Speaker 1: I don't think that we realize y'all, this is just
a social construct, and it's actually science. Men that earn
lower than you are in far more of a position
to take. I literally have a real right now going
viral where I'm being scandalized on the internet child for
telling women to never date a man that makes significantly
less than you. The women that I know that got
a man, a man got a car in they name,
they didn't let the man on the least that a
person that moved in. They left bankrupt with nothing but
a headache and a court case. Okay, taking these people
to court trying to figure stuff out. Men that are
equally yoped financially are less likely to do that to you.
I'm telling you asks the girls call one woman that
you know that they did a broke man and a
man that they did significantly less than her. I promise you.
These were the ones that were scandalous. They were the
ones that was taken. They were the ones that's drained them.
They were the ones that they built up their life
and ended up with nothing. They didn't put these men
on and showed them. They didn't even know where the
oyster was until they met that girl, And now all
of a sudden they out they didn't cheated on them,
broke up with them, and they out with somebody else.
I'm telling you it's absolutely nothing wrong. Finances are included
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perfect voicemail number one? How do I date without dating
from loneliness?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: There to see you? I am wondering two things. I'm
originally from Colorado, I moved to the DMV. I am
moving to Columbus, Ohio in just a couple of weeks,
and I just want to know, how do I date intentionally?
I'm moving there for my dream job. I don't know anyone,
I don't have any family there, And I think I
did the same thing when I moved to the DMV,
and it got me in a lot of trouble because
I ended up really dating from a place of loneliness,
and I really want to date from a place of confidence.
Speaker 2: This new city.
Speaker 3: So how do I do that and not just try
to like fill a void because I'm new in town
and not letting like nerves or loneliness like push me
into the wrong situationships. I'm also wondering is it appropriate
this new like dream job is a significant pay raise,
and now I feel like I'm making a lot of
money in a place where people don't necessarily make a
lot of money, And I'm just wondering, is it appropriate
to date from that perspective of if I have it,
I expect this other person to have it, plus some
My dad always told me like, basically, whatever I have,
I can require somebody else to have because I have it,
And him and my mom have been married for over
thirty five years, and so I'm like, well, maybe there's
some logic to that, but I just want to know
your thoughts. Thank you so much for the podcast. I
know that everybody who listens appreciated it, appreciates it. It
is like a game changer.
Speaker 1: So so so, I have so many things to say
about this. First of all, y'all know a little Adhd Briant.
I want to get to one point that she said,
because this is probably one of the most controversial things
that people really don't want to accept or realize, is
that women cannot have the things that they ask for.
I don't care what nobody say. Women cannot actually have
the things that they ask for and require of their partner.
And I think it's for a few reasons. Number one, look,
we didn't make the rules. We just play by you, okay.
Women value stability, protection, being a provider, wisdom, provision, discernment,
the ability to problem solve, things like that. A lot
of that, not all of it, but it is rooted
in what you do for a living, even just how
you handle your finances, even if it's not that much. Now,
men require other things, and so I personally believe that
I have required things out of men that I did
not have myself. And I don't care what nobody says,
I don't care what anybody says. I feel like men
wear what they have more and then be mad when
women got their handout. Women are nurturers, where someone that
is patient, We're feminine, we're solved, We're like that's more
so in the woman category and men. I feel like
even now on these dating apps, if you look at
a man's dating profile, you're going to see some of
the things that they have, and that is how they
attract women. So I don't care when nobody say I'm team.
I don't have to have what I ask for. Period.
I think that we have gotten away from women looking
for a man to upgrade down. What is so wrong
with that? And where did we go wrong? All of
a sudden, men and women are playing the same game.
It's like we bros or competitors. It's like I'm not
trying to thump my wallet with you, Okay, that is
not my currency. And I don't see what is the
issue with women wanting, desiring, and requiring that their partner
have things that they do not have. Like I'm not
a man, I'm not a man. I don't it's not
my job to like compete with you financially. I do.
I can see how men would feel like, well, why
are you requiring that standard of me if you don't
have those things yourself, Like, it seems kind of shallow.
