, Cecy.

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<v Speaker 1>I have a million questions for you, but I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to check one out, but I figured it'd be better

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<v Speaker 1>just send it like this.

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<v Speaker 2>I just I love you.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for your everything you do.

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<v Speaker 2>I've listened to your podcast for like a year straight now.

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<v Speaker 2>Really helped me bro and change and learn a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>So intelligent, so ill spoken, amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>My question is it's about relationships, which I'm guessing most

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<v Speaker 1>of these will be because while I understand and navigate

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<v Speaker 1>my life pretty well in most other areas, when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to relationships with men, granted, I was abused as

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<v Speaker 1>a child for years, sexually abused, and I know that

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<v Speaker 1>that's the reason.

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<v Speaker 2>I behaved the way I do.

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<v Speaker 1>When it comes to relationships, but I.

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<v Speaker 2>Let these men in my life.

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<v Speaker 1>They love Bomby, They're obsessed with me, and eventually they

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<v Speaker 1>fucked me over.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I'm begging for them to stave in my life,

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<v Speaker 2>and I repeat the pattern over and over.

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<v Speaker 1>How do I break the pattern?

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<v Speaker 2>What you have been through is so life altering and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry that those things happen

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<v Speaker 2>to you by vile people, beings, energies. I'm so sorry.

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<v Speaker 2>With that being said, I also want to remind you that, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>these people may have deeply affected you and deeply hurt

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<v Speaker 2>you and deeply altered your perception of self, of other

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<v Speaker 2>of relationship. I really have to say those people, the

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<v Speaker 2>people who do negative unto you, They will affect you,

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<v Speaker 2>but they don't have more power over you than you have.

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<v Speaker 2>They might cause some harm, they might cause some good,

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<v Speaker 2>But no one, no one, not one person has more

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<v Speaker 2>power over your reality than you. You have the power

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<v Speaker 2>to change how you feel about men. You have the

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<v Speaker 2>power to change your relationship to relationships. The first thing

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<v Speaker 2>I want to say is the same thing I thought

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<v Speaker 2>in my relationship when I ended it, and that is

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<v Speaker 2>if someone hurt me, Okay, fine, I'm not gonna hurt myself.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to make a decision, and it's not easy,

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<v Speaker 2>but it is simple. It's not easy, it is difficult,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's simple. You have to make a decision that

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<v Speaker 2>your past is no longer going to dictate your present

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<v Speaker 2>and your future. You have to make a decision that

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<v Speaker 2>you're not going to take this experience or maybe experiences,

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<v Speaker 2>because usually there's not one. Usually we've reattract and retraumatized ourselves.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to make a decision though that okay, Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>bad people exist. Negative people exist, Horrifying people exist. But

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<v Speaker 2>that's not the only type of men that exist. There's

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<v Speaker 2>also lovers and providers and grounded masculine energies. Some dogs

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<v Speaker 2>are vicious, not all dogs are vicious. Some men are terrible,

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<v Speaker 2>not all men are terrible. Some women are jealous, not

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<v Speaker 2>all women are jealous. So we have to start separating

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<v Speaker 2>ourselves from the story that we've been telling ourselves our

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<v Speaker 2>whole entire life. And you might say, well, see, see,

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<v Speaker 2>this is not just a story I experienced it. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>you experienced a specific circumstance, but that doesn't have to

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<v Speaker 2>when we are faced with so much pain that we

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<v Speaker 2>have no other choice but to change how we view something,

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<v Speaker 2>change the meaning, change your energy. Think about continuously living

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<v Speaker 2>within this earthly realm. No, think about living with this

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<v Speaker 2>belief for twenty more years, for thirty more years. That

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<v Speaker 2>is more hellish than any possible relationship that you could

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<v Speaker 2>get into right now. Nothing is worse than you using

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<v Speaker 2>your own imagination to stag yourself. That is more painful,

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<v Speaker 2>That is more violating than anything else. That is more

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<v Speaker 2>We really would have to do inner child's work. I

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<v Speaker 2>and do the energy work, where we're revisiting these specific

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<v Speaker 2>memories and we are rewiring your literal brain and also

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<v Speaker 2>releasing and shedding the older energies that are no longer

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<v Speaker 2>serving you. The first thing that you need to make

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<v Speaker 2>a change is awareness. The second thing, now, though, is interruption.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone love bombing you is not that interesting. Anyone can

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<v Speaker 2>do it. My grandma could do that to you. Someone

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<v Speaker 2>giving you attention is not that interesting. And I know

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<v Speaker 2>someone else actually because I saw it when I passed,

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<v Speaker 2>said how can I stay connected to myself and not

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<v Speaker 2>feel the void of needing male attention? What I really

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<v Speaker 2>want you to understand is that male attention is not

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<v Speaker 2>hard to get. It's not hard to get. So if

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<v Speaker 2>you're getting mail attention and they're love bombing you, or

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<v Speaker 2>they're showing up really great, Okay, awesome, cool, walk down

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<v Speaker 2>a street and you'll get mail attention. Mail attention is

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<v Speaker 2>not this hard to get commodity. It's not rare, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not that interesting. But when you tell yourself, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm getting the attention of this person and you place

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<v Speaker 2>them on your pedestal, that is illegal in CC's world. No,

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<v Speaker 2>not allowed. And I think, really, what this is is

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<v Speaker 2>you see someone and because you're in such a high vibration,

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<v Speaker 2>you could see who they could be so you romanticize

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<v Speaker 2>them and you really fill in all the blanks, but

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<v Speaker 2>you don't know them yet, and you're filling in the

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<v Speaker 2>blanks with your own fantasies instead of who they actually are.

