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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say

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yes to creativity. Totally end KD because we all make mistakes.

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So turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged

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het arrow.

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Speaker 2: And this is vocal dfrag defragging is asking the questions

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and questioning the answers. I keep a written journal, I've

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been doing that since November of twenty seventeen, in association

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with my daily writing, which I've been doing since July

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of nineteen ninety four. But vocal defragging is the opportunity

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to physically vocalize your questions and then vocalize the answers,

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then question those answers, to hear your voice. It's one

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thing to have a pin in your hand and put

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thoughts on a page. It's a different story when you

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use your physical vocals and then you go back and

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you study it, not listen to it because you got

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an ego, but to study it to hear your inflection,

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the empowerment of what is in your soul. But so

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often it goes ignored, and the reason being is because

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we don't want to feet the storms. So we sit

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there and we go, well, I guess I'm frumpy. Oh,

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I guess I'm pissed off. Oh I'm feeling like this

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is gonna be the worst day of my life. Well,

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ask the question why do you feel that way? And

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then when you give it the answer, go ahead and

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question that answer, because you know this is how you

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get to the bottom of things when you're trying to

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get on the inside of the me, myself and I

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And that's what vocal d frag is all about. Sure,

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I dream of one day get any opportunity to teach

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people how to physically defrag and how important it is

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to be able to say I am a d fragger.

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I do not fear the self that I am. I

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walk through an every day that isn't expected to be perfect,

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and when it's not perfect and I am troubled by

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things that are taking place, that's okay. I'm going to

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d frag and I'm going to look for a different

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way that offers a victory or just a better understanding.

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That's all I want, just a better understanding. My sabdem

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in martial arts, I'm a third degree black belt. My

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sabonym would say, do you know what the difference is between

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good and great? Sabdin, what's the answer on that, and

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he would say, about this much his thumb and his

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index finger, we're about one inch apart. About this much.

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This is vocal, d fragging, interesting subject that we're going

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to cover today. But we're all guilty of it. We

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say it all the time, and we think, well, you

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know what, if that's how I feel, that's how I'm

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going to act. How about those moments when you go, hey, man,

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what you got going on today? I've got nothing? You've

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got I've got nothing? Itis So often when people are

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asked questions and all you want is a simple answer,

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and this is what you get, I've got nothing. Why

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are you feeling down today? I've got nothing? I've got nothing.

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I kind of always look around the room when someone

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says that, and my honesty with them is simple, you

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got nothing. You got us. That's something you have air

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in your lungs, that's something you have thoughts that are

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moving through your mind at the speed of light. That's something.

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So to stay I got nothing, that's kind of a

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weaker walk, when, in fact, through the power of choice,

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because winning is a choice. Through that power of choice,

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you can say I don't have nothing. What I've got

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is a mindset a mindset that deserves to go through

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a transition. But I ignore the idea that this thing

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called transition walking or transition writing. It's just plain old stupid.

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So I got nothing. I don't say it. I really don't.

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Many times I have. And when I do say I've

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got nothing, Oh, we're defragging. I'm gonna plant my butt

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nutshare or I'm gonna pick up this microphone and we're

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going to ask the question and question the answers, because

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that's a cop out. When you say I got nothing,

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you're telling the inner core of your mind, body, and

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soul that you aren't good enough to be present in

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my moment of challenge. I got nothing, But you do

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have something. You have the willingness and the ability to

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reach further than where you were yesterday. I say, these

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people that always tell me I'm feeling numb today. Oh

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that's another one of my pet peeves. You're feeling numb,

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Obviously you're feeling something for you to say I'm feeling numb.

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See the one thing that I wrote in my first book,

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One manenty twenty one Thoughts, I said that depression is

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not anger against oneself or other's. Depression is God's way

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of saying, you know what, today You're not going to

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feel numb. See what I mean, being able to sit

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down to ask the questions then question the answers when

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you say things that I got nothing. And it's going

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to be a challenge to break free of that because

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it's too easy to say I've got nothing or to say,

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you know what, I got so much going on in

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my life. There's just too many things to do and

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expectations to meet. I am just numb. No, you're not

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numb because you're feeling it right now. You are confused.

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I get it. I get it because I live a

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Google Calendar lifestyle. I have to be in so many

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different places in one twenty four hour period. It really

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drives my mind body. It's a crazy But how do

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I do it? By being open and honest, by being

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there for the self that's on the inside, By never

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saying I got nothing or I'm numb, Because if I

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am numb, I'm going to ask the question, what's got

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you here? Buddy? What's going on? I know you're tired,

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you got about three or four hours of sleep. I

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get it, I get it, and today you're not going

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to get home from the essential job until about eleven o'clock. Tough.

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I know it's a tough cookie, but let's look at

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the positive. You're okay, the house payment is going to

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be made. Whoa okay? Okay, you know the flat screen TV.

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That stuff costs money because you got to get all

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those apps and stuff, you know, like Hulu Netflix. Okay,

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because you're going to the essential job and you worked

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late last night because you were doing a different kind

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of job, and that's what pays for the RV. You

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see what I mean. It's not that I'm belittling anybody,

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including myself. What I'm saying is is that through hard work, dedication,

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and the gift of being present with whatever energy is

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moving through us, you have the ability to find your victory.

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What are you looking for? You're looking for the trophy?

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What is it that you think you've got to have?

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When you say I got nothing? Are you looking for answers?

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Then ask the freaking questions. If you're looking for answers

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and you're not asking questions, then I understand where you are. Well, well,

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I'm feeling kind of numb. Why what made you numb?

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Because I'll tell you what I know. A lot of

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people that take a lot of drugs and they drink

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a lot of alcohol, and as numb as you think

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they are, they're still feeling the pain on the inside

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and they think that's going to wash it away. It doesn't.

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It creates more doubt, fear, shame, guilt. So let's work

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on that. Okay, let's work on When you have that

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moment where you say I got nothing, ask the question

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and then question the answers. Things will begin to happen

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in your life. It's not going to happen overnight because

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you don't trust it yet. Trust comes with conversation. Conversation

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creates ability and a willingness to want to grow. Do

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you hear that? To want to grow? And those people

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that are around you, many of them don't want to

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see you change because they like you just the way

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you are. Yeah, I've got something for him. Let me

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show them a picture of the new you. I'm Eryl

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and that's vocal d Frank