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Speaker 1: Hey, if this is the first time that you've joined

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me on this experience and this adventure, please visit Arrow

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dot net A r r oe dot net. There's so

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much more than just the conversations, the interviews, the movies,

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the rockstars. Arrow dot Net A r r oe there's

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a podcast for everyone. Those old saints, phrases, idioms, expressions,

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you know, those things your family and friends usually came

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up with, and they came out of nowhere, but only

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sometimes they actually made sense. They had to start somewhere, who, what, where, why,

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when and how. Some of those old sayts are not

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only ancient, but still carry a powerful punch today. In fact,

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I live by one of those old saints. Winning is

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a choice. The goal of these episodes is to help

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preserve not only a language, but lessons in life. My

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name is Arrow. Oh here's a good one. Don't speak

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unless spoken to. Wow. Writing that actually triggered my inner core.

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I mean I can still hear my extremely strict father

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getting control as eight children who all seemingly had their

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own voice and wanted to be heard. Don't speak unless

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spoken to It hails from older traditions of etiquette, authority,

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and social hierarchy. Especially in European and English speaking societies.

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Don't speak unless spoken to reflects the idea that those

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in the lower social positions are expected to remain silent

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until a person of higher authority actually addresses them. The

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seventeenth to the nineteenth centuries, children were supposed to be

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seen but not heard. Not speaking showed obedience patients as

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well as discipline. Similar rules exist in armies around the world,

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where lower ranking soldiers are required to wait for their orders.

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Don't speak unless spoken to isn't from a single book

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or author It's a social commandment that grew outward by

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higher powers wanting solace. By the eighteen hundreds, it was

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very common in households. In fact, I actually use it

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with my daily discipline as an interviewer. In those conversations,

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I have one technique. Do not jump in. Always let

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them finish their thought first. In other words, don't speak

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unless spoken to. Something our parents would say, My name

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is Arro,