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<v Speaker 2>The way to really face needing this male attention or

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, they love bombing me. I keep getting

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<v Speaker 2>stuck in these cycles is to give it time. Oh, time,

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<v Speaker 2>time is the cure to love. You'll see who they are.

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<v Speaker 2>The truth always comes out. Over time. You will see

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<v Speaker 2>exactly how they are. You got to give it at

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<v Speaker 2>least three months to see someone because then that's when

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<v Speaker 2>their attachment systems start to come online and you can

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<v Speaker 2>see how they actually operate. Everyone will not really everyone,

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<v Speaker 2>because I've seen people in the first three months be

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<v Speaker 2>absolutely horrifying. But most people will put on that mass

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<v Speaker 2>for at least three months because they're trying to show

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<v Speaker 2>up as their best self. You have to take accountability.

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<v Speaker 2>They might be love bombing you, but okay, you're accepting

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<v Speaker 2>and responding to it. If you have awareness around this,

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<v Speaker 2>then you need to now interrupt it. Oh look at

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<v Speaker 2>that and old behavior that I used to give into, Well,

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<v Speaker 2>that's not interesting anymore. Because Number one male attentions not

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<v Speaker 2>hard to get. Number two. I've been down this road

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<v Speaker 2>a million times. Why would I go down it again?

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<v Speaker 2>Why would I retrace my steps? What's the definition of

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<v Speaker 2>insanity but doing the same thing over and over and

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<v Speaker 2>over again and expecting a different result. If you didn't

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<v Speaker 2>get male attention from your father and so now you're

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<v Speaker 2>craving it, or whatever it may be, talk to Jesus,

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<v Speaker 2>talk to archangel Michael. Get mail attention from a divine

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<v Speaker 2>being that can actually guide you and give you really

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<v Speaker 2>amazing advice and show you the way. Not these NPCs.

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<v Speaker 2>There is a never ending source of men out there.

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<v Speaker 2>I promise you, I don't care what limiting reliefs are

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<v Speaker 2>out there. There's a never ending source you have to

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<v Speaker 2>plug into. What do I want and what do I

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<v Speaker 2>have to believe in order to get that? And then

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<v Speaker 2>you have to practice those sentences as affirmations every single

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<v Speaker 2>day of your life. If you're in a void and

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<v Speaker 2>you feel like you need mail attention or the first

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<v Speaker 2>person who comes in love bombing you, you are thinking,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, then

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<v Speaker 2>that just shows me your life is not fulfilled enough

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<v Speaker 2>that you need someone else to come on in and

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<v Speaker 2>give you attention or give you something to focus on.

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<v Speaker 2>Get a hobby. You have a hobby, great, get another one.

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<v Speaker 2>Read a new book, start working out, get more into

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<v Speaker 2>are there chemicals all in my food? Become healthier. Channel

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<v Speaker 2>your attention into something that's gonna build you up. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't care if it's your body, or your career or

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<v Speaker 2>anything else. A hobby, learn something new, become a more

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<v Speaker 2>well developed, well rounded, interesting person. You don't have enough

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<v Speaker 2>going on in your life. And that's why the first

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<v Speaker 2>man who comes into your life, you're like, yes, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna go this male attention is so good. It's really not.

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<v Speaker 2>It's it's you know, it's not that great. I get

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<v Speaker 2>it because as divine feminines, we crave connection and we

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<v Speaker 2>crave devotion. So that is there. But what else can

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<v Speaker 2>you be devoted to? Oh? Could it be yourself for

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<v Speaker 2>the meantime until someone shows up and they really can

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<v Speaker 2>give you everything you need, just don't even entertain it.

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<v Speaker 2>To me, I'm personally so over it. That's why I

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<v Speaker 2>won't go on a dating app. You can think I'm hot, Okay, wow,

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<v Speaker 2>that's still about you. You just want to what use

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<v Speaker 2>me as a whole no thanks. You can think I'm intelligent,

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<v Speaker 2>I also think that don't care. Unless you're showing up

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<v Speaker 2>and you can provide all that I need, I don't care.

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<v Speaker 2>And the way I got here is I was just

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<v Speaker 2>so frustrated and refuse to give my energy away because

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<v Speaker 2>I know what my energy can do. I can build

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<v Speaker 2>a business. I can write a book and now I'm

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<v Speaker 2>writing another one. I can create a following online. I

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<v Speaker 2>know what I can do with my energy when I

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<v Speaker 2>channel it in ways that I actually want to. So

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<v Speaker 2>why on God's green earth would I give my energy

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<v Speaker 2>to a man who has done nothing for me? And

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<v Speaker 2>that's what you need to be asking yourself where focus goes,

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<v Speaker 2>energy flows? Why are you giving your prime real estate,

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<v Speaker 2>which is your attention, your energy to a person you

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<v Speaker 2>don't even know. It's because you don't have enough going

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<v Speaker 2>on in your own life, and you need to find

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<v Speaker 2>something to channel your energy into. And when you do that,

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<v Speaker 2>you will be having this moment where you realize, Wow,

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<v Speaker 2>I realized what my energy can do. Why would I

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<v Speaker 2>give it to a random person when it can create

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<v Speaker 2>so much abundance, so much happiness, so much joy for me.

