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Speaker 1: Where'll they go on a second date or will must

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be the last time they ever talked?

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Speaker 2: And kiss?

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Speaker 3: In the morning Second Date Update, I'm kiss ninety seven.

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Speaker 4: All right, Well it is time for second date Update

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and we're going to South Windsor this morning. Brittany's on

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the line and apparently is getting ghosted after a first date.

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Speaker 3: Good morning, Brittany, Hey, good morning. Oh, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 4: I hope you can get some answers, but obviously you

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need to tell us about this first date you had

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with a guy named Bobby.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we went out for a happy hour and it

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was awesome. Okay, I feel like we had a ton

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of chemistry and I don't know, just a lot in common.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: He even asked, like at the end of the date

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if I wanted to go back to his place for cocktails,

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But like I I really liked this guy and I

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didn't want to, you know, go like home with him

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the first date, so I said no, and yeah, and

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then I said on the hexts like the next day,

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thanking him for a great date and kind of hinting

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it getting together again.

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Speaker 3: And you're getting ghost no response.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, So yeah, it actually sounds like you guys had

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a lot of chemistry. I mean for the date to

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go that well, and then he said, come on back

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to my place. We'll have more drinks and hang out

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and chat. Sounds like you guys had a lot of chemistry.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Do you usually avoid sex on a first date? Jef?

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What I mean? Why else would a guy invite a

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girl back to his place? Courtney? Let's be honest.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, all right, but especially not if I really

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like him?

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Speaker 1: Gotcha?

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Speaker 4: Okay, right, Like you could see it, you could see

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like second date and a third date, and like you can't.

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Speaker 3: Just Jeff like rush into it like that. All right,

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And I'm going to ask because I just want to

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get the obvious out.

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Speaker 5: Of the way.

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Speaker 3: Nobody drank too much, nobody got a little too tipsy. No, okay,

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I'm just gonna ask because you know, sometimes things over all, right,

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So I'm gonna put you on hold.

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Speaker 4: You're going to be listening in at any point if

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you want to jump in, jump in, okay, Okay, all right,

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let's call Bobby.

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Speaker 3: Invited her back to his place?

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Speaker 1: Seriously? What nothing? If you can't figure it out, I

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shouldn't have to tell you.

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Speaker 2: Hi.

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Speaker 3: Is Bobby there? Hey Bobby, it's Courtney.

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Speaker 1: Bobby, it's Walmart. Jeff.

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Speaker 3: Hey, it's Savannah. We're calling from Kiss ninety five to seven.

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Speaker 4: You're on the radio this morning, Bobby.

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Speaker 3: Hey, good morning, Rise, Rise and shine.

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Speaker 4: Listen, Bobby, you are on something we do called second

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date Update. If somebody goes on a first date, they

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think it's fantastic, but then they get ghosted after that

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and they want answers, they call us, and so that's

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why you're on the radio this morning.

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Speaker 2: Oh all right, Oh okay, Well, in.

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Speaker 4: The event that you go on lots of first dates,

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I'm going to exactly let's see. Her name's Brittany. She

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called us. I'll refresh your memory. You guys went out

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for cocktails. Apparently the chemistry was through the roof. You

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guys have a lot in common. She's reached out to

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you to suggest maybe a second date, and you're completely

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ghosting her. Do you remember this date?

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Speaker 3: Bobby?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, okay, So why are you ghosting her?

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Speaker 3: What what's happening?

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Speaker 2: Chemists through the Rif the date was I mean to

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be honest with you, the date was average and I

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ended up spending more money than I wanted to.

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Speaker 4: Well, okay, wait a minute, so spending more money on

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like cocktails, like I don't understand it was average and

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was it a very expensive place or you just weren't

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going to spend money.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I just wasn't there to spend money. I mean, like, okay,

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we we met on Tinder, Like the purpose of that

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is not to you know, and go out and spend money.

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It's it's the hook up. And uh and she didn't

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even want to come back to my house. I mean

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we met on Tinder and she declined, you know, going

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to my crib. I mean, I can.

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Speaker 1: See how that could be bothersome. Yeah, no I can't.

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Speaker 3: Bobby.

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Speaker 4: Wait, Bobby, you're telling me you're ghosting her because you

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met on Tinder. And Tinder's a place, you think where

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you just meet people to hook up, and she wouldn't

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hook up with you.

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Speaker 3: Is that what you're saying?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, not what Tinder is for anymore. I mean it's

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for dates. Like maybe at one point it was for hookups,

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but you should have been really clear about that. And

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I thought this was a date. And now what we

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had cocktails and it was too much money for.

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Speaker 2: You, you know, I'm just I was just there for

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then on tender for a minute, it's been all hookups.

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I mean it's everywhere I've been understood the.

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Speaker 5: Start of the date, because we had a whole date,

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and then just because you're invited me to your house,

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like I thought that was you know, like I don't know.

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I didn't think it would be a deal breaker if

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I turned you down.

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Speaker 3: So at no point did you, guys ever discuss like

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what are you looking for? Like you want this to

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be casual? Like are you looking for? Like I feel

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like that's a conversation you're supposed to have.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I have a tender profile. It says that

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it should just automatically. It's the implication.

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Speaker 1: I get you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, no, I sure, okay. Just because you think Tinder

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is only for hookups, a lot of people are on

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there for something more serious. I know a couple who

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got married and they met on Tinder. So I told

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you that I was looking for a serious relationship at

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some point.

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Speaker 2: I can't imagine getting married off some off a tender hookup.

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I mean, first off, that's just wild. But yeah, at

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no point we even we discussed relationship for a future

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is about tonight. Man.

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Speaker 3: So I'm guessing. So, Bobby, you are just wanting hookups.

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Speaker 4: I'm guessing even if I offer to pay for it,

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I'm not even gonna offer to pay for a second

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day because I don't even want Brittany to go out

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with you, Bobby, because you just want.

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Speaker 3: A hook up.

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Speaker 2: Don't swipe right if you're not going to go to

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the crab man.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Well, listen, I think you've got your answer, Brittany.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I'm just I'm embarrassed andn't see it.

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Speaker 3: That's all right.

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Speaker 4: I don't think Tinders just for hookups, like Bobby says,

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But if in the event it is, then maybe try

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try try a different try a different dating app. I

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don't know, Bobby. Listen, I just at least at least

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you were honest today with us.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, I mean that's been the answer the whole time.

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All right.

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Speaker 4: Well, good luck with those hookups on Tinder, and Brittany

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keep us posted, okay.

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Speaker 5: Yeah,