Speaker 1: My dad's mato, and I heard him say it over
Speaker 1: and over grown up was I will do the best
Speaker 1: I can with what I have for Jesus Christ today.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: I'll do the best I can with what I have
Speaker 1: for Jesus Christ today. I'm not waiting for everything to
Speaker 1: fall in place. If I'm waiting for perfect environment, nothing's
Speaker 1: ever going to get done. I'll do the best I
Speaker 1: can with what I have. That's resourcefulness.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Sometimes you meet people that right off the bat, they
Speaker 1: just stand out in your mind, and it may be
Speaker 1: because of an outstanding achievement or an outstanding talent or
Speaker 1: giftedness or outstanding personality, but they're just extraordinary. They're unusual people.
Speaker 1: We call these people remarkable people. You could think of
Speaker 1: them very easily. You go that person's remarkable, she's remarkable,
Speaker 1: He's remarkable. Things like them Now, all of us want
Speaker 1: to live remarkable lives, and God wants you to live
Speaker 1: a remarkable life.
Speaker 2: That doesn't mean famous. Fame has nothing to do with it.
Speaker 1: You can make an impact and most of the world
Speaker 1: not even know who you are, but you have an
Speaker 1: enormous impact on the world through your legacy, and you'll
Speaker 1: never by the way, know your legacy.
Speaker 2: On this earth.
Speaker 1: You'll never know it because you don't know all the
Speaker 1: people whose lives have been changed by people you touched
Speaker 1: and they touched others, on and on and on. But
Speaker 1: we want to live remarkable lives. And as parents, those
Speaker 1: two of you who are parents, we all want remarkable kids,
Speaker 1: and we want remarkable grandkids, and we want them to
Speaker 1: have an impact in lives. How many of you either
Speaker 1: own a small business or you work for a business
Speaker 1: that offers either a product or a service of some kind.
Speaker 1: Can I see your hands? Okay, yeah, that's a lot
Speaker 1: of it. You would you say it's easier to get
Speaker 1: people's attention or harder to get people's attention. Today it's harder,
Speaker 1: isn't it, because there's so much competition out there, with
Speaker 1: all of the noise and all of the news and
Speaker 1: all of the media and all social media and things
Speaker 1: like that. How does your product, how does your business?
Speaker 1: How does your service get attention? Well, the only thing
Speaker 1: that really gets attention is that which is remarkable. For instance,
Speaker 1: you know, you can have two restaurants right next to
Speaker 1: each other, and one of them nobody's going to it
Speaker 1: all and the other one, there's a line of people
Speaker 1: waiting to get in and they're willing to wait up
Speaker 1: to an hour to have a meal.
Speaker 2: Why remarkable food?
Speaker 1: Or a company creates a remarkable product and it just
Speaker 1: goes like Gangbusters and its skyrockets. And why is it
Speaker 1: that some hotels and motels have people booking up a
Speaker 1: long time in advance and others are empty lots of vacancies.
Speaker 2: Remarkable service.
Speaker 1: Now I've written on your outline a definition of remarkable.
Speaker 1: Remarkable means exceptional, it means outstanding, it means uncommon, it
Speaker 1: means worthy of attention. History human history is written primarily
Speaker 1: by remarkable people. And you could easily make a list
Speaker 1: of people you would think in different areas and arts
Speaker 1: and entertainment and in government and in law and all
Speaker 1: the different areas well, they were remarkable and they made
Speaker 1: it made a.
Speaker 2: Pretty big impact.
Speaker 1: But I will say this to you, God wants you
Speaker 1: to have a remarkable life. But the only way you'll
Speaker 1: ever be able to live it is if you're willing.
Speaker 2: To be different.
Speaker 1: If you want to be like everybody else, you're never
Speaker 1: going to be remarkable. That that's the very definition of
Speaker 1: remarkable is it's not common you are uncommon. To be
Speaker 1: remarkable in life means you're not like other people.
Speaker 2: And if you want children who are.
Speaker 1: Remarkable children, you have to teach them how to not
Speaker 1: care about being like everybody else.
Speaker 2: That's not remarkable, that's just common. So the secret of.
Speaker 1: Remarkable people is that they're willing to do things that
Speaker 1: the rest of us aren't willing to do. They're willing
Speaker 1: to develop habits that are uncommon. They're willing to put
Speaker 1: in extra hours that are uncommon. They're willing to make
Speaker 1: effort that the rest of the world isn't.
Speaker 2: Willing to make.
Speaker 1: They're willing to pay a price in order to make
Speaker 1: a remarkable difference that most people aren't willing to make.
Speaker 1: And to learn this last week is interesting. I read
Speaker 1: a fascinating study is in two different magazines, and I
Speaker 1: actually read it in two different magazines, in Harvard Business
Speaker 1: Review and also in Forbes magazine of a study of
Speaker 1: one thousand managers who felt quote stuck in their career.
Speaker 2: They did this study of people.
