WEBVTT 1 00:00:02.040 --> 00:00:05.080 Energy, cancel. 2 00:00:06.240 --> 00:00:17.600 Highsag cancage it not sorry, Andy? 3 00:00:19.160 --> 00:00:22.079 What's the positive bitches? How are we doing today? If 4 00:00:22.160 --> 00:00:24.440 you're hearing this episode, then you are meant to be here, 5 00:00:24.480 --> 00:00:28.239 So keep listening on That Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we 6 00:00:28.280 --> 00:00:32.439 will laugh. Other times, baby Girl, we're gonna cry, but 7 00:00:32.479 --> 00:00:35.759 we will always walk away feeling our most empowered and 8 00:00:35.799 --> 00:00:39.560 positive bit self. That's right. On this podcast, we unbecome 9 00:00:39.560 --> 00:00:42.000 who we are not so we can fully step into 10 00:00:42.079 --> 00:00:44.880 exactly who we came here to be. Today, we're going 11 00:00:44.920 --> 00:00:47.960 to talk about how to create the portal through the pain, 12 00:00:48.439 --> 00:00:51.960 how to deal with suffering and transmute it into success 13 00:00:52.479 --> 00:00:54.840 or at least get through the freaking season that we 14 00:00:54.960 --> 00:00:58.399 may be in. Before we get into all of this, 15 00:00:58.560 --> 00:01:01.560 a couple of announcements. If you're not yet following me 16 00:01:02.079 --> 00:01:05.040 on Instagram at Vibe with Cci, be sure to follow 17 00:01:05.079 --> 00:01:06.680 me there. The link will be in the show notes. 18 00:01:06.959 --> 00:01:08.920 If you've not yet gotten your copy of Show Up 19 00:01:08.959 --> 00:01:12.799 as Her, my recently published book, then be sure to 20 00:01:12.840 --> 00:01:15.760 get a copy, as we're going to be pulling concepts 21 00:01:15.760 --> 00:01:18.599 from this book in today's podcast, and that's something we 22 00:01:18.640 --> 00:01:22.079 do quite frequently on That Bitch Is Positive and if 23 00:01:22.120 --> 00:01:24.760 you've not yet streamed putting my new song to help 24 00:01:24.799 --> 00:01:27.239 you put yourself back on the pedestal, then be sure 25 00:01:27.280 --> 00:01:28.879 to do that. All the links will be in the 26 00:01:28.879 --> 00:01:33.760 show notes, and without further ado, let's get into today's episode. Okay, 27 00:01:34.760 --> 00:01:41.120 so Suffering, we all know her, we don't all love her. 28 00:01:41.439 --> 00:01:44.799 She exists in this realm, Yes she does. The interesting 29 00:01:44.879 --> 00:01:50.079 thing about suffering is it is congruent with every religion, 30 00:01:50.239 --> 00:01:55.159 with every belief system, whether it's Christianity or Buddhism. Suffering 31 00:01:55.319 --> 00:02:01.400 is in everything everything. It's almost like it's just a 32 00:02:01.439 --> 00:02:05.280 part of life. If you're a human, you're gonna suffer. Now. 33 00:02:05.319 --> 00:02:08.240 I like to think the reason for this is because 34 00:02:08.280 --> 00:02:11.280 in heaven everything is perfect and we come down to 35 00:02:11.319 --> 00:02:15.120 planet Earth to experience. Contrast, we come down to planet 36 00:02:15.159 --> 00:02:18.439 Earth to experience a full range of human emotion, and 37 00:02:18.479 --> 00:02:21.439 that means the good stuff and the not so good stuff. 38 00:02:21.879 --> 00:02:25.120 We see this even in energetic universal laws like the 39 00:02:25.199 --> 00:02:28.560 law polarity. As deep as we feel pain, we're also 40 00:02:28.719 --> 00:02:33.719 going to feel pleasure. So if suffering is not just 41 00:02:34.120 --> 00:02:36.879 in every religion or belief system, but it's also in 42 00:02:36.919 --> 00:02:40.280 the energetic laws, if it really is just a part 43 00:02:40.280 --> 00:02:43.800 of this human experience and there's no way around it. 44 00:02:44.560 --> 00:02:47.639 What do we do with it? How can we use 45 00:02:47.680 --> 00:02:50.159 it to our advantage? How can we move through it? 46 00:02:50.759 --> 00:02:53.479 How can we exist within it? Is really what I'm 47 00:02:53.520 --> 00:02:58.919 interested in. They say that we all experience pain, but 48 00:02:59.039 --> 00:03:02.120 suffering is a choice. And I want to bring your 49 00:03:02.159 --> 00:03:08.639 attention to page eighty two in my book. Our subconscious mind, 50 00:03:08.960 --> 00:03:12.120 being the receiver of information, doesn't know if something is 51 00:03:12.159 --> 00:03:15.240 happening