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Speaker 2: All right, all right, what are we talking about today? Today?
Speaker 1: We are doing twenty five self love Affirmations. Twenty five
self love affirmations and this is coming to you today
from very wellmined dot com, Very wellmind dot com. Twenty
five self Love Affirmations. Now, when it comes to narcissists,
narcissists have an ego, Okay, their.
Speaker 2: Umbrella is pride.
Speaker 1: Okay, so pride follows them in their hearts. Everything that
they do is pride. But sometimes the victims of these narcissists,
these victims have a hard time fell in love within
themselves because they have been devalued by their abuser. So
today we're talking about self love affirmations in order to
help you be able to be able to rise above
what the narcissist has done to you. If you are
a victim of narcissism and you have a pattern of
speaking down to yourself, negative self talk, well these affirmations,
these self love affirmations, can help boost your self esteem.
Speaker 2: It can help you to.
Speaker 1: Basically put a fire on what the narcissist has spoken
to and over you, and that way you can know
that within yourself you are someone.
Speaker 2: Now, I want to go.
Speaker 1: Before we get started today to Psalms chapter one thirty
nine and read verse fourteen and it says, I praise
you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works
are wonderful. I know that full well. And the Psalm
is was saying that you know, God made us all
a unique We're all there's.
Speaker 2: No two people exactly the same.
Speaker 1: Even if you have identical twins, they may look the same,
but their fingerprints, their personality, something's different about them. Even
though they may look the same. God made us all unique,
and the thing is, we have to remind ourselves that
we don't have to be like anybody else. I'm not
like you, You're not like me. We may have some
similar things in common, but we're still unique. We still
have an individualized plan that God made for our lives that's.
Speaker 2: Unique to us.
Speaker 1: Even if we're doing the same thing as someone else
is doing in many ways, there's still a difference within us.
And we have to learn to love that uniqueness. Learn
to love that difference. And even when someone is trying
to put you down, know that you are fearfully and
wonderfully made by the Creator.
Speaker 2: And so God is our creator. So we gonna go over.
Speaker 1: It's many of these love affirmations, these self love affirmations
that we can if you want to, I would recommend
putting them up, write them down or sticky notes or whatever.
Put it on your mirror, put it on your fridge,
put it in a journal, write it somewhere where you
can say, repeat these things to yourself as a reminder
for those of us who are Christians. You can even
go to the Word of God and find the scripture
that goes and coincides with what we're gonna be talking
about today. Number One, I love myself. And this is
not in a narcissistic sense. Okay, we're not trying to
be like the narcissists where it's all about.
Speaker 2: Me, me, me, I, I, I forget everybody else.
Speaker 1: But because we are fearfully and wonderfully made by the Lord,
we are to love our selves, all right, and therefore
we not to hate ourselves. We're not to despise what
God has created on the inside of us.
Speaker 2: We must love ourselves.
Speaker 1: And learning to love yourself after you've gone through abuse
is not always the easiest thing. And this is why
we're going through these affirmations, because we have to speak
life into ourselves. And if you're waiting for validation from someone,
that is some When you're dealing with abusers, they're not
gonna validate you. They're gonna invalidate, validate, invalidate, validate, invalidate,
basically counseling one out, okay, and so you're gonna be
left in the negative.
Speaker 2: So say I love myself.
Speaker 1: Number two, I respect my I respect myself. When you
have respect for yourself, that means that you also have
to set boundaries so that no one else disrespects you.
Because you have respect for yourself, that means that I'm
not gonna allow anyone to treat me any kind of way.
As I've often said on these podcasts, we teach people
how to treat us by what we allow them to
do to us. So therefore, if you want respect, you
have to give yourself that respect in order to require
it from someone else. That means, because I respect myself,
I'm not gonna allow you to disrespect me. Recently, I
had to deal with a situation where I said, you
know what, I'm gonna put it into this.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna allow it to happen again.
Speaker 1: And therefore, because I respect myself, then I'm not gonna
allow anyone to disrespect me.
Speaker 2: It doesn't matter who it is.
Speaker 1: It could be a parent, it could be a sibling,
it could be a child, it could be a boss,
it could be a coworker. Whoever it is has giving
you disrespect, you first have to respect yourself and then
say in return that because I respect myself, I'm not
gonna allow you.