But I think that they are just things that I
would want, Like I would want my partner to to
possibly earn more. We can be neck and neck on
that I would want him to earn more. I just
think I would want him to be more resourceful. I
would want him to have just more like insider access
to things that I don't have access to. And I
think that this is just an old, old trope that
needs to go away. It never used to be like that.
Back in the day the uncles, look the uncles, and
look the big poppers of our time. They were upgrad.
They were taking bitches out of section eight. Okay, they
were taking these girls out the projects and putting them
in mink coats, giving them a car. What hello, dear lord,
these men, you sit down here. We need a new shipment.
I don't know what's going on. It never used to
be like that. It never ever ever used to be
like that, So I don't know what's going on. To
the point that not everybody walking on eggshells. The girls
out here walking on eggshells because we can't say nothing.
We can't say we want six feet no more. We
can't say we want a six figure arnold. We can't
say we want a six pack. We can't say we
want no damn kids. We can't say it's just a
free for all. What happened to having actual standards? And literally,
I'm telling you and a man didn't have no problem
doing it. They were proud. What happened to the pride?
It was a part of their ego, was a part
of the bravado that they had. Like they was walking
on the streets like, yeah, you know what I'm saying,
I'm dating Shorty off the corner of Boombomba. I didn't
bought her this, I got her that. And they was
taking care of kids that wasn't even theirs. I don't please,
can I just like teleport to the good old days,
back in the day, because I don't know where we
got this from. Now these men want you to thump
Wallace with them. I never understood it. So I said
all that that was a long way of saying, I
think it's absolutely positively okay for you to increase what
you want because you now increase. Your income has now increased.
I don't think that we realize, y'all, this is just
a social construct, and it's actually science. Men that earn
lower than you are in far more of a position
to take. I literally have a real right now going
viral where I'm being scandalized on the internet child for
telling women to never date a man that makes significantly
less than you. The women that I know that got
a man a man got a car in their name,
they didn't let the man on the least that a
person had moved in. They left bankrupt with nothing but
a headache and a court case. Okay, taking these people
to court trying to figure stuff out. Men that are
equally yoped financially are less likely to do that to you.
I'm telling you, asks the girls call one woman that
you know that they did a broke man and a
man that they did significantly less than her. I promise you,
these were the ones that were scandalous. They were the
ones that was taken. They were the ones that's drained them.
They were the ones that they built up their life
and ended up with nothing. They didn't put these men
on and showed them they didn't even know where the
oyster was until they met that girl. And now all
of a sudden they out they didn't cheated on them,
broke up with them, and they out with somebody else.
I'm telling you, it's absolutely nothing wrong. Finances are included
in being equally yoke. And a person wrote under the
comments that I'm being scandalized on chiall and she said, no,
was it he? Actually he said, equally yoked is about
morals and ethics. It's not about financing you a goddamn lie.
It absolutely is about finances when you will start to
resent somebody that cannot afford the type of lifestyle that
you want. And we have to start now. I don't
know if this woman sounded a black person, but we
have to stop like not even allowing black women in
particular to have the same smile on their face. Nobody's
having these conversations. Girl. If you making a cute coin,
he should be making a cute coin. Because now you
gotta worry about no bums. You gotta worry about no
man on your couch trying to take from you, gotta
worry about no man eating your friend, your kids, fruit snacks.
You don't have to worry about any of that, and
this person can actually put you onto something because they're
living a equitable lifestyle. Period. Absolutely, time to play ball
up the ante. The first part about this that she
said was that, you know, dating out of loneliness. That
actually was what the question was about before I went
on my rant, dating out of loneliness. Literally, I know
this sounds so simple, but we have to get you
out of being lonely. This is just baseline. This means
fulfilling your life with friends, hobbies, traveling, all of that
kind of stuff. And y'all know I always say, you
cannot get this energy past them. This has to be
a real thing. You cannot be sticky note and seeing
all these affirmations about I'm smart, I'm beautiful, I am kind,
and you're not actually living it in your real life.
