Speaker 1: Energy, set canst I'm so high ecstasy sag canst it?
Speaker 2: Not sorry? And energy? What's up? Positive bitches? I am
Speaker 2: bear faced with my glasses on because I have yet
Speaker 2: another problem with my eye because things just love getting
Speaker 2: into it. For some unknown reason. It is Wednesday, according
Speaker 2: to the Greg Gorvigan calendar that I don't even believe in.
Speaker 2: You know, some pope just decided on that. Whatever. This
Speaker 2: has been my energy all week. Okay, So if you're
Speaker 2: here for some like calming initiation, I'm sorry, click off.
Speaker 2: It's not happening today. It's just not happening. I feel
Speaker 2: like I went through seven lifetimes and it's Wednesday. It's Wednesday,
Speaker 2: and now I'm sweating, and now I'm setting You know, God, Hi,
Speaker 2: clip season, how the hell are you? I got a
Speaker 2: trim today on my hair. If anyone's feeling called to
Speaker 2: clean out their closet to trim their hair, and I said, trim,
Speaker 2: don't cut. Don't go for a bobcut if you know
Speaker 2: your facial structure is not meant for a bob cut.
Speaker 2: This is not me being mean. I'm We're just being real.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to protect you on that front. Okay, this
Speaker 2: episode's gonna be absolutely insane. I couldn't even comprehend how
Speaker 2: to draft a script for this. I couldn't even comprehend
Speaker 2: what to talk about. So I asked you, beautiful positive bitches,
Speaker 2: to DM me on Instagram. If you're not yet following
Speaker 2: me on Instagram. It's at Vibe with C Seats always
Speaker 2: going to be in the show notes literally every week. Okay,
Speaker 2: and I'm just feeling like we just need to have
Speaker 2: a chat. I don't want to tell you to get
Speaker 2: a course. I don't care. Get it if you want,
Speaker 2: get my book if you want, I don't care. I
Speaker 2: don't care. Let's just have a chat. Okay, Grab some tea,
Speaker 2: grab your beverage. Okay, I try not to go for
Speaker 2: the one with nine thousand chemicals. Okay, maybe a grab
Speaker 2: an f to give because I've lost all of mine
Speaker 2: on my own hero's journey. Thank you so much, Lord God.
Speaker 2: Maybe you're feeling this energy too, I don't know, or
Speaker 2: maybe it's just me. Maybe I've lost all my marbles
Speaker 2: and maybe this is just what life is now, fine
Speaker 2: by me? Sure, great, love it surrendering. Let's get into
Speaker 2: these questions, shall we? Or should I just keep literally
Speaker 2: spiraling on camera. Awesome. How did you get into spirituality
Speaker 2: and how do identify the messages from higher self angels?
Speaker 2: I got into spirituality because I had a mental breakdown
Speaker 2: that actually ended up being a breakthrough to just spill
Speaker 2: all the tea. I swear this is true. I went
Speaker 2: to a church and I prayed, screamed, cried at God,
Speaker 2: and I said, look, look, I don't know what my
Speaker 2: purpose is. All right? You have me in college and
Speaker 2: I'm double major in communications. I could literally go anywhere
Speaker 2: and do anything with that. What am I meant to
Speaker 2: be doing? I at least had the intelligence to ask
Speaker 2: God what to do instead of a parent or a
Speaker 2: sibling or a friend. I knew to go to the
Speaker 2: divine when you're trying to figure out your purpose or
Speaker 2: the next step. I don't know who needs to hear
Speaker 2: this right now, but stop going to Betsy, John and Phil.
Speaker 2: They don't know shit. They don't know shit. You want answers,
Speaker 2: plug into the divine, do a prayer. Would you go
Speaker 2: to a holy place of worship, get into meditation. I
Speaker 2: don't care, go to the secret place within, but stop
Speaker 2: asking mere mortals who don't even know what they're doing
Speaker 2: and give terrible advice to advise you. Does that realistically
Speaker 2: make any sense to me? I will end up in
Speaker 2: an asylum. Oh yeah, I will. If I ask other
Speaker 2: people for advice, you'll see me and I'll have a
Speaker 2: stick with a little pillowcare filled with two lip glosses,
Speaker 2: and I will be walking my way into an asylum.
Speaker 2: Because every time I've asked someone for advice that was
Speaker 2: not like a shaman or a coach, or an energy
Speaker 2: healer or even a therapist, their advice made me feel
Speaker 2: absolutely terrible, terrible. They don't understand your situation like you do.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you're gonna have to for shit. Sometimes you're gonna
Speaker 2: have to flow with shit. Sometimes you're gonna have to
Speaker 2: do this weird in between dance. But that's what life is.
Speaker 2: It's a dance with destiny. And the person who's going
Speaker 2: to understand that the most is the divine. Your angels,
Speaker 2: your spirit team, go to them. How I got into spirituality,
Speaker 2: as I was saying, is I went to this church.
