Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 2: If you can hear my voice, that means you're listening
Speaker 2: to a brand new episode to catch this fade with
Speaker 2: your boy Joe.
Speaker 3: And Valeria Vania.
Speaker 2: So now that this is your second episode, your your
Speaker 2: your family here. You got a lot of good feedback
Speaker 2: on your first episode.
Speaker 3: Oh cool, thanks guys.
Speaker 1: They liked you, they they connected with you, understood you. Hey,
Speaker 1: how's your name going?
Speaker 3: It's going well. I'm off again today, which is great
Speaker 3: during the middle of the week. So we thank God
Speaker 3: for that following in these Atlanta City streets. So I'm
Speaker 3: laughing because Joe, basically, what's fight me when guy over here?
Speaker 3: Because I did say that I would get here at
Speaker 3: a certain time and it was a little bit later,
Speaker 3: and you know, just like some of us have to
Speaker 3: do better with time management and things like that. But
Speaker 3: it's fine. I'm laughing because he's watching my story talking
Speaker 3: about frolicking like you haven't got nothing else to do? Yes,
Speaker 3: I did wait for you. No, no, you would saying
Speaker 3: that Like he was like to me, like, you don't
Speaker 3: have nothing to do, you just out here frolicking.
Speaker 2: Not even that, it's just you're like, yo, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: pull up to you this time, and this time, I
Speaker 2: ain't bet I'm gonna prepare for you.
Speaker 1: Put up a story like an hour and a half
Speaker 1: after those.
Speaker 2: Sad times, and you're like, it's look at me on
Speaker 2: my Instagram story.
Speaker 1: I ain't doing nothing, you free tea.
Speaker 3: So the tea is when I posted that story, I
Speaker 3: was on the way here. I said, Yo, just trying
Speaker 3: to grab you a little bite because I had to
Speaker 3: eat and it's almost three o'clock, trying to break my fast,
Speaker 3: and I didn't want to tell the people anything just
Speaker 3: yet because I wanted to, you know, post win about
Speaker 3: catch this fade when the next episode was out. So
Speaker 3: it's fine, we're good now.
Speaker 2: But other than that, I thought he was trying to
Speaker 2: set the bob of catching the feed. So that's why
Speaker 2: he was like, oh, yeah, I'm gonna be eat you
Speaker 2: know what, and I'm I'm saying, don't put up the
Speaker 2: Instagram stress.
Speaker 3: That's definitely not what I was trying to do as a.
Speaker 1: Young and my friends got blocked for that.
Speaker 3: That's crazy. Blocking is insane, especially because I'm just a
Speaker 3: girl in the way that I was just like, oh, no.
Speaker 1: Sentence.
Speaker 3: I was really, I'm not even gonna lie you guys,
Speaker 3: I had no idea that he was, that there was
Speaker 3: even an issue. I popped up in here with my
Speaker 3: with my girl, chicken nuggets in my side, salad from
Speaker 3: Chick fil A.
Speaker 1: Like hi, yo.
Speaker 2: The crazy thing is you came in here, right, You're
Speaker 2: like hey, I'm like what's up?
Speaker 1: Like I'm like, dang, what's wrong with him? And you're
Speaker 1: like yo, ah man, So food, I didn't get you anything.
Speaker 1: Hold on.
Speaker 2: The first thing you say, you can't believe you're like half, well, hey,
Speaker 2: that's a food.
Speaker 1: I didn't get anything for you, though, I.
Speaker 3: Said, just put that out there, okay, just so you could.
Speaker 2: Know as long as he thought about me before you
Speaker 2: didn't get before, you didn't get anything.
Speaker 3: If you want anything, And he's gonna fruit fast anyway,
Speaker 3: so he couldn't even have nothing.
Speaker 1: In fact, seventy two hours so far. No fact.
Speaker 2: I think that's when food the last time I did this,
Speaker 2: I think that's when food like comes across to me,
Speaker 2: even like freer, like so many more people will offer
Speaker 2: me food.
Speaker 3: It always happens like that, Oh my God. And the
Speaker 3: Lord told me not to. He said, don't ask him.
Speaker 2: Going to ask him, You're gonna fell the Lord into
Speaker 2: your nonsense right now.
Speaker 1: The Lord told you not to break red of me.
Speaker 3: No version of the Lord, he said, don't get anything
Speaker 3: from Chick fil A for him.
Speaker 1: The most religious fast food spot. He tells you.
Speaker 3: Don't because fruit fast. I could have asked you though
Speaker 3: it's something.
Speaker 1: It's all good. Nah, but yeah, for real.
Speaker 2: When I was younger, my friends they used to give
Speaker 2: blocks fast.
Speaker 3: That's crazy, not.
Speaker 2: Because no, you gotta think about this. You gotta think
Speaker 2: about it like this. Not no, not even not even
Speaker 2: like not even like what we came here to do
Speaker 2: the podcast. I would hit up Court, you my friend Court.
Speaker 2: I would hit her up and she, you know, wouldn't answer,
Speaker 2: all right, cool, like a day or go by day.
Speaker 1: Two, three, goes by? All right cool. Each and every
Speaker 1: one of those days she puts something up.
Speaker 2: On some type of social media, So I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: there's one thing, there's one thing to be busy, but like,
Speaker 2: and her excuse to this day is like, yo, you
Speaker 2: going you can go.
Speaker 1: On social media for like blast like something you're putting
Speaker 1: on a full bone post story. Shut up, like I'm
Speaker 1: not trying to hear it.
Speaker 3: This was calculated, but yeah.
Speaker 2: She's man like and it's crazy because, like you know,
Speaker 2: in our generation, we.
Speaker 1: Don't really do voicemails like that.
Speaker 4: Voice.
Speaker 2: Though it's to the point where like like telling my
Speaker 2: friends started selling.
Speaker 1: Me voicemails.
Speaker 3: Like I love leaving a good voicemail, You're gonna lie,
Speaker 3: or like.
Speaker 2: Wait, no, no they did because like they'd be like, hey,
Speaker 2: so try to call you back before you block.
Speaker 1: Me, like a right.
Speaker 3: Not to just be going on a block and free.
Speaker 3: I mean, watch watch Joe. You guys sometimes you know
Speaker 3: I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm not.
Speaker 3: Don't get blocked out of nowhere.
Speaker 1: I'm not. I'm not like that anymore. And plus it's
Speaker 1: not like you've done this millions of.
Speaker 3: Times that I have not, and I was oblivious to
Speaker 3: the fact that anything was even wrong.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to get off the passive stuff you see
Speaker 2: before or like a week ago, I probably just want
Speaker 2: to sat through it upset.
Speaker 1: But I would have you know, I would have changed
Speaker 1: the voice over the pot.
Speaker 3: But I'm proud of you for being honest and open
Speaker 3: and telling me, because I prefer when someone lets me
Speaker 3: know there is an issue, because sometimes I really don't
Speaker 3: know that I did something to slight someone, So you know,
Speaker 3: sometimes you let people know. Sometimes people really do not know.
Speaker 3: Sometimes they are aware of what they're doing, other times
Speaker 3: they're not. So this is one of them situations where
Speaker 3: like thanks for letting on.
Speaker 2: It know a big thing with my like my passiveness
Speaker 2: or like you know how it used to.
Speaker 1: Be where like.
Speaker 2: You would have came in here like super happy. I'd
Speaker 2: be like, I can't be mad, Like you didn't come.
Speaker 3: In hear me, like you like okay, whatever, yeah whatever, yeah.
Speaker 2: But like I think you came in positively, like hey,
Speaker 2: didn't get your food a lot.
Speaker 3: I'm just happy you you were honest. I appreciate that
Speaker 3: I do, and now I know I'll make sure to
Speaker 3: uh set better expectations when it comes to timing itself.
Speaker 3: But you also I asked for schedules, and I'm like,
Speaker 3: you're like, I'm free. I'm like, let me know specific
Speaker 3: because if you say you're free and I'm like I'm
Speaker 3: free too, then I'm gonna just freely come over here when.
Speaker 1: I'm you set the time. I think that's the part
Speaker 1: that messes me up. If we're both free, all right, late,
Speaker 1: i'd be late sometimes. Help me.
Speaker 2: You set a time that literally it was what you
Speaker 2: be late to times you set.
Speaker 3: That's no, that doesn't make sense, not all the time.
Speaker 2: It's not a dinner party. I invited you to. It
Speaker 2: starts at this time. I lied to you an hour
Speaker 2: come later, and.
Speaker 3: Because I didn't have anything else to really well, I
Speaker 3: do have something else later today. Rehearsal at like eight.
Speaker 1: But other than that, rehearsal eight o'clock.
Speaker 3: Yeah, why overnight worship rehearsal.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, have you having dinner? Yeah? Sleep over?
Speaker 3: No? Is that eighth pm? That's not late.
Speaker 1: So everybody, everybody that does choir with you, they're.
