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Speaker 1: I don't think that we realize y'all, this is just

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a social construct, and it's actually science. Men that earn

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lower than you are in far more of a position

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to take. I literally have a real right now going

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viral where I'm being scandalized on the internet child for

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telling women to never date a man that makes significantly

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less than you. The women that I know that got

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a man, a man got a car in they name,

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they didn't let the man on the least that a

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person that moved in. They left bankrupt with nothing but

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a headache and a court case. Okay, taking these people

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to court trying to figure stuff out. Men that are

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equally yoped financially are less likely to do that to you.

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I'm telling you asks the girls call one woman that

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you know that they did a broke man and a

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man that they did significantly less than her. I promise you.

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These were the ones that were scandalous. They were the

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ones that was taken. They were the ones that's drained them.

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They were the ones that they built up their life

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and ended up with nothing. They didn't put these men

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on and showed them. They didn't even know where the

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oyster was until they met that girl, And now all

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of a sudden they out they didn't cheated on them,

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broke up with them, and they out with somebody else.

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I'm telling you it's absolutely nothing wrong. Finances are included

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in being equally yoke. Hey y'all, welcome back to Dear

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to See It. No longer was it done a little

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bit last week. Let me see all those babies. I

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was under the weather. I'm talking about under the weather,

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under under under bey, under the ground, laid out, no energy, fatigue.

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All right, but I'm back. I'm back. I'm back. I'm back.

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We're gonna get right until we got some subscription reminders

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twenty and well, well, well we have ten k subscribers. Hallelujah, Amen,

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thank y'all, so so so so much. I knew, I

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knew we would get there. Look back then, they didn't

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want us. Now I'm hot. Look, hey, y'all held me down,

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and I'm so so so so proud, so thank you

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to all of my subscribers. I still gottaet y'all a name.

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I still gotta give my little you know, I gotta

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get my people a name. AnyWho, let's get into a

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little bit of a review. Girl, I've been following your

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content for years. I was always wishing for you to

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have a pod because I needed more of you. I

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didn't know you did until months after you started this,

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so I was having fomo but realized i'd been more.

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I hadn't been I had more to listen to. I've

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been enjoying catching up to all the episodes. You are

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so necessary. Thanks for always telling those hard truths our

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girls needs to hear. Hoping you have all the success

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and deserve all the success you deserve. I love you,

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Oh love you, bag love you mean it. That was

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so cute. Thank you so much to the meses. Okay,

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perfect voicemail number one? How do I date without dating

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from loneliness?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: There to see you? I am wondering two things. I'm

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originally from Colorado, I moved to the DMV. I am

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moving to Columbus, Ohio in just a couple of weeks,

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and I just want to know, how do I date intentionally?

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I'm moving there for my dream job. I don't know anyone,

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I don't have any family there, And I think I

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did the same thing when I moved to the DMV,

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and it got me in a lot of trouble because

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I ended up really dating from a place of loneliness,

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and I really want to date from a place of confidence.

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Speaker 2: This new city.

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Speaker 3: So how do I do that and not just try

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to like fill a void because I'm new in town

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and not letting like nerves or loneliness like push me

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into the wrong situationships. I'm also wondering is it appropriate

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this new like dream job is a significant pay raise,

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money in a place where people don't necessarily make a

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lot of money, And I'm just wondering, is it appropriate

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to date from that perspective of if I have it,

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I can require somebody else to have because I have it,

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thirty five years, and so I'm like, well, maybe there's

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some logic to that, but I just want to know

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your thoughts. Thank you so much for the podcast. I

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know that everybody who listens appreciated it, appreciates it. It

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is like a game changer.

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Speaker 1: So so so, I have so many things to say

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about this. First of all, y'all know a little Adhd Briant.

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that people really don't want to accept or realize, is

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that women cannot have the things that they ask for.

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I don't care what nobody say. Women cannot actually have

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the things that they ask for and require of their partner.

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we didn't make the rules. We just play by you, okay.

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Women value stability, protection, being a provider, wisdom, provision, discernment,

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the ability to problem solve, things like that. A lot

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of that, not all of it, but it is rooted

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in what you do for a living, even just how

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you handle your finances, even if it's not that much. Now,

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men require other things, and so I personally believe that

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not have myself. And I don't care what nobody says,

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I don't care what anybody says. I feel like men

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wear what they have more and then be mad when

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women got their handout. Women are nurturers, where someone that

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is patient, We're feminine, we're solved, We're like that's more

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so in the woman category and men. I feel like

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a man's dating profile, you're going to see some of

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the things that they have, and that is how they

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attract women. So I don't care when nobody say I'm team.

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I don't have to have what I ask for. Period.

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for a man to upgrade down. What is so wrong

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with that? And where did we go wrong? All of

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a sudden, men and women are playing the same game.

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It's like we bros or competitors. It's like I'm not

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trying to thump my wallet with you, Okay, that is

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not my currency. And I don't see what is the

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issue with women wanting, desiring, and requiring that their partner

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have things that they do not have. Like I'm not

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a man, I'm not a man. I don't it's not

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my job to like compete with you financially. I do.

