WEBVTT 1 00:00:04.040 --> 00:00:16.519 Canst so high act cancet not sorry, and. 2 00:00:19.280 --> 00:00:25.839 Mercury retrograde is retrograding, and CC was spiraling, Oh hello, welcome, 3 00:00:26.039 --> 00:00:32.880 How the hell are you? Oh yeah, mercury retrograde. This 4 00:00:33.119 --> 00:00:40.240 is the season of reflection, reckoning, and remembering. Mercury retrograde 5 00:00:40.399 --> 00:00:44.280 is not some monster living underneath your bed, and it 6 00:00:44.320 --> 00:00:47.159 doesn't have complete control over you. It's so important to 7 00:00:47.240 --> 00:00:52.320 remember that while yes, planetary systems, their movements, their shifts 8 00:00:52.640 --> 00:00:55.920 do have an effect on us, they are not the 9 00:00:56.000 --> 00:00:59.640 queen or king of our reality. We are the queen 10 00:00:59.719 --> 00:01:04.000 or of our reality. Just as the moon affects the tides, 11 00:01:04.200 --> 00:01:07.840 we are also affected by these shifts. Don't forget we 12 00:01:07.959 --> 00:01:12.480 are about seventy five percent water. While these planetary systems 13 00:01:12.840 --> 00:01:16.159 can have an effect on us because law of correspondence, 14 00:01:16.239 --> 00:01:20.640 as above, so below. It's an important fact to remind 15 00:01:20.799 --> 00:01:24.200 yourself daily. You have the most power over your own 16 00:01:24.359 --> 00:01:28.680 damn reality. So honor and acknowledge the feelings, the thoughts, 17 00:01:28.680 --> 00:01:31.799 the patterns that are coming up, but don't allow them 18 00:01:32.040 --> 00:01:36.120 to take you over. Absorbing is not the name of 19 00:01:36.159 --> 00:01:38.799 the game. Okay, this is not the time to absorb everything. 20 00:01:39.280 --> 00:01:44.879 It's really the time to observe, observe, don't absorb. This 21 00:01:45.000 --> 00:01:49.760 past weekend, I was triggered in a recent connection that 22 00:01:49.840 --> 00:01:53.560 I have, and I caught myself really in my head, 23 00:01:53.680 --> 00:01:57.359 not present with my friends, and identifying with the version 24 00:01:57.359 --> 00:01:59.359 of myself that I used to be when I was 25 00:01:59.400 --> 00:02:04.280 totally anxiously attached and in my seven year relationship, questioning 26 00:02:04.319 --> 00:02:07.840 the connection, questioning myself, feeling like I wasn't on my 27 00:02:07.879 --> 00:02:11.000 own pedestal, and I really had to take time to 28 00:02:11.240 --> 00:02:17.199 just rest, reflect, and regroup. This wasn't meant to be 29 00:02:17.240 --> 00:02:20.280 a thorn in my side, but really an invitation for 30 00:02:20.360 --> 00:02:23.439 me to remember all that I've been through, an invitation 31 00:02:23.599 --> 00:02:25.680 for me to remember, cci, you did not get this 32 00:02:25.759 --> 00:02:28.120 far just to get this far. This is how you 33 00:02:28.240 --> 00:02:31.240 used to be, and it's reminding you you're never going 34 00:02:31.280 --> 00:02:35.080 back to that version of yourself. I caught myself in 35 00:02:35.120 --> 00:02:38.240 an older identity and not speaking up enough for what 36 00:02:38.360 --> 00:02:41.680 it is I truly needed. I couldn't even hear my 37 00:02:41.680 --> 00:02:44.280 own thoughts because so much was going on around me 38 00:02:44.360 --> 00:02:46.039 that I had a stop, I had a nap, and 39 00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:49.280 I had to slow the hell down. It had me 40 00:02:49.319 --> 00:02:52.919 thinking a lot about energy harvesters and how I want 41 00:02:52.960 --> 00:02:56.439 to use my energy. So many of us find ourselves 42 00:02:56.560 --> 00:03:00.719 stuck in a relationship, whether it be coworker, friendship or intimate, 43 00:03:01.120 --> 00:03:03.560 where we're giving so much of our energy away and 44 00:03:03.719 --> 00:03:08.120 we start to feel burnt out, depleted. We lose our glow, 45 00:03:08.199 --> 00:03:12.080 we lose our joy, we lose that pep in our step, 46 00:03:12.520 --> 00:03:15.960 We lose our ability to create, to feel in the 47 00:03:16.000 --> 00:03:20.759 present moment and just have fun. I want you to 48 00:03:20.840 --> 00:03:24.439 understand that no one can harvest your energy unless you 49 00:03:24.479 --> 00:03:26.560 give it to them in the first place. I'm going 50 00:03:26.599 --> 00:03:29.639 to say that again, no one can harvest your energy 51 00:03:29.840 --> 00:03:32.800 unless you give it to them in the first place. 