Speaker 2: I said, God, give me the goods, show me my purpose,
Speaker 2: and I did do the prayer that everyone's afraid to do,
Speaker 2: and that was remove whatever needs to be removed within,
Speaker 2: Like what three days I found out my then person,
Speaker 2: and to be honest, our relationship wasn't good. I was
Speaker 2: still blind, but we were in a sticky, weird season.
Speaker 2: I always reference that episode of Friends where Rachel is like,
Speaker 2: we were together, and Ros said, we were on a break.
Speaker 2: It was like that. And I found out that he
Speaker 2: slept with someone in the same twelve hours as me.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, cool, awesome. Dan Day loves that. So when
Speaker 2: I found that out, I never screamed in my relationship
Speaker 2: literally ever. I don't operate like that. And I started
Speaker 2: to get a little screamy, a little cray cry, and
Speaker 2: and then I started laughing and he was staring at me,
Speaker 2: like WTF. How do you go from screaming crying to laughing?
Speaker 2: And it was because I knew God was real in
Speaker 2: that moment, I said, oh damn God, like that was
Speaker 2: that was quick. I'm not gonna lie like you stood
Speaker 2: on business with that one. And I just knew he
Speaker 2: had to go. So I kicked him out of my
Speaker 2: house and I played Lemonade by Beyonce and I just
Speaker 2: danced and I cried and everyone thought I was crazy
Speaker 2: and I felt crazy, but knowing God existed gave me something.
Speaker 2: It gave me the missing puzzle piece, the key that
Speaker 2: would start this whole, entire spiritual journey. And then I
Speaker 2: ended up going to a therapist, and thank god I
Speaker 2: went to this specific therapist because she told me, you
Speaker 2: know what, I'm getting goosewumps right now. This really changed
Speaker 2: my life. She says, I know you have the ability
Speaker 2: to transcend this. You need to read the Power of Now.
Speaker 2: And so I did, and it changed my life. That's
Speaker 2: a book by ed cart Tole, and I want to
Speaker 2: say to you right now, I know that whatever you're
Speaker 2: going through, whatever the circumstances, you have the ability to
Speaker 2: transcend this shit. Read the book The Power of Now.
Speaker 2: You can read my book show up as her I
Speaker 2: outline this all for you. It's a great book regardless
Speaker 2: of where you are on a spiritual journey, whether you're
Speaker 2: beginning or you are deep into it, it will give
Speaker 2: you the medicine you need. In that moment, somewhere along
Speaker 2: those pages, and I decided that I didn't know where
Speaker 2: I was going, but I was not going to let
Speaker 2: someone who hurt me make me hurt myself. Further, I
Speaker 2: was not going to get some sort of weird addiction
Speaker 2: I was not going to be addicted to oreos anymore.
Speaker 2: I was not going to become worse. If someone hurt me,
Speaker 2: that's fine, that's part of life. I was not going
Speaker 2: to hurt myself. So I read every book, I studied
Speaker 2: every experiment, quantum physics wise, I committed myself to energetic excellence.
Speaker 2: And here I am. Here I am, And I would
Speaker 2: just say I had no one in my life at
Speaker 2: that time. I had liked maybe two friends at that time,
Speaker 2: but I really didn't have anyone. I was scared to
Speaker 2: judge me, and that was a blessing. If you're going
Speaker 2: through a season where you don't really have friends or
Speaker 2: family to rely on, or a relationship, let it be
Speaker 2: and just do everything you've ever wanted to do. It's
Speaker 2: actually better when you don't have a social circle when
Speaker 2: you're trying to start something new, because you might think, well,
Speaker 2: then where's my support. Your support comes from the divine.
Speaker 2: Instead of having family and friends and a relationship that
Speaker 2: I thought might judge me for what I was doing,
Speaker 2: I literally said to myself, oh, I have literally nothing
Speaker 2: to lose. I'm just gonna do whatever I want. Started
Speaker 2: posting on TikTok and here the hell we are? How
Speaker 2: do you know the messages are from angels? They will
Speaker 2: be based in love. It won't always be what you
Speaker 2: want to hear, but it will be based in love.
Speaker 2: It will be a little whisper but clear, and you
Speaker 2: won't have a reason why you have to do something.
Speaker 2: You'll just know I have to break up with this person,
Speaker 2: I have to move. That's your angels. I'm just gonna
Speaker 2: play this and we'll listen together. Oh my goodness, Cecy.
Speaker 1: I have a million questions for you, but I wanted
Speaker 1: to check one out, but I figured it'd be better
Speaker 1: just send it like this.
Speaker 2: I just I love you.
Speaker 1: Thank you for your everything you do.
Speaker 2: I've listened to your podcast for like a year straight now.
Speaker 2: Really helped me bro and change and learn a lot.
Speaker 2: So intelligent, so ill spoken, amazing.
