WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.279 Hi, everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My 2 00:00:02.359 --> 00:00:04.839 name is Alicia Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, 3 00:00:05.040 --> 00:00:07.360 where I help you expand your mind and become more 4 00:00:07.400 --> 00:00:09.599 self aware so that you can glow up into the 5 00:00:09.599 --> 00:00:15.720 best version of yourself. Hello, and happy Sunday. And can 6 00:00:15.759 --> 00:00:17.839 we just take in that we only have one more 7 00:00:17.920 --> 00:00:21.800 Sunday left of July and then we're already into August. 8 00:00:21.879 --> 00:00:22.960 That is crazy. 9 00:00:23.679 --> 00:00:29.079 I hope everyone has been thriving and pushing past barriers 10 00:00:29.199 --> 00:00:32.359 and limiting beliefs and the ways that we get stuck, 11 00:00:32.399 --> 00:00:35.759 and really also just enjoying this present moment. I feel 12 00:00:35.759 --> 00:00:38.399 like we've been really working on that on the podcast 13 00:00:38.640 --> 00:00:41.000 the past few months, so I'm really hoping we're all 14 00:00:41.000 --> 00:00:42.679 on the same page. And if we are on the 15 00:00:42.719 --> 00:00:46.159 same page, then I think today's message will resonate with you. 16 00:00:46.399 --> 00:00:49.600 So recently, I've been really pushing myself to write in 17 00:00:49.679 --> 00:00:52.719 the mornings. Now, I typically journal in the mornings. You 18 00:00:52.759 --> 00:00:55.960 guys know, I love a good journal practice, and so 19 00:00:56.840 --> 00:00:58.079 most days. 20 00:00:57.799 --> 00:00:59.799 I do that. I look forward to it. I have 21 00:01:00.039 --> 00:01:00.960 my coffee. 22 00:01:01.119 --> 00:01:03.880 I've been sitting on my balcony because the sun has 23 00:01:03.880 --> 00:01:06.480 been out and it's been really warm, so I'm always 24 00:01:06.519 --> 00:01:09.680 usually doing that. But you guys also know, or some 25 00:01:09.719 --> 00:01:11.400 of you guys know, if you've been listening for a while, 26 00:01:11.719 --> 00:01:15.480 I have been really wanting to cultivate a journal line, 27 00:01:16.079 --> 00:01:18.879 and I think it'll take me maybe a few more weeks, 28 00:01:18.879 --> 00:01:20.519 and then I will start to share with you guys 29 00:01:20.959 --> 00:01:23.959 what I have been cultivating, which is a little bit 30 00:01:23.959 --> 00:01:26.959 different than what I thought it would be, but it's 31 00:01:27.079 --> 00:01:29.280 just coming out so beautifully. But with that said, it 32 00:01:29.319 --> 00:01:33.879 involves me committing to working on this project as anything 33 00:01:34.000 --> 00:01:36.879 in life. I think about the times when I wrote 34 00:01:36.879 --> 00:01:39.560 my book which is behind me here, The Ultimate Globe Guide. 35 00:01:40.159 --> 00:01:44.120 I had to be committed and I basically wrote every morning, 36 00:01:44.280 --> 00:01:48.319 because especially when you're doing something like writing, if you 37 00:01:48.480 --> 00:01:50.359 take a long time off, it can be really hard 38 00:01:50.400 --> 00:01:52.640 to get back into it, and you just have to keep, 39 00:01:52.680 --> 00:01:55.040 like not even pushing, but you just have to go 40 00:01:55.079 --> 00:01:56.799 through some of the things that I'm gonna remind you 41 00:01:56.799 --> 00:01:58.920 guys of, and I remind myself of when I'm really 42 00:01:58.959 --> 00:02:00.879 trying to work on something new. 43 00:02:01.040 --> 00:02:02.799 So this could be. 44 00:02:02.640 --> 00:02:05.920 Great advice for anyone who is really wanting to start 45 00:02:05.959 --> 00:02:08.159 a new project or just get out of your comfort 46 00:02:08.240 --> 00:02:10.560 zone and start the thing that you keep saying you 47 00:02:10.599 --> 00:02:13.680 want to do. This could also apply to anything to 48 00:02:13.719 --> 00:02:16.800 do with health and fitness, or you know, taking that 49 00:02:16.840 --> 00:02:20.439 next step when it comes to relationships, like just really anything. 