1 00:00:06,240 --> 00:00:11,519 Speaker 1: Welcome to lat Subject podcast. Our mission at Vladimiry Subject 2 00:00:11,519 --> 00:00:17,519 Ministries is to reach the world globally and disciple them digitally. 3 00:00:18,199 --> 00:00:21,280 Let's dive into this episode. 4 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:25,640 Speaker 2: They I want to talk about something that destroys more 5 00:00:25,679 --> 00:00:31,079 relationships churches and ministries than almost anything else. It's not adultery, 6 00:00:31,239 --> 00:00:34,799 it's not theft, and it's not even a false doctrine. 7 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:36,280 Speaker 3: I'm talking about gossip. 8 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 2: Gossip is one of the most tolerated sins in the church, 9 00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:43,880 yet the Book of Proverbs speaks very strongly against them 10 00:00:44,079 --> 00:00:46,679 Proverbs eighteen eight. It says the words of a tail 11 00:00:46,719 --> 00:00:50,359 bearer are like tasty trifles, and they go down into 12 00:00:50,399 --> 00:00:54,280 the inmost body. In other words, gossip feels sweet when 13 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:58,479 we hear it. It does satisfy our curiosity, it entertains 14 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:01,600 our minds, and sometimes actually makes us feel very important. 15 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:03,439 Speaker 3: But Solomon says that those. 16 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 2: Words go deep into the heart, and they actually poison 17 00:01:06,280 --> 00:01:09,120 us and poison our relationships. Today, I want to show 18 00:01:09,159 --> 00:01:12,000 you what gossip actually is. What does the Bible say 19 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:14,400 about it? So what is gossip According to the Book 20 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:17,079 of Proverbs. The Hebrew word that is used in the 21 00:01:17,079 --> 00:01:20,599 Book of Proverbs for gossip or tail bearer is this 22 00:01:20,680 --> 00:01:25,359 word that describes a whisperer, a slenderer, somebody who spreads rumors, 23 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:29,159 and somebody who secretly carries stories from a person to 24 00:01:29,200 --> 00:01:31,959 a person. So a tailbearer or a gossiper is someone 25 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:35,599 who passes negative information about someone who is not present, 26 00:01:36,239 --> 00:01:39,239 not to help them, not to heal a situation, but 27 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:43,040 to actually just spread it. Solomon describes a person who 28 00:01:43,079 --> 00:01:47,000 is quietly carrying these stories to damage others, and he's 29 00:01:47,079 --> 00:01:51,480 spreading them like a messenger delivering poison. What does the 30 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:55,560 gossip do according to the Bible Now Proverbs eleven thirteen, 31 00:01:55,599 --> 00:01:59,239 it says a tailbearer reveals secrets, but he who is 32 00:01:59,280 --> 00:02:04,000 of a faithful spirit conceals a matter. A trustworthy person 33 00:02:04,359 --> 00:02:09,840 will protect confidential information. A gossip exposes which should not 34 00:02:10,039 --> 00:02:13,560 be exposed what should be covered. Proverbs sixteen twenty eight 35 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:18,400 talks about a perverse man sow's strife, and a whisperer. 36 00:02:18,479 --> 00:02:21,560 A gossipers separates the best of friends. 37 00:02:21,599 --> 00:02:22,360 Speaker 3: That's crazy. 38 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:27,159 Speaker 2: Gossip destroys relationships that used to be strong, where people 39 00:02:27,319 --> 00:02:30,919 used to be close. Send gossip there and there goes. 40 00:02:31,599 --> 00:02:36,280 Proverbs seventeen nine says he who covers a transgression seeks love. 41 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:40,360 But he who repeats a matter separates friends, meaning love 42 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:44,159 covers mistakes. Now this doesn't mean that we ignore mistakes, 43 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:48,919 but there's a covering that happens, whereas gossip repeats them 44 00:02:49,319 --> 00:02:54,240 exposes them in a way that actually separates good friends. 