Speaker 1: I've been at the level I've at. I've been at
Speaker 1: the level I'm at right now for a long time,
Speaker 1: and I don't think I'm ever going to make any
Speaker 1: more progress in my career. I don't think I'm going
Speaker 1: to get any promotions. I am stuck in a dead
Speaker 1: end career. And so then they went ahead and did
Speaker 1: a study, and they interviewed the bosses, and they interviewed
Speaker 1: the people, and they discovered that those people, ninety seven
Speaker 1: percent of them had either one or more of what
Speaker 1: they called career limiting habits, career limiting habits. And they
Speaker 1: made a list of the ten most common career limiting habits.
Speaker 2: And even when people.
Speaker 1: Knew that they had them, they don't change, even though
Speaker 1: they know it's keeping them from actually growing and developing
Speaker 1: and making.
Speaker 2: A greater fact of their life.
Speaker 1: Today, we're going to look at how do you build
Speaker 1: a remarkable life? And we're going to look at four
Speaker 1: of the antidotes to these career limiting habits. Now, the
Speaker 1: Bible is filled with examples of remarkable people. Deborah was
Speaker 1: a remarkable person. Esther she was a remarkable person. Job
Speaker 1: Jonah Nehemiah was a remarkable businessman, and on and on
Speaker 1: and on. Some of the people in the Bible, they're famous,
Speaker 1: some of you wouldn't know, but they all were pretty
Speaker 1: remarkable in the way that they lived. One of them
Speaker 1: that you have heard of if you've been around siddleback,
Speaker 1: was a guy named Daniel who was taken as a
Speaker 1: slave from Israel back to Babylon, which overcame Israel and
Speaker 1: took the entire nation as slaves during the Babylonian Empire.
Speaker 1: And the Bible says this notice on your outline, Daniel,
Speaker 1: chapter six, verse three. Daniels so distinguished himself from all
Speaker 1: the other leaders by his remarkable qualities, circle back his
Speaker 1: remarkable qualities that the king, this is nebuican Azer, the
Speaker 1: emperor of the Babylon Empire, plan to put him Daniel
Speaker 1: in charge over the entire empire.
Speaker 2: Are you kidding me? Wow?
Speaker 1: A guy who starts off as a slave and has
Speaker 1: taken hostage to a foreign country and he doesn't want
Speaker 1: to be there, but he has so many remarkable qualities
Speaker 1: in his life that the most powerful man in the world,
Speaker 1: King nebacan Azer the Babylon Empire, goes, I'm gonna put
Speaker 1: that guy as number two, and he's going to be
Speaker 1: in charge of my entire empire. I want to know
Speaker 1: what those qualities were. Today, we're going to look at
Speaker 1: four of the qualities that were in Daniel's life, and
Speaker 1: I want us to look at it from two different points. First,
Speaker 1: in your own law life, these are things you can learn,
Speaker 1: These are things that you can develop, and the rest
Speaker 1: of your life can be the best of your life
Speaker 1: if you're willing to put in the effort now. If
Speaker 1: you're not willing to put the effort, you can go
Speaker 1: ahead and leave right now. Because no one about them
Speaker 1: doesn't change you. They said in that study of those managers,
Speaker 1: they knew some of the things they need to change,
Speaker 1: they just didn't change them. But if you're willing to
Speaker 1: put that effort in to make those changes and ask
Speaker 1: God to give you the strength to make those changes,
Speaker 1: the rest of your life could be the best of
Speaker 1: your life.
Speaker 2: And we're going to look at.
Speaker 1: The antidotes for antidotes to for the big common things
Speaker 1: that hold people back in life, keys to living a
Speaker 1: remarkable life. But also because we've been in this series
Speaker 1: on family, I want us to look at it.
Speaker 2: How do you build them in your children?
Speaker 1: You want remarkable kids, you want them to succeed in
Speaker 1: their life. Well, there's certain things that you can build
Speaker 1: in their life. Four ours for a remarkable life. I've
Speaker 1: got grow them in my life. If I want remarkable kids,
Speaker 1: I've got to build them into their lives.
Speaker 2: Here there are number one.
Speaker 1: If I want to build a remarkable life and a
Speaker 1: remarkable career, I must learn to be respectful of everybody.
Speaker 1: I must learn to be respectful to everyone. This is
Speaker 1: the starting point. Respect is the foundation of a remarkable life.
Speaker 1: Respecting others shows reverence for God. It shows humility in
Speaker 1: the way you relate to other people.
Speaker 2: He why have you got?
Speaker 1: This is the number one quality and a remarkable life?
Speaker 1: Because today everybody's rude.
Speaker 2: You won't to agree with that.
Speaker 1: Is the world getting more respecting or more disrespectful?
Speaker 2: Yeah? No, we're getting ruder.
Speaker 1: The world is becoming more uncivil or incivil. And so
Speaker 1: the more rude the world gets, the more a person
Speaker 1: who is respectable of everybody becomes remarkable. You stand out
Speaker 1: like a bright star on a dark night. Now I've
Speaker 1: given you a definition there on your outline, the definition
Speaker 1: of respect or to be respectful.
Speaker 2: It means to appreciate.
Speaker 1: The uniqueness, value the worth, and affirm the dignity of
Speaker 1: everyone because God made them. I want to read again,
Speaker 1: because notice three qualities. Truly, to be respectful of everybody
Speaker 1: means you appreciate their uniqueness because they're not like you.
