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want to be the safety guy, the certainty guy, you

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can become that these skills aren't for you. They're not

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going to help you. You've got to be someone who says,

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you know what, I want to be the one that

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God can trust. I want to be the one that

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can be counted on. I want to be the one

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that can have honor and obedience and integrity on the

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battlefield in the midst of all the chaos. If you

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want to be that person, that's who God wants you

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to be. If you want to be someone who can

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be trusted, you've got to want to be an overcomer.

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And an overcomer is not someone it's not being Superman right,

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it's dealing with uncertainty.

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Speaker 2: That's impossible.

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Speaker 3: Let me tell you what I believe. It's your weakness.

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Speaker 2: It's not your technique. Don't think you know you the

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Impossible Life Podcast.

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Speaker 3: I mean you're sitting on a winning lot of.

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Speaker 1: Second an idea that is a fully formed, fully understood

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that sticks. This is the Possible Life Podcast because Nick

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and I are attempting to live impossible lives.

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Speaker 3: What we know is that nothing is impossible.

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Speaker 1: So instead of using impossible as an excuse to not try,

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we'll use the pursuit of impossible as an accelerant for greatness.

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If something's never been done before, that just means it's unexplored.

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If they tell you it's too hard, it's just waiting

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to be simplified. Impossible as a default label used by

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uncourageous people unwilling to take a risk.

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Speaker 3: The real truth is this.

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Speaker 1: The solution to any impossible task starts with this question,

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if I had to what would it take?

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Speaker 3: What would it take?

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Speaker 2: Welcome to another episode of the Impossible Life Podcast. I'm

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your co host, Nick Surface, and I'm looking across out

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a man whose life scripture is faithful? Are the wounds

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of a friend? That's right, friend, Karrot, uncle back, a

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man whose friendship is not for the faint of heart.

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Speaker 1: You know, I don't have anything to rebuke that. Right

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before we got on the show, ten minutes ago, you

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were just telling me how great it's been to be

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my friend.

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Speaker 3: So, I mean, I.

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Speaker 2: Don't remember that conversation that way, but you know it

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is great being your friend. Yeah, I think I did

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actually say something will do this line.

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Speaker 3: You were talking about? You know, the benefit of being

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around you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I wouldn't say it was necessarily exactly

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those words, but yeah, there's some benefits, for sure, there are.

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But it's I remember that that intro is a true

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The closer you get to Garrett, the more you get

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unfiltered feedback, which you can choose to take as being

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very helpful. I've always chosen to take that way, and

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it has been helpful. I remember one time you said

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actually going to help them but hurt them, or like

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a joke or entertainment, I'm always opting for the first one.

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I'm almost always going for the joke there, and and

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like you said it very intensely at the time, and

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you know, that's just right on a queue for you.

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Speaker 1: So that's why the only some of the people who

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are closest to me in my life see the funny

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Speaker 1: We've got to get past a lot. There's a lot

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in category one. If we get past all that, Yeah,

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the funny, then the way that me and Lindsay do

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where we find some of your quirks ridiculous. But then

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there's the sea of the funny where you're actually trying to

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be funny. And you're right, there's very you gotta you

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gotta earn that one. You got to go through a

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few phases like that's like fourth phase of Garrett Garrett's

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Personal Bloods course. Anyways, all right, so gee today, man,

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Kingdom of God. Like we are Praise the Lord, Praise

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the Lord. That's what we're here to do is to

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literally help people grow closer to the Lord and you know,

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transform their lives and be all that God made them

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to be. That's literally why we exist. And this is

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like player development. This is a key one. How to

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to deal with uncertainty, but they're like a basketball player

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great at free throws, Like, man, why am I not

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Speaker 1: It than that, And I think I look at uncertainty

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Speaker 2: Surprising didn't go a great soldier? You have a little

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Speaker 1: Well, I try to be more relatable, and that's not

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skills of basketball player. But the poet is there are

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mean that you win lots of game.

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Speaker 2: Yes, it makes it more likely. And that's so like

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I've hated it over here. How do I take all

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my misery and turn it into something good? Like my

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strategic mind was still working back then, even though I

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was a broken man, and I decided, I was like,

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you know what I'm gonna do. I have access. I've

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been playing soccer over here. I have access to all

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this stuff. Why don't I get some English like FA

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to America Because I'd be a hug advantage to be

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an American who actually has like European training. And I

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was right, and it helped until they found out that

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Speaker 1: Up right back to speaking of soccer. World Cup soccer

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saw a really funny joke on Instagram the other day.

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Speaker 2: Things I did not expect you to say.

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Speaker 1: Somebody said, every country that loses to the US and the.

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Speaker 3: World Cup has to call it soccer.

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your ball control, your passing ability, shooting, all that sort

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of stuff, the stuff you expect. Then they go tactical,

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play man, Dude, that don't be a soccer coach. This

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don't know who could do this, and I don't even

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so what are they getting into the how? Automatically? The

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uncertain The uncertainty blocks most people from even being able

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to speak to the what. And we love our man

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Victor Frankel, who's said the man with a why can

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it do almost anyhow? I know it's Nietzsche, but we

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like Frankle better. Yes, And that is like the how

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is what stops so many people because they want to know.

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make this, how do we do it? And I go

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Speaker 1: You got to see it also, again, there's just some

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perspective flipping for you. You've got to look at it is.

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if if just equate life to sports for a second. Okay,

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what if Nick, for you, your life was the equivalent

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of you playing Elijah in basketball, That'd be awesome. I'll

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where the guy went absolutely Yeah, the guy goes in

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if you know you can win, why even play?

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a good way of looking people.

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and they're like, well, I don't want to play anymore.

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Speaker 2: We're not very good at knowing what's actually good for us.

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it's a very empowering piece of humble Pie to eat

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is like you go. You know what, maybe I don't

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really know what's best for me. Like as a society,

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heart disease, largely from people who are overweight. Now, if

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you ask anybody on the streets what makes you overweight,

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most people are going to say eating unhealthy food and

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being inactive. It's not like a secret. And yet we

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still can't seem to stop ourselves from doing this basic thing.

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what's good for us. Most of us would rather consume

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a real on Instagram that means nothing rather than watch

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something that's actually going to help us grow.

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someone I'm forgetting who said it. But someone summarized their

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life as do as much good as I can to

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as many people as I can, for as long as

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to do good versus that should be what you want

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in life instead of well, I just want to have

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everyone be in agreement that I'm a good person.

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Speaker 2: Right, let's feel good do good as opposed to feel.

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Speaker 1: Good, right, And so the point being, if you had

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the certainty a lot of people, well now I feel

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good about myself, but you still didn't do anything. You

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didn't help anybody, you didn't love anybody, you didn't use

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your life. Well, you didn't deploy the skills and the

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talents that God gave you to do those things to

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do good. To deploy the skill good that God gave you,

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need to understand this is not like mine and Garrett's pinion.

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God actually works this way, like I guarantee you uncertainty.

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great because this is an opportunity for you to grow

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in God. And we're going to give you a few examples.

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He does not reveal every single thing, and we're gonna

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give you a few examples. We could go through this exhaustily,

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but we would literally just be going through almost every

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Bible story there is, So I'm just gonna give you

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two big ones. Luke twenty four to forty nine, Jesus

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is getting ready to leave the earth. Now, imagine like

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for most of us, if we were going to give,

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if we knew these guys are going to go change

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the world, like literally they're going to change the world,

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most people from naturally would want to give an ex

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like an amount of instruction that would be far too

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much for anyone to keep. You probably wouldn't because you

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know how people work, and I've heard you give instructions

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to people and you're very good at delivering them. But

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for the vast majority of us, we'd bay and then

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you need to do this, and then don't worry. Remember,

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don't do this watch out for like it would be

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so over top. Here's what Jesus says. I'm going to

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send you what my father has promised, but stay in

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the city until you have been clothed with power from

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on high. Okay, well, hey, Jesus, what's going to happen

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on high. They like he had said that the Holy

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Spirit is going to come, and that was it. It

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was like, basically, go in there, when the Holy Spirit comes,

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what's going to happen. He's going to guide you to

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all truth. He's gonna convict the world's sin. He talks

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about what the Holy Spirit does in other parts, but

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that's his instruction, and then go make disciples.

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Speaker 3: One of the.

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Speaker 1: Things you learn in the military is how to communicate

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with brevity.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: As a j Tech Joint Ternal Aircraft controller, one of

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the jobs that I had dropping munitions, you learn how

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to talk to pilots and you go to this whole

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school to do it. And one of the things they

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teach you to say to the pilots, because the pilots

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are experts in their bombs and missiles.

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Speaker 3: I know a lot about them. The pilots know about

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more about them than me.

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Speaker 1: And one of the things they teach us to communicate

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is desired effects.

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Speaker 1: Don't tell them what to do or how to do it,

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to say, here's what I need you to make happen, right, Right,

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of this building.

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build building to be there anymore. That's desired effects.

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missile or this bomb with an angle delivery or a

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vertical No, no, no, let them determine that, right, just really clear,

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this is what I want you to make happen, that,

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you know, asking for desired effects. One of those things

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that they taught us was if I know this is

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what this relates to what Jesus is saying in this scripture.

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what's the signal? But if I know I'm going to

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use a really clear signal like a flair, you'll know

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right versus well, you know, go here and it's going

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to come from this direction, and it's going to be

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read and it's gonna be no, no, no, I know that

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if I give a really clear signal, you'll understand what

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Speaker 3: Very good.

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Speaker 2: Ye's that's good man. I like that. But but one

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going back to one step in a time is like,

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it's so it's not what we want, but it is

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how God works, like we said, and I get that

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what you're saying, I mean, when it's unmistakable, it's like

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the spirit's just taking a long one step time. Well,

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let's look at a guy who was the greatest born

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the Holy Spirit from birth. Okay, John the Baptist John

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one thirty one through thirty four. Literally he was like

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he prepared the way before Jesus and announced to the

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world that he was the Messiah, before Jesus was even

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known as the Messiah. I myself did not know him,

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that he might be revealed to Israel. Then John gave

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this testimony. I saw the Spirit come down from heaven

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as a dove and remain on him, And I myself

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did not know him, but the one who sent me

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to baptize with water told me, and that was the

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Holy Spirit. The man on whom you see the spirit

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come down and remain is the one who will baptize

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with the Holy Spirit. I've seen and I testify that

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this is God's chosen one. Like he's known as John

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the Baptist. Why was he baptizing because that was what

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he was instructed to do? And then you'll know. But

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can't you just tell me this was his cousin right, Like,

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how God works. And this is what we're saying to you,

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like a big part of surrender, a big part of submission,

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of actually living your life for God and fulfilling the

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purposes that He has and truly like walking with God

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is that you need to know. You're not going to know,

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and if you need to know, it will hold you back,

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You will miss your purpose wanting to know. Think, look

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at the Israelites. They're so big, you know, like, oh,

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we're grasshoppers in their eyes. What could we do to them? Well, man,

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some of what I could. I could get into some

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of the more there, but like you can miss it

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Speaker 1: Need to know if sometimes that over communication of details

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and you're saying this to me, you're saying, look, I've

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seen you communicate. You know how to communicate well, because

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if I try to like make you a human puppet,

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I'm actually going to get the least out of you,

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right Versus I need to you know, communicate, simply give

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desired effects, tell you what I need you to do,

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and then let you work on the rest.

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Speaker 3: That is for your best. It's also for the best

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for your growth.

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Speaker 1: And I want you to accomplish the right objective, understand

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what the thing is that you're supposed to do, and

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then have the time and the space to use your

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skills instead of me trying to make you do something.

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Speaker 3: This is one of the hardest things.

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Speaker 1: That leaders have to deal with, by the way, is

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that and this is the difference between leadership and management.

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Management is trying to make everybody do what I would

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do right. Leadership is learning how to work with people

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and get a team that's great, and get a team

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to like, look, you're not me, but here's how you

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and you and you together can accomplish this great instate.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, now that's really good.

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Speaker 3: Gee.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, because and you know what, anybody that's worked for

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a manager, it'll if you have an ounce of ability,

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it'll drive you crazy.

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Speaker 3: Again desired effects, right, Yeah.

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many leaders that I've worked with in companies that I

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work with, they don't trust their people, and they have

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their people are giving them the right answers, but because

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it's not what they necessarily think it should be, they

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don't trust them. And so you're right. They are managers

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who are in leadership positions and it doesn't work.

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Speaker 1: And it's like, you know, if you go to in

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and out, the desired effects is really clear.

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Speaker 3: They have a lot of repeatability. Yeah, and they also

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Speaker 1: Sure I've never worked an in and out, but I'm

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sure it is very clear steps of how you do

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every single thing.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And if I was a manager and in and out

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with a young person who said like, well, why can't

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we do this?

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Speaker 3: And well let's try it?

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Speaker 1: Do you think if because they have a clear desired

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effects and clear steps, right, there's probably not better steps,

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but that would be a great education for that person

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to realize, oh, you come to you came to the

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conclusion these steps are the best way to get to

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those desired effects. And if you can learn those things,

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you might just might be able to come up with

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some things that could improve it.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, bro, those burners can't be improved on.

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So you know, it's all you in and out workers

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out there listening. Don't try anything new. Okay, you've unlocked

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the form of person.