45 00:02:54,319 --> 00:02:57,960 The scripture says in Proverbs twenty nineteen, he who goes 46 00:02:58,039 --> 00:03:01,840 about as a tail bearer feel secrets. Therefore, do not 47 00:03:01,960 --> 00:03:05,879 associate with him who flatters with his lips. So Solomon 48 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:11,080 warns that gossipers are a dangerous company Proverbs twenty six 49 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:14,400 to twenty. Where there is no wood, the fire goes out, yes, 50 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:19,120 And when there is no tail bearer a gossiper, strife seizes. 51 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:24,719 So gossip fuels conflict the same way wood fuels fire. 52 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:25,759 Speaker 3: That's crazy. 53 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:30,159 Speaker 2: Proverbs twenty six twenty one says a charcoal is to 54 00:03:30,280 --> 00:03:34,479 burning coals, and wood to fire. So is contentious men 55 00:03:34,759 --> 00:03:39,280 to kindle strife, meaning some people keep drama alive by 56 00:03:39,439 --> 00:03:43,960 spreading stories and lies. The words of a tailbearer I 57 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:46,719 mentioned already in the beginning of this video are like 58 00:03:46,919 --> 00:03:51,360 tasty trifles, but they will go down into your inmost body, 59 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:54,840 meaning gossip is attractive to listen to, but it's extremely 60 00:03:54,919 --> 00:03:59,080 poisonous to the soul. Here are the signs you might 61 00:03:59,159 --> 00:04:03,159 be gossiping without realizing. The first one is you talk 62 00:04:03,199 --> 00:04:08,360 about someone instead of talking to them, Instead of resolving 63 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:11,319 this issue directly with the person, the story begins to 64 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:14,120 travel from a person to a person, and the person 65 00:04:14,159 --> 00:04:18,759 that it travels through is you. Secondly, you're sharing information 66 00:04:19,199 --> 00:04:22,600 that is not yours to share. If someone trusted you 67 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:28,240 with something personal and you repeat it, your gossiping. Number 68 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:34,480 three is conversation damages someone's reputation. So even if the 69 00:04:34,519 --> 00:04:40,759 story is true, by you repeating it unnecessarily causes someone's 70 00:04:40,759 --> 00:04:45,160 reputation to be tarnished, and that is a form of gossip. 71 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:49,600 Number four is you feel excited when you share negative 72 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:55,319 information about someone. Now, the proverb says, it's like sweet food. 73 00:04:56,000 --> 00:05:00,480 It feels enjoyable, but it's extremely destructive. It's bad for 74 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:03,160 your stomach, it's bad for your relationships, it's bad for 75 00:05:03,199 --> 00:05:03,920 your mental health. 76 00:05:04,000 --> 00:05:06,199 Speaker 3: Number five is you would not say. 77 00:05:06,040 --> 00:05:08,920 Speaker 2: Exactly the same thing if that person would have been 78 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:14,279 standing there, if their presence would have stopped the conversation. 79 00:05:15,319 --> 00:05:20,000 Often what you're talking about them is actually gossip. Now 80 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:22,120 you may say a lied, But what about if I 81 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,920 am confining in a friend in the pastor and I'm 82 00:05:24,920 --> 00:05:25,560 getting help. 83 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:26,439 Speaker 3: That's different. 84 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,040 Speaker 2: So what is the difference between gossip and seeking help? 85 00:05:30,120 --> 00:05:34,720 When you seek help, you're seeking help, not drama. For example, 86 00:05:34,759 --> 00:05:37,680 you're saying, Hey, I'm struggling to forgive someone. Can you 87 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:41,680 pray with me? That's different than you're spreading confidential information 88 00:05:42,199 --> 00:05:43,600 and talking bad about someone. 