WEBVTT 1 00:00:05.160 --> 00:00:09.759 Welcome Just Handwy Tagalog Sermon Podcast. Your daily dose of inspiring, 2 00:00:10.039 --> 00:00:11.599 heartfelt tagalog. 3 00:00:11.199 --> 00:00:14.480 Sermons from different pastors and speakers all over the Philippines. 4 00:00:14.800 --> 00:00:17.239 We hope that this podcast finds you any good shit. 5 00:00:17.640 --> 00:00:27.559 And now here's your message. 6 00:00:23.280 --> 00:00:26.920 Mark, because you were saying Pastor Mike is one of 7 00:00:26.920 --> 00:00:35.200 the presbyters and another two are dead, like yes, I'm next, Amen, 8 00:00:35.439 --> 00:00:39.240 how's everybody doing today? It's going to be back in Summerset. 9 00:00:39.240 --> 00:00:41.560 It was three years ago we celebrated the twenty fifth 10 00:00:41.600 --> 00:00:45.960 anniversary of the church and Pastor Marr showed me a 11 00:00:45.960 --> 00:00:49.399 picture in the newspaper. Was that last Saturday? Last week? 12 00:00:49.759 --> 00:00:52.479 Was that right after you got here? I don't know 13 00:00:52.479 --> 00:00:54.640 when you look like you were like in high school 14 00:00:54.719 --> 00:00:57.399 or something. Your picture was in the newspaper. And now 15 00:00:57.439 --> 00:01:01.399 look at him. You're the ones who calls all that 16 00:01:01.479 --> 00:01:04.519 gray hair. I just want jim up at. This is Genie, 17 00:01:04.519 --> 00:01:08.000 my wife, and we just got married not long ago, 18 00:01:08.079 --> 00:01:11.920 and it's been good. It's been a long time ago. 19 00:01:13.040 --> 00:01:16.400 A you may want to say, honey, well, I did 20 00:01:16.439 --> 00:01:19.079 get tickled when Pastor Mark was saying that he and 21 00:01:19.200 --> 00:01:22.280 my husband, you know, asually communicate. 22 00:01:21.760 --> 00:01:23.040 About once a week. 23 00:01:23.760 --> 00:01:27.120 Well, your pastor's wife and I. 24 00:01:27.280 --> 00:01:29.879 We communicate daily. 25 00:01:31.079 --> 00:01:34.040 You know, women are a relation, all right, And so 26 00:01:34.239 --> 00:01:35.959 we communicate daily. 27 00:01:35.719 --> 00:01:39.400 And sometimes multiple times during a day. And it's good. 28 00:01:39.760 --> 00:01:41.319 It's good. Uh. 29 00:01:41.519 --> 00:01:45.640 Psalm twenty five, verse two says, Oh, my God, in 30 00:01:45.920 --> 00:01:49.200 you I trust, Let me not be put to shame, 31 00:01:49.359 --> 00:01:50.879 Let my enemies. 32 00:01:50.640 --> 00:01:52.200 Not exalt over me. 33 00:01:53.239 --> 00:01:58.319 And then it says, make me know your ways. Oh Lord, 34 00:01:58.519 --> 00:02:02.319 teach me your past, lead me in your truth, and 35 00:02:02.519 --> 00:02:06.239 teach me, for you are the God of my salvation. 36 00:02:07.000 --> 00:02:09.840 And I think that's one of the reasons why I 37 00:02:09.919 --> 00:02:13.080 am so close to your pastor's wife. 38 00:02:13.560 --> 00:02:20.199 Jeanette trusts God. Janette wants God to. 39 00:02:19.919 --> 00:02:25.000 Teach her his past, lead her in truth. 40 00:02:25.560 --> 00:02:26.240 And you know why. 41 00:02:26.280 --> 00:02:30.439 She wants that so that she can lead you, and 42 00:02:30.520 --> 00:02:33.919 so that God can lead her, so she can lead you. 43 00:02:34.520 --> 00:02:37.199 She is here to impart into you. 44 00:02:37.960 --> 00:02:43.400 She desires to impart God's truth into your life. She 45 00:02:43.680 --> 00:02:47.280 is a wonderful, wonderful woman of God. 46 00:02:48.280 --> 00:02:54.400 And to me, she is my best best friend because 47 00:02:54.439 --> 00:02:59.719 she always challenges me in the truth of God's worth. 48 00:03:00.319 --> 00:03:03.599 You are a blessed people, amen. 49 00:03:10.120 --> 00:03:12.080 I'll tell you one thing about them. They text more 50 00:03:12.080 --> 00:03:15.759 than middle schoolers I'm just telling you. I mean every time. 51 00:03:15.879 --> 00:03:18.080 I mean the first thing Jeannie does when she gets 52 00:03:18.159 --> 00:03:19.680 up in the morning, she doesn't even say hi to me. 53 00:03:19.719 --> 00:03:22.639 She goes starts texting. I said, it must be Jeannette. 54 00:03:23.280 --> 00:03:24.360 It's like non stop. 55 00:03:26.159 --> 00:03:33.280 She's two hours ahead. Does that make you two hours behind? Oh, 56 00:03:33.560 --> 00:03:35.520 it's good to be here in Summer Center on a 57 00:03:35.520 --> 00:03:37.280 beautiful ready day. I was tying fast to Mark that 58 00:03:37.319 --> 00:03:39.639 you know we're in Colorado now that I saw more 59 00:03:39.719 --> 00:03:42.120 rain this morning than I've seen the last year in Colorado, 60 00:03:42.199 --> 00:03:44.159 so it kind of feels good, looks good. You're probably 61 00:03:44.319 --> 00:03:46.599 sick of it, but we really need something, so send 62 00:03:46.639 --> 00:03:48.840 it to us, send it back to the West so 63 00:03:48.919 --> 00:03:51.080 we could have some Hey, just want to brag on 64 00:03:51.120 --> 00:03:54.039 your pastor for a moment, because as a brother, Mark 65 00:03:54.120 --> 00:03:55.879 was saying, we've known each other for a long long 66 00:03:55.919 --> 00:03:59.960 time and I knew him when he didn't have gray hand. 67 00:04:00.360 --> 00:04:05.240 Isn't that something? And we go back a long ways 68 00:04:05.280 --> 00:04:09.000 and relationships are really important. Good relationships are very important, 69 00:04:10.000 --> 00:04:13.120 and you know, just walking through this journey of life together, 70 00:04:13.120 --> 00:04:15.120 there's been a lot of funs. Brother Mark, thank you 71 00:04:15.199 --> 00:04:17.920 for making our lives a lot better knowing who's really 72 00:04:18.120 --> 00:04:20.319 enriched us. And I don't know if I've really shared 73 00:04:20.399 --> 00:04:22.079 very much it would help you. In you I probably 74 00:04:22.160 --> 00:04:25.600 made most of it up, but it seemed to have worked. 75 00:04:26.759 --> 00:04:30.279 But I love being around people that have character and 76 00:04:30.319 --> 00:04:33.920 integrity and they're genuine and they're authentic. You don't find 77 00:04:33.920 --> 00:04:36.839 that much in ministries. You see a lot of production, 78 00:04:37.160 --> 00:04:39.360 and you see a lot of facades, but you don't 79 00:04:39.360 --> 00:04:41.959 see a lot of authenticity. And you have that with 80 00:04:42.199 --> 00:04:44.680 Mark and Jeanette Harold, and I think you ought to 81 00:04:44.720 --> 00:04:46.480 be very grateful and thank God for that. I know 82 00:04:46.519 --> 00:04:48.199 you take it. You take it. You know you take 83 00:04:48.199 --> 00:04:50.399 it for granted that that happens with everybody. It doesn't 84 00:04:50.399 --> 00:04:53.319 happen everywhere. And I've traveled enough now in the last 85 00:04:53.319 --> 00:04:55.519 four years around America and around the world. I'm watching it, 86 00:04:55.560 --> 00:04:58.279 I'm seeing it, and so it is an absolute joy 87 00:04:58.399 --> 00:05:00.279 for us to be here. Both Mark and thank you 88 00:05:00.319 --> 00:05:02.920 for letting us come again. And we just loved being 89 00:05:02.959 --> 00:05:04.720 around both of you, and we loved you. Let's give 90 00:05:04.759 --> 00:05:06.560 God a good hands for both of what's a blessing. 91 00:05:12.279 --> 00:05:15.639 Thanks Marc Castidy. If I would speak on marriage and relationships, 92 00:05:15.959 --> 00:05:18.680 is that okay? And I have to tell something that 93 00:05:18.759 --> 00:05:23.399 happened to me a few months back. I took Genie 94 00:05:23.399 --> 00:05:27.160 in my arms and I looked in those beautiful green 95 00:05:27.199 --> 00:05:30.240 eyes of hers, and I said to her, tell me, 96 00:05:30.279 --> 00:05:36.120 I'm sixy And she did just exactly what you did. 97 00:05:36.160 --> 00:05:38.759 She started laughing. In fact, it was uncontrolled. I've known 98 00:05:38.800 --> 00:05:41.040 her for forty nine years, and I mean it's like 99 00:05:41.120 --> 00:05:43.600 her knees were buckling. She was so I mean, she 100 00:05:43.680 --> 00:05:46.079 was laughing so hard. And I thought, well, I mean 101 00:05:46.079 --> 00:05:48.040 that tells me a lot, just like what you just did. 102 00:05:48.240 --> 00:05:50.199 You laughing, That tells me a lot to about me. 103 00:05:50.839 --> 00:05:54.519 Well help me, Jesus. I want to talk to you 104 00:05:54.519 --> 00:05:57.000 this morning about relationships. I want to give you six 105 00:05:57.720 --> 00:06:02.360 secrets to a happy relationship or a marriage. Now, I 106 00:06:02.360 --> 00:06:05.360 don't know burn Mark and I were from Louisiana. Anybody 107 00:06:05.360 --> 00:06:08.560 from Louisiana this year? Good? The rest of you were 108 00:06:08.560 --> 00:06:11.839 smart enough not to go there. But I mean we 109 00:06:11.879 --> 00:06:14.040 have webs between our toes. Were from Louisiana and they 110 00:06:14.160 --> 00:06:16.480 got people like Boutrou and Tippandeaux. Does he ever tell 111 00:06:16.519 --> 00:06:19.480 you about Boudrou and Timppadeau that like the swamp people? 112 00:06:19.519 --> 00:06:21.920 We know some of those kind of people Boodro and Timpadeaux. Well, 113 00:06:21.920 --> 00:06:24.920 Bunjo has been married to Kotil for a lot of years, 114 00:06:24.959 --> 00:06:28.800 and so Kotil, uh, you know. Boudrou was there and 115 00:06:29.160 --> 00:06:31.560 Kotil says, hey, look at that funny guy over there. 116 00:06:31.560 --> 00:06:34.240 He's been drinking a lot. Bouto said, well, who is he? 117 00:06:34.839 --> 00:06:37.480 She said, Oh, that's my ex who wanted me to 118 00:06:37.480 --> 00:06:40.680 marry him and I denied him marriage. He said, wow, 119 00:06:40.720 --> 00:06:50.360 he's still celebrating his freedom. Boujo said, marriage is like 120 00:06:50.360 --> 00:06:58.040 a three ring circus, engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering. 