in real time or if we're just thinking about 52 00:03:15.280 --> 00:03:19.439 a past memory. My body was re experiencing the trauma 53 00:03:19.479 --> 00:03:22.439 every day, thinking it was happening in real time. The 54 00:03:22.479 --> 00:03:25.159 trauma I was referring to was my breakup, which you 55 00:03:25.159 --> 00:03:27.840 can read more about in the book. This is why 56 00:03:27.879 --> 00:03:31.719 breakups or any traumatic experience feels so intense even after 57 00:03:31.800 --> 00:03:35.800 the fact. If we think about a painful past experience, 58 00:03:36.000 --> 00:03:39.240 our subconscious mind thinks it's happening again. What does our 59 00:03:39.240 --> 00:03:43.159 body do. It continuously releases the same chemicals such as 60 00:03:43.159 --> 00:03:47.280 cortisol and adrenaline, placing our body in the sympathetic nervous system, 61 00:03:47.360 --> 00:03:51.319 which causes burnout and exhaustion. My body thought every day 62 00:03:51.360 --> 00:03:53.719 that I was finding out again and again that mister 63 00:03:53.759 --> 00:03:56.960 Gray area was being unfaithful because I kept thinking about 64 00:03:56.960 --> 00:04:00.039 the experience. I kept bringing my pass into my p 65 00:04:00.479 --> 00:04:03.039 which made it feel impossible to move on. He may 66 00:04:03.039 --> 00:04:06.439 have caused me pain, but I repeatedly tuned into the experience, 67 00:04:06.560 --> 00:04:09.719 causing myself to suffer. To say I had no choice 68 00:04:09.719 --> 00:04:12.240 but to think and feel about the situation for days 69 00:04:12.280 --> 00:04:14.599 on end to simply a lie. To say I had 70 00:04:14.639 --> 00:04:17.079 no choice but to cry about the situation all day 71 00:04:17.120 --> 00:04:19.240 strips me of my free will. To say I had 72 00:04:19.279 --> 00:04:23.160 no choice but to revisualize painful memories daily is to 73 00:04:23.199 --> 00:04:26.000 say I'm nothing more than a past memory while waking 74 00:04:26.120 --> 00:04:29.360 up and immediately remembering the current circumstances of my life 75 00:04:29.439 --> 00:04:32.600 may have been out of my control. The second, third, fourth, 76 00:04:32.680 --> 00:04:35.639 and fifth thought, We're in my control, and I chose 77 00:04:35.680 --> 00:04:38.319 to think about things that were hurting me. Instead of 78 00:04:38.319 --> 00:04:40.759 focusing on a new beginning or how I could expand 79 00:04:40.800 --> 00:04:43.839 my creativity, I harped on the one thing I knew 80 00:04:44.000 --> 00:04:48.439 was going to make me simply miserable. The reason why 81 00:04:48.480 --> 00:04:51.040 they say we all experience pain, but we don't have 82 00:04:51.120 --> 00:04:54.560 to suffer is because there is the belief that, Okay, 83 00:04:54.600 --> 00:04:57.680 you go through the painful experience but if you keep 84 00:04:57.720 --> 00:05:00.199 tuning into it every single day, you keep harping on that, 85 00:05:00.240 --> 00:05:03.800 you keep rethinking about it, you are then choosing to 86 00:05:03.839 --> 00:05:08.000 think about the experience, choosing to feel the pain, which 87 00:05:08.040 --> 00:05:12.120 is causing you to suffer. Now, maybe this painful memory 88 00:05:12.199 --> 00:05:15.639 is coming up because you're avoiding feeling it. If you're 89 00:05:15.680 --> 00:05:18.600 turning to alcohol instead of just allowing the emotion to 90 00:05:18.920 --> 00:05:23.240 move through your body, you're extending your period of suffering 91 00:05:23.240 --> 00:05:26.319 because you're just not facing what's trying to be felt. 92 00:05:26.879 --> 00:05:32.480 Feelings are not there for just fun and games. Feelings 93 00:05:32.839 --> 00:05:36.720 present themselves because they're required to be felt so that 94 00:05:36.800 --> 00:05:40.240 you can release them. We must feel to heal. I 95 00:05:40.279 --> 00:05:45.199 think a lot of us try to resist pain and 96 00:05:45.240 --> 00:05:51.199 suffering and the emotions that we probably deem negative or 97 00:05:51.240 --> 00:05:57.920 low and vibration. But when we resist those feelings, they 98 00:05:57.959 --> 00:06:01.800 actually just persist. When we try to run from our darkness, 99 00:06:02.639 --> 00:06:07.560 it chases us, it follows us. We're not helping ourselves. 