Speaker 1: My question is it's about relationships, which I'm guessing most
Speaker 1: of these will be because while I understand and navigate
Speaker 1: my life pretty well in most other areas, when it
Speaker 1: comes to relationships with men, granted, I was abused as
Speaker 1: a child for years, sexually abused, and I know that
Speaker 1: that's the reason.
Speaker 2: I behaved the way I do.
Speaker 1: When it comes to relationships, but I.
Speaker 2: Let these men in my life.
Speaker 1: They love Bomby, They're obsessed with me, and eventually they
Speaker 1: fucked me over.
Speaker 2: And then I'm begging for them to stave in my life,
Speaker 2: and I repeat the pattern over and over.
Speaker 1: How do I break the pattern?
Speaker 2: What you have been through is so life altering and
Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry that those things happen
Speaker 2: to you by vile people, beings, energies. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2: With that being said, I also want to remind you that, yes,
Speaker 2: these people may have deeply affected you and deeply hurt
Speaker 2: you and deeply altered your perception of self, of other
Speaker 2: of relationship. I really have to say those people, the
Speaker 2: people who do negative unto you, They will affect you,
Speaker 2: but they don't have more power over you than you have.
Speaker 2: They might cause some harm, they might cause some good,
Speaker 2: But no one, no one, not one person has more
Speaker 2: power over your reality than you. You have the power
Speaker 2: to change how you feel about men. You have the
Speaker 2: power to change your relationship to relationships. The first thing
Speaker 2: I want to say is the same thing I thought
Speaker 2: in my relationship when I ended it, and that is
Speaker 2: if someone hurt me, Okay, fine, I'm not gonna hurt myself.
Speaker 2: You have to make a decision, and it's not easy,
Speaker 2: but it is simple. It's not easy, it is difficult,
Speaker 2: but it's simple. You have to make a decision that
Speaker 2: your past is no longer going to dictate your present
Speaker 2: and your future. You have to make a decision that
Speaker 2: you're not going to take this experience or maybe experiences,
Speaker 2: because usually there's not one. Usually we've reattract and retraumatized ourselves.
Speaker 2: You have to make a decision though that okay, Yes,
Speaker 2: bad people exist. Negative people exist, Horrifying people exist. But
Speaker 2: that's not the only type of men that exist. There's
Speaker 2: also lovers and providers and grounded masculine energies. Some dogs
Speaker 2: are vicious, not all dogs are vicious. Some men are terrible,
Speaker 2: not all men are terrible. Some women are jealous, not
Speaker 2: all women are jealous. So we have to start separating
Speaker 2: ourselves from the story that we've been telling ourselves our
Speaker 2: whole entire life. And you might say, well, see, see,
Speaker 2: this is not just a story I experienced it. Yes,
Speaker 2: you experienced a specific circumstance, but that doesn't have to
Speaker 2: be the story you carry with you for the rest
Speaker 2: of your life. It's time to close the book, to
Speaker 2: close the chapter and open a new one. You have
Speaker 2: so much life to live, and you have to start
Speaker 2: making this reality more painful than the one you're assuming
Speaker 2: could happen. Because when do we realistically make change, it's
Speaker 2: when we are faced with so much pain that we
Speaker 2: have no other choice but to change how we view something,
Speaker 2: change the meaning, change your energy. Think about continuously living
Speaker 2: like this for ten more years. You know what it's
Speaker 2: going to attract, is that how you want to reside
Speaker 2: within this earthly realm. No, think about living with this
Speaker 2: belief for twenty more years, for thirty more years. That
Speaker 2: is more hellish than any possible relationship that you could
Speaker 2: get into right now. Nothing is worse than you using
Speaker 2: your own imagination to stag yourself. That is more painful,
Speaker 2: That is more violating than anything else. That is more
Speaker 2: painful than you engaging with a man and maybe getting hurt.
Speaker 2: You engaging with a man and maybe it doesn't work out.
Speaker 2: We really would have to do inner child's work. I
Speaker 2: can only say so much. We need to sit down
Speaker 2: and do the energy work, where we're revisiting these specific
Speaker 2: memories and we are rewiring your literal brain and also
Speaker 2: releasing and shedding the older energies that are no longer
Speaker 2: serving you. The first thing that you need to make
Speaker 2: a change is awareness. The second thing, now, though, is interruption.
