1 00:00:03,439 --> 00:00:10,599 Speaker 1: All right, y'all, Hey, come on, this is not abuse 2 00:00:10,679 --> 00:00:14,759 no more with your mothers doctor evangelist. Hey all, rich 3 00:00:15,080 --> 00:00:17,760 hope you to admit, but you feel nice to heal 4 00:00:18,000 --> 00:00:23,480 from the effects of narcissistic abuse because your phillies. 5 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:56,240 Speaker 2: You do matters. How you all going out there on. 6 00:00:56,119 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 1: This Wednesday, this is cool Wednesday of jail, January, the 7 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:07,280 what is it January? The twenty first of twenty twenty six. Woo, 8 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:09,079 were getting up out of here. We got about what 9 00:01:09,159 --> 00:01:13,560 ten more days before we get into February again. I 10 00:01:13,599 --> 00:01:16,079 want to just welcome you, Welcome you, Welcome you to 11 00:01:16,519 --> 00:01:20,439 narcissistic abuse, no more, nark abuse, no more, where we're 12 00:01:20,439 --> 00:01:24,480 helping people admit what they feel in order teo from 13 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:30,560 the effects of narcissistic abuse because your feelings do matter, 14 00:01:30,680 --> 00:01:33,000 Yes they do. But before we go on with today's podcast, 15 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:35,680 I'll like you to visit a song on our website. 16 00:01:35,719 --> 00:01:39,159 Actually it's our main ministry website. It is finished at 17 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:44,680 www www dot It is finished dot com. 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Rather it's from spreakers, not 29 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:32,159 SoundCloud anymore, our Heart Radio, Spotify, Apple podcast. So you 30 00:02:32,199 --> 00:02:35,560 have a variety of different podcasts that you can listen 31 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:40,960 to this particular podcast from. Put it in your favorites, 32 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:44,159 and you can always at the good thing about podcasts 33 00:02:44,240 --> 00:02:47,800 is you can always listen at the time of your choice. 34 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:52,800 So even if we air at ten am, you can 35 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:56,520 listen to it's at five pm, so whatever's convenient for you. 36 00:02:57,039 --> 00:03:00,159 Speaker 2: All right, all right, what are we talking about today? Today? 37 00:03:00,199 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 1: We are doing twenty five self love Affirmations. Twenty five 38 00:03:06,199 --> 00:03:09,599 self love affirmations and this is coming to you today 39 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:14,199 from very wellmined dot com, Very wellmind dot com. Twenty 40 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:20,919 five self Love Affirmations. Now, when it comes to narcissists, 41 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:26,360 narcissists have an ego, Okay, their. 42 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:29,719 Speaker 2: Umbrella is pride. 43 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:34,240 Speaker 1: Okay, so pride follows them in their hearts. Everything that 44 00:03:34,319 --> 00:03:39,719 they do is pride. But sometimes the victims of these narcissists, 45 00:03:40,919 --> 00:03:44,400 these victims have a hard time fell in love within 46 00:03:44,439 --> 00:03:51,719 themselves because they have been devalued by their abuser. So 47 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:58,360 today we're talking about self love affirmations in order to 48 00:03:58,639 --> 00:04:04,319 help you be able to be able to rise above 49 00:04:04,520 --> 00:04:08,120 what the narcissist has done to you. If you are 50 00:04:08,120 --> 00:04:12,599 a victim of narcissism and you have a pattern of 51 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:18,680 speaking down to yourself, negative self talk, well these affirmations, 52 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:23,480 these self love affirmations, can help boost your self esteem. 53 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:24,959 Speaker 2: It can help you to. 54 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:30,639 Speaker 1: Basically put a fire on what the narcissist has spoken 55 00:04:30,759 --> 00:04:34,160 to and over you, and that way you can know 56 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:37,319 that within yourself you are someone. 57 00:04:37,839 --> 00:04:39,439 Speaker 2: Now, I want to go. 58 00:04:39,439 --> 00:04:43,519 Speaker 1: Before we get started today to Psalms chapter one thirty 59 00:04:43,600 --> 00:04:47,759 nine and read verse fourteen and it says, I praise 60 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:52,920 you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works 61 00:04:53,000 --> 00:04:57,399 are wonderful. I know that full well. And the Psalm 62 00:04:57,560 --> 00:05:00,000 is was saying that you know, God made us all 63 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:03,160 a unique We're all there's. 64 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:05,720 Speaker 2: No two people exactly the same. 65 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:09,600 Speaker 1: Even if you have identical twins, they may look the same, 66 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:16,920 but their fingerprints, their personality, something's different about them. Even 67 00:05:16,959 --> 00:05:20,839 though they may look the same. God made us all unique, 68 00:05:21,319 --> 00:05:24,160 and the thing is, we have to remind ourselves that 69 00:05:24,199 --> 00:05:27,240 we don't have to be like anybody else. I'm not 70 00:05:27,399 --> 00:05:30,120 like you, You're not like me. We may have some 71 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:35,519 similar things in common, but we're still unique. We still 72 00:05:35,959 --> 00:05:43,240 have an individualized plan that God made for our lives that's. 73 00:05:43,120 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 2: Unique to us. 74 00:05:44,079 --> 00:05:46,560 Speaker 1: Even if we're doing the same thing as someone else 75 00:05:46,680 --> 00:05:51,160 is doing in many ways, there's still a difference within us. 76 00:05:51,319 --> 00:05:56,120 And we have to learn to love that uniqueness. Learn 77 00:05:56,240 --> 00:05:59,519 to love that difference. And even when someone is trying 78 00:05:59,519 --> 00:06:03,240 to put you down, know that you are fearfully and 79 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,560 wonderfully made by the Creator. 80 00:06:05,519 --> 00:06:09,839 Speaker 2: And so God is our creator. So we gonna go over. 81 00:06:10,439 --> 00:06:14,639 Speaker 1: It's many of these love affirmations, these self love affirmations 82 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:19,800 that we can if you want to, I would recommend 83 00:06:19,879 --> 00:06:23,000 putting them up, write them down or sticky notes or whatever. 84 00:06:23,079 --> 00:06:25,519 Put it on your mirror, put it on your fridge, 85 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:28,839 put it in a journal, write it somewhere where you 86 00:06:28,879 --> 00:06:33,399 can say, repeat these things to yourself as a reminder 87 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:36,120 for those of us who are Christians. You can even 88 00:06:36,199 --> 00:06:38,639 go to the Word of God and find the scripture 89 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:41,839 that goes and coincides with what we're gonna be talking 90 00:06:41,959 --> 00:06:48,480 about today. Number One, I love myself. And this is 91 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:52,240 not in a narcissistic sense. Okay, we're not trying to 92 00:06:52,279 --> 00:06:55,079 be like the narcissists where it's all about. 