Speaker 3: All like twenty Yeah, we're in our well, everybody's in
Speaker 3: like their thirties okay. Well and we're doing a worship
Speaker 3: night yeah okay, but anyway, ya, I didn't have much
Speaker 3: to do, so I was just like, okay. Between twelve
Speaker 3: and two was when I wanted to be over here,
Speaker 3: but I didn't really start. You already know what I
Speaker 3: was the whole thing. But it's just like it was
Speaker 3: just a ballpark.
Speaker 1: It's just it's just it's all out ballpark. Then is
Speaker 1: the set up? Yo? When you went on that story, boy.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he got upset.
Speaker 2: He was like, hey, what you guys do today. Nothing
Speaker 2: you need, just gallivant in the streets to these are
Speaker 2: your words?
Speaker 3: Did you want me to tell everybody else on the
Speaker 3: way to record a part? Not even that, but like
Speaker 3: I'm kind of mysterious. I'm looking so relaxed.
Speaker 1: Like dang, it looked like you had nothing to do
Speaker 1: with the I'm.
Speaker 3: Like, oh my god.
Speaker 2: And then it's crazy. Five minutes later, you're like yore.
Speaker 2: Four minutes away, I'm like, is she serious?
Speaker 3: I don't I don't see I still don't really see
Speaker 3: the problem.
Speaker 1: But I am just a girl.
Speaker 5: Yeah right, it's just viby, yeah, because it's.
Speaker 1: Just a girl.
Speaker 2: On the positive news. One of the recommendations years that
Speaker 2: I've been doing on the pod is to fix these mics,
Speaker 2: ladies and gentlemen.
Speaker 3: These breakthrough.
Speaker 2: These mics are perfect, brand new mics. I haven't had
Speaker 2: a lot of them for a long time. But I
Speaker 2: just discovered in the system on how I should have
Speaker 2: been formed. I didn't know while doing the pods. So
Speaker 2: if we sound really good now, like you know, I'm excited.
Speaker 2: Mics aren't bad. I don't got cheap mics, yo, I
Speaker 2: don't have no five old dollar general mics like plays
Speaker 2: I'm so excited I finally unlocked the code.
Speaker 1: It cast me some money, but it's all good.
Speaker 3: Clap it up, clappy up.
Speaker 1: I really needed I really need that.
Speaker 3: I was very proud of you. Good job, good on you.
Speaker 2: But speaking of clapping, h we we're gonna introduce.
Speaker 1: The topic for the day.
Speaker 3: Okay, it's actually ready to take it that you said yay.
Speaker 1: Top of the day is purpose outside applause?
Speaker 5: Oh right, okay applause.
Speaker 1: You want to read the Affirmation of the day or sure,
Speaker 1: sure can I read it?
Speaker 5: Thanks?
Speaker 3: Okay, Affirmation of the Day. I release the need for
Speaker 3: outside applause. I don't measure my worth by who claps,
Speaker 3: who watches, or who approves. I am proud of who
Speaker 3: I am becoming, even in silence. I choose purpose over performance,
Speaker 3: peace over pressure, and authenticity over attention. What I build
Speaker 3: within me matters more than what the world celebrates. I
Speaker 3: am enough even when no one is watching. A.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's awesome, ladies and ji, even though it says
Speaker 2: X y Z without applause, I do love applause clapping me.
Speaker 3: Now, if I did some'm good?
Speaker 1: You know you feel like it's great enough?
Speaker 2: You can go ahead of plaut. But yeah, so let's
Speaker 2: dive into these questions. Yes, what does outside applause mean
Speaker 2: to you? And when did you realize you were chasing it?
Speaker 1: If you are chasing it, I'm nothing to you.
Speaker 3: What does outside applause mean to me? And what was
Speaker 3: the second part?
Speaker 1: Second part is when did you realize you were chasing it?
Speaker 3: You know, now that we're sitting having this conversation, say,
Speaker 3: outside applause. I think I can equate it to people
Speaker 3: pleasing if you will in a lot of ways. And
Speaker 3: so what it means to me sometimes is like leading
Speaker 3: with the intention of having someone praise you for what
Speaker 3: you've done, or only wanting to do something because you
Speaker 3: want a certain response from people, and or doing certain
Speaker 3: things just because this person wants you to do it.
Speaker 3: Let me think of an example, Okay, Like parents often
Speaker 3: want their children to be certain types of things, or
Speaker 3: may want to want them to be in a different
Speaker 3: in certain professions, and so because you love your parents
Speaker 3: so much, you do that thing just to please them,
Speaker 3: versus doing the thing that you actually want to do.
Speaker 3: So I feel like there are a lot of situations
Speaker 3: where we can do those things. I've found myself even
Speaker 3: sometimes like dressing, I guess for the male gaze, like
Speaker 3: you want to make yeah, like you want to be
Speaker 3: seen a certain way. And so for me, like over
Speaker 3: the years, I've just learned like I need to just
Speaker 3: be doing whatever makes me happy. And I know that
Speaker 3: sounds very cliche, but like at the end of the day,
Speaker 3: like we'll never be able to fully please everyone, and
Speaker 3: if we're often and always trying to do that to
Speaker 3: either work a career, or dress a certain way or
Speaker 3: do our hair a certain way or whatever the case,
Speaker 3: just for someone's approval, then we'll never truly be happy within,
Speaker 3: which also kind of goes back to what we were
Speaker 3: talking about last week about the mask and things. But yeah,
Speaker 3: what about you, so.
Speaker 2: The outside applause, I'm actually happy some of the things
Speaker 2: that you said. Basically, I feel like it's designed from
Speaker 2: you know, like you know, like when you're born, like
Speaker 2: you said, with your parents, you always want them to
Speaker 2: be proud of you, don't want them to think you're.
Speaker 1: Disappointment or whatever like that.
Speaker 2: But then you start getting these social spaces, like you
Speaker 2: start going to school and you start seeing like you know,
Speaker 2: what's cool, what's not, Who gets like big up, who
Speaker 2: gets made fun?
Speaker 1: Of and stuff like that.
Speaker 2: So for me personally, I when I was younger, I
Speaker 2: was a class caller. I can see that I was
Speaker 2: always because that's what it was like. I'm always trying
Speaker 2: to get the laughs, because when you get.
Speaker 1: Somebody to laugh, you got them. That's what it like.
Speaker 2: Like I go against teachers for no reason, you know me,
Speaker 2: all my reasonings was reasons, but like you know, if
Speaker 2: a teacher trying to play me, I'm like, what like
Speaker 2: stay crazy things even though I'm gonna get my ass
Speaker 2: with When I but that, I like that, like oh yeah,
Speaker 2: like oh she said it was really funny. So outside
Speaker 2: of the pause means.
Speaker 3: To me.
Speaker 1: That I'm doing something that somebody likes that I'm not
Speaker 1: just kind of moving like not without purpose. I don't
Speaker 1: say without purpose, but like purpose like without I don't
Speaker 1: know how to say it, like you're not really doing
Speaker 1: anything that's worth cheering for. I don't know, Like I
Speaker 1: won't say purpose, but it's kind of that though.
Speaker 2: When I realized I was chasing it when I was younger.
Speaker 2: For sure, when I was like I said, just growing
Speaker 2: up like you, you always want to be somebody that
Speaker 2: somebody either likes looks up to it's proud of something
Speaker 2: so strict, it's a constant thing. No matter like that,
Speaker 2: no matter what is Even people who are the most
Speaker 2: successful people out there, they're still insecure. Like it's still
Speaker 2: insecure and no money can you know, Like it's it's
Speaker 2: all about what people think you all the time.
Speaker 1: It does suck, but.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you want a consumer Like, yeah, I think I
Speaker 2: think it was funny that you said the sometimes I
Speaker 2: just for the male gates. That's actually crazy, not crazy
Speaker 2: that you do it, but like it's crazy that you
Speaker 2: say it out loud because I've been saying stuff.
Speaker 1: Like this all the time because like, all right, so
Speaker 1: I had this theory, right it's about Instagram.
Speaker 2: I'd be like, you know, girls, girls have Instagrams for
Speaker 2: one reason is get attention to people.
Speaker 3: What do you think what you think the way not
Speaker 3: all the way?
Speaker 1: I mean you also take your content creator out of it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I was trying to say, because I mean there's
Speaker 3: the there's the aspect of attention because we want someone
Speaker 3: to like want to track someone. But then, like you said,
Speaker 3: there's a content creation aspect, and a lot of us
Speaker 3: are starting to use Instagram as a way to make money.
Speaker 3: So there's that you're still for exactly. But I guess
Speaker 3: My only is I just can't say that we have
Speaker 3: incident specifically to get attention.
Speaker 4: That's it.
Speaker 3: That's the only Like little.
Speaker 1: Stories get stories. What yeah, not selling nothing in it.
Speaker 3: I mean I'll be pubbing my bakery and stuff on
Speaker 3: my story.
Speaker 1: Seeing I've seeing girls like used to talk to and
Speaker 1: say be here or something.
Speaker 4: That's true.
Speaker 3: Though sometimes I do be posting the story so I
Speaker 3: could get so I can see who's watching you.
Speaker 1: Selfie start going crazy. You ain't never very selfie this
Speaker 1: much life.
Speaker 3: Like like the but men do it too, we all
Speaker 3: do it.