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I can see how men would feel like, well, why

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are you requiring that standard of me if you don't

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have those things yourself, Like, it seems kind of shallow.

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would want, Like I would want my partner to to

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possibly earn more. We can be neck and neck on

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that I would want him to earn more. I just

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think I would want him to be more resourceful. I

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would want him to have just more like insider access

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to things that I don't have access to. And I

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think that this is just an old, old trope that

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needs to go away. It never used to be like that.

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look the big poppers of our time. They were upgrad.

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They were taking bitches out of section eight. Okay, they

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were taking these girls out the projects and putting them

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in mink coats, giving them a car. What hello, dear lord,

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these men, you sit down here. We need a new shipment.

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I don't know what's going on. It never used to

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be like that. It never ever ever used to be

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like that, So I don't know what's going on. To

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the point that not everybody walking on eggshells. The girls

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out here walking on eggshells because we can't say nothing.

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can't say we want a six figure arnold. We can't

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say we want a six pack. We can't say we

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want no damn kids. We can't say it's just a

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free for all. What happened to having actual standards? And literally,

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I'm telling you and a man didn't have no problem

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doing it. They were proud. What happened to the pride?

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of the bravado that they had. Like they was walking

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on the streets like, yeah, you know what I'm saying,

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I'm dating Shorty off the corner of Boombomba. I didn't

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bought her this, I got her that. And they was

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taking care of kids that wasn't even theirs. I don't please,

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can I just like teleport to the good old days,

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back in the day, because I don't know where we

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got this from. Now these men want you to thump

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Wallace with them. I never understood it. So I said

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all that that was a long way of saying, I

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think it's absolutely positively okay for you to increase what

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you want because you now increase. Your income has now increased.

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a social construct, and it's actually science. Men that earn

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lower than you are in far more of a position

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to take. I literally have a real right now going

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viral where I'm being scandalized on the internet child for

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telling women to never date a man that makes significantly

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less than you. The women that I know that got

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a man a man got a car in their name,

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they didn't let the man on the least that a

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person had moved in. They left bankrupt with nothing but

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a headache and a court case. Okay, taking these people

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to court trying to figure stuff out. Men that are

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equally yoped financially are less likely to do that to you.

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you know that they did a broke man and a

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man that they did significantly less than her. I promise you,

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these were the ones that were scandalous. They were the

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ones that was taken. They were the ones that's drained them.

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and ended up with nothing. They didn't put these men

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on and showed them they didn't even know where the

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oyster was until they met that girl. And now all

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of a sudden they out they didn't cheated on them,

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broke up with them, and they out with somebody else.

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I'm telling you, it's absolutely nothing wrong. Finances are included

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in being equally yoke. And a person wrote under the

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comments that I'm being scandalized on chiall and she said, no,

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was it he? Actually he said, equally yoked is about

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morals and ethics. It's not about financing you a goddamn lie.

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It absolutely is about finances when you will start to

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resent somebody that cannot afford the type of lifestyle that

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you want. And we have to start now. I don't

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know if this woman sounded a black person, but we

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have to stop like not even allowing black women in

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particular to have the same smile on their face. Nobody's

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having these conversations. Girl. If you making a cute coin,

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he should be making a cute coin. Because now you

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gotta worry about no bums. You gotta worry about no

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man on your couch trying to take from you, gotta

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worry about no man eating your friend, your kids, fruit snacks.

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You don't have to worry about any of that, and

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this person can actually put you onto something because they're

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living a equitable lifestyle. Period. Absolutely, time to play ball

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up the ante. The first part about this that she

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said was that, you know, dating out of loneliness. That

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actually was what the question was about before I went

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on my rant, dating out of loneliness. Literally, I know

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this sounds so simple, but we have to get you

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out of being lonely. This is just baseline. This means

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fulfilling your life with friends, hobbies, traveling, all of that

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kind of stuff. And y'all know I always say, you

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cannot get this energy past them. This has to be

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a real thing. You cannot be sticky note and seeing

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all these affirmations about I'm smart, I'm beautiful, I am kind,

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and you're not actually living it in your real life.

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You have to truly be happy on the inside. And

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I'm telling you that energy will glean out. And if

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you try to fake it and you up on the

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internet talk about some on we outside and you posting

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this other man's arm to get back at somebody, that

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the men will your bluff. Trust me, you cannot get

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it past them. You're trying to actually exude the energy

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that you are doing well and really really well. So

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the final thing about this is that we need to

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get you out of being loneliness. You can date being

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lonely if you're not actually lonely, if you get what

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I'm saying, because you're like, I don't want to date

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out of a deficit. I don't want to date just

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because I want to date out of loneliness, and I

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just attract any old thing. You have to actually occupy

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your time and focus on the things that really make

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you happy so that you actually are happy, and that

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is the energy that you're gonna put out, and that

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is that those are the type of man that you

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are going to attract. Lastly, girl, as a fellow Midwesterner, Okay,

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I'm a Chicagoan baby. If you do decide to get

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on the apps, please change your pin, play around a

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little bit, trust me because Ohio, he's on a Cincinnatiah. Listen,

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there's some black folk out there. There's a diverse community.

