Speaker 1: Hi everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My
Speaker 1: name is Alicia Gogin, the host of the globes SECAs podcast.
Speaker 1: Why I help you expand your mind and become more
Speaker 1: self aware so that you can glow up into the
Speaker 1: best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing? Welcome
Speaker 1: back to Sunday Service. We're just going to call it
Speaker 1: that for the time being because I know this episode
Speaker 1: is going to go up on a Sunday. There's something
Speaker 1: about a Sunday episode that I'm really feeling the vibes, like,
Speaker 1: I'm really enjoying putting out an episode. We're getting cozy,
Speaker 1: we're getting comfy, we are watching or maybe we're listening
Speaker 1: on a hawk grow walks, whatever the case is, it
Speaker 1: feels really good to listen to a podcast on a Sunday.
Speaker 1: So in today's episode, I want to talk about navigating detachment.
Speaker 1: I want to talk about reclaiming your energy and becoming
Speaker 1: more magnetizing. I think the reason why I want to
Speaker 1: talk about this is because the past few episodes I've
Speaker 1: been putting out kind of have been focusing on anxious
Speaker 1: detachment and a lot of overthinking and anxiety and worrying,
Speaker 1: and I have really seen how that just really dims
Speaker 1: my personal magnetism in life and the way that I
Speaker 1: show up when I am anxious, when I am worrying,
Speaker 1: when I'm second guessing, when I am waiting, And I
Speaker 1: think that there are periods of life where you go
Speaker 1: through where it's like maybe you get triggered by a person, place,
Speaker 1: or thing or situation in your life, and it brings
Speaker 1: you into your anxious attachment, or it just brings you
Speaker 1: into you being a perfectionist or somebody who worries, or
Speaker 1: something just happened in your life, and then your light
Speaker 1: just kind of dims. You know, it's just like a
Speaker 1: natural process sometimes of life. And then you get to
Speaker 1: a point where you're like you're done with it, maybe
Speaker 1: you're slowly like getting yourself out of it, and you
Speaker 1: enter this new chapter. And the way I like to
Speaker 1: look at this chapter is a very magnetizing chapter. You're
Speaker 1: coming out of the depths of the low vibration that
Speaker 1: you might have been in the second guessing, worrying about
Speaker 1: things that just at this point we don't need to
Speaker 1: be worrying about. And I do find when you step
Speaker 1: into a magnetizing chapter of your life, not only yes,
Speaker 1: do you magnetize things, people, places, things in your life,
Speaker 1: but you just get your spark back and you feel better.
Speaker 1: So I really just want this episode to remind you
Speaker 1: that what is most important right now in your life
Speaker 1: is to be the most magnetic version of you if
Speaker 1: you want to get the things that you want in
Speaker 1: your life, and if you just want to be happy
Speaker 1: and you want to feel better, and you want to
Speaker 1: be in this good energy moving even into the winter months,
Speaker 1: especially the winter months, I feel like, ooh, it can
Speaker 1: take a lot out of us. We definitely have some
Speaker 1: episodes coming out when it comes to the winter blues
Speaker 1: and things, so definitely stay tuned for that. But this
Speaker 1: episode will be for the ones who feel like you
Speaker 1: have had your energy on somebody else, or you have
Speaker 1: a lot of situation really dull your brightness, you're a life,
Speaker 1: or maybe you have been stripping your own energy from
Speaker 1: yourself through habits that might not be serving you. What
Speaker 1: I want you to remember, and this is something we
Speaker 1: forget a lot when we are in the depths of
Speaker 1: being anxious and responding to life. When you choose yourself,
Speaker 1: the world responds. When you choose yourself, They choose you
Speaker 1: when you put your focus in your attention on what
Speaker 1: you want to do in your life. When it comes
Speaker 1: to your goals and your purpose and your passion and
Speaker 1: the things that let you up, the world will respond.
Speaker 1: And I feel like you forget this a lot. When
Speaker 1: you are triggered. You feel like you have to overwork
Speaker 1: to get somebody to love you. You have to output
Speaker 1: a lot of action sometimes to get the things that
Speaker 1: you want in your life. And it's not to mean
Speaker 1: that you never position yourself in places around people you
Speaker 1: know to get the things that you want in your life.