121 00:07:00.040 --> 00:07:01.720 And he needs to be in this service because I'm 122 00:07:01.720 --> 00:07:04.319 gonna talk about what it takes to have a good relationship, 123 00:07:04.360 --> 00:07:07.279 and that is enduring. That's the fourth ring and we 124 00:07:07.319 --> 00:07:10.160 need to have is enduring. How many if you want 125 00:07:10.160 --> 00:07:12.439 to have a happy marriage, happy relationship, and by the way, 126 00:07:12.600 --> 00:07:14.680 I don't care if you're married or single, Mexic endforce, 127 00:07:14.720 --> 00:07:17.759 take some notes today because I promise you something can 128 00:07:17.800 --> 00:07:20.680 be life changing today. That could change your relationship. It 129 00:07:20.680 --> 00:07:23.160 could change your marriage, it could change how you get 130 00:07:23.199 --> 00:07:26.160 along together. And I beg the Lord's gonna do something 131 00:07:26.199 --> 00:07:28.120 really great. I've been praying for you, I've been asking 132 00:07:28.120 --> 00:07:30.839 the Lord to open up your heart and soften your heart, 133 00:07:30.959 --> 00:07:32.759 that the seed of this world. We're gonna have some fun. 134 00:07:32.800 --> 00:07:34.439 We're gonna laugh a little bit. Is that all right? 135 00:07:34.519 --> 00:07:38.319 Because marriage and relationships are funny, correct, And if you 136 00:07:38.319 --> 00:07:40.480 don't laugh a lot about them, then you're gonna have 137 00:07:40.519 --> 00:07:44.319 a lot of suffering. Is boudro thinks it's all about? 138 00:07:44.360 --> 00:07:47.480 But you know what, Happiness doesn't come because you smile. 139 00:07:47.519 --> 00:07:51.040 You're not happy just because you smile. Happiness in a 140 00:07:51.120 --> 00:07:54.519 relationship and happiness in a marriage comes because there is harmony. 141 00:07:55.720 --> 00:07:59.079 There's some harmony that comes into our lives. And this 142 00:07:59.160 --> 00:08:01.279 harmony that we're talking about today is going to come 143 00:08:01.279 --> 00:08:04.680 from these six secrets that I want to share with 144 00:08:04.720 --> 00:08:08.920 you about marriage and relationship. Now, I want you to 145 00:08:08.959 --> 00:08:13.199 know that happiness is created because of an atmosphere. Everything 146 00:08:13.279 --> 00:08:16.920 happens in an atmosphere, an atmosphere of harmony. And I 147 00:08:16.920 --> 00:08:19.399 want to read this verse to you Philippians two. Verse two. 148 00:08:19.480 --> 00:08:22.839 This is the new living translation all the apostle writing. 149 00:08:22.959 --> 00:08:27.720 He says, make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with 150 00:08:27.759 --> 00:08:30.480 each other. And watch he says three things. He says 151 00:08:30.720 --> 00:08:34.519 by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other by loving one another 152 00:08:35.559 --> 00:08:39.919 and working together with one heart and purpose. One translation 153 00:08:40.919 --> 00:08:45.120 says to live together in harmony and love. And the 154 00:08:45.200 --> 00:08:50.240 reality is that few marriages are relationships. They have harmony, 155 00:08:50.279 --> 00:08:53.799 they have love, they have unity. Very few have them. 156 00:08:54.039 --> 00:08:57.399 You know, there's a relationship, but there's not always harmony, 157 00:08:57.600 --> 00:09:01.720 and there's not always happiness. Many times there's conflicts, there's disappointments, 158 00:09:01.799 --> 00:09:04.519 and what you expected in a relationship or what you 159 00:09:04.600 --> 00:09:06.919 expected in a marriage has not happened or it hasn't 160 00:09:07.159 --> 00:09:09.960 happened yet. And for some of you, marriage, some of 161 00:09:10.000 --> 00:09:13.080 you started off as an ideal that turned into an 162 00:09:13.159 --> 00:09:15.559 ordeal that is now turned it into the saying to yourself, 163 00:09:15.600 --> 00:09:18.240 I want a new deal. I kind of catch you 164 00:09:18.279 --> 00:09:23.399 getting it. I like that, And that's kind of where 165 00:09:23.399 --> 00:09:26.360 you're at, maybe in your walk in a relationship right now. 166 00:09:26.360 --> 00:09:28.879 But it doesn't matter who you marry. Good marriages and 167 00:09:28.879 --> 00:09:31.320 strong families that just don't happen accidentally. You have to 168 00:09:31.320 --> 00:09:34.879 work hard at it. And you know it's marriage and 169 00:09:34.919 --> 00:09:37.279 relationships are made up of two imperfect people, but the 170 00:09:37.399 --> 00:09:39.840 union of it is perfect in the eyes of God. 171 00:09:40.840 --> 00:09:42.320 Now I know that some of you think you're really 172 00:09:42.360 --> 00:09:43.960 perfect out there and I'm looking at you and you 173 00:09:43.960 --> 00:09:46.639 don't look that perfect. Now you look good, but you 174 00:09:46.639 --> 00:09:50.440 don't look that perfect. We'll see a relationship of marriage. 175 00:09:50.440 --> 00:09:52.759 I want to use the context of marriage. Marriage in 176 00:09:52.799 --> 00:09:55.919 the eyes of God is perfect. He just happens to 177 00:09:56.000 --> 00:09:59.159 use two people that are not to make up that union. 178 00:10:00.080 --> 00:10:02.799 And again, it doesn't matter who you marry. Things just 179 00:10:02.799 --> 00:10:05.159 don't happen automatically. It takes a lot of energy, it 180 00:10:05.200 --> 00:10:07.279 takes a lot of efforts. You have to be intentional, 181 00:10:07.320 --> 00:10:09.600 you have to spend time, you have to be committed. 182 00:10:09.639 --> 00:10:11.320 And I've got some good news for all of you. 183 00:10:11.720 --> 00:10:14.559 It doesn't take gigantic changes in your life or in 184 00:10:14.600 --> 00:10:18.480 a relationship to make something work. Sometimes it's the smallest 185 00:10:18.519 --> 00:10:23.480 little thing that can change the atmosphere, that creates harmony, 186 00:10:23.519 --> 00:10:25.320 that gives you some happiness. Let me hear an am 187 00:10:25.440 --> 00:10:28.639 n from some of you. When some of you you're 188 00:10:28.679 --> 00:10:30.799 fighting a lot. I mean you argue a lot. You 189 00:10:30.799 --> 00:10:33.320 don't have happiness in your home or in a relationship. 190 00:10:33.600 --> 00:10:35.279 And I'm praying that these six things are going to 191 00:10:35.320 --> 00:10:36.720 help you. So if you're ready, I'm going to jump 192 00:10:36.799 --> 00:10:39.159 into it. Number one. Pastor Mark can be talking more 193 00:10:39.159 --> 00:10:41.919 about this next week. Number one. The first secret. It 194 00:10:41.960 --> 00:10:46.720 takes communication. It takes communication. It takes the not just communication. 195 00:10:46.879 --> 00:10:50.159 It takes the right kind of communication to be successful. Now, 196 00:10:50.240 --> 00:10:56.279 in Proverbs thirteen, verse seventeen, it says, reliable communication permits progress, 197 00:10:56.879 --> 00:10:58.840 and if you want to make progress in your marriage, 198 00:10:58.879 --> 00:11:01.559 you've got to talk. Say eighty five percent of all 199 00:11:01.559 --> 00:11:07.200 marriages and relationships have problems because of poor communication. They 200 00:11:07.240 --> 00:11:09.039 just don't talk to each other. Our study was done 201 00:11:09.039 --> 00:11:12.039 and they say the average couple spends only four minutes 202 00:11:12.080 --> 00:11:15.320 a day talking to each other. I mean, we spend 203 00:11:15.360 --> 00:11:19.200 forty seven hours a week watching television, and we only 204 00:11:19.200 --> 00:11:22.440 spent about thirty minutes a week total talking to each other. 205 00:11:22.480 --> 00:11:24.679 And you wonder why you have problems and there's no harmony. 206 00:11:24.799 --> 00:11:28.639 They're no happiness in your relationship because you have quick talking. 207 00:11:29.279 --> 00:11:32.039 I mean, we surround ourselves with noise and activities and 208 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:34.679 television and all of our digital devices. 209 00:11:35.720 --> 00:11:36.480 Come on, you look. 210 00:11:36.360 --> 00:11:41.559 Holy out there, which you're not that holy. We surround 211 00:11:41.600 --> 00:11:44.440 ourselves well all these kind of things, and we eat 212 00:11:44.519 --> 00:11:47.080 our dinner, we bury our faces and our iPads and 213 00:11:47.120 --> 00:11:50.120 our iPhones, and we're watching television and about the only 214 00:11:50.200 --> 00:11:53.120 kind of communication we have with one another is where's 215 00:11:53.159 --> 00:11:57.639 the remote? We lost the remote control to the TV. 216 00:11:57.720 --> 00:12:01.120 That's about our communication nowadays. And I think we're just 217 00:12:01.120 --> 00:12:03.279 surrounded by so many things and you're not going to 218 00:12:03.320 --> 00:12:05.399 make any progress if you don't talk to each other. 219 00:12:06.039 --> 00:12:09.200 You'll never have a solid foundation of a rationship without 220 00:12:09.240 --> 00:12:12.960 some kind of communication. I heard about a man one time. 221 00:12:13.480 --> 00:12:15.399 His wife said to him, why don't you talk to 222 00:12:15.440 --> 00:12:19.159 me while I sew? He said, why don't you sew 223 00:12:19.159 --> 00:12:22.360 to me while I read? You know that is not communication. 224 00:12:22.519 --> 00:12:25.440 You do know that. It's like the woman that went 225 00:12:25.480 --> 00:12:27.240 to bed and I she says said to her husband, 226 00:12:27.279 --> 00:12:29.200 she says, I can't sleep. I think there's a mouse 227 00:12:29.279 --> 00:12:31.559 under the bed. He said, why don't you think there's 228 00:12:31.559 --> 00:12:34.639 a cat under the bed and go to sleep? That 229 00:12:34.720 --> 00:12:38.600 is that is not communication? And I said, how you 230 00:12:38.720 --> 00:12:40.720 gold a solid foundation? You know? Boudro. I won't go 231 00:12:40.759 --> 00:12:44.039 back to Boudrou and Quotila. You know they always had 232 00:12:44.039 --> 00:12:46.240 struggles in their marriage. They've been married a long time 233 00:12:46.360 --> 00:12:49.480 and they have not been talking since their last argument. 