Speaker 1: You can't engage after body met it. But it's happened
Speaker 1: when I.
Speaker 2: Come to the Haussen. Of course I didn't recognize it,
Speaker 2: because twelve months later she looks completely different. Let's start
Speaker 2: to begin.
Speaker 3: I enjoyed this day. Enjoy We see that, we see
Speaker 3: in the picture, and we see the video.
Speaker 2: We're very excited. The first man, the first guy, the
Speaker 2: first girl that I have never met.
Speaker 1: You see nice and beautiful.
Speaker 2: You're right, you're right, girl, You're right. A lot of stuff,
Speaker 2: very very important stuff. We never talked about it. We
Speaker 2: are very very different.
Speaker 1: And it's complicated, coilicated.
Speaker 2: We talk about this in the first meeting. I'm not
Speaker 2: sure if we go to maid of we are.
Speaker 1: Very different, very different people.
Speaker 4: Also, you want to explain what you mean by that.
Speaker 4: They met once when she was seventeen and a half,
Speaker 4: an arranged meeting. That's how they got engaged. For twelve
Speaker 4: months afterwards, they didn't see each other. Their next meeting
Speaker 4: was at their wedding fifteen years later, and they are
Speaker 4: happily married with children and a shared passion for working
Speaker 4: out Their story is not the kind of acidic story
Speaker 4: you usually hear. And so I invited brah and Avi
Speaker 4: from the Instagram account Brahef to tell their story before
Speaker 4: we begin, I want to thank all who support this
Speaker 4: work in any way you can, including by being a
Speaker 4: channel member. Thanks to all of you, and thanks to
Speaker 4: Brari and Avi for being here. Hi. I want to
Speaker 4: start by asking you about the day that you got
Speaker 4: engaged in a way that too many viewers is going
Speaker 4: to be very unusual. Can you recount your day? And
Speaker 4: we'll start with Avi because you asked that. I started
Speaker 4: asking Avi first? Do you remember the day? How old
Speaker 4: were you?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Of course I was nineteen and a half. My
Speaker 2: uncle is married and in the marriage when the dance
Speaker 2: and everything, someone come and look at me? And why
Speaker 2: I will refret on me? You saw the one the
Speaker 2: look at you. I know he has a daughter in
Speaker 2: to him and he's looking for a hustle, so please
Speaker 2: dance nice or something like this. After the reading, I
Speaker 2: asked my father, someone come to see in the red
Speaker 2: So we tell me don't be excited because we don't
Speaker 2: know it has just come to seal. But one way.
Speaker 2: Two weeks later he called me and he tells me
Speaker 2: you need to go to the coin Islam movie and
Speaker 2: go down, go nice and don't look around, and then
Speaker 2: I understand the Brahi need to go there to see
Speaker 2: to sew me in real life. So I go to
Speaker 2: the coastal. I don't for a few minutes and I
Speaker 2: go back to Shiva. After a few days, my father
Speaker 2: called me and he tell me this is the day
Speaker 2: of the engagement. He tell me, come to network. You
Speaker 2: go to meet. It was the first time that I
Speaker 2: never see that picture before. Nothing the first time. That
Speaker 2: is so brack. She was seventeen minutes.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you want to talk about you, your side of
Speaker 4: the brahi, your day or leading up to it.
Speaker 3: I remember very good this day because this because it's
Speaker 3: you know, it's changed my life. I go to see
Speaker 3: him in the cotail, so I see him before he
Speaker 3: come to me. His mother sent to my parents and
Speaker 3: for me picture and I see the picture and I said, ah,
Speaker 3: I think it's I don't know because it's not a
Speaker 3: good picture. She said, very very not good picture. I
Speaker 3: don't know why.
Speaker 1: And I see him. They said, uh uh, but.
Speaker 3: You know things happened, and my parents say, go to
Speaker 3: see him before I go with them in the wedding.
Speaker 3: They go, just my parents, I stay home. They go
Speaker 3: to see him and they come back from the wedding.
Speaker 3: They told me, listen, it's not look like the picture
Speaker 3: I see. We see it's it's it's.
Speaker 1: Good for you.
Speaker 3: So I go to the cotel after the week two
Speaker 3: weeks and I saw it and I said, okay, okay,
Speaker 3: it's okay. I see you know, nice guy with the pies.
Speaker 1: You know, two pasts.
Speaker 3: And then I said South you comes and I say
Speaker 3: and I said, okay, okay, we can we can engage
Speaker 3: like this.
Speaker 1: That's it.
Speaker 4: Was he the first boy that you met that you can't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, of course it's the first ball.
Speaker 4: Are you the older? Do you have older sisters that
Speaker 4: went through this process?
Speaker 1: No, I'm the old.
Speaker 4: Were you excited through all of this?
Speaker 1: I'm excited.