52 00:03:33.639 --> 00:03:36.919 Too many of us are giving our energy by giving 53 00:03:36.960 --> 00:03:42.280 people who don't deserve our attention all of our focus. Today, 54 00:03:42.319 --> 00:03:44.919 we're going to talk about how some people in our 55 00:03:45.000 --> 00:03:49.719 reality they are not just quote unquote toxic, they are 56 00:03:50.120 --> 00:03:55.199 physiologically toxic to your body. They're not just wasting your 57 00:03:55.319 --> 00:04:00.120 focus and attention, They're draining your life force energy. That's 58 00:04:00.159 --> 00:04:02.800 why you're noticing not only do you not feel good, 59 00:04:03.319 --> 00:04:07.240 but you're starting to notice physical effects are taking over. 60 00:04:08.479 --> 00:04:14.560 Some people are simply not worth you getting ugly and 61 00:04:14.599 --> 00:04:16.759 whoever you just thought about when I said that is 62 00:04:16.800 --> 00:04:21.040 the exact person who you need to cut cut out 63 00:04:21.079 --> 00:04:24.480 of your orbit. We're gonna break down how stress in 64 00:04:24.519 --> 00:04:31.120 relationships is not just something emotional, something mental, it's physiological. 65 00:04:31.759 --> 00:04:35.160 You're about to understand how your body catches on before 66 00:04:35.199 --> 00:04:38.319 your mind does, and how important is to listen to 67 00:04:38.399 --> 00:04:42.319 those internal cues before we get into it. What's up, 68 00:04:42.319 --> 00:04:44.600 positive bitches? How are you doing today? If you're hearing 69 00:04:44.639 --> 00:04:46.279 this episode, then you are meant to be here, So 70 00:04:46.399 --> 00:04:49.959 keep listening on that Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. 71 00:04:50.040 --> 00:04:52.759 Other times, Baby, we're gonna cry, but we will always 72 00:04:52.800 --> 00:04:55.959 walk away feeling our most empowered positive bitch self that 73 00:04:56.120 --> 00:04:59.720 is babe in true connection with herself, himself or human self. 74 00:05:00.240 --> 00:05:02.920 On this podcast, we unbecome who we are not so 75 00:05:02.959 --> 00:05:05.439 we can fully step into exactly who we came here 76 00:05:05.480 --> 00:05:08.399 to be. Some gentle reminders. If you would like to 77 00:05:08.399 --> 00:05:10.279 work one on one with me, I'm a certified life 78 00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:13.360 and energy coach Ricky practitioner. You can d n me 79 00:05:13.480 --> 00:05:15.920 now on Instagram at vibe at CC. My link is 80 00:05:15.959 --> 00:05:18.000 in the show notes. If you've not yet gotten your 81 00:05:18.040 --> 00:05:20.079 copy of Show Up as Heard. This is my book 82 00:05:20.120 --> 00:05:23.040 that was released last year. It's basically this podcast, but 83 00:05:23.199 --> 00:05:26.079 on steroids and its in physical forms. You can highlight, 84 00:05:26.120 --> 00:05:29.240 you can notate. We talk a lot about this book 85 00:05:29.279 --> 00:05:31.680 on this podcast, so it's super helpful to take out 86 00:05:31.680 --> 00:05:35.040 your book when we're talking and follow along. If you're 87 00:05:35.079 --> 00:05:37.000 not ready to work one on one but you do 88 00:05:37.079 --> 00:05:38.959 want to dip your toe in. I have a pallethora 89 00:05:39.040 --> 00:05:42.120 of different courses. The shadow Alchemy course is going to 90 00:05:42.199 --> 00:05:45.160 be really prevalent for today's episode if you're looking to 91 00:05:45.199 --> 00:05:49.319 pair something with this podcast. Without further ado, let's get 92 00:05:49.319 --> 00:05:55.360 into today's episode. Let's start with the science. Because glow 93 00:05:55.600 --> 00:06:02.759 downs don't lie. They don't lie. Your body truly keeps 94 00:06:02.879 --> 00:06:08.639 the score, but she'll also reflect the score in present time. 95 00:06:09.560 --> 00:06:12.439 We don't need to wait two years down the line 96 00:06:12.480 --> 00:06:15.920 where we get autoimmune disease. We can just start noticing 97 00:06:16.240 --> 00:06:20.800 right now when something feels out of alignment. When you're 98 00:06:20.839 --> 00:06:24.959 constantly stressed by a man, a woman, a coworker, your 99 00:06:25.040 --> 00:06:29.079 cortisol level spike, and when your cortisol goes up, everything 100 00:06:29.120 --> 00:06:35.560 else plummets. Your digestion, your sleep, your skin, your clarity. 