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Speaker 1: Hello and good morning, Good morning. How are you doing today, sir?

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Speaker 2: I'm great, How are you doing?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely fantastic. Talk to me about what it is that

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you are bringing forward that I think is going to

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change a lot of people's lives. If they just take

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the time to hear your heart.

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Speaker 3: They hear overcome self doubt and imposter syndrome and reach

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their internal greatness.

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Speaker 1: That's a lot. That's a lot that right there says Okay,

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well that just included everybody.

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Speaker 3: Well, and I think it's a problem that affects a

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lot of the thing that affects a lot of people.

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Speaker 2: So and I wrote a.

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Speaker 3: Book last year about this rise above the Script, which really,

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even though it's deed towards actors, which is who I

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primarily work with and performers, but I feel it can

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apply to anybody.

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say imposter syndrome. I know a lot

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of bosses that go through that motion. There's a lot

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of people on the everyday street that that really has

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that self doubt and they go through imposter syndrome. Even

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my neighbor probably goes through it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I wouldn't even say that most highativers in general

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go through imposter syndrome. Even peak performers though, those that

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are like really higher up and sometimes they you know,

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you can't even say that.

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Speaker 2: The higher up they.

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Speaker 3: Are, the more that they experience, especially if they rise

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up pretty quickly.

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Speaker 1: Where along the lines, though, do they say, Okay, I've

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got a situation here, I need to correct this. When

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do they realize that they have a problem.

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Speaker 3: I think it takes a while because it's they're probably

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almost like the last panel. Other people may see it

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around them, like things that are not adding up. They

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might engage in self sabotizing behavior. They might be doing

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some self defeating you know, things that are happening. What

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I would say is typically what starts to happen is

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when they start feeling very very anxious over certain situations,

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important meetings, important dates, important responsibilities.

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Speaker 2: You start to see, you they that.

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Speaker 3: Start to add up, you know, things that start to

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add a lot of pressure. I'm necessarily pressure and maybe

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you know, loss of sleep, being incredibly anxious for no

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you know, for sometimes there's no reason at the time.

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Speaker 2: So that's when it's important to take a step back

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in the sess of what's really going on or what's

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really happening here.

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Speaker 1: Let's redefine imposter syndrome, because I'm sure that listeners are

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going to go, Okay, I think I've heard of it,

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but but what is it really.

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Speaker 3: It? The textbook definition is feeling like you're a fraud

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or that you're going to be found out in a sense,

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But it's really just about you doubting yourself whether or

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not you're in the correct position or you have the

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correct expertise At times?

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Speaker 2: Am I really worth being a speaker? Am I really

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worth running this company? Am I really worth you know,

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being control of all the situation?

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Speaker 3: Are people going to find out and realize that I

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don't know anything about what I'm doing?

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Speaker 1: Does this lead to the infamous burnout?

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, especially if they if there's no outlet, if there's

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no way that they can really talk about it or

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go through this. So sometimes what you see you often

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what needs to burn out is overworking, overly committing to

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their process where they start like working sixty eighty hour

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Speaker 2: It's all rooted also in perfectionism too, that they need

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to be perfect, they need to be, you know, the best, and.

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Speaker 3: There's no work life balance, there's no boundaries in their

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life that they're.

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Speaker 2: Saying, okay, I need time off.

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Speaker 3: So everything everybody needs for wall adjustment outside hobbies and

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interests rather than just their career focus.

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Speaker 2: Oh, there needs to be some leisure updated.

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Speaker 3: And you see, it's a lot of real people who

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like they'll take these vacations, but yet on their vacation,

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they're hooked up to their cell phone, they're hooked up

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to their computer entire time.

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Speaker 1: That's me. That's me. When I go camping, I take

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my entire podcast studio with me. I'm doing the podcasting

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while out there in nature.

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Speaker 2: With second.

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Speaker 3: You know, for some people it's it's it's a comfort thing,

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but on the other side, it's eventually just gonna add up.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's great that people are interested.

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Speaker 3: In and have their passions, but eventually that may lead

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Speaker 2: Down the line. Then it's you just get spend. Your

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energy just gets wiped out.

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Speaker 1: Please do not move. There's more with doctor Albert Bremonte

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coming up next. Hey, thanks for coming back to my

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conversation with doctor Albert Bremonte. Well, how does one rewire

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their mindset? I'm a daily defragger. I go into my journals,

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I ask the questions, I question the answers. But I

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don't think anybody else is doing that. So how can

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we rewire that isn't going to take a lot of

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time to do it?

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Speaker 3: Well, even five minutes a day or ten minutes a day.

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Reflection has five or ten minutes. Even when you wake

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up in the morning, you know, when you're putting a

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morning routine together, just take five or ten minutes to

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reflect and meditate what how you want to play in

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your day.

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Speaker 2: And even then.

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Speaker 3: Before you know, before you go to sleeping, they're own winding,

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just you know, for five or ten minutes playing your

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Speaker 2: Because when you have a plan, it's more of a

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of a method, and it's more of a thing. And

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as you said, you know, journaling is.

