WEBVTT 1 00:00:34.439 --> 00:00:37.920 Hello, and welcome back to SOOS Stories of Survivors. I'm 2 00:00:37.920 --> 00:00:42.520 your host, Serrihna Dansker, and today's episode is really really special. 3 00:00:42.880 --> 00:00:45.840 It's not just going to be a conversation, It's going 4 00:00:45.920 --> 00:00:49.320 to be a space of deep healing. Today I have 5 00:00:49.359 --> 00:00:53.399 a very special guest with me, Kandace Garciano. Candace is 6 00:00:53.439 --> 00:00:56.880 a gifted soundbath healer, but more than that, she's a 7 00:00:57.000 --> 00:01:02.920 rieky practitioner, a grief coach, also a life coach, and 8 00:01:02.960 --> 00:01:05.200 she is going to create show us how she creates 9 00:01:05.239 --> 00:01:12.319 spaces where she can use sound and vibration to open 10 00:01:12.359 --> 00:01:17.040 the door to healing and connection and release. I am 11 00:01:17.319 --> 00:01:22.120 so excited to hear about her journey and how sound 12 00:01:22.319 --> 00:01:27.879 can help us move through grief, trauma, and transition. So 13 00:01:28.040 --> 00:01:32.000 please welcome with me Kansas, Thank you so much for 14 00:01:32.120 --> 00:01:33.040 joining us today. 15 00:01:33.200 --> 00:01:35.280 Thank you, Serena, thank you so much for having me 16 00:01:35.920 --> 00:01:37.079 honored to be here today. 17 00:01:37.359 --> 00:01:40.120 This is going to be so amazing And so I 18 00:01:40.319 --> 00:01:44.680 want to begin and talk to you, and how do 19 00:01:44.719 --> 00:01:48.239 you tell us for those who are new to sound healing, 20 00:01:49.079 --> 00:01:53.560 how would you describe what you do in its simplest terms. 21 00:01:53.439 --> 00:01:57.159 In its simplest terms, sound healing and frequency healing. The 22 00:01:57.200 --> 00:01:59.519 easiest way I like to explain it is that everything 23 00:01:59.560 --> 00:02:02.599 operates out of frequency down to our cells, our tissues, 24 00:02:02.640 --> 00:02:06.599 and our organs, and like any instrument, sometimes they get 25 00:02:06.640 --> 00:02:11.159 out of tune. And that happens through stress, through everyday life, 26 00:02:11.319 --> 00:02:15.560 through disease, through sickness, through environmental changes. So when those 27 00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:19.319 frequencies get off and they're out of tune, our song 28 00:02:19.400 --> 00:02:21.319 doesn't feel as nice. 29 00:02:22.039 --> 00:02:25.319 Wow, that's a great way to describe ahead. 30 00:02:25.520 --> 00:02:29.879 So the frequencies help to realign. The sound bowls help 31 00:02:29.919 --> 00:02:33.479 to realign the frequencies within us. And I work mostly 32 00:02:33.520 --> 00:02:36.800 with the seven main chakras. So there's hundreds, but we 33 00:02:36.879 --> 00:02:40.319 have seven main ones from our root up to our crown, 34 00:02:40.680 --> 00:02:43.520 and we work on just realigning those. Sometimes they can 35 00:02:43.520 --> 00:02:46.080 also get blocked, so we can work on unblocking them 36 00:02:46.120 --> 00:02:47.240 through the frequencies. 37 00:02:47.639 --> 00:02:50.080 Wow. So I know a couple of the chokras because 38 00:02:50.080 --> 00:02:54.240 I do yoga, and but can you talk a little 39 00:02:54.280 --> 00:02:56.599 bit about those the different chakras that there are. 40 00:02:56.680 --> 00:03:00.319 Sure, So we have we start with the root, and 41 00:03:00.360 --> 00:03:03.599 then we have the sacral. We have our solar plexus, 42 00:03:03.879 --> 00:03:09.120 we have our heart, our throat, our third eye, and 43 00:03:09.159 --> 00:03:10.000 our crown. 44 00:03:09.800 --> 00:03:12.919 Track Wow, that's just amazing. 45 00:03:14.120 --> 00:03:20.159 What led you onto this path to sound healing? Yes, 46 00:03:21.000 --> 00:03:24.400 so sound healing I got into honestly through grief. So 47 00:03:24.479 --> 00:03:26.560 I had been to sound healings in the past where 48 00:03:26.560 --> 00:03:28.199 I used to go to some with my friends in 49 00:03:28.199 --> 00:03:30.240 New York City. We would go to a place called 50 00:03:30.560 --> 00:03:33.080 Mindful Meditation, and we would go to a lot of 51 00:03:33.120 --> 00:03:36.879 soundbaths there. My friend Lena was a beautiful sound healing practitioner. 