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Speaker 3: What's the positive bitches? How are we doing today? If
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Speaker 3: who we are not so we can fully step into
Speaker 3: exactly who we came here to be. Today, we're going
Speaker 3: to talk about how to create the portal through the pain,
Speaker 3: how to deal with suffering and transmute it into success
Speaker 3: or at least get through the freaking season that we
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Speaker 3: so Suffering, we all know her, we don't all love her.
Speaker 3: She exists in this realm, Yes she does. The interesting
Speaker 3: thing about suffering is it is congruent with every religion,
Speaker 3: with every belief system, whether it's Christianity or Buddhism. Suffering
Speaker 3: is in everything everything. It's almost like it's just a
Speaker 3: part of life. If you're a human, you're gonna suffer. Now.
Speaker 3: I like to think the reason for this is because
Speaker 3: in heaven everything is perfect and we come down to
Speaker 3: planet Earth to experience. Contrast, we come down to planet
Speaker 3: Earth to experience a full range of human emotion, and
Speaker 3: that means the good stuff and the not so good stuff.
Speaker 3: We see this even in energetic universal laws like the
Speaker 3: law polarity. As deep as we feel pain, we're also
Speaker 3: going to feel pleasure. So if suffering is not just
Speaker 3: in every religion or belief system, but it's also in
Speaker 3: the energetic laws, if it really is just a part
Speaker 3: of this human experience and there's no way around it.
Speaker 3: What do we do with it? How can we use
Speaker 3: it to our advantage? How can we move through it?
Speaker 3: How can we exist within it? Is really what I'm
Speaker 3: interested in. They say that we all experience pain, but
Speaker 3: suffering is a choice. And I want to bring your
Speaker 3: attention to page eighty two in my book. Our subconscious mind,
Speaker 3: being the receiver of information, doesn't know if something is
Speaker 3: happening in real time or if we're just thinking about
Speaker 3: a past memory. My body was re experiencing the trauma
Speaker 3: every day, thinking it was happening in real time. The
Speaker 3: trauma I was referring to was my breakup, which you
Speaker 3: can read more about in the book. This is why
Speaker 3: breakups or any traumatic experience feels so intense even after
Speaker 3: the fact. If we think about a painful past experience,
Speaker 3: our subconscious mind thinks it's happening again. What does our
Speaker 3: body do. It continuously releases the same chemicals such as
Speaker 3: cortisol and adrenaline, placing our body in the sympathetic nervous system,
Speaker 3: which causes burnout and exhaustion. My body thought every day
Speaker 3: that I was finding out again and again that mister
Speaker 3: Gray area was being unfaithful because I kept thinking about
Speaker 3: the experience. I kept bringing my pass into my p
Speaker 3: which made it feel impossible to move on. He may
Speaker 3: have caused me pain, but I repeatedly tuned into the experience,
Speaker 3: causing myself to suffer. To say I had no choice
Speaker 3: but to think and feel about the situation for days
Speaker 3: on end to simply a lie. To say I had
Speaker 3: no choice but to cry about the situation all day
Speaker 3: strips me of my free will. To say I had
Speaker 3: no choice but to revisualize painful memories daily is to
Speaker 3: say I'm nothing more than a past memory while waking
Speaker 3: up and immediately remembering the current circumstances of my life
Speaker 3: may have been out of my control. The second, third, fourth,
Speaker 3: and fifth thought, We're in my control, and I chose
Speaker 3: to think about things that were hurting me. Instead of
Speaker 3: focusing on a new beginning or how I could expand
Speaker 3: my creativity, I harped on the one thing I knew
Speaker 3: was going to make me simply miserable. The reason why
Speaker 3: they say we all experience pain, but we don't have
Speaker 3: to suffer is because there is the belief that, Okay,
Speaker 3: you go through the painful experience but if you keep
Speaker 3: tuning into it every single day, you keep harping on that,
Speaker 3: you keep rethinking about it, you are then choosing to
Speaker 3: think about the experience, choosing to feel the pain, which
Speaker 3: is causing you to suffer. Now, maybe this painful memory
Speaker 3: is coming up because you're avoiding feeling it. If you're
Speaker 3: turning to alcohol instead of just allowing the emotion to
Speaker 3: move through your body, you're extending your period of suffering
Speaker 3: because you're just not facing what's trying to be felt.