234 00:12:50.559 --> 00:12:52.399 So what they didn't do They've been passing notes. They 235 00:12:52.399 --> 00:12:55.559 write notes because they're not talking to each other. Boudro 236 00:12:55.679 --> 00:12:57.799 wrote a note quote. It says, wake me up in 237 00:12:57.840 --> 00:12:59.600 the morning at six am. I got lots of stuff 238 00:12:59.600 --> 00:13:03.039 I gotta do well. The next morning, Boudreau wakes up 239 00:13:03.080 --> 00:13:05.039 and it's nine am. He is as mad as he 240 00:13:05.080 --> 00:13:06.799 can be. And he turns over and he looks and 241 00:13:06.799 --> 00:13:08.919 he sees a note on his pillow. He says, wake up, 242 00:13:09.080 --> 00:13:15.080 it's six am. That's not communication. Are you with me? 243 00:13:18.559 --> 00:13:20.519 You know I want you to get to a girl. 244 00:13:20.720 --> 00:13:25.840 When a girl is born, she develops linguistics to get 245 00:13:26.039 --> 00:13:30.480 skills faster and more proficient in conversation than boys. This 246 00:13:30.639 --> 00:13:34.240 is really true. Girls can talk more than boys. I mean, 247 00:13:34.279 --> 00:13:39.960 that's a lifelong talent. Becaujanet agrees, My wife agrees. I agree, 248 00:13:40.960 --> 00:13:44.440 And they can talk a lot. And and ladies, I 249 00:13:44.440 --> 00:13:45.840 don't want you to get mad at me. That's just 250 00:13:45.879 --> 00:13:48.440 how God has made you. In fact, it's a lifelong thing. 251 00:13:48.440 --> 00:13:51.000 It starts at an early age. Doctor Martin, can you 252 00:13:51.120 --> 00:13:52.799 roll that video real quick? I want you to see 253 00:13:52.799 --> 00:13:54.720 this where it starts. Take a look at this. 254 00:14:05.240 --> 00:14:25.200 Oh by the lack las a last lack and you 255 00:14:25.399 --> 00:14:42.519 met me. They get somebody can be made the same. 256 00:14:42.840 --> 00:14:56.720 Thanks athing he Rubb. We have been talked more than men. 257 00:14:56.759 --> 00:14:59.960 And all the men said, don't you shouldn't have said 258 00:15:01.120 --> 00:15:05.600 you're in trouble. Now it is a fact. They say 259 00:15:05.639 --> 00:15:07.960 women speak about thirty thousand words a day and men 260 00:15:08.039 --> 00:15:12.360 speak about ten thousand words a day. And you know, 261 00:15:12.559 --> 00:15:14.159 by the time a man comes home from work, I mean, 262 00:15:14.200 --> 00:15:15.960 he's already using these ten thousand words up. Think he 263 00:15:16.039 --> 00:15:17.480 just kind of grunts his way her the rest of 264 00:15:17.519 --> 00:15:19.279 the day in the evening, and a woman, you know, 265 00:15:19.440 --> 00:15:21.519 she comes home from work or if she's home taking 266 00:15:21.519 --> 00:15:23.240 care of the kids, and she still got about ten 267 00:15:23.279 --> 00:15:25.919 thousand words to bird, and she wants somebody to talk to. 268 00:15:27.759 --> 00:15:30.120 In fact, there was a study. There's research done. Won't 269 00:15:30.159 --> 00:15:33.559 you listen to this. It says, according to researchers, researchers, 270 00:15:33.639 --> 00:15:38.320 the female brain contains more cells that controls speech functions 271 00:15:38.399 --> 00:15:40.120 than male. Now I'm not making this up. This is 272 00:15:40.279 --> 00:15:43.440 a research that was done. It says the differences between 273 00:15:43.559 --> 00:15:45.879 the male and the female brain are formed in the 274 00:15:45.960 --> 00:15:51.120 mother's womb. It says testosterone starts affecting the formation of 275 00:15:51.240 --> 00:15:54.600 the developing male brain. Now this is really true. It 276 00:15:54.759 --> 00:16:00.120 reduces the size of the cerebral zone controlling perception. I'm 277 00:16:00.120 --> 00:16:02.080 not making it a go, go read about it yourself. 278 00:16:02.639 --> 00:16:07.200 As a result of this influence, zones controlling speech and 279 00:16:07.320 --> 00:16:12.679 emotions and memory in a man's brain decreases. That causes 280 00:16:12.759 --> 00:16:18.519 men to become deaf to most logical arguments and boys. Later, 281 00:16:18.679 --> 00:16:21.799 men speak lesson women and try to hide their emotions 282 00:16:22.120 --> 00:16:23.799 as much as they could. I didn't make this up. 283 00:16:23.879 --> 00:16:26.240 I saw this in a search and research, a study 284 00:16:26.279 --> 00:16:28.879 that was done. In fact, in some of my research, 285 00:16:29.000 --> 00:16:32.519 I found a book called the Female Brain. I mean 286 00:16:32.600 --> 00:16:36.720 not thing's about this big. And here's what they said 287 00:16:36.720 --> 00:16:38.840 about the female brain. It says women have an eight 288 00:16:39.000 --> 00:16:43.960 lane super highway for processing emotions. Men have a small 289 00:16:44.039 --> 00:16:48.240 country road. I tried to see if there was a 290 00:16:48.320 --> 00:16:52.720 book called the male mind, and there really wasn't one. 291 00:16:53.039 --> 00:16:54.679 It was really since a sheet of paper with the 292 00:16:54.720 --> 00:16:57.159 title on and something to call her on the backside 293 00:16:57.200 --> 00:17:01.799 of his study is trying to say, is that men, 294 00:17:02.279 --> 00:17:05.160 because we have been born men, we have some damaged 295 00:17:05.200 --> 00:17:07.720 brain cells. Can I hear an amen from the women? 296 00:17:09.359 --> 00:17:13.000 And so we just don't talk as much communication Now, 297 00:17:13.039 --> 00:17:16.079 I'm not so certain that all the communications are for men. 298 00:17:17.240 --> 00:17:20.920 Women sometimes are not very clear when they communicate. Am 299 00:17:21.000 --> 00:17:24.559 I right? I heard some men laughing at you can 300 00:17:24.599 --> 00:17:26.480 be in trouble, brothers. You gotta be careful. 301 00:17:26.920 --> 00:17:27.519 You wrong. 302 00:17:29.920 --> 00:17:33.960 It was like Clotel Bootrow's wife. You're gonna get a 303 00:17:34.000 --> 00:17:36.279 boatload of boot Row today. I'm just telling you right now, 304 00:17:37.279 --> 00:17:40.240 but I mean a Cotel went to the judge. She says, 305 00:17:40.279 --> 00:17:42.920 I want a divorce. He said, well, do you have 306 00:17:43.000 --> 00:17:46.079 any grounds? She said, yeah, we have four acres on 307 00:17:46.160 --> 00:17:49.359 the buy you he said, he said no, he said, 308 00:17:49.440 --> 00:17:52.039 he said, He said, I mean, do you have a grudge? 309 00:17:52.799 --> 00:17:54.920 She said no, we parked our car in the front yard. 310 00:17:57.599 --> 00:17:59.519 He said, what does your husband beat you up? She 311 00:17:59.599 --> 00:18:02.960 said no, I'll get up before him every morning. Now 312 00:18:03.119 --> 00:18:04.680 just as well, why do you want to divorce? He said, 313 00:18:04.680 --> 00:18:10.319 because we just can't communicate. Sometimes women are not very clear. 314 00:18:10.359 --> 00:18:14.039 They don't communicate communicate clearly to men. We have trouble 315 00:18:14.079 --> 00:18:16.880 with that. But communication is not not always about a 316 00:18:16.920 --> 00:18:19.400 lot of words. It's about the right kind of words. 317 00:18:20.680 --> 00:18:23.920 It's about communicating where each can understand. And if there's 318 00:18:24.039 --> 00:18:27.640 one problem in a relationship that can cause more damage 319 00:18:27.720 --> 00:18:30.640 and disharmony, it's because we don't talk to each other. 320 00:18:30.720 --> 00:18:32.440 We don't know the right kind of words to use. 321 00:18:32.480 --> 00:18:36.599 And when you quit talking resent the builds up and 322 00:18:36.880 --> 00:18:42.200 love phases out, grows and their feelings become weak. That 323 00:18:42.319 --> 00:18:45.319 happens in a relationship. Look, when you quit talking to 324 00:18:45.440 --> 00:18:48.119 each other. This is what I'm about. That when you 325 00:18:48.200 --> 00:18:50.960 quit talking to each other, you start forgetting about each other. 326 00:18:52.599 --> 00:18:56.720 It's true, isn't it. That's why communication is such a 327 00:18:56.839 --> 00:18:59.440 big deal. To succeed in marriage and relationship, you've got 328 00:18:59.480 --> 00:19:02.599 to be able to agree. You can't agree unless you 329 00:19:02.680 --> 00:19:05.200 talk Amos three three says can two walk together unless 330 00:19:05.200 --> 00:19:10.119 they're an agreement. If we're gonna have an atmosphere of 331 00:19:10.160 --> 00:19:12.880 harmony where there's some happiness, I'm talking about something really 332 00:19:13.000 --> 00:19:17.599 genuinely happy in that relationship. We've got to be able 333 00:19:17.680 --> 00:19:22.000 to communicate. Poor communication leads to fights and arguments and 334 00:19:22.440 --> 00:19:26.559 the silent Look, the silent treatment is no way to communicate. Look, 335 00:19:26.680 --> 00:19:28.759 just because there's silence in your home doesn't mean there's 336 00:19:28.839 --> 00:19:34.480 peace in your home. They say that silence is golden. 337 00:19:35.880 --> 00:19:38.720 Not in a marriage. You've got to talk. Not in 338 00:19:38.759 --> 00:19:42.240 a relationship. You've got to communicate. Learn the right words. 339 00:19:42.799 --> 00:19:44.839 And I want to give you some sound advice this morning. 340 00:19:45.039 --> 00:19:47.839 You can work it out if you're willing to talk 341 00:19:47.920 --> 00:19:50.440 it out. Did you hear that? I say it again? 