Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome back to SOOS Stories of Survivors. I'm
Speaker 1: your host, Serrihna Dansker, and today's episode is really really special.
Speaker 1: It's not just going to be a conversation, It's going
Speaker 1: to be a space of deep healing. Today I have
Speaker 1: a very special guest with me, Kandace Garciano. Candace is
Speaker 1: a gifted soundbath healer, but more than that, she's a
Speaker 1: rieky practitioner, a grief coach, also a life coach, and
Speaker 1: she is going to create show us how she creates
Speaker 1: spaces where she can use sound and vibration to open
Speaker 1: the door to healing and connection and release. I am
Speaker 1: so excited to hear about her journey and how sound
Speaker 1: can help us move through grief, trauma, and transition. So
Speaker 1: please welcome with me Kansas, Thank you so much for
Speaker 1: joining us today.
Speaker 2: Thank you, Serena, thank you so much for having me
Speaker 2: honored to be here today.
Speaker 1: This is going to be so amazing And so I
Speaker 1: want to begin and talk to you, and how do
Speaker 1: you tell us for those who are new to sound healing,
Speaker 1: how would you describe what you do in its simplest terms.
Speaker 2: In its simplest terms, sound healing and frequency healing. The
Speaker 2: easiest way I like to explain it is that everything
Speaker 2: operates out of frequency down to our cells, our tissues,
Speaker 2: and our organs, and like any instrument, sometimes they get
Speaker 2: out of tune. And that happens through stress, through everyday life,
Speaker 2: through disease, through sickness, through environmental changes. So when those
Speaker 2: frequencies get off and they're out of tune, our song
Speaker 2: doesn't feel as nice.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's a great way to describe ahead.
Speaker 2: So the frequencies help to realign. The sound bowls help
Speaker 2: to realign the frequencies within us. And I work mostly
Speaker 2: with the seven main chakras. So there's hundreds, but we
Speaker 2: have seven main ones from our root up to our crown,
Speaker 2: and we work on just realigning those. Sometimes they can
Speaker 2: also get blocked, so we can work on unblocking them
Speaker 2: through the frequencies.
Speaker 1: Wow. So I know a couple of the chokras because
Speaker 1: I do yoga, and but can you talk a little
Speaker 1: bit about those the different chakras that there are.
Speaker 2: Sure, So we have we start with the root, and
Speaker 2: then we have the sacral. We have our solar plexus,
Speaker 2: we have our heart, our throat, our third eye, and
Speaker 2: our crown.
Speaker 1: Track Wow, that's just amazing.
Speaker 2: What led you onto this path to sound healing? Yes,
Speaker 2: so sound healing I got into honestly through grief. So
Speaker 2: I had been to sound healings in the past where
Speaker 2: I used to go to some with my friends in
Speaker 2: New York City. We would go to a place called
Speaker 2: Mindful Meditation, and we would go to a lot of
Speaker 2: soundbaths there. My friend Lena was a beautiful sound healing practitioner.
Speaker 2: In twenty nineteen, I lost my best friend. He shot
Speaker 2: his wife and their unborn child, and then he killed himself.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 2: We had been friends since high school. We were very close.
Speaker 2: It was a very devastating experience, and there were so
Speaker 2: many emotions wrapped up in that. There was just sadness,
Speaker 2: and there was shame, and there was grief, and there
Speaker 2: was so much in it. And I had such a
Speaker 2: very difficult time getting through that. Oh, of course it
Speaker 2: was I had been working with a with a coach,
Speaker 2: with a grief coach on moving through with a meditation instructure,
Speaker 2: and I was making small progress, but I was still
Speaker 2: very stuck, and I was I felt immobile, almost.
Speaker 1: Sure grief can't do that.
Speaker 2: I went from like working out and being really into
Speaker 2: fitness to almost not not even being able to move.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: My friend Renee offered me a sound bath virtually just
Speaker 2: through FaceTime, and it just shifted how I felt. It
Speaker 2: shifted my grief into a space where I felt like
Speaker 2: I could walk beside it rather than having it completely
Speaker 2: betrampling me. And I was so amazed because I had
Speaker 2: been to soundbaths before, but I never thought that not
Speaker 2: that I don't know, I just didn't think that this
Speaker 2: would do it. But I was like, I'll do anything
Speaker 2: at this point, just something, please help me. Exactly shifted
Speaker 2: my grief so intensely to this point where I was like, Okay,
Speaker 2: I can take some of my power back from it.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: That I was already had been certified as a life
Speaker 2: coach and a grief coach, and I was like, I
Speaker 2: need to bring this to my clients. I have to
Speaker 2: bring this to my clients. And that's where it all started.
