Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you
Speaker 1: to think about. Okay, here's another one, stepping on toes.
Speaker 1: Someone is not gonna like it, but you'll be okay.
Speaker 1: You always do, you will be okay. I wanna talk
Speaker 1: about the relationships you choose to get in. People get
Speaker 1: into relationships based on the mindsets that they have. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm almost finished revising my book, and when I do,
Speaker 1: I will tell you the title of my book. But
Speaker 1: I talk about this in my book. People don't think
Speaker 1: about the types of relationships that they choose to be
Speaker 1: in until things are bad. Some people see all the mess,
Speaker 1: but they choose to ignore it because they want what
Speaker 1: they want, or they want who they want, and that's unfortunate.
Speaker 2: A lot of people get into relationships. They call it polygamy.
Speaker 1: They get into these polygamous relationships and you cannot tell
Speaker 1: them that they are not mature people. You just can't
Speaker 1: tell them. You can't tell them that they don't love themselves.
Speaker 1: They don't want to hear it. They think they love themselves.
Speaker 1: They think they.
Speaker 2: Are mature, but I'm telling you you're not.
Speaker 1: People who are in polygamous relationships they don't know what
Speaker 1: love is. They know what feeling good is, but they
Speaker 1: don't know what love is because they don't love themselves.
Speaker 1: You got a bunch of women with one man. They're
Speaker 1: committed to him and can't be with anyone else, but
Speaker 1: he could be with other women. How is that?
Speaker 2: Please?
Speaker 1: Somebody, make it make sense? And they're okay with it.
Speaker 1: At least that's what they say. He don't love them. Wait,
Speaker 1: hold on, hold on, let me go back. He loved them,
Speaker 1: he could possibly love them, but he's not in love
Speaker 1: with none of them. Because when you are in love
Speaker 1: with someone, you're not trying to share them. You're not
Speaker 1: trying to share them. Now. You can love this one,
Speaker 1: that one, the one back there, the one over there,
Speaker 1: but you're not in love with none of them because
Speaker 1: you would not want to share.
Speaker 2: You just would it.
Speaker 1: But they think it's love and all of that, but
Speaker 1: real love is nowhere in that equation. And it's the
Speaker 1: same for people who choose to be in relationship with
Speaker 1: individuals who abuses them, talk to them any kind of way,
Speaker 1: you know, but live to and degrade them and the
Speaker 1: way they speak to them. If you go through that
Speaker 1: when you're dating that person, you think it's gonna change
Speaker 1: when you marry him or see. That's when people get
Speaker 1: it all mixed up. They think the person is going
Speaker 1: to become better after they marry. That's just ridiculous and
Speaker 1: a true clear indication of mental immaturity.
Speaker 2: They don't get better, they become worse.
Speaker 1: It's like people who choose to get into relationship for
Speaker 1: people that they know have a history of cheating. You
Speaker 1: think they fall so in love with you that they
Speaker 1: won't cheat on you. They probably cheating on you already
Speaker 1: before you ever choose to marry them. These are the
Speaker 1: things people get themselves into, seeing these poligamous relationships.
Speaker 2: Everybody getting the peace of the pie.
Speaker 1: Everybody is getting something from the relationship. Everybody has voids
Speaker 1: that they're trying to fill.
Speaker 2: And guess what. You can be a man with ten
Speaker 2: women or a woman with ten men.
Speaker 1: None of them will fill the voids in you.
Speaker 2: You have to do that for yourself. They can make you.
Speaker 1: Feel good, but they will not heal the unhealed inside
Speaker 1: of you. Some men think they need multiple women, No,
Speaker 1: you just need the right one. Some women think they
Speaker 1: need multiple men. No, she just need the right one.
Speaker 1: And you will never experience that as a human being,
Speaker 1: as long as you are a person who have unresolved
Speaker 1: in her issues.
Speaker 2: So you can think, oh, everything is great, I'm just
Speaker 2: loving it.
Speaker 1: You are there.
Speaker 2: Of course you are enjoying it. You're loving it.
Speaker 1: You're getting your pie in your cake and your ice
Speaker 1: cream too.
Speaker 2: Of course you are enjoying it.
Speaker 1: It's great, but you're still not fulfilled because you're trying
Speaker 1: to get it from multiple people. They will never be
Speaker 1: able to feel the voids in you, whether it's a
Speaker 1: woman with multiple men or a man with multiple they
Speaker 1: will never be able to fulfill that boy to feel
Speaker 1: that void in you. They will never be able to
Speaker 1: complete you as a person. And every single woman that
Speaker 1: chooses to be with a man, that one man, or
Speaker 1: every single man that chooses to be with every single
Speaker 1: man that chooses to be with multiple women, every single
Speaker 1: woman that choose to be with multiple men, they will
Speaker 1: never ever, ever, ever remove all of that that's going
Speaker 1: on inside of you. I don't care what they do
Speaker 1: for you, how they make you smile.