Speaker 1: But I feel like when life is not responding to you,
Speaker 1: when you're not getting attention, when you are not getting
Speaker 1: good things in your life, or you feel like you're
Speaker 1: not a lot of the times, it's because your magnetism
Speaker 1: is not really strong. You have your energy away from
Speaker 1: your soul on everything else outside of you. But what
Speaker 1: really gets you those things that you want in your life, right,
Speaker 1: the attention circumstances, the money. That is when you bring
Speaker 1: your attention back towards yourself, because that's when you can
Speaker 1: magnetize things into your energy field. There's a few questions
Speaker 1: that I like to ask myself when I find I'm
Speaker 1: not really happy with what I'm seeing in my reality.
Speaker 1: And maybe these are just things that you can think
Speaker 1: about as you're listening to this episode right now you
Speaker 1: can journal on them, and one of them is who
Speaker 1: has my energy or attention right now? And this will
Speaker 1: really show you why it is that you're probably not
Speaker 1: even getting the things that you want in your life.
Speaker 1: So so let's give an example of maybe a relationship.
Speaker 1: Are you thinking about somebody all the time twenty four
Speaker 1: to seven, waiting, wondering, second guessing, who has your attention?
Speaker 1: Does this person have your attention in the form of
Speaker 1: you constantly seeping it out to them without them maybe
Speaker 1: even knowing, or do you have your attention? And what
Speaker 1: I mean by do you have your attention? Are you
Speaker 1: focused on what you need to do in your day
Speaker 1: to day life When you wake up in the morning,
Speaker 1: are you thinking about yourself or someone else? Are you
Speaker 1: thinking about all the things that you don't have, or
Speaker 1: are you think about all the things that you do have?
Speaker 1: And I think it's really hard for anxiously attached to
Speaker 1: people or just worry. What's people who just stress about
Speaker 1: things in life? You don't have to have an anxious attachment,
Speaker 1: I guess, but whatever, I'm just giving some examples. The
Speaker 1: belief system sometimes that we have is the way I'm
Speaker 1: going to get the things that I want in my
Speaker 1: life is to not have my energy on myself and
Speaker 1: instead outside of myself, to control the situation, to wait
Speaker 1: for the situation, to wash the situation, to second guess
Speaker 1: the situation. But that really doesn't allow you to be
Speaker 1: the most magnetic version of you, whether it is like
Speaker 1: you attracting somebody in your life or attracting opportunities or money.
Speaker 1: Because you're depleting yourself. You are anxious when you wake up,
Speaker 1: You're waiting around, You're not doing the things that you
Speaker 1: know you need to do. You're procrastinating, you are starting arguments,
Speaker 1: you are picking fights, You're looking for things that are
Speaker 1: gonna turn out to be the wrong. Things like that
Speaker 1: does not lead you to an abundant life, a very
Speaker 1: attractive life. So really asking yourself and in this period
Speaker 1: of your life, who has my energy right now? Is
Speaker 1: it with me? Or is it with somebody else? Another
Speaker 1: thing that I like to think about, and this is
Speaker 1: something you can think about right now in your season
Speaker 1: of life, is what is taking and draining your energy.
