WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.440 --> 00:00:02.879 All right, here we go with the Minnesota good Bye. 2 00:00:03.279 --> 00:00:06.839 Let's see what the mail bag holds today. You know, 3 00:00:06.879 --> 00:00:08.800 we used to get get a lot. We used to 4 00:00:08.800 --> 00:00:11.919 do a segment called Letters from Prison. Oh and we 5 00:00:11.960 --> 00:00:13.960 had a lot of people who listened in prison that 6 00:00:14.000 --> 00:00:16.280 would write to the show. Who and you know what, 7 00:00:16.320 --> 00:00:17.679 I think, I've got one over here and I'm gonna 8 00:00:17.679 --> 00:00:18.679 read it to you and gon'a pull this out. I 9 00:00:18.719 --> 00:00:19.600 kind of forgot about this one. 10 00:00:19.679 --> 00:00:19.920 Okay. 11 00:00:20.000 --> 00:00:22.679 This is from Heather, who is in It looks like 12 00:00:22.760 --> 00:00:26.320 she's in shackapy. She wrote an actual letter from prison 13 00:00:26.679 --> 00:00:28.320 and it says on the outside you ever got a 14 00:00:28.359 --> 00:00:29.359 letter from her prisoner before? 15 00:00:29.359 --> 00:00:29.839 No, I haven't. 16 00:00:29.960 --> 00:00:33.439 It has mailed from a Minnesota correctional facility and she 17 00:00:33.520 --> 00:00:35.079 wrote this a couple of days ago or a couple 18 00:00:35.079 --> 00:00:37.679 of weeks ago. But I'm gonna read. It's long. I'm 19 00:00:37.679 --> 00:00:40.240 gonna read some of it. Okay, let's find out what's 20 00:00:40.280 --> 00:00:42.640 going on in prison. Okay, Hi, guys, my name is Heather. 21 00:00:42.759 --> 00:00:44.479 I listened to the show every morning. I have been 22 00:00:44.520 --> 00:00:46.799 for about six months. It's the only thing I look 23 00:00:46.880 --> 00:00:50.520 forward to at work. I fold balloons for anagram Monday 24 00:00:50.560 --> 00:00:53.640 through Friday seven am to three for fifty cents an hour. 25 00:00:54.039 --> 00:00:56.079 As you probably guess by now, I am in prison, 26 00:00:56.520 --> 00:00:59.679 the female prison in Shakapy. I wouldn't have come here. Oh. 27 00:00:59.719 --> 00:01:01.320 If I I hadn't come here, I would have never 28 00:01:01.320 --> 00:01:04.480 heard of the Dave Ryan Show. Crazy. I know I'm 29 00:01:04.480 --> 00:01:06.599 from Ely, so I don't really know about any cool 30 00:01:06.680 --> 00:01:09.239 radio stations. You don't get much up there. I will 31 00:01:09.239 --> 00:01:11.719 continue to listen to you guys when I get out. Okay, 32 00:01:11.719 --> 00:01:14.359 so here's the thing. I have no idea what any 33 00:01:14.439 --> 00:01:16.359 of you look like. So here is how I imagine each 34 00:01:16.400 --> 00:01:16.560 of you. 35 00:01:16.680 --> 00:01:17.599 Oh this is exciting. 36 00:01:17.920 --> 00:01:20.799 Okay, everyone is always making day for being old. By 37 00:01:20.840 --> 00:01:22.599 the way, I know you don't have gray hair now 38 00:01:22.640 --> 00:01:25.079 because you were just talking about it, But I can't 39 00:01:25.079 --> 00:01:27.840 stop my brain from imagining you with salt and pepper hair. 40 00:01:28.239 --> 00:01:30.560 I feel like you're tall, with an athletic build, maybe 41 00:01:30.560 --> 00:01:33.760 a slight dad bod, which is totally in these days. 42 00:01:34.280 --> 00:01:36.359 I don't see you with facial hair, and you dress 43 00:01:36.400 --> 00:01:38.640 in a suit and tie every day, which I also 44 00:01:38.760 --> 00:01:41.040 know isn't true. But your voice is given off fancy. 45 00:01:41.920 --> 00:01:43.879 Okay, your voice is giving off fancy. 46 00:01:44.040 --> 00:01:46.239 Before I found out Jenny is blonde. I imagined her 47 00:01:46.280 --> 00:01:48.599 a tall, skinny brunette, and for some reason you give 48 00:01:48.640 --> 00:01:50.200 me a Bella Swan from Twilight. 49 00:01:50.359 --> 00:01:51.519 Whe ooh nice. 50 00:01:51.719 --> 00:01:54.359 I cannot, for the life of me picture you, blonde Bailey. 51 00:01:54.599 --> 00:01:57.239 I imagine you with dirty blonde hair glasses, and you 52 00:01:57.280 --> 00:01:59.439 look like a oh this should be good on Frona. 