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But I really think that, like if you got that

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type of cash where you said that the people they're

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not really earning that much. I got a friend nowt

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in New Orleans. I've been telling her this as well,

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ain't no money out there. Start moving your pin, and

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I mean that, move that pin right over that water,

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right over the look to Byue to Houston. Okay, that's

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where you need to be. Please make it your business

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to start doing things in the area. Go to Chicago

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for the taste of Chicago. Go to Chicago for both seeing.

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Go to Detroit. Go to different places that have a

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bigger population, that are a little high. The economy is

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a little bit better. I'm telling you. I'm telling you

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ain't nothing worse than you trying to date at that

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level of income. And the men ain't got the money AnyWho.

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That's my advice. We have to truly get you out

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of loneliness. And it's absolutely nothing wrong with expecting more.

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Your daddy was right, trust him. It's nothing wrong with that.

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If you get more, you should want more, period and

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you voicemail number two do I owe him an explanation.

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Speaker 2: There to see you first and foremost, girl, Thank you,

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thank you, thank you for all that you do. The

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work you do is so necessary, like you, argue my

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best friend in my head. So this has been a

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feel real natural saying all of this to you for

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your thanks. But so I met this guy. Last week

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I kind of shot my shot at him because I'm

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like that, I go for what I want. And overall

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we've been texting great conversation. Really seemed to be in

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alignment with so many things. It seemed like something worth

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my time. He checks all my boxes physically, mentally, emotionally,

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or so I thought. But last night I flagged on him.

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He handled it very well. But you know, we talked

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on the phone for the first time. I'm kind of

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happy we did before I met him in person. So

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during the conversation, he brought up a sensitive topic. I

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won't really elaborate or harp on that, but it's something

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that's really important to me. And in the midst of

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him bringing that topic of he was really being the

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meaning and dismissive. He was being reductive and I didn't

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like it. But he also wouldn't let me speak. He

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kept talking over me. That's an actual trigger for me.

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And now I'm kind of feeling like I need to

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just cut it off, nip it in the butt, right

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that makes the most sense. I'm just not sure how

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to go about it. I really suck at ending things,

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so on some insight on if I owe him an

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explanation if I should just walk away silently irish exity

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be avoided. I don't know any help.

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Speaker 1: First of all, let's just say that that was a

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blessing that you flaked on him and you had to

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talk to him on the phone. Okay, that I tell

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women all the time, do not let a man text

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you all day long. Hop on the phone with him.

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You can learn so many things about a man by

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being on the phone. I'm talking about tone. You can

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hear all the activity in the background. You can see

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how he treats people if he's saying thank you, yes sir, yes, ma'am.

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You can see how he talked them to his kids.

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You can see how he talked them to that dang

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on dog. Okay. You can find out so much more

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their sense of humor, their tone, their sarcasm. You cannot

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get that through a text message. So I personally think

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that this is a blessing in disguise that you had

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to hop on the phone with him before you went out. Now,

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the cutting off thing and the way that he demeaned

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what a sense of topic that you cared about. Let

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me tell you this. Welcome to the world of dating, y'all.

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This is why I tell women all the time, don't

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go off that checklist. Don't go off the checklist, because

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you have to see how people are living in their

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real life. I've talked to women They're like, oh, well

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he checks off my he checks off all the things

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on my lists. Okay, well what was on your list?

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He's a sixth figure earner, he's success, he's going well

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for himself. But he's stingy. He's stingy, and he's frugal

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and almost like puppeteers money, like you gotta beg for

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you gotta jump through hoops, you gotta you know, there's

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resentment behind the stingy, right, and I think a lot

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of us forget that. Another thing was like, oh, well,

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you know he believes in God. He has not been

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to church, He does not read his Bible, he ain't

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going to Bible study and not ain't trying to be funny,

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but believing in God is nowhere near evident in his life.

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How is this person reenacting what they say that they believe.

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How are the things that you identified about this man,

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how are they benefiting you? And where can you see

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it seamlessly sowing back into your life? If a person

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has everything on their checklist. They can have that and

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you will never reap it. You will never reap it.

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This is why instead of going for how much they are,

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go for general somebody that is resourceful, trust me, trust me.

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So that's just I'm glad you found all this out.

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I'm glad you found all this out out because that

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is really honestly about character, because it's not about you

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agreeing with him. You are both agreeing with each other.

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This is about the way that he handled the topic, right.

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I think that we don't do enough work with really

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looking at those first initial signs. I think that someone

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that comes off demeaning and cutting you off is indicative

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of somebody that has a short fuse. A man. Y'all

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think I'm crazy, and I promise you I don't care.

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A man that cannot let you speak and a man

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that is demeaning and degrading to me is the same

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type of man to put your hand put his hands

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on you call me a lunatic. I'm telling you these

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are the same. They're cousins of characteristics of a man

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that has vis behavior in a short fuse. I'm not

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telling you what I heard. I'm telling you what I know,

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because in this age that we're in, you should be

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able to calmly have a conversation with somebody, especially somebody

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that you know for one week. He's telling you everything

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that you need to know. I think that you actually

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could very well have a conversation with him. I would say,

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you know, it's been really nice getting to know you

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over this past week. I do have some concerns which

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has led me to not want to move forward with you.

