WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.400 --> 00:00:03.120 Welcome to man, sex and tundra. 2 00:00:03.720 --> 00:00:06.759 Discover where your parents, porn and religion never taught you 3 00:00:06.799 --> 00:00:10.439 about being a man and having extraordinary sex. Get ready 4 00:00:10.480 --> 00:00:16.000 to have your mind blown and your world rocked. Okay, 5 00:00:16.039 --> 00:00:18.960 we're back, and I'm still with Oliver, who's still wiping 6 00:00:19.000 --> 00:00:23.839 his nose because because he's like now he's gone from polite, 7 00:00:23.920 --> 00:00:25.559 you know, with the napkin delight. I just use the 8 00:00:25.600 --> 00:00:26.320 back of your hand. 9 00:00:26.519 --> 00:00:27.839 Well, they's a rough day for me. 10 00:00:28.079 --> 00:00:30.160 I think it's actually I use them get allergies, but 11 00:00:30.199 --> 00:00:31.879 we're in that seasonal switch. 12 00:00:32.880 --> 00:00:35.759 Yeah, absolutely the time when I have a hard time 13 00:00:35.799 --> 00:00:39.399 sleeping because where I live is it warm? Is it cold? 14 00:00:39.520 --> 00:00:41.600 Is it warm? Is it cold? And it's like I 15 00:00:41.799 --> 00:00:44.479 suffer both in the fall and the spring with two 16 00:00:44.759 --> 00:00:47.320 drastic temperature changes. When I'm trying to sleep. It makes 17 00:00:47.320 --> 00:00:49.880 me a little crazy. So I get it. I don't 18 00:00:49.920 --> 00:00:52.119 get allergies, but I do get sleep allergy. 19 00:00:52.679 --> 00:00:54.520 Usually don't. It's weird. I don't know. 20 00:00:55.600 --> 00:00:57.759 Well, the other thing is my animals are swimming a 21 00:00:57.799 --> 00:00:59.799 lot now, and so they're tracking a lot more stuff 22 00:01:00.079 --> 00:01:00.679 to my house. 23 00:01:00.920 --> 00:01:05.040 Got it, Yeah, we our house is not the tidiest. 24 00:01:05.400 --> 00:01:08.359 I can't I can. Yeah, it's like, so the clothes 25 00:01:08.400 --> 00:01:11.079 would also be not the clothes that like like to 26 00:01:12.120 --> 00:01:13.439 gather hair. 27 00:01:13.760 --> 00:01:16.359 Yeah, we try hard to shed hair. 28 00:01:16.280 --> 00:01:18.920 Right when I when I'm an equestrian center, of course, 29 00:01:18.920 --> 00:01:24.280 I was around horses, all the horses, and it has 30 00:01:24.319 --> 00:01:27.359 a way of like wiggling into the clothes, and so 31 00:01:27.640 --> 00:01:29.239 you know, it doesn't matter if you wash it or whatever. 32 00:01:29.280 --> 00:01:31.200 It's like it becomes a scene. So you wear all 33 00:01:31.239 --> 00:01:33.519 of the clothes that have that slick kind of outside 34 00:01:33.519 --> 00:01:36.560 so that it just slides off instead of the polar 35 00:01:37.519 --> 00:01:39.120 polar fleece pants I used to wear all the time 36 00:01:39.159 --> 00:01:39.760 to the barn. 37 00:01:39.560 --> 00:01:41.760 But what's funny, my wife likes polar fleece pants too, 38 00:01:41.799 --> 00:01:43.920 and so I'm constantly hitting her with one of those 39 00:01:43.959 --> 00:01:44.760 sticky rollers. 40 00:01:44.959 --> 00:01:49.079 Yes see, you know that's that's intimacy. You're like hey baby, 41 00:01:49.200 --> 00:01:50.239 You're like, hey baby. 42 00:01:50.120 --> 00:01:54.239 Comes roll you baby. 43 00:01:54.439 --> 00:01:54.920 That's right. 44 00:01:56.799 --> 00:01:59.400 But the way, this is the way that they do 45 00:01:59.519 --> 00:02:02.640 four play here is when he's a baby, I got 46 00:02:02.640 --> 00:02:04.480 the roller, come on over here. 47 00:02:04.879 --> 00:02:05.400 That's right. 48 00:02:06.480 --> 00:02:08.360 And by the way, for those of you that are listening, 49 00:02:08.360 --> 00:02:10.319 if you if you want to know which vacuum cleaners 50 00:02:10.400 --> 00:02:13.680 really work, yes, Dyson's come in my house and they 51 00:02:13.759 --> 00:02:16.479 literally crept the bed at this threshold. 