Speaker 3: Feelings are not there for just fun and games. Feelings
Speaker 3: present themselves because they're required to be felt so that
Speaker 3: you can release them. We must feel to heal. I
Speaker 3: think a lot of us try to resist pain and
Speaker 3: suffering and the emotions that we probably deem negative or
Speaker 3: low and vibration. But when we resist those feelings, they
Speaker 3: actually just persist. When we try to run from our darkness,
Speaker 3: it chases us, it follows us. We're not helping ourselves.
Speaker 3: You can't avoid what must be felt. You can't outrun
Speaker 3: an experience an emotion because it will always pop back up.
Speaker 3: That's why they say wherever you go, there you are. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 3: move to a different city, date a new person, change
Speaker 3: your job. If you are always just running from what's
Speaker 3: trying to be felt, you will be repeatedly met with
Speaker 3: experiences that trigger the same emotion. It will be in
Speaker 3: a different environment, it will be with different people, even
Speaker 3: at a new job, but those same emotions will be
Speaker 3: triggered again because your being is required to feel them.
Speaker 3: If a tough emotion is coming up for you, what
Speaker 3: if you let it day. Our emotions are the guests
Speaker 3: in our house. They're meant to come in for a
Speaker 3: meal or some tea biscuit if you will, and then
Speaker 3: they're meant to go. We're not meant to repeatedly tune
Speaker 3: into negative emotions or painful experiences, and we're not meant
Speaker 3: to shut the door to them and never let them in.
Speaker 3: Let them men, feel them, and then release them, let
Speaker 3: them go. What if you let the pain of the breakup,
Speaker 3: the pain of getting fired, the pain of the friendship ending.
Speaker 3: What if you let it in for ten minutes, just
Speaker 3: cry it out, let yourself feel it, journaled about it.
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's all you need a quick cry and you're
Speaker 3: good to go. It's kind of like a car wash,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. You just get in and
Speaker 3: you get out. I want to bring our attention to
Speaker 3: page one h two. Pain can be the portal if
Speaker 3: you let it. Pain can lead us back home to ourselves.
Speaker 3: When I was dealing with my anxient attachment map in
Speaker 3: relation to my boyfriend feeling abandoned all the time, this
Speaker 3: caused me great pain. If this pain had never been triggered,
Speaker 3: I would not have known there was something that needed
Speaker 3: to be healed within me. Our pain can be transmuted
Speaker 3: into our power when we take responsibility for our emotions
Speaker 3: and get curious about the root of them. This pain
Speaker 3: showed me what wounds were exposed, so I could nourish
Speaker 3: them with love. Instead of acting out from my attachment map,
Speaker 3: I had the chance to find myself and go back
Speaker 3: home to my home frequency, which is positive bitch frequency.
Speaker 3: Since we have been programmed to push down our emotions,
Speaker 3: many of us feel like we're not allowed to feel anything.
Speaker 3: To take our power back, we must give ourselves permission
Speaker 3: to let our emotions come to the surface so that
Speaker 3: the energy can be transmitted into positive bitch frequency. So
Speaker 3: what I want us to do here and I give
Speaker 3: you the script in the book, But I want us
Speaker 3: to give ourselves permission to feel our suffering. We've been
Speaker 3: told don't cry. Oh, you're gonna be fine, You'll find
Speaker 3: someone else, blah blah blah. We have been told time
Speaker 3: and time again to shut down our emotions. So many
Speaker 3: of us feel like it's a damn sin if we
Speaker 3: feel what we want to feel like we have to
Speaker 3: act tough all the time, that everything has to be fine. No,
Speaker 3: it doesn't. If you are not feeling fine, don't feel fine.