93 00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:58,040 Speaker 2: Me, me, me, I, I, I forget everybody else. 94 00:06:58,680 --> 00:07:03,040 Speaker 1: But because we are fearfully and wonderfully made by the Lord, 95 00:07:03,639 --> 00:07:10,480 we are to love our selves, all right, and therefore 96 00:07:10,079 --> 00:07:15,199 we not to hate ourselves. We're not to despise what 97 00:07:15,279 --> 00:07:17,480 God has created on the inside of us. 98 00:07:17,759 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 2: We must love ourselves. 99 00:07:19,519 --> 00:07:22,959 Speaker 1: And learning to love yourself after you've gone through abuse 100 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:25,759 is not always the easiest thing. And this is why 101 00:07:25,759 --> 00:07:29,680 we're going through these affirmations, because we have to speak 102 00:07:29,879 --> 00:07:36,399 life into ourselves. And if you're waiting for validation from someone, 103 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:40,879 that is some When you're dealing with abusers, they're not 104 00:07:40,879 --> 00:07:46,360 gonna validate you. They're gonna invalidate, validate, invalidate, validate, invalidate, 105 00:07:46,560 --> 00:07:50,959 basically counseling one out, okay, and so you're gonna be 106 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:52,279 left in the negative. 107 00:07:52,639 --> 00:07:55,920 Speaker 2: So say I love myself. 108 00:07:56,319 --> 00:08:03,439 Speaker 1: Number two, I respect my I respect myself. When you 109 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:07,120 have respect for yourself, that means that you also have 110 00:08:07,199 --> 00:08:11,199 to set boundaries so that no one else disrespects you. 111 00:08:11,879 --> 00:08:16,079 Because you have respect for yourself, that means that I'm 112 00:08:16,079 --> 00:08:19,120 not gonna allow anyone to treat me any kind of way. 113 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:22,519 As I've often said on these podcasts, we teach people 114 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:25,279 how to treat us by what we allow them to 115 00:08:25,399 --> 00:08:29,439 do to us. So therefore, if you want respect, you 116 00:08:29,639 --> 00:08:34,600 have to give yourself that respect in order to require 117 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:39,120 it from someone else. That means, because I respect myself, 118 00:08:39,519 --> 00:08:45,279 I'm not gonna allow you to disrespect me. Recently, I 119 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:49,759 had to deal with a situation where I said, you 120 00:08:49,840 --> 00:08:52,320 know what, I'm gonna put it into this. 121 00:08:52,919 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 2: I'm not gonna allow it to happen again. 122 00:08:55,720 --> 00:09:00,480 Speaker 1: And therefore, because I respect myself, then I'm not gonna 123 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:02,759 allow anyone to disrespect me. 124 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:04,679 Speaker 2: It doesn't matter who it is. 125 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:07,120 Speaker 1: It could be a parent, it could be a sibling, 126 00:09:07,279 --> 00:09:09,480 it could be a child, it could be a boss, 127 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:12,840 it could be a coworker. Whoever it is has giving 128 00:09:12,879 --> 00:09:17,759 you disrespect, you first have to respect yourself and then 129 00:09:17,919 --> 00:09:22,720 say in return that because I respect myself, I'm not 130 00:09:22,759 --> 00:09:23,840 gonna allow you. 131 00:09:23,799 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 2: To disrespect me or anyone else. 132 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:32,159 Speaker 1: Number three, I will be kind to myself. How do 133 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:36,480 we be kind to ourselves? That means we're giving ourselves 134 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:41,159 self care. If you are so busy tending to everyone 135 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:46,120 else's needs but your own, you're not being kind to yourself. 136 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:49,000 Speaker 2: That means that when you. 137 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 1: Can at all possible, if you in the morning, take 138 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:54,240 some extra time out for yourself. 139 00:09:54,639 --> 00:09:57,200 Speaker 2: And that also includes. 140 00:09:56,799 --> 00:10:00,519 Speaker 1: You know, getting in front of God's face, okay, prayer 141 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:04,399 in prayer and meditation in the world. 142 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:06,919 Speaker 2: For those of us who are Christians. 143 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:09,639 Speaker 1: You know, spending time with God is spending time with 144 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:12,200 myself as well, allowing him. 145 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:13,000 Speaker 2: To speak to me. 146 00:10:13,559 --> 00:10:17,080 Speaker 1: Being kind to myself that means that I'm going to 147 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:17,960 make sure that. 148 00:10:17,960 --> 00:10:21,399 Speaker 2: I do something for me. Rather it's go to the. 149 00:10:21,399 --> 00:10:25,879 Speaker 1: Gym, rather, it's take a walk, rather, it's read a book. Rather, 150 00:10:25,879 --> 00:10:28,919 it's just getting me some extra five minutes of peace 151 00:10:29,039 --> 00:10:34,320 to myself. Being kind to yourself means I'm taking care 152 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:38,480 of me. I'm doing that self care that I need 153 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:39,960 for me. 154 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:42,559 Speaker 2: Number four. 155 00:10:43,399 --> 00:10:49,000 Speaker 1: I am beautiful inside and out. You have to speak 156 00:10:49,159 --> 00:10:54,840 life into your own situation. The narcissist wants to strip 157 00:10:54,919 --> 00:10:58,440 you of everything. They want to break you and tear 158 00:10:58,559 --> 00:11:02,799 you down. But the thing is is that you have 159 00:11:02,879 --> 00:11:06,440 to tell yourself, I am beautiful inside and out. It 160 00:11:06,480 --> 00:11:09,720 doesn't matter what the narcissist says, it doesn't matter what 161 00:11:09,799 --> 00:11:12,919 the flying monkeys say, It don't matter what the enable 162 00:11:13,039 --> 00:11:16,799 or say. You are beautiful inside and out. We all 163 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:21,639 have qualities that God has given to us that makes 164 00:11:21,919 --> 00:11:28,440 us beautiful. Number five, My body is perfect just the 165 00:11:28,559 --> 00:11:31,360 way it is. Oh, this is a hard one here. 166 00:11:32,279 --> 00:11:37,440 Many people we regardless of how slim or even larger. 167 00:11:38,159 --> 00:11:42,679 Sometimes people have a hard time accepting their body image. 