Speaker 1: So yes, this could be in the form of some
Speaker 1: sort of relationship that you have in your life, or
Speaker 1: a financial situation that's seeing you out or school things
Speaker 1: like that, although of course we have a lot of
Speaker 1: control over where we put our attention if we're just
Speaker 1: a little bit more aware of it. But I think
Speaker 1: about this in terms of to do a self sabotage
Speaker 1: in a way, like what in your life do you
Speaker 1: think is impacting you the most when it comes to
Speaker 1: draining your energy, because that is actually really dimming your
Speaker 1: light and your magnetism. And I will give a few examples,
Speaker 1: and we're gonna talk about this in next week's episode
Speaker 1: of How to Stop Wasting Your Life Away, But two
Speaker 1: of them for me was doom scrolling and spending a
Speaker 1: lot of time on like TikTok and just being on
Speaker 1: my phone. It just drained my energy and it drained
Speaker 1: me physically and mentally. And also gardening on the weekends.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say gardening because YouTube but smoking essentially
Speaker 1: not nicotine, but you guys know, and I am not
Speaker 1: like a smoker per se, but I would do that
Speaker 1: sometimes on the weekend. And although like it is fun
Speaker 1: and I enjoy it sometimes and I've learned how to
Speaker 1: have boundaries with it, And again I'm going to talk
Speaker 1: about that in like next week's episode, I found I
Speaker 1: was getting to a point where I started to realize, hmm,
Speaker 1: I think that this is draining me more than it's
Speaker 1: actually exciting me in any sort of way or like
Speaker 1: giving me any sort of fuel. And those are the
Speaker 1: things that I really knew I needed to work on
Speaker 1: if I wanted to be more magnetizing, if I wanted
Speaker 1: to have more things in my life, Because again, when
Speaker 1: I'm not showing up in the best version of myself,
Speaker 1: when it comes to my energy and sleep and being
Speaker 1: positive and having a stable mood throughout the day, that's
Speaker 1: going to just affect the way that I show up,
Speaker 1: and that's going to show me the results that I'm
Speaker 1: getting in my life. So if I'm not getting the
Speaker 1: things I want in my life, I got to look
Speaker 1: at how am I showing up And some of these
Speaker 1: things will impact how you show up in your life.
Speaker 1: Another thing that I find really affects my magnetism and
Speaker 1: my ability to really see what I want want in
Speaker 1: my life be reflected is taking inventory of how much
Speaker 1: I'm observing versus responding. It's inevitable that there's gonna be
Speaker 1: things in your life that are basically like a storm.
Speaker 1: And I talked about this actually with my therapist about
Speaker 1: two weeks ago. So maybe I'll kind of like bring
Speaker 1: this in in a way because I think it was
Speaker 1: really helpful for me to imagine in my head. But
Speaker 1: there are things in life that happen, things will trigger you,
Speaker 1: things will feel hard, difficult, they'll be unknowns, they'll be
Speaker 1: bumps in the road. But to keep your magnetism, to
Speaker 1: keep you stable. It's kind of crazy for you to
Speaker 1: expect yourself to respond to the storm and try and
Speaker 1: fix the weather and try and figure out how you
Speaker 1: can stop the storm. And what I have learned and
Speaker 1: we were talking about this, like I said in therapy,
Speaker 1: is when the storm inevitably comes, those anxious thoughts, those worries, doubts,
Speaker 1: those fears, you want to look at yourself as if
Speaker 1: you are a boat in the sea. And when these
Speaker 1: things come, when the storm comes, what a sailboat, let's say,
Speaker 1: is supposed to really do is drop anchor. Okay, drop anchor,
Speaker 1: because we need to stabilize and we need to weather
Speaker 1: the storm. We need to stay put and we need
Speaker 1: to let the storm pass. We don't need to not
Speaker 1: drop anchor and let the storm take us wherever it
Speaker 1: wants to go. And the way I also like to
Speaker 1: look at this is it's just inevitable that there's gonna
Speaker 1: be storms. It's inevitable that you'll probably get triggered in
Speaker 1: a relationship. It's inevitable that you might not know an
Speaker 1: answer right away, or you might be waiting for results
Speaker 1: or to hear back, or to be afraid that you're
Speaker 1: gonna get a rejection or something in your life. And
Speaker 1: the thing that's allowed me to be really magnetizing and
Speaker 1: really happy and present and really attracting the things that
Speaker 1: I want in my life is to anchor myself down
Speaker 1: as everything is moving, everything is just you know, working
Speaker 1: itself out, and how can I do the best with
Speaker 1: what I have to be able to observe the storm.
