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Speaker 2: Mark, because you were saying Pastor Mike is one of
Speaker 2: the presbyters and another two are dead, like yes, I'm next, Amen,
Speaker 2: how's everybody doing today? It's going to be back in Summerset.
Speaker 2: It was three years ago we celebrated the twenty fifth
Speaker 2: anniversary of the church and Pastor Marr showed me a
Speaker 2: picture in the newspaper. Was that last Saturday? Last week?
Speaker 2: Was that right after you got here? I don't know
Speaker 2: when you look like you were like in high school
Speaker 2: or something. Your picture was in the newspaper. And now
Speaker 2: look at him. You're the ones who calls all that
Speaker 2: gray hair. I just want jim up at. This is Genie,
Speaker 2: my wife, and we just got married not long ago,
Speaker 2: and it's been good. It's been a long time ago.
Speaker 3: A you may want to say, honey, well, I did
Speaker 3: get tickled when Pastor Mark was saying that he and
Speaker 3: my husband, you know, asually communicate.
Speaker 4: About once a week.
Speaker 3: Well, your pastor's wife and I.
Speaker 4: We communicate daily.
Speaker 3: You know, women are a relation, all right, And so
Speaker 3: we communicate daily.
Speaker 4: And sometimes multiple times during a day. And it's good.
Speaker 2: It's good. Uh.
Speaker 3: Psalm twenty five, verse two says, Oh, my God, in
Speaker 3: you I trust, Let me not be put to shame,
Speaker 3: Let my enemies.
Speaker 4: Not exalt over me.
Speaker 3: And then it says, make me know your ways. Oh Lord,
Speaker 3: teach me your past, lead me in your truth, and
Speaker 3: teach me, for you are the God of my salvation.
Speaker 3: And I think that's one of the reasons why I
Speaker 3: am so close to your pastor's wife.
Speaker 4: Jeanette trusts God. Janette wants God to.
Speaker 3: Teach her his past, lead her in truth.
Speaker 4: And you know why.
Speaker 3: She wants that so that she can lead you, and
Speaker 3: so that God can lead her, so she can lead you.
Speaker 4: She is here to impart into you.
Speaker 3: She desires to impart God's truth into your life. She
Speaker 3: is a wonderful, wonderful woman of God.
Speaker 5: And to me, she is my best best friend because
Speaker 5: she always challenges me in the truth of God's worth.
Speaker 4: You are a blessed people, amen.
Speaker 2: I'll tell you one thing about them. They text more
Speaker 2: than middle schoolers I'm just telling you. I mean every time.
Speaker 2: I mean the first thing Jeannie does when she gets
Speaker 2: up in the morning, she doesn't even say hi to me.
Speaker 2: She goes starts texting. I said, it must be Jeannette.
Speaker 1: It's like non stop.
Speaker 2: She's two hours ahead. Does that make you two hours behind? Oh,
Speaker 2: it's good to be here in Summer Center on a
Speaker 2: beautiful ready day. I was tying fast to Mark that
Speaker 2: you know we're in Colorado now that I saw more
Speaker 2: rain this morning than I've seen the last year in Colorado,
Speaker 2: so it kind of feels good, looks good. You're probably
Speaker 2: sick of it, but we really need something, so send
Speaker 2: it to us, send it back to the West so
Speaker 2: we could have some Hey, just want to brag on
Speaker 2: your pastor for a moment, because as a brother, Mark
Speaker 2: was saying, we've known each other for a long long
Speaker 2: time and I knew him when he didn't have gray hand.
Speaker 2: Isn't that something? And we go back a long ways
Speaker 2: and relationships are really important. Good relationships are very important,
Speaker 2: and you know, just walking through this journey of life together,
Speaker 2: there's been a lot of funs. Brother Mark, thank you
Speaker 2: for making our lives a lot better knowing who's really
Speaker 2: enriched us. And I don't know if I've really shared
Speaker 2: very much it would help you. In you I probably
Speaker 2: made most of it up, but it seemed to have worked.
Speaker 2: But I love being around people that have character and
Speaker 2: integrity and they're genuine and they're authentic. You don't find
Speaker 2: that much in ministries. You see a lot of production,
Speaker 2: and you see a lot of facades, but you don't
Speaker 2: see a lot of authenticity. And you have that with
Speaker 2: Mark and Jeanette Harold, and I think you ought to
Speaker 2: be very grateful and thank God for that. I know
Speaker 2: you take it. You take it. You know you take
Speaker 2: it for granted that that happens with everybody. It doesn't
Speaker 2: happen everywhere. And I've traveled enough now in the last
Speaker 2: four years around America and around the world. I'm watching it,
Speaker 2: I'm seeing it, and so it is an absolute joy
Speaker 2: for us to be here. Both Mark and thank you
Speaker 2: for letting us come again. And we just loved being
Speaker 2: around both of you, and we loved you. Let's give
Speaker 2: God a good hands for both of what's a blessing.
Speaker 2: Thanks Marc Castidy. If I would speak on marriage and relationships,
Speaker 2: is that okay? And I have to tell something that
Speaker 2: happened to me a few months back. I took Genie
Speaker 2: in my arms and I looked in those beautiful green
Speaker 2: eyes of hers, and I said to her, tell me,
Speaker 2: I'm sixy And she did just exactly what you did.
Speaker 2: She started laughing. In fact, it was uncontrolled. I've known
Speaker 2: her for forty nine years, and I mean it's like
Speaker 2: her knees were buckling. She was so I mean, she
Speaker 2: was laughing so hard. And I thought, well, I mean
Speaker 2: that tells me a lot, just like what you just did.
Speaker 2: You laughing, That tells me a lot to about me.
Speaker 2: Well help me, Jesus. I want to talk to you
Speaker 2: this morning about relationships. I want to give you six
Speaker 2: secrets to a happy relationship or a marriage. Now, I
Speaker 2: don't know burn Mark and I were from Louisiana. Anybody
Speaker 2: from Louisiana this year? Good? The rest of you were
Speaker 2: smart enough not to go there. But I mean we
Speaker 2: have webs between our toes. Were from Louisiana and they
Speaker 2: got people like Boutrou and Tippandeaux. Does he ever tell
Speaker 2: you about Boudrou and Timppadeau that like the swamp people?
Speaker 2: We know some of those kind of people Boodro and Timpadeaux. Well,
Speaker 2: Bunjo has been married to Kotil for a lot of years,
Speaker 2: and so Kotil, uh, you know. Boudrou was there and
Speaker 2: Kotil says, hey, look at that funny guy over there.
Speaker 2: He's been drinking a lot. Bouto said, well, who is he?
Speaker 2: She said, Oh, that's my ex who wanted me to
Speaker 2: marry him and I denied him marriage. He said, wow,
Speaker 2: he's still celebrating his freedom. Boujo said, marriage is like
Speaker 2: a three ring circus, engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering.