Speaker 3: But it's very complicated because in my community before fifteen years,
Speaker 3: if you're not engaged, you have to continue in the
Speaker 3: same school. And they have a few things you can
Speaker 3: do in the school. And it's not for me because
Speaker 3: it's I don't like it and analysis but not Yeah,
Speaker 3: I hate water.
Speaker 1: I don't know how to swim.
Speaker 3: And I was very very young, but very smart, very
Speaker 3: young but very smart, and I think, okay, so I
Speaker 3: have to if I want to go out.
Speaker 1: I have to engage.
Speaker 3: I'm excited. I'm not excited because I understand, but I'm
Speaker 3: not a choice.
Speaker 4: What about you are we? Were you nervous, excited when
Speaker 4: you heard that something is cooking?
Speaker 2: Well, very excited because for me in nineteen eight is
Speaker 2: already alterable.
Speaker 4: You're already all you were desperate?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was, yeah, something like this. It was very
Speaker 2: hard for me. I wait, my dublin and my own
Speaker 2: family go to give it alter the book.
Speaker 4: Wow. So Brady, how did the actual day go down
Speaker 4: for you? The day you got engaged?
Speaker 3: Very stressful because it's the first time I go to
Speaker 3: speak with them and ask him questions, and I want
Speaker 3: to know a lot of things. But I know you
Speaker 3: can't talk too much. You can talk, you need to,
Speaker 3: you know, ask about the family, the sister brothers.
Speaker 1: Not too much. And I know it's not imploded, but
Speaker 1: it's very stressed, but you know it. Come to the room.
Speaker 1: We talked for the minutes a little bit.
Speaker 3: I asked him, stopid questions, stop it question because I
Speaker 3: see it's not there. And you know, I I don't
Speaker 3: I need I need miracle because it's not it's not normal.
Speaker 3: You can engage after body made it, but it's happened.
Speaker 3: So I asked him if it can it can kill yeah,
Speaker 3: mak and he told me yeah. So I told them, okay,
Speaker 3: we too.
Speaker 2: Just one one question, one very interesting question.
Speaker 5: And she asked me if able to go with the
Speaker 5: phone after them, not a smartphone, mine from a flip
Speaker 5: from a very very simple flip pool from where I come,
Speaker 5: even this one.
Speaker 2: It's not so calling a man phone like this, but
Speaker 2: just a regular phone in the house. But when I
Speaker 2: say yes, she understanding, maybe we can do something after this,
Speaker 2: Maybe something can happen.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I trt to I try to understand what what's
Speaker 3: going on, but I know it doesn't matter.
Speaker 1: We engaged.
Speaker 3: It's not what if not because it's not option. It's
Speaker 3: not option, it's option.
Speaker 4: But it's very very I don't know, it's very hard.
Speaker 4: It's very hard to say no.
Speaker 2: It's very very little presented that it's happened. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Usually when they already meet, it means it's going to
Speaker 2: be behind today. Yeah, day after this.
Speaker 4: It's Maximom, Why did you ask about cockroaches? What made
Speaker 4: you think about them?
Speaker 3: I don't know what to ask, you know, very you know,
Speaker 3: so I try to understand it energy baby bye. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I try, but it's a stupid question.
Speaker 4: I know. But did you did you enjoy yourself at
Speaker 4: the first meeting?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 4: No, your husband very.
Speaker 2: Very excited, was with kids, and we're very excited. The
Speaker 2: first man, the first guy, the first girl.
Speaker 1: That I had never met, nice and beautiful. You're right,
Speaker 1: You're right, some babyff was.
Speaker 4: It's clear that you really wanted to make like an
Speaker 4: informed decision. You saw it as a serious evaluation. Yeah,
Speaker 4: which is interesting.
Speaker 2: And the next time I see it's twelve months in
Speaker 2: two days data And again I say for a month
Speaker 2: and two days, because every day it's important. Yeah, and
Speaker 2: in this time I need to be for guessing. This
Speaker 2: is how it's called forgets. Didn't think about it.
Speaker 1: Just to forget about it.
Speaker 4: Why why do you think the boy is supposed to
Speaker 4: forget about or the couple is not supposed to have
Speaker 4: interactions during the engagement.
Speaker 2: I don't know this how it's work. I don't come
Speaker 2: to talk against from where I come. I can take
Speaker 2: from my experience. This is what's my experience. You're not
Speaker 2: only you're not allowed to talk, you're not allowed to meet.
Speaker 2: But I believe I want to keep the shiva like yeshiva.
Speaker 2: When a lot of bookings start to engagement start to
Speaker 2: go visit, it's not so old shiva.
Speaker 3: I say, I make my parents crazy because I want
Speaker 3: to see them and I can't. So they take for shabaka.
Speaker 3: Between the engaged to the wedding, they take some small
Speaker 3: epable and memore nymore again across I guess and I
Speaker 3: all the shubbers, I, you know, stand on the window
Speaker 3: and I tried.