168 00:11:42,759 --> 00:11:46,000 Now this is not to say that we're not to 169 00:11:46,080 --> 00:11:51,200 be healthy, okay, but healthy doesn't always mean a size two, 170 00:11:52,039 --> 00:11:57,240 and unhealthy doesn't always mean a size eighteen. Okay, it's 171 00:11:57,399 --> 00:12:01,080 a young lady and I don't know her name, but 172 00:12:01,200 --> 00:12:03,639 she she she dances. She'd be on a lot of 173 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:08,639 different videos if you if you scrolling through Facebook or 174 00:12:08,679 --> 00:12:10,720 something like that, you might see her on some of 175 00:12:10,759 --> 00:12:14,759 the reels on Facebook or whatever. But she is a 176 00:12:14,799 --> 00:12:19,200 plus size. Now, a lot of people discount that plus 177 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:22,840 size people can dance, But this young lady can really 178 00:12:22,919 --> 00:12:27,159 really dance. And but the thing is most people look 179 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:29,919 at her and say, oh, she's out of shape. Oh 180 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:33,320 she must eat too much. Oh she you know, she 181 00:12:33,399 --> 00:12:35,039 needs to lose some weight. 182 00:12:35,200 --> 00:12:35,399 Speaker 2: Now. 183 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 1: The thing that that I know, this was in the 184 00:12:40,759 --> 00:12:43,840 comments when I first saw her, was that it was 185 00:12:43,879 --> 00:12:47,200 people that knew her story or knew of her, and 186 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:51,120 what they said was that she has a medical condition 187 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:55,919 where I guess, whatever medications or whatever she's on or 188 00:12:56,559 --> 00:12:58,799 there's something dealing with her medical condition. 189 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:00,720 Speaker 2: That will not let her lose weight. 190 00:13:01,519 --> 00:13:05,159 Speaker 1: And so regardless of how much she dances or whatever 191 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:08,240 case may be, she can't. She's not able to lose 192 00:13:08,279 --> 00:13:12,559 the weight. All right, it's some medical condition. However, people 193 00:13:12,559 --> 00:13:15,440 will judge her just based on her size. But this 194 00:13:15,639 --> 00:13:20,440 young lady, I mean she's pop locking, rocking and everything else. 195 00:13:20,559 --> 00:13:22,240 Speaker 2: She I mean, she moved. 196 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:25,960 Speaker 1: She could be one of the Beyonce's dancers or whatever. 197 00:13:26,120 --> 00:13:29,639 Speaker 2: She can move. This girl can really move. But she's 198 00:13:29,759 --> 00:13:33,840 a heavy set lady. But it's not that she's not exercising. 199 00:13:33,919 --> 00:13:35,159 It's not that she's moving. 200 00:13:35,279 --> 00:13:39,879 Speaker 1: She's not into that uh that uh where that scenario 201 00:13:39,919 --> 00:13:41,759 where people will say, oh where they're just sitting on 202 00:13:41,799 --> 00:13:44,639 the couch eating bombones or everything else. This is not 203 00:13:44,759 --> 00:13:49,240 her case, but she's had to accept her body the 204 00:13:49,279 --> 00:13:52,679 way it is because this is something that's out of 205 00:13:52,720 --> 00:13:57,559 her control. Let me just say this, regardless of what 206 00:13:57,759 --> 00:14:04,159 size you are, you know, plus of slim, whatever the 207 00:14:04,200 --> 00:14:10,240 case may be, part of accepting yourself is also accepting 208 00:14:10,279 --> 00:14:10,840 your body. 209 00:14:10,879 --> 00:14:13,080 Speaker 2: And this doesn't mean that if you say, you know what. 210 00:14:13,279 --> 00:14:15,279 Speaker 1: I know, I need to lose weight because God, high 211 00:14:15,279 --> 00:14:18,799 blood pressure, diabetes and all these things. So okay, do 212 00:14:18,840 --> 00:14:22,720 that for your health, but don't do it for someone else. 213 00:14:23,200 --> 00:14:27,399 This is saying that whatever size I am, I'm going 214 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:31,759 to still love me. I'm gonna make those adjustments. I'm 215 00:14:31,799 --> 00:14:34,759 gonna try to do no be as healthy as I 216 00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:40,879 can be, but I'm still going to love me. Number six, 217 00:14:41,559 --> 00:14:44,639 I accept my flaws and imperfections. 218 00:14:45,159 --> 00:14:46,399 Speaker 2: You know, the Bible lets us. 219 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:50,159 Speaker 1: Know that we're made perfect through Christ and we're not 220 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:53,039 perfect within our own selves, which means that we have 221 00:14:53,159 --> 00:14:57,519 flaws and we have imperfections, and we're we're always gonna 222 00:14:57,559 --> 00:15:00,320 have things that we're striving to. 223 00:15:01,919 --> 00:15:02,759 Speaker 2: Be better at. 224 00:15:02,919 --> 00:15:05,759 Speaker 1: You know, as a Christian, I can't do it on 225 00:15:05,799 --> 00:15:07,720 my own, so I do it with the help of Christ. 226 00:15:07,799 --> 00:15:11,960 But I'm still a work in progress. We all have flaws, 227 00:15:12,159 --> 00:15:15,200 we all have imperfections. But one thing that when you're 228 00:15:15,200 --> 00:15:17,799 dealing with narcissists, they tend to try to point out 229 00:15:18,679 --> 00:15:22,279 your imperfections, your flaws, but they never turn the mirror 230 00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:25,320 on themselves to say, you know what, I need to 231 00:15:25,399 --> 00:15:28,279 do this work, I need to get better. If they 232 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:32,039 were to look at themselves like they look at everybody else, 233 00:15:32,080 --> 00:15:33,360 then maybe they wouldn't. 234 00:15:33,039 --> 00:15:34,279 Speaker 2: Be a narcissist. 235 00:15:35,919 --> 00:15:39,879 Speaker 1: So accept your flaws, accept your imperfections. None of us 236 00:15:39,919 --> 00:15:43,360 are perfect, and we all have things to work on. 237 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:47,039 We're going to take a quick break and we'll be 238 00:15:47,159 --> 00:15:48,759 back in just a moment. 239 00:16:00,039 --> 00:16:00,360 Speaker 3: M M. 240 00:16:06,799 --> 00:16:13,960 Speaker 4: I tried to rush the seasons of my heart, but 241 00:16:14,120 --> 00:16:21,759 love kept telling me nice, just start. I prayed through 242 00:16:21,919 --> 00:16:29,120 nice that felt so long. They even whispered, hold on, 243 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:31,639 stay strong. 244 00:16:33,279 --> 00:16:36,840 Speaker 5: He came like the soul rights. 245 00:16:37,039 --> 00:16:38,279 Speaker 3: Breaking through. 246 00:16:40,200 --> 00:16:42,799 Speaker 6: Every promise of God. 247 00:16:44,039 --> 00:16:44,840 Speaker 7: Shining in you. 248 00:16:47,679 --> 00:16:53,919 Speaker 5: Now I see word patience came the fact. 249 00:16:53,960 --> 00:16:59,120 Speaker 3: Everything's perfect when God says his time. 250 00:17:00,639 --> 00:17:04,359 Speaker 5: When God says his side, the. 251 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:08,279 Speaker 3: Doors who love him ride nor but his normal waiting 252 00:17:08,400 --> 00:17:12,200 on the other side. Gave the normals just his way 253 00:17:12,279 --> 00:17:17,799 to life. By hard with yours, divide design out love 254 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:30,160 is right. The stars love all food whom God says 255 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:43,079 it's Oh, I watch the root from one hundred wig 256 00:17:45,640 --> 00:17:54,960 from every starm, just clear sky. Never thank him for 257 00:17:55,359 --> 00:18:01,960 the less times. Learn for every season my heart had 258 00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:03,480 to turn fool. 259 00:18:04,599 --> 00:18:08,400 Speaker 5: Oh in a lay, I'm not behind or. 260 00:18:08,839 --> 00:18:11,279 Speaker 7: Right on schedule in his desire. 