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I really value a partner who will create a space

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where it's safe for both of us to speak our

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opinions even when we don't agree. I also value a

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partner who is open minded and that I can safely

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share my opinions without feeling to mean disrespected or that

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person even getting defensive. With that being said, I'm not

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sure that we are quite compatible and I wish you

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the best. And that's on period. Point in the blank. Okay,

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run the take back when this episode, come back and

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write it down so you can give your exit speech

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to this man. Okay, no way, Jose, we don't listen

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to the signs before this is going to come out

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in so many parts of the relationship, and I want

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to be clear that this does not mean that you

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don't know how to work with somebody, that you're not

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willing to work with someone, and that they have to

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come already made. But in this day and age and

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this economy, with all this stuff that's going on, y'all

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know what I'm to talk about. Wink wink the files. Okay,

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mister Combs, all the people. You cannot play these kind

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of games with these men. I'm telling you that is

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to me, it is dangerous behavior, and I wish that

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more women found that stuff out. I don't think that

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it's worthy in that this is not like a boyfriend

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of yours or your fiance. You're in marriage counseling or

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premieral counseling and you're trying to like really kind of

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knock the edge off of some kind of bad behaviors.

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This is a man that you've met in one week,

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and I would never tell you to make that kind

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of investment on his quite frank anger issues. He has

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a short fuse. He has a short fuse, and I

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would be I'm very vigilant of how men speak to me.

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He didn't create a safe space. I could only imagine

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about more serious topics how he will respond to you

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and after one week leave it at that. And I'm

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gonna tell you this is this is the last thing

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that I'm gonna say. I'm gonna tell you this. As

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much as I am a proponent of women making themselves

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accessible and kind of like slightly shooting a shot, being

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close enough sparking up a conversation, I am going to

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tell you that I have done the research and the data.

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The men that I shot my shot at softly, they

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never were the ones I'm telling you. I'm telling you

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the aura and the energy that you get from a

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guy that you pulled up on, versus the when you say, oh,

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that's just because you know I shot my shot at him,

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because that's just how I do. Maybe in twenty twenty six, Sis,

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we could start making some changes. I'm telling you. I'm

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telling you the arrogance, the the anger. It's the reason

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why that man probably was out somewhere or sitting at

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the bar or child you what, however you connected with him.

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The energy of these men that you approach. I'm telling you, Sis,

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please just take my advice on this one little thing.

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Let these men approach you. You can get close, you can

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start up a conversation. Simple as going to a bar,

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a lounge, whatever the case may be, go watch the

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game or fight party. He'd be like, oh, are you

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drinking whiskey or is that bourbon? Simple if he don't

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take the alley hoop and ask for your number and

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call you and blah blah blah, that's on him. Stop

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SHOOTINGO shot at these men, every single man that I

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have shot my shot at the last I learned my

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lesson quick. The last man I shot my shot at.

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And this was not no me just trying to be

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I pulled up on him in my vehicle. I was

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at a fight party. He was looking at me. I

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was looking at him. We walked out together, and when

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we walked out, I was just like, oh, dang, I

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gonna get a chance to talk to him. Ain't gonna

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say that. I ain't gonna say nothing. But when I

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walked when we walked out, he did not get in

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his car. I said, bet, this is my chance, because

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he was sending outside side his truck, but he didn't

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get in. I got in my vehicle, came in and

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pulled rolled down on one door. I said, why you

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ain't say nothing inside? Checkmate? Like literally basket went in.

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This man had five children, three baby mamas, was still

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dealing with the ex wife I'm talking about like cole

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parents and sleeping in her bed and calling me from

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her bed. It was absolutely insane. Watch the men. Did

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you shoot your shot at? That's all I'm gonna say.

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The data shows even when you look at apps like Bumble,

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the energy once you gotta put yourself out there first

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is completely different. I'm trying to I ain't tell you

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what I heard. I'm telling you what I know. Stop

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shooting your shot? AnyWho? Voicemail number three? How do I

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have genuine guy friends without them catching feelings? Huh?

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Speaker 4: Bear to see you, Hi. I just had a quick question.

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I want to know how do I go about guy friendships? Like,

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I don't have any guy friends, and I would like some.

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I think it's very healthy to have guy friends in

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your life, you know, not just only females. So how

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do I go about it? Is it the same way

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I would go about you know, like meeting a female friends.

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Is it the same way or is it a little

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different because they're guys. I just I'm just so tired

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of trying to be friends with guys and they end

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up liking you, and it's like, no, relax, like I

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just want to be friends. I just want to be cool.

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Speaker 1: This this thing was literally going good.

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Speaker 4: Now you like me, Like, nah, it's like just throwing

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the whole thing off, So just let me know how

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do I go about it. I just, like I said,

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this would love some genuine guy friends. And also I

472
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love your podcast. I know you hear that so much,

473
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:28,519
but it really literally is something like I feel like

474
00:26:28,519 --> 00:26:31,200
you got something here, and every time you're talking, I'm like,

475
00:26:31,319 --> 00:26:33,839
oh yeah, I'm agreeing with you, saying stuff with you.