100 00:06:08.800 --> 00:06:15.600 You can't avoid what must be felt. You can't outrun 101 00:06:16.040 --> 00:06:22.319 an experience an emotion because it will always pop back up. 102 00:06:23.120 --> 00:06:26.519 That's why they say wherever you go, there you are. Yeah, okay, 103 00:06:26.639 --> 00:06:30.160 move to a different city, date a new person, change 104 00:06:30.160 --> 00:06:35.439 your job. If you are always just running from what's 105 00:06:35.480 --> 00:06:39.240 trying to be felt, you will be repeatedly met with 106 00:06:39.360 --> 00:06:43.519 experiences that trigger the same emotion. It will be in 107 00:06:43.560 --> 00:06:47.639 a different environment, it will be with different people, even 108 00:06:47.759 --> 00:06:51.199 at a new job, but those same emotions will be 109 00:06:51.319 --> 00:06:55.759 triggered again because your being is required to feel them. 110 00:06:56.160 --> 00:06:58.600 If a tough emotion is coming up for you, what 111 00:06:58.800 --> 00:07:02.600 if you let it day. Our emotions are the guests 112 00:07:02.639 --> 00:07:04.879 in our house. They're meant to come in for a 113 00:07:04.959 --> 00:07:09.000 meal or some tea biscuit if you will, and then 114 00:07:09.040 --> 00:07:12.839 they're meant to go. We're not meant to repeatedly tune 115 00:07:12.839 --> 00:07:16.720 into negative emotions or painful experiences, and we're not meant 116 00:07:16.720 --> 00:07:18.519 to shut the door to them and never let them in. 117 00:07:18.959 --> 00:07:21.279 Let them men, feel them, and then release them, let 118 00:07:21.319 --> 00:07:25.279 them go. What if you let the pain of the breakup, 119 00:07:25.839 --> 00:07:29.000 the pain of getting fired, the pain of the friendship ending. 120 00:07:29.399 --> 00:07:33.680 What if you let it in for ten minutes, just 121 00:07:33.720 --> 00:07:39.120 cry it out, let yourself feel it, journaled about it. 122 00:07:40.399 --> 00:07:43.399 Sometimes it's all you need a quick cry and you're 123 00:07:43.439 --> 00:07:45.279 good to go. It's kind of like a car wash, 124 00:07:45.480 --> 00:07:47.680 you know what I mean. You just get in and 125 00:07:47.720 --> 00:07:51.240 you get out. I want to bring our attention to 126 00:07:51.279 --> 00:07:54.600 page one h two. Pain can be the portal if 127 00:07:54.639 --> 00:07:58.040 you let it. Pain can lead us back home to ourselves. 128 00:07:58.439 --> 00:08:01.360 When I was dealing with my anxient attachment map in 129 00:08:01.399 --> 00:08:05.240 relation to my boyfriend feeling abandoned all the time, this 130 00:08:05.360 --> 00:08:09.480 caused me great pain. If this pain had never been triggered, 131 00:08:09.759 --> 00:08:11.839 I would not have known there was something that needed 132 00:08:11.839 --> 00:08:15.639 to be healed within me. Our pain can be transmuted 133 00:08:15.680 --> 00:08:19.920 into our power when we take responsibility for our emotions 134 00:08:20.279 --> 00:08:23.680 and get curious about the root of them. This pain 135 00:08:23.800 --> 00:08:27.040 showed me what wounds were exposed, so I could nourish 136 00:08:27.120 --> 00:08:30.959 them with love. Instead of acting out from my attachment map, 137 00:08:31.240 --> 00:08:33.440 I had the chance to find myself and go back 138 00:08:33.480 --> 00:08:38.840 home to my home frequency, which is positive bitch frequency. 139 00:08:38.960 --> 00:08:42.000 Since we have been programmed to push down our emotions, 140 00:08:42.519 --> 00:08:45.159 many of us feel like we're not allowed to feel anything. 141 00:08:45.720 --> 00:08:48.440 To take our power back, we must give ourselves permission 142 00:08:48.519 --> 00:08:51.679 to let our emotions come to the surface so that 143 00:08:51.720 --> 00:08:56.240 the energy can be transmitted into positive bitch frequency. So 144 00:08:56.360 --> 00:08:58.080 what I want us to do here and I give 145 00:08:58.120 --> 00:09:00.360 you the script in the book, But I want us 146 00:09:00.440 --> 00:09:06.080 to give ourselves permission to feel our suffering. We've been 147 00:09:06.120 --> 00:09:09.559 told don't cry. Oh, you're gonna be fine, You'll find 148 00:09:09.600 --> 00:09:13.440 someone else, blah blah blah. We have been told time 149 00:09:13.480 --> 00:09:16.679 and time again to shut down our emotions. So many 150 00:09:16.759 --> 00:09:19.840 of us feel like it's a damn sin if