You have to truly be happy on the inside. And
I'm telling you that energy will glean out. And if
you try to fake it and you up on the
internet talk about some on we outside and you posting
this other man's arm to get back at somebody, that
the men will your bluff. Trust me, you cannot get
it past them. You're trying to actually exude the energy
that you are doing well and really really well. So
the final thing about this is that we need to
get you out of being loneliness. You can date being
lonely if you're not actually lonely, if you get what
I'm saying, because you're like, I don't want to date
out of a deficit. I don't want to date just
because I want to date out of loneliness, and I
just attract any old thing. You have to actually occupy
your time and focus on the things that really make
you happy so that you actually are happy, and that
is the energy that you're gonna put out, and that
is that those are the type of man that you
are going to attract. Lastly, girl, as a fellow Midwesterner, Okay,
I'm a Chicagoan baby. If you do decide to get
on the apps, please change your pin, play around a
little bit, trust me because Ohio, he's on a Cincinnatiah. Listen,
there's some black folk out there. There's a diverse community.
But I really think that, like if you got that
type of cash where you said that the people they're
not really earning that much. I got a friend nowt
in New Orleans. I've been telling her this as well,
ain't no money out there. Start moving your pin, and
I mean that, move that pin right over that water,
right over the look to Byue to Houston. Okay, that's
where you need to be. Please make it your business
to start doing things in the area. Go to Chicago
for the taste of Chicago. Go to Chicago for both seeing.
Go to Detroit. Go to different places that have a
bigger population, that are a little high. The economy is
a little bit better. I'm telling you. I'm telling you
ain't nothing worse than you trying to date at that
level of income. And the men ain't got the money AnyWho.
That's my advice. We have to truly get you out
of loneliness. And it's absolutely nothing wrong with expecting more.
Your daddy was right, trust him. It's nothing wrong with that.
If you get more, you should want more, period and
you voicemail number two do I owe him an explanation.
Speaker 2: There to see you first and foremost, girl, Thank you,
thank you, thank you for all that you do. The
work you do is so necessary, like you, argue my
best friend in my head. So this has been a
feel real natural saying all of this to you for
your thanks. But so I met this guy. Last week
I kind of shot my shot at him because I'm
like that, I go for what I want. And overall
we've been texting great conversation. Really seemed to be in
alignment with so many things. It seemed like something worth
my time. He checks all my boxes physically, mentally, emotionally,
or so I thought. But last night I flagged on him.
He handled it very well. But you know, we talked
on the phone for the first time. I'm kind of
happy we did before I met him in person. So
during the conversation, he brought up a sensitive topic. I
won't really elaborate or harp on that, but it's something
that's really important to me. And in the midst of
him bringing that topic of he was really being the
meaning and dismissive. He was being reductive and I didn't
like it. But he also wouldn't let me speak. He
kept talking over me. That's an actual trigger for me.
And now I'm kind of feeling like I need to
just cut it off, nip it in the butt, right
that makes the most sense. I'm just not sure how
to go about it. I really suck at ending things,
so on some insight on if I owe him an
explanation if I should just walk away silently irish exity
be avoided. I don't know any help.
Speaker 1: First of all, let's just say that that was a
blessing that you flaked on him and you had to
talk to him on the phone. Okay, that I tell
women all the time, do not let a man text
you all day long. Hop on the phone with him.
You can learn so many things about a man by
being on the phone. I'm talking about tone. You can
hear all the activity in the background. You can see
how he treats people if he's saying thank you, yes sir, yes, ma'am.
You can see how he talked them to his kids.
You can see how he talked them to that dang
on dog. Okay. You can find out so much more
their sense of humor, their tone, their sarcasm. You cannot
get that through a text message. So I personally think
that this is a blessing in disguise that you had
to hop on the phone with him before you went out. Now,
the cutting off thing and the way that he demeaned
what a sense of topic that you cared about. Let
me tell you this. Welcome to the world of dating, y'all.
This is why I tell women all the time, don't
go off that checklist. Don't go off the checklist, because
you have to see how people are living in their
real life. I've talked to women They're like, oh, well
he checks off my he checks off all the things
on my lists. Okay, well what was on your list?
He's a sixth figure earner, he's success, he's going well
for himself. But he's stingy. He's stingy, and he's frugal
and almost like puppeteers money, like you gotta beg for
you gotta jump through hoops, you gotta you know, there's
resentment behind the stingy, right, and I think a lot
of us forget that. Another thing was like, oh, well,
you know he believes in God. He has not been
to church, He does not read his Bible, he ain't
going to Bible study and not ain't trying to be funny,
but believing in God is nowhere near evident in his life.