476
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:37,119
At the same time, your podcast is the vibe. Okay,

477
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:39,240
thank you, Thank you Darling.

478
00:26:39,319 --> 00:26:43,119
Speaker 1: That was very very sweet of you. I personally, all

479
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:47,039
of the male friends that I have, they are I'm

480
00:26:47,039 --> 00:26:49,359
talking about if I called them and said I ain't

481
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,519
got my money for my rent, their money to being

482
00:26:51,559 --> 00:26:54,559
my account in five minutes. If I called them and

483
00:26:54,559 --> 00:26:56,680
said I was on the side of the rod if

484
00:26:56,720 --> 00:27:00,440
I needed a favor, and I feel like how I

485
00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:03,720
met them was in more so like a place of service,

486
00:27:03,799 --> 00:27:07,720
if that makes any sense. This was not me out

487
00:27:07,799 --> 00:27:11,119
at a bar and exchanging phone numbers, right, This was

488
00:27:11,319 --> 00:27:16,519
like genuine friendship of them helping me out with something,

489
00:27:16,839 --> 00:27:20,640
talking to them about other guys and my relationships, things

490
00:27:20,720 --> 00:27:24,559
like that, like somebody genuinely coming into my life trying

491
00:27:24,599 --> 00:27:27,920
to almost like brother me, if that makes any sense.

492
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:30,200
I don't have any brothers, so almost kind of like

493
00:27:30,319 --> 00:27:34,559
brother me. That has been the way that I have

494
00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:39,599
found friends in safe circles, like friends circles, people that

495
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:44,200
you're around, families. Also, like coworkers. A lot of coworkers

496
00:27:44,279 --> 00:27:46,920
end up turning into like a brother male friend type

497
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:49,440
of thing. I think I always try to make sure

498
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:53,359
that I'm just not giving off I'm open, I'm single,

499
00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:57,559
I'm available kind of vibes. And that's honestly kind of sticky.

500
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:00,519
It's like what is that even? What is that even

501
00:28:00,559 --> 00:28:02,559
look like? But I think, you know, like the guys

502
00:28:02,559 --> 00:28:04,200
that you fate tried to talk to but then they

503
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:06,720
turn into a brother that now that's your brother, No,

504
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:10,559
that's that's not your brother, right, So I think that

505
00:28:10,680 --> 00:28:13,799
for me, it's just like letting First of all, you

506
00:28:13,839 --> 00:28:15,839
have to be in environments where you can like meet

507
00:28:15,839 --> 00:28:18,839
these guys and be around them, but also like letting

508
00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:20,880
them show up in a plate, in a in a

509
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:24,000
place of service, in a space of service. I think

510
00:28:24,039 --> 00:28:27,720
that that's how I've met most of my guy friends,

511
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:31,160
most of my god friends, and I think that you'll

512
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:35,720
know if it's genuine. Just give it a little time,

513
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:38,400
and you will know that it's like not some man

514
00:28:38,599 --> 00:28:41,279
trying to slick get close enough to you so that

515
00:28:41,319 --> 00:28:44,279
they can so that they can slide. And I honestly

516
00:28:44,319 --> 00:28:46,359
test this, like I talk to my god friends about

517
00:28:46,359 --> 00:28:48,519
men that I'm dating. I talk to them like I

518
00:28:48,640 --> 00:28:50,799
just they talk to me about women that they're dating.

519
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:54,359
We talk about family. We also like vulnerable and crying

520
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:58,960
together at any time that they ever said anything flirty

521
00:28:59,079 --> 00:29:02,799
or like they automatically in the other department. My guy

522
00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:06,000
friends never tried to flirt with me. I'm serious, and

523
00:29:06,039 --> 00:29:10,480
these are y'all from Nate would love guy friend, guy friend,

524
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,440
one of my closest guy friends. Never tried to pull

525
00:29:13,519 --> 00:29:18,319
No shady stuff, not know, you know, flirty stuff, not

526
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:22,319
sending me inappropriate text messages, not trying to slide, nothing

527
00:29:22,519 --> 00:29:25,920
like that. We're talking about genuine friendships, So I think

528
00:29:26,039 --> 00:29:29,079
like setting boundaries and really getting to know that person

529
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:33,480
and being genuine also setting up what your guy friends

530
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:35,400
were going to look like because you are going to

531
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:38,839
be engaged one day married possibly that those could be

532
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:41,640
possibilities for you. So I think that since it's something

533
00:29:41,680 --> 00:29:44,119
that's intentional for you, make sure that you setting it

534
00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:48,799
up appropriately, if that makes any sense, Make sure that

535
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:51,359
you setting it up right, because you don't want to

536
00:29:51,559 --> 00:29:53,519
get married one day and then now you got to

537
00:29:53,559 --> 00:29:55,839
cut all these men off because they really weren't friends

538
00:29:55,839 --> 00:29:58,319
and they just it's just weird and that man don't

539
00:29:58,359 --> 00:30:00,640
know your husband, or he don't feel comfortable meeting your husband.