we 151 00:09:19.919 --> 00:09:22.399 feel what we want to feel like we have to 152 00:09:22.440 --> 00:09:25.600 act tough all the time, that everything has to be fine. No, 153 00:09:25.720 --> 00:09:29.399 it doesn't. If you are not feeling fine, don't feel fine. 154 00:09:30.080 --> 00:09:36.360 Let yourself cry, let yourself feel to give yourself permission, 155 00:09:36.519 --> 00:09:40.120 Say I, and then state your name, so I see, 156 00:09:40.200 --> 00:09:46.440 see have the divine right to feel my emotions completely, 157 00:09:48.000 --> 00:09:56.960 fully and thoroughly. I give myself permission to acknowledge and 158 00:09:57.120 --> 00:10:05.360 experience the energy in emotion that is within me. I 159 00:10:05.480 --> 00:10:12.320 welcome my emotions to the forefront of my being. I 160 00:10:12.360 --> 00:10:16.559 am feeling to heal, and it feels so good to 161 00:10:16.720 --> 00:10:22.159 do so. We have to instruct our subconscious mind to 162 00:10:22.320 --> 00:10:26.480 allow us to tap into the emotions that are lying dormant. 163 00:10:26.960 --> 00:10:30.759 We need to instruct our inner being that we're finally 164 00:10:30.879 --> 00:10:39.320 strong enough and ready to feel to heal. Suffering is 165 00:10:39.399 --> 00:10:43.080 not necessarily a negative thing. It's a part of the 166 00:10:43.159 --> 00:10:49.879 human experience, feeling our own suffering and letting it be there, ironically, 167 00:10:50.120 --> 00:10:53.399 is what allows it to leave. We're not trying to 168 00:10:53.519 --> 00:10:56.799 outrun our pain. We're not trying to be in denial 169 00:10:56.840 --> 00:10:59.919 that we have negative emotions, and we are not ignored 170 00:11:00.399 --> 00:11:06.000 our own suffering. No, no, no, we are humans and 171 00:11:06.200 --> 00:11:14.559 these experiences are part of being human. You, on some level, 172 00:11:14.679 --> 00:11:18.799 as a soul, decided to incarnate on this planet during 173 00:11:18.799 --> 00:11:24.919 this time, and you agreed to feel these emotions. Your soul, 174 00:11:25.000 --> 00:11:30.240 which is eternal, understands that these feelings are very temporary. 175 00:11:30.759 --> 00:11:35.000 These feelings are for now, They are not forever. We 176 00:11:35.080 --> 00:11:38.320 are one with nature, and just as nature has seasons, 177 00:11:38.720 --> 00:11:43.360 so do we. And if you've had difficult season after 178 00:11:43.399 --> 00:11:48.320 difficult season after difficult season, start celebrating because there's polarity 179 00:11:48.360 --> 00:11:52.120 in this universe and that means up next is positive 180 00:11:52.159 --> 00:11:55.759 seasons of celebration. As far as the pendulum swings in 181 00:11:55.799 --> 00:11:58.919 one direction, it must always swing in the opposite equal direction. 182 00:12:00.559 --> 00:12:03.120 In my Bible, there is a chart and it says 183 00:12:03.200 --> 00:12:05.720 how to endure suffering. And I want us to break 184 00:12:05.799 --> 00:12:10.600 it down here. Okay, the wrong ways to react to suffering. 185 00:12:10.759 --> 00:12:15.840 Number one, demand to know, Oh the feminine urge to 186 00:12:15.960 --> 00:12:21.320 know why. It is prevalent it is, it's a mind 187 00:12:21.440 --> 00:12:24.240 virus in itself. I need to know why. I need 188 00:12:24.279 --> 00:12:26.960 to know why. I need to know why, Baby girl, 189 00:12:27.159 --> 00:12:30.120 you might not ever know why, at least not as 190 00:12:30.159 --> 00:12:34.240 your human self. Maybe in your next incarnation, maybe in 191 00:12:34.279 --> 00:12:37.480 the space in between, but you might not ever know why. 192 00:12:38.360 --> 00:12:43.559 Why is not as important as accepting the current season 193 00:12:43.919 --> 00:12:48.279 and feeling the emotion. Why is not as important as 194 00:12:48.360 --> 00:12:52.399 what can I learn from this experience. I always think 195 00:12:52.440 --> 00:12:59.399 about my uncle, who is six foot four and he's 196 00:12:59.480 --> 00:13:02.600 in his form now, but when he was seventeen years old, 197 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:04.960 he was sitting on top of a car and his 198 00:13:04.960 --> 00:13:08.440 friend played a joke on him and started speeding, then 199 00:13:08.519 --> 00:13:11.519 slammed on the brakes and my uncle fell off the