Speaker 1: People do it?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, anything anything that I say like, oh women
Speaker 2: do x y z, it's only because I don't like women,
Speaker 2: you know all.
Speaker 3: I know y'all be flex and beat flexing, you know. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So have you ever achieved something and still feel empty
Speaker 2: because it wasn't the recognition you expected?
Speaker 3: Achieved something and not and felt empty because it wasn't
Speaker 3: the recognition that I was expecting. I feel like that's
Speaker 3: kind of a hard question for me. How about you answer?
Speaker 1: First?
Speaker 2: Dang, it's just say I don't really I don't really
Speaker 2: achieve I guess, but a lot of a lot of things.
Speaker 2: But like, I guess, I don't like when you're younger
Speaker 2: graduate from XYZ. I guess it's been a wild for
Speaker 2: me to be like, hey, congrats on this. I guess
Speaker 2: it's been a while, so I can't really necessarily answer.
Speaker 2: But I feel like everything that I've ever achieved that's
Speaker 2: like recognizable. I feel like I've always.
Speaker 3: I don't mean, well, you know what now I'm thinking
Speaker 3: I could say that I feel like in recent years,
Speaker 3: the last couple of years, I've definitely achieved a certain
Speaker 3: level of and this is just based on my own
Speaker 3: measure of myself, I've definitely f ch achieved a certain
Speaker 3: level of like spiritual wisdom and growth within, like how
Speaker 3: I deal with my people, especially like my family and
Speaker 3: my friends and whatnot. Mm And I feel like oftentimes
Speaker 3: not even my friends, I'll say, cause they recognize it
Speaker 3: a lot better than my family does. But s I
Speaker 3: feel like I've achieved a lot and I've done a
Speaker 3: lot in my personal time, like with God, to grow
Speaker 3: into like this person who was able to articulate how
Speaker 3: I feel and be authentic and not wear a mask
Speaker 3: and you know, communicate openly with people and allow them
Speaker 3: to feel they can communicate openly with me, And I
Speaker 3: feel like my family in a lot of ways hasn't
Speaker 3: recognized that enough and not necessarily given me the the
Speaker 3: praise that I would appreciate from them. But I think
Speaker 3: what I'm starting to learn is like, at the end
Speaker 3: of the day, s genuinely people pleasing is not something
Speaker 3: that we can even lead with. Like, cause again, people
Speaker 3: are never going to be pleased, and we are people.
Speaker 3: We're there's always something that we could always do better,
Speaker 3: we could always achieve more, we could always try, you know,
Speaker 3: go to another level, whatever the case. So I think
Speaker 3: we just have to get to a point where we're
Speaker 3: satisfied with what it is that we're doing and we
Speaker 3: know that we are aligned with purpose in that way.
Speaker 3: So like, as long as we're on that path and
Speaker 3: we're moving forward, whether someone is clapping for us, a
Speaker 3: for us, or not, you know, then then we're on point.
Speaker 2: So yeah, okay, do you think social media has made
Speaker 2: us more addicted to validation that we realized on a
Speaker 2: million percent?
Speaker 3: Absolutely?
Speaker 1: I'll tell you about that Instagram I told you, I
Speaker 1: told you, yeah, man, people for sure, Like you know.
Speaker 2: Everybody has different like journey everybody has certain level of
Speaker 2: patience that they're supposed to have for certain things. But
Speaker 2: some time it's like, damn, bro, I'm funny than this
Speaker 2: person while they're on TV. I just sing better than
Speaker 2: this person?
Speaker 1: Right? Why they on TV? Like why they on whatever
Speaker 1: they're on? So yeah, social media, yo, supposed to me
Speaker 1: to be cooking.
Speaker 2: Me, not cooking you, cause like like I'm like a
Speaker 2: lot of vig I do now, not necessarily a comparison thing,
Speaker 2: but I you know, I'll be going on like I
Speaker 2: opposed to tick talk every day, like for the last month,
Speaker 2: and like four days every single day I supposed to talk,
Speaker 2: And I go back on there and I'll like, after
Speaker 2: two three hours, I got like two likes. You mind
Speaker 2: you the whole thousand likes things for the last episode.
Speaker 2: There's way more now.
Speaker 1: But I'll be like, dang b two likes. It be
Speaker 1: my two nieces to them, I love them, and be like,
Speaker 1: dang ya, it's not going nowhere like this.
Speaker 2: And then I'll go to somebody else's page and then
Speaker 2: they'll have like a bunch of likes and I'd be like,
Speaker 2: you know what, let.
Speaker 1: Me swipe all the way up.
Speaker 2: David Rockets it is like twenty twenty twenty one, So
Speaker 2: I'm like, you know, after five years.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're supposed to be seeing someone some emotion.
Speaker 2: So for sure I'll be like, dang, let me, let
Speaker 2: me chill, because I really just started going crazy like
Speaker 2: with it technically.
Speaker 1: Mid November, yeah, and I stopped, and so I just
Speaker 1: gotta be consistent.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's social media. Yeah.
Speaker 3: Social media is like a major conduent of comparison and
Speaker 3: like seeking validation in a lot of ways, Like we
Speaker 3: all wanna know that our life or whatever we're doing
Speaker 3: is the coolest, or can garner the most influence and whatnot.
Speaker 3: And just like to your point, I've learned cause I
Speaker 3: had to really actually kill like comparison in my own
Speaker 3: life because you it's so easy to see the the
Speaker 3: highlight reil of everyone's life on social media, but we
Speaker 3: can't compare ourselves to like our day one to someone
Speaker 3: else's day one hundred. It's just not right in an
Speaker 3: n or more so, not what we can do. You know,
Speaker 3: it'll keep us in this loop that we aren't doing
Speaker 3: what we're supposed to do or we're not as good
Speaker 3: or whatever the case. And that's why I feel it's
Speaker 3: just so important for us to not seek, you know,
Speaker 3: validation in those ways from people, because as long as
Speaker 3: we know that we're doing what we're supposed to be
Speaker 3: doing and we are consistent with it and we're putting
Speaker 3: our best effort forward, then like we should really only
Speaker 3: be comparing to ourselves and seeking the validation of course
Speaker 3: from God and like are we and from our previous self?
Speaker 3: Like is my past self proud of me?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 3: Am I doing what my future self is going to
Speaker 3: really appreciate versus what these other people who are already
Speaker 3: in the lane of their own are doing?
Speaker 1: So?
Speaker 3: But yeah, social media does cause us to seek validation
Speaker 3: because again we see the beauty of everyone's life and
Speaker 3: we're like, gosh, well how did.
Speaker 5: They get there?
Speaker 3: And it's like everyone has a story. Friend, Just stay focused,
Speaker 3: keep it straight and narrow, put your blunes on.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you kind of answered this next question
Speaker 2: well like a little bit unless you have like a
Speaker 2: different aspect. But what's something you've done more for your
Speaker 2: What's something you've done more for attention than for yourself?
Speaker 3: Something more for attention than for myself?
Speaker 5: Eh?
Speaker 3: I mean I'm not gonna lie when I do post
Speaker 3: on social media, I'm not really like, I know I'm
Speaker 3: going to get attention, but it's not for attention. Oftentimes,
Speaker 3: I'm I know I'm a beautiful woman. I know that
Speaker 3: I'm creative, and I know that if I post a picture,
Speaker 3: the people are gonna like it, you know, or if
Speaker 3: I post a story and it's a substance and people
Speaker 3: are gonna respond. Well, So it's not like I'm doing
Speaker 3: it for attention. But I have I have done like
Speaker 3: photo shoots before, maybe like birthday shoot, or I'm crossing
Speaker 3: my fingers that I get two, three, four or five
Speaker 3: hundred likes or it gets a thousand likes and it
Speaker 3: only gets a certain amount, And then I'm at that point,
Speaker 3: I'm like, do I take this down because it didn't
Speaker 3: get the attention that I wanted? I never or I've
Speaker 3: been there before for sure to.
Speaker 1: Take it down, like take it not a notat like
Speaker 1: some take it them? What if somebody see.
Speaker 3: Like yo, I'm not gonna lie. There was definitely a point.
Speaker 3: There was definitely a point where cause like, especially before
Speaker 3: Instagram started being all super creative creator heavy, I knew
Speaker 3: a post would be would do good if I posted
Speaker 3: it Unlet's say in five minutes I got ten likes,
Speaker 3: or like ten minutes, I got twenty likes. But if
Speaker 3: it's been ten minutes and I got three likes, I'm
Speaker 3: probably gonna take it down. And that's how it was before.
Speaker 3: I don't care so much now again because the algorithm
Speaker 3: has changed so much and it's very creator heavy. But
Speaker 3: that was like, that was definitely a thing where I
Speaker 3: was like, Okay, if it gets the attention that I want,
Speaker 3: then I'll keep it up. If not, and I'm posting
Speaker 3: for myself of course, and because I know people are
Speaker 3: gonna see it, but I mean it's Instagram. You post
Speaker 3: your photos for you and people are gonna respond. However
Speaker 3: they do know, but I did used to want like
Speaker 3: a specific response, like it needs to be double the
Speaker 3: likes based on the minutes that I posted it. If
Speaker 3: it's not, then I'm not keeping this up. So that
Speaker 3: was a thing strict I mean, it used to be
Speaker 3: a thing.