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Baptist scripture, you know, why didn't God just tell John like, hey,

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you're you're John Jesus's cousin, right, Not John the Baptist,

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You're John Jesus's cousin. What we always want in our

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life and I was what I was bashing on earlier,

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always want certainty, but certainty is a limiting factor in

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our lives. You think it's what you want, but it's

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actually not the case. It's not what God's going to

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give you. Because you've got to remember, what does God

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want really for all of us? God didn't God doesn't

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need any of us to do anything as as his children.

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What God wants most for us is to grow us

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and develop us.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: And so if he tells you, if he makes you

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a puppet, tells you step by step, controls you through

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every process, what did you actually do now? Because then

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God's like, what I could have just done it myself.

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He wants to show you what's next. And that's that

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is the difference between clarity and certainty. Clarity is having

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faith in God and seeing, Okay, here's the next thing

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that I need to do. This is how the Holy

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Spirit guides us, Jesus said, And the.

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Speaker 3: Holy Spirit will lead.

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Speaker 1: It will remind you of my commands and lead you

478
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and guide you. Never said the Holy Spirit will give

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you the full plan, So the Holy Spirit will help

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you understand what's next.

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Speaker 3: That's the way that God works with us.

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Speaker 1: So that's don't get stick on saying, you know, God,

483
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I want you to show me everything, show me the

484
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big picture. What's you know step A or you know

485
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step one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. No,

486
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God's just going to show you what the next step is.

487
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That's wanting God to give you the staircase, and He's

488
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not going to do that. God's just going to show

489
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you what the next step is.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So if you're praying out there, pray for clarity,

491
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but then understand that what's going to unlock the next

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step after you get clarity is obedience. Like if God

493
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shows you to do something once again, John the Baptist,

494
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great example of the disciples, another example. We could go

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through this from Abraham all the way through the entire Bible,

496
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and but like it's really obedience that he's training you in.

497
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Speaker 1: And I won't go along on it here. But the

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way that we've taught on clarity before m h like

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as it relates to purpose, I always ask people who

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are followers of Christ who are struggling with clarity, said,

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do you know the difference between a sin and what's

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not a sin?

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Speaker 3: Right? Most of the time the answer is like, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: I know, like Holy Spirit convicts me and what a

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sin is, Well, that's same voice that helps to understand

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what's the sin and what's not a sin. The more

507
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you listen to that, and the closer relationship you get

508
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with the voice that's helping you understand what's sin and

509
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what's not sin, what is the same thing that's going

510
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to answer every question of clarity for you? Where you

511
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where the voice that helps you understand what's sin and

512
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what's not sin. If you have a close relationship with

513
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that voice and it's not answering you, it's because.

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Speaker 3: It's up to you.

515
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Speaker 2: Very good man, very very good.

516
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Speaker 3: The Holy Spirit is not going to.

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Speaker 1: Like if this is you know, like where where as

518
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a person where God say like, this is what I

519
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want you to do? Okay, and then you go, well,

520
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Holy Spirit, am I supposed to do this? Holy spiritual

521
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is going to look at you like, bro, we've had

522
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this conversation already.

523
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's time for you to trust in God. Yeah, man,

524
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that's so good man. Now, at least to my actual

525
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life scripture. Your your life scripture, for the record, is

526
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not faithful are the ones of a friend, although you

527
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know it's on the list, But my actual life scripture

528
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is probably three five and six. It's trusting the Lord

529
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with all your hearts. What we're saying, lean on your

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own understanding, give up your need for certainty in all

531
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your ways, submit to him, and then what he will

532
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make your pas straight. We talk about that as like

533
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that's like the path of the formula for purpose as well.

534
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Speaker 3: I was getting after that one hard.

535
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Speaker 1: A couple of Saturdays ago, we did a great segment

536
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at Mighty Men called faith maxing cultural reference to a

537
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different way of thinking that you may know what I'm

538
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referring to. If not, that's okay, you'll just miss the joke.

539
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But faith maxing, that's really the way that you should live.

540
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In Proverbs three five and six doesn't say trust in

541
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the Lord with some of your heart. It's all your heart,

542
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lean not on your own understanding. That means you lean

543
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on his understanding in all your ways, submit to him.

544
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Speaker 3: Then he'll make your pastory. Yeah, that's the process.

545
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Speaker 1: And so if you want a note like if you

546
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want certainty, you can have certainty in who God is.

547
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and man, we're going to get more into that.

548
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So I'm just going to put a pin in that,

549
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so do We're going to give people a little bit

550
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of the mindset here, and then we're going to go

551
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into the skills that you need really to be so

552
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to walk through uncertainty. But this is something we do

553
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in mindset Master and I didn't tell you this, Actually

554
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I think you met him. We had a listener that's

555
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that was listening to podcast and this happens a lot,

556
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and they come to Mighty Man because if they're in

557
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the DFW aans and I love it. They come and

558
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we always love meeting themselves.

559
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Speaker 1: If you guys, if you live in the DFW area

560
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and you're listening to this podcast, that's where Nick and

561
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I live. Yeah, every Saturday, Nick and I are at

562
00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:23,039
Mighty Men in Frisco, Texas, come be with us. I

563
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:25,640
was just given the guys at Mighty Men a hard time.

564
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Speaker 3: A couple of weeks ago.

565
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Speaker 1: I was like, dude, if you guys come to Mighty

566
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Men and you don't listen to my podcast, you're missing it.

567
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Nick and I spend so much time pouring into this.

568
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It's like a companion to Mighty Men. I'm not saying

569
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that to four hundred guys in the audience to pat

570
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our numbers because at this point, what did we do

571
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for downloads last month?

572
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Speaker 2: One hundred and sixty five thousand.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if no one that might have been listened, wouldn't

574
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make a difference, right right. It was the same thing

575
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I was saying to them, Hey, you should really listen

576
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to be listening to the podcast. Same thing I would

577
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say to any podcast listeners who live and listen or

578
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live in the DFW area, you should really come to

579
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Mighty Men. And for all of you who don't live

580
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in the DFW area, feel free to come visit us anytime.

581
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Speaker 2: Which we have people that do and I love that man,

582
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I just think it's so cool. By so we're gonna go.

583
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This is what we do in Mindset Mastery. We'll always

584
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give the mindset before we break into the understanding, and

585
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when we give very specific tools and the application, we

586
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go way deeper on that than what we're able to

587
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do on the podcast because we focus on one thing

588
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for a whole month. It was really cool, actually, so Brandal,

589
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so shout out to brand because I know you're listening.

590
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He's a guy who's coming from Yeah, he met you.

591
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We were talking about how he speaks math as well.

592
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I was like, oh, you streak Garrison nay tongue because

593
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he's an engineer. Well, he was saying to me. He's like, like,

594
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we we ran out of time to talk yesterday. But

595
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he's like, man, he's like, maybe another time I can

596
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just tell you how great mindset master he's been. I'm like, oh,

597
00:24:38,799 --> 00:24:40,359
I didn't realize, Like I didn't know you were in

598
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there with us, and I was like, what was what's

599
00:24:42,079 --> 00:24:44,359
been so great about? He's like, dude, that ideal you

600
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thing you guys did in identity, He's like, I mean

601
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like you could see his whole face light up. He's

602
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like that just unlocked me so much. And so I

603
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love hearing that, man, because it's like, you know, like

604
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what you said right there where you had me share

605
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the downloads so people know we're not doing this for

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personal investment.

607
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Speaker 3: Like we weren't.

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Speaker 2: I think it's pretty clear we're not. Like we both

609
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have jobs that pay for our families well being, and

610
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we reinvest like virtually everything back into this podcast because

611
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we want to help people. It's why we started, it's

612
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why we're still going. But so when you hear somebody

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and you realize that it's having the desired effect, first

614
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of all, it's like, God, you're so good because you're

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using what we're doing. And second of all, it's just

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like it's encouraging. Like I always love getting messages from people,

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even now as they become more frequent, I never take

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it for granted because I just feel like it's like

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it's the encouragement that, like God is working through what

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we're doing, which is all we want. So say all

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that's say, mindset master is awesome, Come join.

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Speaker 3: Us, yep.

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Speaker 1: And in mindset mastery, this is some of the framework

624
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we'll follow on the other topics, correct, and so we

625
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decided to use that on this topic today.

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Speaker 2: So give us the belief it's.

627
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Speaker 3: Mindset, skill set tool set. We're going to spend.

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Speaker 1: The meat of today's episode is going to be the

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skills for managing uncertainty. Let me give you some mindset

630
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before we get into that.

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Speaker 3: Which is my favorite part.

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Speaker 1: Soccer Nick Nick has been a gift in my life,

633
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you know, because I remember talking about it. If you

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go back and listen to the early episodes. One of

635
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the references I would use is like, well, if I

636
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was gonna, if I was gonna help you get in shape,

637
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I'd spend the majority of my time helping you think

638
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:10,039
about how to get in shape, not like you can

639
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download a fitness plan.

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Speaker 3: I watched a lot of guys do all.

641
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Speaker 1: Of the skills of becoming an Avy seal and did

642
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a terrible job of becoming Navy seals. Right, mindset is

643
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so important, It's where I want to spend a lot

644
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of my time. But skills are important too, And somehow

645
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I weave the mindset into the skills. Dude, Yeah, I

646
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mean you weave mindset into everything, which is great. But

647
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here's the mindset before we get into the skills. We

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break mindset into three categories. Beliefs, desires, and understanding. Won't

649
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cover understanding on this, but beliefs. Okay, here's some beliefs

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you've got to have if you want to manage uncertainty.

651
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If you beliefs again, beliefs. We have a definition for beliefs.

652
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It's a we spend an entire you know, we talk

653
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about a ton of the podcast, a lot of mindset mastery.

654
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The definition for beliefs things that I know are true

655
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but can't prove. Okay, there's there's actual little little that

656
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you can prove in life, prove from a scientific standpoint, verifiable, demonstratable,

657
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and repeatable. For example, I cannot prove to you scientifically

658
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that God exists. I can, however, give you a great

659
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amount of evidence, but verifiable, demonstrable, repeatable. There are a

660
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few things that you can actually prove in that way.

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So beliefs are the things that you look at your

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life and say, I've examined the evidence, and this is

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where I stand.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, very good. Number one.

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Speaker 1: Right, just some beliefs here. God is a purpose for

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my life. I say it all the time. I tell

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it to people all the time. If you come to

668
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Mighty Men, you hear it every Saturday. It's one of

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the most important things you can know is that God

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has a great plan for your life. If you don't

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know that, if you don't believe that, you will struggle

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to deal with uncertainty. You will chase certainty your whole life,

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because if you don't trust anyone, if you don't trust God,

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if you don't trust anyone your whole life, you're going

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to be afraid of what you can't control, and that's

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a scary life. Yeah, so that's also understanding. You know,

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if God is a great plan for my life, you

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can extrapolate that into God made me to win.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 1: It may not be, you know, the victory that I

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thought it was going to be, but that means God

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has a victory for you, very good. And let me

683
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just extrapolate that even further. One of my favorite characters

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in the Bible is David, Okay, and like he's you know,

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before Jesus, besides David, I mean, besides Jesus, David's like

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basically the chosen one. Yeah, you know for sure where

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God was like, this is you guys want to see

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a man.

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Speaker 3: This is my man.

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Speaker 1: He says, he's the man after God's own heart. God

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loved David, and David did not win every battle in life,

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which I think is interesting to think about. Like God

693
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didn't say, here's my chosen one, who bat a thousand?

694
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Oh yeah, that's not who he was trying. And so

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just like Christ is who we're trying to be, David

696
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is also a model for a life. Now, David is sinful.

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Christ was not. We aspire to be like Christ in that,

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but you want to have a heart like David as well.

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And again, just one of the things I think is

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so interesting is that David didn't win every battle. A

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belief that you should have in your life is that

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you don't have to win every battle to be successful.

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If you think you have to win every battle, some

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of the skills that we talk about for uncertainty will

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help you. It's probably not going to kill you if

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you lose one time in your life, well or multiple times,

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because because I'm being physical.

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Speaker 2: I know you are. But beliefs are always tied to actions.

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And like you can say whatever you want about your belief,

710
00:29:26,119 --> 00:29:29,119
your actions are what you actually believe. And so some

711
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:31,240
people like you say I don't have to win every

712
00:29:31,279 --> 00:29:33,039
battle to be successful. Most people be like, well, yeah,

713
00:29:33,079 --> 00:29:34,759
of course, but what do they do the first time

714
00:29:34,759 --> 00:29:37,079
things go wrong? I must be doing something wrong. I

715
00:29:37,079 --> 00:29:37,519
didn't win.

716
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 1: No, well, and people hide themselves up wrongly into like

717
00:29:43,599 --> 00:29:46,119
if I if this is my last chance, If I

718
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:47,519
lose this one, I'm dead.

719
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:49,559
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're telling me that DJ kald was a liar.

720
00:29:49,839 --> 00:29:51,680
Speaker 1: All I do is win, win, win, No, you don't,

721
00:29:52,519 --> 00:29:55,200
so you know, belief is understanding. I don't have to

722
00:29:55,200 --> 00:29:58,599
win every battle to be successful. I'll take that further

723
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:00,759
into here's what you should but leave. What you should

724
00:30:00,759 --> 00:30:03,400
believe is that success is living your values right, which

725
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,640
is another way of saying success is controlling what you

726
00:30:06,680 --> 00:30:08,680
can control. I'm going to give all the things I

727
00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:11,720
can't control to God. I'm going to win in life

728
00:30:12,359 --> 00:30:15,480
like It'll be an objective win and a subjective when

729
00:30:15,799 --> 00:30:18,440
I'm going to win in life by controlling what I

730
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:19,039
can control.