Speaker 2: And he needs to be in this service because I'm
Speaker 2: gonna talk about what it takes to have a good relationship,
Speaker 2: and that is enduring. That's the fourth ring and we
Speaker 2: need to have is enduring. How many if you want
Speaker 2: to have a happy marriage, happy relationship, and by the way,
Speaker 2: I don't care if you're married or single, Mexic endforce,
Speaker 2: take some notes today because I promise you something can
Speaker 2: be life changing today. That could change your relationship. It
Speaker 2: could change your marriage, it could change how you get
Speaker 2: along together. And I beg the Lord's gonna do something
Speaker 2: really great. I've been praying for you, I've been asking
Speaker 2: the Lord to open up your heart and soften your heart,
Speaker 2: that the seed of this world. We're gonna have some fun.
Speaker 2: We're gonna laugh a little bit. Is that all right?
Speaker 2: Because marriage and relationships are funny, correct, And if you
Speaker 2: don't laugh a lot about them, then you're gonna have
Speaker 2: a lot of suffering. Is boudro thinks it's all about?
Speaker 2: But you know what, Happiness doesn't come because you smile.
Speaker 2: You're not happy just because you smile. Happiness in a
Speaker 2: relationship and happiness in a marriage comes because there is harmony.
Speaker 2: There's some harmony that comes into our lives. And this
Speaker 2: harmony that we're talking about today is going to come
Speaker 2: from these six secrets that I want to share with
Speaker 2: you about marriage and relationship. Now, I want you to
Speaker 2: know that happiness is created because of an atmosphere. Everything
Speaker 2: happens in an atmosphere, an atmosphere of harmony. And I
Speaker 2: want to read this verse to you Philippians two. Verse two.
Speaker 2: This is the new living translation all the apostle writing.
Speaker 2: He says, make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with
Speaker 2: each other. And watch he says three things. He says
Speaker 2: by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other by loving one another
Speaker 2: and working together with one heart and purpose. One translation
Speaker 2: says to live together in harmony and love. And the
Speaker 2: reality is that few marriages are relationships. They have harmony,
Speaker 2: they have love, they have unity. Very few have them.
Speaker 2: You know, there's a relationship, but there's not always harmony,
Speaker 2: and there's not always happiness. Many times there's conflicts, there's disappointments,
Speaker 2: and what you expected in a relationship or what you
Speaker 2: expected in a marriage has not happened or it hasn't
Speaker 2: happened yet. And for some of you, marriage, some of
Speaker 2: you started off as an ideal that turned into an
Speaker 2: ordeal that is now turned it into the saying to yourself,
Speaker 2: I want a new deal. I kind of catch you
Speaker 2: getting it. I like that, And that's kind of where
Speaker 2: you're at, maybe in your walk in a relationship right now.
Speaker 2: But it doesn't matter who you marry. Good marriages and
Speaker 2: strong families that just don't happen accidentally. You have to
Speaker 2: work hard at it. And you know it's marriage and
Speaker 2: relationships are made up of two imperfect people, but the
Speaker 2: union of it is perfect in the eyes of God.
Speaker 2: Now I know that some of you think you're really
Speaker 2: perfect out there and I'm looking at you and you
Speaker 2: don't look that perfect. Now you look good, but you
Speaker 2: don't look that perfect. We'll see a relationship of marriage.
Speaker 2: I want to use the context of marriage. Marriage in
Speaker 2: the eyes of God is perfect. He just happens to
Speaker 2: use two people that are not to make up that union.
Speaker 2: And again, it doesn't matter who you marry. Things just
Speaker 2: don't happen automatically. It takes a lot of energy, it
Speaker 2: takes a lot of efforts. You have to be intentional,
Speaker 2: you have to spend time, you have to be committed.
Speaker 2: And I've got some good news for all of you.
Speaker 2: It doesn't take gigantic changes in your life or in
Speaker 2: a relationship to make something work. Sometimes it's the smallest
Speaker 2: little thing that can change the atmosphere, that creates harmony,
Speaker 2: that gives you some happiness. Let me hear an am
Speaker 2: n from some of you. When some of you you're
Speaker 2: fighting a lot. I mean you argue a lot. You
Speaker 2: don't have happiness in your home or in a relationship.
Speaker 2: And I'm praying that these six things are going to
Speaker 2: help you. So if you're ready, I'm going to jump
Speaker 2: into it. Number one. Pastor Mark can be talking more
Speaker 2: about this next week. Number one. The first secret. It
Speaker 2: takes communication. It takes communication. It takes the not just communication.
Speaker 2: It takes the right kind of communication to be successful. Now,
Speaker 2: in Proverbs thirteen, verse seventeen, it says, reliable communication permits progress,
Speaker 2: and if you want to make progress in your marriage,
Speaker 2: you've got to talk. Say eighty five percent of all
Speaker 2: marriages and relationships have problems because of poor communication. They
Speaker 2: just don't talk to each other. Our study was done
Speaker 2: and they say the average couple spends only four minutes
Speaker 2: a day talking to each other. I mean, we spend
Speaker 2: forty seven hours a week watching television, and we only
Speaker 2: spent about thirty minutes a week total talking to each other.
Speaker 2: And you wonder why you have problems and there's no harmony.
Speaker 2: They're no happiness in your relationship because you have quick talking.
Speaker 2: I mean, we surround ourselves with noise and activities and
Speaker 2: television and all of our digital devices.
Speaker 1: Come on, you look.
Speaker 2: Holy out there, which you're not that holy. We surround
Speaker 2: ourselves well all these kind of things, and we eat
Speaker 2: our dinner, we bury our faces and our iPads and
Speaker 2: our iPhones, and we're watching television and about the only
Speaker 2: kind of communication we have with one another is where's
Speaker 2: the remote? We lost the remote control to the TV.
Speaker 2: That's about our communication nowadays. And I think we're just
Speaker 2: surrounded by so many things and you're not going to
Speaker 2: make any progress if you don't talk to each other.
Speaker 2: You'll never have a solid foundation of a rationship without
Speaker 2: some kind of communication. I heard about a man one time.
Speaker 2: His wife said to him, why don't you talk to
Speaker 2: me while I sew? He said, why don't you sew
Speaker 2: to me while I read? You know that is not communication.
Speaker 2: You do know that. It's like the woman that went
Speaker 2: to bed and I she says said to her husband,
Speaker 2: she says, I can't sleep. I think there's a mouse
Speaker 2: under the bed. He said, why don't you think there's
Speaker 2: a cat under the bed and go to sleep? That
Speaker 2: is that is not communication? And I said, how you
Speaker 2: gold a solid foundation? You know? Boudro. I won't go
Speaker 2: back to Boudrou and Quotila. You know they always had
Speaker 2: struggles in their marriage. They've been married a long time
Speaker 2: and they have not been talking since their last argument.