Speaker 1: That's incredible. You know. I had not exactly like your experience,
Speaker 1: but I too was stock after my son died and
Speaker 1: I was immobilized by the grief and I was broken,
Speaker 1: and I had two other children at home and a
Speaker 1: husband and my mom and I needed to find a
Speaker 1: way to get on stock or to glue myself back together.
Speaker 1: So I went to a healer who she didn't use sound,
Speaker 1: but she used energy reiki to help heal me. And
Speaker 1: it was so powerful it really blew me away. I
Speaker 1: couldn't I couldn't even I had no idea how powerful
Speaker 1: that is.
Speaker 2: Well's so interesting you say that because I went for sound,
Speaker 2: and then I also started going to a reiki practitioner.
Speaker 2: That's when I first started going, was through my grief,
Speaker 2: and I ended up becoming a reiki practitioner also because
Speaker 2: they were working so well together. It sings sound and
Speaker 2: the energy from the reiki.
Speaker 1: It's it, they say that sound and energy, the whole vibration,
Speaker 1: it's all connected. That we're all connected, right.
Speaker 2: We are all connected.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. So outside of your practice, what brings
Speaker 1: you joy? What rituals or little things in your day
Speaker 1: keep you grounded well.
Speaker 2: I like to work out and run, so I'm a
Speaker 2: huge runner. I like to do that. I just did
Speaker 2: a five k this weekend. That was a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: Congratulation, Thank you.
Speaker 2: I'm really big into the Peloton community, so I do
Speaker 2: a lot of that. I'm really just moving my body.
Speaker 2: And then I do a lot of sound healing, not
Speaker 2: just for clients but for myself as well. And actually
Speaker 2: I do a lot virtually online, like on TikTok them
Speaker 2: on a couple of times a day where I'm just
Speaker 2: helping and just doing sound baths, you know, just for
Speaker 2: the masses that are on. So it to really become
Speaker 2: this huge part of my life, just my day to day.
Speaker 2: I spent so much time doing it.
Speaker 1: I didn't even know that that was a thing you
Speaker 1: could do. I did. I did when I was visiting
Speaker 1: a cousin out in California. We did a It was
Speaker 1: a place where you did the infrared sauna and then
Speaker 1: you did the cold plunge and then afterwards you went
Speaker 1: into a room where they did a sound bad and
Speaker 1: the combination of that was incredible. But I had no
Speaker 1: idea that this is. I guess everything's online. I do.
Speaker 2: My clients are through Zoom.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: So I just recently opened a studio in Ramsay, New Jersey,
Speaker 2: where I see clients in person, but prior to that,
Speaker 2: almost all of my clients were via Zoom.
Speaker 1: That's incredible. So this show is all about survivors. As
Speaker 1: you know, and in many ways that we find light
Speaker 1: in the dark. How do you see sound healing supporting
Speaker 1: people who have walked through trauma or grief.
Speaker 2: I think a lot of times we don't realize how
Speaker 2: important breath is. We go through our day breathing because
Speaker 2: we you know, it's automatic, We don't think about it.
Speaker 2: But there's a lot of power and healing and actually
Speaker 2: connecting to your breath in lowering your stress levels, your
Speaker 2: cortisol levels. Certain frequencies can actually help to lower your
Speaker 2: cortisol levels heart rate if they help to reduce stress
Speaker 2: and anxiety, they help promote sleep and relaxation. Whenever we
Speaker 2: can get more connected with our breath and we can
Speaker 2: lower our stress and our cortisol levels, there's a lot
Speaker 2: of healing in that.
Speaker 1: That's that's really funny you say that because sometimes you know,
Speaker 1: I wake up in the middle of the night and
Speaker 1: I can't fall back to sleep, and I've started from
Speaker 1: my yoga practices. The meditations is counting backwards each breath
Speaker 1: from twenty seven and if I drift off or lose
Speaker 1: count and I wake up again, I start over again,
Speaker 1: and it really works. It works. It's fascinating, really.