52 00:03:37.960 --> 00:03:43.360 In twenty nineteen, I lost my best friend. He shot 53 00:03:43.400 --> 00:03:47.639 his wife and their unborn child, and then he killed himself. 54 00:03:48.080 --> 00:03:50.360 Oh, I'm so sorry. 55 00:03:50.439 --> 00:03:52.960 We had been friends since high school. We were very close. 56 00:03:54.479 --> 00:03:56.919 It was a very devastating experience, and there were so 57 00:03:57.080 --> 00:04:00.560 many emotions wrapped up in that. There was just sadness, 58 00:04:00.560 --> 00:04:02.680 and there was shame, and there was grief, and there 59 00:04:02.759 --> 00:04:05.400 was so much in it. And I had such a 60 00:04:05.520 --> 00:04:09.039 very difficult time getting through that. Oh, of course it 61 00:04:09.080 --> 00:04:12.039 was I had been working with a with a coach, 62 00:04:12.759 --> 00:04:15.560 with a grief coach on moving through with a meditation instructure, 63 00:04:15.840 --> 00:04:18.480 and I was making small progress, but I was still 64 00:04:18.600 --> 00:04:22.079 very stuck, and I was I felt immobile, almost. 65 00:04:21.879 --> 00:04:23.519 Sure grief can't do that. 66 00:04:23.879 --> 00:04:25.879 I went from like working out and being really into 67 00:04:25.879 --> 00:04:28.720 fitness to almost not not even being able to move. 68 00:04:29.240 --> 00:04:29.680 Wow. 69 00:04:30.160 --> 00:04:33.240 My friend Renee offered me a sound bath virtually just 70 00:04:33.279 --> 00:04:37.240 through FaceTime, and it just shifted how I felt. It 71 00:04:37.279 --> 00:04:39.759 shifted my grief into a space where I felt like 72 00:04:40.240 --> 00:04:43.360 I could walk beside it rather than having it completely 73 00:04:43.399 --> 00:04:46.360 betrampling me. And I was so amazed because I had 74 00:04:46.399 --> 00:04:51.000 been to soundbaths before, but I never thought that not 75 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:53.000 that I don't know, I just didn't think that this 76 00:04:53.040 --> 00:04:55.160 would do it. But I was like, I'll do anything 77 00:04:55.199 --> 00:04:59.199 at this point, just something, please help me. Exactly shifted 78 00:04:59.319 --> 00:05:02.120 my grief so intensely to this point where I was like, Okay, 79 00:05:02.160 --> 00:05:04.360 I can take some of my power back from it. 80 00:05:04.720 --> 00:05:05.399 Wow. 81 00:05:05.439 --> 00:05:08.040 That I was already had been certified as a life 82 00:05:08.079 --> 00:05:09.839 coach and a grief coach, and I was like, I 83 00:05:09.920 --> 00:05:12.480 need to bring this to my clients. I have to 84 00:05:12.519 --> 00:05:15.160 bring this to my clients. And that's where it all started. 85 00:05:15.480 --> 00:05:20.319 That's incredible. You know. I had not exactly like your experience, 86 00:05:20.360 --> 00:05:24.399 but I too was stock after my son died and 87 00:05:24.480 --> 00:05:28.199 I was immobilized by the grief and I was broken, 88 00:05:28.920 --> 00:05:32.759 and I had two other children at home and a 89 00:05:32.920 --> 00:05:36.560 husband and my mom and I needed to find a 90 00:05:36.600 --> 00:05:40.560 way to get on stock or to glue myself back together. 91 00:05:41.199 --> 00:05:46.000 So I went to a healer who she didn't use sound, 92 00:05:46.639 --> 00:05:52.040 but she used energy reiki to help heal me. And 93 00:05:52.720 --> 00:05:57.120 it was so powerful it really blew me away. I 94 00:05:57.199 --> 00:06:02.920 couldn't I couldn't even I had no idea how powerful 95 00:06:03.040 --> 00:06:03.399 that is. 96 00:06:03.839 --> 00:06:06.319 Well's so interesting you say that because I went for sound, 97 00:06:06.319 --> 00:06:08.720 and then I also started going to a reiki practitioner. 98 00:06:09.240 --> 00:06:11.560 That's when I first started going, was through my grief, 99 00:06:11.680 --> 00:06:14.439 and I ended up becoming a reiki practitioner also because 100 00:06:14.480 --> 00:06:18.360 they were working so well together. It sings sound and 101 00:06:18.480 --> 00:06:20.240 the energy from the reiki. 