Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm back. Listen.
Speaker 2: I have a good one for you with something for
Speaker 2: you to think about.
Speaker 1: Many people in this world are very caught up into
Speaker 1: other individuals.
Speaker 2: I eat, parents, siblings, family members, friends, and others.
Speaker 1: And when people feel that they are not supported, it
Speaker 1: drags them down.
Speaker 2: They go further into depression, they go further into darkness.
Speaker 2: But I'm here to tell you that you shouldn't worry
Speaker 2: about that. You shouldn't not worry about it. I've talked
Speaker 2: about this.
Speaker 1: A little bit before.
Speaker 2: On one of my episodes, but I wanted to do
Speaker 2: a full episode on it this time. I don't know
Speaker 2: how long it's gonna be, but I just feel the
Speaker 2: need to talk about it.
Speaker 1: When you.
Speaker 2: Put so much into believing in other people, thinking they
Speaker 2: have your back, thinking they love you, thinking they're gonna
Speaker 2: be there for you, thinking they're gonna be happy for you,
Speaker 2: I'm telling you you.
Speaker 1: Setting yourself up.
Speaker 2: Technically, it is the way that we as humans feel
Speaker 2: that it should.
Speaker 1: Just automatically be.
Speaker 2: We feel that people should love us because we love them.
Speaker 2: We feel that when we do great things, the ones
Speaker 2: we love should support us. We feel that people who
Speaker 2: tell us that they love us want the best for us,
Speaker 2: And when you think about it, it seems that that
Speaker 2: should be automatic.
Speaker 1: But I'm here to tell you it's not automatic.
Speaker 2: Stop investing everything you have into other people getting nothing
Speaker 2: in return.
Speaker 1: Stop it.
Speaker 2: Stop setting yourselves up for failure, Stop setting yourselves up
Speaker 2: for letdown. Learn how to be strong within yourself. That's
Speaker 2: the only way you're gonna stay standing. Those of you
Speaker 2: who have listened to me, you know, my center, my beginning,
Speaker 2: my end, everything is God and his son Jesus. But
Speaker 2: I know everyone don't believe that, they don't believe in it.
Speaker 2: For me, it's first and then myself, But I know
Speaker 2: everyone don't believe in that. So I'm encouraging, encouraging you.
Speaker 2: If you don't at least believe in yourself, stop trying
Speaker 2: to live your life for other people, for other people
Speaker 2: to see, for other people to give you accolades, recognition, notoriety, validation.
Speaker 2: Stop it, because the very people you're just I mean
Speaker 2: yearning you're yearning for this attention from, they're yearning for
Speaker 2: from somebody else. Those very people you're yearning and feeding
Speaker 2: attention for or just as broken as you. So stop
Speaker 2: expecting people who are internally unhappy and unhealed to be
Speaker 2: there for you. Most people don't know what love is anyway,
Speaker 2: but they will do anything. They will invest anyway they
Speaker 2: think possible into people they love, thinking that it will
Speaker 2: make them love them, it will make them be there
Speaker 2: for them.
Speaker 1: It's not true.
Speaker 2: Now. People will use you. As long as you freely give,
Speaker 2: they will take. They will use you until you have nothing.
Speaker 2: You have to be careful of those things.
Speaker 1: That's why it's important to know who you are as
Speaker 1: a person.
Speaker 2: You be your biggest cheerleader. You be your biggest motivator.
Speaker 2: You be your biggest supporter when no one else support you.
Speaker 2: Be there for yourself, Show up for yourself. Stop looking
Speaker 2: for people who are full of envy, jealousy, no time
Speaker 2: for you because they so invested in other people, not
Speaker 2: even in themselves, but in other people.
Speaker 1: They're unhealed, so they can't be happy for you.
Speaker 2: Stop expecting unhappy people to be happy for you. They
Speaker 2: can't be happy in their own lives. Stop expecting them
Speaker 2: to be happy for you. Please.
Speaker 1: I'm a living witness.