731
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:22,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's a process based action. If success is

732
00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:24,759
living your values, well, things aren't going very well, what

733
00:30:24,799 --> 00:30:26,920
are your values? This, this, and this, Well, then just

734
00:30:27,039 --> 00:30:29,160
keep on doing them and that even in the midst

735
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:30,960
of getting not the results that I want. And if

736
00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:33,960
things going bad, yes, that is actual success.

737
00:30:34,039 --> 00:30:37,079
Speaker 1: And then this is not so much a belief. More

738
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:39,359
is that this is kind of an attitude. This is

739
00:30:39,359 --> 00:30:43,039
an attitude that I live with, which is you know,

740
00:30:43,319 --> 00:30:47,920
I when I was twenty three years old, I thought

741
00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:50,079
I had taken my last breath, and it changed the

742
00:30:50,119 --> 00:30:53,359
way I looked at the rest of my life. I

743
00:30:53,440 --> 00:30:55,799
wasn't going to take any day for granted, wasn't going

744
00:30:55,839 --> 00:30:59,200
to take a breath for granted. And you should just

745
00:30:59,279 --> 00:31:02,319
have this attitud in life that you're out of time. Yeah,

746
00:31:02,359 --> 00:31:06,079
and chasing certainty. You'll spend a lot of time waiting around.

747
00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:10,480
You'll waste your life, you'll waste your potential, and you'll

748
00:31:10,519 --> 00:31:13,640
waste great outcomes. Some of the great things that people

749
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:15,559
accomplish in life they didn't know they were going to

750
00:31:15,599 --> 00:31:18,240
win before they did it. And if you just spend

751
00:31:18,279 --> 00:31:21,359
your life, well, you know, I'll take that step when

752
00:31:21,400 --> 00:31:23,640
I know exactly what's going to happen. You're going to

753
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:26,160
waste your life, You're gonna waste your potential, and you

754
00:31:26,279 --> 00:31:27,440
just got to know that you're out of time.

755
00:31:27,640 --> 00:31:29,119
Speaker 2: It's one of the things I love so much about

756
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:31,319
when we had John Bavian talking about the King is coming.

757
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:35,400
When you actually have that understanding of the end aka

758
00:31:35,519 --> 00:31:38,559
of an eternal perspective, Christ is coming back. We are

759
00:31:38,559 --> 00:31:40,039
going to have to give an answer for our lives,

760
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:43,000
like we need to be ready prepared, on watch and

761
00:31:43,119 --> 00:31:46,440
be those that are living in holiness pursuing Him. When

762
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:49,759
you have that, you can't wait to do that until tomorrow.

763
00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:54,240
Like it's it is that the urgency is massively underrated.

764
00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:57,039
Speaker 1: As to comes to said, be not like those whose

765
00:31:57,039 --> 00:32:01,599
hearts are filled with fear of death. Yeah, but that's

766
00:32:02,119 --> 00:32:05,799
most people live their lives waiting and praying, asking or

767
00:32:05,839 --> 00:32:07,400
they get to the end of their lives asking for

768
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:09,799
a little more time, wishing they could have done things differently.

769
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:13,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, one of the biggest takeaways I've had. Somebody asked

770
00:32:13,119 --> 00:32:14,440
me about this, They said, so, what are you doing

771
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:16,759
differently since Rihon had her like near death? You know

772
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:19,200
whole thing? I said, you know, what's what I'm actually

773
00:32:19,200 --> 00:32:21,279
I hadn't really thought about it, but I'm really proud

774
00:32:21,279 --> 00:32:24,000
of We didn't change a single thing. Literally, we didn't

775
00:32:24,079 --> 00:32:26,799
change anything. We just as soon as she was well again,

776
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:28,680
you know, it was just like all right, let's get

777
00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:32,119
back to work. And like I'm I'm I'm. I won't

778
00:32:32,119 --> 00:32:34,240
say proud of that, but like I look at that

779
00:32:34,319 --> 00:32:36,400
and go, yeah, because we don't live our lives, you know,

780
00:32:36,480 --> 00:32:39,319
wasting time. So that was a big one.

781
00:32:39,319 --> 00:32:39,599
Speaker 3: All right.

782
00:32:39,599 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 2: What the desires, Gene.

783
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 3: What one desire? This is?

784
00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 1: You know what where you are in life is. I

785
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:48,160
could list a lot, but we're just going to do one.

786
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:50,000
Where you are in life is a result of what

787
00:32:50,039 --> 00:32:53,119
you want. What matters to you? What are you chasing after?

788
00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:57,720
What do you want and to deal with uncertainty. To

789
00:32:57,799 --> 00:33:00,960
be another way I say it is a chaos navigator.

790
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:04,160
If you're going to be a chaos navigator, you've got

791
00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:05,240
to want to be an overcomer.

792
00:33:05,359 --> 00:33:05,799
Speaker 2: Yeah.

793
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 1: Like one of my self described identities is chaos navigator

794
00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:14,119
and odds to fire. I've wanted to be that person,

795
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,759
and I've become that person. I've spoken it into existence.

796
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:20,039
You've got to want to be an overcomer. If you

797
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:23,720
want to be the safety guy, the certainty guy, you

798
00:33:23,759 --> 00:33:26,759
can become that these skills aren't for you. They're not

799
00:33:26,799 --> 00:33:28,599
going to help you. You've got to be someone who says,

800
00:33:28,599 --> 00:33:30,079
you know what, I want to be the one that

801
00:33:30,119 --> 00:33:31,480
God can trust. I want to be the one that

802
00:33:31,519 --> 00:33:33,240
can be counted on. I want to be the one

803
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:36,640
that can have honor and obedience and integrity on the

804
00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:38,880
battlefield in the midst of all the chaos. If you

805
00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:41,039
want to be that person, that's who God wants you

806
00:33:41,119 --> 00:33:42,839
to be. If you want to be someone who can

807
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:44,960
be trusted, you've got to want to be an overcomer.

808
00:33:45,319 --> 00:33:49,480
And an overcomer is not someone it's not being Superman, right,

809
00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:51,079
it's dealing with uncertainty.

810
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:54,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, So good man and it's and who doesn't want that?

811
00:33:55,079 --> 00:33:57,160
I was flashing back to the greatest introduction I ever

812
00:33:57,160 --> 00:34:00,200
heard whenever you said, and I've told the stories, I'll

813
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:03,279
be very brief, but you taught. You showed me more

814
00:34:03,279 --> 00:34:05,839
about what identity looks like in your introduction than I

815
00:34:06,119 --> 00:34:08,039
could have ever hoped for when you said I'm a

816
00:34:08,119 --> 00:34:11,559
chaos navigator, strategic thinker, and odds to fire and because

817
00:34:11,599 --> 00:34:14,039
of that, I do. And then you listed off your jobs.

818
00:34:14,039 --> 00:34:16,599
Whereas every person before you had talked about We said, Hey,

819
00:34:16,599 --> 00:34:18,079
tell us a little bit about your life. Give us

820
00:34:18,079 --> 00:34:21,639
an update. They say, well, I'm John, I'm married, I

821
00:34:21,679 --> 00:34:24,559
am an accountant, right, And like, those are those I

822
00:34:24,639 --> 00:34:27,920
am statements really show you without them realizing it, how

823
00:34:27,960 --> 00:34:31,039
they're seeing themselves in an identity And he said, no, No,

824
00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:34,079
what I am is like good in any n Another way,

825
00:34:34,079 --> 00:34:35,880
there's the rooms I chose because of it.

826
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:39,280
Speaker 1: Right, Because another way of saying identity is who you are?

827
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:41,400
Who are you if everything's taken away from you?

828
00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:41,880
Speaker 2: Correct?

829
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,320
Speaker 1: Right, because you can being an accountant can be taken

830
00:34:45,360 --> 00:34:45,880
away from you.

831
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that's what's so great about shows like Survivor, right,

832
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,360
because people come from all these different things and then

833
00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:52,800
you throw them on an island and you're like, hey,

834
00:34:52,800 --> 00:34:54,239
we just gave you a completely different game.

835
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:56,719
Speaker 1: I was just when I was in Paris with the guys.

836
00:34:57,840 --> 00:34:59,920
You you and I didn't. I forgot to tell you this.

837
00:35:00,000 --> 00:35:02,440
You and Lindsay are going to laugh. John from my

838
00:35:02,519 --> 00:35:05,280
team was was getting at me about like, well, could

839
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:08,239
you what's the biggest animal? You know you could fight

840
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:11,119
without any weapons. So we got into this this he's

841
00:35:11,119 --> 00:35:11,800
a great discussion.

842
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:12,559
Speaker 3: We got into this.

843
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:14,920
Speaker 1: Lineup questioning and he's just laughing and he's like, do

844
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:17,079
you think you would win on the show Naked and Afraid?

845
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:19,440
I was like, John, you know they don't let like

846
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:21,480
Navy seals down kill that show.

847
00:35:21,639 --> 00:35:22,440
Speaker 3: Of course you would.

848
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:24,199
Speaker 2: Yeah, Now the animal fights.

849
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:25,760
Speaker 1: Thing is like, it's like you think you could make it?

850
00:35:25,800 --> 00:35:28,559
I was like, the only the only thing that would

851
00:35:28,679 --> 00:35:32,079
keep me from uh succeeding on Naked and Afraid is

852
00:35:32,119 --> 00:35:33,119
can I find fresh water?

853
00:35:33,320 --> 00:35:33,599
Speaker 3: Right?

854
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:36,320
Speaker 1: Like the other than that? It's and I said, and

855
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:37,880
I probably wouldn't go on that show because it's not

856
00:35:38,039 --> 00:35:39,960
enough money. But if it wasn't enough money, I would

857
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:42,000
go on that show. And as long as I can

858
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,000
find fresh water, I'm just fry. I don't even have

859
00:35:44,079 --> 00:35:45,639
to eat for twenty one days, right.

860
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:48,079
Speaker 2: Well, and what he doesn't also he also doesn't realize

861
00:35:48,079 --> 00:35:50,800
that you have a classification system for animals, like I've like,

862
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:52,719
and you've heard if you pay attention to this podcast,

863
00:35:52,719 --> 00:35:54,320
you will hear we're going to use it today. Yeah,

864
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:57,119
of how Garrett looks at animals, because he'll be like, no,

865
00:35:57,199 --> 00:36:00,280
that this like you said, I can't remember how cap

866
00:36:01,280 --> 00:36:01,719
he'll laugh.

867
00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:04,239
Speaker 1: He started, he was like going through the animals, and

868
00:36:04,280 --> 00:36:07,239
I was like, John, just scratch any animal off the

869
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:08,480
list that weighs less than me.

870
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 2: That's yeah.

871
00:36:10,679 --> 00:36:12,760
Speaker 1: And then he's like, are you sure there's like no animal?

872
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:15,760
I said there's one. I said, there's one animal, yep.

873
00:36:16,239 --> 00:36:19,480
And I said it's the honey badger yep. And he's like, well,

874
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:21,320
what would happen? I said, well, what would actually happen

875
00:36:21,760 --> 00:36:24,159
is just like out of honor, we would both like,

876
00:36:24,760 --> 00:36:26,519
you know, we can't kill each other, and you know

877
00:36:26,519 --> 00:36:27,840
it's just scar separate ways.

878
00:36:28,199 --> 00:36:29,079
Speaker 3: You know you can't kill me.

879
00:36:29,440 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 2: Wolverine might be in that list as well, which is

880
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:34,440
like a cousin of the they are nasty animals anyways,

881
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:38,159
But that's a whole other conversation. That's hilarious, John, Just

882
00:36:38,159 --> 00:36:39,679
just you know, you might as well just jump straight

883
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:41,880
to Grizzy Bear next time, bro, because you're wasting your

884
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:44,960
time anyways, a r G. Now we're here, let's give people.

885
00:36:44,960 --> 00:36:46,880
So these are the skills, Like we say, we're developing

886
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:48,800
players for the God, for the Kingdom of God to

887
00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:51,679
like win in advance and do what you were put.

888
00:36:51,519 --> 00:36:52,119
Speaker 3: On the earth to do.

889
00:36:52,400 --> 00:36:54,480
Speaker 2: But you're gonna have to deal with certainty, uncertainty. G

890
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:56,119
what are the skills they need?

891
00:36:56,239 --> 00:37:00,280
Speaker 1: Okay, So the way we're looking at this is like

892
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:02,800
we said in the beginning. You know, I'm not not

893
00:37:02,840 --> 00:37:05,159
a pro athlete, but it's like a pro athlete's list

894
00:37:05,159 --> 00:37:07,519
of skills. Whether it's soccer or baseball or football or

895
00:37:07,519 --> 00:37:10,079
whatever it is you play, there's a list of skills.

896
00:37:10,119 --> 00:37:12,960
If you're really great at one of them, it's good.