Speaker 2: To disrespect me or anyone else.
Speaker 1: Number three, I will be kind to myself. How do
we be kind to ourselves? That means we're giving ourselves
self care. If you are so busy tending to everyone
else's needs but your own, you're not being kind to yourself.
Speaker 2: That means that when you.
Speaker 1: Can at all possible, if you in the morning, take
some extra time out for yourself.
Speaker 2: And that also includes.
Speaker 1: You know, getting in front of God's face, okay, prayer
in prayer and meditation in the world.
Speaker 2: For those of us who are Christians.
Speaker 1: You know, spending time with God is spending time with
myself as well, allowing him.
Speaker 2: To speak to me.
Speaker 1: Being kind to myself that means that I'm going to
make sure that.
Speaker 2: I do something for me. Rather it's go to the.
Speaker 1: Gym, rather, it's take a walk, rather, it's read a book. Rather,
it's just getting me some extra five minutes of peace
to myself. Being kind to yourself means I'm taking care
of me. I'm doing that self care that I need
for me.
Speaker 2: Number four.
Speaker 1: I am beautiful inside and out. You have to speak
life into your own situation. The narcissist wants to strip
you of everything. They want to break you and tear
you down. But the thing is is that you have
to tell yourself, I am beautiful inside and out. It
doesn't matter what the narcissist says, it doesn't matter what
the flying monkeys say, It don't matter what the enable
or say. You are beautiful inside and out. We all
have qualities that God has given to us that makes
us beautiful. Number five, My body is perfect just the
way it is. Oh, this is a hard one here.
Many people we regardless of how slim or even larger.
Sometimes people have a hard time accepting their body image.
Now this is not to say that we're not to
be healthy, okay, but healthy doesn't always mean a size two,
and unhealthy doesn't always mean a size eighteen. Okay, it's
a young lady and I don't know her name, but
she she she dances. She'd be on a lot of
different videos if you if you scrolling through Facebook or
something like that, you might see her on some of
the reels on Facebook or whatever. But she is a
plus size. Now, a lot of people discount that plus
size people can dance, But this young lady can really
really dance. And but the thing is most people look
at her and say, oh, she's out of shape. Oh
she must eat too much. Oh she you know, she
needs to lose some weight.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: The thing that that I know, this was in the
comments when I first saw her, was that it was
people that knew her story or knew of her, and
what they said was that she has a medical condition
where I guess, whatever medications or whatever she's on or
there's something dealing with her medical condition.
Speaker 2: That will not let her lose weight.
Speaker 1: And so regardless of how much she dances or whatever
case may be, she can't. She's not able to lose
the weight. All right, it's some medical condition. However, people
will judge her just based on her size. But this
young lady, I mean she's pop locking, rocking and everything else.
Speaker 2: She I mean, she moved.
Speaker 1: She could be one of the Beyonce's dancers or whatever.
Speaker 2: She can move. This girl can really move. But she's
a heavy set lady. But it's not that she's not exercising.
It's not that she's moving.
Speaker 1: She's not into that uh that uh where that scenario
where people will say, oh where they're just sitting on
the couch eating bombones or everything else. This is not
her case, but she's had to accept her body the
way it is because this is something that's out of
her control. Let me just say this, regardless of what
size you are, you know, plus of slim, whatever the
case may be, part of accepting yourself is also accepting
your body.
Speaker 2: And this doesn't mean that if you say, you know what.
Speaker 1: I know, I need to lose weight because God, high
blood pressure, diabetes and all these things. So okay, do
that for your health, but don't do it for someone else.
This is saying that whatever size I am, I'm going
to still love me. I'm gonna make those adjustments. I'm
gonna try to do no be as healthy as I
can be, but I'm still going to love me. Number six,
I accept my flaws and imperfections.
Speaker 2: You know, the Bible lets us.
Speaker 1: Know that we're made perfect through Christ and we're not
perfect within our own selves, which means that we have
flaws and we have imperfections, and we're we're always gonna
have things that we're striving to.
Speaker 2: Be better at.
Speaker 1: You know, as a Christian, I can't do it on
my own, so I do it with the help of Christ.
But I'm still a work in progress. We all have flaws,
we all have imperfections. But one thing that when you're
dealing with narcissists, they tend to try to point out
your imperfections, your flaws, but they never turn the mirror
on themselves to say, you know what, I need to
do this work, I need to get better. If they
were to look at themselves like they look at everybody else,
then maybe they wouldn't.
