Speaker 1: Hi, everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My
Speaker 1: name is Alicia Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast,
Speaker 1: where I help you expand your mind and become more
Speaker 1: self aware so that you can glow up into the
Speaker 1: best version of yourself. Hello, and happy Sunday. And can
Speaker 1: we just take in that we only have one more
Speaker 1: Sunday left of July and then we're already into August.
Speaker 2: That is crazy.
Speaker 1: I hope everyone has been thriving and pushing past barriers
Speaker 1: and limiting beliefs and the ways that we get stuck,
Speaker 1: and really also just enjoying this present moment. I feel
Speaker 1: like we've been really working on that on the podcast
Speaker 1: the past few months, so I'm really hoping we're all
Speaker 1: on the same page. And if we are on the
Speaker 1: same page, then I think today's message will resonate with you.
Speaker 1: So recently, I've been really pushing myself to write in
Speaker 1: the mornings. Now, I typically journal in the mornings. You
Speaker 1: guys know, I love a good journal practice, and so
Speaker 1: most days.
Speaker 2: I do that. I look forward to it. I have
Speaker 2: my coffee.
Speaker 1: I've been sitting on my balcony because the sun has
Speaker 1: been out and it's been really warm, so I'm always
Speaker 1: usually doing that. But you guys also know, or some
Speaker 1: of you guys know, if you've been listening for a while,
Speaker 1: I have been really wanting to cultivate a journal line,
Speaker 1: and I think it'll take me maybe a few more weeks,
Speaker 1: and then I will start to share with you guys
Speaker 1: what I have been cultivating, which is a little bit
Speaker 1: different than what I thought it would be, but it's
Speaker 1: just coming out so beautifully. But with that said, it
Speaker 1: involves me committing to working on this project as anything
Speaker 1: in life. I think about the times when I wrote
Speaker 1: my book which is behind me here, The Ultimate Globe Guide.
Speaker 1: I had to be committed and I basically wrote every morning,
Speaker 1: because especially when you're doing something like writing, if you
Speaker 1: take a long time off, it can be really hard
Speaker 1: to get back into it, and you just have to keep,
Speaker 1: like not even pushing, but you just have to go
Speaker 1: through some of the things that I'm gonna remind you
Speaker 1: guys of, and I remind myself of when I'm really
Speaker 1: trying to work on something new.
Speaker 2: So this could be.
Speaker 1: Great advice for anyone who is really wanting to start
Speaker 1: a new project or just get out of your comfort
Speaker 1: zone and start the thing that you keep saying you
Speaker 1: want to do. This could also apply to anything to
Speaker 1: do with health and fitness, or you know, taking that
Speaker 1: next step when it comes to relationships, like just really anything.
Speaker 1: But recently I've been really reminding myself like, in order
Speaker 1: for me to get this done and get this project
Speaker 1: out and for it to be beautiful, I'm really going
Speaker 1: to have to be intentional and commit to this thing.
Speaker 1: And over the past two weeks I have gotten so
Speaker 1: much of this series done. I'm honestly so proud of
Speaker 1: all of the work that I have done in just
Speaker 1: a short amount of time, and it really has all
Speaker 1: come down to me simply taking the action. And it's
Speaker 1: kind of crazy how mind blowing it is to me
Speaker 1: every time I go through this phase, because there's been
Speaker 1: multiple times come to this realization that sometimes it's actually
Speaker 1: as simple as just taking action. But it can be
Speaker 1: so true. And I'm not saying that the action that
Speaker 1: you need to take towards something is going to feel
Speaker 1: easy and feel good, which I'll give you some advice on,
Speaker 1: but just the mere fact of if you want something
Speaker 1: in your life, if you want to achieve something, you
Speaker 1: increase your chances of getting that thing simply by just trying.
Speaker 1: And it's in my personal belief that you can get
Speaker 1: and you can achieve whatever you want in your life
Speaker 1: if you just do it, if you just take action,
Speaker 1: and it doesn't mean that you might have to change
Speaker 1: the path or you might change your method on the
Speaker 1: journey of trying to achieve something. But I think sometimes
Speaker 1: we really like to just sit and talk about something
Speaker 1: that we really want, whether it's better health, better routines,
Speaker 1: you really want this project, you want to be a
Speaker 1: social media you want to get into a new career path,
Speaker 1: you want to be into these healthy dynamics and relationships,
Speaker 1: But it all always comes down to you actually trying.
