WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.120 --> 00:00:03.560 You can't engage after body met it. But it's happened 2 00:00:03.960 --> 00:00:04.360 when I. 3 00:00:04.320 --> 00:00:07.400 Come to the Haussen. Of course I didn't recognize it, 4 00:00:07.559 --> 00:00:12.359 because twelve months later she looks completely different. Let's start 5 00:00:12.400 --> 00:00:12.720 to begin. 6 00:00:12.960 --> 00:00:15.960 I enjoyed this day. Enjoy We see that, we see 7 00:00:15.960 --> 00:00:17.480 in the picture, and we see the video. 8 00:00:17.600 --> 00:00:20.359 We're very excited. The first man, the first guy, the 9 00:00:20.359 --> 00:00:22.039 first girl that I have never met. 10 00:00:23.199 --> 00:00:24.559 You see nice and beautiful. 11 00:00:24.839 --> 00:00:28.559 You're right, you're right, girl, You're right. A lot of stuff, 12 00:00:28.839 --> 00:00:31.559 very very important stuff. We never talked about it. We 13 00:00:31.839 --> 00:00:33.439 are very very different. 14 00:00:33.439 --> 00:00:35.079 And it's complicated, coilicated. 15 00:00:35.320 --> 00:00:38.640 We talk about this in the first meeting. I'm not 16 00:00:38.679 --> 00:00:40.920 sure if we go to maid of we are. 17 00:00:41.039 --> 00:00:42.960 Very different, very different people. 18 00:00:43.039 --> 00:00:45.320 Also, you want to explain what you mean by that. 19 00:00:46.159 --> 00:00:48.640 They met once when she was seventeen and a half, 20 00:00:48.679 --> 00:00:51.920 an arranged meeting. That's how they got engaged. For twelve 21 00:00:51.960 --> 00:00:54.880 months afterwards, they didn't see each other. Their next meeting 22 00:00:55.200 --> 00:00:58.320 was at their wedding fifteen years later, and they are 23 00:00:58.359 --> 00:01:01.920 happily married with children and a shared passion for working 24 00:01:01.960 --> 00:01:04.799 out Their story is not the kind of acidic story 25 00:01:04.920 --> 00:01:08.000 you usually hear. And so I invited brah and Avi 26 00:01:08.239 --> 00:01:11.959 from the Instagram account Brahef to tell their story before 27 00:01:12.000 --> 00:01:14.200 we begin, I want to thank all who support this 28 00:01:14.319 --> 00:01:17.040 work in any way you can, including by being a 29 00:01:17.159 --> 00:01:20.879 channel member. Thanks to all of you, and thanks to 30 00:01:20.959 --> 00:01:25.079 Brari and Avi for being here. Hi. I want to 31 00:01:25.120 --> 00:01:28.239 start by asking you about the day that you got 32 00:01:28.319 --> 00:01:32.040 engaged in a way that too many viewers is going 33 00:01:32.159 --> 00:01:35.719 to be very unusual. Can you recount your day? And 34 00:01:36.000 --> 00:01:38.439 we'll start with Avi because you asked that. I started 35 00:01:38.480 --> 00:01:41.480 asking Avi first? Do you remember the day? How old 36 00:01:41.519 --> 00:01:41.879 were you? 37 00:01:42.760 --> 00:01:47.359 Yeah? Of course I was nineteen and a half. My 38 00:01:47.480 --> 00:01:52.079 uncle is married and in the marriage when the dance 39 00:01:52.120 --> 00:01:57.120 and everything, someone come and look at me? And why 40 00:01:57.120 --> 00:01:59.760 I will refret on me? You saw the one the 41 00:01:59.799 --> 00:02:02.359 look at you. I know he has a daughter in 42 00:02:02.840 --> 00:02:06.200 to him and he's looking for a hustle, so please 43 00:02:06.560 --> 00:02:10.080 dance nice or something like this. After the reading, I 44 00:02:10.159 --> 00:02:13.120 asked my father, someone come to see in the red 45 00:02:13.400 --> 00:02:15.840 So we tell me don't be excited because we don't 46 00:02:15.879 --> 00:02:18.439 know it has just come to seal. But one way. 47 00:02:18.479 --> 00:02:20.879 Two weeks later he called me and he tells me 48 00:02:21.000 --> 00:02:23.159 you need to go to