Speaker 3: Let yourself cry, let yourself feel to give yourself permission,
Speaker 3: Say I, and then state your name, so I see,
Speaker 3: see have the divine right to feel my emotions completely,
Speaker 3: fully and thoroughly. I give myself permission to acknowledge and
Speaker 3: experience the energy in emotion that is within me. I
Speaker 3: welcome my emotions to the forefront of my being. I
Speaker 3: am feeling to heal, and it feels so good to
Speaker 3: do so. We have to instruct our subconscious mind to
Speaker 3: allow us to tap into the emotions that are lying dormant.
Speaker 3: We need to instruct our inner being that we're finally
Speaker 3: strong enough and ready to feel to heal. Suffering is
Speaker 3: not necessarily a negative thing. It's a part of the
Speaker 3: human experience, feeling our own suffering and letting it be there, ironically,
Speaker 3: is what allows it to leave. We're not trying to
Speaker 3: outrun our pain. We're not trying to be in denial
Speaker 3: that we have negative emotions, and we are not ignored
Speaker 3: our own suffering. No, no, no, we are humans and
Speaker 3: these experiences are part of being human. You, on some level,
Speaker 3: as a soul, decided to incarnate on this planet during
Speaker 3: this time, and you agreed to feel these emotions. Your soul,
Speaker 3: which is eternal, understands that these feelings are very temporary.
Speaker 3: These feelings are for now, They are not forever. We
Speaker 3: are one with nature, and just as nature has seasons,
Speaker 3: so do we. And if you've had difficult season after
Speaker 3: difficult season after difficult season, start celebrating because there's polarity
Speaker 3: in this universe and that means up next is positive
Speaker 3: seasons of celebration. As far as the pendulum swings in
Speaker 3: one direction, it must always swing in the opposite equal direction.
Speaker 3: In my Bible, there is a chart and it says
Speaker 3: how to endure suffering. And I want us to break
Speaker 3: it down here. Okay, the wrong ways to react to suffering.
Speaker 3: Number one, demand to know, Oh the feminine urge to
Speaker 3: know why. It is prevalent it is, it's a mind
Speaker 3: virus in itself. I need to know why. I need
Speaker 3: to know why. I need to know why, Baby girl,
Speaker 3: you might not ever know why, at least not as
Speaker 3: your human self. Maybe in your next incarnation, maybe in
Speaker 3: the space in between, but you might not ever know why.
Speaker 3: Why is not as important as accepting the current season
Speaker 3: and feeling the emotion. Why is not as important as
Speaker 3: what can I learn from this experience. I always think
Speaker 3: about my uncle, who is six foot four and he's
Speaker 3: in his form now, but when he was seventeen years old,
Speaker 3: he was sitting on top of a car and his
Speaker 3: friend played a joke on him and started speeding, then
Speaker 3: slammed on the brakes and my uncle fell off the car.
Speaker 3: And ever since seventeen years old, he's brain damaged, so
Speaker 3: he can't walk, he can't talk, he can't communicate, he
Speaker 3: can barely eat on his own, he can kind of crawl,
Speaker 3: he can't use the bathroom. And something my grandma always
Speaker 3: says to me, it it hurts my heart because I
Speaker 3: see the paint it has in her being. And she
Speaker 3: always says, Cecie, why, like why would this happen to me?
Speaker 3: Why would this happen to me? And I add to
Speaker 3: tell her Grandma, I don't think, as Rosalie, you'll ever
Speaker 3: know why? And I don't know that is the important
Speaker 3: part here. I think the important part here is you
Speaker 3: showed unconditional love to your son. I think the important
Speaker 3: part here is you showed you know, forty something grandchildren
Speaker 3: with unconditional love looks like. I think the important part
Speaker 3: here is feeling the experience, not just knowing the why,
Speaker 3: the why, the why. Instead of knowing the why, how
Speaker 3: can we shift this to a higher perspective and say, well,
Speaker 3: what am I learning here? Unconditional love service to other
Speaker 3: Instead of trying to chase the why? Can you transmit
Speaker 3: this question and say what am I learning? Because what
Speaker 3: am I learning will lead us to self discovery, It
Speaker 3: will lead us deeper. Why leads us into a never
Speaker 3: ending spiral and maybe we'll land on an answer, But
Speaker 3: it doesn't mean that it's even the correct one. Another
Speaker 3: wrong way to suffer is to withdraw from God and
Speaker 3: withdraw from others. Don't isolate yourself from God. Sometimes we
Speaker 3: need to take a step back from being around other people.
