Speaker 1: Canceit cancel, it's not saving.
Speaker 2: They always come back. Well, they always come back when
Speaker 2: you embody this specific energy that we're going to talk
Speaker 2: about today. Now, this podcast episode isn't how to get
Speaker 2: your X back. This is about how to stand in
Speaker 2: your power. How do you have big aura energy, how
Speaker 2: to magnetize your highest timeline desires to you. This is
Speaker 2: not about a Brad or a Chad or Brittany. This
Speaker 2: is about how you take your power back and live
Speaker 2: the life that you came here to live. I know
Speaker 2: it's mercury retrograde, which is a time famous for past
Speaker 2: lessons coming back around. So you most likely have either
Speaker 2: had people or circumstances from your past revisit you. Now,
Speaker 2: this isn't because some demonic force outside of you is
Speaker 2: testing you know. This is because your higher self is
Speaker 2: reopening to pass experiences to train you to stay in
Speaker 2: your power. I recently had an ex comeback and they
Speaker 2: sent me a song. I said why, and they told
Speaker 2: me made me think of you, And obviously I had
Speaker 2: an answer because well, duh, I am me. I am
Speaker 2: a lover girl. I channeled the divine's unconditional love to
Speaker 2: the human beings on this planet. I know that the
Speaker 2: love that I give will forever leave a legacy within
Speaker 2: your heart. I know that even if you date someone
Speaker 2: else or get married, that you're not gonna forget the
Speaker 2: experience you had with me. If you are listening to
Speaker 2: this podcast, Mah friend in Christ, it is because you
Speaker 2: have a similar heart posture to me. And this means
Speaker 2: you don't try to get revenge on people. You speak
Speaker 2: to God and say how do I heel through this?
Speaker 2: It means you don't seek to chase, to try to
Speaker 2: claw your way back into people's lives. You release them
Speaker 2: and know that what is yours, under your divine right
Speaker 2: will find you. And let me just tell you what
Speaker 2: I have seen in the collective time and time again,
Speaker 2: is someone like me? Is someone like you showing up
Speaker 2: in relationship giving love, overfunctioning, showing up every day with
Speaker 2: our best mindsets. And then we're met with someone who, Yeah,
Speaker 2: they look at us, they want us, they like us,
Speaker 2: they might even love us, but they aren't capable of
Speaker 2: receiving our love or being in a frequency that matches ours,
Speaker 2: or they're not willing to rise in their masculine So
Speaker 2: what do they do? They choose to go back to
Speaker 2: their comfort zone, choose to go back to their maladaptive
Speaker 2: coping mechanisms. They choose to go back to their shadows.
Speaker 2: And what happens is it's a very painful experience for
Speaker 2: us with the upright heart posture, when we're trying to fix,
Speaker 2: when we're trying to help, when we're trying to heal,
Speaker 2: and they're rejecting that love. And that is a karma
Speaker 2: experience that we need to feel and go through. And
Speaker 2: if you have recently gone through a breakup and you
Speaker 2: feel like, damn, that was karmak, congratulations because now you
Speaker 2: have chosen yourself, You have removed yourself, or maybe the
Speaker 2: divine stepped in and removed that person from you, but
Speaker 2: you are free and your karma is cleansed. What happens
Speaker 2: when that person does not rise to meet you is
Speaker 2: the second your karma ends and is cleansed, theirs begins
Speaker 2: because now they have to live the rest of their
Speaker 2: life knowing the type of love you could give, knowing
Speaker 2: the type of person you are, knowing your heart, and
Speaker 2: also knowing they can't have you, that you've moved on,
Speaker 2: that you've chosen yourself, and again they might date someone else.
Speaker 2: They might marry someone else, it doesn't matter. They will
Speaker 2: still be thinking of you. And I know this to
Speaker 2: be true because I've literally seen it in my life experience.
Speaker 2: Another specimen of mine was texting me asking me about
Speaker 2: my whereabouts, and I just said, what makes you ask this?