Speaker 1: Can you appreciate people who are not like you, You
Speaker 1: value their worth and you affirm their dignity. Everyone because
Speaker 1: God made them. You see, any time you disrespect anything
Speaker 1: God made, it's an insult to God.
Speaker 2: As a limit.
Speaker 1: I made them, I made that, I made you, and
Speaker 1: I made them. You think I love you more than
Speaker 1: I love them. You think you're more important than they are.
Speaker 1: It's actually quite arrogant, egotistical, it's quite prideful. When we
Speaker 1: don't respect other people. We're basically saying God, you goofed up,
Speaker 1: you made a mistake, and you should have made everybody
Speaker 1: like me, which I'm the standard of perfection here. Well,
Speaker 1: that doesn't work. We all know you're not standard. I'm
Speaker 1: not standard. Everybody is broken. It's arrogant. I told you,
Speaker 1: it's the opposite of humility. Anytime I'm rude to you,
Speaker 1: or anybody is rude to you, or anytime you're rude
Speaker 1: to anybody else, you're revealing your ego. You think in
Speaker 1: that moment that you don't need to be respectful. You
Speaker 1: think if the clerk is a jerk, you still need
Speaker 1: to be respectful. I'm not saying you have to prove
Speaker 1: of everything.
Speaker 2: No. No, God doesn't.
Speaker 1: Approve of everything I do, doesn't approve of everything you do,
Speaker 1: or anybody else.
Speaker 2: For that matter.
Speaker 1: There's an acceptance approval. He accepts us, he loves us,
Speaker 1: he values us. He says we have dignity even though
Speaker 1: we're flawed, we're sinful, we're broken. They're both true and
Speaker 1: so God looks to bless people who are respectful. If
Speaker 1: you want God's blessing on your business, on your career,
Speaker 1: on your family, on your friendships, on your relationship, whatever
Speaker 1: you want God to bless, you need to be respectful
Speaker 1: in every area of your life.
Speaker 2: It's the foundation.
Speaker 1: There's so many promised promises that are given in the Bible.
Speaker 1: Let's say that when you build this quality respectfulness, that
Speaker 1: you will be blessed. Let me show you a couple.
Speaker 1: Here's one Matthew twenty three, verse twelve. If you put
Speaker 1: yourself above others so you don't feel like you have
Speaker 1: to respect them, you'll be put down. If you put
Speaker 1: yourself above others, you'll be put down. But if you
Speaker 1: humble yourself, you will be honored by others. Study after
Speaker 1: study have shown that people are. Employees who are disrespectful
Speaker 1: get stuck. They don't keep progressing in their career. They
Speaker 1: get stuck because people don't want to work with people
Speaker 1: who are disrespectful. So God leaves no wiggle room about this.
Speaker 1: Let me show you some verses one Peter to seventeen.
Speaker 1: The Bible says, show real respect.
Speaker 2: To people you like. Oh no, that's not what it says.
Speaker 1: Show let's read it aloud together, show real respect to circle.
Speaker 2: That to everyone.
Speaker 1: Now, just in case you don't understand what the word
Speaker 1: everyone means, which, by the way, I looked up that
Speaker 1: word in the original Greek, and in the original Greek,
Speaker 1: the word everyone means everyone.
Speaker 2: There's no exception.
Speaker 1: But just in case you know, you think there's a
Speaker 1: wiggle room, God thirty forty fifty times in scripture tells
Speaker 1: us specific groups of people that.
Speaker 2: You must must.
Speaker 1: Show respect to if you want God's blessing on your
Speaker 1: life and on your career. There's ten different groups God
Speaker 1: says you have to show respect to if you want
Speaker 1: his blessing on your life. Number one, I must show
Speaker 1: respect for God's name and word. I must show respect
Speaker 1: for God's name and God's word. I can't be using
Speaker 1: God's name as a cuss word or as an additive,
Speaker 1: just like a uh uh oh God, God, Oh God.
Speaker 1: You know, don't use God as an exclamation point. You
Speaker 1: take his word and you take his name seriously. Second,
Speaker 1: I must show respect to my parents. In the Ten Commandments,
Speaker 1: one of the commandments is honor your father and mother.
Speaker 1: And it's the only of the ten commandments that actually
Speaker 1: has a promise with it, and it says, and if
Speaker 1: you read these verses that I've written out here Ephesians six, three,
Speaker 1: two and three, that if you honor your father and mother, you'll.
Speaker 2: Have a long life full of blessing.
Speaker 1: It's the only promise of the ten commandments that has
Speaker 1: a promise with it.
Speaker 2: Number three, show respect to my spouse.
Speaker 1: If you are married to your husband, your wife, then
Speaker 1: God expects you to show respect to your spouse.
Speaker 2: And if you don't, by the way.
Speaker 1: Guys, men, did you know that if you don't respect
Speaker 1: your wife, the Bible says God will not hear your prayers.
Speaker 1: Uh oh, this is one verse you got to see.