Speaker 3: Sometimes we need to just be in our own energy,
Speaker 3: in our own space. That's understandable. I get that, fine,
Speaker 3: but don't withdraw from God. Every time I go through
Speaker 3: a painful experience, it is like a deeper bridge into
Speaker 3: the divinity. Because every single time I have suffering or
Speaker 3: pain or heartbreak and I feel like, why is this
Speaker 3: happening to me, I immediately say, oh, my God, have mercy
Speaker 3: on me for forgetting that I think I know all
Speaker 3: when really, you know, all have mercy on me for
Speaker 3: forgetting that God has plans for me to prosper. God
Speaker 3: has plans for me to do greatness. Here I am sitting,
Speaker 3: Oh poor me, this is horrid. Well, I'm having heartbreak
Speaker 3: and I'm literally forgetting the fact that everything's working out
Speaker 3: for me, that God is always by my side. In fact,
Speaker 3: this painful experience is actually showing me that God is
Speaker 3: pretty protecting me. Because no, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 3: it's not rejection, it's divine protection. I have created a
Speaker 3: meaning for pain, and every time it happens, I label
Speaker 3: it as and God is protecting me, and God wants
Speaker 3: me closer to Him, and God's reminding me to focus
Speaker 3: on Him, not just this three D play that I'm experiencing.
Speaker 3: Another wrong way is to decide the limits of your
Speaker 3: own endurance, to be impatient with God and seek your
Speaker 3: own remedies. Don't become impatient with God so much so
Speaker 3: that you are going to the alcohol, You're going to
Speaker 3: the binging, You're going to those lower vibrational habits. Sit
Speaker 3: in it, Sit in it. The cure is talking to God.
Speaker 3: The cure is connecting to Jesus. The cure is calling
Speaker 3: on your angels. It's not in the bottle, it's not
Speaker 3: in the flesh, it's not in the person. I repeatedly
Speaker 3: have place my trust in people, in men, in boyfriends,
Speaker 3: and I think that we by accident idolize these people,
Speaker 3: and that makes some false idols, and that almost puts
Speaker 3: them above God because we end up giving them all
Speaker 3: of our attention and our affection. We become obsessed, and
Speaker 3: then we don't pray as much, we don't pay attention
Speaker 3: to ourselves as much. We lose ourselves in that stuff.
Speaker 3: So I think that we gotta take a step back,
Speaker 3: sometimes even from our own desires because we think that
Speaker 3: they're the remedy. We think I just need marriage, or
Speaker 3: I just need a relationship, or I just need that job,
Speaker 3: or I just need that city, or I just need anything.
Speaker 3: When really we think we need something because we think
Speaker 3: it's going to give us some sort of fulfillment. But
Speaker 3: what if the real fulfillment is through God. I mean,
Speaker 3: I've had, you know, months of great financial success or
Speaker 3: with followers and social media stuff. Eh yeah, okay, cool
Speaker 3: for the moment. But nothing feels as fel feeling as
Speaker 3: connecting to the divine. Nothing is as longstanding, beneficial, or
Speaker 3: as loving. Do not give up to despair, Do not
Speaker 3: delude yourself, Do not indulge yourself, Do not become angry,
Speaker 3: and do not become depressed. So these are all the
Speaker 3: things we don't want to do, and how do we
Speaker 3: not do them? I really think we have to repeatedly
Speaker 3: and consistently remind ourselves over and over and over again.
Speaker 3: If this is happening to me, it must be happening
Speaker 3: for me. If this is occurring in my reality, there's
Speaker 3: something I'm not seeing that God knows, and therefore I'm
Speaker 3: being protected. I recently went through some weird, weird experience
Speaker 3: with a weird person, okay, and I am writing about
Speaker 3: this in my next book, So I cannot wait and
Speaker 3: I will give you all the details.