How is this person reenacting what they say that they believe.
How are the things that you identified about this man,
how are they benefiting you? And where can you see
it seamlessly sowing back into your life? If a person
has everything on their checklist. They can have that and
you will never reap it. You will never reap it.
This is why instead of going for how much they are,
go for general somebody that is resourceful, trust me, trust me.
So that's just I'm glad you found all this out.
I'm glad you found all this out out because that
is really honestly about character, because it's not about you
agreeing with him. You are both agreeing with each other.
This is about the way that he handled the topic, right.
I think that we don't do enough work with really
looking at those first initial signs. I think that someone
that comes off demeaning and cutting you off is indicative
of somebody that has a short fuse. A man. Y'all
think I'm crazy, and I promise you I don't care.
A man that cannot let you speak and a man
that is demeaning and degrading to me is the same
type of man to put your hand put his hands
on you call me a lunatic. I'm telling you these
are the same. They're cousins of characteristics of a man
that has vis behavior in a short fuse. I'm not
telling you what I heard. I'm telling you what I know,
because in this age that we're in, you should be
able to calmly have a conversation with somebody, especially somebody
that you know for one week. He's telling you everything
that you need to know. I think that you actually
could very well have a conversation with him. I would say,
you know, it's been really nice getting to know you
over this past week. I do have some concerns which
has led me to not want to move forward with you.
I really value a partner who will create a space
where it's safe for both of us to speak our
opinions even when we don't agree. I also value a
partner who is open minded and that I can safely
share my opinions without feeling to mean disrespected or that
person even getting defensive. With that being said, I'm not
sure that we are quite compatible and I wish you
the best. And that's on period. Point in the blank. Okay,
run the take back when this episode, come back and
write it down so you can give your exit speech
to this man. Okay, no way, Jose, we don't listen
to the signs before this is going to come out
in so many parts of the relationship, and I want
to be clear that this does not mean that you
don't know how to work with somebody, that you're not
willing to work with someone, and that they have to
come already made. But in this day and age and
this economy, with all this stuff that's going on, y'all
know what I'm to talk about. Wink wink the files. Okay,
mister Combs, all the people. You cannot play these kind
of games with these men. I'm telling you that is
to me, it is dangerous behavior, and I wish that
more women found that stuff out. I don't think that
it's worthy in that this is not like a boyfriend
of yours or your fiance. You're in marriage counseling or
premieral counseling and you're trying to like really kind of
knock the edge off of some kind of bad behaviors.
This is a man that you've met in one week,
and I would never tell you to make that kind
of investment on his quite frank anger issues. He has
a short fuse. He has a short fuse, and I
would be I'm very vigilant of how men speak to me.
He didn't create a safe space. I could only imagine
about more serious topics how he will respond to you
and after one week leave it at that. And I'm
gonna tell you this is this is the last thing
that I'm gonna say. I'm gonna tell you this. As
much as I am a proponent of women making themselves
accessible and kind of like slightly shooting a shot, being
close enough sparking up a conversation, I am going to
tell you that I have done the research and the data.
The men that I shot my shot at softly, they
never were the ones I'm telling you. I'm telling you
the aura and the energy that you get from a
guy that you pulled up on, versus the when you say, oh,
that's just because you know I shot my shot at him,
because that's just how I do. Maybe in twenty twenty six, Sis,
we could start making some changes. I'm telling you. I'm
telling you the arrogance, the the anger. It's the reason
why that man probably was out somewhere or sitting at
the bar or child you what, however you connected with him.
The energy of these men that you approach. I'm telling you, Sis,
please just take my advice on this one little thing.
Let these men approach you. You can get close, you can
start up a conversation. Simple as going to a bar,
a lounge, whatever the case may be, go watch the
game or fight party. He'd be like, oh, are you
drinking whiskey or is that bourbon? Simple if he don't
take the alley hoop and ask for your number and
call you and blah blah blah, that's on him. Stop
SHOOTINGO shot at these men, every single man that I
have shot my shot at the last I learned my
lesson quick. The last man I shot my shot at.