Speaker 1: Let me put it on the screen. First, Peter, First,
Speaker 1: Peter three, seven and eight. Okay, here's what it says. You,
Speaker 1: husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with
Speaker 1: understanding as you live together. She may be physically weaker
Speaker 1: than you are, but she is your equal partner in
Speaker 1: God's gift of new life. And if you don't treat
Speaker 1: her as you should, your prayers will not be heard. Bam,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, honey, So you need to treat them. That's
Speaker 1: out of the New Living Translation. Now, before you women
Speaker 1: get cocky, I have a verse for you too. Ephesians
Speaker 1: five thirty three says this, and it starts with the
Speaker 1: guys again again, I say again, okay.
Speaker 2: Because we don't always learn it that well.
Speaker 1: The husband must love his wife as a part of himself.
Speaker 1: It's like love your neighbors yourself. You're to love your
Speaker 1: wife as yourself. You know they're treating her with respect,
Speaker 1: and the wife must see to it that she respects
Speaker 1: her husband, praising and honoring him. From the Living Bible,
Speaker 1: all right. Number four, the Bible says that God expects
Speaker 1: me to respect other church members in our church, family
Speaker 1: and pastors. The Bible says we're to treat each other
Speaker 1: as brothers and sisters. We are to outdo each other
Speaker 1: and showing respect to each other. I'll be happy to
Speaker 1: send you these verses Romans twelve ten, Hebrews thirteen seventeen.
Speaker 1: But we're to respect each other in the family of God.
Speaker 1: Number five. The Bible says that I'm expected to show
Speaker 1: respect to older people. You've heard the phrase respect your elders, Well,
Speaker 1: guess where it came from.
Speaker 2: It's from the Bible.
Speaker 1: God says that if you want his blessing, you must
Speaker 1: respect the elderly in Leviticus nineteen thirty two. Number six,
Speaker 1: I must show respect.
Speaker 2: This may surprise you.
Speaker 1: To unbelievers, doesn't matter if they're an atheist or an agnostic,
Speaker 1: or some other religion, or no religion at all, secularist, whatever.
Speaker 1: The Bible says, God expects me to show respect unbelievers
Speaker 1: First Peter three fifteen and sixteen, and says, when you
Speaker 1: share your hope with them, I always do it with
Speaker 1: gentleness and respect. Number seven, I am to show specifically
Speaker 1: respect to the poor. To the poor, the Bible says,
Speaker 1: if you're unkind to the poor, you insult your creator.
Speaker 1: But if you're kind to them, then you show respect
Speaker 1: to God and you show.
Speaker 2: Respect to them.
Speaker 1: And so somebody may not have as much money as
Speaker 1: you do. You don't get any leeway in disrespecting them
Speaker 1: because they can't afford what you can afford.
Speaker 2: You have to show respect to the poor.
Speaker 1: Number eight, I am to show respect to immigrants. Now
Speaker 1: this is one that's actually mentioned over and over. It's
Speaker 1: not mentioned just one time. It's mentioned over and over.
Speaker 1: I am to show respect to immigrants. In fact, let
Speaker 1: me show you this verse two, because this is a
Speaker 1: hot button issue right now, particularly in the United States.
Speaker 1: Leviticus nineteen thirty three and thirty four says this, you
Speaker 1: must never mistreat any foreigner who is living in your country. Instead,
Speaker 1: you must treat them just as you treat your own citizens.
Speaker 2: I didn't say this, God did. God did.
Speaker 1: Love foreigners as you love yourselves, because you remember that
Speaker 1: your ancestors were foreigners at one time in a new country.
Speaker 2: And I am the Lord your God.
Speaker 1: I don't have time to go into this, but the
Speaker 1: Bible very clearly God gets mad. He gets ticked off
Speaker 1: when we don't show foreigners or immigrants respect. Number nine.
Speaker 1: These are getting harder.
Speaker 2: Number nine. I am to show respect to my opponents,
Speaker 2: to enemies, to.
Speaker 1: People who attack you or maybe persecute you, or maybe
Speaker 1: try to put you down or plan for your defeat.
Speaker 1: It's easy to show respect to people you like. It's
Speaker 1: hard to show respect to people you dislike, or people
Speaker 1: who have a different political persuasion or different religious persuasions.
Speaker 1: Do you show respect to people who violently disagree with you.
Speaker 1: That's a mark of a Christian. Here's what Jesus said.
Speaker 1: These are the words of Christ himself. Matthew five forty
Speaker 1: four to forty seven. I'm want to read this one
Speaker 1: to you two.
Speaker 2: Jesus said.
Speaker 1: You've heard it said, love your enemies and hate your
Speaker 1: love your neighbor, and hate your enemies. But I tell you,
Speaker 1: and he said, no, not love your neighbor and hate
Speaker 1: your enemies. I tell you, love your enemies and pray
Speaker 1: for those who persecute you. In this way, you show
Speaker 1: that you are the children of your heavenly father, your
Speaker 1: father in heaven.
Speaker 2: It shows your follower of Christ. You're in the family.
Speaker 1: If you only love those who love you, do you
Speaker 1: deserve a reward?
Speaker 2: Obviously?
Speaker 1: No, are you doing anything remarkable? Notice there's that word remarkable.
Speaker 1: Are you doing anything remarkable if you only welcome your friends?
Speaker 1: He answers, Obviously not everybody does that. In God's word translation,
Speaker 1: So we are how do you be a remarkable person
Speaker 1: when when they are attacking you you give nothing but
Speaker 1: love back. When they're disrespectful to you, you are respectful
Speaker 1: to them. He said, that's how you know you really
Speaker 1: have been saved, that you're in the family of God.