261 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:17,319 Speaker 3: Oh ever sad, Ever, befarevery clime. Ah every is. 262 00:18:18,279 --> 00:18:20,319 Speaker 6: When God says it's time. 263 00:18:21,839 --> 00:18:26,079 Speaker 3: The doors were open while normal teas normal waiting on 264 00:18:26,279 --> 00:18:30,000 the other side, they having normals, just his way and 265 00:18:30,240 --> 00:18:33,359 live my heart with the yours. 266 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:36,000 Speaker 5: Divide design and all love is right. 267 00:18:36,599 --> 00:18:43,079 Speaker 3: The stars line all fool. 268 00:18:46,480 --> 00:18:55,119 Speaker 6: When God says it's oh, you're sorry before we do, 269 00:18:55,799 --> 00:18:58,160 Before I prayed, he already knew. 270 00:18:58,279 --> 00:19:06,000 Speaker 3: The waiting first race, the time was all He was 271 00:19:06,119 --> 00:19:10,440 shaking a horrse from above. Now fa the still a 272 00:19:10,599 --> 00:19:12,359 sight in your eyes. 273 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:19,640 Speaker 5: I sees I every second thing supplime, They've improved when 274 00:19:20,319 --> 00:19:27,559 Gos says his time. When God says his time, love 275 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:28,920 all beating. 276 00:19:28,799 --> 00:19:36,880 Speaker 3: Us, his handing us forever will the bye, nor my 277 00:19:37,079 --> 00:19:43,599 wondering A heart will alive because Heaven sees his time. 278 00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:46,680 Speaker 6: It's time. 279 00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:54,759 Speaker 3: Every brad came around of his from me. 280 00:19:58,839 --> 00:20:00,200 Speaker 5: When God said. 281 00:20:03,119 --> 00:20:05,599 Speaker 2: When God says it's time. 282 00:20:05,759 --> 00:20:06,359 Speaker 3: I love it. 283 00:20:06,559 --> 00:20:11,799 Speaker 2: I love it when God says is time. And I've 284 00:20:11,839 --> 00:20:13,160 been finding these. 285 00:20:13,519 --> 00:20:17,680 Speaker 1: Christian love songs on YouTube and I don't know who 286 00:20:17,759 --> 00:20:21,920 these the artists are who are singing these songs, but 287 00:20:22,279 --> 00:20:25,119 because they don't have them listed for us, you know 288 00:20:25,200 --> 00:20:29,000 each artist that sings them. But now one is the 289 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,640 cubits something, the cubits something. I don't I don't know, 290 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:34,640 but I don't know the names of the artists. But 291 00:20:34,839 --> 00:20:37,839 these are some beautiful, beautiful songs. If you've been listening 292 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:42,599 to these podcasts over you know, this year, you'll notice 293 00:20:42,640 --> 00:20:47,200 that I've been playing a lot of Christian love songs 294 00:20:47,759 --> 00:20:51,640 and so uh, anyway, I don't know all the artists 295 00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:54,880 or anything, but you can find if you type in 296 00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:58,279 Christian love songs, you can find them on YouTube. 297 00:20:58,599 --> 00:21:02,359 Speaker 2: All right, all right, so we're we're still talking about. 298 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:07,960 Speaker 1: Self love affirmations Affirmations number seven. 299 00:21:08,519 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 2: I trust my decisions. 300 00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:14,799 Speaker 1: When you're dealing with narcissists, they always tend to make 301 00:21:14,839 --> 00:21:18,960 you doubt yourself. We've talked about gas lighting and how 302 00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:22,799 when they gaslight you, they make you doubt your reality. 303 00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:25,480 Speaker 2: But you, as an. 304 00:21:25,319 --> 00:21:29,960 Speaker 1: Individual, God has given us spiritual discernment to be able to. 305 00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:31,160 Speaker 2: Trust the decisions. 306 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:33,400 Speaker 1: You know when now we as a Christian, I believe 307 00:21:33,400 --> 00:21:36,960 in taking everything to God in prayer. The Bible says 308 00:21:37,039 --> 00:21:39,440 the trust the Lord, your God, lead not into your 309 00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:43,319 own understanding, Acknowledge him, and he will direct your path. 310 00:21:43,640 --> 00:21:45,799 And so when the Lord directs your path, you can 311 00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:49,200 trust that decision that he has guided you on. So 312 00:21:49,279 --> 00:21:52,839 trust your decisions. And that means that you don't have 313 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:55,359 to allow yourself to be backed into a corner to 314 00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:58,559 defend it. If you decide, you know what, I'm not 315 00:21:58,599 --> 00:22:02,200 gonna do something and just say no, you know no, 316 00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:06,240 it's okay. It's okay to say yes to yourself and 317 00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:10,119 no to other people. So trust your decisions. Number eight, 318 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:15,920 I am strong and brave. I am strong and brave. 319 00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:19,480 You know, when when I looked at this, it brought 320 00:22:19,559 --> 00:22:23,559 to mine about David and Goliath. And Goliath was this 321 00:22:23,799 --> 00:22:25,759 tall giant. 322 00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:30,440 Speaker 2: And but David, this shepherd boy. Okay, he killed. 323 00:22:30,079 --> 00:22:33,480 Speaker 1: This giant with a slingshot all right in the middle 324 00:22:33,519 --> 00:22:35,839 of the head, middle of the forehead or whatever, and 325 00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:39,359 then chopped off his head at the end. And so 326 00:22:39,839 --> 00:22:43,559 you are strong, you are brave. It don't allow anyone 327 00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:46,880 to tell you you're weak or to make you feel weak. 328 00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:50,359 And when you're dealing with toxic individuals, when you're dealing 329 00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:54,720 with that narcissistic mindset that these narcissists have, they will 330 00:22:54,799 --> 00:22:59,720 make you feel weak because you're constantly doubting yourself. You're 331 00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:05,119 constantly feeling like I haven't achieved enough, I'm not good enough. 332 00:23:05,759 --> 00:23:08,319 You know, no matter what you do in life, the 333 00:23:08,519 --> 00:23:13,079 narcissists will try to devalue it. Do not get your 334 00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:18,599 value from these narcissistic creatures. All right, you are strong, 335 00:23:18,839 --> 00:23:22,440 you are a brave Tell yourself that because what's behind 336 00:23:22,599 --> 00:23:25,119 you is greater than what's ahead of you. What am 337 00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:28,200 I talking about? I'm talking about God. You know, when 338 00:23:28,240 --> 00:23:31,799 we when we trust in God, he is our strong power. 339 00:23:32,279 --> 00:23:37,400 And there's there's a story in a Bible about I 340 00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:39,200 think Elisha. 