And this was not no me just trying to be
I pulled up on him in my vehicle. I was
at a fight party. He was looking at me. I
was looking at him. We walked out together, and when
we walked out, I was just like, oh, dang, I
gonna get a chance to talk to him. Ain't gonna
say that. I ain't gonna say nothing. But when I
walked when we walked out, he did not get in
his car. I said, bet, this is my chance, because
he was sending outside side his truck, but he didn't
get in. I got in my vehicle, came in and
pulled rolled down on one door. I said, why you
ain't say nothing inside? Checkmate? Like literally basket went in.
This man had five children, three baby mamas, was still
dealing with the ex wife I'm talking about like cole
parents and sleeping in her bed and calling me from
her bed. It was absolutely insane. Watch the men. Did
you shoot your shot at? That's all I'm gonna say.
The data shows even when you look at apps like Bumble,
the energy once you gotta put yourself out there first
is completely different. I'm trying to I ain't tell you
what I heard. I'm telling you what I know. Stop
shooting your shot? AnyWho? Voicemail number three? How do I
have genuine guy friends without them catching feelings? Huh?
Speaker 4: Bear to see you, Hi. I just had a quick question.
I want to know how do I go about guy friendships? Like,
I don't have any guy friends, and I would like some.
I think it's very healthy to have guy friends in
your life, you know, not just only females. So how
do I go about it? Is it the same way
I would go about you know, like meeting a female friends.
Is it the same way or is it a little
different because they're guys. I just I'm just so tired
of trying to be friends with guys and they end
up liking you, and it's like, no, relax, like I
just want to be friends. I just want to be cool.
Speaker 1: This this thing was literally going good.
Speaker 4: Now you like me, Like, nah, it's like just throwing
the whole thing off, So just let me know how
do I go about it. I just, like I said,
this would love some genuine guy friends. And also I
love your podcast. I know you hear that so much,
but it really literally is something like I feel like
you got something here, and every time you're talking, I'm like,
oh yeah, I'm agreeing with you, saying stuff with you.
At the same time, your podcast is the vibe. Okay,
thank you, Thank you Darling.
Speaker 1: That was very very sweet of you. I personally, all
of the male friends that I have, they are I'm
talking about if I called them and said I ain't
got my money for my rent, their money to being
my account in five minutes. If I called them and
said I was on the side of the rod if
I needed a favor, and I feel like how I
met them was in more so like a place of service,
if that makes any sense. This was not me out
at a bar and exchanging phone numbers, right, This was
like genuine friendship of them helping me out with something,
talking to them about other guys and my relationships, things
like that, like somebody genuinely coming into my life trying
to almost like brother me, if that makes any sense.
I don't have any brothers, so almost kind of like
brother me. That has been the way that I have
found friends in safe circles, like friends circles, people that
you're around, families. Also, like coworkers. A lot of coworkers
end up turning into like a brother male friend type
of thing. I think I always try to make sure
that I'm just not giving off I'm open, I'm single,
I'm available kind of vibes. And that's honestly kind of sticky.
It's like what is that even? What is that even
look like? But I think, you know, like the guys
that you fate tried to talk to but then they
turn into a brother that now that's your brother, No,
that's that's not your brother, right, So I think that
for me, it's just like letting First of all, you
have to be in environments where you can like meet
these guys and be around them, but also like letting
them show up in a plate, in a in a
place of service, in a space of service. I think
that that's how I've met most of my guy friends,
most of my god friends, and I think that you'll
know if it's genuine. Just give it a little time,
and you will know that it's like not some man
trying to slick get close enough to you so that
they can so that they can slide. And I honestly
test this, like I talk to my god friends about
men that I'm dating. I talk to them like I
just they talk to me about women that they're dating.