Speaker 1: And then number ten, this one's hard too. Sometimes I
Speaker 1: am to show respect to government leaders. Oh really, really,
Speaker 1: even the opposite party.
Speaker 2: Whatever.
Speaker 1: The Bible tells us over and over that we are
Speaker 1: to respect the position even when people are not doing
Speaker 1: respectful things. Now, it's not rocket science. This first quality,
Speaker 1: the foundational quality of just treating everybody with this frict
Speaker 1: treating everybody with dignity, even people you disagree with, and
Speaker 1: even people who are not respectful to you. It's pretty simple,
Speaker 1: and kids don't have to learn one hundred different rules.
Speaker 1: They just need to have to learn one rule. It's
Speaker 1: called the Golden rule, and the golden rules. The next
Speaker 1: verse on your outline where Jesus said in Matthew seven twelve,
Speaker 1: this is the famous golden rule of Jesus. In everything
Speaker 1: you do do to others what you would want them
Speaker 1: to do to you. This sums up all the law
Speaker 1: and the prophecy. He said the whole Bible summed up
Speaker 1: in this treat people the way you'd like to be treated. Well,
Speaker 1: that's not rocket science. A little child can learn how
Speaker 1: do I want to be treated? That's the way I
Speaker 1: treat others. And if I learn that one rule, treat other.
Speaker 2: People the way I'd like to be treated, then I
Speaker 2: am going to be respectful.
Speaker 1: That makes sense. All right, Let's go to the second one.
Speaker 1: The second are in a remarkable life. If I want
Speaker 1: to build a remarkable life and a remarkable career, second
Speaker 1: thing I would have to learn is not just how
Speaker 1: to show respect. I'm going to have to learn to
Speaker 1: be reliable reliable, because if you're not reliable, nobody's going
Speaker 1: to trust you. And if nobody trusts you, you can't
Speaker 1: do business with them, you can't lead them, you can't
Speaker 1: have any impact in their life. Now, in the Bible,
Speaker 1: the word reliable is not used that often because it's
Speaker 1: a fairly modern term, but the concept is all through scripture,
Speaker 1: and it's.
Speaker 2: Called being trustworthy.
Speaker 1: Trustworthy is the same thing as being reliable, being worthy
Speaker 1: of trust. Another word that the Bible uses for reliable
Speaker 1: is the word faithful, and the Bible talks about being
Speaker 1: a faithful friend, being a faithful spouse, being a faithful leader,
Speaker 1: of being faithful to God, being faithful to your church
Speaker 1: and your family and your friends, and honor on and
Speaker 1: the Bible says that faithfulness people who are reliable, that
Speaker 1: they you can count on them. Says, they're very rare.
Speaker 1: They're very they're very remarkable, because most people are not reliable.
Speaker 2: They're not.
Speaker 1: Now, let me give you definition. Reliability means being dependable,
Speaker 1: being trustworthy, being honest, being loyal. The Bible says in
Speaker 1: Proverbs twenty verse six, there are plenty of people who
Speaker 1: will tell you you could trust me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, all right, run for the border.
Speaker 1: But it's hard to find someone who is truly trustworthy.
Speaker 1: A lot of people in the King James says, every
Speaker 1: man will proclaim his own faithfulness, but who can find
Speaker 1: a faithful man? In other words, it's rare. It's remarkable
Speaker 1: when you find somebody that you can totally trust. And
Speaker 1: employees pay big bucks for people who are reliable. They go,
Speaker 1: I can count on them. Now, how do I do that?
Speaker 1: How do I grow reliability? How do I develop a
Speaker 1: reputation for being a reliable person? Well, in lots of ways,
Speaker 1: but let me just give you three from scripture. Write
Speaker 1: these down. Number one, this is kind of obvious. Always
Speaker 1: tell the truth the If you don't always tell the truth,
Speaker 1: then you're not reliable. If I'm honest eighty percent of
Speaker 1: the time, is that reliable. No, it's kind of like
Speaker 1: if I said to my wife, ky, honey, I'll be
Speaker 1: faithful to you twenty eight days a month. Really, partial
Speaker 1: faithfulness is unfaithfulness.
Speaker 2: It's either all or nothing.
Speaker 1: And reliability means I'm always there and I always tell
Speaker 1: the truth. The Bible says in Proverbs seventeen seven, respected
Speaker 1: people do not tell lies. Number two, Always do what
Speaker 1: I promise. That shows reliability. It shows it to a boss,
Speaker 1: to an employee, a supervisor. Always do what I promised
Speaker 1: to do. The Bible talks about like clouds without rain,
Speaker 1: is a friend who promises to do something and then
Speaker 1: doesn't do it. Proverbs twenty eight thirteen says this. Reliable
Speaker 1: friends who do what they say are like cool drinks
Speaker 1: in a sweltering heat, refreshing. I like that in the
Speaker 1: message pairphrase, here's another verse there in your outline problem,
Speaker 1: so I'm fifteen.
Speaker 2: Four says this.
Speaker 1: They keep their promises to their neighbors even when it hurts.
Speaker 2: Do you do that?