342 00:19:50.680 --> 00:19:52.440 You can work it out if you're willing to talk 343 00:19:52.759 --> 00:19:56.440 it out. Somebody needs to start today today, some of you. 344 00:19:56.559 --> 00:19:58.440 When you go home from the service, you need to say, Okay, 345 00:19:58.680 --> 00:20:00.480 we're gonna start. You don't have to be wrong for 346 00:20:00.559 --> 00:20:03.240 a pen. I hope you know this. Somebody needs to 347 00:20:03.319 --> 00:20:06.400 start the conversation. Somebody needs to start, not in an argument. 348 00:20:06.839 --> 00:20:09.119 Somebody needs to start communicating. Can I hear an amen? 349 00:20:09.599 --> 00:20:14.240 That's the first secret. Number two. It takes consideration. Consideration. 350 00:20:14.359 --> 00:20:17.519 Consideration means paying attention to what other people say, how 351 00:20:17.559 --> 00:20:21.519 they feel, showing common courtesy, treating others with respect. If 352 00:20:21.680 --> 00:20:24.200 Esians four, verse two, Paul the Apostle writes, this, be 353 00:20:24.359 --> 00:20:28.920 humble and gentle, be patient with each other, making allowances 354 00:20:29.000 --> 00:20:35.000 for each other's faults because of your love. That's another 355 00:20:35.039 --> 00:20:39.960 way of saying to be considerate. Consideration means paying attention 356 00:20:40.079 --> 00:20:43.759 to what people say, preferring one over another. It means 357 00:20:44.200 --> 00:20:47.480 men helping her bring in the groceries even though it's 358 00:20:47.519 --> 00:20:51.279 the fourth quarter of the football game. Ladies. It means 359 00:20:51.359 --> 00:20:54.720 making him a cherry pie when he least expects it. Genie. 360 00:20:59.200 --> 00:21:01.599 It means making sure at her ledger in the car 361 00:21:01.720 --> 00:21:03.799 before you put it in gear and start driving off. 362 00:21:05.279 --> 00:21:06.920 Now I saw that problem. I just go around and 363 00:21:07.000 --> 00:21:09.079 open the car door for Jeanie so she's in by 364 00:21:09.160 --> 00:21:10.920 the time I get on the other side. I saw 365 00:21:11.079 --> 00:21:17.680 that problem. That's consideration. Okay. Let me give you some 366 00:21:17.920 --> 00:21:19.680 maybe an example of what it was like when you 367 00:21:19.759 --> 00:21:23.440 first got married. That'd be okay, because in the beginning 368 00:21:23.480 --> 00:21:28.559 you showed consideration. You know, it's the first year of marriage. 369 00:21:28.559 --> 00:21:30.200 I mean, by the way, and I'm gonna show you 370 00:21:30.200 --> 00:21:33.599 the progression of what makes a cold marriage. First year 371 00:21:33.640 --> 00:21:39.119 of marriage, baby darling, I'm worried about you, that sniffle 372 00:21:39.240 --> 00:21:42.240 that you have. Listen. I've called the paramedics to take 373 00:21:42.279 --> 00:21:44.200 you over to the medical center and I'm going to 374 00:21:44.240 --> 00:21:45.880 give you a week's rest there in the hospital. And 375 00:21:45.920 --> 00:21:47.839 by the way, I know you don't like hospital food, 376 00:21:47.880 --> 00:21:49.759 so I'm having it all brought in for the whole week. 377 00:21:49.880 --> 00:21:52.759 So you just read it. First year of marriage, second 378 00:21:52.839 --> 00:21:55.079 year of marriage, sweetheart. I don't like the sound of 379 00:21:55.119 --> 00:21:57.640 that call. I've called doctor Johnson to make a house 380 00:21:57.720 --> 00:22:01.200 call and and so I just let me take you 381 00:22:01.319 --> 00:22:02.799 in bed, and he'll be here in a few minutes. 382 00:22:03.839 --> 00:22:07.960 The third year, you know, honey, you look like you 383 00:22:08.039 --> 00:22:11.680 have a fever. Listen, after you've bathed the kids and 384 00:22:11.880 --> 00:22:13.400 wash the dishes, why don't you go lay down for 385 00:22:13.440 --> 00:22:19.480 a little while. The fourth year, be sensible, I mean, 386 00:22:19.960 --> 00:22:22.559 be sensible, I mean, I know you've got a fever. 387 00:22:22.599 --> 00:22:24.480 Why don't you drive yourself over to the farmers. He 388 00:22:24.519 --> 00:22:26.039 gets you some medicine. Then why don't you go take 389 00:22:26.079 --> 00:22:29.319 a rest because you need some rest. The fifth year, honey, 390 00:22:29.359 --> 00:22:30.960 do you have to cough so loud? I said, you're 391 00:22:30.960 --> 00:22:33.559 interrupted my television program. You sound like a dog barking. 392 00:22:35.559 --> 00:22:37.039 You know, that's kind of how it marriage it because 393 00:22:37.039 --> 00:22:41.160 we've lost consideration for each other. A man told me. 394 00:22:41.240 --> 00:22:43.640 A man told me. He said, when I first got married, 395 00:22:43.720 --> 00:22:46.400 he said, my wife brought me my slippers, and the 396 00:22:46.480 --> 00:22:49.839 dog came barking, And now the dog brings me my slippers. 397 00:22:51.559 --> 00:22:53.440 You can think about that yourself. You can think about 398 00:22:53.440 --> 00:22:59.880 the rest of it. You could possibly say the consideration 399 00:23:00.160 --> 00:23:05.920 is a lot like respect. Respect. You know, without love, 400 00:23:06.000 --> 00:23:12.200 there's no respect. Women react to love, men react to respect. 401 00:23:12.359 --> 00:23:14.200 Let me just say it this way. When a man 402 00:23:14.319 --> 00:23:16.799 shows love for his wife. That motivates for her to 403 00:23:16.880 --> 00:23:20.519 respect him. When a man shows love to his wife, 404 00:23:21.000 --> 00:23:23.759 that causes her to respect him. When a wife shows 405 00:23:23.799 --> 00:23:27.480 that respect, it motivates him to love her. And we've 406 00:23:27.519 --> 00:23:29.400 always heard the saying that if you treat your wife 407 00:23:29.440 --> 00:23:32.160 like a thoroughbred, you never had an old nag. You 408 00:23:32.200 --> 00:23:35.599 ever heard that to queen being' happy, you don't get 409 00:23:35.640 --> 00:23:40.240 no honey. You ever heard that if you treat her 410 00:23:40.400 --> 00:23:43.079 like a queen, she will treat you like a king. 411 00:23:44.039 --> 00:23:49.079 It's called consideration. One Bible translation James three seventeen says 412 00:23:49.200 --> 00:23:53.920 consideration is a mark of wisdom. Consideration is a marked 413 00:23:53.920 --> 00:23:55.960 of wisdom. When you're in considerate, it's not a mark 414 00:23:56.000 --> 00:23:59.720 of wisdom, it's a mark of stupidity. And some of 415 00:23:59.799 --> 00:24:03.799 you shown you've been in considerate. I mean that's about 416 00:24:03.880 --> 00:24:06.160 like being as dumb as a rock. Really, if you're inconsiderate, 417 00:24:06.319 --> 00:24:11.279 be This is one of the secrets of having a 418 00:24:11.440 --> 00:24:15.720 happy relationship. Create an atmosphere of harmony. It takes communication 419 00:24:16.319 --> 00:24:20.039 and it takes consideration. Happy marriages, happy relationship never happen 420 00:24:20.319 --> 00:24:25.039 without putting the other person first. Sometimes it's always about 421 00:24:25.119 --> 00:24:28.559 showing respect. Romans twelve says this be kindly affection to 422 00:24:28.759 --> 00:24:32.759 one another, with brotherly love, in honor, giving preference to another. 423 00:24:33.000 --> 00:24:37.039 Why don't you start trying then, putting somebody before yourself? 424 00:24:37.079 --> 00:24:38.880 Why don't you give it one week? Just still it 425 00:24:39.000 --> 00:24:42.440 for one week? How double dog dare you? Won't you 426 00:24:42.519 --> 00:24:44.400 put your spouse? Won't you put that person you're in 427 00:24:44.400 --> 00:24:46.279 a relationship? Well, why don't you put them ahead of 428 00:24:46.279 --> 00:24:48.400 you for relations one week? Just try it for one week. 429 00:24:48.480 --> 00:24:51.599 See what happens. I bet you're gonna see some changes. 430 00:24:52.960 --> 00:24:56.359 You're gonna see some harmony, some happiness. Once again, the 431 00:24:56.440 --> 00:24:58.359 third secret. Are you ready for the third secret? It 432 00:24:58.440 --> 00:25:04.079 takes compromise One Corinthians thirteen. Love is very patient and kind, 433 00:25:04.319 --> 00:25:10.160 never jealous, are envious, never boastfull or proud, never haughty 434 00:25:10.359 --> 00:25:13.200 or selfish or rude. And watch this. Love does not 435 00:25:13.440 --> 00:25:17.759 demand its own way. That's the mark of real love. Love, 436 00:25:17.920 --> 00:25:22.759 Real love is unselfish. It gives before it receives. You know, 437 00:25:22.839 --> 00:25:24.960 what used to be genuine love on our parts now 438 00:25:25.000 --> 00:25:27.400 become like a performance love. You know, we love because 439 00:25:27.400 --> 00:25:30.039 they perform. We love because they do certain things. And 440 00:25:30.079 --> 00:25:31.720 if they don't do those, say, if we're not loving them, 441 00:25:31.720 --> 00:25:34.279 then we don't show that love back. That's where a 442 00:25:34.319 --> 00:25:36.599 lot of relationships end up at. Maybe that's where your 443 00:25:36.599 --> 00:25:39.319 relationship is right now. It's based on performance of the 444 00:25:39.400 --> 00:25:42.039 other person in what they do or don't do. Then 445 00:25:42.079 --> 00:25:44.279 we just read that love does not demand its own way. 446 00:25:44.440 --> 00:25:46.559 It's not my way or the highway. You know, love 447 00:25:46.559 --> 00:25:48.079 it or leave it. Some of you're probably have said 448 00:25:48.160 --> 00:25:52.720 that in a relationship. You see. I know a lot 449 00:25:52.720 --> 00:25:54.880 of people who stand at the wedding altar and they 450 00:25:55.000 --> 00:25:58.000 say I do you know? She'll say I do, and 451 00:25:58.039 --> 00:26:00.880 then later on she's saying, well, I'm gonna Redole's go 452 00:26:01.039 --> 00:26:04.240 redo it him. I don't know if you know the 453 00:26:04.279 --> 00:26:06.119 progression of a wedding. Do you know the progression of 454 00:26:06.160 --> 00:26:10.240 a wedding? You walk down an aisle. You walk down 455 00:26:10.279 --> 00:26:13.799 an aisle, that's the first part. You come to the altar, 456 00:26:14.359 --> 00:26:16.480 that's the second part. And then you hear him. That's 457 00:26:16.559 --> 00:26:20.440 kind of the progression of the of a wedding. You 458 00:26:20.519 --> 00:26:22.599 walk down the aisle, you come to the altar, you 459 00:26:22.759 --> 00:26:30.920 hear him three things. I'll alter him. That's cornia, you 460 00:26:31.160 --> 00:26:34.759 remember that. That's kind of where we are. I'll alter him. 461 00:26:35.799 --> 00:26:39.440 Progression of a wedding. No matter how perfect you think 462 00:26:39.519 --> 00:26:43.200 you are or how you think how perfect they are, 463 00:26:43.599 --> 00:26:46.359 you're never going to agree on everything. You know, meltdowns 464 00:26:46.359 --> 00:26:49.359 and relationships come because there's no compromise. You know, here's 465 00:26:49.359 --> 00:26:54.400 what Genie says. Genie says, Flexible branches don't break. Did 466 00:26:54.440 --> 00:26:57.079 you hear that? I'm giving you a lot of good 467 00:26:57.119 --> 00:27:02.480 stuff today. Flexible branches don't break, compromises bending without breaking. 