Speaker 1: And I genuinely just believe that sometimes we don't realize,
Speaker 1: like I feel like we gaslight ourselves into not realizing
Speaker 1: that actually we don't try and try for a consistent
Speaker 1: amount of time. And I could even say with my
Speaker 1: journal line, I've had many thoughts about this, and I've
Speaker 1: touched on it here and there, and I've worked on
Speaker 1: it here and there, But in the back of my mind,
Speaker 1: I was always like wishing it was done and that
Speaker 1: it really just be created because I know how great
Speaker 1: I'll feel when it's completed and the impact it can
Speaker 1: make in everything like that. But I had to be
Speaker 1: real with myself and say, like, you know, it could
Speaker 1: be done and you could have this thing be quote
Speaker 1: unquote like published and out there into the world if
Speaker 1: you just did it. But some times it's like we
Speaker 1: dance around the mere fact of the matter that what
Speaker 1: we want in life will require us to commit to
Speaker 1: it and take the action and to just do it.
Speaker 1: So if you're, you know, sitting around, you're kind of
Speaker 1: like dancing around things. You're dipping your toes into this
Speaker 1: and that and projects here and there. I want to
Speaker 1: start this or whatever it is you want something to
Speaker 1: change in your life, Here is some advice to kind
Speaker 1: of get you moving, because once you move, the magic
Speaker 1: will happen.
Speaker 2: Seriously.
Speaker 1: And the first thing that I really reminded myself when
Speaker 1: I wanted and knew that it was really time for
Speaker 1: me to commit to writing and working on this journal line,
Speaker 1: I just knew like there wasn't going to be any
Speaker 1: more like touching it here and there, because that's just
Speaker 1: not how I work and create, especially when it's something creative.
Speaker 1: It's very similar, like I said, to my books, So
Speaker 1: when I had some blocks wanting to come up, because
Speaker 1: typically you will. If you are like, Okay, I need
Speaker 1: to take action on something and I need to commit
Speaker 1: to something, you will kind of have that perfectionist part
Speaker 1: of you that, thanks for one the process of you
Speaker 1: doing the thing and achieving a goal will look and
Speaker 1: feel different than it is, and you do just touch
Speaker 1: to remind yourself that it won't. And the reason why
Speaker 1: I'm saying that is we will wait for the perfect
Speaker 1: feeling or the perfect scenario or the way we think
Speaker 1: the process is going to be to getting the outcome,
Speaker 1: and so we don't do the action until those things
Speaker 1: are achieved, whether we like feel good that day, or
Speaker 1: that our schedules are perfectly curated, or the times in
Speaker 1: our days that we can work on these things, or
Speaker 1: the season of life like we're waiting for this perfect
Speaker 1: scenario to start. And it doesn't even need to be
Speaker 1: like that, and it genuinely is not how things come
Speaker 1: about anyways. When you start any sort of endeavor, it
Speaker 1: is going to require you to take messy action and
Speaker 1: for you to get the perfectionist way of thinking out
Speaker 1: of your brain.
Speaker 2: There's really just no space for this part of you.
Speaker 1: Because the thing that you're stuck in right now is
Speaker 1: simply just taking that action that's really really it. And
Speaker 1: we need to be okay with taking a little bit
Speaker 1: of a messy action. And there's two examples I want
Speaker 1: to give you when it comes to taking messy actions
Speaker 1: so you can understand where I'm coming from.
Speaker 2: So, for one, I.
Speaker 1: Knew when I wanted to commit to writing in the mornings,
Speaker 1: there were going to be days where I don't feel
Speaker 1: like doing it and I don't want to. And the
Speaker 1: other day I was thinking about this, and I was
Speaker 1: scrolling on Pinches and I found a quote that really
Speaker 1: amplified what I was thinking about. How those days where
Speaker 1: you don't feel like doing it and you don't want
Speaker 1: to do it, or it feels like it's not worth
Speaker 1: it or you're not ready are the most important days,
Speaker 1: and they can actually be the key, the missing key
Speaker 1: that you need for a certain project or an idea,
Speaker 1: or again just building character and changing yourself for the
Speaker 1: better and building confidence. And so I'm going to read
Speaker 1: it to you says the most important spiritual growth doesn't
Speaker 1: happen when you're meditating or on a yoga mat. It
Speaker 1: happens in the midst of conflict, when you're frustrated, angry
Speaker 1: or scared and you're doing the same old thing, and
Speaker 1: then you suddenly realize that you have a choice to
Speaker 1: do it differently, and you really think about this in
Speaker 1: all aspects of life. The best lessons in life came
Speaker 1: out of pressure, came out of the messiness, came out
Speaker 1: of those hard days if you respond differently to it.