101 00:06:35.680 --> 00:06:38.879 There's a reason why they call the parasympathetic nervous system 102 00:06:39.040 --> 00:06:42.560 rest and digest. When your relax, you're able to digest, 103 00:06:42.879 --> 00:06:48.279 you're not as bloaated, Your skin can renew itself easier, better, 104 00:06:48.360 --> 00:06:54.000 Your whole entire system works for you more efficiently. But 105 00:06:54.079 --> 00:06:57.439 when you're stressed out in your sympathetic nervous system, your 106 00:06:57.519 --> 00:07:01.639 cortisol is skyrocketing. You don't digest because your body thinks 107 00:07:01.639 --> 00:07:05.279 it's being chased by alliance, so digestion is not first 108 00:07:05.360 --> 00:07:08.839 on the docket. Your body doesn't have time to clear 109 00:07:08.920 --> 00:07:12.519 itself of any toxin, so your skin starts to get 110 00:07:12.839 --> 00:07:20.519 really puffy clogged. Your body is not going to renew 111 00:07:20.600 --> 00:07:24.720 itself be glowing when it constantly thinks you're being chased 112 00:07:24.759 --> 00:07:26.480 by a tiger, and that tigre is the guy that 113 00:07:26.519 --> 00:07:29.560 you're dating, because he is an emotional wreck, which is 114 00:07:29.600 --> 00:07:32.920 making you an emotional wreck. He's being inconsistent, So now 115 00:07:32.959 --> 00:07:37.920 you're getting stressed out. When cortisol increases, bloating increases, breakouts increase, 116 00:07:38.120 --> 00:07:42.360 hair thinning increases. Why because your body doesn't have time 117 00:07:42.439 --> 00:07:45.480 to rest and digest, it doesn't have time to renew itself, 118 00:07:45.519 --> 00:07:48.439 to restore itself. We renew and restore when we're sleeping, 119 00:07:48.480 --> 00:07:53.079 when we're resting, dysregulation shows up on your face in hives. 120 00:07:53.160 --> 00:08:00.160 It shows up in your stomach as bloating, dullness, acne, inflammation, backache, 121 00:08:00.319 --> 00:08:05.000 tired but wired. Look, it's not you, that's the stress 122 00:08:05.319 --> 00:08:08.399 that is being created within you because of the connections 123 00:08:08.519 --> 00:08:12.800 in your life. If you went from radiance and relaxed 124 00:08:12.800 --> 00:08:17.639 to edgy and exhausted, that's not vanity, that's vitality. Beauty 125 00:08:17.800 --> 00:08:23.120 is an inside job, and your glow is a reflection 126 00:08:23.920 --> 00:08:29.040 of your peace. Your beauty is a mere mirror of 127 00:08:29.079 --> 00:08:34.279 your nervous system, your calmness. I'm telling you, it's your currency, 128 00:08:35.440 --> 00:08:39.360 and your piece is the best, most expensive serum that 129 00:08:39.440 --> 00:08:43.120 you can possibly find on this planet. It's actually priceless. 130 00:08:44.759 --> 00:08:48.840 No one is worth you getting ugly, feeling depleted, getting crazed. 131 00:08:49.159 --> 00:08:54.519 No one is worth you stepping back into past negative behaviors, patterns, habits. 132 00:08:55.159 --> 00:08:59.320 No one is worth that. If he's already stressing you out, 133 00:09:00.480 --> 00:09:03.279 get out now. If he's already stressing you out, he's 134 00:09:03.279 --> 00:09:05.600 gonna make you ugly in the end. Anyway, Just get 135 00:09:05.679 --> 00:09:08.759 out now. If you've been dating him for three months, 136 00:09:08.799 --> 00:09:12.279 imagine what you're gonna look like in three years. If 137 00:09:12.279 --> 00:09:14.480 you're already noticing your glow is gone. You have no 138 00:09:14.600 --> 00:09:16.399 energy to see your friends. Even when you are with 139 00:09:16.440 --> 00:09:19.080 your girlfriends, you can't focus on your job, or your 140 00:09:19.120 --> 00:09:22.159 friends or the manny petty. You can't focus on anything 141 00:09:22.159 --> 00:09:26.480 else but how up and down your relationship is. Get 142 00:09:26.519 --> 00:09:29.120 out now, go go get out, And if you're a man, 143 00:09:29.200 --> 00:09:33.759 do the same. Get out. If you're going through a breakup, congrats, okay, 144 00:09:33.799 --> 00:09:36.120 because now you can find someone who's healthier for you, 145 00:09:36.480 --> 00:09:41.000 more in alignment, hotter, wealthier, I just better all around, 146 00:09:41.000 --> 00:09:45.240 who's not going to stress you out. Because truly, the 147 00:09:45.320 --> 00:09:48.000 right relationship will make you glow from the inside out. 148 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:52.519 The wrong one will deteriorate to you. I've been in them, 149 00:09:52.639 --> 00:09:55.919 and you know what happened. I got dermatitis, I was 150 00:09:55.960 --> 00:09:59.000 constantly bloated, and I had weight that would not be 151 