50 00:02:20.520 --> 00:02:25.520 But recently I've been really reminding myself like, in order 51 00:02:25.599 --> 00:02:28.039 for me to get this done and get this project 52 00:02:28.080 --> 00:02:31.639 out and for it to be beautiful, I'm really going 53 00:02:31.719 --> 00:02:34.080 to have to be intentional and commit to this thing. 54 00:02:34.280 --> 00:02:37.479 And over the past two weeks I have gotten so 55 00:02:38.000 --> 00:02:41.960 much of this series done. I'm honestly so proud of 56 00:02:42.039 --> 00:02:44.159 all of the work that I have done in just 57 00:02:44.199 --> 00:02:47.800 a short amount of time, and it really has all 58 00:02:47.879 --> 00:02:52.199 come down to me simply taking the action. And it's 59 00:02:52.280 --> 00:02:55.120 kind of crazy how mind blowing it is to me 60 00:02:55.240 --> 00:02:59.120 every time I go through this phase, because there's been 61 00:02:59.159 --> 00:03:03.159 multiple times come to this realization that sometimes it's actually 62 00:03:03.199 --> 00:03:06.319 as simple as just taking action. But it can be 63 00:03:06.400 --> 00:03:09.000 so true. And I'm not saying that the action that 64 00:03:09.039 --> 00:03:11.840 you need to take towards something is going to feel 65 00:03:11.879 --> 00:03:15.280 easy and feel good, which I'll give you some advice on, 66 00:03:16.000 --> 00:03:19.159 but just the mere fact of if you want something 67 00:03:19.319 --> 00:03:22.400 in your life, if you want to achieve something, you 68 00:03:22.520 --> 00:03:26.960 increase your chances of getting that thing simply by just trying. 69 00:03:27.639 --> 00:03:31.120 And it's in my personal belief that you can get 70 00:03:31.159 --> 00:03:33.719 and you can achieve whatever you want in your life 71 00:03:34.159 --> 00:03:37.199 if you just do it, if you just take action, 72 00:03:37.400 --> 00:03:40.400 and it doesn't mean that you might have to change 73 00:03:40.439 --> 00:03:43.439 the path or you might change your method on the 74 00:03:43.520 --> 00:03:46.879 journey of trying to achieve something. But I think sometimes 75 00:03:47.360 --> 00:03:51.599 we really like to just sit and talk about something 76 00:03:51.639 --> 00:03:56.520 that we really want, whether it's better health, better routines, 77 00:03:56.879 --> 00:03:59.000 you really want this project, you want to be a 78 00:03:59.039 --> 00:04:03.039 social media you want to get into a new career path, 79 00:04:03.599 --> 00:04:07.639 you want to be into these healthy dynamics and relationships, 80 00:04:07.719 --> 00:04:13.159 But it all always comes down to you actually trying. 81 00:04:13.199 --> 00:04:17.439 And I genuinely just believe that sometimes we don't realize, 82 00:04:17.480 --> 00:04:21.879 like I feel like we gaslight ourselves into not realizing 83 00:04:22.120 --> 00:04:26.759 that actually we don't try and try for a consistent 84 00:04:26.879 --> 00:04:29.759 amount of time. And I could even say with my 85 00:04:29.839 --> 00:04:34.079 journal line, I've had many thoughts about this, and I've 86 00:04:34.399 --> 00:04:36.480 touched on it here and there, and I've worked on 87 00:04:36.519 --> 00:04:38.600 it here and there, But in the back of my mind, 88 00:04:38.639 --> 00:04:40.639 I was always like wishing it was done and that 89 00:04:40.720 --> 00:04:42.920 it really just be created because I know how great 90 00:04:42.959 --> 00:04:45.879 I'll feel when it's completed and the impact it can 91 00:04:45.920 --> 00:04:48.120 make in everything like that. But I had to be 92 00:04:48.160 --> 00:04:51.000 real with myself and say, like, you know, it could 93 00:04:51.040 --> 00:04:55.439 be done and you could have this thing be quote 94 00:04:55.519 --> 00:04:58.959 unquote like published and out there into the world if 95 00:04:59.000 --> 00:05:00.920 you just did it. But some times it's like we 96 00:05:01.120 --> 00:05:05.959 dance around the mere fact of the matter that what 97 00:05:06.680 --> 00:05:10.560 we want in life will require us to commit to 98 00:05:10.600 --> 00:05:14.439 it and take the action and to just do it. 99 00:05:14.519 --> 00:05:18.959 So if you're, you know, sitting around, you're kind of 100 00:05:19.000 --> 00:05:22.120 like dancing around things. You're dipping your toes into this 101 00:05:22.240 --> 00:05:24.600 and that and projects here and there. I want to 102 00:05:24.600 --> 00:05:27.279 start this or whatever it is you want something to 103 00:05:27.360 --> 00:05:30.560 change in your life, Here is some advice to kind 104 00:05:30.600 --> 00:05:35.160 of get you moving, because once you move, the magic 105 00:05:35.199 --> 00:05:35.759 will happen. 