Speaker 2: And you can get straight breathwork meditations that are so powerful.
Speaker 2: But I always like to incorporate the sound just for
Speaker 2: the energy and the frequencies of it. And there's a
Speaker 2: lot of studies that show there's a frequency which is
Speaker 2: four hundred and thirty two hurts, and there's been some
Speaker 2: studies that have shown that individuals who sleep who use
Speaker 2: that frequency to go to sleep sleep better than individuals
Speaker 2: who do not.
Speaker 1: That's amazing. Can you paint us a picture of what
Speaker 1: a session with you, what instruments, what energy, and what
Speaker 1: intention comes into the safe sure?
Speaker 2: So if it's a one on one, we always start
Speaker 2: with raiki. I want to have you on the reki table.
Speaker 2: We start with breath work. I want to do a
Speaker 2: small reiki session just to feel your energy to see
Speaker 2: if you have any blockages, there are anything that needs
Speaker 2: some alignment. And then from there I head over to
Speaker 2: the bulls and we start to do the full bowl
Speaker 2: session of all seven of them.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: But once I have already felt into you through your reiki,
Speaker 2: then I'll go to the bulls that work with those
Speaker 2: chakras too, either on block or to align to help
Speaker 2: you get that frequency back on a healthier vibe. I
Speaker 2: guess right back in tune. Yeah, that's the way to
Speaker 2: say it.
Speaker 1: Well, it's true because grief shows up in so many
Speaker 1: different ways that you know, not just sadness. I mean
Speaker 1: some people are kin to you know. Add you know,
Speaker 1: you can't focus in a lot and it's so complex.
Speaker 1: So do you find you do different things for different people?
Speaker 2: Absolutely, especially with grief because a lot of people I
Speaker 2: mean that I've worked with, like they don't even want
Speaker 2: to talk about it, or they haven't talked about it.
Speaker 2: So when you get some into a space where they
Speaker 2: can release all of their emotions, it's so powerful, and
Speaker 2: they didn't they don't realize what they're feeling sometimes because
Speaker 2: it's buried so deep, and you know, you can be
Speaker 2: grieving something that happened ten years ago and not even
Speaker 2: realize it or realize you never actually grieved something you
Speaker 2: should have grieved exactly exactly.
Speaker 1: It's just so crazy. If there was someone listening today
Speaker 1: who feels stuck in pain, is there a simple home
Speaker 1: practice that you recommend they try?
Speaker 2: I always recommend talking to yourself. Ask yourself questions, Get curious,
Speaker 2: I'm feeling this, Why am I feeling this? Where in
Speaker 2: my body am I feeling this, What happened to that
Speaker 2: part of my body or whatever that's making me feel
Speaker 2: that way? Who said that?
Speaker 1: Is that me?
Speaker 2: Is that somebody else? What voice is that? What do
Speaker 2: I want to say back to them?
Speaker 1: Wow?
Speaker 2: With trauma clients, we tend to them work on an age. Okay,
Speaker 2: what age did that happen? What do you want to
Speaker 2: say to yourself at that age? Right? And it's kind
Speaker 2: of like inner child work. We're integrating those parts back
Speaker 2: to you because they are yours, they're part of you,
Speaker 2: but we've pushed them away. So what a station that
Speaker 2: you want to have with them? What do you want
Speaker 2: to say? How do you want them to feel? What
Speaker 2: are they saying to you? And it seems like weird
Speaker 2: at first that we're having this conversation with our eight
Speaker 2: year old self, for our nine year old self or
Speaker 2: our thirty year old self, whatever age, But there's power
Speaker 2: and wisdom in the things we've pushed away.
Speaker 1: It's so true. And sometimes if you don't address those
Speaker 1: traumas or that grief or whatever you're holding on to,
Speaker 1: it doesn't go away and manifests itself in different ways.
Speaker 1: And later on.
Speaker 2: There's a book I Forgot I forget who writes it,
Speaker 2: but it's about healing trauma, and it's the trauma cycle,
Speaker 2: and it talks about I really I'll get the name
Speaker 2: and send it to you.