341 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:41,400 Speaker 2: I think it was Elisha, Elisha and. 342 00:23:43,079 --> 00:23:47,519 Speaker 1: His servant and the and every time that the enemies 343 00:23:47,559 --> 00:23:50,839 of Israel were planning something, then God would give a 344 00:23:50,839 --> 00:23:53,079 message to the prophet, and the prophet would tell the king. 345 00:23:53,519 --> 00:23:57,240 And so the enemies were not able to overcome or 346 00:23:57,839 --> 00:24:01,039 or do the surprise or tax that they wanted because 347 00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:04,200 the king was always aware of what they were gonna do. 348 00:24:04,599 --> 00:24:06,440 Speaker 2: So the so. 349 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:11,000 Speaker 8: These these enemies, the enemies of Israel, they was like, 350 00:24:11,079 --> 00:24:12,759 who is it that's you know, they thought it was 351 00:24:12,799 --> 00:24:16,160 an enemy in their own camp that was going and 352 00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:17,160 telling these things. 353 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,440 Speaker 2: But they was like, no, it's a prophet in Israel 354 00:24:19,559 --> 00:24:20,799 that's doing it or whatever. 355 00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:25,400 Speaker 1: So he sat his army his armies to try to 356 00:24:26,039 --> 00:24:28,480 go capture the prophet because he got tired of the 357 00:24:28,519 --> 00:24:34,240 prophet of circumvening his plans or whatever. But so the 358 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:39,039 servant was like, look, the armies are coming. Armies are coming. 359 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:42,599 And the prophet was like, don't worry about it. You 360 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:46,599 know what's on our side. Who's on our side is 361 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:49,720 greater than their armies. And so he asked God to 362 00:24:49,839 --> 00:24:53,680 open up the servants' eyes, and when the servants opened 363 00:24:53,759 --> 00:24:57,799 his eyes, he could see the angels surrounding. 364 00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:59,240 Speaker 2: Them, and so they didn't have to worry about it. 365 00:24:59,319 --> 00:25:04,319 Speaker 1: So the thing is is that you're strong, you're brave 366 00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:08,200 because who's behind you, who's behind you, who's in front 367 00:25:08,240 --> 00:25:09,839 of you, who's on the side of you? 368 00:25:10,039 --> 00:25:10,960 Speaker 2: And that's God. 369 00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:13,960 Speaker 1: For those you know who believe in God and say, 370 00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:17,839 I am strong, I am brave because I believe in God. 371 00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:21,839 Speaker 2: Number nine, I am kind and generous. 372 00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:25,440 Speaker 1: I am kind and generous, and you tell yourself that 373 00:25:25,519 --> 00:25:28,559 because narcissists will make you feel as if you're selfish 374 00:25:28,599 --> 00:25:31,880 because you don't bend to their every whim and you 375 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:34,720 don't have to bend to their every whim because they're 376 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:39,559 not gonna been to yours. Okay, and kindness and generous 377 00:25:39,599 --> 00:25:42,000 doesn't mean that I have to be a people pleaser 378 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:45,720 and then I have to do everything that the narcissist 379 00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:48,440 wants me to do, or anybody else. 380 00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:52,440 Speaker 2: For that matter. But I am kind and I am generous, But. 381 00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:57,079 Speaker 1: I also have boundaries. Boundaries that means, you know, I 382 00:25:57,799 --> 00:26:00,720 love to give. I'm a given person, but also boundaries. 383 00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:03,119 I'm not gonna allow you to use me either. I'm 384 00:26:03,119 --> 00:26:05,079 not gonna allow you to abuse me. But I am 385 00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:09,680 kind and I am generous. Number ten, I am smart 386 00:26:10,039 --> 00:26:13,200 and talented. I am smart and talented. 387 00:26:16,039 --> 00:26:17,079 Speaker 2: When you're dealing. 388 00:26:16,839 --> 00:26:22,240 Speaker 1: With abuse, your abuser will make you feel like you're dumb, 389 00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:28,640 you don't know anything, you're uneducated, or it doesn't matter 390 00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:32,400 if you got a PhD or whatever. They will make 391 00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:35,640 you feel as if you've achieved nothing. You have to 392 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:40,039 speak life into yourself. Then that's why we're doing these affirmations. 393 00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:44,359 I am smart and talented. Do not let anyone make 394 00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:47,799 you feel as if you're useless, you're worthless, and you 395 00:26:47,839 --> 00:26:52,240 amount to nothing. You are smart, you are talented, and 396 00:26:52,279 --> 00:26:55,759 you have to say that to yourself. Everyone has different talents, 397 00:26:56,039 --> 00:26:57,720 everyone has different gift things. 398 00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:00,720 Speaker 2: Whatever your gift is, you have to ask God. 399 00:27:00,599 --> 00:27:03,119 Speaker 1: What that is, f what that looks like for you. 400 00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:06,839 But you do not have to compare yourself with anyone else. 401 00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:13,599 Number eleven. I am good as humanly possible. Okay, I 402 00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:17,880 am good. The thing is is that within ourselves apart 403 00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:21,279 from God, there is no goodness in us apart from God. 404 00:27:22,039 --> 00:27:27,039 But with God, I am good. That means that i'm 405 00:27:27,279 --> 00:27:31,440 i'm uh. I can't do anything apart from Him, but 406 00:27:31,519 --> 00:27:35,599 I am a good person. Do not allow someone to 407 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:38,799 make you feel like you're evil you or you're a 408 00:27:38,839 --> 00:27:42,079 wicked or whatever. When it comes to now I'm i'm 409 00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:46,039 and I'm talking about in the spiritual sense. I'm talking 410 00:27:46,039 --> 00:27:48,799 about when you're dealing with narcissists and because there's you know, 411 00:27:48,839 --> 00:27:52,000 we're not good within ourselves according to the word of God. 412 00:27:52,079 --> 00:27:55,039 It takes God to place goodness on the inside of us. 413 00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:59,440 Apart from that, when it comes to narcissists, they will 414 00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:02,200 make you feel like you're the worst person on the world, 415 00:28:02,319 --> 00:28:06,880 in the world. But again, they never look at themselves 416 00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,079 in the damage they do to other people. 