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Speaker 3: A great tool to have and a great resource to

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have because it helps you, you know, straight, screenlined and focus.

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Speaker 1: So self sabotage is a big thing that's happening right now,

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but a lot of people don't recognize it as that.

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I call it career suicide. In other words, people that

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will go into a job and they'll do whatever they

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can to hurry up and get the heck out of

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that job. In other words, they'll get fired on purpose

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self sabotage.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, and and nobody really nobody walks around saying hey,

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I'm I'm self sabotaged it.

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Speaker 2: You know, the reason why it's such a tough.

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Speaker 3: Pattern and challenging pattern is that we don't realize we're

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Speaker 2: So it could be like you, you might be sitting

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there wondering why can't I hold a job or I

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can't do anything right?

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Speaker 3: And why is everything everyone so against me? And it's

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like playing that victim mentality. And very often when you

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have that victim mentality, you know, it's it's sad to say,

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but it's these wounds that you're doing are self inflicted.

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At some point, these hits that you're taking are self inflicted.

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And that's where self sanitized comes in. So either having

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a coach or someone who can, you know, give you

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that gentle but tough love approach and say, look, you

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are you're causing this, or you're the one that's you know,

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let's let's take a step back and.

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Speaker 2: Figure out what's going on here.

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Speaker 3: Now. There are unfortunate situations no matter how you look

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at it, that you know that someone.

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Speaker 2: May do, you know, may do something wrong with you.

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Speaker 3: But if it's a pattern that keeps happening over and

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over again, and it keeps returning over and over again,

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this is a time to reflect.

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Speaker 2: And the time to assess what is really going on here.

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Speaker 1: Being a psychologist and a talent agent, don't patients and

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actors use the same emotional muscles.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, and and you know the thing about with actors

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why it's even more challenging is they need their emotions

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that tap into roles and to play characters, which means

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Speaker 2: They have empathy with.

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Speaker 3: And when you're an EmPATH, which is most a lot

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of actors are, which they absorb other people's emotions.

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Speaker 2: They can not not only they're dealing with their own.

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also taking on the persona or the character they're playing

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Speaker 2: And then you have a lot of times like a

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double lambing.

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Speaker 3: And most people are really going throughout life reacting on emotion,

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Speaker 2: Unfortunately other times.

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Speaker 1: Why do people fear success more than failure.

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Speaker 2: Because success is changed. There are a couple of reasons.

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Speaker 3: One is success means change and as even being we

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don't like change. We like to stay comfortable, even though

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we may want to change on a conscience level.

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Speaker 2: But this change means destruction in a life. And there's

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Speaker 3: There's more a lot more pressure if you become successful

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real or imagined pressure, there's still gonna be a lot

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more pressure on feed to be successful, to get that

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emotion they land that role that may change your life,

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you know, especially where actors. If you land let's say

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a broad By contract or a lead in the TV series,

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your life is gonna be kind of uprooted, and there's

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gonna be a lot of press shutting.

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Speaker 1: It's not easy being a creative person. We face a

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lot of roadblocks, and one of them is me standing

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in front of myself in front of the mirror.

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Speaker 2: Exactly.

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Speaker 3: And that was I often say that a lot of

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times our own worst enemy is is standing right in

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front of us in the mirror is starry.

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Speaker 1: Back at it yep, yep, yep. Wow. Now, Now, one

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of the things that I totally believe in and I

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this thing called transitioning. I believe that we all go

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through transitions every single day. But if we don't take

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have earthquakes as I call them.

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Speaker 3: Yes, absolutely, And and the thing is that there there's

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a few minutes ago, it's inevitable transitions in our life.

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Speaker 2: There's gonna be changed.

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Speaker 4: I mean if otherwise what happens is eventually we're gonna

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get a wake up call one day where we're gonna

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Speaker 3: And even if we look at as through a society,

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I often say this too, let's look at what happened

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five years ago with the COVID pandemic.

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Speaker 2: How that really forced us into change.

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Speaker 3: And a lot of people were really dealing with having

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a hard time with that, you know, because we're all.

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Speaker 2: Had to adapt, We had to adapt. We had to pivot.

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Speaker 3: And that's another thing too, is like there's a lot

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of times in their life where we have to pivot.

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Speaker 1: Where can people go to find out more about you,

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doctor Albert?

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Speaker 3: So you can go to my website at Albert Fromonty

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dot com. You can also follow me on social media.

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I'm on LinkedIn and also Instagram. You know, I'm at

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doctor Albermonti and you can also find me on Facebook

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under Albabermonti.

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Speaker 2: I'm happy to interact and you have this conversation.

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Speaker 1: Wow, I love where your heart is. You got to

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come back to this show anytime in the future. The

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door is always going to be open.

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Speaker 2: Would love to come back. This is great. I would

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love to come back.

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Speaker 1: Will you be brilliant today? Okay?

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Speaker 2: Doctor? Well yeah, well, thank you again. Thank you so

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much for having me.