Speaker 1: I would know that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But it's about how if someone's crying and you say, oh,
Speaker 2: don't cry, here's a tissue, and you have them stop.
Speaker 2: Now that trauma is stuck in their body, and now
Speaker 2: that causes five years from now it can still be
Speaker 2: there because they never got it out. So how do
Speaker 2: you finished the trauma sy that the energy comes out
Speaker 2: of your body.
Speaker 1: That's incredibly because if you think about young boys. I
Speaker 1: have boys, and growing up there, I didn't tell them
Speaker 1: not to cry. I'm like, cry, well you want cry
Speaker 1: a river. It's it's good, but there there, I guess
Speaker 1: the males in general are encouraged to not show those feelings,
Speaker 1: to hold them all in, and by doing so, you're
Speaker 1: pointing out that it gets stuck in there, stuck in there,
Speaker 1: you know, and then we have a big health crisis
Speaker 1: with men. Mental health is a big issue. Do you
Speaker 1: know more men die by suicide side than than than women.
Speaker 1: It's it's sad, it really is.
Speaker 2: It is very sad. Most of my grief. Clients that
Speaker 2: I have are men whose sons have committed suicide.
Speaker 1: Oh that just breaks my heart.
Speaker 2: And from twenty up to sixty, I mean, of all ages.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: One of the first things they teach you in life
Speaker 2: I went to I took a life coaching course from
Speaker 2: a company called CTI, and one of the first things
Speaker 2: they taught us was don't hand someone's tissue and tell
Speaker 2: them to cry. Hand them a tissue and tell them
Speaker 2: get it out, but don't tell people don't cry.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I tell you talk a little bit about that
Speaker 1: your journey through the other things that you do besides
Speaker 1: the soundbaths.
Speaker 2: So I'm also a life coach. I've been a life
Speaker 2: coach since about twenty seventeen, twenty eighteen, when I was certified.
Speaker 2: Prior to doing all of this work, I worked in corporate.
Speaker 2: I worked in office. I was doing contract finance. I
Speaker 2: wasn't happy like the office. I know it's not you know,
Speaker 2: some people love it. I totally respect that, but it
Speaker 2: was not for me. I was really sad and really
Speaker 2: depressed all the time. I just I always felt like
Speaker 2: I wanted to help people, but I didn't know how,
Speaker 2: and I wanted to just be out more and be
Speaker 2: more active than the life that I could live in
Speaker 2: working in the office. And I was just so sad
Speaker 2: all the time. So I started working with a life coach.
Speaker 2: Her name's Jessica King, and she completely changed my entire life. Wow.
Speaker 2: So through working with her, as was life coaching, personal
Speaker 2: training and nutrition at the time, so it was like
Speaker 2: this full three sixth se that we still have the
Speaker 2: program it's called Mindful three that I manage. She really
Speaker 2: made me see that there were all these other options
Speaker 2: out there and I didn't have to take the same
Speaker 2: path as everybody else because I think I kind of
Speaker 2: just got you know, sometimes you just get stuck in
Speaker 2: these like well this is just what you do. You
Speaker 2: just go to work and if you're unhappy, you just
Speaker 2: suck it up and get your paycheck. And I used
Speaker 2: to think about driving my car into like the divide.
Speaker 2: I was really really not living the life that I
Speaker 2: wanted to live.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: And eventually, you know, we did so much work together.
Speaker 2: I worked with her for like a year, and I
Speaker 2: was always like, Okay, I know I can leave here.
Speaker 2: I just need to figure out how One day she
Speaker 2: called me and said, hey, are you still with that
Speaker 2: shy job that you ate. And I said, and she said,
Speaker 2: well how about you quit just be my personal assistant.
Speaker 2: And I quit a six figure job to go be
Speaker 2: her personal assistant and it changed my entire life.
Speaker 1: Well, they say, if you do that, you love, the
Speaker 1: money will follow, because it's really not about the money.
Speaker 2: It's the frequency that you're on. Everything abundance. Everything is
Speaker 2: a frequency, and it's not always easy. I'm not saying
Speaker 2: it was easy, right. I had a supportive spouse at
Speaker 2: home that was like, if you stop crying, I don't
Speaker 2: stop crying every day. So she already had a business
Speaker 2: and she was like, hey, why don't you run it?
