WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.319 Hi everyone, and welcome back to another podcast episode. My 2 00:00:02.399 --> 00:00:04.759 name is Alicia Gogin, the host of the globes SECAs podcast. 3 00:00:04.839 --> 00:00:07.040 Why I help you expand your mind and become more 4 00:00:07.080 --> 00:00:09.119 self aware so that you can glow up into the 5 00:00:09.119 --> 00:00:14.000 best version of yourself. Hello, how are we doing? Welcome 6 00:00:14.000 --> 00:00:16.120 back to Sunday Service. We're just going to call it 7 00:00:16.199 --> 00:00:18.640 that for the time being because I know this episode 8 00:00:18.719 --> 00:00:20.960 is going to go up on a Sunday. There's something 9 00:00:20.960 --> 00:00:24.719 about a Sunday episode that I'm really feeling the vibes, like, 10 00:00:24.760 --> 00:00:28.640 I'm really enjoying putting out an episode. We're getting cozy, 11 00:00:28.679 --> 00:00:31.160 we're getting comfy, we are watching or maybe we're listening 12 00:00:31.199 --> 00:00:33.759 on a hawk grow walks, whatever the case is, it 13 00:00:33.799 --> 00:00:36.479 feels really good to listen to a podcast on a Sunday. 14 00:00:36.520 --> 00:00:41.399 So in today's episode, I want to talk about navigating detachment. 15 00:00:41.719 --> 00:00:45.600 I want to talk about reclaiming your energy and becoming 16 00:00:45.640 --> 00:00:49.159 more magnetizing. I think the reason why I want to 17 00:00:49.159 --> 00:00:52.799 talk about this is because the past few episodes I've 18 00:00:52.840 --> 00:00:55.719 been putting out kind of have been focusing on anxious 19 00:00:55.719 --> 00:01:00.799 detachment and a lot of overthinking and anxiety and worrying, 20 00:01:00.960 --> 00:01:07.760 and I have really seen how that just really dims 21 00:01:08.200 --> 00:01:11.840 my personal magnetism in life and the way that I 22 00:01:11.840 --> 00:01:14.680 show up when I am anxious, when I am worrying, 23 00:01:14.760 --> 00:01:17.280 when I'm second guessing, when I am waiting, And I 24 00:01:17.319 --> 00:01:19.200 think that there are periods of life where you go 25 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:23.120 through where it's like maybe you get triggered by a person, place, 26 00:01:23.200 --> 00:01:26.480 or thing or situation in your life, and it brings 27 00:01:26.519 --> 00:01:28.439 you into your anxious attachment, or it just brings you 28 00:01:28.480 --> 00:01:32.000 into you being a perfectionist or somebody who worries, or 29 00:01:32.719 --> 00:01:35.840 something just happened in your life, and then your light 30 00:01:36.000 --> 00:01:37.719 just kind of dims. You know, it's just like a 31 00:01:37.799 --> 00:01:40.719 natural process sometimes of life. And then you get to 32 00:01:40.760 --> 00:01:43.040 a point where you're like you're done with it, maybe 33 00:01:43.079 --> 00:01:45.640 you're slowly like getting yourself out of it, and you 34 00:01:46.040 --> 00:01:48.319 enter this new chapter. And the way I like to 35 00:01:48.319 --> 00:01:51.719 look at this chapter is a very magnetizing chapter. You're 36 00:01:51.719 --> 00:01:57.359 coming out of the depths of the low vibration that 37 00:01:57.400 --> 00:02:01.159 you might have been in the second guessing, worrying about 38 00:02:01.200 --> 00:02:03.719 things that just at this point we don't need to 39 00:02:03.760 --> 00:02:06.519 be worrying about. And I do find when you step 40 00:02:06.560 --> 00:02:10.919 into a magnetizing chapter of your life, not only yes, 41 00:02:11.000 --> 00:02:14.240 do you magnetize things, people, places, things in your life, 42 00:02:14.599 --> 00:02:17.199 but you just get your spark back and you feel better. 