Speaker 2: I love my family, I love love my family, and
Speaker 2: I love my friends, even those who are so called friends,
Speaker 2: because I see them, I know them. I'm not blind,
Speaker 2: so I can speak on it because I live it.
Speaker 2: I live it. I'm one who broke chains. But I
Speaker 2: still don't get support. I have told relatives and friends
Speaker 2: about my podcasting, and they may listen to one. But
Speaker 2: in all the years I've been podcasting, I've had no support,
Speaker 2: absolutely no support none. But guess what, years later, I'm
Speaker 2: still here because I don't do it for people to say, oh,
Speaker 2: look at Cherry, look at what she's doing. No, I
Speaker 2: don't do it for that. Somebody listening is getting something
Speaker 2: from it. That's all I care about. Someone somewhere around
Speaker 2: the world is getting something from it.
Speaker 1: That's what matters to me. And as long as I
Speaker 1: know that.
Speaker 2: God is always with me, Jesus is always with me,
Speaker 2: always have.
Speaker 1: The Holy Spirit. Really, that's all I need. It's been this.
Speaker 2: Way for me since I was long as I can remember.
Speaker 2: As a kid, I've always been like the black sheep
Speaker 2: quote unquote. I've always felt like the outside. I've always
Speaker 2: been different. So I'm good with it, and I know
Speaker 2: my family loved me. But I also understand the other
Speaker 2: dynamics as well. We get along, we talk, you know,
Speaker 2: some of them daily and others not so daily. But
Speaker 2: we get along, we communicate well, we have an awesome
Speaker 2: time on that we're together. But just like anybody else,
Speaker 2: they your family when I say they a lot of
Speaker 2: times at least for me. And I know I've heard
Speaker 2: a lot of other people say they have no support
Speaker 2: and this and that. I don't get into that. I
Speaker 2: really don't. I don't get into that. Hey, I look
Speaker 2: at it like this, do you boo?
Speaker 1: Do you If you.
Speaker 2: Can't support me, if you can't say congratulations, if you
Speaker 2: can't say whatever, that's all good for me. It don't
Speaker 2: make me, It don't break me. It does not make
Speaker 2: me feel less than it strengthens me. See, I use
Speaker 2: negativity as strength. That's what I use negativity as, not
Speaker 2: as a weakness, because it's not about me, you know
Speaker 2: what I'm saying. How a person reacts or act towards me,
Speaker 2: it's not about me.
Speaker 1: It's about them. So for those of.
Speaker 2: You who feel you have no support, it's okay. If
Speaker 2: you are so caught up and you're so devastated because
Speaker 2: someone is not supporting.
Speaker 1: You, you are one.
Speaker 2: Of your biggest problems, the main problem, how you think,
Speaker 2: how you feel. You're your biggest enemy because you're allowing
Speaker 2: things to affect you that shouldn't affect you.
Speaker 1: You can't force people to support you. And what's funny
Speaker 1: with me is to know me.
Speaker 2: I've definitely broken chains, definitely without a shadow of a doubt.
Speaker 1: But I'm treated like everyone else.
Speaker 2: Which is fine, which is very much okay with me,
Speaker 2: because I get it.
Speaker 1: I understand. I truly understand.
Speaker 2: It's funny to a degree because sometimes I be talking
Speaker 2: and I've been many places overseas and I've dealt with many,
Speaker 2: many different people from different cultures and things like that.
Speaker 1: And I was in the mental health field.
Speaker 2: For many years, fourteen fifteen years, and.
Speaker 1: I've dealt with a lot.
Speaker 2: But sometimes when I'm talking to family, it's like and
Speaker 2: not just family, other people.
Speaker 1: Too, it's like, oh, you know, I don't know anything.
Speaker 1: You don't like your children.
Speaker 2: Sometimes they act as if you haven't been here before,
Speaker 2: You wasn't here before them.
Speaker 1: It's that kind of thing, and it's just it tickles me.
Speaker 1: It tickles me.