52 00:02:16.520 --> 00:02:18.639 They're like, uh uh, I'd just rather die. 53 00:02:19.400 --> 00:02:25.680 We use the shark commercial version and it's not not amazing, 54 00:02:26.360 --> 00:02:29.039 but it has stood the test of of our you know, 55 00:02:29.080 --> 00:02:30.319 we we don't have dust bunnies. 56 00:02:30.319 --> 00:02:31.520 We have dust dragons. 57 00:02:31.879 --> 00:02:37.360 Yes, yeah, air balls like yeah, tribles hairball from Star Trek. 58 00:02:39.319 --> 00:02:43.800 Live with Tribles, Oh my god, you know. And I 59 00:02:43.840 --> 00:02:45.400 have bags. Here's the funny part. 60 00:02:45.479 --> 00:02:47.960 So when when we when the wolves shed, it's once 61 00:02:47.960 --> 00:02:50.800 a year, they blow their undercoat and we save that 62 00:02:50.879 --> 00:02:53.719 fur and bags because people buy it. They want to 63 00:02:53.840 --> 00:02:56.319 craft with it, so you can you can card it 64 00:02:56.360 --> 00:02:58.520 and spin it out and it makes the warmest, softest 65 00:02:58.879 --> 00:02:59.800 uh Like. 66 00:02:59.759 --> 00:03:03.280 For I want a wolf dust, Oh my godness. 67 00:03:03.840 --> 00:03:05.879 It takes a lot, it's all I mean. 68 00:03:06.000 --> 00:03:07.639 I have a hat that a friend knit for me 69 00:03:07.719 --> 00:03:10.039 from the animal behind me actually many years ago from 70 00:03:10.039 --> 00:03:10.680 her first shed. 71 00:03:11.599 --> 00:03:13.280 The only place I could wear it would be the 72 00:03:13.319 --> 00:03:13.919 high Arctic. 73 00:03:14.319 --> 00:03:16.280 You feel like your head is in a sauna within 74 00:03:16.319 --> 00:03:19.479 thirty seconds. It's ridiculous. I use what I use it 75 00:03:19.520 --> 00:03:22.000 for is in you know, the winter, when I want 76 00:03:22.000 --> 00:03:23.960 to have a water bladder that doesn't freeze. I like 77 00:03:24.000 --> 00:03:26.319 to keep like tea or something, and so I take 78 00:03:26.439 --> 00:03:29.439 ziploc bags and I stuff it with the shed wolf 79 00:03:29.439 --> 00:03:33.319 hair and I put the bladder between two bags filled 80 00:03:33.759 --> 00:03:36.080 it will keep my tea warm for hours. 81 00:03:36.360 --> 00:03:39.759 Wow, that is crazy cool. So you guys are learning 82 00:03:39.800 --> 00:03:41.199 some really interesting. 83 00:03:40.840 --> 00:03:45.000 Things, you know, for for more survival skills basically no, right, 84 00:03:45.039 --> 00:03:48.599 so you have more so I can subscribe for more. 85 00:03:48.960 --> 00:03:51.039 Kind of find a wolf that's she shed if you're 86 00:03:51.080 --> 00:03:54.400 ever lost, and find a shedding wolf and safe, that's. 87 00:03:54.319 --> 00:03:56.039 Right, and then figure out how you're gonna get And 88 00:03:56.080 --> 00:03:59.080 this one behind me she bites. You call her princess 89 00:03:59.080 --> 00:04:01.599 bitchy pants, all right, Princeville. 90 00:04:02.080 --> 00:04:05.000 Nice, okay, all right. So we wanted to roll into 91 00:04:05.000 --> 00:04:10.960 our last episode here with Oliver and talking about, you know, 92 00:04:11.120 --> 00:04:13.400 more of this kind of alpha male, these guys that 93 00:04:13.439 --> 00:04:15.240 are telling you out there in the world how to 94 00:04:15.240 --> 00:04:19.079 be and how a you know, a real high value man. 95 00:04:20.399 --> 00:04:22.360 I'm sorry I go every time I say that, I 96 00:04:22.439 --> 00:04:26.759 just have to laugh. Only days of real high value woman. 97 00:04:26.959 --> 00:04:31.120 And the high value woman should never have any masculine 98 00:04:31.720 --> 00:04:37.000 polarity or energy. She should definitely be in her feminine 99 00:04:37.600 --> 00:04:41.399 and only and I get shit about this, Like all 100 00:04:41.480 --> 00:04:43.720 my life, I've gotten crap about this. I just want 101 00:04:43.759 --> 00:04:46.600 to say, and I actually, if I'm with a man 102 00:04:46.879 --> 00:04:51.759 who is competent and I find him sexy, I have 103 00:04:51.839 --> 00:04:54.439 the story of literally putting a napkin over my head 104 00:04:54.439 --> 00:04:58.040 at a restaurant because I'm blushing. So as bad ass 105 