Speaker 1: Hey, Sara, and this is vocal dfrag. Vocal defragging is
giving yourself permission to ask the questions and question the answers.
We always ask family and friends questions about how we
can do this, Why are we doing this? Why do
I feel like this? Blah blah blah blah blah blah,
and the answers they give are not really answers, it's
their opinion. So you've got to really kind of face
your own storm, ask the questions, question the answers. This
is vocal defragging Today. The subject is facing your transitions,
your mood swings, your mindsets, that place where all of
a sudden there's an indentation in your path and you've
got nothing. You don't know where you're going to go
grow or where you're going to step, and it should
be the right step, the wrong step, the fallen step.
So facing your transitions means understanding your transitions and really
kind of putting a face on why you might be
in that mindset or mood swing, being truthful to yourself
by asking the questions and questioning the answers. Now everybody says, well,
of course, I'm always in transition, because I'm a creative person.
I think that's an excuse. I think each and every
one of us go through several different questioning periods, but
we keep those questions on the inside. We don't face
them out here on the outside shell. What we do
is we internally hold onto these ambitions, lack of fire,
our questions, our fear, our shame, our doubt, the guilt
trips we put ourselves on, but we don't deal with
it on the outside because we've got a facade to
keep alive. Look at your social media, what are you
really posting on there? Yeah, you have those moments where
you want to bitch and moan and complain, But you
know what, those that receive it are going, God, I
gotta ghost this person. They're always being negative. I gotta
do something else. Is that really who you want to be?
Because once you've been ghosted, all of a sudden, that's
more weight on your shoulders. But facing your transitions means
listening to them, listening to why you've been triggered, what
went wrong or what went right and then suddenly shifted
to a different area that suddenly you're in a different mindset.
You know, people always see you as what you know
when I'm at the essential job. You know, when I'm
not in a great mood. People feel that, and I
have to remind myself that, Hey, people feel that. I
often respond with, what am I the only one that
can't be in a bad mood today? I don't physically
say that, but I think that. I had a conversation
with my wife yesterday and I told her if people
only knew what I'm truly thinking when they approached me
at the essential job, they wouldn't come anywhere near me
ever again. And the reason why is because I believe
so much in having that inner voice. But the question is,
are we listening to our inner voice in the way
of educating a smarter person on the outside understanding the transitions,
the mood swings, the mindsets being in a place that
can be greater if we would just face the transition.
And that means answering that call from the inside. If
the little guy or girl inside of you is being
a butt today, let him know, Hey, why are you
thinking like this? Why can't you just make the choice?
Winning is a choice and so is being a butt?
Do you have to be this way today? Knowing that
no matter how bad you feel, you ain't going home.
You got to face the transition. So now how do
you do that? Now? I do it with a d
FRAG journal, a handwritten journal where I'm asking the questions
and question and the answers. And I also do a
vocal DFRAG where I physically hear it in my voice.
Oh man, when you get used to hearing your voice
your up times, you're questioning times, your guilt trip times,
when you hear those vocal tones that you're sharing, that
is an eye opener because when you're not recording your
vocal d frek, you know what happens. You're speaking the
everyday street, and the way that you speak during those
mood swings or transitions comes out in the everyday world,
and that's how people are receiving you. So that's why
I say, try to face your transition. Understand that we
all are moody, We're all very tired. We are sick
of the way that things are happening in the world.
But what can we do as a human being to
make it possible to be positive? It starts with you.
Your happiness starts with you. Don't rely on others to
bring it to you, bring it to yourself. I'm Eryl
and that's vocal d freg