Speaker 2: I'll be saying to myself, Lord Jesus, but I just
Speaker 2: let people say what they want to say and whatever.
Speaker 2: You can't let it bother you. You have to be
Speaker 2: strong within yourself. A lot of people have given up
Speaker 2: on life because they didn't feel loved a lot of
Speaker 2: people have given up on themselves because they feel that
Speaker 2: if people don't support them, they must not be good enough.
Speaker 2: Oh I know I'm good enough. I know I am.
Speaker 1: But when people can't support you, when they're not there.
Speaker 2: For you, you have to show up for yourself, period, and
Speaker 2: you can't keep taking in that negativity thinking it's you.
Speaker 1: People tell me all the time. It's so funny.
Speaker 2: People say, oh, yeah, I've been listening, right, And I'm like, oh, really, yeah,
Speaker 2: I've listened, and I go right to my stats and
Speaker 2: I see there's nowhere in that area that anyone listen.
Speaker 2: It is hilarious that people think they're fooling me. Bottom
Speaker 2: line is I know this for a fact. People don't
Speaker 2: like the truth. They don't They do not like the truth.
Speaker 2: I don't care who they are. People do not like
Speaker 2: the truth. They don't like coming sense. They don't like
Speaker 2: things that's going to try to help in their self development,
Speaker 2: to help.
Speaker 1: Them grow and mature.
Speaker 2: They don't want anything like that because people want to
Speaker 2: stay where they've always been, in those low mental states thinking, feeling,
Speaker 2: and acting. The same, being stagnant and stuck. So they
Speaker 2: don't want to hear anyone telling them the truth. And
Speaker 2: that's all I do. All I talk is the truth.
Speaker 2: All I try to do is inspire, educate, motivate, things
Speaker 2: like that.
Speaker 1: People don't want the truth. They'll listen to.
Speaker 2: The truth from someone else, but they're not trying to
Speaker 2: hear it from you. But guess what the Bible tells
Speaker 2: us this people in your own home, your home, your
Speaker 2: own your own country will not support you.
Speaker 1: Your own.
Speaker 2: People will not support you. The Bible tells us that.
Speaker 2: So it's nothing new. You can't get caught up in it.
Speaker 2: You have to be strong within yourself. That's why it's
Speaker 2: so important that you allow inner healing to take place,
Speaker 2: because when you don't, what happens is you're of negativity already,
Speaker 2: and then you get no support, and so you start
Speaker 2: that negative self talk, I'm just not worthy this and that,
Speaker 2: and you feel worse about yourself. You should never allow
Speaker 2: anyone to make you feel bad about yourself. Anyone who
Speaker 2: is trying to make you feel bad about yourself feel
Speaker 2: bad about themselves.
Speaker 1: Trust me. And one thing for sure is a person
Speaker 1: can't make you feel bad about yourself. You do that
Speaker 1: all on your own. They are being who they are.
Speaker 1: Let them be who they are.
Speaker 2: If they don't support you, it's okay. Keep moving forward,
Speaker 2: draw strength from it. Don't get down and the dumps.
Speaker 2: Draw strength from it. People keep telling me go on YouTube.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't have that in my spirit to go on YouTube.
Speaker 2: I'm not doing this for the reasons most people do it.
Speaker 1: Most people are trying to get clout.
Speaker 2: They trying to become well known, you know, they trying
Speaker 2: to get fame.
Speaker 1: They're doing this strictly for money, not me.
Speaker 2: Not me. Whatever God has for me is for me, period.
Speaker 2: So that's not what is about.
Speaker 1: For me.
Speaker 2: And I've been doing this for several years now. Those
Speaker 2: who will listen will listen. Those who don't won't, matter
Speaker 2: of a fact. And this is the truth. I don't
Speaker 2: even publicize my podcast most of the time. I've told
Speaker 2: a few people about it, but for the most part
Speaker 2: ninety nine percent, I don't broadcast it. I don't because
Speaker 2: I've learned that people will not support you anyways, so
Speaker 2: just let it be what it is.