Speaker 1: Because we can have a really shitty day, a depressing day,
Speaker 1: a day where you don't want to.
Speaker 2: Feel like doing it.
Speaker 1: But if you just go into that and you allow
Speaker 1: yourself to go there, and you ruin your day because
Speaker 1: of it, you don't go to the gym because of it,
Speaker 1: you don't write because of it, you stay in that
Speaker 1: bad mood all day, then you're just gonna be responding
Speaker 1: the same way and you won't find any lessons and
Speaker 1: you won't actually have any growth from those things. But
Speaker 1: the wisdom really does lie in you pushing past that
Speaker 1: resistance or you working with it, I should say, because
Speaker 1: I find, for instance, there's a practice that I am
Speaker 1: cultivating for my journal series, and it's for the days
Speaker 1: that you don't feel like you have any sort of
Speaker 1: like desire I'm gonna say desire to live, but that's
Speaker 1: a little bit of a stretch. But the days that
Speaker 1: you just don't feel like anything, you're not in the
Speaker 1: mood for anything. Your mood might be really low. You
Speaker 1: might be hard on yourself for some reason. Your mind
Speaker 1: might be going to the negative thoughts and the spirals
Speaker 1: and things like that. We could look at what we're
Speaker 1: feeling right there as bad, wrong, shouldn't be happening, and
Speaker 1: then we just get annoyed that we're like that, and
Speaker 1: then we just stay in that all day, or we
Speaker 1: can go deeper into understanding why we are feeling the
Speaker 1: way that we're feeling. And for this instance, when it
Speaker 1: comes to journaling, there is some powerful wisdom and lessons
Speaker 1: in the days that you're feeling really low, because you
Speaker 1: can figure out why you are feeling the way you're feeling,
Speaker 1: or maybe where in your life you're not fulfilled, or
Speaker 1: what might be really on your heart that you've just
Speaker 1: been holding in that you need to let out. And
Speaker 1: when you do that, it allows you to grow. It
Speaker 1: allows you to see yourself in so many different ways.
Speaker 1: It allows you to take a next step forward. But
Speaker 1: before that, you didn't even know what's step to take.
Speaker 1: So it's really important that we take even the bad days,
Speaker 1: the annoying, the messy days, the ones where we don't
Speaker 1: feel like it's good enough or whatever, and we really
Speaker 1: try and hold that with us and understand that those
Speaker 1: are part of the process as well. Another example I
Speaker 1: have is I have been telling myself that I want
Speaker 1: to work out at my boyfriend's Jim. We obviously don't
Speaker 1: live together, and he has a really beautiful, like nice gem,
Speaker 1: and I'm always passing it. I'm like, oh, I really
Speaker 1: want to go and I want to work out, and
Speaker 1: it's on the weekends, so I'll give myself this. Typically
Speaker 1: I try and do like my workouts throughout the week
Speaker 1: and then maybe a Saturday morning pull and then sometimes
Speaker 1: I go to his place. Sometimes he comes here, depending
Speaker 1: what we're doing. But the weekends that I am at
Speaker 1: his place for a few days, either if he's at
Speaker 1: work or he goes to the gym.
Speaker 2: He doesn't use his condo gym, which I don't know.
Speaker 2: I feel like some guys.
Speaker 1: Like there's specific like gym environments and stuff like that,
Speaker 1: but I love a good condo gem like I really do.
Speaker 1: I'm very like introverted, like I don't want to see
Speaker 1: a lot of people, and his gym is beautiful and
Speaker 1: has everything that I need. So I've been trying to
Speaker 1: set a goal of being like, Okay, if I'm gonna
Speaker 1: stay here for like three days plus, then I definitely
Speaker 1: need to hit at least one workout throughout those like
Speaker 1: three days, let's say. And I've been falling short and
Speaker 1: not really pushing myself to do it. Mind you, I'll
Speaker 1: go out for long walks, I'll take theo to the
Speaker 1: to the water. It's beautiful over there. But I'm like, girl, like,
Speaker 1: let's try and get like, let's just push ourselves if
Speaker 1: you want, like, we can do it. But there was
Speaker 1: a few things that was kind of getting in my way.