53 00:01:59.599 --> 00:02:04.239 I look like U looks like a preschool teacher checks 54 00:02:04.239 --> 00:02:08.199 out actually wearing an overall like dress with apples on 55 00:02:08.240 --> 00:02:08.800 the pockets. 56 00:02:08.840 --> 00:02:09.439 Oh my gosh. 57 00:02:09.560 --> 00:02:11.520 You wear your hair pulled back and a half pony 58 00:02:11.599 --> 00:02:14.520 or secured with a matching apple hair clip. I picture 59 00:02:14.520 --> 00:02:17.000 you being kind of short and skinny and kind of nerdy, 60 00:02:17.039 --> 00:02:19.759 but in a hot way. You have a fade. I'll 61 00:02:19.800 --> 00:02:21.960 bet no facial hair. 62 00:02:22.159 --> 00:02:22.840 Oh that's Vont. 63 00:02:22.840 --> 00:02:24.800 That has to be vond O wait wait wait, okay, 64 00:02:26.080 --> 00:02:30.120 uh oh okay, yeah, okay, yes, I picture Vont. Let's 65 00:02:30.159 --> 00:02:33.280 go back, thank you. I picture Vont being short and skinny, 66 00:02:33.360 --> 00:02:35.280 kind of nerdy, but in a hot way. You have 67 00:02:35.319 --> 00:02:38.080 a fade, no facial hair, and you wear a hat. Sometimes. 68 00:02:38.120 --> 00:02:40.520 You always got some fly kicks on though you were 69 00:02:40.520 --> 00:02:46.039 talking about those cool tan looking air forces, get them, Yolo. 70 00:02:47.439 --> 00:02:49.120 I was wondering if you four have a group picture 71 00:02:49.159 --> 00:02:51.439 you would take and have taken, it would be possibly 72 00:02:51.439 --> 00:02:54.240 descended to me. Do you get many people that write 73 00:02:54.280 --> 00:02:56.360 from prison. No, I don't expect to reply, but it 74 00:02:56.360 --> 00:02:58.080 would be awesome to see what you guys look like. 75 00:02:58.120 --> 00:02:59.719 I will ride her back. I've had this sitting over 76 00:02:59.719 --> 00:03:02.360 here a month and I should have gotten back to her. Also, 77 00:03:02.479 --> 00:03:04.840 I'd like to say, Bailey is my favorite girl. You 78 00:03:04.919 --> 00:03:06.639 make me laugh every day and you give me the 79 00:03:06.639 --> 00:03:08.560 best vibes. I love when you talk about your kitty. 80 00:03:08.680 --> 00:03:12.199 Cap If you've got any pictures of your kitty, send 81 00:03:12.199 --> 00:03:12.840 them my way. 82 00:03:13.039 --> 00:03:15.680 Yeah, Dave, if you if you send back a photo 83 00:03:15.719 --> 00:03:17.240 of us, I'll send you a picture of my cat 84 00:03:17.280 --> 00:03:18.479 and you can include. 85 00:03:18.120 --> 00:03:22.960 That, Okay. I'd love to see him's cute widow face. 86 00:03:23.000 --> 00:03:23.719 Oh he's baby. 87 00:03:24.520 --> 00:03:27.000 Every time War of the Roses comes on, I let 88 00:03:27.039 --> 00:03:29.800 all of my fellow balloon folders know we all enjoy 89 00:03:29.840 --> 00:03:32.280 the juicy drama. As if there's not enough in here. 90 00:03:32.319 --> 00:03:33.680 I wish I could tell you guys some of the 91 00:03:33.719 --> 00:03:36.199 things that go on in here. I think I can not, 92 00:03:36.400 --> 00:03:39.159 just in great detail. Recently, a woman beat another woman 93 00:03:39.199 --> 00:03:41.759 with a broomstick because they were doing the Lovin' and 94 00:03:41.800 --> 00:03:44.639 the one with the broom found out the other has HIV. 95 00:03:44.879 --> 00:03:45.439 Oh my god. 96 00:03:46.080 --> 00:03:48.560 Pretty crazy. Yeah, it's a lot that goes on here. 97 00:03:48.599 --> 00:03:50.840 This place is pretty entertaining at times. 