Speaker 1: I'm not.
Speaker 3: I am not leaving out anything in the book anyway.
Speaker 3: But when this situation with this person ended, it was
Speaker 3: like whiplash because I do not even understand hindsight is
Speaker 3: twenty twenty, babe. Anyway, I was like, God, why would
Speaker 3: you put me through that just for it to end
Speaker 3: like this? Why would I go through this experience just
Speaker 3: for this to end so quickly and abruptly and weirdly?
Speaker 3: Like what was the point of any of that? Why?
Speaker 3: There we go? I'm asking why the first thing not
Speaker 3: to do? And then I started crying in my car
Speaker 3: because I'm like, silly me, silly me thinking I have
Speaker 3: to know why right now. Silly me thinking I'll ever
Speaker 3: know why. Silly me forgetting that there is a greater
Speaker 3: plan on my life. Silly me forgetting that this is protection.
Speaker 3: Silly me forgetting that God is in control here and
Speaker 3: if someone's meant to be in my life, they're going
Speaker 3: to be in my life and there's no offends or
Speaker 3: butts about that. Why would I become depressed about being protected?
Speaker 3: Why would I become in despair because I'm being redirected
Speaker 3: to something better. I made a Reel the other day,
Speaker 3: and I said, every time my heart breaks, I become
Speaker 3: more of a lover girl because I'm recognizing that every
Speaker 3: situation I'm entering into and dating, they're getting better and
Speaker 3: better and better, even if they end abruptly or not
Speaker 3: so great. But I'm seeing, Okay, I'm getting closer to
Speaker 3: what I want. None of these things are that bad.
Speaker 3: So oh my god, what's actually for me must be
Speaker 3: freaking amazing. It must be beyond my comprehension, beyond what
Speaker 3: I can conceive. And I allow myself to actually get
Speaker 3: excited from the suffering, excited from the pain, because if
Speaker 3: this was an okay experience, or I really like this person,
Speaker 3: what is it going to feel like when I actually
Speaker 3: find that person who's meant to stay with me? That
Speaker 3: must be this but on steroids. I can't wait for that.
Speaker 3: Let's talk about the right ways to endure suffering. Number one,
Speaker 3: be content to know who is in charge. I personally
Speaker 3: love letting go and letting God. That can be your mantra.
Speaker 3: I let go and I let God, or I let
Speaker 3: go and I let flow, because then instead of me
Speaker 3: thinking I have to control everything, I have to be
Speaker 3: in the driver's seat. I can just say, huh, God
Speaker 3: will take care of it. If it's meant to be,
Speaker 3: it shall be. It's working out in my favor, it's
Speaker 3: working for me. Everything's working to my benefit. So if
Speaker 3: something's leaving my life, it's meant to go to make
Speaker 3: room for something better. What do you think feels better?
Speaker 3: I have to control everything, and if I don't control everything,
Speaker 3: then everything's gonna fall apart. Or I can just give
Speaker 3: it up to God and it will be done for me.
Speaker 3: It's like a pretty easy answer, I personally feel anyway.
Speaker 3: Number two, acknowledge that He is with you, pray all
Speaker 3: the more. You know. What's so interesting? The other day,
Speaker 3: I was at the park and I was feeling kind
Speaker 3: of low. I was feeling kind of down, okay, and
Speaker 3: I had like sad music on. I was like, what
Speaker 3: am I doing? I was letting myself feel what I
Speaker 3: wanted to feel. And then I was like, okay, let's
Speaker 3: change some music. Let's get into some worship tunes. Okay,
Speaker 3: And I instead reminded myself once again, oh my God,
Speaker 3: I have so much to be grateful for. Why am
Speaker 3: I praying to God pleading with him? When I should
Speaker 3: be praising him for what I do have, because I
Speaker 3: have so many things that a couple of years ago
Speaker 3: I was praying for a couple months ago, I was
Speaker 3: praying for I now have it. When you're in that
Speaker 3: state of oh my God, I hate everything, I feel depressed.