Speaker 2: Be a narcissist.
Speaker 1: So accept your flaws, accept your imperfections. None of us
are perfect, and we all have things to work on.
We're going to take a quick break and we'll be
back in just a moment.
Speaker 3: M M.
Speaker 4: I tried to rush the seasons of my heart, but
love kept telling me nice, just start. I prayed through
nice that felt so long. They even whispered, hold on,
stay strong.
Speaker 5: He came like the soul rights.
Speaker 3: Breaking through.
Speaker 6: Every promise of God.
Speaker 7: Shining in you.
Speaker 5: Now I see word patience came the fact.
Speaker 3: Everything's perfect when God says his time.
Speaker 5: When God says his side, the.
Speaker 3: Doors who love him ride nor but his normal waiting
on the other side. Gave the normals just his way
to life. By hard with yours, divide design out love
is right. The stars love all food whom God says
it's Oh, I watch the root from one hundred wig
from every starm, just clear sky. Never thank him for
the less times. Learn for every season my heart had
to turn fool.
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Speaker 7: Right on schedule in his desire.
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Speaker 6: When God says it's time.
Speaker 3: The doors were open while normal teas normal waiting on
the other side, they having normals, just his way and
live my heart with the yours.
Speaker 5: Divide design and all love is right.
Speaker 3: The stars line all fool.
Speaker 6: When God says it's oh, you're sorry before we do,
Before I prayed, he already knew.
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shaking a horrse from above. Now fa the still a
sight in your eyes.
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Gos says his time. When God says his time, love
all beating.
Speaker 3: Us, his handing us forever will the bye, nor my
wondering A heart will alive because Heaven sees his time.
Speaker 6: It's time.
Speaker 3: Every brad came around of his from me.
Speaker 5: When God said.
Speaker 2: When God says it's time.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 2: I love it when God says is time. And I've
been finding these.
Speaker 1: Christian love songs on YouTube and I don't know who
these the artists are who are singing these songs, but
because they don't have them listed for us, you know
each artist that sings them. But now one is the
cubits something, the cubits something. I don't I don't know,
but I don't know the names of the artists. But
these are some beautiful, beautiful songs. If you've been listening
to these podcasts over you know, this year, you'll notice
that I've been playing a lot of Christian love songs
and so uh, anyway, I don't know all the artists
or anything, but you can find if you type in
Christian love songs, you can find them on YouTube.
Speaker 2: All right, all right, so we're we're still talking about.
Speaker 1: Self love affirmations Affirmations number seven.
Speaker 2: I trust my decisions.
Speaker 1: When you're dealing with narcissists, they always tend to make
you doubt yourself. We've talked about gas lighting and how
when they gaslight you, they make you doubt your reality.
Speaker 2: But you, as an.
Speaker 1: Individual, God has given us spiritual discernment to be able to.
Speaker 2: Trust the decisions.
Speaker 1: You know when now we as a Christian, I believe
in taking everything to God in prayer. The Bible says
the trust the Lord, your God, lead not into your
own understanding, Acknowledge him, and he will direct your path.
And so when the Lord directs your path, you can
trust that decision that he has guided you on. So
trust your decisions. And that means that you don't have
to allow yourself to be backed into a corner to
defend it. If you decide, you know what, I'm not
gonna do something and just say no, you know no,
it's okay. It's okay to say yes to yourself and
no to other people. So trust your decisions. Number eight,
I am strong and brave. I am strong and brave.
You know, when when I looked at this, it brought
to mine about David and Goliath. And Goliath was this
tall giant.
Speaker 2: And but David, this shepherd boy. Okay, he killed.
Speaker 1: This giant with a slingshot all right in the middle
of the head, middle of the forehead or whatever, and
then chopped off his head at the end. And so
you are strong, you are brave. It don't allow anyone
to tell you you're weak or to make you feel weak.
And when you're dealing with toxic individuals, when you're dealing
with that narcissistic mindset that these narcissists have, they will
make you feel weak because you're constantly doubting yourself. You're
constantly feeling like I haven't achieved enough, I'm not good enough.