Speaker 1: Of course, if I need to respond in a way
Speaker 1: in terms of you know, like let's say I am
Speaker 1: anxious and like somebody is triggering me whatever. It's not
Speaker 1: that I have to sit here and not do anything,
Speaker 1: but how can I take an action that's actually gonna
Speaker 1: help me versus just responding to the storm as if
Speaker 1: I'm fighting off the storm, when realistically like, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to be able to fight off the storm. How
Speaker 1: can I get curious? How can I maybe reach out
Speaker 1: for help? How can I soothe myself? How can I
Speaker 1: learn to talk to myself and talk through the thing
Speaker 1: that I'm going through versus just being like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: the world is going to end. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: get what I want, this person doesn't like me. How
Speaker 1: do I respond? How do I control the situation? How
Speaker 1: do I keep working harder and harder and harder to
Speaker 1: make this thing work? That's really depleting you and your
Speaker 1: energy and your magnetism. And when you move out of
Speaker 1: that place, you typically don't get the things you want
Speaker 1: in your life, right because look at your actions based
Speaker 1: out of that. Look at your actions based out of
Speaker 1: the scarcity. You are depleting yourself. You're overworking, you are
Speaker 1: sending long paragraphs to people, you are trying to convince
Speaker 1: people of your worth. You are just stressing yourself out
Speaker 1: to the point where you're not productive during the day
Speaker 1: because you're stressed. These are all things that will affect
Speaker 1: the way you show up in life. And what will
Speaker 1: be reflected in your life. Now, if you don't believe
Speaker 1: in the universe and manifesting and law of assumption and
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff, then feel free to kind
Speaker 1: of disregard. But I feel like most of you guys
Speaker 1: are a little bit more like that spiritual side, and
Speaker 1: even if you are religious, I feel like there's a
Speaker 1: lot of correlation. But I really do believe that the
Speaker 1: universe responds to who you show up as, not just
Speaker 1: what you want. Everyone can say they want money, they
Speaker 1: want a healthy relationship, they want success, they want all
Speaker 1: of these things. Everyone wants that, But it's really how
Speaker 1: we are showing up in this life. Are we working
Speaker 1: too hard? Are we pushing? Are we forcing? Are we resisting?
Speaker 1: Are we stressing more than we need to? And it's
Speaker 1: a journey to slowly work yourself out of this fight
Speaker 1: or flight, And you guys are on this journey right now.
Speaker 1: And my episodes are the things that kind of like
Speaker 1: help with that. But it is so important that you
Speaker 1: continue to your mind yourself that the way you show
Speaker 1: up matters. The way you show up matters in your life.
Speaker 1: And so are you going to be that sailboat that's
Speaker 1: going to drop anchor on the days that the storm
Speaker 1: is coming because it's inevitable, or are you going to
Speaker 1: be somebody who lets the storm just take you wherever
Speaker 1: you want? And are you going to work hard and
Speaker 1: try and stop the storm When you can actually just
Speaker 1: come to center. You will find yourself being more resilient.
Speaker 1: You will find a lot more peace and serenity and
Speaker 1: anchoring yourself down on the days that things are chaotic
Speaker 1: or confusing or you don't know. And honestly, it's gotten
Speaker 1: me so many beautiful outcomes in my life when I
Speaker 1: drop that anchor and I slow it down and I observe,
Speaker 1: and I don't let life take me on this insane rollercoaster.
Speaker 1: So a few other things that I feel like really
Speaker 1: impact your magnetism and take your energy away from yourself
Speaker 1: is your attachment to things and everything I just talked
Speaker 1: about essentially, that is you attaching to things outside of you.
Speaker 1: But something that is good to explore is the mindset
Speaker 1: that you have in terms of scarcity, because that's kind
Speaker 1: of what a lot of those things are. Right. It's like,
Speaker 1: if something is happening that I don't want, or if
Speaker 1: somebody's not giving me attention or if I'm not seeing
Speaker 1: the results that I really am hoping for right now,
Speaker 1: then it means I'm not getting what I want, Or
Speaker 1: then it means there's not enough to go around. Then
Speaker 1: it means something negative. And when you have a mindset
Speaker 1: like that of there's just not enough to go around,
Speaker 1: if I don't get it now, then I'm never gonna
Speaker 1: get it. You will show up differently in your life
Speaker 1: and you will create more problems than you need. So
Speaker 1: when something's happening in my life that is gonna call
Speaker 1: for me to either decide to be in scarcity or not.