Speaker 1: To see it, did you Yeah, I see it's smoke.
Speaker 3: It's smoked with the plan and the everyone's so, you know,
Speaker 3: take as.
Speaker 1: Him and I say him, okay, so that's it. That's it.
Speaker 1: You don't know that I see.
Speaker 2: You don't know listener. They stay a few times. His
Speaker 2: brother count to the ship and tell me, I have
Speaker 2: something else that I want to give you, but will
Speaker 2: it's not append usually and I go there and give
Speaker 2: me I don't know something, but I understand that. I
Speaker 2: go out on the ship because someone wants to see.
Speaker 1: And it's me.
Speaker 3: I won't know it's it's it's it's very hard. You
Speaker 3: want to see, you want to you want to talk,
Speaker 3: but you can't. You can't do it. I come from
Speaker 3: a little bit open house modeling, maybe after he came
Speaker 3: from very very very very sish house.
Speaker 1: Is that it? You not see me? I make my
Speaker 1: parents crazy, so they take me and that's it.
Speaker 4: Why did you want to see him? What were you?
Speaker 4: I don't know what were What made you want to
Speaker 4: see him?
Speaker 1: It's a good question.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Maybe I missed, but I don't miss because I don't know. Poisy,
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: You also print some cash, creat pillow, some pillows, print
Speaker 2: some pillow in the hardship into my picture, and she
Speaker 2: goes to sleep with this pillow. After the the man
Speaker 2: she goes do so she makes that It's not usually
Speaker 2: no man, no no. But it's a good question. Why,
Speaker 2: because it's interesting. You can't miss the someone that you
Speaker 2: don't know.
Speaker 4: Maybe you there's an attraction right away that you kind
Speaker 4: of feel a connection even if you don't know them.
Speaker 3: I try to feel your hand energy. Maybe maybe I
Speaker 3: try to feel energy.
Speaker 4: I don't know, you know, twelve months engagement. It was
Speaker 4: very surprising. Is this normal to be engaged so long?
Speaker 2: For more? Way I came, it's normal, it's now even longer.
Speaker 4: Why so long?
Speaker 2: Good? Question. I really don't know.
Speaker 1: We don't know.
Speaker 3: A lot of things appended, but we don't know why.
Speaker 3: We don't know why. And I think if I asked,
Speaker 3: no one can give me.
Speaker 4: You know, an I understand Abby. Is it normal to
Speaker 4: smoke in your community?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: No, no, no.
Speaker 1: Do you still smoke?
Speaker 2: It's one secret and still smoking unfortunately, but I start
Speaker 2: very young. But no, it's not normal and it's not
Speaker 2: allowed in the in gay she was normal smoke.
Speaker 4: Brati, what did you think when you saw him smoking?
Speaker 1: I don't know he smoked and they after the wedding.
Speaker 1: It can't me. He asked me.
Speaker 3: He told me, listen, I have a question for you,
Speaker 3: and ask him. Okay, tell me, tell me listen. I'm smoke.
Speaker 1: For me. It's shocked, you know what? What to me?
Speaker 3: I try to smoke a little bit, but I'm smoked.
Speaker 3: It's okay for you that I continue to smoke. So
Speaker 3: I told them if it's one or two cigarettes in
Speaker 3: the day, it's fine.
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 3: I tell this just because we just married, and you know,
Speaker 3: I don't want to do problems.
Speaker 1: I want to be good wife. I don't believe it.
Speaker 3: I think it's not elthy, it's it's I don't like
Speaker 3: it and it's.
Speaker 1: Very fullier because he's smoked one back in the day.
Speaker 2: And you know what is interesting because before me in
Speaker 2: the way on the wedding. So I took from my
Speaker 2: friends and tell them listen to me. Maybe it's the
Speaker 2: last one because if she don't, I go to ask
Speaker 2: him tomorrow. And if you don't like that, I don't
Speaker 2: know what to do and go to stop.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I thought Rahi that you you saw him
Speaker 4: smoking when you went to see him.
Speaker 2: So many.
Speaker 3: It's okay, not as it's because okay, my parents they
Speaker 3: don't know.
Speaker 1: Of course they don't. They said, no, yeah.
Speaker 4: Are both of you gear from the gear set? Were
Speaker 4: both of you good kids?
Speaker 2: She's more good for me.
Speaker 1: I was very good. I'm very I was looking, but.
Speaker 2: I make a little bit of problems, but not not
Speaker 2: very bad guy or something like this wasn't the issue.
Speaker 2: Everything I'm not wasn't the best.
Speaker 1: Not the best and make you know behind I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm not.
Speaker 3: I'm very I'm not a sidish in my head, I'm
Speaker 3: not a dish, but I'm very a good girl.