Speaker 1: It was uncomfortable, it was a new environment. He walked
Speaker 1: me through the gym.
Speaker 2: I seen it.
Speaker 1: Before, but it's still the barrier to entry is a
Speaker 1: little bit higher, just because it's a new environment. And
Speaker 1: so it really required me to push myself. And I've
Speaker 1: been in this little era of like the journaling in
Speaker 1: the mornings and stuff like that, so I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is your time. We're going to take the same
Speaker 1: mindset because we know it's never gonna feel good and
Speaker 1: right and pretty and perfect anyways, Alicia, So let's not
Speaker 1: wait for the day that it feels like that or
Speaker 1: that you feel like you have the most energy ever.
Speaker 1: Also to go to the gym right now, So let's
Speaker 1: just try and go right And I get there. I
Speaker 1: don't necessarily have a plan, but I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: I do really want to work on my cardio a
Speaker 1: little bit more. That's kind of like one of my
Speaker 1: goals in the gym. And so I go on the treadmill,
Speaker 1: I walk a little bit, and then I see the
Speaker 1: stare master. I'm like, you know what, I don't have
Speaker 1: a stare master in my gym, and I know it's
Speaker 1: really really hard, especially if you haven't done a stair
Speaker 1: master in a very long time. Like h my gosh,
Speaker 1: like three minutes on that thing and you're dying. So
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, let's just see how
Speaker 1: long I can go. I go on the stair master.
Speaker 1: I get on a not an incline, but whatever. Like
Speaker 1: this level of hardness. It was pretty hard, and so
Speaker 1: I got myself up to doing it for seven minutes
Speaker 1: and then I was gased, Like I was so like
Speaker 1: I literally felt like I was kind of gonna faint,
Speaker 1: but mind youw the gym was a little hot in
Speaker 1: there as well, so I got a really good sweat
Speaker 1: and I did feel good, like my legs felt really good.
Speaker 1: It reminded me of how I felt in college when
Speaker 1: I used to do this staermaster. And then I sat
Speaker 1: on the steps for a second because I literally needed
Speaker 1: to take a deep breath. But I was like, I
Speaker 1: can't do anything else because I am actually so gassed,
Speaker 1: And that really was my cardio for the day. But
Speaker 1: then the perfectionist part of me wanted to kind of
Speaker 1: seep into my mind and be like, that's not enough.
Speaker 1: You should be working out for more than like seven minutes.
Speaker 1: I mean, I did a little treadmill thing, but you know,
Speaker 1: you should be doing more and this that, And I
Speaker 1: was like I could go one of two ways right
Speaker 1: now in my mind. I could like fall into this
Speaker 1: this is not enough and whatever bullshit anyway, or I
Speaker 1: could think about how isn't it amazing that you just
Speaker 1: got into this gym, because now now when you want
Speaker 1: to set that goal to go to the gym again,
Speaker 1: when you're here the next weekend, it's going to be
Speaker 1: that much easier to get into the gym because you've
Speaker 1: already done it. You've already walked in there and you've
Speaker 1: already been like, you know this, it's going to be
Speaker 1: just easy. So that alone is a success. If nothing else,
Speaker 1: you just got into that gym. And then secondly, okay,
Speaker 1: you did seven minutes, which in your mind is like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's not enough time to work out, but it actually
Speaker 1: kind of is, especially when it comes to like cardio,
Speaker 1: when you're really really pushing yourself. But seven minutes is amazing.
Speaker 1: You got your ass on the StairMaster to begin with,
Speaker 1: and the next time maybe you can push yourself to
Speaker 1: doing ten minutes, and then over time you're gonna be
Speaker 1: able to go faster and harder. And isn't that something
Speaker 1: to be celebrated. Isn't that the thing that is actually
Speaker 1: going to start the process and you getting to that
Speaker 1: end goal. The answer is yes. But again, we wait
Speaker 1: for the day that we feel so motivated and so
Speaker 1: inspired and we can do like the hour long workout
Speaker 1: or the hour long working session. And actually I pushed
Speaker 1: myself on the weekend because usually when I'm at his place,
Speaker 1: we wake up in the morning, I sometimes wake up
Speaker 1: earlier than him and I'll just like have my coffee,
Speaker 1: like walk the dog, whatever. But I've been really wanting
Speaker 1: to commit to writing, and so I was like, just
Speaker 1: because you're not in your own space, Alesia, doesn't mean
Speaker 1: that you can't write. And also, my boyfriend's very much
Speaker 1: so like, do what you want in your mornings, like
Speaker 1: you're you know, you're if I wake up and you're journaling,
Speaker 1: so fine, Like he doesn't care, and he supports that.