Speaker 2: So what they didn't do They've been passing notes. They
Speaker 2: write notes because they're not talking to each other. Boudro
Speaker 2: wrote a note quote. It says, wake me up in
Speaker 2: the morning at six am. I got lots of stuff
Speaker 2: I gotta do well. The next morning, Boudreau wakes up
Speaker 2: and it's nine am. He is as mad as he
Speaker 2: can be. And he turns over and he looks and
Speaker 2: he sees a note on his pillow. He says, wake up,
Speaker 2: it's six am. That's not communication. Are you with me?
Speaker 2: You know I want you to get to a girl.
Speaker 2: When a girl is born, she develops linguistics to get
Speaker 2: skills faster and more proficient in conversation than boys. This
Speaker 2: is really true. Girls can talk more than boys. I mean,
Speaker 2: that's a lifelong talent. Becaujanet agrees, My wife agrees. I agree,
Speaker 2: And they can talk a lot. And and ladies, I
Speaker 2: don't want you to get mad at me. That's just
Speaker 2: how God has made you. In fact, it's a lifelong thing.
Speaker 2: It starts at an early age. Doctor Martin, can you
Speaker 2: roll that video real quick? I want you to see
Speaker 2: this where it starts. Take a look at this.
Speaker 1: Oh by the lack las a last lack and you
Speaker 1: met me. They get somebody can be made the same.
Speaker 2: Thanks athing he Rubb. We have been talked more than men.
Speaker 2: And all the men said, don't you shouldn't have said
Speaker 2: you're in trouble. Now it is a fact. They say
Speaker 2: women speak about thirty thousand words a day and men
Speaker 2: speak about ten thousand words a day. And you know,
Speaker 2: by the time a man comes home from work, I mean,
Speaker 2: he's already using these ten thousand words up. Think he
Speaker 2: just kind of grunts his way her the rest of
Speaker 2: the day in the evening, and a woman, you know,
Speaker 2: she comes home from work or if she's home taking
Speaker 2: care of the kids, and she still got about ten
Speaker 2: thousand words to bird, and she wants somebody to talk to.
Speaker 2: In fact, there was a study. There's research done. Won't
Speaker 2: you listen to this. It says, according to researchers, researchers,
Speaker 2: the female brain contains more cells that controls speech functions
Speaker 2: than male. Now I'm not making this up. This is
Speaker 2: a research that was done. It says the differences between
Speaker 2: the male and the female brain are formed in the
Speaker 2: mother's womb. It says testosterone starts affecting the formation of
Speaker 2: the developing male brain. Now this is really true. It
Speaker 2: reduces the size of the cerebral zone controlling perception. I'm
Speaker 2: not making it a go, go read about it yourself.
Speaker 2: As a result of this influence, zones controlling speech and
Speaker 2: emotions and memory in a man's brain decreases. That causes
Speaker 2: men to become deaf to most logical arguments and boys. Later,
Speaker 2: men speak lesson women and try to hide their emotions
Speaker 2: as much as they could. I didn't make this up.
Speaker 2: I saw this in a search and research, a study
Speaker 2: that was done. In fact, in some of my research,
Speaker 2: I found a book called the Female Brain. I mean
Speaker 2: not thing's about this big. And here's what they said
Speaker 2: about the female brain. It says women have an eight
Speaker 2: lane super highway for processing emotions. Men have a small
Speaker 2: country road. I tried to see if there was a
Speaker 2: book called the male mind, and there really wasn't one.
Speaker 2: It was really since a sheet of paper with the
Speaker 2: title on and something to call her on the backside
Speaker 2: of his study is trying to say, is that men,
Speaker 2: because we have been born men, we have some damaged
Speaker 2: brain cells. Can I hear an amen from the women?
Speaker 2: And so we just don't talk as much communication Now,
Speaker 2: I'm not so certain that all the communications are for men.
Speaker 2: Women sometimes are not very clear when they communicate. Am
Speaker 2: I right? I heard some men laughing at you can
Speaker 2: be in trouble, brothers. You gotta be careful.
Speaker 3: You wrong.
Speaker 2: It was like Clotel Bootrow's wife. You're gonna get a
Speaker 2: boatload of boot Row today. I'm just telling you right now,
Speaker 2: but I mean a Cotel went to the judge. She says,
Speaker 2: I want a divorce. He said, well, do you have
Speaker 2: any grounds? She said, yeah, we have four acres on
Speaker 2: the buy you he said, he said no, he said,
Speaker 2: he said, He said, I mean, do you have a grudge?
Speaker 2: She said no, we parked our car in the front yard.
Speaker 2: He said, what does your husband beat you up? She
Speaker 2: said no, I'll get up before him every morning. Now
Speaker 2: just as well, why do you want to divorce? He said,
Speaker 2: because we just can't communicate. Sometimes women are not very clear.
Speaker 2: They don't communicate communicate clearly to men. We have trouble
Speaker 2: with that. But communication is not not always about a
Speaker 2: lot of words. It's about the right kind of words.
Speaker 2: It's about communicating where each can understand. And if there's
Speaker 2: one problem in a relationship that can cause more damage
Speaker 2: and disharmony, it's because we don't talk to each other.
Speaker 2: We don't know the right kind of words to use.
Speaker 2: And when you quit talking resent the builds up and
Speaker 2: love phases out, grows and their feelings become weak. That
Speaker 2: happens in a relationship. Look, when you quit talking to
Speaker 2: each other. This is what I'm about. That when you
Speaker 2: quit talking to each other, you start forgetting about each other.
Speaker 2: It's true, isn't it. That's why communication is such a
Speaker 2: big deal. To succeed in marriage and relationship, you've got
Speaker 2: to be able to agree. You can't agree unless you
Speaker 2: talk Amos three three says can two walk together unless
Speaker 2: they're an agreement. If we're gonna have an atmosphere of
Speaker 2: harmony where there's some happiness, I'm talking about something really
Speaker 2: genuinely happy in that relationship. We've got to be able
Speaker 2: to communicate. Poor communication leads to fights and arguments and
Speaker 2: the silent Look, the silent treatment is no way to communicate. Look,
Speaker 2: just because there's silence in your home doesn't mean there's
Speaker 2: peace in your home. They say that silence is golden.
Speaker 2: Not in a marriage. You've got to talk. Not in
Speaker 2: a relationship. You've got to communicate. Learn the right words.
Speaker 2: And I want to give you some sound advice this morning.
Speaker 2: You can work it out if you're willing to talk
Speaker 2: it out. Did you hear that? I say it again?
Speaker 2: You can work it out if you're willing to talk
Speaker 2: it out. Somebody needs to start today today, some of you.