Speaker 3: Out of that, put on worship music and remember who
Speaker 3: the f you are, Remember what you have, Remember the
Speaker 3: Lord your God. Okay, because even in unknown seasons, we
Speaker 3: have a known God. Let him fight your battles for you.
Speaker 3: I remember asking God, God, I'm so tired of fighting.
Speaker 3: I'm so tired of doing this. And you know what
Speaker 3: he said, Ceci, Then stop. You're choosing to fight with
Speaker 3: your free will. You're trying to drag people into your reality.
Speaker 3: You're trying to claw them down, and you gotta let
Speaker 3: go or be dragged. Babe, what do you want to
Speaker 3: do if you're tired of fighting? Simply stop? What are
Speaker 3: we doing? Now? I get it, but what are we doing?
Speaker 3: Keep fellowship with believers When you're feeling down, connect to
Speaker 3: someone who all so knows God because they will mirror you.
Speaker 3: They will reflect you. Listen. I know sometimes things are weird,
Speaker 3: sometimes things are crazy. Sometimes we don't understand why everything
Speaker 3: is unfolding in the way it is. But it doesn't
Speaker 3: mean that the dolts aren't gonna connect in your highest favor.
Speaker 3: Know that God sets and knows your limits. This is
Speaker 3: kind of like the quote God gives his battles to
Speaker 3: those who can handle them, and the tougher battles go
Speaker 3: to the strongest soldiers. I really do think the higher
Speaker 3: the call on your life, the harder the experiences you're
Speaker 3: probably gonna go through because you can't be like everyone
Speaker 3: else if you're meant to be their leader, you can't.
Speaker 3: You're gonna have to experience life differently. You're gonna need
Speaker 3: more time and solitude. You're gonna need more time to
Speaker 3: be with just you and get to know you. I
Speaker 3: think that we don't know our own strength, and the
Speaker 3: only way to find out what we're capable of is
Speaker 3: to go through some things and get out the other side.
Speaker 3: And every time I think I can't handle something, I'm
Speaker 3: like CC. But you've been through X, Y and Z
Speaker 3: and you got out of there. And yet maybe I
Speaker 3: am not where I want to be, but I'm also
Speaker 3: not where I was. And oh my god, I've been
Speaker 3: to a lot of places, and oh my god, I
Speaker 3: got out of there, and oh my God, like it
Speaker 3: where I am now, and oh my God, I can
Speaker 3: do it again. And when you think you can't, you must.
Speaker 3: And that's the truth of it. Wait for its perfect timing.
Speaker 3: We know that we can't control winter, spring, fall, summer.
Speaker 3: We know it's divine timing that these seasons come in.
Speaker 3: It's the law of nature, it's the love of one.
Speaker 3: We know. Just because you want your baby to get
Speaker 3: out of your stomach in two months doesn't mean it's
Speaker 3: gonna happen, because there's divine timing. If you want to
Speaker 3: ignore divine timing, you totally can, but you're gonna frustrate yourself.
Speaker 3: If you're struggling with divine timing, it just means that
Speaker 3: you need to fulfill your present moment a little bit more.
Speaker 3: I just signed up for a cooking class. I've been
Speaker 3: signing up for energy classes. Get busy with things that
Speaker 3: you want to learn. Become an interesting person, what a concept.
Speaker 3: Put yourself in new experiences and new environments. Meet new people,
Speaker 3: because really, when do we rush to the next phase
Speaker 3: of our life, it's when we're not happy in the
Speaker 3: current one. Maybe God wants to show you some things
Speaker 3: in this current season and you're being invited to meet
Speaker 3: new people, trying new things, but all you're doing is
Speaker 3: trying to rush to the next one. What does this
Speaker 3: season have to offer you? Trust the Lord to guide.
Speaker 3: Of course, get on that prayer game, even if you're
Speaker 3: just talking to the divine, even if you're just asking
Speaker 3: your spirit guides, your angels to step in and help you.