Speaker 1: Have you ever made a commitment and you know that's
Speaker 1: no problem with that, But then something else comes up
Speaker 1: that's better, and you go, I want to get out
Speaker 1: of this commitment because this is a better thing, and
Speaker 1: I'll have more fun, I'll make more money.
Speaker 2: Or be more relaxing or whatever.
Speaker 1: Well, the Bible says they keep their promises to their
Speaker 1: neighbors even when it hurts. In other words, when it's
Speaker 1: to my detriment, I'm now going to lose money on
Speaker 1: this or whatever. That's reliability that is so rare that
Speaker 1: it is remarkable because most people are not that kind
Speaker 1: of reliable. So I always tell the truth, and I
Speaker 1: always do what I say i'll do. And number three,
Speaker 1: I always keep confidential information. This was one of the
Speaker 1: ten career limiting problems that people have.
Speaker 2: Gossip.
Speaker 1: Gossip keeps a lot of people from being promoted in
Speaker 1: life because.
Speaker 2: They can't keep a secret.
Speaker 1: They just have to share it with somebody else. Reliable
Speaker 1: people know how to keep their mouth shut. They know
Speaker 1: how to keep confidential information confidential. Do you can if
Speaker 1: somebody tells you a secret? Can they can you be
Speaker 1: counted on to not tell anybody. That's pretty rare. That's remarkable.
Speaker 1: Problems eleven thirteen. Gossips can't keep secrets, but a trustworthy
Speaker 1: person can never be remarkable. If you can't keep secretly,
Speaker 1: you'll never be remarkable as a gossip. By the way,
Speaker 1: when people gossip to you, you can be certain they
Speaker 1: will gossip about you. You just need to know that.
Speaker 1: You may not think so well they're my friend. If
Speaker 1: they're gossiping to you, then they will gossip about you
Speaker 1: because they get power by spreading information. It makes them
Speaker 1: feel superior, it makes them feel in control. And anybody
Speaker 1: who has to share bad news about other people and
Speaker 1: gossip to you is going to.
Speaker 2: Gossip about you also.
Speaker 1: And the Bible tells you over and over and over
Speaker 1: and over and avoid gossips. Don't hang out with them,
Speaker 1: don't be friends with them, stay away from them.
Speaker 2: Why Because it's contagious.
Speaker 1: Proverbs eleven thirteen and the New Living Translation says this.
Speaker 1: A gossip goes around revealing secrets. But those who are
Speaker 1: trustworthy in other words, reliable, can keep a confidence. Again,
Speaker 1: corporate pay big money for people who are not just respectful,
Speaker 1: but they're reliable. Okay, so we're talking about not the
Speaker 1: three hours of reading, writing, arithmetic. We're talking about the
Speaker 1: four rs of character that build a remarkable life. And
Speaker 1: the first one we said is to be respectful and
Speaker 1: the second is to be reliable. Here's the third one, resourceful.
Speaker 1: If I want to build a remarkable life, if I
Speaker 1: want to build a remarkable career, I must learn to
Speaker 1: be resourceful. Now I'm going to explain this to you.
Speaker 1: But again, as I said, companies pay top dollar, pay
Speaker 1: a lot of money for people who are resourceful, and
Speaker 1: who are resourceful views there are people who figure out
Speaker 1: solutions to problems. They are resourceful in that they look
Speaker 1: for ways to do a workaround or create a solution.
Speaker 1: They're figuring out ways to solve problems. Here's a definition.
Speaker 1: Resourcefulness is two things. It's making the most of what
Speaker 1: I have.
Speaker 2: Do you know how to do that?
Speaker 1: Not waiting for something else to come in before you
Speaker 1: actually start living, making the most of what I have,
Speaker 1: and finding solutions to problems that others have overlooked.
Speaker 2: That's what it means to be resourceful.
Speaker 1: My dad's matto and I heard him say it over
Speaker 1: and over grown up was I will do the best
Speaker 1: I have, my best I can with what I have
Speaker 1: for Jesus Christ today.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: I'll do the best I can with what I have
Speaker 1: for Jesus Christ today. I'm not waiting for everything to
Speaker 1: fall in place. If I'm waiting for perfect environment, nothing's
Speaker 1: ever going.
Speaker 2: To get done.
Speaker 1: I'll do the best I can with what I have.
Speaker 1: That's resourcefulness. You need resourcefulness in your finances because you're
Speaker 1: never going to have unlimited finances. You need resourcefulness in
Speaker 1: your time. You're never going to have unlimited time. You
Speaker 1: need resourcefulness in creative solutions, in relationships, in your health,
Speaker 1: and in a.
Speaker 2: Lot of things.
Speaker 1: Because we live, as I said, in a broken, imperfect world.
Speaker 1: You're never going to have perfect circumstances for anything. Nothing
Speaker 1: in your life will ever have perfect circumstances. There will
Speaker 1: always be something wrong with it. That's why you need
Speaker 1: to learn to be resourceful where you do the workarounds
Speaker 1: with the problems with the weather, with the lack of
Speaker 1: this resource or whatever we need.
Speaker 2: One of the great examples of.