the coin Islam movie and 49 00:02:23.199 --> 00:02:26.840 go down, go nice and don't look around, and then 50 00:02:26.879 --> 00:02:30.240 I understand the Brahi need to go there to see 51 00:02:30.360 --> 00:02:34.000 to sew me in real life. So I go to 52 00:02:34.039 --> 00:02:37.159 the coastal. I don't for a few minutes and I 53 00:02:37.159 --> 00:02:39.919 go back to Shiva. After a few days, my father 54 00:02:40.000 --> 00:02:41.479 called me and he tell me this is the day 55 00:02:41.879 --> 00:02:45.159 of the engagement. He tell me, come to network. You 56 00:02:45.240 --> 00:02:48.439 go to meet. It was the first time that I 57 00:02:48.639 --> 00:02:52.360 never see that picture before. Nothing the first time. That 58 00:02:52.439 --> 00:02:55.400 is so brack. She was seventeen minutes. 59 00:02:56.639 --> 00:03:01.000 Yeah, you want to talk about you, your side of 60 00:03:01.000 --> 00:03:04.800 the brahi, your day or leading up to it. 61 00:03:05.240 --> 00:03:08.759 I remember very good this day because this because it's 62 00:03:09.080 --> 00:03:12.000 you know, it's changed my life. I go to see 63 00:03:12.039 --> 00:03:14.680 him in the cotail, so I see him before he 64 00:03:14.759 --> 00:03:17.800 come to me. His mother sent to my parents and 65 00:03:18.080 --> 00:03:22.560 for me picture and I see the picture and I said, ah, 66 00:03:22.960 --> 00:03:25.240 I think it's I don't know because it's not a 67 00:03:25.319 --> 00:03:29.319 good picture. She said, very very not good picture. I 68 00:03:29.319 --> 00:03:29.919 don't know why. 69 00:03:31.280 --> 00:03:33.639 And I see him. They said, uh uh, but. 70 00:03:33.680 --> 00:03:37.599 You know things happened, and my parents say, go to 71 00:03:37.599 --> 00:03:41.280 see him before I go with them in the wedding. 72 00:03:41.680 --> 00:03:44.800 They go, just my parents, I stay home. They go 73 00:03:44.919 --> 00:03:48.639 to see him and they come back from the wedding. 74 00:03:48.759 --> 00:03:52.080 They told me, listen, it's not look like the picture 75 00:03:52.319 --> 00:03:54.680 I see. We see it's it's it's. 76 00:03:54.719 --> 00:03:55.199 Good for you. 77 00:03:55.719 --> 00:04:00.280 So I go to the cotel after the week two 78 00:04:00.319 --> 00:04:05.159 weeks and I saw it and I said, okay, okay, 79 00:04:05.319 --> 00:04:10.599 it's okay. I see you know, nice guy with the pies. 80 00:04:10.159 --> 00:04:11.159 You know, two pasts. 81 00:04:11.240 --> 00:04:16.399 And then I said South you comes and I say 82 00:04:16.560 --> 00:04:20.720 and I said, okay, okay, we can we can engage 83 00:04:21.040 --> 00:04:21.279 like this. 84 00:04:21.920 --> 00:04:22.439 That's it. 85 00:04:22.519 --> 00:04:25.600 Was he the first boy that you met that you can't. 86 00:04:25.480 --> 00:04:28.680 Yeah, of course, of course it's the first ball. 87 00:04:29.120 --> 00:04:31.360 Are you the older? Do you have older sisters that 88 00:04:31.439 --> 00:04:32.800 went through this process? 89 00:04:33.000 --> 00:04:33.720 No, I'm the old. 90 00:04:35.240 --> 00:04:36.839 Were you excited through all of this? 91 00:04:37.279 --> 00:04:37.920 I'm excited. 92 00:04:37.959 --> 00:04:44.800 But it's very complicated because in my community before fifteen years, 93 00:04:44.839 --> 00:04:48.439 if you're not engaged, you have to continue in the 94 00:04:48.519 --> 00:04:52.319 same school. And they have a few things you can 95 00:04:52.480 --> 00:04:55.120 do in the school. And it's not for me because 96 00:04:55.120 --> 00:05:01.439 it's I don't like it and analysis but not Yeah, 97 00:05:01.600 --> 00:05:02.759 I hate water. 