Speaker 3: And if you want to learn how to connect with
Speaker 3: your spirit guides in a safe way, you can get
Speaker 3: my book Show up as her Wait upon the Lord,
Speaker 3: Seek the Truth, keep pure, master your anger, and hope
Speaker 3: in the Lord. That's a big one. That's a big
Speaker 3: one because I feel like we put our hope in people.
Speaker 3: We're in situationships and we're hoping they're gonna change, hoping
Speaker 3: they're gonna ask us out, hoping they're gonna be the
Speaker 3: guy that we want them to be. Instead of doing
Speaker 3: that hope in God that he's going to deliver the
Speaker 3: right person at the right time. Because God won't disappoint you,
Speaker 3: and if anything, he'll just surprise you with something better.
Speaker 3: But He's not gonna disappoint you. And I can't say
Speaker 3: that for the mere mortals of this planet. I can't.
Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. Some people may disappoint you. They may,
Speaker 3: but you know who won't God. So don't put your
Speaker 3: trust in Harry and David. Put your trust in God
Speaker 3: to bring you the right person at the right time.
Speaker 3: And another thing about suffering is I recently started reading
Speaker 3: The Game of Life and there's this really interesting concept.
Speaker 3: It's actually something that my dad always says. He always says, Cecie,
Speaker 3: once you meet your person, everyone else you're just gonna
Speaker 3: forget about. You won't care about an X or a
Speaker 3: situationship or anything else, because when you meet your person,
Speaker 3: it's like none of those things ever even happens. You
Speaker 3: forget about it because you're so happy in the moment.
Speaker 3: And in this book, the author talks about something called
Speaker 3: the law of substitution. I think this is important because
Speaker 3: sometimes we're harping on the current circumstance when another circumstance
Speaker 3: is eventually going to supersede this one, and it's gonna
Speaker 3: feel so much better, and you're gonna forget this one
Speaker 3: ever even existed. You're not gonna care. One of the
Speaker 3: great mental laws is a law of substitution. This means
Speaker 3: that the only way to get rid of a certain
Speaker 3: thought is to substitute it for another one. You cannot
Speaker 3: necessarily dismiss a thought directly, but you can do so
Speaker 3: by substituting the bad thought for a better one. And
Speaker 3: in the book, the example they give is there is
Speaker 3: this woman, So let's just call this woman Becky. Becky
Speaker 3: goes to the author and she says, can you please
Speaker 3: speak life over my relationship? Can you make my man
Speaker 3: into the man that I need him to be. I'm
Speaker 3: obsessed with him, I'm in love with him. And the
Speaker 3: author says, I can't make your current partner your dream partner. However,
Speaker 3: I can ask and I can state that your dream
Speaker 3: partner will come in. And what ends up happening is
Speaker 3: the woman naturally lost a traction for her current partner,
Speaker 3: and a better man did step in. And this is
Speaker 3: the law of substitution. The author is trying to illustrate
Speaker 3: that the right idea can replace the wrong one and
Speaker 3: will get so much more joy from it. Instead of
Speaker 3: harping on the specific circumstance, think about what it is
Speaker 3: that you want to feel. Instead of saying it has
Speaker 3: to be this person, say to yourself, know the feeling
Speaker 3: I want to to feel. Fulfilled because the wrong person
Speaker 3: can't give you the right emotion and the right fulfillment.
Speaker 3: And make some room because maybe it's not this person.
Speaker 3: Maybe it's someone better. Maybe it's not this position, it's
Speaker 3: something better. Our ceiling is God's floor. We don't know
Speaker 3: it all, which we say a lot on this podcast.
Speaker 3: Instead of striving for what we think is best for us,
Speaker 3: let's instead think about, well, what do I want to feel?
Speaker 3: What do I want to experience? Okay, let me state
Speaker 3: that the right person will come in, the right career
Speaker 3: will come in, the right opportunity will come in where
Speaker 3: I feel aligned and happy and joyful, instead of it
Speaker 3: has to be this person, this thing, and if it
Speaker 3: doesn't happen, then I don't like you got anymore and
Speaker 3: I'm mad. No, No, That is getting lost in the
Speaker 3: sauce girl. That is forgetting that this is a three
Speaker 3: D play and we are so much more than this.