Speaker 2: When you go home from the service, you need to say, Okay,
Speaker 2: we're gonna start. You don't have to be wrong for
Speaker 2: a pen. I hope you know this. Somebody needs to
Speaker 2: start the conversation. Somebody needs to start, not in an argument.
Speaker 2: Somebody needs to start communicating. Can I hear an amen?
Speaker 2: That's the first secret. Number two. It takes consideration. Consideration.
Speaker 2: Consideration means paying attention to what other people say, how
Speaker 2: they feel, showing common courtesy, treating others with respect. If
Speaker 2: Esians four, verse two, Paul the Apostle writes, this, be
Speaker 2: humble and gentle, be patient with each other, making allowances
Speaker 2: for each other's faults because of your love. That's another
Speaker 2: way of saying to be considerate. Consideration means paying attention
Speaker 2: to what people say, preferring one over another. It means
Speaker 2: men helping her bring in the groceries even though it's
Speaker 2: the fourth quarter of the football game. Ladies. It means
Speaker 2: making him a cherry pie when he least expects it. Genie.
Speaker 2: It means making sure at her ledger in the car
Speaker 2: before you put it in gear and start driving off.
Speaker 2: Now I saw that problem. I just go around and
Speaker 2: open the car door for Jeanie so she's in by
Speaker 2: the time I get on the other side. I saw
Speaker 2: that problem. That's consideration. Okay. Let me give you some
Speaker 2: maybe an example of what it was like when you
Speaker 2: first got married. That'd be okay, because in the beginning
Speaker 2: you showed consideration. You know, it's the first year of marriage.
Speaker 2: I mean, by the way, and I'm gonna show you
Speaker 2: the progression of what makes a cold marriage. First year
Speaker 2: of marriage, baby darling, I'm worried about you, that sniffle
Speaker 2: that you have. Listen. I've called the paramedics to take
Speaker 2: you over to the medical center and I'm going to
Speaker 2: give you a week's rest there in the hospital. And
Speaker 2: by the way, I know you don't like hospital food,
Speaker 2: so I'm having it all brought in for the whole week.
Speaker 2: So you just read it. First year of marriage, second
Speaker 2: year of marriage, sweetheart. I don't like the sound of
Speaker 2: that call. I've called doctor Johnson to make a house
Speaker 2: call and and so I just let me take you
Speaker 2: in bed, and he'll be here in a few minutes.
Speaker 2: The third year, you know, honey, you look like you
Speaker 2: have a fever. Listen, after you've bathed the kids and
Speaker 2: wash the dishes, why don't you go lay down for
Speaker 2: a little while. The fourth year, be sensible, I mean,
Speaker 2: be sensible, I mean, I know you've got a fever.
Speaker 2: Why don't you drive yourself over to the farmers. He
Speaker 2: gets you some medicine. Then why don't you go take
Speaker 2: a rest because you need some rest. The fifth year, honey,
Speaker 2: do you have to cough so loud? I said, you're
Speaker 2: interrupted my television program. You sound like a dog barking.
Speaker 2: You know, that's kind of how it marriage it because
Speaker 2: we've lost consideration for each other. A man told me.
Speaker 2: A man told me. He said, when I first got married,
Speaker 2: he said, my wife brought me my slippers, and the
Speaker 2: dog came barking, And now the dog brings me my slippers.
Speaker 2: You can think about that yourself. You can think about
Speaker 2: the rest of it. You could possibly say the consideration
Speaker 2: is a lot like respect. Respect. You know, without love,
Speaker 2: there's no respect. Women react to love, men react to respect.
Speaker 2: Let me just say it this way. When a man
Speaker 2: shows love for his wife. That motivates for her to
Speaker 2: respect him. When a man shows love to his wife,
Speaker 2: that causes her to respect him. When a wife shows
Speaker 2: that respect, it motivates him to love her. And we've
Speaker 2: always heard the saying that if you treat your wife
Speaker 2: like a thoroughbred, you never had an old nag. You
Speaker 2: ever heard that to queen being' happy, you don't get
Speaker 2: no honey. You ever heard that if you treat her
Speaker 2: like a queen, she will treat you like a king.
Speaker 2: It's called consideration. One Bible translation James three seventeen says
Speaker 2: consideration is a mark of wisdom. Consideration is a marked
Speaker 2: of wisdom. When you're in considerate, it's not a mark
Speaker 2: of wisdom, it's a mark of stupidity. And some of
Speaker 2: you shown you've been in considerate. I mean that's about
Speaker 2: like being as dumb as a rock. Really, if you're inconsiderate,
Speaker 2: be This is one of the secrets of having a
Speaker 2: happy relationship. Create an atmosphere of harmony. It takes communication
Speaker 2: and it takes consideration. Happy marriages, happy relationship never happen
Speaker 2: without putting the other person first. Sometimes it's always about
Speaker 2: showing respect. Romans twelve says this be kindly affection to
Speaker 2: one another, with brotherly love, in honor, giving preference to another.
Speaker 2: Why don't you start trying then, putting somebody before yourself?
Speaker 2: Why don't you give it one week? Just still it
Speaker 2: for one week? How double dog dare you? Won't you
Speaker 2: put your spouse? Won't you put that person you're in
Speaker 2: a relationship? Well, why don't you put them ahead of
Speaker 2: you for relations one week? Just try it for one week.
Speaker 2: See what happens. I bet you're gonna see some changes.
Speaker 2: You're gonna see some harmony, some happiness. Once again, the
Speaker 2: third secret. Are you ready for the third secret? It
Speaker 2: takes compromise One Corinthians thirteen. Love is very patient and kind,
Speaker 2: never jealous, are envious, never boastfull or proud, never haughty
Speaker 2: or selfish or rude. And watch this. Love does not
Speaker 2: demand its own way. That's the mark of real love. Love,
Speaker 2: Real love is unselfish. It gives before it receives. You know,
Speaker 2: what used to be genuine love on our parts now
Speaker 2: become like a performance love. You know, we love because
Speaker 2: they perform. We love because they do certain things. And
Speaker 2: if they don't do those, say, if we're not loving them,
Speaker 2: then we don't show that love back. That's where a
Speaker 2: lot of relationships end up at. Maybe that's where your
Speaker 2: relationship is right now. It's based on performance of the
Speaker 2: other person in what they do or don't do. Then
Speaker 2: we just read that love does not demand its own way.
Speaker 2: It's not my way or the highway. You know, love
Speaker 2: it or leave it. Some of you're probably have said
Speaker 2: that in a relationship. You see. I know a lot
Speaker 2: of people who stand at the wedding altar and they
Speaker 2: say I do you know? She'll say I do, and
Speaker 2: then later on she's saying, well, I'm gonna Redole's go
Speaker 2: redo it him. I don't know if you know the
Speaker 2: progression of a wedding. Do you know the progression of
Speaker 2: a wedding? You walk down an aisle. You walk down
Speaker 2: an aisle, that's the first part. You come to the altar,
Speaker 2: that's the second part. And then you hear him. That's
Speaker 2: kind of the progression of the of a wedding. You
Speaker 2: walk down the aisle, you come to the altar, you
Speaker 2: hear him three things. I'll alter him. That's cornia, you
Speaker 2: remember that. That's kind of where we are. I'll alter him.
