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Speaker 1: Hey, Sara, and this is vocal dfrag. Vocal defragging is

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giving yourself permission to ask the questions and question the answers.

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We always ask family and friends questions about how we

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can do this, Why are we doing this? Why do

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I feel like this? Blah blah blah blah blah blah,

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and the answers they give are not really answers, it's

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their opinion. So you've got to really kind of face

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your own storm, ask the questions, question the answers. This

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is vocal defragging Today. The subject is facing your transitions,

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your mood swings, your mindsets, that place where all of

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a sudden there's an indentation in your path and you've

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got nothing. You don't know where you're going to go

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grow or where you're going to step, and it should

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be the right step, the wrong step, the fallen step.

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So facing your transitions means understanding your transitions and really

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kind of putting a face on why you might be

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in that mindset or mood swing, being truthful to yourself

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by asking the questions and questioning the answers. Now everybody says, well,

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of course, I'm always in transition, because I'm a creative person.

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I think that's an excuse. I think each and every

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one of us go through several different questioning periods, but

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we keep those questions on the inside. We don't face

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them out here on the outside shell. What we do

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is we internally hold onto these ambitions, lack of fire,

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our questions, our fear, our shame, our doubt, the guilt

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trips we put ourselves on, but we don't deal with

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it on the outside because we've got a facade to

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keep alive. Look at your social media, what are you

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really posting on there? Yeah, you have those moments where

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you want to bitch and moan and complain, But you

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know what, those that receive it are going, God, I

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gotta ghost this person. They're always being negative. I gotta

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do something else. Is that really who you want to be?

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Because once you've been ghosted, all of a sudden, that's

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more weight on your shoulders. But facing your transitions means

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listening to them, listening to why you've been triggered, what

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went wrong or what went right and then suddenly shifted

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to a different area that suddenly you're in a different mindset.

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You know, people always see you as what you know

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when I'm at the essential job. You know, when I'm

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not in a great mood. People feel that, and I

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have to remind myself that, Hey, people feel that. I

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often respond with, what am I the only one that

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can't be in a bad mood today? I don't physically

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say that, but I think that. I had a conversation

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with my wife yesterday and I told her if people

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only knew what I'm truly thinking when they approached me

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at the essential job, they wouldn't come anywhere near me

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ever again. And the reason why is because I believe

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so much in having that inner voice. But the question is,

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are we listening to our inner voice in the way

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of educating a smarter person on the outside understanding the transitions,

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the mood swings, the mindsets being in a place that

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can be greater if we would just face the transition.

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And that means answering that call from the inside. If

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the little guy or girl inside of you is being

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a butt today, let him know, Hey, why are you

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thinking like this? Why can't you just make the choice?

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Winning is a choice and so is being a butt?

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Do you have to be this way today? Knowing that

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no matter how bad you feel, you ain't going home.

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You got to face the transition. So now how do

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you do that? Now? I do it with a d

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FRAG journal, a handwritten journal where I'm asking the questions

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and question and the answers. And I also do a

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vocal DFRAG where I physically hear it in my voice.

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Oh man, when you get used to hearing your voice

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your up times, you're questioning times, your guilt trip times,

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when you hear those vocal tones that you're sharing, that

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is an eye opener because when you're not recording your

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vocal d frek, you know what happens. You're speaking the

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everyday street, and the way that you speak during those

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mood swings or transitions comes out in the everyday world,

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and that's how people are receiving you. So that's why

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I say, try to face your transition. Understand that we

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all are moody, We're all very tired. We are sick

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of the way that things are happening in the world.

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But what can we do as a human being to

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make it possible to be positive? It starts with you.

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Your happiness starts with you. Don't rely on others to

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bring it to you, bring it to yourself. I'm Eryl

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and that's vocal d freg