Speaker 1: And he has a balcony where it's so peaceful, like
Speaker 1: ten times more peaceful than it is downtown Toronto, I
Speaker 1: will say that, and it's just so quiet and so beautiful.
Speaker 1: And so I made my coffee, went outside, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: this is a perfect time to journal, Alesia. And guess
Speaker 1: what I did that both mornings that I was there,
Speaker 1: and I felt so proud of myself because I was
Speaker 1: like I pushed past that perfectionist part of me that says, well, no,
Speaker 1: like just wait until you feel like a certain way
Speaker 1: or you're not in your environment so you can't do it,
Speaker 1: which was all just excuses. And I actually had so
Speaker 1: many beautiful breakthroughs during those times of writing and pushing
Speaker 1: past my comfort zone and all of those things right,
Speaker 1: even the gym that I have so much wisdom, so
Speaker 1: many lessons, I feel confident about myself. I have more
Speaker 1: capacity to show up in different ways now and also
Speaker 1: bring it to you guys in terms of the podcast
Speaker 1: is great as well. So it's just like so many
Speaker 1: great things can come from the discomfort. And I think
Speaker 1: that coming back to that quote of you know, thinking
Speaker 1: that we're going to evolve when we're doing our perfect
Speaker 1: meditation practice or when we feel really good when we're
Speaker 1: doing yoga, like that doesn't mean that we won't feel
Speaker 1: like that, but it actually is those hard times that
Speaker 1: really really make you better. The next thing that you
Speaker 1: might have already kind of pulled from what I was
Speaker 1: talking about, but that is to take action as quickly
Speaker 1: as you can, because this is another thing that keeps
Speaker 1: us stuck. We tend to negotiate ourselves out of a
Speaker 1: lot of different habits, specially when we're starting them for
Speaker 1: the first time, whether we tell ourselves it's going to
Speaker 1: take a really long time, or that again we are
Speaker 1: waiting for the time that we feel super perfect, or
Speaker 1: we say okay, let's say like for my supplements. If
Speaker 1: I have it pop in my head, oh I need
Speaker 1: to take my iron today, I'll be like, oh, I'll
Speaker 1: just take it with like my lunch. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I can just take it now because I just had
Speaker 1: a smoothie, Like I literally actually just did this. I
Speaker 1: can really just take it now because I still have
Speaker 1: food in my system. I don't need to wait for
Speaker 1: the next meal. And I'm just saying that because sometimes
Speaker 1: when we push things off, we will forget about it
Speaker 1: or we won't feel like doing it then. So anytime
Speaker 1: you have that little like feeling of yeah, I should
Speaker 1: probably just go to the gym now, or like take
Speaker 1: my supplements now, or let me start this project now,
Speaker 1: just do it. And it really actually takes you way
Speaker 1: less time than you think as well. So anytime that
Speaker 1: I have that urge to want to take that action,
Speaker 1: I know it's like a sweet spot and it's only
Speaker 1: gonna last a little bit bit. So I really try
Speaker 1: and take that action. Even today when I was working
Speaker 1: out or when I wanted to work out. I did
Speaker 1: my journaling and my writing this morning, and then I
Speaker 1: was taking THEO for a walk, and I knew I
Speaker 1: needed to eat like a little bit of something. But
Speaker 1: as soon as I had that thought of, like, you
Speaker 1: know what, I feel like, let's just go to the gym,
Speaker 1: like right away, because I was considering do I record
Speaker 1: or do I go to the gym first, But the
Speaker 1: feeling was just go to the gym because you got
Speaker 1: that energy and let's just do it now. And I
Speaker 1: just committed to it, and I was like, that's exactly
Speaker 1: what I'm doing. My plan is as soon as I
Speaker 1: get back, I'm gonna have a little bit of food
Speaker 1: so I can have some fuel, and I'm going to
Speaker 1: the gym and that's that. And we're not gonna negotiate
Speaker 1: and we're not gonna keep like going back and forth.