Speaker 1: It was.
Speaker 3: I don't care as much now and luckily that you know,
Speaker 3: they have the like the high to like count thing,
Speaker 3: but I don't even use that so much because it's
Speaker 3: like it is what it is. I mean, if a
Speaker 3: hundred and eighty people like your photo. Then you did
Speaker 3: pretty good at this day and age. Literally that's like
Speaker 3: almost ten thousand views. You know, people don't be liking
Speaker 3: yourself just because people are anal and they don't act
Speaker 3: like they don't see it, and it's like it's fat.
Speaker 3: I know you see me, so it's funny. Yeah, no,
Speaker 3: like why didn't you just double tap it?
Speaker 1: Or I don't know, it's fine the great cat Williams.
Speaker 1: Don't you know I see you right?
Speaker 5: Exactly?
Speaker 3: What was that question? I don't want to make sure
Speaker 3: I answered it right.
Speaker 1: What's something you've done more for attention? Oh?
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah I got nothing.
Speaker 1: I don't really Yeah, I don't do anything. Yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: not that I'm like about trying to get attention, but yeah,
Speaker 1: just think not giving up. But like and it like
Speaker 1: how do you even want to sound like I'm like
Speaker 1: past it, Like I'm like I'm above later like nothing
Speaker 1: like that, but like, nah, I just I don't cares.
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I definitely did host a story just recently
Speaker 3: to see if there's one dude that I was like
Speaker 3: you talking to a watching and he did, so had.
Speaker 5: You watching me?
Speaker 1: If it worked? It work?
Speaker 3: That was exactly, but nah, I don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think that CAUs.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I feel that I'm not I'm not
Speaker 3: an attention secret. I've gotten to a point now where
Speaker 3: like I really enjoy myself and I know that I'm
Speaker 3: a really cool person should you get to know me. Like,
Speaker 3: so it's like to seek your attention would be counter
Speaker 3: into it or counterproductive to just like who I am.
Speaker 3: And at the end of the day, for real, for all,
Speaker 3: I'm not even trying to be all spiritual whatever, but legit,
Speaker 3: like if God is happy with me and I know
Speaker 3: I'm doing the right thing and I'm happy with myself, like,
Speaker 3: it doesn't really matter that much.
Speaker 1: So how do you tell the difference between genuine and
Speaker 1: passion and performing for our proving mm?
Speaker 3: I think I think it goes back to just authenticity,
Speaker 3: Like you can tell when somebody is just doing something
Speaker 3: because they just wanna because they want people to respond,
Speaker 3: versus when someone I like, this is really their heart
Speaker 3: and they really enjoy what they're doing. And that's how
Speaker 3: I can tell, Like you real recognize real first of all,
Speaker 3: So when you know you're doing something that you genuinely enjoy,
Speaker 3: it comes off like that when you're not, then it
Speaker 3: just seems like, Okay, this person's just kind of here.
Speaker 3: They're just kind of faking it, you know.
Speaker 1: Like the financial hospital you had. You ever see that
Speaker 1: person on tik time?
Speaker 2: They've seen that doctor Peberdal and maybe like too many
Speaker 2: hows mm.
Speaker 3: Hmmm, I think I know what you're talking about about it.
Speaker 1: This is this is what I would say if you know,
Speaker 1: I would doing doctor jingle or whatever.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, got pay for it?
Speaker 1: Mind you video wasn't HD. It wasn't like it's probably
Speaker 1: yeah yeah got py put that same commercial on uh school.
Speaker 3: That's crazy, super genuine.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know how getting I even watch different
Speaker 1: TikTok from them and I'm like, oh, it's it's.
Speaker 3: Like your whole big That's true too though, cause you
Speaker 3: can tell people who like have just come out and
Speaker 3: started being themselves, and then they they do it so
Speaker 3: authentically that you'll start seeing others start picking up on
Speaker 3: what they're doing and it's like, wow, this is not
Speaker 3: you be yourself.
Speaker 1: Friend. Have ever changed who you are just to be
Speaker 1: accepted in a certain space?
Speaker 3: Maybe I have actually, and not even in like a
Speaker 3: normal space like a word space or anything. I've changed myself,
Speaker 3: like in a relationship, to be accepted in a certain
Speaker 3: type of way, like just accepting things that I never
Speaker 3: would actually doing certain things that I opposed, just because
Speaker 3: I wanted the relationship to work. And I there was
Speaker 3: a point in my life where I really believed in
Speaker 3: potential and it was like, Okay, if I think that
Speaker 3: you can be this type of person, I'm gonna try try, try, try, try,
Speaker 3: try try that potential. Like I would tell I don't
Speaker 3: believe in potential more.
Speaker 1: You know, it's crazy. I've been saying it for the
Speaker 1: last on the podcast. I'd be like, oh, potential, pay
Speaker 1: no bills.
Speaker 3: It doesn't.
Speaker 1: You can't potentially tell your landlord that I'm about to
Speaker 1: be the red it's gonna work, like potentially or literally
Speaker 1: quite literally get out right, like literally, I don't exist.
Speaker 3: It doesn't.
Speaker 1: But I feel like everybody has to do that whole
Speaker 1: they could.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And that made me lessen myself in a lot
Speaker 3: of ways because it was like, Okay, I believe that
Speaker 3: you can be this type of person, and I'm not
Speaker 3: necessarily seeing it, but it's gonna require me to operate
Speaker 3: at a lower level because the person that I think
Speaker 3: that you can be it aligns with who I am now,
Speaker 3: but who you currently are makes me have to knock
Speaker 3: myself down a couple not just to vibrate on your
Speaker 3: same level. And so I've done that before and it
Speaker 3: didn't end up good for me. So I did again
Speaker 3: absolutely not with hard tea at the end. Not okay,
Speaker 3: we we believe in fruit. I'm only fall not even falling.
Speaker 3: I'm only connecting with people who have fruit that I
Speaker 3: can agree to and like, you know, move forward with.
Speaker 3: So yeah, I definitely have lesson myself, you know, for
Speaker 3: that attention before I think.
Speaker 1: For me, I don't.
Speaker 2: So like I I'll do the lesson thing like because
Speaker 2: I feel as though but I like to stay it's
Speaker 2: poor like lately, it's a few years I lately I
Speaker 2: realize it's like I'm not the person that comes talk
Speaker 2: to you.
Speaker 1: It's always the person i'm speaking to that like, you know,
Speaker 1: gets all the love or whatever. I don't exist. So
Speaker 1: I think, uh, it's a really I guess change who
Speaker 1: I am. I just don't say anything anymore. So it's
Speaker 1: not necessarily for it's not just like oh.
Speaker 2: Well silenced, it's a general consensus that I'm not a
Speaker 2: human being.
Speaker 1: So I think, yeah, it's not necessarily for attention, but
Speaker 1: it is like a change.
Speaker 3: Well you know, okay, well it's definitely a human being.
Speaker 5: I think.
Speaker 1: It's been like a longer one.
Speaker 3: This decade. Yeah, the twenty twenties have been so they
Speaker 3: have been though we're a little bit over halfway, so.
Speaker 1: I think I just, hmm, they have been gotten to
Speaker 1: a shell, like into a shell this exists.
Speaker 3: You just made me realize, like we're in twenty twenty six.
Speaker 3: Twenty twenty started at the beginning of the pandemic. This
Speaker 3: has been an interesting decade.
Speaker 1: So it's been long, like six years.
Speaker 3: And also yeah, because it's yeah, that's interesting.
Speaker 2: You know, I just kind of just getting into the corner.
Speaker 2: Just shut shut it down. Always been shut down here, Like.
Speaker 1: It's kind of like, damn, that's what everybody too. My brother,
Speaker 1: my brother calls me all the time of the bro,
Speaker 1: where have you been. I feel like, you know, it's
Speaker 1: either you're super easy or like I don't care what
Speaker 1: I'm talking about.
Speaker 3: That might be an inherent feeling.
Speaker 1: Though that's exactly inherent.
Speaker 3: There might be more. I agree, Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: I agree.
Speaker 2: You know when it's when it's me so much like
Speaker 2: too many people stop speaking here.
Speaker 1: It has to be like, see what you're saying, Like
Speaker 1: right now, I don't really call anybody it's odious.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's the thought. Okay, we're gonna have to
Speaker 3: that's gonna have to be an off the record conversation.
Speaker 1: Next. It is a good question, who are you without complids, likes,
Speaker 1: or recognition from others?