Speaker 1: I really like to remind myself even if something is
Speaker 1: not going the way that I want right now, or
Speaker 1: it doesn't seem like there's a lot of resources, or
Speaker 1: it doesn't feel like I'm gonna get what I want,
Speaker 1: this is always bringing me just closer to what I want.
Speaker 1: If not this, then something better. It is a win
Speaker 1: win scenario, even if I do not fully see that
Speaker 1: win right now, because naturally you're a human being. If
Speaker 1: the storm comes and you don't get the results you want, yeah,
Speaker 1: it's gonna hurt you know. Maybe you need to like
Speaker 1: feel your feelings. It's gonna just be a little bit crappy.
Speaker 1: You can flow through those emotions, you can be a
Speaker 1: human being, but at the the end of that, you
Speaker 1: want to always look for that light. You always want
Speaker 1: to remind yourself listen. I don't even need to know
Speaker 1: the answer or how this is going to happen, but
Speaker 1: I'm going to get what I want. This is bringing
Speaker 1: me exactly where I need to go. This is giving
Speaker 1: me such good information about what I do want or
Speaker 1: what I don't want. And I am no longer going
Speaker 1: to keep trying to hold on to something that clearly,
Speaker 1: for whatever reason, is not necessarily like coming in full
Speaker 1: fruition in my life right now doesn't mean that it's
Speaker 1: not going to happen. But I am not going to
Speaker 1: keep pushing against things. And why am I not going
Speaker 1: to do that? Because it depletes me. It doesn't allow
Speaker 1: me to show up as the highest version of me
Speaker 1: when I am trying to force things, you know, like
Speaker 1: even when it comes to a relationship, like forcing a
Speaker 1: relationship or you know, forcing commitment or getting somebody to
Speaker 1: just like do exactly what you want exactly when you
Speaker 1: need it. Timelines this that it's not to say that
Speaker 1: you can't have standard you can't have the things that
Speaker 1: you want in your life. But there's this ease and
Speaker 1: this release that you really do need to have with
Speaker 1: so many things in your life. It is a balance.
Speaker 1: It is a art essentially of releasing and detaching, but
Speaker 1: on the flip side, still telling yourself like you are
Speaker 1: gonna get what you want. You can get what you want.
Speaker 1: And this definitely comes back to like childhood beliefs and
Speaker 1: limiting beliefs, right scarcity mindset of you know, maybe you
Speaker 1: grew up never actually having enough that was me or
Speaker 1: we can only get a certain amount, so just take
Speaker 1: it and don't ask questions and just take what you
Speaker 1: can get and don't second guess it, and you know,
Speaker 1: don't complain about it. This that. So, of course it's
Speaker 1: good to take a deeper look maybe at some of
Speaker 1: those limiting beliefs, because your beliefs really do dictate how
Speaker 1: you're showing up in the world. Right, If you believe
Speaker 1: you can't have the things that you want in your life,
Speaker 1: you will see that reflect based off of your actions. Now,
Speaker 1: I actually have a digital journal guide and I'll have
Speaker 1: it linked down below all about the abundance mindset. So
Speaker 1: I would definitely check that out if you need some
Speaker 1: journal prompts and shadow work journal prompts to help you
Speaker 1: with uncovering some of those limiting beliefs when it comes
Speaker 1: to abundance and scarcity and seeing how these things play
Speaker 1: out in your life. And I also have a heal
Speaker 1: To manifest guide as well, along with an Inner Child
Speaker 1: Discovery Journal problem, so it will also be down below. Also,
Speaker 1: I have opened my November slots for one on one session,
Speaker 1: so if you're interested in booking a session with me,
Speaker 1: information will be down below. I haven't said that in
Speaker 1: a while on the podcast because I've had so many
Speaker 1: things going on in different clients that I've been working with,
Speaker 1: but some time slots have opened for November and you
Speaker 1: can keep checking it and book with me whenever. Now,
Speaker 1: let's quickly discuss attaching to specific outcomes, timelines and expectations.