Speaker 4: Did you think, Bradi, did you think of what a
Speaker 4: dream boy would look like when you were a teenager,
Speaker 4: did you think about getting engaged at all?
Speaker 3: I think, but I never said what I think because
Speaker 3: my parents they choose for me.
Speaker 1: I can't, you know, stay with my maybe dreams.
Speaker 3: I can't talk. I can talk, I can talk, I
Speaker 3: can't say anything. I try to set my parents. I
Speaker 3: know what I want. I think that I know. I
Speaker 3: want some men make with me fun in the life.
Speaker 1: I want, man.
Speaker 2: This is interesting because before we marry, she asked his
Speaker 2: father if I go with them to make a kayaks kayaking?
Speaker 1: You know kayak?
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah. Before you got engaged, you asked if he
Speaker 4: would be the kind of boy that you can go
Speaker 4: kayaking with?
Speaker 1: Yeah, because for me, I make one plus one.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 1: Now you think it's stupid, but for me, it's big things.
Speaker 3: I try to understand what's going on, and my father
Speaker 3: told me, yes it do Cort, happen with you.
Speaker 1: Don't worry.
Speaker 4: What was your You were starting to say what kind
Speaker 4: of boy you were looking from, for a boy that
Speaker 4: would have fun with you? What else?
Speaker 1: Fun? I want fun? I like fun and you know,
Speaker 1: make me back again.
Speaker 3: And I want, you know, go together, and I want
Speaker 3: to you know, I can touch where we come from.
Speaker 3: You can do it, yeah, and do it. You can
Speaker 3: even speak about it. I don't want a sedish guy.
Speaker 3: I don't want it's I know it's not for me
Speaker 3: and you. It's not Hassidish, too much hasidish, and I
Speaker 3: can't say you see it's walk But then I'm not
Speaker 3: sure about it.
Speaker 4: What about you, Avi? What was your idea when you
Speaker 4: were a bucher, a teenager? What did you think of?
Speaker 4: What kind of girl?
Speaker 2: I have a two stuff that I want. I would
Speaker 2: girl and I wanted to bring.
Speaker 4: So what happened on your wedding day? Do you want
Speaker 4: to share? What you remember of your wedding day? Were you?
Speaker 4: Were you looking both like really really gorgeous?
Speaker 2: So yeah, of course I didn't recognize it, because twelve
Speaker 2: months later she looks completely different. Let's start to begin.
Speaker 2: In the middle of the day. The Madric come to
Speaker 2: talk to you, with you, with me, and it's supposed
Speaker 2: to tell me in the first time in my life,
Speaker 2: what I need to do today. Wow, this is the
Speaker 2: moment the supposed to for me. I understand did not
Speaker 2: need to talk to me. She just asked me, you know,
Speaker 2: and that's it. But it's kindamatically the middle in the
Speaker 2: day of the us talk to me about me, not
Speaker 2: just but yes. Also it's very only day and you
Speaker 2: can dabble in a lot and you can a lot
Speaker 2: of stuff, but it comes for the to, yeah.
Speaker 1: To tell you the come on.
Speaker 2: You come to to tell you the big secret?
Speaker 4: And how did you already know?
Speaker 1: Because it's pushdack is pushed tack. You know what is pushback?
Speaker 1: You know? You know friends, listen, I think everyone everyone.
Speaker 2: A lot of because if you're a little bit clear
Speaker 2: and you know, when the magi tell you you need
Speaker 2: to to pass now five lines and so everyone going
Speaker 2: to see exactly what.
Speaker 4: This is.
Speaker 2: Like this so I don't know, Yeah, I understand it.
Speaker 2: So my father is no, they I'm not going to
Speaker 2: be the the next so he sent me to some
Speaker 2: group to learn with me the lukas before. But it
Speaker 2: was also a big sicket because you're not allowed to
Speaker 2: do this. So I learned the lukas before the hastening.
Speaker 2: But no one is, no one do this and went
Speaker 2: from when I.
Speaker 3: Come from just the girls, we go to Madrija to
Speaker 3: the Madrika a lot for something that two months, you know,
Speaker 3: eight weeks. You go every week and she teach you.
Speaker 3: She we we learn together the hot you know, or
Speaker 3: the alt that you need to keep after the wedding.
Speaker 1: But it's the girls, not the not the boys.
Speaker 2: It was very very holiday. I remember the I hapned
Speaker 2: a lot and I go to the y. Of course
Speaker 2: you got Dublin Jackson, not this. But when I come
Speaker 2: to the hasen, I saw the first time after.
Speaker 1: Twelve months, and you know our fully maker.
Speaker 2: I didn't recommend. I didn't know. I can't change, I
Speaker 2: don't have any any remember nothing. I come to cover
Speaker 2: the hard the color before the hip the first time
Speaker 2: after twelve months, the song and it was completely look different.