Speaker 2: You don't love yourself.
Speaker 1: And it goes for any relationship, not just polygamous. It
Speaker 1: goes to any relationship because honestly, most people who.
Speaker 2: Are in relationships married and not married. Most people are unhappy.
Speaker 1: Most people are they're unhappy, they're unfulfilled.
Speaker 2: So some people think they need multiple partners.
Speaker 1: To be felled. You know, those voids feel No, they
Speaker 1: don't feel the voids. They just make you feel good.
Speaker 1: And it's the same in any relationship. People are trying
Speaker 1: to feel their emptiness inside. That's why people are in
Speaker 1: relationships married and none married, and they're so lonely. They're
Speaker 1: so lone because that person can't heal what's inside of you.
Speaker 1: They can't fill those voids. That's why you're in a
Speaker 1: relationship with someone and your lonely. People just subject themselves
Speaker 1: to all of the wrong things, seeking love, validation, recognition, security.
Speaker 1: I keep telling you another person's security is not necessarily yours.
Speaker 2: That's why you need your ownly.
Speaker 1: When you get into a relationship and you have nothing
Speaker 1: to bring to the table, that person has the ability
Speaker 1: to control you because you have to offer but yourself,
Speaker 1: your body. You're bringing nothing to the table of substance.
Speaker 1: And that's why so many people are treating badly because
Speaker 1: they accept these types of relationships and then their control
Speaker 1: and use the taking advantage of but every bit of
Speaker 1: it goes back to who you are as a person.
Speaker 1: It goes back to that mindset that you have. Because
Speaker 1: millions upon millions of people in this world are of
Speaker 1: unhealed hearts and minds, and they never get to the
Speaker 1: point of healing because they're too caught up in other people,
Speaker 1: way too caught up in other people to be bothered
Speaker 1: with time and energy to becoming better for.
Speaker 2: Themselves, for their own lives.
Speaker 1: See, because once that mindset changes, your entire life change.
Speaker 2: It's like a metamorphois take place. You're no longer who
Speaker 2: you used to be.
Speaker 1: You don't think like you used to think. You don't
Speaker 1: let people do to you what they used to do
Speaker 1: to you, what you used to allow. You don't go
Speaker 1: alone to get a loan to be lone. No, when
Speaker 1: you love yourself and you know yourself, healing has taken place.
Speaker 2: You cannot be a person of a hearted mind.
Speaker 1: You cannot be a person of that caliber until healing
Speaker 1: has taken place. You cannot be a person of mental
Speaker 1: maturity until heal has taken place. You learn something that
Speaker 1: allowed you to grow and mature. Some people go to
Speaker 1: the school of hard knocks and never ever graduate. Let's
Speaker 1: just keep repeating the same cycles, going through total nonsense,
Speaker 1: total bullcrap, because that's what they subject themselves to.
Speaker 2: Over and over.
Speaker 1: Relationship happen, jumping from one relationship to another.
Speaker 2: Thinking that it's gonna make you feel good.
Speaker 1: Sure, anytime it's something new, it makes you feel good
Speaker 1: until it gets old. Then you're right in the same
Speaker 1: mindset that you've always been See people so good, I mean,
Speaker 1: they are professionals at faking and attending professionals.
Speaker 2: They need to give out Grammys and enemies.
Speaker 1: To most other people in the world because they're so
Speaker 1: good at faking and pretending.
Speaker 2: After this, if everything is okay when they know it's not.
Speaker 1: That does nothing but keep you in the same mindset
Speaker 1: you've always been in.
Speaker 2: And I will say.
Speaker 1: Again, most people go through life pouring into other people,
Speaker 1: but not into self. You're trying to push that person,
Speaker 1: appease that person, please that person, but you're doing nothing
Speaker 1: for self growth and development. And that's why you keep
Speaker 1: choosing wrong You keep allowing the wrong things, You keep
Speaker 1: getting into relationships.
Speaker 3: The wrong way because you don't know who you are,
Speaker 3: you haven't figured you out, you don't love yourself.
Speaker 1: And I don't know how many ways I can say
Speaker 1: it but I continue to try and just keep praying
Speaker 1: that people get it. No one is gonna change you
Speaker 1: but you. No one is gonna complete you but yourself.
Speaker 1: No one can do the inside work that you must do.
Speaker 2: No one, no one can do it for you. People
Speaker 2: keep thinking and.
Speaker 1: Believing that other individuals can heal them, can save them,
Speaker 1: can fix them, can change them.
Speaker 2: They can't.
Speaker 1: They can influence you to change, but you still have
Speaker 1: to be the one who allow change in your life.
