Speaker 1: Hey, if this is the first time that you've joined
me on this experience and this adventure, please visit Arrow
dot net A r r oe dot net. There's so
much more than just the conversations, the interviews, the movies,
the rockstars. Arrow dot Net A r r oe there's
a podcast for everyone. Those old saints, phrases, idioms, expressions,
you know, those things your family and friends usually came
up with, and they came out of nowhere, but only
sometimes they actually made sense. They had to start somewhere, who, what, where, why,
when and how. Some of those old sayts are not
only ancient, but still carry a powerful punch today. In fact,
I live by one of those old saints. Winning is
a choice. The goal of these episodes is to help
preserve not only a language, but lessons in life. My
name is Arrow. Oh here's a good one. Don't speak
unless spoken to. Wow. Writing that actually triggered my inner core.
I mean I can still hear my extremely strict father
getting control as eight children who all seemingly had their
own voice and wanted to be heard. Don't speak unless
spoken to It hails from older traditions of etiquette, authority,
and social hierarchy. Especially in European and English speaking societies.
Don't speak unless spoken to reflects the idea that those
in the lower social positions are expected to remain silent
until a person of higher authority actually addresses them. The
seventeenth to the nineteenth centuries, children were supposed to be
seen but not heard. Not speaking showed obedience patients as
well as discipline. Similar rules exist in armies around the world,
where lower ranking soldiers are required to wait for their orders.
Don't speak unless spoken to isn't from a single book
or author It's a social commandment that grew outward by
higher powers wanting solace. By the eighteen hundreds, it was
very common in households. In fact, I actually use it
with my daily discipline as an interviewer. In those conversations,
I have one technique. Do not jump in. Always let
them finish their thought first. In other words, don't speak
unless spoken to. Something our parents would say, My name
is Arro,