Speaker 2: In the meeting she didn't any makeup and now with
Speaker 2: fully makeup. And also this is it's also very stressful day.
Speaker 3: Because I don't like where I send you pictures and
Speaker 3: video and you see, also.
Speaker 2: Don't like to be in the middle of the tension.
Speaker 2: So I just want the down.
Speaker 4: Did you mess her during the engagement?
Speaker 2: Yes, I Also.
Speaker 6: She gives a gift for my mom between the marriage
Speaker 6: to the engage, to get into the marri she gives
Speaker 6: us some album, some pictures from the engagement or something
Speaker 6: like this.
Speaker 2: Something nice. When I to my father my parents house.
Speaker 2: So every time I take this with me that no
Speaker 2: one is seen and they go to the battlement, no
Speaker 2: one can see the just see the pictures to remember,
Speaker 2: not for guess how she looked like. But I can
Speaker 2: do this in the front of some weeks because you
Speaker 2: need to be forget.
Speaker 4: During during the engagement, what did you think your color
Speaker 4: was like?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 4: Did you have a sense of the person she is?
Speaker 2: No? No, I understand she. I want to also understand
Speaker 2: the family. She's not so silly like me, but she
Speaker 2: personality didn't know any series anything.
Speaker 1: Gish, nothing, nothing, nothing.
Speaker 4: So you fasted on your wedding day, you went to
Speaker 4: the western wall. The lecture came and told you try
Speaker 4: to tell you about intimacy. Did you spend the day
Speaker 4: in the apartment you were going to live in?
Speaker 2: You know, we living in a dog in the This
Speaker 2: was the Husbinds. Wasn't the back not the same? The
Speaker 2: same Sydney.
Speaker 4: Oh, I see, I see.
Speaker 1: We come to our about the wedding.
Speaker 2: We come with the parents to the house and we
Speaker 2: drink again behind the first time in the house after
Speaker 2: the reading. Then we start to build life.
Speaker 4: So tell me more about the wedding and then we'll
Speaker 4: talk about building a life. What do you remember, brah
Speaker 4: here as the lead up to the wedding, the day
Speaker 4: of the wedding.
Speaker 1: I remember, listen, I remember because I said I haven't enjoyed.
Speaker 1: I enjoy.
Speaker 3: You know, I don't know it's for me, it's what
Speaker 3: fun because we then I then enjoyed this day.
Speaker 1: Enjoy. We see that we see in the picture and
Speaker 1: we see in the video.
Speaker 2: I can't say monster in the head. We understand that
Speaker 2: everything is okay. Then we're going to enjoy when we
Speaker 2: come to the after two minutes where the ten they.
Speaker 1: Were in the same gonna be okay.
Speaker 2: I understand that she's in my in the same page.
Speaker 2: We can't start living. We have a good point to start.
Speaker 4: Yeah, after the you close the door, you're in the
Speaker 4: room for the first time by yourselves.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's because we don't know each other. But it's
Speaker 3: so complicated. But then we understand. Ever since it's gonna
Speaker 3: be okay.
Speaker 4: Were you happy when that happened?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Is there anything obvious? Is there anything in particular you
Speaker 4: can say that happened that made you feel that way?
Speaker 2: I don't want to go details, but how do you
Speaker 2: start to talk how I feel.
Speaker 3: You know, it's the conversation we see in the first
Speaker 3: time after four months.
Speaker 2: And fill start. First off, we go to the relation.
Speaker 2: There is no meat on the table, only very very
Speaker 2: a lot of daily stuff. I don't know that I like,
Speaker 2: you know, sure, I don't want not that she can not.
Speaker 1: You know, I don't want it.
Speaker 2: The first thing I want a lot of.
Speaker 1: And you know I coco called cocko.
Speaker 3: It's it's listen, it's not normal in our community.
Speaker 1: It's not normal. And you see that and you understand, Okay,
Speaker 1: she knows what she do.
Speaker 4: It made you laugh, Abby.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I saw snacks from the on the table.
Speaker 1: You know, chocolate, chocolate click.
Speaker 4: Who set up the table? Who set up this?
Speaker 2: She said? Someone I want.
Speaker 3: I want pizza. I want the order FoST pizza. But
Speaker 3: I don't know what happens. So is it not all
Speaker 3: the pizza? But you know, chocolate in the kits.
Speaker 1: It's okay.
Speaker 4: He appreciated your your quirky move and that. Yeah, these
Speaker 4: kinds of things tell us a lot about how two
Speaker 4: people are going to be comparable. Yeah, go ahead, what
Speaker 4: you say.
Speaker 1: In the head hood we stay a half an hour
Speaker 1: something like this. A photo photo everyone.
Speaker 3: To take pictures, and then the parents come and they
Speaker 3: give him some neggarn Nicholas necklace and that he needed
Speaker 3: to give me, you know, he need, so they bring
Speaker 3: them the necklace and they give me.