417 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:15,680 Speaker 2: Number twelve. I matter, I matter, Yes, you do. 418 00:28:15,720 --> 00:28:19,079 Speaker 1: And if you notice that, one of our slogans on 419 00:28:19,160 --> 00:28:23,279 here is your feelings do matter. Yes they do. You matter, 420 00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:25,920 You do matter, and you have to. 421 00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:27,720 Speaker 2: Matter to you. 422 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:31,640 Speaker 1: If you're putting your trust and your value in that 423 00:28:32,079 --> 00:28:36,680 which the narcissists in the narcissist bank, you're always gonna 424 00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:39,759 wind up in a deficit. You always gonna wind up 425 00:28:39,799 --> 00:28:42,880 in the red. You're never gonna be in the positive. 426 00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:46,680 So you have to matter to you say I matter, 427 00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:55,640 I matter to me. Number thirteen, I am enough dealing 428 00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:56,240 with abuse. 429 00:28:56,319 --> 00:28:59,680 Speaker 2: You always feel like I'm not good enough. I don't matter. 430 00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:03,319 You're trying, You're trying, You're trying. 431 00:29:03,079 --> 00:29:05,599 Speaker 1: But you feel like you're never good enough because they 432 00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:09,440 make you feel as if there's always something wrong with you, 433 00:29:09,559 --> 00:29:11,200 or that you're damaged goods. 434 00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:13,599 Speaker 2: But guess what, you're not. 435 00:29:16,079 --> 00:29:21,200 Speaker 1: There's this company I think it's called Misfit and basically, 436 00:29:21,279 --> 00:29:25,240 this company gets the fruits and vegetables that don't look 437 00:29:25,359 --> 00:29:27,839 pretty for display at. 438 00:29:27,759 --> 00:29:28,720 Speaker 2: The grocery store. 439 00:29:29,279 --> 00:29:33,319 Speaker 1: So something that might like a sweet potato, for example, 440 00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:36,240 it might look like it might be shaped. We know 441 00:29:36,279 --> 00:29:39,480 how potatoes on only shaped sweet potatoes or whatever. 442 00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:42,200 Speaker 2: But a misfit they might get. 443 00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:45,599 Speaker 1: A potato that looks like it might be shaped like 444 00:29:45,599 --> 00:29:49,119 a heart for example. Okay, and so so the misfit 445 00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:53,039 company takes the fruits and vegetables that companies feel like 446 00:29:53,119 --> 00:29:53,680 it's not. 447 00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:58,079 Speaker 2: Worthy enough to be put on their display. 448 00:29:58,519 --> 00:30:02,160 Speaker 1: They take it and box up and let other people 449 00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:07,160 get it. Okay, why am I saying that? I'm saying 450 00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:14,319 that because you have to tell yourself regardless of what 451 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:15,559 someone else feel. 452 00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:18,880 Speaker 2: They might feel like you a misfit, like these misfit vegetables. 453 00:30:19,279 --> 00:30:23,319 But guess what, the same vegetables that the misfits get. 454 00:30:23,559 --> 00:30:26,440 Speaker 1: It's still edible. You can still cook with it, you 455 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:29,720 can still use them. They just might not look the same, 456 00:30:30,039 --> 00:30:32,039 all right, But it's enough. 457 00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:34,880 Speaker 2: You have to tell yourself I am enough. 458 00:30:35,559 --> 00:30:39,039 Speaker 1: I might look like a misfit to the narcissists because 459 00:30:39,039 --> 00:30:40,079 that's in their. 460 00:30:39,839 --> 00:30:48,920 Speaker 2: Mind, but I am enough. Number fourteen, I am loved. 461 00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:55,400 Speaker 1: We haven't dealt with this this year, but narcissists, we've 462 00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:59,079 actually touched on it. Where narcissists like to use triangulation 463 00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:04,519 you so basically, when you're dealing with triangulation, they want 464 00:31:04,519 --> 00:31:07,119 you to feel as if everybody's against you. 465 00:31:07,359 --> 00:31:11,599 Speaker 2: And on their side. But guess what, you are loved. 466 00:31:12,319 --> 00:31:15,440 Speaker 1: Regardless of who goes to the side of the narcissist, 467 00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:18,680 You're still loved. First of all, you loved by God 468 00:31:19,079 --> 00:31:23,279 because He created you. Second, always make sure that you 469 00:31:23,359 --> 00:31:27,039 have people in your life that's gonna appreciate and value 470 00:31:27,079 --> 00:31:32,640 you for who you are, because once again, you are 471 00:31:32,759 --> 00:31:35,359 fearfully and you are wonderfully made. 472 00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:42,640 Speaker 2: And I know that full well. Number fifteen. I belong here. 473 00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:49,680 Speaker 1: There's a sense of longing oftentimes when you have dealt 474 00:31:49,720 --> 00:31:53,799 with narcissists and abusive situations and you feel like I 475 00:31:53,799 --> 00:31:57,079 don't belong anywhere, I can't find my way, I don't 476 00:31:57,119 --> 00:32:00,000 know where I fit in. But guess what, you belie 477 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:03,319 belong on this earth because God sow fit for you 478 00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:04,680 to come, so. 479 00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:06,480 Speaker 2: You do belong here. 480 00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:11,319 Speaker 1: And finding those that are allowing God to bring people 481 00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:14,880 into your life that can appreciate and value you less. 482 00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:18,480 Speaker 2: You know that you do belong. You don't belong with 483 00:32:18,519 --> 00:32:22,200 the narcissist. You don't belong with someone who abuses, misuses, 484 00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:25,240 and devalues you. No, you don't belong with them. 485 00:32:25,839 --> 00:32:30,880 Speaker 1: You belong to people with people who will appreciate and 486 00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:34,480 value you for who you are. We're going to take 487 00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:37,000 another quick break and we'll be back. 488 00:32:36,799 --> 00:32:38,039 Speaker 2: In just a moment. 489 00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:12,200 Speaker 3: I was walking through seasons the Lord with my press, trying. 490 00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:14,759 Speaker 6: Not to rash when I knew. 491 00:33:14,759 --> 00:33:20,519 Speaker 3: Guys would prepare so love come Meg, but he never 492 00:33:21,039 --> 00:33:21,640 fell right. 493 00:33:22,599 --> 00:33:28,640 Speaker 4: So I learned how away through the law only I 494 00:33:28,799 --> 00:33:33,200 laid down my saving shortcom. 495 00:33:32,759 --> 00:33:39,039 Speaker 3: And feel so thought it to keep paying from here 496 00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:46,839 everything else see heaven know head away it was shaping 497 00:33:46,920 --> 00:33:53,799 in my heart. You show told her away, did let 498 00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:59,319 in your per perfect and not of am to hear 499 00:33:59,599 --> 00:34:09,599 me Y had for your joy Together, w came baylayed 500 00:34:10,360 --> 00:34:15,480 on you and your day. He didn't. 501 00:34:16,199 --> 00:34:19,800 Speaker 2: We didn't relay enough. 