Speaker 2: It's really growing. You know, you have personal assistant run
Speaker 2: that business. And ten years later, I'm still I still
Speaker 2: work as her assistant, still running Mindful three. We have
Speaker 2: another bit's called Thoughtful Coaching that we still run. And
Speaker 2: I have all of this as well.
Speaker 1: That's amazing, absolutely so so cool. All right, Well, I
Speaker 1: have to ask you some fun If you're a healing
Speaker 1: style or an animal or sound, what would it be?
Speaker 1: And why, oh my god, there.
Speaker 2: Was an animal or a sound.
Speaker 1: You're a healing style, my healing style.
Speaker 2: I feel like I don't know. A rabbit comes to me, okay.
Speaker 1: But that's okay, So why why does the rabbit?
Speaker 2: They're fluffy and they're cute and they can be gentle,
Speaker 2: but they also have like a lot of energy to them.
Speaker 2: So I feel like I'm kind of a mix of boy.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to think what a little chaotic y well
Speaker 3: who is too, Like I hadn't when I was growing up,
Speaker 3: and it was super you know, jumping around all the
Speaker 3: time and a little chaotic, but also really like sensitive
Speaker 3: and calm and.
Speaker 2: You could really pat them and that's warm. I don't know,
Speaker 2: that's awesome.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think what mine would be. I feel
Speaker 1: like the Tasmanian de like.
Speaker 2: I love that it's real, it is.
Speaker 1: I just like go a million miles and sometimes I
Speaker 1: move so fast I don't remember what I just did.
Speaker 1: It's like one of those things. But I always have
Speaker 1: the best of intentions and and that's that's that's what
Speaker 1: life's all about, doing what feels good for you.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, And I think working with the bulls so much,
Speaker 2: especially in the past year, has kind of even helped
Speaker 2: me slow down a little bit to a point because
Speaker 2: I seem like very chaotic, very friendic all the time,
Speaker 2: and I've really like reduced that a little bit in
Speaker 2: the last year to a level that were everything's a
Speaker 2: little more sustainable.
Speaker 1: Well, that's that's what my goal. That's what I'm trying
Speaker 1: to do. I'm trying to slow it down and breathe,
Speaker 1: and that's my goal. I'm not mastering that yet, but
Speaker 1: I'm trying. I'm trying to to live more in the
Speaker 1: moment and appreciate the moments that we're in, you know,
Speaker 1: the power of now and just just enjoy that, not
Speaker 1: focus on the future or get to where it worked
Speaker 1: up about what should be, could be and all of that.
Speaker 1: All right, Imagine you're hosting I don't know where questions,
Speaker 1: but imagine you're hosting a dream dinner party with three
Speaker 1: people anyone at all real imagined? Who would you have
Speaker 1: at your table?
Speaker 2: So, anybody?
Speaker 1: Anybody?
Speaker 2: I have my dad, he passed away two years. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I think I would have my dad, my grandfather, and
Speaker 2: my grandmother who passed away. Honestly, that's the first thing
Speaker 2: that comes to mind.
Speaker 1: Family is really our connection. Yeah, and it's it's hard
Speaker 1: when they crossed over to the other side. We miss them.
Speaker 2: And I'm pretty sure they're together.
Speaker 1: So oh, I'm sure they are, and I'm sure they're
Speaker 1: right here in their energy, but really cheering you on
Speaker 1: right now. This is so awesome.
Speaker 2: My dad's favorite holiday was Christmas, so his birthday was
Speaker 2: October sixteenth, so I'm already listening to Christmas music every
Speaker 2: year on October sixteenth. I just started.
Speaker 1: That's awesome. Oh my gosh. What's your go to song
Speaker 1: or sound that instantly lifts your spirit?
Speaker 2: Oh, I'm a nineties grunge girl. Oh, I love like Nirvana.
Speaker 2: Lithium's one of my favorite songs. Whatever, so I'll always
Speaker 2: throw that on. And I love like, I love all
Speaker 2: types of music, but nineties grunge and some good punk
Speaker 2: and I'm happy.
Speaker 1: But that's important. I think. I think, I think finding
Speaker 1: your jam and just being able to just we live
Speaker 1: those happy moments of your life right.