Speaker 2: I'm just questioning everyone. He was just curious, And guess what,
Speaker 2: you being curious about me? You missing me is not
Speaker 2: enough for me. Just because you want to talk to me,
Speaker 2: you want to see me, you're curious about what I'm doing,
Speaker 2: does not mean you can afford my frequency. There are
Speaker 2: people who are gonna want you. They're gonna want to
Speaker 2: taste you, They're gonna want a piece of you. It
Speaker 2: doesn't mean that they are also willing to give to you,
Speaker 2: that they are also willing to ground into their energy
Speaker 2: to rise up in their masculine where am I? Well,
Speaker 2: that's none of any of these specimens business. It's not
Speaker 2: truly just this mercury retrograde that's pulling these people back
Speaker 2: to me. It's my higher self showing me, look how
Speaker 2: far you have come, and can you stay in your power?
Speaker 2: Can you stay in your magnetic energy? This isn't the
Speaker 2: first time exes have come back around for me, and
Speaker 2: it won't be the last. Why this isn't random, This
Speaker 2: is energetic, this is psychological, This is about identity. I
Speaker 2: have made a decision that, as Christa, I don't energetically chase.
Speaker 2: If you are confused in your own life, that's fine,
Speaker 2: but you're not allowed to bleed on me. Today we're
Speaker 2: going to talk about energetic chasing, what this actually means,
Speaker 2: how to stop doing it, how to call your power back,
Speaker 2: and so much more. You are going to free yourself
Speaker 2: into your present moment rather than being obsessed with a
Speaker 2: chat you cannot give you what you want. What's up,
Speaker 2: positive bitches? How are you doing today? If you're hearing
Speaker 2: this episode, then you were meant to be here, So
Speaker 2: keep listening on that Bitch is Positive podcast. Sometimes we
Speaker 2: will laugh, other times the Babe, we're gonna cry, but
Speaker 2: we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive
Speaker 2: bitch self. That is babe and true connection with herself,
Speaker 2: himself or human self. I don't care if you identify
Speaker 2: as an et alien, doesn't really matter to me. If
Speaker 2: you want to step into your power, you have found
Speaker 2: the perfect guide. On this podcast, we unbecome who we are,
Speaker 2: not so we can fully step into exactly who we
Speaker 2: came here to be. Now, maybe Brad won't text you back,
Speaker 2: But baby girl, baby boy, I have written you a
Speaker 2: whole entire book to help you remember who you are.
Speaker 2: I don't make money on this book. This book is
Speaker 2: truly for you to remember what you came here to
Speaker 2: do and how to step into that energy. I have
Speaker 2: reverse engineered a technique to quantum shift your whole entire
Speaker 2: reality confirmation. If you could hear that notification. If you
Speaker 2: have not yet gone in show up as hert be
Speaker 2: sure to get that. What pair's great with this podcast
Speaker 2: is the art of alchemy. This is going to help
Speaker 2: you really release all of the grief and the pain
Speaker 2: around this relationship, so you can use that pain and
Speaker 2: create it transmute it into your power. You are gifted
Speaker 2: lower vibrational experiences to take the energy from those experiences
Speaker 2: and mold it into your power. So use the hurt
Speaker 2: that Brad gave you and transmute it, alchemize it into
Speaker 2: your light. You can also get the twenty one day
Speaker 2: Breakup Globe Challenge. This is specifically if you're going through
Speaker 2: a breakup that is going to be your best friend
Speaker 2: It is going to help you release what you need
Speaker 2: to release, remember who you are, reclaim your power, and
Speaker 2: have a new lease on life. Obviously, the Calling your
Speaker 2: Power Back Workbook is going to be great. I would
Speaker 2: even recommend getting that right now, pausing this podcast printing
Speaker 2: it out. There are specific pages in this workbook that
Speaker 2: will help you understand where you're energetically chasing, so you
Speaker 2: can then stop that behavior, correct it, and get back
Speaker 2: into your power. We cannot heal what we are in
Speaker 2: denial of without further ado. Let's get into today's episode.