00:04:58.279 --> 00:05:01.199 as I am and competent as I am, if I'm 106 00:05:01.199 --> 00:05:03.000 in the space of a man, not an alpha guy 107 00:05:03.000 --> 00:05:07.800 who's like, I'll just compete with him, my I was like, Oh, 108 00:05:07.879 --> 00:05:10.040 this is what we're doing. Let's compete. You think you're 109 00:05:10.079 --> 00:05:12.879 that I can tet. But if a man is confident 110 00:05:13.160 --> 00:05:17.079 and competent and secure in himself and he's sitting across 111 00:05:17.079 --> 00:05:19.439 a restaurant at me, and I'm attracted to him and 112 00:05:19.480 --> 00:05:22.079 all he did this one last guy, he looked me 113 00:05:22.120 --> 00:05:23.759 a little bit up and down, not in like a 114 00:05:23.839 --> 00:05:25.560 leering way, but just kind of looked at me and goes, 115 00:05:26.839 --> 00:05:31.519 you look fantastic, And I went bright red, started giggling, looke, 116 00:05:31.600 --> 00:05:35.560 took a freaking napkin and put it on my head. Okay, 117 00:05:35.680 --> 00:05:40.279 I was that undone by that just confident experience of him. 118 00:05:40.279 --> 00:05:43.079 And the waitress came and I held the menu up 119 00:05:43.360 --> 00:05:45.480 and I looked out from under my napkin and I ordered. 120 00:05:45.519 --> 00:05:48.240 He's in the meantime laughing over there. Who wouldn't laugh 121 00:05:48.240 --> 00:05:51.000 about this? I mean, I was experience. I'm an experienced woman. 122 00:05:51.560 --> 00:05:54.920 This is like ridiculous. The waitress tried to take the menu, 123 00:05:55.360 --> 00:05:56.959 but I didn't want to give it to her because 124 00:05:57.000 --> 00:05:58.759 it was my shield, and so finally she took it. 125 00:05:58.839 --> 00:06:00.920 He's laughing. I took the nap off my head, and 126 00:06:00.959 --> 00:06:03.839 he goes, that is most charming, endearing thing, and then 127 00:06:03.839 --> 00:06:06.399 I blush some more. So you know, just because a 128 00:06:06.439 --> 00:06:09.639 woman's badass and competent and all this stuff doesn't mean 129 00:06:10.959 --> 00:06:15.319 she's only one way, because I don't think any of 130 00:06:15.399 --> 00:06:23.519 us should stay static in one way. Resilience, adaptability, flexibility. Right. 131 00:06:23.639 --> 00:06:27.120 To say that we're always alpha, we're always in our 132 00:06:27.160 --> 00:06:30.759 mask and are always and our feminine is ridiculous. There 133 00:06:30.800 --> 00:06:32.519 is no strategy in that. So what do you have 134 00:06:32.560 --> 00:06:33.199 to say about that? 135 00:06:33.279 --> 00:06:36.480 And the wolves balder well, I mean, I think, look, 136 00:06:37.399 --> 00:06:39.600 I told you I have an amazing wolf story, so 137 00:06:40.439 --> 00:06:42.360 probably the most. In fact, there's a whole book about 138 00:06:42.360 --> 00:06:45.360 her called The Female Alpha Wolf by my friend Rick McIntyre, 139 00:06:45.439 --> 00:06:49.439 who arguably the best wolf storytale teller in the history 140 00:06:49.439 --> 00:06:52.040 of the world. He spent twenty six years never missing 141 00:06:52.040 --> 00:06:55.040 a day, watching the wolves and Yellowstone Wow quite and 142 00:06:55.120 --> 00:06:58.480 writing notes and showing people wolves and chronicling their histories. 143 00:06:58.759 --> 00:07:00.879 So if you want to read amazing wolf stories, Rick 144 00:07:01.000 --> 00:07:03.360 McIntyre as a whole bunch of books. But he has 145 00:07:03.439 --> 00:07:07.959 one about a female that we called the six Female. 