98 00:03:51.240 --> 00:03:51.680 Wow. 99 00:03:52.960 --> 00:03:54.719 I'm not sure if you're allowed to do this, but 100 00:03:54.840 --> 00:03:56.879 is there a way you could give the ladies who 101 00:03:56.919 --> 00:03:59.280 fold balloons in shot? Could be a shout out and 102 00:03:59.360 --> 00:04:01.680 keep up the good work. I'd like to be left anonymous, 103 00:04:02.319 --> 00:04:05.039 but I know they would just think that's so cool. 104 00:04:05.159 --> 00:04:07.159 We don't get much to look forward to in here. Well, 105 00:04:07.240 --> 00:04:11.680 obviously we're in prison. Lol. My favorite bit so far 106 00:04:11.719 --> 00:04:14.919 as wore the Roses Jenny's Emo Thremo former Emo Girl 107 00:04:15.000 --> 00:04:17.959 for sure, Waitning song Wednesday and the new sound effects bit. 108 00:04:18.519 --> 00:04:20.800 I really love that one. It's fucking hilarious. And when 109 00:04:20.879 --> 00:04:23.560 Dave does his Clinton impression, I think you guys should 110 00:04:23.600 --> 00:04:26.000 do a talkback Tuesday of people doing their best impressions 111 00:04:26.000 --> 00:04:28.759 of famous people. Maybe you've done that already, but do 112 00:04:28.839 --> 00:04:30.759 it again for sure. That's not a bad idea. 113 00:04:30.839 --> 00:04:31.639 Yeah, I'll write it down. 114 00:04:31.680 --> 00:04:34.360 Can you do an impression of anybody? Jenny st Jimmy 115 00:04:34.360 --> 00:04:37.319 Stewart is pretty legit? Who Jimmy Stewart. 116 00:04:36.959 --> 00:04:39.519 Oh my, Jimmy Stewart. Yeah, like, do you want the moon, Mary, Well, 117 00:04:39.560 --> 00:04:41.920 I'll throw a lasso around it and pull it down. 118 00:04:42.199 --> 00:04:44.519 I do that, and then I have like Fran Drescher 119 00:04:45.360 --> 00:04:48.839 because she's what she Oh, Chandler Chandler Bang. That's not 120 00:04:48.879 --> 00:04:52.040 Frank Jesha, but Chandler Bang's girlfriend. Anyone who's got a 121 00:04:52.120 --> 00:04:55.120 Jessey accent and is like a skinny fashion icon. I 122 00:04:55.120 --> 00:04:55.879 can do one of those. 123 00:04:56.000 --> 00:04:59.519 Okay, yeah, I do. I think I do a good 124 00:04:59.560 --> 00:05:01.160 Mickey mount, but nobody agrees. 125 00:05:01.439 --> 00:05:05.160 Oh, hi, Many, that's awful. Huh, that's awful. 126 00:05:05.480 --> 00:05:05.800 I could do. 127 00:05:05.879 --> 00:05:10.120 It's pretty good. No hot dog, Oh Many, Oh that's. 128 00:05:09.920 --> 00:05:12.959 Better than mine dog. In my head, it sounds pretty good, though, 129 00:05:13.120 --> 00:05:17.680 Mickey Mouse. I recently got into cosmetology school. I start 130 00:05:17.680 --> 00:05:19.600 the end of December, so i'll be done folding balloons, 131 00:05:19.600 --> 00:05:21.560 which means I won't be able to listen every day anymore. 132 00:05:21.639 --> 00:05:23.920 Sad face. But on the brighter side, I will finish 133 00:05:23.920 --> 00:05:26.199 my time here and leave with a hair technician license. 134 00:05:26.279 --> 00:05:26.560 Cool. 135 00:05:26.680 --> 00:05:28.839 They offer many good programs here. You can even do 136 00:05:28.920 --> 00:05:32.040 college classes and get your Associate of Arts degree. Honestly, 137 00:05:32.040 --> 00:05:33.680 if I wouldn't have come here. I'm not sure where 138 00:05:33.680 --> 00:05:36.439 I would be. I'm participating in AA meetings every week. 139 00:05:36.759 --> 00:05:38.920 I got my ged and I'm working on my mental 140 00:05:38.920 --> 00:05:41.199 health and physical health. Wow, I'm become the person I've 141 00:05:41.199 --> 00:05:43.279 always wanted to be. I plan to be a contributing 142 00:05:43.319 --> 00:05:47.399 member of society when I get released. I thank you 143 00:05:47.439 --> 00:05:51.920 guys for helping me along with my prison bid. You 144 00:05:52.000 --> 00:05:54.040 really do help my days go by faster. The Dave 145 00:05:54.120 --> 00:05:56.600 Ryan Show gets me through the days, even on my 146 00:05:56.720 --> 00:05:58.800 worst days. You four put a smile on my face. 147 00:05:58.879 --> 00:06:01.240 Keep doing what you do. I'm becoming a huge fan. 148 00:06:01.560 --> 00:06:03.560 I hope to someday meet you, maybe at the State Fair. 149 00:06:03.639 --> 00:06:06.480 You guys rock. Your friend Heather ps, it is two 150 00:06:06.600 --> 00:06:09.519 chugg is and one chew choo. So we ask, is 151 00:06:09.519 --> 00:06:12.040 it how many chug is? How many chew choo? Yeah, 152 00:06:12.160 --> 00:06:15.800 she says it's chug a chug a chow choo. Okay, Now, 153 00:06:15.879 --> 00:06:17.600 some people go chug a choo choo or chug a 154 00:06:17.680 --> 00:06:19.279 chug a chug a chug a choo choo. 155 