Speaker 2: In my Calling your Power Back workbook, there's a whole
Speaker 2: entire checklist of different behaviors that are chasing. If you
Speaker 2: don't know if you're energetically chasing, this workbook is going
Speaker 2: to help you identify the behaviors you might be blind
Speaker 2: to in yourself. But I'm still going to give you
Speaker 2: a few so we can get that palette wet. Thank you.
Speaker 2: Most people don't even realize they're energetically chasing, so of
Speaker 2: course they can't heal it. Chasing isn't always physical. It
Speaker 2: doesn't mean you're calling them a million times or blue
Speaker 2: bombing them, as my mother says, which is texting a
Speaker 2: bunch of times. This looks like replaying old conversations, trying
Speaker 2: to understand why they're acting in the way that they're acting,
Speaker 2: stalking their socials, over analyzing their words, telling your friends
Speaker 2: about them one million times, but still choosing to stay
Speaker 2: with them. Want enclosure, trying to explain yourself so they
Speaker 2: finally get you thinking about them, talking about them. When
Speaker 2: you do this, you are leaking your energy Where focus goes,
Speaker 2: energy flows. The more you focus on what is Brad doing,
Speaker 2: what's going on with them, the more you're sending them energy.
Speaker 2: If you think they can't feel your energy, you got
Speaker 2: another one coming for you. Okay, we live on a
Speaker 2: planet where we have something called gravity. Can you see gravity?
Speaker 2: I know I can't, but lo and behold. It's a
Speaker 2: law of this universe. What you think about you send
Speaker 2: energy to, and that particle in this quantum field can
Speaker 2: feel it and will know that you're looking at it.
Speaker 2: This is the observer effect. Literally, in quantum physics, they
Speaker 2: have found that when a scientist looked at an electron,
Speaker 2: it would condense into three D form. But when the
Speaker 2: scientists took their eyes off of the electron, that three
Speaker 2: D form of the electron went into a wavelength. This
Speaker 2: means that what we're observed, no, it's being observed. The
Speaker 2: electron would manipulate its own behavior based on whether or
Speaker 2: not a scientist was looking at it. You might not
Speaker 2: think that thinking about someone, or saying their name, or
Speaker 2: talking about them constantly is sending them energy, But I
Speaker 2: hate to tell you it doesn't matter what you think,
Speaker 2: because it's energetic law. And you can either live within
Speaker 2: side of the law or you can live outside of
Speaker 2: the law. But either way, the laws are gonna be
Speaker 2: the laws. Okay, baby, this is what you need to understand.
Speaker 2: If you're wondering why are they always ghosting? Why do
Speaker 2: they always leave? Why are they never into me? If
Speaker 2: this is a pattern in your life, most likely you
Speaker 2: are energetically chasing them. Why would they come towards you
Speaker 2: if they already have you? Why would they turn towards
Speaker 2: you if they already have your energy? If you're giving
Speaker 2: them your time, your body, your frequency, your presence, your energy,
Speaker 2: your attention, what more could they need from you? Call
Speaker 2: your power back? Get the Calling your Power Back work book.
Speaker 2: When your energy leaves your body instead of you having
Speaker 2: this big or energy when you step into the room,
Speaker 2: your energy condenses, and the smaller your aura is, the
Speaker 2: less magnetic you are, because then you have become more density,
Speaker 2: more three D matter, and less energy. But the bigger
Speaker 2: your aura is, the more energy you are, and the
Speaker 2: less matter you are, that makes you more magnetic. Your
Speaker 2: power cannot be taken from you. You can only willingly
Speaker 2: give it away. This podcast is your reminder that no
Speaker 2: one can take your attention, no one can take your focus,
Speaker 2: no one can take your energy unless you allow them
Speaker 2: to have it. Because you are the one choosing where
Speaker 2: to put your eyes, where to put your ears, and
Speaker 2: where to put your body. From a psychological standpoint, this
Speaker 2: ties directly into anxious attachment. You have learned from a
Speaker 2: very young age than in order to have safety in relationships,
Speaker 2: you have to be hyper vigilant of other. And if
Speaker 2: you're hyper vigilant of other, you can then know how
Speaker 2: to react. You can then try to have this illusion
Speaker 2: of control over them so that they stay in your life.