540
00:30:00,640 --> 00:30:02,839
It is just weird kind of stuff, right, Like, you

541
00:30:02,880 --> 00:30:05,400
want to make sure that it's a relationship that could

542
00:30:05,759 --> 00:30:09,480
transcend different areas of your life and grow into somebody

543
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:12,559
that your husband would even like or you know, want

544
00:30:12,559 --> 00:30:14,240
to hang out with. Or they can be a brother.

545
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:15,920
You know, he could be a brother to you know,

546
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,200
your husband and stuff like that. So think about those

547
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:20,240
things in the future. But girl, look, let these men

548
00:30:20,319 --> 00:30:23,839
show up. Let them little sister you okay, let them

549
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:27,200
be resourceful, let them be a listening ear and cut

550
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:29,960
off all the other rigamarole and the moment that they

551
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:34,319
cross a boundary, pun you gone. Period. Anyways, that's my advice.

552
00:30:36,279 --> 00:30:40,400
My favorite favorite segment is y'all know, to see it

553
00:30:40,519 --> 00:30:43,839
you smell good, doing a little rebranding here, Okay, to

554
00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:46,640
see it you smell good, like I'm trying to get

555
00:30:46,759 --> 00:30:48,960
right with the lord, y'all. We'll talk about this one day.

556
00:30:48,960 --> 00:30:52,920
We're gonna talk about my slight rebranding soft launch that

557
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,920
I have going on. Okay, but anyways, to see a

558
00:30:56,000 --> 00:31:01,000
you smell good segments we are doing. This is actually

559
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:06,720
a refiel, y'all. This is alien mugler. Muglare mugler. Y'all know, pronunciation.

560
00:31:06,839 --> 00:31:11,720
Police will be blacked. Okay, this is a og. This

561
00:31:11,759 --> 00:31:15,160
is alien goddess. Y'all know, like alien got a few,

562
00:31:15,559 --> 00:31:19,359
a few little variations, but this is alien goddess. This

563
00:31:19,480 --> 00:31:22,559
if you are amber floral, if you're an amber floral girl,

564
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:26,240
amber floral like white florals, So this is it's in

565
00:31:26,279 --> 00:31:31,920
the amber floral family. The top notes coconut, water, bergamont.

566
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:37,799
The hard notes are jasmine, grandiflorium, hellotrope, and then our

567
00:31:37,839 --> 00:31:41,119
base notes are bourbon, vanilla and cashimira. When I tell

568
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:45,799
y'all this is smooth, this smells like old money. Baby,

569
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:52,880
It smells like it smells like linen, linen, like just

570
00:31:52,920 --> 00:32:00,160
imagine POV. It's like white soft linen, linen, almost like

571
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:07,640
a cherry blossom. Vibes like really pure, clean, comfy, cozy

572
00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:15,400
kind of smell. This is the refill, y'all. That'll lets

573
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:18,079
you know how much I wear this fragrance. The bottle

574
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:19,880
is gone. This is the reef it supposed to pour

575
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:24,079
into the bottle. If you're a white floral kind of girl,

576
00:32:24,559 --> 00:32:26,680
you'll love it. If not, you'll probably think it maybe

577
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:31,599
smells a little grandma ish. But I love a few

578
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:34,119
other aliens. The one that's in a purple bottle. I

579
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:39,039
can't think of the name of it. It's just alien, classic,

580
00:32:39,319 --> 00:32:42,799
classic classics. So AnyWho, I'm telling y'all, and let me

581
00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:44,759
sell you this. Y'all can get this. They be telling

582
00:32:44,799 --> 00:32:49,759
this TJ Max Burlington, A Ross. Okay, you can get

583
00:32:49,759 --> 00:32:53,160
this for a cute little sixty seventy five dollars. They

584
00:32:53,160 --> 00:32:55,319
do sell it them Macy's and stuff like that. But look,

585
00:32:55,400 --> 00:32:58,960
you can find this on the low, on the low. Okay. Anyways,

586
00:32:59,079 --> 00:33:03,200
y'all love love, love, love love that fragrance. All right,

587
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:07,680
so we have our red flag report. We're not together,

588
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:14,279
but don't play with him. After weeks of speculation following

589
00:33:14,319 --> 00:33:18,519
the Super Bowl, Cardi b has officially confirmed that she

590
00:33:18,799 --> 00:33:23,039
and Stefan Diggs are no longer together. The rumors started

591
00:33:23,079 --> 00:33:26,880
when fans noticed they unfollow each other on Instagram. Then

592
00:33:27,039 --> 00:33:31,200
came the energy shift. When asked for an inspiring message

593
00:33:31,279 --> 00:33:34,599
before the big game, Cardi simply said good luck and

594
00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:36,799
walked off. I saw that. I saw that club good

595
00:33:36,839 --> 00:33:39,920
luck and walked off. At the Super Bowl, she appeared

596
00:33:40,039 --> 00:33:43,519
during the halftime show, but wasn't visibly supporting Diggs the

597
00:33:43,559 --> 00:33:45,759
way she had in the passenger. She had them jerseys