102 00:06:20.839 --> 00:06:26.839 It's it, they say that sound and energy, the whole vibration, 103 00:06:27.759 --> 00:06:31.120 it's all connected. That we're all connected, right. 104 00:06:30.959 --> 00:06:32.199 We are all connected. 105 00:06:32.600 --> 00:06:37.720 Oh my gosh. So outside of your practice, what brings 106 00:06:37.800 --> 00:06:41.360 you joy? What rituals or little things in your day 107 00:06:41.879 --> 00:06:43.439 keep you grounded well. 108 00:06:43.519 --> 00:06:45.240 I like to work out and run, so I'm a 109 00:06:45.319 --> 00:06:48.000 huge runner. I like to do that. I just did 110 00:06:48.000 --> 00:06:49.920 a five k this weekend. That was a lot of fun. 111 00:06:50.040 --> 00:06:51.560 Congratulation, Thank you. 112 00:06:51.920 --> 00:06:54.720 I'm really big into the Peloton community, so I do 113 00:06:54.800 --> 00:06:57.360 a lot of that. I'm really just moving my body. 114 00:06:58.000 --> 00:07:00.240 And then I do a lot of sound healing, not 115 00:07:00.399 --> 00:07:04.879 just for clients but for myself as well. And actually 116 00:07:05.079 --> 00:07:08.319 I do a lot virtually online, like on TikTok them 117 00:07:08.360 --> 00:07:09.920 on a couple of times a day where I'm just 118 00:07:10.000 --> 00:07:13.319 helping and just doing sound baths, you know, just for 119 00:07:13.399 --> 00:07:17.079 the masses that are on. So it to really become 120 00:07:17.360 --> 00:07:20.680 this huge part of my life, just my day to day. 121 00:07:20.720 --> 00:07:22.399 I spent so much time doing it. 122 00:07:22.639 --> 00:07:24.560 I didn't even know that that was a thing you 123 00:07:24.600 --> 00:07:27.759 could do. I did. I did when I was visiting 124 00:07:27.800 --> 00:07:30.800 a cousin out in California. We did a It was 125 00:07:30.839 --> 00:07:34.279 a place where you did the infrared sauna and then 126 00:07:34.279 --> 00:07:38.000 you did the cold plunge and then afterwards you went 127 00:07:38.040 --> 00:07:41.040 into a room where they did a sound bad and 128 00:07:41.600 --> 00:07:44.839 the combination of that was incredible. But I had no 129 00:07:44.959 --> 00:07:48.600 idea that this is. I guess everything's online. I do. 130 00:07:48.879 --> 00:07:50.079 My clients are through Zoom. 131 00:07:50.519 --> 00:07:50.800 Wow. 132 00:07:50.839 --> 00:07:53.399 So I just recently opened a studio in Ramsay, New Jersey, 133 00:07:53.399 --> 00:07:56.279 where I see clients in person, but prior to that, 134 00:07:57.319 --> 00:08:00.160 almost all of my clients were via Zoom. 135 00:08:00.399 --> 00:08:04.680 That's incredible. So this show is all about survivors. As 136 00:08:04.720 --> 00:08:06.920 you know, and in many ways that we find light 137 00:08:07.560 --> 00:08:11.759 in the dark. How do you see sound healing supporting 138 00:08:11.839 --> 00:08:15.079 people who have walked through trauma or grief. 139 00:08:16.720 --> 00:08:19.839 I think a lot of times we don't realize how 140 00:08:19.879 --> 00:08:23.360 important breath is. We go through our day breathing because 141 00:08:23.399 --> 00:08:26.839 we you know, it's automatic, We don't think about it. 142 00:08:26.879 --> 00:08:29.360 But there's a lot of power and healing and actually 143 00:08:29.399 --> 00:08:35.480 connecting to your breath in lowering your stress levels, your 144 00:08:35.519 --> 00:08:39.759 cortisol levels. Certain frequencies can actually help to lower your 145 00:08:39.799 --> 00:08:43.039 cortisol levels heart rate if they help to reduce stress 146 00:08:43.080 --> 00:08:46.960 and anxiety, they help promote sleep and relaxation. Whenever we 147 00:08:47.000 --> 00:08:49.799 can get more connected with our breath and we can 148 00:08:49.919 --> 00:08:52.600 lower our stress and our cortisol levels, there's a lot 149 00:08:52.639 --> 00:08:55.240 of healing in that. 150 00:08:55.240 --> 00:08:58.639 That's that's really funny you say that because sometimes you know, 151 00:08:58.919 --> 00:09:00.639 I wake up in the middle of the night and 152 00:09:00.679 --> 00:09:03.919 I can't fall back to sleep, and I've started from 153 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:09.399 my yoga practices. The meditations is counting backwards each breath 154 00:09:09.440 --> 00:09:13.080 from twenty seven and if I drift off or lose 155 00:09:13.120 --> 00:09:15.559 count and I wake up again, I start over again, 156 00:09:15.960 --> 00:09:20.360 and it really works. It works. It's fascinating, really. 