Speaker 1: So just say you were having a conversation with a
Speaker 1: beloved and it went off the rails. And just imagine
Speaker 1: that in that conversation, perhaps they said something that upset you.
Speaker 1: Perhaps you just got triggered, and you end up saying
Speaker 1: something that later on you regretted. There's a practice you
Speaker 1: can do, and it's called in a reflection technique. I've
Speaker 1: seen all kinds of miraculous things happen for myself as
Speaker 1: well as others. Hi, I'm Shaktidoga. Welcome to Mystery School,
Speaker 1: Ancient Wisdom for everyday life. A space where we explore
Speaker 1: the sacred, awaken inner knowledge, solve problems, and learn to
Speaker 1: live from the divine within. Hello, welcome to Mystery School.
Speaker 1: I'm Shakti Doga. And today we're going to talk about
Speaker 1: what I think is the advanced class in spiritual training,
Speaker 1: and that is relationships. And specifically, we're going to look
Speaker 1: at setting boundaries. How do you set healthy boundaries so
Speaker 1: that you can thrive in relationships? Well, to start with,
Speaker 1: I think that the most basic part of understanding the
Speaker 1: metaphysics of relationships and how to work with them constructively
Speaker 1: is that most of what we're doing with relationship is
Speaker 1: not physical. So whilst there are certainly words that are
Speaker 1: said between two people, and certainly there's some body language,
Speaker 1: there's so much more going on beneath the surface of
Speaker 1: a relationship. And that's really what I'd like to discuss
Speaker 1: with you today and share a tool that might help
Speaker 1: you to recalibrate and rebalance a relationship if you've got one.
Speaker 1: There's a bit sticky at the moment where you're feeling
Speaker 1: a bit uncertain, where you feel is a bit of distance,
Speaker 1: So hopefully this will help you in those situations. As
Speaker 1: I said, it's the advance class in spirituality because there's
Speaker 1: no whah to run, there's no where to hide. Everything
Speaker 1: that's going on in the inside of us is there
Speaker 1: in our face as somebody relates with us. So let's
Speaker 1: think about the five dimensions which I've talked about in
Speaker 1: previous podcasts and how they relate to relationships. As I
Speaker 1: said before, we have the physical part. We have to
Speaker 1: show up, we have to spend time with each other.
Speaker 1: We have to try and use language that's appropriate and
Speaker 1: not debasing or abusive language, not disrespecting another person with
Speaker 1: their language. And also because we don't like it, do
Speaker 1: we when that happens to us. Sometimes it's very hard
Speaker 1: to avoid, and sometimes we mess it up. And that's
Speaker 1: when the psychic impression of what you've said and the
Speaker 1: way you said it sticks in our energy field and sticky.
Speaker 1: And what happens is that it tends to be something
Speaker 1: that attaches to the way communication then unfolds, and it
Speaker 1: takes a while for that stickiness to go away. And
Speaker 1: usually there's got to be a real surrender or a
Speaker 1: real act of forgiveness for that to happen. And so
Speaker 1: there's another way forward as well. If we understand that
Speaker 1: our energy field is like a set of containers for
Speaker 1: consciousness and energy, then we understand that everything that we're
Speaker 1: putting into a relationship or receiving back from the relationship
Speaker 1: is going into these containers, and so over time they
Speaker 1: get very choked up. On another occasion, we will do
Speaker 1: some healing directly on the energy field, But today, what
Speaker 1: I really want to go to is the next level
Speaker 1: of who we are on the inner plane, which we
Speaker 1: are astral beings. We have a dimension of our consciousness
Speaker 1: that lives in the astral field. Astrology as a metaphysical
Speaker 1: science is named after the astual field, and it's the
Speaker 1: field where big waves of emotion are rolling through all
Speaker 1: the time, and they're either lifting us up, dragging us down,
Speaker 1: pumeling us, or really helping us, depending upon where in
Speaker 1: the cycle of the emotional waves you happen to be
Speaker 1: at any moment when anything in particular is happening in
Speaker 1: your life. Those emotional waves are affected by the relative
Speaker 1: positions of the stars, the sun, and the moon relative
Speaker 1: to where you are on Earth. It's very mathematically arrived
Speaker 1: at the computations are complicated, but luckily we have computers
Speaker 1: now that can help us to ascertain that. So another
Speaker 1: tip is that if you can't understand what's going on
Speaker 1: in a relationship that's important to you and it just
Speaker 1: seems to go from one level of bad to another
Speaker 1: despite your best interests and endeavors, then check out your
Speaker 1: astrological profile and perhaps get relationships chart done so that
Speaker 1: you can see what's going on in the composite chart
Speaker 1: of both of you in the relationship. There are other
Speaker 1: ways too, of working with this very powerful field, because
Speaker 1: in this field is where all of our thoughts, our beliefs,
Speaker 1: our expectations, and our memories sit and they sit around
Speaker 1: us like an invisible cloud and it goes everywhere we go.