897
00:37:12,960 --> 00:37:14,840
It's better than not being great at anything. If you're

898
00:37:14,840 --> 00:37:16,519
really great at one of them, that doesn't mean you're

899
00:37:16,559 --> 00:37:18,639
gonna be great at playing the game. You really need

900
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:21,400
all of these, or at least some understanding of all

901
00:37:21,440 --> 00:37:24,880
of these. Being really strong at one and okay, at

902
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:26,199
a few of them, you're gonna be able to play

903
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:27,920
the game. But you've got to have all of these

904
00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:30,880
skills and at least some metric, right. So number one,

905
00:37:31,159 --> 00:37:34,559
this is one of the most important important skills. This

906
00:37:34,639 --> 00:37:36,880
is like a hustle as an athlete, Like, if you

907
00:37:36,920 --> 00:37:39,079
have no sense of hustle, you're gonna be terrible at

908
00:37:39,079 --> 00:37:44,239
playing the game. Number one core skill is courage and faith, right,

909
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:46,400
And I'm putting those kind of in the same category

910
00:37:46,679 --> 00:37:48,880
obviously those of you who listen this podcast a good amount.

911
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:51,320
Speaker 3: No, that's where courage is supposed to come from. From faith.

912
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:53,119
Speaker 1: I'm just simplifying it and putting them both in the

913
00:37:53,119 --> 00:37:56,840
same category. I'm not gonna use this episode to like

914
00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,880
teach each of these because we have other episodes where

915
00:37:59,920 --> 00:38:02,400
you talked about these. Really, what today we're doing today

916
00:38:02,440 --> 00:38:04,840
is putting a system together some of them I'll give

917
00:38:04,840 --> 00:38:07,000
a little bit more explanation to. I'm not going to

918
00:38:07,039 --> 00:38:10,360
spend a ton of time explaining courage and faith. But

919
00:38:10,480 --> 00:38:12,599
with all of these skills, I have a question. There's

920
00:38:12,599 --> 00:38:16,000
a question to kind of simplify this skill, and the

921
00:38:16,079 --> 00:38:19,079
question of skill number one courage and faith is what

922
00:38:19,119 --> 00:38:20,159
are you putting your trust in?

923
00:38:21,079 --> 00:38:21,599
Speaker 3: Right man?

924
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:25,239
Speaker 1: Because that's going to reflect how you deal with uncertainty

925
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:27,719
what you put your trust in. If you put your

926
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:29,880
trust in you, you will chase certainty.

927
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:34,559
Speaker 2: Yeah, this man, that is such a deep heart question,

928
00:38:35,039 --> 00:38:36,800
and you've got to be real with yourself. Man like

929
00:38:37,960 --> 00:38:41,039
faith will unlock grace. And I put a scripture of this.

930
00:38:41,079 --> 00:38:42,840
It's Ephesians two eight. It says, for it is by

931
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:45,880
grace you have been saved right, which is God's favorites,

932
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:49,800
God's enablement to do. And it says through faith, and

933
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:52,239
this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God.

934
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,800
What is so amazing about faith is that it is

935
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:59,119
basically believing God at his word. So many people will

936
00:38:59,119 --> 00:39:01,519
feel like they have to and out faith, and oftentimes

937
00:39:01,559 --> 00:39:03,840
that's because they're trying to make something true that God

938
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,960
didn't say. What actual faith is is God said it,

939
00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:09,719
and I believe it. When you believe what God says,

940
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:12,559
there is a grace that enables you. And I will

941
00:39:12,599 --> 00:39:15,079
tell you it's knowing in your knower. This grace will

942
00:39:15,079 --> 00:39:17,800
help you to be more confident, more bold, more certain

943
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:20,800
about where God's leading than you can even imagine. I'll

944
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:22,760
reference back to the experience of my wife when my

945
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:24,320
wife was, you know, when I was driving her to

946
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:26,519
the er and I'm saying Psalms one twenty one, I

947
00:39:26,559 --> 00:39:28,639
lift up my eyes to the mountains. From where's my

948
00:39:28,679 --> 00:39:30,800
help come from? The Lord, the maker of heaven and earth.

949
00:39:31,239 --> 00:39:33,360
I was just trusting God. I'm like, Lord, you are

950
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:36,039
where my help comes from. And that whole experience of

951
00:39:36,079 --> 00:39:39,280
walking through it and knowing like having zero fear and

952
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:41,960
knowing that God was with me, and the enablement of grace.

953
00:39:42,639 --> 00:39:45,360
That grace is not just for life and death moments.

954
00:39:45,679 --> 00:39:48,440
As you read through the New Testament, grace is literally

955
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:50,400
the way that we do all things. You know talks

956
00:39:50,400 --> 00:39:54,039
about grace upon grace. That does not come from like, well,

957
00:39:54,119 --> 00:39:56,519
you know, God just made it easy. It comes from like,

958
00:39:56,880 --> 00:39:58,800
you believe God, you take him at his word and

959
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:01,159
from their grace and a you to do. So that

960
00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:03,400
question of what you're putting your trust in, that's why

961
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:05,320
you put that as the first skill, because if you're

962
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:08,760
putting your trust in yourself or in some fallacy idea

963
00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:11,800
of God that you think it will fall apart and

964
00:40:12,199 --> 00:40:14,000
you will not be able to do it it is

965
00:40:14,079 --> 00:40:16,079
that is a core core question. Man.

966
00:40:17,079 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 3: Courage.

967
00:40:17,639 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 1: Courage comes from faith, Yeah, without any courage, you're going

968
00:40:21,559 --> 00:40:25,320
to be a loser on the battlefield. Yeah, I can't

969
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:26,880
say it any more than that. And this is the

970
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:27,679
one quality.

971
00:40:28,199 --> 00:40:28,920
Speaker 3: I think it's C. S.

972
00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:31,480
Speaker 1: Lewis who said courage is the one quality that enables

973
00:40:31,519 --> 00:40:32,360
all the other virtues.

974
00:40:33,119 --> 00:40:35,000
Speaker 3: And that's how it.

975
00:40:35,119 --> 00:40:39,119
Speaker 1: Like, if I look at a like soldiers from recruiting soldiers,

976
00:40:39,159 --> 00:40:40,840
I'm going to look for obedience and courage.

977
00:40:41,199 --> 00:40:43,039
Speaker 3: If you've got that, I can help you.

978
00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:45,880
Speaker 1: With everything else in the same way, Like what is

979
00:40:46,039 --> 00:40:46,960
dealing with uncertainty?

980
00:40:47,039 --> 00:40:48,280
Speaker 3: Is managing life? Right?

981
00:40:48,519 --> 00:40:51,199
Speaker 2: If you're a coward, life is hard? Yeah, I say

982
00:40:51,199 --> 00:40:52,639
that to my kids all the time. I say, kids,

983
00:40:52,639 --> 00:40:53,599
you want to make life harder?

984
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:54,159
Speaker 3: Be weak?

985
00:40:54,400 --> 00:40:55,440
Speaker 2: You want to you want to be better.

986
00:40:56,039 --> 00:40:56,599
Speaker 3: I love that.

987
00:40:56,599 --> 00:41:02,079
Speaker 1: It's become like the greatest, not curse word, but like

988
00:41:02,119 --> 00:41:03,119
the worst thing you can be.

989
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:08,039
Speaker 2: We don't don't be weak. Stick Uncle Garrett. Stickers are

990
00:41:08,079 --> 00:41:10,599
in my kids' hands like they have those for like

991
00:41:10,679 --> 00:41:11,719
those healthy reminders.

992
00:41:11,760 --> 00:41:14,679
Speaker 1: Okay, let's keep going. Number two. Skill number two. These

993
00:41:14,679 --> 00:41:17,239
are the skills you need if you want to deal

994
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:21,800
with uncertainty in life. Skill number two emotional control. This

995
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:25,440
is the ability to manage yourself.

996
00:41:25,199 --> 00:41:28,039
Speaker 3: Okay, this is so.

997
00:41:28,119 --> 00:41:31,960
Speaker 1: Being in in Paris recently was interesting. Actually, I had

998
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:33,599
a really good time. I will say I went in

999
00:41:33,599 --> 00:41:40,519
with low expectations. Hey, that's like, do you should do that?

1000
00:41:40,599 --> 00:41:43,239
You know, when you travel, go with low expectations. We

1001
00:41:43,360 --> 00:41:47,400
were in I was in Paris for a week at

1002
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:50,960
a big defense show and went in with low expectations.

1003
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:54,840
I will say the hotel room that we stayed at.

1004
00:41:55,079 --> 00:41:58,920
This is me being bougie for a second. Why is

1005
00:41:58,960 --> 00:41:59,880
everything so small?

1006
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, I mean that's Europe in a nutshell.

1007
00:42:02,440 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 3: Yeah. I felt like I was in a white collar

1008
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:09,280
prison cell. Yeah, like so so tiny.

1009
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:13,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, any anyways, in Paris it was it was

1010
00:42:13,920 --> 00:42:14,440
a little warm.

1011
00:42:14,480 --> 00:42:15,880
Speaker 3: They said it was a little warm for Paris.

1012
00:42:15,960 --> 00:42:18,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's no ac out there. They're not able to

1013
00:42:19,119 --> 00:42:22,000
so it was pretty toasty. But the point I was

1014
00:42:22,039 --> 00:42:25,639
going to make, as it relates to emotional control, is

1015
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:29,280
like with temperature, you want to be someone who it's like,

1016
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:31,440
I'm fine when it's hot, I'm fine when it's cold.

1017
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:35,039
If you are, you know, I'm a healthy person. But

1018
00:42:35,079 --> 00:42:37,679
for people in Paris who expect the weather to be

1019
00:42:37,679 --> 00:42:39,480
great all the time, or people who come from the

1020
00:42:39,519 --> 00:42:42,760
states who can't exist without air conditioning. Yeah, and you

1021
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:45,039
go to these places who are hot, you fall apart,

1022
00:42:45,159 --> 00:42:47,280
you lose, like I can't like we can't even go

1023
00:42:47,360 --> 00:42:50,199
to work or do anything. No one wants to travel.

1024
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:52,679
It's just it's too hot. We just give up, we

1025
00:42:52,800 --> 00:42:57,039
just quit. That's what emotions are. Emotions are like the weather,

1026
00:42:57,400 --> 00:42:59,400
and you have to have this ability to operate in

1027
00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:02,199
any temperature. You have to learn how to manage, and

1028
00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:05,000
so emotional control is like, hey man, these are things

1029
00:43:05,039 --> 00:43:07,679
that are really making me angry right now, but the

1030
00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:10,559
weather's not in control. I can I can walk in

1031
00:43:10,599 --> 00:43:14,000
the rain, i can go outside when it's blistering heat.

1032
00:43:14,199 --> 00:43:16,599
I'm gonna I'm gonna sweat, I'm gonna feel it, but

1033
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:18,599
I'll still do my job just the same.

1034
00:43:19,079 --> 00:43:20,119
Speaker 3: And that's most people.

1035
00:43:20,119 --> 00:43:21,559
Speaker 1: When it gets really hot, all they can do is

1036
00:43:21,559 --> 00:43:23,280
complain about it, and they won't go back to doing

1037
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:26,360
what they were doing before until the weather comes down again.

1038
00:43:27,320 --> 00:43:30,039
Speaker 2: Now that sounds really like I think that's a perfect analogy.

1039
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:32,079
But make sure you apply this to what we're talking

1040
00:43:32,119 --> 00:43:34,400
about today as you're listening to what Garrett's saying, because

1041
00:43:34,400 --> 00:43:36,159
what this looks like for a lot of people. When

1042
00:43:36,159 --> 00:43:38,760
we've talked about this on other episodes, fear is actually

1043
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:41,599
controlling you and you have no idea. It's like somebody's

1044
00:43:41,599 --> 00:43:43,880
turned up the air conditioning and you're really cold and

1045
00:43:43,920 --> 00:43:45,800
you don't know and you don't even know it, and

1046
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:47,800
so you're you're dealing with things completely different, like man,

1047
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:49,760
I'm shivering, but I'm still trying to do things and

1048
00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:52,559
my hand's not as steady. Why is it? Well, it's

1049
00:43:52,599 --> 00:43:54,880
because the temperature is not right and that and that's

1050
00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:58,360
where the deception of emotions can absolutely crush you. Is

1051
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:00,400
you're like you're not seeing things right and you don't

1052
00:44:00,440 --> 00:44:02,599
even know it, so like like you want to make

1053
00:44:02,599 --> 00:44:05,920
something hard, be afraid right, It's like like it goes

1054
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:07,760
back to what you said on number one, the perfect.

1055
00:44:07,599 --> 00:44:11,920
Speaker 1: The question of emotional control is am I seeing this clearly?

1056
00:44:12,559 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 3: Right? Again? If you're letting think about going.

1057
00:44:15,159 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 1: To Paris, if you only got had one time to go,

1058
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:19,400
and it's like you can't even enjoy being at the

1059
00:44:19,440 --> 00:44:23,199
Eiffel Tower because it's so hot, I mean, yeah, you're

1060
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:24,239
not seeing things clearly.

1061
00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:26,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was pretty warm in the loof right. Got

1062
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:28,039
to love that.

1063
00:44:28,079 --> 00:44:32,400
Speaker 1: Won't waste time talking about that experience just blew me away.

1064
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:34,840
But if if you're missed, like think about missing the

1065
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:35,800
loof because it's.

1066
00:44:35,639 --> 00:44:39,039
Speaker 2: Hot, it's I mean, that sounds really lame. Sounds lame.

1067
00:44:39,519 --> 00:44:42,440
Speaker 1: So the question of emotional control is am I seeing

1068
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:45,360
this clearly a skill? Not all of these I'm going

1069
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:47,880
to sign a skill too, but like the the skill

1070
00:44:48,039 --> 00:44:52,599
of emotional control is the ability to separate feelings from facts. Yeah, right,

1071
00:44:52,639 --> 00:44:55,880
and so like just take the take the heat, the temperature, like, Okay,

1072
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:58,480
this is a feeling, but it doesn't change what the

1073
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:02,280
Eiffel Tower is, doesn't change whatever this special experience is.