Speaker 2: Progression of a wedding. No matter how perfect you think
Speaker 2: you are or how you think how perfect they are,
Speaker 2: you're never going to agree on everything. You know, meltdowns
Speaker 2: and relationships come because there's no compromise. You know, here's
Speaker 2: what Genie says. Genie says, Flexible branches don't break. Did
Speaker 2: you hear that? I'm giving you a lot of good
Speaker 2: stuff today. Flexible branches don't break, compromises bending without breaking.
Speaker 2: I think there are more marriages have trouble because of inflexibility.
Speaker 2: You know, there's more trouble in marriage and alcoholism and
Speaker 2: adultery and all those things. It's not being able to compromise.
Speaker 2: You've got to compromise in everything, or where you go
Speaker 2: on vacation. What are you gonna do with your days off?
Speaker 2: How are you gonna spend your money? How you gonna
Speaker 2: raise your kids? Everything about a relationship is about a compromise.
Speaker 2: You don't always get your way. I mean, more marriages
Speaker 2: die from inflexibility than anything else. Maybe that's where some
Speaker 2: of you are today. You need to start compromising. I
Speaker 2: know some of you got your arms fold of life
Speaker 2: issue said, well, I don't know about them, but I'm
Speaker 2: gonna do it. The way I think it needs to
Speaker 2: be done. I don't care what they think. You're inflexible.
Speaker 2: That's the reason why you don't have harmony your happiness
Speaker 2: in a relationship, or in your marriage, or in your home.
Speaker 2: There are a lot of realities that surface when you
Speaker 2: get married, and those realities require some middle ground. That
Speaker 2: would have been a good place for an amen from somebody.
Speaker 2: But you know this is true, don't you. I mean
Speaker 2: some of you are morning people. How many of you
Speaker 2: are morning people? I mean you get it early in
Speaker 2: the morning, things are great. And then there's night people.
Speaker 2: How many of you are night people? See, some of
Speaker 2: you don't even believe in God toam about eleven in
Speaker 2: the morning, that's how night people are learn.
Speaker 4: And some of you are married.
Speaker 2: You're a night person, you're marriage to a morning person,
Speaker 2: or vice versa. And I'm gonna tell you have to
Speaker 2: learn how to work it.
Speaker 4: Out, how to compromise so you can have harmony.
Speaker 2: In your relationship. Throughout marriage. You will have to have
Speaker 2: mutual ground. You have to give up some things you
Speaker 2: won't have to compromise. And the reason why we just
Speaker 2: read it a moment ago is because love does not
Speaker 2: demand its own wayy. We just read that, didn't we.
Speaker 2: That's in the Bible. A marriage and a relationship is
Speaker 2: never about getting your way, by the way. If that's
Speaker 2: how you think, that is the way a single person thinks.
Speaker 2: Who wants to be alone all the time, because I'm
Speaker 2: wonna get it. It's gonna be my way. That's why
Speaker 2: probably some people are single are divorced by the way.
Speaker 2: Compromise doesn't mean agreeing on everything you need. I don't
Speaker 2: agree on everything, and so we've just learned that we
Speaker 2: have to find some middle ground. You know. Compromise means
Speaker 2: nobody wins. You do know that, don't you. And sometimes
Speaker 2: we just have to decide that we're going to have
Speaker 2: a little give and take, and we do so because
Speaker 2: we want to try to stay happy and healthy in
Speaker 2: a relationship. Compromise is simply being able to reach an agreement.
Speaker 2: And that's the secret of an enduring marriage. A relationship
Speaker 2: is compromise. And if you can't or you won't find
Speaker 2: mutual ground or find places to compromise, you'll never have
Speaker 2: a happy life. This won't happen some of you today,
Speaker 2: you need to start finding some middle ground. Some of
Speaker 2: you are so hard headed, not headed that you just
Speaker 2: feel like they don't do it my way. That's too bad.
Speaker 2: You know, why don't today, why don't you let the
Speaker 2: Holy Spirit begin to soften your heart a little bit,
Speaker 2: to realize that it's not all about you. I know
Speaker 2: you want it to be about you, but a relationship,
Speaker 2: in a relationship, if it's gonna be happy, it's got
Speaker 2: to be about both of you, about both of your happiness.
Speaker 2: Let me go to number four. Number four, it takes courtship.
Speaker 2: Now nobody uses the word courtship anymore, but all my
Speaker 2: points are in the letter C and so I could
Speaker 2: have used dating, but I had to have a word
Speaker 2: to start with C. So it's courtship. It takes courtship
Speaker 2: if you want to have It's a secret to a
Speaker 2: happy marriage relationship, it takes courtship. In Tarbos five nineteen,
Speaker 2: it says, let your wife be a fountain a blessing
Speaker 2: for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. Another
Speaker 2: Bible translation says, let your mate's affection fill you at
Speaker 2: all times with delights. I want you to notice it
Speaker 2: says at all times. Now, God intended for your marriage
Speaker 2: to be full of romance and physical affection and fun
Speaker 2: and playfulness and times to enjoy each other at all times.
Speaker 2: It says all times, and you can do it all
Speaker 2: times because it's all legal. Now you married. You're following me,
Speaker 2: thank you. Courtship does not end in marriage. It continues
Speaker 2: because everything's legal. You ought to be courting each other.
Speaker 2: I mean, when it comes to romance, what did you do? Mean,
Speaker 2: what did you do to woo hurt you? Ladies? What
Speaker 2: did you do to woo him to you? That was
Speaker 2: called courting, that's dating. That was what you did to
Speaker 2: develop a relationship to the develop romance and all those
Speaker 2: kind of things. I mean, when it comes to romance,
Speaker 2: and give me your marriage strongth that's the huge problem
Speaker 2: right now because now we don't see each other at
Speaker 2: our best now that we're married. You know this is true.