car. 200 00:13:11.759 --> 00:13:14.879 And ever since seventeen years old, he's brain damaged, so 201 00:13:14.960 --> 00:13:18.240 he can't walk, he can't talk, he can't communicate, he 202 00:13:18.279 --> 00:13:21.799 can barely eat on his own, he can kind of crawl, 203 00:13:21.840 --> 00:13:25.840 he can't use the bathroom. And something my grandma always 204 00:13:25.840 --> 00:13:29.879 says to me, it it hurts my heart because I 205 00:13:30.000 --> 00:13:33.879 see the paint it has in her being. And she 206 00:13:34.000 --> 00:13:37.440 always says, Cecie, why, like why would this happen to me? 207 00:13:37.480 --> 00:13:39.240 Why would this happen to me? And I add to 208 00:13:39.240 --> 00:13:43.000 tell her Grandma, I don't think, as Rosalie, you'll ever 209 00:13:43.120 --> 00:13:46.960 know why? And I don't know that is the important 210 00:13:47.000 --> 00:13:50.320 part here. I think the important part here is you 211 00:13:50.440 --> 00:13:54.279 showed unconditional love to your son. I think the important 212 00:13:54.320 --> 00:13:58.039 part here is you showed you know, forty something grandchildren 213 00:13:58.840 --> 00:14:02.480 with unconditional love looks like. I think the important part 214 00:14:02.519 --> 00:14:06.200 here is feeling the experience, not just knowing the why, 215 00:14:06.279 --> 00:14:09.399 the why, the why. Instead of knowing the why, how 216 00:14:09.399 --> 00:14:12.919 can we shift this to a higher perspective and say, well, 217 00:14:13.000 --> 00:14:18.559 what am I learning here? Unconditional love service to other 218 00:14:19.159 --> 00:14:24.600 Instead of trying to chase the why? Can you transmit 219 00:14:24.759 --> 00:14:29.639 this question and say what am I learning? Because what 220 00:14:29.759 --> 00:14:33.039 am I learning will lead us to self discovery, It 221 00:14:33.080 --> 00:14:35.840 will lead us deeper. Why leads us into a never 222 00:14:35.960 --> 00:14:39.120 ending spiral and maybe we'll land on an answer, But 223 00:14:39.159 --> 00:14:42.039 it doesn't mean that it's even the correct one. Another 224 00:14:42.120 --> 00:14:44.759 wrong way to suffer is to withdraw from God and 225 00:14:44.799 --> 00:14:51.279 withdraw from others. Don't isolate yourself from God. Sometimes we 226 00:14:51.320 --> 00:14:53.759 need to take a step back from being around other people. 227 00:14:54.240 --> 00:14:56.519 Sometimes we need to just be in our own energy, 228 00:14:56.559 --> 00:15:01.120 in our own space. That's understandable. I get that, fine, 229 00:15:01.279 --> 00:15:04.720 but don't withdraw from God. Every time I go through 230 00:15:04.720 --> 00:15:10.360 a painful experience, it is like a deeper bridge into 231 00:15:10.519 --> 00:15:15.519 the divinity. Because every single time I have suffering or 232 00:15:15.600 --> 00:15:19.320 pain or heartbreak and I feel like, why is this 233 00:15:19.440 --> 00:15:23.720 happening to me, I immediately say, oh, my God, have mercy 234 00:15:23.759 --> 00:15:30.480 on me for forgetting that I think I know all 235 00:15:30.639 --> 00:15:34.679 when really, you know, all have mercy on me for 236 00:15:34.679 --> 00:15:38.919 forgetting that God has plans for me to prosper. God 237 00:15:38.960 --> 00:15:43.159 has plans for me to do greatness. Here I am sitting, 238 00:15:43.240 --> 00:15:46.279 Oh poor me, this is horrid. Well, I'm having heartbreak 239 00:15:46.960 --> 00:15:52.200 and I'm literally forgetting the fact that everything's working out 240 00:15:52.240 --> 00:15:55.799 for me, that God is always by my side. In fact, 241 00:15:56.360 --> 00:15:59.720 this painful experience is actually showing me that God is 242 00:15:59.720 --> 00:16:03.279 pretty protecting me. Because no, no, no, no, no, no, 243 00:16:03.320 --> 00:16:10.759 it's not rejection, it's divine protection. I have created a 244 00:16:10.919 --> 00:16:14.879 meaning for pain, and every time it happens, I label 245 00:16:14.919 --> 00:16:18.360 it as and God is protecting me, and God wants 246 00:16:18.399 --> 00:16:21.000 me closer to Him, and God's reminding me to focus 247 00:16:21.039 --> 00:16:23.879 on Him, not just this three D play that I'm experiencing. 