Speaker 1: So sometimes it's just about taking as quickly as you
Speaker 1: can action towards the thing that you need to do
Speaker 1: and allow it to be messy.
Speaker 2: It does not need to be perfect.
Speaker 1: Bringing it to the next thing is doing the thing
Speaker 1: even if you don't feel like doing it. Again, I've
Speaker 1: kind of already been talking about this, but something I
Speaker 1: really try to remind myself is is doing a little
Speaker 1: litle bit is better than nothing. So even if I
Speaker 1: really don't feel like I really want to go to
Speaker 1: the gym, like I remember in the morning this morning,
Speaker 1: I was thinking about working out, and I was like,
Speaker 1: you know what what I actually do is I try
Speaker 1: and think about the next thing that I have to do,
Speaker 1: like one foot in front of the other instead of
Speaker 1: like three steps ahead, which would have been the gym.
Speaker 1: Like as soon as I wake up, that's not what
Speaker 1: I do first thing in the morning. I do a
Speaker 1: million things before I go to the gym. I have
Speaker 1: to give theo his benadrill because he's literally reverse sneezing
Speaker 1: all the time. Side note, the vet says that it's
Speaker 1: his first allergy season and sometimes he gets excited as well.
Speaker 1: So anyways, I gotta do that like in the morning,
Speaker 1: so that way it kind of sets in. And then
Speaker 1: when I walk him he's not so prone to like
Speaker 1: reverse sneezing and things like that. I feed him, I'll
Speaker 1: play with him, I will take my supplements, and then
Speaker 1: I'm doing the writing journaling. So I have like a
Speaker 1: million other things that I do before I actually go
Speaker 1: to the gym. So when I'm in my head about that,
Speaker 1: I just think about, like, first of all, let's just
Speaker 1: not think about that, because that's not even what we
Speaker 1: need to think about, right now. And mind you, when
Speaker 1: it comes time to do the thing, I typically am
Speaker 1: more ready to do it. But if I do feel
Speaker 1: like I don't want to do the thing, I just
Speaker 1: tell myself as much as I can, a little bit
Speaker 1: is better than nothing, and let's just try and do
Speaker 1: like ten minutes of writing, or let's just go into
Speaker 1: the gym, and you know what, at least you can
Speaker 1: just half ass that workout. It's honestly fine, but let's
Speaker 1: just get down there and do it. And I never
Speaker 1: half asked the things. And like I said, the days
Speaker 1: that you don't feel like doing it, and when you
Speaker 1: actually move through that anyways, amazing things come out of that.
Speaker 1: It's either you write for longer or you really hit
Speaker 1: the gym even harder, or you just build character and
Speaker 1: you find something that you haven't found when you're writing
Speaker 1: and you're emotionally releasing. And it was a really good release,
Speaker 1: even if it was a small amount of time you
Speaker 1: were journaling, or even though you went to the gym
Speaker 1: and maybe you didn't get everything done, you worked on
Speaker 1: your mobility, or the fact that you just feel better
Speaker 1: because at least you did that. Like it's those small
Speaker 1: little things and the last thing that I've been reminding myself,
Speaker 1: and I actually said this on my second channel. If
Speaker 1: you're new here, I have a YouTube channel, like a
Speaker 1: quote unquote main channel, where I've been talking a lot
Speaker 1: about health and wellness, and recently I posted a video
Speaker 1: on how I broke the binge restrict like eating cycle.
Speaker 1: I had a really bad relationship with food, very very unhealthy.
Speaker 1: So if you guys have struggled with that, I have
Speaker 1: a new updated video on that channel I can look
Speaker 1: at down below. But in that video, I was talking
Speaker 1: about how something that's really helped me stay healthy and
Speaker 1: not in the binge eating cycle is really focusing on
Speaker 1: consistency over intensity, because what I used to do would
Speaker 1: be like set a goal for eating healthy or moving
Speaker 1: my body like five times a week, every single week,
Speaker 1: and I would never be able to really hit that,
Speaker 1: or if I did, it just would be.
Speaker 2: Like genuinely so hard.