00:06:19.879 --> 00:06:22.040 Mine's a four chugga chugga chugga chugga choo too. 156 00:06:22.279 --> 00:06:26.759 And here is the addressed to reply, and our email 157 00:06:26.959 --> 00:06:30.079 gets scanned we get copies of letters and pictures. I 158 00:06:30.240 --> 00:06:32.399 know this to be true because my nephew in prison 159 00:06:32.560 --> 00:06:37.360 asked me to send him pictures of sports illustrated girls 160 00:06:37.399 --> 00:06:39.600 in bikinis, and there's certain ones that he liked, and 161 00:06:39.680 --> 00:06:45.120 he's like, he said, send a digital picture because if 162 00:06:45.160 --> 00:06:47.319 you mail it, it will get scanned and it will 163 00:06:47.360 --> 00:06:49.879 be in black and white. Yeah, so that's interesting. So 164 00:06:50.000 --> 00:06:54.560 they don't let you actually receive interesting for those they 165 00:06:54.639 --> 00:06:58.680 get scanned. So anyway, that was really interesting. I read 166 00:06:58.720 --> 00:07:00.279 that letter the other day and I forget got to 167 00:07:00.319 --> 00:07:01.639 read it on the radio, but I think we should 168 00:07:01.639 --> 00:07:02.240 read it on the radio. 169 00:07:02.439 --> 00:07:04.839 Yeah, we should definitely give the ladies who fold balloons 170 00:07:04.879 --> 00:07:05.600 at Shokpia. 171 00:07:06.399 --> 00:07:08.439 I want to know more about folding balloons. 172 00:07:08.600 --> 00:07:09.399 What does that way? 173 00:07:09.439 --> 00:07:10.279 What does that mean? 174 00:07:10.720 --> 00:07:13.879 Like balloons for I can't even imagine, like the big 175 00:07:14.000 --> 00:07:16.120 fat balloons that you put helium in. Maybe they have 176 00:07:16.199 --> 00:07:17.959 to be folded to put in a package. I don't know. 177 00:07:18.199 --> 00:07:20.040 Interest maybe yeah it could be. But good for you 178 00:07:20.160 --> 00:07:23.519 all the other stuff that you accomplished, like the cosmetology school. 179 00:07:23.519 --> 00:07:23.920 That's great. 180 00:07:24.199 --> 00:07:26.439 And seriously, thanks for having such a positive attitude. And 181 00:07:26.439 --> 00:07:28.879 I'm really glad that we help you get through the day. 182 00:07:29.519 --> 00:07:32.279 All right, let's move on, Carmen writes in via email, 183 00:07:32.399 --> 00:07:35.639 Happy hump Day, guys. So today's am I a jerk? 184 00:07:35.959 --> 00:07:36.000 Me? 185 00:07:36.240 --> 00:07:39.360 Has me heated? This was the one where a guy 186 00:07:39.639 --> 00:07:43.279 was asking us whether he's a jerk. He is divorced 187 00:07:43.560 --> 00:07:47.439 and he is living with his two kids, you know, 188 00:07:47.639 --> 00:07:51.800 like shared custody and his new girlfriend, and his ex 189 00:07:51.879 --> 00:07:54.399 wife is annoyed because his girlfriend is in their Christmas 190 00:07:54.480 --> 00:07:57.560 card photo with the two kids, and the ex wife 191 00:07:57.639 --> 00:07:59.279 is like, you have not known her long enough. I 192 00:07:59.319 --> 00:08:01.439 don't want my kids in that picture. And he's like, 193 00:08:01.680 --> 00:08:05.160 I live with her, of course I'm going to put 194 00:08:05.160 --> 00:08:09.040 her in the Christmas card picture. Carmen goes on to say, 195 00:08:09.160 --> 00:08:11.160 I am not your traditional ex wife. And when my 196 00:08:11.319 --> 00:08:13.360 ex and I split up, I told him we will 197 00:08:13.399 --> 00:08:15.720 not fight and I'm not going to fight over materialistic 198 00:08:15.759 --> 00:08:17.439 shit because we still got to raise our son and 199 00:08:17.519 --> 00:08:20.439 I will never hate you. Fast forward to today. My 200 00:08:20.519 --> 00:08:23.920 son is now twenty three. His mom and dad are friends, 201 00:08:24.639 --> 00:08:27.079 His dad and stepdad our friends. We raised him together. 202 00:08:27.160 --> 00:08:30.759 Did we argue, yes, did my current husband have to mediate, Yes, 203 00:08:31.279 --> 00:08:32.960 But at the end of the day, we're still a family. 