Speaker 2: I mean, you wake up in the morning, everybody's trying
Speaker 2: to get ready for work, get the kids off to school,
Speaker 2: and all these kind of things. You wake up, your
Speaker 2: hair's going about fourteen different ways, your breath is so
Speaker 2: bad to kill small animals, and you're rushing out and
Speaker 2: you hardly say hello or goodbye to each other. And
Speaker 2: then by the time they into the day rolls around
Speaker 2: I mean you're worn out, you're exhausted, you don't have
Speaker 2: anything else to give, or you following what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: in other words, you're seeing your spouse. If you're married,
Speaker 2: you're seeing your spouse at the worst times, when as before,
Speaker 2: you always saw them at their best times. That's why
Speaker 2: you need to intentionally plan to court each other. You
Speaker 2: need to date your mate. I do this now. I
Speaker 2: travel a lot now since I've made the transition with
Speaker 2: my son and the church. I don't want to say
Speaker 2: make the transition because that sounds kind of weird nowadays
Speaker 2: in our modern culture transitions. But now that my son
Speaker 2: is the pastor and I'm able to travel, I'm traveling
Speaker 2: all over. So I'm not always home every week. But
Speaker 2: when I am home every Thursday, that's the kind of
Speaker 2: day we fit. Every Thursday Genie and I, I try
Speaker 2: to take her to eat something or do something every
Speaker 2: third am I right? And I've learned that doesn't mean
Speaker 2: you have to spend a lot of money, since you're
Speaker 2: spending time together. That's what courting is all about. I mean,
Speaker 2: sometimes what just go get a hamburger? How many no hamburgers?
Speaker 2: Or the will of God or it's nothing like a
Speaker 2: good hot dog either. You know, I'm on school. But
Speaker 2: all she wants is to spend some time with me.
Speaker 2: Listen to men, that's what she wants from you. It
Speaker 2: is not always about what you can buy her. She
Speaker 2: wants some of you, some of your time. It's about courting,
Speaker 2: and most don't court, Most don't date, most don't spend
Speaker 2: time together. And when you stop doing what you did
Speaker 2: to win them win their love, that love slowly erodes.
Speaker 2: The relationship slowly fades. What it's true, I've watched it.
Speaker 2: I'm a Medicare recipient. I'm sixty five years old. I
Speaker 2: know I've watched enough. In the ministry now and being
Speaker 2: around people, I've watched that. Happy men used to say
Speaker 2: things like this to your sweet things. That know, over there, darling,
Speaker 2: your as beautiful as tulips in the spring. Your eyes
Speaker 2: sparkle like glitter on angel's wings. He never said that,
Speaker 2: did He used to say those fakes, ladies. You would say, baby,
Speaker 2: you got muscles, You got muscles. I mean they're so
Speaker 2: big it makes hercules. Why he's in the first grade.
Speaker 2: He brings tears to my eyes. You see, I don't
Speaker 2: know if you notice this. I'm trying not to flex
Speaker 2: anything because I'll bust this jacket all over. Men. You
Speaker 2: you used to uh she used to uh give you
Speaker 2: what you know, your spouse or the one you were dating,
Speaker 2: or why it used to give her candy and kisses.
Speaker 2: And now she gets from used burps and gas. And
Speaker 2: she's saying, what happened? Ladies, let me tell what you
Speaker 2: used to get him? I kid, how mean you dressed up?
Speaker 2: You look great, amazing. You used to give him I
Speaker 2: can and kissing. Now you got so much cream on
Speaker 2: your face. It looks like you're gonna swim into English channel.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. And he saying what happened? Ladies?
Speaker 2: You see him sound to sleep on the couch. Hearts
Speaker 2: somebody talk about this one day. You see him sound
Speaker 2: to sleep on the couch, his mouth wide open, the
Speaker 2: remote in his hand is belly hanging touch on the floor.
Speaker 2: You're saying, look what I'm married? And then he says
Speaker 2: you coming out of the bathroom ready for bed, looking
Speaker 2: like an astronaut. And he says, look what I'm married.
Speaker 2: I want you to know men are very achievement oriented, ladies.
Speaker 2: I want you to know this. We just we're gold orient.
Speaker 2: That's how men are amazed. That's just us. So our
Speaker 2: whole idea is I mean, when we're trying to get
Speaker 2: you to marry us, fall in love it, we do
Speaker 2: all kinds of things we'd never do normally, like go
Speaker 2: to operas, you know, spend a lot of money, do that, can,
Speaker 2: go to dinner a lot. We did all that to
Speaker 2: will you, and thank god we did that. But the
Speaker 2: moment we get married, in our mind, it's like, okay,
Speaker 2: gold achieved. The next goal is I've got to provide
Speaker 2: for her. I've got to provide for the family. I've
Speaker 2: got to provide for the gifts. And we think we
Speaker 2: got to go to work. That's kind of how we
Speaker 2: think is meant. And and so he's not really proving
Speaker 2: his love and affection towards you. I mean, at least
Speaker 2: she don't think so. But in his own mind, that's
Speaker 2: romance providing for you. That's that's love providing for you.
Speaker 2: And you're saying what happened to my night in shining
Speaker 2: order because you're starting to feel rejection, like there's no affection.
Speaker 2: I read about Clotel Clotil Boudro's wife. She was depressed
Speaker 2: really bad. Boudro took her to the psychiatrist. He said,
Speaker 2: he said, doctor said he got to do something for
Speaker 2: clotifis he's depressed. He said, well, let me just meet
Speaker 2: with her time aly for a few months. Well, the
Speaker 2: psychiatrists met with Clotil and found out that the reason
Speaker 2: why she was because all Boujo did was work all
Speaker 2: the time. Over time, he was on his shrimp boat,
Speaker 2: he was out in the marsh hunting ducks, he was
Speaker 2: fishing all this kind of stuff. He was hardly her home.
Speaker 2: He was trying to provide for his family. So the
Speaker 2: psychiatry figured it all that. He came back out to
Speaker 2: the foy where Boucho was. He he said, mister Boujo,
Speaker 2: he said, this is what your wife needs. Said, I'm
Speaker 2: figuring it all out. He said, this is what your
Speaker 2: wife needs. He goes over her and he said, let
Speaker 2: me demonstrate. He grabs coat till, hugs her clothes, leans
Speaker 2: her down. I mean, puts a big, wet, juicy kiss
Speaker 2: on her. He said, mister Boo Joe, she needs this
Speaker 2: every day of the week. Boujo scratch. He said, well,
Speaker 2: they said, I can only get here on Monday. Tuesdays
Speaker 2: and Thursdays. I'll do my best life. He didn't get it.
Speaker 2: Ecclesiastes nine says, live happily with the woman you love
Speaker 2: through the fleeting days of life. For the wife God
Speaker 2: gives you is your best reward down here for all
Speaker 2: of your earthly toil. Men don't want to just challenge
Speaker 2: you need to date your maide. You need to do
Speaker 2: something that you haven't done a long time. Just take
Speaker 2: don't spend a lot of money, Go spend some time.
Speaker 2: Turn off yourself on, the turn off on your electronic devices.
Speaker 2: And why don't you make the relationship of priority again?
Speaker 2: Why don't you laugh again? Wyant you go tell some
Speaker 2: Carni jokes again like I'm telling you, and date your maide.