157 00:09:20.600 --> 00:09:24.159 And you can get straight breathwork meditations that are so powerful. 158 00:09:24.480 --> 00:09:26.600 But I always like to incorporate the sound just for 159 00:09:26.679 --> 00:09:29.000 the energy and the frequencies of it. And there's a 160 00:09:29.000 --> 00:09:31.159 lot of studies that show there's a frequency which is 161 00:09:31.200 --> 00:09:33.399 four hundred and thirty two hurts, and there's been some 162 00:09:33.440 --> 00:09:37.000 studies that have shown that individuals who sleep who use 163 00:09:37.039 --> 00:09:39.840 that frequency to go to sleep sleep better than individuals 164 00:09:39.879 --> 00:09:40.320 who do not. 165 00:09:42.240 --> 00:09:47.000 That's amazing. Can you paint us a picture of what 166 00:09:47.120 --> 00:09:51.399 a session with you, what instruments, what energy, and what 167 00:09:51.559 --> 00:09:54.000 intention comes into the safe sure? 168 00:09:54.080 --> 00:09:56.679 So if it's a one on one, we always start 169 00:09:56.679 --> 00:09:59.960 with raiki. I want to have you on the reki table. 170 00:10:00.159 --> 00:10:02.559 We start with breath work. I want to do a 171 00:10:02.600 --> 00:10:05.039 small reiki session just to feel your energy to see 172 00:10:05.080 --> 00:10:07.799 if you have any blockages, there are anything that needs 173 00:10:07.799 --> 00:10:10.679 some alignment. And then from there I head over to 174 00:10:10.720 --> 00:10:14.000 the bulls and we start to do the full bowl 175 00:10:14.120 --> 00:10:15.639 session of all seven of them. 176 00:10:15.879 --> 00:10:16.320 Wow. 177 00:10:16.600 --> 00:10:19.879 But once I have already felt into you through your reiki, 178 00:10:19.960 --> 00:10:21.960 then I'll go to the bulls that work with those 179 00:10:22.000 --> 00:10:24.879 chakras too, either on block or to align to help 180 00:10:24.919 --> 00:10:29.080 you get that frequency back on a healthier vibe. I 181 00:10:29.080 --> 00:10:33.919 guess right back in tune. Yeah, that's the way to 182 00:10:33.960 --> 00:10:34.320 say it. 183 00:10:34.399 --> 00:10:36.960 Well, it's true because grief shows up in so many 184 00:10:37.000 --> 00:10:39.720 different ways that you know, not just sadness. I mean 185 00:10:39.799 --> 00:10:43.360 some people are kin to you know. Add you know, 186 00:10:43.440 --> 00:10:47.720 you can't focus in a lot and it's so complex. 187 00:10:47.799 --> 00:10:50.879 So do you find you do different things for different people? 188 00:10:50.960 --> 00:10:54.120 Absolutely, especially with grief because a lot of people I 189 00:10:54.120 --> 00:10:56.360 mean that I've worked with, like they don't even want 190 00:10:56.399 --> 00:10:59.080 to talk about it, or they haven't talked about it. 191 00:10:59.159 --> 00:11:01.320 So when you get some into a space where they 192 00:11:01.360 --> 00:11:05.279 can release all of their emotions, it's so powerful, and 193 00:11:05.360 --> 00:11:08.919 they didn't they don't realize what they're feeling sometimes because 194 00:11:08.919 --> 00:11:11.559 it's buried so deep, and you know, you can be 195 00:11:11.600 --> 00:11:14.080 grieving something that happened ten years ago and not even 196 00:11:14.120 --> 00:11:17.000 realize it or realize you never actually grieved something you 197 00:11:17.039 --> 00:11:19.600 should have grieved exactly exactly. 