204 00:08:33.080 --> 00:08:35.039 I will have my ex husband's back till one of 205 00:08:35.159 --> 00:08:38.159 us dies, and vice versa. This woman needs to learn 206 00:08:38.200 --> 00:08:40.519 to accept the girlfriend, get to know her, and maybe 207 00:08:40.600 --> 00:08:42.960 jump in the picture and show the world co parenting 208 00:08:43.080 --> 00:08:46.639 can work anyway. Merry Christmas, my beautiful friends and little 209 00:08:46.720 --> 00:08:51.679 sassy bitch Dave. Thank you Carmen, she's a friend of 210 00:08:51.759 --> 00:08:58.440 the show. So next one, Charis writes in, I rarely 211 00:08:58.559 --> 00:09:00.799 write in this frequently leave, but I felt I had 212 00:09:00.840 --> 00:09:03.840 to call Dave out on something I wrote in on Monday, 213 00:09:03.840 --> 00:09:05.639 and Dave only read part of my email and skipped 214 00:09:05.639 --> 00:09:07.759 the rest. So what you skipped over day was me 215 00:09:07.919 --> 00:09:10.399 telling you guys what I did at the Bloggio. When 216 00:09:10.440 --> 00:09:12.440 I wrote in about maternity to leave a few months ago, 217 00:09:12.480 --> 00:09:14.320 I mentioned I worked at the Bologgio, and you guys 218 00:09:14.320 --> 00:09:16.480 were trying to guess what I did there. So to 219 00:09:16.679 --> 00:09:22.120 end the suspense, I was a cashier in the poker 220 00:09:22.240 --> 00:09:25.600 room from two thousand and five to twenty twelve. There 221 00:09:25.679 --> 00:09:28.600 was no breaking arms or fingers. I do, however, have 222 00:09:28.720 --> 00:09:31.159 many interesting stories from my time there, and we'll be 223 00:09:31.200 --> 00:09:33.399 happy to share the next time you guys have an event. 224 00:09:33.960 --> 00:09:36.559 I hope you read this, and happy holidays. To you all, 225 00:09:36.879 --> 00:09:38.399 all right. 226 00:09:38.600 --> 00:09:40.519 I wish she told us she was a showgirl. That 227 00:09:40.600 --> 00:09:42.519 would have my mind would have exploded. 228 00:09:42.559 --> 00:09:43.960 Can I tell you something. I used to work in 229 00:09:44.039 --> 00:09:45.879 Las Vegas. I used to live in Las Vegas. My 230 00:09:45.919 --> 00:09:48.000 first radio job was in Las Vegas. I did the 231 00:09:48.000 --> 00:09:51.000 morning show and there was a woman who did all 232 00:09:51.159 --> 00:09:53.399 nights on the weekends, and she was also a show 233 00:09:53.480 --> 00:09:58.759 girl at the Tropicana. Yeah, And it was interesting because 234 00:09:58.799 --> 00:10:02.159 she was a normal looking woman, just tall. She was tall, 235 00:10:02.279 --> 00:10:04.120 and I never I could I can't say she was 236 00:10:04.159 --> 00:10:07.559 skinny because she always wore like sweatpants and baggy clothes. 237 00:10:07.879 --> 00:10:10.480 But she would get off work at the Tropicana and 238 00:10:10.600 --> 00:10:11.840 then she would, you know, I don't know if she 239 00:10:11.919 --> 00:10:13.320 worked on the same nights, but she would come to 240 00:10:13.360 --> 00:10:15.200 the radio station and she was the all night DJ. 241 00:10:15.720 --> 00:10:18.399 And she was very ordinary looking in that you would 242 00:10:18.440 --> 00:10:20.919 never look at her in guess showgirl, right, but then. 243 00:10:20.879 --> 00:10:22.720 When she puts the makeup on, in the head dress 244 00:10:22.720 --> 00:10:23.080 and all that. 245 00:10:23.279 --> 00:10:26.120 Yeah, and she was normal, kind of quiet, never really 246 00:10:26.200 --> 00:10:30.039 had much to say, but yeah, she was a showgirl. 247 00:10:30.559 --> 00:10:32.759 And I don't know anything else about her life at all. 248 00:10:33.200 --> 00:10:35.360 Didn't you know a show girl whose name was Lola. 249 00:10:35.960 --> 00:10:38.519 Yeah, and she had feathers in her hair and a 250 00:10:38.559 --> 00:10:39.559 dress that went down to. 251 00:10:39.559 --> 00:10:41.759 Their down to wear down there, down there. 252 00:10:41.840 --> 00:10:45.600 Yeah, and she did the cha cha and did marangue. 253 00:10:45.799 --> 00:10:47.039 I think, I think the marangue. 