Speaker 1: Resourcefulness would be Paul, and in Philippians four twelve he
Speaker 1: says this the apostle Paul. He says, I know how
Speaker 1: to live on almost nothing or with everything. I've learned
Speaker 1: the secret of living in every situation, whether it is
Speaker 1: with a full stomach or an empty one.
Speaker 2: With plenty or with little. He goes.
Speaker 1: I don't care if I'm up or down, if I'm
Speaker 1: in poverty or I'm in prosperity, if things are going good,
Speaker 1: things going bad, I've learned how to live in it.
Speaker 1: Let's you say I'm resourceful. And people who are resor
Speaker 1: who don't have to have everything just right, are the
Speaker 1: people who get ahead in life. They're the people who
Speaker 1: change the world. They're the people who make an impact,
Speaker 1: who live remarkable lives.
Speaker 2: Number four.
Speaker 1: If I want to build a remarkable life, if I
Speaker 1: want to build a remarkable career, I've got to learn
Speaker 1: the fourth art, which.
Speaker 2: Is I must learn to be resilient.
Speaker 1: Resilient, and that means you don't give up when you stumble,
Speaker 1: when you fall, when you make mistake, you get up,
Speaker 1: you dust yourself off, and you move ahead. You're resilient,
Speaker 1: you bounce back, you don't fall apart when things fall apart.
Speaker 1: We live in a nation today filled with people who
Speaker 1: do not know how to be resilient, and when something
Speaker 1: goes wrong, they just give up if at first you
Speaker 1: don't succeed. Their matto is not try and try again,
Speaker 1: it's give up and expect the government to.
Speaker 2: Do it for you or whatever, and you don't.
Speaker 1: When you have resilience, you don't label yourself as a
Speaker 1: victim or a case as you choose joy. You have
Speaker 1: the same problems everybody else does, but you choose to
Speaker 1: keep going. You choose to keep moving ahead. Here's the definition.
Speaker 1: Resilience is the ability to bounce back and to recover
Speaker 1: from a loss, or from failure, or from stress or
Speaker 1: from disappointment. This is one of the most important skills.
Speaker 1: And people who learn to be respectful and reliable and
Speaker 1: resourceful and resilient, they're never gonna have a problem getting.
Speaker 2: A job.
Speaker 1: Because bosses are looking for that kind of quality person.
Speaker 1: Let me give you a couple verses Proverbs twenty four
Speaker 1: to sixteen. When good people stumble, even if they fall
Speaker 1: seven times, they will.
Speaker 2: Get back up.
Speaker 1: And I'd like for you to circle the phrase good people,
Speaker 1: because notice that even good people stumble.
Speaker 2: I love this verse.
Speaker 1: One of my favorite verses in the Bible. It says
Speaker 1: in King James, though a righteous man falls seven times,
Speaker 1: he rises again. Even righteous people mess up, even righteous
Speaker 1: people stumble, Even righteous people make bad decisions and mistakes,
Speaker 1: but you don't. Failure is never final. Failure is never fatal.
Speaker 1: Failure is how you learn what doesn't work. So you
Speaker 1: don't ever call it a failure, call it an experiment,
Speaker 1: because that's how you learn what doesn't work.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: Thomas Thomas Edison, I think tried I don't know eight
Speaker 1: hundred plus different metals before he came up with tungsten
Speaker 1: as the effective metal for the incandescent light bulb. He
Speaker 1: didn't say, well, I failed eight hundred times. He said,
Speaker 1: I know eight hundred things that don't work. And so
Speaker 1: if you have that learning mentality, we're going to talk
Speaker 1: about this in the next series. A learning mentality. It's
Speaker 1: not like I failed eight hundred two. It's like I
Speaker 1: had to get I had to just try.
Speaker 2: For I find out what works.
Speaker 1: One of the keys to Saddleback Church is that we're
Speaker 1: not afraid to fail. I just teach our lay leaders,
Speaker 1: our volunteers, our staff, and they just fail fast. I
Speaker 1: tell all the staff, I want you failing every week.
Speaker 1: If you're not failing, you're not trying anything new. It's
Speaker 1: not a failure to try something and doesn't work. Now
Speaker 1: we know that doesn't work. What is bad is if
Speaker 1: you keep failing, doing the same thing over and over and.
Speaker 2: Over and not learning from it.
Speaker 1: Make it a new failure, make it a doozy. So,
Speaker 1: as your pastor, I'm telling you, go out and fail
Speaker 1: this week. It won't hurt. It's how you learn to
Speaker 1: be a success. Someday I'll write a book a thousand
Speaker 1: ways to not grow at church, because I know every
Speaker 1: one of them. We've tried them all. We try ninety
Speaker 1: nine things. They don't work, a number one hundred works.
Speaker 1: Then we go out and teach a seminar to three
Speaker 1: thousand pastors pretend like we know what we're doing.
Speaker 2: But we're not that smart. It's just trial and error.
Speaker 1: Studies have shown that parents who try to protect their
Speaker 1: kids from failure and try to buffer them, and even
Speaker 1: if they do fail, they.
Speaker 2: Won't let them feel it. It's okay.
Speaker 1: They let your kids feel bad because they'll learn that.
Speaker 2: It doesn't kill you.
Speaker 1: The people who fear failure the most are those who
Speaker 1: were not allowed to fail.