We talk about family. We also like vulnerable and crying
together at any time that they ever said anything flirty
or like they automatically in the other department. My guy
friends never tried to flirt with me. I'm serious, and
these are y'all from Nate would love guy friend, guy friend,
one of my closest guy friends. Never tried to pull
No shady stuff, not know, you know, flirty stuff, not
sending me inappropriate text messages, not trying to slide, nothing
like that. We're talking about genuine friendships, So I think
like setting boundaries and really getting to know that person
and being genuine also setting up what your guy friends
were going to look like because you are going to
be engaged one day married possibly that those could be
possibilities for you. So I think that since it's something
that's intentional for you, make sure that you setting it
up appropriately, if that makes any sense, Make sure that
you setting it up right, because you don't want to
get married one day and then now you got to
cut all these men off because they really weren't friends
and they just it's just weird and that man don't
know your husband, or he don't feel comfortable meeting your husband.
It is just weird kind of stuff, right, Like, you
want to make sure that it's a relationship that could
transcend different areas of your life and grow into somebody
that your husband would even like or you know, want
to hang out with. Or they can be a brother.
You know, he could be a brother to you know,
your husband and stuff like that. So think about those
things in the future. But girl, look, let these men
show up. Let them little sister you okay, let them
be resourceful, let them be a listening ear and cut
off all the other rigamarole and the moment that they
cross a boundary, pun you gone. Period. Anyways, that's my advice.
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amber floral like white florals, So this is it's in
the amber floral family. The top notes coconut, water, bergamont.
The hard notes are jasmine, grandiflorium, hellotrope, and then our
base notes are bourbon, vanilla and cashimira. When I tell
y'all this is smooth, this smells like old money. Baby,
It smells like it smells like linen, linen, like just
imagine POV. It's like white soft linen, linen, almost like
a cherry blossom. Vibes like really pure, clean, comfy, cozy
kind of smell. This is the refill, y'all. That'll lets
you know how much I wear this fragrance. The bottle
is gone. This is the reef it supposed to pour
into the bottle. If you're a white floral kind of girl,
you'll love it. If not, you'll probably think it maybe
smells a little grandma ish. But I love a few
other aliens. The one that's in a purple bottle. I
can't think of the name of it. It's just alien, classic,
classic classics. So AnyWho, I'm telling y'all, and let me
sell you this. Y'all can get this. They be telling
this TJ Max Burlington, A Ross. Okay, you can get
this for a cute little sixty seventy five dollars. They
do sell it them Macy's and stuff like that. But look,
you can find this on the low, on the low. Okay. Anyways,
y'all love love, love, love love that fragrance. All right,
so we have our red flag report. We're not together,
but don't play with him. After weeks of speculation following
the Super Bowl, Cardi b has officially confirmed that she
and Stefan Diggs are no longer together. The rumors started
when fans noticed they unfollow each other on Instagram. Then
came the energy shift. When asked for an inspiring message
before the big game, Cardi simply said good luck and
walked off. I saw that. I saw that club good
luck and walked off. At the Super Bowl, she appeared
during the halftime show, but wasn't visibly supporting Diggs the
way she had in the passenger. She had them jerseys
on and everything child she didn't have a lick a
paraphernilia on. Then, during a rap beef moment with Bea,
who took a jab at Diggs multiple children, Carti addressed
it head on doing her tour stop. Just because I
ain't effing with my baby daddy doesn't mean you get
to talk about my baby daddy. That confirmed the breakup,
but it also confirmed something else. She may not be
with him, but she's still protecting him. Now here's where
the red flag conversation comes up. This relationship moved fast
public in spring twenty twenty five. Hard launched by Summer
Baby in November, uh split by February. That's a lot
of major changes in under a year, under heavy public
pressure and controversy. Even after the breakup, Cardi is drawing
a hard line around how he's discussed. On one hand,
that could be maturity and co parenting solidarity. On the
other hand, it raises a question about emotional closure. When
you're no longer with someone but still fiercely defending them publicly,
is that healthy boundaries or is it a sign the
emotional core hasn't fully been cut. When a relationship escalates
quickly public passion, protective, then over within months, is the
red flag the breakup? Or is it how fast everything
accelerated before the foundation had time to stabilize. And if
you're not effing with somebody anymore but still emotionally protect
them over them, is that growth or unfinished attachment? So
many things happening here, Carti. I actually love Cardi b
I love her, and she's on tour. Let me tell
you this, the clips I've seen of the tour, I
may have to get a ticket. I may have to
get a ticket. I have been just like I think
that this is just like her Rah Raw moment people
counted her out people was like, I know, you didn't
go get knocked up by this man while you're still
technically married. Supposedly people really counting her out. And I
think that like man like, I really relate a lot
lots to just like New York women. They always say
like Chicago girls are the soft version of New York women.