248 00:16:24.039 --> 00:16:27.200 Another wrong way is to decide the limits of your 249 00:16:27.240 --> 00:16:31.480 own endurance, to be impatient with God and seek your 250 00:16:31.480 --> 00:16:35.679 own remedies. Don't become impatient with God so much so 251 00:16:35.879 --> 00:16:39.600 that you are going to the alcohol, You're going to 252 00:16:39.639 --> 00:16:44.080 the binging, You're going to those lower vibrational habits. Sit 253 00:16:44.159 --> 00:16:47.159 in it, Sit in it. The cure is talking to God. 254 00:16:47.480 --> 00:16:50.039 The cure is connecting to Jesus. The cure is calling 255 00:16:50.080 --> 00:16:52.840 on your angels. It's not in the bottle, it's not 256 00:16:52.919 --> 00:16:57.080 in the flesh, it's not in the person. I repeatedly 257 00:16:58.080 --> 00:17:05.519 have place my trust in people, in men, in boyfriends, 258 00:17:07.839 --> 00:17:11.519 and I think that we by accident idolize these people, 259 00:17:13.440 --> 00:17:16.640 and that makes some false idols, and that almost puts 260 00:17:16.680 --> 00:17:19.559 them above God because we end up giving them all 261 00:17:19.559 --> 00:17:25.000 of our attention and our affection. We become obsessed, and 262 00:17:25.000 --> 00:17:28.039 then we don't pray as much, we don't pay attention 263 00:17:28.079 --> 00:17:31.000 to ourselves as much. We lose ourselves in that stuff. 264 00:17:32.759 --> 00:17:38.319 So I think that we gotta take a step back, 265 00:17:38.400 --> 00:17:43.759 sometimes even from our own desires because we think that 266 00:17:43.799 --> 00:17:46.440 they're the remedy. We think I just need marriage, or 267 00:17:46.480 --> 00:17:48.440 I just need a relationship, or I just need that job, 268 00:17:48.559 --> 00:17:51.960 or I just need that city, or I just need anything. 269 00:17:52.160 --> 00:17:56.200 When really we think we need something because we think 270 00:17:56.240 --> 00:17:58.920 it's going to give us some sort of fulfillment. But 271 00:17:59.000 --> 00:18:01.319 what if the real fulfillment is through God. I mean, 272 00:18:01.720 --> 00:18:05.200 I've had, you know, months of great financial success or 273 00:18:05.200 --> 00:18:10.720 with followers and social media stuff. Eh yeah, okay, cool 274 00:18:10.799 --> 00:18:13.920 for the moment. But nothing feels as fel feeling as 275 00:18:14.039 --> 00:18:22.720 connecting to the divine. Nothing is as longstanding, beneficial, or 276 00:18:22.759 --> 00:18:28.000 as loving. Do not give up to despair, Do not 277 00:18:28.119 --> 00:18:31.720 delude yourself, Do not indulge yourself, Do not become angry, 278 00:18:31.759 --> 00:18:35.079 and do not become depressed. So these are all the 279 00:18:35.079 --> 00:18:37.599 things we don't want to do, and how do we 280 00:18:37.680 --> 00:18:41.599 not do them? I really think we have to repeatedly 281 00:18:41.839 --> 00:18:47.240 and consistently remind ourselves over and over and over again. 282 00:18:47.880 --> 00:18:51.559 If this is happening to me, it must be happening 283 00:18:51.720 --> 00:18:56.160 for me. If this is occurring in my reality, there's 284 00:18:56.200 --> 00:19:01.519 something I'm not seeing that God knows, and therefore I'm 285 00:19:01.559 --> 00:19:07.200 being protected. I recently went through some weird, weird experience 286 00:19:07.839 --> 00:19:11.599 with a weird person, okay, and I am writing about 287 00:19:11.640 --> 00:19:14.319 this in my next book, So I cannot wait and 288 00:19:14.400 --> 00:19:15.920 I will give you all the details. 289 00:19:16.000 --> 00:19:16.480 I'm not. 290 00:19:17.039 --> 00:19:21.000 I am not leaving out anything in the book anyway. 291 00:19:22.039 --> 00:19:25.960 But when this situation with this person ended, it was 292 00:19:26.000 --> 00:19:30.240 like whiplash because I do not even understand hindsight is 293 00:19:30.240 --> 00:19:36.440 twenty twenty, babe. Anyway, I was like, God, why would 294 00:19:36.519 --> 00:19:38.359 you put me through that just for it to end 295 00:19:38.359 --> 00:19:41.559 like this? Why would I go through this experience just 296 00:19:41.640 --> 00:19:46.359 for this to end so quickly and abruptly and weirdly? 