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<v Speaker 2>Someone asked, how do I stop falling from men so

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<v Speaker 2>easily at first, giving power away basically everything I just said.

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<v Speaker 2>But I also want to talk about something because I,

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<v Speaker 2>as a lover girl, have this just immediate knowing whether

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<v Speaker 2>someone is it for me or is not it for me?

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<v Speaker 2>And I really do believe that we could have potential husbands,

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<v Speaker 2>like multiple potential husbands that come into our life, and

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<v Speaker 2>it's kind of just up to us to say, am

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<v Speaker 2>I willing to settle for this or do I want

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<v Speaker 2>to keep going and seek out someone who's more in

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<v Speaker 2>alignment with me? And I fall deeply in love not

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<v Speaker 2>just with men, but not sexually with women, but deeply

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<v Speaker 2>in love with women too, my soulmate friendships. I love,

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<v Speaker 2>love love the women I have around me, and I

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<v Speaker 2>will know immediately if I love them or I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>about it. And it's the same thing for me in

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<v Speaker 2>relationships with men who I am actually attracted to and

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<v Speaker 2>want to have that intimacy with, I will know so quick.

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<v Speaker 2>But how do I balance this? Because if I am

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<v Speaker 2>to know fairly quickly and act on it, well, I

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<v Speaker 2>can run into some trouble. So I have non negotiables

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<v Speaker 2>for myself. Unless you are committed to me, and I'm

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<v Speaker 2>committed to you and we are in a solid relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not sleeping with you. I don't find that interesting. Sorry,

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<v Speaker 2>don't find it interesting. If I'm not in love with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I am completely abstinent. That's it. That's how I operate.

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<v Speaker 2>So I might know very quickly, oh this person's my

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<v Speaker 2>husband or they're not, and my mom will get so mad.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean she's like, say, say, stop saying it's not

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<v Speaker 2>your husband. Stop saying it's not your husband. Just go

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<v Speaker 2>out on more dates with them. And I used to

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<v Speaker 2>listen to her. This is why I go to God now,

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<v Speaker 2>not mere mortals. I used to listen to her, and

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<v Speaker 2>all I did was get effing burnt out and mad

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<v Speaker 2>as shit. And now I say to myself, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>I gotta trust my intuition. I gotta trust myself. I

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<v Speaker 2>know if someone's it for me or not, and I

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<v Speaker 2>will honor that. And if they are for me, great,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll keep it going. If they're not, they're getting cut

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<v Speaker 2>out out of the orbit. Now. If they are for me,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't mean I sleep with them right away. No,

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<v Speaker 2>I need to get to know them. I need months

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<v Speaker 2>in order to get to know who they are. So

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<v Speaker 2>what you do is you date them, you give yourself time.

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<v Speaker 2>Time is going to be your best friend. Now, I

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<v Speaker 2>want to talk about another thing that's related to this,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's called accelerated attachment. Now, there are healthy ways

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<v Speaker 2>to experience accelerated attachment. I have this for sure, and

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<v Speaker 2>they're unhealthy ways. So we're going to talk about if

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<v Speaker 2>we are lover girls, which means we can love easily,

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<v Speaker 2>which if you're listening to this you probably are. We're

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<v Speaker 2>going to talk about how do we be a lover girl,

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<v Speaker 2>but also safeguard ourselves, make sure that we're not just

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<v Speaker 2>giving our bodies, our hearts, our minds to just anyone,

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<v Speaker 2>because we don't want to deplete ourselves. Right. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to help you understand with what an accelerated attachment

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<v Speaker 2>is healthy versus unhealthy. When it's healthy, both people feel

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<v Speaker 2>the same pace of connection, attraction, and investment. It is

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<v Speaker 2>recis so you are not, therefore the one person in

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<v Speaker 2>the dynamic moving much faster. You are not feeling pressured,

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<v Speaker 2>and you're not feeling this weird hesitancy around moving forward.

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<v Speaker 2>So this means if you have accelerated attachment and it's healthy,

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<v Speaker 2>both people feel like they want to commit fairly early.

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<v Speaker 2>On a second date that I had with someone, we

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<v Speaker 2>professed our love for one another, and that to some

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<v Speaker 2>people might look like love bombing, But we truly were

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<v Speaker 2>in love and this man would have married me, and

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<v Speaker 2>I at the end of the day just didn't want

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<v Speaker 2>to be with him, but I did love him and

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<v Speaker 2>I'll always have love for him. We both had the

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<v Speaker 2>same pace of connection. We both had deep love for

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<v Speaker 2>one another. We both committed to one another. We both

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<v Speaker 2>deleted the abs before we even met. That's that's accelerated attachment.