Speaker 2: Someone love bombing you is not that interesting. Anyone can
Speaker 2: do it. My grandma could do that to you. Someone
Speaker 2: giving you attention is not that interesting. And I know
Speaker 2: someone else actually because I saw it when I passed,
Speaker 2: said how can I stay connected to myself and not
Speaker 2: feel the void of needing male attention? What I really
Speaker 2: want you to understand is that male attention is not
Speaker 2: hard to get. It's not hard to get. So if
Speaker 2: you're getting mail attention and they're love bombing you, or
Speaker 2: they're showing up really great, Okay, awesome, cool, walk down
Speaker 2: a street and you'll get mail attention. Mail attention is
Speaker 2: not this hard to get commodity. It's not rare, it's
Speaker 2: not that interesting. But when you tell yourself, oh my god,
Speaker 2: I'm getting the attention of this person and you place
Speaker 2: them on your pedestal, that is illegal in CC's world. No,
Speaker 2: not allowed. And I think, really, what this is is
Speaker 2: you see someone and because you're in such a high vibration,
Speaker 2: you could see who they could be so you romanticize
Speaker 2: them and you really fill in all the blanks, but
Speaker 2: you don't know them yet, and you're filling in the
Speaker 2: blanks with your own fantasies instead of who they actually are.
Speaker 2: The way to really face needing this male attention or
Speaker 2: oh my god, they love bombing me. I keep getting
Speaker 2: stuck in these cycles is to give it time. Oh, time,
Speaker 2: time is the cure to love. You'll see who they are.
Speaker 2: The truth always comes out. Over time. You will see
Speaker 2: exactly how they are. You got to give it at
Speaker 2: least three months to see someone because then that's when
Speaker 2: their attachment systems start to come online and you can
Speaker 2: see how they actually operate. Everyone will not really everyone,
Speaker 2: because I've seen people in the first three months be
Speaker 2: absolutely horrifying. But most people will put on that mass
Speaker 2: for at least three months because they're trying to show
Speaker 2: up as their best self. You have to take accountability.
Speaker 2: They might be love bombing you, but okay, you're accepting
Speaker 2: and responding to it. If you have awareness around this,
Speaker 2: then you need to now interrupt it. Oh look at
Speaker 2: that and old behavior that I used to give into, Well,
Speaker 2: that's not interesting anymore. Because Number one male attentions not
Speaker 2: hard to get. Number two. I've been down this road
Speaker 2: a million times. Why would I go down it again?
Speaker 2: Why would I retrace my steps? What's the definition of
Speaker 2: insanity but doing the same thing over and over and
Speaker 2: over again and expecting a different result. If you didn't
Speaker 2: get male attention from your father and so now you're
Speaker 2: craving it, or whatever it may be, talk to Jesus,
Speaker 2: talk to archangel Michael. Get mail attention from a divine
Speaker 2: being that can actually guide you and give you really
Speaker 2: amazing advice and show you the way. Not these NPCs.
Speaker 2: There is a never ending source of men out there.
Speaker 2: I promise you, I don't care what limiting reliefs are
Speaker 2: out there. There's a never ending source you have to
Speaker 2: plug into. What do I want and what do I
Speaker 2: have to believe in order to get that? And then
Speaker 2: you have to practice those sentences as affirmations every single
Speaker 2: day of your life. If you're in a void and
Speaker 2: you feel like you need mail attention or the first
Speaker 2: person who comes in love bombing you, you are thinking,
Speaker 2: oh my god, oh my god, oh my god, then
Speaker 2: that just shows me your life is not fulfilled enough
Speaker 2: that you need someone else to come on in and
Speaker 2: give you attention or give you something to focus on.
Speaker 2: Get a hobby. You have a hobby, great, get another one.
Speaker 2: Read a new book, start working out, get more into
Speaker 2: are there chemicals all in my food? Become healthier. Channel
Speaker 2: your attention into something that's gonna build you up. I
Speaker 2: don't care if it's your body, or your career or
Speaker 2: anything else. A hobby, learn something new, become a more
Speaker 2: well developed, well rounded, interesting person. You don't have enough
Speaker 2: going on in your life. And that's why the first
Speaker 2: man who comes into your life, you're like, yes, I'm
Speaker 2: gonna go this male attention is so good. It's really not.
Speaker 2: It's it's you know, it's not that great. I get
Speaker 2: it because as divine feminines, we crave connection and we
Speaker 2: crave devotion. So that is there. But what else can
Speaker 2: you be devoted to? Oh? Could it be yourself for
Speaker 2: the meantime until someone shows up and they really can
Speaker 2: give you everything you need, just don't even entertain it.
Speaker 2: To me, I'm personally so over it. That's why I
Speaker 2: won't go on a dating app. You can think I'm hot, Okay, wow,
Speaker 2: that's still about you. You just want to what use
Speaker 2: me as a whole no thanks. You can think I'm intelligent,
Speaker 2: I also think that don't care. Unless you're showing up
Speaker 2: and you can provide all that I need, I don't care.