You know, no matter what you do in life, the
narcissists will try to devalue it. Do not get your
value from these narcissistic creatures. All right, you are strong,
you are a brave Tell yourself that because what's behind
you is greater than what's ahead of you. What am
I talking about? I'm talking about God. You know, when
we when we trust in God, he is our strong power.
And there's there's a story in a Bible about I
think Elisha.
Speaker 2: I think it was Elisha, Elisha and.
Speaker 1: His servant and the and every time that the enemies
of Israel were planning something, then God would give a
message to the prophet, and the prophet would tell the king.
And so the enemies were not able to overcome or
or do the surprise or tax that they wanted because
the king was always aware of what they were gonna do.
Speaker 2: So the so.
Speaker 8: These these enemies, the enemies of Israel, they was like,
who is it that's you know, they thought it was
an enemy in their own camp that was going and
telling these things.
Speaker 2: But they was like, no, it's a prophet in Israel
that's doing it or whatever.
Speaker 1: So he sat his army his armies to try to
go capture the prophet because he got tired of the
prophet of circumvening his plans or whatever. But so the
servant was like, look, the armies are coming. Armies are coming.
And the prophet was like, don't worry about it. You
know what's on our side. Who's on our side is
greater than their armies. And so he asked God to
open up the servants' eyes, and when the servants opened
his eyes, he could see the angels surrounding.
Speaker 2: Them, and so they didn't have to worry about it.
Speaker 1: So the thing is is that you're strong, you're brave
because who's behind you, who's behind you, who's in front
of you, who's on the side of you?
Speaker 2: And that's God.
Speaker 1: For those you know who believe in God and say,
I am strong, I am brave because I believe in God.
Speaker 2: Number nine, I am kind and generous.
Speaker 1: I am kind and generous, and you tell yourself that
because narcissists will make you feel as if you're selfish
because you don't bend to their every whim and you
don't have to bend to their every whim because they're
not gonna been to yours. Okay, and kindness and generous
doesn't mean that I have to be a people pleaser
and then I have to do everything that the narcissist
wants me to do, or anybody else.
Speaker 2: For that matter. But I am kind and I am generous, But.
Speaker 1: I also have boundaries. Boundaries that means, you know, I
love to give. I'm a given person, but also boundaries.
I'm not gonna allow you to use me either. I'm
not gonna allow you to abuse me. But I am
kind and I am generous. Number ten, I am smart
and talented. I am smart and talented.
Speaker 2: When you're dealing.
Speaker 1: With abuse, your abuser will make you feel like you're dumb,
you don't know anything, you're uneducated, or it doesn't matter
if you got a PhD or whatever. They will make
you feel as if you've achieved nothing. You have to
speak life into yourself. Then that's why we're doing these affirmations.
I am smart and talented. Do not let anyone make
you feel as if you're useless, you're worthless, and you
amount to nothing. You are smart, you are talented, and
you have to say that to yourself. Everyone has different talents,
everyone has different gift things.
Speaker 2: Whatever your gift is, you have to ask God.
Speaker 1: What that is, f what that looks like for you.
But you do not have to compare yourself with anyone else.
Number eleven. I am good as humanly possible. Okay, I
am good. The thing is is that within ourselves apart
from God, there is no goodness in us apart from God.
But with God, I am good. That means that i'm
i'm uh. I can't do anything apart from Him, but
I am a good person. Do not allow someone to
make you feel like you're evil you or you're a
wicked or whatever. When it comes to now I'm i'm
and I'm talking about in the spiritual sense. I'm talking
about when you're dealing with narcissists and because there's you know,
we're not good within ourselves according to the word of God.
It takes God to place goodness on the inside of us.
Apart from that, when it comes to narcissists, they will
make you feel like you're the worst person on the world,
in the world. But again, they never look at themselves
in the damage they do to other people.
Speaker 2: Number twelve. I matter, I matter, Yes, you do.
Speaker 1: And if you notice that, one of our slogans on
here is your feelings do matter. Yes they do. You matter,
You do matter, and you have to.
Speaker 2: Matter to you.
Speaker 1: If you're putting your trust and your value in that
which the narcissists in the narcissist bank, you're always gonna
wind up in a deficit. You always gonna wind up
in the red. You're never gonna be in the positive.
So you have to matter to you say I matter,
I matter to me. Number thirteen, I am enough dealing
with abuse.
Speaker 2: You always feel like I'm not good enough. I don't matter.