Speaker 2: And I always say there's places for everything, right, Like,
Speaker 2: you know, people will be surprised, they're like, oh, you
Speaker 2: don't listen to frequencies or sometimes sure, but like I
Speaker 2: love nineties grunge, I love rock, I love concerts, I
Speaker 2: love punk pop, you know, pop punk things are my jam.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh I know, and and that's what's beautiful
Speaker 1: about it. Now. You're also you know, you also do
Speaker 1: grief coaching besides life coaching and all of that. Can
Speaker 1: you talk a little bit about about that aspect of
Speaker 1: your career?
Speaker 2: Absolutely so with grief coaching, I work with clients on
Speaker 2: what happens now, the fact that the grief isn't may
Speaker 2: never go away, but how do you walk beside it?
Speaker 2: What are things that we can do together so that
Speaker 2: you cannot feel as stuck as sad all the time?
Speaker 2: And how can you also if you want to honor
Speaker 2: the life and legas of the person who passed away,
Speaker 2: but in a way that is helpful and it is
Speaker 2: not harming.
Speaker 1: You, right right, it's you know, it's it's really funny
Speaker 1: because healing work can be so powerful and it can
Speaker 1: also be draining for you, I'm sure, especially when it
Speaker 1: comes to grief. How do you protect your energy to
Speaker 1: avoid burning out?
Speaker 2: So I do. I see a reiki practitioner to help
Speaker 2: me with that, and then I just have rituals. You
Speaker 2: know a lot of times before session, even with sound healing,
Speaker 2: I connect to the universe. I have like a little saying,
Speaker 2: and then when I'm done, I ask to disconnect that energy.
Speaker 1: That's that's really cool. Actually, is there a myth or
Speaker 1: a misconception about sound healing that you wish people would
Speaker 1: just let go of.
Speaker 2: I don't really get hit with the sound healing too
Speaker 2: much with myth. What I do get is a lot
Speaker 2: of people like what do I need to do and
Speaker 2: how long do I have those You listen to it
Speaker 2: before it works right in my not work right away
Speaker 2: like anything else, And you don't have to All you
Speaker 2: have to do is receive. You really just have to receive.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember when I did that sound bad that
Speaker 1: we put a little mask over our face. They even
Speaker 1: gave us earplugs too, because you lay down so it
Speaker 1: doesn't get too loud in there, and it just you
Speaker 1: felt the vibration throughout your entire body. It was super cool,
Speaker 1: really cool.
Speaker 2: I do think though, now that we're talking about it,
Speaker 2: there is this thing that you're just like hitting the
Speaker 2: balls and banging the ball, and there is there's intention
Speaker 2: behind it, and there's beauty and connection behind it. You
Speaker 2: can't just pull up the balls and just start it's you.
Speaker 2: You have to almost download the intentions and the energy
Speaker 2: and then bring it out through the balls.
Speaker 1: So I think of the more like an instrument. You know,
Speaker 1: if you start playing a guitar, I've played a guitar
Speaker 1: for you, it wouldn't sound very good. I mean, I'm
Speaker 1: sure if I played singing balls, it wouldn't sound very
Speaker 1: good because I don't know what I'm doing. Can you
Speaker 1: talk a little bit about that you have, like music
Speaker 1: that you that you're taught or how.
Speaker 2: To it's more so I did take a course. I
Speaker 2: am certified, and that was that was a lot of music,
Speaker 2: but it was also how to play the bulls properly
Speaker 2: and how to set an intention for the person that
Speaker 2: you're playing them for what's coming through to you? And
Speaker 2: are you listening to that? Because you'll play and then
Speaker 2: maybe you'll get stuck on one and you're like, why
Speaker 2: do I keep feeling like I need to play this
Speaker 2: because the universe is telling you this person needs wow
Speaker 2: that particular does that time?
Speaker 1: Does each ball have a different frequency? It does?
Speaker 2: So the set that I have, it's tuned in like
Speaker 2: the four hundred and thirty two tuning system, So usually
Speaker 2: you're either four hundred and thirty two or for forty okay,
Speaker 2: So it's just you know, it's just whatever your balls
Speaker 2: are tuned to minor tuned to four thirty two in
Speaker 2: Each bull has a different frequency depending on the tracer system.