106 00:05:36.399 --> 00:05:37.040 Seriously. 107 00:05:37.279 --> 00:05:40.000 And the first thing that I really reminded myself when 108 00:05:40.040 --> 00:05:42.600 I wanted and knew that it was really time for 109 00:05:42.639 --> 00:05:46.120 me to commit to writing and working on this journal line, 110 00:05:46.160 --> 00:05:47.920 I just knew like there wasn't going to be any 111 00:05:47.959 --> 00:05:50.240 more like touching it here and there, because that's just 112 00:05:50.240 --> 00:05:53.279 not how I work and create, especially when it's something creative. 113 00:05:53.680 --> 00:05:55.600 It's very similar, like I said, to my books, So 114 00:05:56.519 --> 00:06:01.399 when I had some blocks wanting to come up, because 115 00:06:01.519 --> 00:06:03.800 typically you will. If you are like, Okay, I need 116 00:06:03.839 --> 00:06:05.560 to take action on something and I need to commit 117 00:06:05.600 --> 00:06:10.360 to something, you will kind of have that perfectionist part 118 00:06:10.360 --> 00:06:14.399 of you that, thanks for one the process of you 119 00:06:14.560 --> 00:06:17.680 doing the thing and achieving a goal will look and 120 00:06:17.720 --> 00:06:20.920 feel different than it is, and you do just touch 121 00:06:20.920 --> 00:06:23.399 to remind yourself that it won't. And the reason why 122 00:06:23.399 --> 00:06:27.000 I'm saying that is we will wait for the perfect 123 00:06:27.040 --> 00:06:30.879 feeling or the perfect scenario or the way we think 124 00:06:31.199 --> 00:06:33.800 the process is going to be to getting the outcome, 125 00:06:34.360 --> 00:06:38.040 and so we don't do the action until those things 126 00:06:38.399 --> 00:06:41.199 are achieved, whether we like feel good that day, or 127 00:06:41.199 --> 00:06:44.160 that our schedules are perfectly curated, or the times in 128 00:06:44.199 --> 00:06:46.120 our days that we can work on these things, or 129 00:06:46.839 --> 00:06:50.519 the season of life like we're waiting for this perfect 130 00:06:50.560 --> 00:06:56.560 scenario to start. And it doesn't even need to be 131 00:06:56.759 --> 00:06:59.480 like that, and it genuinely is not how things come 132 00:06:59.480 --> 00:07:03.720 about anyways. When you start any sort of endeavor, it 133 00:07:03.839 --> 00:07:07.800 is going to require you to take messy action and 134 00:07:07.839 --> 00:07:12.480 for you to get the perfectionist way of thinking out 135 00:07:12.519 --> 00:07:13.240 of your brain. 136 00:07:13.439 --> 00:07:16.639 There's really just no space for this part of you. 137 00:07:16.959 --> 00:07:20.680 Because the thing that you're stuck in right now is 138 00:07:20.720 --> 00:07:24.560 simply just taking that action that's really really it. And 139 00:07:25.360 --> 00:07:27.959 we need to be okay with taking a little bit 140 00:07:28.040 --> 00:07:30.439 of a messy action. And there's two examples I want 141 00:07:30.480 --> 00:07:32.360 to give you when it comes to taking messy actions 142 00:07:32.360 --> 00:07:34.120 so you can understand where I'm coming from. 143 00:07:34.199 --> 00:07:35.600 So, for one, I. 144 00:07:35.560 --> 00:07:39.199 Knew when I wanted to commit to writing in the mornings, 145 00:07:39.199 --> 00:07:42.160 there were going to be days where I don't feel 146 00:07:42.160 --> 00:07:44.879 like doing it and I don't want to. And the 147 00:07:44.920 --> 00:07:46.240 other day I was thinking about this, and I was 148 00:07:46.240 --> 00:07:48.639 scrolling on Pinches and I found a quote that really 149 00:07:49.160 --> 00:07:52.759 amplified what I was thinking about. How those days where 150 00:07:52.800 --> 00:07:55.439 you don't feel like doing it and you don't want 151 00:07:55.439 --> 00:07:58.040 to do it, or it feels like it's not worth 152 00:07:58.040 --> 00:08:01.199 it or you're not