502 00:34:20,039 --> 00:34:27,760 Speaker 3: Bess, she came with the peace. 503 00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:28,360 Speaker 6: I had. 504 00:34:29,719 --> 00:34:38,239 Speaker 3: No fell like Christ to her fee flashing bone and gobs, 505 00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:46,920 beauty for purpose and pray and what she spoke I 506 00:34:47,159 --> 00:34:53,519 felt time all those nights, I almost gave you my 507 00:34:53,800 --> 00:35:01,800 hearty you say to my last father's stay Now see 508 00:35:02,159 --> 00:35:09,960 why you coach he be other? You were protecting a 509 00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:18,559 worldly in ball way love in your perfect don't know 510 00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:30,840 what tuh you joyed together talk where can't play away 511 00:35:31,679 --> 00:35:32,159 on you? 512 00:35:33,559 --> 00:35:35,480 Speaker 1: You way. 513 00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:48,639 Speaker 3: She didn't way love as was the same love to 514 00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:54,000 say trans this is it's a predicay you play everyly 515 00:35:54,480 --> 00:36:02,159 was mercy to this guy? I thank you for the 516 00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:22,039 open every time high boots so there is he be back. 517 00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:27,599 Speaker 4: So fair that fem is all. 518 00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:32,880 Speaker 3: This first install order cars. 519 00:36:42,039 --> 00:36:48,239 Speaker 7: We fing a wondering when trust the process, trust him 520 00:36:50,800 --> 00:36:54,920 because the lovely sense it's worth the way. 521 00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:57,440 Speaker 3: Mm hmm. 522 00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:06,119 Speaker 1: We waited then Lord amen, Hi, yes, yes, yes, it's 523 00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:09,360 worth the weight. And we definitely never want to go 524 00:37:09,480 --> 00:37:14,000 ahead of God. And because we wind up when we 525 00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:19,280 go ahead of God, and I'm talking about with romantic relationships, 526 00:37:19,679 --> 00:37:24,639 we wind up possibly getting those narcissists. You know, some 527 00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:28,360 of us were born into a family of narcissists, and 528 00:37:28,519 --> 00:37:32,320 then others we may have dated some narcissists, or we 529 00:37:32,480 --> 00:37:37,840 might have been employed by some narcissists, or so we 530 00:37:38,079 --> 00:37:38,880 definitely want to. 531 00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:40,119 Speaker 2: Wait and ask God. 532 00:37:40,199 --> 00:37:43,679 Speaker 1: Now, if you're born into a family with narcissists. That's 533 00:37:43,840 --> 00:37:46,320 out of your control. But as an adult, you can't 534 00:37:46,679 --> 00:37:50,840 control how you interact, if you interact, and when you 535 00:37:51,119 --> 00:37:58,119 interact with them. Number sixteen, I deserve to be happy. 536 00:38:00,199 --> 00:38:03,800 We all deserve to be happy, and part of being 537 00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:08,039 happy means not allowing someone to destroy your peace. And 538 00:38:08,079 --> 00:38:11,400 when you're dealing with abusers, they destroy your peace. You 539 00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:15,480 cannot find peace with an abuser. So therefore you have 540 00:38:15,599 --> 00:38:18,760 to tell yourself, I deserve to be happy, and do 541 00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:23,159 what it takes to bring about that peace that would 542 00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:24,440 give you that happiness. 543 00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:31,719 Speaker 2: Number seventeen. I am worthy of love and kindness. You 544 00:38:31,880 --> 00:38:32,440 deserve that. 545 00:38:33,119 --> 00:38:36,360 Speaker 1: You deserve love someone who knows what love is, because 546 00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:40,079 when you're dealing with a narcissist, their idea of love 547 00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:40,800 is warped. 548 00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:46,039 Speaker 2: Okay, it's twisted, it's conflicted. They don't know what love is. 549 00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:51,440 Speaker 1: But you deserve love and kindness, and you have to 550 00:38:51,559 --> 00:38:55,320 tell yourself that because if you don't put that in 551 00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:58,679 your head, you will continue to allow. 552 00:38:58,679 --> 00:38:59,920 Speaker 2: Others to abuse you. 553 00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:03,280 Speaker 1: And it may not always be the same person, but 554 00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:08,039 you may even attract. Where you might have left one narcissist, 555 00:39:08,119 --> 00:39:09,239 you attract another one. 556 00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:12,480 Speaker 2: So make sure that you know that you are worthy 557 00:39:12,559 --> 00:39:15,880 of love and kindness. Number eighteen. 558 00:39:16,079 --> 00:39:18,480 Speaker 1: I am a proud of every I am proud of 559 00:39:18,639 --> 00:39:22,800 everything that I've accomplished. The narcissists will try to make 560 00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,760 you feel like, regardless of what you've done in life, 561 00:39:26,039 --> 00:39:29,400 you've never done enough because it doesn't equal up to 562 00:39:29,599 --> 00:39:33,159 their standards. They set these impossible standards that you or 563 00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,000 no one else will be able to meet, and they're 564 00:39:35,039 --> 00:39:37,840 not able to meet them themselves. But you have to 565 00:39:38,159 --> 00:39:41,400 be proud of everything that you've accomplished. I know that 566 00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:47,159 I am grateful and I am happy and proud of 567 00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:50,719 the things that God has allowed me to accomplish in life. 568 00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:53,039 Speaker 2: The narcissists will always. 569 00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:55,239 Speaker 1: Find a deficit of something that you haven't done, you 570 00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:58,559 haven't achieved, or whatever case may be. But you have 571 00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:02,559 to tell yourself, I am proud of everything that. 572 00:40:02,679 --> 00:40:04,079 Speaker 2: I've achieved in life. 573 00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:08,400 Speaker 1: Number nineteen. I am on my way to becoming the 574 00:40:08,599 --> 00:40:13,599 best version of me. When you get away from from abusers, 575 00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:16,880 you are definitely on your way to becoming the best 576 00:40:17,159 --> 00:40:21,760 version of you. And again, sometimes you have to get 577 00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:25,559 away from family. Sometimes it's your own family that's the 578 00:40:25,679 --> 00:40:28,519 one that's toxic, and you have to say, you know what, 579 00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:32,280 I am limiting myself. I am not going to allow 580 00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:35,840 myself to be rude or controlled by those who cannot 581 00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:41,599 appreciate my value and my worth. So therefore, when you 582 00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:43,800 decide that I am not going to be a part 583 00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:49,639 of their negative of toxic abuse, then you are. 584 00:40:49,599 --> 00:40:52,079 Speaker 2: On your way to becoming the best version of you. 585 00:40:52,519 --> 00:40:53,239 Number twenty. 