198 00:11:20.360 --> 00:11:23.840 It's just so crazy. If there was someone listening today 199 00:11:23.960 --> 00:11:28.039 who feels stuck in pain, is there a simple home 200 00:11:28.240 --> 00:11:30.200 practice that you recommend they try? 201 00:11:30.840 --> 00:11:36.240 I always recommend talking to yourself. Ask yourself questions, Get curious, 202 00:11:36.679 --> 00:11:39.519 I'm feeling this, Why am I feeling this? Where in 203 00:11:39.559 --> 00:11:43.200 my body am I feeling this, What happened to that 204 00:11:43.240 --> 00:11:47.840 part of my body or whatever that's making me feel 205 00:11:47.840 --> 00:11:49.159 that way? Who said that? 206 00:11:49.360 --> 00:11:49.840 Is that me? 207 00:11:50.159 --> 00:11:52.559 Is that somebody else? What voice is that? What do 208 00:11:52.679 --> 00:11:54.000 I want to say back to them? 209 00:11:54.399 --> 00:11:55.279 Wow? 210 00:11:56.080 --> 00:12:01.720 With trauma clients, we tend to them work on an age. Okay, 211 00:12:01.759 --> 00:12:03.759 what age did that happen? What do you want to 212 00:12:03.799 --> 00:12:06.639 say to yourself at that age? Right? And it's kind 213 00:12:06.639 --> 00:12:10.000 of like inner child work. We're integrating those parts back 214 00:12:10.039 --> 00:12:12.440 to you because they are yours, they're part of you, 215 00:12:12.919 --> 00:12:15.960 but we've pushed them away. So what a station that 216 00:12:16.000 --> 00:12:17.759 you want to have with them? What do you want 217 00:12:17.799 --> 00:12:19.360 to say? How do you want them to feel? What 218 00:12:19.399 --> 00:12:21.519 are they saying to you? And it seems like weird 219 00:12:21.519 --> 00:12:24.360 at first that we're having this conversation with our eight 220 00:12:24.480 --> 00:12:26.360 year old self, for our nine year old self or 221 00:12:26.360 --> 00:12:29.799 our thirty year old self, whatever age, But there's power 222 00:12:29.840 --> 00:12:32.320 and wisdom in the things we've pushed away. 223 00:12:32.879 --> 00:12:36.279 It's so true. And sometimes if you don't address those 224 00:12:36.799 --> 00:12:40.360 traumas or that grief or whatever you're holding on to, 225 00:12:41.159 --> 00:12:45.840 it doesn't go away and manifests itself in different ways. 226 00:12:45.919 --> 00:12:46.799 And later on. 227 00:12:47.159 --> 00:12:49.279 There's a book I Forgot I forget who writes it, 228 00:12:49.320 --> 00:12:52.039 but it's about healing trauma, and it's the trauma cycle, 229 00:12:52.120 --> 00:12:54.159 and it talks about I really I'll get the name 230 00:12:54.200 --> 00:12:55.240 and send it to you. 231 00:12:55.440 --> 00:12:56.440 I would know that. 232 00:12:56.519 --> 00:12:59.759 Yeah, But it's about how if someone's crying and you say, oh, 233 00:12:59.759 --> 00:13:02.000 don't cry, here's a tissue, and you have them stop. 234 00:13:02.120 --> 00:13:04.399 Now that trauma is stuck in their body, and now 235 00:13:04.440 --> 00:13:08.480 that causes five years from now it can still be 236 00:13:08.600 --> 00:13:11.639 there because they never got it out. So how do 237 00:13:11.720 --> 00:13:15.679 you finished the trauma sy that the energy comes out 238 00:13:15.720 --> 00:13:16.679 of your body. 239 00:13:16.960 --> 00:13:20.720 That's incredibly because if you think about young boys. I 240 00:13:21.000 --> 00:13:27.399 have boys, and growing up there, I didn't tell them 241 00:13:27.399 --> 00:13:29.480 not to cry. I'm like, cry, well you want cry 242 00:13:29.559 --> 00:13:33.399 a river. It's it's good, but there there, I guess 243 00:13:33.519 --> 00:13:38.240 the males in general are encouraged to not show those feelings, 244 00:13:38.279 --> 00:13:43.480 to hold them all in, and by doing so, you're 245 00:13:43.519 --> 00:13:47.200 pointing out that it gets stuck in there, stuck in there, 246 00:13:47.720 --> 00:13:50.360 you know, and then we have a big health crisis 247 00:13:50.360 --> 00:13:54.039 with men. Mental health is a big issue. Do you 248 00:13:54.080 --> 00:13:59.320 know more men die by suicide side than than than women. 