ready are the most important days, 153 00:08:01.720 --> 00:08:06.040 and they can actually be the key, the missing key 154 00:08:06.120 --> 00:08:09.000 that you need for a certain project or an idea, 155 00:08:09.560 --> 00:08:13.399 or again just building character and changing yourself for the 156 00:08:13.399 --> 00:08:15.439 better and building confidence. And so I'm going to read 157 00:08:15.439 --> 00:08:18.279 it to you says the most important spiritual growth doesn't 158 00:08:18.279 --> 00:08:21.040 happen when you're meditating or on a yoga mat. It 159 00:08:21.079 --> 00:08:24.240 happens in the midst of conflict, when you're frustrated, angry 160 00:08:24.399 --> 00:08:26.399 or scared and you're doing the same old thing, and 161 00:08:26.399 --> 00:08:28.639 then you suddenly realize that you have a choice to 162 00:08:28.680 --> 00:08:30.519 do it differently, and you really think about this in 163 00:08:30.560 --> 00:08:34.360 all aspects of life. The best lessons in life came 164 00:08:34.440 --> 00:08:38.519 out of pressure, came out of the messiness, came out 165 00:08:38.559 --> 00:08:42.440 of those hard days if you respond differently to it. 166 00:08:42.519 --> 00:08:45.279 Because we can have a really shitty day, a depressing day, 167 00:08:45.279 --> 00:08:46.240 a day where you don't want to. 168 00:08:46.200 --> 00:08:46.879 Feel like doing it. 169 00:08:46.919 --> 00:08:48.759 But if you just go into that and you allow 170 00:08:48.759 --> 00:08:52.000 yourself to go there, and you ruin your day because 171 00:08:52.039 --> 00:08:53.720 of it, you don't go to the gym because of it, 172 00:08:54.000 --> 00:08:56.519 you don't write because of it, you stay in that 173 00:08:56.559 --> 00:08:59.759 bad mood all day, then you're just gonna be responding 174 00:08:59.759 --> 00:09:01.799 the same way and you won't find any lessons and 175 00:09:01.840 --> 00:09:04.720 you won't actually have any growth from those things. But 176 00:09:05.480 --> 00:09:08.799 the wisdom really does lie in you pushing past that 177 00:09:08.919 --> 00:09:12.000 resistance or you working with it, I should say, because 178 00:09:12.320 --> 00:09:15.559 I find, for instance, there's a practice that I am 179 00:09:15.600 --> 00:09:19.000 cultivating for my journal series, and it's for the days 180 00:09:19.039 --> 00:09:21.879 that you don't feel like you have any sort of 181 00:09:21.960 --> 00:09:25.320 like desire I'm gonna say desire to live, but that's 182 00:09:25.320 --> 00:09:27.279 a little bit of a stretch. But the days that 183 00:09:27.320 --> 00:09:30.639 you just don't feel like anything, you're not in the 184 00:09:30.679 --> 00:09:33.360 mood for anything. Your mood might be really low. You 185 00:09:33.440 --> 00:09:35.879 might be hard on yourself for some reason. Your mind 186 00:09:35.919 --> 00:09:38.360 might be going to the negative thoughts and the spirals 187 00:09:38.360 --> 00:09:41.200 and things like that. We could look at what we're 188 00:09:41.200 --> 00:09:44.720 feeling right there as bad, wrong, shouldn't be happening, and 189 00:09:44.759 --> 00:09:47.080 then we just get annoyed that we're like that, and 190 00:09:47.120 --> 00:09:49.840 then we just stay in that all day, or we 191 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:53.360 can go deeper into understanding why we are feeling the 192 00:09:53.360 --> 00:09:55.519 way that we're feeling. And for this instance, when it 193 00:09:55.559 --> 00:10:00.279 comes to journaling, there is some powerful wisdom and lessons 194 00:10:00.320 --> 00:10:02.960 in the days that you're feeling really low, because you 195 00:10:03.000 --> 00:10:06.480 can figure out why you are feeling the way you're feeling, 196 00:10:06.679 --> 00:10:10.480 or maybe where in your life you're not fulfilled, or 197 00:10:11.279 --> 00:10:13.759 what might be really on your heart that you've just 198 00:10:13.799 --> 00:10:15.799 been holding in that you need to let out. And 199 00:10:15.840 --> 00:10:18.559 when you do that, it allows you to grow. It 200 00:10:18.559 --> 00:10:20.720 allows you to see yourself in so many different ways. 201 00:10:20.759 --> 00:10:23.360 