Speaker 1: I think this genuinely depletes your soul. It really takes
Speaker 1: away your magnetism, It takes away your happiness, It takes
Speaker 1: away so much from your life. And I understand the
Speaker 1: need for needing to know answers and having expectations and
Speaker 1: stand from people, places and things, and having goals and
Speaker 1: having timelines those are all beautiful things to have, But
Speaker 1: when you start to become so obsessed with how the
Speaker 1: relationship needs to play out, or how specifically this person
Speaker 1: needs to show up in your life, or how specifically
Speaker 1: the money has to come in, or how specifically you
Speaker 1: are going to be successful, it really creates a lot
Speaker 1: of restraint on you and your energy field and the
Speaker 1: way you show up in life. So I would think
Speaker 1: about a situation right now that's happening in your life
Speaker 1: where you can clearly see that you are very tied
Speaker 1: to a specific outcome, like this thing needs to happen
Speaker 1: this way and if not, then it's just going to
Speaker 1: be a storm and I'm not going to be able
Speaker 1: to deal with it. I want you to play with
Speaker 1: the idea, even in your mind, of what life would
Speaker 1: look like if that thing didn't work out the exact
Speaker 1: way that you wanted but better or I would even
Speaker 1: invite you to play with the idea of it not
Speaker 1: working out and then what And I think this is
Speaker 1: just a really good practice for you to rewire your
Speaker 1: brain with in a way, is like first allowing yourself
Speaker 1: to have a few other options of how this could
Speaker 1: play out even better than you expected, because a lot
Speaker 1: of the times we block our own blessings because we
Speaker 1: say it needs to be a certain way or this
Speaker 1: amount of money or this specific person. Well what if
Speaker 1: there's a better alternative and you don't even need to
Speaker 1: know that alternative, But I would invite you to explore
Speaker 1: that and use your imagination and give yourself a little
Speaker 1: bit of room to be able to have more in
Speaker 1: your life, because you are very restricting when you have
Speaker 1: this attachment to exactly the way that it needs to go.
Speaker 1: But on the flip side, and this is what I
Speaker 1: like to do sometimes as well, to really release the
Speaker 1: attachment that I have on people, places, and like things
Speaker 1: in my life is practicing being a little bit more
Speaker 1: fearless and being like, Okay, you know what, if this
Speaker 1: person doesn't end up being the one, if this person
Speaker 1: doesn't show up this way the way that I really want,
Speaker 1: I will be okay. I will literally live. I will
Speaker 1: do X, Y and Z if this thing's happen. So
Speaker 1: obviously depends on the circumstance, you know, like maybe i'll
Speaker 1: course correct or maybe if it has something to do
Speaker 1: with school, like okay, if I don't get into this program,
Speaker 1: then I have a plan B you have a plan
Speaker 1: c Like I have myself. Stop giving these circumstances or
Speaker 1: these people so much power if you really think about it, right,
Speaker 1: Like you're stressing over if somebody is gonna like ask
Speaker 1: you to go on a date, and yes, you really
Speaker 1: want that, and that's totally fine that you want that,
Speaker 1: but like, are you really going to strip yourself from
Speaker 1: all the joy in the present moment and stress yourself
Speaker 1: out of this waiting energy and this anxious energy and
Speaker 1: being like, oh my god, Like what am I gonna
Speaker 1: do if this person doesn't like ask me out? Or
Speaker 1: like what's that going to mean for my future? Like
Speaker 1: you're really gonna do all of that and you're gonna
Speaker 1: give this one little thing so much power. That's ridiculous,
Speaker 1: and quite frankly, you tend to not attract a lot
Speaker 1: of things when you are in this energy. There's something
Speaker 1: about the way that you universe works that it picks
Speaker 1: up on your energy. Okay, you don't even need to
Speaker 1: speak it out, you don't even need to act it out.
Speaker 1: Things just respond to how you are showing up in life.
Speaker 1: And honestly, like if you're sitting around waiting for somebody
Speaker 1: to choose you waiting for something to be given to you.