Speaker 2: So the third eye is four hundred and thirty two,
Speaker 2: the root trakras two hundred and fifty six. Because everything
Speaker 2: has its own frequency, quartz crystal is normally going to
Speaker 2: be four hundred and thirty two.
Speaker 1: Hurts. Wow, that's really amazing I feeling about that. Have
Speaker 1: there been moments in your own journey where you've felt
Speaker 1: lost and powerless just being being, you know, a sound
Speaker 1: bad coach or a healer? I guess not every day
Speaker 1: is a good day. How do you work through through
Speaker 1: those moments so you can help heal others.
Speaker 2: It's just a year ago. I didn't know if I
Speaker 2: was going to be able to keep this career going
Speaker 2: for myself, just because it was really hard for me
Speaker 2: to get out and meet people and get myself in
Speaker 2: front of people to even be able to show them
Speaker 2: what I do, and I barely had any clients, and
Speaker 2: I was like, maybe this path isn't for me and
Speaker 2: I need to do something else to supplement income or
Speaker 2: to just feel like I had a purpose. I didn't
Speaker 2: feel like you know I had this other business on
Speaker 2: the other side, but this was my own thing that
Speaker 2: I needed to do, and I felt very and at
Speaker 2: that time I was also injured, so I couldn't run,
Speaker 2: so I felt like I had lost everything. I couldn't run,
Speaker 2: and then I was trying to make this work and
Speaker 2: it wasn't and I was like, what is my purpose?
Speaker 2: And then I started streaming on TikTok and it changed everything.
Speaker 2: My business completely blew up. Like that community is amazing
Speaker 2: community that I have on there. They are the most
Speaker 2: like just loving, amazing people.
Speaker 1: That is so beautiful. That's that really.
Speaker 2: Now I am so busy, I'm trying to fit it
Speaker 2: all in, but I'm taking on everything because this is what.
Speaker 1: I asked for and it's what makes you feel good.
Speaker 1: It's filling your bucket, right.
Speaker 2: But I really had to ask, Like I just kept
Speaker 2: asking the universe, like show me what I need to do,
Speaker 2: Show me what I need to do, because I don't know,
Speaker 2: and I'm giving it to you right now.
Speaker 1: To the surrender.
Speaker 2: I kept fighting and fighting and fighting, and finally I
Speaker 2: was just like, just tell me what I need to
Speaker 2: do and I.
Speaker 1: Will do it.
Speaker 2: Well, that's awesome.
Speaker 1: What do you hope to see in the future of
Speaker 1: the healing spaces like yours.
Speaker 2: I hope to see it brought into more hospitals and
Speaker 2: doctor's offices, like very much more than medical community. There
Speaker 2: are some hospitals now and some hospice centers and even
Speaker 2: like senior home care centers that are bringing sound healing
Speaker 2: and reiki and even shamanic healing, and it's very powerful. Well,
Speaker 2: it's also very calming for people. You know, I'm also
Speaker 2: an end of life doulah, and I became one of
Speaker 2: I became an end of life DULO when my father
Speaker 2: was in the hospital towards the end of his life
Speaker 2: and when he was in hospice, and just the amount
Speaker 2: of people who were by themselves who were transitioning along
Speaker 2: was heartbreaking. It is, and I just think if we
Speaker 2: can bring in more connectedness to those space so that
Speaker 2: people aren't so alone, even if they're not transitioning, but
Speaker 2: they're just in a senior care home and they don't
Speaker 2: have family or friends too.
Speaker 1: Or even if like my mom, she lives alone. And I,
Speaker 1: you know, try to get there as often as I can,
Speaker 1: but you know, if I go for an hour or
Speaker 1: two out of my day she's still alone for the
Speaker 1: other twenty two hours. It's so heartbreaking to me, it
Speaker 1: really is. That's really beautiful. If you had one message
Speaker 1: for survivors listening right now, what would you say to them?