It allows you to take a next step forward. But 202 00:10:23.440 --> 00:10:25.440 before that, you didn't even know what's step to take. 203 00:10:25.559 --> 00:10:28.200 So it's really important that we take even the bad days, 204 00:10:28.279 --> 00:10:30.840 the annoying, the messy days, the ones where we don't 205 00:10:30.879 --> 00:10:34.879 feel like it's good enough or whatever, and we really 206 00:10:34.960 --> 00:10:37.559 try and hold that with us and understand that those 207 00:10:37.600 --> 00:10:39.720 are part of the process as well. Another example I 208 00:10:39.759 --> 00:10:43.320 have is I have been telling myself that I want 209 00:10:43.360 --> 00:10:46.120 to work out at my boyfriend's Jim. We obviously don't 210 00:10:46.159 --> 00:10:50.480 live together, and he has a really beautiful, like nice gem, 211 00:10:50.480 --> 00:10:52.080 and I'm always passing it. I'm like, oh, I really 212 00:10:52.120 --> 00:10:53.600 want to go and I want to work out, and 213 00:10:53.639 --> 00:10:56.720 it's on the weekends, so I'll give myself this. Typically 214 00:10:56.759 --> 00:10:58.519 I try and do like my workouts throughout the week 215 00:10:58.559 --> 00:11:01.080 and then maybe a Saturday morning pull and then sometimes 216 00:11:01.120 --> 00:11:02.960 I go to his place. Sometimes he comes here, depending 217 00:11:02.960 --> 00:11:05.720 what we're doing. But the weekends that I am at 218 00:11:05.720 --> 00:11:09.279 his place for a few days, either if he's at 219 00:11:09.320 --> 00:11:10.679 work or he goes to the gym. 220 00:11:10.799 --> 00:11:12.799 He doesn't use his condo gym, which I don't know. 221 00:11:12.840 --> 00:11:13.960 I feel like some guys. 222 00:11:13.759 --> 00:11:17.159 Like there's specific like gym environments and stuff like that, 223 00:11:17.200 --> 00:11:20.200 but I love a good condo gem like I really do. 224 00:11:20.279 --> 00:11:22.440 I'm very like introverted, like I don't want to see 225 00:11:22.440 --> 00:11:24.519 a lot of people, and his gym is beautiful and 226 00:11:24.600 --> 00:11:26.440 has everything that I need. So I've been trying to 227 00:11:26.480 --> 00:11:28.240 set a goal of being like, Okay, if I'm gonna 228 00:11:28.240 --> 00:11:31.879 stay here for like three days plus, then I definitely 229 00:11:31.960 --> 00:11:34.799 need to hit at least one workout throughout those like 230 00:11:34.840 --> 00:11:38.200 three days, let's say. And I've been falling short and 231 00:11:38.240 --> 00:11:40.360 not really pushing myself to do it. Mind you, I'll 232 00:11:40.360 --> 00:11:43.039 go out for long walks, I'll take theo to the 233 00:11:43.200 --> 00:11:47.039 to the water. It's beautiful over there. But I'm like, girl, like, 234 00:11:47.159 --> 00:11:49.320 let's try and get like, let's just push ourselves if 235 00:11:49.360 --> 00:11:51.639 you want, like, we can do it. But there was 236 00:11:51.679 --> 00:11:53.279 a few things that was kind of getting in my way. 237 00:11:53.399 --> 00:11:56.960 It was uncomfortable, it was a new environment. He walked 238 00:11:56.960 --> 00:11:57.600 me through the gym. 239 00:11:57.639 --> 00:11:58.720 I seen it. 240 00:11:58.600 --> 00:12:02.360 Before, but it's still the barrier to entry is a 241 00:12:02.399 --> 00:12:06.120 little bit higher, just because it's a new environment. And 242 00:12:06.200 --> 00:12:10.919 so it really required me to push myself. And I've 243 00:12:10.919 --> 00:12:13.159 been in this little era of like the journaling in 244 00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:14.840 the mornings and stuff like that, so I'm like, Okay, 245 00:12:14.960 --> 00:12:16.399 this is your time. We're going to take the same 246 00:12:16.519 --> 00:12:20.039 mindset because we know it's never gonna feel good and 247 00:12:20.120 --> 00:12:22.600 right and pretty and perfect anyways, Alicia, So let's not 248 00:12:22.679 --> 00:12:24.080 wait for the day that it feels like that or 249 00:12:24.080 --> 00:12:25.960 that you feel like you have the most energy ever. 250 00:12:26.120 --> 00:12:28.519 Also to go to the gym right now, So let's 251 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:32.919 