Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad. Why are so many people single?
Speaker 1: Why are so many people single these days? I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell you mine view and opinion. I think people are
Speaker 1: just tired. They're tired of the crap. They're tired of
Speaker 1: the lies, they're tired of the cheating, they're tired of
Speaker 1: the immaturity.
Speaker 2: So they would rather be by themselves. Do people really
Speaker 2: want to be alone? Of course not. People would rather
Speaker 2: be with someone, but they're not.
Speaker 1: Ready to or willing to just be with anyone just
Speaker 1: to say that they're in a relationship, like a.
Speaker 2: Lot of people are.
Speaker 1: A lot of people will be in a relationship because
Speaker 1: they are like, okay, it's mother. I'd rather have some
Speaker 1: man than no man at all. I'd rather have some
Speaker 1: woman than no woman at all.
Speaker 2: When you have.
Speaker 1: Nothing, you have nothing, just a body, and a lot
Speaker 1: of people not even enjoying that body because that person
Speaker 1: don't even want you in that way, or you don't
Speaker 1: want that person in that way.
Speaker 2: It's just companionship. It's sad.
Speaker 1: A lot of you say, oh, I want a good man,
Speaker 1: I want a good woman.
Speaker 2: But you're not even a good person.
Speaker 1: You want someone that treats you this way and that way,
Speaker 1: but you are not a good person, and you know it.
Speaker 1: That's why it's so important to know yourself and to
Speaker 1: love yourself. It's so important to get into relationships with
Speaker 1: the right people in the right ways, for the right reasons.
Speaker 1: You have to know what you want. You have to
Speaker 1: know what you need. You have to know there's a
Speaker 1: difference between wants and needs. Too many are looking for
Speaker 1: the superficial. The superficial will never ever hold a relationship together.
Speaker 2: Never.
Speaker 1: Superficial things are just that, they will never ever help
Speaker 1: you in your relationship.
Speaker 2: It will not foster growth. But so many people.
Speaker 1: Go after the superficial, the looks, the possessions, money, titles, positions, power,
Speaker 1: status of that individual. A lot of people get into
Speaker 1: relationships not knowing the person, not trying to get to
Speaker 1: know the person, just going after what those eyeballs can see.
Speaker 2: You have to be specific.
Speaker 1: You must know what you want, you must know what
Speaker 1: you need. If you're looking for a true and lasting relationship,
Speaker 1: most of you, or most people, I.
Speaker 2: Should say, don't know.
Speaker 1: You have to know the characteristic you're looking for, and
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about that superficial stuff.
Speaker 2: If you're looking for the superficial, you clearly literally have
Speaker 2: some maturity to.
Speaker 1: Do, because you are not on that level yet, you
Speaker 1: clearly have maturing to do. Some people are very well
Speaker 1: in age, very well up in age, and they're still
Speaker 1: doing foolishness because they have a matured mentally. So you
Speaker 1: must know what you need in another person, and that
Speaker 1: person must be someone who enhances your life. If you
Speaker 1: decide to get in a relationship with someone and that
Speaker 1: person is taken from you and draft you down, that
Speaker 1: is not the right person for you. You have allowed
Speaker 1: your heart to lead you in an unhealthy relationship. I
Speaker 1: know that Biblically, the man is the head of the household,
Speaker 1: godly man, not just any man. A godly man is
Speaker 1: the head of the household. I get all of that.
Speaker 1: I get all of that, But that does not mean
Speaker 1: the woman should not contribute. Some women think, oh, I
Speaker 1: have a baby. I got a baby by him. That's hey,
Speaker 1: that's it, boop, ind of the story. Bottom line, I
Speaker 1: have a baby, So what you still should contribute to
Speaker 1: the relationship. That's my opinion as a woman, and I
Speaker 1: can say it because I did it. If you've decide
Speaker 1: to get in a relationship with someone, you have to
Speaker 1: see past your feelings and your eyeballs, because what you're
Speaker 1: gonna be stuck with is what you're gonna be stuck with.
Speaker 1: Some men they all they see this eye can then
Speaker 1: they lose their minds. Well, that is not gonna help
Speaker 1: foster and grow a healthy relationship. So you get with
Speaker 1: this ie can do, who has nothing to contribute to
Speaker 1: the relationship, and then down the road you regretful because
Speaker 1: now you looking for her to contribute. Well, you have
Speaker 1: to think about those things in the beginning, not just women,
Speaker 1: but men too. Women get with men who have nothing
Speaker 1: to bring to the table. That is ridiculous, especially a man.