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<v Speaker 2>That's fast. But the reason it can be seen as

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<v Speaker 2>healthy is because it's at least mutual. Okay, so that's

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<v Speaker 2>one green flag. If someone's love bombing you and you're like, wow,

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<v Speaker 2>this is really weird. I don't feel this for them,

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<v Speaker 2>but since they're choosing me, I guess I'll just choose

416
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<v Speaker 2>them back. No, no, no, that's a loser mentality to think, oh,

417
00:23:07.319 --> 00:23:09.160
<v Speaker 2>someone's choosing me, I'm just gonna choose them back. What

418
00:23:09.240 --> 00:23:12.680
<v Speaker 2>are you a loser? No, get back up, stand on

419
00:23:12.799 --> 00:23:16.079
<v Speaker 2>business and remember who you are. If they're love voming you,

420
00:23:16.240 --> 00:23:19.319
<v Speaker 2>red flag. If you're feeling all this attraction and feelings

421
00:23:19.319 --> 00:23:21.640
<v Speaker 2>for them, and they want to date other people. Red flag.

422
00:23:21.720 --> 00:23:24.599
<v Speaker 2>It should not be one person, it has to be mutual. Okay.

423
00:23:24.640 --> 00:23:28.200
<v Speaker 2>Another way accelerated attachment can show up in a healthy

424
00:23:28.240 --> 00:23:33.000
<v Speaker 2>way is it's driven by genuine compatibility, shared values, emotional openness.

425
00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:35.599
<v Speaker 2>So you are not just oh, god, I'm obsessed with

426
00:23:35.640 --> 00:23:38.240
<v Speaker 2>Brad but I don't know anything about him. No, you're saying, oh,

427
00:23:38.440 --> 00:23:42.160
<v Speaker 2>we want this same type of a life. Great, we

428
00:23:42.240 --> 00:23:48.279
<v Speaker 2>have the same values. We align pretty much politically, spiritually, religiously. However,

429
00:23:48.400 --> 00:23:52.680
<v Speaker 2>you fall into that box and you want the same thing,

430
00:23:52.960 --> 00:23:55.400
<v Speaker 2>the same type of family, the same type of dynamic.

431
00:23:56.039 --> 00:23:58.799
<v Speaker 2>When you recognize that, it makes a person more attractive,

432
00:23:58.839 --> 00:24:00.799
<v Speaker 2>so you might have more of an attach to them.

433
00:24:01.200 --> 00:24:05.000
<v Speaker 2>But that is okay because you're recognizing we're at the

434
00:24:05.039 --> 00:24:07.799
<v Speaker 2>same pace. We both have this deep connection and we

435
00:24:07.920 --> 00:24:10.319
<v Speaker 2>both want the same thing. There's a quote and it

436
00:24:10.400 --> 00:24:13.279
<v Speaker 2>says it's a shame to parallel lines never get to

437
00:24:13.279 --> 00:24:16.240
<v Speaker 2>meet because they're exactly the same. And I just love that.

438
00:24:16.640 --> 00:24:19.480
<v Speaker 2>But the reason I bring that up is because you

439
00:24:19.559 --> 00:24:22.359
<v Speaker 2>actually want to be like a parallel line with your partner,

440
00:24:22.720 --> 00:24:25.880
<v Speaker 2>meaning you're not really looking at each other, you're looking

441
00:24:25.920 --> 00:24:28.720
<v Speaker 2>in the same direction. You're not just falling in love

442
00:24:28.759 --> 00:24:30.920
<v Speaker 2>with each other, but you're falling in love with what

443
00:24:31.000 --> 00:24:35.000
<v Speaker 2>you're going to create together, something that's based in a

444
00:24:35.039 --> 00:24:39.039
<v Speaker 2>foundation and can create longevity. Now, it will be unhealthy

445
00:24:39.079 --> 00:24:42.039
<v Speaker 2>if it's driven by abandonment, loneliness, or filling a void.

446
00:24:42.599 --> 00:24:45.640
<v Speaker 2>So if you're just accelerating something because you're lonely, because

447
00:24:45.640 --> 00:24:47.480
<v Speaker 2>you don't have enough hobbies, because you have a fear

448
00:24:47.480 --> 00:24:50.680
<v Speaker 2>of abandonment, red flag unhealthy, Get out of there. It's

449
00:24:50.720 --> 00:24:54.400
<v Speaker 2>a green flag if boundaries are respected. Even with quick closeness,

450
00:24:54.440 --> 00:24:57.640
<v Speaker 2>there's a space for individuality. So you're not betraying yourself

451
00:24:57.680 --> 00:24:59.839
<v Speaker 2>in order to have them. You're not saying no to

452
00:25:00.200 --> 00:25:02.400
<v Speaker 2>friends all the time now never seeing them and just

453
00:25:02.440 --> 00:25:05.480
<v Speaker 2>seeing them. You have your non negotiables. You still go

454
00:25:05.480 --> 00:25:07.839
<v Speaker 2>to yoga. If you go to yoga, you still do

455
00:25:08.000 --> 00:25:10.279
<v Speaker 2>exactly what you were doing. There's an addition. It should

456
00:25:10.319 --> 00:25:13.000
<v Speaker 2>not be a subtraction of your life. Of course, there's

457
00:25:13.039 --> 00:25:16.799
<v Speaker 2>going to be compromises maybe on timing or dinner reservation

458
00:25:16.920 --> 00:25:19.480
<v Speaker 2>here and there, but overall, you are not betraying yourself

459
00:25:19.480 --> 00:25:22.880
<v Speaker 2>for someone else. It's a red flag if boundaries are

460
00:25:22.880 --> 00:25:25.920
<v Speaker 2>blurred fast or is oversharing, rushing into commitment and ignoring

461
00:25:25.920 --> 00:25:28.920
<v Speaker 2>personal needs. As soon as you're betraying yourself for that person,

462
00:25:29.119 --> 00:25:32.279
<v Speaker 2>get out. It's a green flag if both stay curious.