598
00:33:45,759 --> 00:33:49,920
on and everything child she didn't have a lick a

599
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:53,920
paraphernilia on. Then, during a rap beef moment with Bea,

600
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:59,799
who took a jab at Diggs multiple children, Carti addressed

601
00:33:59,839 --> 00:34:03,200
it head on doing her tour stop. Just because I

602
00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:05,880
ain't effing with my baby daddy doesn't mean you get

603
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:09,320
to talk about my baby daddy. That confirmed the breakup,

604
00:34:09,800 --> 00:34:13,039
but it also confirmed something else. She may not be

605
00:34:13,119 --> 00:34:16,559
with him, but she's still protecting him. Now here's where

606
00:34:16,599 --> 00:34:21,840
the red flag conversation comes up. This relationship moved fast

607
00:34:22,079 --> 00:34:25,079
public in spring twenty twenty five. Hard launched by Summer

608
00:34:25,159 --> 00:34:29,440
Baby in November, uh split by February. That's a lot

609
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:32,840
of major changes in under a year, under heavy public

610
00:34:32,880 --> 00:34:36,679
pressure and controversy. Even after the breakup, Cardi is drawing

611
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:40,119
a hard line around how he's discussed. On one hand,

612
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,599
that could be maturity and co parenting solidarity. On the

613
00:34:43,639 --> 00:34:47,119
other hand, it raises a question about emotional closure. When

614
00:34:47,159 --> 00:34:51,840
you're no longer with someone but still fiercely defending them publicly,

615
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:56,760
is that healthy boundaries or is it a sign the

616
00:34:56,880 --> 00:35:03,440
emotional core hasn't fully been cut. When a relationship escalates

617
00:35:03,519 --> 00:35:08,719
quickly public passion, protective, then over within months, is the

618
00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:12,599
red flag the breakup? Or is it how fast everything

619
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:17,000
accelerated before the foundation had time to stabilize. And if

620
00:35:17,039 --> 00:35:20,519
you're not effing with somebody anymore but still emotionally protect

621
00:35:20,519 --> 00:35:25,440
them over them, is that growth or unfinished attachment? So

622
00:35:25,559 --> 00:35:33,440
many things happening here, Carti. I actually love Cardi b

623
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,719
I love her, and she's on tour. Let me tell

624
00:35:36,719 --> 00:35:40,000
you this, the clips I've seen of the tour, I

625
00:35:40,039 --> 00:35:41,800
may have to get a ticket. I may have to

626
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:44,880
get a ticket. I have been just like I think

627
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:47,719
that this is just like her Rah Raw moment people

628
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:50,159
counted her out people was like, I know, you didn't

629
00:35:50,159 --> 00:35:52,679
go get knocked up by this man while you're still

630
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:57,079
technically married. Supposedly people really counting her out. And I

631
00:35:57,119 --> 00:35:59,960
think that like man like, I really relate a lot

632
00:36:00,079 --> 00:36:03,400
lots to just like New York women. They always say

633
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:07,440
like Chicago girls are the soft version of New York women.

634
00:36:07,679 --> 00:36:10,480
And I just feel like Cardi she always been a

635
00:36:10,559 --> 00:36:15,800
dog about hers like she has been grinding for so long,

636
00:36:16,119 --> 00:36:19,360
and I just love to me how humble she is,

637
00:36:19,679 --> 00:36:22,039
but how she really be in her bag. One, I

638
00:36:22,079 --> 00:36:24,119
don't know, nobody want to be in a beef with

639
00:36:24,559 --> 00:36:27,480
Cardi B. You don't want to She's coming, You go low,

640
00:36:27,559 --> 00:36:30,039
She going to hell. Cardi is coming for the juggler.

641
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:36,000
So a few things. I feel like, personally, I'm kind

642
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:39,360
of widow when she right. Just because I broke up

643
00:36:39,400 --> 00:36:42,880
with him, don't mean that you could just start slating

644
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:46,039
around my baby daddy. Now, I think that it's also

645
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:51,800
industry person to industry person to us outsiders. It we're

646
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:55,880
not in that industry. So that's just imagine. Just imagine

647
00:36:55,920 --> 00:37:01,480
you're in a small little niche, for example, like fashion stylists,

648
00:37:01,599 --> 00:37:04,000
and then one fashion styles be like, oh yeah, you

649
00:37:04,039 --> 00:37:07,599
see da how day they style endya? It was terrible,

650
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:11,119
Like it's a small niche when you talk about these

651
00:37:11,159 --> 00:37:15,239
industry folk, these singers and these rappers. Yeah, I think

652
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:18,800
I would stand ten toes about mine as well. It's like,

653
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,360
why are you in our business? Did you used to

654
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:23,400
date him or something? Because you talk about how many

655
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:25,480
kids he got and stuff like that. It's like, watch

656
00:37:25,519 --> 00:37:28,159
your mouth, watch them out. I don't know, I'll call

657
00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:29,960
me talk. I think I will. I think I would

658
00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:33,920
have said something too, because again that's a colleague of hers.