254 00:10:47.200 --> 00:10:49.279 Yeah, but then like her lover was shot. 255 00:10:49.360 --> 00:10:52.080 I think, oh no, one day, well what happened to her? 256 00:10:52.120 --> 00:10:54.960 Then it was rough after that? 257 00:10:55.159 --> 00:10:56.639 Yeah, yeah, I can't remember exactly. 258 00:10:56.639 --> 00:11:01.279 Think they she would sit at the bar and drink 259 00:11:01.320 --> 00:11:03.039 herself like half blind. 260 00:11:03.320 --> 00:11:06.559 Yeah, that sounds accurate. Yeah, I mean much. 261 00:11:06.600 --> 00:11:10.279 She lost her youth, she lost her boyfriend Tony, Yeah, 262 00:11:10.480 --> 00:11:12.519 and then she lost her mind mind where she work? 263 00:11:13.639 --> 00:11:16.240 She well, she was a show Well, her name was Lola. 264 00:11:16.639 --> 00:11:19.039 We've established that she was a showgirl. The Copa though 265 00:11:19.720 --> 00:11:23.720 was yeah, yeah, what a great place. 266 00:11:23.840 --> 00:11:25.720 Don't shake your head at this bit. This is a 267 00:11:25.799 --> 00:11:29.960 good bit. Okay, don't shake your head at this bit. 268 00:11:30.320 --> 00:11:32.759 Cabana. If you don't know that song, look it up 269 00:11:32.759 --> 00:11:34.720 because Barry Manilow is a national treasure. 270 00:11:35.080 --> 00:11:38.399 It really is a national treasure. Don't say my name, okay. 271 00:11:38.960 --> 00:11:43.080 Hoping for a suggestion. I've applied for a position within 272 00:11:43.159 --> 00:11:45.559 my company. The company does social work around the Metro area, 273 00:11:45.960 --> 00:11:48.320 and they just added a contract with a new country. 274 00:11:48.360 --> 00:11:51.879 I applied for the position and was oh, county, sorry county, 275 00:11:52.440 --> 00:11:55.600 and I was offered the position. However, it asked for 276 00:11:55.679 --> 00:11:58.200 a wage requirement. I stated more money than what I 277 00:11:58.360 --> 00:12:00.480 make now. I think I put fifty seven one thousand 278 00:12:00.799 --> 00:12:04.000 I currently make fifty two. Wages were not discussed in 279 00:12:04.039 --> 00:12:07.120 the interview, So how do I ask about it without 280 00:12:07.159 --> 00:12:10.080 seeming rude. I know it's not a financial based show, 281 00:12:10.080 --> 00:12:12.879 but I think Dave has helped others advocate for proper compensation. 282 00:12:13.440 --> 00:12:16.120 I've never negotiated a salary before, and my family won't 283 00:12:16.159 --> 00:12:19.440 be of help regardless of what they say. I will 284 00:12:19.559 --> 00:12:22.039 take the position as it is closer to home, but 285 00:12:22.120 --> 00:12:23.639 if I can get a bit more money, that would 286 00:12:23.639 --> 00:12:26.559 be great. The new contract is starting with myself and 287 00:12:26.759 --> 00:12:31.440 one other social worker plus a supervisor currently positioned as 288 00:12:31.440 --> 00:12:33.919 about forty social workers, so we'd be learning all the 289 00:12:33.960 --> 00:12:36.600 new county process as rules, etc. I'd be up for promotions. 290 00:12:36.720 --> 00:12:38.799 The contract grows in the county, and that would lead 291 00:12:38.799 --> 00:12:40.960 to pay increases. Thank you, Okay, so let's go back. 292 00:12:41.799 --> 00:12:45.039 They do social work and on the initial application it 293 00:12:45.120 --> 00:12:46.399 asks for a wage requirement. 294 00:12:46.559 --> 00:12:49.600 Yeah. First of all, congrats, on getting that job. 295 00:12:49.759 --> 00:12:53.120 Great job, Yeah, he says, I currently make fifty two thousand, 296 00:12:53.200 --> 00:12:55.679 and I think I put fifty seven. Well, you are 297 00:12:55.879 --> 00:13:00.519 absolutely entitled. Is the first word that comes to mine 298 00:13:00.840 --> 00:13:05.360 or deserving to ask for a salary requirement. 299 00:13:05.480 --> 00:13:07.559 I've always been told to ask for like five thousand 300 00:13:07.600 --> 00:13:10.159 dollars more than what you make, if not ten, okay. 301 00:13:09.960 --> 00:13:12.240 Sure, And the worst they can do is say no. 302 00:13:13.759 --> 00:13:17.080 And sometimes they have more budgeted than what you think. 