463
00:25:32.279 --> 00:25:34.480
<v Speaker 2>I feel close fast, but I'm going to keep learning.

464
00:25:34.960 --> 00:25:40.039
<v Speaker 2>Intensity is paired with consistency. Actions match words, words match actions,

465
00:25:40.359 --> 00:25:43.839
<v Speaker 2>and you can tell that they actually embody a grounded presence.

466
00:25:44.240 --> 00:25:46.079
<v Speaker 2>A narcissist is going to want to move fast because

467
00:25:46.079 --> 00:25:48.039
<v Speaker 2>they don't want you to see who they actually are.

468
00:25:48.359 --> 00:25:50.160
<v Speaker 2>Someone who's wearing a mask is going to want to

469
00:25:50.200 --> 00:25:51.720
<v Speaker 2>move fast because they don't want you to see who

470
00:25:51.720 --> 00:25:55.240
<v Speaker 2>they actually are. So if you feel like, okay, there's

471
00:25:55.240 --> 00:25:57.279
<v Speaker 2>a lot of projection here, how do they love me?

472
00:25:57.480 --> 00:26:00.359
<v Speaker 2>They only know me as a concept. There's an idealization.

473
00:26:00.559 --> 00:26:04.200
<v Speaker 2>You know you're romanticizing them. I already know they're perfect

474
00:26:04.200 --> 00:26:06.759
<v Speaker 2>for me. You don't know that they might be really close.

475
00:26:06.839 --> 00:26:08.880
<v Speaker 2>But you've got to give it time. You have to

476
00:26:08.880 --> 00:26:12.960
<v Speaker 2>see it through. If there's hot cold love bombing skipping,

477
00:26:12.960 --> 00:26:16.000
<v Speaker 2>important stages are getting to know one another red flag.

478
00:26:16.440 --> 00:26:19.519
<v Speaker 2>You need to see consistency, and not just consistency in

479
00:26:19.599 --> 00:26:24.000
<v Speaker 2>word and action, but consistency in embodiment. Are they always grounded?

480
00:26:24.279 --> 00:26:27.640
<v Speaker 2>Or every other day they are having an explosive fight

481
00:26:27.680 --> 00:26:30.440
<v Speaker 2>with their coworkers. Are they grounded most of the time,

482
00:26:30.680 --> 00:26:35.039
<v Speaker 2>or are they angry at everyone in traffic every other Tuesday? Like,

483
00:26:35.079 --> 00:26:37.480
<v Speaker 2>you need to actually see who they are when you're

484
00:26:37.519 --> 00:26:40.319
<v Speaker 2>near them. So feeling excited and safe is fine, that's

485
00:26:40.319 --> 00:26:43.279
<v Speaker 2>a green flag. Your nervous system can relax into the bond.

486
00:26:43.559 --> 00:26:45.359
<v Speaker 2>You're starting to say, you know what, I actually feel

487
00:26:45.400 --> 00:26:48.079
<v Speaker 2>really good about them, and it's not just this newness,

488
00:26:48.079 --> 00:26:51.200
<v Speaker 2>but I feel safety. Fine. But if you feel you

489
00:26:51.319 --> 00:26:53.559
<v Speaker 2>fork like it's a drug and it's unstable and you're

490
00:26:53.559 --> 00:26:56.759
<v Speaker 2>always waiting for the next high, get out of there.

491
00:26:57.400 --> 00:27:00.799
<v Speaker 2>You need something that can create a mutual stay the foundation.

492
00:27:01.279 --> 00:27:05.640
<v Speaker 2>And if that's not there, then this accelerated attachment is

493
00:27:06.000 --> 00:27:10.599
<v Speaker 2>actually just your wounds. It's just your wounds. I'm telling

494
00:27:10.640 --> 00:27:12.319
<v Speaker 2>you right now. I know as a spiritual person we

495
00:27:12.359 --> 00:27:13.960
<v Speaker 2>can feel quickly. I know as a lover girl we

496
00:27:13.960 --> 00:27:16.400
<v Speaker 2>can feel quickly or a lover boy, but you need

497
00:27:16.440 --> 00:27:21.480
<v Speaker 2>to see in this physical realm them over time. I

498
00:27:21.519 --> 00:27:24.480
<v Speaker 2>don't mind if you're committing to them fairly quickly, but

499
00:27:24.519 --> 00:27:27.200
<v Speaker 2>that doesn't mean you commit everything. You could commit time, okay, well,

500
00:27:27.240 --> 00:27:31.079
<v Speaker 2>FaceTime every night. You can commit to seeing them on dates.