00:09:59.039 --> 00:10:02.320 released from my my body because subconsciously I didn't feel 152 00:10:02.320 --> 00:10:06.519 safe enough to release the weight. I needed that extra layer, 153 00:10:06.639 --> 00:10:08.759 a fat on my body to protect me from my 154 00:10:08.840 --> 00:10:12.759 external world because I didn't feel safe. You don't realize 155 00:10:13.000 --> 00:10:18.039 the physiological effects that relationships that take from you have 156 00:10:18.240 --> 00:10:21.279 on your body. Now I want to remind you you 157 00:10:21.440 --> 00:10:23.399 have the most power in your life. So, whether it's 158 00:10:23.399 --> 00:10:26.360 a mercury retrograde or you're dating someone who kind of sucks, 159 00:10:26.600 --> 00:10:29.639 you have the most power. What are you gonna do 160 00:10:29.759 --> 00:10:31.799 your powers in the present moment. It doesn't matter what 161 00:10:31.799 --> 00:10:36.639 you tolerated yesterday. What are you going to tolerate today? 162 00:10:36.759 --> 00:10:40.039 You might be complaining about energy harvesters, but why are 163 00:10:40.080 --> 00:10:43.919 you continuously connecting to them? Why are you continuously giving 164 00:10:43.960 --> 00:10:46.919 them your focus, your attention, your energy. You want to 165 00:10:46.960 --> 00:10:49.799 have that glow up. It starts with cutting them off 166 00:10:49.919 --> 00:10:53.399 or giving them less of your time. What does an 167 00:10:53.519 --> 00:10:56.919 energy harvester actually look like? Because maybe you don't even 168 00:10:57.000 --> 00:10:59.039 know how to spot them. Let me clear this up 169 00:10:59.039 --> 00:11:03.840 for you. An energy harvester focuses on problems, not solutions. 170 00:11:03.840 --> 00:11:06.759 They are chaos creators. There's always a problem, always a 171 00:11:06.799 --> 00:11:10.000 new drama, always something that they're annoyed about. They leave 172 00:11:10.039 --> 00:11:14.080 you second guessing yourself. You're questioning them, how they feel 173 00:11:14.120 --> 00:11:18.120 about you, the relationship where you stand. They need constant 174 00:11:18.240 --> 00:11:21.600 validation but give none in return. They need you to 175 00:11:21.600 --> 00:11:23.679 solve their problems for you, but are never there for 176 00:11:23.759 --> 00:11:27.639 you when you need a safe space. They drain you emotionally, spiritually, 177 00:11:27.960 --> 00:11:32.559 and physically. What I've noticed with energy harvesters is they 178 00:11:32.600 --> 00:11:36.720 don't actually want to be with you. They want to 179 00:11:36.879 --> 00:11:43.919 be you. Some people want to study your energy because 180 00:11:43.919 --> 00:11:50.000 they envy your sparkle, your confidence, your unique channel. They 181 00:11:50.159 --> 00:11:53.639 envy your connection to source. Maybe you've built a business 182 00:11:53.759 --> 00:11:55.840 and they want to build their business up, so they're 183 00:11:55.879 --> 00:11:58.840 looking at you to try to siphon off your energy. 184 00:12:00.399 --> 00:12:02.519 They might not even know that they're doing this, but 185 00:12:02.600 --> 00:12:06.120 they have a need to use your energy to try 186 00:12:06.159 --> 00:12:10.039 to make themselves better. They want to siphon your shine 187 00:12:10.080 --> 00:12:12.039 because they don't know how to connect to the divine 188 00:12:13.120 --> 00:12:16.799 by themselves. They don't want to protect you. They want 189 00:12:16.840 --> 00:12:19.639 to possess you. They don't want to honor your magic. 190 00:12:19.679 --> 00:12:22.399 They want to harness it. They're looking at you to 191 00:12:22.519 --> 00:12:25.799 be their battery. They're not here to create a safe 192 00:12:25.799 --> 00:12:28.120 space for you. They aren't here to pour into you. 193 00:12:28.440 --> 00:12:30.879 They're here to plug into you, to treat you like 194 00:12:30.919 --> 00:12:32.960 a power outlet because they don't have a current of 195 00:12:33.000 --> 00:12:37.480 their own. Now, let's be really clear, because there's a 196 00:12:37.480 --> 00:12:41.960 difference between a mirror and an energy harvester. A mirror 197 00:12:42.000 --> 00:12:44.519 is going to reflect your shadows so you grow. They're 198 00:12:44.559 --> 00:12:47.759 going to face you with your own behavior, so you're like, damn, 199 00:12:48.240 --> 00:12:50.320 that is so uncomfortable to be on the other side 200 00:12:50.320 --> 00:12:52.840 of that behavior. I need to change, I need to grow. 