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Speaker 1: Hey, Sarah, and this is vocal d frag. Vocal d

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fragging is giving yourself permission to ask yourself the questions

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and question the answers. We're constantly caught up in a thought,

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and most of the time we take those thoughts to

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other people and we want to know, well, what do

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you think about this without really figuring out the plan

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for yourself. And that's the reason why I started doing

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a D frag journal in November of twenty seventeen. And

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then I do these vocal d frags while I'm on

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this path in South Charlotte, in this beautiful forest. So

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vocal d fragging is the opportunity to hear your pitch

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volume and tone your emotion when you do put it

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in a journal. The one thing that I've learned over

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the past oh my god, eight years, the one thing

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I've learned is that when you go back to read it,

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it's your modern day interpretation. It's not the physical emotions

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like you would get by doing a vocal D frag.

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This is vocal d frag. Very interesting thought came to

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me the very second I stepped into this forest today.

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I was describing what it's like to be someone in

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customer SERVI it feels like you're in the center of

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a professional wrestling match. You're going up against Ric Flair

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and arn Anderson, both of them in the middle of

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that ring with you just pounding the hell OUTI. You

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know your partner's over in the corner, and that partner

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is God, and you know you're going to get back

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to that corner because God said, yes you can. So

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what we're going to talk about today is not necessarily religion.

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I'm just going to base it off what came to

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me while I walked into this forest. What are the

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things that you have put yourself in but you chose

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to walk away from because you saw what was going

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on in the match, in the challenge, and you thought,

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I'm tired, I don't have it in me. I got

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to tap out. And yet your answer was only maybe

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two or three feet away because something put you in

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that ring. People don't just show up there when it

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comes to professional boxing matches, wrestling matches, even in professional bowling,

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or even in the super Bowl. What happens is is

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that you busted your tail somehow some way to get

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to that moment, and if you suddenly turn it off,

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now I have to ask the question why, which is

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a very very tough question to face, because many times

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we don't want to know why. We just accept our

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why and then we try to move on, and then

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when we get into a new situation, it's the same

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story over and over again. So I'll ask again why.

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Sometimes you got to face it. I mean, when you

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go into the restroom and you're washing your hands, who's

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looking back at you? You? I mean, that's the greatest

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image on the planet every single day you it's you.

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And when you face your why, you're able to say,

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you know, I couldn't get to the corner to get

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that victory over Rick Flair and arn Anderson, but I

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know the reason why I couldn't do it. Therefore, the

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next time that I get an opportunity to do that,

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I'm going to be smarter and I'm going to use

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different techniques in order to myself in a position where

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I'm not going to be right there, right now asking

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that question why. And you know what, being truthful to

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yourself is not a personal injury. It's being open, honest, transparent.

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You can still find persistence as well as perseverance inside

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your why. It doesn't always have to look so pretty.

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It doesn't have to smell so nice. The reason why

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you do certain things has a story before it, and

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it's not just one day, but it could be several

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different chapters that led up to this. I was talking

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with somebody the other day. They're having relationship problems, and

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I said, so, what has led to this moment of

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right now? Well, it just started and I go, no, no,

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And I'm not going to buy that because nothing just starts.

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There are so many things that lead up to where

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we are in this moment of now that the one

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thing that we forget is why we're in this moment

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of now. Like I said, doing a d FRAG journal

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has been one of the greatest tools because I'm able

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to physically face myself, love myself, honor myself, not conceit,

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not over confidence. It is having the courage to be

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myself instead of what other people think that I am.

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Come on, your own boss. Your own boss controls everything

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you're doing by the almighty paycheck. Well what about your career.

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I've asked many people that. Many times I'll say, well,

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this is what I'm doing, doing, doing, doing, doing doing. Oh,

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that's fine and dandy, but what about your own personal life.

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What are you doing in order to preserve your futureself?

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So you don't have to sit around and be a

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grumpy old man or an angry woman when you're in

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your sixties and seventies because you didn't get to do

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what you wanted to do and you can't go backwards

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in order to correct it. So why not start asking yourself?

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Question why? Now? Face your why? Answer your why, give

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yourself permission to grow beyond who you think you are

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without having to ask other people. Stop those days they

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don't know who you are. They don't walk in your shoes,

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they don't wake up with you, they don't take a

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shower with you. When you're trying to scrub everything off

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your mind, body and soul, ask yourself why, and then

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begin your process of growing forward. It's called defragging. I'm

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Maril