You're trying, You're trying, You're trying.
Speaker 1: But you feel like you're never good enough because they
make you feel as if there's always something wrong with you,
or that you're damaged goods.
Speaker 2: But guess what, you're not.
Speaker 1: There's this company I think it's called Misfit and basically,
this company gets the fruits and vegetables that don't look
pretty for display at.
Speaker 2: The grocery store.
Speaker 1: So something that might like a sweet potato, for example,
it might look like it might be shaped. We know
how potatoes on only shaped sweet potatoes or whatever.
Speaker 2: But a misfit they might get.
Speaker 1: A potato that looks like it might be shaped like
a heart for example. Okay, and so so the misfit
company takes the fruits and vegetables that companies feel like
it's not.
Speaker 2: Worthy enough to be put on their display.
Speaker 1: They take it and box up and let other people
get it. Okay, why am I saying that? I'm saying
that because you have to tell yourself regardless of what
someone else feel.
Speaker 2: They might feel like you a misfit, like these misfit vegetables.
But guess what, the same vegetables that the misfits get.
Speaker 1: It's still edible. You can still cook with it, you
can still use them. They just might not look the same,
all right, But it's enough.
Speaker 2: You have to tell yourself I am enough.
Speaker 1: I might look like a misfit to the narcissists because
that's in their.
Speaker 2: Mind, but I am enough. Number fourteen, I am loved.
Speaker 1: We haven't dealt with this this year, but narcissists, we've
actually touched on it. Where narcissists like to use triangulation
you so basically, when you're dealing with triangulation, they want
you to feel as if everybody's against you.
Speaker 2: And on their side. But guess what, you are loved.
Speaker 1: Regardless of who goes to the side of the narcissist,
You're still loved. First of all, you loved by God
because He created you. Second, always make sure that you
have people in your life that's gonna appreciate and value
you for who you are, because once again, you are
fearfully and you are wonderfully made.
Speaker 2: And I know that full well. Number fifteen. I belong here.
Speaker 1: There's a sense of longing oftentimes when you have dealt
with narcissists and abusive situations and you feel like I
don't belong anywhere, I can't find my way, I don't
know where I fit in. But guess what, you belie
belong on this earth because God sow fit for you
to come, so.
Speaker 2: You do belong here.
Speaker 1: And finding those that are allowing God to bring people
into your life that can appreciate and value you less.
Speaker 2: You know that you do belong. You don't belong with
the narcissist. You don't belong with someone who abuses, misuses,
and devalues you. No, you don't belong with them.
Speaker 1: You belong to people with people who will appreciate and
value you for who you are. We're going to take
another quick break and we'll be back.
Speaker 2: In just a moment.
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Speaker 1: We waited then Lord amen, Hi, yes, yes, yes, it's
worth the weight. And we definitely never want to go
ahead of God. And because we wind up when we
go ahead of God, and I'm talking about with romantic relationships,
we wind up possibly getting those narcissists. You know, some
of us were born into a family of narcissists, and
then others we may have dated some narcissists, or we
might have been employed by some narcissists, or so we
definitely want to.
Speaker 2: Wait and ask God.
Speaker 1: Now, if you're born into a family with narcissists. That's
out of your control. But as an adult, you can't
control how you interact, if you interact, and when you
interact with them. Number sixteen, I deserve to be happy.
We all deserve to be happy, and part of being
happy means not allowing someone to destroy your peace. And
when you're dealing with abusers, they destroy your peace. You
cannot find peace with an abuser. So therefore you have
to tell yourself, I deserve to be happy, and do
what it takes to bring about that peace that would
give you that happiness.
Speaker 2: Number seventeen. I am worthy of love and kindness. You
deserve that.
Speaker 1: You deserve love someone who knows what love is, because
when you're dealing with a narcissist, their idea of love
is warped.
Speaker 2: Okay, it's twisted, it's conflicted. They don't know what love is.
Speaker 1: But you deserve love and kindness, and you have to
tell yourself that because if you don't put that in
your head, you will continue to allow.
Speaker 2: Others to abuse you.
Speaker 1: And it may not always be the same person, but
you may even attract. Where you might have left one narcissist,
you attract another one.
Speaker 2: So make sure that you know that you are worthy
of love and kindness. Number eighteen.