Speaker 1: And so part of spiritual training, and very important part
Speaker 1: not to be overlooked, is the cleansing and purification of
Speaker 1: our astral bodies, which takes some years to achieve, and
Speaker 1: we just keep working on it systematically, systematically, systematically, day
Speaker 1: after day, week after week, month after month, and year
Speaker 1: after year, to keep cleansing and purifying that field of
Speaker 1: consciousness that is our generation and what we're sitting in,
Speaker 1: what we've attracted to us. So just say you were
Speaker 1: having a conversation with a beloved and it went off
Speaker 1: the rails, and just imagine that in that conversation, perhaps
Speaker 1: they said something that upset you. Perhaps you just got triggered,
Speaker 1: and you end up saying something that later on you regretted.
Speaker 1: I used to joke with some of our team that
Speaker 1: wouldn't be good if your mouth had a rewind button.
Speaker 1: I certainly could have used a rewind button on my
Speaker 1: life many many times. Yet just rewind, take that back
Speaker 1: and put in something else. Well, there's a practice you
Speaker 1: can do that is similar to a rewind for what
Speaker 1: we've said, and it's called in a reflection technique. You
Speaker 1: can call it daily reflection technique because you can do
Speaker 1: it every day to good effect, and it really is
Speaker 1: simple but incredibly effective. I've seen all kinds of miraculous
Speaker 1: things happen for myself as well as others when we've
Speaker 1: messed something up, and then we do this practice from
Speaker 1: goodness in heart, not from trying to control anything, but
Speaker 1: just wanting to clean up our side of the street
Speaker 1: and come to peace ourselves with something that perhaps we
Speaker 1: regret now. So I thought we might do that together today.
Speaker 1: There are other levels to relating, and we talk about
Speaker 1: them in our three Shanty Mission relationship modules. They're part
Speaker 1: of the Path of Ease and Grace, and the Path
Speaker 1: of Ease and Grace is a series of seminars designed
Speaker 1: for anyone who lives in a modern society who's wanting
Speaker 1: to bridge the gap between the life that we experience
Speaker 1: and the inner life and the soul, and we help
Speaker 1: people understand how to bring the soulfulness, and the spirit
Speaker 1: alive to navigate health, wealth, and relationships. We have three
Speaker 1: Empowering Relationships programs that are based on my book Empowering Relationships,
Speaker 1: and the one that's coming up soon is Conflict to Connection,
Speaker 1: which you can hop into in June. It's run regularly,
Speaker 1: and just have a look at our website Chanty Mission
Speaker 1: dot org and you'll see the Path of Ease and
Speaker 1: Grace programs and it's under that tab. It's part of
Speaker 1: our Mystery School. But right at the very beginning, it's
Speaker 1: the foundation. We don't have a foundation if we don't
Speaker 1: clean up our energy field, if we don't clean up
Speaker 1: our astrial body, then the higher mysteries and the things
Speaker 1: that we can do involving the great celestial energies and potencies,
Speaker 1: it'll make a bit of a mess. So we want
Speaker 1: to have our foundation good before we go tipping around
Speaker 1: the stars literally. So here we go. We're going to
Speaker 1: do the inner reflection technique, and so please get comfortable
Speaker 1: and ready for meditation. You might want to sit with
Speaker 1: your back straight on a chair on the floor, whatever
Speaker 1: you're more comfortable, or you can lie down for this
Speaker 1: practice if that's more comfortable for you. And really bring
Speaker 1: to mind now a person that you would really like
Speaker 1: to clean your relationship with them, perhaps someone who you
Speaker 1: care deeply about, but it just seems that no matter
Speaker 1: what you say, things just go from bad to worse.
