Speaker 1: Hello and good morning, Good morning. How are you doing today, sir?
Speaker 2: I'm great, How are you doing?
Speaker 1: Absolutely fantastic. Talk to me about what it is that
you are bringing forward that I think is going to
change a lot of people's lives. If they just take
the time to hear your heart.
Speaker 3: They hear overcome self doubt and imposter syndrome and reach
their internal greatness.
Speaker 1: That's a lot. That's a lot that right there says Okay,
well that just included everybody.
Speaker 3: Well, and I think it's a problem that affects a
lot of the thing that affects a lot of people.
Speaker 2: So and I wrote a.
Speaker 3: Book last year about this rise above the Script, which really,
even though it's deed towards actors, which is who I
primarily work with and performers, but I feel it can
apply to anybody.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say imposter syndrome. I know a lot
of bosses that go through that motion. There's a lot
of people on the everyday street that that really has
that self doubt and they go through imposter syndrome. Even
my neighbor probably goes through it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wouldn't even say that most highativers in general
go through imposter syndrome. Even peak performers though, those that
are like really higher up and sometimes they you know,
you can't even say that.
Speaker 2: The higher up they.
Speaker 3: Are, the more that they experience, especially if they rise
up pretty quickly.
Speaker 1: Where along the lines, though, do they say, Okay, I've
got a situation here, I need to correct this. When
do they realize that they have a problem.
Speaker 3: I think it takes a while because it's they're probably
almost like the last panel. Other people may see it
around them, like things that are not adding up. They
might engage in self sabotizing behavior. They might be doing
some self defeating you know, things that are happening. What
I would say is typically what starts to happen is
when they start feeling very very anxious over certain situations,
important meetings, important dates, important responsibilities.
Speaker 2: You start to see, you they that.
Speaker 3: Start to add up, you know, things that start to
add a lot of pressure. I'm necessarily pressure and maybe
you know, loss of sleep, being incredibly anxious for no
you know, for sometimes there's no reason at the time.
Speaker 2: So that's when it's important to take a step back
in the sess of what's really going on or what's
really happening here.
Speaker 1: Let's redefine imposter syndrome, because I'm sure that listeners are
going to go, Okay, I think I've heard of it,
but but what is it really.
Speaker 3: It? The textbook definition is feeling like you're a fraud
or that you're going to be found out in a sense,
But it's really just about you doubting yourself whether or
not you're in the correct position or you have the
correct expertise At times?
Speaker 2: Am I really worth being a speaker? Am I really
worth running this company? Am I really worth you know,
being control of all the situation?
Speaker 3: Are people going to find out and realize that I
don't know anything about what I'm doing?
Speaker 1: Does this lead to the infamous burnout?
Speaker 3: Absolutely, especially if they if there's no outlet, if there's
no way that they can really talk about it or
go through this. So sometimes what you see you often
what needs to burn out is overworking, overly committing to
their process where they start like working sixty eighty hour
weeks because.
Speaker 2: It's all rooted also in perfectionism too, that they need
to be perfect, they need to be, you know, the best, and.
Speaker 3: There's no work life balance, there's no boundaries in their
life that they're.
Speaker 2: Saying, okay, I need time off.
Speaker 3: So everything everybody needs for wall adjustment outside hobbies and
interests rather than just their career focus.
Speaker 2: Oh, there needs to be some leisure updated.
Speaker 3: And you see, it's a lot of real people who
like they'll take these vacations, but yet on their vacation,
they're hooked up to their cell phone, they're hooked up
to their computer entire time.
Speaker 1: That's me. That's me. When I go camping, I take
my entire podcast studio with me. I'm doing the podcasting
while out there in nature.
Speaker 2: With second.
Speaker 3: You know, for some people it's it's it's a comfort thing,
but on the other side, it's eventually just gonna add up.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's great that people are interested.
Speaker 3: In and have their passions, but eventually that may lead
to burnout.
Speaker 2: Down the line. Then it's you just get spend. Your
energy just gets wiped out.
Speaker 1: Please do not move. There's more with doctor Albert Bremonte
coming up next. Hey, thanks for coming back to my
conversation with doctor Albert Bremonte. Well, how does one rewire
their mindset? I'm a daily defragger. I go into my journals,
I ask the questions, I question the answers. But I
don't think anybody else is doing that. So how can
we rewire that isn't going to take a lot of
time to do it?
Speaker 3: Well, even five minutes a day or ten minutes a day.
Reflection has five or ten minutes. Even when you wake
up in the morning, you know, when you're putting a
morning routine together, just take five or ten minutes to
reflect and meditate what how you want to play in
your day.
Speaker 2: And even then.
Speaker 3: Before you know, before you go to sleeping, they're own winding,
just you know, for five or ten minutes playing your
day the next day.
Speaker 2: Because when you have a plan, it's more of a
of a method, and it's more of a thing. And
as you said, you know, journaling is.
Speaker 3: A great tool to have and a great resource to
have because it helps you, you know, straight, screenlined and focus.
Speaker 1: So self sabotage is a big thing that's happening right now,
but a lot of people don't recognize it as that.