Speaker 1: A change mindset is a change life.
Speaker 2: No significant other, none is able to give you that.
Speaker 2: No one. You have to do it for yourself.
Speaker 1: It has to come from within you. You know, people
Speaker 1: go through life and they alter their faces, they alter
Speaker 1: their bodies, they alter I mean everything. But let me
Speaker 1: tell you, it's not gonna make him love you anymore.
Speaker 2: It's not gonna make her love you anymore.
Speaker 1: You may have the biggest booty, he's still gonna treat
Speaker 1: you like trash. They may even look at the booty
Speaker 1: and think it's cute or they may not, but that
Speaker 1: booty is not going to change how they treat you.
Speaker 2: They still if they treat you bad, they gonna treat
Speaker 2: you bad.
Speaker 1: With the big booty or big booze or long hair
Speaker 1: or whatever it is, they're still going to treat you bad. See,
Speaker 1: people got it just all misconstrued in life. They think, oh,
Speaker 1: if I alter my face, if I do this, if
Speaker 1: I do that, people will accept me. People will I
Speaker 1: can I can do more things. I can do this
Speaker 1: and I can do No. It's a clear, clear, clear
Speaker 1: sign you have some unhealed things inside of you to
Speaker 1: alter your face and your body. There's no you don't
Speaker 1: love yourself. Some people, once they do all of that work,
Speaker 1: they think, oh, yeah, I love myself.
Speaker 3: No you don't.
Speaker 2: No, you don't. There's no way.
Speaker 1: You look it in the mirror and not able to
Speaker 1: recognize yourself and you love that. No, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no way. You can fake it. You can pretend all
Speaker 1: you want to. You know you're lying, you're lying. But
Speaker 1: so many people go through these things because society says
Speaker 1: this and that is beautiful. When society is full of
Speaker 1: broken people, that's who makes up society.
Speaker 2: And you're believe in it. Oh you gotta have this,
Speaker 2: you gotta have that.
Speaker 1: You got have to dress this way, you have to
Speaker 1: look this, you know, this way or that way. And
Speaker 1: people doing it just I mean just doing it, doing it,
Speaker 1: doing it, doing it because they don't think for themselves.
Speaker 1: They have low esteem, no confidence, lack love, self love,
Speaker 1: so they believe these things and then they feel worse
Speaker 1: about themselves.
Speaker 2: Now you have a big old budget, can't even take
Speaker 2: care of.
Speaker 1: You, got big boobs, You're uncomfortable.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's just uh. And you're still treated.
Speaker 1: Bad by men and women because men get a whole
Speaker 1: lot of altering done as well. You gotta learn to
Speaker 1: love you. You have to learn to love you if
Speaker 1: a must, because you'll be on a rack.
Speaker 2: Race.
Speaker 1: I mean, just constant, constant chasing after something. You have
Speaker 1: to be satisfied within your own soul. No one can
Speaker 1: do that.
Speaker 3: For you, no one.
Speaker 2: And that's just fact. No one has to like what
Speaker 2: I'm saying. But I'm telling you the truth.
Speaker 1: So whatever you get into and whoever you get into
Speaker 1: it with, let me tell you, you're gonna get exactly
Speaker 1: and more what you open yourself up to and what
Speaker 1: you've allowed. It may look good, but it won't be
Speaker 1: good for you, and it won't eventually it won't feel good.
Speaker 2: People always end up regarding their decisions, and.
Speaker 1: Unfortunately, some people don't even get a chance to do
Speaker 1: that because they die in their bad choices and decisions.
Speaker 2: No one can give you what you need other than
Speaker 2: God and yourself. That's it. No one can give you
Speaker 2: what you.
Speaker 1: Need but God in yourself. And so many people look
Speaker 1: over both and think they're gonna have peace. Never gonna happen,
Speaker 1: never gonna happen. Until you allow inner healing to take place,
Speaker 1: you will remain the same.
Speaker 2: You will continue to go through annecessary prap. You will
Speaker 2: go alone, You will let people think for you. You'll
Speaker 2: believe anything you easily manipulated.
Speaker 1: You always pray or predator until you allow healing to
Speaker 1: take place. Until you become a better person, mentally mature,
Speaker 1: self love, believe it in yourself else some people do
Speaker 1: wrong for so long they think it's right, and that's sad.
Speaker 1: You can keep ignoring yourself and pouring into everybody else,
Speaker 1: but you will always feel the same because no change
Speaker 1: has taken place. And that's all I'm saying. I'm living
Speaker 1: right there. I hope you get something out of it.
Speaker 1: I really, really, really really do. Thank you for listening.
Speaker 1: Much much love to each and every one of you.
Speaker 1: Please share this episode In every episode, the same and
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Speaker 2: Thank card, it