43 00:02:17.240 --> 00:02:20.719 So I really just want this episode to remind you 44 00:02:21.400 --> 00:02:24.439 that what is most important right now in your life 45 00:02:24.479 --> 00:02:27.120 is to be the most magnetic version of you if 46 00:02:27.159 --> 00:02:29.000 you want to get the things that you want in 47 00:02:29.000 --> 00:02:30.960 your life, and if you just want to be happy 48 00:02:31.000 --> 00:02:32.919 and you want to feel better, and you want to 49 00:02:32.960 --> 00:02:36.240 be in this good energy moving even into the winter months, 50 00:02:36.400 --> 00:02:39.400 especially the winter months, I feel like, ooh, it can 51 00:02:39.439 --> 00:02:41.879 take a lot out of us. We definitely have some 52 00:02:41.960 --> 00:02:45.520 episodes coming out when it comes to the winter blues 53 00:02:45.560 --> 00:02:47.840 and things, so definitely stay tuned for that. But this 54 00:02:47.960 --> 00:02:51.360 episode will be for the ones who feel like you 55 00:02:51.599 --> 00:02:55.000 have had your energy on somebody else, or you have 56 00:02:55.039 --> 00:03:00.000 a lot of situation really dull your brightness, you're a life, 57 00:03:00.439 --> 00:03:03.599 or maybe you have been stripping your own energy from 58 00:03:03.639 --> 00:03:06.599 yourself through habits that might not be serving you. What 59 00:03:06.680 --> 00:03:09.360 I want you to remember, and this is something we 60 00:03:09.439 --> 00:03:11.599 forget a lot when we are in the depths of 61 00:03:12.120 --> 00:03:17.800 being anxious and responding to life. When you choose yourself, 62 00:03:18.439 --> 00:03:23.879 the world responds. When you choose yourself, They choose you 63 00:03:24.639 --> 00:03:28.199 when you put your focus in your attention on what 64 00:03:28.400 --> 00:03:30.280 you want to do in your life. When it comes 65 00:03:30.280 --> 00:03:33.560 to your goals and your purpose and your passion and 66 00:03:33.599 --> 00:03:36.719 the things that let you up, the world will respond. 67 00:03:36.759 --> 00:03:40.439 And I feel like you forget this a lot. When 68 00:03:40.919 --> 00:03:44.800 you are triggered. You feel like you have to overwork 69 00:03:44.879 --> 00:03:47.560 to get somebody to love you. You have to output 70 00:03:47.599 --> 00:03:51.759 a lot of action sometimes to get the things that 71 00:03:51.800 --> 00:03:53.560 you want in your life. And it's not to mean 72 00:03:53.560 --> 00:03:57.360 that you never position yourself in places around people you 73 00:03:57.400 --> 00:03:59.120 know to get the things that you want in your life. 74 00:03:59.199 --> 00:04:03.439 But I feel like when life is not responding to you, 75 00:04:03.680 --> 00:04:06.400 when you're not getting attention, when you are not getting 76 00:04:06.439 --> 00:04:08.080 good things in your life, or you feel like you're 77 00:04:08.120 --> 00:04:12.000 not a lot of the times, it's because your magnetism 78 00:04:12.120 --> 00:04:15.840 is not really strong. You have your energy away from 79 00:04:16.319 --> 00:04:20.240 your soul on everything else outside of you. But what 80 00:04:20.319 --> 00:04:23.319 really gets you those things that you want in your life, right, 81 00:04:23.360 --> 00:04:27.480 the attention circumstances, the money. That is when you bring 82 00:04:27.519 --> 00:04:30.319 your attention back towards yourself, because that's when you can 83 00:04:30.360 --> 00:04:34.160 magnetize things into your energy field. There's a few questions 84 00:04:34.199 --> 00:04:36.680 that I like to ask myself when I find I'm 85 00:04:36.720 --> 00:04:39.800 not really happy with what I'm seeing in my reality. 86 00:04:40.439 --> 00:04:42.240 And maybe these are just things that you can think 87 00:04:42.279 --> 00:04:44.360 about as you're listening to this episode right now you 88 00:04:44.360 --> 00:04:47.879 can journal on them, and one of them is who 89 00:04:48.319 --> 00:04:52.800 has my energy or attention right now? And this will 90 00:04:52.800 --> 00:04:57.399 really show you why it is that you're probably not 91 00:04:57.480 --> 00:04:59.240 even getting the things that you want in your life. 92 00:04:59.759 --> 00:05:03.759 So so let's give an example of maybe a relationship. 93 00:05:04.639 --> 00:05:07.360 Are you thinking about somebody all the time twenty four 94 00:05:07.399 --> 00:05:11.920 to seven, waiting, wondering, second guessing, who has your attention? 