Speaker 2: You may subconsciously believe the more you look at them,
Speaker 2: the less likely they will be to abandon you. The
Speaker 2: more you look at them, the more safety you have.
Speaker 2: But this couldn't be further from the truth, because the
Speaker 2: more you look to them and abandon yourself, the more
Speaker 2: likely they will abandon you. The more energy you give
Speaker 2: to them when they are not reciprocating this energy to you,
Speaker 2: the more you're repelling them. Anything we chase, whether it's
Speaker 2: a bug or a boy, will run away. When you're triggered,
Speaker 2: You're amygdala hijacks your whole entire system, and this is
Speaker 2: your brain's alarm center. It's responsible for fear, urgency, control,
Speaker 2: emotional reaction. So when something feels off, your brain will
Speaker 2: try to fix the situation, chase them, figure it out.
Speaker 2: You just don't want to lose. It's literally your inner
Speaker 2: child saying, oh no, this feels just like when mom
Speaker 2: would go to work and we would feel abandoned, or
Speaker 2: when dad would get the bottle and we would feel abandoned.
Speaker 2: I can't allow this person to abandon me. So what
Speaker 2: am I gonna do? I'm gonna obsess over them. Your
Speaker 2: brain thinks if you're obsessing over them, that it's somehow
Speaker 2: fixing the problem, but it's not doing anything except sending
Speaker 2: all of your energy towards them. You have to get
Speaker 2: back in your frame. What does this look like? Calling
Speaker 2: your power back. We're gonna get more into that. Don't worry.
Speaker 2: If your brain has learned to stay on guard, to
Speaker 2: react fast, to protect yourself, your default might be overthinking,
Speaker 2: needing control, reacting emotionally, reading into everything. This is amigsalah
Speaker 2: driven behavior. You're not doing this because something is necessarily
Speaker 2: wrong with you. You're not doing this because this is
Speaker 2: necessarily your future spouse. You're doing this because you don't
Speaker 2: respond well to what you perceive as stress. Magnetism does
Speaker 2: not come from the amygdalahs. Let's start there. It comes
Speaker 2: from your prefrontal cortex. That's when you can pause, you
Speaker 2: can regulate, you can choose. It's where you can have neutrality,
Speaker 2: have self respect, choose non attachment. When you're triggered, you're
Speaker 2: amygdala hijacks the system. It wants control, it's going to
Speaker 2: obsess over them. But magnetism comes from using your prefrontal
Speaker 2: cortex to pause, to detach, to let people reveal themselves.
Speaker 2: Let them is not a passive idea or concept. It's
Speaker 2: you learning how to regulate your power. Anytime someone is
Speaker 2: doing what I would prefer them not to do, instead
Speaker 2: of allowing my amygdala to make me feel crazy, chasing them,
Speaker 2: I say, nope, I'm going to take a deep breath in.
Speaker 2: When you take a deep breath in, that allows your
Speaker 2: vagus nerve to instead of sending SOS signals, it will
Speaker 2: send peace sig knows through your body instead of you
Speaker 2: stressing yourself out. You're bringing your attention back to your body,
Speaker 2: not on brad, back to your body, back to your breath.
Speaker 2: And you're gonna say, we'll see, We'll see what they do,
Speaker 2: We'll see what happens. We'll see if they want to
Speaker 2: act like a clown, I'm gonna let them. If they
Speaker 2: want to show me who they are, I'm gonna let them.
Speaker 2: Why are we so afraid to just see people for
Speaker 2: who they are? Are you that afraid to see beyond
Speaker 2: the illusion that you created in your own head about them?
Speaker 2: Are you that afraid to realize that they're not who
Speaker 2: you drew up in your head? The most interesting thing
Speaker 2: about other people is the way that we decide to
Speaker 2: frame them. If you're obsessed with them, it's because you
Speaker 2: have framed them as your future husband, and now that
Speaker 2: they're not acting like your future husband would, and because
Speaker 2: you're so obsessed and attached to that original story. You
Speaker 2: gave them that original roll, you start to freak out
Speaker 2: and your amigdala is triggered, and now you have so
Speaker 2: signals throughout your whole entire body, and you're energetically chasing
Speaker 2: them because you think it's gonna make you safe. The
Speaker 2: only cure to this is to say, wait a damn minute,
Speaker 2: No one can take my power away. I can only
Speaker 2: willingly give it away. How can I take it back?