Speaker 1: Or someone with whom you had a recent disagreement. So
Speaker 1: close your eyes if that feels comfortable to you, and
Speaker 1: just start to breathe deeply and slowly as you start
Speaker 1: to access a meditative framework. And with the next in breath,
Speaker 1: breathing right down into your belly, let your belly relax,
Speaker 1: and let the outbreath flow out through the base of
Speaker 1: your spine and deeply into the earth. And then from
Speaker 1: the earth, draw up beautiful, clear, clean energy like you
Speaker 1: find in nat in beautiful forests or at the ocean,
Speaker 1: and draw that energy upward through your body like it's
Speaker 1: a gift, and every cell in your body goes yum,
Speaker 1: and bring that energy right up through your body and
Speaker 1: out through the top of your head and releasing upwards
Speaker 1: and then drawing in energy from above coming in through
Speaker 1: the top of the head and down through your body
Speaker 1: and all the way out through the base of the
Speaker 1: spine and into the earth. We'll do that again. Imagine
Speaker 1: the point of light at the core essence of the universe,
Speaker 1: within the divine of your understanding, and pulling that divine,
Speaker 1: infinite light in through the top of your head from
Speaker 1: a great pillar that exists above you and through you
Speaker 1: and down into the earth and just let that light
Speaker 1: flood in through your body and your energy field will
Speaker 1: say thank you, and with practice, you'll feel this very strongly.
Speaker 1: It's very relaxing and nurturing. And now just bring your
Speaker 1: awareness into your heart center as we call upon the
Speaker 1: wisdom of our higher souls, and we call upon the beloved,
Speaker 1: and you can just think of the person with whom
Speaker 1: you'd like to clear a relationship, and then just gently
Speaker 1: asking for guidance and wisdom and forming the intention that
Speaker 1: there be peace and harmony, goodwill and a deepening of
Speaker 1: compassion and love between us, and just breathe in as
Speaker 1: you allow your body to feel that intention, and then
Speaker 1: just gently going back in time from this very moment,
Speaker 1: back to a time that you can remember where either
Speaker 1: through your energy, your words, your actions, something kind of
Speaker 1: was a bit off. And we're going to do some
Speaker 1: healing now. So you can say, I now release any
Speaker 1: negative energy, thoughts, vibrations, or emotions that arose from that interaction,
Speaker 1: and I asked that this bit transmits you did into
Speaker 1: peace and bread deeply in and releasing everywhere and feel
Speaker 1: your body releasing whatever was there from that interaction, and
Speaker 1: then say I'm sorry, I wasn't as skillful as I
Speaker 1: would have liked to be, And I ask that you
Speaker 1: forgive me, and I'll try again now. And breathe in
Speaker 1: and release everywhere, and now just imagine that you're in
Speaker 1: that time again with that person, and say what you
Speaker 1: wanted to say the way you wanted to say it,
Speaker 1: with kindness, with understanding and clarity and being clear with
Speaker 1: that person, breathing slowly and deeply, and put a few
Speaker 1: words of encouragement into the conversation and sharing a little
Speaker 1: bit of your fondness for the person with them and
Speaker 1: how much you admire certain qualities, and thank them for
Speaker 1: being in your life, and let them know that it
Speaker 1: is your intention to move deeper into friendship, deeper into love.