95 00:05:12.160 --> 00:05:14.480 Does this person have your attention in the form of 96 00:05:14.560 --> 00:05:17.680 you constantly seeping it out to them without them maybe 97 00:05:17.680 --> 00:05:21.040 even knowing, or do you have your attention? And what 98 00:05:21.120 --> 00:05:23.480 I mean by do you have your attention? Are you 99 00:05:23.639 --> 00:05:26.120 focused on what you need to do in your day 100 00:05:26.160 --> 00:05:28.040 to day life When you wake up in the morning, 101 00:05:28.319 --> 00:05:30.959 are you thinking about yourself or someone else? Are you 102 00:05:31.000 --> 00:05:33.639 thinking about all the things that you don't have, or 103 00:05:33.639 --> 00:05:35.480 are you think about all the things that you do have? 104 00:05:35.600 --> 00:05:38.000 And I think it's really hard for anxiously attached to 105 00:05:38.040 --> 00:05:42.879 people or just worry. What's people who just stress about 106 00:05:42.879 --> 00:05:45.040 things in life? You don't have to have an anxious attachment, 107 00:05:45.079 --> 00:05:48.160 I guess, but whatever, I'm just giving some examples. The 108 00:05:48.199 --> 00:05:52.959 belief system sometimes that we have is the way I'm 109 00:05:53.000 --> 00:05:54.720 going to get the things that I want in my 110 00:05:54.800 --> 00:05:57.519 life is to not have my energy on myself and 111 00:05:57.600 --> 00:06:02.079 instead outside of myself, to control the situation, to wait 112 00:06:02.120 --> 00:06:06.360 for the situation, to wash the situation, to second guess 113 00:06:06.399 --> 00:06:08.800 the situation. But that really doesn't allow you to be 114 00:06:08.839 --> 00:06:11.399 the most magnetic version of you, whether it is like 115 00:06:11.480 --> 00:06:15.199 you attracting somebody in your life or attracting opportunities or money. 116 00:06:15.199 --> 00:06:19.959 Because you're depleting yourself. You are anxious when you wake up, 117 00:06:20.199 --> 00:06:22.240 You're waiting around, You're not doing the things that you 118 00:06:22.279 --> 00:06:26.319 know you need to do. You're procrastinating, you are starting arguments, 119 00:06:26.360 --> 00:06:28.680 you are picking fights, You're looking for things that are 120 00:06:28.720 --> 00:06:31.680 gonna turn out to be the wrong. Things like that 121 00:06:31.920 --> 00:06:35.240 does not lead you to an abundant life, a very 122 00:06:35.279 --> 00:06:39.199 attractive life. So really asking yourself and in this period 123 00:06:39.240 --> 00:06:42.000 of your life, who has my energy right now? Is 124 00:06:42.040 --> 00:06:44.800 it with me? Or is it with somebody else? Another 125 00:06:44.839 --> 00:06:46.560 thing that I like to think about, and this is 126 00:06:46.560 --> 00:06:48.480 something you can think about right now in your season 127 00:06:48.519 --> 00:06:52.560 of life, is what is taking and draining your energy. 128 00:06:52.879 --> 00:06:56.120 So yes, this could be in the form of some 129 00:06:56.160 --> 00:06:58.399 sort of relationship that you have in your life, or 130 00:06:58.639 --> 00:07:01.480 a financial situation that's seeing you out or school things 131 00:07:01.680 --> 00:07:04.839 like that, although of course we have a lot of 132 00:07:05.399 --> 00:07:07.800 control over where we put our attention if we're just 133 00:07:07.959 --> 00:07:10.920 a little bit more aware of it. But I think 134 00:07:10.959 --> 00:07:13.680 about this in terms of to do a self sabotage 135 00:07:13.680 --> 00:07:16.160 in a way, like what in your life do you 136 00:07:16.240 --> 00:07:18.920 think is impacting you the most when it comes to 137 00:07:19.040 --> 00:07:22.480 draining your energy, because that is actually really dimming your 138 00:07:22.560 --> 00:07:27.319 light and your magnetism. And I will give a few examples, 139 00:07:27.639 --> 00:07:29.680 and we're gonna talk about this in next week's episode 140 00:07:29.720 --> 00:07:33.240 of How to Stop Wasting Your Life Away, But two 141 00:07:33.319 --> 00:07:37.319 of them for me was doom scrolling and spending a 142 00:07:37.360 --> 00:07:40.879 lot of time on like TikTok and just being on 143 00:07:40.920 --> 00:07:44.560 my phone. It just drained my energy and it drained 144 00:07:44.600 --> 00:07:47.759 me physically and mentally. And also gardening on the weekends. 