146 00:07:08.120 --> 00:07:10.920 And the deal about the O six Female was she 147 00:07:11.079 --> 00:07:13.439 was this. She was a wolf's wolf. She could kill 148 00:07:13.439 --> 00:07:17.639 an elk by herself. She was fiercely independent. By the 149 00:07:17.680 --> 00:07:20.360 time she was like four years old. The biologists were like, 150 00:07:20.399 --> 00:07:22.800 she's never going to find a man good enough, like 151 00:07:22.879 --> 00:07:26.800 she reject, reject, reject, And they were really kind of 152 00:07:26.839 --> 00:07:31.120 desponded because she was such a perfect wolf that they 153 00:07:31.199 --> 00:07:35.680 really wanted to see her have pups. Then she found 154 00:07:35.759 --> 00:07:41.480 two younger men brother too, Yes, two younger men, and 155 00:07:43.120 --> 00:07:45.240 she seemed to like them because they deferred to her, 156 00:07:46.040 --> 00:07:49.480 and ultimately she was the foundational female of what they 157 00:07:49.480 --> 00:07:52.600 called the Lamar family group, the Lamar Pack, which became 158 00:07:52.639 --> 00:07:55.879 one of the most famous wolf packs in history. And 159 00:07:57.279 --> 00:08:02.040 these two, these two males were absolutely devoted to her 160 00:08:02.199 --> 00:08:06.160 for her her whole life Ultimately that was the end 161 00:08:06.199 --> 00:08:10.199 of her. Was that, as I mentioned, you can hunt 162 00:08:10.199 --> 00:08:12.279 the wolves on the outskirts of the park, on the 163 00:08:12.279 --> 00:08:15.120 boundary of the park, and one of the males the 164 00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:18.680 one that she seemed to favor, although they it was 165 00:08:18.800 --> 00:08:21.519 very tough to I mean, they were obviously different wolves, 166 00:08:21.560 --> 00:08:25.279 like the biologists could tell them apart. She probably had 167 00:08:25.319 --> 00:08:28.600 pups from both of them. We don't really know, or 168 00:08:28.639 --> 00:08:31.079 maybe they do now with DNA. But one of the 169 00:08:31.079 --> 00:08:35.480 wolves were shot outside the park and she went looking 170 00:08:35.480 --> 00:08:40.159 for him and was likewise shot. But yeah, she I mean, 171 00:08:40.240 --> 00:08:43.600 for years the biologists like, wow, she's just too much 172 00:08:43.639 --> 00:08:44.600 for any of the boys. 173 00:08:45.679 --> 00:08:48.240 Well that's and it's interesting that she took too, and 174 00:08:48.279 --> 00:08:50.879 it says this is of this. I'll tie this into 175 00:08:50.960 --> 00:08:54.879 Tantra for a moment. So in Tantra, a woman that 176 00:08:55.120 --> 00:08:59.360 is in mastery that would be like the badass, that 177 00:08:59.480 --> 00:09:03.960 badass off right there, will take what's called consorts, and 178 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:08.399 those are men in total devotion to her that allow 179 00:09:08.480 --> 00:09:12.799 her to rise in her fullness. They support and devote 180 00:09:13.159 --> 00:09:15.960 She devotes to them as well. But either it's one 181 00:09:16.080 --> 00:09:20.360 or two or many help her rise to her greatness, 182 00:09:20.840 --> 00:09:25.559 and nobody is like saying, oh, she's too much, she 183 00:09:25.559 --> 00:09:27.399 shouldn't be doing that. She needs some man to come 184 00:09:27.399 --> 00:09:30.159 a trainer, and you know, show show how man is. 185 00:09:30.519 --> 00:09:34.440 And so I wonder if, uh, that's like a Wolfe's 186 00:09:34.440 --> 00:09:37.840 experience of gender fluid or the ability to weave both 187 00:09:37.879 --> 00:09:39.240 because she was also a mother. 188 00:09:41.039 --> 00:09:44.000 And outside of outside of my pay. 189 00:09:43.799 --> 00:09:47.799 Grade energetically, she's weaving masculine and feminine together. 190 00:09:47.840 --> 00:09:50.879 Oh for sure, she was, you know, I mean, look, 191 00:09:50.879 --> 00:09:53.679 if you're talking about the alpha, like the singular alpha, 192 00:09:54.159 --> 00:09:56.519 there was no question who was running the show in 193 00:09:56.559 --> 00:10:00.879 that pack for the entire duration like she was. I mean, 194 00:10:00.919 --> 00:10:03.000 in some in some of these family groups, it appears 195 00:10:03.000 --> 00:10:06.039 that those responsibilities are shared in this In this case, 196 00:10:06.559 --> 00:10:07.320 she ran the show. 197 00:10:07.399 --> 00:10:08.360 She made all the. 198 00:10:08.360 --> 00:10:11.799 Decisions, right, so she was leaning into her whatever we'll 199 00:10:11.840 --> 00:10:16.000 call that masculine action or whatever. But yet still we 200 00:10:16.039 --> 00:10:21.399 did find good breeding compatibility. And then also you know 201 00:10:21.919 --> 00:10:25.399 this clearly was devoted enough to go find her one 202 00:10:25.399 --> 00:10:26.720 of her partners. Right. 