just try and go right And I get there. I 252 00:12:32.960 --> 00:12:34.919 don't necessarily have a plan, but I was like, you know, 253 00:12:35.000 --> 00:12:36.519 I do really want to work on my cardio a 254 00:12:36.559 --> 00:12:38.120 little bit more. That's kind of like one of my 255 00:12:38.159 --> 00:12:40.879 goals in the gym. And so I go on the treadmill, 256 00:12:40.919 --> 00:12:42.159 I walk a little bit, and then I see the 257 00:12:42.200 --> 00:12:43.519 stare master. I'm like, you know what, I don't have 258 00:12:43.519 --> 00:12:46.480 a stare master in my gym, and I know it's 259 00:12:46.519 --> 00:12:48.200 really really hard, especially if you haven't done a stair 260 00:12:48.240 --> 00:12:51.000 master in a very long time. Like h my gosh, 261 00:12:51.000 --> 00:12:52.679 like three minutes on that thing and you're dying. So 262 00:12:53.120 --> 00:12:54.440 I was like, you know what, let's just see how 263 00:12:54.440 --> 00:12:56.519 long I can go. I go on the stair master. 264 00:12:57.480 --> 00:12:59.840 I get on a not an incline, but whatever. Like 265 00:12:59.840 --> 00:13:04.480 this level of hardness. It was pretty hard, and so 266 00:13:04.639 --> 00:13:06.960 I got myself up to doing it for seven minutes 267 00:13:07.039 --> 00:13:11.080 and then I was gased, Like I was so like 268 00:13:11.120 --> 00:13:12.799 I literally felt like I was kind of gonna faint, 269 00:13:12.919 --> 00:13:15.440 but mind youw the gym was a little hot in 270 00:13:15.480 --> 00:13:18.600 there as well, so I got a really good sweat 271 00:13:18.639 --> 00:13:20.759 and I did feel good, like my legs felt really good. 272 00:13:20.840 --> 00:13:23.399 It reminded me of how I felt in college when 273 00:13:23.399 --> 00:13:25.600 I used to do this staermaster. And then I sat 274 00:13:25.679 --> 00:13:27.279 on the steps for a second because I literally needed 275 00:13:27.279 --> 00:13:28.799 to take a deep breath. But I was like, I 276 00:13:28.840 --> 00:13:31.600 can't do anything else because I am actually so gassed, 277 00:13:31.679 --> 00:13:34.080 And that really was my cardio for the day. But 278 00:13:34.120 --> 00:13:36.480 then the perfectionist part of me wanted to kind of 279 00:13:36.679 --> 00:13:39.120 seep into my mind and be like, that's not enough. 280 00:13:39.960 --> 00:13:42.240 You should be working out for more than like seven minutes. 281 00:13:42.279 --> 00:13:44.559 I mean, I did a little treadmill thing, but you know, 282 00:13:44.679 --> 00:13:46.879 you should be doing more and this that, And I 283 00:13:47.000 --> 00:13:49.039 was like I could go one of two ways right 284 00:13:49.080 --> 00:13:52.120 now in my mind. I could like fall into this 285 00:13:52.120 --> 00:13:55.759 this is not enough and whatever bullshit anyway, or I 286 00:13:55.759 --> 00:13:58.600 could think about how isn't it amazing that you just 287 00:13:58.679 --> 00:14:01.519 got into this gym, because now now when you want 288 00:14:01.519 --> 00:14:03.559 to set that goal to go to the gym again, 289 00:14:03.840 --> 00:14:06.279 when you're here the next weekend, it's going to be 290 00:14:06.759 --> 00:14:08.799 that much easier to get into the gym because you've 291 00:14:08.799 --> 00:14:11.080 already done it. You've already walked in there and you've 292 00:14:11.200 --> 00:14:14.200 already been like, you know this, it's going to be 293 00:14:14.559 --> 00:14:18.960 just easy. So that alone is a success. If nothing else, 294 00:14:19.000 --> 00:14:22.879 you just got into that gym. And then secondly, okay, 295 00:14:22.960 --> 00:14:25.120 you did seven minutes, which in your mind is like, oh, 296 00:14:25.159 --> 00:14:27.159 that's not enough time to work out, but it actually 297 00:14:27.200 --> 00:14:29.080 kind of is, especially when it comes to like cardio, 298 00:14:29.320 --> 00:14:33.080 when you're really really pushing yourself. But seven minutes is amazing. 