Speaker 3: I mean, zoom out a little bit, zoom out, zoom out,
Speaker 3: take a deep breath. I've had to a lot this week.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, but zoom out. We're getting lost in
Speaker 3: it sometimes and we're forgetting why we're here. We're getting
Speaker 3: obsessed with Harry and forgetting that. Wait a second, Harry's
Speaker 3: literally an alcoholic and I can probably do better. The
Speaker 3: last thing I really want to talk about is just
Speaker 3: be careful about how you label your suffering. I think
Speaker 3: we get lost in it so much that we sometimes
Speaker 3: can miss the fact that our triggers are sent to
Speaker 3: teach us, and our triggers are trying to break us
Speaker 3: open so we can let the light in our pain.
Speaker 3: Our suffering can be used against us, or we can
Speaker 3: use it to our advantage and we can get better.
Speaker 3: So what is this season of difficulty training you for?
Speaker 3: What is it teaching you? What is it showing you?
Speaker 3: Are you becoming more discerning? Are you understanding more about yourself,
Speaker 3: your attachment system? What is it trying to show you?
Speaker 3: Because I truly don't believe it's here for no good reason.
Speaker 3: How are you labeling your suffering? Because if you're telling
Speaker 3: yourself that all these bad things are happening to you
Speaker 3: and you're never looking for a silver lining, you're going
Speaker 3: to cause a lot of lower vibrational emotions to be elicited,
Speaker 3: and it's not even true. If you're going to talk
Speaker 3: to yourself, don't lie to yourself. Look for this silver lining.
Speaker 3: Look for the lesson instead, because that's always going to
Speaker 3: be closer to the truth of what's occurring in your life.
Speaker 3: We don't want to miss out on the lessons because
Speaker 3: we're too focused on the losers. Okay, leave the losers,
Speaker 3: take the lessons. It's also worth asking yourself, is there
Speaker 3: a way I can use my suffering to my advantage.
Speaker 3: That's what I love to do. I really do love
Speaker 3: to do it because suffering, if you think about it,
Speaker 3: it's just another energy form. And when we're suffering, we're
Speaker 3: really feeling a lot of angst, a lot of anxiety,
Speaker 3: and it's like a build up of energy. What are
Speaker 3: you gonna do with all that energy? What are you
Speaker 3: gonna do with all that energy? I personally like to create.
Speaker 3: I'll write a book. I'll write a damn second book.
Speaker 3: I will create a TikTok, a real a podcast. Suffering. Really,
Speaker 3: when we break it down, it's just amped up energy.
Speaker 3: It's lower vibrational energy. Sure, but you can transmute that.
Speaker 3: You can make the pain into the portal. You can
Speaker 3: make that energy work for you, giving you an extra
Speaker 3: ump to stay later at work, to do more of
Speaker 3: a workout. When you get home, to write the book,
Speaker 3: to do whatever. I am going to use all of
Speaker 3: my energy, even when it's lower in vibration, even when
Speaker 3: it's negative, even when it's said, I'm gonna use it
Speaker 3: in my own life. If there's energy to be used,
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna sit on it like an egg. It's
Speaker 3: not gonna hatch. I want to move it through my body.
Speaker 3: Go do that yoga workout, go create that podcast, use
Speaker 3: your stuff ring because it's just energy. Use your suffering
Speaker 3: so it cannot use you. So there are moments when
Speaker 3: you're gonna want to cry it out, scream it out,
Speaker 3: talk to God, whatever. And then in other moments when
Speaker 3: you feel like there's no more room for that for
Speaker 3: that day, go create something. And now that's suffering that
Speaker 3: was sent to destroy you actually just making you stronger.
Speaker 3: As always the sparkling me honors of sparkling you. I
Speaker 3: love you so much and I will see you in
Speaker 3: the next one.
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