Speaker 1: This that you will be sometimes in the wrong places
Speaker 1: the wrong time. You won't be like on your shit,
Speaker 1: like on your habits really good mindset, really good mood,
Speaker 1: and you tend to just attract from that. Like I said, so,
Speaker 1: really just thinking about is there any room for you
Speaker 1: to release what you think needs to happen? And it's
Speaker 1: not from this place of giving up anything you want,
Speaker 1: but inviting room for things to be different and allowing
Speaker 1: the universe to do what it does best, which is
Speaker 1: to align everything the way that it needs. To remind
Speaker 1: yourself you do not need to work as hard as
Speaker 1: you think for love. You do not need to work
Speaker 1: as hard as you think you do for money. And
Speaker 1: this is real. I get it. The working hard, especially
Speaker 1: for money thing. It's not that you just sit around
Speaker 1: and oh my gosh, let me manifest then, like the
Speaker 1: money's just going to come. But you do know when
Speaker 1: you are forcing a lot of things, when you are
Speaker 1: stressing over things you can literally not change. Right, So,
Speaker 1: how can you ease into the moment that is right now,
Speaker 1: which is all you have in your life? How can
Speaker 1: you find a little bit more joy and gratitude for
Speaker 1: the things that you do have. And let's think it
Speaker 1: back to relationships. Okay, what is going good in your
Speaker 1: relationships right now? If you're in a dating phase right now,
Speaker 1: can you list three things that you're actually happy with
Speaker 1: or are you're going to continue to list all the
Speaker 1: things that make you anxious and the things that you're
Speaker 1: second guessing? And will this person show up this way
Speaker 1: or this person didn't do this already and that means this,
Speaker 1: that and the third. This is not about being delusional,
Speaker 1: but can we practice some gratitude? Can we see the light?
Speaker 1: Can we see how things are actually working out in
Speaker 1: our lives right now? There are so many things that
Speaker 1: we can be grateful for. I think about my health
Speaker 1: right now. I'm going through a flare up. I don't
Speaker 1: even know if I really mentioned this too much on
Speaker 1: the podcast, but I'm going through a flare up. I
Speaker 1: have IBD for those who don't know, and I am
Speaker 1: just basking in the fact that I am here right
Speaker 1: now and alive, and I can get up and I
Speaker 1: can move my body to the extent that I can
Speaker 1: move it at that I have really good doctors, and
Speaker 1: I have different practices that will support my nervous system
Speaker 1: and really help me reduce inflammation, everything, all of it.
Speaker 1: I'm grateful. Does this mean that that takes away the
Speaker 1: fact that I just have IBD. No, that didn't take
Speaker 1: away the fact that I'm currently going through a flare up.
Speaker 1: But that's not my end goal. I don't need that
Speaker 1: to change right now. I just want to experience the
Speaker 1: lighter side of sometimes the darkness. And I find when
Speaker 1: I drop more into that lighter side, that gratitude, the
Speaker 1: lessings that I have in my current life. That changes
Speaker 1: my energy field, That changes my mood, That changes the
Speaker 1: actions that I take. It changes the way that I
Speaker 1: show up in my relationships. And when you show up
Speaker 1: a certain way in life, the universe will respond. When
Speaker 1: you are in a better mood, when you are positive,
Speaker 1: when you are optimistic, when you are not stress all
Speaker 1: the time, when you're not trying to control people in situations,
Speaker 1: you will find situations, people, money, things come to you
Speaker 1: a lot easier. Now. I found this quote on Instagram
Speaker 1: and it says, your calm mind is the ultimate weapon
Speaker 1: against your challenges. So relax, coming back to anchoring yourself
Speaker 1: on the days where you just don't know, you don't
Speaker 1: know how things are going to turn out. You are
Speaker 1: getting a little bit anxious, you are worried. Money's tight,
Speaker 1: things aren't working out. It's okay not to know. It's
Speaker 1: okay to have to stop in your tracks right now
Speaker 1: and be like, you know what, let me just soothe myself,
Speaker 1: Let me just anchor myself. Let me understand that I
Speaker 1: might not know the answer right now, and that is okay. Hey,
Speaker 1: let me not strip myself of the beautiful future that
Speaker 1: I have by telling myself I'm not gonna get what
Speaker 1: I want just because I don't see it happening right
Speaker 1: now now. To add on to that, I saw a
Speaker 1: TikTok where somebody was talking about how the opposite of
Speaker 1: dealing with anxiety is not necessarily always just being calm
Speaker 1: and relaxing, and what they were talking about, and I
Speaker 1: totally understand this is sometimes when you are anxious or
Speaker 1: like things are happening or there's a storm happening, it's
Speaker 1: not that you just need to sit around and like
Speaker 1: pretend it doesn't exist and just meditate your day away.