Speaker 1: And I realized how many times I was going up
Speaker 1: super high and then crashing down. It wasn't really giving
Speaker 1: me any sort of results, whether it was in the
Speaker 1: gym or my mental health or like my actual health.
Speaker 1: Because I wasn't really being consistent with anything. I would
Speaker 1: go super hard working at the gym or working out
Speaker 1: at the gym, or dieting super hard, and then I
Speaker 1: would crash and burn and then like my body just
Speaker 1: like never had enough time to reset and heal essentially.
Speaker 1: So I've learned with many things in my life to
Speaker 1: set small, realistic goals and focus really on consistency. So
Speaker 1: if I want to be somebody who is healthy and
Speaker 1: moving my body a lot, my goal is at least
Speaker 1: twice a week at the gym, and hopefully I'm doing
Speaker 1: that on a week to week basis, like kind of forever.
Speaker 1: Obviously there's gonna be days maybe you're sick or on
Speaker 1: your period and things like that, but that is so
Speaker 1: much better if you look at it from like a
Speaker 1: year's standpoint. Okay, you going to the gym twice a
Speaker 1: week consistently, every single week, you are going to find benefits,
Speaker 1: whether it's your actual physical like the way that you look,
Speaker 1: fitness tone, losing weights, or even you know, building muscle,
Speaker 1: gaining weight, whatever it is is, but also your mental health,
Speaker 1: your habits, Like when you're doing that consistently, you're gonna
Speaker 1: see so many more results. And that's how I look
Speaker 1: at any other thing. So for me, when it comes
Speaker 1: to writing, I'm really trying to make a goal of
Speaker 1: pushing myself past that resistance, even on the days that.
Speaker 2: I don't feel well.
Speaker 1: But if there is a day where you know, there's
Speaker 1: just really no alignment when it comes to writing, and
Speaker 1: this is exactly what I did with my book as well.
Speaker 1: I try to stay in it, like I really try
Speaker 1: and remind myself to stay in it, which means if
Speaker 1: I skip a day, I'm trying my best to get
Speaker 1: back on it as quickly as I can the next day.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend always talks about this when it comes to
Speaker 1: the gym. If he has to skip the gym, it's
Speaker 1: usually always like there's never really a reason why he
Speaker 1: doesn't other than a really really long work day and
Speaker 1: he just can't fit it in. But his kind of
Speaker 1: like rule for himself is like no more than two
Speaker 1: days you skip, because you know, when you're doing like
Speaker 1: three days and four days, then it's just becoming this
Speaker 1: like not so healthy like habitual habit. So doing your
Speaker 1: best to stay in it and stay in rhythm as
Speaker 1: much as you possibly can, which means sometimes you need
Speaker 1: to change things up so that you don't feel like
Speaker 1: you want to crash out and burn, let's say, when
Speaker 1: it comes to like working out or something like that,
Speaker 1: or for me when it comes to writing, there's a
Speaker 1: lot of different things that I can work on within
Speaker 1: my writing, so not every single day needs to be
Speaker 1: the same, which I think can be really helpful as well.
Speaker 1: But the main thing that I want to urge you
Speaker 1: guys to just remember, because I know you already know
Speaker 1: this and I know this as well, keep doing your best.
Speaker 1: Just do your best to do the things that you
Speaker 1: know will keep you in it and keep you in alignment.
Speaker 1: And this is what I mean. If you are crossing
Speaker 1: boundaries with yourself and you are not doing the habits
Speaker 1: the practices that you know will get you in a
Speaker 1: good mindset and get you motivated to do the thing
Speaker 1: that you're trying to accomplish, it's going to be very
Speaker 1: easy for you to skip you working on the project
Speaker 1: every morning, or skip the gym, or skip doing your
Speaker 1: meal prep for the week, because you've basically set yourself
Speaker 1: up for failure. And so you need to think about
Speaker 1: the things that really do fuel you to allow you
Speaker 1: to show up bigger and better in life. Some of
Speaker 1: them for me is making sure like if I do
Speaker 1: not get sleep, I'm pretty much screwed. Like the day
Speaker 1: it's not over. But it's just such a drag, and
Speaker 1: I'm so much more susceptible to negotiating myself out of
Speaker 1: things and pushing them off and letting my perfection is
Speaker 1: a part of me take over, because genuinely, like, I'm
Speaker 1: pretty depleted, So it's really like a non negotiable for
Speaker 1: me to get into bed at a certain time so
Speaker 1: that I can.