145 00:07:47.800 --> 00:07:51.959 I'm just gonna say gardening because YouTube but smoking essentially 146 00:07:52.040 --> 00:07:55.759 not nicotine, but you guys know, and I am not 147 00:07:55.920 --> 00:07:59.079 like a smoker per se, but I would do that 148 00:07:59.160 --> 00:08:02.279 sometimes on the weekend. And although like it is fun 149 00:08:02.360 --> 00:08:04.600 and I enjoy it sometimes and I've learned how to 150 00:08:04.600 --> 00:08:06.079 have boundaries with it, And again I'm going to talk 151 00:08:06.079 --> 00:08:09.160 about that in like next week's episode, I found I 152 00:08:09.199 --> 00:08:11.439 was getting to a point where I started to realize, hmm, 153 00:08:11.639 --> 00:08:14.000 I think that this is draining me more than it's 154 00:08:14.040 --> 00:08:17.600 actually exciting me in any sort of way or like 155 00:08:17.759 --> 00:08:20.319 giving me any sort of fuel. And those are the 156 00:08:20.360 --> 00:08:23.000 things that I really knew I needed to work on 157 00:08:23.360 --> 00:08:26.360 if I wanted to be more magnetizing, if I wanted 158 00:08:26.360 --> 00:08:29.199 to have more things in my life, Because again, when 159 00:08:29.240 --> 00:08:31.800 I'm not showing up in the best version of myself, 160 00:08:31.879 --> 00:08:34.440 when it comes to my energy and sleep and being 161 00:08:34.480 --> 00:08:37.919 positive and having a stable mood throughout the day, that's 162 00:08:38.000 --> 00:08:39.600 going to just affect the way that I show up, 163 00:08:39.639 --> 00:08:42.639 and that's going to show me the results that I'm 164 00:08:42.639 --> 00:08:45.759 getting in my life. So if I'm not getting the 165 00:08:45.840 --> 00:08:47.399 things I want in my life, I got to look 166 00:08:47.440 --> 00:08:50.840 at how am I showing up And some of these 167 00:08:50.840 --> 00:08:53.480 things will impact how you show up in your life. 168 00:08:53.600 --> 00:08:57.000 Another thing that I find really affects my magnetism and 169 00:08:57.080 --> 00:09:00.360 my ability to really see what I want want in 170 00:09:00.399 --> 00:09:04.279 my life be reflected is taking inventory of how much 171 00:09:04.399 --> 00:09:09.519 I'm observing versus responding. It's inevitable that there's gonna be 172 00:09:09.559 --> 00:09:12.960 things in your life that are basically like a storm. 173 00:09:13.279 --> 00:09:15.919 And I talked about this actually with my therapist about 174 00:09:15.960 --> 00:09:18.159 two weeks ago. So maybe I'll kind of like bring 175 00:09:18.200 --> 00:09:19.720 this in in a way because I think it was 176 00:09:20.039 --> 00:09:23.240 really helpful for me to imagine in my head. But 177 00:09:23.960 --> 00:09:28.159 there are things in life that happen, things will trigger you, 178 00:09:28.799 --> 00:09:33.480 things will feel hard, difficult, they'll be unknowns, they'll be 179 00:09:34.159 --> 00:09:37.639 bumps in the road. But to keep your magnetism, to 180 00:09:38.080 --> 00:09:42.360 keep you stable. It's kind of crazy for you to 181 00:09:42.519 --> 00:09:47.679 expect yourself to respond to the storm and try and 182 00:09:47.759 --> 00:09:50.559 fix the weather and try and figure out how you 183 00:09:50.600 --> 00:09:54.039 can stop the storm. And what I have learned and 184 00:09:54.080 --> 00:09:55.840 we were talking about this, like I said in therapy, 185 00:09:56.039 --> 00:10:00.440 is when the storm inevitably comes, those anxious thoughts, those worries, doubts, 186 00:10:00.480 --> 00:10:02.679 those fears, you want to look at yourself as if 187 00:10:02.759 --> 00:10:07.720 you are a boat in the sea. And when these 188 00:10:07.759 --> 00:10:12.080 things come, when the storm comes, what a sailboat, let's say, 189 00:10:12.320 --> 00:10:16.919 is supposed to really do is drop anchor. Okay, drop anchor, 190 00:10:17.200 --> 00:10:21.080 because we need to stabilize and we need to weather 191 00:10:21.159 --> 00:10:23.320 the storm. We need to stay put and we need 192 00:10:23.360 --> 00:10:26.399 to let the storm pass. We don't need to not 193 00:10:26.519 --> 00:10:29.759 drop anchor and let the storm take us wherever it 194 00:10:29.799 --> 00:10:31.799 wants to go. And the way I also like to 195 00:10:31.840 --> 00:10:34.960 look at this is it's just inevitable that there's gonna 196 00:10:35.000 --> 00:10:37.840 be storms. It's inevitable that you'll probably get triggered in 197 00:10:37.840 --> 00:10:41.480 a relationship. It's inevitable that you might not know an 198 00:10:41.519 --> 00:10:44.879 answer right away, or you might be waiting for results 199 00:10:45.279 --> 00:10:49.320 or to hear back, or to be afraid that you're 200 00:10:49.360 --> 00:10:51.679 gonna get a rejection or something in your life. And 201 00:10:51.720 --> 00:10:55.159 the thing that's allowed me to be really magnetizing and 202 00:10:55.399 --> 00:10:58.639 really happy and present and really attracting the things that 203 00:10:58.679 --> 00:11:01.879 I want in my life is to anchor myself down 204 00:11:02.440 --> 00:11:06.759 as everything is moving, everything is just you know, working 205 00:11:06.799 --> 00:11:10.639 itself out, and how can I do the best with 206 00:11:10.679 --> 00:11:14.600 what I have to be able to observe the storm. 