468 00:27:03.319 --> 00:27:06.799 I think there are more marriages have trouble because of inflexibility. 469 00:27:06.839 --> 00:27:09.559 You know, there's more trouble in marriage and alcoholism and 470 00:27:09.720 --> 00:27:12.079 adultery and all those things. It's not being able to compromise. 471 00:27:12.119 --> 00:27:14.279 You've got to compromise in everything, or where you go 472 00:27:14.359 --> 00:27:16.279 on vacation. What are you gonna do with your days off? 473 00:27:16.359 --> 00:27:18.039 How are you gonna spend your money? How you gonna 474 00:27:18.079 --> 00:27:21.440 raise your kids? Everything about a relationship is about a compromise. 475 00:27:22.480 --> 00:27:26.720 You don't always get your way. I mean, more marriages 476 00:27:26.839 --> 00:27:30.319 die from inflexibility than anything else. Maybe that's where some 477 00:27:30.400 --> 00:27:32.960 of you are today. You need to start compromising. I 478 00:27:33.079 --> 00:27:34.640 know some of you got your arms fold of life 479 00:27:34.640 --> 00:27:36.240 issue said, well, I don't know about them, but I'm 480 00:27:36.240 --> 00:27:37.359 gonna do it. The way I think it needs to 481 00:27:37.400 --> 00:27:41.039 be done. I don't care what they think. You're inflexible. 482 00:27:41.079 --> 00:27:43.039 That's the reason why you don't have harmony your happiness 483 00:27:43.079 --> 00:27:45.319 in a relationship, or in your marriage, or in your home. 484 00:27:46.319 --> 00:27:48.160 There are a lot of realities that surface when you 485 00:27:48.240 --> 00:27:54.160 get married, and those realities require some middle ground. That 486 00:27:54.160 --> 00:27:56.519 would have been a good place for an amen from somebody. 487 00:27:57.880 --> 00:28:01.640 But you know this is true, don't you. I mean 488 00:28:01.720 --> 00:28:03.319 some of you are morning people. How many of you 489 00:28:03.359 --> 00:28:05.559 are morning people? I mean you get it early in 490 00:28:05.559 --> 00:28:07.599 the morning, things are great. And then there's night people. 491 00:28:07.640 --> 00:28:09.640 How many of you are night people? See, some of 492 00:28:09.680 --> 00:28:11.440 you don't even believe in God toam about eleven in 493 00:28:11.480 --> 00:28:14.359 the morning, that's how night people are learn. 494 00:28:16.400 --> 00:28:17.480 And some of you are married. 495 00:28:17.680 --> 00:28:19.599 You're a night person, you're marriage to a morning person, 496 00:28:19.720 --> 00:28:21.119 or vice versa. And I'm gonna tell you have to 497 00:28:21.200 --> 00:28:22.160 learn how to work it. 498 00:28:22.240 --> 00:28:26.920 Out, how to compromise so you can have harmony. 499 00:28:26.599 --> 00:28:29.640 In your relationship. Throughout marriage. You will have to have 500 00:28:29.839 --> 00:28:32.039 mutual ground. You have to give up some things you 501 00:28:32.079 --> 00:28:34.440 won't have to compromise. And the reason why we just 502 00:28:34.519 --> 00:28:36.559 read it a moment ago is because love does not 503 00:28:36.960 --> 00:28:41.160 demand its own wayy. We just read that, didn't we. 504 00:28:41.920 --> 00:28:47.640 That's in the Bible. A marriage and a relationship is 505 00:28:47.720 --> 00:28:51.039 never about getting your way, by the way. If that's 506 00:28:51.119 --> 00:28:54.160 how you think, that is the way a single person thinks. 507 00:28:54.519 --> 00:28:57.440 Who wants to be alone all the time, because I'm 508 00:28:57.440 --> 00:29:00.359 wonna get it. It's gonna be my way. That's why 509 00:29:00.440 --> 00:29:04.920 probably some people are single are divorced by the way. 510 00:29:05.000 --> 00:29:08.119 Compromise doesn't mean agreeing on everything you need. I don't 511 00:29:08.119 --> 00:29:12.039 agree on everything, and so we've just learned that we 512 00:29:12.319 --> 00:29:14.720 have to find some middle ground. You know. Compromise means 513 00:29:14.839 --> 00:29:18.759 nobody wins. You do know that, don't you. And sometimes 514 00:29:18.839 --> 00:29:20.519 we just have to decide that we're going to have 515 00:29:20.559 --> 00:29:22.519 a little give and take, and we do so because 516 00:29:22.559 --> 00:29:25.279 we want to try to stay happy and healthy in 517 00:29:25.359 --> 00:29:28.599 a relationship. Compromise is simply being able to reach an agreement. 518 00:29:29.200 --> 00:29:32.039 And that's the secret of an enduring marriage. A relationship 519 00:29:33.079 --> 00:29:36.279 is compromise. And if you can't or you won't find 520 00:29:36.359 --> 00:29:40.200 mutual ground or find places to compromise, you'll never have 521 00:29:40.319 --> 00:29:43.720 a happy life. This won't happen some of you today, 522 00:29:43.759 --> 00:29:47.599 you need to start finding some middle ground. Some of 523 00:29:47.640 --> 00:29:51.279 you are so hard headed, not headed that you just 524 00:29:51.319 --> 00:29:53.640 feel like they don't do it my way. That's too bad. 525 00:29:55.119 --> 00:29:56.720 You know, why don't today, why don't you let the 526 00:29:56.759 --> 00:29:59.880 Holy Spirit begin to soften your heart a little bit, 527 00:30:00.359 --> 00:30:03.440 to realize that it's not all about you. I know 528 00:30:03.519 --> 00:30:06.400 you want it to be about you, but a relationship, 529 00:30:06.519 --> 00:30:08.200 in a relationship, if it's gonna be happy, it's got 530 00:30:08.240 --> 00:30:11.720 to be about both of you, about both of your happiness. 531 00:30:11.759 --> 00:30:14.480 Let me go to number four. Number four, it takes courtship. 532 00:30:15.000 --> 00:30:17.279 Now nobody uses the word courtship anymore, but all my 533 00:30:17.400 --> 00:30:20.039 points are in the letter C and so I could 534 00:30:20.079 --> 00:30:21.960 have used dating, but I had to have a word 535 00:30:22.000 --> 00:30:25.400 to start with C. So it's courtship. It takes courtship 536 00:30:25.880 --> 00:30:27.599 if you want to have It's a secret to a 537 00:30:27.640 --> 00:30:32.359 happy marriage relationship, it takes courtship. In Tarbos five nineteen, 538 00:30:32.400 --> 00:30:34.839 it says, let your wife be a fountain a blessing 539 00:30:34.960 --> 00:30:37.880 for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth. Another 540 00:30:37.920 --> 00:30:41.599 Bible translation says, let your mate's affection fill you at 541 00:30:41.720 --> 00:30:44.480 all times with delights. I want you to notice it 542 00:30:44.559 --> 00:30:48.880 says at all times. Now, God intended for your marriage 543 00:30:48.880 --> 00:30:51.319 to be full of romance and physical affection and fun 544 00:30:51.400 --> 00:30:54.839 and playfulness and times to enjoy each other at all times. 545 00:30:54.920 --> 00:30:57.519 It says all times, and you can do it all 546 00:30:57.599 --> 00:31:03.039 times because it's all legal. Now you married. You're following me, 547 00:31:03.920 --> 00:31:11.799 thank you. Courtship does not end in marriage. It continues 548 00:31:11.880 --> 00:31:15.359 because everything's legal. You ought to be courting each other. 549 00:31:16.359 --> 00:31:20.599 I mean, when it comes to romance, what did you do? Mean, 550 00:31:20.680 --> 00:31:23.279 what did you do to woo hurt you? Ladies? What 551 00:31:23.359 --> 00:31:26.039 did you do to woo him to you? That was 552 00:31:26.119 --> 00:31:28.599 called courting, that's dating. That was what you did to 553 00:31:29.079 --> 00:31:31.799 develop a relationship to the develop romance and all those 554 00:31:31.880 --> 00:31:34.000 kind of things. I mean, when it comes to romance, 555 00:31:34.039 --> 00:31:36.279 and give me your marriage strongth that's the huge problem 556 00:31:36.400 --> 00:31:38.839 right now because now we don't see each other at 557 00:31:38.880 --> 00:31:41.279 our best now that we're married. You know this is true. 558 00:31:42.200 --> 00:31:44.000 I mean, you wake up in the morning, everybody's trying 559 00:31:44.039 --> 00:31:46.000 to get ready for work, get the kids off to school, 560 00:31:46.039 --> 00:31:47.759 and all these kind of things. You wake up, your 561 00:31:47.799 --> 00:31:51.319 hair's going about fourteen different ways, your breath is so 562 00:31:51.440 --> 00:31:56.640 bad to kill small animals, and you're rushing out and 563 00:31:56.640 --> 00:31:59.039 you hardly say hello or goodbye to each other. And 564 00:31:59.119 --> 00:32:01.319 then by the time they into the day rolls around 565 00:32:02.759 --> 00:32:04.839 I mean you're worn out, you're exhausted, you don't have 566 00:32:04.920 --> 00:32:07.359 anything else to give, or you following what I'm saying, 567 00:32:08.160 --> 