501
00:27:31.200 --> 00:27:33.599
<v Speaker 2>You don't commit your body, your whole entire life. You

502
00:27:33.640 --> 00:27:36.640
<v Speaker 2>don't betray yourself for this new person. What is your

503
00:27:36.640 --> 00:27:39.200
<v Speaker 2>advice for men with a broken heart who have hit

504
00:27:39.279 --> 00:27:43.240
<v Speaker 2>rock bottom? Well, congratulations, you cannot go literally any lower,

505
00:27:43.640 --> 00:27:48.240
<v Speaker 2>so it's only up from here, I will say, regardless

506
00:27:48.279 --> 00:27:49.960
<v Speaker 2>if you are a man woman, I don't care if

507
00:27:49.960 --> 00:27:53.720
<v Speaker 2>you're a cucumber alien. Take time to be with yourself

508
00:27:54.079 --> 00:27:57.559
<v Speaker 2>because so often people go from being in one relationship

509
00:27:57.599 --> 00:27:59.640
<v Speaker 2>and then they just rush into the next because they're

510
00:27:59.680 --> 00:28:02.400
<v Speaker 2>so to be with themselves when that's what we actually

511
00:28:02.400 --> 00:28:04.759
<v Speaker 2>came here to do. Get to know who you are.

512
00:28:05.279 --> 00:28:07.200
<v Speaker 2>Take time to heal. I did it this guy once

513
00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:09.000
<v Speaker 2>and he was not over his ex. I literally said

514
00:28:09.000 --> 00:28:11.599
<v Speaker 2>to him, I just can't move forward because you're still

515
00:28:11.599 --> 00:28:13.039
<v Speaker 2>in love with your ex. And this is weird, Like

516
00:28:13.079 --> 00:28:16.480
<v Speaker 2>I'm not even attracted to this. This is uncomfortable. And

517
00:28:17.400 --> 00:28:19.279
<v Speaker 2>I see a lot of guys do that. They go

518
00:28:19.359 --> 00:28:22.640
<v Speaker 2>to the bar, they go to the vabe, they are

519
00:28:22.640 --> 00:28:25.839
<v Speaker 2>so quick to go into addiction. Give yourself space and

520
00:28:25.880 --> 00:28:28.599
<v Speaker 2>time to heal. Get a therapist. If you can't talk

521
00:28:28.640 --> 00:28:31.079
<v Speaker 2>to other guys about what you're going through or your mother.

522
00:28:31.240 --> 00:28:34.039
<v Speaker 2>You don't have a girlfriend that you can just speak to.

523
00:28:34.319 --> 00:28:38.359
<v Speaker 2>Then get a therapist, invest in your own mental health.

524
00:28:38.960 --> 00:28:41.240
<v Speaker 2>Do it for you, your future family and your future

525
00:28:41.279 --> 00:28:45.519
<v Speaker 2>freaking wife. God, you gotta take time to be with you.

526
00:28:45.559 --> 00:28:47.519
<v Speaker 2>And it's gonna be uncomfortable, and it's gonna be awkward,

527
00:28:47.559 --> 00:28:50.119
<v Speaker 2>and it's going to be upsetting. But instead of getting

528
00:28:50.200 --> 00:28:53.799
<v Speaker 2>under someone new, get into yourself. That will heal you

529
00:28:53.839 --> 00:28:56.960
<v Speaker 2>so much quicker, and instead of repeating lessons, you'll get

530
00:28:57.000 --> 00:29:00.680
<v Speaker 2>to stroll into a completely new reality. Get someone to

531
00:29:00.720 --> 00:29:02.519
<v Speaker 2>talk to. So many men I speak to say they

532
00:29:02.559 --> 00:29:04.480
<v Speaker 2>have no one to talk to. Okay, a lot of

533
00:29:04.519 --> 00:29:07.000
<v Speaker 2>people don't have anyone to talk to you. That's not excuse.

534
00:29:07.279 --> 00:29:10.359
<v Speaker 2>Get a therapist, find a different friend, go to a

535
00:29:10.400 --> 00:29:14.359
<v Speaker 2>men's help group, find an outlet. You're not alone in this,

536
00:29:14.599 --> 00:29:17.359
<v Speaker 2>but you do have to take responsibility and accountability over

537
00:29:17.400 --> 00:29:20.880
<v Speaker 2>your own reality. Don't bleed on other people. Get help

538
00:29:20.960 --> 00:29:23.559
<v Speaker 2>to untangle the mess that's within your mind, within your body.

539
00:29:23.680 --> 00:29:26.240
<v Speaker 2>Book a session with someone like me. Get the energy

540
00:29:26.240 --> 00:29:29.160
<v Speaker 2>work done. Go to a raiki session. Plug in how

541
00:29:29.200 --> 00:29:31.720
<v Speaker 2>to truly let someone go without having the thought of

542
00:29:31.839 --> 00:29:34.200
<v Speaker 2>you'll speak again. I have to be honest, every time

543
00:29:34.240 --> 00:29:36.680
<v Speaker 2>I wanted someone so badly that left my life to

544
00:29:36.720 --> 00:29:39.359
<v Speaker 2>text me or to call me, I understand why I

545
00:29:39.440 --> 00:29:41.200
<v Speaker 2>wanted it. In the moment. It's because I was getting

546
00:29:41.200 --> 00:29:44.839
<v Speaker 2>my brain on board with my energy and my physical reality.