Speaker 2: And the way I got here is I was just
Speaker 2: so frustrated and refuse to give my energy away because
Speaker 2: I know what my energy can do. I can build
Speaker 2: a business. I can write a book and now I'm
Speaker 2: writing another one. I can create a following online. I
Speaker 2: know what I can do with my energy when I
Speaker 2: channel it in ways that I actually want to. So
Speaker 2: why on God's green earth would I give my energy
Speaker 2: to a man who has done nothing for me? And
Speaker 2: that's what you need to be asking yourself where focus goes,
Speaker 2: energy flows? Why are you giving your prime real estate,
Speaker 2: which is your attention, your energy to a person you
Speaker 2: don't even know. It's because you don't have enough going
Speaker 2: on in your own life, and you need to find
Speaker 2: something to channel your energy into. And when you do that,
Speaker 2: you will be having this moment where you realize, Wow,
Speaker 2: I realized what my energy can do. Why would I
Speaker 2: give it to a random person when it can create
Speaker 2: so much abundance, so much happiness, so much joy for me.
Speaker 2: Someone asked, how do I stop falling from men so
Speaker 2: easily at first, giving power away basically everything I just said.
Speaker 2: But I also want to talk about something because I,
Speaker 2: as a lover girl, have this just immediate knowing whether
Speaker 2: someone is it for me or is not it for me?
Speaker 2: And I really do believe that we could have potential husbands,
Speaker 2: like multiple potential husbands that come into our life, and
Speaker 2: it's kind of just up to us to say, am
Speaker 2: I willing to settle for this or do I want
Speaker 2: to keep going and seek out someone who's more in
Speaker 2: alignment with me? And I fall deeply in love not
Speaker 2: just with men, but not sexually with women, but deeply
Speaker 2: in love with women too, my soulmate friendships. I love,
Speaker 2: love love the women I have around me, and I
Speaker 2: will know immediately if I love them or I'm not
Speaker 2: about it. And it's the same thing for me in
Speaker 2: relationships with men who I am actually attracted to and
Speaker 2: want to have that intimacy with, I will know so quick.
Speaker 2: But how do I balance this? Because if I am
Speaker 2: to know fairly quickly and act on it, well, I
Speaker 2: can run into some trouble. So I have non negotiables
Speaker 2: for myself. Unless you are committed to me, and I'm
Speaker 2: committed to you and we are in a solid relationship.
Speaker 2: I'm not sleeping with you. I don't find that interesting. Sorry,
Speaker 2: don't find it interesting. If I'm not in love with you.
Speaker 2: I am completely abstinent. That's it. That's how I operate.
Speaker 2: So I might know very quickly, oh this person's my
Speaker 2: husband or they're not, and my mom will get so mad.
Speaker 2: I mean she's like, say, say, stop saying it's not
Speaker 2: your husband. Stop saying it's not your husband. Just go
Speaker 2: out on more dates with them. And I used to
Speaker 2: listen to her. This is why I go to God now,
Speaker 2: not mere mortals. I used to listen to her, and
Speaker 2: all I did was get effing burnt out and mad
Speaker 2: as shit. And now I say to myself, you know what,
Speaker 2: I gotta trust my intuition. I gotta trust myself. I
Speaker 2: know if someone's it for me or not, and I
Speaker 2: will honor that. And if they are for me, great,
Speaker 2: I'll keep it going. If they're not, they're getting cut
Speaker 2: out out of the orbit. Now. If they are for me,
Speaker 2: it doesn't mean I sleep with them right away. No,
Speaker 2: I need to get to know them. I need months
Speaker 2: in order to get to know who they are. So
Speaker 2: what you do is you date them, you give yourself time.
Speaker 2: Time is going to be your best friend. Now, I
Speaker 2: want to talk about another thing that's related to this,
Speaker 2: and it's called accelerated attachment. Now, there are healthy ways
Speaker 2: to experience accelerated attachment. I have this for sure, and
Speaker 2: they're unhealthy ways. So we're going to talk about if
Speaker 2: we are lover girls, which means we can love easily,
Speaker 2: which if you're listening to this you probably are. We're
Speaker 2: going to talk about how do we be a lover girl,
Speaker 2: but also safeguard ourselves, make sure that we're not just
Speaker 2: giving our bodies, our hearts, our minds to just anyone,
Speaker 2: because we don't want to deplete ourselves. Right. So I'm
Speaker 2: going to help you understand with what an accelerated attachment
Speaker 2: is healthy versus unhealthy. When it's healthy, both people feel
Speaker 2: the same pace of connection, attraction, and investment. It is
Speaker 2: recis so you are not, therefore the one person in
Speaker 2: the dynamic moving much faster. You are not feeling pressured,
Speaker 2: and you're not feeling this weird hesitancy around moving forward.
Speaker 2: So this means if you have accelerated attachment and it's healthy,
Speaker 2: both people feel like they want to commit fairly early.
Speaker 2: On a second date that I had with someone, we
Speaker 2: professed our love for one another, and that to some
Speaker 2: people might look like love bombing, But we truly were
Speaker 2: in love and this man would have married me, and
Speaker 2: I at the end of the day just didn't want
Speaker 2: to be with him, but I did love him and
Speaker 2: I'll always have love for him. We both had the
Speaker 2: same pace of connection. We both had deep love for
Speaker 2: one another. We both committed to one another. We both
Speaker 2: deleted the abs before we even met. That's that's accelerated attachment.