00:32:10.839 in other words, you're seeing your spouse. If you're married, 568 00:32:10.880 --> 00:32:13.799 you're seeing your spouse at the worst times, when as before, 569 00:32:13.880 --> 00:32:17.119 you always saw them at their best times. That's why 570 00:32:17.599 --> 00:32:20.640 you need to intentionally plan to court each other. You 571 00:32:20.759 --> 00:32:24.839 need to date your mate. I do this now. I 572 00:32:25.000 --> 00:32:27.039 travel a lot now since I've made the transition with 573 00:32:27.559 --> 00:32:29.160 my son and the church. I don't want to say 574 00:32:29.200 --> 00:32:31.400 make the transition because that sounds kind of weird nowadays 575 00:32:31.400 --> 00:32:36.519 in our modern culture transitions. But now that my son 576 00:32:36.599 --> 00:32:38.640 is the pastor and I'm able to travel, I'm traveling 577 00:32:38.680 --> 00:32:41.039 all over. So I'm not always home every week. But 578 00:32:41.119 --> 00:32:43.359 when I am home every Thursday, that's the kind of 579 00:32:43.480 --> 00:32:46.720 day we fit. Every Thursday Genie and I, I try 580 00:32:46.759 --> 00:32:49.000 to take her to eat something or do something every 581 00:32:49.039 --> 00:32:52.440 third am I right? And I've learned that doesn't mean 582 00:32:52.480 --> 00:32:55.039 you have to spend a lot of money, since you're 583 00:32:55.039 --> 00:32:59.240 spending time together. That's what courting is all about. I mean, 584 00:32:59.319 --> 00:33:03.039 sometimes what just go get a hamburger? How many no hamburgers? 585 00:33:03.119 --> 00:33:06.000 Or the will of God or it's nothing like a 586 00:33:06.039 --> 00:33:10.359 good hot dog either. You know, I'm on school. But 587 00:33:11.079 --> 00:33:13.160 all she wants is to spend some time with me. 588 00:33:13.279 --> 00:33:15.119 Listen to men, that's what she wants from you. It 589 00:33:15.160 --> 00:33:17.599 is not always about what you can buy her. She 590 00:33:17.759 --> 00:33:21.880 wants some of you, some of your time. It's about courting, 591 00:33:22.200 --> 00:33:24.880 and most don't court, Most don't date, most don't spend 592 00:33:24.960 --> 00:33:27.279 time together. And when you stop doing what you did 593 00:33:27.400 --> 00:33:31.920 to win them win their love, that love slowly erodes. 594 00:33:32.000 --> 00:33:35.119 The relationship slowly fades. What it's true, I've watched it. 595 00:33:36.200 --> 00:33:38.599 I'm a Medicare recipient. I'm sixty five years old. I 596 00:33:38.680 --> 00:33:41.160 know I've watched enough. In the ministry now and being 597 00:33:41.240 --> 00:33:46.519 around people, I've watched that. Happy men used to say 598 00:33:46.920 --> 00:33:50.759 things like this to your sweet things. That know, over there, darling, 599 00:33:52.039 --> 00:33:56.480 your as beautiful as tulips in the spring. Your eyes 600 00:33:56.880 --> 00:34:03.720 sparkle like glitter on angel's wings. He never said that, 601 00:34:03.799 --> 00:34:12.880 did He used to say those fakes, ladies. You would say, baby, 602 00:34:13.840 --> 00:34:17.199 you got muscles, You got muscles. I mean they're so 603 00:34:17.280 --> 00:34:19.679 big it makes hercules. Why he's in the first grade. 604 00:34:22.960 --> 00:34:26.800 He brings tears to my eyes. You see, I don't 605 00:34:26.800 --> 00:34:28.280 know if you notice this. I'm trying not to flex 606 00:34:28.360 --> 00:34:40.519 anything because I'll bust this jacket all over. Men. You 607 00:34:41.199 --> 00:34:44.159 you used to uh she used to uh give you 608 00:34:44.239 --> 00:34:46.480 what you know, your spouse or the one you were dating, 609 00:34:46.599 --> 00:34:49.280 or why it used to give her candy and kisses. 610 00:34:50.519 --> 00:34:55.280 And now she gets from used burps and gas. And 611 00:34:55.440 --> 00:34:58.760 she's saying, what happened? Ladies, let me tell what you 612 00:34:58.880 --> 00:35:00.920 used to get him? I kid, how mean you dressed up? 613 00:35:01.000 --> 00:35:04.119 You look great, amazing. You used to give him I 614 00:35:04.280 --> 00:35:06.679 can and kissing. Now you got so much cream on 615 00:35:06.760 --> 00:35:08.880 your face. It looks like you're gonna swim into English channel. 616 00:35:08.920 --> 00:35:16.840 You know what I'm saying. And he saying what happened? Ladies? 617 00:35:16.920 --> 00:35:18.840 You see him sound to sleep on the couch. Hearts 618 00:35:18.880 --> 00:35:21.239 somebody talk about this one day. You see him sound 619 00:35:21.280 --> 00:35:23.039 to sleep on the couch, his mouth wide open, the 620 00:35:23.119 --> 00:35:25.320 remote in his hand is belly hanging touch on the floor. 621 00:35:25.840 --> 00:35:31.639 You're saying, look what I'm married? And then he says 622 00:35:31.679 --> 00:35:33.599 you coming out of the bathroom ready for bed, looking 623 00:35:33.639 --> 00:35:35.559 like an astronaut. And he says, look what I'm married. 624 00:35:39.320 --> 00:35:42.760 I want you to know men are very achievement oriented, ladies. 625 00:35:42.800 --> 00:35:44.920 I want you to know this. We just we're gold orient. 626 00:35:45.000 --> 00:35:47.599 That's how men are amazed. That's just us. So our 627 00:35:47.639 --> 00:35:49.639 whole idea is I mean, when we're trying to get 628 00:35:49.679 --> 00:35:51.599 you to marry us, fall in love it, we do 629 00:35:51.639 --> 00:35:53.519 all kinds of things we'd never do normally, like go 630 00:35:53.599 --> 00:35:58.360 to operas, you know, spend a lot of money, do that, can, 631 00:35:58.440 --> 00:36:00.760 go to dinner a lot. We did all that to 632 00:36:00.880 --> 00:36:04.000 will you, and thank god we did that. But the 633 00:36:04.079 --> 00:36:06.280 moment we get married, in our mind, it's like, okay, 634 00:36:06.360 --> 00:36:08.480 gold achieved. The next goal is I've got to provide 635 00:36:08.559 --> 00:36:10.280 for her. I've got to provide for the family. I've 636 00:36:10.320 --> 00:36:11.760 got to provide for the gifts. And we think we 637 00:36:11.840 --> 00:36:13.920 got to go to work. That's kind of how we 638 00:36:14.039 --> 00:36:20.320 think is meant. And and so he's not really proving 639 00:36:20.559 --> 00:36:24.079 his love and affection towards you. I mean, at least 640 00:36:24.119 --> 00:36:26.880 she don't think so. But in his own mind, that's 641 00:36:27.039 --> 00:36:32.239 romance providing for you. That's that's love providing for you. 642 00:36:32.559 --> 00:36:34.639 And you're saying what happened to my night in shining 643 00:36:34.840 --> 00:36:40.400 order because you're starting to feel rejection, like there's no affection. 644 00:36:41.719 --> 00:36:45.800 I read about Clotel Clotil Boudro's wife. She was depressed 645 00:36:45.920 --> 00:36:49.840 really bad. Boudro took her to the psychiatrist. He said, 646 00:36:49.920 --> 00:36:51.639 he said, doctor said he got to do something for 647 00:36:51.719 --> 00:36:55.039 clotifis he's depressed. He said, well, let me just meet 648 00:36:55.039 --> 00:36:56.840 with her time aly for a few months. Well, the 649 00:36:56.920 --> 00:36:59.360 psychiatrists met with Clotil and found out that the reason 650 00:36:59.360 --> 00:37:01.519 why she was because all Boujo did was work all 651 00:37:01.559 --> 00:37:04.400 the time. Over time, he was on his shrimp boat, 652 00:37:04.400 --> 00:37:06.119 he was out in the marsh hunting ducks, he was 653 00:37:06.159 --> 00:37:08.800 fishing all this kind of stuff. He was hardly her home. 654 00:37:08.880 --> 00:37:11.599 He was trying to provide for his family. So the 655 00:37:11.679 --> 00:37:13.679 psychiatry figured it all that. He came back out to 656 00:37:13.760 --> 00:37:16.639 the foy where Boucho was. He he said, mister Boujo, 657 00:37:16.679 --> 00:37:18.480 he said, this is what your wife needs. Said, I'm 658 00:37:18.480 --> 00:37:19.920 figuring it all out. He said, this is what your 659 00:37:19.960 --> 00:37:22.840 wife needs. He goes over her and he said, let 660 00:37:22.840 --> 00:37:26.000 me demonstrate. He grabs coat till, hugs her clothes, leans 661 00:37:26.039 --> 00:37:28.320 her down. I mean, puts a big, wet, juicy kiss 662 00:37:28.360 --> 00:37:30.280 on her. He said, mister Boo Joe, she needs this 663 00:37:30.440 --> 00:37:33.800 every day of the week. Boujo scratch. He said, well, 664 00:37:33.840 --> 00:37:35.760 they said, I can only get here on Monday. Tuesdays 665 00:37:35.800 --> 00:37:40.159 and Thursdays. I'll do my best life. He didn't get it. 666 00:37:45.719 --> 00:37:48.920 Ecclesiastes nine says, live happily with the woman you love 667 00:37:50.280 --> 00:37:52.760 through the fleeting days of life. For the wife God 668 00:37:52.840 --> 00:37:56.079 gives you is your best reward down here for all 669 00:37:56.159 --> 00:37:59.800 of your earthly toil. Men don't want to just challenge 670 00:37:59.840 --> 00:38:03.159 you need to date your maide. You need to do 671 00:38:03.280 --> 00:38:04.960 something that you haven't done a long time. Just take 672 00:38:05.239 --> 00:38:06.960 don't spend a lot of money, Go spend some time. 673 00:38:07.440 --> 00:38:12.079 Turn off yourself on, the turn off on your electronic devices. 674 00:38:12.280 --> 00:38:14.480 And why don't you make the relationship of priority again? 675 00:38:14.480 --> 00:38:17.519 Why don't you laugh again? Wyant you go tell some 676 00:38:17.639 --> 00:38:22.719 Carni jokes again like I'm telling you, and date your maide. 677 00:38:23.599 --> 00:38:27.199 And if your relationship is suffering because the courtship has faded, 678 00:38:27.320 --> 00:38:33.840 something needs to change. Today. Everybody say today, Today, Today, 679 00:38:34.440 --> 00:38:40.039 Number five, the fifth one. It takes commitment, commitment Malachi 680 00:38:40.159 --> 00:38:42.559 two six. It says, for I hate divorce, says the Lord, 681 00:38:43.320 --> 00:38:45.880 the Lord, God of Israel. It is as cruel as 682 00:38:46.000 --> 00:38:49.360 putting on a victim's bloodstained coach, says the Lord Almighty. 