299 00:14:33.399 --> 00:14:35.840 You got your ass on the StairMaster to begin with, 300 00:14:36.279 --> 00:14:38.360 and the next time maybe you can push yourself to 301 00:14:38.399 --> 00:14:40.360 doing ten minutes, and then over time you're gonna be 302 00:14:40.399 --> 00:14:44.639 able to go faster and harder. And isn't that something 303 00:14:44.639 --> 00:14:47.480 to be celebrated. Isn't that the thing that is actually 304 00:14:47.639 --> 00:14:49.879 going to start the process and you getting to that 305 00:14:50.039 --> 00:14:54.559 end goal. The answer is yes. But again, we wait 306 00:14:54.600 --> 00:14:56.919 for the day that we feel so motivated and so 307 00:14:57.080 --> 00:14:59.679 inspired and we can do like the hour long workout 308 00:14:59.759 --> 00:15:03.000 or the hour long working session. And actually I pushed 309 00:15:03.000 --> 00:15:05.399 myself on the weekend because usually when I'm at his place, 310 00:15:05.600 --> 00:15:07.639 we wake up in the morning, I sometimes wake up 311 00:15:07.639 --> 00:15:09.840 earlier than him and I'll just like have my coffee, 312 00:15:10.039 --> 00:15:13.879 like walk the dog, whatever. But I've been really wanting 313 00:15:13.919 --> 00:15:18.159 to commit to writing, and so I was like, just 314 00:15:18.200 --> 00:15:20.519 because you're not in your own space, Alesia, doesn't mean 315 00:15:20.519 --> 00:15:22.559 that you can't write. And also, my boyfriend's very much 316 00:15:22.559 --> 00:15:24.240 so like, do what you want in your mornings, like 317 00:15:24.559 --> 00:15:27.039 you're you know, you're if I wake up and you're journaling, 318 00:15:27.639 --> 00:15:30.840 so fine, Like he doesn't care, and he supports that. 319 00:15:31.360 --> 00:15:35.399 And he has a balcony where it's so peaceful, like 320 00:15:35.480 --> 00:15:38.519 ten times more peaceful than it is downtown Toronto, I 321 00:15:38.559 --> 00:15:41.840 will say that, and it's just so quiet and so beautiful. 322 00:15:41.840 --> 00:15:44.559 And so I made my coffee, went outside, and I'm like, 323 00:15:44.600 --> 00:15:47.519 this is a perfect time to journal, Alesia. And guess 324 00:15:47.559 --> 00:15:49.720 what I did that both mornings that I was there, 325 00:15:49.840 --> 00:15:52.720 and I felt so proud of myself because I was 326 00:15:52.759 --> 00:15:56.360 like I pushed past that perfectionist part of me that says, well, no, 327 00:15:56.440 --> 00:15:58.879 like just wait until you feel like a certain way 328 00:15:59.039 --> 00:16:01.399 or you're not in your environment so you can't do it, 329 00:16:01.440 --> 00:16:05.519 which was all just excuses. And I actually had so 330 00:16:05.600 --> 00:16:10.919 many beautiful breakthroughs during those times of writing and pushing 331 00:16:11.039 --> 00:16:14.279 past my comfort zone and all of those things right, 332 00:16:14.320 --> 00:16:17.279 even the gym that I have so much wisdom, so 333 00:16:17.360 --> 00:16:20.480 many lessons, I feel confident about myself. I have more 334 00:16:20.519 --> 00:16:23.440 capacity to show up in different ways now and also 335 00:16:23.960 --> 00:16:26.639 bring it to you guys in terms of the podcast 336 00:16:26.720 --> 00:16:29.000 is great as well. So it's just like so many 337 00:16:29.000 --> 00:16:32.600 great things can come from the discomfort. And I think 338 00:16:32.639 --> 00:16:36.279 that coming back to that quote of you know, thinking 339 00:16:36.360 --> 00:16:40.440 that we're going to evolve when we're doing our perfect 340 00:16:40.480 --> 00:16:42.759 meditation practice or when we feel really good when we're 341 00:16:42.759 --> 00:16:45.480 doing yoga, like that doesn't mean that we won't feel 342 00:16:45.480 --> 00:16:49.480 like that, but it actually is those hard times that 343 00:16:49.720 --> 00:16:54.080 really really make you better. The next thing that you 344 00:16:54.200 --> 00:16:55.840 might have already kind of pulled from what I was 345 00:16:55.879 --> 00:16:59.639 talking about, but that is to take action as quickly 346 00:16:59.679 --> 00:17:02.279 as you can, because this is another thing that keeps 347 00:17:02.320 --> 00:17:05.119 us stuck. We tend to negotiate ourselves out of a 348 00:17:05.119 --> 00:17:07.440 lot of different habits, specially when we're starting them for 349 00:17:07.480 --> 00:17:10.079 the first time, whether we tell ourselves it's going to 