1074
00:45:02,360 --> 00:45:04,159
I've got to be able to set these things aside

1075
00:45:04,679 --> 00:45:08,679
and compartmentalize and manage them differently. And we've done a

1076
00:45:08,679 --> 00:45:11,559
lot of other episodes on emotional control, and just a

1077
00:45:11,599 --> 00:45:14,840
reminder of the tools we've talked about, the Big four

1078
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:17,519
what the Navy Seals call the Big four. That's a

1079
00:45:17,519 --> 00:45:20,280
tool that you can use to manage emotional control. You've

1080
00:45:20,280 --> 00:45:22,800
got to sometimes just learn how to. One of the

1081
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:26,159
most powerful tools you have is just to pause, just like,

1082
00:45:26,199 --> 00:45:28,760
calm down for a second. Don't let stop letting your

1083
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:31,880
emotions rule you, stopletting life or the clock or anything

1084
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:35,000
else push you forward. When you pause, you remember I'm

1085
00:45:35,039 --> 00:45:36,800
in control. Yeah, I mean.

1086
00:45:37,039 --> 00:45:39,119
Speaker 2: One of the best examples I've heard from Pastor Josh

1087
00:45:39,159 --> 00:45:42,119
and Pastor Keith says this is, I mean, your emotions

1088
00:45:42,119 --> 00:45:44,559
are like lenses. So like if you're looking at a lemon,

1089
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:47,199
and let's say you have these emotions that make you sad,

1090
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:50,239
so you put on blue lenses. What color is a lemon? Now? Gee,

1091
00:45:50,320 --> 00:45:53,599
what's green? No, the lemon is still yellow. It looks

1092
00:45:53,599 --> 00:45:55,440
green to you because you have a set of blue lenses.

1093
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:55,559
Speaker 3: Off.

1094
00:45:55,639 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 2: If you would remove the lenses, aka be able to

1095
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,599
understand that your emotions are shading things, you would see

1096
00:46:00,599 --> 00:46:02,360
it for what it actually is. And I think that

1097
00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:05,239
that's such a perfect way of understanding what emotions will

1098
00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:06,719
do for you. So the question you said, of am

1099
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:07,599
I seeing this clearly?

1100
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:08,280
Speaker 3: Perfect?

1101
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:10,360
Speaker 2: Question? Man, So good. That's number three.

1102
00:46:10,519 --> 00:46:14,719
Speaker 1: Number three is value clarity. Okay, when you're dealing with

1103
00:46:14,880 --> 00:46:17,679
uncertainty in life, you want to be able to hear

1104
00:46:17,800 --> 00:46:20,719
the question is what's actually at stake here? Because a

1105
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:23,239
lot of people deal with uncertainty and just like everything

1106
00:46:23,280 --> 00:46:26,280
is the boogeyman, Like, yeah, I don't know what's going

1107
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:28,239
to happen here, and I don't know how to deal

1108
00:46:28,280 --> 00:46:30,199
with anything that I don't know what's going to happen here.

1109
00:46:30,599 --> 00:46:32,880
And so these are some tools that help you frame

1110
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:35,159
in and box in your uncertainty and be like, well,

1111
00:46:35,199 --> 00:46:37,039
I may not know what's going to happen here, but

1112
00:46:37,159 --> 00:46:39,000
I know that the worst thing that's going to happen

1113
00:46:39,039 --> 00:46:43,760
is well, I mean, I guess. For example, Okay, Lindsay's car,

1114
00:46:43,599 --> 00:46:47,679
her battery died and I jumped in and the battery

1115
00:46:47,719 --> 00:46:50,360
died again, and I didn't know what the problem was.

1116
00:46:50,480 --> 00:46:51,880
Speaker 3: Look, we just got to take it to the dealership.

1117
00:46:52,119 --> 00:46:52,400
I said.

1118
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:55,400
Speaker 1: It could be a bad battery. Could be also been

1119
00:46:55,639 --> 00:46:57,480
was having an issue with the back latch in her car.

1120
00:46:57,639 --> 00:46:59,800
There could be in an electrical short circuit, something that

1121
00:47:00,079 --> 00:47:03,519
keeps training the battery. Her alternator could have died. There's

1122
00:47:03,559 --> 00:47:05,440
a whole list of things. And I could say, oh

1123
00:47:05,519 --> 00:47:08,199
my gosh, you know the car and freak out about

1124
00:47:08,239 --> 00:47:09,880
like what is this going to cost me? Well, I

1125
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:13,159
can pretty much box in the uncertainty here. It's financial

1126
00:47:13,639 --> 00:47:16,920
and worst case this could be a few thousand dollars, right, Okay,

1127
00:47:17,599 --> 00:47:21,599
So instead of having this, Lindsay got a little frustrated

1128
00:47:21,639 --> 00:47:23,599
with cars, Like, Babe, it's not a big deal. The

1129
00:47:23,639 --> 00:47:26,519
worst thing that's going to happen is this, and it's

1130
00:47:26,679 --> 00:47:31,159
just stuff and it's just money. Next, right, we're going

1131
00:47:31,239 --> 00:47:33,880
to move on from this thing. Yeah, I took you

1132
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:36,400
know what could be? Well, what's gonna happen if this,

1133
00:47:36,480 --> 00:47:39,000
what's gonna happen to this? I just realized nothing, This

1134
00:47:39,079 --> 00:47:43,039
isn't very valuable. And so value clarity is looking at

1135
00:47:43,079 --> 00:47:46,119
any uncertainty in your life and understanding what is actually

1136
00:47:46,199 --> 00:47:48,519
at stake. Now that doesn't you know, a car and

1137
00:47:49,079 --> 00:47:51,280
you know, some money stuff that's not as big of

1138
00:47:51,280 --> 00:47:54,559
a deal. You may have some things that are really important,

1139
00:47:54,559 --> 00:47:57,239
like your family or your life, or your purpose and

1140
00:47:57,280 --> 00:48:00,199
the meaning of your life. But to manage uncertainty, you

1141
00:48:00,239 --> 00:48:02,800
need to put it into a clear box of Okay,

1142
00:48:02,840 --> 00:48:06,719
this is what's actually at stake. Because fear will start, like,

1143
00:48:07,039 --> 00:48:09,880
fear will throw everything at the wall. Yeah, Like you're

1144
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:11,880
gonna get sick and die and be poor and no

1145
00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:13,280
one will like you and your family.

1146
00:48:13,079 --> 00:48:16,360
Speaker 3: Will hate you. Like, that's not the case. You just

1147
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:16,679
need to be.

1148
00:48:16,679 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 1: Able to classify. It's really important that you can classify

1149
00:48:19,519 --> 00:48:20,440
what's actually at stake.

1150
00:48:20,480 --> 00:48:21,840
Speaker 3: Here. That's a piece of it.

1151
00:48:22,079 --> 00:48:25,280
Speaker 1: We're gonna we're gonna build three, four, and five together here.

1152
00:48:25,320 --> 00:48:28,960
But number three is just value clarity. What's actually at stake?

1153
00:48:29,079 --> 00:48:31,079
Speaker 2: Well, I think what's so good is I think these

1154
00:48:31,119 --> 00:48:32,559
are all building on each other without I don't know

1155
00:48:32,559 --> 00:48:35,199
if you necessarily yeah, because because what will happen. I

1156
00:48:35,599 --> 00:48:37,239
hear what you're saying about that a lot of people

1157
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:40,599
will catastrophize that exact situation, like because you know, there's

1158
00:48:40,599 --> 00:48:42,360
a lot of people who live on a type margin

1159
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:45,199
or they live paycheck to paycheck, and so they would go, oh, man,

1160
00:48:45,199 --> 00:48:46,599
if I have to pay for like let's say I

1161
00:48:46,639 --> 00:48:48,239
take it to the car and it's two thousand dollars,

1162
00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:49,960
I don't know what I'm to do. So I'm gonna

1163
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:51,519
have to use a credit card and then I'm gonna

1164
00:48:51,519 --> 00:48:53,199
get hit with interest and then it's gonna take us

1165
00:48:53,199 --> 00:48:55,119
months and then Johnny's birthday is coming up, and now

1166
00:48:55,119 --> 00:48:57,199
we're not gonna be and like this story has just

1167
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:01,119
run away? What did they fail on Number two? Emotional control?

1168
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:01,639
Speaker 3: Right?

1169
00:49:01,760 --> 00:49:03,719
Speaker 2: Like they're allowing fear in the what if story to

1170
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:07,440
catastrophize everything and it runs way out of control and

1171
00:49:07,480 --> 00:49:10,159
it's so common. It's so common that like what you

1172
00:49:10,199 --> 00:49:12,599
said was like, look, worst case, it's the money. It's

1173
00:49:12,679 --> 00:49:14,840
it's some money, and it's a possession. For a lot

1174
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:19,480
of people, that would be like just a crushing oh no, oh,

1175
00:49:19,599 --> 00:49:22,119
I can't believe this happened. And like, so value clarity

1176
00:49:22,639 --> 00:49:25,559
is really having your values in the right order, because

1177
00:49:25,559 --> 00:49:27,239
what you gave is an eternal thing. It's like, look,

1178
00:49:27,880 --> 00:49:29,960
it's it's you know, it's the worst case, it's money

1179
00:49:30,360 --> 00:49:30,800
in a car.

1180
00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:33,039
Speaker 1: I tried to break down all of these skills in

1181
00:49:33,079 --> 00:49:35,639
a way that people say, well, like that's really simple,

1182
00:49:35,679 --> 00:49:37,800
and that one thing can't make my uncertainty go away.

1183
00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:41,159
That's the entire point. When we get through all of

1184
00:49:41,199 --> 00:49:44,000
these skills, when we get through all seven skills, if

1185
00:49:44,039 --> 00:49:46,440
you can do all seven of these, you will make

1186
00:49:46,519 --> 00:49:50,320
uncertainty go away. Now, value clarity by itself just understanding

1187
00:49:50,400 --> 00:49:52,320
what's at stake, it's like, well that doesn't that doesn't

1188
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:54,719
take the fear away. But when you can do all

1189
00:49:54,760 --> 00:49:57,199
of these, that's when it really will break it down.

1190
00:49:57,199 --> 00:49:57,920
Speaker 2: Well, let's keep going.

1191
00:49:58,079 --> 00:50:01,360
Speaker 1: So number four, right, so three value clarity, what's actually

1192
00:50:01,360 --> 00:50:03,960
at stake? My life at stake? Here is some money

1193
00:50:04,000 --> 00:50:08,360
at stake here a small amount of reputational risk. What's

1194
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:12,639
actually at stake? You know, family, mission, health, integrity, finances,

1195
00:50:12,719 --> 00:50:16,320
all these things. Okay, But number four is threat assessment.

1196
00:50:16,320 --> 00:50:18,400
I said we were going to get into the animal

1197
00:50:18,440 --> 00:50:22,480
categorization here. I came up with just a small animal categorization.

1198
00:50:22,519 --> 00:50:24,920
I could probably make a more complex one, but you

1199
00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:28,119
could definitely make it more complex one. Okay, but number

1200
00:50:28,159 --> 00:50:31,400
four threat assessment. You've got to look at the uncertainty

1201
00:50:31,639 --> 00:50:34,800
and determine what kind of threat am I actually dealing.

1202
00:50:34,559 --> 00:50:35,119
Speaker 3: With this here?

1203
00:50:35,360 --> 00:50:38,840
Speaker 1: And so I've got four different threat categories, just to

1204
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:41,920
simplify it for you. Number one, I would call this

1205
00:50:42,360 --> 00:50:45,199
a threat that is a mosquito. Okay, this is something

1206
00:50:45,239 --> 00:50:50,239
that is likely going to happen. It's very annoying, but

1207
00:50:50,320 --> 00:50:52,760
it's not going to kill you. Right And on these

1208
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:55,280
types of things you should only spend minimal effort.

1209
00:50:55,079 --> 00:50:56,320
Speaker 3: Avoiding them, right.

1210
00:50:56,320 --> 00:50:59,679
Speaker 1: Am I gonna let mosquitos get between me and what

1211
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:02,320
God called me to do? We're like, oh, I don't

1212
00:51:02,320 --> 00:51:06,119
want to go. There could be mosquitoes. Mosquitoes suck. I

1213
00:51:06,119 --> 00:51:10,840
hate mosquitoes. I have the mt HFR gene which makes

1214
00:51:10,880 --> 00:51:14,280
me low in b vitamins, and I'm type of blood

1215
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:17,519
which makes those two things together. I'm a like beacon

1216
00:51:17,559 --> 00:51:22,880
of light in the darkness for mosquitoes. For whatever reason,

1217
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:26,000
I'm tasty, right, but that's not gonna That's not gonna

1218
00:51:26,039 --> 00:51:28,960
keep me from doing I'm supposed to be doing. Okay, mosquitoes.

1219
00:51:29,039 --> 00:51:31,599
That's one type of threat, and you've got to be

1220
00:51:31,639 --> 00:51:33,480
able to look at like what you're facing and say,

1221
00:51:33,519 --> 00:51:36,920
what am I really dealing with here? As all the

1222
00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,159
mosquito can do is just cause it. It's probably gonna happen,

1223
00:51:39,159 --> 00:51:41,119
and it's going to cause a slight annoyance. Okay, don't

1224
00:51:41,159 --> 00:51:43,079
spend a lot of effort trying to avoid that.