547
00:29:44.960 --> 00:29:49.000
<v Speaker 2>But looking back, I'm so happy they didn't reach out

548
00:29:49.039 --> 00:29:51.319
<v Speaker 2>because all that would have done is delay me and

549
00:29:51.400 --> 00:29:55.799
<v Speaker 2>distract me. Realistically, if something ended, it's because it was

550
00:29:56.000 --> 00:30:00.039
<v Speaker 2>not working and it might not ever work. Instead of

551
00:30:00.079 --> 00:30:02.759
<v Speaker 2>getting rope back in or getting distracted by them, I

552
00:30:03.000 --> 00:30:05.720
<v Speaker 2>just locked into what I wanted to create. And I'm

553
00:30:05.759 --> 00:30:09.519
<v Speaker 2>so much happier now that I did that and that

554
00:30:09.599 --> 00:30:11.960
<v Speaker 2>I didn't have to have another conversation with them because

555
00:30:12.160 --> 00:30:15.000
<v Speaker 2>it was done, and even when I wasn't sure if

556
00:30:15.039 --> 00:30:18.000
<v Speaker 2>it was done. With my seven year relationship, I'm so

557
00:30:18.160 --> 00:30:21.160
<v Speaker 2>happy that we don't keep in contact, that we don't reconnect,

558
00:30:21.200 --> 00:30:23.400
<v Speaker 2>because it would have been harder for both of us.

559
00:30:23.799 --> 00:30:27.119
<v Speaker 2>It is just better off if you let yourself be

560
00:30:27.279 --> 00:30:31.400
<v Speaker 2>free to your present reality. And I really think the

561
00:30:31.440 --> 00:30:34.599
<v Speaker 2>worst sin that you can commit against to yourself is

562
00:30:34.640 --> 00:30:37.640
<v Speaker 2>to continuously wish things to be different than what they are.

563
00:30:38.279 --> 00:30:40.839
<v Speaker 2>If you're being invited into a season that you're not

564
00:30:40.920 --> 00:30:43.279
<v Speaker 2>in contact with someone, or you're not with someone, you

565
00:30:43.319 --> 00:30:45.880
<v Speaker 2>are meant to experience that season. There's a medicine in

566
00:30:45.920 --> 00:30:49.160
<v Speaker 2>that season for you. You have to walk through it,

567
00:30:49.480 --> 00:30:53.799
<v Speaker 2>you have to live through it. Give yourself permission to surrender.

568
00:30:54.160 --> 00:30:56.160
<v Speaker 2>Maybe you need a surrender statement. There's one in my

569
00:30:56.160 --> 00:30:58.359
<v Speaker 2>book Show Up as Her. I would read it every

570
00:30:58.440 --> 00:31:01.759
<v Speaker 2>single day to remind myself, I'm surrendering to what is,

571
00:31:01.960 --> 00:31:03.640
<v Speaker 2>because the worst thing I can do is to wish

572
00:31:03.640 --> 00:31:06.079
<v Speaker 2>things were different than what they are. Instead, let me

573
00:31:06.119 --> 00:31:08.880
<v Speaker 2>see all the beauty that's here instead, let me smell

574
00:31:08.920 --> 00:31:11.400
<v Speaker 2>the roses. Instead, let me see what I can do

575
00:31:11.440 --> 00:31:13.759
<v Speaker 2>with my energy that's actually gonna build something for me.

576
00:31:13.880 --> 00:31:16.920
<v Speaker 2>Ninety nine percent of the time they come back. And

577
00:31:17.279 --> 00:31:18.960
<v Speaker 2>maybe they didn't text me and call me when I

578
00:31:19.000 --> 00:31:22.640
<v Speaker 2>wanted them to, but eventually they would and I would

579
00:31:22.680 --> 00:31:24.640
<v Speaker 2>see who they are, and I thought to myself, damn,

580
00:31:24.640 --> 00:31:27.000
<v Speaker 2>you're exactly who you were when I left you. I'm

581
00:31:27.039 --> 00:31:30.680
<v Speaker 2>gonna continuously walk in the opposite direction. So even if

582
00:31:30.720 --> 00:31:32.640
<v Speaker 2>you do talk again, you're probably not gonna like them.

583
00:31:32.960 --> 00:31:36.240
<v Speaker 2>Someone says, I chose to leave an eight year relationship, congrats, baby,

584
00:31:36.519 --> 00:31:39.039
<v Speaker 2>because my soul was slowly dying inside and the fear

585
00:31:39.079 --> 00:31:41.200
<v Speaker 2>of not knowing if I'd lost myself forever was too

586
00:31:41.200 --> 00:31:43.960
<v Speaker 2>great to stay away. But why do I continuously think

587
00:31:44.000 --> 00:31:46.880
<v Speaker 2>about him randomly daily? I'm at peace with my decision

588
00:31:46.880 --> 00:31:48.880
<v Speaker 2>to leave and aware that our soul contracts has ended.

589
00:31:49.119 --> 00:31:51.119
<v Speaker 2>As they're listening to your podcast, I call my power

590
00:31:51.119 --> 00:31:53.319
<v Speaker 2>back frequently, But how do I keep from thinking of him?