Speaker 2: First through my focus. So I'm gonna take my focus
Speaker 2: and not put it on Brad. I'm gonna put it
Speaker 2: back on my breath and I'm gonna take a deep
Speaker 2: breath in and I'm gonna exhale. And when I take
Speaker 2: that deep breath in, it's going to alert my vegua
Speaker 2: nerve to send out peace signals instead of stress signals.
Speaker 2: And I'm gonna come back into my body and I'm
Speaker 2: gonna say, I'm gonna let them. I'm gonna allow them
Speaker 2: to show me who they are. I'm going to take
Speaker 2: off the rose colored glasses and I'm just gonna see
Speaker 2: who they are. Maybe you even say, God, give me
Speaker 2: eyes to see, ears to hear, in a heartful of discernment,
Speaker 2: so I may know them clearly there was someone recently
Speaker 2: that honestly, I really liked, and you just can't help
Speaker 2: when you feel that deep connection to someone, when you
Speaker 2: feel a really strong magnetic pull to someone, there's a reason.
Speaker 2: There is something in them that is either here to
Speaker 2: activate you, be a catalyst for you, teach you there's
Speaker 2: something within them that is meant to come into your reality.
Speaker 2: Before we come to planet Earth, we are almost in
Speaker 2: soul school and we will sit in a cluster of
Speaker 2: souls and we will decide who's going to come into
Speaker 2: our life about when. But timing can be altered because
Speaker 2: we do have free will, and we will have specific
Speaker 2: triggers where we will remember, oh wait, I know this soul.
Speaker 2: It might be their voice is going to be a
Speaker 2: trigger for you that wakes something up within your own
Speaker 2: soul that you remember who they are. It might be
Speaker 2: their laugh or the way that their face looks. It
Speaker 2: might be the speed in which they speak. There will
Speaker 2: be something about that soul that will trigger you into
Speaker 2: remembering who they are. So when you meet someone and
Speaker 2: you feel like you remember them, you feel like deja vu.
Speaker 2: You feel like they look recognizable to you, familiar to you.
Speaker 2: This is your soul picking up on their soul trigger
Speaker 2: so that you know this is meant to be someone
Speaker 2: in my life. This has happened to me so many times.
Speaker 2: I remember I was in a bar once and this
Speaker 2: man walked in. I didn't even see his face yet,
Speaker 2: and I just knew that is someone who's meant to
Speaker 2: be a part of my journey. And he was, and
Speaker 2: he played a great part in it. I was recently
Speaker 2: out and about at a concert and there was this
Speaker 2: guy who is just circling me, circling me for the
Speaker 2: whole concert, and finally he came up to me and
Speaker 2: I kept looking at him, although he thought we never
Speaker 2: had eye contact, because you guys know, I really don't
Speaker 2: get people eye contact. It's just not what I do.
Speaker 2: I rather look at the ground. And I said, it's
Speaker 2: just so weird that you came up to me because
Speaker 2: I was looking at you and trying to figure out
Speaker 2: how I knew you. And the truth is, I don't
Speaker 2: know him. I've never met him, but I recognize him.