586 00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:59,559 Speaker 1: I'm not perfect, but I'm improving every day and every day. 587 00:40:59,599 --> 00:41:02,480 It's a step when you when you think about babies, 588 00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:06,159 babies don't normally come out the worm walking. Okay, when 589 00:41:06,159 --> 00:41:08,920 you think about babies, they they there are certain steps 590 00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:12,000 that they take. You know, you lay them on their 591 00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:15,039 on their backs, okay, not because we don't want to 592 00:41:15,079 --> 00:41:17,000 do sets lam on their backs. 593 00:41:17,079 --> 00:41:17,360 Speaker 2: Okay. 594 00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:22,039 Speaker 1: Then eventually they'll start rolling over by no, by themselves. 595 00:41:22,559 --> 00:41:26,360 Then eventually they'll start trying to crawl. They get to 596 00:41:26,440 --> 00:41:28,679 doing that rocking when they're getting ready to try to 597 00:41:28,760 --> 00:41:32,880 start crawling. Then you'll notice them crawling. Then before long, 598 00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:36,840 they'll start trying to pull themselves up as they're strengthening 599 00:41:36,920 --> 00:41:39,199 their leg muscles, and before you know, they're gonna be 600 00:41:39,199 --> 00:41:44,360 everywhere around the house. And so I am not perfect, 601 00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:48,000 by I'm improving every day. That means you're taking baby 602 00:41:48,159 --> 00:41:52,599 steps to improving yourself every day, and that means right 603 00:41:52,679 --> 00:41:55,119 now what we're doing right now with these affirmations, that 604 00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:59,599 is that is a step to improving yourself every day. 605 00:42:00,559 --> 00:42:04,519 Twenty one. I can do anything I put my mind to. 606 00:42:05,800 --> 00:42:07,480 You know, the Word of God says that I can 607 00:42:07,559 --> 00:42:12,039 do all things through Christ, who gives me strength. And 608 00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:15,079 because we have the strength of God, you can do 609 00:42:15,320 --> 00:42:19,519 anything that you put your mind to. Just make sure 610 00:42:19,559 --> 00:42:23,760 that it aligns in the will of God. Number twenty two. 611 00:42:24,599 --> 00:42:28,360 I can handle whatever challenges come my way, And yes 612 00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:32,480 you can. The things you've dealt with has prepared you 613 00:42:32,599 --> 00:42:35,239 for any challenges that come your way. When you've dealt 614 00:42:35,280 --> 00:42:37,440 with narcissists, if you can deal with them, you can 615 00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:41,480 deal with anyone. Okay, So whatever challenge that comes your way, 616 00:42:41,519 --> 00:42:43,360 you can deal with it. But guess what, you don't 617 00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:46,920 have to prove yourself to anyone. That means that when 618 00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:49,599 a narcissist tries to present you with a challenge, you 619 00:42:49,639 --> 00:42:55,679 can decline, deny, and reject. Okay, decline, deny and reject, 620 00:42:56,360 --> 00:42:58,880 all right, You do not have to accept their challenges. 621 00:43:00,039 --> 00:43:04,440 Umber twenty three. I choose joy and happiness. You know, 622 00:43:04,519 --> 00:43:06,360 the Bible lets us know that the joy of the 623 00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:10,000 Lord is our strength, and so therefore we find that 624 00:43:10,239 --> 00:43:11,639 happiness in the Lord. 625 00:43:11,840 --> 00:43:14,960 Speaker 2: So I choose to be joyful. I choose to be happy. 626 00:43:15,559 --> 00:43:18,800 Speaker 1: You don't have to be miserable because the narcissists love misery. 627 00:43:19,679 --> 00:43:21,599 You can choose to say that I'm going to be 628 00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:24,440 joyful and I'm going to be happy despite whatever situation 629 00:43:24,679 --> 00:43:28,320 I have been through before and the situations that I 630 00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:29,199 may be facing. 631 00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:32,239 Speaker 2: I choose to be joyful. I choose to be happy. 632 00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:36,719 Speaker 1: Number twenty five. I have so much to give this world. 633 00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:39,559 One thing that God has given us, He's given us 634 00:43:39,559 --> 00:43:41,840 spiritual guilts. For those of us who are believers in 635 00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:44,239 the Body of Christ, he has always given us spiritual 636 00:43:44,320 --> 00:43:47,119 guilts that we can give to the world. 637 00:43:47,519 --> 00:43:49,920 Speaker 2: That means that, hey, I might not meet. 638 00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:53,159 Speaker 1: Up to what the narcissist standards are because guess what, 639 00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:56,960 there's no sense of even trying because they're impossible. But 640 00:43:57,239 --> 00:44:00,679 I have so much to give, and therefore, or you 641 00:44:01,000 --> 00:44:03,360 have to look on the inside of you what you 642 00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:08,239 have been designed and created by the Creator to give 643 00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:13,280 to the world. Last, but not least, twenty five. God 644 00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:15,760 has good things in store for me. 645 00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:17,000 Speaker 7: Yes. 646 00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:20,840 Speaker 2: One thing about God, he loves you. He cares for you, 647 00:44:21,079 --> 00:44:23,159 and he sent his son to die for us on 648 00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:25,519 the cross so that we may have life and have 649 00:44:25,679 --> 00:44:26,800 it more abundantly. 650 00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:32,320 Speaker 1: God has good things in store for you. But the 651 00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:37,119 thing is you have to allow Him to reveal to 652 00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:40,800 you what those things are. But one of those things 653 00:44:41,519 --> 00:44:46,159 is not taking abuse from anyone who wants to. 654 00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:50,760 Speaker 2: Render it to you. All right, we are a body here. 655 00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:55,159 Speaker 1: I pray to today's podcast has been a blessing to you, 656 00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:57,400 and that you would know that your. 657 00:44:57,440 --> 00:45:33,519 Speaker 2: Feelings do matter. This is their Kay Rich and Talass