207 00:11:14.919 --> 00:11:17.039 Of course, if I need to respond in a way 208 00:11:17.360 --> 00:11:20.759 in terms of you know, like let's say I am 209 00:11:20.840 --> 00:11:23.399 anxious and like somebody is triggering me whatever. It's not 210 00:11:23.440 --> 00:11:25.120 that I have to sit here and not do anything, 211 00:11:25.159 --> 00:11:28.200 but how can I take an action that's actually gonna 212 00:11:28.200 --> 00:11:31.200 help me versus just responding to the storm as if 213 00:11:31.240 --> 00:11:33.879 I'm fighting off the storm, when realistically like, I'm not 214 00:11:33.879 --> 00:11:35.600 going to be able to fight off the storm. How 215 00:11:35.639 --> 00:11:39.159 can I get curious? How can I maybe reach out 216 00:11:39.159 --> 00:11:42.159 for help? How can I soothe myself? How can I 217 00:11:42.200 --> 00:11:45.039 learn to talk to myself and talk through the thing 218 00:11:45.080 --> 00:11:48.080 that I'm going through versus just being like, oh my gosh, 219 00:11:48.279 --> 00:11:50.000 the world is going to end. I'm not going to 220 00:11:50.039 --> 00:11:52.279 get what I want, this person doesn't like me. How 221 00:11:52.279 --> 00:11:54.960 do I respond? How do I control the situation? How 222 00:11:55.000 --> 00:11:57.360 do I keep working harder and harder and harder to 223 00:11:57.399 --> 00:12:01.240 make this thing work? That's really depleting you and your 224 00:12:01.360 --> 00:12:04.720 energy and your magnetism. And when you move out of 225 00:12:05.120 --> 00:12:08.519 that place, you typically don't get the things you want 226 00:12:08.519 --> 00:12:11.159 in your life, right because look at your actions based 227 00:12:11.159 --> 00:12:13.320 out of that. Look at your actions based out of 228 00:12:13.320 --> 00:12:17.559 the scarcity. You are depleting yourself. You're overworking, you are 229 00:12:17.639 --> 00:12:20.240 sending long paragraphs to people, you are trying to convince 230 00:12:20.279 --> 00:12:23.600 people of your worth. You are just stressing yourself out 231 00:12:23.639 --> 00:12:25.720 to the point where you're not productive during the day 232 00:12:25.759 --> 00:12:29.519 because you're stressed. These are all things that will affect 233 00:12:29.600 --> 00:12:33.200 the way you show up in life. And what will 234 00:12:33.200 --> 00:12:36.120 be reflected in your life. Now, if you don't believe 235 00:12:36.360 --> 00:12:40.159 in the universe and manifesting and law of assumption and 236 00:12:40.200 --> 00:12:42.200 all that kind of stuff, then feel free to kind 237 00:12:42.200 --> 00:12:43.879 of disregard. But I feel like most of you guys 238 00:12:43.919 --> 00:12:45.879 are a little bit more like that spiritual side, and 239 00:12:45.919 --> 00:12:48.200 even if you are religious, I feel like there's a 240 00:12:48.200 --> 00:12:51.720 lot of correlation. But I really do believe that the 241 00:12:51.840 --> 00:12:56.840 universe responds to who you show up as, not just 242 00:12:56.960 --> 00:13:00.159 what you want. Everyone can say they want money, they 243 00:13:00.159 --> 00:13:03.279 want a healthy relationship, they want success, they want all 244 00:13:03.320 --> 00:13:06.720 of these things. Everyone wants that, But it's really how 245 00:13:06.759 --> 00:13:09.679 we are showing up in this life. Are we working 246 00:13:09.799 --> 00:13:13.639 too hard? Are we pushing? Are we forcing? Are we resisting? 