Speaker 2: Get my sleep.
Speaker 1: I take my magnesium and I wake up around the
Speaker 1: same time every day. And this is also why I
Speaker 1: really stress the importance of a journal practice for myself,
Speaker 1: because a journal practice and spending time with myself, especially
Speaker 1: in the mornings, has just allowed me to really be
Speaker 1: successful in so many areas of my life life, whether
Speaker 1: it's just working through my emotions and showing up better
Speaker 1: in my relationship or like friendships, life in general, me
Speaker 1: being able to work towards some of the big goals
Speaker 1: that I've had in my life, the things that I've accomplished,
Speaker 1: whether it's my book, YouTube, podcasting, getting better with finances,
Speaker 1: getting better with my health, everything like that. It requires
Speaker 1: a level of me feeling mentally stable that's just like
Speaker 1: what I need, So I need to do these practices
Speaker 1: or I do feel very out of alignment and I
Speaker 1: feel not lost, but I just don't feel well. And
Speaker 1: when it comes to specifically my podcast episodes, the best
Speaker 1: episodes and just the best like insights and wisdom and
Speaker 1: stuff always come from me coming inwards to myself and writing.
Speaker 1: So that's very very important to me when it comes
Speaker 1: to my work as well. I also think when it
Speaker 1: comes to things like partying, if you're drinking a lot,
Speaker 1: of course the next day you're gonna feel like shit,
Speaker 1: you might have anxiety. That's how I feel if I
Speaker 1: drink waighte much, which I really don't ever drink way
Speaker 1: too much anymore.
Speaker 2: But I know my limits.
Speaker 1: I know the times that are best for me to
Speaker 1: drink if I'm going to drink, or even have some cannabis,
Speaker 1: if I'm going to have some, like there are boundaries,
Speaker 1: there are I was gonna say rules, but not really.
Speaker 1: It's just times that I know that that's not going
Speaker 1: to affect how I move in life and affect the
Speaker 1: way that I'm going to show up to be able
Speaker 1: to take action on the things that I'm trying to do.
Speaker 1: In my life because it's just like, that's what will happen.
Speaker 1: We get in our own ways. A lot of the
Speaker 1: times I think the same thing with like, if you're
Speaker 1: in an unhealthy relationship, Like it's no wonder that you're
Speaker 1: struggling to take care of yourself or start a new
Speaker 1: project when you're mentally depleted because all you're doing is
Speaker 1: being anxious all day or you're fighting all day or
Speaker 1: whatever the case is, right, so you really just want
Speaker 1: to think about some of the things that might be
Speaker 1: depleting you because then it's like, no wonder, you're not
Speaker 1: going to take action or feel like taking action on
Speaker 1: these things. So I'm going to end the podcast because
Speaker 1: THEO is up and he's ready to rumble. He is
Speaker 1: ready to rumble, and he is ready to go. But yeah, guys,
Speaker 1: I feel like I've just been making a lot of
Speaker 1: progress in my life, and it's from that mere fact
Speaker 1: of just understanding that if I want what I want,
Speaker 1: it's gonna require commitment and it's going to require action.
Speaker 1: And how I commit and take that action is going
Speaker 1: to be through consistency, through love and compassion and dropping
Speaker 1: that perfectionism mindset and allowing it to be messy and
Speaker 1: allowing it to be whatever it needs to be, and
Speaker 1: just to keep going because that is really obviously that
Speaker 1: you're taking action, so automatically you're winning when you're doing that.
Speaker 1: But also you'll find a lot of wisdom and things
Speaker 1: that you need on the journey of becoming that new
Speaker 1: version of you or hitting those goals that you didn't
Speaker 1: even think by actually just taking that action. So I
Speaker 1: hope this episode helped or motivated you at all. Let
Speaker 1: me know in the comments what you'd like to see next,
Speaker 1: any topics, any requests. I have some ideas things that
Speaker 1: are coming up that I'm really excited about to share
Speaker 1: with you guys. But if you guys want any more
Speaker 1: advice when it comes to taking action towards something that
Speaker 1: you've been really wanting to and you've been wanting to
Speaker 1: cultivate and manifest in your life. So with that said,
Speaker 1: I will see you guys in the next one.
Speaker 2: Bye.