Speaker 1: We make a few pig chares and we go out
Speaker 1: to you know.
Speaker 3: Dancing and the rest of the wedding, and then after
Speaker 3: you know, the sow down.
Speaker 2: You can see the instagram after this. It was very
Speaker 2: very late. It was two three o'clock in the morning,
Speaker 2: So we're going to stop.
Speaker 4: What did you wear for a head covering, Brah.
Speaker 1: In the wedding? My hair? No wig and no no
Speaker 1: my hair?
Speaker 3: And you know, you home and take all you make
Speaker 3: a shower and you put them.
Speaker 2: Sha and again she goes to the show one person,
Speaker 2: she come out another one. But the three time, so
Speaker 2: I meet three different people.
Speaker 4: Listen, Wow, Abby, watch your reaction to these various different
Speaker 4: people you met.
Speaker 2: Also, I have a six sisters, so I know how
Speaker 2: it's I know all the stuff.
Speaker 1: But I think you like what you see, like what
Speaker 1: they said.
Speaker 4: You're both lovely. So so when you when did you
Speaker 4: start to cover your head? Brophy?
Speaker 1: After the shower, after the shovel, my parents come with us.
Speaker 1: We drink a high and then they leave.
Speaker 3: My help me with you know, with bliss and the hair,
Speaker 3: and then they go they live, and I go to
Speaker 3: shower and.
Speaker 1: I go back. I go out from the shower with
Speaker 1: a shater and you.
Speaker 3: Know, very long and so noah, you know, no pajama,
Speaker 3: but cout on it.
Speaker 1: You have a got d after you you shower.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Garrett doesn't shave the head.
Speaker 1: No, no, but shame.
Speaker 4: You're you had a shado that was long.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, my shattow it's not no short, you know, good,
Speaker 1: very very short.
Speaker 3: It's short, not you know, like very fun at and
Speaker 3: they're very you know, I go with this normal shater
Speaker 3: and you know, Cavil I was saying, by the book.
Speaker 4: I want to know what your feelings are about arranged marriage.
Speaker 4: Since you're married for fifteen years now, how do you
Speaker 4: feel about arrange marriage?
Speaker 1: In my opinion, I think it's what.
Speaker 2: Exactly the same one meeting one day. I believe it's
Speaker 2: not the right way, but it can be great if
Speaker 2: you do this right with a few meetings. It's a
Speaker 2: few we are the proof. But yeah, but of course
Speaker 2: it's we trust a lot on the parents, so the
Speaker 2: parents need to really really know you and you if
Speaker 2: you know shame and you say exactly what you want
Speaker 2: so it can work. I don't know. It's something, but
Speaker 2: we have a lot of stuff, very very important stuff
Speaker 2: that we want. We never talked about it, but we
Speaker 2: are very very different.
Speaker 1: And it's complicatedicated.
Speaker 2: We talk about this in the first meeting. I'm not
Speaker 2: sure if we go to mail because we have a
Speaker 2: very important stuff that we are not I think the
Speaker 2: same about this. I don't know how many kids they want.
Speaker 2: We never asked something that it's important. Do you want
Speaker 2: to believe you want to live in the city, the
Speaker 2: very very important stuf that we never talk about this
Speaker 2: until after the marriage. Ready the marriage, well, just.
Speaker 3: After the you can't start to talk about it's complicated.
Speaker 1: It's not walk like this, it's yellow. Walk like this.
Speaker 3: It's walk you see, but it's a lot, a lot,
Speaker 3: a lot of lack.
Speaker 1: It's a lot of la hailad and it's it's odd walk.
Speaker 2: You need to forgive very very big stuff because you
Speaker 2: never talked about this before. I have a friend they
Speaker 2: tell me, he like, you like to go to the swim,
Speaker 2: you like to go to the water park, and his
Speaker 2: wife they doesn't count. Look on water.
Speaker 1: You have to know and it's not happened before the wedding,
Speaker 1: just after.
Speaker 4: Do you think there was something about how your match
Speaker 4: was set up that made it more likely to like
Speaker 4: it was something done for you too that you think
Speaker 4: was done better than in other ship of him marriages.
Speaker 4: Mausele from God.
Speaker 1: Because we are very different, very different people.
Speaker 4: Also, you want to explain what you mean by that.
Speaker 2: She's made very very clean and organized. Everything is very
Speaker 2: very organized. For me, I don't know everything is okay, okay,
Speaker 2: we can make a shower to know what. No, it
Speaker 2: never happens. It sounds good walking there.
Speaker 3: And then and then stucks, but a gard Yeah for me,
Speaker 3: it's made me sick.
Speaker 1: It's made me sick. And then to please relax and you.
Speaker 2: Know that after this we understanding your kids exactly to start.
Speaker 1: Like me, yeah, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4: Sweet. So when did you have a child, When did
Speaker 4: you start having kids? Or can you talk about your kids?