247 00:13:13.759 --> 00:13:17.480 Are we stressing more than we need to? And it's 248 00:13:17.559 --> 00:13:22.480 a journey to slowly work yourself out of this fight 249 00:13:22.559 --> 00:13:24.720 or flight, And you guys are on this journey right now. 250 00:13:25.159 --> 00:13:28.000 And my episodes are the things that kind of like 251 00:13:28.039 --> 00:13:30.080 help with that. But it is so important that you 252 00:13:30.120 --> 00:13:32.799 continue to your mind yourself that the way you show 253 00:13:32.879 --> 00:13:35.919 up matters. The way you show up matters in your life. 254 00:13:36.399 --> 00:13:40.360 And so are you going to be that sailboat that's 255 00:13:40.360 --> 00:13:42.840 going to drop anchor on the days that the storm 256 00:13:42.919 --> 00:13:45.600 is coming because it's inevitable, or are you going to 257 00:13:45.639 --> 00:13:48.399 be somebody who lets the storm just take you wherever 258 00:13:48.440 --> 00:13:51.360 you want? And are you going to work hard and 259 00:13:51.480 --> 00:13:54.159 try and stop the storm When you can actually just 260 00:13:54.879 --> 00:13:59.120 come to center. You will find yourself being more resilient. 261 00:13:59.639 --> 00:14:02.759 You will find a lot more peace and serenity and 262 00:14:03.000 --> 00:14:06.639 anchoring yourself down on the days that things are chaotic 263 00:14:06.720 --> 00:14:09.240 or confusing or you don't know. And honestly, it's gotten 264 00:14:09.240 --> 00:14:13.080 me so many beautiful outcomes in my life when I 265 00:14:13.159 --> 00:14:15.840 drop that anchor and I slow it down and I observe, 266 00:14:16.240 --> 00:14:20.039 and I don't let life take me on this insane rollercoaster. 267 00:14:20.200 --> 00:14:22.799 So a few other things that I feel like really 268 00:14:22.840 --> 00:14:27.840 impact your magnetism and take your energy away from yourself 269 00:14:27.960 --> 00:14:31.519 is your attachment to things and everything I just talked 270 00:14:31.519 --> 00:14:35.360 about essentially, that is you attaching to things outside of you. 271 00:14:35.639 --> 00:14:40.120 But something that is good to explore is the mindset 272 00:14:40.159 --> 00:14:43.360 that you have in terms of scarcity, because that's kind 273 00:14:43.360 --> 00:14:45.399 of what a lot of those things are. Right. It's like, 274 00:14:46.399 --> 00:14:50.039 if something is happening that I don't want, or if 275 00:14:50.039 --> 00:14:52.840 somebody's not giving me attention or if I'm not seeing 276 00:14:52.879 --> 00:14:56.000 the results that I really am hoping for right now, 277 00:14:56.919 --> 00:14:59.799 then it means I'm not getting what I want, Or 278 00:15:00.200 --> 00:15:03.360 then it means there's not enough to go around. Then 279 00:15:03.440 --> 00:15:06.440 it means something negative. And when you have a mindset 280 00:15:06.480 --> 00:15:09.720 like that of there's just not enough to go around, 281 00:15:10.000 --> 00:15:11.600 if I don't get it now, then I'm never gonna 282 00:15:11.600 --> 00:15:14.440 get it. You will show up differently in your life 283 00:15:14.440 --> 00:15:17.120 and you will create more problems than you need. So 284 00:15:17.159 --> 00:15:19.120 when something's happening in my life that is gonna call 285 00:15:19.159 --> 00:15:21.480 for me to either decide to be in scarcity or not. 286 00:15:21.720 --> 00:15:25.519 I really like to remind myself even if something is 287 00:15:25.559 --> 00:15:27.279 not going the way that I want right now, or 288 00:15:27.720 --> 00:15:29.440 it doesn't seem like there's a lot of resources, or 289 00:15:29.519 --> 00:15:31.039 it doesn't feel like I'm gonna get what I want, 290 00:15:32.000 --> 00:15:35.279 this is always bringing me just closer to what I want. 291 00:15:35.679 --> 00:15:38.919 If not this, then something better. It is a win 292 00:15:39.320 --> 00:15:43.200 win scenario, even if I do not fully see that 293 00:15:43.240 --> 00:15:46.879 win right now, because naturally you're a human being. If 294 00:15:46.919 --> 00:15:49.720 the storm comes and you don't get the results you want, yeah, 295 00:15:49.759 --> 00:15:51.679 it's gonna hurt you know. Maybe you need to like 296 00:15:51.679 --> 00:15:54.399 feel your feelings. It's gonna just be a little bit crappy. 