201 00:12:53.200 --> 00:12:55.799 A mirror is going to motivate you. They're going to 202 00:12:55.840 --> 00:12:58.399 show you your light, They're going to show you you're dark, 203 00:12:58.679 --> 00:13:03.159 and ultimately they are going to inspire you to become 204 00:13:03.200 --> 00:13:07.639 a better version of yourself. An energy harvester straight up 205 00:13:07.679 --> 00:13:10.279 feeds on your light so they can glow. And once 206 00:13:10.320 --> 00:13:12.639 you give them your energy, you're gonna notice they do 207 00:13:12.720 --> 00:13:15.360 better in their business. More women are attracted to them. 208 00:13:15.600 --> 00:13:18.799 They are now with a whole new personality that actually 209 00:13:18.879 --> 00:13:22.679 is just your personality that they copy and pasted. One 210 00:13:22.919 --> 00:13:27.960 activates a mirror activates you. They activate awareness, your spiritual awakening. 211 00:13:28.240 --> 00:13:30.960 They might push you into a new creative endeavor. The 212 00:13:31.120 --> 00:13:36.080 other one just takes from you, depletes you, makes you exhausted. 213 00:13:36.440 --> 00:13:39.759 If you're noticing that you're constantly depleted after you talk 214 00:13:39.799 --> 00:13:43.080 to this person, you really don't want to hang out 215 00:13:43.080 --> 00:13:45.200 with them. You're trying to convince yourself of all the 216 00:13:45.200 --> 00:13:47.720 good things on paper about them, even though you feel 217 00:13:47.799 --> 00:13:51.080 terrible when you're with them. You don't ever feel like 218 00:13:51.120 --> 00:13:53.720 they can hold a safe space for you. They're chaotic, 219 00:13:54.279 --> 00:13:58.759 They are constantly telling you what you're doing wrong. They 220 00:13:58.799 --> 00:14:01.759 try to place blame on you for not actually doing anything. 221 00:14:02.159 --> 00:14:05.240 You have to understand this is an energy harvester and 222 00:14:05.279 --> 00:14:08.279 they are here in your life to really invite you 223 00:14:08.399 --> 00:14:12.399 to choose yourself. Now, maybe you're thinking, cce, why am 224 00:14:12.440 --> 00:14:16.759 I even attracted to these types of relationships. Let's go deeper. 225 00:14:17.200 --> 00:14:19.679 One of the reasons you might be attracted to energy 226 00:14:19.759 --> 00:14:25.559 harvesters is because you confuse connection with chaos. If all 227 00:14:25.639 --> 00:14:28.799 you've ever known in your relationships with your parents, with 228 00:14:28.840 --> 00:14:32.519 your coworkers, with your friends, with your siblings, past loved ones, 229 00:14:32.679 --> 00:14:36.320 is chaos, you're going to assume that chaos is love, 230 00:14:36.840 --> 00:14:42.519 that this Cortisol party is love. But that's not true. 231 00:14:42.600 --> 00:14:46.080 You're just thinking that. You're assuming that that is what 232 00:14:46.120 --> 00:14:49.279 your past experiences have shown you. But your future, your present, 233 00:14:49.360 --> 00:14:52.600 doesn't have to look like that anymore. You have to 234 00:14:52.600 --> 00:14:58.279 start telling yourself that love is safe, love is calm. 235 00:14:58.639 --> 00:15:03.440 Love is not something that's envious or jealous or mean. 236 00:15:04.159 --> 00:15:08.360 It's something that's grounded in clarity. It makes me think 237 00:15:08.519 --> 00:15:13.440 of that Bible verse. Love is patient, love is kind. 238 00:15:13.960 --> 00:15:16.600 It does not envy. It does not boast, It is 239 00:15:16.639 --> 00:15:20.720 not proud, It does not dishonor others. It's not self seeking, 240 00:15:20.799 --> 00:15:24.840 it is not easily angered. It keeps no records of wrongs. 241 00:15:25.320 --> 00:15:29.000 To me, that is the most beautiful definition of what 242 00:15:29.120 --> 00:15:33.279 love is. So if love right now to you is chaos, depletion, 243 00:15:34.679 --> 00:15:43.240 ups and downs, angry, mean, that's not love. That's chaos 244 00:15:43.399 --> 00:15:48.600 confused for connection. Another reason you might be attracting energy 245 00:15:48.679 --> 00:15:55.120 harvesters is because your self worth is dictating what you 246 00:15:55.200 --> 00:15:58.600 believe you're allowed to have. If you have a low 247 00:15:58.679 --> 00:16:01.320 self worth, low self wis you don't think you're worthy 248 00:16:01.480 --> 00:16:05.080 of a protector and a provider who's grounded. Well, those 249 00:16:05.159 --> 00:16:08.440 beliefs will be reflected back to you in your external reality. 