Speaker 3: MM, I'm myself. I am valariyavniya. I've started to learn. Okay, y'all,
Speaker 3: I'm Joe's Christian friend. Okay, I love the Lord. And
Speaker 3: when I tell you, listen, and when I tell you, y'all,
Speaker 3: please forgive me because I did say to effort a
Speaker 3: few minutes ago. But I'm not perfect. Okay, Jesus is,
Speaker 3: and it's I'm not Jesus. But like when I say,
Speaker 3: I've had to literally learn to encourage myself in the Lord,
Speaker 3: Like I really mean that. So when people are not
Speaker 3: validating me when I do post a photo and I
Speaker 3: wish that I got a thousand likes but I only
Speaker 3: got a hundred, or when I did something really good
Speaker 3: and I wish that my family responded well to me,
Speaker 3: but they didn't. They just kind of said, oh, good job,
Speaker 3: you know, And I'm thinking that they're the closest to me,
Speaker 3: and most of the things that I do in this
Speaker 3: life anyway is for them. But I'm not getting a
Speaker 3: recognition that I want. Then again, I have to encourage
Speaker 3: myself in the Lord, like, God, is this something that
Speaker 3: you wanted me to do? Did I achieve the purpose
Speaker 3: that you had assigned to me in this situation? If
Speaker 3: I did, then excellent, then I'm doing well. Then I'm great.
Speaker 3: Then I'm on the right path, you know. So whether
Speaker 3: somebody comments for me, whether someone likes because at the
Speaker 3: end of the day, like we came in this world
Speaker 3: by ourselves and we're gonna leave on our own, which
Speaker 3: I'm a which I'm extremely like aware of that fact.
Speaker 3: So I'm like, if no one loves me, and if
Speaker 3: no one is happy with me, like am I happy
Speaker 3: with myself? Am I able to be in my room
Speaker 3: or on my own when I have nothing and still
Speaker 3: know that I'm capable? And that's that's like a practice
Speaker 3: you have to do on your own, like you have
Speaker 3: tom h Like you have to sit with yourself and
Speaker 3: even in the mirror, do things like mirror work and
Speaker 3: shadow work and ask yourself like okay, I do, but
Speaker 3: I haven't actually went all the way through it. Yeah,
Speaker 3: so you know you have to do that stuff. You
Speaker 3: gotta ask yourself the hard questions like I what what
Speaker 3: parts of me do I want to fix so that
Speaker 3: I love me more so that if no one ever
Speaker 3: tells me they're proud of me, that I don't think
Speaker 3: that I'm a failure, you know, And again that I
Speaker 3: think that also has to really go with what the
Speaker 3: Lord thinks of you as well, because when you know
Speaker 3: that you are beautifully and wonderfully made or fearfully and
Speaker 3: wonderfully made, then it doesn't really matter what anyone else says,
Speaker 3: you know, as long as God, the creator of the
Speaker 3: entire universe, the Earth, the stars, the moon, the sun,
Speaker 3: the air, all the things, Like if he says that
Speaker 3: you're good, then like whatever, he created all these people
Speaker 3: whose opinions weren't caring about anyway, So like, m yeah,
Speaker 3: it doesn't matter that much, but think though.
Speaker 6: Yeah, who am I without regnition? Average said difference, I
Speaker 6: don't know if the other side.
Speaker 1: So I also after a conversation with you all the
Speaker 1: time the whole, like I think man could walk.
Speaker 2: Around nat in comments you know, like a long time.
Speaker 2: I remember one time we had the first time we
Speaker 2: had this conversation. It was me and him another another
Speaker 2: reston she was woman, and.
Speaker 1: We're like Dangle's last something that commented.
Speaker 2: It's like, because you're talking about, oh, girls hate going
Speaker 2: gas station, you know guys all that.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, all that's true.
Speaker 2: And then like you know, you know, I guess you
Speaker 2: was like, yo, y'all lucky, y'all don't have to deal
Speaker 2: with you know, people constantly hitting on your day.
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, right, so lucky, so lucky.
Speaker 3: I don't mind people hitting on me all day, like
Speaker 3: you know, of course it's appropriate, of course, right, but
Speaker 3: like you know, she's like, oh, you're.
Speaker 1: So lucky, You're just goody you say nothing to you.
Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, that's interesting because you know,
Speaker 2: like I'm in the space while I'm building myself.
Speaker 1: To steam up. So it's like, you know, a compliment
Speaker 1: works these days, but I think I get so like
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't know commiments and like even if
Speaker 1: I do get them, like once, whenever they happened, you know,
Speaker 1: some solstice or whatever summer, I don't. I don't even
Speaker 1: know how to react to them, and you.
Speaker 3: Look great to this so random, thank you, You're welcome.
Speaker 3: I'm not lying. My gosh, received the compliments.
Speaker 1: See also.
Speaker 3: It's okay, just receive it.
Speaker 1: But yeah, all those things, how would I look like?
Speaker 1: I don't I look with them?
Speaker 3: Well, y'all give Joe a compliment when you see him. Okay,
Speaker 3: well just give him one, a real one.
Speaker 1: My favorite compliments are hey, podcast.
Speaker 4: Period.
Speaker 2: So even if we're Atlanta, I went up to Pennsylvania,
Speaker 2: that's where I grew up, and I didn't see like
Speaker 2: somebody went to high school with like listening your podcast.
Speaker 1: It's hilarious.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, that's awesome. Ye are really good with these
Speaker 3: conversations too. And that's not me trying to be funny
Speaker 3: like this. I'm serious. This is good, high level, enlightened conversation,
Speaker 3: which a lot of people are really going to appreciate
Speaker 3: when they hear it.
Speaker 2: So, see a lot of people, even when I google
Speaker 2: laces and they try to usually it's crazy because oh,
Speaker 2: my demographic FT is like seventy three women, seventy three
Speaker 2: women's side and the rest of men.
Speaker 1: So like every time I like pat to a girl,
Speaker 1: she'd be like, oh, it's just dudes and mics.
Speaker 3: Oh man, are you not anymore?
Speaker 1: It's never been like, don't you got a podcast on
Speaker 1: the side.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like, just listen to it.
Speaker 1: Like even if you look at the topics, they're not
Speaker 1: it's not just dudes. The first episode of the podcast
Speaker 1: is fifty to fifty.
Speaker 2: You know, I'm sitting in amongst four other dudes talking
Speaker 2: about fifty fifty. That's crazy.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, that doesn't even make any sense. Now do you
Speaker 1: think some versions of it is like nuts?
Speaker 2: Like I like you need other like voices like I
Speaker 2: always That's another reason why I don't do the podcast
Speaker 2: all the time, because it's like, yo, can't.
Speaker 3: Just do dudesh.
Speaker 1: There's two episodes all for the voices, actually probably three
Speaker 1: for the voice. We're just talking about that, dude. Like
Speaker 1: they're not relationships. They're not like, oh, girls should be
Speaker 1: saying thewich makers not we're not on that time.
Speaker 3: I make a good sandwich that I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 3: I make a good as as sandwich.
Speaker 2: Your quality because you get bad in here already, you know,
Speaker 2: And I can't build a house, so it gets bad,
Speaker 2: my lord.
Speaker 1: But yeah, next question, every healthy is always dangerous.
Speaker 3: I definitely can be healthy at some point. I think
Speaker 3: that what matters the most is how you view it.
Speaker 3: So if everything that you're doing is only for that
Speaker 3: outside applause, then it can become unhealthier for whatever reason
Speaker 3: it stops because now that was what you were always
Speaker 3: looking for. You were always seeking outside validation. You were never,
Speaker 3: like I've said a few times, you were never secure
Speaker 3: within whether the applause comes or not. So I think
Speaker 3: outside applause is good because it lets you know that
Speaker 3: the people that you're more than likely doing whatever you're
Speaker 3: doing for are resonating with you, and they're able to connect,
Speaker 3: and so you you know, it's almost a measure of
Speaker 3: whether you're doing good or bad in ways. But I
Speaker 3: think it's really important to just know, like, Okay, whether
Speaker 3: these people applaud me or not, as long as I
Speaker 3: know that I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing,
Speaker 3: I put my best effort forward, I'm trying to positively
Speaker 3: affect change in some way, then it can be fine.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: I think healthy balance, A healthy balance, I.
Speaker 1: Think it gets dangerous losers being minimum.
Speaker 2: Would I have to grow if I'm If I'm a loser,
Speaker 2: I'm you know, subjectively a loser, right.
Speaker 1: But all around with a lot of people say, hey.
Speaker 2: Keep doing that loser thing, right, he's doing great, keep
Speaker 2: doing phenomenal.
Speaker 1: My god, give the bigges loser.
Speaker 2: But like by this is in the front of it,
Speaker 2: you know, so I think that's dangerous where it's like okay,
Speaker 2: air minimumness.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're like our foolery, We're we're pushing erringto that.
Speaker 1: That's we're doing that.
Speaker 2: Like that is Oh, I don't really have to because
Speaker 2: I've been on the same step and like it's like
Speaker 2: baby's taking the first steps, you know, baby steps, Like
Speaker 2: oh my god, yeah, keep going, but that maybe it
Speaker 2: sounds cool. Maybe's thirty five and yeah, to take any
Speaker 2: more time since then hey keep.
Speaker 1: Keep Hey you're doing great, right, you haven't took many steps,
Speaker 1: you feel what I'm saying. That's how we build losers up.
Speaker 3: That's true, and that's how I can be unhealthy too.