297 00:15:54.679 --> 00:15:57.759 You can flow through those emotions, you can be a 298 00:15:57.840 --> 00:16:01.320 human being, but at the the end of that, you 299 00:16:01.360 --> 00:16:03.559 want to always look for that light. You always want 300 00:16:03.559 --> 00:16:06.519 to remind yourself listen. I don't even need to know 301 00:16:06.600 --> 00:16:08.279 the answer or how this is going to happen, but 302 00:16:08.639 --> 00:16:11.399 I'm going to get what I want. This is bringing 303 00:16:11.440 --> 00:16:13.799 me exactly where I need to go. This is giving 304 00:16:13.799 --> 00:16:16.039 me such good information about what I do want or 305 00:16:16.039 --> 00:16:18.480 what I don't want. And I am no longer going 306 00:16:18.519 --> 00:16:21.879 to keep trying to hold on to something that clearly, 307 00:16:21.919 --> 00:16:25.679 for whatever reason, is not necessarily like coming in full 308 00:16:25.799 --> 00:16:28.440 fruition in my life right now doesn't mean that it's 309 00:16:28.480 --> 00:16:30.840 not going to happen. But I am not going to 310 00:16:30.879 --> 00:16:33.639 keep pushing against things. And why am I not going 311 00:16:33.679 --> 00:16:36.519 to do that? Because it depletes me. It doesn't allow 312 00:16:36.559 --> 00:16:38.720 me to show up as the highest version of me 313 00:16:39.120 --> 00:16:41.720 when I am trying to force things, you know, like 314 00:16:42.039 --> 00:16:44.159 even when it comes to a relationship, like forcing a 315 00:16:44.200 --> 00:16:48.879 relationship or you know, forcing commitment or getting somebody to 316 00:16:49.039 --> 00:16:51.960 just like do exactly what you want exactly when you 317 00:16:52.000 --> 00:16:54.679 need it. Timelines this that it's not to say that 318 00:16:54.720 --> 00:16:56.799 you can't have standard you can't have the things that 319 00:16:56.840 --> 00:16:59.480 you want in your life. But there's this ease and 320 00:16:59.559 --> 00:17:02.919 this release that you really do need to have with 321 00:17:03.080 --> 00:17:05.680 so many things in your life. It is a balance. 322 00:17:06.079 --> 00:17:10.680 It is a art essentially of releasing and detaching, but 323 00:17:10.720 --> 00:17:12.920 on the flip side, still telling yourself like you are 324 00:17:12.960 --> 00:17:15.720 gonna get what you want. You can get what you want. 325 00:17:16.000 --> 00:17:19.720 And this definitely comes back to like childhood beliefs and 326 00:17:19.839 --> 00:17:23.119 limiting beliefs, right scarcity mindset of you know, maybe you 327 00:17:23.160 --> 00:17:27.039 grew up never actually having enough that was me or 328 00:17:27.839 --> 00:17:29.960 we can only get a certain amount, so just take 329 00:17:30.000 --> 00:17:31.960 it and don't ask questions and just take what you 330 00:17:31.960 --> 00:17:34.279 can get and don't second guess it, and you know, 331 00:17:34.359 --> 00:17:36.680 don't complain about it. This that. So, of course it's 332 00:17:36.680 --> 00:17:38.799 good to take a deeper look maybe at some of 333 00:17:38.799 --> 00:17:41.079 those limiting beliefs, because your beliefs really do dictate how 334 00:17:41.119 --> 00:17:42.720 you're showing up in the world. Right, If you believe 335 00:17:42.720 --> 00:17:44.400 you can't have the things that you want in your life, 336 00:17:44.680 --> 00:17:48.200 you will see that reflect based off of your actions. Now, 337 00:17:48.240 --> 00:17:51.240 I actually have a digital journal guide and I'll have 338 00:17:51.279 --> 00:17:53.880 it linked down below all about the abundance mindset. So 339 00:17:53.920 --> 00:17:56.319 I would definitely check that out if you need some 340 00:17:56.400 --> 00:18:00.000 journal prompts and shadow work journal prompts to help you 341 00:18:00.119 --> 00:18:02.559 with uncovering some of those limiting beliefs when it comes 342 00:18:02.559 --> 00:18:05.880 to abundance and scarcity and seeing how these things play 343 00:18:05.880 --> 00:18:07.440 out in your life. And I also have a heal 344 00:18:07.480 --> 00:18:09.799 To manifest guide as well, along with an Inner Child 345 00:18:09.799 --> 00:18:12.759 Discovery Journal problem, so it will also be down below. Also, 346 00:18:13.279 --> 00:18:17.119 I have opened my November slots for one on one session, 347 00:18:17.240 --> 00:18:19.720 so if you're interested in booking a session with me, 348 00:18:20.079 --> 00:18:22.200 information will be down below. I haven't said that in 349 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:24.400 a while on the podcast because I've had so many 350 00:18:24.440 --> 00:18:26.720 things going on in different clients that I've been working with, 351 00:18:26.759 --> 00:18:30.160 but some time slots have opened for November and you 352 00:18:30.160 --> 00:18:32.160 can keep checking it and book with me whenever. Now, 353 00:18:32.240 --> 00:18:39.759 let's quickly discuss attaching to specific outcomes, timelines and expectations. 