Speaker 2: That's fast. But the reason it can be seen as
Speaker 2: healthy is because it's at least mutual. Okay, so that's
Speaker 2: one green flag. If someone's love bombing you and you're like, wow,
Speaker 2: this is really weird. I don't feel this for them,
Speaker 2: but since they're choosing me, I guess I'll just choose
Speaker 2: them back. No, no, no, that's a loser mentality to think, oh,
Speaker 2: someone's choosing me, I'm just gonna choose them back. What
Speaker 2: are you a loser? No, get back up, stand on
Speaker 2: business and remember who you are. If they're love voming you,
Speaker 2: red flag. If you're feeling all this attraction and feelings
Speaker 2: for them, and they want to date other people. Red flag.
Speaker 2: It should not be one person, it has to be mutual. Okay.
Speaker 2: Another way accelerated attachment can show up in a healthy
Speaker 2: way is it's driven by genuine compatibility, shared values, emotional openness.
Speaker 2: So you are not just oh, god, I'm obsessed with
Speaker 2: Brad but I don't know anything about him. No, you're saying, oh,
Speaker 2: we want this same type of a life. Great, we
Speaker 2: have the same values. We align pretty much politically, spiritually, religiously. However,
Speaker 2: you fall into that box and you want the same thing,
Speaker 2: the same type of family, the same type of dynamic.
Speaker 2: When you recognize that, it makes a person more attractive,
Speaker 2: so you might have more of an attach to them.
Speaker 2: But that is okay because you're recognizing we're at the
Speaker 2: same pace. We both have this deep connection and we
Speaker 2: both want the same thing. There's a quote and it
Speaker 2: says it's a shame to parallel lines never get to
Speaker 2: meet because they're exactly the same. And I just love that.
Speaker 2: But the reason I bring that up is because you
Speaker 2: actually want to be like a parallel line with your partner,
Speaker 2: meaning you're not really looking at each other, you're looking
Speaker 2: in the same direction. You're not just falling in love
Speaker 2: with each other, but you're falling in love with what
Speaker 2: you're going to create together, something that's based in a
Speaker 2: foundation and can create longevity. Now, it will be unhealthy
Speaker 2: if it's driven by abandonment, loneliness, or filling a void.
Speaker 2: So if you're just accelerating something because you're lonely, because
Speaker 2: you don't have enough hobbies, because you have a fear
Speaker 2: of abandonment, red flag unhealthy, Get out of there. It's
Speaker 2: a green flag if boundaries are respected. Even with quick closeness,
Speaker 2: there's a space for individuality. So you're not betraying yourself
Speaker 2: in order to have them. You're not saying no to
Speaker 2: friends all the time now never seeing them and just
Speaker 2: seeing them. You have your non negotiables. You still go
Speaker 2: to yoga. If you go to yoga, you still do
Speaker 2: exactly what you were doing. There's an addition. It should
Speaker 2: not be a subtraction of your life. Of course, there's
Speaker 2: going to be compromises maybe on timing or dinner reservation
Speaker 2: here and there, but overall, you are not betraying yourself
Speaker 2: for someone else. It's a red flag if boundaries are
Speaker 2: blurred fast or is oversharing, rushing into commitment and ignoring
Speaker 2: personal needs. As soon as you're betraying yourself for that person,
Speaker 2: get out. It's a green flag if both stay curious.
Speaker 2: I feel close fast, but I'm going to keep learning.
Speaker 2: Intensity is paired with consistency. Actions match words, words match actions,
Speaker 2: and you can tell that they actually embody a grounded presence.
Speaker 2: A narcissist is going to want to move fast because
Speaker 2: they don't want you to see who they actually are.
Speaker 2: Someone who's wearing a mask is going to want to
Speaker 2: move fast because they don't want you to see who
Speaker 2: they actually are. So if you feel like, okay, there's
Speaker 2: a lot of projection here, how do they love me?
Speaker 2: They only know me as a concept. There's an idealization.
Speaker 2: You know you're romanticizing them. I already know they're perfect
Speaker 2: for me. You don't know that they might be really close.
Speaker 2: But you've got to give it time. You have to
Speaker 2: see it through. If there's hot cold love bombing skipping,
Speaker 2: important stages are getting to know one another red flag.
Speaker 2: You need to see consistency, and not just consistency in
Speaker 2: word and action, but consistency in embodiment. Are they always grounded?
Speaker 2: Or every other day they are having an explosive fight
Speaker 2: with their coworkers. Are they grounded most of the time,
Speaker 2: or are they angry at everyone in traffic every other Tuesday? Like,
Speaker 2: you need to actually see who they are when you're
Speaker 2: near them. So feeling excited and safe is fine, that's
Speaker 2: a green flag. Your nervous system can relax into the bond.