Speaker 2: And if your relationship is suffering because the courtship has faded,
Speaker 2: something needs to change. Today. Everybody say today, Today, Today,
Speaker 2: Number five, the fifth one. It takes commitment, commitment Malachi
Speaker 2: two six. It says, for I hate divorce, says the Lord,
Speaker 2: the Lord, God of Israel. It is as cruel as
Speaker 2: putting on a victim's bloodstained coach, says the Lord Almighty.
Speaker 2: So guard yourself, always remain loyal to your wife. That's
Speaker 2: called a commitment. That's a verse of commitment, is what
Speaker 2: that is. And I'm not so sure we understand what
Speaker 2: commitment really is. Seems like we're only committed when we
Speaker 2: want to be where one is convenient for us. I
Speaker 2: read the latest statistic about Christians. You want to hear it?
Speaker 2: There was one and an old boy. Does anybody want
Speaker 2: to hear the latest statistics on us? You see, we
Speaker 2: say we're committed, they say. The average American, the average
Speaker 2: Christian in Americans, says they're committed. They say, I'm a
Speaker 2: committed Christian. But they attend church twenty times a year.
Speaker 2: They say, that's that to them, in their mind, is
Speaker 2: commitment twenty times. That's thirty eight percent of the time
Speaker 2: you go to church. If you only eight thirty eight
Speaker 2: percent of the time of a year from now, you're
Speaker 2: not going to be here. But see, we think that's commitment.
Speaker 2: We've got to be committed. If you're going to have
Speaker 2: a relationship that has harmony and happiness, there has to
Speaker 2: be a commitment. And we make so many promises with
Speaker 2: no intention of really fulfilling them. I know this is true.
Speaker 2: People say they're committing in church I'll come and serve
Speaker 2: in the children's mister, I'll do that next thing. You know,
Speaker 2: something better came up on that weekend. They go to
Speaker 2: the laker, or they go to the mountains, or they
Speaker 2: do whatever, and they don't fulfill their commitment. Making a
Speaker 2: shallow commitment has become part of our culture, become part
Speaker 2: of our nature. And one of the main reasons we're
Speaker 2: seeing this is because several generations now think that I've
Speaker 2: got to do what's best for me. You know what
Speaker 2: that is. That's a term of self centeredness and being
Speaker 2: self absorbed. It's all about me. I've got to do
Speaker 2: what's best for me. Can I just give you another
Speaker 2: way to look at it, and look at this. It's
Speaker 2: not about doing what's best for you. It's about doing
Speaker 2: what God says is best for you. That's how you
Speaker 2: ought to say it. We are living in a more selfish,
Speaker 2: more self centered world, and we wonder why the person
Speaker 2: that we're in a relationship with, we're married to, has
Speaker 2: become bitter and hard hearted and unhappy. You never build
Speaker 2: a great marriage unless you throw out the option of
Speaker 2: divorce means commitment. There are too many that build their
Speaker 2: whole They want to go build a whole new house
Speaker 2: and all you all they got to do is fix
Speaker 2: the door of the sagging a little bit, place the carper,
Speaker 2: do something simple. You don't need to build a whole
Speaker 2: new house to be happy. You know this tunees you need.
Speaker 2: And I've been married forty four years. Twelve of them
Speaker 2: have been pretty happy, just teeth through fifteen. But look,
Speaker 2: the first few years we were married, they were terrible.
Speaker 2: You might know what I'm talking about. They weren't as
Speaker 2: happy as we thought they would be. We had to
Speaker 2: grow up together, we had to learn together. We had
Speaker 2: to make some compromises together. But I want to tell
Speaker 2: you one thing when I made when I said those vows,
Speaker 2: I didn't say them to the people that were around me.
Speaker 2: I wasn't saying to the pastor. I was saying to Genie.
Speaker 2: Into the hold, I said until death knew us fought.
Speaker 2: So let me put it to you this way. If
Speaker 2: Genie leaves me, I'm gone with her and me. Commitment. Listen,
Speaker 2: I want you to hear this. Working commitments means being
Speaker 2: being willing to be unhappy for a while until you
Speaker 2: work it out. That's what commitment is. It's willing to
Speaker 2: be unhappy until we can work it out. And that
Speaker 2: may take a while, because it you might have to
Speaker 2: go back to communication and consideration and compromise in courtship.
Speaker 2: We may have to start all over these other things
Speaker 2: that I'm speaking to you about this morning. The great
Speaker 2: enemy of your the great enemy of your relationship, is
Speaker 2: the myth of incompatibility. I've heard people say, well, it's
Speaker 2: not compatible with anything. Some lawyer invented that just so
Speaker 2: they could do this divorce stuff. There's no such thing,
Speaker 2: because I know anybody can get along together if they
Speaker 2: want to. Is there an amen in the house on
Speaker 2: that you can get along with somebody if you really
Speaker 2: want to have The problem is you don't want to.
Speaker 2: You need to change your want to incompatibility. I've decided
Speaker 2: that any two people are compative compatible that they try to.
Speaker 2: Some of you think, well, the grass is greener on
Speaker 2: the other side. I got news for you. There's weeds
Speaker 2: in that grass too, lots of them. Let me take
Speaker 2: you the sixth thing running out of time. It takes
Speaker 2: Christ the last See it takes Christ. Because Christ will
Speaker 2: give you the power of the strength and ability. He
Speaker 2: will give you the endurance. He'll give you the rest
Speaker 2: in peace and the patience that it takes to do
Speaker 2: these other five things I've just spoken about, so you
Speaker 2: can have happiness and harmony in a relationship. He can
Speaker 2: breathe life back into something that seems dead or dying.
Speaker 2: He can heal what he's wounded. He can repair what's broken.
Speaker 2: You know, he's called the carpenter. Remember the carpenter. You
Speaker 2: know what carpenters do. They build things, They repair things,
Speaker 2: They restore things In't that right, Ben, Now you do
Speaker 2: that kind of stuff. That's what carpenters do. Jesus is
Speaker 2: the carpenter for your marriage, for your relationship, And no
Speaker 2: matter how dilapidated it may look right now, he can
Speaker 2: put a new coat paint on it. He can put
Speaker 2: a new window in, He put a new roof on it.
Speaker 2: The greatest thing you can do for your home, or
Speaker 2: your life, or for your marriage is to put Jesus first. Look,
Speaker 2: that's why you're here this morning, and I'm grateful that
Speaker 2: you're here because it just shows me that you really
Speaker 2: want God to lead your life. You want him to
Speaker 2: help you in your life. And he's the only one fast.