249 00:13:59.399 --> 00:14:02.000 It's it's sad, it really is. 250 00:14:02.240 --> 00:14:04.559 It is very sad. Most of my grief. Clients that 251 00:14:04.639 --> 00:14:07.679 I have are men whose sons have committed suicide. 252 00:14:08.559 --> 00:14:10.559 Oh that just breaks my heart. 253 00:14:10.679 --> 00:14:14.960 And from twenty up to sixty, I mean, of all ages. 254 00:14:16.159 --> 00:14:16.480 Wow. 255 00:14:16.639 --> 00:14:18.440 One of the first things they teach you in life 256 00:14:18.639 --> 00:14:20.519 I went to I took a life coaching course from 257 00:14:20.559 --> 00:14:23.320 a company called CTI, and one of the first things 258 00:14:23.399 --> 00:14:26.159 they taught us was don't hand someone's tissue and tell 259 00:14:26.200 --> 00:14:27.960 them to cry. Hand them a tissue and tell them 260 00:14:28.519 --> 00:14:31.360 get it out, but don't tell people don't cry. 261 00:14:31.600 --> 00:14:35.600 Yeah, I tell you talk a little bit about that 262 00:14:35.720 --> 00:14:38.840 your journey through the other things that you do besides 263 00:14:38.960 --> 00:14:40.240 the soundbaths. 264 00:14:40.679 --> 00:14:42.639 So I'm also a life coach. I've been a life 265 00:14:42.639 --> 00:14:46.519 coach since about twenty seventeen, twenty eighteen, when I was certified. 266 00:14:47.399 --> 00:14:50.720 Prior to doing all of this work, I worked in corporate. 267 00:14:50.840 --> 00:14:55.639 I worked in office. I was doing contract finance. I 268 00:14:55.720 --> 00:14:59.039 wasn't happy like the office. I know it's not you know, 269 00:14:59.080 --> 00:15:01.519 some people love it. I totally respect that, but it 270 00:15:01.559 --> 00:15:05.279 was not for me. I was really sad and really 271 00:15:05.320 --> 00:15:08.600 depressed all the time. I just I always felt like 272 00:15:08.639 --> 00:15:11.080 I wanted to help people, but I didn't know how, 273 00:15:11.759 --> 00:15:14.279 and I wanted to just be out more and be 274 00:15:14.399 --> 00:15:17.279 more active than the life that I could live in 275 00:15:17.519 --> 00:15:19.440 working in the office. And I was just so sad 276 00:15:19.480 --> 00:15:23.240 all the time. So I started working with a life coach. 277 00:15:23.440 --> 00:15:29.120 Her name's Jessica King, and she completely changed my entire life. Wow. 278 00:15:31.000 --> 00:15:34.440 So through working with her, as was life coaching, personal 279 00:15:34.480 --> 00:15:36.200 training and nutrition at the time, so it was like 280 00:15:36.240 --> 00:15:38.200 this full three sixth se that we still have the 281 00:15:38.200 --> 00:15:42.159 program it's called Mindful three that I manage. She really 282 00:15:42.440 --> 00:15:45.080 made me see that there were all these other options 283 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:46.759 out there and I didn't have to take the same 284 00:15:46.799 --> 00:15:49.240 path as everybody else because I think I kind of 285 00:15:49.320 --> 00:15:51.279 just got you know, sometimes you just get stuck in 286 00:15:51.320 --> 00:15:53.080 these like well this is just what you do. You 287 00:15:53.200 --> 00:15:55.120 just go to work and if you're unhappy, you just 288 00:15:55.159 --> 00:15:57.799 suck it up and get your paycheck. And I used 289 00:15:57.840 --> 00:16:00.000 to think about driving my car into like the divide. 290 00:16:00.240 --> 00:16:04.399 I was really really not living the life that I 291 00:16:04.440 --> 00:16:05.039 wanted to live. 292 00:16:05.240 --> 00:16:05.799 Wow. 293 00:16:06.240 --> 00:16:08.919 And eventually, you know, we did so much work together. 294 00:16:08.960 --> 00:16:10.600 I worked with her for like a year, and I 295 00:16:10.639 --> 00:16:12.559 was always like, Okay, I know I can leave here. 296 00:16:12.600 --> 00:16:15.000 I just need to figure out how One day she 297 00:16:15.039 --> 00:16:16.720 called me and said, hey, are you still with that 298 00:16:16.960 --> 00:16:21.519 shy job that you ate. And I said, and she said, 299 00:16:21.519 --> 00:16:24.440 well how about you quit just be my personal assistant. 