89 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:44,199 Speaker 3: Number two. 90 00:05:44,319 --> 00:05:47,879 Speaker 2: Difference between gossip and seeking help is the person you're 91 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:53,120 talking to is wise and trusted. You're speaking to a pastor, 92 00:05:53,120 --> 00:05:57,079 a counselor a friend or a mature friend or a mentor, 93 00:05:57,199 --> 00:05:59,279 so you're not just telling it to somebody who will 94 00:05:59,439 --> 00:06:03,560 be listening to it for sympathy. Number three, the goal 95 00:06:03,959 --> 00:06:06,959 is for you to get guidance. The goal is for 96 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:10,560 you to get some deliverance or some healing, accountability and prayer. 97 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:12,759 The goal isn't for you to just get sympathy, meaning 98 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:14,439 you're looking for guidance, Hey, what should I do? 99 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:17,439 Speaker 3: Am I wrong? How should I behave in this area? 100 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:20,920 Speaker 2: Number four, The difference in gossip and seeking help is 101 00:06:20,959 --> 00:06:26,680 that you're protecting the person's dignity by not sharing unnecessary 102 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:30,560 details the moment you feel like you need to share 103 00:06:30,720 --> 00:06:33,639 all the details. Many times what happens is you expose 104 00:06:33,720 --> 00:06:36,800 the other person. You can share, even with the person 105 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:40,160 you're looking for help certain parts about a situation that 106 00:06:40,199 --> 00:06:43,879 you're going through without throwing that person under the bus. 107 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:44,839 Speaker 3: Number five is. 108 00:06:44,879 --> 00:06:47,160 Speaker 2: You're willing to talk to the person you have a 109 00:06:47,199 --> 00:06:50,759 problem with directly. So let's say you've got an issue 110 00:06:50,759 --> 00:06:53,480 with this person, you go to your mentor and you say, hey, 111 00:06:53,519 --> 00:06:57,399 I got this issue, and biblically speaking, according to Matthew 112 00:06:57,519 --> 00:07:01,279 chapter eighteen, for the reconciliation to happen, no amount of 113 00:07:01,319 --> 00:07:05,120 going to your pastor or to your mentor makes it 114 00:07:05,199 --> 00:07:08,759 easier for you or takes away from your responsibility to 115 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:11,519 actually go to that person that you have a problem with. 116 00:07:11,720 --> 00:07:15,879 Healthy sharing with your mentor has to lead to Matthew 117 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:19,439 eighteen reconciliation where you have to go and have a 118 00:07:19,439 --> 00:07:25,040 difficult conversation perhaps with a difficult person, which is going 119 00:07:25,079 --> 00:07:28,079 to potentially resolve this problem and you can have even 120 00:07:28,079 --> 00:07:31,360 a closer relationship. That's why it's dangerous when you have 121 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:34,920 went and spread all these things about them, and then 122 00:07:34,959 --> 00:07:37,920 you went to them, you clarified misconceptions. 123 00:07:38,079 --> 00:07:41,120 Speaker 3: You went to them, you worked out everything. 124 00:07:41,120 --> 00:07:45,399 Speaker 2: And now you left impression of this person everybody's mind 125 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:48,079 that there's such a terrible person, when in reality, there 126 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:51,120 was a misunderstanding or an issue was between you and them, 127 00:07:51,439 --> 00:07:54,240 and you can resolve it by having a conversation with them. 128 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:59,120 Gossip damages so many relationships. I cannot tell you how 129 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:01,639 dangerous it is, and being at the front row of 130 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:05,120 how gossip destroys relationships and hurts the church, I can 131 00:08:05,160 --> 00:08:07,439 tell you that it's probably one of the most dangerous 132 00:08:07,480 --> 00:08:10,920 things that is happening in churches and teams today. Here 133 00:08:10,959 --> 00:08:14,800 are seven signs that you're surrounded by a gossiping culture 134 00:08:15,079 --> 00:08:17,639 in the church, in the ministry, or in the team. 135 00:08:17,759 --> 00:08:22,399 Number one is private conversations constantly or revolve around other 136 00:08:22,439 --> 00:08:27,279 people instead of vision, growth, strategy, and holy spirit. Number 137 00:08:27,279 --> 00:08:32,840 two is confidential information spreads quickly, and things shared privately 138 