303 00:13:17.720 --> 00:13:21.159 So if you say you know, let's say you I 304 00:13:21.200 --> 00:13:23.120 don't know, the first thing you do is ask what 305 00:13:23.200 --> 00:13:26.799 the job pays. And if they say, well, it pays 306 00:13:26.840 --> 00:13:28.840 fifty two, you say, oh, well I'd really like to 307 00:13:28.879 --> 00:13:31.120 make fifty seven. They'll either say well it doesn't pay 308 00:13:31.200 --> 00:13:32.639 that or they'll be like, yeah, I think I can 309 00:13:32.720 --> 00:13:36.360 do that. Sure, but you can ask them what the 310 00:13:36.519 --> 00:13:40.240 job pays, or you can say, you know, my salary 311 00:13:40.360 --> 00:13:43.360 requirement is fifty seven and then might go oh, well 312 00:13:43.399 --> 00:13:45.879 it only pays fifty two, And you can go, okay, 313 00:13:45.919 --> 00:13:48.399 well can you do fifty five? Right? Yeah, we can 314 00:13:48.440 --> 00:13:49.039 do fifty five. 315 00:13:49.200 --> 00:13:51.039 Yeah, so she can negotiate a little bit. 316 00:13:51.440 --> 00:13:55.240 Yeah, there's no reason ever to settle for the salary 317 00:13:55.320 --> 00:13:57.480 that they give you. I'm going to tell you a 318 00:13:57.559 --> 00:14:00.519 quick story. When I got my first morning rate job. 319 00:14:01.759 --> 00:14:04.879 I was twenty one years old and I was making 320 00:14:04.919 --> 00:14:08.759 I think maybe one thousand dollars a month, which back 321 00:14:08.840 --> 00:14:12.679 then was enough to live on. And so I got 322 00:14:12.720 --> 00:14:14.840 a job in Las Vegas. They asked me on the phone, 323 00:14:14.919 --> 00:14:17.639 what do you want to make? And I said, oh, 324 00:14:18.759 --> 00:14:21.039 remember I made one thousand a month, maybe eleven hundred. 325 00:14:21.080 --> 00:14:25.080 I said, oh, fifteen hundred, and the guy went, who if? Okay, 326 00:14:25.240 --> 00:14:26.919 let me check, and I thought, I blew it. I'm 327 00:14:26.960 --> 00:14:29.080 not going to get the job. He calls me back 328 00:14:29.120 --> 00:14:31.039 the next day he's like, yeah, fifteen hundred, Yep, we 329 00:14:31.080 --> 00:14:34.200 can do it. So I'm making fifteen hundred dollars a month, yeah, 330 00:14:34.240 --> 00:14:37.480 which is eighteen thousand dollars a year. Now. This was 331 00:14:37.519 --> 00:14:38.879 a long time ago, and you could live on that 332 00:14:39.039 --> 00:14:45.080 pretty easily. And I'm driving around with the boss's assistant. 333 00:14:45.159 --> 00:14:47.639 One day. He looks over at me, and I'll never 334 00:14:47.720 --> 00:14:49.399 forget the look on his face. He goes, you're such 335 00:14:49.440 --> 00:14:53.120 a dumb shit, and I said why what? He goes 336 00:14:53.799 --> 00:14:56.279 they were ready, he had an accent. They were ready 337 00:14:56.320 --> 00:14:59.679 to pay you thirty thousand dollars a year, Oh my god, 338 00:15:00.399 --> 00:15:01.240 and I asked. 339 00:15:01.080 --> 00:15:04.879 For eighteen so that a they saved a bunch of money. 340 00:15:05.399 --> 00:15:08.279 Because I didn't know. But I didn't give a shit. 341 00:15:08.559 --> 00:15:11.279 All I cared about was I got this great job 342 00:15:11.799 --> 00:15:13.879 and I could live on this. Somebody once told me, 343 00:15:13.919 --> 00:15:15.799 they said, oh, fifteen hundred dollars a month, you're not 344 00:15:15.840 --> 00:15:18.720 going to be eating peanut butter. And it was like wow. 345 00:15:18.799 --> 00:15:21.480 And like I said, fifteen hundred dollars a month back then, 346 00:15:21.480 --> 00:15:23.120 I don't even know what would equate to now. But 347 00:15:23.399 --> 00:15:26.200 I was single and young, and I didn't have expensive anything. Yeah, 348 00:15:26.559 --> 00:15:29.120 and my car was paid off. It was from my dad, 349 00:15:29.840 --> 00:15:33.960 So I didn't I think one of the persons, you're 350 00:15:33.960 --> 00:15:36.200 gonna get a great job that you like, and you're 351 00:15:36.240 --> 00:15:38.200 gonna it's gonna be closer to where you live, so 352 00:15:38.399 --> 00:15:39.720 that's gonna be a big plus right there. 