Speaker 3: That's that's what I do. See that like in a
Speaker 3: in a grand scheme of things. But when I think
Speaker 3: within is we can switch loser by doing things that
Speaker 3: are not foolish or whatever the case, you know, pushing
Speaker 3: a negative agenda or whatever in whatever way. I think
Speaker 3: that's what we should all work on within our personal lives.
Speaker 1: You're wrong, I say loser because that's what I want
Speaker 1: to say. But like I like, you know, that's clearly
Speaker 1: nicer ways.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know, like there's you know, down
Speaker 3: but like I think it.
Speaker 2: Does where if somebody doesn't put themselves pay.
Speaker 1: To move forward and get past something something else category right,
Speaker 1: But there is a way that you said. But I
Speaker 1: think for me is I get exhausted with that because
Speaker 1: it's like.
Speaker 3: Let's go, I mean, say what you got to say?
Speaker 3: You know, I kind of like income here, Yeah.
Speaker 1: Because you're.
Speaker 2: You're goofy, like you're goofballpe.
Speaker 1: What's one moment where you chose yourself instead of choosing.
Speaker 3: Validation A moment I chose me instead of validation. Oh child,
Speaker 3: all of the times. And this is not even trying
Speaker 3: to be like launcher or anything, but bless the Lord.
Speaker 3: I've been abstaining from sexual relations for almost two years,
Speaker 3: and you know, we thank God for that because that's
Speaker 3: been you know, it's been a journey, hallelujah. But I've
Speaker 3: been in situations with young men where you know, it
Speaker 3: could go there, and I've had to choose myself and
Speaker 3: what I know I need to be doing in that
Speaker 3: moment by saying no, I'm ubstaining and I'm waiting for
Speaker 3: my person to find me, and then that's when it
Speaker 3: will happen. So yeah, I've actually had to do that
Speaker 3: a lot more in recent years than I probably will
Speaker 3: want to. But you know it's since it happens often.
Speaker 5: Strength, we thank God, Thank you Jesus, I shot up.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I'm sure there are a lot of other
Speaker 3: situations as well, but like that.
Speaker 1: That's a strong win. Though I'm laughing, but like, that's
Speaker 1: a strong one.
Speaker 5: It's a lot.
Speaker 1: It can be a nights.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it give me a lot. And honestly, ladies, one
Speaker 3: of the ways that you can do that is by
Speaker 3: setting your boundaries and really sticking to them. And you
Speaker 3: might need supernatural help for that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like some sleeping bills.
Speaker 3: No, like Jesus fasting prayer the Bible as well, because
Speaker 3: that communion.
Speaker 5: You can't be horning if you sleep oil.
Speaker 3: Oil, Yes, the anointing oil.
Speaker 4: Annoyed yourself, you see, you choose yourself.
Speaker 1: I think want to start to doing tuck.
Speaker 2: I you know, I talked myself out of it million times,
Speaker 2: like doing podcasts like doing the whole media thing.
Speaker 1: I should have been doing this for years, but I
Speaker 1: always thought about, like what people think? What if people
Speaker 1: don't like it? Like in college radio.
Speaker 3: Show, we had a radio show for class okay, and
Speaker 3: I was like I.
Speaker 1: Still have like, let's I still have them on freaking CDs. Wow,
Speaker 1: anybody that was born in two thousand or what people
Speaker 1: used to play stuff?
Speaker 3: Yeah, before it's streaming and MP three even you don't
Speaker 3: even know what M three is probably.
Speaker 1: But we used to have a radio show. I used
Speaker 1: to love it. Like the homework assignment was to do
Speaker 1: the show. Fun it was we had like it was
Speaker 1: like a tower we get the radio.
Speaker 2: It was like, oh man, it was decked out, and
Speaker 2: like if I would have kept it from there and
Speaker 2: kept going, God makes no mistakes, but.
Speaker 1: Like more.
Speaker 2: Like more confidence in that where like I could like
Speaker 2: space wise, where I'd understand like you see today today.
Speaker 1: The freaking mics were like like look at the Discovery
Speaker 1: and Mica.
Speaker 2: I would have been discovered mic stuff yeah and understand
Speaker 2: like you know, But like I said, God makes no mistakes.
Speaker 1: It doesn't and we're gonna, you know.
Speaker 3: Just keep going.
Speaker 1: I still think it's gonna be the best spot.
Speaker 3: Absolutely yes, and there's a certain level of growth that
Speaker 3: we have to undergo sometimes when we take those steps
Speaker 3: away from the things that we're doing, like it it
Speaker 3: never goes away, but sometimes we're actually not where we
Speaker 3: need to be mentally, emotionally, and even spiritually to sustain
Speaker 3: the the thing that we're going after. So it's all good.
Speaker 3: It was just a seed that was plannet now and
Speaker 3: back then and now it's growing and blossoming. So it's
Speaker 3: a kay.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, that's a fine question.
Speaker 3: Oh wow, Hi.
Speaker 2: Already hear algy companies start building internal validation when you've
Speaker 2: relied or on external praise.
Speaker 1: For so long.
Speaker 3: And I've said it a few times, y'all already know
Speaker 3: what I'm gonna say. I truly think that it has
Speaker 3: everything to do with your connection to the divine source
Speaker 3: and understanding what it says about you and who you are.
Speaker 3: Once you know that, everything else around you will either
Speaker 3: the things that are not validating to you will either
Speaker 3: fall off or you will attract those things that validate
Speaker 3: you just because you're doing what you need to be doing,
Speaker 3: and people when they are good people around you that
Speaker 3: want to praise you for doing good, you know, and
Speaker 3: then I also really think we have to do a
Speaker 3: lot more. We need to do a lot more introspection
Speaker 3: as people. We need to sit with ourselves a lot more.
Speaker 3: We need to uncover our traumas and the things that
Speaker 3: trigger us, because sometimes people are validating us, but because
Speaker 3: we're not able to see that, or because we've been
Speaker 3: in this loop for so long of not being validated,
Speaker 3: we're not able to either receive it or we can't
Speaker 3: recognize it. And so you know, that might take some
Speaker 3: level of more journaling, more scripting, more reading different books
Speaker 3: like self help books that could help you get out
Speaker 3: of certain loops. I know there's one called mind hacking
Speaker 3: that helps you reprogram your thought loops, which I would
Speaker 3: highly suggest because I know when I was in a
Speaker 3: space where all I could do was compare and people's
Speaker 3: validation mattered a lot. That was a book that helped
Speaker 3: me literally just like reprogram the thoughts that I'm constantly
Speaker 3: thinking about myself. And when we see ourselves differently, then
Speaker 3: it shifts our perspective of the world and then it
Speaker 3: allows us to, you know, view how the others are
Speaker 3: seeing us in a more positive light. So that's what
Speaker 3: I would say, Yeah, Okay, your.
Speaker 1: Answer is very positive. Some minds are it's gonna be negative.
Speaker 7: Okay, Okay, I told you I'm optimist, and I say this,
Speaker 7: and I've said this all the time, and I might
Speaker 7: not feel exactly the same about what I'm about to
Speaker 7: say now today, mindset thirty years old.
Speaker 1: But I think you kind of realize everybody hates you.
Speaker 5: That's what I realized, and I hate you.
Speaker 2: Okay, it's a little dramatic, but listen, you got to realize.
Speaker 2: And I think people just kind of, you know, they
Speaker 2: soften this version.
Speaker 1: Of like what I'm saying, Like people be like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know, everybody has a life or da da da.
Speaker 1: So basically you don't nobody cares. That's how I take it.
Speaker 1: Nobody mean ultimately it really cares. Nobody cares unless you're
Speaker 1: dating them. It's the the the twenty twenty sixth version
Speaker 1: of it. To be honest, that's what it is. Just
Speaker 1: like just knowing any you know, don't put anything, what
Speaker 1: is it? Let me let me, let me go back
Speaker 1: to that questioning city. I don't hurt no right, so
Speaker 1: to build internal validation, there's no like just know when
Speaker 1: you're down, nobody cares. Nobody. Nobody gives it damn easily.
Speaker 1: Nobody cares.
Speaker 3: So somebody might care a little bit.
Speaker 5: Jesus cares for sure.
Speaker 1: We're in the world, right, Jesus always cares, and you
Speaker 1: should always always with you.
Speaker 3: But I think not, but like period, right right, yeah, but.
Speaker 1: When you thinking about that internal stuff for you, and
Speaker 1: I think it's helped me. I realized, like, dang, don't
Speaker 1: make care. That's true. Nobody cares, nobody cares.
Speaker 2: And since I don't have a girlfriend, I don't have
Speaker 2: a wife, apparently those are the people are supposed to care.
Speaker 1: Those are the only people are supposed to care. Twenty
Speaker 1: six Like before, like the whole thing was nobody cares,
Speaker 1: nobody's coming to save you.
Speaker 2: And that's why people start ended up being in relationships
Speaker 2: that they're not supposed to be because you're supposed to
Speaker 2: You're supposed.
Speaker 1: To care for me because we're dating, we're together or
Speaker 1: something that. So with that.
Speaker 2: That's how it stat. Okay, So I'm like, all right,
Speaker 2: So I started separating myself, started to doing own thing,
Speaker 2: you know, allowing people to like miss you. One of
Speaker 2: the forty laws.