659
00:37:34,559 --> 00:37:36,880
Watch your mouth. You can't just go out here talking

660
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:39,000
about people, baby dady, you think people aint gonna clamp back,

661
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:42,760
regardless if she with them or not. Now we all

662
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:46,159
know that CARTI God bless her. You know, may give

663
00:37:46,199 --> 00:37:49,679
people a little chance, you know, a couple chances as

664
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:54,159
well as that it's probably not quite over right. You

665
00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:57,440
have a new baby with him, And she said, even

666
00:37:57,480 --> 00:37:59,840
though I'm not messing with him right now. Then I

667
00:38:00,119 --> 00:38:04,960
heard that somebody showed up with all types of flowers

668
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:08,199
and stuff blongs like, you know, it's just a breakup, y'all.

669
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:11,199
It's just a breakup. Do I think that he's the

670
00:38:11,199 --> 00:38:16,880
one for her. I do not I really want more

671
00:38:17,519 --> 00:38:23,000
for Carti. I think that Carti is genuinely a love girl.

672
00:38:23,599 --> 00:38:26,840
Carti is a lover girl, and she put it all

673
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:31,800
on the floor, and I think that I didn't really see. Now,

674
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:35,400
granted she was married to Offset, I don't really think

675
00:38:35,519 --> 00:38:39,960
that the love and connection was as deep. I just

676
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:43,239
think a child came from it. I don't really get

677
00:38:43,280 --> 00:38:47,320
the vibe that is just some deep, dark love with

678
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:51,079
Stefan Diggs. I do think that he just has a

679
00:38:51,119 --> 00:38:53,920
lot going on and I just want I just want

680
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:55,960
more for her, right. I do know that in the

681
00:38:56,119 --> 00:38:59,480
industry it is a little bit more acceptable to have

682
00:38:59,599 --> 00:39:04,280
all these kids and stuff by people Bokardi, it's time

683
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:09,119
to dust yourself off. Okay of rusty, crusty dusties. Okay,

684
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:11,280
you don't need don't even got a baby that's ball

685
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:17,719
infinite as well. You don't need somebody that's reproducing at

686
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:21,159
the rate of a bunny rabbit. Okay. You want him

687
00:39:21,199 --> 00:39:24,159
to have discernment, You want him to have kuth, you

688
00:39:24,199 --> 00:39:27,000
want him to have class, Okay, you want him to

689
00:39:27,039 --> 00:39:31,320
be particular. Just because someone is in the industry doesn't

690
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:34,239
mean that their name have to be all over the

691
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:37,639
Internet and all over with all these girls like you

692
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:41,159
deserve somebody, a man of class, step it up a

693
00:39:41,199 --> 00:39:43,920
little bit. Pull a Tiana Taylor. You know, even though

694
00:39:43,960 --> 00:39:46,000
they broke up, but pull a Tianna Taylor. You know

695
00:39:46,159 --> 00:39:50,079
what's a guy name errands Pi Aaron Pierre. That's move off.

696
00:39:50,559 --> 00:39:52,400
She that was like a you know what I'm saying.

697
00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:56,039
He wasn't giving rapper. You give what I'm saying, Cardi,

698
00:39:57,360 --> 00:40:00,320
pull a pull a Tiana, pull a Tiana. That's all

699
00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:02,880
I'm gonna say about that. Look, pull Aana, you gotta

700
00:40:03,119 --> 00:40:04,679
go out a little bit out of your comfort zone.

701
00:40:04,679 --> 00:40:07,840
I know you like a little rough around the edges.

702
00:40:08,159 --> 00:40:11,039
I know you like a man with some money, some change,

703
00:40:11,079 --> 00:40:13,199
but you want some being that's gonna be faithful, that's

704
00:40:13,199 --> 00:40:16,239
gonna be committed, that's gonna love and adore you, and

705
00:40:16,280 --> 00:40:19,400
that's not gonna embarrass you. Cardi, Okay, we want more

706
00:40:19,480 --> 00:40:21,880
for you, all right. I love you. I love her,

707
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,760
I love her music, I love her grind and I

708
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:27,039
just I feel like she's an incredible mother. I was

709
00:40:27,079 --> 00:40:29,119
watching an interview with her and she was talking about

710
00:40:29,119 --> 00:40:31,239
how in her house, baby, them kids gotta go to

711
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:33,519
Tuldoring they gotta do all the things that she wasn't

712
00:40:33,559 --> 00:40:34,599
able to do it she don't know how to do.

713
00:40:34,639 --> 00:40:36,480
They gotta learn how to swim, they gotta play piano,

714
00:40:36,519 --> 00:40:38,559
got it. And I just love it. I just love it.

715
00:40:38,599 --> 00:40:41,639
She running a strict program over there, and I just

716
00:40:41,679 --> 00:40:45,320
think that she she's just you know, she just gotta

717
00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:50,000
dust herself off of the dustest okay of the dusties. Anyways,

718
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,960
that's all fold. Thanks for coming back. You know, I

719
00:40:53,039 --> 00:40:55,199
was gone for a little bit, but thanks for coming back.

720
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:56,400
And I will see y'all next.

721
00:40:56,400 --> 00:41:00,719
Speaker 4: Tide A