250 00:16:08.919 --> 00:16:12.000 You have to work on building yourself up. You have 251 00:16:12.080 --> 00:16:15.639 to work on affirming no, I am worthy of a 252 00:16:15.679 --> 00:16:19.840 grounded love, I am worthy of peace. And we've done 253 00:16:19.879 --> 00:16:24.120 so many episodes on raising our confidence. If you want 254 00:16:24.159 --> 00:16:27.600 guidance on that, get the Pedestal Path course. It's going 255 00:16:27.639 --> 00:16:32.159 to help you rewire yourself for a successful grounded relationship. 256 00:16:33.279 --> 00:16:36.279 It's not always about trauma bonding. It could also be 257 00:16:36.399 --> 00:16:39.919 you have such a bright light magnetic energy, and people 258 00:16:40.000 --> 00:16:43.080 can feel your healing energy, so the people who need 259 00:16:43.240 --> 00:16:47.879 energy are automatically attracted to you. We live in an 260 00:16:48.000 --> 00:16:51.679 energetic universe. People can feel who is the most energetic, 261 00:16:51.720 --> 00:16:54.120 the most magnetic in the room, and if someone is 262 00:16:54.200 --> 00:16:56.960 needing energy, they're going to be subconsciously attracted to the 263 00:16:57.000 --> 00:17:00.600 person with the most light in the room. This doesn't 264 00:17:00.639 --> 00:17:05.440 mean you give them your energy, your time, your focus, 265 00:17:05.680 --> 00:17:08.400 your attention. Sometimes it can even just be that someone's 266 00:17:08.440 --> 00:17:11.599 coming into your life to clean up karmic cycles. Maybe 267 00:17:11.599 --> 00:17:14.599 your soul has a soul contract with this person and 268 00:17:14.680 --> 00:17:17.880 that contract included lessons, But it doesn't mean that you're 269 00:17:17.920 --> 00:17:20.920 meant to stay. I do believe that every soulmate is 270 00:17:20.960 --> 00:17:24.400 meant to arrive, not all are meant to stay, and 271 00:17:24.400 --> 00:17:27.920 that's something you have to make peace with. Instead of 272 00:17:28.240 --> 00:17:32.680 measuring your connections by the duration, measure them by the depth, 273 00:17:33.160 --> 00:17:35.839 by the lessons you learn, by what you take away 274 00:17:35.880 --> 00:17:38.559 from them, by the person you get to become because 275 00:17:38.559 --> 00:17:42.160 of them. I feel the core of attracting energy harvesters 276 00:17:42.279 --> 00:17:47.799 in your life is actually just initiation. Initiation to wake up, 277 00:17:47.960 --> 00:17:52.039 initiation to reclaim your power, Initiation to step into that power. 278 00:17:52.400 --> 00:17:56.440 An initiation to stop outsourcing your worth and remember who 279 00:17:56.480 --> 00:18:01.160 you are. Initiation to go from seeking extra validation to 280 00:18:01.279 --> 00:18:05.039 going inside of your own being and saying, actually, I'm 281 00:18:05.079 --> 00:18:07.920 inherently worthy. I'm going to show up how I want. 282 00:18:08.440 --> 00:18:11.039 You didn't attract this because you're broken or there's something 283 00:18:11.079 --> 00:18:14.359 wrong with you. You attracted it because you're simply ready 284 00:18:14.359 --> 00:18:17.640 to heal. You're ready to be faced with the deepest, 285 00:18:17.799 --> 00:18:21.720 darkest parts of yourself that need to be reclaimed. You're 286 00:18:21.759 --> 00:18:25.720 ready to evolve, You're ready to remember. This experience isn't 287 00:18:25.759 --> 00:18:29.160 breaking you down, it's breaking you open. It's not setting 288 00:18:29.200 --> 00:18:32.920 you back, it's setting you up. It's really not about 289 00:18:32.960 --> 00:18:35.799 what's happening in your three D reality, but how you're 290 00:18:35.920 --> 00:18:40.839 choosing to respond. If you want to reclaim your glow, 291 00:18:40.880 --> 00:18:44.200 you have to start saying no. Say it with me. 292 00:18:44.839 --> 00:18:47.119 If I want to reclaim my glow, I have to 293 00:18:47.160 --> 00:18:50.839 start saying no. If I want to reclaim my glow, 294 00:18:50.920 --> 00:18:53.519 I have to start saying no. If I want to 295 00:18:53.559 --> 00:18:55.960 reclaim my glow, I have to start saying no. 296 00:18:57.039 --> 00:18:57.519 Yeah. 297 00:18:57.920 --> 00:19:01.599 If you want to reclaim your sparkle, your essence, your energy, 298 00:19:02.039 --> 00:19:06.720 you have to stop giving them your focus, your attention. 299 00:19:07.319 --> 00:19:12.359 Wherever focus goes, energy flows. This past weekend, I had 300 00:19:12.359 --> 00:19:14.240 to say no to hanging out with people because I 301 00:19:14.319 --> 00:19:17.559 needed to reclaim my energy back into my physical vessel. 