297 00:19:46.559 --> 00:19:50.640 Like what was the point of any of that? Why? 298 00:19:51.440 --> 00:19:54.119 There we go? I'm asking why the first thing not 299 00:19:54.240 --> 00:19:57.920 to do? And then I started crying in my car 300 00:19:57.960 --> 00:20:03.920 because I'm like, silly me, silly me thinking I have 301 00:20:04.000 --> 00:20:07.119 to know why right now. Silly me thinking I'll ever 302 00:20:07.240 --> 00:20:10.400 know why. Silly me forgetting that there is a greater 303 00:20:10.519 --> 00:20:14.039 plan on my life. Silly me forgetting that this is protection. 304 00:20:14.640 --> 00:20:18.480 Silly me forgetting that God is in control here and 305 00:20:18.519 --> 00:20:20.400 if someone's meant to be in my life, they're going 306 00:20:20.480 --> 00:20:23.400 to be in my life and there's no offends or 307 00:20:23.400 --> 00:20:27.400 butts about that. Why would I become depressed about being protected? 308 00:20:27.759 --> 00:20:32.200 Why would I become in despair because I'm being redirected 309 00:20:32.279 --> 00:20:36.039 to something better. I made a Reel the other day, 310 00:20:36.440 --> 00:20:38.799 and I said, every time my heart breaks, I become 311 00:20:38.839 --> 00:20:42.119 more of a lover girl because I'm recognizing that every 312 00:20:42.880 --> 00:20:47.119 situation I'm entering into and dating, they're getting better and 313 00:20:47.160 --> 00:20:50.240 better and better, even if they end abruptly or not 314 00:20:50.279 --> 00:20:53.400 so great. But I'm seeing, Okay, I'm getting closer to 315 00:20:53.440 --> 00:20:55.880 what I want. None of these things are that bad. 316 00:20:56.200 --> 00:21:00.160 So oh my god, what's actually for me must be 317 00:21:00.680 --> 00:21:04.880 freaking amazing. It must be beyond my comprehension, beyond what 318 00:21:05.000 --> 00:21:09.720 I can conceive. And I allow myself to actually get 319 00:21:09.759 --> 00:21:13.599 excited from the suffering, excited from the pain, because if 320 00:21:13.680 --> 00:21:16.880 this was an okay experience, or I really like this person, 321 00:21:17.680 --> 00:21:20.440 what is it going to feel like when I actually 322 00:21:20.480 --> 00:21:23.519 find that person who's meant to stay with me? That 323 00:21:23.599 --> 00:21:26.920 must be this but on steroids. I can't wait for that. 324 00:21:27.279 --> 00:21:30.880 Let's talk about the right ways to endure suffering. Number one, 325 00:21:31.400 --> 00:21:36.799 be content to know who is in charge. I personally 326 00:21:37.079 --> 00:21:40.079 love letting go and letting God. That can be your mantra. 327 00:21:40.200 --> 00:21:42.240 I let go and I let God, or I let 328 00:21:42.319 --> 00:21:45.319 go and I let flow, because then instead of me 329 00:21:45.400 --> 00:21:48.359 thinking I have to control everything, I have to be 330 00:21:48.400 --> 00:21:51.200 in the driver's seat. I can just say, huh, God 331 00:21:51.279 --> 00:21:53.240 will take care of it. If it's meant to be, 332 00:21:53.359 --> 00:21:55.720 it shall be. It's working out in my favor, it's 333 00:21:55.720 --> 00:22:00.359 working for me. Everything's working to my benefit. So if 334 00:22:00.359 --> 00:22:02.759 something's leaving my life, it's meant to go to make 335 00:22:02.839 --> 00:22:07.039 room for something better. What do you think feels better? 336 00:22:07.279 --> 00:22:09.519 I have to control everything, and if I don't control everything, 337 00:22:09.559 --> 00:22:12.079 then everything's gonna fall apart. Or I can just give 338 00:22:12.119 --> 00:22:13.559 it up to God and it will be done for me. 339 00:22:16.279 --> 00:22:19.319 It's like a pretty easy answer, I personally feel anyway. 340 00:22:19.480 --> 00:22:22.839 Number two, acknowledge that He is with you, pray all 341 00:22:22.880 --> 00:22:25.839 the more. You know. What's so interesting? The other day, 342 00:22:25.880 --> 00:22:27.599 I was at the park and I was feeling kind 343 00:22:27.599 --> 00:22:31.279 of low. I was feeling kind of down, okay, and 344 00:22:31.559 --> 00:22:33.880 I had like sad music on. I was like, what 345 00:22:33.920 --> 00:22:37.920 am I doing? I was letting myself feel what I 346 00:22:37.960 --> 00:22:40.599 wanted to feel. And then I was like, okay, let's 347 00:22:40.680 --> 00:22:44.160 change some music. Let's get into some worship tunes. Okay, 348 00:22:44.799 --> 00:22:48.640 And I instead reminded myself once again, oh my God, 349 00:22:49.200 --> 00:22:51.920 I have so much to be grateful for. Why am 350 00:22:51.960 --> 00:22:54.680 I praying to God pleading with him? When I should 351 00:22:54.680 --> 00:22:58.000 be praising him for what I do have, because I 352 00:22:58.039 --> 00:23:01.000 have so many things that a couple of years ago 353 00:23:01.240 --> 00:23:03.680 I was praying for a couple months ago, I was 354 00:23:03.680 --> 00:23:08.039 praying for I now have it. When you're in that 355 00:23:08.359 --> 00:23:12.559 state of oh my God, I hate everything, I feel depressed. 