98 00:05:03.319 --> 00:05:04.800 I don't know how to swim. 99 00:05:04.879 --> 00:05:08.360 And I was very very young, but very smart, very 100 00:05:08.399 --> 00:05:13.199 young but very smart, and I think, okay, so I 101 00:05:13.240 --> 00:05:16.000 have to if I want to go out. 102 00:05:16.079 --> 00:05:16.959 I have to engage. 103 00:05:17.279 --> 00:05:20.800 I'm excited. I'm not excited because I understand, but I'm 104 00:05:20.839 --> 00:05:21.600 not a choice. 105 00:05:22.040 --> 00:05:25.600 What about you are we? Were you nervous, excited when 106 00:05:25.639 --> 00:05:27.279 you heard that something is cooking? 107 00:05:27.480 --> 00:05:30.839 Well, very excited because for me in nineteen eight is 108 00:05:30.879 --> 00:05:31.959 already alterable. 109 00:05:33.279 --> 00:05:35.720 You're already all you were desperate? 110 00:05:37.360 --> 00:05:41.199 Yeah, it was, yeah, something like this. It was very 111 00:05:41.199 --> 00:05:44.160 hard for me. I wait, my dublin and my own 112 00:05:44.199 --> 00:05:48.519 family go to give it alter the book. 113 00:05:49.519 --> 00:05:53.839 Wow. So Brady, how did the actual day go down 114 00:05:53.920 --> 00:05:55.759 for you? The day you got engaged? 115 00:05:56.079 --> 00:05:59.399 Very stressful because it's the first time I go to 116 00:05:59.560 --> 00:06:03.439 speak with them and ask him questions, and I want 117 00:06:03.480 --> 00:06:05.839 to know a lot of things. But I know you 118 00:06:05.839 --> 00:06:09.959 can't talk too much. You can talk, you need to, 119 00:06:10.199 --> 00:06:13.680 you know, ask about the family, the sister brothers. 120 00:06:14.160 --> 00:06:16.240 Not too much. And I know it's not imploded, but 121 00:06:16.759 --> 00:06:19.839 it's very stressed, but you know it. Come to the room. 122 00:06:20.279 --> 00:06:22.279 We talked for the minutes a little bit. 123 00:06:22.759 --> 00:06:27.160 I asked him, stopid questions, stop it question because I 124 00:06:27.199 --> 00:06:30.800 see it's not there. And you know, I I don't 125 00:06:31.360 --> 00:06:35.199 I need I need miracle because it's not it's not normal. 126 00:06:35.759 --> 00:06:39.199 You can engage after body made it, but it's happened. 127 00:06:40.279 --> 00:06:44.399 So I asked him if it can it can kill yeah, 128 00:06:44.800 --> 00:06:48.879 mak and he told me yeah. So I told them, okay, 129 00:06:49.000 --> 00:06:49.560 we too. 130 00:06:51.120 --> 00:06:54.079 Just one one question, one very interesting question. 131 00:06:54.800 --> 00:06:58.920 And she asked me if able to go with the 132 00:06:59.079 --> 00:07:04.319 phone after them, not a smartphone, mine from a flip 133 00:07:04.360 --> 00:07:07.120 from a very very simple flip pool from where I come, 134 00:07:07.360 --> 00:07:08.079 even this one. 135 00:07:08.079 --> 00:07:15.040 It's not so calling a man phone like this, but 136 00:07:16.120 --> 00:07:19.040 just a regular phone in the house. But when I 137 00:07:19.079 --> 00:07:22.920 say yes, she understanding, maybe we can do something after this, 138 00:07:23.040 --> 00:07:24.600 Maybe something can happen. 139 00:07:25.000 --> 00:07:29.720 Yeah, I trt to I try to understand what what's 140 00:07:29.759 --> 00:07:32.360 going on, but I know it doesn't matter. 141 00:07:32.480 --> 00:07:33.079 We engaged. 142 00:07:33.160 --> 00:07:36.720 It's not what if not because it's not option. It's 143 00:07:36.759 --> 00:07:37.800 not option, it's option. 144 00:07:38.000 --> 00:07:41.240 But it's very very I don't know, it's very hard. 145 00:07:42.120 --> 00:07:43.399 It's very hard to say no. 146 00:07:43.959 --> 00:07:47.079 It's very very little presented that it's happened. Yeah. Yeah. 147 00:07:47.279 --> 00:07:50.639 Usually when they already meet, it means it's going to 148 00:07:50.680 --> 00:07:54.439 be behind today. Yeah, day after this. 149 00:07:54.600 --> 00:07:58.439 It's Maximom, Why did you ask about cockroaches? What made 150 00:07:58.439 --> 00:07:59.399 you think about them? 151 00:07:59.839 --> 00:08:03.240 I don't know what to ask, you know, very you know, 152 00:08:04.279 --> 00:08:09.399 so I try to understand it energy baby bye. Yeah, 153 00:08:10.199 --> 00:08:12.839 I try, but it's a stupid question. 