Speaker 1: But what actually can help you with anxiety or the
Speaker 1: situation at hand is taking a little bit more aligned
Speaker 1: action and doing something getting up and moving. Okay, But
Speaker 1: this is different than you trying to get up when
Speaker 1: you see the storm and controlling the storm right, controlling
Speaker 1: the person, chasing the person, stressing out because you don't
Speaker 1: have money, No, take your energy back from the situation.
Speaker 1: But you don't have to sit here and just wait
Speaker 1: for it to go away. There's things you can do
Speaker 1: on this sailboat, right Okay. How can I pour into myself?
Speaker 1: How can I get onto a better sleep routine. How
Speaker 1: can I connect with people who are gonna fuel me
Speaker 1: instead of deplete me. How can I work on my goals,
Speaker 1: my aspirations, my purpose in life. There's so many things
Speaker 1: that you can work on right now that's not in
Speaker 1: the form of just hoping and wishing and praying that
Speaker 1: anxiety is just going to go away on its own.
Speaker 1: But what can you do in this present moment as
Speaker 1: the anxiety aka the storm passes Now? Like I said
Speaker 1: next week's episode, I do want to talk about how
Speaker 1: to stop wasting your life away because I feel like
Speaker 1: these moments where we get swept up with the storms
Speaker 1: and we lose our magnetism, A lot of that has
Speaker 1: to do with the way that we are depleting our
Speaker 1: own energy and really just letting things even deplete us
Speaker 1: and wasting so much time and energy that could be
Speaker 1: poured into ourselves so that we can get more in
Speaker 1: our lives. And so so I want to talk about
Speaker 1: some of those bad habits that we can do a
Speaker 1: little bit better when it comes to kicking for the winter,
Speaker 1: and some of the processes that I have learned over
Speaker 1: many periods of self sabotage and getting into like toxic
Speaker 1: habits and stuff, and hopes to help you guys. So
Speaker 1: definitely stay tuned for that episode. If you're watching on YouTube,
Speaker 1: you can subscribe and then you'll obviously see my episodes.
Speaker 1: If you're listening on Spotify or Apple, just make sure
Speaker 1: that you're following the podcast, which you guys probably are,
Speaker 1: and if you haven't left a review on the podcast
Speaker 1: audio version, I would be so grateful if you could
Speaker 1: even just doing a five star review. You do not
Speaker 1: have to even leave a comment if you don't, although
Speaker 1: I read them and they're beautiful and you guys are amazing.
Speaker 1: That just really helps this podcast get out to more people.
Speaker 1: And I really thrive off of knowing that you guys
Speaker 1: are showing up and listening to the podcast and doing
Speaker 1: the work and working on your mindsets and showing up
Speaker 1: like it just really reflects back to me as well,
Speaker 1: and it motivates me to do better, and I feel
Speaker 1: we probably really need that moving into the winter months.
Speaker 1: I think the winter is going to be really great
Speaker 1: for all of us in so many different ways. But
Speaker 1: that would be really helpful. And of course you can
Speaker 1: leave on the YouTube comment section any other things that
Speaker 1: you want me to dive deep in. There will be
Speaker 1: lots of episodes to come. Like I said, the digital
Speaker 1: guides and even if you want to book a session
Speaker 1: with me will all be linked in the descriptions. You
Speaker 1: can find everything down below. I hope you guys really
Speaker 1: enjoyed this episode and I'll see you guys in the
Speaker 1: next one. Bye.