Speaker 2: Growing up. They were not allowed to fail.
Speaker 1: And when they did fail, we immediately switched to the subject.
Speaker 1: We didn't let them feel it. It's part of growing up,
Speaker 1: it's part of a feeling bad is part of life.
Speaker 1: The sooner you teach your kids law number one, everything
Speaker 1: on earth is broken, the better.
Speaker 2: Law number two.
Speaker 1: Nothing is perfect on this planet except to God. It's perfect,
Speaker 1: and God's love for you is perfect. But everything else
Speaker 1: is broken. It's all flawed because of sin, and so
Speaker 1: we shouldn't expect it to be perfect. And if we
Speaker 1: give our kids the idea that life's going to be
Speaker 1: a combination of my little pony and you know, rainbow
Speaker 1: bright with pastels and flowers coming down and unicorns, they're
Speaker 1: going to be pretty upset when they.
Speaker 2: Hit the real world.
Speaker 1: Life is tough, everything's broken, nothing's perfect, but God is
Speaker 1: good and life can be good even in a broken world.
Speaker 1: And marriage can be good even though we're all broken,
Speaker 1: and so can everything else. And ultimately we're going to
Speaker 1: go to a place where it's all good all the time,
Speaker 1: and that's heaven.
Speaker 2: But this is not heaven. Here we have.
Speaker 1: You, know, Lymphomo, And here we have abuse, and we
Speaker 1: have a lot of war and a lot of other
Speaker 1: But life can be good even in the middle of bad.
Speaker 1: But it's choice, and the choice is to learn to
Speaker 1: be resilient, all right. A good example is Paul again
Speaker 1: Second Corinthians four seven and eight, are eight and nine.
Speaker 1: Paul says, we're often pressured from every side. You ever
Speaker 1: feel like that? Pressured from every side? We're often pressured
Speaker 1: from every side, but we're never crushed. Sometimes we don't
Speaker 1: know what to do, but we're never despair. Sometimes we're
Speaker 1: attacked and we're abused, but God never abandons us. And
Speaker 1: we get knocked down, but we get up again and
Speaker 1: we keep going. That is resilience. Second Corinthians four eight
Speaker 1: and nine. The Phillips translation says, we get knocked down.
Speaker 2: But we're not knocked out. Let's vow for prayer.
Speaker 1: These all come from Jesus Christ, and if you get
Speaker 1: Christ in your life, then you're going to get the
Speaker 1: power you need. But you have to make the choices.
Speaker 1: Because you can listen to all these things and not
Speaker 1: do anything about it. Ingleholme and do nothing, turn on
Speaker 1: the TV and forget it. But if you say I
Speaker 1: really want to be a remarkable person, I want to
Speaker 1: be different, I want the rest of my life to
Speaker 1: be different, well, okay, let's make that choice right now,
Speaker 1: in this moment, just follow me in this prayer, say
Speaker 1: something like this, Dear God, I want to stop blaming.
Speaker 2: Other people for my problems.
Speaker 1: I want to stop making excuses for my problems. I
Speaker 1: want to learn to be responsible, and I want to
Speaker 1: learn to be reliable. And I want to speak the
Speaker 1: truth and do what I say i'll do, and learn
Speaker 1: to keep confidences. I want to learn to be re
Speaker 1: respectful for everybody, even when they disrespect me. They can't
Speaker 1: control my response. I'm in control of that. So God,
Speaker 1: I want to learn to be like Jesus, to respect
Speaker 1: people and their dignity even when I disagree with them.
Speaker 1: To be resourceful. Help me to learn how to solve problems,
Speaker 1: to not wait for other people to solve them, to
Speaker 1: not wait for the government anybody else, but to use
Speaker 1: the brain that you gave me. Help me to be
Speaker 1: not just resourceful and respectful, but to be resilient and reliable. God,
Speaker 1: you know the things that get me down. You know
Speaker 1: how many times I've wanted to give up. You know
Speaker 1: how many times I wanted to just throw in the towel.
Speaker 1: I'm asking for your help, help me to remember because
Speaker 1: we know that you work all things for good, because
Speaker 1: we know that you will never stop loving us, because
Speaker 1: we know that you use even the bad stuff in
Speaker 1: good ways in our lives. I want to be one
Speaker 1: of those righteous people that when I fall seven.
Speaker 2: Times, I get right back up. And I want, starting.
Speaker 1: This week, the rest of my life to be different.
Speaker 1: I want this to be a turning point. If you've
Speaker 1: never opened your life to Jesus Christ, say something like this, Jesus,
Speaker 1: I want to get to know you. I don't understand
Speaker 1: it all, but I want to get to know you.
Speaker 1: I want to learn to trust you. I want to
Speaker 1: ask you to fill my life with faith instead of fear,
Speaker 1: and with love instead of insecurity, and with purpose and meaning.
Speaker 1: And I want to know your plan for my life.
Speaker 1: And I want to start this journey by just saying
Speaker 1: to you, yes, Jesus Christ, I'm in. I want to
Speaker 1: accept what you did for me on the cross, and
Speaker 1: I want to start growing, and I want to live
Speaker 1: a remarkable life. And I humbly ask this in your name, Amen,