203 00:10:27.000 --> 00:10:29.360 Yeah, it was very sad. I mean, it was when 204 00:10:29.360 --> 00:10:31.039 the call went out on the radio that she had 205 00:10:31.039 --> 00:10:33.720 been shot. I mean, people like me still can't talk 206 00:10:33.720 --> 00:10:35.919 about it. 207 00:10:35.919 --> 00:10:37.000 It was super traumatic. 208 00:10:39.200 --> 00:10:41.480 Yeah, I feel that Yeah. 209 00:10:41.519 --> 00:10:43.559 It was very intense because she was just such a 210 00:10:43.600 --> 00:10:46.120 remind and then her daughter actually nine two six f 211 00:10:46.240 --> 00:10:50.000 ended up taking uh taking over that that territory in 212 00:10:50.039 --> 00:10:53.440 that pack, and ultimately she was also shot outside the park. 213 00:10:53.879 --> 00:10:59.679 Whoa, yeah, hmm wow. Well that legacy that pack is. 214 00:10:59.639 --> 00:11:04.440 Still so yeah. That was the end of it. 215 00:11:04.639 --> 00:11:07.320 That was the end of it, all right. 216 00:11:07.799 --> 00:11:11.200 Every wolf story is a sad story, well the end. 217 00:11:11.639 --> 00:11:14.120 Because they die young and potentially at the. 218 00:11:14.279 --> 00:11:17.399 Hand they live short, beautiful lives and unless they get 219 00:11:17.399 --> 00:11:19.240 to be with me, in which case they steal my 220 00:11:19.279 --> 00:11:20.399 groceries till they're ancient. 221 00:11:20.799 --> 00:11:23.080 Right, Yeah, they're doing their own all cunt when you 222 00:11:23.120 --> 00:11:26.159 come through with your roast. Yeah, yeah, this is the 223 00:11:26.519 --> 00:11:27.039 roast hunt. 224 00:11:28.320 --> 00:11:29.600 Yeah, oh my god. Yeah. 225 00:11:29.639 --> 00:11:31.200 And they're still naughty, this one. I just did a 226 00:11:31.279 --> 00:11:33.360 video this morning. She still there's this check book. My 227 00:11:33.360 --> 00:11:36.960 wife has all those business check books, and this wolf 228 00:11:37.000 --> 00:11:41.000 has wanted this business checkbook for years. My wife tends 229 00:11:41.000 --> 00:11:43.080 to leave it in vulnerable places and I try to 230 00:11:43.120 --> 00:11:46.679 tell her all the time. This morning, the wolf came 231 00:11:46.679 --> 00:11:48.240 in the house. She was like settled down on our 232 00:11:48.240 --> 00:11:49.879 autom and I had the door open. I went to 233 00:11:49.919 --> 00:11:50.440 do something. 234 00:11:51.399 --> 00:11:52.799 I came back. She was outside. 235 00:11:52.799 --> 00:11:55.159 I'm like, oh, it's okay. And then I realized she 236 00:11:55.240 --> 00:11:56.159 had finally won. 237 00:11:56.320 --> 00:11:56.759 She got her. 238 00:11:57.679 --> 00:12:00.879 She got it in pieces all over the habitat. My 239 00:12:00.919 --> 00:12:04.240 wife is a pretty good sport about it. Yeah, yesterday 240 00:12:04.279 --> 00:12:05.919 a wolf had a seatbelt out of the car. 241 00:12:06.320 --> 00:12:08.480 Okay, Well see, yeah, wolves are expensive. 242 00:12:08.799 --> 00:12:11.039 They are expensive. They are terrible pets for those of 243 00:12:11.039 --> 00:12:12.320 you that are like, I want a wolf. 244 00:12:12.559 --> 00:12:16.879 No, no, you want to malamute, because they're very wolfy 245 00:12:16.919 --> 00:12:18.080 without all the baggage. 246 00:12:18.200 --> 00:12:21.480 There you go, all right, So you you know, we've 247 00:12:21.519 --> 00:12:24.600 talked about you being you know, the man's man, you 248 00:12:24.639 --> 00:12:27.279 know if people call it that, the competence and stuff. 249 00:12:27.519 --> 00:12:31.240 And yet your wife she's a badass. 