154 00:08:12.959 --> 00:08:17.639 I know. But did you did you enjoy yourself at 155 00:08:17.639 --> 00:08:18.439 the first meeting? 156 00:08:18.839 --> 00:08:20.160 No? 157 00:08:20.160 --> 00:08:23.480 No, your husband very. 158 00:08:23.439 --> 00:08:25.920 Very excited, was with kids, and we're very excited. The 159 00:08:25.959 --> 00:08:29.800 first man, the first guy, the first girl. 160 00:08:29.600 --> 00:08:33.759 That I had never met, nice and beautiful. You're right, 161 00:08:33.960 --> 00:08:41.960 You're right, some babyff was. 162 00:08:42.759 --> 00:08:45.879 It's clear that you really wanted to make like an 163 00:08:45.879 --> 00:08:51.240 informed decision. You saw it as a serious evaluation. Yeah, 164 00:08:51.279 --> 00:08:52.360 which is interesting. 165 00:08:52.679 --> 00:08:55.759 And the next time I see it's twelve months in 166 00:08:55.840 --> 00:08:59.159 two days data And again I say for a month 167 00:08:59.200 --> 00:09:02.200 and two days, because every day it's important. Yeah, and 168 00:09:02.279 --> 00:09:04.600 in this time I need to be for guessing. This 169 00:09:04.639 --> 00:09:07.519 is how it's called forgets. Didn't think about it. 170 00:09:07.480 --> 00:09:08.639 Just to forget about it. 171 00:09:09.519 --> 00:09:12.960 Why why do you think the boy is supposed to 172 00:09:13.000 --> 00:09:15.799 forget about or the couple is not supposed to have 173 00:09:15.879 --> 00:09:17.840 interactions during the engagement. 174 00:09:18.360 --> 00:09:20.720 I don't know this how it's work. I don't come 175 00:09:20.799 --> 00:09:24.480 to talk against from where I come. I can take 176 00:09:25.000 --> 00:09:29.399 from my experience. This is what's my experience. You're not 177 00:09:29.399 --> 00:09:31.600 only you're not allowed to talk, you're not allowed to meet. 178 00:09:31.639 --> 00:09:35.960 But I believe I want to keep the shiva like yeshiva. 179 00:09:36.080 --> 00:09:39.600 When a lot of bookings start to engagement start to 180 00:09:39.639 --> 00:09:42.320 go visit, it's not so old shiva. 181 00:09:42.159 --> 00:09:45.519 I say, I make my parents crazy because I want 182 00:09:45.519 --> 00:09:50.799 to see them and I can't. So they take for shabaka. 183 00:09:51.200 --> 00:09:56.519 Between the engaged to the wedding, they take some small 184 00:09:56.879 --> 00:10:04.759 epable and memore nymore again across I guess and I 185 00:10:04.799 --> 00:10:07.799 all the shubbers, I, you know, stand on the window 186 00:10:07.879 --> 00:10:08.679 and I tried. 187 00:10:08.519 --> 00:10:12.440 To see it, did you Yeah, I see it's smoke. 188 00:10:13.159 --> 00:10:17.639 It's smoked with the plan and the everyone's so, you know, 189 00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:19.559 take as. 190 00:10:19.120 --> 00:10:22.960 Him and I say him, okay, so that's it. That's it. 191 00:10:23.159 --> 00:10:24.440 You don't know that I see. 192 00:10:24.840 --> 00:10:28.440 You don't know listener. They stay a few times. His 193 00:10:28.639 --> 00:10:30.919 brother count to the ship and tell me, I have 194 00:10:31.039 --> 00:10:33.000 something else that I want to give you, but will 195 00:10:34.080 --> 00:10:36.679 it's not append usually and I go there and give 196 00:10:36.759 --> 00:10:38.480 me I don't know something, but I understand that. I 197 00:10:38.519 --> 00:10:40.799 go out on the ship because someone wants to see. 198 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:41.759 And it's me. 199 00:10:43.080 --> 00:10:46.799 I won't know it's it's it's it's very hard. You 200 00:10:46.840 --> 00:10:50.159 want to see, you want to you want to talk, 201 00:10:50.519 --> 00:10:53.600 but you can't. You can't do it. I come from 202 00:10:54.200 --> 00:10:58.480 a little bit open house modeling, maybe after he came 203 00:10:58.519 --> 00:11:01.519 from very very very very sish house. 