1225
00:51:43,360 --> 00:51:44,079
Speaker 3: Do what you can, you.

1226
00:51:44,119 --> 00:51:47,199
Speaker 1: Know, put some you know, vanilla essential oil on or

1227
00:51:47,239 --> 00:51:49,679
whatever what you can do, but then just move on right.

1228
00:51:50,320 --> 00:51:52,679
Speaker 3: Second type of threat I would.

1229
00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:55,519
Speaker 1: This is a snake, okay, and what are snakes? Snakes

1230
00:51:55,559 --> 00:51:57,840
are dangerous, but you know what I can do. I

1231
00:51:57,880 --> 00:52:00,440
can just outrun a snake. I can jump over a snake.

1232
00:52:00,519 --> 00:52:05,199
I can walk around a snake. It's really interesting. I

1233
00:52:05,280 --> 00:52:07,559
won't go deep into it, but there's a lot of

1234
00:52:07,960 --> 00:52:13,440
psychological neurological patterning research around humans and one of the

1235
00:52:13,480 --> 00:52:16,119
distinct qualities in the human brain is its ability to

1236
00:52:16,159 --> 00:52:20,119
identify snakes, right, Like, that's interesting, Yeah, when.

1237
00:52:19,960 --> 00:52:20,880
Speaker 3: You like, are.

1238
00:52:22,719 --> 00:52:26,599
Speaker 1: They they looked at like brain and neurological ability and

1239
00:52:27,159 --> 00:52:30,599
saw like humans brains and eyes have an uncanny ability

1240
00:52:30,599 --> 00:52:34,719
to detect snakes, huh, which is like, so there's yeah,

1241
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:36,840
there's a spiritual coincidence to all of that, not a

1242
00:52:36,840 --> 00:52:39,800
coincidence at all. But like animals don't have the same

1243
00:52:39,840 --> 00:52:43,960
pattern recognition for seeing snakes. They are not with their eyes, right,

1244
00:52:44,519 --> 00:52:46,760
Animals will find them in different ways, but for humans,

1245
00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:48,920
with their eyes they see snakes. Like everyone, you look

1246
00:52:48,960 --> 00:52:50,960
at stuff and you see a snake. Okay, so we're

1247
00:52:51,039 --> 00:52:53,239
we have a great ability to avoid snakes. That can

1248
00:52:53,239 --> 00:52:54,840
also turn into like a massive fearishness.

1249
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:55,599
Speaker 2: Yeah, for sure, But.

1250
00:52:55,559 --> 00:52:57,960
Speaker 1: It's had to say a snake is not a grizzly bear.

1251
00:52:58,360 --> 00:53:00,559
I don't want to get bit by a snake. But

1252
00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:03,480
you don't get bit by snake, Like people don't get

1253
00:53:03,519 --> 00:53:06,760
bit by snakes very often just on accident you were

1254
00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:09,159
somewhere you shouldn't have been doing something you shouldn't have

1255
00:53:09,159 --> 00:53:11,840
been doing, or like even people who get bit by

1256
00:53:11,880 --> 00:53:15,199
rattlesnakes rattlesnakes, for example, are the easiest ones to avoid

1257
00:53:15,199 --> 00:53:16,760
getting bitten by. Yea, and they want to let you know,

1258
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:19,760
they'll tell you yeah, okay, And the only people who've

1259
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:23,199
died by rattlesnakes are people who like, you're on your

1260
00:53:23,239 --> 00:53:26,320
hands and knees, crawling on the ground through a place

1261
00:53:26,360 --> 00:53:29,320
that you shouldn't be crawling, probably, and you take a

1262
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:31,760
strike from a rattlesnake, like in your torso or in

1263
00:53:31,800 --> 00:53:33,679
your neck, you're gonna die most.

1264
00:53:33,519 --> 00:53:35,599
Speaker 3: Likely, Like you get bit in the leg. We got

1265
00:53:35,599 --> 00:53:36,519
to get you to the hospital.

1266
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:39,320
Speaker 1: This is gonna be a terrible next few weeks for you,

1267
00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:42,800
but you're gonna be okay, right, Okay, But again, most

1268
00:53:42,840 --> 00:53:44,800
of the time there's some type of snakes that will

1269
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:47,519
kill you really quick, but a lot of snakes not.

1270
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:49,800
Speaker 3: Gonna kill you, very avoidable. Okay.

1271
00:53:50,360 --> 00:53:52,760
Speaker 1: So look at these types of threats and things like, yeah,

1272
00:53:52,800 --> 00:53:53,800
that really sucks, but.

1273
00:53:53,920 --> 00:53:55,679
Speaker 3: I'm I'm probably not gonna happen.

1274
00:53:55,760 --> 00:53:58,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I can, And I can also avoid it

1275
00:53:58,599 --> 00:54:00,679
unless I'm just a dummy and walk up and put

1276
00:54:00,679 --> 00:54:02,840
my foot in front of it. I'm probably not gonna

1277
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:05,960
get bit by that, right, Okay. So again, snakes are bad,

1278
00:54:06,519 --> 00:54:08,800
but it's probably not gonna get me. And there's a

1279
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:10,440
lot I can do to not get gop.

1280
00:54:10,639 --> 00:54:13,440
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, I remember we're applying these to uncertain things.

1281
00:54:13,480 --> 00:54:15,719
So like people will put things like I find a

1282
00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:17,760
lot of times people will will talk about like, oh,

1283
00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:19,760
but we'd be homeless, and I'll say them, I'm bike,

1284
00:54:19,800 --> 00:54:21,519
do you really think there's no one that would take

1285
00:54:21,519 --> 00:54:23,480
you in? Like you know what I mean? Like that

1286
00:54:23,639 --> 00:54:25,119
that's to me, it would be like a snake for

1287
00:54:25,159 --> 00:54:28,239
people like, yes, there is potential that you could, you could,

1288
00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:30,760
but that is largely avoidable. So like remember when when

1289
00:54:30,800 --> 00:54:32,760
Garret's classifying these as animals, I want to make sure

1290
00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:35,000
that you like the thing with your wife's car. Some

1291
00:54:35,039 --> 00:54:36,159
people like, well, I don't want to have to do

1292
00:54:36,159 --> 00:54:38,159
the maintenance on things. And it's like, look, if you're

1293
00:54:38,159 --> 00:54:40,679
building a business or building an organization, or doing something

1294
00:54:40,679 --> 00:54:42,559
that God's called you to do, there's an element of

1295
00:54:42,559 --> 00:54:45,039
maintenance that's gonna be a mosquito. Like you're gonna have

1296
00:54:45,079 --> 00:54:47,639
employees quit, You're gonna have to hire more. Like that's

1297
00:54:47,679 --> 00:54:51,000
the mosquito. You shouldn't avoid growth because because of stuff

1298
00:54:51,000 --> 00:54:51,119
like that.

1299
00:54:51,159 --> 00:54:54,159
Speaker 1: But actually I'd put my wife's car in this next category.

1300
00:54:54,199 --> 00:54:58,679
Oh would you okay, this is a coyote all right? Okay,

1301
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:03,840
cracks me up. When so we I live in the

1302
00:55:03,880 --> 00:55:06,880
prosperous Lina area and I'll see in the fakes or

1303
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:09,400
Lindsay will show me, Like in the Facebook pages for

1304
00:55:09,440 --> 00:55:13,599
our neighborhoods, people like talking about coyotes like their wolves.

1305
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:16,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, like these they're going to come. They're going to

1306
00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:18,559
ransack our homes. They're stealing our kids.

1307
00:55:18,559 --> 00:55:21,000
Speaker 2: Ever observe coyotes as well stealing our kids.

1308
00:55:21,960 --> 00:55:28,320
Speaker 1: Coyotes kill the largest animals that coyotes kill our baby deer, right, okay. Now,

1309
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:31,599
people will tell you these stories. It will tell you

1310
00:55:31,639 --> 00:55:35,480
these stories of you know, coyotes could take down this

1311
00:55:35,599 --> 00:55:38,039
animal and take down this animal. And then I ask

1312
00:55:38,159 --> 00:55:40,599
those people how much time you spend in the woods, right,

1313
00:55:40,599 --> 00:55:43,840
exactly right, yeah, because they don't spend any time in

1314
00:55:43,880 --> 00:55:47,039
the woods. I've killed lots of coyotes. I've seen lots

1315
00:55:47,079 --> 00:55:49,360
of coyotes. Now, if I describe a coyote to you,

1316
00:55:49,800 --> 00:55:53,199
it can it runs long distances, it can sprint I

1317
00:55:53,199 --> 00:55:55,840
think twenty to twenty five miles, and it's faster than you. Yeah,

1318
00:55:56,679 --> 00:55:59,840
has has sharp teeth and claws. Now, when I describe

1319
00:55:59,880 --> 00:56:03,639
the thing to you, they're like, oh gosh, this is

1320
00:56:03,679 --> 00:56:07,199
a wolf in person. Like if I put you, if

1321
00:56:07,199 --> 00:56:10,000
I stuck you in the backyard with a coyote, they're

1322
00:56:10,079 --> 00:56:13,519
very unscary. Yeah, only if you back that thing into it.

1323
00:56:13,519 --> 00:56:16,159
They're scared of humans. Correct, Hey they want to get away?

1324
00:56:16,239 --> 00:56:16,800
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah.

1325
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:20,599
Speaker 1: Because they weigh about twenty pounds, they are incredibly Now

1326
00:56:20,599 --> 00:56:24,639
they have like I've seen coyotes before with mange, Like

1327
00:56:24,840 --> 00:56:28,280
a good healthy coyote looks like a fifty pound animal, right,

1328
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:30,719
because they have they when they have a really good

1329
00:56:30,719 --> 00:56:32,559
when they've been eating well and they're healthy. They have

1330
00:56:32,599 --> 00:56:34,760
a big coat makes them look way bigger than they

1331
00:56:34,800 --> 00:56:38,000
are because they have like husky type. For ye, remember

1332
00:56:38,039 --> 00:56:40,400
I killed one with you. I remember that's the first

1333
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:42,920
time you ever come describing it for you. I'm describing

1334
00:56:42,920 --> 00:56:43,719
it for the audience.

1335
00:56:43,800 --> 00:56:43,880
Speaker 3: Oh.

1336
00:56:43,920 --> 00:56:45,159
Speaker 2: I was just remind I just want to get that

1337
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:46,639
in there, because it was the first time you ever

1338
00:56:46,679 --> 00:56:49,880
complimented me with a weapon. Anyways, So actually the only time.

1339
00:56:51,440 --> 00:56:54,559
Speaker 1: But coyotes, I've seen one with mange where their their

1340
00:56:54,679 --> 00:56:57,440
hides all jacked up and it looks like it's a

1341
00:56:57,519 --> 00:57:01,239
large cat. They weigh about twenty to twenty five pounds.

1342
00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:05,480
They're not that big. Coyotes eat rabbits.

1343
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:08,760
Speaker 3: I am not a rabbit. There you go.

1344
00:57:09,039 --> 00:57:12,079
Speaker 1: But so I said to say, there's some threats, some

1345
00:57:12,199 --> 00:57:14,760
dangers that it's like, okay, when you like list it

1346
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:16,880
out on you list all the features on paper, it

1347
00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:20,519
sounds dangerous. But we just like put some reality on here,

1348
00:57:21,159 --> 00:57:24,400
like for example, my wife's cards like car can't start,

1349
00:57:24,679 --> 00:57:29,039
I'm not at home, she's there by herself, doesn't have

1350
00:57:29,119 --> 00:57:32,480
a working car. Right, it needed a new battery. Right,

1351
00:57:33,119 --> 00:57:33,840
it was a few years old.

1352
00:57:34,000 --> 00:57:36,719
Speaker 3: Put a new battery in the car. Car's doing great.

1353
00:57:36,920 --> 00:57:40,840
Speaker 1: And I have dozens of family and close friends who

1354
00:57:40,840 --> 00:57:43,320
all live in the same neighborhood who could help Lindsey

1355
00:57:43,360 --> 00:57:45,360
with anything if it was an emergency.

1356
00:57:45,960 --> 00:57:49,039
Speaker 2: I remember, this is threat assessment. You're categorizing threats. So

1357
00:57:49,079 --> 00:57:51,519
you've got the mosquito, the snake, the coyote.

1358
00:57:51,559 --> 00:57:55,280
Speaker 1: What's the So just the distinguishing category of coyote sounds

1359
00:57:55,280 --> 00:57:59,079
really scary when you describe it, very unscary in reality, right,

1360
00:57:59,519 --> 00:58:02,519
very good. And then the last category, these are threats

1361
00:58:02,559 --> 00:58:05,280
that Okay, this is a grizzly bear. This is a

1362
00:58:05,320 --> 00:58:09,480
real threat, right, This is very dangerous now that you're

1363
00:58:09,559 --> 00:58:12,320
not you You either need to use a lot of

1364
00:58:12,320 --> 00:58:15,840
intelligence and strategy to avoid the grizzly bear, or you

1365
00:58:15,880 --> 00:58:17,880
can also kill one if you're a certain type of

1366
00:58:17,920 --> 00:58:19,320
person and you have the resources.

1367
00:58:19,400 --> 00:58:20,079
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1368
00:58:20,119 --> 00:58:23,280
Speaker 1: What I know is if just facing reality here, if

1369
00:58:23,280 --> 00:58:25,519
Garrett wants to kill a grizzly bear, I need.