Speaker 1: And imagine that from your heart, amazing pinkish energy is
Speaker 1: flowing to the other person, and that love is flowing
Speaker 1: between you through the pinkish energy. And then let go
Speaker 1: and release. Breathe and let go, and if you wish to,
Speaker 1: you can cut bring your hand down the front of
Speaker 1: your body and just cutting big out breath and then
Speaker 1: take your awareness back further as we seek out another
Speaker 1: time in our history with this person that there could
Speaker 1: have been a little trickiness and where perhaps you are
Speaker 1: not so clear in that other interaction. Just going back
Speaker 1: until you can find a time where your attitude, your energy,
Speaker 1: your present, take your words that you just weren't as
Speaker 1: kind and clear and loving and patient as you could
Speaker 1: have been, and say, I ask for divine help in
Speaker 1: releasing all negative energy, negative psychic impressions, and negative emotions
Speaker 1: from my interaction with and say the name of your beloved,
Speaker 1: and I ask for divine help in bringing this relationship
Speaker 1: into peace, harmony, balance and clarity, and breathe in and
Speaker 1: then releasing everywhere. And you can imagine an electric violet
Speaker 1: light just flooding through your body, through your energy field,
Speaker 1: through your whole being, and dissolving and disintegrating any ripples
Speaker 1: in the force in your relationship with this person, going
Speaker 1: back through time, breathing slowly and deeply, holding steadfast to
Speaker 1: your intention to dissolve what you've outgrown now and instead
Speaker 1: to bring the deliciousness of true compassion, soul, presence, clarity,
Speaker 1: and kindness to your interactions and breathing deeply, and just
Speaker 1: send from your heart that wave of lovely energy of
Speaker 1: which I'm speaking, and imagine it going back through the
Speaker 1: timeline with this person, all the way back through all
Speaker 1: of your interactions, just being cleansed, and imagine that the
Speaker 1: divine of your understanding, or perhaps spiritual teachers or archangels
Speaker 1: or divine beings that you work with are blessing you,
Speaker 1: blessing the relationship and helping you in your efforts to
Speaker 1: be a peacemaker and to rectify mistakes in consciousness and
Speaker 1: bring forth a higher vibration of potential for yourself and others.
Speaker 1: And just offering this through your relationship with your beloved
Speaker 1: and smiling at them, and just now saying to them
Speaker 1: anything you'd like to say that is positive and affirming
Speaker 1: of them, thinking about their good points and their strengths,
Speaker 1: tell them how much you admire those, and then once
Speaker 1: more sending a wave of loving energy from your heart,
Speaker 1: just intend that the love within you that's part of
Speaker 1: your higher soul just now flood into this relationship and
Speaker 1: be available as a new foundation for peace and harmony
Speaker 1: and well being, for kindness, yes, and for closeness. So
Speaker 1: be it, and just take a few deep, slow breaths
Speaker 1: as you allow your body to integrate the practice, and
Speaker 1: then gently bring your awareness back into your body wriggling
Speaker 1: your fingers, wriggling your toes, and when you're ready, you
Speaker 1: can open your eyes. How are you feeling? I hope
Speaker 1: you can feel a little lightness after doing that, and
Speaker 1: certainly with a few repetitions you will notice a change.
Speaker 1: I've known people who've come to our seminars and practiced
Speaker 1: this technique and people they hadn't spoken to for a
Speaker 1: long time where they'd felt there was estrangement and they
Speaker 1: didn't know what to do about it. That after the seminar,
Speaker 1: that person would call them and would say, Hey, look,
Speaker 1: I really regret that we haven't been in touch. Do
Speaker 1: you feel like getting together for a cup of coffee?
Speaker 1: So these things are capable of being shifted, and this
Speaker 1: is such a lovely, gentle, spiritual way of approaching the
Speaker 1: practical issues that we face in day to day life
Speaker 1: as we seek and sometimes miss the bulls eye, we
Speaker 1: seek to be peace makers. I hope you enjoy using
Speaker 1: in a reflection technique and I look forward to seeing
Speaker 1: you again soon. Thanks for joining me for Mystery School
Speaker 1: Ancient Wisdom for everyday Life, the deeper experiential spiritual exploration.
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Speaker 1: more information, visit Shanti mission dot org. See you next time.