And I just feel like Cardi she always been a
dog about hers like she has been grinding for so long,
and I just love to me how humble she is,
but how she really be in her bag. One, I
don't know, nobody want to be in a beef with
Cardi B. You don't want to She's coming, You go low,
She going to hell. Cardi is coming for the juggler.
So a few things. I feel like, personally, I'm kind
of widow when she right. Just because I broke up
with him, don't mean that you could just start slating
around my baby daddy. Now, I think that it's also
industry person to industry person to us outsiders. It we're
not in that industry. So that's just imagine. Just imagine
you're in a small little niche, for example, like fashion stylists,
and then one fashion styles be like, oh yeah, you
see da how day they style endya? It was terrible,
Like it's a small niche when you talk about these
industry folk, these singers and these rappers. Yeah, I think
I would stand ten toes about mine as well. It's like,
why are you in our business? Did you used to
date him or something? Because you talk about how many
kids he got and stuff like that. It's like, watch
your mouth, watch them out. I don't know, I'll call
me talk. I think I will. I think I would
have said something too, because again that's a colleague of hers.
Watch your mouth. You can't just go out here talking
about people, baby dady, you think people aint gonna clamp back,
regardless if she with them or not. Now we all
know that CARTI God bless her. You know, may give
people a little chance, you know, a couple chances as
well as that it's probably not quite over right. You
have a new baby with him, And she said, even
though I'm not messing with him right now. Then I
heard that somebody showed up with all types of flowers
and stuff blongs like, you know, it's just a breakup, y'all.
It's just a breakup. Do I think that he's the
one for her. I do not I really want more
for Carti. I think that Carti is genuinely a love girl.
Carti is a lover girl, and she put it all
on the floor, and I think that I didn't really see. Now,
granted she was married to Offset, I don't really think
that the love and connection was as deep. I just
think a child came from it. I don't really get
the vibe that is just some deep, dark love with
Stefan Diggs. I do think that he just has a
lot going on and I just want I just want
more for her, right. I do know that in the
industry it is a little bit more acceptable to have
all these kids and stuff by people Bokardi, it's time
to dust yourself off. Okay of rusty, crusty dusties. Okay,
you don't need don't even got a baby that's ball
infinite as well. You don't need somebody that's reproducing at
the rate of a bunny rabbit. Okay. You want him
to have discernment, You want him to have kuth, you
want him to have class, Okay, you want him to
be particular. Just because someone is in the industry doesn't
mean that their name have to be all over the
Internet and all over with all these girls like you
deserve somebody, a man of class, step it up a
little bit. Pull a Tiana Taylor. You know, even though
they broke up, but pull a Tianna Taylor. You know
what's a guy name errands Pi Aaron Pierre. That's move off.
She that was like a you know what I'm saying.
He wasn't giving rapper. You give what I'm saying, Cardi,
pull a pull a Tiana, pull a Tiana. That's all
I'm gonna say about that. Look, pull Aana, you gotta
go out a little bit out of your comfort zone.
I know you like a little rough around the edges.
I know you like a man with some money, some change,
but you want some being that's gonna be faithful, that's
gonna be committed, that's gonna love and adore you, and
that's not gonna embarrass you. Cardi, Okay, we want more
for you, all right. I love you. I love her,
I love her music, I love her grind and I
just I feel like she's an incredible mother. I was
watching an interview with her and she was talking about
how in her house, baby, them kids gotta go to
Tuldoring they gotta do all the things that she wasn't
able to do it she don't know how to do.
They gotta learn how to swim, they gotta play piano,
got it. And I just love it. I just love it.
She running a strict program over there, and I just
think that she she's just you know, she just gotta
dust herself off of the dustest okay of the dusties. Anyways,
that's all fold. Thanks for coming back. You know, I
was gone for a little bit, but thanks for coming back.
And I will see y'all next.
Speaker 4: Tide A