300 00:16:25.360 --> 00:16:28.639 And I quit a six figure job to go be 301 00:16:28.759 --> 00:16:33.360 her personal assistant and it changed my entire life. 302 00:16:33.480 --> 00:16:36.720 Well, they say, if you do that, you love, the 303 00:16:36.759 --> 00:16:40.440 money will follow, because it's really not about the money. 304 00:16:40.879 --> 00:16:45.679 It's the frequency that you're on. Everything abundance. Everything is 305 00:16:45.720 --> 00:16:48.600 a frequency, and it's not always easy. I'm not saying 306 00:16:48.600 --> 00:16:50.679 it was easy, right. I had a supportive spouse at 307 00:16:50.679 --> 00:16:52.799 home that was like, if you stop crying, I don't 308 00:16:54.440 --> 00:17:00.000 stop crying every day. So she already had a business 309 00:17:00.000 --> 00:17:01.320 and she was like, hey, why don't you run it? 310 00:17:01.320 --> 00:17:04.440 It's really growing. You know, you have personal assistant run 311 00:17:04.480 --> 00:17:07.400 that business. And ten years later, I'm still I still 312 00:17:07.400 --> 00:17:10.279 work as her assistant, still running Mindful three. We have 313 00:17:10.319 --> 00:17:12.920 another bit's called Thoughtful Coaching that we still run. And 314 00:17:12.960 --> 00:17:14.759 I have all of this as well. 315 00:17:15.319 --> 00:17:22.720 That's amazing, absolutely so so cool. All right, Well, I 316 00:17:22.799 --> 00:17:26.079 have to ask you some fun If you're a healing 317 00:17:26.160 --> 00:17:31.400 style or an animal or sound, what would it be? 318 00:17:31.559 --> 00:17:33.960 And why, oh my god, there. 319 00:17:34.039 --> 00:17:36.440 Was an animal or a sound. 320 00:17:37.400 --> 00:17:39.720 You're a healing style, my healing style. 321 00:17:41.839 --> 00:17:46.039 I feel like I don't know. A rabbit comes to me, okay. 322 00:17:45.480 --> 00:17:47.759 But that's okay, So why why does the rabbit? 323 00:17:47.920 --> 00:17:51.119 They're fluffy and they're cute and they can be gentle, 324 00:17:51.200 --> 00:17:53.599 but they also have like a lot of energy to them. 325 00:17:53.920 --> 00:17:56.039 So I feel like I'm kind of a mix of boy. 326 00:17:56.079 --> 00:17:57.000 I love that. 327 00:17:58.279 --> 00:18:01.720 I'm trying to think what a little chaotic y well 328 00:18:01.720 --> 00:18:05.799 who is too, Like I hadn't when I was growing up, 329 00:18:05.839 --> 00:18:08.279 and it was super you know, jumping around all the 330 00:18:08.319 --> 00:18:10.920 time and a little chaotic, but also really like sensitive 331 00:18:11.119 --> 00:18:12.440 and calm and. 332 00:18:12.480 --> 00:18:17.519 You could really pat them and that's warm. I don't know, 333 00:18:18.039 --> 00:18:18.799 that's awesome. 334 00:18:18.920 --> 00:18:21.400 I'm trying to think what mine would be. I feel 335 00:18:21.440 --> 00:18:23.680 like the Tasmanian de like. 336 00:18:24.240 --> 00:18:26.839 I love that it's real, it is. 337 00:18:26.920 --> 00:18:29.000 I just like go a million miles and sometimes I 338 00:18:29.079 --> 00:18:31.160 move so fast I don't remember what I just did. 339 00:18:31.519 --> 00:18:34.359 It's like one of those things. But I always have 340 00:18:34.440 --> 00:18:37.559 the best of intentions and and that's that's that's what 341 00:18:37.640 --> 00:18:40.680 life's all about, doing what feels good for you. 342 00:18:40.960 --> 00:18:43.119 Absolutely, And I think working with the bulls so much, 343 00:18:43.200 --> 00:18:46.440 especially in the past year, has kind of even helped 344 00:18:46.480 --> 00:18:49.960 me slow down a little bit to a point because 345 00:18:49.960 --> 00:18:53.240 I seem like very chaotic, very friendic all the time, 346 00:18:53.720 --> 00:18:57.599 and I've really like reduced that a little bit in 347 00:18:57.640 --> 00:19:01.000 the last year to a level that were everything's a 348 00:19:01.039 --> 00:19:02.119 little more sustainable. 