350 00:17:10.200 --> 00:17:12.400 take a really long time, or that again we are 351 00:17:12.440 --> 00:17:14.880 waiting for the time that we feel super perfect, or 352 00:17:14.920 --> 00:17:17.720 we say okay, let's say like for my supplements. If 353 00:17:17.720 --> 00:17:18.960 I have it pop in my head, oh I need 354 00:17:19.000 --> 00:17:21.000 to take my iron today, I'll be like, oh, I'll 355 00:17:21.039 --> 00:17:23.200 just take it with like my lunch. No, no, no, 356 00:17:23.279 --> 00:17:25.279 I can just take it now because I just had 357 00:17:25.319 --> 00:17:27.240 a smoothie, Like I literally actually just did this. I 358 00:17:27.279 --> 00:17:29.160 can really just take it now because I still have 359 00:17:29.200 --> 00:17:30.640 food in my system. I don't need to wait for 360 00:17:30.680 --> 00:17:33.880 the next meal. And I'm just saying that because sometimes 361 00:17:34.160 --> 00:17:36.200 when we push things off, we will forget about it 362 00:17:36.319 --> 00:17:39.920 or we won't feel like doing it then. So anytime 363 00:17:40.160 --> 00:17:43.200 you have that little like feeling of yeah, I should 364 00:17:43.200 --> 00:17:44.799 probably just go to the gym now, or like take 365 00:17:44.799 --> 00:17:47.160 my supplements now, or let me start this project now, 366 00:17:47.519 --> 00:17:50.839 just do it. And it really actually takes you way 367 00:17:50.920 --> 00:17:54.200 less time than you think as well. So anytime that 368 00:17:54.319 --> 00:17:56.839 I have that urge to want to take that action, 369 00:17:57.039 --> 00:17:59.119 I know it's like a sweet spot and it's only 370 00:17:59.119 --> 00:18:01.799 gonna last a little bit bit. So I really try 371 00:18:01.839 --> 00:18:04.319 and take that action. Even today when I was working 372 00:18:04.359 --> 00:18:07.279 out or when I wanted to work out. I did 373 00:18:07.279 --> 00:18:09.880 my journaling and my writing this morning, and then I 374 00:18:10.000 --> 00:18:13.240 was taking THEO for a walk, and I knew I 375 00:18:13.240 --> 00:18:14.880 needed to eat like a little bit of something. But 376 00:18:15.000 --> 00:18:17.440 as soon as I had that thought of, like, you 377 00:18:17.440 --> 00:18:19.319 know what, I feel like, let's just go to the gym, 378 00:18:19.359 --> 00:18:21.119 like right away, because I was considering do I record 379 00:18:21.200 --> 00:18:23.119 or do I go to the gym first, But the 380 00:18:23.160 --> 00:18:25.039 feeling was just go to the gym because you got 381 00:18:25.039 --> 00:18:28.359 that energy and let's just do it now. And I 382 00:18:28.519 --> 00:18:30.039 just committed to it, and I was like, that's exactly 383 00:18:30.079 --> 00:18:31.640 what I'm doing. My plan is as soon as I 384 00:18:31.640 --> 00:18:33.000 get back, I'm gonna have a little bit of food 385 00:18:33.039 --> 00:18:34.359 so I can have some fuel, and I'm going to 386 00:18:34.440 --> 00:18:36.799 the gym and that's that. And we're not gonna negotiate 387 00:18:36.880 --> 00:18:38.839 and we're not gonna keep like going back and forth. 388 00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:42.480 So sometimes it's just about taking as quickly as you 389 00:18:42.559 --> 00:18:45.519 can action towards the thing that you need to do 390 00:18:45.720 --> 00:18:47.000 and allow it to be messy. 391 00:18:47.160 --> 00:18:48.519 It does not need to be perfect. 392 00:18:48.599 --> 00:18:52.319 Bringing it to the next thing is doing the thing 393 00:18:52.559 --> 00:18:54.720 even if you don't feel like doing it. Again, I've 394 00:18:54.759 --> 00:18:57.400 kind of already been talking about this, but something I 395 00:18:57.480 --> 00:19:00.000 really try to remind myself is is doing a little 396 00:19:00.000 --> 00:19:02.799 litle bit is better than nothing. So even if I 397 00:19:02.839 --> 00:19:05.720 really don't feel like I really want to go to 398 00:19:05.720 --> 00:19:07.759 the gym, like I remember in the morning this morning, 399 00:19:07.759 --> 00:19:09.559 I was thinking about working out, and I was like, 400 00:19:09.599 --> 00:19:13.119 you know what what I actually do is I try 401 00:19:13.119 --> 00:19:15.079