Speaker 1: Now you gotta take care of him. You're going off
Speaker 1: the work. He don't even have a car.
Speaker 2: Now he's driving your car while you're It makes no sense.
Speaker 2: Bottom line is what.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to say is if they do not enhance
Speaker 1: your life, make your life better.
Speaker 2: You have chosen wrong.
Speaker 1: I just believe that there is no way I would
Speaker 1: want to be with someone who's pulling me down, who's taking, taking,
Speaker 1: and not contributing anything.
Speaker 2: No way.
Speaker 1: Some women are worn down and out because they have children,
Speaker 1: they're working outside of the home, the doing everything in
Speaker 1: the home, because you have not put any requirements on him.
Speaker 1: He just go to work and come home and chill
Speaker 1: while you do everything, because that's because you have not
Speaker 1: put any requirements on him. A man can clean, wash
Speaker 1: and everything else that a woman does, and if he's
Speaker 1: working outside the house and she's working outside the house,
Speaker 1: then he definitely should contribute inside.
Speaker 2: It's just in life. In reality, you just have to
Speaker 2: know what you need.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying a person that's gonna be on the
Speaker 1: exact same level as you, No, I'm not saying that,
Speaker 1: but they definitely should be bringing positivity and contributing to
Speaker 1: the relationship. And when they can't, you have chosen wrong.
Speaker 1: You have allowed your heart to lead you into a
Speaker 1: relationship that you more than likely.
Speaker 2: Shouldn't even be in. I'm just saying the truth hurts.
Speaker 1: The truth doesn't feel good, I know, but it's also necessary.
Speaker 2: It's reality.
Speaker 1: You must know yourself and love yourself first of all,
Speaker 1: and you must know and understand.
Speaker 2: What you need and what you want.
Speaker 1: You must because when you don't, you're going to get
Speaker 1: into relationships that you should not be in. And unfortunately,
Speaker 1: that's where most people are at, in unhealthy, unhappy relationships.
Speaker 1: With individuals they don't want to be with. They find
Speaker 1: no kind of love in those relationships. And where there's
Speaker 1: no love in the relationship, there is no peace in
Speaker 1: the relationship, and that is why so many people are single.
Speaker 1: People are tired. They're tired of the bullcrap because this
Speaker 1: world is so full of broken people. All they want
Speaker 1: is possessions, money, fame, fortune, love, sex, and so on.
Speaker 1: People don't want to commit a lot of people are
Speaker 1: in relationships, but they're not commit it.
Speaker 2: Who wants that? Who wants that?
Speaker 1: Not a person in their right mind, not a person
Speaker 1: thinking like a mature person.
Speaker 2: But so many people settle, and that's why many most
Speaker 2: are in.
Speaker 1: One side of relationships one person really wanted, really trying,
Speaker 1: the other person careless.
Speaker 2: That's why people get worn out. I do it all.
Speaker 1: I'm tired. I've done it all from the beginning. I'm
Speaker 1: the one who does all the initiating on everything. I
Speaker 1: carry the load. Yeah, and they just enjoyed the ride.
Speaker 1: But that's because you got into the relationship with that mindset.
Speaker 1: Oh I'm gonna please him or I'm gonna please her.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do everything I can. And you were the
Speaker 1: person who was carrying all the load. You were the
Speaker 1: one who was doing all the initiating. Excuse me, I
Speaker 1: know because I've been there. I got tired too, So
Speaker 1: I can talk about it because I know firsthand, and
Speaker 1: I know many people who feel the same way, tired.
Speaker 2: Because they went into the relationship doing it all.
Speaker 1: So if you find yourself being that person who has
Speaker 1: to initiate everything.
Speaker 2: You need to step back.
Speaker 1: WHOA. You need to check yourself. You need to check yourself.
Speaker 1: Why are you doing it all? Because that will never work.
Speaker 1: It takes two people to make a relationship work, not
Speaker 1: one two. So it is the reason why so many
Speaker 1: people are single.
Speaker 2: They're tired of the crap.
Speaker 1: They're tired of the liars, of the cheaters, of those
Speaker 1: individuals who talk out the side.