591
00:31:53.559 --> 00:31:55.680
<v Speaker 2>I don't want to think of him. He did text

592
00:31:55.759 --> 00:31:57.519
<v Speaker 2>me recently to let me know that there hasn't been

593
00:31:57.559 --> 00:31:59.240
<v Speaker 2>one day that passes that he hasn't thought of me.

594
00:31:59.319 --> 00:32:01.680
<v Speaker 2>So is it possible that he's able to pull on

595
00:32:01.759 --> 00:32:03.680
<v Speaker 2>my energy with his thoughts of me? How can I

596
00:32:03.680 --> 00:32:06.400
<v Speaker 2>protect my energy and thoughts? Okay, a lot of the time,

597
00:32:06.519 --> 00:32:10.000
<v Speaker 2>if you are thinking about someone twenty four to seven,

598
00:32:10.359 --> 00:32:12.680
<v Speaker 2>they are thinking of you too, and because we are

599
00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:15.400
<v Speaker 2>all one, we will pick up on it. And that

600
00:32:15.640 --> 00:32:22.039
<v Speaker 2>is how the quantum field works. But if you are realizing,

601
00:32:22.039 --> 00:32:24.759
<v Speaker 2>you know what, this is too much at this point,

602
00:32:25.400 --> 00:32:27.960
<v Speaker 2>then calling your power back is great, but you also

603
00:32:28.000 --> 00:32:30.759
<v Speaker 2>need to protect your orc field. So what I would

604
00:32:30.839 --> 00:32:34.799
<v Speaker 2>recommend doing is every single day imagining because what is imagination?

605
00:32:35.000 --> 00:32:37.759
<v Speaker 2>What is thought? It's a thing, because in this quantum realm,

606
00:32:37.839 --> 00:32:41.079
<v Speaker 2>all things are actually energy, so they're all real in

607
00:32:41.079 --> 00:32:43.640
<v Speaker 2>the quantum realm. If I were you, every single day,

608
00:32:43.680 --> 00:32:46.279
<v Speaker 2>I would see myself in a golden bubble, and I

609
00:32:46.279 --> 00:32:49.240
<v Speaker 2>would intend that any energy sent my way is just

610
00:32:49.359 --> 00:32:52.599
<v Speaker 2>ricocheted back to that person. That's going to help protect

611
00:32:52.640 --> 00:32:55.519
<v Speaker 2>your orc field. Another thing you can do is literally

612
00:32:55.559 --> 00:32:58.640
<v Speaker 2>tell your body, I'm done receiving energy from this person.

613
00:32:59.160 --> 00:33:01.960
<v Speaker 2>I no longer want to think about them. It is crazy,

614
00:33:02.000 --> 00:33:05.079
<v Speaker 2>but if you tell your subconscious mind, I want to

615
00:33:05.119 --> 00:33:08.640
<v Speaker 2>recall my dreams tonight, your subconscious mind will make sure

616
00:33:08.680 --> 00:33:11.160
<v Speaker 2>that your conscious mind picks up on it. So you

617
00:33:11.200 --> 00:33:14.480
<v Speaker 2>just might have to encode your system a little bit better. Hey, body,

618
00:33:14.599 --> 00:33:17.799
<v Speaker 2>we're done thinking about them. We are done looking at

619
00:33:17.799 --> 00:33:22.559
<v Speaker 2>those older thoughts. We are done with this. Now. Make

620
00:33:22.559 --> 00:33:24.599
<v Speaker 2>sure that your reality is filled up with things you enjoy,

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<v Speaker 2>because it might be a lack of hobbies or interests

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<v Speaker 2>on your part. Maybe just make sure there's that. Also,

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes a feeling is required to be felt until it's

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<v Speaker 2>fully released. Do you still have emotion around him? Is

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<v Speaker 2>there still grief there because you might be thinking of

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<v Speaker 2>him because your body's still releasing emotions around him. So

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<v Speaker 2>maybe you want to book a session maybe you want

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<v Speaker 2>to go to a reiki healer, maybe you want to

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<v Speaker 2>do a really amazing workout class and intend all the

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<v Speaker 2>sweat that is dripping off of you, is you releasing

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<v Speaker 2>the trauma that was happening in that relationship. You need

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<v Speaker 2>a release. Sometimes you're thinking of them because they're thinking

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<v Speaker 2>of you. Sometimes you're thinking of them because your body's

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<v Speaker 2>still trying to release them, and it's up to you

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<v Speaker 2>to investigate that. Of course, you can book a session

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<v Speaker 2>with me if you want to know more information on that.

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<v Speaker 2>I do also want to say I'm gonna start doing

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<v Speaker 2>recorded ten minute readings because my schedule is getting a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit crazy and with time zones. So if you

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<v Speaker 2>do want a ten minute recording energy reading but you

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to get on Zoom, all my sessions are

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<v Speaker 2>done on Zoom usually, then you can DM me now

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<v Speaker 2>or email me and I will set that up for

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<v Speaker 2>you anyway. Positive bitches, I love you so much. This

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<v Speaker 2>is just a crazy tornado time, so we're just a

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<v Speaker 2>bit all over the place. But I wish you luck

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<v Speaker 2>and I wish you healing, and I love you, love you,

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<v Speaker 2>love y'all. See you in the next one.

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<v Speaker 1>Energy Nope, can't set me, kiss me, kiss me,