250 00:12:31.559 --> 00:12:34.000 Oh she's yeah, she's I tell people all the time, 251 00:12:34.759 --> 00:12:37.159 I live with wolves. I crawl under houses to get 252 00:12:37.240 --> 00:12:41.279 bears out. The only thing I'm legitimately afraid of is 253 00:12:41.320 --> 00:12:43.919 HER's right. 254 00:12:44.279 --> 00:12:47.000 And so you light up. You guys can't see his face, 255 00:12:47.039 --> 00:12:50.240 but he's not saying oh she's fierce and looking like 256 00:12:50.279 --> 00:12:52.639 he's concerned about that. He's like literally looking like he's 257 00:12:52.679 --> 00:12:53.360 aroused by that. 258 00:12:53.480 --> 00:12:55.840 So I love it. I think it's so amazing. 259 00:12:56.000 --> 00:12:58.480 I mean and she's fiercely protective of like our team 260 00:12:58.519 --> 00:13:01.399 and our restaurant. I mean, we have a we have 261 00:13:01.440 --> 00:13:04.559 a sign above our register that says, please be nice 262 00:13:04.559 --> 00:13:06.399 to our people. If you can't do that, you'll be 263 00:13:06.440 --> 00:13:09.120 shown the door. And it's her who shows them the door. 264 00:13:09.240 --> 00:13:11.960 I mean, I've seen our whole town knows. 265 00:13:12.039 --> 00:13:14.679 Right. She's a little bit like the soup Nazi from Seinfeld. 266 00:13:15.879 --> 00:13:18.200 Right, She's like, no, super you get out and I 267 00:13:18.279 --> 00:13:20.720 and she's she's done that. Like she's got mad at 268 00:13:20.720 --> 00:13:22.919 customers that are rude and she'll throw them out in 269 00:13:22.919 --> 00:13:25.200 the middle of the meal. She's like, they're like, we haven't, 270 00:13:25.519 --> 00:13:26.720 I don't care, get out. 271 00:13:27.120 --> 00:13:30.759 Right, right, right? So she has great boundaries. 272 00:13:30.320 --> 00:13:32.840 This part of she really really does, and I think 273 00:13:32.840 --> 00:13:33.840 it's so important. And her. 274 00:13:33.960 --> 00:13:39.159 Our team is super loyal to us because they feel protected, right, 275 00:13:39.639 --> 00:13:41.120 she has their back. 276 00:13:41.679 --> 00:13:45.120 Right, and so that means she also has your back and. 277 00:13:45.039 --> 00:13:46.559 She has my back. 278 00:13:46.600 --> 00:13:49.559 Oh yeah, I'm really careful about the fights that I 279 00:13:49.639 --> 00:13:52.399 involve her in because sometimes I'm the one that's hold 280 00:13:52.480 --> 00:13:55.279 her back, you know, yea, like the last the last 281 00:13:55.279 --> 00:13:58.080 thing I wanted, you know, when when when she says 282 00:13:58.080 --> 00:14:01.679 fuck that guy, Yeah, then I'm like, all right, I'm 283 00:14:01.679 --> 00:14:02.919 gonna I'm gonna try to get you out. 284 00:14:02.840 --> 00:14:06.320 Of the building before you do the one that we're having. 285 00:14:06.120 --> 00:14:08.240 An issue with a building inspector up here. And oh 286 00:14:08.279 --> 00:14:10.960 my god, I feel bad for the guy. She's she's 287 00:14:11.000 --> 00:14:13.879 got to hate on for him, that's gonna end badly 288 00:14:13.960 --> 00:14:14.279 for him. 289 00:14:14.720 --> 00:14:18.440 Hate on. I like that. So why as you know, 290 00:14:18.600 --> 00:14:21.679 this man who is you know, like you said, you know, 291 00:14:22.240 --> 00:14:25.279 being mauled by wolves, crawling under a house with a 292 00:14:25.360 --> 00:14:28.639 mama bear with her babies to ask them to leave. 293 00:14:29.240 --> 00:14:31.600 And you're not afraid of any of that, But your wife, 294 00:14:31.639 --> 00:14:34.759 why why is it a turn on? Why is it exciting? 295 00:14:34.840 --> 00:14:37.960 Why do you enjoy because you're not a quote unquote 296 00:14:38.039 --> 00:14:42.759 sub guy. Do you enjoy a fierce woman who's badass 297 00:14:42.879 --> 00:14:43.039 like this? 298 00:14:43.440 --> 00:14:45.320 You know? I think because I'm I have a lot 299 00:14:45.320 --> 00:14:48.159 of self confidence. I don't feel diminished by strong women. 