204 00:11:02.679 --> 00:11:04.919 Is that it? You not see me? I make my 205 00:11:04.960 --> 00:11:08.879 parents crazy, so they take me and that's it. 206 00:11:09.639 --> 00:11:12.279 Why did you want to see him? What were you? 207 00:11:12.840 --> 00:11:15.360 I don't know what were What made you want to 208 00:11:15.399 --> 00:11:15.799 see him? 209 00:11:16.000 --> 00:11:16.879 It's a good question. 210 00:11:17.000 --> 00:11:17.480 I don't know. 211 00:11:18.320 --> 00:11:18.759 I don't know. 212 00:11:18.799 --> 00:11:23.559 Maybe I missed, but I don't miss because I don't know. Poisy, 213 00:11:23.639 --> 00:11:24.120 I don't know. 214 00:11:24.600 --> 00:11:31.000 You also print some cash, creat pillow, some pillows, print 215 00:11:31.080 --> 00:11:35.080 some pillow in the hardship into my picture, and she 216 00:11:35.200 --> 00:11:37.360 goes to sleep with this pillow. After the the man 217 00:11:37.519 --> 00:11:41.879 she goes do so she makes that It's not usually 218 00:11:42.320 --> 00:11:46.000 no man, no no. But it's a good question. Why, 219 00:11:46.519 --> 00:11:49.840 because it's interesting. You can't miss the someone that you 220 00:11:49.919 --> 00:11:50.399 don't know. 221 00:11:51.080 --> 00:11:56.519 Maybe you there's an attraction right away that you kind 222 00:11:56.519 --> 00:11:58.600 of feel a connection even if you don't know them. 223 00:11:59.000 --> 00:12:01.279 I try to feel your hand energy. Maybe maybe I 224 00:12:01.440 --> 00:12:02.320 try to feel energy. 225 00:12:02.440 --> 00:12:06.080 I don't know, you know, twelve months engagement. It was 226 00:12:06.200 --> 00:12:09.840 very surprising. Is this normal to be engaged so long? 227 00:12:10.000 --> 00:12:13.519 For more? Way I came, it's normal, it's now even longer. 228 00:12:13.759 --> 00:12:15.440 Why so long? 229 00:12:15.519 --> 00:12:16.919 Good? Question. I really don't know. 230 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:17.799 We don't know. 231 00:12:18.159 --> 00:12:20.879 A lot of things appended, but we don't know why. 232 00:12:21.639 --> 00:12:24.200 We don't know why. And I think if I asked, 233 00:12:24.519 --> 00:12:25.440 no one can give me. 234 00:12:26.159 --> 00:12:30.360 You know, an I understand Abby. Is it normal to 235 00:12:30.480 --> 00:12:33.000 smoke in your community? 236 00:12:33.039 --> 00:12:33.080 No? 237 00:12:33.480 --> 00:12:35.480 No, no, no. 238 00:12:35.840 --> 00:12:37.720 Do you still smoke? 239 00:12:39.039 --> 00:12:43.879 It's one secret and still smoking unfortunately, but I start 240 00:12:44.000 --> 00:12:47.080 very young. But no, it's not normal and it's not 241 00:12:47.120 --> 00:12:50.879 allowed in the in gay she was normal smoke. 242 00:12:51.240 --> 00:12:53.799 Brati, what did you think when you saw him smoking? 243 00:12:54.039 --> 00:12:58.279 I don't know he smoked and they after the wedding. 244 00:12:59.440 --> 00:13:01.200 It can't me. He asked me. 245 00:13:01.960 --> 00:13:04.519 He told me, listen, I have a question for you, 246 00:13:05.600 --> 00:13:09.480 and ask him. Okay, tell me, tell me listen. I'm smoke. 247 00:13:10.840 --> 00:13:15.000 For me. It's shocked, you know what? What to me? 248 00:13:15.840 --> 00:13:18.000 I try to smoke a little bit, but I'm smoked. 