Speaker 1: You know, allow your your your not separation, disappearance one
Speaker 1: of them.
Speaker 3: But almost like scarcely of your presence, right right, So.
Speaker 1: Be like, oh dang, where JO at? And I still
Speaker 1: don't think you might give the damn money if I
Speaker 1: go to figure out where you at, but you gotta.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So once I put that online, like I don't care.
Speaker 2: People might care if you're go where you're at, but
Speaker 2: like if you're down, they don't care anymore. So that mindset,
Speaker 2: that's what really helped me. That helped me out a lot,
Speaker 2: because you know, be relying on external praise or something
Speaker 2: like that, that doesn't mean anything if if or not,
Speaker 2: Like if a lot of great things aren't happening, if
Speaker 2: you're not being celebrated, if you're not congratulations, don't nobody care.
Speaker 1: Yeah you were like, oh shoot, you're you good? Okay? Cool? Yeah, Yeah,
Speaker 1: gotta remember that. Don't care unless you date them is
Speaker 1: extremely important.
Speaker 2: Yeah, extremely important, because that's these days.
Speaker 1: Nobody wants to do the internal work. Nobody wants to themselves.
Speaker 3: I think marry more than a day because sometimes people
Speaker 3: with dating is that's a whole other conversation.
Speaker 2: But even even married people get married for fun. Yeah,
Speaker 2: they starting to get a little scary too.
Speaker 3: Another conversation for another.
Speaker 2: Day, all these all these things, they all go together.
Speaker 1: Don't nobody care unless you're with them romantically. That's it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, I'm not gonna lie I would say that.
Speaker 3: But sometimes in friendships there are some friends who really
Speaker 3: care about you. There are I have a couple of
Speaker 3: friends who care a lot, and a couple that I
Speaker 3: care about, and you know, we check in on each other,
Speaker 3: So there's that.
Speaker 1: No, they're not married, they're single.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're single girls girls, and we're starting to build
Speaker 3: community because we understand that, you know, like, we don't
Speaker 3: have somebody who is gonna check on us and make
Speaker 3: sure that we're accountable to our goals and things like that.
Speaker 3: But we do want to see each other win. So
Speaker 3: we check in with each other, We make sure that
Speaker 3: we're good, We pray with each other, you know. So
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, like, I can't say that no
Speaker 3: one absolutely cares. Ever for some of us, it is
Speaker 3: the truth. But I do think that we should adopt
Speaker 3: that understanding because when we do, then it it's like
Speaker 3: we ultimately don't seek the validation because we understand that
Speaker 3: people are not gonna they're not gonna care to the
Speaker 3: extent that we desire for them to care anyway. So
Speaker 3: it's like, just do you and do you to the
Speaker 3: best of your ability and ensure that God is proud
Speaker 3: of you. And if the people care, then they do,
Speaker 3: and if they don't, then it is what it is.
Speaker 3: I did I think I did agree.
Speaker 2: You saying like you don't know how important that single
Speaker 2: thing was, Like that single thing, Like you're like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 2: my friends are single.
Speaker 1: I don't know one of them really lock in with
Speaker 1: a dude. Oh oh yeah, really lock in with a dude.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean we're still going to care for each other.
Speaker 1: It's not it's not like they don't like like trash,
Speaker 1: but like you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, your attention ships for sure, for sure.
Speaker 2: Really be like you know, that's the truth, and that's
Speaker 2: it's I mean, like, what, uh, what's that thing people
Speaker 2: say when people are trying to project It's definitely be projected.
Speaker 1: But you know, you know, I'd never be wrong about
Speaker 1: this a lot. It's it's it's it's bad, it's nasty,
Speaker 1: but it is, you know, it is what it is
Speaker 1: in this life. You know, people really love their partner.
Speaker 1: You're supposed to.
Speaker 3: You're supposed to, especially if it's somebody that you're preparing
Speaker 3: to like do life with. That's where you're that's where
Speaker 3: your time and energy is gonna go.
Speaker 1: So you know, I've seen people lose themselves for these partners, y'all.
Speaker 3: That that's why I keep saying, that's another conversation, because
Speaker 3: you know, I think you lose yourself with a partner
Speaker 3: when you're with somebody you were never supposed to be with,
Speaker 3: when you are not properly aligned, you cutting off friends.
Speaker 1: Yeah, not taking care of yourself.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's when you've connected to a parasite and this
Speaker 3: is no longer a symbiotic relationship.
Speaker 1: People called out this specific topic down this hill for sure.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm you know, I'm viewed, I'm not in
Speaker 2: the majority, Like I'm not married like that.
Speaker 1: So that's why it's I'm on the like viewed as
Speaker 1: a hater thing.
Speaker 3: But like, yeah, but that's also a mindset thing because
Speaker 3: like again, when you have people that are close to
Speaker 3: you and you really love them, and they know that
Speaker 3: you love them and they love you, they should know
Speaker 3: that if you're sharing something with them that highlights an
Speaker 3: issue that they're having in their life, they should know
Speaker 3: that you're coming from a space of like love and
Speaker 3: I wanna see you do better. I don't want you
Speaker 3: to have this. You know the worst thing when people
Speaker 3: get offended though they don't wanna hear the right thing sometimes.
Speaker 3: And that's why I say it, like it's a mindset thing.
Speaker 3: Like me and my girlfriends we tell each other's stuff.
Speaker 3: We don't wanna hear all the time, Like you don't
Speaker 3: tell me that, but you right though, you know, But
Speaker 3: again that's a mindset thing. We have to be open
Speaker 3: to hearing that. So I then I think it matters
Speaker 3: to you. Got to like check the people who are
Speaker 3: in your circle, because like if you see me going
Speaker 3: down I'm the type of person that if you see
Speaker 3: me going downhill and I can't see it and you
Speaker 3: tell me, I'm going to appreciate you telling me. You
Speaker 3: know what I'm saying. But some people don't. Some people
Speaker 3: don't wanna hear that. They're like you think you know
Speaker 3: everything and blah blah blah blah. And it's like, friend,
Speaker 3: I just wanna help you, but if you don't want
Speaker 3: my health, that's fine. I'll go by my business. I
Speaker 3: let you know, i'm'a pray for you.
Speaker 1: How many of y'ays.
Speaker 3: All my girls are single? Right now?
Speaker 1: How many of y'all?
Speaker 3: Well, I'm saying my tribe because we're not all in
Speaker 3: like a group together. My closest friend, my cousin, she's single.
Speaker 3: Another friend I went to college with, she's single. Another
Speaker 3: when I went to high school, which she's single. There's
Speaker 3: four of us those I would say, those are my
Speaker 3: closest girlfriends all right.
Speaker 1: Right now?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm Galleria. It's not gonna be like that, I'm
Speaker 3: telling you because all of us have the conversations about community. Again,
Speaker 3: we don't talk every single day, and we're not like,
Speaker 3: you know, all upon each other all the time, but
Speaker 3: not every what's what's not every day?
Speaker 2: Because I think because I get, you know, people beyond
Speaker 2: the other time, You're like, Joe, you want to talk
Speaker 2: every single day.
Speaker 1: I'm like, nah, you know, if like a quarter can
Speaker 1: go of the year, I'm like, damn well, I mean especially.
Speaker 3: Because we probably check in with each other at least
Speaker 3: one so week or every two weeks something like that.
Speaker 1: That's too much for a lot of people.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it could be, and sometimes it can be only
Speaker 3: a month, like I might not see my friends, like
Speaker 3: my friend I'm going to her birthday next week in
Speaker 3: New York. But I haven't seen her in at least
Speaker 3: six months, but we still are very close, so we
Speaker 3: check in with each other.
Speaker 1: You haven't seen it since New York.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And we were just on the phone the other
Speaker 3: yesterday literally for like two hours, just talking about stuff
Speaker 3: because men are starting to approachest and they want to
Speaker 3: start marrying us.
Speaker 1: And things like that.
Speaker 3: For marriage, right, yeah, so all right, real and like,
Speaker 3: and we're starting to understand like we're about to build
Speaker 3: community in different spaces, but we want we don't want
Speaker 3: to break the friendship that we've had over the years
Speaker 3: because we're moving and starting to be with a man
Speaker 3: who's coming into our life or preparing to be mothers
Speaker 3: and things like that. So we're actively having those conversations,
Speaker 3: like how can I contain a foster community with you
Speaker 3: so that it doesn't feel like we'll never see each
Speaker 3: other again or we never care you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: So that's an active conversation we're having. But everybody's not
Speaker 3: like that.
Speaker 2: So I think, Okay, so based on you having the
Speaker 2: conversation beforehand, there's a chance. Yeah, because I think a
Speaker 2: lot of the time I think for me and like
Speaker 2: my people's I never thought it be this way, Yeah,
Speaker 2: but I think up here. Yeah, So I think that's
Speaker 2: you know, it's cool to feel the open like form
Speaker 2: of conversation.
Speaker 8: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Beforehand were like, hey, don't get weird when you get
Speaker 2: a dude, or don't get weird.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Sure, weird though for.