300 00:14:48.200 --> 00:14:51.120 And I've always listened. I've always had I mean, years 301 00:14:51.159 --> 00:14:53.960 before I met my wife, I used I used to 302 00:14:54.080 --> 00:14:54.720 if you guys. 303 00:14:54.519 --> 00:14:57.080 Are fans of American gladiators, I like. 304 00:14:57.120 --> 00:15:02.279 That so so so I to train with Zapp. 305 00:15:03.559 --> 00:15:08.080 And at one point I lived with Ice. Those people 306 00:15:08.080 --> 00:15:09.639 there on that well, come up. 307 00:15:09.639 --> 00:15:12.279 They're they're Amazon's by every I mean, they're you know, 308 00:15:12.720 --> 00:15:14.919 both of them could out bench press me. I think 309 00:15:14.960 --> 00:15:17.000 my squat was better than theirs, and my deadlift, but 310 00:15:17.080 --> 00:15:21.519 not by much. These are fierce women, yeah, And so 311 00:15:21.639 --> 00:15:26.799 I just I love extremes in in every I guess, 312 00:15:26.799 --> 00:15:29.200 in every aspect of of my life, I kind of 313 00:15:29.240 --> 00:15:32.240 push extremes. And I appreciate people that are capable of 314 00:15:32.240 --> 00:15:33.320 pushing extremes too. 315 00:15:33.360 --> 00:15:34.679 I find them the most interesting. 316 00:15:35.360 --> 00:15:37.600 And in spite of my wife not you know, not 317 00:15:37.720 --> 00:15:41.440 being like a bodybuild or anything like that, intellectually and 318 00:15:41.600 --> 00:15:45.440 in terms of her personality, she's very extreme. I mean, 319 00:15:45.480 --> 00:15:47.559 she's a wolf mom, like I mean, and to live 320 00:15:47.600 --> 00:15:51.080 with me, you know, I'm I'm tough, right. You cannot 321 00:15:51.120 --> 00:15:54.000 be a needy person. You have to be very self actualized. 322 00:15:54.080 --> 00:15:54.240 Right. 323 00:15:54.240 --> 00:15:58.159 If you're needy, it's just you know that doesn't work 324 00:15:58.360 --> 00:16:01.639 for me, right, I mean, so much of my emotional 325 00:16:01.759 --> 00:16:04.720 energy isn't caring for these difficult animals, you know. 326 00:16:06.080 --> 00:16:07.519 And she's you. 327 00:16:07.480 --> 00:16:10.120 Know, fully strong on her own, except for when she 328 00:16:10.159 --> 00:16:14.159 goes outside in her pajamas and gets mauled and me, 329 00:16:14.440 --> 00:16:17.200 I'm like, I told you not to wear your pajamas 330 00:16:17.200 --> 00:16:17.559 out there. 331 00:16:19.159 --> 00:16:21.279 Well, sometimes fierce women could be stubborn. 332 00:16:22.120 --> 00:16:22.960 She superstell. 333 00:16:23.120 --> 00:16:26.080 My god. Yeah, I have that thing where I've decided 334 00:16:26.120 --> 00:16:29.559 that it's now summer. I put away my floor heating mat, 335 00:16:29.840 --> 00:16:33.600 and then I spend the next whatever cursing, cursing myself 336 00:16:34.120 --> 00:16:37.440 for not the weather. Not No, I could just pull 337 00:16:37.480 --> 00:16:40.279 it back out, but no. Instead, I'm just like, but 338 00:16:40.399 --> 00:16:41.799 it's appost obey summer. 339 00:16:43.320 --> 00:16:45.799 I'm gonna before, I'm gonna meet myself for one second, 340 00:16:45.840 --> 00:16:47.840 I gotta blow my nose. 341 00:16:48.759 --> 00:16:54.639 So basically, what I'm hearing is that if inteed you're 342 00:16:54.679 --> 00:17:00.159 intimidated by a strong woman, this isn't really uh a 343 00:17:00.200 --> 00:17:04.359 sign of your masculinity. It's like, if you need a 344 00:17:04.359 --> 00:17:07.400 woman to be so demure and sow watered down and 345 00:17:07.480 --> 00:17:12.160 so incapable and so like expecting you to be able 346 00:17:12.160 --> 00:17:15.440 to handle everything because she can't handle anything, it makes 347 00:17:15.440 --> 00:17:18.880 me really wonder about your confidence and your competence and 348 00:17:18.920 --> 00:17:21.720 anything else. I have found. Yeah, I have found that 349 00:17:21.759 --> 00:17:29.680 most men that need that just really lack their own experience. 