249 00:13:18.080 --> 00:13:21.559 It's okay for you that I continue to smoke. So 250 00:13:21.639 --> 00:13:24.600 I told them if it's one or two cigarettes in 251 00:13:24.639 --> 00:13:25.759 the day, it's fine. 252 00:13:27.399 --> 00:13:27.679 I do. 253 00:13:27.799 --> 00:13:31.200 I tell this just because we just married, and you know, 254 00:13:31.279 --> 00:13:33.039 I don't want to do problems. 255 00:13:33.080 --> 00:13:35.799 I want to be good wife. I don't believe it. 256 00:13:35.840 --> 00:13:39.480 I think it's not elthy, it's it's I don't like 257 00:13:39.519 --> 00:13:41.879 it and it's. 258 00:13:41.399 --> 00:13:45.519 Very fullier because he's smoked one back in the day. 259 00:13:46.039 --> 00:13:50.000 And you know what is interesting because before me in 260 00:13:50.039 --> 00:13:53.320 the way on the wedding. So I took from my 261 00:13:53.360 --> 00:13:55.840 friends and tell them listen to me. Maybe it's the 262 00:13:55.919 --> 00:13:59.240 last one because if she don't, I go to ask 263 00:13:59.320 --> 00:14:01.600 him tomorrow. And if you don't like that, I don't 264 00:14:01.600 --> 00:14:03.799 know what to do and go to stop. 265 00:14:04.399 --> 00:14:08.519 Yeah, but I thought Rahi that you you saw him 266 00:14:08.559 --> 00:14:10.320 smoking when you went to see him. 267 00:14:12.240 --> 00:14:12.799 So many. 268 00:14:15.279 --> 00:14:23.679 It's okay, not as it's because okay, my parents they 269 00:14:23.679 --> 00:14:24.320 don't know. 270 00:14:24.600 --> 00:14:31.039 Of course they don't. They said, no, yeah. 271 00:14:31.679 --> 00:14:35.279 Are both of you gear from the gear set? Were 272 00:14:35.279 --> 00:14:36.600 both of you good kids? 273 00:14:37.000 --> 00:14:38.320 She's more good for me. 274 00:14:38.399 --> 00:14:41.000 I was very good. I'm very I was looking, but. 275 00:14:41.159 --> 00:14:44.159 I make a little bit of problems, but not not 276 00:14:44.879 --> 00:14:47.639 very bad guy or something like this wasn't the issue. 277 00:14:47.960 --> 00:14:49.799 Everything I'm not wasn't the best. 278 00:14:50.960 --> 00:14:54.679 Not the best and make you know behind I'm not. 279 00:14:55.120 --> 00:14:55.399 I'm not. 280 00:14:55.519 --> 00:14:58.440 I'm very I'm not a sidish in my head, I'm 281 00:14:58.440 --> 00:15:00.600 not a dish, but I'm very a good girl. 282 00:15:01.159 --> 00:15:03.799 Did you think, Bradi, did you think of what a 283 00:15:04.000 --> 00:15:06.399 dream boy would look like when you were a teenager, 284 00:15:06.519 --> 00:15:08.600 did you think about getting engaged at all? 285 00:15:08.879 --> 00:15:14.639 I think, but I never said what I think because 286 00:15:14.799 --> 00:15:16.639 my parents they choose for me. 287 00:15:17.279 --> 00:15:20.720 I can't, you know, stay with my maybe dreams. 288 00:15:20.960 --> 00:15:23.519 I can't talk. I can talk, I can talk, I 289 00:15:23.559 --> 00:15:28.360 can't say anything. I try to set my parents. I 290 00:15:28.440 --> 00:15:31.679 know what I want. I think that I know. I 291 00:15:31.720 --> 00:15:35.600 want some men make with me fun in the life. 292 00:15:36.159 --> 00:15:36.720 I want, man. 293 00:15:36.879 --> 00:15:40.759 This is interesting because before we marry, she asked his 294 00:15:40.799 --> 00:15:44.960 father if I go with them to make a kayaks kayaking? 295 00:15:45.320 --> 00:15:46.600 You know kayak? 296 00:15:47.360 --> 00:15:50.679 Yeah, yeah. Before you got engaged, you asked if he 297 00:15:50.720 --> 00:15:52.480 would be the kind of boy that you can go 298 00:15:52.600 --> 00:15:53.399 kayaking with? 299 00:15:53.840 --> 00:15:56.840 Yeah, because for me, I make one plus one. 300 00:15:56.919 --> 00:15:57.120 You know. 301 00:15:57.519 --> 00:16:00.799 Now you think it's stupid, but for me, it's big things. 