Speaker 2: You're starting to say, you know what, I actually feel
Speaker 2: really good about them, and it's not just this newness,
Speaker 2: but I feel safety. Fine. But if you feel you
Speaker 2: fork like it's a drug and it's unstable and you're
Speaker 2: always waiting for the next high, get out of there.
Speaker 2: You need something that can create a mutual stay the foundation.
Speaker 2: And if that's not there, then this accelerated attachment is
Speaker 2: actually just your wounds. It's just your wounds. I'm telling
Speaker 2: you right now. I know as a spiritual person we
Speaker 2: can feel quickly. I know as a lover girl we
Speaker 2: can feel quickly or a lover boy, but you need
Speaker 2: to see in this physical realm them over time. I
Speaker 2: don't mind if you're committing to them fairly quickly, but
Speaker 2: that doesn't mean you commit everything. You could commit time, okay, well,
Speaker 2: FaceTime every night. You can commit to seeing them on dates.
Speaker 2: You don't commit your body, your whole entire life. You
Speaker 2: don't betray yourself for this new person. What is your
Speaker 2: advice for men with a broken heart who have hit
Speaker 2: rock bottom? Well, congratulations, you cannot go literally any lower,
Speaker 2: so it's only up from here, I will say, regardless
Speaker 2: if you are a man woman, I don't care if
Speaker 2: you're a cucumber alien. Take time to be with yourself
Speaker 2: because so often people go from being in one relationship
Speaker 2: and then they just rush into the next because they're
Speaker 2: so to be with themselves when that's what we actually
Speaker 2: came here to do. Get to know who you are.
Speaker 2: Take time to heal. I did it this guy once
Speaker 2: and he was not over his ex. I literally said
Speaker 2: to him, I just can't move forward because you're still
Speaker 2: in love with your ex. And this is weird, Like
Speaker 2: I'm not even attracted to this. This is uncomfortable. And
Speaker 2: I see a lot of guys do that. They go
Speaker 2: to the bar, they go to the vabe, they are
Speaker 2: so quick to go into addiction. Give yourself space and
Speaker 2: time to heal. Get a therapist. If you can't talk
Speaker 2: to other guys about what you're going through or your mother.
Speaker 2: You don't have a girlfriend that you can just speak to.
Speaker 2: Then get a therapist, invest in your own mental health.
Speaker 2: Do it for you, your future family and your future
Speaker 2: freaking wife. God, you gotta take time to be with you.
Speaker 2: And it's gonna be uncomfortable, and it's gonna be awkward,
Speaker 2: and it's going to be upsetting. But instead of getting
Speaker 2: under someone new, get into yourself. That will heal you
Speaker 2: so much quicker, and instead of repeating lessons, you'll get
Speaker 2: to stroll into a completely new reality. Get someone to
Speaker 2: talk to. So many men I speak to say they
Speaker 2: have no one to talk to. Okay, a lot of
Speaker 2: people don't have anyone to talk to you. That's not excuse.
Speaker 2: Get a therapist, find a different friend, go to a
Speaker 2: men's help group, find an outlet. You're not alone in this,
Speaker 2: but you do have to take responsibility and accountability over
Speaker 2: your own reality. Don't bleed on other people. Get help
Speaker 2: to untangle the mess that's within your mind, within your body.
Speaker 2: Book a session with someone like me. Get the energy
Speaker 2: work done. Go to a raiki session. Plug in how
Speaker 2: to truly let someone go without having the thought of
Speaker 2: you'll speak again. I have to be honest, every time
Speaker 2: I wanted someone so badly that left my life to
Speaker 2: text me or to call me, I understand why I
Speaker 2: wanted it. In the moment. It's because I was getting
Speaker 2: my brain on board with my energy and my physical reality.
Speaker 2: But looking back, I'm so happy they didn't reach out
Speaker 2: because all that would have done is delay me and
Speaker 2: distract me. Realistically, if something ended, it's because it was
Speaker 2: not working and it might not ever work. Instead of
Speaker 2: getting rope back in or getting distracted by them, I
Speaker 2: just locked into what I wanted to create. And I'm
Speaker 2: so much happier now that I did that and that
Speaker 2: I didn't have to have another conversation with them because
Speaker 2: it was done, and even when I wasn't sure if
Speaker 2: it was done. With my seven year relationship, I'm so
Speaker 2: happy that we don't keep in contact, that we don't reconnect,
Speaker 2: because it would have been harder for both of us.
Speaker 2: It is just better off if you let yourself be
Speaker 2: free to your present reality. And I really think the
Speaker 2: worst sin that you can commit against to yourself is
Speaker 2: to continuously wish things to be different than what they are.
Speaker 2: If you're being invited into a season that you're not
Speaker 2: in contact with someone, or you're not with someone, you
Speaker 2: are meant to experience that season. There's a medicine in
Speaker 2: that season for you. You have to walk through it,
Speaker 2: you have to live through it. Give yourself permission to surrender.