350 00:17:31.079 --> 00:17:32.039 Yeah I don't. I don't. 351 00:17:32.079 --> 00:17:35.039 I guess I don't really get that, Like those kind 352 00:17:35.039 --> 00:17:37.240 of women are uninteresting to me. I mean, if I 353 00:17:37.319 --> 00:17:40.759 was a single guy, you know, I would not find 354 00:17:40.759 --> 00:17:43.039 that interesting at all. I don't want to be anybody's dad. 355 00:17:43.079 --> 00:17:45.559 I've got I've got, you know, wolves to be the dad. 356 00:17:45.680 --> 00:17:47.839 Well there, I think you just said the thing that 357 00:17:48.000 --> 00:17:50.880 always like I keep saying gets to me. It's like, 358 00:17:51.279 --> 00:17:54.640 if you like my daughter, you know, I raised her 359 00:17:54.680 --> 00:17:58.160 to be competent. She was my house manager at ten 360 00:17:58.240 --> 00:18:02.720 years old. She could runt our household right, And I 361 00:18:02.759 --> 00:18:05.839 remember thinking to myself, what am I doing her a disservice? 362 00:18:06.680 --> 00:18:08.880 I remember my dad telling me because I wanted to 363 00:18:08.920 --> 00:18:10.440 be just like my dad, I didn't want to be 364 00:18:10.559 --> 00:18:12.759 just like my mom. My mom was a badass anyway, 365 00:18:13.039 --> 00:18:15.519 but I wanted to be my dad seemed really powerful, 366 00:18:15.920 --> 00:18:18.480 and I wanted to have that power, right, that command 367 00:18:18.599 --> 00:18:21.240 of power and presence and things. So I used to 368 00:18:21.240 --> 00:18:22.839 like I remember as a kid, i'd try to walk 369 00:18:22.960 --> 00:18:25.400 like him, and I did, like, you know, it was 370 00:18:25.440 --> 00:18:27.880 fun when I was a daddy's girl. So yes, indeed, 371 00:18:27.960 --> 00:18:30.079 I did love my dad too, more than my mom 372 00:18:30.119 --> 00:18:31.640 and all that. And then when I found out he 373 00:18:31.720 --> 00:18:34.519 was just a flawed human that was kind of cowardly, 374 00:18:35.000 --> 00:18:40.519 that switched. But I looked at my daughter. I remember 375 00:18:40.559 --> 00:18:44.279 my dad saying to me, I'm really sorry, you're probably 376 00:18:44.279 --> 00:18:47.319 going to be lonely. I was like, what the hell 377 00:18:47.400 --> 00:18:51.839 is he talking about? And he was foreshadowing this, like 378 00:18:52.000 --> 00:18:55.279 how do you find a man that stands above you? 379 00:18:57.039 --> 00:18:59.839 When really, why would I win a man standing a 380 00:18:59.799 --> 00:19:02.319 bar me? Why wouldn't I want a man that I'm 381 00:19:02.480 --> 00:19:04.880 side by side? We're going to war together. You got 382 00:19:04.920 --> 00:19:07.880 my back, you know we've got each other. I bring 383 00:19:07.960 --> 00:19:10.160 my skills, you bring your skills. But you will never 384 00:19:10.759 --> 00:19:14.079 not you know, you will never doubt that I would 385 00:19:14.079 --> 00:19:17.519 take a freaking bullet or take somebody out right. I mean, like, 386 00:19:17.720 --> 00:19:20.559 why wouldn't you want a partner like that versus a 387 00:19:20.599 --> 00:19:22.960 partner like now you've got to worry about saving them? 388 00:19:23.480 --> 00:19:24.799 So that brings me back to my daughter. 389 00:19:24.880 --> 00:19:26.720 I don't have to worry about saving others from my 390 00:19:26.759 --> 00:19:28.519 wife and yeah, well right, so I. 391 00:19:28.440 --> 00:19:30.720 Told I taught my daughter to be competent and all that, 392 00:19:31.039 --> 00:19:33.119 and then I remember when she was really young, I said, honey, 393 00:19:33.160 --> 00:19:36.119 if anybody ever grabs you, we're out in the world 394 00:19:36.680 --> 00:19:40.039 and somebody grabs you, right, or grabs me, I said, 395 00:19:40.039 --> 00:19:42.480 grabs me and tells you they're going to hurt me. 396 00:19:42.839 --> 00:19:44.680 I want you to run like health. I do not 397 00:19:44.759 --> 00:19:46.519 want you to look back, because if I have to 398 00:19:46.559 --> 00:19:51.000 take care of you, I can't take care of myself right. 399 00:19:51.119 --> 00:19:54.160 And so the idea that you'd have to look out 400 00:19:54.279 --> 00:19:56.480 for somebody in such a way, why would a man 401 00:19:56.799 --> 00:20:02.720