Speaker 2: Mark can do it fast as that can't do. It
Speaker 2: has to be Christ who will give you the strength
Speaker 2: and the ability and the wisdom to do that. You know,
Speaker 2: if somebody said marriage is like a three legged stool,
Speaker 2: let me close with this. They say marriage is like
Speaker 2: a three legged stool. That takes three, not two to
Speaker 2: make marriage. If you take a two legged stool in
Speaker 2: stand it up, it's going to follow. It takes that
Speaker 2: third leg. That's Jesus problem. Miss. Some of you don't
Speaker 2: have Jesus in ther in your marriage. And you know what,
Speaker 2: you don't have a leg extending. It's corny in the
Speaker 2: act that you don't get into. That's why you're having
Speaker 2: trouble standing up and making it. But Jesus loves he
Speaker 2: cares about how many If you need to work on
Speaker 2: these six things, let me just see your hands. There's
Speaker 2: at least one of the sixth that you need to
Speaker 2: work on. I need to probably work on a lot
Speaker 2: more than that. I need to work on a bunch
Speaker 2: of them, because it's always a learning curve all your life,
Speaker 2: you do learning how to get along together. Well, let
Speaker 2: me pray for a father in the name of Jesus.
Speaker 2: You see the hands of those who just went up
Speaker 2: saying I need o God to work on these six
Speaker 2: secrets of a happy marriage or relationship. I want harmony
Speaker 2: and I want happiness. It won't come by doing exactly
Speaker 2: what I've done. Or there's some things that I need
Speaker 2: to make some changes in and I need your help,
Speaker 2: and I'm calling on you. This morning, I lifted my head.
Speaker 2: There's at least one of these six things and I
Speaker 2: really need to work on. While you're still praying. If
Speaker 2: you lifted your hand, I want you to commit that
Speaker 2: to the Lord and said, Lord, I'm going to work
Speaker 2: on that this week. Just make that commitment to the
Speaker 2: Lord right now. Father, Here we are in this sanctuary.
Speaker 2: We're making a commitment to work on these things. We're
Speaker 2: saying them to you. Lord. It might be communication, it
Speaker 2: might be consideration, might be compromised. It might be courtship.
Speaker 2: It might be commitment. It might just be you and
Speaker 2: bringing you into our relationship and into our home. Lord.
Speaker 2: It might be one of these six things. But we
Speaker 2: need some help, and I'm committed to doing this right
Speaker 2: now the name of Jesus, Amen, everybody look at me.
Speaker 2: For just a morning. I was traveling back from Brazil
Speaker 2: back in November. We'd done a bunch of conferences and
Speaker 2: we were up on the northeast coast. We had to
Speaker 2: fly on little prop plane down to a city called Receiafield.
Speaker 2: If you look at Brazil on the east coast, it
Speaker 2: comes way out like this. It was on a tip.
Speaker 2: You know, it's not too far across the ocean to
Speaker 2: Africa from there. And we stopped. Pastor Larry and we
Speaker 2: were sitting together and the pilots we were about to
Speaker 2: take on some passengers. He was outside inspecting the propellers
Speaker 2: on the engine on the plane engine, and he was
Speaker 2: spinning around and he was looking at and he was
Speaker 2: touching and feeling every one of the blades. Pastor Larry said,
Speaker 2: what's that guy doing. I said, that's the pilot, I said.
Speaker 2: He said, what does he do? I said, he's he's looking.
Speaker 2: He's feeling for gashes or parts of the blade that
Speaker 2: might be missing. You know, you hit a rock or
Speaker 2: something that's rocks fly up as you're going down the
Speaker 2: rung way or something. He's looking for gashes or something
Speaker 2: in that blade. He said, why, I said, because if
Speaker 2: that thing spins around and you've got a gas or
Speaker 2: a part missing, a little piece missing, it's out of ballast,
Speaker 2: and the faster it spins, the more it begins to shake,
Speaker 2: and the more it shakes, the engine will fly off,
Speaker 2: the wheel come off, we'll crash it die. He said, WHOA,
Speaker 2: And I thought about you. There might be a little
Speaker 2: piece missing in your life.
Speaker 1: This morning.
Speaker 2: The fear of the Lord is here, and he's running
Speaker 2: his hands over the blades of your life, over your soul,
Speaker 2: looking for something in a little part. Maybe it's not big,
Speaker 2: but it's a little part is missing, that little part.
Speaker 2: The faster you go in life, the more you begin
Speaker 2: to shake, things begin to fly apart, until you crash
Speaker 2: and die. Spiritual, the Lord is running his hands over
Speaker 2: your soul right now, over your life. Some of you
Speaker 2: have a little part missing, don't you, a little part
Speaker 2: that's gone on you try to live life. Things are
Speaker 2: shaking and you're just hoping you get to the end.
Speaker 2: You may make it.
Speaker 6: But today the pilot, the one who flies the plane
Speaker 6: talking about Christ through spirit, wants to heal or replace
Speaker 6: the little part that's missing.
Speaker 2: Would you about to use for just a moment, some
Speaker 2: of you have been running your life. You're running so fast,
Speaker 2: so far. Your life is shaking because there's something missing.
Speaker 2: You have been given all of your life to Christ.
Speaker 2: You've only compartmentalized your Christianity. But today you say, Pastor,
Speaker 2: I think you're right. There's something missing in my life.
Speaker 2: I want to give everything I have to him. I'm
Speaker 2: not right. I know I'm not made when I confess
Speaker 2: my sin to him. That's not the first time you
Speaker 2: knew about it. He knows about it right now. I
Speaker 2: know I'm not living right, thinking right and right. See,
Speaker 2: you got a part missing. If that's you, slip your
Speaker 2: head up. So past Or, pray for me. Nobody's soill again.
Speaker 2: I'm not calling you part. I don't have any time
Speaker 2: right now. I'm out of time. There's two three four's
Speaker 2: or other heads five six seven A, anybody else? Something missing.
Speaker 2: I don't want to fly apart, Old God. I don't
Speaker 2: want my power on my engine to fly off. I
Speaker 2: don't want my life to crash and burn. Father, once again,
Speaker 2: we call upon you this morning, you the savior of
Speaker 2: our soul, Jesus. I think that you've run your head
Speaker 2: across our life right now to find the little piece
Speaker 2: that's missy. We acknowledge to you, or we know it's missing.
Speaker 2: We're not going to live our life any longer like this?
Speaker 2: Would you heal us, repair us? Would you restore us?
Speaker 2: If we could, we could run smooth and with power
Speaker 2: and with joy, with expectation. Lord God, fill the gap
Speaker 2: and the hold this in our soul. Right now, I
Speaker 2: lift in my head because I need you. I need
Speaker 2: to come back to you. If you lifted your hand,
Speaker 2: just praying your heart this real simple prayer. Lord, I
Speaker 2: need you. I'm asking you to wipe away my past
Speaker 2: and help me to become a new person today Today
Speaker 2: old things are passed away. Behold, all things will become new.
Speaker 2: Thank you Father. I'll give to you my heart and
Speaker 2: my life in Jesus name. Amen. The sixth Secrets of
Speaker 2: a healthy relationship exkive God a good off your price past.
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