683 00:38:50.079 --> 00:38:53.559 So guard yourself, always remain loyal to your wife. That's 684 00:38:53.599 --> 00:38:55.719 called a commitment. That's a verse of commitment, is what 685 00:38:55.840 --> 00:38:58.760 that is. And I'm not so sure we understand what 686 00:38:58.960 --> 00:39:01.239 commitment really is. Seems like we're only committed when we 687 00:39:01.320 --> 00:39:03.960 want to be where one is convenient for us. I 688 00:39:04.079 --> 00:39:06.440 read the latest statistic about Christians. You want to hear it? 689 00:39:08.119 --> 00:39:10.719 There was one and an old boy. Does anybody want 690 00:39:10.719 --> 00:39:13.599 to hear the latest statistics on us? You see, we 691 00:39:13.719 --> 00:39:17.320 say we're committed, they say. The average American, the average 692 00:39:17.400 --> 00:39:19.840 Christian in Americans, says they're committed. They say, I'm a 693 00:39:19.920 --> 00:39:23.199 committed Christian. But they attend church twenty times a year. 694 00:39:23.239 --> 00:39:26.480 They say, that's that to them, in their mind, is 695 00:39:26.559 --> 00:39:29.119 commitment twenty times. That's thirty eight percent of the time 696 00:39:29.159 --> 00:39:30.920 you go to church. If you only eight thirty eight 697 00:39:30.960 --> 00:39:32.360 percent of the time of a year from now, you're 698 00:39:32.400 --> 00:39:36.719 not going to be here. But see, we think that's commitment. 699 00:39:39.039 --> 00:39:40.360 We've got to be committed. If you're going to have 700 00:39:40.360 --> 00:39:43.079 a relationship that has harmony and happiness, there has to 701 00:39:43.159 --> 00:39:46.360 be a commitment. And we make so many promises with 702 00:39:46.519 --> 00:39:49.360 no intention of really fulfilling them. I know this is true. 703 00:39:50.679 --> 00:39:52.719 People say they're committing in church I'll come and serve 704 00:39:52.760 --> 00:39:54.719 in the children's mister, I'll do that next thing. You know, 705 00:39:54.880 --> 00:39:57.840 something better came up on that weekend. They go to 706 00:39:57.880 --> 00:39:59.440 the laker, or they go to the mountains, or they 707 00:39:59.480 --> 00:40:03.519 do whatever, and they don't fulfill their commitment. Making a 708 00:40:03.599 --> 00:40:07.159 shallow commitment has become part of our culture, become part 709 00:40:07.199 --> 00:40:10.159 of our nature. And one of the main reasons we're 710 00:40:10.199 --> 00:40:12.880 seeing this is because several generations now think that I've 711 00:40:12.920 --> 00:40:15.840 got to do what's best for me. You know what 712 00:40:15.920 --> 00:40:18.519 that is. That's a term of self centeredness and being 713 00:40:18.599 --> 00:40:21.320 self absorbed. It's all about me. I've got to do 714 00:40:21.400 --> 00:40:22.880 what's best for me. Can I just give you another 715 00:40:22.920 --> 00:40:24.760 way to look at it, and look at this. It's 716 00:40:24.800 --> 00:40:26.800 not about doing what's best for you. It's about doing 717 00:40:26.880 --> 00:40:30.119 what God says is best for you. That's how you 718 00:40:30.199 --> 00:40:35.079 ought to say it. We are living in a more selfish, 719 00:40:35.280 --> 00:40:38.760 more self centered world, and we wonder why the person 720 00:40:38.840 --> 00:40:40.719 that we're in a relationship with, we're married to, has 721 00:40:40.760 --> 00:40:45.920 become bitter and hard hearted and unhappy. You never build 722 00:40:45.920 --> 00:40:47.880 a great marriage unless you throw out the option of 723 00:40:47.960 --> 00:40:52.920 divorce means commitment. There are too many that build their 724 00:40:52.960 --> 00:40:55.800 whole They want to go build a whole new house 725 00:40:55.840 --> 00:40:57.599 and all you all they got to do is fix 726 00:40:57.679 --> 00:41:00.639 the door of the sagging a little bit, place the carper, 727 00:41:00.719 --> 00:41:03.480 do something simple. You don't need to build a whole 728 00:41:03.559 --> 00:41:06.239 new house to be happy. You know this tunees you need. 729 00:41:06.239 --> 00:41:09.159 And I've been married forty four years. Twelve of them 730 00:41:09.199 --> 00:41:18.639 have been pretty happy, just teeth through fifteen. But look, 731 00:41:18.719 --> 00:41:20.400 the first few years we were married, they were terrible. 732 00:41:21.280 --> 00:41:24.119 You might know what I'm talking about. They weren't as 733 00:41:24.360 --> 00:41:27.039 happy as we thought they would be. We had to 734 00:41:27.079 --> 00:41:29.559 grow up together, we had to learn together. We had 735 00:41:29.599 --> 00:41:32.079 to make some compromises together. But I want to tell 736 00:41:32.079 --> 00:41:35.320 you one thing when I made when I said those vows, 737 00:41:35.559 --> 00:41:37.239 I didn't say them to the people that were around me. 738 00:41:37.239 --> 00:41:39.400 I wasn't saying to the pastor. I was saying to Genie. 739 00:41:39.480 --> 00:41:42.480 Into the hold, I said until death knew us fought. 740 00:41:43.679 --> 00:41:45.320 So let me put it to you this way. If 741 00:41:45.400 --> 00:41:56.159 Genie leaves me, I'm gone with her and me. Commitment. Listen, 742 00:41:56.159 --> 00:41:58.800 I want you to hear this. Working commitments means being 743 00:41:59.440 --> 00:42:02.239 being willing to be unhappy for a while until you 744 00:42:02.320 --> 00:42:06.360 work it out. That's what commitment is. It's willing to 745 00:42:06.440 --> 00:42:09.519 be unhappy until we can work it out. And that 746 00:42:09.679 --> 00:42:12.000 may take a while, because it you might have to 747 00:42:12.039 --> 00:42:17.239 go back to communication and consideration and compromise in courtship. 748 00:42:17.239 --> 00:42:19.000 We may have to start all over these other things 749 00:42:19.039 --> 00:42:22.199 that I'm speaking to you about this morning. The great 750 00:42:22.360 --> 00:42:26.320 enemy of your the great enemy of your relationship, is 751 00:42:26.400 --> 00:42:28.960 the myth of incompatibility. I've heard people say, well, it's 752 00:42:28.960 --> 00:42:31.559 not compatible with anything. Some lawyer invented that just so 753 00:42:31.639 --> 00:42:34.239 they could do this divorce stuff. There's no such thing, 754 00:42:34.800 --> 00:42:36.840 because I know anybody can get along together if they 755 00:42:36.880 --> 00:42:40.480 want to. Is there an amen in the house on 756 00:42:40.599 --> 00:42:44.119 that you can get along with somebody if you really 757 00:42:44.199 --> 00:42:46.559 want to have The problem is you don't want to. 758 00:42:46.679 --> 00:42:51.480 You need to change your want to incompatibility. I've decided 759 00:42:51.480 --> 00:42:53.960 that any two people are compative compatible that they try to. 760 00:42:54.840 --> 00:42:56.440 Some of you think, well, the grass is greener on 761 00:42:56.480 --> 00:42:58.000 the other side. I got news for you. There's weeds 762 00:42:58.039 --> 00:43:02.559 in that grass too, lots of them. Let me take 763 00:43:02.599 --> 00:43:05.320 you the sixth thing running out of time. It takes 764 00:43:05.440 --> 00:43:11.760 Christ the last See it takes Christ. Because Christ will 765 00:43:11.760 --> 00:43:14.719 give you the power of the strength and ability. He 766 00:43:14.760 --> 00:43:18.159 will give you the endurance. He'll give you the rest 767 00:43:18.239 --> 00:43:21.199 in peace and the patience that it takes to do 768 00:43:21.320 --> 00:43:24.920 these other five things I've just spoken about, so you 769 00:43:25.000 --> 00:43:27.719 can have happiness and harmony in a relationship. He can 770 00:43:27.800 --> 00:43:31.320 breathe life back into something that seems dead or dying. 771 00:43:31.960 --> 00:43:34.400 He can heal what he's wounded. He can repair what's broken. 772 00:43:34.599 --> 00:43:38.039 You know, he's called the carpenter. Remember the carpenter. You 773 00:43:38.079 --> 00:43:40.800 know what carpenters do. They build things, They repair things, 774 00:43:40.840 --> 00:43:43.039 They restore things In't that right, Ben, Now you do 775 00:43:43.119 --> 00:43:48.760 that kind of stuff. That's what carpenters do. Jesus is 776 00:43:48.840 --> 00:43:52.320 the carpenter for your marriage, for your relationship, And no 777 00:43:52.480 --> 00:43:56.039 matter how dilapidated it may look right now, he can 778 00:43:56.079 --> 00:43:58.920 put a new coat paint on it. He can put 779 00:43:58.960 --> 00:44:01.840 a new window in, He put a new roof on it. 780 00:44:02.719 --> 00:44:04.639 The greatest thing you can do for your home, or 781 00:44:04.679 --> 00:44:07.599 your life, or for your marriage is to put Jesus first. Look, 782 00:44:07.719 --> 00:44:10.079 that's why you're here this morning, and I'm grateful that 783 00:44:10.119 --> 00:44:14.000 you're here because it just shows me that you really 784 00:44:14.079 --> 00:44:16.320 want God to lead your life. You want him to 785 00:44:16.360 --> 00:44:20.079 help you in your life. And he's the only one fast. 786 00:44:20.199 --> 00:44:22.400 Mark can do it fast as that can't do. It 787 00:44:23.000 --> 00:44:26.679 has to be Christ who will give you the strength 788 00:44:26.880 --> 00:44:30.280 and the ability and the wisdom to do that. You know, 789 00:44:30.280 --> 00:44:32.440 if somebody said marriage is like a three legged stool, 790 00:44:32.480 --> 00:44:34.039 let me close with this. They say marriage is like 791 00:44:34.079 --> 00:44:36.159 a three legged stool. That takes three, not two to 792 00:44:36.239 --> 00:44:38.639 make marriage. If you take a two legged stool in 793 00:44:38.679 --> 00:44:41.840 stand it up, it's going to follow. It takes that 794 00:44:41.960 --> 00:44:44.000 third leg. That's Jesus problem. Miss. Some of you don't 795 00:44:44.000 --> 00:44:47.880 have Jesus in ther in your marriage. And you know what, 796 00:44:48.000 --> 00:44:51.239 you don't have a leg extending. It's corny in the 797 00:44:51.360 --> 00:44:55.320 act that you don't get into. That's why you're having 798 00:44:55.360 --> 00:44:59.480 trouble standing up and making it. But Jesus loves he 799 00:44:59.519 --> 00:45:02.079 cares about how many If you need to work on 800 00:45:02.199 --> 00:45:04.559 these six things, let me just see your hands. There's 801 00:45:04.559 --> 00:45:06.360 at least one of the sixth that you need to 802 00:45:06.400 --> 00:45:08.159 work on. I need to probably work on a lot 803 00:45:08.239 --> 00:45:10.360 more than that. I need to work on a bunch 804 00:45:10.400 --> 00:45:13.719 of them, because it's always a learning curve all your life, 805 00:45:13.760 --> 00:45:17.480 you do learning how to get along together. Well, let 806 00:45:17.519 --> 00:45:19.360 me pray for a father in the name of Jesus. 