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:38,000 somehow become public knowledge. You go for a confession, you 139 00:08:38,240 --> 00:08:40,639 talk to somebody, get some help, and next thing you know, 140 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:43,720 it becomes a sermon illustration, and next thing you know, 141 00:08:44,279 --> 00:08:47,120 other people are talking about it. And so that's when 142 00:08:47,159 --> 00:08:50,519 you know the culture is gossip culture. It is not 143 00:08:50,879 --> 00:08:55,480 godly culture. Number three is people regularly criticize leaders and 144 00:08:55,600 --> 00:09:01,399 members behind their backs rather than addressing them direct. Gossip 145 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:04,679 culture does not like to go and talk to the person. 146 00:09:04,919 --> 00:09:08,759 It thrives on talking about the person. So you want 147 00:09:08,799 --> 00:09:11,639 to kill the gossip culture. Teach people to go to 148 00:09:11,799 --> 00:09:14,840 people and talk to them instead of talk about them. 149 00:09:15,159 --> 00:09:19,840 Number four is drama seems to follow certain people everywhere 150 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:23,039 they go. And some people they're just like their gift 151 00:09:23,120 --> 00:09:29,000 is drama. Everywhere they come, there's like peace and tranquility, quietness, 152 00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:32,399 until they come. They love to stir up drama. And 153 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:36,600 sometimes those drama queens or drama kings, they're in the 154 00:09:36,639 --> 00:09:39,799 ministries and we tolerate them. We put some bubble wrap 155 00:09:39,840 --> 00:09:43,039 around them because you know, they're relative to some pastor, 156 00:09:43,360 --> 00:09:46,279 or they are relative to this high donor or whatever, 157 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:48,600 and we don't address it and we don't cause those 158 00:09:48,639 --> 00:09:51,440 people to repad Number five is people enjoy negative news 159 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:55,320 about others, and they enjoy news about people's mistakes. And 160 00:09:55,519 --> 00:09:58,919 these topics are topics of excitement. People are not excited 161 00:09:58,960 --> 00:10:02,120 about intercession, they're not excited about prayer, they're not excited 162 00:10:02,159 --> 00:10:05,879 about what God is doing that excited about the latest 163 00:10:05,919 --> 00:10:09,720 spill of what somebody else has done. Number six is 164 00:10:09,840 --> 00:10:14,519 conversations suddenly change when certain people that we talk about 165 00:10:14,759 --> 00:10:17,600 walk into the room. That's when you know the culture 166 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:20,480 is not talking to the people, it's talking about people. 167 00:10:20,559 --> 00:10:26,960 And number seven is division quietly grows. Friendships always get 168 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:32,919 fractured because we repeat stories that create mistrust. Like Proverbs 169 00:10:33,039 --> 00:10:38,080 says Whisperer separates close friends. A gossip culture does not 170 00:10:38,159 --> 00:10:41,799 have friends. A gossip culture does not have peace. A 171 00:10:41,799 --> 00:10:46,240 gossip culture people don't grow. Iron doesn't sharpen iron. The 172 00:10:46,279 --> 00:10:49,039 gossip culture does not honor the Holy Spirit. 173 00:10:49,159 --> 00:10:52,960 Speaker 3: It's a sin. So how to stop gossip? 174 00:10:53,120 --> 00:10:55,600 Speaker 2: One of the most powerful ways to stop gossip is 175 00:10:55,679 --> 00:11:00,240 very simple, refuse to participate. Proverbs twenty six twenty says this, 176 00:11:00,639 --> 00:11:04,120 Where there is no wood, the fire goes out. Gossip 177 00:11:04,440 --> 00:11:08,200 needs an audience. When there's no audience, the fire dies. 178 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:12,320 Sometimes the most spiritual response is saying this, let's pray 179 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:15,120 for this person instead right now, let's stop this person's 180 00:11:15,120 --> 00:11:17,639 going through this, let's pray for them. Or did you 181 00:11:17,679 --> 00:11:20,120 talk to this person yet? No, Well, I don't think 182 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:22,679 we should be talking about this. Why because your problems 183 00:11:22,720 --> 00:11:26,039 with them? You gotta go to them. When gossip finds 184 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:31,000 no