Speaker 1: I am a proud of every I am proud of
everything that I've accomplished. The narcissists will try to make
you feel like, regardless of what you've done in life,
you've never done enough because it doesn't equal up to
their standards. They set these impossible standards that you or
no one else will be able to meet, and they're
not able to meet them themselves. But you have to
be proud of everything that you've accomplished. I know that
I am grateful and I am happy and proud of
the things that God has allowed me to accomplish in life.
Speaker 2: The narcissists will always.
Speaker 1: Find a deficit of something that you haven't done, you
haven't achieved, or whatever case may be. But you have
to tell yourself, I am proud of everything that.
Speaker 2: I've achieved in life.
Speaker 1: Number nineteen. I am on my way to becoming the
best version of me. When you get away from from abusers,
you are definitely on your way to becoming the best
version of you. And again, sometimes you have to get
away from family. Sometimes it's your own family that's the
one that's toxic, and you have to say, you know what,
I am limiting myself. I am not going to allow
myself to be rude or controlled by those who cannot
appreciate my value and my worth. So therefore, when you
decide that I am not going to be a part
of their negative of toxic abuse, then you are.
Speaker 2: On your way to becoming the best version of you.
Number twenty.
Speaker 1: I'm not perfect, but I'm improving every day and every day.
It's a step when you when you think about babies,
babies don't normally come out the worm walking. Okay, when
you think about babies, they they there are certain steps
that they take. You know, you lay them on their
on their backs, okay, not because we don't want to
do sets lam on their backs.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Then eventually they'll start rolling over by no, by themselves.
Then eventually they'll start trying to crawl. They get to
doing that rocking when they're getting ready to try to
start crawling. Then you'll notice them crawling. Then before long,
they'll start trying to pull themselves up as they're strengthening
their leg muscles, and before you know, they're gonna be
everywhere around the house. And so I am not perfect,
by I'm improving every day. That means you're taking baby
steps to improving yourself every day, and that means right
now what we're doing right now with these affirmations, that
is that is a step to improving yourself every day.
Twenty one. I can do anything I put my mind to.
You know, the Word of God says that I can
do all things through Christ, who gives me strength. And
because we have the strength of God, you can do
anything that you put your mind to. Just make sure
that it aligns in the will of God. Number twenty two.
I can handle whatever challenges come my way, And yes
you can. The things you've dealt with has prepared you
for any challenges that come your way. When you've dealt
with narcissists, if you can deal with them, you can
deal with anyone. Okay, So whatever challenge that comes your way,
you can deal with it. But guess what, you don't
have to prove yourself to anyone. That means that when
a narcissist tries to present you with a challenge, you
can decline, deny, and reject. Okay, decline, deny and reject,
all right, You do not have to accept their challenges.
Umber twenty three. I choose joy and happiness. You know,
the Bible lets us know that the joy of the
Lord is our strength, and so therefore we find that
happiness in the Lord.
Speaker 2: So I choose to be joyful. I choose to be happy.
Speaker 1: You don't have to be miserable because the narcissists love misery.
You can choose to say that I'm going to be
joyful and I'm going to be happy despite whatever situation
I have been through before and the situations that I
may be facing.
Speaker 2: I choose to be joyful. I choose to be happy.
Speaker 1: Number twenty five. I have so much to give this world.
One thing that God has given us, He's given us
spiritual guilts. For those of us who are believers in
the Body of Christ, he has always given us spiritual
guilts that we can give to the world.
Speaker 2: That means that, hey, I might not meet.
Speaker 1: Up to what the narcissist standards are because guess what,
there's no sense of even trying because they're impossible. But
I have so much to give, and therefore, or you
have to look on the inside of you what you
have been designed and created by the Creator to give
to the world. Last, but not least, twenty five. God
has good things in store for me.
Speaker 7: Yes.
Speaker 2: One thing about God, he loves you. He cares for you,
and he sent his son to die for us on
the cross so that we may have life and have
it more abundantly.
Speaker 1: God has good things in store for you. But the
thing is you have to allow Him to reveal to
you what those things are. But one of those things
is not taking abuse from anyone who wants to.
Speaker 2: Render it to you. All right, we are a body here.
Speaker 1: I pray to today's podcast has been a blessing to you,
and that you would know that your.
Speaker 2: Feelings do matter. This is their Kay Rich and Talass