1370
00:58:25,440 --> 00:58:27,760
Speaker 2: A large caliber rifle, yeah, or ten miniter with two

1371
00:58:27,760 --> 00:58:31,400
in a grain bullet. I've been researching this. I'm getting ready, man,

1372
00:58:31,719 --> 00:58:33,039
I'm gonna be out there. Got a story tell you

1373
00:58:33,039 --> 00:58:36,320
when we get off air. Great, So that there are

1374
00:58:36,400 --> 00:58:39,119
real threats. Grizzly bear is a real threat.

1375
00:58:39,280 --> 00:58:41,360
Speaker 1: And there's plenty that you can do to avoid it

1376
00:58:41,559 --> 00:58:44,280
if you but you put yourself in the wrong situation,

1377
00:58:44,480 --> 00:58:45,880
the wrong scenario.

1378
00:58:45,920 --> 00:58:48,159
Speaker 3: You're going to lose that battle. Yeah, right, You're gonna

1379
00:58:48,199 --> 00:58:50,679
lose that battle. So there are threats that are very real.

1380
00:58:50,920 --> 00:58:53,360
Speaker 1: But just be able to classify them and not be like,

1381
00:58:53,400 --> 00:58:56,719
oh it's you know, a lot of your problems in life,

1382
00:58:56,719 --> 00:58:59,519
for coyotes are just little ankle byers. Yeah, And if

1383
00:58:59,559 --> 00:59:01,760
you will have a little bit more courage, you could

1384
00:59:01,800 --> 00:59:04,400
punt that thing across the room?

1385
00:59:04,559 --> 00:59:05,239
Speaker 2: Yeah, very good?

1386
00:59:05,320 --> 00:59:05,679
Speaker 3: Gee?

1387
00:59:05,880 --> 00:59:08,000
Speaker 2: All right, So that was number four was threat assessment.

1388
00:59:08,119 --> 00:59:08,880
What's number five?

1389
00:59:09,760 --> 00:59:15,199
Speaker 1: Number five is risk calculation? Okay, so I said three, four,

1390
00:59:15,280 --> 00:59:18,400
and five. I kind of put all these together. Yeah,

1391
00:59:18,960 --> 00:59:21,639
but I wanted to define the separate pieces. So number

1392
00:59:21,639 --> 00:59:24,440
three is value clarity. What's actually at stake here, right,

1393
00:59:24,559 --> 00:59:26,920
is my life at stake? Number four is threat assessment.

1394
00:59:27,039 --> 00:59:29,480
Is this a mosquito? Is this a coyote? Is this

1395
00:59:29,519 --> 00:59:32,519
a grizzly bear? And then number five is risk calculation,

1396
00:59:33,239 --> 00:59:36,519
And this is how likely is this to happen? How

1397
00:59:36,599 --> 00:59:38,599
likely is it to happen, and how bad would.

1398
00:59:38,360 --> 00:59:39,400
Speaker 3: It be if it did.

1399
00:59:39,960 --> 00:59:42,320
Speaker 1: This is I mean, the skill or the way that

1400
00:59:42,400 --> 00:59:45,559
I want you to think about this is think probability,

1401
00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:50,559
not possibility, right, yeah, Okay. For example, you can go

1402
00:59:50,599 --> 00:59:56,599
on a hike in Oklahoma. Okay, Oklahoma has black bears, right,

1403
00:59:56,840 --> 00:59:58,880
they don't get very big. You're probably not going to

1404
00:59:58,920 --> 01:00:02,119
see one. What is the probability of getting eaten by

1405
01:00:02,159 --> 01:00:05,400
a black bear in Oklahoma? If you did some research,

1406
01:00:05,519 --> 01:00:06,920
you would find it to be zero.

1407
01:00:08,360 --> 01:00:08,639
Speaker 3: Okay.

1408
01:00:08,960 --> 01:00:12,400
Speaker 1: So risk calculation is looking at some of the unknowns,

1409
01:00:12,920 --> 01:00:15,400
and i'd being oh my gosh, there's black bears here.

1410
01:00:15,679 --> 01:00:19,800
It's saying, oh great, the probability is near zero that

1411
01:00:19,880 --> 01:00:21,440
I would get eaten by a black bear.

1412
01:00:21,599 --> 01:00:26,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's yeah. I mean that's once again was that.

1413
01:00:26,280 --> 01:00:27,920
I guess that's where you've got to have.

1414
01:00:27,880 --> 01:00:30,199
Speaker 1: The emotional control to be able to look at this

1415
01:00:30,320 --> 01:00:32,360
and say, what am I actually dealing with. One of

1416
01:00:32,400 --> 01:00:36,639
the things they taught us is like, I had a

1417
01:00:36,719 --> 01:00:38,239
job for a while that was one of the most

1418
01:00:38,280 --> 01:00:40,360
dangerous jobs on the planet, and they taught us how

1419
01:00:40,400 --> 01:00:44,159
to do great risk mitigation, which is, Okay, what is

1420
01:00:44,159 --> 01:00:47,039
the malfunction you could face, what's the likelihood that you

1421
01:00:47,079 --> 01:00:48,960
can face this thing? And what's going to happen if

1422
01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:52,480
it happens. All the ones that said death, let's pay

1423
01:00:52,480 --> 01:00:56,320
attention to those. Then it's how likely is it to happen?

1424
01:00:56,400 --> 01:00:58,719
And that determines the level of time and resource we

1425
01:00:58,800 --> 01:01:02,079
put into trying to mitigate that thing. There's some things

1426
01:01:02,119 --> 01:01:04,599
that I can't do anything about, Like what's the mitigation

1427
01:01:04,679 --> 01:01:05,360
for getting.

1428
01:01:05,079 --> 01:01:06,199
Speaker 3: Struck by lightning? Low?

1429
01:01:06,519 --> 01:01:09,719
Speaker 1: Right, It's not a lot I can do avoid being

1430
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:10,440
in a thunderstorm.

1431
01:01:10,679 --> 01:01:13,000
Speaker 2: Don't go out with a steel pole and a lightning

1432
01:01:13,000 --> 01:01:14,480
storm right, But.

1433
01:01:14,440 --> 01:01:16,480
Speaker 1: Then there was other things that you know, when you're

1434
01:01:16,519 --> 01:01:19,039
jumping out of airplanes, if you get a certain type

1435
01:01:19,039 --> 01:01:21,239
of malfunction, there's a little training that we had to

1436
01:01:21,280 --> 01:01:23,599
have and that's also why we had a backup parachute, right,

1437
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:26,280
and I had a knife and other things to manage

1438
01:01:26,320 --> 01:01:30,039
these problems. But risk calculation, how likely is this thing

1439
01:01:30,039 --> 01:01:32,960
to happen? A lot of people catastrophize like extremely low

1440
01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:34,119
probability situations.

1441
01:01:34,199 --> 01:01:37,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, very very good man. It really catch that last part.

1442
01:01:37,719 --> 01:01:42,000
You could tastrophize low probability situations. Have a word with yourself.

1443
01:01:42,159 --> 01:01:44,320
Very good. Gee, all right, we got two more.

1444
01:01:44,639 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 3: What are they? Number six is urgency assessment. Okay.

1445
01:01:49,199 --> 01:01:52,000
Speaker 1: The question of urgency assessment is how much time do

1446
01:01:52,079 --> 01:01:55,599
I have a lot of people will take those catastrophes,

1447
01:01:55,760 --> 01:01:58,639
and it is like it's like that scene in Austin

1448
01:01:58,679 --> 01:02:02,880
Powers the guy stands in front of the cement roller.

1449
01:02:03,119 --> 01:02:06,559
It's like no, stop, no, and it's like you have

1450
01:02:07,440 --> 01:02:12,559
lots of time to get out of the way. People

1451
01:02:12,599 --> 01:02:15,599
look at their lives and they act this way, right,

1452
01:02:15,639 --> 01:02:19,320
like here's the thing you're gonna die one day your life?

1453
01:02:19,360 --> 01:02:22,960
Actually is the scene in Austoin Powers with the cement roller.

1454
01:02:23,119 --> 01:02:25,119
You've got plenty of time to deal with it. You

1455
01:02:25,119 --> 01:02:28,000
shouldn't be panicking about something that is really far away.

1456
01:02:28,599 --> 01:02:32,119
And in the same sense with catastrophes in your life,

1457
01:02:32,480 --> 01:02:36,000
you spend all this time, like hyper meditating on this

1458
01:02:36,360 --> 01:02:39,480
dangerous scenario that's probably low probability in the first place.

1459
01:02:39,960 --> 01:02:42,639
And if it does happen, it's not happening tomorrow, it's

1460
01:02:42,679 --> 01:02:45,559
not even happening next month. But you're obsessed with it

1461
01:02:45,639 --> 01:02:47,440
like it's gonna, you know, jump on you as soon

1462
01:02:47,480 --> 01:02:49,719
as you close your eyes, right, yeah.

1463
01:02:50,079 --> 01:02:52,880
Speaker 2: And that's so you broke it down into how much

1464
01:02:52,880 --> 01:02:56,360
time you said immediate, short term, medium term, long term,

1465
01:02:56,800 --> 01:02:58,840
And I mean you're also said like you're out of

1466
01:02:58,840 --> 01:03:02,360
time previously. But and we're saying, like, hey, you know, realistically,

1467
01:03:02,400 --> 01:03:05,320
the likelihood because once again you said probability, not possibility.

1468
01:03:05,519 --> 01:03:07,599
Probability is that people in America are going to live

1469
01:03:07,599 --> 01:03:10,039
to be between seventy eight and eighty years old. That's

1470
01:03:10,400 --> 01:03:12,239
the probability of it. So when you're looking at some

1471
01:03:12,280 --> 01:03:14,000
of these things, you have to go look, let's say

1472
01:03:14,039 --> 01:03:15,800
you did take a risk and you had a bankruptcy

1473
01:03:15,800 --> 01:03:18,639
in your thirties. Okay, I mean, it would be hard,

1474
01:03:18,880 --> 01:03:20,639
but like you said, it's not like you run out

1475
01:03:20,639 --> 01:03:23,119
of money and you just die, right, It's like, okay,

1476
01:03:23,440 --> 01:03:26,000
and you have more connections, you have more skills.

1477
01:03:26,199 --> 01:03:28,039
Speaker 1: Well, And I've talked to people before that they're like, man,

1478
01:03:28,239 --> 01:03:30,920
I'm going to go bankrupt. And I asked them, was like.

1479
01:03:31,199 --> 01:03:33,360
Speaker 3: We talked through its, like where are you actually.

1480
01:03:33,159 --> 01:03:36,440
Speaker 1: At in your business? And I'm like, bro, you're barely

1481
01:03:36,679 --> 01:03:40,119
like you have thirty day aged accounts receivable right right?

1482
01:03:40,159 --> 01:03:42,440
Like yeah, and I said how much? Like how much

1483
01:03:42,440 --> 01:03:43,719
do you have on credit cards? What do you have

1484
01:03:43,719 --> 01:03:45,480
in the bank right now? I'm like, bro, you're like

1485
01:03:45,679 --> 01:03:47,360
in month two of two months in a row of

1486
01:03:47,440 --> 01:03:49,199
bad business. You're not going to go bankrupt. You need

1487
01:03:49,239 --> 01:03:52,400
to make some changes right now. Okay, You're good. You

1488
01:03:52,400 --> 01:03:56,719
start catastrophizing about a situation that's way further away than

1489
01:03:56,760 --> 01:04:01,480
you think it is. Like the immediacy of bankruptcy is

1490
01:04:02,159 --> 01:04:04,679
like I've got to throw a Hail Mary tomorrow or

1491
01:04:04,719 --> 01:04:07,760
it's all over right, Like I've already I've gone way

1492
01:04:07,800 --> 01:04:14,239
past negotiations. I have lawsuits with financial deadlines in them

1493
01:04:14,480 --> 01:04:18,079
and it's either now or ever. Yeah, right, that's way

1494
01:04:18,119 --> 01:04:20,639
different case. Than you know the person that I was

1495
01:04:20,840 --> 01:04:23,960
talking to in their situation. So it's really just zooming. Yes,

1496
01:04:24,000 --> 01:04:25,719
it may be painful, it may be annoying, it may

1497
01:04:25,719 --> 01:04:28,199
be really scary, but that grizzly bears a.

1498
01:04:28,199 --> 01:04:29,039
Speaker 3: Thousand yards away.

1499
01:04:29,079 --> 01:04:32,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, let me give you an actual practical scripture that

1500
01:04:32,199 --> 01:04:35,719
and application for urgency assessment. It says zeal without knowledge

1501
01:04:35,760 --> 01:04:38,199
is not good, right what that means? So I had

1502
01:04:38,199 --> 01:04:40,159
a guy who's in a similar situation. He was really

1503
01:04:40,159 --> 01:04:42,159
worried about his finances, and I said, how much do

1504
01:04:42,199 --> 01:04:44,920
you know about the about the bankruptcy process? And he said,

1505
01:04:44,960 --> 01:04:46,280
I don't know a lot. I said, you need to

1506
01:04:46,320 --> 01:04:48,519
go find out what you're actually dealing with, because right

1507
01:04:48,559 --> 01:04:50,840
now you're putting trust in the story that's in your

1508
01:04:50,840 --> 01:04:52,679
head that's not based on anything true, which is what

1509
01:04:52,719 --> 01:04:54,639
you just said about the other person. So if you're

1510
01:04:54,679 --> 01:04:56,320
sitting there going like, oh, I don't know, I don't

1511
01:04:56,320 --> 01:04:58,760
know how urgency is, get as much knowledge as you can.