listener, it loses its power. So stop the spread 185 00:11:31,039 --> 00:11:34,399 of it. By not giving it your ear, you're not 186 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:37,919 giving it a wood to the fire. Gossip dies. Now, 187 00:11:38,000 --> 00:11:41,840 what happens if you're the one gossiping? What happens if 188 00:11:41,960 --> 00:11:44,720 you're the one that is doing this. So the good news, 189 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:48,200 even if you realize that you've been gossiping, God gives 190 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:49,960 us a way to deal with it. The first thing 191 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:53,159 is you got to repent before God. Ask the Lord 192 00:11:53,159 --> 00:11:56,000 to forgive you for misusing your words. Because the Bible 193 00:11:56,039 --> 00:11:59,000 teaches that your tongue has the power of life and death, 194 00:11:59,039 --> 00:12:00,679 and you've been using it for death. 195 00:12:01,480 --> 00:12:03,360 Speaker 3: You separate friendships, you. 196 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:08,000 Speaker 2: Allow division, and you allow Actually you're not guarding people 197 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:11,639 who gave you confidential information, and what you're doing is wrong. 198 00:12:11,840 --> 00:12:17,200 Secondly is you have to stop repeating those stories immediately. 199 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:21,759 Do not continue spreading what you've already shared. Like stop that, 200 00:12:21,919 --> 00:12:23,879 Jesus tells the woman cut an active adulty. He's like, 201 00:12:23,919 --> 00:12:26,080 don't do that again. I don't judge you, but don't 202 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:29,000 do that again. Number three is you have to correct 203 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:32,480 what you can, if possibly you can clarify the situation 204 00:12:32,600 --> 00:12:34,879 with the people you spoke so that the damage does 205 00:12:34,960 --> 00:12:37,360 not continue. Sometimes you actually have to go to the 206 00:12:37,399 --> 00:12:39,519 people that you gossip and you say, I'm so sorry 207 00:12:39,559 --> 00:12:41,279 I should have not shared that. And the people that 208 00:12:41,320 --> 00:12:43,960 you gossip about you have to tell them that say, 209 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:46,000 I am sorry. I actually spread some things about you 210 00:12:46,039 --> 00:12:49,080 that were not truthful. I am so sorry. Would you 211 00:12:49,120 --> 00:12:51,759 forgive me? I remember this happened to me once. I'm 212 00:12:51,759 --> 00:12:54,440 pretty sure to happen more than once. But this incident, 213 00:12:55,039 --> 00:12:57,559 you know, comes out. Because I'm a pastor, sometimes I 214 00:12:57,759 --> 00:13:01,559 hear private information from people, and sometimes people tell me, 215 00:13:01,600 --> 00:13:04,279 don't tell this to anyone and so and I have 216 00:13:04,399 --> 00:13:07,440 done my best to keep things very confidential to the 217 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:09,679 best of my ability as a pastor, because this is 218 00:13:09,720 --> 00:13:12,519 how my trust is built with people. But this particular time, 219 00:13:12,960 --> 00:13:16,519 one young lady who works for me, she was pregnant, 220 00:13:16,960 --> 00:13:19,279 and I remember that she told me, I think, in 221 00:13:19,279 --> 00:13:21,799 the presence of my wife, you know, hey, I'm pregnant, 222 00:13:21,919 --> 00:13:24,279 and don't tell this to anybody. And I was like, yeah, absolutely, 223 00:13:24,399 --> 00:13:26,200 praise God. You know, we're so happy that's pregnant. And 224 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:28,039 of course we won't tell anybody. This is your news 225 00:13:28,039 --> 00:13:30,720 to tell and The next day or two days later, 226 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:33,600 I was in the family meeting and somehow a conversation 227 00:13:33,720 --> 00:13:36,679 came up about this person and I just blabbed it, 228 00:13:37,039 --> 00:13:38,960 and I just, of course I said this, guys, make 229 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:42,360 sure you don't tell anybody, you know, which is when 230 00:13:42,399 --> 00:13:44,440 you have to do that. When you just promise you 231 00:13:44,480 --> 00:13:47,320 won't tell anybody to this person, now you're telling other 232 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:50,120 people not to tell anybody, like that's gossip. And my 233 00:13:50,200 --> 