Speaker 2: And when I was with him, it was just so
Speaker 2: it was so easy to be in his presence, and
Speaker 2: even holding his hand felt so natural. Whenever we would kiss,
Speaker 2: it just felt so natural, and I just knew this
Speaker 2: was a soul that was familiar to me, and I'm
Speaker 2: probably going to cry. I might not, but I might
Speaker 2: because I can feel so deeply that I've known this
Speaker 2: soul for so long. And any time I recognize a
Speaker 2: soul that I haven't experienced in a while, maybe lifetimes,
Speaker 2: and I finally feel them again, it's like coming home
Speaker 2: to memories I didn't even know I had. And so
Speaker 2: we went out on dates. He would pick me up,
Speaker 2: He brought me flowers for our first date. We went
Speaker 2: to a beautiful rooftop, had dinner, we did the farmer's market,
Speaker 2: just great energy, and I really liked him. But then
Speaker 2: I started to feel a subtle energetic shift. And I'm
Speaker 2: very sensitive to energetic shifts, and I'm not going to
Speaker 2: pretend like something isn't happening when I know damn well
Speaker 2: that it is. I trust my intuition. So I said, hey,
Speaker 2: I'm feeling this, what's going on? And he thanked me
Speaker 2: for saying something, and basically said, he doesn't feel like
Speaker 2: himself right now, and he doesn't want me to see
Speaker 2: him in this state because he has a lot going on.
Speaker 2: And he said something along the lines of I wish
Speaker 2: we met at another time so you could see this
Speaker 2: is not my norm. I'm just really busy with things,
Speaker 2: and he's feeling stressed out. There was a traumatic thing
Speaker 2: that happened to him as well. But I know that
Speaker 2: we met at the time we're supposed to meet, and
Speaker 2: if we were meant to meet at another time, we
Speaker 2: would have, but we didn't. And even though I'm attracted
Speaker 2: to just his energy and I loved being around him
Speaker 2: and I felt so familiar and I felt so happy,
Speaker 2: I have to look at what's there instead of looking
Speaker 2: at what I want to be there. So what I
Speaker 2: heard is a man that's dysregulated, disconnected from himself, and
Speaker 2: just doesn't have the capacity to hold me in his
Speaker 2: reality right now. And now, an older version of me
Speaker 2: would have begged him to just let me help him,
Speaker 2: Let me help regulate you, let me be there for you,
Speaker 2: Let me hold this pain with you. We can work
Speaker 2: through this. And while I I was willing to have
Speaker 2: a conversation which he couldn't even do, I am not
Speaker 2: willing to overfunction, self abandon and try to prove that
Speaker 2: I'm worthy of being a ride or die. It's just
Speaker 2: not what I do anymore. I can see this person
Speaker 2: doesn't have the capacity for me, and that's it. End
Speaker 2: of story. There's no further conclusion I need to draw.
Speaker 2: There's nothing else I need to know. I don't need
Speaker 2: to try to piece together his mental puzzle. I just
Speaker 2: need to look at what's being shown to me and
Speaker 2: I just need to let this person reveal who he
Speaker 2: is and who he is is someone who doesn't have
Speaker 2: a capacity for me. Period. Now did it feel like
Speaker 2: my skin was ripping off me? And did I cry? Yeah?
Speaker 2: Is that dramatic? I don't care. That's what I felt.
Speaker 2: Instead of fixing, saving, overgiving, I'm not going back to
Speaker 2: who I used to be. And during this Mercury retrograde,
Speaker 2: it's not just past people who come back around, it's
Speaker 2: past versions of self. Do I want to devolve into
Speaker 2: fixing and saving and overfunctioning and overgiving or do I
Speaker 2: want to rest in my power? And I'm gonna choose me? Why?
Speaker 2: Because when we don't, all it does is make us ugly.
Speaker 2: Because we're in our sympathetic nervous system cortiso's pumping, we
Speaker 2: gain weight, lose weight, feel like we can't think straight,
Speaker 2: hair falls out, acne bloating. I'm not doing that. I
Speaker 2: am not sacrificing myself. This is how we stay in
Speaker 2: our power in real time. My mother sent me this
Speaker 2: video the other day and I want to share the
Speaker 2: information with you. Imagine being bitten by a snak, and
Speaker 2: instead of treating the wound, you chase the snake, asking
Speaker 2: why did you do this? I don't deserve this. Explain yourself. Meanwhile,
Speaker 2: then in your body is spreading. Instead of you taking
Speaker 2: care of yourself, you keep asking the snake why did
Speaker 2: you do this? Trying to understand the snake, And that's
Speaker 2: what most people do. Most people get hurt and instead
Speaker 2: of tending to ourselves, we chase the person who hurt us.