I call it career suicide. In other words, people that
will go into a job and they'll do whatever they
can to hurry up and get the heck out of
that job. In other words, they'll get fired on purpose
self sabotage.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, and and nobody really nobody walks around saying hey,
I'm I'm self sabotaged it.
Speaker 2: You know, the reason why it's such a tough.
Speaker 3: Pattern and challenging pattern is that we don't realize we're
doing it.
Speaker 2: So it could be like you, you might be sitting
there wondering why can't I hold a job or I
can't do anything right?
Speaker 3: And why is everything everyone so against me? And it's
like playing that victim mentality. And very often when you
have that victim mentality, you know, it's it's sad to say,
but it's these wounds that you're doing are self inflicted.
At some point, these hits that you're taking are self inflicted.
And that's where self sanitized comes in. So either having
a coach or someone who can, you know, give you
that gentle but tough love approach and say, look, you
are you're causing this, or you're the one that's you know,
let's let's take a step back and.
Speaker 2: Figure out what's going on here.
Speaker 3: Now. There are unfortunate situations no matter how you look
at it, that you know that someone.
Speaker 2: May do, you know, may do something wrong with you.
You're a wrong type of job.
Speaker 3: But if it's a pattern that keeps happening over and
over again, and it keeps returning over and over again,
this is a time to reflect.
Speaker 2: And the time to assess what is really going on here.
Speaker 1: Being a psychologist and a talent agent, don't patients and
actors use the same emotional muscles.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, and and you know the thing about with actors
why it's even more challenging is they need their emotions
that tap into roles and to play characters, which means
they usually pick characters that.
Speaker 2: They have empathy with.
Speaker 3: And when you're an EmPATH, which is most a lot
of actors are, which they absorb other people's emotions.
Speaker 2: They can not not only they're dealing with their own.
Speaker 3: You know a lot of time internal struggles, but they're
also taking on the persona or the character they're playing
their emotions.
Speaker 2: And then you have a lot of times like a
double lambing.
Speaker 3: And most people are really going throughout life reacting on emotion,
not logic.
Speaker 2: Unfortunately other times.
Speaker 1: Why do people fear success more than failure.
Speaker 2: Because success is changed. There are a couple of reasons.
Speaker 3: One is success means change and as even being we
don't like change. We like to stay comfortable, even though
we may want to change on a conscience level.
Speaker 2: But this change means destruction in a life. And there's
the second reason.
Speaker 3: There's more a lot more pressure if you become successful
on you. Whether it's imagined or you know, whether it's
real or imagined pressure, there's still gonna be a lot
more pressure on feed to be successful, to get that
emotion they land that role that may change your life,
you know, especially where actors. If you land let's say
a broad By contract or a lead in the TV series,
your life is gonna be kind of uprooted, and there's
gonna be a lot of press shutting.
Speaker 2: Perform because it was broadway into form eight a week.
You know, when I lead to a TV.
Speaker 3: Series or even a lead a movie, you're working six
seven days a week, twelve to forteen hour days.
Speaker 2: It's a lot of time and a lot of pressure
on you.
Speaker 1: It's not easy being a creative person. We face a
lot of roadblocks, and one of them is me standing
in front of myself in front of the mirror.
Speaker 2: Exactly.
Speaker 3: And that was I often say that a lot of
times our own worst enemy is is standing right in
front of us in the mirror is starry.
Speaker 1: Back at it yep, yep, yep. Wow. Now, Now, one
of the things that I totally believe in and I
try to adjust myself to it all the time, is
this thing called transitioning. I believe that we all go
through transitions every single day. But if we don't take
the time to listen to those transitions, then we're gonna
have earthquakes as I call them.
Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely, And and the thing is that there there's
a lot of times that we have to change, you know,
even though we don't like change. And they said that
a few minutes ago, it's inevitable transitions in our life.
Speaker 2: There's gonna be changed.
Speaker 4: I mean if otherwise what happens is eventually we're gonna
get a wake up call one day where we're gonna
get kind of like really knocked out.
Speaker 3: And even if we look at as through a society,
I often say this too, let's look at what happened
five years ago with the COVID pandemic.
Speaker 2: How that really forced us into change.
Speaker 3: And a lot of people were really dealing with having
a hard time with that, you know, because we're all.
Speaker 2: Had to adapt, We had to adapt. We had to pivot.
Speaker 3: And that's another thing too, is like there's a lot
of times in their life where we have to pivot.
Speaker 1: Where can people go to find out more about you,
doctor Albert?
Speaker 3: So you can go to my website at Albert Fromonty
dot com. You can also follow me on social media.
I'm on LinkedIn and also Instagram. You know, I'm at
doctor Albermonti and you can also find me on Facebook
under Albabermonti.
Speaker 2: I'm happy to interact and you have this conversation.
Speaker 1: Wow, I love where your heart is. You got to
come back to this show anytime in the future. The
door is always going to be open.
Speaker 2: Would love to come back. This is great. I would
love to come back.
Speaker 1: Will you be brilliant today? Okay?
Speaker 2: Doctor? Well yeah, well, thank you again. Thank you so
much for having me.