00:13:52,600 family didn't pay much attention, and I was like, oh, yeah, 234 00:13:52,639 --> 00:13:55,000 that's okay, that's great. Next morning, I am doing my 235 00:13:55,039 --> 00:13:58,120 devotions and I hear like the Holy Spirit brings that up. 236 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:01,080 He said, you promised to her that you will not 237 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:04,919 tell anybody until she announces that news, and now you 238 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:07,440 just went and told your family yesterday. And so I 239 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:10,480 texted her immediately and I said, I am so sorry. 240 00:14:10,679 --> 00:14:13,960 I told my family about this news, and I feel 241 00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:14,639 so embarrassed. 242 00:14:15,919 --> 00:14:16,720 Speaker 3: I am so sorry. 243 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,559 Speaker 2: After that, I can tell you right away that I 244 00:14:19,679 --> 00:14:24,679 became very very conscious. First of all, when somebody comes 245 00:14:24,679 --> 00:14:27,080 and tells me and says, hey, can you not tell anybody, 246 00:14:27,080 --> 00:14:28,720 I say, don't tell me that. I do not want 247 00:14:28,720 --> 00:14:30,919 to know. I want to know less things. I want 248 00:14:30,960 --> 00:14:35,240 to keep less secrets. Secondly, if you're entrusted me with 249 00:14:35,320 --> 00:14:38,440 some secret, I want to guard it. And so it's 250 00:14:38,559 --> 00:14:40,960 very important that we correct what we can. Number four, 251 00:14:41,279 --> 00:14:44,559 guard your tongue going forward. Ask the Holy Spirit to 252 00:14:44,600 --> 00:14:48,000 help you to pause before speaking and examine your motives. 253 00:14:48,279 --> 00:14:51,519 And number five, learn to replace gossip with prayer. Instead 254 00:14:51,519 --> 00:14:54,399 of discussing somebody else's weakness, learn to bring those things 255 00:14:54,399 --> 00:14:57,200 before God in prayer. So as we wrap this up, 256 00:14:57,360 --> 00:14:59,480 the Book of Problems teaches us that the wise people 257 00:14:59,480 --> 00:15:01,759 don't go spreading gossip. 258 00:15:02,039 --> 00:15:02,799 Speaker 3: They stop them. 259 00:15:03,159 --> 00:15:08,480 Speaker 2: So love covers, faithfulness protects trust, and wisdom knows when 260 00:15:08,519 --> 00:15:11,559 conversations should end. So next time somebody brings you a 261 00:15:11,559 --> 00:15:15,240 story about another person, remember Solomon's wisdom. The words of 262 00:15:15,279 --> 00:15:18,720 a tall bearer are like tasty trifles is they go 263 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:23,279 down into your body. Gossip may taste sweet at the moment, 264 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:26,840 but it poisons your heart. It will destroy your friendships. 265 00:15:26,919 --> 00:15:31,080 Choose wisdom, choose love. Choose to guard your tongue, because 266 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:35,240 your words have power to destroy friendships or to protect them. 267 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:36,720 Speaker 3: Protect your friendships. 268 00:15:36,759 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 2: And if you have a problem with somebody, go and 269 00:15:39,279 --> 00:15:43,840 talk to them. Lean into awkward conversations, have difficult conversations 270 00:15:43,879 --> 00:15:48,240 with difficult people, so that you don't fit the criteria 271 00:15:48,440 --> 00:15:50,440 of a gossiper. Thank you for watching this video and 272 00:15:50,440 --> 00:15:52,679 share this video with somebody, maybe a small group or 273 00:15:52,679 --> 00:15:55,440 your church, so that we all can get better at 274 00:15:55,519 --> 00:15:58,679 eliminating gossip from our culture. I hope that this video 275 00:15:58,759 --> 00:16:02,080 helped you to grow in your walk with God. Imagine 276 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:04,799 multiplying that impact through the world. 277 00:16:04,879 --> 00:16:06,159 Speaker 3: Through this ministry. 278 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:11,120 Speaker 2: We've discipled over one hundred and sixty thousand students through 279 00:16:11,200 --> 00:16:16,240 our online school, created over sixty reading plans that over 280 00:16:16,320 --> 00:16:21,039 two million people have completed already, and published resources in 281 00:16:21,120 --> 00:16:24,759 eighteen languages. But our heart is bigger than content. 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