349 00:19:02.559 --> 00:19:04.759 Well, that's that's what my goal. That's what I'm trying 350 00:19:04.839 --> 00:19:08.359 to do. I'm trying to slow it down and breathe, 351 00:19:09.000 --> 00:19:12.960 and that's my goal. I'm not mastering that yet, but 352 00:19:13.720 --> 00:19:17.519 I'm trying. I'm trying to to live more in the 353 00:19:17.599 --> 00:19:21.559 moment and appreciate the moments that we're in, you know, 354 00:19:21.759 --> 00:19:24.319 the power of now and just just enjoy that, not 355 00:19:24.519 --> 00:19:27.359 focus on the future or get to where it worked 356 00:19:27.440 --> 00:19:31.119 up about what should be, could be and all of that. 357 00:19:33.000 --> 00:19:37.319 All right, Imagine you're hosting I don't know where questions, 358 00:19:37.599 --> 00:19:40.680 but imagine you're hosting a dream dinner party with three 359 00:19:40.720 --> 00:19:44.960 people anyone at all real imagined? Who would you have 360 00:19:45.079 --> 00:19:46.000 at your table? 361 00:19:48.039 --> 00:19:48.839 So, anybody? 362 00:19:48.920 --> 00:19:50.519 Anybody? 363 00:19:51.319 --> 00:19:54.799 I have my dad, he passed away two years. Yeah, 364 00:19:54.839 --> 00:19:57.039 I think I would have my dad, my grandfather, and 365 00:19:57.119 --> 00:20:00.279 my grandmother who passed away. Honestly, that's the first thing 366 00:20:00.319 --> 00:20:01.359 that comes to mind. 367 00:20:01.480 --> 00:20:06.440 Family is really our connection. Yeah, and it's it's hard 368 00:20:06.559 --> 00:20:10.519 when they crossed over to the other side. We miss them. 369 00:20:10.839 --> 00:20:12.160 And I'm pretty sure they're together. 370 00:20:12.319 --> 00:20:14.279 So oh, I'm sure they are, and I'm sure they're 371 00:20:14.319 --> 00:20:17.039 right here in their energy, but really cheering you on 372 00:20:17.200 --> 00:20:18.680 right now. This is so awesome. 373 00:20:18.799 --> 00:20:21.759 My dad's favorite holiday was Christmas, so his birthday was 374 00:20:21.799 --> 00:20:24.519 October sixteenth, so I'm already listening to Christmas music every 375 00:20:24.599 --> 00:20:26.759 year on October sixteenth. I just started. 376 00:20:28.240 --> 00:20:32.799 That's awesome. Oh my gosh. What's your go to song 377 00:20:33.240 --> 00:20:36.559 or sound that instantly lifts your spirit? 378 00:20:37.039 --> 00:20:40.640 Oh, I'm a nineties grunge girl. Oh, I love like Nirvana. 379 00:20:40.640 --> 00:20:43.799 Lithium's one of my favorite songs. Whatever, so I'll always 380 00:20:43.880 --> 00:20:46.839 throw that on. And I love like, I love all 381 00:20:46.839 --> 00:20:50.480 types of music, but nineties grunge and some good punk 382 00:20:50.559 --> 00:20:51.400 and I'm happy. 383 00:20:53.039 --> 00:20:56.839 But that's important. I think. I think, I think finding 384 00:20:56.920 --> 00:21:01.440 your jam and just being able to just we live 385 00:21:01.519 --> 00:21:03.799 those happy moments of your life right. 386 00:21:04.359 --> 00:21:06.480 And I always say there's places for everything, right, Like, 387 00:21:07.000 --> 00:21:08.720 you know, people will be surprised, they're like, oh, you 388 00:21:08.720 --> 00:21:13.000 don't listen to frequencies or sometimes sure, but like I 389 00:21:13.039 --> 00:21:15.920 love nineties grunge, I love rock, I love concerts, I 390 00:21:15.960 --> 00:21:19.960 love punk pop, you know, pop punk things are my jam. 391 00:21:20.640 --> 00:21:23.519 Oh my gosh I know, and and that's what's beautiful 392 00:21:23.519 --> 00:21:27.359 about it. Now. You're also you know, you also do 393 00:21:27.440 --> 00:21:30.200 grief coaching besides life coaching and all of that. Can 394 00:21:30.240 --> 00:21:32.599 you talk a little bit about about that aspect of 395 00:21:32.640 --> 00:21:33.079 your career? 396 00:21:33.160 --> 00:21:38.440 Absolutely so with grief coaching, I work with clients on 397 00:21:38.880 --> 00:21:43.359 what happens now, the fact that the grief isn't may 398 00:21:43.440 --> 00:21:46.480 never go away, but how do you walk beside it? 399 00:21:47.519 --> 00:21:50.400 What are things that we can do together so that 400 00:21:50.480 --> 00:21:54.319 you cannot feel as stuck as sad all the time? 401 00:21:55.160 --> 00:21:59.200