1512
01:04:59,039 --> 01:05:01,440
It's amazing how one you like what you just said

1513
01:05:01,760 --> 01:05:04,320
is because you actually know what bankruptcy looks like. And

1514
01:05:04,360 --> 01:05:08,119
and suddenly you go like, oh, nowhere near that great, so.

1515
01:05:07,880 --> 01:05:09,760
Speaker 1: Side it's not as bad as you think it is

1516
01:05:10,440 --> 01:05:12,960
that grizzly bears a thousand yards away. Yeah, right, So

1517
01:05:12,960 --> 01:05:15,639
you've got to learn how to navigate all these situations.

1518
01:05:16,719 --> 01:05:20,880
And again, if you're just in emotion land, like you're like,

1519
01:05:20,880 --> 01:05:23,719
oh my gosh, there's a grizzly bear way over there,

1520
01:05:23,800 --> 01:05:26,039
we're gonna die. No, he doesn't even know you're here.

1521
01:05:26,159 --> 01:05:26,360
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1522
01:05:26,559 --> 01:05:28,239
Speaker 2: Now you gave a skill and a tool on this one.

1523
01:05:28,360 --> 01:05:29,360
You said, let's do that before we.

1524
01:05:29,280 --> 01:05:32,719
Speaker 1: Move on to the final The skill of urgency assessment

1525
01:05:33,119 --> 01:05:36,599
is to separate urgency.

1526
01:05:36,199 --> 01:05:39,320
Speaker 3: Which is related to time, from emotional pressure. Yeah.

1527
01:05:39,440 --> 01:05:43,280
Speaker 1: Okay, if you have a huge just stanley of grizzly

1528
01:05:43,280 --> 01:05:45,280
bear analogy for a second. If you have a huge

1529
01:05:45,280 --> 01:05:48,079
fear of grizzly bears, say you know someone who was

1530
01:05:48,159 --> 01:05:51,199
killed by grizzly Yeah, like you, you're like extremely triggered

1531
01:05:51,239 --> 01:05:54,400
by grizzly bears. That grizzly bear that's a thousand yards

1532
01:05:54,400 --> 01:05:56,800
away would be freaking you out a ton, correct, And

1533
01:05:56,800 --> 01:05:59,119
that would be the difference between the urgency and emotional pressure.

1534
01:05:59,239 --> 01:06:01,519
Right right, You've got and that's why you know, one

1535
01:06:01,559 --> 01:06:04,159
of the early skills we talked about is emotional control

1536
01:06:04,559 --> 01:06:07,639
and then tool One of the tools that will help,

1537
01:06:07,800 --> 01:06:10,519
like take a lot of the emotional pressure off of

1538
01:06:11,199 --> 01:06:14,880
urgency is to set a timeline to decide. Yeah, it's like,

1539
01:06:15,079 --> 01:06:17,800
this is a terrible situation. This I'm in a really

1540
01:06:17,840 --> 01:06:20,480
bad spot, but I had you know, it's Wednesday and

1541
01:06:20,519 --> 01:06:23,039
I've got till Friday at five to make a decision.

1542
01:06:23,280 --> 01:06:24,559
So I'm going to use the time that I have

1543
01:06:24,960 --> 01:06:28,039
to plan, prepare, make calls see if I can mitigate

1544
01:06:28,400 --> 01:06:31,119
or reduce some of the difficulty of this situation. I'm

1545
01:06:31,119 --> 01:06:33,559
not gonna, you know, act right now is if I'm

1546
01:06:33,599 --> 01:06:34,559
going to die in five minutes.

1547
01:06:34,639 --> 01:06:37,079
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I remember, we gave the beliefs before this

1548
01:06:37,519 --> 01:06:40,400
for a purpose. Like if you believe that God's made

1549
01:06:40,440 --> 01:06:42,119
you to win and God has a plan and purpose

1550
01:06:42,119 --> 01:06:44,599
for your life, it's gonna shade so much that like

1551
01:06:44,639 --> 01:06:47,280
we could tastrophize and we allow these things to dictate

1552
01:06:47,320 --> 01:06:49,639
to us and then we take action, which is in

1553
01:06:49,719 --> 01:06:52,000
direct contrast to the beliefs we gave, which is why

1554
01:06:52,039 --> 01:06:53,920
we gave that. Like the things that you know but

1555
01:06:54,000 --> 01:06:56,920
you can't prove if you really know, God's with me. God,

1556
01:06:56,960 --> 01:06:58,639
God has put me on this earth for a purpose.

1557
01:06:58,840 --> 01:07:01,199
I'm here to win any time colernel game right, which

1558
01:07:01,199 --> 01:07:02,599
means it may not go the way I think it's

1559
01:07:02,599 --> 01:07:03,960
going to go now. As matter of fact, it's definitely

1560
01:07:04,000 --> 01:07:06,039
not going to but I know that I'm going to win.

1561
01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:09,719
How would you act so much different? And that's what

1562
01:07:09,760 --> 01:07:11,639
we're saying that beliefs are tied to action. So like

1563
01:07:11,679 --> 01:07:14,719
a lot of these, whenever you're giving these skills underpinned

1564
01:07:14,719 --> 01:07:16,639
by those beliefs, it's like, well, yeah, heck yeah, makes

1565
01:07:16,679 --> 01:07:18,880
a lot of sense. If you don't actually have those beliefs,

1566
01:07:19,079 --> 01:07:21,280
it's well, you know, i'd like it to be true.

1567
01:07:21,280 --> 01:07:23,159
Can you show it to me? You can, I'll believe

1568
01:07:23,159 --> 01:07:26,000
it when I see it. Okay, you've already lost. So

1569
01:07:26,480 --> 01:07:28,320
we've gone through six g you we's number seven.

1570
01:07:28,559 --> 01:07:31,079
Speaker 1: Last skill here again, you've got If you have all

1571
01:07:31,119 --> 01:07:34,840
of these, your ability to manage uncertainty is going to

1572
01:07:34,920 --> 01:07:38,400
be great. And I'll just take you back to the beginning.

1573
01:07:38,760 --> 01:07:43,079
You've got to have this core of courage. You've got

1574
01:07:43,079 --> 01:07:46,280
to have this core of faith that comes down to

1575
01:07:46,440 --> 01:07:47,679
God is a plan for my life?

1576
01:07:47,760 --> 01:07:49,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's because you've got.

1577
01:07:49,440 --> 01:07:51,199
Speaker 1: I'm reminding that not just says we're coming to the

1578
01:07:51,239 --> 01:07:54,159
end here, but for this last one when it comes

1579
01:07:54,239 --> 01:07:57,800
to decision making, which is skill number seven. You're going

1580
01:07:57,880 --> 01:08:00,000
to make decisions sometimes, and it's like, I've done it

1581
01:08:00,000 --> 01:08:03,679
everything I know to do. I'm having as much emotional

1582
01:08:03,760 --> 01:08:05,719
control and wisdom as I can have in the situation,

1583
01:08:05,800 --> 01:08:08,840
and I don't know what's right right, And so if

1584
01:08:08,880 --> 01:08:12,360
I don't know what's right and neither situation is sinful,

1585
01:08:12,639 --> 01:08:14,679
and I've done all I can do to prepare, then

1586
01:08:14,679 --> 01:08:16,359
I'm gonna pray and trust God, and I'm gonna make

1587
01:08:16,399 --> 01:08:19,800
a decision, okay, because I know indecision is one of

1588
01:08:19,840 --> 01:08:21,159
the worst decisions that I can make.

1589
01:08:21,479 --> 01:08:22,640
Speaker 3: So I'm gonna make a decision.

1590
01:08:23,399 --> 01:08:25,840
Speaker 1: And when I do, when I make a decision, here's

1591
01:08:25,880 --> 01:08:28,199
something I have to deal with stuff like this a lot. Yeah,

1592
01:08:28,239 --> 01:08:31,079
And when I make decisions, I say, a lot of

1593
01:08:31,119 --> 01:08:33,079
people will tell me what decisions I have to make,

1594
01:08:33,399 --> 01:08:36,279
but I will assess what decision actually has to be

1595
01:08:36,359 --> 01:08:39,680
made right now, and whether I'm working with consultants or

1596
01:08:39,720 --> 01:08:42,000
my team or myself on an issue, I will try

1597
01:08:42,039 --> 01:08:44,680
to break it down to I'm not trying to solve

1598
01:08:45,039 --> 01:08:47,479
world hunger in this moment, because sometimes I can feel

1599
01:08:47,560 --> 01:08:49,520
what it's like when you're dealing with a problem saying, no,

1600
01:08:49,680 --> 01:08:51,800
what is the only decision I have that I have

1601
01:08:51,840 --> 01:08:55,520
to make right now? Clearly define what decision needs to

1602
01:08:55,560 --> 01:08:57,680
be made right now. Don't try to deal with will

1603
01:08:57,720 --> 01:08:59,479
all the Well, if I make this decision, then I'm

1604
01:08:59,479 --> 01:09:00,560
I have to do this, I'm then'n have to do this.

1605
01:09:00,640 --> 01:09:03,319
I'm gonna have to do this. No, that next decision,

1606
01:09:03,399 --> 01:09:05,960
you can take another lap. You can go through all

1607
01:09:06,000 --> 01:09:08,319
of this cycle again, and there's things that can change

1608
01:09:08,319 --> 01:09:11,560
between now and then, and sometimes like it's bad decision

1609
01:09:11,600 --> 01:09:14,119
versus bad decision. Yeah, Option A and B are both bad,

1610
01:09:15,520 --> 01:09:17,399
and you're looking all the way down the road on

1611
01:09:17,479 --> 01:09:20,640
both of those from your current situation and saying these

1612
01:09:20,640 --> 01:09:23,039
are both bad. Both these I'm gonna drive off of

1613
01:09:23,079 --> 01:09:25,720
the cliff. Well, one of those decisions is me driving

1614
01:09:25,720 --> 01:09:27,560
off of a cliff. I am planning for someone to

1615
01:09:27,600 --> 01:09:29,760
pick me up before I drive off of the cliff,

1616
01:09:30,359 --> 01:09:32,439
and option A gives me a little bit more runway,

1617
01:09:32,479 --> 01:09:34,600
so I'm gonna go in that direction because someone's gonna

1618
01:09:34,600 --> 01:09:35,039
pick me up.

1619
01:09:35,199 --> 01:09:36,359
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1620
01:09:36,600 --> 01:09:38,920
Speaker 1: But again, the point being is to look at your

1621
01:09:38,920 --> 01:09:43,159
decision making process and understand what do I have to

1622
01:09:43,199 --> 01:09:46,479
really decide right now? Not thirty seven problems I have

1623
01:09:46,560 --> 01:09:49,119
to solve all at once, right, So just simplify your

1624
01:09:49,119 --> 01:09:49,760
decision making.

1625
01:09:49,840 --> 01:09:52,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's a skill. I mean identifying the next

1626
01:09:52,880 --> 01:09:55,199
decision that needs to be made and not looking at

1627
01:09:55,239 --> 01:09:58,560
everything because like too much choice is almost as bad

1628
01:09:58,560 --> 01:10:01,000
as having no choice, right, because and we don't believe

1629
01:10:01,000 --> 01:10:02,560
in no choice. But you know what I mean, It's

1630
01:10:02,600 --> 01:10:05,159
like like sometimes people are paralyzed by the options.

1631
01:10:05,720 --> 01:10:07,920
Speaker 1: It's what we talked about in the beginning. In the beginning,

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it's what's next versus trying to see the entire staircase correct, right.

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If you want to be able to deal with uncertainty,

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the ultimate is.

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Speaker 3: You've got to have faith.

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Speaker 1: You've got to have a sense of courage, which is

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going to come from understanding God is a plan for

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your life, believing that you were made to win, Knowing

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that I can deal with really difficult stuff in life

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and I don't have to win every single, every single

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battle in life.

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Speaker 3: David didn't win every battle. Right. God wants to use me,

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and I want to be used. I'm going to be an.

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Speaker 1: Overcomer in life. So I'm going to learn how to

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trust in God. If I can't trust in God, I'm

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going to trust in myself, and that's a bad recipe.

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Then I'm going to be able to manage my emotions.

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I've got to be able to separate facts from feelings.

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I'm going to learn how to assign value to the

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challenges that I'm dealing with instead of let everything be

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a level ten issue, not every issue. Choose a level

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ten issue. Not every threat that I face is a

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level ten threat. Most of the things that you're fighting

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against they're not grizzly bears. Stop letting mosquitoes rule your life.

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Learn how to determine how much time do I have

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when am I going to make this decision? What decision

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really needs to be made right now? And if you

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can do these things, doesn't mean you're going to win

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every battle, but you're going to learn how to deal

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with uncertainty.

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Speaker 2: Thank you very much for listening. Guys, remember to share,

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that someone would enjoy, please send it to them. We

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appreciate it all. If you want to get in touch,

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you can follow us on Instagram at the Impossible Life.

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You'll find us on there. You can also email at

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Impossible Life Podcasts at gmail dot com if you have

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any questions, if you want to get in touch and

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find out about Garrett's personal or business coaching, that's the

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way to do it. Thank you again for listening. Go

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out there, think better, and live the impossible. See again soon.