Speaker 2: One hour, one one year after exactly.
Speaker 4: One year after? Was it hard?
Speaker 3: I think it's the it's the odd things in my life.
Speaker 3: But today I can't say it's my big present, but
Speaker 3: the God because it's good for me but then and even.
Speaker 2: You know, we're going to make a busday of fourteen
Speaker 2: years business.
Speaker 1: Yeah, my bigger, bigger.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you have a second child, Yeah, we have two.
Speaker 1: My daughter she is fourteen and my son is eighteen
Speaker 1: and a half.
Speaker 4: Eight and a half. Yeah, you want to talk about
Speaker 4: maybe you're like finding your place in the world together?
Speaker 4: Are you? Do you still consider yourself gear? You say?
Speaker 2: No, no, no, we tried to build a gidden. I
Speaker 2: don't know.
Speaker 4: That's it good Jews, Yeah, that's no good, no hassity,
Speaker 4: no we we you know, because just.
Speaker 2: For the god, try to connect it without the sloos.
Speaker 2: I don't know it's called we try to be a
Speaker 2: good but a.
Speaker 3: Good good you know, women and good men for everyone.
Speaker 3: But no, no, girl, and no, it's not for us.
Speaker 3: And do we understand this? Fifteen years ago together?
Speaker 4: Did you slowly change?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Slowly slowly stay cres Yeah.
Speaker 4: It's it's not so usual for a couple to change together,
Speaker 4: is it. Do you know other couples like you?
Speaker 1: No, no, no, the law but no, no, the thing.
Speaker 3: It's also lack because like you say, I can want
Speaker 3: to you know, I want to change and you want
Speaker 3: to stay and it can walk.
Speaker 1: You can fight them, but.
Speaker 2: For us, it's we make every single slowly, slowly.
Speaker 1: Together everything, We make.
Speaker 3: Choices together, who tried to We speak about things, we try,
Speaker 3: but just for us, not for everyone. And slowly, slowly
Speaker 3: we lived the you know, community everything.
Speaker 4: And you left Israel. You're now in America.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we left these little bit four years ago.
Speaker 4: How come you came to America.
Speaker 2: Because of me? I'm America citizen and my father is
Speaker 2: born here. I came here. I came here something almost
Speaker 2: twenty years ago, eighty years ago, something like this. I
Speaker 2: understand that every bigger better options here, so I come
Speaker 2: to check this and we decided to move to here.
Speaker 1: He decided, He decided.
Speaker 4: You're a nice as Chile.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just not exactly.
Speaker 4: We're in America. Which state we live in?
Speaker 2: New Jersey?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Jersey was very very hard for Brackley. She had
Speaker 2: a very very good connection with his family in Israel,
Speaker 2: and we don't have anyone here. So the first yeries
Speaker 2: was very very hard. We flight a lot, We come
Speaker 2: to Israel a few times and in a here, but
Speaker 2: even this it's very very hard to be no family
Speaker 2: around and something.
Speaker 1: So but we try to enjoy the moment, get the
Speaker 1: way and the moment.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah. How did your families react to you becoming
Speaker 4: not good? Whatever you are? Now?
Speaker 3: My family it's it's like I said, it's more open
Speaker 3: mind and now or my family it's almost like me.
Speaker 3: So for me, we have good connections and we understand
Speaker 3: each other and it's a very very good relationship.
Speaker 2: My father's passed away twelve years ago. I'm sorry, so
Speaker 2: it's a little bit different. I think good family is it.
Speaker 1: But the connection is it's not like my family. We
Speaker 1: have connection and you know we touched.
Speaker 2: Everything's okay. But the true no one has come to
Speaker 2: me in a yellow mean and tell me that's something.
Speaker 2: Nothing is the respect me exactly like every.
Speaker 3: Time we respect him, we respect when we go to to.
Speaker 2: My mom and we respect, you know, respect us and everything.
Speaker 4: How do you consider yourself Jewish wise? Now?
Speaker 2: Like I said, good juice?
Speaker 4: Does it good Jews?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Try to try to be good.
Speaker 4: Did your daughter have about Metzpha, about Metzvah.
Speaker 2: About of course?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Of course friends and Israel and here.
Speaker 3: A few parties and we make every week and we
Speaker 3: know we keep sabad.
Speaker 2: My daughter also like lit candles every Yeah, we are
Speaker 2: good Jewish, but not go not city. No, we try
Speaker 2: to find us well.
Speaker 4: Yeah, lovely. So let me finish the interview by asking
Speaker 4: about your workouts. When did you get into working out?
Speaker 1: This is important things.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it is very important. You are incredibly strong, you
Speaker 4: do you can do pull ups? How many women can
Speaker 4: do pull ups?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I know that that, but listen, I tried to do
Speaker 3: it two years every day.