Speaker 2: Maybe you need a surrender statement. There's one in my
Speaker 2: book Show Up as Her. I would read it every
Speaker 2: single day to remind myself, I'm surrendering to what is,
Speaker 2: because the worst thing I can do is to wish
Speaker 2: things were different than what they are. Instead, let me
Speaker 2: see all the beauty that's here instead, let me smell
Speaker 2: the roses. Instead, let me see what I can do
Speaker 2: with my energy that's actually gonna build something for me.
Speaker 2: Ninety nine percent of the time they come back. And
Speaker 2: maybe they didn't text me and call me when I
Speaker 2: wanted them to, but eventually they would and I would
Speaker 2: see who they are, and I thought to myself, damn,
Speaker 2: you're exactly who you were when I left you. I'm
Speaker 2: gonna continuously walk in the opposite direction. So even if
Speaker 2: you do talk again, you're probably not gonna like them.
Speaker 2: Someone says, I chose to leave an eight year relationship, congrats, baby,
Speaker 2: because my soul was slowly dying inside and the fear
Speaker 2: of not knowing if I'd lost myself forever was too
Speaker 2: great to stay away. But why do I continuously think
Speaker 2: about him randomly daily? I'm at peace with my decision
Speaker 2: to leave and aware that our soul contracts has ended.
Speaker 2: As they're listening to your podcast, I call my power
Speaker 2: back frequently, But how do I keep from thinking of him?
Speaker 2: I don't want to think of him. He did text
Speaker 2: me recently to let me know that there hasn't been
Speaker 2: one day that passes that he hasn't thought of me.
Speaker 2: So is it possible that he's able to pull on
Speaker 2: my energy with his thoughts of me? How can I
Speaker 2: protect my energy and thoughts? Okay, a lot of the time,
Speaker 2: if you are thinking about someone twenty four to seven,
Speaker 2: they are thinking of you too, and because we are
Speaker 2: all one, we will pick up on it. And that
Speaker 2: is how the quantum field works. But if you are realizing,
Speaker 2: you know what, this is too much at this point,
Speaker 2: then calling your power back is great, but you also
Speaker 2: need to protect your orc field. So what I would
Speaker 2: recommend doing is every single day imagining because what is imagination?
Speaker 2: What is thought? It's a thing, because in this quantum realm,
Speaker 2: all things are actually energy, so they're all real in
Speaker 2: the quantum realm. If I were you, every single day,
Speaker 2: I would see myself in a golden bubble, and I
Speaker 2: would intend that any energy sent my way is just
Speaker 2: ricocheted back to that person. That's going to help protect
Speaker 2: your orc field. Another thing you can do is literally
Speaker 2: tell your body, I'm done receiving energy from this person.
Speaker 2: I no longer want to think about them. It is crazy,
Speaker 2: but if you tell your subconscious mind, I want to
Speaker 2: recall my dreams tonight, your subconscious mind will make sure
Speaker 2: that your conscious mind picks up on it. So you
Speaker 2: just might have to encode your system a little bit better. Hey, body,
Speaker 2: we're done thinking about them. We are done looking at
Speaker 2: those older thoughts. We are done with this. Now. Make
Speaker 2: sure that your reality is filled up with things you enjoy,
Speaker 2: because it might be a lack of hobbies or interests
Speaker 2: on your part. Maybe just make sure there's that. Also,
Speaker 2: sometimes a feeling is required to be felt until it's
Speaker 2: fully released. Do you still have emotion around him? Is
Speaker 2: there still grief there because you might be thinking of
Speaker 2: him because your body's still releasing emotions around him. So
Speaker 2: maybe you want to book a session maybe you want
Speaker 2: to go to a reiki healer, maybe you want to
Speaker 2: do a really amazing workout class and intend all the
Speaker 2: sweat that is dripping off of you, is you releasing
Speaker 2: the trauma that was happening in that relationship. You need
Speaker 2: a release. Sometimes you're thinking of them because they're thinking
Speaker 2: of you. Sometimes you're thinking of them because your body's
Speaker 2: still trying to release them, and it's up to you
Speaker 2: to investigate that. Of course, you can book a session
Speaker 2: with me if you want to know more information on that.
Speaker 2: I do also want to say I'm gonna start doing
Speaker 2: recorded ten minute readings because my schedule is getting a
Speaker 2: little bit crazy and with time zones. So if you
Speaker 2: do want a ten minute recording energy reading but you
Speaker 2: don't want to get on Zoom, all my sessions are
Speaker 2: done on Zoom usually, then you can DM me now
Speaker 2: or email me and I will set that up for
Speaker 2: you anyway. Positive bitches, I love you so much. This
Speaker 2: is just a crazy tornado time, so we're just a
Speaker 2: bit all over the place. But I wish you luck
Speaker 2: and I wish you healing, and I love you, love you,
Speaker 2: love y'all. See you in the next one.
Speaker 1: Energy Nope, can't set me, kiss me, kiss me,