Speaker 2: Of their necks. They're tired.
Speaker 1: So they would rather go at it alone than to
Speaker 1: be in a relationship with someone who's not giving them
Speaker 1: what they deserve.
Speaker 2: Flat out.
Speaker 1: There are so many people you wouldn't even believe who
Speaker 1: are in relationships living separately, unhappy and miserable. But they
Speaker 1: say out of their own insecurities. Some people stay out
Speaker 1: of fear because they've messed around and got caught up
Speaker 1: in an unhealthy relationship with an abuser. Some of you
Speaker 1: get into relationships with people you've been into relationships previously,
Speaker 1: and you go back thinking it's going to be better
Speaker 1: the second time around, only to find out it's worse.
Speaker 1: Because most people don't change.
Speaker 2: They act as if they've changed, but the truth comes out.
Speaker 2: So that is.
Speaker 1: Why so many people are single. It doesn't mean something
Speaker 1: is wrong with them. People just don't want to go
Speaker 1: through the crap. Many people are in relationships in love
Speaker 1: by themselves because I told you many episodes ago that
Speaker 1: people get into relationships and based on self meaning based
Speaker 1: on how they feel as an individual, what they want,
Speaker 1: what they desire. So they push forward in their relationships
Speaker 1: based on self, given this and given that, only to
Speaker 1: receive nothing. Because people feel, oh if I get some
Speaker 1: nibless and nuggets, Oh he loved me.
Speaker 2: You know she loved me.
Speaker 1: Because they gave you nibless and nuggets, just enough to
Speaker 1: keep you so they can stay satisfied and receiving what
Speaker 1: they are trying.
Speaker 2: To get out of the relationship.
Speaker 1: It's not because they feel how you feel, and that's
Speaker 1: why relationships end up one sided. If eyes were open
Speaker 1: in the beginning. You would have seen it when you're
Speaker 1: initiating and you're the one who's doing everything. Those are signs,
Speaker 1: those are red flags. But people can't see beyond their
Speaker 1: hearts what they want and what they desire, how they
Speaker 1: feel their thoughts until they get to such a dark place,
Speaker 1: such a place of resentment, hurt and pain.
Speaker 2: Their eyes begin to open.
Speaker 1: But your eyes should be open in the beginning, not
Speaker 1: when it becomes unbearable in the beginning and.
Speaker 2: They bug it in.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, and I know that the truth can hurt.
Speaker 1: So don't look down on people because they're single. Don't
Speaker 1: think something is wrong with the person because they're single.
Speaker 1: Just because you have insecurities and you're somewhere you don't
Speaker 1: want to be with someone you don't want to be with,
Speaker 1: don't look.
Speaker 2: Down on people because they're single.
Speaker 1: I think it's much smarter to be single by yourself,
Speaker 1: enjoying life alone than to be in an unhappy relationship
Speaker 1: living separate only companions.
Speaker 2: That's just my opinion.
Speaker 1: I've seen I've seen it over and over and over.
Speaker 1: I've heard people talk about it. But I just wanted
Speaker 1: to discuss this because it's a real thing.
Speaker 2: It's a real thing.
Speaker 1: And I know for myself being single, there's nothing wrong
Speaker 1: with it. As long as you love yourself, know yourself,
Speaker 1: and you're confident, your self sufficient, it's okay. But for
Speaker 1: those who are single and you're in misery, you're struggling,
Speaker 1: that's because you have some healing to do. You have
Speaker 1: some things internally that you need to deal with, because
Speaker 1: there is a serious problem when a person cannot ever
Speaker 1: be alone.
Speaker 2: Something is wrong inside that needs to be dealt with.
Speaker 2: Some people are.
Speaker 1: Single and they are struggling because of the insecurities inside
Speaker 1: of them. You came into this world by yourself. You
Speaker 1: going out by yourself. You have to embrace and love yourself.
Speaker 2: With or without someone else.
Speaker 1: So I mean, I just want to talk about it,
Speaker 1: and how you live your life is up to you.
Speaker 2: Whatever you choose to live with is up to you.
Speaker 1: I'm just putting the information out there and that's all
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say about it, because single or in a
Speaker 1: relationship is your choice right there.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for listening. Much much much love
Speaker 2: to each and every one of you. I in every
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