302 00:19:18.200 --> 00:19:20.279 I want you to think about the person you feel 303 00:19:20.319 --> 00:19:24.480 as feeding on your energy and close your eyes. Think 304 00:19:24.519 --> 00:19:28.319 about this person, look at them in your mind's eye, 305 00:19:28.880 --> 00:19:32.279 See your glow existing on them. See the pep in 306 00:19:32.359 --> 00:19:35.920 their step that is there because of you. And now 307 00:19:36.119 --> 00:19:42.000 repeat after me. I lovingly and peacefully call all of 308 00:19:42.039 --> 00:19:46.119 my power back to me now, and imagine your white 309 00:19:46.160 --> 00:19:48.519 light energy leaving their body out of the top of 310 00:19:48.559 --> 00:19:50.720 their head and going back into your body down to 311 00:19:50.759 --> 00:19:55.079 your sacral center, this energy vortex orange and color right 312 00:19:55.160 --> 00:20:02.680 below your belly button. And breathe this in. Let's do 313 00:20:02.720 --> 00:20:07.079 it again. I lovingly and peacefully call all of my 314 00:20:07.200 --> 00:20:11.319 power back to me now and imagine the white light 315 00:20:11.440 --> 00:20:13.799 energy leaving their body from the top of their head, 316 00:20:13.839 --> 00:20:15.680 going in the top of your head down to your 317 00:20:15.759 --> 00:20:20.440 sacral center, orange energy vortex right below your belly button. 318 00:20:20.920 --> 00:20:24.279 And this energy vortex is glowing and growing and pumping 319 00:20:24.319 --> 00:20:31.160 and stirring. Oh yeah, breathe that in. And once more, 320 00:20:31.240 --> 00:20:35.759 I lovingly and peacefully call all of my power back 321 00:20:35.839 --> 00:20:39.720 to me now, and once more, you see this white 322 00:20:39.759 --> 00:20:42.640 light energy leaving their body from the top of their head, 323 00:20:42.640 --> 00:20:45.599 going back into your top of your head, down to 324 00:20:45.640 --> 00:20:50.240 your sacral center, orange energy vortex, swirling and whirling and 325 00:20:50.319 --> 00:20:58.039 turning on and activating and breathe it in. You have 326 00:20:58.119 --> 00:21:01.400 to realize a lot of these people are operating from 327 00:21:01.440 --> 00:21:04.480 subconscious wounds. It's not that they're out to get you. 328 00:21:04.599 --> 00:21:07.440 It's that they are so depleted that they need someone 329 00:21:07.480 --> 00:21:11.039 to feed on. But you are not that bitch. You're 330 00:21:11.279 --> 00:21:14.720 a positive bitch, and a positive bitch puts people on 331 00:21:14.960 --> 00:21:18.680 energetic diets when she realizes that they're taking too much 332 00:21:18.680 --> 00:21:21.920 of their energy. Why because they can't take it unless 333 00:21:21.920 --> 00:21:24.480 she's giving it up. They can't steal it from you 334 00:21:24.640 --> 00:21:28.039 unless you're willingly handing it over. So you have to 335 00:21:28.039 --> 00:21:31.000 take accountability over your own focus and your own attention. 336 00:21:31.440 --> 00:21:35.160 Everyone's so scared of narcissists and scared of energy harvestars. Okay, 337 00:21:35.319 --> 00:21:37.640 they have no power over you unless you allow them 338 00:21:37.640 --> 00:21:40.920 to have power over you. This is your reality. A 339 00:21:40.960 --> 00:21:44.359 codependent has just as much power in the dynamic as 340 00:21:44.440 --> 00:21:48.200 the narcissist. The codependent is just handing it over, Wake 341 00:21:48.359 --> 00:21:51.880 up and smell the matrix. Stop listening to these liars, 342 00:21:51.920 --> 00:21:54.279 to these people who don't know what they're talking about. 343 00:21:54.519 --> 00:21:57.759 This is an energetic universe. You want to reclaim your reality, 344 00:21:57.880 --> 00:22:00.559 reclaim your focus, and you will be in a time being. 