Speaker 1: Just after two years.
Speaker 2: So the true she started with something like two years
Speaker 2: ago and just after almost I don't know, we're here,
Speaker 2: I joined and we start to go together. But also
Speaker 2: this changes life a lot. It's makes a lot a lot.
Speaker 2: It's make good connection. It's made. It's start today.
Speaker 1: We go very early, we wake up very early in
Speaker 1: the morning. We go to the gym, or we go out.
Speaker 2: To walk and sometimes five morning, five ter we go.
Speaker 1: We tell some every day every day.
Speaker 3: Yeah, every day we go on the bike, we go
Speaker 3: to gym, you know everything.
Speaker 1: It's very good. It's very good for this, you know, mentally. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's very good.
Speaker 2: Fifty healthy and it's very healthy and very mentally it's
Speaker 2: also very very good and it's very very good for
Speaker 2: the relationship. Yeah, we're fighting together. Yeah, and with success
Speaker 2: together and you fall together and everything is together and
Speaker 2: it's very very out and find.
Speaker 4: What made you decide to start posting on Instagram?
Speaker 2: But we opened up business something like here you go.
Speaker 2: It's called all the Nadar everything for sharps tables. And
Speaker 2: we start to advertise so many influences in so many
Speaker 2: and it's cost a lot and not every time it's
Speaker 2: bring what you think it's going to bring. And then
Speaker 2: not happened. I won't it happened, So I say, we
Speaker 2: say together, we have so much funny stuff and very
Speaker 2: very nice stuff and interesting.
Speaker 1: We interesting people. In the end of the day, we're
Speaker 1: interesting people. We know that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we start to try to do something interesting and
Speaker 2: to make it for we can every day we can
Speaker 2: make marketing on the business and this without to pay
Speaker 2: so much money for another.
Speaker 1: But we do for the exercise.
Speaker 2: But you know we're doing Yeah it's not for this,
Speaker 2: but it's also for this, but it's also this is
Speaker 2: what's the how it's we start to talk about this, well,
Speaker 2: we start to think about this.
Speaker 3: You tried to do it a lot of time. You
Speaker 3: won't try to go let's dress up nice. You know,
Speaker 3: set set, and we're doing videos and try to post,
Speaker 3: you know, need anything, just let's post.
Speaker 1: Because it's funny, it's it's nice.
Speaker 3: Let's try. No, no, I think it's not it's not interesting.
Speaker 1: And I don't know.
Speaker 3: One day I wake up in the morning, dress up
Speaker 3: and yalla baadad. We go to the gym and we
Speaker 3: try to make videos and we do it and we
Speaker 3: post and you know, after days, I see whoa wow
Speaker 3: people like and I get comments, very good comments. People
Speaker 3: want to know about you know, the need because I
Speaker 3: also start a little bit fit.
Speaker 4: You lost weight. You're both in incredibly good shape.
Speaker 2: I almost in my love something about a thousand pounds,
Speaker 2: like I see together all together, something like I took.
Speaker 1: But we walk out.
Speaker 4: It's so important. But you know, I work out almost
Speaker 4: every day also, and I can't do I can't do
Speaker 4: half of what you can do. It's incredible. I watching
Speaker 4: you is amazing.
Speaker 1: I think you can do it. I think you can do.
Speaker 4: By the way, Abby is also amazing. But as a woman,
Speaker 4: I look at me, I.
Speaker 2: Can I try for now maybe it's I can, But
Speaker 2: again I try.
Speaker 1: Two years, it's not coming. You know, I wake up
Speaker 1: in the morning, they don't put us incredible.
Speaker 4: First of all, I'd love to include your business so
Speaker 4: you can put it at the end of the video.
Speaker 4: People are interested, so you can send me about that.
Speaker 4: Thank you so much. I really enjoyed talking to you
Speaker 4: with you tons of luck, and I'll keep watching your
Speaker 4: inspirational stuff. I actually watch a lot of Instagram fitness.
Speaker 4: So yeah, I was happy when when I found.
Speaker 2: Your right now with the train it's very.
Speaker 4: Now, I put you can go to see I saw
Speaker 4: it said everyone needs someone to believe in that. Yeah yeah, yeah,
Speaker 4: I didn't see it.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: Okay, you believe us from the beginning?
Speaker 2: Really, yeah, you can?
Speaker 1: I tell them, I feel I feel you can.
Speaker 2: You can.
Speaker 1: It's very important in the life. We have to seOne
Speaker 1: you believe us.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. We have to believe in ourselves
Speaker 4: and we have to have people exactly yeah right, it's
Speaker 4: absolutely true. And I think a part of fitness is
Speaker 4: believing in your body's ability to do things, and it's
Speaker 4: why it makes you so strong. Yeah yeah, well, thank
Speaker 4: you so much. I really love talking to you.
Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you.