Speaker 1: Hey, Sarah, and this is vocal d frag. Vocal d
fragging is giving yourself permission to ask yourself the questions
and question the answers. We're constantly caught up in a thought,
and most of the time we take those thoughts to
other people and we want to know, well, what do
you think about this without really figuring out the plan
for yourself. And that's the reason why I started doing
a D frag journal in November of twenty seventeen. And
then I do these vocal d frags while I'm on
this path in South Charlotte, in this beautiful forest. So
vocal d fragging is the opportunity to hear your pitch
volume and tone your emotion when you do put it
in a journal. The one thing that I've learned over
the past oh my god, eight years, the one thing
I've learned is that when you go back to read it,
it's your modern day interpretation. It's not the physical emotions
like you would get by doing a vocal D frag.
This is vocal d frag. Very interesting thought came to
me the very second I stepped into this forest today.
I was describing what it's like to be someone in
customer SERVI it feels like you're in the center of
a professional wrestling match. You're going up against Ric Flair
and arn Anderson, both of them in the middle of
that ring with you just pounding the hell OUTI. You
know your partner's over in the corner, and that partner
is God, and you know you're going to get back
to that corner because God said, yes you can. So
what we're going to talk about today is not necessarily religion.
I'm just going to base it off what came to
me while I walked into this forest. What are the
things that you have put yourself in but you chose
to walk away from because you saw what was going
on in the match, in the challenge, and you thought,
I'm tired, I don't have it in me. I got
to tap out. And yet your answer was only maybe
two or three feet away because something put you in
that ring. People don't just show up there when it
comes to professional boxing matches, wrestling matches, even in professional bowling,
or even in the super Bowl. What happens is is
that you busted your tail somehow some way to get
to that moment, and if you suddenly turn it off,
now I have to ask the question why, which is
a very very tough question to face, because many times
we don't want to know why. We just accept our
why and then we try to move on, and then
when we get into a new situation, it's the same
story over and over again. So I'll ask again why.
Sometimes you got to face it. I mean, when you
go into the restroom and you're washing your hands, who's
looking back at you? You? I mean, that's the greatest
image on the planet every single day you it's you.
And when you face your why, you're able to say,
you know, I couldn't get to the corner to get
that victory over Rick Flair and arn Anderson, but I
know the reason why I couldn't do it. Therefore, the
next time that I get an opportunity to do that,
I'm going to be smarter and I'm going to use
different techniques in order to myself in a position where
I'm not going to be right there, right now asking
that question why. And you know what, being truthful to
yourself is not a personal injury. It's being open, honest, transparent.
You can still find persistence as well as perseverance inside
your why. It doesn't always have to look so pretty.
It doesn't have to smell so nice. The reason why
you do certain things has a story before it, and
it's not just one day, but it could be several
different chapters that led up to this. I was talking
with somebody the other day. They're having relationship problems, and
I said, so, what has led to this moment of
right now? Well, it just started and I go, no, no,
And I'm not going to buy that because nothing just starts.
There are so many things that lead up to where
we are in this moment of now that the one
thing that we forget is why we're in this moment
of now. Like I said, doing a d FRAG journal
has been one of the greatest tools because I'm able
to physically face myself, love myself, honor myself, not conceit,
not over confidence. It is having the courage to be
myself instead of what other people think that I am.
Come on, your own boss. Your own boss controls everything
you're doing by the almighty paycheck. Well what about your career.
I've asked many people that. Many times I'll say, well,
this is what I'm doing, doing, doing, doing, doing doing. Oh,
that's fine and dandy, but what about your own personal life.
What are you doing in order to preserve your futureself?
So you don't have to sit around and be a
grumpy old man or an angry woman when you're in
your sixties and seventies because you didn't get to do
what you wanted to do and you can't go backwards
in order to correct it. So why not start asking yourself?
Question why? Now? Face your why? Answer your why, give
yourself permission to grow beyond who you think you are
without having to ask other people. Stop those days they
don't know who you are. They don't walk in your shoes,
they don't wake up with you, they don't take a
shower with you. When you're trying to scrub everything off
your mind, body and soul, ask yourself why, and then
begin your process of growing forward. It's called defragging. I'm
Maril