353 00:15:39.799 --> 00:15:40.879 Yeah, I save on gas money. 354 00:15:41.039 --> 00:15:43.759 But yeah, negotiate a little bit. There's nothing wrong, nobody will. 355 00:15:44.039 --> 00:15:48.080 People hate hate negotiating. That's why most people accept what 356 00:15:48.559 --> 00:15:50.120 is given to them. I think that's one of the 357 00:15:50.200 --> 00:15:55.000 reasons why that women make less than guys. For many reasons. 358 00:15:55.080 --> 00:15:58.840 One of them is women are are conditioned to be 359 00:15:59.080 --> 00:15:59.840 less assertive. 360 00:16:00.000 --> 00:16:02.600 Would you say, yeah, for sure, just like yes we're 361 00:16:02.639 --> 00:16:05.559 bitches if we're a sort of well right, but. 362 00:16:05.600 --> 00:16:09.279 I think that women are just the demure, be more demure. 363 00:16:09.679 --> 00:16:12.039 Well, I wouldn't ask for I mean I would say like, oh, 364 00:16:12.080 --> 00:16:14.000 I would like this much money, and if they're like, no, 365 00:16:14.159 --> 00:16:15.600 we can't do that for you, I'd be like, Okay, 366 00:16:15.919 --> 00:16:16.399 it's fine. 367 00:16:16.480 --> 00:16:18.279 Well, and I think some I've been through that too. 368 00:16:18.399 --> 00:16:20.279 It's like, uh, where did I go one time? And 369 00:16:20.360 --> 00:16:22.320 I asked for like and they're like, no, this is 370 00:16:22.360 --> 00:16:25.279 what the job pays. I was like, okay, and don't 371 00:16:25.279 --> 00:16:27.840 remember anyway. Let's move on to the next one. And 372 00:16:27.960 --> 00:16:34.480 good luck with that one. This one's fare longtime. No talk, 373 00:16:34.559 --> 00:16:37.360 don't say my name, it's your girl, and then she 374 00:16:37.399 --> 00:16:39.960 says her name right away. Few thoughts to share today 375 00:16:40.000 --> 00:16:43.720 for your Lovely podcasts. First, regarding the there I Said 376 00:16:43.799 --> 00:16:46.519 It segment, I just wanted to share a there I 377 00:16:46.639 --> 00:16:48.440 Said it I figured out today on my commute home 378 00:16:48.480 --> 00:16:52.639 from work. Just because you spent nine to ninety nine 379 00:16:53.600 --> 00:16:56.120 to put a dumb ass baby on board sticker on 380 00:16:56.240 --> 00:16:59.000 your car, does it make me hate you any less 381 00:16:59.039 --> 00:17:02.039 for driving twenty miles an hour when entering the freeway. 382 00:17:02.120 --> 00:17:05.079 What the fuck there? I said it? Also, what's with 383 00:17:05.160 --> 00:17:08.359 people not accelerating on the entrance ramps? Yeah, that's an 384 00:17:08.359 --> 00:17:11.400 acceleration lane, not a stop and look over your shoulder lane. 385 00:17:11.480 --> 00:17:14.200 People like full stop on it, Like, what are you doing? 386 00:17:14.319 --> 00:17:15.880 This isn't a yield you just go. 387 00:17:16.319 --> 00:17:19.680 No, you're supposed to look over your left shoulder, gauge 388 00:17:19.799 --> 00:17:22.519 and plan and accelerate. And they give you plenty of 389 00:17:22.599 --> 00:17:26.000 time to accelerate in normal traffic conditions, So you accelerate. 390 00:17:26.079 --> 00:17:28.359 And it's your job, not the people in the lane 391 00:17:28.400 --> 00:17:31.079 to your left, to fit you into the traffic. Now, 392 00:17:31.119 --> 00:17:33.400 if they're kind, they might slow down or maybe even 393 00:17:33.440 --> 00:17:35.079 speed up or get in the left lane to let 394 00:17:35.119 --> 00:17:36.680 you in, but it's your job. 395 00:17:36.680 --> 00:17:39.039 Just to plan that match their speed. 396 00:17:39.200 --> 00:17:41.440 Yeah yeah, and accelerate and plan the way to get 397 00:17:41.480 --> 00:17:44.359 in PSA everybody, it's a ramp to get up to 398 00:17:44.440 --> 00:17:48.920 freeway speed. Good lord? AnyWho? One last question wondering if 399 00:17:48.920 --> 00:17:51.039 you guys have any advice for keeping things spicy in 400 00:17:51.119 --> 00:17:55.839 a long distance relationship, mail them your underpants? Well you 401 00:17:55.960 --> 00:17:57.720