302 00:16:00.879 --> 00:16:03.919 I try to understand what's going on, and my father 303 00:16:04.000 --> 00:16:06.679 told me, yes it do Cort, happen with you. 304 00:16:06.679 --> 00:16:07.200 Don't worry. 305 00:16:07.679 --> 00:16:10.039 What was your You were starting to say what kind 306 00:16:10.080 --> 00:16:12.720 of boy you were looking from, for a boy that 307 00:16:12.759 --> 00:16:14.279 would have fun with you? What else? 308 00:16:15.360 --> 00:16:17.799 Fun? I want fun? I like fun and you know, 309 00:16:18.000 --> 00:16:18.879 make me back again. 310 00:16:19.440 --> 00:16:24.759 And I want, you know, go together, and I want 311 00:16:24.799 --> 00:16:27.960 to you know, I can touch where we come from. 312 00:16:28.120 --> 00:16:29.919 You can do it, yeah, and do it. You can 313 00:16:30.000 --> 00:16:33.320 even speak about it. I don't want a sedish guy. 314 00:16:33.440 --> 00:16:36.360 I don't want it's I know it's not for me 315 00:16:36.879 --> 00:16:42.639 and you. It's not Hassidish, too much hasidish, and I 316 00:16:42.679 --> 00:16:47.960 can't say you see it's walk But then I'm not 317 00:16:48.000 --> 00:16:48.759 sure about it. 318 00:16:48.919 --> 00:16:51.759 What about you, Avi? What was your idea when you 319 00:16:51.759 --> 00:16:56.000 were a bucher, a teenager? What did you think of? 320 00:16:56.039 --> 00:16:56.879 What kind of girl? 321 00:16:57.759 --> 00:16:59.679 I have a two stuff that I want. I would 322 00:17:00.120 --> 00:17:01.759 girl and I wanted to bring. 323 00:17:05.400 --> 00:17:08.200 So what happened on your wedding day? Do you want 324 00:17:08.240 --> 00:17:11.480 to share? What you remember of your wedding day? Were you? 325 00:17:11.559 --> 00:17:14.440 Were you looking both like really really gorgeous? 326 00:17:15.759 --> 00:17:20.319 So yeah, of course I didn't recognize it, because twelve 327 00:17:20.400 --> 00:17:24.720 months later she looks completely different. Let's start to begin. 328 00:17:25.599 --> 00:17:30.440 In the middle of the day. The Madric come to 329 00:17:30.519 --> 00:17:34.799 talk to you, with you, with me, and it's supposed 330 00:17:34.839 --> 00:17:36.359 to tell me in the first time in my life, 331 00:17:37.000 --> 00:17:41.400 what I need to do today. Wow, this is the 332 00:17:41.599 --> 00:17:46.359 moment the supposed to for me. I understand did not 333 00:17:46.480 --> 00:17:48.640 need to talk to me. She just asked me, you know, 334 00:17:48.759 --> 00:17:52.799 and that's it. But it's kindamatically the middle in the 335 00:17:52.920 --> 00:17:58.319 day of the us talk to me about me, not 336 00:17:58.640 --> 00:18:01.559 just but yes. Also it's very only day and you 337 00:18:01.640 --> 00:18:04.279 can dabble in a lot and you can a lot 338 00:18:04.279 --> 00:18:08.400 of stuff, but it comes for the to, yeah. 339 00:18:08.480 --> 00:18:11.119 To tell you the come on. 340 00:18:13.039 --> 00:18:16.759 You come to to tell you the big secret? 341 00:18:16.839 --> 00:18:18.960 And how did you already know? 342 00:18:20.680 --> 00:18:24.400 Because it's pushdack is pushed tack. You know what is pushback? 343 00:18:25.279 --> 00:18:30.680 You know? You know friends, listen, I think everyone everyone. 344 00:18:31.000 --> 00:18:35.079 A lot of because if you're a little bit clear 345 00:18:35.599 --> 00:18:38.039 and you know, when the magi tell you you need 346 00:18:38.079 --> 00:18:43.400 to to pass now five lines and so everyone going 347 00:18:43.440 --> 00:18:44.279 to see exactly what. 348 00:18:45.880 --> 00:18:46.160 This is. 349 00:18:47.680 --> 00:18:51.880 Like this so I don't know, Yeah, I understand it. 350 00:18:52.079 --> 00:18:55.240 So my father is no, they I'm not going to 351 00:18:55.240 --> 00:19:00.920 be the the next so he sent me to some 352 00:19:01.880 --> 00:19:04.960 group to learn with me the lukas before. But it 353 00:19:05.160 --> 00:19:07.480 was also a big sicket because you're not allowed to 354 00:19:07.480 --> 00:19:11.880 do this. So I learned the lukas before the hastening. 