356 00:23:12.599 --> 00:23:15.319 Out of that, put on worship music and remember who 357 00:23:15.400 --> 00:23:18.680 the f you are, Remember what you have, Remember the 358 00:23:18.680 --> 00:23:22.079 Lord your God. Okay, because even in unknown seasons, we 359 00:23:22.200 --> 00:23:27.559 have a known God. Let him fight your battles for you. 360 00:23:28.359 --> 00:23:31.680 I remember asking God, God, I'm so tired of fighting. 361 00:23:31.720 --> 00:23:33.599 I'm so tired of doing this. And you know what 362 00:23:33.599 --> 00:23:37.799 he said, Ceci, Then stop. You're choosing to fight with 363 00:23:37.839 --> 00:23:41.359 your free will. You're trying to drag people into your reality. 364 00:23:41.559 --> 00:23:43.559 You're trying to claw them down, and you gotta let 365 00:23:43.599 --> 00:23:45.920 go or be dragged. Babe, what do you want to 366 00:23:45.960 --> 00:23:50.200 do if you're tired of fighting? Simply stop? What are 367 00:23:50.240 --> 00:23:53.359 we doing? Now? I get it, but what are we doing? 368 00:23:54.160 --> 00:23:59.319 Keep fellowship with believers When you're feeling down, connect to 369 00:23:59.400 --> 00:24:03.960 someone who all so knows God because they will mirror you. 370 00:24:04.000 --> 00:24:07.279 They will reflect you. Listen. I know sometimes things are weird, 371 00:24:07.279 --> 00:24:10.920 sometimes things are crazy. Sometimes we don't understand why everything 372 00:24:10.960 --> 00:24:12.759 is unfolding in the way it is. But it doesn't 373 00:24:12.759 --> 00:24:15.079 mean that the dolts aren't gonna connect in your highest favor. 374 00:24:16.920 --> 00:24:19.920 Know that God sets and knows your limits. This is 375 00:24:20.000 --> 00:24:23.480 kind of like the quote God gives his battles to 376 00:24:23.640 --> 00:24:28.000 those who can handle them, and the tougher battles go 377 00:24:28.119 --> 00:24:31.480 to the strongest soldiers. I really do think the higher 378 00:24:31.559 --> 00:24:35.319 the call on your life, the harder the experiences you're 379 00:24:35.319 --> 00:24:38.119 probably gonna go through because you can't be like everyone 380 00:24:38.160 --> 00:24:40.880 else if you're meant to be their leader, you can't. 381 00:24:41.079 --> 00:24:44.359 You're gonna have to experience life differently. You're gonna need 382 00:24:44.440 --> 00:24:47.039 more time and solitude. You're gonna need more time to 383 00:24:47.079 --> 00:24:51.799 be with just you and get to know you. I 384 00:24:51.839 --> 00:24:54.960 think that we don't know our own strength, and the 385 00:24:55.000 --> 00:24:57.440 only way to find out what we're capable of is 386 00:24:57.480 --> 00:25:01.480 to go through some things and get out the other side. 387 00:25:02.240 --> 00:25:04.599 And every time I think I can't handle something, I'm 388 00:25:04.599 --> 00:25:06.400 like CC. But you've been through X, Y and Z 389 00:25:07.160 --> 00:25:10.079 and you got out of there. And yet maybe I 390 00:25:11.640 --> 00:25:13.319 am not where I want to be, but I'm also 391 00:25:13.359 --> 00:25:16.079 not where I was. And oh my god, I've been 392 00:25:16.200 --> 00:25:18.519 to a lot of places, and oh my god, I 393 00:25:18.559 --> 00:25:20.200 got out of there, and oh my God, like it 394 00:25:20.240 --> 00:25:22.319 where I am now, and oh my God, I can 395 00:25:22.359 --> 00:25:26.759 do it again. And when you think you can't, you must. 396 00:25:27.079 --> 00:25:30.200 And that's the truth of it. Wait for its perfect timing. 397 00:25:30.240 --> 00:25:37.279 We know that we can't control winter, spring, fall, summer. 398 00:25:38.119 --> 00:25:40.559 We know it's divine timing that these seasons come in. 399 00:25:41.079 --> 00:25:43.119 It's the law of nature, it's the love of one. 400 00:25:43.680 --> 00:25:45.839 We know. Just because you want your baby to get 401 00:25:45.839 --> 00:25:48.079