Speaker 2: Maybe you think if I understand, I'll feel better, But
Speaker 2: the truth is understanding why someone did what they did
Speaker 2: does not remove the wound. Clarity around why they did
Speaker 2: what they did doesn't stop the damage or the venom
Speaker 2: from spreading. When the person asks the snake why they
Speaker 2: got bit, the snake eventually said, it's because I'm a
Speaker 2: snake and it's in my nature. Some people hurt you
Speaker 2: because it's simply their nature, it's simply their capacity. Does
Speaker 2: understanding why sometimes give us peace. Maybe, but while understanding
Speaker 2: why stop them from continuously hurting you? No. No, the
Speaker 2: moment you try to fix them, you energetically agree to
Speaker 2: meet them where they're at and where are they in
Speaker 2: a lower vibration, unavailable, disregulated, not ready. If I was
Speaker 2: to say, let me help you, let me fix this
Speaker 2: for you, let me do all these things in overfunction,
Speaker 2: I would have anchored myself into his vibration instead of
Speaker 2: potentially energetically inspiring him to rise into mind. If he
Speaker 2: ever comes back into my orbit and he's at a
Speaker 2: different energy, maybe we can see, but right now, absolutely not.
Speaker 2: I know that my power is to stay in my body,
Speaker 2: to stay in my energy, to stay focused on my business,
Speaker 2: my brand, when I'm doing my health, stay focused here.
Speaker 2: And if that inspires him to rise through his masculine
Speaker 2: energy to a higher frequency, then he can come back around.
Speaker 2: He can try to find me in this higher frequency.
Speaker 2: But I am not going to bring myself down to his.
Speaker 2: The most loving thing you can do for a man
Speaker 2: is not rescue him. He is on a soul mission,
Speaker 2: just like you are, and he needs to figure out
Speaker 2: how to rise, how to become solution oriented, how to
Speaker 2: leave his shadows and walk into the light. If you
Speaker 2: naturally inspire a man to do this work on his own, great,
Speaker 2: But you can't be his mommy. You can't be his therapist.
Speaker 2: On a sole level. This man has called you into
Speaker 2: his reality because your absence is what he needs to rise.
Speaker 2: If your words aren't getting through to him, your actions
Speaker 2: aren't getting through to him, your absence will, your ability
Speaker 2: to choose yourself will activate his masculine energy. When you're
Speaker 2: not overgiving, he can rise. When you're not trying to
Speaker 2: save him, he can rise. When you're not trying to
Speaker 2: fix him, he can rise. But if you're doing all
Speaker 2: of those things, you're enabling him to stay in that
Speaker 2: lower frequency, and you are trapping yourself, anchoring yourself into
Speaker 2: a lower frequency which he is controlling, rather than choosing
Speaker 2: your own power. This specimen's inability to meet me was
Speaker 2: all I needed to say. Okay, okay, you showed me
Speaker 2: who you are. Okay, thank you, thank you for allowing
Speaker 2: me to see who you are. Thank you. Next. So, no,
Speaker 2: I'm not going to beg I'm not going to chase,
Speaker 2: I'm not going to convince. I'm just gonna say, okay,
Speaker 2: you have to let people show you who they are
Speaker 2: even when you don't like what you see, And really,
Speaker 2: I have to do this for my own system. What's
Speaker 2: more stressful trying to control them or controlling how you
Speaker 2: respond to them. You can control where your focus is.
Speaker 2: You can't control theirs. You can control how you use
Speaker 2: your energy. You can't control how they use theirs. You
Speaker 2: can control if you bring your shadows to the light,
Speaker 2: but you cannot control if they do that for theirs.
Speaker 2: You control what you tolerate, what you entertain, and what
Speaker 2: you return to. Remember, whatever you allow, you amplify. I'm
Speaker 2: not going to allow someone who can kind of be
Speaker 2: there for me but not really because I don't want
Speaker 2: to amplify that. In my field, the most important person
Speaker 2: for me to take care of is me, and how
Speaker 2: I treat myself will be reflected back to me through
Speaker 2: the relationships that I experience. I have been doing something
Speaker 2: I'm calling the Queen vortex, where when I go on
Speaker 2: my walks, I imagine this tornado around me, and sometimes
Speaker 2: it's of golden energy, sometimes it's a rainbow, sometimes it's silver.