355 00:19:11.960 --> 00:19:15.160 But no one is, no one do this and went 356 00:19:15.240 --> 00:19:16.680 from when I. 357 00:19:16.640 --> 00:19:20.680 Come from just the girls, we go to Madrija to 358 00:19:20.720 --> 00:19:26.200 the Madrika a lot for something that two months, you know, 359 00:19:26.440 --> 00:19:30.240 eight weeks. You go every week and she teach you. 360 00:19:30.440 --> 00:19:34.960 She we we learn together the hot you know, or 361 00:19:35.000 --> 00:19:38.319 the alt that you need to keep after the wedding. 362 00:19:38.559 --> 00:19:41.559 But it's the girls, not the not the boys. 363 00:19:42.519 --> 00:19:46.960 It was very very holiday. I remember the I hapned 364 00:19:47.079 --> 00:19:50.240 a lot and I go to the y. Of course 365 00:19:50.319 --> 00:19:53.519 you got Dublin Jackson, not this. But when I come 366 00:19:53.559 --> 00:19:57.559 to the hasen, I saw the first time after. 367 00:19:57.359 --> 00:19:59.839 Twelve months, and you know our fully maker. 368 00:20:00.400 --> 00:20:05.079 I didn't recommend. I didn't know. I can't change, I 369 00:20:05.119 --> 00:20:10.039 don't have any any remember nothing. I come to cover 370 00:20:10.200 --> 00:20:13.519 the hard the color before the hip the first time 371 00:20:13.599 --> 00:20:17.759 after twelve months, the song and it was completely look different. 372 00:20:18.000 --> 00:20:20.880 In the meeting she didn't any makeup and now with 373 00:20:21.279 --> 00:20:30.400 fully makeup. And also this is it's also very stressful day. 374 00:20:30.200 --> 00:20:32.960 Because I don't like where I send you pictures and 375 00:20:33.160 --> 00:20:35.240 video and you see, also. 376 00:20:35.000 --> 00:20:37.319 Don't like to be in the middle of the tension. 377 00:20:37.359 --> 00:20:39.839 So I just want the down. 378 00:20:40.119 --> 00:20:42.359 Did you mess her during the engagement? 379 00:20:42.640 --> 00:20:44.759 Yes, I Also. 380 00:20:46.039 --> 00:20:50.839 She gives a gift for my mom between the marriage 381 00:20:50.880 --> 00:20:53.599 to the engage, to get into the marri she gives 382 00:20:53.640 --> 00:20:58.079 us some album, some pictures from the engagement or something 383 00:20:58.119 --> 00:20:58.519 like this. 384 00:20:58.799 --> 00:21:02.440 Something nice. When I to my father my parents house. 385 00:21:02.599 --> 00:21:05.880 So every time I take this with me that no 386 00:21:05.920 --> 00:21:07.920 one is seen and they go to the battlement, no 387 00:21:07.960 --> 00:21:13.079 one can see the just see the pictures to remember, 388 00:21:14.000 --> 00:21:17.200 not for guess how she looked like. But I can 389 00:21:17.319 --> 00:21:20.920 do this in the front of some weeks because you 390 00:21:21.039 --> 00:21:22.039 need to be forget. 391 00:21:22.519 --> 00:21:25.279 During during the engagement, what did you think your color 392 00:21:25.440 --> 00:21:25.920 was like? 393 00:21:25.920 --> 00:21:26.000 Like? 394 00:21:26.119 --> 00:21:28.240 Did you have a sense of the person she is? 395 00:21:28.640 --> 00:21:32.519 No? No, I understand she. I want to also understand 396 00:21:32.519 --> 00:21:36.799 the family. She's not so silly like me, but she 397 00:21:36.960 --> 00:21:41.079 personality didn't know any series anything. 398 00:21:40.920 --> 00:21:45.519 Gish, nothing, nothing, nothing. 399 00:21:45.720 --> 00:21:49.000 So you fasted on your wedding day, you went to 400 00:21:49.079 --> 00:21:53.680 the western wall. The lecture came and told you try 401 00:21:53.720 --> 00:21:56.359