345 00:22:00.599 --> 00:22:03.319 I'm telling you that right now. To reclaim your glow, 346 00:22:03.400 --> 00:22:06.920 you have to start saying no. This might mean different 347 00:22:06.920 --> 00:22:09.319 things for different people. It might mean just talking to 348 00:22:09.359 --> 00:22:13.799 this person less, not answering all of your cousins, your mothers, 349 00:22:13.920 --> 00:22:17.519 your sisters calls. Oh yeah, you got to protect your 350 00:22:17.640 --> 00:22:20.839 energy because you came here on your own mission. Decenter 351 00:22:20.960 --> 00:22:24.480 everyone else. I know it can sound harsh, but you 352 00:22:24.599 --> 00:22:28.359 came here for you. Decenter everyone else. This is your life, 353 00:22:28.359 --> 00:22:30.960 your reality. You want to see it be successful. You 354 00:22:31.039 --> 00:22:34.200 better lock in. No one else is going to make 355 00:22:34.240 --> 00:22:36.960 you successful. It's only up to you. So you better 356 00:22:37.000 --> 00:22:39.839 feed things that have a high return on investment. Maybe 357 00:22:39.839 --> 00:22:44.160 this means going no contact with someone. Maybe this means 358 00:22:44.680 --> 00:22:48.000 learning that you have to ground yourself. You need to 359 00:22:48.039 --> 00:22:52.440 put your feet onto planet Earth and get some negative 360 00:22:52.480 --> 00:22:55.599 ions which will have a positive effect on you. Maybe 361 00:22:55.680 --> 00:23:00.319 this means stops scrolling on your phone and instead go 362 00:23:00.400 --> 00:23:04.519 to a workout class. Maybe this means stop checking their Instagram, 363 00:23:04.960 --> 00:23:10.279 their Snapchat, score, their location, mute them, delete their location 364 00:23:10.400 --> 00:23:12.640 from your phone. There are boundaries you need to have 365 00:23:12.680 --> 00:23:14.640 in place, not just with other people, but with your 366 00:23:14.720 --> 00:23:17.079 damn self. You want to be successful, You want to 367 00:23:17.079 --> 00:23:19.640 be on your own pedestal. Okay, you need to have 368 00:23:19.640 --> 00:23:22.880 self boundaries. No more checking their location, no more checking 369 00:23:22.920 --> 00:23:25.000 if they're texting you, no more checking if they're watching 370 00:23:25.000 --> 00:23:29.039 your story. Instead post what you want for you. Check 371 00:23:29.079 --> 00:23:31.960 your intention at the freaking door. Why are you doing 372 00:23:32.000 --> 00:23:33.720 what you're doing just so they see it, so they 373 00:23:33.759 --> 00:23:36.359 notice you? Are you that desperate? I didn't think so. 374 00:23:36.559 --> 00:23:38.480 Jesus already died on the cross for you. Do you 375 00:23:38.519 --> 00:23:40.799 really need another man to choose you? I mean, be 376 00:23:41.119 --> 00:23:45.119 so for real, Be so for real and choose yourself instead. 377 00:23:46.000 --> 00:23:50.720 You might need to choose your peace over their potential. 378 00:23:51.279 --> 00:23:55.640 No more, but they could be. But what if no, no, 379 00:23:55.839 --> 00:23:58.559 if they're not doing it right now? That other version 380 00:23:58.599 --> 00:24:01.960 of themselves doesn't exist yet, and they might choose to 381 00:24:02.000 --> 00:24:05.119 never activate it. So choose your piece over who you 382 00:24:05.160 --> 00:24:08.119 think they can be. Choose your piece over their potential, 383 00:24:08.160 --> 00:24:10.759 because that potential doesn't yet exist. In fact, now that 384 00:24:10.759 --> 00:24:14.759 we're talking about it. Where's your potential? What are you doing? Yeah? 385 00:24:14.839 --> 00:24:18.480 Why don't you replug into that? When you do this, Ah, 386 00:24:18.680 --> 00:24:22.200 you're gonna notice that your energy is feeding things that 387 00:24:22.240 --> 00:24:25.839 are actually growing instead of you trying to grow bad 388 00:24:26.079 --> 00:24:28.759 like build a bear. You're gonna start growing your career, 389 00:24:28.880 --> 00:24:31.680 your body, your health. Why don't you cook yourself and 390 00:24:31.759 --> 00:24:34.920 nurturing meal. That's what I've been doing. I've been cooking healthy, 391 00:24:35.079 --> 00:24:38.759 organic food for my physical vessel instead of trying to 392 00:24:38.799 --> 00:24:41.680 mother him. Why don't you remother yourself? And you're gonna 393 00:24:41.720 --> 00:24:45.640 notice your face softens, your radiance returns, your intuition gets louder, 394 00:24:45.680 --> 00:24:48.680 your inner child feels safe again. You start sleeping better, 395 00:24:48.759 --> 00:24:53.440 eating better, breathing better. Because the truth is your glow 396 00:24:53.680 --> 00:24:57.319 is divine feedback. It is your body saying thank you 397 00:24:57.400 --> 00:25:03.960 for choosing yourself again. It's energetic sovereignty. You finally become 398 00:25:04.039 --> 00:25:06.640 your own source instead of the supply to be fed 399 00:25:06.680 --> 00:25:10.000 on by another. You stop being someone's meal and you 400 00:25:10.039 --> 00:25:13.319 start being your own medicine. You stop being addicted to 401 00:25:13.400 --> 00:25:17.279