354 00:18:40.440 --> 00:18:46.680 I think this genuinely depletes your soul. It really takes 355 00:18:46.759 --> 00:18:50.720 away your magnetism, It takes away your happiness, It takes 356 00:18:50.720 --> 00:18:54.759 away so much from your life. And I understand the 357 00:18:54.920 --> 00:18:59.559 need for needing to know answers and having expectations and 358 00:18:59.640 --> 00:19:03.359 stand from people, places and things, and having goals and 359 00:19:03.400 --> 00:19:06.960 having timelines those are all beautiful things to have, But 360 00:19:07.079 --> 00:19:11.440 when you start to become so obsessed with how the 361 00:19:11.480 --> 00:19:15.359 relationship needs to play out, or how specifically this person 362 00:19:15.480 --> 00:19:18.359 needs to show up in your life, or how specifically 363 00:19:18.359 --> 00:19:21.359 the money has to come in, or how specifically you 364 00:19:21.400 --> 00:19:24.839 are going to be successful, it really creates a lot 365 00:19:24.880 --> 00:19:28.240 of restraint on you and your energy field and the 366 00:19:28.279 --> 00:19:30.400 way you show up in life. So I would think 367 00:19:30.400 --> 00:19:33.440 about a situation right now that's happening in your life 368 00:19:33.880 --> 00:19:38.319 where you can clearly see that you are very tied 369 00:19:38.400 --> 00:19:41.119 to a specific outcome, like this thing needs to happen 370 00:19:41.200 --> 00:19:44.599 this way and if not, then it's just going to 371 00:19:44.640 --> 00:19:45.839 be a storm and I'm not going to be able 372 00:19:45.839 --> 00:19:48.200 to deal with it. I want you to play with 373 00:19:48.279 --> 00:19:52.279 the idea, even in your mind, of what life would 374 00:19:52.319 --> 00:19:56.079 look like if that thing didn't work out the exact 375 00:19:56.119 --> 00:19:59.359 way that you wanted but better or I would even 376 00:19:59.359 --> 00:20:01.640 invite you to play with the idea of it not 377 00:20:01.720 --> 00:20:05.039 working out and then what And I think this is 378 00:20:05.079 --> 00:20:08.400 just a really good practice for you to rewire your 379 00:20:08.400 --> 00:20:12.000 brain with in a way, is like first allowing yourself 380 00:20:12.039 --> 00:20:15.160 to have a few other options of how this could 381 00:20:15.160 --> 00:20:17.359 play out even better than you expected, because a lot 382 00:20:17.400 --> 00:20:19.920 of the times we block our own blessings because we 383 00:20:20.000 --> 00:20:22.079 say it needs to be a certain way or this 384 00:20:22.119 --> 00:20:24.839 amount of money or this specific person. Well what if 385 00:20:24.920 --> 00:20:27.720 there's a better alternative and you don't even need to 386 00:20:27.759 --> 00:20:30.920 know that alternative, But I would invite you to explore 387 00:20:30.960 --> 00:20:33.599 that and use your imagination and give yourself a little 388 00:20:33.599 --> 00:20:37.000 bit of room to be able to have more in 389 00:20:37.000 --> 00:20:39.799 your life, because you are very restricting when you have 390 00:20:40.200 --> 00:20:42.880 this attachment to exactly the way that it needs to go. 391 00:20:43.000 --> 00:20:44.240 But on the flip side, and this is what I 392 00:20:44.279 --> 00:20:46.119 like to do sometimes as well, to really release the 393 00:20:46.160 --> 00:20:48.640 attachment that I have on people, places, and like things 394 00:20:48.680 --> 00:20:52.200 in my life is practicing being a little bit more 395 00:20:52.279 --> 00:20:55.079 fearless and being like, Okay, you know what, if this 396 00:20:55.119 --> 00:20:57.440 person doesn't end up being the one, if this person 397 00:20:57.440 --> 00:20:59.640 doesn't show up this way the way that I really want, 398 00:21:00.519 --> 00:21:05.119 I will be okay. I will literally live. I will 399 00:21:05.240 --> 00:21:07.559 do X, Y and Z if this thing's happen. So 400 00:21:07.599 --> 00:21:10.000 obviously depends on the circumstance, you know, like maybe i'll 401 00:21:10.039 --> 00:21:11.839