Speaker 2: Whatever I feel like that day, and I will imagine
Speaker 2: this swarming, swarming energy. You can even make it fire.
Speaker 2: But right now, I've been working with wind, and as
Speaker 2: I'm walking, I'm in the eye of the tornado. I'm
Speaker 2: in the eye of the storm. And I imagine that
Speaker 2: this energy moves faster and faster and faster, and everything
Speaker 2: that is not aligned, everything that's inconsistent, everything that's lacking
Speaker 2: the capacity to hold me, gets ripped out. So I
Speaker 2: imagined while I was walking that this golden light of
Speaker 2: tornado nests, because that's the thing was swarming around me,
Speaker 2: and it just cut that man in half, cut him
Speaker 2: out of my reality. Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye, goodbye, done done.
Speaker 2: I don't need to ask why, I don't need to understand.
Speaker 2: I just need to know exactly what you're saying, which
Speaker 2: is you don't have the capacity. And then I allowed
Speaker 2: this vortex, my queen vortex, to snap this man in half.
Speaker 2: He got ripped out. That's it. The interesting thing is
Speaker 2: when you keep thinking of a man sending him energy,
Speaker 2: doing all that jazz, they can feel that they're still
Speaker 2: connected to you in the five D. I'm not allowing
Speaker 2: this man access to me in the three D, and
Speaker 2: I'm not allowing him access to me in the five
Speaker 2: D either. I sent him poss energy. I hope he
Speaker 2: can figure his life out for his own sake, but
Speaker 2: he does not get access to my mind. I'm not
Speaker 2: going to keep thinking about him. I'm not gonna obsess
Speaker 2: over him. I'm not gonna be wondering what he's doing.
Speaker 2: Anytime I feel like I want to go in spiral,
Speaker 2: I imagine my queen vortex and he just gets shopped
Speaker 2: in half again because I don't have time or patience
Speaker 2: for that. I just need to be in my own body.
Speaker 2: Many of us think that we want closure from that person,
Speaker 2: but really the closure is the inability to show up
Speaker 2: for us. The closure is the inability to regulate themselves.
Speaker 2: The closure is them not doing what we know we
Speaker 2: actually want. So why do they always come back? They
Speaker 2: always come back when you stop energetically chasing, when you
Speaker 2: stay in your power, When do people come back? They
Speaker 2: come back when you stop energetically chasing, because you remove
Speaker 2: the repellent spray, which is your energy, You remove the pressure,
Speaker 2: you remove of the control, you return to yourself, and
Speaker 2: that creates space for them to miss your energy and
Speaker 2: then want to come back around. The real truth is
Speaker 2: you are no longer the same woman they left You
Speaker 2: are not the same woman that maybe left them. You
Speaker 2: are the woman who chooses herself, who chooses to stay
Speaker 2: in her own power. And yes, is there a side
Speaker 2: effect of them coming back around, that's true, But does
Speaker 2: that mean they're right for you? No, there's plenty of
Speaker 2: people that have come back around, my excess, other guy
Speaker 2: who wanted to know about my whereabouts as if it's
Speaker 2: his freaking business. Neither of these people are right for me,
Speaker 2: and I know that. That's why I'm just not answering.
Speaker 2: But I use the evidence of them coming back to
Speaker 2: remind myself, good job, Christa, you're staying in your power.
Speaker 2: They always come back. We know that because we stay
Speaker 2: in our power. But the real question is will they
Speaker 2: have access to you when they finally circle back around.
Speaker 2: The true power is not in them returning, it's in
Speaker 2: you no longer needing them to. That is the fine
Speaker 2: old power move of being in your own body. And
Speaker 2: you'll notice the time they come back around, you really
Speaker 2: won't even care because you will have leveled up and
Speaker 2: you'll see they are still exactly where they once were. Now,
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