Speaker 3: Sure, because I have friends, Like when I was at FSU,
Speaker 3: there was a group of us. There were ten of us,
Speaker 3: and we were all like we called our telf future
Speaker 3: takeover Wow, and today real talk. I don't talk to
Speaker 3: any of them for real, like I might hit them
Speaker 3: up here and there. One's married, her and I don't
Speaker 3: talk at all.
Speaker 1: Which married?
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know which is That's what I'm saying. I'm like,
Speaker 3: one's married, Well, two of them are married. Actually her
Speaker 3: and I have been trying to get together, but she,
Speaker 3: I mean, she's having baby after baby, which I understand,
Speaker 3: and that takes a lot of time. I can't imagine
Speaker 3: what it is like to be a mother of three
Speaker 3: and a wife as a you know, a twenty nine
Speaker 3: year old right now, Like that's a lot in twenty
Speaker 3: twenty six, Like hello, and again, this is not I'm
Speaker 3: not mad at them.
Speaker 5: I just understand, and so a lot of people.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, there's no there's no problems. It's just yeah, exactly.
Speaker 2: If you were to break up or the orse you're
Speaker 2: gonna want to be my friend, then yeah, a nice
Speaker 2: little last option.
Speaker 3: Now, uh yeah, you just need more people who genuinely
Speaker 3: care about community. Now, Like I will say this, like
Speaker 3: I even had to go through a point where I
Speaker 3: learned like every relationship that I had with a male
Speaker 3: was not going to end up in a relationship like that.
Speaker 3: I could foster genuine platonic relationships with men because we're
Speaker 3: either doing things like this, working and creating together, or
Speaker 3: somehow maybe we're in ministry or whatever the case. But
Speaker 3: at some point that men might get married and I
Speaker 3: will be married as well. But because we formed a
Speaker 3: good enough relationship that is, you know, on a clear foundation,
Speaker 3: then we'll probably be within community with each other, you know.
Speaker 3: And I think that's something you have to lead with,
Speaker 3: Like you have to know that you're moving that way,
Speaker 3: and people don't be knowing that. People don't be knowing.
Speaker 2: That, you know. I think you know, there's there's different
Speaker 2: rules set in the place now you let you you
Speaker 2: have to have these weird conversations you kind of do.
Speaker 3: Yatta be clear, you gotta be straightforward.
Speaker 1: I just don't know, I know who, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's a whole nother thing.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, we got into community and all the things.
Speaker 1: But yeah, let's tap into my favorite part. Yeah, top
Speaker 1: five top five? So do you listen to podcasts? You know?
Speaker 3: I do, but most of the time I'm watching them
Speaker 3: like on YouTube regardless.
Speaker 2: You yeah, all right, so I probably did this one already,
Speaker 2: but you went around for this one. Top five podcasts.
Speaker 1: That you listen to. Let's see my list is did
Speaker 1: some moves, I think, Yeah.
Speaker 2: My my list says jumped around my favorites alright, particular order.
Speaker 1: So I love TV. I wanna be on TV one day.
Speaker 3: Because I'm gonna be on TV one day period.
Speaker 2: And I like to watch those uh rewatch uh rewatch podcasts.
Speaker 2: So one of the rewatch podcasts, and my honorable mention is,
Speaker 2: and that's what you really missed rewatch It's.
Speaker 1: A Glee rewatch podcast.
Speaker 3: Okay, I just watched Glee for the first time.
Speaker 1: I thought I was it was gonna be corny. That's
Speaker 1: why I didn't watch it in high school Glee.
Speaker 3: I've never seen that either.
Speaker 2: Oh Glee, you gotta watch watch great show number five?
Speaker 2: Another rewatch the mess Around.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's a new Girl rewatch.
Speaker 2: You ever watch a New Girl? Also, gotta watch New Girl.
Speaker 2: New Girl is a great show. It's like a like
Speaker 2: a Friends without a last track.
Speaker 1: I like New Girl number four. This is kind of
Speaker 1: like a rewatch a little bit, but.
Speaker 2: The crew hasn't it's with the boys from Powerik that
Speaker 2: you watch power Oh yeah they have one, Yeah, Tarik
Speaker 2: and Braden.
Speaker 3: I didn't know they had. I have seen that, I
Speaker 3: just haven't watched it before. It's good.
Speaker 2: It's really good. Okay, yeah, they're really good. They just
Speaker 2: got their before. I think when they first started they
Speaker 2: were doing it with people who were on the show,
Speaker 2: and now they're like branching out. Like the other day
Speaker 2: they have Fiddy.
Speaker 1: Wap on there.
Speaker 5: Okay, so cool.
Speaker 1: I like that one. That changed me a lot. Only
Speaker 1: three Poor Minds.
Speaker 2: I started watching Poor Mines initially because I think Lexpi
Speaker 2: is amazing looking.
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay, it's pretty Uh, it's pretty good. Okay,
Speaker 1: she's great.
Speaker 2: I started watching that because I thought she looked good
Speaker 2: and I'm like Dan's Girl funny Man.
Speaker 1: Ray, they're both funny. So it's hilarious.
Speaker 3: Us the name of this one, poor Minds, I don't know, really,
Speaker 3: I don't know podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie to you. Oh man, oh Man,
Speaker 1: Poor Minds.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, sometimes they get in on you know,
Speaker 2: we hate man culture, and it's not really my favorite
Speaker 2: part of the show.
Speaker 1: But they're hilarious. So they're like you ever heard of
Speaker 1: any five South? Yeah, they're like my sister shows with
Speaker 1: that Okay, they're under that umbrella. Ok yeah, So let's
Speaker 1: sho number two. Have you ever watched Sisters?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, Elis After Ever After?
Speaker 3: Okay, so Zach and his wife Okay, yeah.
Speaker 1: They have a show. Yeah. I used to be called
Speaker 1: that ass.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, love that show. Okay, I've never watched theirs.
Speaker 3: I know exactly.
Speaker 1: They're really good. You know, it's a character.
Speaker 2: His wife is literally a character too. I think that
Speaker 2: expresses a lot to the War Sisters is coming back.
Speaker 1: War Sisters.
Speaker 2: Shout out to Devellkadeen Elishy number one podcast, You've seen
Speaker 2: it on the screen.
Speaker 1: Joe Budden, Oh yeah, so Joe.
Speaker 2: Budden his podcast is I'm very new to it, so
Speaker 2: I've probably been listening for like the last two months.
Speaker 1: That podcast is so funny.
Speaker 3: I've never said and watched Obviously, I'm not a podcast
Speaker 3: to watch it like that. I have a few, but
Speaker 3: I've never.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've never watched any of these. I've never watched any.
Speaker 3: Of these, but Phenomena, Yes, I do so no particular order,
Speaker 3: but I love of Earned Your Leisure. Yeah. Yeah, they're
Speaker 3: always talking about money and all this stuff with Troy
Speaker 3: and Rashad and then hardly initiated. I actually went to
Speaker 3: school with one of the guys, ty Sean and Ryan.
Speaker 3: They're I do that's because I am a fire person
Speaker 3: and so I'm just really excited to see what the
Speaker 3: Lord does with my life.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Sometimes he gives me visions and I'm like, oh sugar, honey,
Speaker 3: iced teve Vlarious.
Speaker 1: Alright, alright, let's get.
Speaker 3: Prepared mss Mama's. I just started watching Aspire with Emma Gree,
Speaker 3: which is really really good. She interviews some like really
Speaker 3: prominent people, so that one's really good. I also really
Speaker 3: like off the Record with this one girl. I just
Speaker 3: heard that one for the first time. I think that's
Speaker 3: like four and I love I can't even Oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: I love I gotta put both of them together. I
Speaker 3: love Myron Golden and Anthony O'Neill. Both of them are
Speaker 3: really good. Myron Golden is always talking about He's always
Speaker 3: talking about just like Kingdom principles and how to basically
Speaker 3: become a super super wealthy.
Speaker 4: And then.
Speaker 3: What's his name Anthony O'Neill is always giving us different
Speaker 3: financial advice. So I really love podcasts about money and like,
Speaker 3: you know, getting his bread stuff like that and definite. Yeah,
Speaker 3: it's just the stuff I've been listening to. I really
Speaker 3: like that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: Black Effect is pulling up.
Speaker 8: Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 1: Here is Crystal right right, Crystal, keep it positive sweet, Okay, Yeah,
Speaker 1: she's pretty cool. She was there last year. I was just.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that. Yes, you can.
Speaker 1: Picture podcast when you go there too, So oh yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it again. And I did it last year.
Speaker 5: Absolutely.
Speaker 1: I never heard of that woman who won, but it's fine.
Speaker 3: Okay, it's just her season.
Speaker 1: Chad sounds good, right, sounds good.
Speaker 3: The group for the good of the group. Drink your water, exercise,
Speaker 3: eating the calorie devastafe. You need to cut, pray every
Speaker 3: day without ceasing. Do it going fast. If you feel
Speaker 3: the spirit of the Lord calling you to one, put
Speaker 3: that plate down and pick up your word. Uh what else?
Speaker 3: Be kind compliment somebody, receive a compliment from someone.
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