Speaker 1: Who find me will find me.
Speaker 2: The few times I have told people about it, they
Speaker 2: still don't listen, or they may listen one time.
Speaker 1: Nah, I don't want to hear that. I don't want
Speaker 1: to hear that. I'm telling you.
Speaker 2: That has been my experience for every since I started podcasting.
Speaker 2: I get emails a lot from people saying they want
Speaker 2: to come on my podcast.
Speaker 1: I don't know if these people are real or not.
Speaker 1: I don't know some of them.
Speaker 2: I try to google, can't find. So I'm very leery
Speaker 2: about that stuff. People that I know that I've asked
Speaker 2: to come on they don't want to do it.
Speaker 1: They don't want to talk.
Speaker 2: I'm like, well, no one sees you, but they just
Speaker 2: don't want to talk. They you know, don't have the
Speaker 2: confidence to do it. So it is what it is.
Speaker 2: You can't let anyone stop you. You can't let anyone
Speaker 2: block you, because if you do, the truth is you're
Speaker 2: doing it to yourself.
Speaker 1: You're doing it to yourself. I see people who YouTube that.
Speaker 2: It's an embarrassment, but they still do it, and guess
Speaker 2: what they give many, many, many followers and subscribers to
Speaker 2: jump because that's what people love. People love mess, people
Speaker 2: love gossip, people love discord and.
Speaker 1: Chaos and drama. They love it. That's not what I'm
Speaker 1: about I'm not about that. I'm trying to teach, educate, inspire, motivate.
Speaker 1: So always always stand alone.
Speaker 2: But as long as I have breath in my body
Speaker 2: and Jesus's Lord and God sits high on.
Speaker 1: The throne, I'm oh kay.
Speaker 2: That's the mindset you have to have. You have to
Speaker 2: be all right with yourself. You must be all right
Speaker 2: with yourself and never let anyone or anything make you
Speaker 2: feel down and sad and gloomy and full of self
Speaker 2: doubt and lacking self confidence and insecure because of what
Speaker 2: other people say or what they don't say, or what
Speaker 2: they do or what they don't do.
Speaker 1: You have to be confident within yourself. See. People mess
Speaker 1: up when they do it for people.
Speaker 2: When you do it for other folks to see because
Speaker 2: you want accolades from other people, you messed up anyways
Speaker 2: from the start. When you have that mindset, you have
Speaker 2: to do it from your heart and let it be
Speaker 2: what it is. If people listen, they listen. If they don't,
Speaker 2: they don't. And you have to keep it moving, moving,
Speaker 2: keep putting it out as God give it to you,
Speaker 2: and keep it moving and just trust trust God, believe
Speaker 2: in yourself. Stop looking for other people to do things
Speaker 2: for you that you must.
Speaker 1: You must do for yourself.
Speaker 2: And I promise you you will see things differently and
Speaker 2: you will feel differently about things.
Speaker 1: When you are looking to other people, especially your family
Speaker 1: and friends. Now, if you were like I used.
Speaker 2: To be, you know, given, given, given, given, Oh man,
Speaker 2: all man. Everywhere you turn, someone is there. But when
Speaker 2: you're not doing that, allowing people to take advantage and
Speaker 2: things like that.
Speaker 1: No, but that's just life.
Speaker 2: You have to know yourself and love yourself above all humans.
Speaker 2: You have to be good with yourself above all humans.
Speaker 2: I don't care who they are. Trust in yourself, love yourself,
Speaker 2: and God will do the rest. It may take time,
Speaker 2: but trust and believe His word is true, stick and safe.
Speaker 2: If you don't learn to love yourself, you will always suffer.
Speaker 1: And that's all I'm saying. I'm leaving it right there.
Speaker 1: Much much, much much love.
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Speaker 2: Heart by Cherry. Just check it out and please share.
Speaker 1: I end every episode the same and I hope you
Speaker 1: do it. Think on it,