807 00:45:19.440 --> 00:45:21.280 You see the hands of those who just went up 808 00:45:21.320 --> 00:45:24.920 saying I need o God to work on these six 809 00:45:25.039 --> 00:45:28.079 secrets of a happy marriage or relationship. I want harmony 810 00:45:28.119 --> 00:45:31.000 and I want happiness. It won't come by doing exactly 811 00:45:31.079 --> 00:45:32.760 what I've done. Or there's some things that I need 812 00:45:32.840 --> 00:45:35.800 to make some changes in and I need your help, 813 00:45:36.639 --> 00:45:38.840 and I'm calling on you. This morning, I lifted my head. 814 00:45:38.840 --> 00:45:40.559 There's at least one of these six things and I 815 00:45:40.679 --> 00:45:44.199 really need to work on. While you're still praying. If 816 00:45:44.239 --> 00:45:45.840 you lifted your hand, I want you to commit that 817 00:45:45.920 --> 00:45:47.199 to the Lord and said, Lord, I'm going to work 818 00:45:47.239 --> 00:45:50.119 on that this week. Just make that commitment to the 819 00:45:50.159 --> 00:45:53.239 Lord right now. Father, Here we are in this sanctuary. 820 00:45:53.280 --> 00:45:56.039 We're making a commitment to work on these things. We're 821 00:45:56.119 --> 00:45:59.000 saying them to you. Lord. It might be communication, it 822 00:45:59.079 --> 00:46:02.519 might be consideration, might be compromised. It might be courtship. 823 00:46:02.559 --> 00:46:04.519 It might be commitment. It might just be you and 824 00:46:04.599 --> 00:46:07.199 bringing you into our relationship and into our home. Lord. 825 00:46:07.280 --> 00:46:09.000 It might be one of these six things. But we 826 00:46:09.159 --> 00:46:12.400 need some help, and I'm committed to doing this right 827 00:46:12.480 --> 00:46:17.360 now the name of Jesus, Amen, everybody look at me. 828 00:46:17.400 --> 00:46:20.440 For just a morning. I was traveling back from Brazil 829 00:46:20.519 --> 00:46:22.880 back in November. We'd done a bunch of conferences and 830 00:46:22.920 --> 00:46:25.000 we were up on the northeast coast. We had to 831 00:46:25.079 --> 00:46:27.960 fly on little prop plane down to a city called Receiafield. 832 00:46:28.559 --> 00:46:30.280 If you look at Brazil on the east coast, it 833 00:46:30.360 --> 00:46:32.159 comes way out like this. It was on a tip. 834 00:46:32.480 --> 00:46:35.000 You know, it's not too far across the ocean to 835 00:46:35.119 --> 00:46:38.880 Africa from there. And we stopped. Pastor Larry and we 836 00:46:38.920 --> 00:46:43.079 were sitting together and the pilots we were about to 837 00:46:43.159 --> 00:46:46.760 take on some passengers. He was outside inspecting the propellers 838 00:46:46.920 --> 00:46:49.800 on the engine on the plane engine, and he was 839 00:46:49.800 --> 00:46:51.480 spinning around and he was looking at and he was 840 00:46:51.639 --> 00:46:54.239 touching and feeling every one of the blades. Pastor Larry said, 841 00:46:54.239 --> 00:46:58.000 what's that guy doing. I said, that's the pilot, I said. 842 00:46:58.239 --> 00:47:00.360 He said, what does he do? I said, he's he's looking. 843 00:47:00.760 --> 00:47:03.320 He's feeling for gashes or parts of the blade that 844 00:47:03.440 --> 00:47:04.920 might be missing. You know, you hit a rock or 845 00:47:04.960 --> 00:47:06.960 something that's rocks fly up as you're going down the 846 00:47:07.039 --> 00:47:09.639 rung way or something. He's looking for gashes or something 847 00:47:09.719 --> 00:47:12.320 in that blade. He said, why, I said, because if 848 00:47:12.360 --> 00:47:14.599 that thing spins around and you've got a gas or 849 00:47:14.599 --> 00:47:17.199 a part missing, a little piece missing, it's out of ballast, 850 00:47:17.239 --> 00:47:19.239 and the faster it spins, the more it begins to shake, 851 00:47:19.400 --> 00:47:21.039 and the more it shakes, the engine will fly off, 852 00:47:21.079 --> 00:47:23.800 the wheel come off, we'll crash it die. He said, WHOA, 853 00:47:26.719 --> 00:47:30.519 And I thought about you. There might be a little 854 00:47:30.519 --> 00:47:31.599 piece missing in your life. 855 00:47:31.639 --> 00:47:32.119 This morning. 856 00:47:33.679 --> 00:47:36.920 The fear of the Lord is here, and he's running 857 00:47:36.960 --> 00:47:39.639 his hands over the blades of your life, over your soul, 858 00:47:41.039 --> 00:47:43.199 looking for something in a little part. Maybe it's not big, 859 00:47:43.239 --> 00:47:45.639 but it's a little part is missing, that little part. 860 00:47:45.719 --> 00:47:48.079 The faster you go in life, the more you begin 861 00:47:48.159 --> 00:47:52.679 to shake, things begin to fly apart, until you crash 862 00:47:52.760 --> 00:48:00.199 and die. Spiritual, the Lord is running his hands over 863 00:48:00.239 --> 00:48:04.559 your soul right now, over your life. Some of you 864 00:48:04.639 --> 00:48:08.480 have a little part missing, don't you, a little part 865 00:48:08.719 --> 00:48:12.719 that's gone on you try to live life. Things are 866 00:48:12.760 --> 00:48:15.719 shaking and you're just hoping you get to the end. 867 00:48:16.719 --> 00:48:17.360 You may make it. 868 00:48:18.840 --> 00:48:23.320 But today the pilot, the one who flies the plane 869 00:48:23.920 --> 00:48:29.519 talking about Christ through spirit, wants to heal or replace 870 00:48:29.599 --> 00:48:30.639 the little part that's missing. 871 00:48:30.719 --> 00:48:33.840 Would you about to use for just a moment, some 872 00:48:34.000 --> 00:48:36.199 of you have been running your life. You're running so fast, 873 00:48:36.280 --> 00:48:39.079 so far. Your life is shaking because there's something missing. 874 00:48:40.119 --> 00:48:41.880 You have been given all of your life to Christ. 875 00:48:41.960 --> 00:48:45.440 You've only compartmentalized your Christianity. But today you say, Pastor, 876 00:48:45.679 --> 00:48:48.320 I think you're right. There's something missing in my life. 877 00:48:48.519 --> 00:48:52.000 I want to give everything I have to him. I'm 878 00:48:52.039 --> 00:48:54.840 not right. I know I'm not made when I confess 879 00:48:54.960 --> 00:48:56.320 my sin to him. That's not the first time you 880 00:48:56.400 --> 00:48:59.559 knew about it. He knows about it right now. I 881 00:49:00.119 --> 00:49:02.599 know I'm not living right, thinking right and right. See, 882 00:49:02.599 --> 00:49:05.960 you got a part missing. If that's you, slip your 883 00:49:06.000 --> 00:49:07.920 head up. So past Or, pray for me. Nobody's soill again. 884 00:49:07.920 --> 00:49:09.440 I'm not calling you part. I don't have any time 885 00:49:09.519 --> 00:49:12.119 right now. I'm out of time. There's two three four's 886 00:49:12.239 --> 00:49:19.159 or other heads five six seven A, anybody else? Something missing. 887 00:49:20.440 --> 00:49:22.159 I don't want to fly apart, Old God. I don't 888 00:49:22.159 --> 00:49:24.480 want my power on my engine to fly off. I 889 00:49:24.519 --> 00:49:29.800 don't want my life to crash and burn. Father, once again, 890 00:49:29.880 --> 00:49:33.159 we call upon you this morning, you the savior of 891 00:49:33.239 --> 00:49:37.559 our soul, Jesus. I think that you've run your head 892 00:49:37.639 --> 00:49:40.960 across our life right now to find the little piece 893 00:49:41.000 --> 00:49:44.719 that's missy. We acknowledge to you, or we know it's missing. 894 00:49:45.400 --> 00:49:47.239 We're not going to live our life any longer like this? 895 00:49:48.239 --> 00:49:52.880 Would you heal us, repair us? Would you restore us? 896 00:49:53.000 --> 00:49:56.239 If we could, we could run smooth and with power 897 00:49:56.440 --> 00:49:59.719 and with joy, with expectation. Lord God, fill the gap 898 00:49:59.760 --> 00:50:02.760 and the hold this in our soul. Right now, I 899 00:50:02.880 --> 00:50:05.199 lift in my head because I need you. I need 900 00:50:05.280 --> 00:50:08.280 to come back to you. If you lifted your hand, 901 00:50:08.400 --> 00:50:10.920 just praying your heart this real simple prayer. Lord, I 902 00:50:11.039 --> 00:50:14.800 need you. I'm asking you to wipe away my past 903 00:50:14.840 --> 00:50:17.119 and help me to become a new person today Today 904 00:50:18.239 --> 00:50:21.880 old things are passed away. Behold, all things will become new. 905 00:50:22.199 --> 00:50:24.960 Thank you Father. I'll give to you my heart and 906 00:50:25.159 --> 00:50:31.239 my life in Jesus name. Amen. The sixth Secrets of 907 00:50:31.280 --> 00:50:34.280 a healthy relationship exkive God a good off your price past. 908 00:50:37.559 --> 00:50:41.960 Thank you for listening. 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