Speaker 2: Guess the biggest thing that I would say is that
Speaker 2: you don't have to go through it alone, that you
Speaker 2: can reach out, that people do care, and it can
Speaker 2: feel very lonely for us sometimes. Yeah, but sometimes we
Speaker 2: just have to ask people if we want. I think
Speaker 2: so much we just either think that we have to
Speaker 2: go through this by ourselves or we don't know what
Speaker 2: to ask. And sometimes you just have to ask for
Speaker 2: someone to just hold space where you just sit there
Speaker 2: with you, just be with you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that. What's next for you, Kansas? What
Speaker 1: any of retreats, projects or dreams on their horizon?
Speaker 2: I'm trying to I am working on a retreat, hopefully
Speaker 2: out in Sedona within the next few months. I'm trying
Speaker 2: to work on a sound bath retreat for that with
Speaker 2: Riki Healing as well. I'm bringing Christine who's been on
Speaker 2: your podcast. Yeah, So I'm working on building that out
Speaker 2: and just more clients. I really love you know, I
Speaker 2: love group work. I just had a sound bath that
Speaker 2: I did in South River. Wow, that was really great.
Speaker 2: And I just did another event. So I do a
Speaker 2: lot of group events. I want to do a lot
Speaker 2: more corporate events because it's really important. I'm doing one
Speaker 2: on Wednesday, so I'm trying to manifest just a lot more.
Speaker 2: I just don't want to help as many people well
Speaker 2: as I can.
Speaker 1: That's awesome, and I guess we should to ask. I
Speaker 1: should ask you where can our listeners find you and
Speaker 1: your work? How do they How do they get to?
Speaker 2: My website is Candice Graciano dot com. But I'm all over,
Speaker 2: like if you just put can this Grastiano sound Healing,
Speaker 2: and I come up everywhere. I mean, I have Spotify playlists,
Speaker 2: on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, LinkedIn. I've kind of tried to
Speaker 2: lay myself as many places as I can. I'm a
Speaker 2: little bit of everywhere.
Speaker 1: Oh can just thank you so much for sharing your wisdom,
Speaker 1: your heart, and your energy with us today as we close,
Speaker 1: I like to honor my son Scott by sharing one
Speaker 1: of his poems, and I do this at the end
Speaker 1: of every episode. His words are part of the heartbeat
Speaker 1: of this show, and I feel that by sharing them
Speaker 1: I still bring his energy around, and it's so empowering
Speaker 1: to me. So the poem that I chose he wrote
Speaker 1: it says, people expect so much to receive, but never
Speaker 1: to give. I can't perceive these requests that are coming
Speaker 1: in too fast. By the time I send back, I'm
Speaker 1: too late. They ludicrous mad because I can't supply the
Speaker 1: demand the man, the demand that just takes and takes
Speaker 1: and never gives. I know I be selfish by saying
Speaker 1: I got a life to live and I can't always give.
Speaker 1: But that's how I be feeling, and nobody cares about.
Speaker 1: How about how I beheeling around, not knowing which way
Speaker 1: is right or wrong? And I snap. I say what
Speaker 1: I ain't supposed to say. I feel what I ain't
Speaker 1: supposed to feel. I touch what I ain't supposed to touch.
Speaker 1: It's too much pressure to be one guy when I
Speaker 1: want to be another. I'm crossed between two lines, and
Speaker 1: I can't tell which line is fine and which is
Speaker 1: not my line. My mind is filled with lies, I
Speaker 1: tell myself. I don't even know the truth anymore. I'm
Speaker 1: tired of having these epiphanies when maybe I should just
Speaker 1: gain the ability to shut the f up, because that's
Speaker 1: one thing both lines can't neutralize. When he was fifteen
Speaker 1: when he wrote these poems, They're so deep and telling
Speaker 1: about is on in the mind and of a young
Speaker 1: boys feels so much. And now I have to say,
Speaker 1: in Scott's spirit and the spirit of this conversation, Candace
Speaker 1: has graciously offered to leave us with a short sound moment,
Speaker 1: a vibration of peace and love that we can carry
Speaker 1: with us throughout the after the episode, and Candace, I'd
Speaker 1: like to say to you, the mic is yours. Thank you, Candace,
Speaker 1: and thank you listeners. This has just been an amazing,
Speaker 1: amazing night and day, and I just feel it all
Speaker 1: through my soul. I just want to say, until next time,
Speaker 1: remember sos stories of survivors where survival sparks the soul.
Speaker 1: Thank you for joining us, and I'll see you next week.